Have a Sweet Weekend.

Gawd it is so soothing to be here on your site!

“Non male, non white”?? Enter any other race/gender there and the comments would go crazy in uproar. I feel sorry that in order to be inclusive we have to put down any gender or race at all. That is not progress at all and it hurts my heart to see a figure like Joanna make a statement like that and think it’s okay.

Yes to the familiarity comment! I don’t quite know when I started reading but it was waaay before the boys arrived and it is my little slice of comfort reading.

Totally random & not much to do with this post, but would love to see a week of outfits with Claire Saffitz from Bon Appétit! I am dying to know where all of her earrings are from!! <3

Ha, great post about what you can/can’t do in restaurants. I’ve easily sent food back, exchanged dishes I didn’t like, had music and air conditioning turned down, chosen better tables, and gotten freebies. I never knew NOT to do those things, and was always very polite with my requests. I do recall getting removed from a 4-person table in an empty London pub, because there were only 2 of us, and I couldn’t convince staff to let us remain at the bigger table. Can’t win ’em all, I guess!

I just read “Catch & Kill” by Ronan Farrow and COULD. NOT. PUT. IT. DOWN. It was gripping – like a spy thriller – but somehow this stuff actually happened. The way he weaves his thousands of hours of information gathering and interviews into a story is perfect. Read it now!!!

YES! Tuesdays are so bad! You are so far from the weekend and so tired from starting the week and already behind on what you didn’t accomplish Monday. Ugh! Thursdays are great though. And now that I’m old and care not about having plans on Friday, I love them dearly too. Saturdays need to calm way down though.

THURSDAY! I was just discussing this very thing with neighbors last Thursday evening as we enjoyed an impromptu block party with reggae music and tequila shots, while the kids raced on all manor of wheeled items up and down the street. Thursday is the day of pleasant surprises.

I had my baby last week and Modern Love is my favorite “rest and revover” pastime. Ugh, SUCH touching stories and the acting is incredible! Highly reccomend.

nice list! I saw the photos on instagram, and it looked so beautiful. I do really love Modern Citizen – the clothes are so beautiful! I’ve never purchased because of concerns about sizing (I do not look like those long, slender models!), but if i decide to give it a shot then will for sure use the link above.

Is ever ok to tell a restaurant to put on music….YES. Decidedly awkward dinning with others in weird silence!

Wait, is Sansa Stark modeling for Modern Citizen!?!?!
https://www.moderncitizen.com/products/carla-v-neck-side-zip-sweater-black

Alex Beggs is my new favorite writer, fingers’s crossed she’ll come out with a compilation. And thanks for the shout-out(s) to non-white, non-male, non-Western artists. Absolutely necessary as far as I’m concerned.

Awww totally agree with Rosie. I too have been reading Cup of Jo for-evah… like at least since 2006! It’s a great source of comfort and I’ve bought way too many things you guys have recommended. Thanks for all the love :)

I distinctly remember one night in college a friend came running down the hall of my sorority house into my room where I was sitting on my top bunk studying. JOANNA REPLIED TO MY FRIEND’S TWEET!! she said as she turned into my open doorway. We both giggled in shrieks as we scrolled through twitter together looking for the thread. Her friend’s tweet was the hashtag #readerfrombeforetoby – (haha, still true! still funny!) it’s crazy to think we felt OG back then and I think that was 6 years ago!

We were the girls who read this blog. It was such an identifier! Nerds who loved style and culture! Like a podcast before podcasts were a thing!

That night seems like eons ago and I’ve all but lost contact with that friend since we graduated in different classes. (JEN! IF YOU’RE HERE, HI!)

Still love it here just as much as I did then, if not more. I can’t thank you enough for all the joy!

I’m American but have been watching a lot of fun lifestyle vlogs from South Korea and I’ve noticed they always cut their food with scissors when cooking. It makes so much sense! We often do things the way we do because we think that’s the only way it should be done. But there are so many other options!

Hmmm….non male, non white, non western.
No thank you Joanna!
I adore you, but appreciate the art for being good art….not because it’s non male, non white and non western. That demeans the art itself.
I agree with what I think you might be saying, but not how you said it. Not at all how you said it. No thank you.

I could have written Rosie’s comment! I started reading before you had kids too! The blog (and I) have evolved so much and it feels like an old friend. One of my favorite weekend rituals is finding a glass of wine or cup of coffee and enjoying your Friday links!

Thank you for being so relevant and yet so warm. I can’t imagine it’s easy but I’m glad you’re here! Deep felt gratitude for your work! CoJ and Team!

Hi Joanna,
You must remember better than I do your first post and the chocolate cookies that you were baking. Is one of these recipes? I thought that it would be funny to bring this one to one of your post.
Thank you Joanna for being you and for sharing about your lovely family. I love spending time reading your blog, it is a treat everyday ❤️

Re: hot vs. cold coffee. The struggle is real.

Have a good week-end! I’ve really enjoyed the posts, these past few weeks, and the comment section is such a cool place! we’re breaking frontiers, and all the barriers!

I actually cannot believe that you didn’t list Andrew Scott at the top of the Modern Love actor list!!!

Here to +1 Rosie’s comment. I started reading CoJ in my anxiety-ridden 20s. Since then there have been 7 (!) moves, 6 jobs, a failed engagement (thank god), a long distance love and heartbreak, a therapist, internet dating, a boyfriend-then-fiance-then-husband, an identity crisis over changing my name, a meldown over whether or not to have children, a baby, a toddler, and so many happy/sad/lonely/full days and nearly all of them have included a trip to this blog. Thank you for being there through it all.

I have to say, I’m on the fence about the kitchen shears idea. My husband has taught our boys, who still have trouble using a knife to cut food, that it’s easier to take scissors to things like breakfast sausage, pancakes, etc. I see the convenience. On the other hand, I only worry that someday while out to a nice dinner with a date, they’ll be asking the waiter for a pair of scissors!

Have you done or would you do an outfits post from someone living in a snowy climate? I’m getting ready to move from Baltimore to Vermont (and from a fairly casual to a more business like wardrobe) and would love to see how to stay chic while navigating mountains of snow!