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Have a Delicious Weekend.

Roberta's Pizza

What are your plans this weekend? I’m going to my friend Gemma‘s tonight for pizza, chatting and no children in sight. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few links from around the web…

The New York Times said Aperol spritzes were bad, and the internet freaked out.

How would you describe your birth story in two words? (“Rockstar vibes.” “What the.” “Forty hours.” “Husband bathtub.” “Best gift.” “Infertile. Adoption.” “Pizza Afterwards.”)

Falling in love without alcohol.

I’ve been spotting women around town wearing T-shirts + polka dot skirts.

Love this swimming print.

Translations of your boss’s meeting invitations, haha.

A letter to my late wife on Mother’s Day. (Heartbreak.)

How to notice new things. “One would be Get There The Hard Way. At least once during your trip, go to some destination without taking directions from your phone… The other is Eat Somewhere Dubious. Have one meal at a restaurant that you didn’t find on Yelp or through any sort of recommendation and that doesn’t even look trendy or hip. First, you’ll have fun keeping an eye out for it: ‘Is THAT our dubious restaurant?’ Second, even if you have a mediocre meal, you’ll have an unpredictable experience!”

How beautiful is this bedroom color?

8 delicious packable sandwiches.

This movie looks wonderful.

Psst: Does anyone really like breakfast in bed?

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Ara on brownies taste test: “To my eternal shame, I’ve been baking and sharing box mix brownies for years – and lying about it out of embarrassment! Friends would gush and ask for the recipe, and I WOULD GIVE THEM A RANDOM RECIPE, knowing it wouldn’t come out like my brownies because mine came from a box. It’s my biggest secret. Shhh, don’t tell anyone!”

Says LS on advice for my younger self: “I would tell my younger self: You do not ever owe anyone an explanation for exiting a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable. No matter how big or small. Even if you’re unable to articulate it, as soon as you feel negativity in your gut, you are free to leave, and anyone who gives you a hard time about it does not deserve an explanation.”

(Photo by Stella Blackmon.)

  1. Amanda says...

    “A Letter to My Late Wife on Mother’s Day” was the most beautiful, yet heartbreaking piece I’ve read in ages. I’ve since read John P. Darcy’s other two articles about his wife, their son, and life together. Thank you for sharing.

  2. Carmen says...

    Yes to breakfast in bed – it’s the food that’s the issue in that article, not the location! 😀 Toast, pastries, eggs, yoghurt or chocolate is no problem!

  3. Deb in Oklahoma says...

    Oh, box brownies. I love a good brownie, but as a traditional scratch baker, cannot bake brownies from a box mix. I just can’t bring myself to do it. (But I had no idea there were box mixes for banana bread until just a few years ago. Never had a need to look for them when there are so many good scratch recipes out there.) The trick for fudgy brownies is to wham the bottom of the pan against the countertop right before the last 10 minutes of baking. Makes the middle fall and get super dense. But if someone brings me a brownie, I won’t quibble about the origin–but I will get a cup of coffee to go with it.

  4. Lucy says...

    Well thanks for sharing the swimmers print, I’ve just gone and bought 4 prints from that website hahaha.

  5. deanna says...

    Stella, I neeeeeeeeeeeed to know….WHERE DID YOU GET THAT PIZZA?!?!?!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      it’s from roberta’s! :)

    • Deanna says...

      Of *course* it is!! That place is glorious. (Thanks for the follow up!)

  6. Sharon in Scotland says...

    I feel somewhat frivolous amongst all these birth stories, but I laugh/snorted at the first internet reaction to NYT’s sniffy review of an aperol spritzer.

  7. Elizabeth says...

    I eat breakfast in bed every day in the wintertime because I like being cosy and don’t mind washing my sheets often.

  8. nora says...

    Birth story in two words, easy:
    Holy sh*t.

  9. Sara B says...

    Birth stories:
    -Wait, what?

    -Doctor driving

    -Two pushes

  10. Sasha L says...

    All of these comments about birth, THIS is why we need a national holiday called Mother’s Day. Hope all the mom type people out there are feeling properly celebrated.

  11. Michelle says...

    Eat somewhere dubious? Ummm, no thank you. As someone who has experienced the full wrath of food poisoning, this comes across as terrible (terrible!) advice. Eat somewhere different? Sure! Dubious? Hard pass.

  12. Lindsey says...

    My birth story in two words (if numbers don’t count):
    10 pounds, vaginally.

  13. Ann says...

    One line that struck me in the mother’s day article: “being a mother was always your greatest achievement”. However well-intentioned and loving the author’s remark, I would squirm if my partner (or anyone else) said that to me, as it belittles the rest of the life I had built for myself (meaningful work, PhD, friendships…).

    Has anyone seriously said to a man “being a father has always been your greatest achievement”? And is motherhood really an “achievement” (rather than one of the many roles a woman might or might not play in her lifetime)?

    • cilla says...

      i noticed the same thing. it would really bother me if someone said that to me.

  14. anon obvs. says...

    I am here literally laughing in hysterics.

    I just walked out on a dinner party of 20 people before dinner had started because I had a massive panic attack. To make things worse, my friend, whose surprise party it was, joked in front of everyone that things must have gotten too crowded for me and because I am incredibly honest when I am panicking, said yes, yes, too many people in front of everyone and left.

    Abandoning my good friend who had gotten a ride with me, although not entirely, because I managed to somehow coherently ask the person beside me if they could look after her.

    I spent the last hour at the beach crying, and am finally home, with college-style cheap ramen noodles, half journaling about how everyone must hate me and why the fuck I can’t get things together and half scrolling through your page to make myself feel better and then I read LS’s comment.

    Thank you.

  15. MelTown says...

    Birth stories in two words:

    1) Please live (baby)

    2) Calm, happy

    3) Please live (me)

    Thankfully we all survived, life is rarely calm, but often happy.

  16. Abigail Ann Nittle says...

    My 3 birth stories:
    Jittery, Victorious
    Early, Calm
    Stubborn, Arduous

  17. Abigail Ann Nittle says...

    Loved seeing the note about girls wearing t-shirts with polka-dot skirts… I really loved Sharon Horgan’s wardrobe in the latest season of “Catastrophe” and made a note of her vintage t-shirts paired with silky, high end/vintage looking, midi length skirts! I went straight to Goodwill and found the perfect combo.

  18. Katie says...

    Room service on the last day of vacation, now that’s my idea of breakfast in bed.

  19. Jessica says...

    I gave birth 4 weeks ago and to everyone who’s asked how it was since, I’ve given two words: “horror show”. But thankfully two other words also apply: “soon forget”.

  20. Amy says...

    I only like breakfast in bed because it means I get to eat in peace and quiet (my husband sneaks it in to me while the kids are playing :).

    Birth story one: ruptured cervix
    two: hand cramps
    three: this again?!

    Ara’s brownie story cracked me up. I’m a devotee of Alice Medrich’s (via Deb of SK) best cocoa brownies. They’re everything a brownie should be and I always have the ingredients.

  21. The letter to my late wife took my breath away. So heartbreaking. Just shows that we do not know the stories and pain of strangers around us.

    • celeste says...

      I had to go to the next story and find out how she died. Sad.

    • Anna says...

      haha THE BEST!

  22. Anonymous says...

    I never used to care about breakfast in bed until I met my partner. Now, each morning, he wakes me up gently with a cup of tea and asks what I’d like for breakfast. Then he brings it upstairs and we sit in bed together, remembering any dreams we had the night before, or watching sunlight move across the wall if it’s a lazy Sunday. I feel so lucky to enjoy this as a daily ritual, not just on special occasions. It makes every day special. He’s the best.

    • CS says...

      Beautiful! I think breakfast, or even just coffee, in bed is wonderful!

  23. Cynthia says...

    Further advice to my younger self: I watched a Netflix documentary featuring women connected with the Feminist movement then and now. Jane Fonda said, ” I never knew that ‘No’ is a complete sentence.”

  24. Steph says...

    I’m sharing that advice to my younger self about leaving with my 14 year old daughter today! Great advice and on a larger scale it’s about trusting yourself above other.

  25. Dee says...

    Birth story in two words? Taxi delivery

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      WOW!!!!! now i want to hear it in 500 words!!! :)

  26. Lisa says...

    My a little longer than two words birth story: cord prolapse emergency no time for anesthesia cesarean section.

    • Andrea says...

      Omg you are a superhero

    • Ker says...

      No. So scary!

    • rachel simmons says...

      mind blown.

    • Lisa says...

      I once did a birth stories podcast about my pregnancy/birth experience and they didn’t publish it because it was just “too much.” I feel more ashamed than like a superhero to be honest.

  27. Laurel says...

    So I know I’m not the first or last person to hemmrage postpartum, but when I read that from someone else, I wanted to crawl through my phone and hug her. Me too and lucky to be here.

  28. A Mom By Any Other Name says...

    My birth story in two words is written all over my L&D chart notes and my son’s medical records. It seems his entire birth story could be told in a series of two-word phrases.

    Extremely Premature
    Live Birth
    Brain hemorrhage
    Post-hemorrhagic hydrocephalus
    Neurosurgery consult
    Brain surgery
    Feeding Problems
    Apneic Events
    Discharged Home

    And now my experience as a mother can be summed up in a series of two-word phrases:

    Terrifyingly heartbreaking
    Emotional suffering
    His Mom
    Please Live
    Just Breathe
    Miracle Baby
    Best Friends
    In Awe
    So Grateful

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      this is so moving and beautiful. wow, you have been through a LOT that must have been unspeakably hard. sending so much love to you and your son.

    • A Mom by any other name says...

      Thank you, Joanna. If it’s not too much of an invasion please let your sister know I read your brother-in-law’s book while my son was going through all of this. I can’t even remember how I heard about it because it was recently published and I was so disconnected from the world for those several months that he was in the NICU.

      I sat bedside for 18-20 hours a day for those months and kept trying to read other books (which is and has always been my happy place) – but couldn’t focus or settle my mind enough. I devoured When Breath. My favorite nurse smiled one night and said, “I’m so happy you enjoyed your book. All these months I’ve been seeing you reading the same two books but I notice you haven’t made much progress. I didn’t want to say anything about it but these past few nights I see the finished pages getting thicker and the remaining pages becoming less and less. It’s nice to see you enjoying something.” I told her about the book and the next week she came back and said she read it and she was quoting all these lines from the book that resonated with her :) I also gave a copy of the book to the pediatric neurosurgery resident who had been in both of my son’s surgeries and who would often stop in to say hi. Our families are great friends now and we even spend holidays together.

      I’m sorry this is so long but I wanted your sister to know that Paul’s voice, writing, and story brought me comfort during a time when comfort was so elusive. Comfort was a luxury for “normal” moms of newborns – not of the sick and dying ones. Paul’s story found its way to a dark little room in a children’s hospital where a premature baby and his mama where tucked away – and I can’t thank him enough.

  29. Jamie says...

    I just treated myself to that swimming print. Thanks for the recommendation. I’m planning to slowly redecorate my house in MY style after my separation is finalised soon. This is my first purchase!

    • Lauren says...

      Good for you Jamie! Wishing you a beautiful next chapter!

    • Emma says...

      Yes!

  30. April says...

    The best breakfast in bed is actually just coffee. And then everyone leaves me in bed to read. Heaven!

    • Elliesee says...

      Yes! I asked and got my first coffee in bed this morning and it is the best! My espresso maker probably burned and my 15 year old doesn’t wake up but it’s all good since yesterday I was inexplicably (?) too tired to get up and make my own coffee

  31. Jessica says...

    Breakfast in bed always reminds me of a Sesame Street segment from my childhood starring Burt and Ernie. Ernie is enjoying a messy meal of crackers in bed. But it turns out, he’s eating them in Burt’s bed, so Burt has to sleep in the crumbs. That segment taught me breakfast in bed is a bad idea.

    • Sasha L says...

      I think perhaps we were meant to get another subtle message about Bert and Ernie’s relationship 😉

    • Amy says...

      Ha Ha!!

    • Jessica says...

      Too funny, Sasha!

  32. Courtney says...

    Are people really hungry when they’re still in bed??

    • Alyssa says...

      Yes.

    • rachel simmons says...

      me never!!! i dont eat until noon on most days, somedays even later!

  33. Anna says...

    Subway cookies, arranged on a plate, microwaved for a few minutes -my boxed brownies.

    When I was in college in Scotland they didn’t have American style cookies but they did at Subway-I’d bring them to dinner parties all the time and say they were an American secret family recipe ;)

  34. Andrea says...

    Amazing Grace is a terrific film! Look for the Mick Jagger cameo. She is so young here. She also had children when she was 12 and 14. It makes my heart break for her and the complicated relationship with her father and fame. The movie made me look into her boo and marvel at her at that age.

  35. Jean Jones says...

    Birth story in two words: didn’t poop!

    • Gabriella says...

      Hahahahaha! This is brilliant!

    • Sasha L says...

      (that you know of 😉)

  36. Erin says...

    The only time I liked the idea of breakfast in bed was as a child, and even then I think it was mostly the novelty of it! As an adult I would NOT want crumbs, sticky syrup, etc. all over my sheets. Plus, that I live in an apartment with a balcony, the idea of eating outside seems like much more of a treat! And when it’s at your own home and you can still wear your pajamas…even better!

  37. Elisabeth says...

    I do like breakfast I’m bed! Maybe not pancakes (sticky?!), but a bagel, coffee, and a good book? In a cozy, quiet room? Yes, please!

    • Elisabeth says...

      Breakfast *in* bed. Thanks autocorrect!

    • Anna says...

      That sounds super cozy- especially with warm sunlight pouring in through the windows

  38. Marla says...

    Birth story in two words:
    Garlic breath.

  39. Marisa says...

    Love the two word birth stories!

    Mine: ninety minutes

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Wow!!!

    • Elisabeth says...

      Haha. I guess mine is: 72 hours. 😳

    • Sasha L says...

      Same, for my second birth. I think it was actually like an hour. And painless! And in my bathtub!

      If there’s one lesson about birth: RESULTS VARY.
      Also: LUCK COUNTS
      Lol.

    • Marisa says...

      Oh yes, ninety minutes was totally my second one! And fortunately was a planned home birth because it would have happened at home regardless of the plan. I was going to say that I still pretty much have no words for my first, but I guess that’s it! “No words.”

      Wow Elisabeth, you’re a warrior. I can’t imagine doing it for that long. And I agree very much that birth is all luck!

    • MichWith2Ls says...

      Mine would then be “four days”!

      My second was obviously “planned cesarean” 😄

    • B says...

      “That ripped”

  40. Jenna says...

    I, for one, love breakfast in bed. When my baby was a newborn, I would feed her in the morning while my husband made breakfast. He would then bring me breakfast and we’d eat in bed watching TV while she took her one good long nap. I was cozy in the sunny room spending time with him and a sleeping baby, with the bonus dog on the bed cuddling. Nothing better than that!

    • Lotte says...

      That sounds so cozy Jenna!

  41. Kate Rears says...

    Hahah first reader comment! Brene Brown has an amazing story about lying to her kid’s preschool teacher about bringing cookies. I think it’s just SO relatable and funny. You’re secret is safe here.

    Love the second comment too. Might print it out and glue it to the back of my hand!

    • Lynn says...

      INTERNAL EARTHQUAKE!

  42. Jennifer says...

    Birth story in 2 words:
    A break.
    from my.
    other kids.

    Okay, I cheated, but I promise (after my 1st) each time I went in for another c-section (4 total), I LOOKED FORWARD TO IT. Getting a blow out before, fresh paint on my nails, being strapped down in the OR, and a good book for my long hospital stay. How sick is this? I know you moms get it. Ha!

    • Isabelle says...

      Jennifer,
      I totally get it :-) I only had two kids and c-sections, but the 2nd seemed like a honeymoon with my new baby, without my first jumping around and talking non-stop, it was heaven!

    • Liz says...

      As someone who relishes the seconds after the kids are buckled in the backseat and the doors are closed, but before I get in the driver’s seat, I 100 % get this.

  43. Erin says...

    Two-word birth stories:
    First baby: Hurry, wait.
    Second baby: Wait … hurry!

    • Sasha L says...

      I love this so much!!!!!!

    • Kelsey says...

      This is so sweet and perfect!

  44. Colleen S says...

    Pizza sounds yummy. I’m having sushi, and then moving into a new apartment this weekend.

  45. lisa says...

    re that first reader comment, i am laughing out loud in the dentist waiting room. your secret is safe with the cup of jo community, ara!

    • Emily says...

      Ara is my hero.

  46. Wendy says...

    How would you describe your birth story in two words?

    Nobody died.

    • Meagan says...

      As a labor nurse that’s my favorite kind of story!

      Happy Mother’s Day

    • Isabella says...

      Wendy, those two words speak volumes! I don’t know how long ago your birth experience was, but I hope ample comfort, beauty, grace, and strength has flooded in since then. Sending hugs!