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The Coolest Birthday Candles

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Thank you so much for all the birthday wishes! The whole weekend was really fun (my strategy is to try to stretch out everyone’s birthday for as loooong as possible), but the highlight was definitely…

birthday firework candles

These wild firework candles! My friend Liz recommended them, and Anton — who loves candles, sparklers, and all things pyrotechnic — flipped out. We were all laughing and shrieking, and they really made the cake feel thrilling.

birthday firework candles

What do you do to make your birthday feel special? Any rituals?

P.S. Thoughts on aging, and two birthday revealations.

  1. Elise says...

    I just had a birthday this week too and I have to say I secretly relished the COVID birthday. I normally feel so much pressure to make sure I’m doing something fun and I usually get myself in a muddle about where to go and who to invite. This year I woke up to thr first snow of the season so I made cheese and chilli jam toasties to get everyone out for bed and went for a lovely walk with my family. So important to find the good right now!

  2. Abby says...

    I have a few birthdays coming up but the link doesn’t seem to be to the right candles. :(

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Thanks for your note! The link changed when the candles sold out — fixing now!

  3. Kim says...

    We took our teen kids to the drive-in to celebrate my son’s 15h birthday last month. Yep, we still have drive-ins in Michigan. We packed a pizza, snacks and some blankets, and headed out. It was a lot of fun. Hard to find safe birthday activities in the winter.

  4. Vava says...

    That looks amazing!!!
    But as a survivor of a house fire, we no longer use even candles in our house. Sad, but true.

    • Catherine says...

      well, I understand! My 4-year old daughter’s hair caught fire as she leaned over a small candle that smelled good (she crawled on the table while I was doing the dishes, my back turned) . A quarter of her face was burned, eyebrow and eyelashes gone … Thankfully, she recovered and only has a scar as big as a 2euro coin, on the side of her face… For years after that incident, there were no candles at our house anymore; even now that she’s almost 16, I still want to hold her hair when she blows her candles!!

  5. Martha Patterson says...

    Whoever is the birthday oerson in the family gets to choose an outing, meal or combo of all. My eldest turned 24 a few days ago….he wanted to go up to mountains and walk in the snow! Simple things for birthday joy!

  6. Cat says...

    What kind of cake is that? I’m drooling looking at it :)

    • Catherine says...

      I think it’s a French crepes cake, layers of crepes!

    • On Instagram, I believe she said it’s from Sweet Lady Jane cakes

    • Kay says...

      It’s the crepe cake from Lady M. So good!

  7. Valeria says...

    I recently realized that my kids think that is a tradition to have mismatched candles on our birthday cakes. Because of my laziness, or, for a better version of myself, because of my talent for upcycling, it all started putting a number candle from the previous year plus a single birthday candle, then pairing up number candles from my kids birthdays to put together my and my husband’s two figures age, but after a few years it’s now total craziness: we have additions and subtractions with number candles and single birthday candles and also a few mismatched loved ones (three or four glitter candles, two dinosaurs shaped, one soccer ball, one pirate treasure chest…). The result looks random and, if you don’t know it, it’s not easy to figure out our age, but it’s just basic math! Grandmothers roll their eyes (they are the actual purchasers of the original candles for the kids, and they sometimes try to integrate with some new ones) but we all love it because it feels just us to not miss a call for silliness

    • Katherine says...

      I love this!! Magic in the fun random family traditions ☺️☺️🎂

  8. jdp says...

    omg. happy, happy birthday joanna, and thanks for the candle suggestion. never seen them before, and i just ordered them for valentine’s day because…why not? it’s the soonest celebration our family has to look forward to…though i might just light them on a random tuesday to give my kid a thrill. xoxooxox

  9. Thelma says...

    These are the only candles anyone uses in Italy (where I now live) but I remember being thrilled the first time a cake was presented to me with them too!

  10. Rusty says...

    The true joy and love on all your faces is melting my heart!
    Glad your special day was a lovely celebration with your fam!
    Those boys! Sooo sweet for their Mama.❤

    Joanna, thank you for what you bring to the world.
    Your energy permeates the globe and truly makes such a difference in our lives!
    I find myself sharing bits n bobs from here (that dawg in the mirror, The Particulars of Peter-my librarian friend ordered 6 copies!, and so much more). My journal has copious quotes from the posts and other readers’ comments… true gold, all with “From CoJ”.
    I either refer to your blog as “That NY blog I follow” or “CuppaJo”.

    Sending you another Happy Birthday!🤗
    Rusty xx

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, rusty, my heart! thank you so much xoxoxoxo

  11. alison says...

    I’m a big baker, so I make my own birthday cake most years. (I only trusted a few girlfriends in the past who have since moved away, unfortunately). I find it relaxing and super satisfying to make something sort of extravagant and layered with frosting and garnish etc etc.

    A few years ago it was time to light the candles and cut into the cake and my mom casually handed me the lighter — to which I replied “I’ll bake my own cake, but I won’t light my own candles!”

    Which I now use as my personal “Real Housewives opening sequence slogan” :)

  12. Andrea says...

    I never work on my birthday and spend the day doing anything I want—go out for breakfast, go for a walk listening to podcasts, go to a museum, day drink. I also like to get myself a gift. Celebrating your own birthday is key to me before any other festivities may be planned by others.

    • J says...

      I agree completely Andrea. I take the day off work too and usually spend it without my husband, or family doing something I want to do. Last year I went horseback riding, I’ve gone to the movies, hiking, yoga, I was a zoo keeper for a day one year. It’s nice to have a day to fill my own way.

  13. Denise says...

    My birthday was last Friday, and since I have four-day weekends, it was of course my birthday weekend. We ordered in great Thai food on Friday night, and I bought a lemon meringue pie because that’s what my mom used to make me (and I wasn’t spending a moment in the kitchen ha ha). Then Saturday breakfast was an easy homemade chilaquiles recipe, followed by pie, and our favorite veggie pizza for dinner, followed by ice cream cupcakes – everyone sent me sweets this year! It was wonderful, we finished up everything yesterday, and I’m back at it today. It felt so nice to just relax, nap, and read. I may do this a little more often!

  14. MB says...

    Happy happy birthday! Thank you for all you do to brighten our days and for bringing together this wonderful collection of people

  15. So glad you had a fun birthday! I’m not sure if it’s bc we’re the same age (I’ll turn 42 in April) or a whole bunch of other things mixed together, but I always read your thoughts on aging and motherhood, relationships and think “She gets me”. Do you ever think about how you’re touching so many people each day? It’s pretty cool❤️

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      That means so much to me, thank you xoxo

  16. Kate says...

    Love this! My mom bought these candles in bulk about 10 years ago and the tradition is going strong in my family of adults!

  17. Lucy says...

    I’ve started celebrating my birthday in August on my half birthday. Why waste a perfectly good celebration on a gray, February day? August is much more fun!

    • Laura says...

      Ha, I “celebrate” my half birthday on Valentine’s Day! Everyone in usually gone on vacation in August during my birthday…but I suppose the grass is always greener ;)

    • Lucia says...

      My birthday is a few days from Valentine’s Day and I’ve always loved it. As a kid, there was always a class party the week of my birthday and then a week off in February for ski week. Now, as an adult, I love that hotels are usually cheaper around my birthday and it’s the perfect time to visit Palm Springs. I’m a big fan of planning my own birthday so it’s always exactly what I want!

  18. Ceciel says...

    Yay! My middle child is turning 9 soon and he is going to be blown away by these candles!! Even if his 11 year old sister thinks we might burn the house down with them ;) (I told her, it’s Cup of Jo–no bad recommendations here!) And I second Outfoxed–my 6 year old, almost 9 year old, and 11 year old love playing together. And happy belated birthday to Joanna and Lucy.

  19. I buy myself a birthday gift each year. I normally buy something that I really want but couldn’t justify purchasing throughout the year. One year it was a DVD box set I wanted, another year it was the Lego Central Perk set and last year it was a Cricut Maker (which was really over the top but I had had such a hard year with unknowns so I decided to treat myself).

  20. We always start the day with a bowl of lollies on the table with candles and sing happy birthday to the birthday boy/girl and then open gifts while eating the lollies. It means that day always gets off to a sweet start and just makes the day feel extra special :)

  21. S says...

    Luckily our girls are early and late May babies, so no issues there. Us adults on the other hand…. hubby was born on Christmas Eve and I on Christmas Day, so b-day festivities are normally just cookies/coffee by the fireplace and a few presents. Sometimes flags and sparklers thrown in. This last Christmas he just recycled the platter of cookies I had assembled for him the day before :) NBD to me; I just want my coffee in the mornings. I do add some candles for him to blow out though, this time I stuck them in an apple. Loving the idea of taking a me-day though, with shopping and pampering and all. We’re Norwegian, so the big Christmas present shebang takes place on Christmas Eve and is a separate event.

  22. Lauren says...

    My grandparents once bought back a pack of fancy birthday candles like these from a trip to China, except the great explodey one was surrounded by smaller candles that flipped out in a ring when lit and twirled around the big one, while ‘Happy Birthday’ played from within. They were extreme and way too much and we loved them. Then one birthday (Grandad’s 70th perhaps), as the small candles opened, the whole thing flipped off the cake and onto the table cloth. A small fire on the table turns out to be just as memorable as the fancy candles! They never used them again and it makes me sad, I loved those fancy, tacky candles!

  23. Jen says...

    Oh my gosh! Just in time! My little guy’s birthday is at the end of the month, and I was literally just scouring Etsy yesterday looking for candles, but nothing seemed right. He will LOVE these!

  24. Happy birthday to your little one!
    We usually ask our munchkins what they would like to do. Sometimes we go to the park nearby. Sometimes we grill at home and make cake or cupcakes.

  25. Lindsay says...

    I think everyone should blow out a candle and make a wish on their birthday!! I started including a small candle in birthday cards for that very reason! 🎂

  26. Karly says...

    Ok but is that cake or a wheel of cheese???

    • rosie says...

      exactly what I thought haha!

  27. Lorraine says...

    Happy belated, fellow Aquarius! xo

  28. Leah says...

    That picture of Anton with the cake – he is so darn cute!

  29. Katie Weltne says...

    Happy birthday!!!

    On birthdays, my dad would always ask questions that bring heart to all of the crazy birthday celebrations. It was always such a groaner when he brought them up, but in that way that you actually love it as a kid. Now that he’s passed, I’ve started doing the same questions for all of my friends’ birthdays and the answers always make me smile. Anyway, here are the questions:
    1. Looking back, what will you remember about this year of your life?
    2. Looking forward, what do you think will be a highlight of your year?

    <3

  30. jen says...

    what do i do to make a birthday special? from now on im getting fireworks candles!

  31. Happy birthday!

    It’s my firms belief that we ought to celebrate ourselves on our birthdays (really helps with disappointment about how others are celebrating you!). My husband jokes that my birthday tradition is to pretend that I’m a woman of leisure. I take the day off of work and take myself shopping, to lunch, and sometimes to get a beauty treatment. Last summer I really upped the ante and took myself to the gorgeous Sands Hotel in Indian Wells (near Palm Springs). I sat by the pool eating calamari and drinking Aperol Spritzes while listening to podcasts and it was the perfect way to celebrate myself.

    • Agnès says...

      Absolutely right!!

    • J says...

      I love everything about your comment!!!

  32. Barbara says...

    Pure joy and unbridled exuberance!
    Happy Birthday Jo

  33. Amy says...

    So cool!!! I’m going to get these for my son’s bday next year!!

  34. Laura says...

    Love these rocket candles! We are letting go of the tradition of blowing out candles on cakes (thanks covid!) and instead have 15 special birthday candles in a fancy glass (can be decorated etc) that the recipient blows out. Keeps it special and less germy.

  35. Andrea says...

    Happy birthday!

    I told my husband early on that the bare minimum for birthdays was a cake and a little fuss. He’s followed those guidelines every since.

    My mom is having a significant birthday this week. Two weeks ago I sent out a letter to 60 people to send her a birthday card and contribute photos to a digital frame. It’s a way to shower her virtually. I also sent along magnets made from her face at various ages to those sent a letter. It makes me laugh to think of us all with my mom as a little kid on people’s fridges!

    Face stickers: https://www.stickermule.com/faces?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&src=GOOG&cid=657485261&gclid=Cj0KCQiA6t6ABhDMARIsAONIYyyGi6oHxwZeuDSRgr8dzMkeeyLF534bUMJ4W9txYJUd7-UrC6ayMMMaAvnjEALw_wcB

  36. Laura says...

    We had these on our wedding cake!

  37. Tina, NYC says...

    Happy birthday Jo and happy birthday to your lovely sister too!!
    What a beautiful family!!
    I just realized my toddler niece shares your bday. I hope she grows up to be just like you and your twin Sister!

  38. Tracey says...

    There’s a cake thingy that fascinates me in viral videos (link below) It’s a buried canister in the middle of the cake that activates, pops up and delivers candy or money or whatever you put in it to the birthday person.

    I have always found people blowing (spitting) on cake candles quite off putting – not enough to abstain from eating the cake, though, because, cake! 😂 – but hopefully with covid we can get inventive and do other cool things. My friend introduced using a candle snuffer to her kids’ for their cakes and they go bananas for it.

    https://surprisecake.com/

    • Caitlin says...

      Omg I’m so glad you mentioned the blowing on the cake! I thought I was the only one who thought this was unappealing–and this was before COVID. I never eat the cake unless it’s my husband’s birthday.

  39. Yen says...

    Happy birthday, Joanna! May the year be a joyful and meaningful one.

    On birthday traditions: I usually try to take a day off work if my birthday falls on a weekday, and spend it doing the things I love. In previous (non-COVID) years, these have included a spa day/massage, lunch at my favorite ramen joint, an afternoon making art, dinner with my favorite people.

    Am also up for extending it as long as possible, might need to do a birthday week this year. :)

  40. Ann says...

    Freaking awesome! Happy bday!!!!

  41. Naseem says...

    Happiest birthday to you Joanna! I hope this year is full of extra of all the things that bring you the most joy!

  42. Laura J says...

    Once you are an adult, we do three candles. One for the past, one for the present and one for the future.

    • Emily says...

      I love this!

    • SarahN says...

      Makes sense – I got 6?! on the weekend. I mean it’s my 36th, but it was just arbitrary and everyone kept telling mum to stop putting them in!

    • Kiana says...

      What a beautiful tradition! I’m copying this!

  43. Alison says...

    You made me laugh, Nicole!

  44. Charlotte K says...

    Did you have to disconnect the smoke alarms?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      We opened the windows!

  45. Krystal says...

    Delightful! Happy birthday. May the celebrations bring all you need and want.

  46. Kristin says...

    Happy belated birthday!

    I turned 40 this year, which I was really looking forward to but it ended up being the worst birthday of my entire life. Two days beforehand, I found out my husband had an OnlyFans account that he had been using for weeks to pay women he followed for sex videos. I was and am devastated.

    While I am OK with porn, seeking out certain women and paying them for specific videos (while being able to chat and interact with them online) just makes me feel sick inside. We are finding a therapist etc. but I am just crushed that what I thought was a rock solid marriage is actually so fragile.

    Any other readers experienced this during the pandemic? I would love to read something about this on CoJ.

    • BAB says...

      Kristin, I have no experience to offer, but I feel for you. I appreciate your trusting this group enough to ask us about it.

    • Erin says...

      Hi Kristin, sending hugs. I went through a protracted marital breakup related to trust issues, and the feelings of betrayal you’re describing sound familiar.

      One thing I wish I had done differently is that I wish I had gotten an individual therapist before my marriage ended. My ex and I did some couples’ counseling while still married, and it helped — for a while — but in retrospect I’ve realized I would really have benefited from having an therapist who consulted with me alone, not as part of a married unit. That’s not to be down on marriage counseling, as I do think there are situations where it can be really useful. But there’s also a lot of value in having a place where you can air what’s bothering you without any self-censorship.

      Good luck. I’m rooting for you to find a good path forward, one that makes you feel loved, valued and safe.

    • b says...

      I don’t have experience with this, but sending you so many hugs.

    • Elspeth says...

      I’m so sorry Kristin! Sending love and prayers 💜

    • Anonymous says...

      Hi Kristin
      Yea I have experienced infidelity in my marriage. I wasn’t sure what to do with it, but a few things helped. Couples counseling for sure and individual therapy. I’ll also recommend the podcast Savage Love by Dan Savage. It’s a sex advice podcast, but Dan also spends time (depending on the caller) on issues with infidelity and some of his ideas of monogamy being the only unforgivable tenant of a marriage, being monogam-ish, and other thoughts have been really eye opening. Ultimately, it is your decision 100%. And it is painful and trust was broken. You get to decide what you want to do with that. For me, after a separation, I decided to reunite with my partner. But know that any outcome you decide is 100% right- you are the captain of your ship!

    • Charlotte says...

      Dear Kristin, my heart breaks for your sadness and hurt. I went through something similar in a previous relationship and you’re exactly right– the porn was a non-issue but the intimacy of the interaction felt so acutely painful. Your feelings are valid and understandable and I’m so sorry you are having to walk through this.

      I came across this quote from Sonia Choquette a few years back and it has stuck with me in difficult times: “Whenever a transition is called for, view it as your soul knocking at the door of your life, bearing more gifts for you to bring to the world. Change is a call from your soul to grow.” While I can’t tell you what your future will look like, I know that you will emerge from the other side of your grief a stronger and wiser person. Be kind and patient with yourself. We are all rooting for you.

    • Maureen says...

      I’m so sorry, Kristin.
      I imagine this load feels incredibly heavy with everything to work through and to be said – and you didn’t ask for any of it. I’m sending you support from afar to hopefully lighten that load just a bit.
      I hate that this all came out right before your birthday and I hope in time you can pick a new date to associate with this struggle so that 41 will get the brightness it deserves.

    • Andrea says...

      Kristin that truly sucks. I am so sorry.

    • M says...

      Kristin – you are not alone. I found out about my husband’s infidelity last March the same week our state shut down. It was the shock of my life because not only did I not suspect, but I thought we were so lucky to still be so in love and to genuinely enjoy one another after nearly 20 years together. The heartbreak, anger, sadness and confusion has taken months to wade through. It can come and go in waves, good one day and back to square one the next. He has been by my side through the whole thing as I process my emotions and we search for answers together on how we got to this place and where do we go from here. It has been devastating, but it has also helped us to address some problems that needed real examining. Doing so during this time has compounded the loneliness in a lot of ways, but it also was a blessing in disguise. I don’t think I would have had the energy to be social or fake that I was okay if things were normal right now. It is a relief to not have to think about that. I chose early on to not confide in anyone, other than a therapist. I did not want the input or judgment from people in our life about what we should or should not do. I am grateful for that now that we are in a place where I feel like we are going to get through this. Finding a way to forgive something that feels unforgivable took more strength than I thought I had – but it also released me from the pain. Be your own advocate for what is and is not acceptable and where your boundaries are, be vocal about what you are going through, forgive yourself when you need to, and also allow him the space to discuss what he is going on with him. You can get through this.

    • Barbara says...

      Since I am divorced, I do believe there are “deal breakers” in any marriage. What I can tell you is that taking the time you need to get over the initial shock and hurt is important, so going to a therapist should help facilitate that part at least. Only you can determine if it is a deal breaker for you.
      I do wish this for you: peace, possibility, love and understanding.

    • Caitlin says...

      Sending love your way Kristin❤️

    • Kristin says...

      Thank you so much for all of the love and advice. I am truly in tears and so happy to be a part of this community. xx

    • Rachel says...

      You are not alone. I discovered my husbands addiction to “can girls” 6 weeks after our wedding day. He got diagnosed as a sex addict, I thought things were better, and then 3 years, 1 toddler and current pregnancy later, I found that his addiction has continued and he’s spending so much on cam girls that it has put us at financial risk. So, we’re divorcing. Although I have a toddler, and am pregnant, and did not think my marriage would end this way, I feel clearheaded. Addiction to porn is real and devastating. I hope addiction isn’t part of your husband’s reality. I hope you can rebuild the trust that I had been convinced wasn’t necessary in a marriage. Sending you much strength.

    • Rachel says...

      *CAM girls! Proofreading goes out the window when you’re emotional, apparently!

  47. Clara says...

    Happy Birthday! What kind of cake??? Looks delicious!

  48. K says...

    Those are so festive! But do you blow them out? Or do they extinguish on their own like a sparkler?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      They extinguish after about 20-30 seconds!

  49. Cynthia says...

    So glad you had a wonderful birthday! Those candles really made it special! I went to the cake website and I want them all! Years and years ago I made a cake with crepes. I don’t remember how many crepes I used, but I do remember putting vanilla custard and fresh blueberries between the crepes, and a layer of custard on top with a sprinkling of blueberries.

  50. jen pham says...

    On their birthdays, I ALWAYS ask everyone in my life what their favorite part of their previous year was and what they look forward to in their new year. Some people act annoyed by it but I know secretly they enjoy the reflection. Plus, I genuinely want to know!

    So Joanna – what was the best part of 41 and what do you look forward to in 42?

    Happy Birthday!! xo

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Such great questions! The best part of 41 was probably visiting my mom last February with my sister and the little cousins, and for 42, I’m soooo looking forward to seeing family again! Xoxo

    • Sage says...

      Oh, Jen, I love that. Hope you don’t mind if I steal :)

  51. awads says...

    My husband’s birthday is Friday, and mine is 4 days later. I always go all-out and bake him a lovely cake. By the time my birthday rolls around, we are kind of tired of it, but still eating that stale cake I baked. I can’t remember the last time i had my very own birthday cake!! waaaah!!!!

    • mado says...

      My husband and son’s birthdays are 3 days apart and definitely freeze the leftover cake! After about the fourth day of cake I cut it into pieces and stick it in the freezer and then get out a piece whenever i need a sweet treat for the next couple of months!

    • Sue Harris says...

      A few years ago my sister mentioned that she never has a birthday cake–her husband and adult child don’t make or buy her one. Since we live a few hours apart, I have started sending her birthday cakes from online companies that specialize in sending birthday cakes. This year the box included wind up butterflies that flew out of the box when she opened it. I’m always on the lookout for different fun birthday cake ideas that are available for shipping.

    • Krystal says...

      That sucks! I wish I could bake a cake for you, and present you with a birthday crown—one of my traditions. Could you drop a not-so-subtle hint by sending him a cake/ dessert recipe? I sure hope so!

    • Toby’s face in your family picture says it all! So much joy. ❤️

    • Kiana says...

      Awads,
      Try not having the birthday cake for your birthday, but something else that you really love. My little sister and my birthday are back to back and my mom’s is four days before mine. So everyone picked something special and unique to them for their birthday. My mom always picks chocolate cake, I always picked pumpkin pie (October baby) and my sister always picked strawberry cheesecake. That way, everyone wasn’t eating the same thing for days on end and everyone’s birthday was unique.

    • claire says...

      Gosh why don’t you guys alternate years or meet in the middle and share the day halfway between both? You deserve a fricken birthday cake!

    • sanjay says...

      @Sue Harris and Awads: both of your stories just break my heart. How can such thoughtless and inconsiderate behavior in marriage partners be acceptable? Inexcusable. You must educate them on the importance of valuing the ones they love. At the very least do NOT bake either of them another cake. If they don’t miss it then you’ve saved yourself the trouble. If however they DO miss it then then your job is to let them see how it feels to be ignored and unloved. I mean wow.

    • Sarah says...

      My birthday is five days after my husband’s in July, so for his birthday we usually get ice cream cake and for mine we get pie. Every year I look forward to my birthday pie.

  52. J. says...

    This picture brought such a gigantic smile to my face and admittedly a little happy tear to my eye! This is one I feel like Toby/Anton will want framed on their walls when they’re adults because of how perfectly it captures a feeling– the joy, fun, and love radiating from all of you is so visible and powerful. HAPPY belated birthday to you, and happy anniversary of being welcomed to the universe!!! We’re *all* so, so thankful that you were born – thank for you being you! xx

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Awww thank you <3

    • Caitlin says...

      J., I thought the same. These photos radiate love. What a beautiful little family.

  53. Nicole says...

    Happy birthday!

    And, my hope is we can collectively fix the “happy belated birthday” messages globally. No one is having a belated birthday!

    If you must include the word belated, please use this way,
    “a belated happy birthday to you!”

    • Alison says...

      You made me laugh, Nicole!

  54. Claire says...

    Happy birthday! Am I right in thinking that Anton looks like you and Lucy when you were younger?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes for sure! most people say Anton looks like little Lucy and toby looks like little me. :)

  55. joanna says...

    happy belated birthday, joanna!
    i always try to remember that growing old is a privilege denied to many. i’m a big fan of celebrating all week/weekend. my husband didn’t used to be into birthdays but i’ve converted him and we enjoy each other’s birthdays as much as our own.

    • court says...

      What a beautiful sentiment.

  56. Aga says...

    Anyone know where to get these candles or sparklers besides Amazon?

    Happy birthday, Joanna!

  57. Lindsay says...

    Happy birthday, Joanna! And…I’m assuming that’s a toy kitten on the coffee table because 1. You probably would have mentioned a new pet and 2. No way a kitten is sleeping through a fireworks show! (But I really wish it was real, ha!)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahaha yes, it’s one of those sweet toy kittens that breathes and purrs :)

  58. Mary says...

    Looks like so much fun! Happiest of birthdays Joanna! May this coming year be as fabulous as you are 🎉♥️

  59. Kay says...

    My husband’s turning 50 this month. I just ordered these candles for his cake!!
    For all our birthdays, my dad would get our cakes from Veniero’s on 1st and 11th…that strawberry shortcake!
    Now that I have two of my own, I’ve decided in addition to bakery bought cake, I want to make a small homemade cake for them as well so they have the memory of their mother making their birthday cake for them.
    Happy birthday!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      veniero’s!!! the best!!!

  60. Megan says...

    Ice cream for breakfast! A small, but delicious tradition.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      awww, love that.

  61. Jen Y. says...

    These are all we’ve been using since Covid started so we don’t have to worry about anyone blowing out candles on the cake!

  62. Daniela says...

    Happy belated birthday! That cake looks dreamy!

  63. Michelle says...

    Happy birthday, Jo <3 It looks like it was such a fun day! Xo!

  64. Allison says...

    This is amazing! How did it not set off the smoke detector?!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      we opened the door and windows!

  65. Elizabeth says...

    It took me a moment to figure out that the cake is on a stand- I thought it was giant wheel of cheese at first!!

    • Sara says...

      ME too! I spent a lot of time looking at it before I realized what it truly was! Glad to not be the only one! :)

    • Sarz says...

      Ohh, that would make an excellent birthday cake, too. 🤤

    • Emily says...

      That sounds like the best kind of birthday cake TBH.

    • Kate says...

      Is that one of the lady M crepe cakes?

  66. LindyO says...

    Toby and Anton’s excitement says it all! So glad you were able to have a nice celebration. Happy COVID birthday.

    Funny thing is my birthday is in July. Usually not many people around. But we had a delightful dinner at a restaurant outside. Now the winter babies are short on options. So glad your family made it special.

  67. Anne S says...

    I love birthdays. I used to work at a family-owned ice cream shop, and we had a woman turning 100 who came to get some ice cream for her birthday. We assembled a massive ice cream cake, lit some sparkler candles, and carried it out to her singing “happy birthday”. She was tickled and said we made her feel so special. I think that’s why birthdays are the best, you get to inhabit that childhood space of being special and getting to feel excited about things like cake and candles.

  68. Carlaw says...

    My 6 year old wanted a “Fireworks” birthday in December. We used these candles and some other pyrotechnics. These were a huge hit, and she still talks about her candles.

  69. Constance says...

    Happy Birthday ya filthy animal

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahahaha

  70. amy says...

    So cute and so thoughtful of you! And definitely – a word about the cake please!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes! it’s the six-inch mille feuille cake from Lady M. it has 20 paper-thin layers of crêpes with cream, it melts in your mouth!
      https://www.ladym.com/collections/cakes

  71. Tihana says...

    Chocolate for breakfast!
    Happy belated birthday, Joanna! <3

  72. Yes! I always stock up on these candles! They are so festive.

  73. celeste says...

    Oh my Anton is such a heartbreaker!

    I usually take some time on my own to reflect on my birthday, and then my family spoils me :). I would not be one for a surprise birthday party where I’m yelled at.

  74. Chelsi L Rodriguez says...

    I must know what kind of cake that is!

    • Lucy says...

      ladym cake – a stack of crepes!

  75. ali says...

    What kind of cake is that?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      lady m mille feuille! xoxoxo

  76. Elisabeth says...

    my granddad always has some of these sparklers in his glove compartment in case he happens upon a festive occasion (not driving much though these days with the pandemic and him being 91).

    • Calla says...

      That’s so sweet! Like keeping champagne in the fridge, so optimistic and joyful!

    • b says...

      This is the cutest.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      so sweet!

    • Abesha1 says...

      In “normal” times I also keep a birthday candle in my wallet… you never know when a little extra cheer might be needed!

    • I love that!! My brother brings them to all our family birthday parties. :)

    • Yen says...

      How awesome! This reminds me of a kid I read of who carries a pocketful of “emergency confetti” everywhere, in case there is a need for celebration – love this outlook in life :)