Relationships

What Do You Like About Yourself?

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Cup of Jo has been running for 13 years (!) so we’ve decided that every week, we’ll be highlighting one of the most popular posts from the past. Here’s one of our favorites, originally published on October 19, 2016…

At the end of the movie Something’s Gotta Give, Diana Keaton, Jack Nicholson and Keanu Reeves (well, their characters, at least) end up sitting in a literal love triangle at a Parisian bistro. Halfway through a bottle of wine, Keaton gets extra chatty and funny.

“She’s very brilliant, but the woman cannot hold her liquor,” Reeves teases.

“I like that about me,” she says with a smile.

Thirteen years after watching the movie, I still remember that line. It was such a surprise hearing the character acknowledge out loud that she likes a personal trait. And good for her! She should! She’s an award-winning playwright and she’s awesome!

It’s strange because although people are generally amazing, it’s somehow deemed socially appropriate to deny things we like about ourselves and dismiss praise so as not to seem conceited. “No, not me,” “What? I’m such a mess,” “Oh, that was nothing.” It makes me think about this hilarious Amy Schumer skit, where friends cannot accept a compliment…

But! Let’s just say take a second to say these positive things about ourselves. I’m curious what you secretly love about yourself or what makes you proud. Are you a great parent or friend? Do you have a secret talent? Are you fast reader? Or a fast runner? Are you great at your job? Are you the one person in the world who can blow dry your hair like a stylist (and if so can you teach me)? Are you hilarious? Can you make a meal out of random things in the fridge? I would LOVE to hear: What do you like about you? Say it loud and proud!

P.S. Wise words, and wholeness vs. happiness.

(Top photo from Dôen.)

  1. JB says...

    My husband and I just told all our friends and family we’re moving to the other side of the country, and everyone is heartbroken.

    That’s what I like about me, and about us: we’re the type of people that people are going to miss having around! What an amazing feeling to be wanted (even though we’re heartbroken too!).

  2. Joanna says...

    I like that I have always been fairly confident (and I’m not even sure how) and I really don’t sweat the small stuff. I also generally don’t really care what people think of me. It’s a helpful trait!

  3. SN says...

    Things I like about myself:

    1. I am a problem solver and obsess over finding solutions to the little things (which really add up).
    2. I am deeply empathetic and can see the other side of a situation even if I don’t agree with it.
    3. I don’t care much for conventional beauty. I don’t wear makeup or subscribe to typical feminine beauty practices and I know this makes me MORE beautiful (more power to you though if you DO do these things ;).
    4. I have a deep respect for my personal boundaries and I’m on a long, long journey to actualize these boundaries in day-to-day life.

    I thoroughly enjoyed reading through these comments. <3

  4. ellie says...

    Joanna…..you should have led the way with this post!!!!! Please do list what you love/like about yourself….it’s healthy after all.
    I ,myself, am a generally good gift-giver…I really try to put myself in the recipient’s shoes and ‘be’ that person to know what they would like.

  5. MAL says...

    What do I like about myself?
    *Whether a good thing or a bad thing…I am always aware of my inner 12 year old self. I think because it was such a hard year for me (my parents’ divorce, major money problems, my mother’s alcoholism) that the worrier in me was born during that time, I sometimes say to her….” Don’t worry…I got this!”.
    * I am a loyal friend. Period. Has your husband fooled around on you and doesn’t care that you are humiliated…don’t worry, he is dead to me, too.
    *I will be your biggest cheerleader when good things happen to you! Keep those vacation FB and Instagram posts coming!
    * If something bad happens, I am the person who will contact you to see if you are still breathing.
    * I love my husband and it must be said that I am a great wife. And yes, most of the time he appreciates it. (We have been married 23 years)
    * I never had the urge to have children nor raise them…which in my opinion is one of the hardest things to do w/o a lot of support. I like that even tho there was ALOT of social pressure (being called selfish bitch) I did not break under pressure.
    *I love my dogs…just love them!
    *I love the fact that I am amateur Classic Hollywood historian. Did you know that Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers dated for a brief time way before they were Astaire and Rogers? Now you know!
    *Finally, I am a voracious reader, esp mid century books.
    What a great exercise! I feel full of happiness!🦋

  6. Ramya says...

    I think that what I like most about myself is something that I was a bit ambivalent about before – it’s the fact that I’m a jumble of contradictions! I’m a laid-back, free spirit but also a Type A, diplomatic but irreverent, a nomadic homebody, a feminine feminist, the list goes on…I embrace it fully!

  7. Meaghan says...

    This was a great read!
    I love that I am kind, a great baker, and that I am easily pleased. And not in a low standards way, but that I can find pleasure in small gestures and ordinary things. I am a hard worker and a really good mom!

  8. Hannah says...

    I like that I’m always looking for the bright side of life. I am also often sad, and that’s fine too, but that’s nothing that defines me.

  9. lk says...

    I love that I have a ability to really see and comfort people when they need it; that I have fully embraced that “No” is a full sentence when I need it to be and that I am able to identify the difference between a “need” and a “want”- yea I am proud I grew 2 amazing humans and that they are funny like me, I am delighted that my dog looks at me with kind eyes and that I know that I am smart- and not afraid to tell you!

  10. Jssatx says...

    So… I recently went to a “cosmetic” dermatologist. While I’m used to the preliminary “what are your goals/priorities, etc.” question, she handed me a mirror and asked me what I saw that I wanted to address AND what I liked. I easily rambled off a few things that have been bugging me and led me to schedule the appointment. And then, because I’d been prompted and realized I hadn’t addressed her second question, I quickly added that “I’ve always liked my eyebrows.” The derm first validated that I have great brows, and went on to say that I had really nice high cheekbones. She held the mirror and traced the outline of my face with her pen in the reflection to demonstrate my strong jawline and her comment… Y’all… I bit my lip… and started crying. (My version of walking into traffic. Yeah. It’s exactly the phenomenon AmyShumer was trying to capture in this clip. I simply could not deal with another woman pointing out something about me that might be beautiful. My reaction made me very sad of course. But also reminds me, not only of the need to be kinder to ourselves but also that one of the ways to facilitate that kindness, is to see ourselves through others’ eyes. And we,as others, can foster that vision by sharing what we find beautiful in our friends.

    • Suzieq says...

      I like that I have always felt competent to do anything that I want to do. If I have a dream or goal, I know that it is within my capacity to achieve it, whatever “it” is.

      I am a good friend, a caring mother, loyal, honest, ethical, moral.

      I like that I have had many crazy, profound, woowoo spiritual experiences worthy of a monk in my life as a suburban mom.

  11. SD says...

    I started liking myself for the first time about a year ago, and it has been so freeing and wonderful. I like that I am stubborn and fiercely loyal. I like that I am “damn tough” (in the words of my therapist) and have survived some hard stuff rather than being crushed by it. I like that I am deeply and fully loved by God. I like that I am a baby whisperer extraordinaire. I like my dry, sometimes dark, sense of humor. I like my curly hair that I finally was brave enough to cut into a pixie. Perhaps most of all, I like that liking myself gives me the freedom to not be so self-conscious, and just to love living and enjoy others!

  12. Elizabeth says...

    I like that I’m handy, and can mend my clothes. I like that I will try just about anything, and that failure doesn’t deter me from trying things (even if it scares me). I like that my brain can pick out patterns, and that the things I like most in life are the everyday feelings–the squidge of bread dough, watering my garden barefoot, the warm sudsy feeling of dishwater. I like that my body is soft, and feels gentle to be in, and that I tend to hang on to my belongings for a long time. I like that I found the confidence to choose my own ‘success’ even if it doesn’t look glamorous, and doesn’t pay me a lot of money.

  13. Jo says...

    I’m really f**king amazing at parallel parking

    • Yes! And thank you for making me laugh out loud on a grey Saturday afternoon in London!

    • Lynda says...

      So jealous……..lol

  14. Hannah B says...

    I read the comment in the Weekend post and had to come contribute b/c I readily identify with her. I’m 36…I have a great job where I have the opportunity to lead and develop other leaders daily (my gifting), I get to wear jeans EVERY DAY (except Sunday and that’s a choice I make), and my hair is purple. And icing on the cake – I have two amazing kids and a wonderful husband. It’s like all my dreams have come true. Well, except for becoming White House Chief of Staff, and I’m working on that!

  15. Yulia says...

    I have a quiet but powerful charisma. It doesn’t knock you over the head, but once you have a taste it blooms and flowers and grows. I can always find true blue friends, besotted dates, people to eat with when I’m dining alone, favors no one asks me to repay, and generosity of time and spirit from strangers anytime I want, just by turning on my charisma. I try to be careful how I use it, only doing or saying what feels genuine and not just what feels easy. I don’t want to manipulate people.

  16. Camilla says...

    I am kind to people and make them feel good about themselves. It’s easy for me to compliment a shop assistant or a co-worker and I’d like to make the world a better place by just being kind. I am not taking any shit either, so that’s another thing about me I like. I have two great kids and a great husband and together the four of us are a strong force! I am longing for loving and supporting grandparents, unfortunately ours are a waste of space most of the time… oh well! C’est la vie, can’t have everything!

  17. Carol says...

    I like how I carry myself with confidence, honesty, and respect. It has taken dark seasons of self-loathing and depression to get to this point but I’m here embracing myself in the minute details of my day. I am thankful to be aware that nothing is guaranteed in life- that death can come at any time so I can squeeze in as much joy into my life each moment I get to live!

    What a process it has been for me and I am so incredibly proud of how I have overcome the pain, grief, and struggles of this beautiful yet broken life.

  18. Rosalie Barlow says...

    I work in a field that requires empathy and caring. I can listen without passing judgement, I can put myself in someone elses shoes and let people be themselves. I feel like I’m good at that.

    • Rachel Adrianna says...

      That’s so wonderful to both know about yourself in relation to your field, and to be proud of!

    • Charlie says...

      That’s an amazing skill! one few have, and is so powerful and healing for all of us. Thank you!

  19. Heather Sabharwal says...

    I love reading all of these traits about people – and even better that it’s coming FROM the ones that own and honor said traits. I want to hang out with all of you…which is why I come to Cup of Jo daily. We need more of this positive. As for my trait, I find fun in most anything. Why do things if it’s a sad struggle? And if it’s a sad struggle that can’t be turned around in pretty short order, I don’t do it. Find the fun, find the joy or move on…that’s me!

    • Rachel Adrianna says...

      I feel the same way- so well put Heather!

    • Rachel Adrianna says...

      So well put Heather! I agree :)

  20. Sasha L says...

    I’m always trying to do/be better.

  21. Sonja says...

    I am deeply empathetic but I take zero shit. I like that I can walk that line.

    • Mel says...

      Teach me your ways! :) Also, so delighted for you :)

    • Susannah says...

      This is my mother in law too! We all love her so much and feel so loved by her. She’s everyone’s ally and so caring. But as part of a family game recently we had to each write something that we were secretly scared of. Someone wrote “grandma” and we couldn’t guess who since it could have been any of us! :) Don’t f with grandma

  22. Martha Patterson says...

    I like that I am able to find fun things to do, wherever I am at. It am traveling to a place for business, I’ll go online to find restaurants to check out, museums, craft fairs, wineries, glass blowing studios. I figure if I’m someplace news, I may as well enjoy it, right?

  23. Vic says...

    I like that I learn things pretty fast, that I rarely give up and that I try to look at things with a positive perspective. And that I always try to improve, myself or whatever I’m doing.

  24. Tracy says...

    I’ve been beating myself up about everything lately (is that what happens when you become a mother of a three year old?), but I am just going to put this out there: I’m a very intelligent, creative and kind person! And I really like all those things about myself. Goodness, why does it feel so weird to put that in the universe instead of keeping it a secret? Thanks Cup of Jo.

  25. Nicole A. says...

    I talk very fast. It’s one, if not the first, thing that people notice about me. I used to not notice it, but as I’ve gotten older, people inform me about it more openly and frequently. One of my friends says she gives a head’s up to people before she introduces me to them. Haha. I’ve had two men ask me on first dates if I have ADHD! (I’ve been tested as an adult, and no, I am just “quirky” as my doctor says). I embrace it now, since it is something I have a hard time altering about myself. I work non-client facing, for example, because I know the speed I talk at could perplex or confuse clients. My speed and efficiency, however, makes me perfect for my behind the scenes role in Payroll!

    • Anon says...

      Actually, you are probably highly intelligent and process your thoughts very quickly.

  26. Meg says...

    -I have great hair
    -I’m good at my job, and it’s a job that a lot of people would find challenging. I am proud that I took a risk to change career paths a few years after grad school, once I realized my Plan A wasn’t a good fit for me
    -I make and keep friends easily. I put in the work to maintain friendships (text people to see how they’re doing, remember birthdays, etc)
    -I really have my life together and I’m proud of that. I do all the stuff you’re ‘supposed’ to do (exercise, drink water, save money, floss, eat greens etc) not out of obligation but because I view it as taking care of myself and my life long term and I;m proud of my ability to do that without struggle
    -My mom recently called me ‘scrappy’ and I like that. I just figure shit out and make it work.
    -I’ve been in therapy for the last year and have explored some stuff that was hugely outside my comfort zone and I really like that I’ve been more open recently to new internal and external experiences and the ability to be vulnerable.

    :)

    • Tash says...

      I’m in awe of your ability to make and keep friends and I love this beautiful list. Sometimes, to make sure I see my accomplishments, I post lists like this near a mirror in my home for a few days. It’s not vanity. It’s essential self-adoration and we are worthy.

  27. sarah l. says...

    I think I’m a good listener and can create safety by being present in a relationship/conversation. sometimes I am surprised how disarmed even strangers can be with me. I honour that.

  28. celeste says...

    I can hear the opening notes of a song and know name and artist. I knew my limits and wasn’t afraid to make a change. In recent years I’ve been able to let go negative mother-in-law comments and just accept we are polar-opposite people. Of course she’s going to direct a different way – that’s how she sees the world.

    • Mal says...

      Love your comment about your mother-in-law. My mother-in-law outlook is more like elderly Katherine Hepburn’s bootstrap mentality and mine is more like Audrey Hepburn’s “Be kind to everyone”mentality. For instance, we have an elderly dog who needs a ton of medication but who still wakes up happy in the morning. Hubby and I would like to go away this summer for a few weeks but very hard to find someone to take care of our elderly dog. When we told her about our dilemma, she replied ” Put him to sleep!”. So yes…your words above are so true and I will take them to heart.

  29. alexis says...

    My 3.75-year old was in a mood yesterday morning and complaining at me “Mommy doesn’t know anything!” Yes I do, I said, I know a lot of things, and I’m always learning more. I’m smart, and I like that about me. She perked right up and I realized – while I’ve made sure to never disparage my looks in front of her, I don’t really give myself compliments either. It felt weird saying it out loud, and I think she recognized it as unusual too, but in a positive way, if that makes sense? Anyway, I think I am smart, and always learning more, and I like that about me!

    • Barbara says...

      This happened to me too! I was complimenting myself in front of my 6 year old and 3 year old. I said something like “Oh, I love my legs! They are so long, and so strong and I can chase you forever with them!” and they giggled and smiled and I realized instantly why. So then, they said stuff about themselves they love: “My arms!! I hang on monkey bars!” “My cheeks…they are so soft when I pet them!”

  30. Hali says...

    I love my resistance to my family’s dysfunction. I love how easy it is for me to identify something (no matter how tangible) as unhealthy or inappropriate and how natural it is for me to reject it. I’ve had this talent since I was really young and it’s cost me my relationship with my dear grandmother, who besides her innate knack for dysfunction was a wonderful woman, caused damage in my relationship to my incredible mom, and sent me in a few existential benders in crucial developing years. But now that I’m old enough to independently seek professional guidance and have learned to stand my ground like an adult, I know I’m a little more respected for the lines I’ve drawn around me.

  31. Holly says...

    I always feel more comfortable around someone when they let a good F bomb slip out. This is awesome, go you!

  32. Emerald says...

    I love my sense of curiosity. After all these years I still hold a sense of wonder and excitement about our world and the people and creatures that inhabit it. When I’m feeling like it’s all too much (my life, the health of the planet, the divisive politics) I try to tap into that sense of wonder by reading a science article about a new discovery or looking at pictures taken by our modern day explorers.

    Some people call me naive. I know that terrible things happen all the time. I’m not blind or numb or in denial. I just choose to keep that playful, innocent, curious part of myself protected and nourished.

    • Elina says...

      I’m in college still and I took an environmental anthropology class last quarter filled with all the awful things happening to our planet… but approached with a sense of curiosity. Our professor called it “wonder in the midst of dread”. I think it’s a helpful and beautiful way to see the world!

  33. Fernanda Abreu says...

    For the first time in my life I am proud of myself. Fully. Without any excuses. I am 35 years old, I have a PhD, I am a lawyer and a mother. Married for 13 years, daughter of a judge and a deputy. And I suffer from anxiety, depression and ADHD. I love cartoons and have piercings and tattoos. I read philosophy, but I like to read about silly things. I wear the clothes I want, without worrying about social conventions. I have never felt so beautiful, enlightened and happy. And there are days that suck. But I fully accept myself, the good, the bad and the ugly. To be the best example for my 2 year old daughter: that she is her. And this is beautiful. And more than enough.

  34. Christie says...

    Love this! Everyone has such beautiful responses.

    I love that I am an innovator, and that I am stubborn in my big ideas. Friends and family have learned that I may smile and nod (or roll my eyes) at people trying to change me, but will not sway the course of long term goals or ideas.

  35. Imelda says...

    I love that I can easily laugh for the simplest things.

  36. Gabriela says...

    I’m very intuitive and tuned-in to how other people are feeling. For example, I told a friend of mine that she was going to end up with a guy we both knew a whole year before they actually started going out. Now they live together, ha! I’ve also known that a friend was having an affair before she told me, and it actually helped her open up about it, because as she was nervously trying to tell me, I said “It’s ok. I know what you’re going to tell me and I’m not judging you.” It made her feel safe and she was able to talk about it.

  37. Annie says...

    I like that I have a talent for art and an appreciation for how everday things look. I like that I can tell a good story that draws people in. And I like how comfortable I am in my own company.

  38. I tell really good stories, even if my husband says I embellish them (which I do, because why not?).
    I recently discovered that I think in images, and my brain connects things together all at once, kind of like a detective’s collage with red string. It feels like a super power; I often just know things, without necessarily knowing how I know it. I thought everyone thought that way.

    • Sonja says...

      Bay! I was going to write basically exactly this and I like that I too have a unicorn brain. Just today, I described my brain as constantly rotating prism that just shows me stuff. The connections I can make surprise even me!

  39. jules says...

    I remember nearly all conversations I have with people, friends and strangers, where we were and what we talked about. I also am really good at making spaces feel homey.

  40. Tabby says...

    The woman in that first photo is so beautiful, I just needed to say.

    I’m really observant about the people I’m with and my environment. I notice how someone makes their own coffee so I know how to do so in the future. I see the minute expression change when a throwaway comment from someone hurts another. I notice the way the light comes through the window at a specific time of day and highlights the most beautiful grain of wood on a door. I notice the beautiful shade of pink on the tip of a spring bud. How my mum touches her wedding ring with the tip of her thumb when making decisions.

    I’ve always been called quiet and shy, yet this never sat with the idea I had of myself. As an adult I now realise I maybe just live inside my own head more than others do. I like this about myself. I see things others seems to miss. It feels like I have this beautiful, secret world that others don’t notice.

    • Lisa says...

      This is a gorgeous comment. How lucky to live like this.

    • Tabby

      You sound very familiar to me. I am HSP (Highly sensitive person) and your description of yourself makes complete sense. I feel what hurts someone else, discern the emotion in the room and love alone time.

      There’s a lot more to HSP and while it can seem strange to others….it is a gift.

    • Tabby says...

      Thank you Wanda for introducing me to the concept of HSP, I’ve never heard of this before. I’ve just started some reading on it and there’s a lot there I identify with. This part of myself looks like it’ll make a lot more sense to me now, and instead of just me in this secret world, I have a lot of kinsfolk :)

  41. Lulu says...

    I love these things about me:

    I am super organised.
    I am very curious about the world and find joy in very random things.
    I try really hard to do my best – most of the time.
    I have a wicked sense of humour.
    I am comfortable in my own skin ( and with my greying hair).
    I have great eyebrows.
    I can laugh at myself and my mistakes.

    Sending you love my dear fellow reader.

    Lulu x

  42. Aimee says...

    I am a strong, smart, and have a big heart. I really know how to relax and have a laugh. I’m always including others. ❤️

  43. Kay says...

    I am extremely well organised in life and I also bake the best cakes. x

  44. Noelle says...

    I like that I’m patient and calm yet empathic and kind. My chaotic family used to think that I am uninterested or distant when I don’t get involved in all the gossip, fights and drama. But I believe it is my strength to not participate and thus offer a listening and non judgemental ear and heart. It makes me good mediator.

    I like that I can cook really well and show the people through this how much I care for them. I like that I am a good host and will always be happy to welcome people to my home.

    I like that I am working on myself and started to recognise my value and that I am good just the way I am. And how ever since so many good things have happened to me.

    I like that I am a really fast reader and someone who loves books.

    I like that I have an optimistic outlook on life.

    I am really proud of how I managed to form my life with work and education and always being independet.

    And I like that when the moment came I was -despite being fearful and cautious- able to open up and let that person in and found someone to share my life with who makes it all so complete and even more worthwhile.

    I like that when thinking about it there is so much about me that I like!

  45. Olivia says...

    Ok, maybe this is a little off topic, but I love this about myself: after giving birth to my second son, I realized that I have grown two penises. That’s twice as many penises as any man on earth has. And yet, there is debate about whether a woman can be president just because she is not a man. Don’t they get it? WE MADE ALL THE PENISES! I know that sex differences appear in the brain as well, but guess what: we make the brains, too. If I accept my colleagues’ sexist logic, having grown two penises–mostly in my sleep– does this make me twice as powerful as any man? This thought has been so amusing and liberating for me, especially as a woman who faces sexism daily in a STEM environment.

    • Sally says...

      Haha, this mother of two boys loves your perspective:)

    • K says...

      hahaha I LOVE THIS!

    • Julie says...

      I love this!

  46. Federica says...

    Love this post! Thank you for this beautiful community of women:)
    I love that I am kind to others, I am a nice person to be around and that I am naturally good with kids (despite not having any – yet).
    I love that I have great memory for the most random things: song lirycs, book titles or details about people I have only met once a long time ago.

  47. Galia says...

    You go, Gwen!!

  48. Cleo says...

    What I like most about myself at the moment is not a specific trait or a part of my appearance, but a behavior I only recently started to notice in myself, and which still feels like a mind-blowing revelation to me: I can be just as good a friend to myself as I am to others.

    Last weekend I was riding my bike home after a particularly heartbreaking event. Sadness suddenly really struck me as I was working the pedals against the headwind. But instead of toughening up or getting frustrated, which I would usually do, I put the palm of my hand over my heart and said: it’s ok, you can break, I am here to catch every single piece of you.

    To others I am a warm, loyal and loving person. An empathic, patient and non-judgmental listener who you can call up in the middle of the night in times of need, even if it’s 20 nights in a row. These are all traits I am proud of, but until recently it weirdly enough never occurred to me that I could show that same kind of kindness to myself. Realizing that is what I like most about myself right now, because it is paving the way for so much more (well-deserved) self-likes & love.

    • Jill says...

      Absolutely love your reply. And the message to your heart truly hit my own. XO

  49. Sarah says...

    More often than not, I make it all the way through a Costco sized container of broccoli, cauliflower, mixed greens, you name it. I spend a lot of time in that kitchen but I’ll be darned if we don’t reach that riboflavin quota almost every day. Ellen Degeneres and my family, loaded up on riboflavin.

  50. Ana says...

    I face life with a smile. And I am a good mum, I am proud of it.

  51. Kimberley says...

    I remember reading this the first time around and someone saying she was good at folding fitted sheets. I was in awe. I have thought about her every time I folded my fitted sheets since, and very recently may have cracked it myself! The pride!

    I also love how organised I am. And how deep (give me goals and dreams over weather any day!).

  52. Maria says...

    I laugh a lot and people like my laugh, it makes them comfortable

  53. Martini says...

    ThankyouGod, my sense of humor. I’m a hoot. My whole family was funny, parents and siblings all. It’s a priceless gift that I never take for granted.

  54. Lauren Carter says...

    I like that I love sleeping with my dog in my bed, want wildflowers all over my house (including wallpaper), adore teaching kindergarten and kissing my own babies all the more, am a loyal friend, and am sometimes too passionate for my own good.

  55. Margaret says...

    I am very thoughtful – especially with family members I’m really good at noticing what people may be in need of.
    With my children I am really good at accepting the chaos of having kids help with adult jobs. It brings me lots of joy to teach my 2 little boys new things

  56. L says...

    I like that I am clever – something my grandpa has pointed out about me in the past and that I’ve recently come to own.

  57. Lisa says...

    I like my crooked teeth, because they are crooked in the exact same way for nearly everyone on my dad’s side of the family.

    Most of my family have gotten braces to correct it, but I’ve never been self-conscious about open-mouthed smiling despite their “imperfection”. Now that most of my cousins have children, it has been fun for me to see which of them have developed “our” kind of crooked teeth too—the torch is being carried by the next generation, and that is strangely heartwarming.

  58. Lisa says...

    I do not tolerate bullshit. I love that about myself, make no apologies for it, and love the same when I see it in others.

  59. Claire says...

    I’m dependable: someone you can count on and loyal to the end. I take care of the people I care about. Sometimes a little too much (to the point where I get hurt), but if a relationship doesn’t work out in the end, I always feel ok knowing that I did everything I could. I’m proud of my friendships with my two closest friends: they both love in different cities and yet we’re still close.

    I’m a good baker. I like to take recipes and make them a little bit healthier. I swap out ingredients, add spices, and make different versions that are better than the original. I had these amazing lemon coconut scones at a tea shop and was heartbroken when they stopped selling them, so I made my own recipe.

    I love traveling on my own. It’s fun to get a little bit lost and discover something new, then feel empowered when I find my way again in a new place.

    I like my eyes that have gotten greener over the years. When I’m sad, have cried a bit and then look into the mirror, my eyes are even greener and I think they’re pretty.

    I’m a good photographer. I think I have a good eye for what looks nice and how to compose a picture that will look good.

    I’m great at my job. I run an elementary tutoring program to support students reading below grade level. My 52 students and 75 tutors count on me and I love that I know something special about each of them as individuals.

  60. J. says...

    I love that everything I love about myself I at one time hated. Opinions too strong, brain speeding along too fast, sensitivity too high, feelings too intense, reactions too quick, hips too curvy, soul too prismatic, laugh too loud, love for the world and people in it too immense, eyes too quick to notice those on the edges and what could be better, heart too soft, will to make everyone feel that they belong and are loved too strong. It reminds me of a poem by the brilliant Nayyirah Waheed (who I discovered on this very blog on a day when I needed it more than anything!):

    “what about this theory. the fear of
    not being enough. and the fear of being
    ‘too much’ are exactly the same fear.
    the fear of being you.”

    What a joy to see so many in these comments burst free in being exactly, beautifully, perfectly themselves.

  61. Sita says...

    Amazing comments, I have to chime in, what a great exercise for women! I love that I’m a fucking great skier. I can out ski most men (although not my hubby) and women. And despite my best efforts to stay humble, I eventually just have to blow by and meet them at the bottom. It’s just a moment of competitive play, that still gives me that childhood zing! Yah… still got it!

  62. Candice says...

    In a job interview recently I was asked about my past work but also my interests and hobbies. Suddenly I realized that I’d become the person I always wanted to be! That’s definitely my favorite thing about myself!

  63. Gwen says...

    I am an excellent mom.
    There I said it! I move heaven and earth to protect and love my boys and I am utterly exhausted every night.
    I am good at being their mom. Never said it out loud but here it is!!

  64. A says...

    I like that I’m an assertive woman and an easy laugh :)

    • H says...

      The other day I told my husband, “I actually DO like myself!” And I love that I like myself. I’m really witty and funny, and I love making people laugh. I’m a good conversationalist (I love asking people questions!), and I love that I’m always trying to improve myself and be self-aware. :)

  65. Alice says...

    I love that I’m very spontaneous about traveling, whether it’s a road trip or half way across the world. I also love the fact that I’m quite good at photography, but I couldn’t stand being in front of the cameras ’cause it makes me feel extremely awkward!

  66. Jordan says...

    I’m and only child, and I hatttted it growing up. I played with dolls, begged (my single mom) for siblings, had imaginary friends, talked to myself, anything to keep myself company. I always said, I’d never just have one child because it was so terrible. It wasn’t until my late 20’s that I realized so many of the things I admire about myself were influenced by being an only child. I’m independent, confident, never turn down the chance to make a new friend, and really enjoy my own company. Now, I’d feel excited to raise an only child and help them find their own unique strengths.

  67. Emy says...

    I like that the women who compliment me on my shoes and clothes are generally over 60. This has been true since my mid-20s. Now that I’m 44, more of my contemporaries are also noticing my choices as comfort and efficiency start to matter, especially after children!

  68. Leah says...

    I’m super proud that …. i am a mom AND YET it doesn’t even remotely define me and it’s not really that big of a deal to me… basically, I’m proud that i’m WAY prouder of ALL THE OTHER SHIT I DO WELL.

    Like… being a professor, being a published writer, teaching fucking awesome classes, mentoring young women, being an artist on the side, running for fun and also super fast, playing music, cooking delicious meals, and OH I’m also super proud that I live in a sad cultural desert (the Twin Cities, Minnesota) and I work hard NOT to lose my fucking mind and faith in humanity every day I live here. :D

    • Eva says...

      Are the twin cities that bad??

    • Scarlett says...

      Leah, you rock and you sound like you just have It Figured Out. Teach me your ways!

    • Sasha says...

      You just made me so happy with this one. Thank you, you total badass!

    • Um, you sound amazing and I want to be your friend

    • Amy says...

      The Twin Cities are a “sad cultural desert”? Really? Could be wayyyy worse.

    • Mel says...

      I feel ya re Minnesota, it’s so hard to have a big spirit and try to find a community when the culture is dull, chilly, closed off. All the houses are beige because nobody wants to stand out! My friend came to visit me because I was so lonely and she said “people’s eyes don’t sparkle here” and I was like YES GIRL, that is it EXACTLY.

    • Becca says...

      Oh no! I am also a professor and loved living in the Twin Cities. I’ve lived all over the world and still think Minneapolis is my favorite city! The art scene and local music scene are amazing and such good restaurants and bars. Dude, Lizzo and Prince launched their music careers there! Plus all the outdoor winter festivals to get through the coldest months. I hope you find better community, because trust me there is a ton of vibrant culture there.

  69. Sarah says...

    I love how stubborn I am. For a very long time, others (and because of them myself as well) thought I was too stubborn but now it makes me a very empathetic person because I can often sympathize when someone gets stuck. I’m graduating from college and next year I’ll be a teacher– I think it will come in very handy. :)

    • Cherie says...

      I wouldn’t say it’s my best quality by far … but I am a really fast runner ha ha … always have been, ‘runs’ in the family … and I just love love love seeing the looks on the faces of the thirty something lads at my cross fit gym when they realise they can’t outrun a forty-five year old mumma ha ha so fun

  70. I like how I find beauty in the the most simple of everyday moments/snapshots that make up this life – the golden hour light filtered through the trees, creating a transient mural on our patio wall; the season’s first wildflowers peeking through the crevices during my canyon hike, a subtle sign of spring; the warmth suddenly transferred to my hands as my husband holds them in his.

    I believe it’s this appreciation that allows me to celebrate each new day, good or bad, because there’s always something beautiful to acknowledge. And I really like that :)

    • Alix says...

      This is so lovely, Erica!

    • Galia says...

      That’s beautiful, Erica. Inspiring! I hope I can remind myself to think that way even on bad days. Thank you.

  71. Julee says...

    I’m efficient- ruthlessly efficient.
    This is something I’m secretly proud of.
    Being musical, loving, and kind to children are other (not so secret) things I like about myself.

  72. Ashley says...

    I like my green eyes and, if I’m honest with myself, I like that I’m a sensitive person. For years, I thought my sensitive nature was bad for my career. As I’ve gotten older and better at not letting my feelings control my actions, I’ve concluded that being sensitive is really another way to describe a perceptive person. And for me, being sensitive means I feel really connected to everything and everyone I engage with.

    • Gabriela says...

      Are we twins? I’m another green-eyed sensitive person haha :)

  73. Mouse says...

    I like my ability to see what is special or unique about other people. I also like the possibly related talent for allowing people to find their own way.

  74. What a great set of comments! I like that I found this community. I like the fact that I raised a kind son, one who isn’t afraid to say “I love you mama” when he texts or calls. He’s 20 and I am proud of him. I like that I am a hard worker, a good writer, a great public speaker, and that I make an effort to be kind.

  75. Liz says...

    I like my hair and I am good at making it into easy waves. It voluminous and if I blow dry it and curl it, it will look good for 3 solid days!

    I also like that I try to grow. I am not always good at it and sometime I run away from the hard things in life for awhile. But ultimately I want to be better and try harder and understand more and I am proud of all the hard scary steps I have taken to do that.

  76. Harmony says...

    I love this! Reading everyone’s entries just makes me feel very warm!

    Guess for me, the thing that comes to mind is how much I love finding beauty and enjoying simple things. This weekend, I discovered pomelos at our local farmer’s market and sharing them with my husband and toddler son while we sat in the sunshine made for such a beautiful moment and set such a nice tone for the rest of the day. And secondly, how I am scared of most everything and a pretty anxious person, but I still push myself to do things, like moving to Japan by myself :)

  77. Lee says...

    I take pride in my ability to make things. Using my hands to bring something that previously only existed in my imagination to life has always felt natural and powerful. I like this about myself.

  78. bethany says...

    I like that I’m creative, and that my first instinct is always to take something and make it beautiful. It’s what makes me a good writer, a good painter, a good cook, a good homemaker, and I think it’s what makes me a good friend/wife/sister/daughter–I like to show my love by making them a delicious meal, or making/giving a thoughtful gift, or cozying up my space to make them feel at home.

  79. Meredith says...

    I like that I can wear a polished pencil skirt outfit or crocs with giant wool socks with the same confidence (just not at the same time!)

    I like that I cannot resist catching toads/lizards/crickets when I see them. . .

    I like that I can laugh at myself (like last night when I had to walk across the grocery store parking lot with one thigh-high stocking sliding down my leg and puddling around my ankle, lol!)

  80. Meghan says...

    Thank you for this post–it feels really good to acknowledge things that we like about ourselves.

    I don’t give up easily.
    I take good care of my body.
    I’m a very good writer and editor.
    I have really great hair.
    I keep the cleanest house of anyone I have ever met. :-)

  81. Alexandra says...

    I like that I am six foot tall (it’s taken me many years to like that). I like that I am adventurous and that I can be totally happy for other peoples’ adventures, like I love it when my friends post photos from cool vacations or are renovating their home or whatever; I am not jealous, I rather enjoy when my friends and family are having a good time. I like that even tiny things can make me happy, for example the first daffodils peeking out of the ground or the fact that my orchid has a new leaf, or a hike in a newly discovered park. I love that I have a good relationship with my teenager. I love that I am good with languages and that I win most Scrabble games against my husband (a writer) even though English is not my first language. I love that I am a total word geek and sometimes read the dictionary for fun. This is such a positive post, I never thought I could list so many things I love about myself, because I am rather critical about myself an my skills. But I notice I could keep going …. I think I love that I am almost 50, because that’s where that confidence comes from. Thanks for a great post, and thanks to all the other ladies with their self love. So much fun to read, made my afternoon!

  82. Daniela says...

    I like how excited I get about things.

  83. Elle says...

    I love that i’m the most optimistic person on earth!
    I’m really good at organizing trips and finding the perfects spots and activities. I’m great at finding the right gifts and I have incredible parking karma!

  84. Jennifer S. says...

    I like myself so much better after 40 – I like my dedication to my family, home, animals, and job. I love my post-hysterectomy body – not thin and stylish, but strong, flexible, and energetic. I got my first dog at 39, and I am a kinder, happier person for it – as they saying goes, “I try to be the person my dog thinks I am.”

  85. Grace says...

    I like that I can feel nuanced emotions deeply and intensly. As a woman especially I find that there was a lot of pressure growing up to not be too sensitive or “hysterical”, to give privilege to logic and hide emotions. I know that men often feel this way, but I think that in the race for equality at some point women were (mistakenly) tempted to embrace all things male and reject all things female…
    The brightness and intensity of my emotions used to scare me and for years I thought it was a weakness but now I’ve learned to embrace it rather than “fix” it – life is much more colorful this way !

  86. Emma says...

    Given what life has dealt me I am proud to have survived and still being grateful and loving life at my age, 76!

  87. jane says...

    So glad I was taught very early, as a tween, to accept a compliment with a gracious thank you every time instead of denying the giver their gift of appreciation – which is actually rude. That’s one trait I like about myself.

    Amy Schumer is so good at shining a much needed mirror on literally crazy behavior.

  88. Christine says...

    I love my intellect and sense of humor and how much I know about history

    And I’m proud of myself for the hardest things I’ve ever done which is being in recovery from alcoholism, addiction and every eating disorder known to humanity

    • Yulia says...

      I am amazed and awed by you, Christine. <3

  89. Eli says...

    I like that I am strong and muscular. I like that I am extremely observant. I like that I am not afraid to age, that I embrace getting older, and look forward to the future. I have great legs and full lips. I look fantastic in red.

  90. Cassidy says...

    I like how much I love books and words and how passionate I am about them, how I tear up when I walk in a Barnes & Noble, how I traveled to Dublin a second time while I studied abroad just to go into all the bookstores I didn’t the first time.
    I like how emotional I am — sometimes it can go to extremes, but I think it makes me more empathetic.
    I like that my veins are so blue and my skin so pale that you can see them all running across my chest and to my heart. I used to be a little freaked out by it, but then my best friend told me that it made me loo “beautifully human” and I’ve loved it ever since.
    I like that I try. I’ve given up on a lot of things in my life, lots of hobbies and sports and things that I didn’t think I was good enough at, but when it comes to things that are important, I will try and try and try. I care so much.
    And I’m proud that this year my Creative Writing professor told me that I was a keen observer of people and that if I want to call myself a writer, I can. That might be one of the things I’m most proud of right now.

    • Rusty says...

      That’s where the name “blue bloods” came from. Think rotalty! 😉

  91. alice says...

    I can make people feel at ease: I’m friendly, a good watcher/listener, and have lived/worked alongside all sorts of folk.
    I like that I’m loyal.
    I am stubbornly committed: if I say I’ll mop the floor/do yoga every day/write a book/move country, then I do it. As best I can.
    Cats and dogs and babies love me (my own in included!). I’ve no idea why but I love that about myself!

  92. Ivy says...

    Fun!

    – I like that I can find the optimism in most every situation
    – I like my curly hair
    – I like that I can’t NOT chair dance when a good song comes on (even in front of my students… in public.. anywhere!)

  93. sarah says...

    I like that I’m funny and nurturing and loyal.

  94. Lauren E. says...

    Thank you, therapy, for helping me feel comfortable actually answering this question! I am very loyal. And I am really proud of that.

  95. Emily says...

    I love this question. The older I get the more I lean into what I like about myself with such pride. I’m a good mom. I’m so proud of this because I’ve worked really hard to repair much of my own childhood through mothering. I try to be the kind of mom I yearned for as a kid and I think I’m doing pretty well. I’m a good friend and I make friends easily and easily remember little details about their lives. Little kids like me, they always have. I’ve always loved that about myself.

    I’m optimistic. I am often overcome with gratitude or happiness for the simplest things-a sunrise, a dog I pass on my walk to work, or a smile from a stranger.

    I can talk with anyone and draw them out. I’m extremely curious-which people often have teased me about (some in a not so nice way) and I love this about myself. It keeps me learning and engaged. I hope I never lose my curiosity. I’m a famous question asker and while this makes some people uncomfortable, it endears me to most and I think is the reason I so easily make friends.

    Thanks for this-it’s reminding me to stop and remember what I like about me. xo

  96. Christine says...

    I don’t like myself, never have… That said – WOW! I am reading these comments and say hey! Yeah! I like that about me too! I read fast and voraciously, I love to cook, I am a self-taught silversmith, I am a good shoulder to cry on and willing to celebrate your joy! Who cares about what I don’t like about me? It’s a long list – but Thank Goodness for this repost today! Now I know, there are things about me that I like! Thank you!

  97. Jill says...

    Honestly, the number one thing I like most about myself now is that I’m finally comfortable in my own skin, happy even, even though I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life.. Despite the fact that I’ve put on 20kg (50 pounds!!) since I got married nearly 10 years ago and am no longer as svelte as I used to be, I am thankful I’m no longer the painfully shy and insecure girl who in her 20s (and at her skinniest) honestly believed that she was undeserving of love and approval if the number on the bathroom scale didn’t correspond to some arbitrary number, if the clothes in the closet weren’t all a size S, and if she didn’t look good in a swimsuit or in a photo.

    I’ve finally realized that no matter what my size, I can and do still look good, because I know what works and doesn’t work on my body, and it’s entirely up to me how much effort I want to put into my appearance, and that other people’s opinions matter not one jot in my hard-won self-acceptance.

    It took me a long time to get here, but I’ve finally truly accepted that the only person who needs to be happy with the way I look is me. Not my weight-obsessed siblings who constantly make cutting comments about my now fat body, not my friends who knew me as the awkward ugly duckling in school, and not even my husband although he swears up and down he loves me the way I am. Not really sure when I had this epiphany but it was so liberating that I never want to go back to my miserable, calorie-counting thinner self.

    Just realized this makes me sound extremely shallow and looks-obsessed myself, ha!

    Personality-wise, I like that I’m kind, compassionate, smart, creative and, once u get to know me, really hilarious, with a very strong sense of right and wrong, and as such I always strive to do the right thing. I’m a libra, what can I say? I’ve always felt things deeply, and was always labeled overly sensitive, but now I see that it was really a blessing in disguise because it’s definitely made me more empathetic and an excellent listener.

    Oh and I like that I have a knack for baking! I’m not super fantastic or anything but I can just throw things together and make something yummy without too much effort. Once I messed up the amount of liquids I was supposed to put into a baked good because I’d wrongly converted the amount called for in the recipe, but I just adjusted the dry ingredients on the fly and hoped for the best and boom, it still turned out great!

    At work, I like that I’m conscientious and detail-oriented, a problem-solver, and that I take pride in my work. Also, I’m a great employee because not only do I make sure to do the job at hand to the very best of my ability, I’m also constantly thinking about ways to improve the workflow and to come up with a better end product. However this consistency can and does get taken for granted. I’ve learned that it’s ok, important even, to cut myself some slack sometimes if only so it means I can go home at a decent hour.

    Loved all the other comments here! We women sometimes fold into ourselves so much for fear of “taking up space” or to appear modest that their accomplishments go unacknowledged, and that’s a pity.

  98. Ashley says...

    I like that I am totally comfortable being by myself. I love hanging out with friends, but I also feel 100% comfortable going to a movie or an event on my own. Also I love my unique eyes. I have never met anyone with the same eye colour as me.

  99. jdp says...

    i like that i was raised by my dad instead of my mom, and everything that did to help my vision of the world.

  100. Betsy says...

    I love my big blue almond shaped eyes. I really hated them as a child. If my brother wanted to get a rise out of me, he knew to call me big eyes Betsy. They were big, and I was not big headed at all. So I look at pictures as a baby through about age 7-8, and I look like I have bug eyes sticking out of my head. But I did grow into them, and I get compliments all the time.

    • Angela says...

      My little sister got called “bug eyes” all the time by people trying to hurt her feelings. I never understood because she too has the most beautiful blue eyes. Definitely a head scratcher!

  101. Meredith says...

    I like that I’m approachable/unintimidating—I get asked to give directions or take photos of others frequently. (My personal record is 7 times while touring Alcatraz!) I’m just the person who looks like they’d happily help you out–which I am!

    • Santa says...

      I am a hugger and a listener, I am kind and try to see everything In a positive light. Somehow, through the years I’ve had people in my life who tried to convince me that all the above means I am weak and naive, but I have come to realize they are wrong. I like that I have taught myself to embroider and sew, I like that I can wrap presents like no one else. I also like my sense of humor, which I try to keep a bit private as it is quite dark and sometimes surprisingly stupid. I do like myself, but it has taken time and lots of work with myself. Thank You for this post!

  102. Kara says...

    I am very forgiving. Sometimes people take advantage but I prefer it to holding onto things! I just always give people the benefit of the doubt and think people are basically good.

    • Santa says...

      Yes! This is actually a superpower that makes everything better!

    • Santa says...

      Yes! This is actually a superpower that makes everything better!

  103. Annie says...

    First of all, love this post. We should all compliment ourselves more. One thing I love about myself is that I’m extremely loyal. I’ve never had to try to be loyal to my friends and family. When I was younger, I would simply not participate in negative conversations about people I loved. Now people know me well enough to know not to have those conversations around me because they’re just plain never going to hear me contribute or condone it. Once you’re in with me, you’re in forever. I’ll go to bat for you. Especially with family, there is nothing they could ever do to make me not love them!

  104. Juana Maria says...

    I love that I’m empathetic and very sensitive to others needs. Even if at times it can be a detriment, I’m still proud of it and happy to be a kind person in this crazy world we live in.

  105. Helen says...

    My super power is recognizing anyone’s haircut, even if it’s a trim. My colleague, the coffee guy, crossing guard, anyone! I love how special they feel when someone notices the small stuff.

  106. Danielle says...

    A few years ago a friend of mine told me when she was growing up her father would tell her “When someone gives you a complement you look them straight in the eye and say thank you.” So simple but I wish I had this value instilled when I was younger, and it’s a mantra I repeat to myself now. I’m planning to pass this on to my children, especially my daughter.

  107. T says...

    I’m really good at handy work-give me a hammer and a screwdriver and voila! I like that i’m practical that way.
    Also i really appreciate my body-with all the pregnancies, breastfeedings and then being just ‘my’ body again-different, but still excellent and useful:)
    And as my husband says, i’m never going to grow up completely (and neither will he) and i love this so much!

  108. Louisa says...

    Last time you asked, I said I always ordered dessert.

    But over the past year I started listening to a podcast (Best Known Method) and I’m not cavalier about sugar any more.

    So now what I like about myself: I can change :)

  109. Emma says...

    I love it when you write posts Joanna. Not that your other writers aren’t fantastic, but your voice is so distinctive and warm.

    In terms of what I like about myself, I’m a great cook!

  110. Maryann Moore says...

    I like that I feel comfortable saying fuck in casual interactions and job interviews.

    • Madeleine says...

      I really like that I can hail a taxi/my children/dog from a significant distance with a proper, ear-splitting, two-fingers-in-the-mouth whistle.

    • emily says...

      *clapping emoji*

    • Trish O says...

      you are my people

    • Chloe says...

      This is the greatest. Two thumbs up!

    • I like that too! Swearing is totally underrated.

  111. Katie says...

    Last weekend at a party everyone introduced themselves and added something they are proud of. Omg! I just shrivel up in fear at such a suggestion. I literally could not think of one thing. It was SO embarrassing. Of course, I have been thinking about it ever since. Here’s my redemption opportunity! I’m proud that I sold two paintings for the first time at the age of 36 though my lifelong dream has been to be an artist. I’ve done something brave that I’ve been afraid of forever.

    • Lynn says...

      That’s awesome! What an accomplishment.

    • Rachael says...

      Good for you Katie! That is an amazing accomplishment!

    • jane says...

      Wow! Congratulations! This is my next step and I am terrified!!

    • Lulu says...

      Congratulations Katie,
      That is such a wonderful thing to have achieved. Why does being creative cause such fear?
      I love that you have embraced your life long dream to be an artist. I’m so glad that you’ve conquered that fear.

      Cheers from Lulu XXX

  112. Stephanie E Lawrence says...

    Wait, did I miss it… What do YOU like about yourself Joanna?! I want to know!

    I like that I love to play pretend with my (and others’) kids.
    I like that I know embarrassingly little about popular culture.
    I like how much joy I get from eating cheese.

    • Diana says...

      That second one is pure gold. I so wish I genuinely enjoyed hours and hours of playing pretend. What a gift for those kids in your life.

    • Amanda says...

      I think we could be friends! My go-to around kids is to get on their level and play, which now that I have my own kids, I don’t see that much from grown-ups outside of my family – shocking!

  113. CEW says...

    Yay!! Love posts like these.

    I’m intelligent, a great mom, and I give every day my best shot. I like to laugh things off and I put my loved ones first.

    I spent fifteen years letting undiagnosed and unmedicated bipolar disorder run and ruin my life. ..so I’m very proud of the person I am now. Not perfect, but gosh darn it, *I* like me. :)

    • Lori says...

      I like that people can trust me right off the bat. Many times where I’ve met people that day, or a just few times, they want to share their deepest (sometimes darkest) secrets with me. Of course I’m a good at secret keeping, too! But knowing I can be that person for someone, really leaves me feeling like I’m making a difference even though it’s just lending an ear to listen and a shoulder to lean on.

    • Amanda says...

      Yes, go, you! You sound awesome. My brother is bipolar, and it can be so tough – I really believe the more people talking about it openly, the better it will get. Xx

  114. Florencia says...

    I like that I have strong opinions that I’m not afraid to voice. I also think I’m a really good mom.

  115. J. Elizabeth says...

    My son is 18 months and I can honestly say that being a mother is by far the thing I am best at. That does not mean I don’t make mistakes – I’ve made plenty – but not once have I doubted my ability to empower my son’s infinite spirit to fly.

    • Sita says...

      So beautiful. Good for you!! I’m really focused on being a better mom and more present with my kids, more understanding and patient. Love coming across other women who own this *takent! (Bc it is a talent!)

  116. Jacqueline says...

    I love that I feel things very deeply- sometimes I hate this, but I am so thankful for it. I also love that kids immediately warm up to me. I love that I treat my body with gentle care even though it’s not always the norm. Thanks for this :)

    • Jacqueline says...

      From one Jacqueline to another – embracing my extreme empathy and feeling things “too much” was one of the best choices I’ve ever made. And so much easier than constantly trying to be someone you’re not. Cheers!

  117. Emily says...

    I like that I will never NOT find fart jokes funny.

  118. Elly says...

    I like that I’m known for having strong opinions and sticking to them!

  119. A.N. says...

    i’m a really freakin’ hard worker – and this applies to many things. work, exercise, reading more, my marriage, being a mother, etc. if i set my mind to it, i get it done and i won’t half ass it.

    • B says...

      I need to be more like this. I work hard at my outside the home job, but I’m really blasé about my hobbies, my side hustle, and my overall well-being.

  120. Kim Gray says...

    I was traveling in Paris with my family about ten years ago and through the language barrier, we were trying to explain to our taxi driver that we wanted to go to that ‘Parisian bistro’ from the movie Something’s Gotta Give.. He for sure thought we were crazy, and didn’t seem to know what we were talking about… Low and behold, he dropped us at Le Grand Colbert – the ‘Parisian bistro’ from the movie!! (more so because it’s a classic French bistro, I still don’t think he had any idea about the movie!) It is just as charming as in the movie, the food is terrific, and we always go back when we visit Paris. It’s such a funny, coincidence story that makes me smile!

  121. Amanda says...

    I like that I am awkward. I can never come up with a witty thing to say during a conversation. I am forever knocking into things. I am basically the queen of making a cool out of myself.

    I used to hate all those things about myself, but now I appreciate them. Being awkward means that I don’t take myself too seriously. I’m okay being silly around others. I can laugh when I do something dorky, like knock over a whole stack of stuff (hopefully not breakable) or accidentally hit someone while hand-talking enthusiatically. I will never be witty, but I have a decent sense of humor. I’m not cool, but I’m fun. Just don’t ask me to engage in polite, witty small talk.

    • Rachael says...

      I think you had a Freudian slip in the first paragraph – you really must be cool, after all :)

    • liz says...

      I LOVE YOUR TYPO!! Find it in your post and you’ll realize that you said something very cool about yourself. And just maybe, very true.

  122. Alex Perri says...

    omg I so wish I was good ad doing the last things on your list

  123. Laura Ruth says...

    I love my red hair and my sense of humor

  124. EliseB says...

    I like that I am 75 and loving every minute of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Josephine says...

      I love this! Go 75!

    • Suzy says...

      You win! This is awesome.