What do you do when you have time completely to yourself? Anything funny/random? Or the classic soak in the bath with epsom salts?
I used to find it tough to take solo time in the evenings, because the boys would get so clingy. They would drape themselves over me as I moved toward the door, and then Toby would theatrically bang on his bedroom window as I walked away from the house, like Dustin Hoffman in The Graduate. But then Alex had an idea…
He said, “Guys, let’s have a boys’ night! Popcorn and Shrek!” And I got “kicked out” of the house. I asked Toby and Anton if I could please stay, but they giggled and said, “No, Mama, it’s a boys’ night!” Somehow their thinking that I wanted to stay made it so much easier for them to happily let me go. Whew!
Sometimes I take a bike ride, but my favorite thing is to get a chair massage at our neighborhood nail salon. It’s only $10 for 10 minutes, and you feel totally pampered and taken care of.
Here, seven women share what they do when they’re flying solo, and how they carve out time.
When I have time completely alone, there are two things I find myself doing: 1. Opening a beer, a package of crackers and a wedge of cheese and finding a documentary on TV to watch. I’m very into IPAs, Stoned Wheat Thins and/or Mary’s Gone Crackers with some kind of nutty cow’s milk cheese. I recently watched The Wolfpack, an amazing documentary that I highly recommend. That sounds like heaven to me right now. — Lina
I know this sounds insane, but my favorite activity when I am actually home alone (i.e., NEVER) is to clean out my closet! I find it so soothing and it hearkens back to a time when my life actually had order (rather than the total chaos that reigns now). DREAM. — Poppy
Every Sunday, when the kids are napping, I pull out the weekend New York Times and read the etiquette section first, then Modern Love, and I hope for a new Diagnosis column, which appears every few issues. It’s better than any medical drama on TV. — Abby
I belong to a random online gym that does 15- to 20-minute daily workouts and I feel like a better mom and person when I complete one. It makes me feel strong inside and out, and I have become pretty addicted to that feeling. During the day I have a hard time relaxing; exercise feels like I’m accomplishing something, but it’s still really a time out for me. — Allison
I actually enjoy throwing medicine balls (like this dude — although obviously I’m WAY slower). I hadn’t been great at making time for exercise after my daughter was born, but after a string of migraines earlier this year, I started making it a priority and haven’t had any since! I think there’s something in me that craves movement. When Louise was a baby, we were driving down the highway and passed workmen lifting porta-potties onto a trailer — and I felt oddly envious of them doing something so physical. So strange, right?! — Liz
I’m pretty lame with my day-to-day me time — in the evenings I enjoy hanging on the sofa, reading an article or watching a funny clip. But a couple winters ago I went big: at the spur of the moment, I traveled with some friends to the Caribbean for a couple nights. It had been a particularly rough week in an already rough winter and we impulsively threw it together on about 24-hours notice. We felt so guilty about abandoning our friends and family in the bitter cold that we swore a vow of secrecy and left no social media trail. But as spoiled as it sounds, it was incredibly restorative and I came back ready to deal again. — Linsey
I’m a stay-at-home mom of four boys, and we have afternoon quiet time. The youngest two take naps, while the oldest two read books or play in their room. I rely on this hour or two to decompress, breathe, watch cooking shows or just stare at the wall. I have realized how just a small amount of uninterrupted personal time can be the ultimate reset button for everyone. — Sarah
What do you do when you have solo time? And how do you make time? I’d love to hear…