What Do You Do For ‘Me’ Time?

What do you do when you have time completely to yourself? Anything funny/random? Or the classic soak in the bath with epsom salts?

I used to find it tough to take solo time in the evenings, because the boys would get so clingy. They would drape themselves over me as I moved toward the door, and then Toby would theatrically bang on his bedroom window as I walked away from the house, like Dustin Hoffman in The Graduate. But then Alex had an idea…

He said, “Guys, let’s have a boys’ night! Popcorn and Shrek!” And I got “kicked out” of the house. I asked Toby and Anton if I could please stay, but they giggled and said, “No, Mama, it’s a boys’ night!” Somehow their thinking that I wanted to stay made it so much easier for them to happily let me go. Whew!

Sometimes I take a bike ride, but my favorite thing is to get a chair massage at our neighborhood nail salon. It’s only $10 for 10 minutes, and you feel totally pampered and taken care of.

Here, seven women share what they do when they’re flying solo, and how they carve out time.

When I have time completely alone, there are two things I find myself doing: 1. Opening a beer, a package of crackers and a wedge of cheese and finding a documentary on TV to watch. I’m very into IPAs, Stoned Wheat Thins and/or Mary’s Gone Crackers with some kind of nutty cow’s milk cheese. I recently watched The Wolfpack, an amazing documentary that I highly recommend. That sounds like heaven to me right now. — Lina

I know this sounds insane, but my favorite activity when I am actually home alone (i.e., NEVER) is to clean out my closet! I find it so soothing and it hearkens back to a time when my life actually had order (rather than the total chaos that reigns now). DREAM. — Poppy

Every Sunday, when the kids are napping, I pull out the weekend New York Times and read the etiquette section first, then Modern Love, and I hope for a new Diagnosis column, which appears every few issues. It’s better than any medical drama on TV. — Abby

I belong to a random online gym that does 15- to 20-minute daily workouts and I feel like a better mom and person when I complete one. It makes me feel strong inside and out, and I have become pretty addicted to that feeling. During the day I have a hard time relaxing; exercise feels like I’m accomplishing something, but it’s still really a time out for me. — Allison

I actually enjoy throwing medicine balls (like this dude — although obviously I’m WAY slower). I hadn’t been great at making time for exercise after my daughter was born, but after a string of migraines earlier this year, I started making it a priority and haven’t had any since! I think there’s something in me that craves movement. When Louise was a baby, we were driving down the highway and passed workmen lifting porta-potties onto a trailer — and I felt oddly envious of them doing something so physical. So strange, right?! — Liz

I’m pretty lame with my day-to-day me time — in the evenings I enjoy hanging on the sofa, reading an article or watching a funny clip. But a couple winters ago I went big: at the spur of the moment, I traveled with some friends to the Caribbean for a couple nights. It had been a particularly rough week in an already rough winter and we impulsively threw it together on about 24-hours notice. We felt so guilty about abandoning our friends and family in the bitter cold that we swore a vow of secrecy and left no social media trail. But as spoiled as it sounds, it was incredibly restorative and I came back ready to deal again. — Linsey

I’m a stay-at-home mom of four boys, and we have afternoon quiet time. The youngest two take naps, while the oldest two read books or play in their room. I rely on this hour or two to decompress, breathe, watch cooking shows or just stare at the wall. I have realized how just a small amount of uninterrupted personal time can be the ultimate reset button for everyone. — Sarah

What do you do when you have solo time? And how do you make time? I’d love to hear…

P.S. Traveling alone, and would you start an Articles Club?

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Laura

September 25, 2015 9:54 am

“boys night” that is so cute and clever!

My relaxation involves a cup of tea (or glass of wine depending on the week) a style at home magazine and a feta-spinach croissant from my local bakery. You’ll find me in the park, or on the couch, enjoying my treats in pure bliss!

Laura
http://www.cookwineandthinker.com

Julie

September 24, 2015 4:36 pm

I like to sit down with a cup of tea, a sweet treat (cinnamon rolls are my fave), and either a good book or a good t.v. show. If it’s a t.v. show then I’ll multitask and doodle or paint in my art journal. If it’s winter then I love to take a nice, long, relaxing bath with a good book, but ever since we moved to our new place we don’t have good bath tubs. :( :( :(

Caitlyn @ Candid Cerebrations

September 23, 2015 2:31 pm

I love doing things alone. I take a yoga class Friday – granted there are other people there we don’t talk to each other. The only interaction is my yoga instructor silently modifying my pose. Also I love taking my book and reading at the park, on a random NYC bench, or in a local coffee shop. Other favorites are running, going to the movies, getting a massage, or drinking a beer while watching a hockey game at a pub.
If you want to meet new people, doing things alone is the best way. It’s much easier to approach one person than a group.

Christina

September 23, 2015 2:11 pm

Lately, I’ve been setting my alarm for 6 am and going to Ashtanga yoga in my neighbourhood before my husband and toddler wake up.

If my husband is away traveling or at a show for work, which he often is, I have a beer, order my favourite Indian food and watch either a Wes Anderson or Harry Potter movie. It’s my most therapeutic trinity of things!

Kristie

September 23, 2015 1:54 pm

I love a good freedom run alone in the hills! I work part time and it’s my favorite thing to do after school drop off on my week day off. Sometimes I come home and take a hot bath mid afternoon before I pickup the kids from school! The more indulgent it feels, the better the benefit!

Raphaelle

September 23, 2015 12:34 pm

I go for a run every morning around 6:30am while everyone’s still asleep.
i used to think that people who did that were either crazy of had way more energy than I do, but I forced myself to try it for a week, and now I’m a convert! I’ve suffered from insomnia for years, but since I started this new routine, I’ve never slept better in my life. I’m out at 9:30pm, and up at 6am. I have a ton of energy, my skin is glowing, I’m a better mom for it!

Capucine

September 23, 2015 12:35 am

I actually think this is a watershed question; far vaster, deeper and more important than it seems for women who are mothering.

I get every Saturday off, starting after breakfast until 12:30. It is my only time I’m not taking care of someone right now. I create in my art space in our home; paint, sketch, knit, sew – nothing for anyone. My husband generally takes the kids on a bike ride. For the last year, I’ve worked through Marie Kondo’s sorting steps one hour of my Saturday at a time. I started this Saturday-inviolate routine after my second baby. I knew I need something to fill me up when I was drained, and the time to do it. Demanding that time and allowing myself to begin creating art were two of the hardest, most courageous things I have ever done. If you poll a room of mothers about their partner taking the kids on a set time and day weekly, you will realize what I mean about courage: asking for that is HARD. Identifying what fills you up so you have a hobby to turn to with snippets of free time is also very HARD.

I recommend Marie Kondo’s sorting if you have no idea what hobby is ‘you’ and no courage to ask for regular reliable alone time. Sorting your stuff can break up the icebergs in the way!

stacy

Reply to Capucine

September 23, 2015 4:34 pm

I recently read The Fringe Hours, which is about exactly this. If you haven’t yet, it sounds like you would really relate to the book. I’m not yet a mother, but found a lot of value in it.

Natalie

September 22, 2015 11:33 pm

I totally relate to Liz’s story about being jealous of the workers on the highway! I used to be super physically active when I was in school– played multiple sports and all that, and like she said, really craved physical activity. Now as a new mom, I rarely have time to workout and I’m really missing that. I taught high school for a few years and would get so jealous seeing all my students playing sports all the time! I guess I need to quit moping and join a gym.

Alicia

September 22, 2015 9:28 pm

I used to use any time that I wasn’t with the kids for getting something else done (ie chores, groceries, laundry, hang a shelf) because I would feel so guilty to do nothing with my time. But then I started getting resentful of my husband who actually has some great hobbies. Now I take that time for myself. I might watch a tv show or listen to a podcast. Still working on the guilt though.

Simone

September 22, 2015 9:24 pm

Knitting with a glass of wine or a nice beer. Or the soak in the tub with Epsom salts, always a good backup! Lately, too, I’ve been having fun with those adult coloring books that are all the rage.

Pamela

September 22, 2015 7:59 pm

I knit.
I brush my dogs till they are their fluffiest. (Amazingly relaxing)
and sometimes I like to take a long drive with the car windows down, singing along with Petula Clark.
xx

Ali

September 22, 2015 5:01 pm

Great tips! I love to take a walk in the evening around our neighborhood while listening to a podcast.

Leah

September 22, 2015 3:51 pm

i think my favorite comment is from the woman who snuck away to the caribbean for the weekend with with friends and no social media trail! would love to put my husband on baby duty and do that this winter :)

sherry @ save. spend. splurge.

September 22, 2015 3:48 pm

I come home early from work, leave my son at the daycare until 5 p.m. and just veg on the couch, reading blogs, and doing absolutely NOTHING.

I also like to read, clean out my closet, blog and go over my budget… sick. I know.

Tori

September 22, 2015 1:10 pm

I have a newborn (almost 4 weeks) and am cherishing this time with her but I did not realize how much alone time I was used to now that I have none. I heard women talk about not having time to shower, and wondered how that was possible? Well, it is real!! I have never enjoyed a hot shower so much in my life! Also, before the baby I loved solo grocery store runs on early weekend mornings, quiet walks to work, and cooking or baking in my kitchen.

Courtney

September 22, 2015 1:09 pm

I’m lucky enough to live three miles from my sister-in-law (a fellow soon-to-be second-time Mommy with a toddler). Our kids are only four months apart and our second(s) are due within a month of one another. And, while play time often includes snippets of me time because of our fortunate circumstances, we have a weekly date. Wednesday nights are Mommy nights — meaning Mommy is gone. Obviously, it doesn’t always work out, but more often than not it does. We tried it without the scheduling at first and it just didn’t work. Now, Daddy expects one-on-one time, we have no excuses and we have a great time. What do we do? That’s the wonderful thing; whatever we want. This week we’re getting pedicures, and I’m sure we’ll soon be back to pairing wine with the new and best local cuisine :)

To those mommies struggling with guilt — it’s good for them! Really, let Daddy be the “person;” if only for a few hours…

Joanna

September 22, 2015 12:14 pm

My morning time is my favorite time. Sometimes, I’m lucky enough to have morning AND night time. At night, I take a bath, light a candle and read up on a few articles or watch a good movie. In the morning, I enjoy every single sip of my coffee and plan my week.

Madison

September 22, 2015 12:03 pm

Although I try to find little things throughout the day that are all about me (i.e. enjoying my morning smoothie) my absolute favorite thing to do is go to the movies by myself, in the middle of the day, in the middle of the week. I love curling up by myself with a tub of popcorn and no responsibilities while I get caught up in what i’m watching on the big screen.

Erika

September 22, 2015 11:27 am

Me time? Reading A Cup of Jo. Every night as soon as my daughter falls asleep.

Rachel Upshaw

September 22, 2015 11:27 am

This quote is the best thing I’ve read all week. Legit LOLs solicited. “We felt so guilty about abandoning our friends and family in the bitter cold that we swore a vow of secrecy and left no social media trail.”

Justine

September 22, 2015 10:56 am

I begin to the same online gym as Allison and those workouts are indeed a sanity saver! I used to wait until I was alone in the house to do them, but now I just power through them along side the family while they are doing other stuff. They know not to bug me when I’m sweating, lol.

Lindsey

September 22, 2015 10:15 am

Reading this blog is one of my favorite daily “me time” activities!

Allison

September 22, 2015 9:48 am

things i love to do when i’m alone:

1) eat cereal right from the box while watching bravo and/or netflix documentaries
2) escape the city and go for a long drive in the country
3) scroll through old photos on my phone
4) leave dishes in the sink for as long as i want
5) hangout with my boyfriend in silence (this counts as being alone, right?)

Michele

September 22, 2015 9:47 am

“Me time” is so hard for me. I’m an older mom (had my son when I was 47 – I’m 50 now) and work full-time. I don’t even feel like I have time to get stuff done, like clean the house, let alone to do something for me. I also feel so guilty for doing something alone. I feel that I’m missing out on being with my son and can’t enjoy myself. Logically, I know it would be good but I feel like I’m stuck. I”m not sure what’s the answer.

Millie

September 22, 2015 9:45 am

I dance around the house and watch some reality TV, or read a book. I actually wrote a post about some of these things a few days ago.
http://littlepalaceonline.com/2015/09/18/how-i-give-myself-happiness-in-6-super-simple-and-satisfying-ways/

Anna of Analog House

September 22, 2015 9:28 am

We have coined the term “private time” with our kids. That’s when we can go to our bedroom, shut the door, and have complete calm, while the other parent watches the kid. For alone time, I love going to the spa, or even just window shopping on my own. Or a cup of coffee with my phone or a good book. More often than not, my alone time, involved me passing out of tiredness on my bed for a luxurious afternoon nap.

Analog House
http://theanaloghouse.blogspot.com/

Bethany

September 22, 2015 7:11 am

I, too, love to ride my bike. It is such a quiet and calming activity for me and I feel like, for once, I’m moving a little faster than the world around me.

Jen

September 22, 2015 6:23 am

I drink whisky and watch movies while taking a bath. Sooooo good. As a kid I used to read in the bath, but now I really like candlelit nighttime baths with whisky, but then I get bored after a while! So having my laptop on a stool next to the bath means I’m really chilling out but not bored, and it’s the perfect time to watch terrible films you know your partner would never watch with you. Especially for Friday nights, when you’re all tuckered out from the working week!

Nora

September 22, 2015 5:00 am

I take 5-15 minute breaks 4-5 times every day where I get to contemplate, or soak myself in gratitude for all those small things I take for granted (being alive! living in peace, having good food and healthy kids) or breathe and let myself feel grounded in the moment…. I’m an introvert and need time alone to recharge and function, and both kids AND adults wouldn’t dream of interrupting or disturbing prayer time! Best excuse to be left alone when I need a few mommy minutes to myself >D

Since I had my second kiddie I’ve swapped jogging for fast walks in the mornings with her in a wrap on my back, I find the motion also seems to be an energy outlet for her and she naps better and longer – which means time for mommy to have tea in the company of Dr Who before everyone comes home.

Laura C

September 22, 2015 4:41 am

As a non working mom with two little girls, I only have ‘me time’ in the mornings… like now, I like to read cup of jo, sending emails and watching some Scandal or Person of Interest episodes!
Oh, and that shower with no knocking at the door- priceless.
xxx

Nadia

September 22, 2015 3:55 am

I travel a lot wth work and often on my own. At first I (and my boyfriend probably too) was worried about how this will affect the dynamics of our relationship but it actually makes us miss each other and appreciate each other more.

My favorite things to do when I’m (travelling) alone include:

– Getting lost in a new city (knowing I have maps on my phone just in case helps) and just walking around with no direction or plan
– Reading in cafes in busy places where you can take a break from your book every so often and just people-watch
– Eating cupcakes for breakfast, lunch AND dinner because I can!
– Shopping! Even if I don’t buy anything, I can try on 15 dresses and 100 pairs of shoes without being frowned upon

Leighanne

September 22, 2015 1:18 am

I’ve recently made a new rule for myself that when I’m given alone time, I can’t sneak in other family-related errands. I would sometimes find myself at Target buying diapers, convincing myself that at least I grabbed a coffee or a magazine for myself. But it didn’t provide any actual down time. I’ve decided to completely ignore errands and fully focus on being alone or just having fun. I take a walk, get a pedicure, call a friend or read a book at a nearby coffee shop. I loved this post and reading the responses.

Dee

September 22, 2015 12:41 am

I was just telling myself last night, what would I give to just finish a damn book in a matter of days like I used to? But truth is, my me-time is office lunch time reading Cup of Jo! :) Weekends, just a few sneaks of Instagram here and there.

angela ferdig

September 22, 2015 12:41 am

What a great idea. It must feel better on your end that they WANT you to go.
I struggled with this for a while and then I figured out what was wrong. I wrote about it here:
http://myowngoldstar.com/2015/08/24/figuring-out-happiness/
bc not everyone’s idea of a relaxing time is the same…which is so evident from the comments above. Your posts are always so spot on!

Tracy

September 22, 2015 12:08 am

i just read all the comments; this was so good and gave me great ideas that I’m going to try with my husband and kiddos! Istarted getting monthly massages when I was pregnant with my 2nd, and after he was born I kept on going! I’ve found it amazingly restorative. I realized I could probably use that time to work out…but nah ;) I’ll figure out the exercise thing in time. I’m still somewhat astounded by how little (no) time there is with working full time and now 2 kids. I also try to work from home on Mondays as a way to ease into the work week, and it gives me the silence I crave after a noisy house all weekend and before my coworkers inundate me with questions.
Shopping alone sounds sooooo good right now. For now it’s a whole lot of online shopping! ?

Nina

September 21, 2015 11:15 pm

Wondering around hobby lobby or TJ Maxx is delightful sans child. Getting my nails done is another wow, this feels so decadent and lovely. I recently started a new job ans work 4 10hr days. Its been nice to have some time for me…then go have lunch with my son at school and volunteer I. His classroom. But he was sick Thursday and Friday and seemed better Sunday but claimed he was still sick today- my day off! So aggravated! I wanted/needed my me time. ! I am making his Halloween costume…a wolf tail that is taking an inordinate amount of time…so he watched tv in the living room and I went into the bedroom and watched you tube videos of Jimmy Fallon and worked on his tail. A few hours of laughing and I felt much better!

Nhi

September 21, 2015 10:37 pm

Netflix marathon on the couch!

The other night I went to a concert by myself. That was probably by far the best me time I’d had in a long time. It was amazing! :)

Rachel

September 21, 2015 9:41 pm

Joanna, you actually inspired me to start an article club with my girlfriends. Our first club meeting was in July and we are loving it so far! I quickly threw together a tumblr site to keep track of everything we are reading/casting and eating and we have been using Doodle (another great rec!) to choose our monthly meeting date. Among us we have a beautiful blend of working professionals; some are moms some are not, and some stay at home. The perspectives are fascinating and the opportunity to break out of our normal routines is such a treat. It’s lovely to see how you are building communities of women through the ideas you share on Cup of Jo. Many thanks again. xo

Joanna Goddard

Author

Reply to Rachel

September 21, 2015 9:44 pm

Aww, I’m so happy to hear that, Rachel! Made my day :)

Erin @ Her Heartland Soul

September 21, 2015 9:36 pm

I love this post! I feel like it helps me prepare for someday!

Her Heartland Soul
http://herheartlandsoul.com

Jen

September 21, 2015 9:07 pm

I am REALLY bad at taking alone time. My daughter is now 9 months old and I still feel a little guilty when I go to do things by myself like GROCERY SHOPPING! WAXING APPOINTMENTS! But I try to practice mindfulness whenever I do have time to myself and that’s what really helps! Being present in the moments I do have to myself.

Erin Maree

September 21, 2015 9:06 pm

I start work at 12.00pm every day so in the mornings I do ‘me’ time if I can. Lately its been re watching Greek and just relaxing as I have only just started work after 2 years of being unemployed and I find I need to take the mornings to slow. Once or twice a week I head down to work early and window shop at the shopping centre across from work, its still a novelty that I have money and I don’t have watch everything I spend!
I am not an introvert or an extrovert I find it just depends on who I am spending time with and how my anxiety is going. There are days where I need to lock myself away and have more ‘me’ time as my anxiety has flared up and I just need to focus on myself!
I also love going to cafes and enjoying a slice of cake and reading a book for a couple of hours. I love finding cafes that are hidden gems and having this special spot where I can go for a bit.

Melissa

September 21, 2015 8:53 pm

I never used to work out ever, even before my little guy was born. But T25 has been changing my life! It’s 25 minutes a day and I feel so empowered and stronger because of it.

I’ve done it with my husband occasionally and we have so much fun just laughing and challenging each other! We actually can’t wait to buy Cize, it’s a dance workout program Shaun T came out with. I mean how fun to just be in the privacy of your home doing a dance routine with your hubby or by yourself. I can not dance hahah!

Gretchen

September 21, 2015 7:40 pm

I’ve tried the solo glass of vino out with a magazine, book or my notebook to write down. Once you settle into the newness of it, I is extremely relaxing.

Mac

September 21, 2015 7:22 pm

I indulge in a hot bath + book nearly every night. My girls take two hour afternoon naps (AT THE SAME TIME, YOU GUYS) and I spend the first hour being productive (while listening to podcasts) and the second hour catching a nap myself, reading, or watching Antiques Roadshow which I am not ashamed to say I LOVE. Friday mornings my husband takes the girls for donuts while I get a sleep-in, and Sundays me and the girls make breakfast together to return the favor. Plus I’m in two different monthly book clubs, so I get out with friends two nights a month. As I write this, I’m wondering if one can overindulge at me time…

Joanna Goddard

Author

Reply to Mac

September 21, 2015 8:19 pm

that sounds great! good for you, mama! xo

Lendy

September 21, 2015 7:01 pm

As a SAHM, it took me awhile to admit my need for “me time!” Luckily I snapped outa that craziness! Haha!

First, “me time” out of the house on my own is essential to my survival! Haha! Every other Saturday is my day. I like to go buy a big ol coffee & treat, go to the library to pick up our holds & read in a window seat. I also love getting my nails done. Recently I discovered how much I enjoy going to thrift shops on Saturday mornings. This Saturday I found some gems! I came home with a big ol smile!

Second, “me time” on a daily basis is important too. I listen to podcasts during my daughter’s nap. I have a routine of making myself a yummy afternoon drink whether it’s an ice coffee or a La Croix virgin mixed drink (mint & grapes)! Also Friday’s are my movie/tv day! During Luna’s nap, Friday afternoon you will find me on the couch (no matter if the dryer is filled with laundry!), I watch a movie.

Hanne

September 21, 2015 6:54 pm

Evenings home alone with our son, post-bedtime: tea, knitting, TV, Netflix and reading books, blogs, news, magazines and news papers. I love knitting (I never thought I would become that woman!) and I get a lot of great patterns and inspiration from Paelas.

Once a week, when my husband is home, I go interval training with my sister, HIGHLY recommended!! 4×4, so easy and so effective.

Twyla

September 21, 2015 6:05 pm

My mental-health me-time consists of an Earl Grey tea latte, blog-reading, and crossword puzzles. I try to get out of the house to do this or I end up cleaning something. I also try to incorporate a relaxing essential oil blend so my mind can calm down.

Christine

September 21, 2015 5:40 pm

I’m a bit of an introvert so as much as I love coffee or dinner with friends, etc. it doesn’t count as “me” time to me because the thing i need most is time ALONE. Even if it’s time alone in a sea of other people, like wandering around the mall or something. I found that not being able to just go out and do random errands for an hour was a thing that really got to me when I had my first. I need time out like that after a full day home with 2 (I’m on maternity leave), and I’ll need it just as much when I’m back at work as I’m in a professional environment were I’m “on” and surrounded by people all day. Oh, and exercise doesn’t count for me because I do it because I “have” to, not because I enjoy it…. But for some reason a trip out of the house alone, and with no deadline, is just what I need after a trying day — even if I only make it to the grocerystore.

Tracy

Reply to Christine

September 21, 2015 9:05 pm

Omg reading this was like looking into a mirror!! I feel the same exact way, and my job is the same with people around constantly around me. Hope you get your time after going back to work. If you can swing it, working from home one day a week (or every other week) helps a bit. It does for me at least. Some of those days, I work and do house chores, other times I’m strictly working, and sometimes I go run errands on my lunch “break”! I still need more me time than that, but after a usually hectic weekend (going from 1 to 2 kids is no joke, huh?), I tend to look forward to Mondays since I get the house all to myself!

Tracy

Reply to Christine

September 21, 2015 9:11 pm

I just read what I typed and realized that wasn’t very relaxing-sounding “me” time haha. The fact that you’re alone feels amazing, as you can imagine :)

Mandy

Reply to Christine

September 22, 2015 7:41 am

Christine, thank you for writing this! I am a young mom, and since our little boy joined our family, my husband has regularly encouraged me to go out for girls’ nights to recharge (bless him!), but I usually find myself MORE exhausted afterward. Reading your post, I had an AHA moment! The introvert in me needs alone time to recharge! For my next girls’ night, I will be taking a solo trip to the mall. Thanks, again, for the epiphany moment.

Mun

September 21, 2015 5:36 pm

Knit, loads of knitting and day dreaming x

lulu

September 21, 2015 5:21 pm

whenever i get an (albeit rare) night to myself with no projects due or work to bring home yadda yadda yadda. i go down the road to this ritzy restaurant i used to hang out in in my 20’s (all my friends were servers then- now I know no one which is even better). i order a glass of lemony prosecco (or two) and their intensely decadent flourless chocolate torte. i bring a book or chat with other people at the swanky bar (so many people stop to tell me i’ve “got it all figured out!”) and just let myself feel chill and youngish and fancy-free. it’s usually a $20 indulgence and it takes me a lot farther than it would have spent on anything else “normal” or “necessary”. i’m a better mama and wife for it. <3

Jenny

September 21, 2015 5:20 pm

Getting kicked out of the house reminded me of something a friend of friend does: she tells her kids she’s going to work. They don’t twig on that it’s Saturday night and she’s heading out to dinner with friends. Bye mom!

Joanna Goddard

Author

Reply to Jenny

September 21, 2015 8:20 pm

hahaha that’s hilarious!

Samantha

September 21, 2015 5:14 pm

Napping on Saturday afternoons when I actually have a free Saturday afternoon is just priceless. My week days are very busy, and so are my Saturday mornings. On Saturday nights I always go out and on Sundays I usually spend the day with my boyfriend. So, Saturday naps are very special to me. Also, if I have the extra money to do so, I like to get pedicures at a nail bar. It’s more expensive than a regular pedicure at a salon, but the place is nicer and more relaxing, the attentions are much better and the nail polish on my toes looks impecable for about 3 weeks. I don’t know how they do it!

Suzanne

September 21, 2015 4:49 pm

As a working momma, me time is called the lunch hour, which allows me to knock off errands, indulge in coffee with a friend (or, lately, browse AirBnB from my desk for that perfect dreamy Paris studio rental). Doing so frees up golden weekend family time and allows me to be present and play without thinking of errands that need doing . So love your blog, Joanna. Like you, I hail from the mitten state, did the law school thing and married a Brit! Must be the water here.

Northern Indigo

September 21, 2015 4:46 pm

When I do get alone time I get cozy in bed and watch a movie that I have never seen before! I make a rootbeer float or some other treat and take far too many pictures of my cat!
xoxo Kennedy
Northern Indigo

Florence

September 21, 2015 4:26 pm

That’s such a lovely way of you taking time out!

I’ve always sewn whenever I’ve had any free time. When my children were small I made lots of things for them, but as they’ve got older I’ve also increasingly focused on making clothes for myself! I love putting on a podcast and becoming completely absorbed in the familiar processes of setting in a sleeve or binding a neckline. It feels like my version of meditation…(albeit one that curiously results in a wardrobe of handmade clothes!).

Tracy

September 21, 2015 4:23 pm

One of our favorite family traditions is a Friday night “sleepover” where my husband and young son cuddle and ultimately spend the night together in our king bed, often watching sports or a movie, while Mom gets an early night of reading/bath/relaxing, capped off with a full night of sleep in the guest room. It is heaven for me to get a few hours of quiet space, and everyone loves it!

Betsy

September 21, 2015 4:09 pm

The gym. Forever and always the gym.

Becca

September 21, 2015 4:04 pm

I am a person who likes to be alone and since having my daughter and working outside of the house full time it’s rarely happened. Mostly my fault I think, I think I don’t want to miss any of the fun my husband and daughter would have. However we’re 4 weeks from #2 and I am getting weepy just reading this – what I wouldn’t give for a “cozy mystery” (LOVE that), tea & cookies, and a blanket. Not the best time to resolve to get more “me” time but maybe it’s a good future goal. Thanks for posting the question Jo!

Scribs Farm

September 21, 2015 4:04 pm

I can’t remember the last time I was alone and had me time. It’s been at least 2 years. I think there was a day when the husband took the oldest out for an afternoon before my daughter was born. The closest thing is my 4:30-7 am chore time each day before the kids get up and 8-9 pm after the kids are asleep, when the husband and I sit down and watch tv. I’m knitting if I’m not too tired, which isn’t too often lately.

Ali

September 21, 2015 3:58 pm

I am enjoying reading these comments and the hobbys that so many have. My two littlies have just started mornings at Kindergarten, and I have a few hours peace to do whatever I want. By whatever, there are things that take precedence. At the moment, I am using it to study for a German exam (we are Aussies living in Germany) so I can return to work. If I didn’t have to, then I think I would enjoy going window-shopping by myself, because finding out which stores are where and have what with two littlies has been surprisingly hard. Time spent at laid-back coffee shops and a good weekend newspaper is probably next, because that is what I used to love doing pre-children.

Liz J

September 21, 2015 3:55 pm

Both my partner and I are only children, so we’re used to, and both love, alone time, which is such a welcome change for exes who were frustrated that I didn’t want them to come with me on every expedition! I’m in my early 20s and find that not a lot of people my age seem to like having big chunks of time to themselves, but I operate on it. Sometimes (rarely) I feel lonely, but mainly I feel lucky I don’t need to rely on other people for enjoyment.

Joanna Goddard

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Reply to Liz J

September 21, 2015 8:23 pm

that’s so interesting. alex is the same as you guys, and when we first started dating, i was weirded out that he wanted to take walks alone, go read in the bedroom, etc. sometimes. but of course now i know he’s just an introvert and recharges by being alone — and then comes right back out to hang afterward! meanwhile, i’m such an extrovert, i actually get sort of tired and sad if i hang out alone for too long. i’m kind of jealous of people who can happily spend time alone!

Nicole

September 21, 2015 3:47 pm

Very interesting to read about everyone’s version of relaxation! I actually relate to spending alone time cleaning the closet or organizing things, because it makes me feel accomplished (and I can also put my favorite TV show on in the background!)

-Nicole
Meet Me in Midtown

Amanda

September 21, 2015 3:46 pm

I, in fact, do the old Epsom salt bath routine. I’m convinced they detoxify my body, and from the perspective of the bathtub, my tiny NYC bathroom actually seems bigger.

Mischu

September 21, 2015 3:28 pm

Alone time is such a rarity! Since I became a mom life has radically changed and getting dressed up to go out is no longer part of my weekly to-do list. I have to admit, going out is no longer such a priority, but if I find myself with alone time I rummage through my dress closet and try on everything. My daily uniform revolves around mostly pants or jeans since I spend a lot of time on the floor playing with my son or working at school. Wearing utilitarian clothes ameliorates that daily rush, but once in a while I enjoy revisiting the dress days.

Jordan

September 21, 2015 3:25 pm

My comment is sort of unrelated, but I would love to know how Lina was able to watch “The Wolfpack”! I tried looking around but the only websites I can find say that it is not available until October. I am a high school History teacher and this semester I am teaching Sociology – this documentary looks so interesting and would certainly tie into my curriculum! Sorry for the random question!

Joanna Goddard

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Reply to Jordan

September 21, 2015 8:24 pm

oh yes! i asked her because it doesn’t seem to be available until october 13th, and she thinks she remembers watching on verizon on demand. hope that helps!!

Chilly Miles

September 21, 2015 3:22 pm

I’ve been listening to podcasts (“Undisclosed” and “Serial Dynasty” are two favorites right now) while I color my Enchanted Forest adult-coloring book and sipping a good cold glass of rosé. Perfect trifecta.

Maggie

Reply to Chilly Miles

September 21, 2015 5:25 pm

This +1,000

Joanna Goddard

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Reply to Chilly Miles

September 21, 2015 8:25 pm

love that!

Moonlight

September 21, 2015 3:20 pm

I’m not a mom, but I work full time and still live with my parents (not so unusual where I come from), so I consider it “me” time when I’m alone in the kitchen cooking just for me, when I can get out of town for the weekend to a beach house or a mountain house and read my books, go to the beach, watch movies, eat whatever I want, when I go to my ballet lessons or the gym, twice or 3 times a year when I take a long foam bath, and when I have the luxury to go on a trip abroad alone and spend the time however I like: discovering the city, staying at the hotel, eating alone, doing things in my own pace!

Lea

Reply to Moonlight

September 21, 2015 4:47 pm

It’s a bit eerie how you basically took the words out of my mouth and wrote them down before I had the chance! :)

Amanda

September 21, 2015 3:07 pm

I create! Being home with just the kids all day I find my mind filled with ideas- a painting I’d like to make or a book I’d love to write (always a children’s books of course). So I wait until “me time” arrives and then I grab some tea and get to work!

Trina

September 21, 2015 2:56 pm

I love scrapbooking, or what’s really a hybrid journal. I buy notebooks (exclusively Five Star when I first started, but now branching out to 4×6, 5×7, and patterned notebooks) and cut out favorite images and articles from magazines, add in business cards of new restaurants I’ve enjoyed, plus handwritten letters and postcards from family and friends, ticket stubs from shows (movies, ballet, plays, etc.) that I liked…and write my thoughts and memories, caption-style, to them, sort of like a master magazine/hard copy of a blog. :) The notebooks act as time capsules of who I was and what I was interested at a given point in time. It’s a soothing way for me to put my thoughts in order and work with my hands and be able to touch something tangible that *I* made, at the end of most days when I’m working on a computer.

P.S. This activity is best done when sitting cross-legged on the carpet with a favorite old movie or Seinfeld rerun on TV. :)

Rachel

September 21, 2015 2:56 pm

I always seem to gravitate toward the piano whenever I get even a few minutes of me time. The second I start playing, it’s like I’m in another world where time passes in some unknown way. By the time I surface, 10 minutes or an hour may have passed. I always have to check the clock to know. :) There’s something about it that is so restorative.

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