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What’s Your Comfort Movie?

when harry met sally

Imagine this: You’ve had a long day — say, stressful job, restless kids, a global pandemic — and you just want to turn your brain off. So, what chill-out movie do you turn to? Mine is a no-brainer…

When Harry Met Sally. I always laugh throughout the 1989 romcom and can quote almost every line. The ending makes my heart swell, and suddenly everything feels all right.

when harry met sally behind the scenes

Here are three fun facts:

— In the original ending, Harry and Sally didn’t end up together. (!)

— Two of the studio’s top choices for Harry were Tom Hanks and Michael Keaton, and Sally was almost played by Molly Ringwald.

— Screenwriter Nora Ephron’s title ideas included ‘How They Met,’ ‘Boy Meets Girl,’ ‘Just Friends,’ ‘Words of Love,’ and ‘Harry, This Is Sally.’

when harry met sally gif

So, I’m curious: What’s your comfort movie? Please share below!

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  1. Jenica says...

    For me it is shows.

    Friends or The Office.

    Something about the comedic normalcies of every day life brings ultimate comfort.

  2. Erin Cahir says...

    Next thing you know you’re singing Surrey with a Fringe on Top… IN FRONT OF IRA!!!

  3. Jenny says...

    Don’t tell mom the babysitter’s dead!

    I can quote every line and always want to redo my closet afterwards!

  4. Amy says...

    I have so many! But I will leave this one here….
    Waking Ned Devine
    And I can’t not add Darjeerling Limited ❤️

  5. Lisa says...

    HEARTBURN. Another Nora Ephron. My sisters and I can quote one word from it and instantly know the reference. Like a warm blanket that movie.

  6. Meg says...

    Almost Famous! ” The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what you share with someone else when you’re uncool.” <3

  7. ana says...

    Paddington 2.

    It’s the perfect film to remind you it will all be ok

  8. Rachel says...

    One Fine Day! My ultimate favorite for years and years and years.

  9. Emily says...

    Love Actually! I first watched it while studying abroad and my friend insisted I had to see it. A bunch of us piled on her dorm room bed and watched it on a laptop propped up on a desk chair. Since the subtitles didn’t work, she did her best to translate from memory the scenes with Jamie and Aurelia, and it was so sweet and hilarious. I think of my friends and that time in my life (over fifteen years ago!) every time I watch it.

  10. Sophie says...

    … Kung Fu Panda. I wish I had something classier as an almost 30 year old, but dammit that’s what I watch when I’m jetlagged, sick, grumpy, you name it.

    • Hayley B says...

      No judgement here! My nephews and I still quote it to each other.

      After an extensive training session, Shifu produces a tantalizing bowl of dumplings:
      Shifu: “I said, you are free to eat, panda.”
      Po: “Am I?”
      Shifu: “Are you?”
      Po: “Phwoaaarrgh!”

      Shifu: “You have done well, panda.”
      Po: “Done well? Done WELL? I’ve done AWESOME!!”
      Shifu: “The mark of a true hero is HUMILITY, but yes, you have done awesome.”
      Both chortle adorably.

      This movie is the best!

      *Fun fact: I’m not sure how many of the viewers here understand Cantonese but many of the names of characters, places etc are puns on nouns in Cantonese. For example Master Oogway (oogway or wukwai is what you’d call a tortoise in Cantonese) and Chor Kam Prison (chor kam literally means sitting in jail). I couldn’t stop giggling!

  11. Heather Shaw says...

    Sophia Coppola’s Marie Antoinette!

  12. Steph says...

    Yes!!! Beautiful Girls! No one ever knows what I’m talking about when I bring that up but OMG! “A beautiful girl can make you dizzy…”

    • Lana says...

      Best soundtrack of all time to boot!

  13. Julie says...

    The CBC Anne of Green Gables with Meghan Follows and Colleen Dewhurst. I watch it whenever I’m sick and bawl about 205829484 times. In between swooning over Gilbert.

    • Julie says...

      Oh my gosh, I LOVE Anne of Green Gables.

    • Twyla says...

      Me too!!! Last year, I almost had an opportunity to meet Meghan Follows for an interview (it’s a long story), and I was bawling just thinking about what I would say to her!

      Also – that GIF above had me cry-laughing today. Thanks so much – I really needed that!!

    • Lorena says...

      YES! It is the best set of movies. Meghan Follows is still the best Anne of all time. I highly recommend a trip to PEI to visit Green Gables in Cavendish. The theme song plays on loop in my head the whole time I’m there.

    • Teresa says...

      1000% agree!!

  14. Kait Sherman says...

    So many good ones. If you catch me watching One Fine Day or You’ve Got Mail, you know it’s been a day. I had these movies at the ready in my early post-partum days when loneliness was pervasive. Crying along with Meg Ryan didn’t feel as pitiful as crying by myself. Thank you Meg!

    • J says...

      These two are my faves too. I can’t watch One Fine Day too much though because the ending kills me and loosely follows a relationship in my life

  15. Sam says...

    FRENCH KISS with Meg Ryan! Always puts me in a good mood and makes me want to jump on a plane to France. I watched this movie for the first time with my granny when I was a kid and immediately after watching it, I asked my mom to bring me to the hair salon with a picture of Meg Ryan’s pixie cut so that I could look like her but the hairdresser refused to cut my super long hair that short. I was so disappointed at the time but looking back, she was right, that cut would not have suited me! Also when my fiance and I were planning our first trip together a few years ago he asked me where I wanted to go and I immediately put that movie on and said France, which is where we went and it was the most incredible trip of my life!

    • Erin Cahir says...

      I also LOVE this movie! But it can’t be watched anywhere, it drives me crazy. It is my favorite romcom and I just want to watch it again!

  16. Damaris Smyth says...

    This is one of my favorite movies! I loved learning about the “Fun Facts.” I am pondering if I would love this movie as much if they did not end up together. “Because I hate you Harry.” Such a great line. Besides this movie, some of my other favorite comfort movies are: Beautiful Girls, Singles, Eat Pray Love, The Holiday, Steal Magnolias, Julie and Julia, and a recent one, Hustlers.

  17. Kerrie says...

    Tie between The Devil Wears Prada & It’s Complicated! Two of my favssssssss !

  18. ewlake says...

    Dan in Real Life! The cast and soundtrack are terrific – my husband and I watch it about once a year, and haven’t tired of it.

  19. Lisa says...

    This is such a good question!
    Movies:
    Sabrina (Harrison Ford and Julia Ormond)
    Centerstage
    The Sound of Music
    You’ve Got Mail
    Notting Hill
    Love Actually (although I saw this for the first time when I was in a deep depression so while I love the movie I still have a vivid memory of sitting in the theater sobbing through most of it. Thankfully I got help)
    Coming To America
    Good Will Hunting (my very favorite)
    The Holiday
    Crazy Rich Asians
    Wimbledon
    XMen Days of Future Past
    Made of Honor

    TV shows:
    The West Wing
    Friends
    My So-Called Life
    Gilmore Girls

    Currently watching The West Wing. It calms me and brings me comfort.

  20. Deb in Oklahoma says...

    That Thing You Do. Good for the singalong (all the songs, not just the title track), and the guy gets the girl at the end, so everybody’s happy.

  21. Jo says...

    Late on in both my pregnancies I’ve really craved watching The Intouchables, even right up to when I was in labour actually, Lord knows why, so weird – it’s such a sweet film though,

  22. My roommate and I always quote the line:
    “I’m going to be 40!”
    “When?”
    “SOMEDAY!”
    When Harry Met Sally is THE BEST. My comfort movie is Shakespeare in Love. The romance, the poetry, Dame Judy…it’s so good.

  23. Lauren says...

    As an Aussie reader I wanted to mention two Aussie favorites from the 90s that I could watch over and over on repeat!

    – The Castle
    – Strictly Ballroom

    • Natalie says...

      Love Strictly Ballroom! So underrated!

  24. Susannah says...

    Sliding Doors
    Because I Said So (even though it’s so terrible)
    Anything Nancy Meyers
    So I Married an Axe Murderer
    Skeleton Key

    • Lisa says...

      I love Because I Said So as well!

  25. Joanna Schoff says...

    Sex in city 1
    Clueless
    Eat pray love
    Under tuscan sun
    16 candles
    Say anything

    I want a movie marathon now!

  26. Suzanne says...

    I always love About a Boy, The Wedding Crashers, Midnight in Paris Sound of Music, Bridget Jones Diary and The Holiday!

  27. Andi says...

    If I am having a bad day and need an escape, I like a hit of gratuitous violence unleashed by “good” guys.
    John Wick
    Salt
    The Accountant

  28. Scout says...

    Ahhh, I love this post!! I love the familiar movies between the comments!
    You’ve got mail is the BEST. studio ghibli movies are also wonderful (there so peaceful and calming). And a few shows: death in paradise, bobs burgers (my Friends), and Bob Ross.

  29. tina crisas says...

    I agree with most of the usual suspects of movies in the comment section, but I will add: The family Stone.
    LOVE LOVE LOVE IT.

    • Amy says...

      LOVE the Family Stone (I own it!)

  30. Maria Anagnostopoulou says...

    I think the winner must be “You΄ve got mail”!

  31. Eda says...

    Breakfast at Tiffany’s <3
    not a movie but I watch Seinfeld when I wanna cheer up

  32. Emily says...

    So many. Movies/TV have always been a comfort for me.

    High Fidelity
    Almost Famous
    Practical Magic
    Stealing Beauty
    The Dreamers
    Some Like it Hot
    Being There
    Sixteen Candles
    Father of the Bride
    Beautiful Girls
    Pride & Prejudice (2005)
    My Best Friend’s Wedding
    Little Women (90’s)

    Also
    Friends
    Sex & the City

    And can I just say, Cup of Jo is my comfort online space! Feels like a warm hug.

    • Joanna says...

      Get out of my head! Same list!

  33. Eloise says...

    The ‘Burbs
    Absolute favorite Tom Hanks movie. Plus, it has Bruce Dern, Carrie Fisher, a perfect 80’s Corey Feldman and some of the most hilarious one-liners. Never gets old.

  34. Nanaka says...

    Pride & Prejudice (Keira Kneightley version, but rather the BBC mini series if I have the time)
    Benny & Joon
    The Breakfast Club
    Ferris Bueller’s Day Off
    You’ve got mail
    The first wives club
    Jumping Jack Flash (did you ever notice how many oversized every day items she has in her flat? The toothbrush? The safety pin? It is absolutely hilarious!)
    Ten things I hate about you
    North & South (BBC mini series – “Look back… look back at me!” Aaaah!)
    Groundhog Day
    Back to the Future
    Pleasantville
    ….
    Boy, I could go on and on…! And looks like many of the commenters share a same “base set” of movies, haha :-)

  35. Under the Tuscan Sun. That dream life.

  36. denise pener says...

    Say Anything.

    “Lloyd Dobler…rad”

  37. Nina says...

    -Two Weeks Notice
    -Pretty Woman
    -Don’t Tell Mom the Babysitter’s Dead
    -And my daughter and I recently watched ‘My Friend Totoro’ and have since watched it numerous times. It feels like a big hug.

    • Nina says...

      My *Neighbor Totoro

  38. Ana says...

    Notting Hill
    Love actually

  39. Elle says...

    Oh, and Beaches and Steel Magnolias

  40. Jo says...

    You’ve got mail
    While you were sleeping
    Father of the Bride

  41. Mathilda says...

    Notting Hill
    He is just not that into you
    Juno
    The Holiday

  42. Julie says...

    -The Parent Trap —(the one w Lindsay Lohan)
    -You’ve Got Mail — (so calming – “Daisies are the friendliest flowers”)
    -Mrs. Doubtfire — ( “HELLLOOO!” It just never gets old, it’s the best )
    -Something’s Gotta Give — (the cast, the music, the house, that Paris restaurant scene!! )

    :)

    • sp says...

      ugh, You’ve Got Mail is like meditation in movie form. “Today I saw a butterfly on the subway…” so good!

  43. Katie Mac says...

    Singles!
    Dazed and Confused!
    And was so glad to be reminded of Now and Then from these comments.

  44. Esss says...

    Amelie!

  45. Kari says...

    The Mummy and Shrek 1 and 2.

  46. Mojo says...

    We also love the Lord of the Rings trilogy too

  47. Trudy says...

    Such a good question. For the last week or so we’ve been starting the day with Mamma Mia, because it makes us happy and gets us dancing, both of which set a great tone for the day.
    My other go-to watches depend on my mood. I can recommend:

    Pride and Prejudice, 1939 with Greer Garson and Lawrence Olivier, and 1995 with Jennifer Ehle and Colin Firth. Both perfection.
    Laura, the great film noir with Gene Tierney and Dana Andrews.
    North by Northwest, Hitchcock’s best imho, with Cary Grant and Eva Marie Saint.
    Top Hat and The Gay Divorcee – Fred and Ginger.
    Miss Marple, with Joan Hickson as Miss M. Agatha Christie told a young Joan Hickson that she would be perfect for Miss M when she was older, and she was right. The sets and gardens are enchanting.
    Grantchester with James Norton. I’m still watching with Norton’s replacement, but it’s not the same magic.
    Inspector Morse, with the great John Thaw; and its pre-quel Endeavour with Shaun Evans.
    Henning Mankell”s Wallander with the great Krister Henricksson.

  48. Diana says...

    bridget jones diary and the proposal

  49. Joanna Tsay says...

    To add some that haven’t been mentioned yet- Return to Me, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, any movie with a good heist, Judd Apatow movies like Knocked Up or 40-year-old Virgin, and the Bourne series. I know, I’m all over the place…

  50. Paige says...

    Love this question! Can’t wait to read the answers! Some of mine are:
    Center Stage
    Sabrina (Harrison Ford and Julia Ormond)
    Down With Love
    The Cutting Edge
    French Kiss (more Meg Ryan!)

    • Lisa says...

      OMG I love all of these movies as well!!

  51. Kristina says...

    The Devil Wears Prada. That movie saved me when my boyfriend broke up with me in college and I wouldn’t get out of bed.