Would you date older?

Have you ever dated an older man or woman? I had never dated an older man before, but Alex is a whopping 13 years older than I am. At first I thought his age might be a deal breaker, but it’s worked out (old movies, cooking skills, doesn’t mind my under-eye wrinkles:).

Have you ever heard this funny trick? “Divide the older person’s age in half, then add seven, and that’s the biggest age difference you can have. So if you’re 30, the youngest you can date is 22.” It’s actually a pretty good rule of thumb!

So, I’m curious: Have you ever dated an older man or woman? Much older? Would you rather date older or younger? How old would you go? Is your current partner older than you? I’d love to hear your thoughts…
(P.S. Btw, George Clooney is 50, so he’s fair game for any of you older than 32 1/2!)

  1. Jen H. says...

    Seriously late to the party here, but I can’t lend credence to the “trick”. My husband is 16 years older than me (we started dating when I was 24 and he was 40), and we’ve been together for 19 years, happily married for 17.

    A plethora of factors go into compatibility, and everyone is an individual. As long as you’re both consenting adults, I agree with the maxim that “age is just a number.”

  2. Lori B. says...

    I’m 32 and I just broke up with a guy who was 45. I discovered that we weren’t compatible for other reasons that had nothing to do with age. Overall, I loved certain aspects about dating an older man. They’re very romantic, charming, successful, and accomplished.
    Older gentleman 40+ can provide younger women with a sense of security, even if those women are self-sufficient already (such as myself). And let’s be honest: older men are great in bed – they just are! Major plus, ladies!!!!!

    Currently, I’m dating a 50-year old guy who is a well-established retired professional athlete. According to the “age test” we pass with flying colors. Honestly, I feel good about it.

    I’m both my experiences, both gentlemen were divorced and have three children, which could be perceived as a negative. Especially with the last guy, I grew a close bond with his daughter and we eventually split. It was hurtful feeling like I broke up with the child too.

    Ladies: Evaluate your situation for yourself and assess the risks but don’t block out love because of age. Be open! If a man is stepping up to the plate and is willing to invest in you emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and maybe even financially (no judgement here) accept it. Still date around with younger guys but don’t exclude based on age.

  3. Looks like I’m a little late on this thread but wanting advice please…
    I met a man 17 years older than myself (I’m 36) 9 months ago through a volunteer role with my son’s football club.
    There was an instant connection that I felt and he felt it too – he would call me through my break up with my husband just to see how I was.
    He came around one night when I was a little upset and before we knew it we were very intimate together.
    I have only just found out the age difference – I just want to spend every moment with him but then I think “wow 17 years difference”. He is such a genuine guy and I don’t want to lead him astray and hurt him as he is also a quiet person.
    Do I take a chance? I know that he will treat me so well.
    I have an 8 year old and a 10 year old and he has a 17 and 12 year old.

    • AA says...

      Go for it; what does age have to do with anything if you feel a genuine connection with this person?

  4. I had a first date last week with a guy that’s 40. I have never ever ever gone out with a guy in his 40s, even though I’m now 34. I look really young for my age, and I guess my personality is pretty youthful, and am constantly assumed to be 24/25. I tend to date guys slightly younger than me because our personalities get on so well. But I was never having any luck with them seriously, they were all pretty flakey. But this guy is totally mature, soooooo not used to it, ha ha, knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to voice it, but isn’t a jerk about it either, and was genuinely interested in me and not scared of it. I don’t think I’ve ever experienced that with guy that it threw me back a bit, and I got awkward by the end of the date when he decided he wanted to make out (ha ha, I actually was not expecting that). But now that I’ve digested the experience, I’m hoping I will be more myself and less awkward, we have our second date tonight, wish me luck, :-)

  5. I was reading an Blog of two couples where they describe there age difference the girl was of 25 and the men was 45, they have the difference of 20 years and they looks very happy in there life.

  6. So I think I have the opposite problem. I’m 34, and I’m totally crushing on a guy who is 22. Yep. He’s younger than flippin’ Taylor Swift.

    But, geez. I just can’t help myself. And it drives me crazy that if I was a guy, people would be so much cooler about our age difference. But since I’m a girl, they keep saying things like, “Ohhhh…cradle robbing, huh?” and “Puma! Cougar!”

    Whatever, man. He’s hot. He’s active. It’s cool. :-)

  7. 13 years of age difference doesn’t seem that much to me at all. When I 15 I was dating – if you can even call it that! – a 20 (!) years older guy (my husband now says that this guy must have been a pedophile …). It didn’t seem wrong to me at that time, but now thinking one of my daughters should ever date a guy that much older I just freak out a little. My husband is merely 4 years older than I but sometimes seems sooo much more mature. Alex really looks so young!

  8. The love of my life is 38 years older than me (yes, I know) but we rarely feel it, we get along so well, I do worry about the future though bc if we ever to get married I’m very likely to be a widow by my 40s :(

    • Natalie says...

      That’s the same age gap of me and my bf… I’d be list without him and he’s definitely my better half. . My soulmate

  9. I have dated men older than me and I much, much, much prefer it. I’m twenty years old and I have dated men from 23-38 years old.

    I’m currently dating someone who is 38 and I feel like it isn’t an issue. There hasn’t been any awkwardness or misunderstandings at all. As for an “okay” age gap, I would say about 20 years. I’m aware that it might seem like a lot for some people, and it definitely wouldn’t work with every person I date.

    Does age really matter if you have a connection with someone?

  10. I fall short about 1.5 years. He is 45 and I’m 28, but oh well!! What’re you gonna do about it?? Once he’s 48, I’ll be 31, and then I’ll pass the test!

  11. I am 32 years old and my husband is 60. We have a 7 year old daughter and a 2 year old daughter. His 2 boys from his first marriage are older than I am. We have an amazing relationship. I love that he’s from a generation with manners and we have a lot of the same interests.

  12. Im 16 and the love of my life is 23 ive been having relations with him for about to be going on 2 years….But we not as close as we could be. Comment what you think please!!

    • acorn says...

      Please be careful. Many, and I do not mean this rude, but many Americans would refer to this as “statutory rape.”
      Age is but a number, at certain points in our development, but sometimes one is not always mature enough to realize such.
      God Bless.

  13. Im 16 and the love of my life is 23 ive been having relations with him for about to be going on 2 years….But we not as close as we could be. Comment what you think please!!

  14. I dated a guy 10 years older once but he was somewhat immature so it was fine (ha!). Otherwise I felt a bit little girl-like when dating older.

    Now, though, I’d welcome an older man. Anyone want to set me up? Visit my blog (and yes, I’m completely serious).

  15. I date a guy who is 17 years older than me. We’ve been together a little over 4 years. He’s over 50 now, and it’s starting to get a little tricky, I can vouch for that. Love knows nothing of age, that is true – however, when you are both at different stages of your life, this certainly becomes an obstacle. And difficult to get around at times.

  16. HI!
    I am in 24 and she is in 37. We love each other very much that’s why we are happy. We are gonna married Next year.

    • acorn says...