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My Beauty Uniform: Samantha Irby

Samantha Irby

Michigan-based author Samantha Irby is one of my favorite writers. (Her brutally honest writing often makes me laugh ’til I cry.) Not only is she a best-selling author, but she also loves a good skincare routine. “I’m truly like a dog with a shiny object. If I’m scrolling through Instagram and I see someone’s flat lay with their beautiful products, I’m trying to buy everything, instantly.” Here, she shares her go-to skin cream, the guests she’d invite to her dream brunch, and the two products she and her wife steal from each other…

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What was your idea of beauty growing up in Evanston, Illinois?
I grew up in the ’80s when the pinnacle of beauty was sun-kissed, blue-eyed blondes with big boobs. I thought, ‘If this is what you have to look like to be beautiful, I’ll never be beautiful.’ It took me a long time to figure out that there are different ways to be beautiful in the world. I latched on to actors and comedians like Jackée Harry and Whoopi Goldberg — I love women who are funny and confident and loud and not afraid to not be the standard. I also loved watching Queen Latifah and Kim Coles on Living Single — they were the type of people I wanted to be.

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One of my favorite essays of yours is ‘A Case for Remaining Indoors.’ How do you feel about being indoors so much these days?
I think I’m the most equipped person for this kind of pandemic. I do not need to see the sun. The things I miss are going to the movies and running to the store without a 10-step disinfecting process. Other than that, I’ve filled my home with lots of books and Netflix on my iPad. I see people online who are like, ‘I haven’t been outside! I can’t handle it,’ and I cannot relate.

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You’re making your first book of essays, Meaty, into a show with Abbi Jacobson. How did that come about?
Janeane Garofalo guest starred on Broad City, and as a thank you she gave Abbi and Ilana a copy of Meaty.

What a great gift!
It’s probably the coolest story I’ll ever get to tell. Abbi reached out to me and was like, ‘Hey! I wanna talk to you about some ideas!’ And I didn’t realize Abbi was a famous person, so it took me a while to email her back. She asked me if I’d ever thought about making Meaty into a show, and of course I hadn’t! I wasn’t thinking mine was the story people in Hollywood were desperate to see. So, we got together and worked out what the show would be about and then went to Hollywood and pitched it. It’s in development at Comedy Central, and we got picked up to pilot. We were supposed to shoot it this summer, but it’s on hold at the moment because of Coronavirus. We’re getting casting together and finding the TV version of myself.

What’s it like casting and writing for a version of yourself?
It’s stressful and I have a lot of imposter syndrome — I always think, ‘Who wants to see a show about someone like me?’ But the character is me at 25, not me now, so it’s kind of like writing an alternate version of myself, which makes it easier.

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You worked as a receptionist for 14 years and started a blog at night, before you became an author. Your career path is really inspiring to me because it looks like the path a lot of creatives take, but not a lot of people talk about.
There are so many gatekeepers that look for people who did the same things they did, and think the only true path is to get an MFA here and then work at this certain place, and that’s just not true. It can be disheartening, especially if you have a media job, and that’s how all those things stay the same. Some people have the mentality of hoarding all the connections and resources if they find success, but you can’t write all the experiences, so why not help open the door for more people? If I can find my way and then wedge the door open for someone else, I truly don’t understand why you wouldn’t do that.

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Now I’m going to ask you some lightning-round questions.
I’m ready.

If you could have brunch with anyone from TV who would they be?
Bobby Axelrod from Billions because he’s insanely wealthy so he would pick up the tab and choose a nice place. Roman Roy from Succession because he would make it spicy and keep the jokes going — but only if comes with Gerri! I ship them so hard. I would be wingman-ing and making sure they shared a cab home at the end of it. And lastly, Kelly from Insecure.

She and Roman would be so wild together!
Can you imagine? It would be a dream come true! I feel like everyone would have their pants off within an hour.

If you could only save one of your skincare products in a fire, which one would it be and why?
I wish I could give a sexy answer for this but it would be my First Aid Beauty Ultra Repair Cream. This cream soothes and gets your skin to a nice place. It’s also cheap — like $15 — and you can use it all over your body! The worst thing is when someone is like, ‘Let me tell you about my holy grail product…it’ll only set you back $400.’ Like, are you nuts?

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You’ve said before that your skin looks amazing not because you drink enough water, but because of all the products you use! Walk us through your skincare routine.
In the morning, I use LUSH’s Coalface bar, and then my First Aid Beauty Cream. I’ll also put Riley CEO Glow oil on my cheeks because they get a little dry. For sunscreen, I’ll use Supergoop Glowstick. At night, I wash my face with the Elemis Cleansing balm and then I’ll follow it with Drunk Elephant A-Passioni Retinol Cream and then another layer of First Aid Beauty Cream and that’s it!

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Do you and your wife share any products?
Let me tell you, that Drunk Elephant cream is hers and I just steal a little bit of it at a time. That is the number-one perk of being married to a lady — stealing a little bit of her fancy face cream when she doesn’t notice! I’ll be like, ‘I’m just gonna go to the bathroom for a second!’ and sneak a little off the top. Luckily the cream has no scent, so it doesn’t give me away. But she steals my perfumes.

What kind of perfume do you like?
Jo Malone London in Lime Basil & Mandarin — it’s my favorite favorite favorite. I have a weirdly sensitive nose and it doesn’t set off my allergies.

How did you figure out what was best for your skin?
Mostly I’ll just see a product and want to buy it and give it a try. I started using retinol because my friend Melissa posted about it and we’re about the same age. Her skin looked so good, so I decided to give it a shot. I watched Katie Jane Hughes on Instagram and she was using Elemis cleanser and her skin is beautiful and shiny so I thought, ‘I’m gonna get that, too!’ Life is short and I’m not gonna get a degree in chemistry to figure out what to put on my face. 

What about makeup?
I became a convert to Estée Lauder Double Wear Powder Foundation in the shade Bronze 5w1. I use it just in the T-zone, because if I do too much I’ll have to touch it up, which I don’t want to do. Cream blushes are my number-one loves! I use Glossier Cloud Paint in Dawn. Orange blush on darker skin is the best! Any matte orange lipstick works on your cheeks as well — I’m a big fan of using lipstick on your cheeks as blush.

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You often wear a signature red lip. What are your favorites?
Mac Ruby Woo is my jam. And Lisa Eldridge in Velvet Ribbon is my new favorite red. Otherwise, I just do a subtle lip balm look in Dior Glow in Rosewood.

Most of the time, you sport a shaved head. Are you continuing that through quarantine?
I have a barber here in Michigan and every time I cut my own hair he’s like, ‘No. Why did you do this?’ I’m trying to hold off cutting it these days, but it’s getting long. That first shave feels so great. Just talking about it makes me want to get the clippers!

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What are you using right now to take care of it?
I use Cantu Moisturizing Curl Activating Cream on my hair while it’s wet, and it makes your hair shiny and smells really good. I have an itchy scalp, so I’ve been reading up more on dandruff care. I like LUSH Soak and Float shampoo and conditioner bars — they lather up really well. I also use medicated shampoos on my scalp, like Nizoral — it’s the best.

You’re always straightforward about who you are, and telling the truth. Did you always feel that way, or did that grow over time?
I know you’re supposed to reach a certain age where you stop caring about things, but I haven’t reached that yet. I actually do care what people think — I just try not to care about the opinions of people who don’t care about me. I want people to like me, and to make them laugh, but the thing I don’t care about anymore is hiding who I am and being afraid to tell my story.

Thank you so much, Samantha! Samantha’s third essay collection, Wow, No Thank You came out this past March.

P.S. More women share their beauty uniforms, including Michelle Buteau and Sam’s pal Lindy West.

(Photos courtesy of Samantha Irby/Instagram.)

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  1. Ella says...

    A TV show based on Meaty! With Abbi Jacobson! I gasped with delight when I read that. How exciting!

  2. Jess Mill says...

    WORLDS! COLLIDING!

  3. Annie says...

    I love love love all of her glasses and would love to know what all her frames are!

    • Ashley M Prillaman says...

      AGREED.

  4. Kara F says...

    Samantha’s books are incredible. She has me laughing out loud alone in my apartment. One time I insisted on reading one of her essays aloud to my two best friends when we were on a road trip. Usually that would be an obnoxious ask but it was so funny that they loved it. She talks about the things that other people don’t, and in doing so makes me feel normal for having depression, and IBS, and mixed feelings! I lover her, I love this.

  5. elisabeth says...

    I LOVE HER SO MUCH I CAN’T OMG UGH

  6. Deb says...

    MORE MORE MORE SAMANTHA IRBY PLEEEEEEEEEASE!!!!!! (Sorry to yell. I just love her so much and I can’t help myself.)

  7. Maria says...

    this timing! I’m currently reading Wow, no thank you and I love it and how much it has made me laugh out loud. How cool to see this post today–Samantha is awesome!

  8. L says...

    Damn! What a phenomenal woman! Thanks for introducing me to her awesomeness! So beautiful.

  9. Jo says...

    How timely and wonderful – I just started “We Are Never Meeting In Real Life”! Thank you.

  10. Heather says...

    Oh man! I love her and am THRILLED that her story was finally picked up for TV! About time!!! (She wrote about it in her most recent book and I was hoping it would come to a platform I can watch… I’m about to buy Hulu so I can finally watch shrill, which she was a part of).

  11. Randi says...

    LOVE HER and love that she said she has dandruff sometimes. it’s not something I struggle with so I never felt embarrassed by it or stigmatized anyone else about flakes on their clothes but apparently it’s a struggle– my very funny, very confident friend did his whole life (which makes me sad to learn because he’s so lovable I hate that he had this long-lasting shame story!) and he just launched a scalp care beauty brand for elevated dandruff stuff. I bought the shampoo for my husband to support the launch but honestly I use it now because it is super nice. anyway, just wanted to put this out in the comments in case Samantha is reading them or in case anyone else struggles with dandruff and wants a nice not-medicinal-smelling shampoo or conditioner (or serum or scalp mask or their other scalp stuff) for it — https://hellojupiter.com/

  12. Lindsey Hughes says...

    I just finished her second book, which was the first I have read, and she’s just such a delight!

  13. Sara says...

    Love this! (and love Samantha!)

    Perfect timing as I’m starting her new book today. ❤️

  14. Pam says...

    Loved this and love Samantha! Her skin is luminous! Now I want to try all the skin products, but the Jo Malone scent sounds particularly lovely.

  15. Nigerian Girl says...

    This was such a joy. You rock, Samantha. What you said about opening doors for other people resonates strongly with me. In writing and publishing, ‘gatekeepers’ tend to look out for the visible stars: those with MFAs, those who are active on social media, those who might have been shortlisted for an award or two and so on. This isn’t terrible in itself, just that so many hidden stars tend to be overlooked in the process. We have to look out for them. That said, Lisa Eldridge in Red Ribbon has been on my wishlist for some time. One day it will be finally be mine.

  16. Kat says...

    As an aspiring author myself (currently writing a book!) it’s really heartening to hear about someone with a “day job” getting there. I can’t help but feel that if I took a writing job my book would suffer.
    Also I love her attitude – it’s so easy to get stuck down a skincare rabbit hole and feel like I’m never doing enough of the right things for my skin. She’s reminded me to chill out!

  17. Sarah says...

    This is delightful, but I wish she had talked about her excellent collection of glasses. So many cute ones in these photos!

    • Carol W Wayne says...

      My thoughts exactly….LOVE her glasses…

    • Stephanie says...

      Love the glasses, too! Would love to see Samantha in a future Week of Outfits post :)

    • AMK says...

      Yes!!! Would LOVE to find info on all glasses!!!

  18. Mary says...

    Wow adored this interview. Now cannot wait to buy and read Samantha’s books! ❤️

  19. Rosalie says...

    Loooooove Samantha. What a great interview— thank you!

  20. Kim says...

    So happy to see her featured! I’m excited for the show with Abby, too.

  21. Liz says...

    Loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooove

  22. Lauren says...

    Hi Lauren! ;)

    • Susannah says...

      “I just try not to care about the opinions of people who don’t care about me”. Such simple but important advice, thanks Samantha

  23. Elise says...

    Yes!!!!! More Samantha Irby!!! Best celebrity beauty interview yet!

  24. mika says...

    Samantha Irby is one of my favorite writers! This is awesome, she is gorgeous!

  25. Shannon says...

    I squealed when I saw this come up. I love her so much! And I love you for sharing her beauty with us.

  26. Lex says...

    Definitely check out her newsletter: https://bitchesgottaeat.substack.com/
    She recaps episodes of Judge Mathis and it is ABSOLUTELY getting me through quarantine. And she’s been on forever35 a couple of times.

    • Olivia says...

      Agreed. Her Judge Mathis recaps are the best thing on the internet.

    • Kelsi says...

      Best emails I get are the Judge Mathis recaps.

  27. C says...

    Smart, gutsy, wry, gorgeous. Brava Samantha!

  28. Melissa Landrum says...

    “I actually do care what people think — I just try not to care about the opinions of people who don’t care about me.”
    Right on!!!!!

  29. Laney says...

    I know Ruby Woo works on a lot of people but wow, I think it was made specifically for Sam? Love her & loved this & now have 30 new tabs open of her suggestions…

  30. Cath says...

    love love love her so much

  31. Grace says...

    I was laughing hysterically by myself reading her latest book. I also live in Michigan and think she might be our coolest resident.

  32. Jenny says...

    Yes! One of my favorite writers, and she’s this lovely as well? I stood up and cheered when she talked about holding the door for those behind you. Similarly, that last tender sentence about caring very much, but about people who care about you… chef’s kiss. That’s amore. I hope CoJ gets paid for the Cloud Paint I’m about to buy. Dewy glow!

  33. emily r says...

    I started reading Bitches Gotta Eat way back, and then I was fortunate enough to meet Sam at a book signing in Brookline, MA. Needless to say, I share her love of cheetos and her writing is the best – especially in times like these. Keep up the hard work Sam!

  34. Alyce says...

    I went to the same yoga studio as Carla Hall for a few years, and she always called glasses art for the face, which totally changed how I see glasses (and has made me more daring in the glasses I buy). Samantha Irby is also channeling that same vibe, and I LOVE it. (Also I love everything about Samantha Irby.)

  35. Lindsey says...

    I couldn’t click on this fast enough! I love her!

  36. Katy says...

    I came to say that her eye makeup is perfection. Tips for fellow glasses wearing girls?
    (As noted – her glasses are fab!)

    This makes me want to read everything that both Samantha and Kim write.

  37. Amanda says...

    I love this! I’ve got a long drive coming up and just bought the audio version of her book to keep me company.

    • Heather Ailes says...

      Loved this one and have all kinds of new recommendations to follow up on. Thank you, Samantha Irby!

  38. Laura says...

    Oh man we have the same tastes! I love Ruby Woo, Drunk Elephant and Sunday Riley, Katie Hughes, and that Jo Malone scent! Outfits next please!

  39. Marni says...

    Love everything about her!

  40. Meg says...

    Oh I totally want to watch a show about twenty-something Samantha! Yes!!

  41. Hilary says...

    “I know you’re supposed to reach a certain age where you stop caring about things, but I haven’t reached that yet. I actually do care what people think — I just try not to care about the opinions of people who don’t care about me. ” – YES! So brilliant. I sometimes think setting the bar at “not caring what people think” is too high, and maybe not what we want to strive for anyway. Her definition feels so right on. I always want to be friends with everyone on Cup of Jo!!

    • Carol W Wayne says...

      Such good advice…I am 63 and I am going to write that down, because it is so true.

  42. Liz says...

    I love everything about this! Samantha is just so cool. I love her writing and her commitment to showing the world her true self. Awesome interview Kim!

  43. GJ says...

    This was one of my favorite beauty uniforms yet! Thanks to CoJ for featuring such a brilliant human.

  44. Rachel Adrianna says...

    She is absolutely delightful… but am I missing the “running” joke regarding the bathroom mask and sweatshirt? LOL

  45. Sara says...

    Love her! She’s so beautiful and FUNNY and real.

  46. Cynthia says...

    Great interview and now I want to read her books! Red is her lipstick color!

  47. Kelsey says...

    Yay! Samantha I hope you read these comments! I listened to you read Wow, No Thank You and thank you thank you thank you for making me laugh and cry when I was literally feeling so overwhelmed by everything I felt like I was walkin’ around like one of those blank emoji faces. Your writing woke me up, it helped me fall asleep, it made me feel something. It did – IMHO – everything great writing does. Ruby Woo lipstick here I come

  48. Kat says...

    I love this! I can relate to her so much!!! <3 Thanks for the lovely interview.

  49. Karina says...

    Great interview! Love everything about it.
    Can I ask where the colourful earrings in the third pic are from.

  50. CaraM says...

    Several things:
    1) Who would watch your show? Umm, DEFINITELY Me!
    2) Love your beauty recommendations, but I also want to know about your glasses frames. You and your partner have a strong frame game! Love it!
    3) Love Cup of Jo because now I know my next read…Meaty!

    • Kim Rhodes says...

      Hi, CaraM!

      Sam said she gets her glasses from a few different places: SEE Eyewear, Karen Walker, Warby Parker, Chloe, and Retrosuperfuture.

      Hope this helps!

    • Wendela says...

      Definitely—such great eyeglass frames. Makes me want to go shopping (but I need to see my optometrist first, darn it).
      She is a Gorgeous person!

  51. AJ says...

    SAM IRBY IS THE BEST! Love her and everything she writes.

  52. Rae says...

    If I had her incredible lips I would own all the lipsticks and wear lipstick every day.

    • Rita says...

      Do it anyway, Rae!!! :D

  53. JJ says...

    I screamed in delight when. I saw Sam’s face pop up. I was reading “We are Never Meeting in Real Life” when shit started to get bad (early March) and her writing has seen me through the worst of days. Kim, thank you so much for this post!

  54. Ugh SUCH fun surprise coming here and seeing Sam Irby! Love love loooooove her. I was supposed to go to one of her book events for her latest book and it got cancelled (along with everything else) and I was so bummed. I’m such a big fan of hers.

  55. Nicole says...

    Love Samantha’s humor and love this interview. Thanks for including questions beyond beauty products. I don’t generally read those posts on this blog bc I simply don’t care that much about products but this interview was great!

    • Emma says...

      I often find that these beauty uniforms are so much more than just product recommendations. You should take a peek at some of the other beauty uniforms and see for yourself!

    • b says...

      I second what Emma said. I have my skincare routine pretty well locked in, but I still love trying new products. The depth of these interviews has changed immensely since the beginning – book recs, podcast recs, tv/movie recs, and so much good advice for living well.

  56. Lauren E. says...

    The line about not fitting the standard of beautiful and thus believing “I will never be beautiful” totally knocked me over. THIS is why representation is so, so, so, so important. Loved this entire piece.

    • Ellen says...

      Yes!

  57. Laura G. says...

    “Life is short and I’m not gonna get a degree in chemistry to figure out what to put on my face.” This made me LOL. Love her (and her earrings/eyeglass collections)!

  58. Michelle says...

    Samantha Irby is a national treasure and I adore her books! Thank you for sharing this!

  59. CS says...

    Just got her new book of essays today! Great feature…love Samantha’s style & vibe.

  60. christina says...

    ANOTHER PERSON making me want to try this mystical ruby woo!!! she looks so beautiful, maybe i can channel her if i buy a tube myself :)

  61. Janet says...

    Just got her book! What a beautiful person she is.

  62. Samantha says...

    I discovered Samantha Irby because I collect books written by Samantha’s. I feel like growing up we were EVERYWHERE, every single class I was in had at least 1 other Samantha, then as an adult I’m the only one around….where did they all go?? So it is very exciting to see my name on a book.
    So, Hi Samantha!! From another Samantha.

    • Lauren says...

      From a Lauren, I feel the same way. Laurens all over the place growing up, now I never meet another Lauren!

  63. lizzie g. says...

    Love her work.

    SI might be interested to know (along with your readers, hopefully?) that Drunk Elephant is one of the many brands refusing to release their diversity statistics as a company, after being called out time and time again. Most recently, in the Pull Up or Shut Up campaign.

    Just another company with a “woke” social media page, but essentially appropriating the BLM movement and POC’s pain/experience as a PR stunt. In other words, no, they will not provide economic opportunities for POC, but yes, they will totallyyyyyy post a black square to attract attention and get in everyone’s good graces!

    Just wanted to share for those who might find it helpful when deciding if they’d prefer to support brands who actually practice inclusion and support of the Black community

  64. Mac says...

    “Life is short and I’m not gonna get a degree in chemistry to figure out what to put on my face” – I love this, and agree 100%.

    • Laura says...

      Same same same – who has the time, never mind the interest? (Except actual chemists ;)

  65. Emma says...

    Wow! Samantha Irby is one of my favorite people who I don’t actually know. Her writing brings me so much joy. I was grinning ear to ear while reading this beauty uniform. I just love her so much.

  66. Anna says...

    Samantha Irby is my favorite author!! Not to mention gorgeous and a veritable style icon. Thank you for spotlighting her.

  67. Sara says...

    I am really struggling this week and didn’t know this is what I needed. Thanks, CoJ, and thanks to Ms. Irby who is absolutely one of my favorite things about the internet. Gorgeous, hilarious, and so real.

  68. Alanna says...

    Adore everything about Samantha Irby.

    Smart, funny, beautiful, incredibly talented. Her books mean so much to me. I wish I could explain to her how much her work means to me. Some of her stuff is so beautiful that I just have to stop reading it because I’m bawling my head off.

    Love her so much. She has shaped a lot of who I am.

  69. ale norris says...

    oh my gosh, i read her essay book “we are never meeting in real life” about two weeks in to quarantine when i was getting extremely anxious and stressed about working from home full time with a 1 year old and a 5 year old at home. i couldn’t WAIT to go read an essay or 2 after my kids’ bedtimes and it truly was such a bright, hilarious spot in my day. i adore you, Samantha Irby! also i LOVE that bright pop of lipstick, she looks amazing.

  70. Em says...

    Aspirational glasses collection. I dig it.

    • Kelsey says...

      Strongly relate!!

  71. MyHanh says...

    what a beauty in so many ways!

  72. Jackie says...

    Amazing interview! Love her. I must know where her glasses in the first and last pics are from—they are gorgeous and pair so perfectly with her red lip!

  73. Calla says...

    Love this, thanks so much! Totally agree about when people talk about amazing but completely out of reach skincare products.

    I have serious dandruff issues and have found that rotating products (every time I finish a bottle) really helps. I have a prescription ketoconazole shampoo but the most effective one I’ve found is actually DUCRAY Kelual shampoo. It’s very expensive on dermstore but you can order it at cocooncenter for a much better price. The most soothed and flake-free my scalp has every been!

  74. bindi says...

    OMG- “Try not to care about the opinions of people who don’t care about me.” That just blew my mind. Because I definitely DO care, and I don’t ever want to get to the point of not giving a shit at all. This makes so much sense to me!

  75. JT says...

    Can we talk about her glasses?! Love!

  76. Kim v. says...

    omg I love her and I loved this!

  77. Kate says...

    I love you, Samantha!

  78. maggie says...

    Completely consumed with glasses envy, wow

  79. Julia says...

    Love! Kim, could you please ask Samantha if she has any lip “routine,” and if so, what she does/what products she uses? I am so into the matte lip, but mine always comes out… flakey? Her’s looks smooth as suede and is legit one of the best I’ve seen!

    • Heather says...

      Yes please! Also – does Samantha have any tips for getting her red lipstick on evenly and without smudging? Her lipstick looks fantastic! I love a red lip, but haven’t figured out how to finesse the application so it looks chic and not like a three-year-old helped me apply my make up.

      Thank you Samantha and Kim for another great beauty uniform! Samantha is so beautiful – inside and out!

    • Laura says...

      a lip scrub and lots of lip balm first helps!

  80. Tara Ilsley says...

    YASSS. So many favourites coming together, I CANNOT HANDLE. KELLY from insecure. Can you please do a post about THE INSECURE FINALE.?!!!! wHICH MAN THO?

    Samantha you are a GEM. I’m also leading a zoom meeting right now that is fucking trash.

    Quarentine Day 104.

  81. Rachel says...

    One of my favorite authors/ladies/bloggers/instagram personalities on my favorite blog😭😭. I am a nurse practitioner in Chicago, doing drive thru COVID testing today for the idk 8 millionth time, and feeling especially run down by the seemingly endless nature of this virus, and this was truly the little delight my morning needed. Love love love Sam Irby and her voice. I can not recommend her books enough, they have all made me lol so incredibly hard and are truly the perfect antidote for long stressful days.❤️❤️

    • Elizabeth R says...

      I love her. Also. In her most recent book, Samantha’s entire first chapter was about wanting to be featured on a lifestyle blog. Dreams come true!

  82. Amz says...

    Resisting the urge to buy everything Samantha has recommended! Loved this!!

  83. JRG says...

    i felt this line in my bones: “Life is short and I’m not gonna get a degree in chemistry to figure out what to put on my face.”

  84. Natalie says...

    Came for my daily (okay, twice-daily) Cup of Jo browse and gasped “SAMANTHA IRBY!”. I adore everything she’s ever written and I buy copies of her books to give out as gifts. Thanks for featuring her, Kim!

  85. awads says...

    i am hollering!!! i love you so much, samantha!! you are beautiful! (but i tried straight Rx retinol from my dermatologist ($10!!) and it didn’t do anything for my old lady face. boo!).

  86. Chandra says...

    LOVE! And about the $400 skin products — are you nuts comment, so true! Hahaha.

  87. Andrea says...

    Kim Rhodes! Thank you so much for writing about Samantha! It is SO satisfying to see a product like Cantu on this blog. I feel so seen! :)

  88. Emma says...

    I stumbled upon Samantha Irby in a bookshop in Chicago when I’d just moved to the city after college. She was there at the shop reading from Meaty and talking with fellow writer Megan Stielstra. She shared a story about having sex with her partner and struggling and failing to use a purple strap-on. It was raunchy and hilarious! It gave me so much hope to hear a loud, funny, unabashed woman reading her own writing and commanding an audience. It was inspirational for timid little me, coming out of a conservative christian college.

  89. Allie says...

    This – “Some people have the mentality of hoarding all the connections and resources if they find success, but you can’t write all the experiences, so why not help open the door for more people? “. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

    • Fiona says...

      I came to say the same thing – that mentality makes no sense to me and I love that Samantha is making that absurdity known! Open every door for everyone we can!

      Also, Samantha Irby, YOU GLOW your skin obviously adores you!

  90. CL says...

    I LOVE Samantha and truly squealed when I opened this. Reading her essays is like talking to an old friend. Thank you so much for featuring her!

  91. Eleanor Frances says...

    I love you Samantha, and so glad to read about you today. May I offer a bit of a suggestion to you? Please be mindful of the container waste that the beauty industry makes and how it adds to hurting our planet. Actually, COJ might want to do a posting on this topic. Thank you and glad you are staying safe and continuing to be creative.

    • AB says...

      Given the life Samantha has led, I think using this post to comment about *container waste*, of all things, is rather tone deaf!

      Thanks for the great interview, Kim!

  92. alison says...

    Just here to fully endorse Sam on all things, but especially her support Jo Malone Lime Basil Mandarin!

  93. AG says...

    “I just try not to care about the opinions of people who don’t care about me”

    Brilliant advice! I’m not sure I will ever reach an age where I just don’t care AT ALL. This is a good mantra for me, thank you! Also, I loved your books- so nice to see you on COJ!

  94. Sarah says...

    Love, love, love her! Samantha’s writing makes me actually LOL – I especially liked her piece about making friends as an adult (an excerpt from her book). She did a fantastic interview on the podcast Death, Sex, and Money, as well, if you’re looking for more of her.

  95. meggles says...

    i let out a wail of excitement when i saw this! sam has gotten me through the quarantine with her books and podcasts and i’m just obsessed!! two favorite things coming together: sam irby and cup of jo <3

  96. Cora says...

    Yesss! I’m so excited to see Samantha on a beauty uniform! Her books make me cackle so hard.

  97. RFN says...

    GORGEOUS and brainy. Love.

  98. Natasha says...

    Love her! Great feature on a woman who keeps it real real : )

  99. Lesley says...

    Samantha is one of the funniest writers alive. I love her work. Thanks for featuring her.

  100. Cat says...

    New mantra “try not to care about the opinions of people who don’t care about me.” Thanks Samantha!

    • Agnès says...

      I Loved that sentence aswell! and the red lipstick, and the glasses. I’ve been wearing contact lenses for 20 years and swore I would never wear glasses again, but then… Samantha might have changed my mind…