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Have a Delicious Weekend.

Strawberry Galette by Sarah Jampel

What are you up to this weekend? We are heading to Fire Island! We haven’t been in years, and the boys are so excited to swim in the ocean and walk barefoot to the ice cream shop. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

Omg Issa Rae’s acceptance speech at the Women in Film Gala was perfect. MUST WATCH.

Your new beachcombing activity, other than skipping rocks.

Keanu Reeves keeps his hands to himself! Love this.

Nothing says summer like a salt spray, and this one is the best.

The secret to a joyful life.

How I’m saving for my parents’ retirement.”

20 things we’ve learned from TV made me laugh out loud. “If being chased through town, you can take cover in a passing St. Patrick’s Day parade — at any time of the year.”

Lovely swimsuits for nursing moms.

Funny Trader Joe’s reviews. “Just make your own eggs, people.”

How to triumph like a girl.

Happy Father’s Day to all the wonderful fathers and father figures out there, and big hugs to those who are missing someone this weekend. Also, if you’d like to help more dads be with their kids, please join us in donating to RAICES. They do wonderful, important work.

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Julie on four fun things: “No one makes me laugh harder than David Sedaris. If you haven’t read his latest, Calypso, it’s the perfect book for the beach/commute/de-stressing. One of my favorite quotes: ‘I told myself that one day I would buy a beach house and that it would be everyone’s, as long as they followed my draconian rules and never stopped thanking me for it.'”

Says Ceridwen on what baking recipes do you like: “The recipe I’ve loved is Hetty’s olive oil cake that you posted. My mother was seriously ill, and we were going through a very uncertain, stressful time. I needed to do something that required one simple step after another to rest my mind. Baking that cake, especially rubbing the orange rind into the sugar, was the most beautiful, life-affirming and calming act. I smiled into it, cried a little but felt such pleasure. I took the cake on the drive to my parents’ place, and my brother and I devoured it during the trip. It’s a wonderful cake for sharing, and now making it brings me complete calm and joy.”

Have a good one. xoxo

(Photo by Sarah Jampel.)

  1. A says...

    I love Keanu but I’m pretty sure he’s standing that way because he has a cigarette between his fingers (in both pics, though harder to be sure with Dolly)…?

  2. Le says...

    If you like Ada Limon (sorry, don’t know how to insert the accent), OU Press just came out with a volume of Latina poetry, and it includes some of her wonderful work. There are some really compelling pieces on motherhood (among other topics). Highly recommended!
    https://www.oupress.com/books/15097182/other-musics

  3. k says...

    I have to say, the Keanu Reeves things makes me a LITTLE sad. How bad is it that men have to be afraid to even touch a woman AT ALL even in the most innocent way because maybe their lives and reputations will be ruined. And should women now not touch men? Will we spiral to a society where no one is touching anybody anymore because of fear? Instead we should be promoting open dialogues between people and teaching women the confidence, self love and respect to men to speak up if something makes them uncomfortable.

  4. Anne says...

    Instead of beachcoming for rocks looking like letters, you could also try cleaning the beach and make it into a challenge for your kids : give them each a trash bag and the one that ends up with the fullest gets an ice-cream or something. It will take half an hour of your day and make such a difference !

    Or the new plogging version meaning cleaning the environment as you jog !
    https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/plogging-jogging-trash-pick-up-1.4594739

  5. Jo says...

    The nursing suits are a joke, right?!

  6. Margaret O’T says...

    So I had the absolute funniest dream this weekend that I somehow met Joanna and was at her house and she said I could stay for dinner but I saw that there were only four cabbage rolls in her fridge, and I would be the fifth person so felt like I was imposing way too much and it was stressful then I woke up. My best friend recently introduced me to Cup of Jo and I’m now an avid fan and have been perusing the archives a lot too, apparently to the point of flooding my subconscious!!! Much love from a big fan haha

    • Jessica says...

      hahaha love a random dream!!

  7. lindsay says...

    Keanu is clearly a very kind person but I think he is protecting himself by doing this, he is clearly smart too!

  8. Lindsay says...

    I have tried many sea salt sprays and my favorite, by far, is by Sachajuan. Maybe I will try this mermaid one though, thanks! I have fine hair on the thinner side with a little natural wave and the only thing I use is sea spray. It gives my hair all the volume and texture I want.

  9. Tori says...

    I often wonder the same as the author at the end of the retirement article…that it’s like we’re on the Titanic. I know so many people my parents age who aren’t going to be able to afford to retire. And they either don’t have kids, or they do but I get the impression that they don’t plan on taking them in. I’m curious how it will play out.

  10. Lindsey says...

    A postpartum swimsuit that maxes out at a size 12!? Moloco’s website says “Motherhood is a Sisterhood” but people my size are clearly not invited to join their “tribe.” I do see they’re working to develop a size XL., but… The models on their website don’t even begin to represent the range of what new-mom bodies look like – size, shape or otherwise. I’m with the other moms who have already commented that this is not for them. Just pull your top down, nurse your little one, and then get back in the pool. Mamas of all sizes deserve to cool off after having a sweet but very hot little body pressed right up against their skin in the heat of summer.

    • t says...

      absolutely! I will tell you as a size 14 mama living in southern california, the idea of a maternity swimsuit is a tad laughable. Many (most?) suits just require a pull down or pull up to accommodation breast feeding or pumping.

      You are beautiful and strong and awesome Lindsey!! congrats on baby.

    • Hi Lindsey, Thank you for your comment and as the founder of MOLOCO, I want to let you know that we hear you and are working around the clock (literally!) to bring larger sizes available to all women. We are a family owned business, and for our first round of production, we couldn’t get the XL sizing “perfect enough” to include. Therefore, we decided to wait until it was good enough to bring to the market, and it will be soon. If you are interested in being a part of XL round before production, I would be more than happy to send you a suit in exchange for your feedback. Lastly, “motherhood is a sisterhood” is truly speaking to the “tribe” of ALL mamas out there, all sizes and from all different walks of life. That is our intention and mission as a brand, and we hope to let that come through more as we learn and grow.

  11. Asha says...

    Having a newborn (and nursing in the middle of the night!) I was excited to see bathing suits for nursing – how timely! While beautifully designed, the price point and sizing is outside my reach . COJ readers, do you have suggestions for expanded sizing and affordable price options? Although I’m not above using a basic swimsuit and keeping it simple.

  12. Nora says...

    I feel the same way about baking cake! My husband has cancer and I’ve found a lot of comfort in baking, especially the chocolate cake from Maira Kalman’s book Cake.

  13. Melinda says...

    “I deserve this, bye”

    • Brooke says...

      That line (and the whole speech) was so amazing, Melinda! I laughed so hard AND felt so empowered to own my success with more joy.

  14. Ro says...

    I look forward to these posts all week, they are always such a collection of treasures. Thanks Cup of Jo team! You are appreciated

  15. Meg says...

    Wow, I have complicated feelings about that article from The Cut, by the woman saving her salary for her parents. Thanks for linking that, it is making me think and reflect on how messy life and our choices are.

  16. Amanda says...

    COJ team – would you be able to compile a list of orgs we can donate to or other actions we can do to get involved with the crisis in Sudan? I feel like it is getting lost in the news cycle shuffle, but it is absolutely heart-wrenching. I plan on calling my representatives and donating, but I’m never quite sure what the best donation sites are. I’m planning on doing some of my own research this weekend. Thank you so much!

    • Lia says...

      Thank you!!!

      This needs to be amplified everywhere. The situation in Sudan is being ignored by media and it is awful!

      Please consider using your platform to spread awareness of what is happening in Sudan as you have done so effectively for other important issues in the past.

    • t says...

      YES! I don’t even know what is happening exactly. Only peripherally. The sudanese crisis in the 90’s was so terrible. Is this what is happening now?

  17. LJ says...

    Do you have the recipe for that amazing photo of strawberry rhubarb deliciousness?!

  18. Jenna Malouf says...

    the parents retirement article was an amazing read.

    thank you for linking to that !

  19. Angela Thompson says...

    Strange, I have just been searching overnight for a simple, comforting cake to make for my beautiful friend whose heart is breaking as she cares for, and bears witness to her mother who is dying….and then I read the reader comment and I knew what cake to make. Thank you.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I’m so glad. You sound like the loveliest friend. Xoxo

    • Ceridwen says...

      That is a perfect thing to do for your friend. Such a kind act. Enjoy baking it. Add dark chocolate, it’s so delicious xx

  20. agnes says...

    The absolute honesty of Lily, sharing her childhood and her strength left me speechless. She is such an example, like some things have to be done, and that’s that. Thank you so much for this article.
    Also loved loved the last reader’s comments about that recipe. It’s beautiful and beautifully written.

  21. Anna says...

    Im impressed by the Keanu Reeves link. It has never occurred to me that there would be that alternative. I also enjoyed the article on saving for your parents retirement. My parents and in-laws are fortunate enough and have dedicated themselves to providing for their future retirement but another line of thought is elderly care. After seeing my grandmother on hospice earlier this year and watching the toll it had on my mother and uncle I’ve often thought about what my own role will be with my parents not in their financial needs but their physical and emotional needs.

    • agnes says...

      I’m at that stage of life, taking care of my parents; my mother died a few years ago and I was with here until her last moment. Now it’s my father who’s started to require more care. It is a very tiring momet, full of mixed emotions. That would be such a great theme for a post, CoJ team, all those feelings about caring for our old parents… I have to say I find comfort in this blog.

  22. Kathy says...

    Oh my goodness. I misread the tag line and thought it said swimsuits for nursing homes. This pull have been interesting as well.

  23. Kat says...

    Love Keanu! Anyone who hasn’t seen Always be my maybe yet – definitely worth the watch.
    Also particularly enjoyed the “things we’ve learned from tv”.
    Everything I hear about Trader Joe’s makes me wish we had them in the UK. Everything sounds so tasty!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Yes his scenes were hilarious!!

    • Kate says...

      I think the reason Keanu is keeping his hands to himself in the second pic is because he has a cigarette 🚬 in between his fingers and doesn’t want to burn her….still polite nonetheless 🤣

    • Jennifer says...

      Kate, Right! Keanu just didn’t want to burn the 2nd person with his cigarette! haha. Well, I guess that’s also nice of him.

  24. Jackie says...

    I agree with the David Sedaris comment. Been reading his books for 10 years now. Always makes me laugh

  25. Viv says...

    Re: nursing-friendly swimsuits: isn’t that just called “pulling down the top of your swimsuit or bikini top”, thus requiring no special suit at all?! I’m baffled that this is a thing, but I am also on the other side of the pond, so maybe I’m missing something?

  26. M says...

    Wow today I feel so heard.

    1) thank you for having clothes for nursing moms. As a new working mother and a nursing mother, it’s so easy to feel excluded and isolated. Even down to our clothes. Pregnancy style has grown by leaps and bounds but nursing style is still waaaaay behind. So thank you!!

    2) thank you for posting an article about saving to take care of our parents. I’m often criticized for my parents living with me (isn’t your place too small? You need to have better boundaries! Why are they staying with you again?) and they don’t have a retirement. I grew up with my mom looking at me as she wrote a check for my tuition, saying, “You are my investment. You are my retirement.” And I’m VERY OK WITH THAT. But I’m also struggling out financially how to make this work bc I have no visible role models. So thanks cup of jo.

    • Amber Z says...

      To the people who make these comments to you, I would respectfully ask them what they would have done if their parents had made these comments to them when they were, say 12?
      Maybe it’s because I come from a culture in which parents and adult children often live together and nobody would ever question your living with or caring for elderly parents, I can’t wrap my head around two things: 1/ once your kid turns 18, he/she is out of the house and the bedroom becomes a gym. 2/ Once you are out, so is caring for your parents. Yes, we need our boundaries but we also have family ties and responsibilities and …love! Don’t we?

  27. I know someone who worked in administration for a public high school in Hollywood. A large donation was made of school supplies, and the donor wanted to remain anonymous. She kept needling the person who handled the donation until finally she got his name: Keanu Reeves.

  28. Cynthia says...

    I do not bake very often anymore, but I have made Hetty’s Olive Oil Cake four times since you printed the recipe. It is good for dessert or breakfast, a gift to a new mother, a grieving friend, or a crew building a “Walking Wall” (Andy Goldsworthy in Kansas City). Everyone loves it – not too sweet, just right. Good whole yogurt produced the best result.

    • Sara says...

      Cynthia, I love that you baked for the Walking Wall crew!!! With appreciation from a fellow KCitian: thank you!!!

  29. Well dang, I might print and frame that Sedaris quote for my newly purchased beach house!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Hahaha you should!

  30. Christie says...

    If I may — Raices is a great organization, but I see blogs everywhere asking people to donate there. As an Immigration attorney and advocate, I would like to offer a few other non-profits that could really use the funding and who are also doing really amazing things in other parts of the country.
    1) Al Otro Lado is killing it down in Tijuana. Great organization helping immigrants from all around the world who are stuck in Tijuana while awaiting their chance to apply for asylum in the US. https://alotrolado.org/
    2) Immigration Justice Campaign — this is a campaign started by several major organizations, including the American Immigration Lawyers Association. They are facilitating pro bono representation of immigrants in detention centers. https://www.immigrationjustice.us/home
    3) National Immigrant Justice Center in Chicago — again, wonderful direct services to immigrants, national litigation on important issues, and supplying immigrants with pro bono attorneys. https://www.immigrantjustice.org/
    4) El Refugio — this is a sanctuary in Stewart, Georgia, where an infamous private prison detains immigrant men (many of whom are fathers) in HORRIBLE conditions, far from family and legal representation. The denial rate on immigration cases is close to 100%, and not because these men don’t qualify, but because they don’t speak English, are not provide due process and fair hearings, have lost all hope because they can’t see their loved ones, and are not provided legal representation. This organization provides these desperate men hope. https://www.elrefugiostewart.org/

    Let’s spread the love! Raices is limited in its immigration offerings and has already been given millions of dollars.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Thank you so much! This is so helpful. We have supported RAICES so far because of the appalling family separations — with more heartbreaking news every day and children still separated from their parents — but would also love to recognize and support these too. THANK YOU!!!

    • Liz says...

      Thank you for taking the time to post all of this helpful information and leads on where else to donate! I’ve donated to Raices, but will look to these options now. (It would be great if COJ covered these issues now and again profiling people in the know such as yourself. If COJ has space for regular recipe posts, well, these are not normal times…)

    • Claire says...

      all terrific info! thank you.
      It’s so difficult to read about these problems in the news and not know how to help.
      I’d love to know more about the women in these organizations who do this difficult work too, in case that is ever a topic you all have space for. I think it must take a lot of grit.

    • t says...

      I am so very torn on immigration. I live in San Diego so I really see the positive and negative effects of illegal and/or mass immigration. How do I reconcile this?

      Are most CoJ liberals just wanting the world to be open and flat and no one country offering better healthcare / education / national parts / etc than another? No judgement; just curious. I would be OK if the entire world was 2nd world.

  31. jeni says...

    I can appreciate a gorgeous swimsuit for a gorgeous purpose, but as a nursing mom, I can also say screw it and just pull my swimsuit top to the side.

  32. Gaby says...

    That olive oil cake comment gave me goosebumps. I love this community so much!

  33. Sarah says...

    I love the reader comment about Hetty’s olive oil cake— there’s one cooking on my kitchen counter right now! I’ve made about five since the recipe was posted. So delicious and now a favorite of my husband, too. This one is for Father’s Day— I’m sure my dad will love it just as much! (PS- it’s possibly even MORE scrumptious with an orange glaze on top that melts into the cake while still warm!)

    • Sarah says...

      cooling*, not cooking! It’s not THAT hot in my house today! ;)

    • Jill says...

      Hi Sarah! Please give us the orange glaze recipe. Thanks.

  34. Sarah says...

    RAICES does wonderful, important work, but there are a lot of other immigration organizations advocating to keep families together on a much smaller budget. I personally recommend the Detained Migrant Solidarity Committee’s Fronteriza Fund, the New Mexico Immigrant Law Center, Las Americas Immigrant Advocacy and other orgs in the El Paso corridor advocating for family unity.

  35. Have you listened to Rachel Chavkin’s speech from winning the Tony for Best Direction of a Musical last Sunday? Definitely worth the google!

    • Claire says...

      I watched it- wow! it is very articulate and inspiring! I want to see that musical now too.

  36. Caiti says...

    Second the Calypso recommendation! When I had my first son, we had a lot of trouble breastfeeding and I would be up for an hour or more for each feeding. I would frantically google and read stories about breastfeeding/sleep/etc and I would get so anxious I couldn’t go back to sleep. With my second, I swore I wouldn’t use my phone at all during the night, and instead I read books on my iPad with the screen set to black. I read Calypso and laughed out loud the whole way through. I’ll always associate my son’s newborn days with David Sedaris (and especially the story about the turtle and the tumor).