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Have a Lovely Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? We are going to the beach, even though the weather has a touch of fall. I actually love a crisp beach day — it reminds me of England. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

PEN15’s season two premieres today.

Maya Gabeira breaks the world record for the largest wave surfed this year.

I swear by this blush (and love the name).

Comedy wildlife photography awards. That fish!

Random fun fact: Nebraska once had the tourism catchphrase, “Honestly, It’s Not for Everyone.” And it worked. (New Yorker)

Oooh, a stunning New Zealand rental home.

The perfect vintage-style sweatshirt.

Math problems for the fall made me laugh. (New Yorker)

The ‘Song Exploder’ trailer looks great.

Rifle Design now has puzzles!

And, again, how to vote in every state. (I’m enthusiastically voting for Biden/Harris.)

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Lisa on what’s the nicest thing anyone’s ever said to you: “Five years ago, I was participating in a To Kill A Mockingbird read-a-thon at a bookstore. When it was my turn to read in front of everyone, I was nervous but excited. I think I was the only Black participant in the event. My mom said that she saw a little Black girl in the bookstore with her family. The girl wasn’t really paying attention to the reading until I walked up. Then my mom says the girl was absolutely transfixed. Just staring at me. I don’t have children and sometimes wonder what my influence will be on the coming generations. I like to think that seeing me up there, that girl realized something about herself and became more confident. I never saw this girl, so I’m reminded that we never know who is watching and being inspired by our actions.”

Says Christa on what’s the nicest thing anyone’s ever said to you: “I’ve struggled with body image my entire life. I grew up in a home where my body shape was frowned upon; I was always told I was too big. Three years ago, I decided I wanted to focus on my health over my size, and I started running. On one of my routes, there is a giant hill — when I first started, I couldn’t make it up halfway without needing to stop to walk, and now I can run right up. One day, an old man was watering his front garden and said, as I passed by, ‘I just want to say, I see you run up this hill all the time and you are amazingly strong.’ It literally brought tears of happiness to my eyes. It was so sincere and I think of it all the time. When I’m struggling with anything I remind myself that yes, I am strong, amazingly so.”

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  1. Cyn says...

    Joanna,
    There are good suggestions here for how to take action at this point. For example the reader that posted the information about Mark Kelly’s campaign.
    Maybe CupofJo could help us organize these ideas?
    As an early donator to Biden’s campaign I am now being bombarded with emails asking for more donations. I do want to continue to help but don’t know where to focus my support.
    Any suggestions?
    As always thank you!!!

    • katie says...

      ActBlue has a relatively short list of candidates to support that they update regularly. Mark Kelly has plenty of funding right now. I just donated to Cunningham running in NC. MT is also in play for a Dem to take over the Republican seat.

    • AMR says...

      Try Swing Left’s Immediate Impact Fund: https://swingleft.org/p/immediate-impact.

      Here’s the blurb from their donation page:
      “With Election Day rapidly approaching, it’s more important than ever to donate strategically. The Immediate Impact Fund is our one-stop-shop for donations to help Democrats right now in key races up and down the ballot, funding close races where your money is needed the most and will go the furthest.

      Your donation will go to candidates on the path to flipping the Senate, and winning key state legislative seats. 100% of your donation will go to the candidates in this fund. This fund supports Democrats in places like North Carolina, Georgia, Arizona and other key states.”

    • Cyn says...

      Thank you so much! Very helpful! I will be sharing this.

    • Sam says...

      Thank you for the information. I just donated to the five democratic candidates suggested in the instagram link provided in this thread in honor of Ruth Bader Ginsburg! You are already missed RBG!

  2. Claudia says...

    I’m Portuguese and so proud of a Brazilian woman breaking the record of the largest wave surfed by a woman in my own country! So proud!

  3. Megan says...

    Echoing your enthusiastic vote for Biden/Harris! Thank you for vocalizing your support.

  4. M says...

    Hi COJ friends! Does anyone have a rec for a machine washable crewneck or v-neck sweater? I love cashmere, but with a toddler, I just can’t!

    • M says...

      Thank you, Naseem!

    • Erin says...

      Boden’s machine-washable cashmere sweaters are great.

    • Katie says...

      Hi! You can machine was cashmere. Just put it on cold and then gentle/handwash/delicate. Then lay it flat to dry. I do this with all of my cashmeres. They get washed several times a season. I have never had an issue. I also usually just wash mine with a little hair conditioner. They are an animal fiber, after all!

    • Megan E Graham says...

      I also wash mine in the washer, gentle cycle, cold water. I sometimes will put them in an oversized lingerie bag so that they have room to move around a bit and get cleaned but still are a protected a little extra

  5. A weekend at the beach is always pleasant!
    Myself, I am cooking a lot. The new harvest of pears and apples are in so I make use to prep for the winter season.

  6. Kristie says...

    The Auckland (NZ) rental home is near my house :)

  7. Diana K says...

    I saw the movie Blue Juice recently, which happens to be a surf movie that takes place in Cornwall and I thought of you! It’s by no means a good movie, and almost impossible to find streaming BUT it does star a young Catherine Zeta Jones and Ewan McGregor.

  8. Alexis Bromley says...

    omg Nebraskan here. We hate that slogan and our state hired a firm in Colorado for it. The joke was on us.

    • South Dakotan by birth says...

      Could be worse? See South Dakota’s “Meth, we’re on it” campaign, which was homegrown.

  9. K says...

    My gosh that running up the hill comment <3

  10. Cindy says...

    That story about running up the hill!

  11. Sara Campbell says...

    Both of those reader comments brought happy tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing those.

  12. Paige says...

    The two reader comments this week brought me to happy tears. Thank you!

  13. Lea says...

    Sweet Cup of Jo friends. I admire you so much and so appreciate you creating a conversation around the election. I know you have a large and devoted audience, so that is a powerful thing. Can you possibly do a post on how we can make a difference in the coming election? As we grieve RBG, I know many of us are struggling with how to fight for her legacy. I appreciate your consideration. Xoxo

    • Hattie says...

      Lea, perhaps you would like to hear of my daughter who today donated $87 (one dollar for each year of the great RBG’s life) to Mark Kelly’s Senate campaign via Act Blue. Two election experts say that if he beats Martha McSally, who was appointed to the seat last year, Kelly could be sworn in at the end of November, in time to vote on the Supreme Court nominee. I think supporting Kelly is a great was to honor Justice Ginsburg.

    • Katie says...

      Yes. Absolutely send support to places where the senate could be overturned. It’s more imperative than ever that Dems are the Senate majority next year. Make it harder for McConnell to ruin democracy.

    • Amy says...

      Hattie!! Thank you so much for your idea – we follow politics very closely and had no idea about Mark Kelly getting to be sworn in so soon if elected. We have been gutted by the death of RBG. There is hope!!! Donating now.

    • Sasha L says...

      Consider donating to the Bullock senatorial campaign in Montana. That seat is currently held by a repugnant science and evolution denying fundamentalist republican, who has already renounced his stance on the previous open SC seat – of course he has, hypocrite. Advocating for immediate replacement by trump. It’s an incredibly close race and Daines has way more money than Bullock.

  14. Amy says...

    I just read that RBG died and had to come here for solace. How is everyone doing? I’m heartbroken and so worried.

    • Steph says...

      Same here. I am really concerned for our country. I am trying to tell myself that everything is cyclical and that there will be liberal backlash that will last decades. But, in the mean time, the pain and damage will be unforgivable. I hope I’m making sense – so upset right now.

    • AN says...

      As a gay immigrant woman, I’m much more than worried. I’m terrified.

    • MJ says...

      This was my thought too, it’s so hard not being able to be around people right now except my Trump loving mom and brother and I am devastated and terrified and crushed. Ruth Bader Ginsburg will never be matched. Wearing my notorious RBG socks and sobbing tonight. Taking the advice of others, grieving tonight, getting up and fighting like hell tomorrow.

    • Anna says...

      Same! I am in shock. It feels like the end of an era. Trying to remember that hope is a verb but man I am feeling dark right now.

    • shade says...

      I did the same thing. And feel the same way. This is too much.

    • Anna says...

      same Amy. I came right here. I don’t have anything to say but I was glad to see your comment as this feels like the space to be right now

    • Laura says...

      So scared. I cried all the way home from work. I came here for a lift up too!

    • sookiestackhouse says...

      Devastated. And disgusted at the overt, despicable hypocrisy of Mitch McConnell, who didn’t even have the decency to wait 24 hours to vow that the Senate would vote on her replacement six weeks before the election–despite his own actions in 2016. It’s time for the Democrats to get creative. This simply cannot happen.

    • Christine says...

      Me too, Amy. ❤️

    • Lisa says...

      I am too. Devastated. Grieve as you need and then ACT if you want to honor her memory!!!! Don’t let her down!!!
      Call and say you request they not confirm a SC nominee until after Jan 20, 2021.
      Lisa Murkowski (202)224-6665
      Mitt Romney (202)224-5251
      Susan Collins (202)224-2523
      Martha McSally (202)224-2235
      Cory Gardner (202)224-5941

      Don’t bother with McConnell, he’s sold his soul. Please, don’t let your grief be wasted. This is TOO IMPORTANT, everyone. SPREAD the word!!!! Big hug, I’m so sorry for our loss!!

    • Jane says...

      Me too! I am really really worried and I am not even American and live in Europe, but the news really shook me

    • Marina says...

      I am Danish, and even I have felt a giant void all morning (it’s half past eleven here). Can’t even imagine how you must be feeling <3

    • ash says...

      Hi….me too. Gutted, like the world now has less air and light. I’m having a hard time focusing on the responsibility for action now, but may we please galvanize for justice now….

    • Clare says...

      Hi Amy! I came for the same reason. I’ve felt so sad and paralyzed by fear. I recommend this video AOC posted on her instagram. It helped me feel a little braver. xo
      https://www.instagram.com/p/CFTXq9BHi2r/?hl=en

    • LK says...

      So so sad. Especially on Rosh Hashana….what a time.

      So much gratitude for the work Justice Ginsburg did for us.

    • Denise says...

      I feel so scared . . .

    • Laney says...

      Thanks for posting, Amy ❤️ I am so scared. Working for this administration has been so terrible. It’s incredible to watch so much incompetence run the government into the ground. The US could be such a light to the world and yet we are full of so much hate and ignorance and giving power and a voice and guns to the presumably aggrieved to blame anyone who doesn’t look them. I know this is probably too dark and I feel too dramatic saying it to anyone else but to an anonymous blog, but I feel wistful for my family members who have died before having to live in a world without RBG and with the likely results of this hopeless election.

    • Angela says...

      I am heartbroken. I have cried all weekend and have a sense of dread I just cannot shake. I need to get my 5 year olds passports and I have been looking into Canadian citizenship. Wonder if we could be considered refuges when this new justice gets rammed through? I will not live in a country that forces pregnancies upon its citizens.

    • Lisa says...

      I would like to just sympathize with everyone here and encourage you not to let your despair keep you from action!!! Act!! Honor RBG!!! They want us sad and hopeless and I will never ever give them that.

    • AMY says...

      Thank you everyone for the words of understanding, camaraderie and comfort. ❤️

  15. Heather says...

    Both of these reader comments made my heart happy!

  16. Vish says...

    OMG I had just ordered the blush mentioned today, and am now sad I didn’t wait, so COJ could have the attribution revenue.

  17. Thank you so much for the comment feature Joanna! : )

  18. Sarah says...

    L’Shana Tova to everyone celebrating! No better time than now to start fresh.

    • LK says...

      L’shana tova!

    • Heather says...

      Sarah,
      Thank you! L’Shana Tovah to you & yours too!!

      (translation for others: Shuh-NAH toe-VAH or SHAWN-uh TOE-vuh, is Happy New Year in Hebrew, which we greet each other with at Rosh Hashanah/the Jewish New Year)

      Celebrating a new year, and the start of our holiest of seasons as Jews, amidst a global pandemic & systemic injustice can certainly make you grateful; grateful that we have the privilege of all the possibilities for renewal in our hearts, our souls, and the world. May it be a sweet new year for you & those you hold dear!

  19. Teri C says...

    I have a few blogs I read once in a while when I have time, but I always check out your Friday post. Somehow I find something that I like or that makes me laugh or think. Thanks for this weekly pick me up!!

  20. Elizabeth Giraud says...

    Speaking of travel slogans, in the 1960s Utah came up with “The Different World of Utah.” I love my home state and it is different, in the best way, but the slogan was such a bomb because people interpreted “different” in the worst way (which also exists). When I lived in Idaho in the early 1990s, the slogan was “Idaho: It’s what American used to be!” Didn’t always evoke the most positive connotations…

  21. Candy says...

    I’m a longtime fan of the “Song Exploder” podcast, so I’m so happy to learn it will be Netflix series. It’s truly fascinating to hear how all the parts of a beloved song — from the tiny core of an idea to the multi-layered final finished product — is put together. I highly recommend listening.

  22. Beth says...

    The comment with the old man! My heart!

    • V says...

      Loved this so much.

  23. Agnès says...

    those readers comments are giving me energy! yes! Have a peaceful week-end every one and CupofJo team, I always miss your posts over the week-end!

  24. jane says...

    I love Alicia Keys – if you haven’t seen her NPR Tiny Desk concert it is one of the best shows ever. The love and power of that amazing team comes right through in the most effortless way ever.

  25. Kelly says...

    For some reason I can’t open up the blush link….

    • Jillian says...

      It’s the Nars powder blush in color Orgasm X. ?

  26. Alexis says...

    Thank you!!! Those two reader comments were so special. I hadn’t seen them- though read many of the comments the other day as a real pick me up. The comments are beautiful reminders of how important it is to show up for yourself- how inspiring that is for all the people we don’t realize are watching. And ALSO – kudos to this wonderful community. Proof that a comments section can be a supportive, positive place.

    • Heather says...

      Yes! This is pretty much the only site where I read comments, and I often read as much as the posts. I’ve never encountered another site with so much positivity in the comments section.

  27. KFA says...

    YES! I’m at home recovering from knee surgery and I cannot wait to binge season 2 of Pen15. Lisa’s comment is a good reminder that children see and hear more than we know. I wish she could have seen the girl but I’m glad Lisa’s Mother saw her daughter in this wonderful moment.

  28. christi says...

    is there any way we could do cup of jo pen pals? I love to write letters and love the people here. maybe it could have the added benefit of helping the post office? x

    • Kari says...

      Oh gosh I love this idea!! I already love connecting with other readers in the comments, and have often been so touched by the encouragement and advice shared there. I would definitely sign up! (Must be old fashioned snail mail. No emails. :) )

    • Agnès says...

      I would be in!

    • K says...

      Yes please!

    • Abbie says...

      YES PLEASE!!! Jo I would totally pay to be matched with a COJ or pal!

    • Shannon says...

      Very interested in this idea!!! Just moved and would love a pen pal

    • Jacqui says...

      Yes, please from me too!

    • Oh, yes please! :)

    • Amrifa says...

      I’m in too! :)

    • Heather says...

      Christi,
      A FABULOUS IDEA!! I’m in.

    • Samantha says...

      Me, too. Yes, please!

    • Lizzie says...

      I love this idea too! Warmed my heart.

    • Brittany says...

      I’m in!

    • I says...

      I would participate (from Belgium).

    • This is a lovely idea! But maybe we can wait till after the election, so that the post office can focus on the really, really important things? I know I am grasping at straws here….

  29. Mariana says...

    What a pleasure to see a fellow Brazilian mentionned in one of the links! (: go Maya!

  30. Jessica says...

    Maya Gabeira breaks her own world record for largest wave surfed. The winner of the men’s Biggest Wave Award, Kai Lenny, surfed a 70-foot wave; 3 feet smaller than Gabeira’s.

  31. Alice says...

    The weekly reader comments are always great, but both of these brought tears to my eyes. So beautiful!

    • Genevieve Martin says...

      I’m going to the beach too, IN England :D

  32. Trudy says...

    That picture is beautiful!
    I miss England so much it makes me tear up reading this. Praying we call all travel safely soon and you can visit your amazing family.
    Hope you are well Joanna, thank you for making the world a little brighter again and again.
    Love from the Netherlands <3

  33. Susan says...

    It’s “Song Exploder”

    • Maggie says...

      I hoped that “Explorer” was a typo (but obvious was too lazy to click on the link to see for myself), I love the podcast!!