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Have a Nice Weekend.

Flowers by Yasmine Mei

What are you up to this weekend? We have a new ice cream spot in our neighborhood and it has become the boys’ life goal to become regulars. We also have a new tradition of watching an episode of Full House in bed every night — it’s such a childhood flashback. Hope you have a good weekend — Ramadan Kareem — and here are a few links from around the web…

I’m excited to look glowy this summer.

How cool is this rooftop studio apartment?

The new movie Together Together looks compelling.

Rage is the only language I have left.” (New York Times)

Delicious. Also, this.

Roxane Gay on how she chooses art.

Wouldn’t it be fun to stay in a treehouse hotel?

These outdoor pieces are making me crave warmer weather.

Hahaha.

Lincoln Center will look different this summer. (New York Magazine)

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Rosie on talking to kids about sex: “My mom did such a good job teaching us about the importance of women enjoying sex that I thought only women had orgasms until I actually started having sex. I truly believed that the whole point was for the girl to get off and the guy was just doing it for her to be nice and/or make a baby.”

Says Katie on what’s your second chance this year: “My partner of seven years and I broke up in February — the day before Valentine’s Day. Because of things too many to name, we still live together. BUT I am moving out TOMORROW! I have never lived alone before so this will be my first place all by myself at 28 years old. A second chance for love, home and life, in my adorable new apartment. I can’t wait to see how things unfold.”

(Photo by Yasmine Mei.)

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  1. Rs says...

    Can COJ do an updated list of children’s book re: sex, bodies,etc?

  2. lynn says...

    The Roxane Gay interview about collecting art is really interesting and right-on, as just an ‘average person’ not out to drop big bucks on an art piece. The idea of educating the general public about prints and other things in the art world is a great idea, as is telling galleries to ‘not be terrible.’ Even as a fine art minor in college, and as someone who appreciates art, I rarely enjoy walking into a gallery as I feel like I am the one on display for snobby (likely wanna-be) art elites who work there.

  3. Marit says...

    Dear CoJ- Team: the links to sephora (glowy next Summer…) always don‘t work with the german sephora website, so we german coJ readers (and lovers) don‘t know which product you recommend… maybe you could name it besides of the link? Thank you!!
    Marit

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes! it’s supergoop glowscreen sunscreen xoxo

  4. Nikki says...

    Tree house in Okinawa! I live in Oki. Wooohooo! :)

  5. Amy says...

    Thank you for sharing that interview with Roxanne Gay! It’s like she’s saying everything we’ve been thinking. I also have the constructs in my head that “real art costs real money” and “if I could do it’s not art.” And she just shatters them. I love it.

  6. Lia says...

    The joy I felt when seeing that Ramadan greeting – THANK YOU SO MUCH, Cup of Jo!

  7. Lia says...

    You have no idea how much happiness I felt seeing the Ramadan greeting. Thank you so much, COJ!

  8. Lee says...

    That photo of the floral arrangement is just stunning! Do you know who the floral artist or photographer are?

    • Maryn says...

      Ahh! My husband and I just watched the Fisherman’s Friends movie on Netflix and WE’RE OBSESSED! Haven’t enjoyed a movie that much in a long time.

    • Sasha L says...

      Maryn, loved that movie so much! Just delightfully charming.

  9. Sundus Abrar says...

    Ramadan Kareem! I find so much calm and joy in the space- Thank you!

  10. Stella says...

    Together Together looks so good! And I love to see trans actors in major films, Patti Harrison is fantastic and she’s hilarious! <3

  11. Mariana says...

    Go Katie! Wish you all the best!

  12. senchas says...

    I cannot wait to see that movie – I’ve been waiting my whole life to see men encouraged to parent. Also the actors looks so refreshing normal and therefore interesting.

    • Kate says...

      Ohmygod! It’s perfect, it’s beautiful, it’s everything 😍

  13. Katie says...

    Katie – can we please be friends? My husband of 11 years (partner of 15.5 years) and I are divorcing and I am also about to live on my own for the first time. I feel like I’ve aged in reverse and can’t wait for this second chapter. But it is strange too. Wishing you all the best on your next chapter!

  14. Hi everyone!
    A week ago I posted about my husband making key tags with “Hang loose my goose” and we are donating the proceeds to the wild bird rescue where Lauren volunteers (wildbirdfund – such a heartwarming account to follow on Instagram!). A heartfelt thank you to everyone who ordered one. As a card carrying member of the Easily Amused club, I had a great deal of excitement at seeing orders come in from all over the country and even Australia!
    I think we will have them on our shop for another week if anyone else might want one and then we’ll make our donation Wild Bird Fund. http://www.Etsy.com/finnyluwoodworking

    COJ readers really are the best 💜

    • Lauren says...

      Jen, I am so delighted that you’re doing this (and wow, you have a gorgeous dog) – my WBF pals will be thrilled!) These comment threads are like a book club for me* – every week I get to check in with all these interesting people and hear their reads on our world’s latest chapter. What a gift you all are.

      *I am not in any real book clubs, probably because I love books about bed bugs and funerals, ha.

    • Oh blergh, I think I posted a broken link 🙄 I think this one works
      https://www.etsy.com/shop/Finnyluwoodworking?ref=seller-platform-mcnav

      Lauren, I love the idea of COJ as book club for those of us who don’t quite fit into the usual book club niches. And thank you for the compliment on my sweet collie boy, Timber. He really is the best & our Finnylu Instagram is 100% becoming a “what woodworking items can Timber balance on his head” account 😂

  15. Rosalie says...

    I would love to hear Rosie’s mom’s ways of talking about sex!

  16. Sarz says...

    Ramadan Mubarak! Jo, you and the boys have an enviable weekend plan. I suppose I do have some ice cream in my freezer, and that’s all it’s going to be for at least six weeks. My province, Ontario, has just introduced its toughest anti-Covid measures yet. I’m nervous about any possible interactions I may have with the police, but I know how much worse this will be for BIPOC. 😣 Perhaps it’s time to christen that ice cream tub and dream about tree house hotels now…

  17. Amy says...

    Rosie, please tell us ALL of your mom’s wise advice! :-)

    I have a son and a daughter.

  18. Longtime fan says...

    Just wanted t say the Supergoop sunscreen ISN’T REEF SAFE, unlike what they say. It contains octocrylene, one of the top ingredients to avoid.
    Please don’t buy harmful sunscreens, our planet is worth so much more :)
    Have a great weekend!

    • Meredith says...

      Thanks for this, Longtime Fan…I hadn’t seen this. Ugh. I’ve been using Beautycounter’s mineral sunscreen and find it works ok, but would like something with higher SPF. Curious if you (or others) have found other effective and all-around safe options that you’ve liked? There are so many options these days…

  19. Rusty says...

    Oh dear … products that make you look ‘glowy’ or shimmer, generally contain MICA which is often sourced via child labour in 3rd world countries. I didn’t have time to dig to read the specific ingredients of this product.
    Do we really want to support this??

    • Laurel says...

      Good thing I did have the time for those few little clicks! Supergoop says: “Our mica is ethically sourced from the US, Brazil and India. We’ve confirmed with the supplier that they don’t use child labor. The supplier is also supporting health care and educational projects in the Indian mining villages to improve the living conditions for the families that live there.” Source here: https://ethicalelephant.com/supergoop-cruelty-free-vegan/

      It does take less time to scold someone than to do a little research, but it is always worth it.

    • Susannah says...

      Thanks for the article Laurel, I appreciate you posting it. Another example of why its usually best to look beyond labels

  20. Angie says...

    I was so surprised and happy to see the Ramadan greeting! Thank you so much.

  21. Amanda says...

    Thank you for the recognition of Ramadan! It is so appreciated 💕.

  22. K says...

    Ramadan Kareem, Cup of Jo! We have every reason to be angry, but may we avoid bitterness and simplification, to paraphrase Maya Angelou a bit.

    I keep rereading these quotes over and over:

    “The best fighter is never angry.”- Lao Tzu

    “Human kindness can be found in all groups, even those which as a whole it would be easy to condemn. The boundaries between groups overlapped and we must not try to simplify matters by saying that these men were angels and those were devils.”― Viktor E. Frankl

    “If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being. And who is willing to destroy a piece of his own heart?”-Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn

    • Joyce says...

      Thank you for these quotes, K! I always love Lao Tzu and agree with the nondualism concept driven home in the other two.

      Still, I always want to validate people’s emotional experiences. And Charles Blow’s “Rage” article didn’t feel simplistic to me. It didn’t feel “bitter.” It felt honest, raw, real. And even if he is bitter, isn’t that a valid emotional response to the ongoing murders of Black men at the hands of a system claiming to protect its citizens?

      I think of the James Baldwin quote about to be Black and relatively conscious in America is to be in a constant state of rage.

      Baldwin has many (many!) quotes on personal, spiritual growth as well; but he never denies or encourages suppression of rage.

  23. Christina says...

    Katie! You are on the verge of such a great adventure! I loved living on my own ❤️

  24. Jennifer says...

    Loved seeing the Ramadan shout-out. Thanks Cup of Jo!

  25. Tristen says...

    Rosie’s Mom #ftw #momgoals

  26. liz says...

    Rosie’s comment!!! Best thing I’ve read today

  27. Nina says...

    Oh, that thing about Lincoln Center makes me so sad! There were supposed be real living trees there *twice* and now all that’s on offer is plastic grass?? I thought the article identified some real problems with the idea, without even getting into e.g. the sourcing of the raw materials and what will happen to all that synthetic stuff when the temporary installation is removed… I would love to know how many actual trees could have been permanently planted for the same money – even if it was only 2 or 3 I’d have gone for the trees.

    • Calix says...

      Same. An opportunity to demonstrate the desire for a greener Livable future on planet earth and – nope, we prefer plastic and taking giant steps into an unsustainable, miserable future. A crying shame.

      How is it that a city council – or whoever – like NYC’s does not yet understand that the costs of quality-of-life municipal projects like the installation and upkeep of living grass and trees for public use is FAR CHEAPER than the the cost of the crime and disability that comes of living in harsh, cement environments. Investments in quality of life are always worth the money.

    • Diana says...

      Same, same. I think the fundamental issue is that planting trees doesn’t have that *wow* factor on day one – and it can take many years (5-10) to really see them grow to something close to their full potential – so it’s not as appealing to politicians who want something that will look great in a photo a day after it’s all installed. For what it’s worth, our building just planted a tree in our tree pit in Brooklyn in front of our building – it cost $2500. So, obviously, not free, and doing this in a big space like Lincoln Center would involve many trees, but … it’s not all THAT expensive in the grand scheme of things the city spends money on. So let’s all advocate for more trees everywhere!

  28. Savannah says...

    Rosie I am howling!
    May my daughters have this same problem when they are older!

  29. Ayesha says...

    To see Ramadan Kareem…. an inclusive delight! Thank you!

  30. S says...

    Rosie! Please tell us more! Would love to impart that on my own daughter!!

  31. Agnès says...

    Oh those readers comments are just giving me so much hope about what life can be! Lots of love from Paris.

  32. Kay says...

    Ramadan Kareem to you as well! Thank you for the Ramadan love!

  33. Kate Korroch says...

    I want to hear more about how Rosie’s mom approached sex! What an awesome takeaway!

  34. Suz says...

    We just started watching an episode of Full House every Sunday night in bed together too! My girls are 9 and 6, and it has been so fun seeing them smirk and chuckle throughout the episodes. Such a flashback to my youth! My daughter asked last Sunday why Uncle Jesse was wearing a wig. I laughed so hard, and we dove into a discussion on early 90s hairstyles, mostly mullet related. :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Hahaha

    • Becca says...

      I had to ban Full House from my house because it was making my 6-year old daughter completely marriage + boy crazy. Time glossed over all of the dating, kissing, slow dancing. Totally fine for probably everyone else, but sheesh, my daughter went off the deep end until we switched to another show. Love notes to her preschool crush were hidden all over the house. Maybe we’ll try again in a few years.

    • Court says...

      Omg, Becca, please share some love notes written by a pre-schooler though!!!!!!

  35. Shelby says...

    Katie, I’m a fellow 28 year old in a similar spot. My ex of four years and I broke up 6 months ago. We did share an apartment together but due to COVID we had already moved out and were living with our respective parents. In 6 weeks I’ll be moving into my own studio in a new city, and I can’t wait to find myself again in this new “single era” that I have yet to fully experience. However scary the unknown is, I have a big feeling these life changes are pushing us into much better, happier, and healthier ones. I’m with you girl, you (and we) can do this!

    • Kate says...

      Oh wow, this reminds me that I also moved out on my own at 28 after leaving my partner of 4 years! I had been so scared of being lonely but my world completely opened up.

      Ever since then, my advice to friends worried about ending their unhappy relationship has been, “Your life can be better than you imagine” You girls have a lot of joy ahead!

  36. miranda says...

    would love to read an article on how and why relationships suddenly end after so many years. am always so curious when I hear these stories!

    Thanks for the trailer link, can’t wait to see this film !

  37. Christine says...

    I’m just here to say shoutout Rosie’s mom!

  38. Robin says...

    Thank you for making me aware of that Roxane Gay piece. It was incredible!
    Xo

  39. Monica says...

    We’re going to a real live wedding -so long awaited! It will be small and very different, but it’s an honor to be invited and to celebrate in person.

    And also we’re looking at a small farm…to buy!

  40. Emily says...

    What is the name of this new ice cream spot? I just moved to Carroll Gardens :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Dolce Brooklyn! On sackett, between Henry and Hicks. It’s delicious!

  41. Celeste says...

    Rosie and Katie, sounds fabulous! My 13 year old is loving Full House too! But she watched all of Fuller House so she knows these girls shake out alright:)

  42. Abbie says...

    The piece on Lincoln Center as green space is so interesting. One thing not mentioned in the potential downsides is that those turf coverings can get SO VERY HOT. Hopefully this one is more technologically fancy and won’t retain the heat from the summer sun it is intended to welcome.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      WOW!

    • Nicki says...

      So excited to see this link here. I moved to Senegal one year ago (right before the pandemic hit) and we were lucky enough to spend a week in Collines de Niassam in October – easily one of the highlights of our year. My daughters (4 and 6 years) could not get over the fact that we were staying in a treehouse, and helped us to see the whole experience through children’s eyes. Among my favourite parts is that they bring you breakfast up to the treehouse every morning – so you get to watch the sun rise from the top of a majestic baobab tree, overlooking the mangroves, drinking coffee and eating crepes. Incredible.