Becoming the Person You’re Meant to Be

12 Smart Women on Becoming the Person You're Meant to Be

I love when magazine tag lines promise to help me discover “who I’m meant to be.” Am I not already that person? How does one go about doing this? Could there be a less scientific pursuit? Regardless, there are times when we could all use a little bit of encouragement. So! Here’s a round-up of words uplifting, witty and wise, courtesy of 12 amazing women…

“Do stuff. Be clenched, curious. Not waiting for inspiration’s shove or society’s kiss on your forehead. Pay attention. It’s all about paying attention. Attention is vitality. It connects you with others. It makes you eager. Stay eager.”
Susan Sontag

“I began to understand that all of life is practice: writing, driving, hiking, brushing teeth, packing lunch boxes, making beds, cooking dinner, making love, walking dogs, even sleeping. We are always practicing. Only practicing.”
Dani Shapiro

“If you are gracious, you have won the game.”
Stevie Nicks

“It’s interesting how we often can’t see the ways in which we are being strong — like, you can’t be aware of what you’re doing that’s tough and brave at the time that you’re doing it because if you knew that it was brave, then you’d be scared.”
Lena Dunham

“To me it is really important to live in what I call the spaces in-between. Bus stations, trains, taxis or waiting rooms in airports are the best places because you are open to destiny, you are open to everything and anything can happen.”
Marina Abramović

“I cured myself of shyness when it finally occurred to me that people didn’t think about me half as much as I gave them credit for. The truth was, nobody gave a damn. Like most teenagers, I was far too self-centered. When I stopped being prisoner to what I worried was others’ opinions of me, I became more confident and free.”
Lucille Ball

“The most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.”
Diane von Furstenberg

“There is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And while I don’t expect you to save the world I do think it’s not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you call friend, engage those among you who are visionary and remove from your life those who offer you depression, despair and disrespect.”
Nikki Giovanni

“Think of yourself like a captain, and you’ve got this little boat. And sometimes the weather’s good, and you’re just sailing, and sometimes big storms hit, and you know, you’re in a stormy sea, but just ride it out, ride it out. Because it’s good to be alive.”
Patti Smith

“Once we give up searching for approval, we often find it easier to earn respect.”
Gloria Steinem

“People think you have to know what you want to do with your life by the time you’re 19. Wrong! Or that you have to be in a significant relationship in your twenties. Wrong! It’s all just nonsense.”
Tilda Swinton

“You must not quote to me what I once said. I am wiser now.”
Romy Schneider

Do you have any quotes to add to this list? What are your words to live by?

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(Photo of Nikki Giovanni in 1968 via Pictorial Parade Pictures.)

  1. OceanIn.A.Drop says...

    Love the one by Rumi, and have striven to remind myself of this at least once a day:

    “You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the ocean in a drop”.

    With so much going on in your life – your work, people around you at home or at work, all the societal pressure about everything (!), it’s easy to lose you and find yourself vanish into that mist.

    It’s important to remind ourselves that these are all passing tides. They exist to make you just that – you. You are the quagmire forming out of all the things around you, and you are just as much a part of them, as they are of you.

  2. jesse chamberlin says...

    YES YES YES!!!!! love this!

  3. Monique says...

    “We are aware of the many
    reasons to fall apart to break
    apart to never rise again but we
    have lived in the glory of standing
    with our face towards the sun
    again and again.”
    Ijeoma Umebinyuo

  4. Sonya says...

    Three months ago my husband told me our marriage was too conflictual and he wanted out. I found out he was sleeping with someone else and has moved in with her. I have an 18 month old and 3 year old. I just moved out of our family home with my babies. Thanks for sharing xx love whoever shared ” never mind him. He’s weak”

    • Hannah says...

      My ex-husband told me when I was seventh months pregnant with my son, that he’d “changed his mind” and didn’t want children after all. I was 19, and he was 27 at the time. He was sleeping with another woman, whom he married after we divorced. They had a daughter, and then he left them too. He never gave either of us any help. That reaction, “never mind him, he is weak” is the same thing I thought, and was absolutely, the right attitude to take. Because it was (and still is today) the truth. Although painful, it was kind of lucky in a way, that this guy wasn’t into his son, because it meant minimal exposure of my son, to him.

  5. Kate says...

    “Water does not resist. Water flows. When you plunge your hand into it, all you feel is a caress. Water is not a solid wall, it will not stop you. But water always goes where it wants to go, and nothing in the end can stand against it. Water is patient. Dripping water wears away a stone. Remember that, my child. Remember you are half water. If you can’t go through an obstacle, go around it. Water does.”
    ― Margaret Atwood

    • This is wonderful. Thank you.

  6. I’ve actually been thinking and writing about becoming stronger lately so I came across these quotes at the perfect time. Thank you!

  7. there are often times when i think to change my views on life and then stick to my ways. these quotes really do make you think and are lovely

  8. Shannon says...

    I love quotes. I love to collect quotes. Thank you for adding to my collection.

  9. heidi devereaux says...

    My favorite quote came from my Dad….”You don’t make a wrong decision and you don’t make a right decision. You make a decision….and you make it the right one.

    • Keina says...

      Love this! Very wise Dad.

  10. CDanidu says...

    Needed these today, thank you.

  11. Love Stevie Nicks’ comment and so agree, always be gracious in everything you do, in victory and in defeat, it will always win the day.

  12. Greta says...

    I love this quote by Rilke and feel happier when I try to live by it: “Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”

  13. Kate says...

    The below really stuck with me:

    “Oh my God, what if you wake up some day, and you’re 65, or 75, and you
    never got your memoir or novel written; or you didn’t go swimming in
    warm pools and oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly
    and you had a nice big comfortable tummy; or you were just so strung out on perfectionism and people-pleasing that you forgot to have a big
    juicy creative life, of imagination and radical silliness and staring
    off into space like when you were a kid? It’s going to break your heart.
    Don’t let this happen.”

    I think I first read it on this site but couldn’t remember the post. In the end I found it Googling ‘jiggly beach tummy quote’ – clearly this advice resonating with me the most (eat the cake!).

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Hahahaha I love that Google search!

  14. This quote really lifts me up in times when I need encouragement:

    “Sometimes when you’re in a dark place you think you’ve been buried, but you’ve actually been planted.” Christine Caine

    • I love this perspective!

    • love this one! that really is so lovely

    • this resonates. thank you for sharing. :)

  15. Alex McKellar says...

    thanks so much for this. We constantly need to be re-schooled in what it REALLY is to become the person we were meant to be. I love this post that just went viral on the woman who refused to be told she should try to look younger than she is, or that looking younger is even important when there are better things to do like actually do important things that are unrelated to how we look!

  16. catalina says...

    My favorite quote is Tilda Swinton’s, so much pressure on young people!!

  17. I live in Austria, I am way older than you all and my life-issues are completely different – I still read and enjoy my “Cup of Jo” every day.
    Now – this post is a particularly wonderful one and I want you to know that.
    Best regards from Vienna


  18. Frances says...

    I loved this list, it was a much needed pick me up.

  19. Georgina says...

    Oddly, my favourite quote is from the movie Vanilla Sky: “Every passing moment is a chance to turn it all around”. I find it so uplifting somehow, that however unhappy or unfulfilled you may currently feel, you have the power to change that at any moment.

    Thank you for these great quotes and the great comments too.

  20. Vanessa Rae says...

    Loved this, had to share…

    “All doubt, despair and fear become insignificant once the intention of life becomes love.” – Rumi

  21. This is the story of my life! I love these quotes–I love the gracious one… i think if you are gracious and genuine its really hard for anyone to be mean to you.

  22. LFT says...

    – “There’s only one person in the world who’s going to decide what I’m going to do and that’s me.” – Citizen Kane
    – “Prendi il primo pullman via, tutto il resto è già poesia” (take the first bus away, all the rest is already poetry) from Paolo Conte’s Sparring partner
    – “Maman, je t’aime fort comme ça” (Mommy, I love you big like this) – my daughter, with her arms wide open… My special favorite! :-)

    • Geny says...

      This third quote made me cry! xx

  23. Cheryl says...

    Now that I’m out of my twenties and almost my thirties I find myself drawn to quotes about the simple and beautiful, hidden aspects surrounding life in general. What’s more freeing than the humility that arises when you remind yourself you’re a speck of life on a giant planet orbiting the sun?
    “Say not, “I have found the truth,” but rather, “I have found a truth.”
    Say not, “I have found the path of the soul.” Say rather, “I have met the soul walking upon my path.”
    For the soul walks upon all paths.
    The soul walks not upon a line, neither does it grow like a reed.
    The soul unfolds itself like a lotus of countless petals. -Kahlil gibran

  24. I love the quote from Romy Schneider :-)

  25. Genevieve says...

    “There are years that ask questions and years that answer.”
    Zora Neale Hurston

    • Monique says...

      Thank you for this.

  26. So many motivating words. Lovely post!

  27. Robin says...

    Wow, indeed! So many wonderful thoughts here. Thank you to everyone who’s posted!

    I love this one:

    May I meet this moment fully.
    May I meet it as a friend.

    — Sylvia Boorstein

  28. AnneL says...

    My unsolicited advice to women in the workplace is this. When faced with sexism, or ageism, or lookism, or even really aggressive Buddhism, ask yourself the following question: “Is this person in between me and what I want to do?” If the answer is no, ignore it and move on. Your energy is better used doing your work and outpacing people that way. Then, when you’re in charge, don’t hire the people who were jerky to you.

    —Tina Fey

    • I freakin LOVE this!

  29. Christie says...

    These are all so great, and exactly what I needed to hear this week.

  30. I love this post, these are all so wonderful as is this comment section!

    Some favorites:

    “We all obsess about what we are doing and accomplishing. What if we let it go and simply made the way we live our lives our accomplishment? ”
    -Maria Shriver
    (So life affirming for me.)

    “We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.”
    Anaïs Nin
    (She wrote so many beautiful true things.)

    “I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point “If this isn’t nice I don’t know what is.”
    Kurt Vonnegut
    (I like to exclaim that line to my children in happy moments.)

    “Make your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” -Nelson Mandela
    (Practical wisdom to transform a life.)

    “It’s a little embarrassing that after 45 years of research and study, the best advice I can give people is to be a little kinder to each other.” -Aldous Huxley
    (I decided I should tattoo “be kind” on my inner arm like a note to self because if I could distill all my favorite advice down to its bare bones that would be it.)

    • Jessica says...

      These are a LOVELY addition – thank you!! I’ve made a note of many of them :)

    • Ingrid says...

      Love these (especially Kurt Vonnegut!)

  31. Emilie says...

    No better way to brighten a rainy Thursday than the words of brilliant women. And thanks to all for the wonderful comments as well.
    Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, the author of Le Petit Prince, is a man, but his wise words resonate with me often:
    “If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up people together to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work; rather, teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.”

  32. Sometimes life intervenes in unexpected ways. And when the mind is free and the heart is open, who one is meant to be is suddenly, plain.

  33. Lauren E. says...

    Oh gosh, I’m a quote geek. But this is another one that sticks with me:

    “You Don’t Have to Be Pretty. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked “female”.” – Erin McKean

    • Loitte says...

      This is so good.

    • Alisa says...

      I just might frame this one…

    • Sharon says...

      I love this. And I love that I can substitute “smile” or “smiling” for pretty.

  34. Lauren E. says...

    I’m relatively certain I’ve posted this here before but a good friend told me this when I was about to confront a boyfriend that I knew was about to break up with me, and it’s stuck with me ever since. “Be you. You are enough, and you are not too much.”

    • Terri says...

      I love this. I came to the realization just last year that sometimes people will not have the energy for you, and that’s fine. That doesn’t mean anything about you. Sometimes people will not like you. Some people will not understand you. And all of those things are okay. It doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you.

  35. All of these quotes are perfect. Having started maternity leave about a week and a half ago, its really the only time that I have spent so much time “alone” in the morning while boyfriend is at work. I’m usually a person that loves company more than I do being alone. ..So this definitely takes getting used to and it also helps to be able to figure out what kind of mother I want to be while I wait for my first baby’s arrival.

  36. Terri says...

    My dad had this thing he used to say when one of us had experienced a particularly bad day or had been through an ordeal of sorts: “Just think of it as a great learning experience.”

  37. Dylan says...

    The Patti Smith one made me instantaneously cry. I guess it’s just what I needed to hear today. One of my favorites is from Audre Lorde from her speech on turning silence into language and action; it always reminds me to be loud and tenacious-
    “In becoming forcibly and essentially aware of my mortality, and of what I wished and wanted for my life, however short it might be, priorities and omissions became strongly etched in a merciless light, and what I most regretted were my silences. Of what had I ever been afraid? To question or to speak as I believed could have meant pain, or death. But we all hurt in so many different ways, all the time, and pain will either change or end. Death, on the other hand, is the final silence. And that might be coming quickly now, without regard for whether I had ever spoken what needed to be said, or had only betrayed myself into small silences, while I planned someday to speak, or waited for someone else’s words.
    I was going to die, if not sooner then later, whether or not I had ever spoken myself. My silences had not protected me. Your silence will not protect you.”

    • Farah says...

      I’m floored by that quote. Thank you for sharing.

  38. “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” some words from Mary Oliver’s poem, The Summer Day. I love how gentle and yet adventurous it sounds. It always inspires me!

  39. Maire says...

    Thank you for this! Love the Lena Dunham quote especially.

  40. bisbee says...

    Love this…I saved several. Here’s one I like:

    “Different is good…Don’t fit in, don’t sit still…When someone tells you you are different smile and hold your head up high.”

    Angelina Jolie

  41. Reagan says...

    One of my favorite quotes is by Nicole Diver in Fitzgerald’s Tender is the Night. It’s similar to Lucille Ball’s above: “Most people think everybody feels about them much more violently than they actually do; they think other people’s opinions of them swing through great arcs of approval or disapproval.”
    This is SO true. I spent so much of my life assuming that everyone had all these specific opinions about me: looks, what I did, etc. when really they just DIDN’T.

  42. These are all great! I especially love Lena’s saying!

    I also love Audrey Hepburn ” Nothing is impossible, the word itself says I’m possible” and something I try to often remind myself now that I am in my last year of my 20’s and beyond confused in who I am and what I want.

  43. Whitney says...

    Great quotes from great women. I recently turned 30 and only now did it hit me: there are no rules. There are no rules in life. If you live life authentically, and observe the golden rule you will always be living well.

  44. I read something the other day about always thinking of Love as a verb. Love is meant to be acted out everyday or it is meaningless. What an inspiring and beautiful mantra.


  45. riye says...

    “Never mind him. He’s WEAK.” (said in calm voice with eye roll) courtesy of good old mom. I didn’t believe her in high school but I totally do now!

    • Reagan says...

      That’s awesome.

  46. Susies says...

    I needed to read this today. Thanks.

  47. Megan says...

    I LOVE this, thank you so much for collating these! I had the good fortune to be present at Maya Angelou’s memorial service, and though she is one of my favorite people to quote, Oprah actually said this at the service about her:

    “She always taught ‘I am human and therefore nothing human is alien to me.’ So… we must carry on and pass on, lifting humanity up, helping people to live lives of purpose and dignity. To pass on the poetry of courage and respect. That is what she would want. And that is what we will do.”

    • Lizzie says...

      I too love the ” I am human, nothing human is alien to me” statement. It’s believed to have originated by a comic playwright from ancient Rome known as Terence. (Just to be clear that it wasn’t from Ms. Winfrey nor Ms. Angelou.)

  48. Jessica says...

    I also love the Lena quote. My best and bravest life decisions, adopting my two sons, going to law school and opening a social justice law firm, were made before I knew how scary it would be. Now I look back at my bravery with awe.

    • Jennifer L says...

      As an aspiring attorney and an advocate for social justice, I would love to hear more about your story.

    • Jessica says...

      Jennifer, there is a short bio and my contact info here: Best of luck!! The world needs more advocates of social justice.

  49. This is a wonderful list and my favorite is, the one by Marina Abramović.

    “To me it is really important to live in what I call the spaces in-between. Bus stations, trains, taxis or waiting rooms in airports are the best places because you are open to destiny, you are open to everything and anything can happen.”

    Definitely a different way to think about places where we are waiting to get from one place to the next. They are important spaces too and a reminder to focus on the present, even if it’s in-between.

    My favorite quote of all time is by Rumi. “Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love.” It’s changed my life and continues to pull me forward.

  50. Especially love Lucille Ball’s quote. Thanks for sharing. <3

  51. Ivanna says...

    It was a great surprise to see a photo of one of my favorite poets on your post today. One thing I’ve always loved about Cup of Jo, as I’ve been reading through the years, is how great you are at showing diversity on your blog. As a woman of color it’s refreshing to scroll through your blog and see hair care, makeup, and quotes from/for a diverse group of people when so many other lifestyle blogs are targeted to one demographic. Thank you for lifting my spirits today!

    • Lara says...

      I love that you wrote that, Ivana. I feel the same and the comments and additions on Cup of Jo are always a wonderful reason to extend my stay :)

    • I feel the exact same women. I love the community and the celebration of diversity on Cup of Jo.

      Thank you, Johanna!

  52. Sophie says...

    Great quotes, all.
    My favorite:

    “Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner.”
    ~Lao Tzu

  53. Laura says...

    Wow, did this come at the perfect time! I have a dear friend who is having a double mastectomy this very afternoon, and I just texted her that Lena Dunham quote. Thank you!

  54. Julie says...

    One that has really stuck with me for years was said by my friend’s then three-year-old (she’s now 10!). One day she was so excited to get outside and ride her bike but her dad was taking too long with her helmet. She was bouncing off the walls and when he told her to calm down, she replied – dead serious –

    “I’m not crying. Don’t tell me to relax.”

    I honestly think about it ALL the time – if I feel undermined at work, if i start to feel a bit embarrassed about anything, or even if i just need to get outside on a gorgeous day… like don’t let anything hold you back or cramp your style! She’s basically my spirit animal.

    • riye says...

      Awesome! I’m going to share with my office mates (one has a 3 yr old). :-D

    • I love this so much!!!

  55. Such an inspirational post! Love it!!! Thank you you absolutely saved my day! xx Ana

  56. “Be the person you want to be.” This is what I’m constantly telling myself if I ever feel confused about what step to take. Eventually I’ll become the person I want to be.

  57. yael steren says...

    One of my favorite quotes is – I can’t control what other people do or say. I can only control how I chose to react, and I chose to react with peace and understanding. LOVE IT!! xx yael

  58. Personally, I’m still thinking about Ilana Glazer’s answer to that Twitter comment (that you linked to yesterday), how you already have “it” in you and “It’s your job to uncoil it and show the world.”

  59. This has always been my favorite quote (and inspired the name of my blog!):

    “Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”
    – Ralph Waldo Emerson

    I like the Lucille Ball quote, too. :)

  60. Gosh, Lucille Ball and Lena Dunham, such smart and funny ladies of their time. I loved reading these quotes to start the day.

  61. Ana says...

    My math teacher always said:
    “üben, üben, üben”
    (practise, practise, practise)
    I still believe it is the best advise I ever heard in my life.

  62. Amy says...

    I love the one about practicing by Dani Shapiro. I’m not sure what it is, but somehow it makes sense of the simple things and gives daily tasks a purpose. We’re practicing. How practical.

  63. Susan Davies says...

    Dolly Parton – Find out who you are and do it on purpose.

  64. Amelia says...

    Thanks for these great quotes! I love the Stevie Nicks one, what a classy lady. When I was 16 I read a poem by Naomi Shibab Nye called “What Will Happen to You” and it has remained comforting through 10 years of my life! I think about this line all the time: “When Jack Kerouac said, ‘Rest and be kind,’ he was talking to you.” !!! I’m not as obsessed with Jack Kerouac as I was at 16, but I still love it. :)

  65. I love this post. I came upon this Rumi gem recently, and felt moved by it:

    “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.”

  66. More quote round-ups please. This is awesome.

    One I’m loving lately is:

    “There were always questions. To exchange one set for another is no great matter.” –Tom Stoppard

    It just reminds me that while sometimes I feel like life is getting more overwhelming than it ever has been before, to remember that that’s not true, my questions are just different from the ones I used to ask, and I got through those just fine :)

  67. Sarah Beth says...

    Oh man, I’m a new mom recently back at full time work, and that lena dunham quote totally just made me cry. Thank you so much for these really lovely quotes– they are totally what I needed to hear on a super stressful week where I’m feeling like I haven’t been great at work and haven’t been home enough either.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      you’re doing a great job!! hang in there, mama, and sending a big hug your way.

    • juliek says...

      Feeling this. Had the 5th major blowout with my man last night since we had our child (16 months ago). I knew having a baby would change my life in big ways. I did not predict the toll of the micro-challenges with time, energy, roles, work or sense of self. Hang in there mama… every day is a little different and we can only roll with it. Patti Smith nails it.

    • you can do it! I’ve been a mom at work for almost two years and i’m not going to lie, it’s hard. you get used to it, but i’ll admit there are still some days when i tear up leaving the apartment. one thing that helped me was realizing you can’t be everything all of time – it’s impossible! some days i am better at “mom” and some days i am better at my day job, and that’s ok.

    • laura says...

      It is sooooo hard!!!!! My babe is three now and I remember those days….it is so much!!! Relax!!! You are an awesome mom!! In three years (don’t worry, it will fly by!! ) you will be giving advice to new moms, like a pro!! But for now, you are amazing!! Read a book, watch a movie… be you while that precious child sleeps!!! They will breathe without you watching!!!

  68. Tyler says...

    Love Marina Abramovic. I agree about “the spaces in between.” I love being in transit, especially driving, because that time in between when I can’t focus on anything but driving, I feel free of stress and responsibility. Also love Susan Sontag’s quote about paying attention. I am thirty and embarking on a new career path and I’m paying attention to everything like my life depends on it, trying to learn as fast as I can to make up for lost time. Its led me in interesting new directions.

  69. i read this quote a comment in the Humans of NY page, and it’s one that i wish i had known in my 20s:

    you are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      Wow. That is awesome.

    • Marissa says...

      A less elegant reminder of this truth is one I remind myself nearly daily:

      “Not my circus, not my monkeys.” -Polish Proverb

    • love this!

  70. I’m unabashedly in love with quotes, so naturally I have to throw in one myself…

    “I beg you, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.” Rainer Maria Rilke*

    *not a woman, but worthy of today’s post regardless :)

    • Carrie says...

      What a great reminder, and something I’ve seen so true in my life!

  71. A quote that helped me to start my little illustration business: “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” from Arthur Ashe. Instead of waiting for the kids beeing grown-up and then do seriouses illustration projects, I just did a suite of postcards. Now.

  72. Oh, goodness, these are wonderful. Did you see the Brené Brown piece the other day on Maria Shriver’s site? It was part of a photography series with women in mid-life? It was all pure gold, but as nearly 43 I loved this: Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through you. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen.

    You can find it here:

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      That is so lovely! Brené is the best. Thank you for sharing.

    • Wait, Maria Shriver has a blog? Thank you for linking – I’m popping over to spend a few hours :)

  73. I love those magazine tag line promises as well. And I love the quotes above. The words from Diane von Furstenberg above are actually some of the words that I carry close to my heart. It might end up being a life long struggle but in the end I hope that I can say that I was in a good relationship with myself :)
    xx A

  74. Thank you – really needed the encouragement today!

  75. “Finite to fail, but infinite to venture.” – Emily Dickinson
    Aka, the chorus to Aaliyah’s Try Again. ;)

  76. These are so amazing. Love the one from Lucille Ball…no one is thinking that much about us. Brilliant!

  77. I was going to say men’s magazines don’t do this, but actually, they do. Pop psy is all around us.

  78. Charlotte K says...

    I love that photo.

  79. wow. I’m usually a little skeptical of quote dumps, but these are all so inspiring, and surprising. Love it.

  80. Giulia says...

    I am normally not a big fan of inspirational quotes, but these are all thoughtful and they calmly but truthfully resonate with me. Thanks for this, Caroline, it made a happy difference today! :)