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Have a Great Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? We’re putting up Halloween decorations! The boys are envisioning ghosts and skeletons, and we’ll see how scary they can make them. Thank you also for all the comments on our Clare V. collaboration. We are glad to say that we were able to add more sweatshirt sizes — XL and XXL. I hear you that we should have had more sizes to begin with, and I apologize for that. I wish we could have a wider range right now, but hopefully this will help a bit in the meantime. In the future, size inclusion will be our top priority. Thank you, thank you for the thoughtful notes! Sending lots of love. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few links from around the web…

Ina Garten being adorable.

Do you hang art in your bathroom?

A Banksy painting shreds itself after selling for $1.4 million. (!)

Stop canceling and rescheduling things. “Last year I decided I would stop rescheduling my commitments and treat them as just that: commitments. And what I found is that when I committed to do the things I said I’d do, I actually felt much less stressed by them. As I kept more and more commitments, I got more and more confident.”

A very funny obituary, of all things. What a cool person he must have been.

Pretty earrings.

A spot-on idea for a parenting book. Made me laugh.

The new show Salt Fat Acid Heat looks great.

Have you seen these braces straightening teeth???!!! NUTS.

10 of the most popular chicken recipes. #bookmarked

This is 18 years old. (NYT)

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Marisa on wedding dos and don’ts: “Ask your D.J. to save the playlist from your wedding. It’s like a time capsule of the night – this is when the wine glass broke, this is when I danced like crazy with my college friends, this is when we snuck away for a kiss…I listen to ours every anniversary and my mind goes through the entire night.”

Says Sarah on an anxiety trick: “My childhood mind had a room full of sweet, smart, beautifully dressed women sitting around (looking back, in the form of a 17th century salon). I couldn’t see the ladies up close, but I would visit them in my mind at night when I was frightened in the dark, or after watching a scary movie. We would talk about everyday things and eventually I would fall asleep. That imaginary room of women was so comforting. In the last few years there have been moments were I have returned to this room and it has given me such relief. It’s a diversion from the worries and fears in my mind and I am soothed better than any meditation app or mantra I’ve tried so far.”

(Photo by Mav. Obituary via Kottke. Ina Garten via Hither & Thither. Rescheduling post via Jocelyn.)

  1. Kate says...

    I live in Wisconsin and I stumbled upon a local artist (James Steeno) who makes fantastic art maps of the state. He had one of the local chain of lakes (aka the Winnebago Pool) where I grew up. It seemed like pretty perfect bathroom art! :)

    https://www.etsy.com/shop/jsteeno/items?section_id=16144897

  2. KAT says...

    I’m trying to figure out what the recipe is for that picture. It looks amazing and something I need to try please :) Thank you!

  3. My own bathroom has crazy gold zebra (Scalamandre) wallpaper, so no art really fits, but recently I was commissioned to paint a client’s friend’s very silly cat who likes to strike sexy poses, and that painting now lives above her toilet. It could not be more perfect for the space.

  4. J says...

    My version of Sarah’s anxiety trick is imagining Aunt Beast from A Wrinkle in Time holding me. She’s gentle and warm and knowing and strong. Helps a lot, along with my usual medication and therapy practices.

  5. Nina Nattiv says...

    That obituary has me sobbing. Why am I crying so hard?

    • J says...

      Oh my god. Openly sobbing in a hotel bar while I’m catching up on my favorite blog since I’m solo on a work trip. I had to apologize to the bartender when she came over and asked if I needed a wine refill.

  6. Love all the Austin Kleon links lately. As a creative, I find him so inspiring, read his blog every single day.

  7. Grace says...

    Oh my gosh I’m SO excited about the larger sizes for the sweatshirt! Thank you CoJ! I’m sure it wasn’t fun to read a barrage of comments about it but I can’t tell you how much it means to feel listened to about something so personal. Just bought mine. Now, to figure out which girlfriends to get them for as Christmas gifts!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i’m so glad, grace! thank you so much for your sweet comment.

  8. Merry Moo says...

    I love the ‘This is 18’. beautiful. a quick glimpse into how an 18 years old that was born in that century-mark 2000. Thank you for sharing!

  9. Have you or your team given thought producing Cup of Jo mugs, candles, etc? I get the feeling that readers who felt crushed by your Clare V collection (which is beautiful!) likely feel hurt because they identify with your COJ community and wish to have a token of it in their home. Something they can justify purchasing at the end of a long difficult day. I would be that person! As someone who adores your collection (I’ve long admired Clare V) yet can’t afford to purchase some of these items, I congratulate you on this momentous collaboration!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes! that is a great idea, and we’ll definitely look into this. thank you so much, stacy xoxo

  10. Sarah says...

    Can Ina teach me how to take the topping and dressing packet out of my bag salad without getting pieces of shredded cabbage all over the counter?

  11. Jenny says...

    What is that soup? Can you provide the recipe? I need to make it now.

    Thanks! :)

  12. Katha says...

    Yes! to art in the bathroom.
    I just ordered a print just for that. Still need to frame it and find the perfect spot.

  13. Dana says...

    I’ve been thinking a lot about the reactions to the Claire V post and your note above about adding more sizes to the sweatshirt options. At first it seemed silly to me that people felt so personally hurt by the price and size options, because who cares if someone is selling something that doesn’t fit your needs? But the more I thought about it, it occurred to me that people were hurt because they feel like the ladies of COJ are their close personal friends.

    So, while it would be great if the prices were in everyone’s budget and the top would fit us all, that’s not the root of the disappointment here. Life is full of situations that exclude us and we all suck it up and move on. But when a friend excludes you, that can really hit home.

    Joanna and the ladies at COJ should be really proud of the community that has been created here. A bunch of strangers from around the world have a supportive place that feels so welcoming that we all forget that we don’t know each other personally and are just getting glimpses into each others lives.

    I really love this little place on the internet and the community that has resulted from Joanna being generous enough to open her world up to us.

    • Sasha L says...

      This made me tear up. What an insightful comment. I totally agree.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you for these kind notes. they mean so much to me xoxo

  14. Angel says...

    I can’t stop watching that braces video!

  15. Thank you SO much for the link love. xx

  16. L says...

    So glad to read that you’re working on a post about the state of the planet. Curious to know about the impact of online shopping/shipping/packaging. Prime etc.

  17. Sarah M says...

    On the topic of playlists: my husband and I did long distance the 9 months leading up to our wedding. And to keep the conversations we had across the time difference from devolving into wedding decision anxiety, we decided to focus on the one thing that made us happy: music. We set up a shared Spotify folder we called “Coast to Coast Love”, and throughout the year, we would put in any songs that reminded us of each other or that we were particularly loving, then culled a set list for the DJ. Our set list ended up being so reflective of us and our year, and it was by far the highlight of our wedding. We ended up emailing the Spotify link to all our guests after our wedding because so many people wanted to know what was played!

  18. Finn says...

    A lovely round up of links as always.
    A thought on this week though: One of the things I’ve always so appreciated about this blog is your attention to current events and the way they affect your readers. In times of turmoil it is rare to see you stay silent, as it should be. This week however, we were hit with a damning report on the state of our planet. It is clear now that if we don’t take drastic action right now, we will pass the point of no return in the next decade, making our planet uninhabitable for future generations.
    This news has weighed heavy on me, as it has many others. As much as we have know for a long time we are headed in the wrong direction, this week was a wake up call. The due date for my first child actually came and went this week as well, doubling my anxieties. Am I bringing a child into a world that is not ready to make changes so that he can live a happy life, have his own family and future?
    I feel the time for averting responsibly has passed. Every single one of us must now act – and you are in a unique position. I would urge you to use your influence for good in this time and use this platform to induce whatever change you can. Every bit counts.
    I would be so happy to see a post on the steps we can take as individuals here in the next days. I’m sure the ever-thoughtful Cup of Jo community will have lots of input as well. Maybe you could even do a round up of reader tips, in the spirit of the recipes being posted this week?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes! we are working on a post. thank you so much for your thoughtful note, finn.

    • China says...

      Hi Finn,
      I totally feel your anxiety about this issue! I have two young kids and I think about it a lot, and I’ve definitely tried to change our family’s behavior around waste/reuse etc. in recent years. But I would really caution against taking too much responsibility on yourself and any changes you can make in your day-to-day life. Reducing carbon on a significant level will depend on massive changes to industrial processes, innovations in clean energy, and an investment in reengineering the world’s economy that depends on government-lead change. We could all stop using paper towels and plastic straws tomorrow and it wouldn’t do a damn bit of good if there are no systemic changes. Individual change is wonderful, but I worry that zero-waste ambitions are yet another area that has fallen heavily on the shoulders of women, and particularly mothers. We really don’t need yet another new yardstick to measure our worth as parents and human beings. If making personal changes helps alleviate your anxiety without causing too much more stress, go for it. But please don’t feel bad if you have to use disposable diapers and wipes, order takeout occasionally or skip the cloth napkins when you have friends and family over for a while! Good luck with your delivery! I hope you have an easy labor and a lovely time with your newborn. Babies cause a lot of anxiety, but there is also nothing quite so calm and centering as snuggling a newborn.

    • Sasha L says...

      Best of luck with your birth and new baby Finn. Such a thoughtful comment, I heartily agree. We all together could do so much.

  19. This story of overcoming anxiety touches my heart as I often imagine myself surrounded by older versions of myself listening to my worries, fears, anxieties while they sit in peaceful knowingness and love. We often hear about getting in touch and soothing your younger self. Try imagining it in reverse. Very powerful. Thank you for sharing Sarah. 🌿

  20. Trish O says...

    Well done.

  21. K says...

    I bought a print on Monet’s “Girl with Umbrella” when I was in Paris at the age of 14. That print is now mounted and hangs in my bathroom 16 years later. It is still one of my favourites.

  22. Holly says...

    Why I LOVE Cup of Jo: I laughed (Obituary), I cried (Obituary), I bookmarked, I adored Ina (again). This blog is the greatest.

  23. Rachel says...

    My dad made it a point to have his masters degree diploma nicely framed. Then he insisted that it be hung in the bathroom because he thought his degree was BS! Hung there for many, many years….

    • diana k. says...

      I recently made a big move for work and getting a residence visa included a whole bunch of medical examinations in a foreign country. Stool samples, blood tests, chest x-rays, all in a country where I barely spoke the language. I ended up getting my visa and they let me keep the chest x-ray, so I think i’ll frame it and hang it up in my bathroom when I get back to the U.S. as a reminder of this wild ride.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      rachel, that is so funny! and diana, congratulations and good luck! xoxo

  24. Lisa says...

    Thank you for reacting and responding to the comments about sizing. I have been thinking a lot why I was one of many who reacted so strongly about it and it all boils down to this – I hate that I still today need to look for “plus size” categories when shopping clothes, and I’m not even “huge”. When skinny people design something and don’t even THINK about the fact that at least half (guess) of the potential customers won’t fit them, it’s another way of shouting “HEY WHY DONT YOU LOOSE SOME WEIGHT SO YOU FIT IN?!” and I’m so tired of it. This is a safe space for me, a network of people of different race, sex, religion, political beliefs, sexual preferences and so on.. so it should also be size inclusive. I don’t know everyone working for the cup of jo team, but I wonder if anyone is actually plus size, the ones I can name are all petite ladies that have probably never had to worry about fitting into any piece of clothing. I just feel that if you had a plus size member it should have come up that “ehm, I actually won’t fit into this, why don’t we add some sizes?” Also offering XS and not XL is saying that it’s ok to be super small but don’t you even dare being anything else than a “runs small”-large. Sorry, rant over. Life moves in and I still love you, but please please please think about hiring more inclusively so mistakes like these can be avoided.

  25. I have just watched the Netflix programme Salt Fat Acid Heat. How amazing! So beautifully filmed, in a wonderful country, and Selima is an engaging personality. What comes across so strongly is that Italians revere their food, and make only the best. Food is not just a fuel to keep you going, snacked on mindlessly, but an occasion, from the growing, making and eating of it. I can’t wait for the next instalment. Thank you Joanna for finding it for us.
    X

  26. Lea says...

    I have vivid memories of the pieces my grandma hung in front of the toilet growing up. Finally, our new apartment has appropriate wall space to do that in both bathrooms! I was so excited to pick pictures of sheeps and Highland cows from our trip to Scotland. There’s something about farm animals watching me doing my thing that makes me laugh.

  27. anne says...

    Joanna, I want to give you a big hug to congratulate you on your Clare.V collaboration and on how you handled the feedback with such grace!! Hope you have a fun, restful weekend.

  28. Emily says...

    So cool that you’re adding more sizes to your collection. Until the last year or so (thank you so much Katie Sturino) it never fully occurred to me just how unnecessary it was for mainstream brands to be so restrictive in their size ranges. I’m just on the cusp of plus size and this has always been something that deeply disturbs me and makes me feel otherized. I’ve always sort of held on to this subconscious feeling that it’s my fault that I can’t fit into most clothes and one day maybe I’ll manage to lose the weight to be able to buy cute stuff. It doesn’t have to be this way, it’s not up to us to change, it’s up to brands to include us. We have money and we want to buy cute clothes, it’s that simple.

  29. I vote for art in the bathroom! I have the movie poster for What Happened to Jack Kerouac? hanging up over the toilet in my guest bathroom, and a Picasso print by the sink.

  30. K says...

    Your comment about the Clare V collection is very thoughtful. Just remember…no one is perfect, though sometimes looking at the blog it feels like you’ve got it all in the bag with just the right mix of humility and humor. It is very kind of you to apologize and pivot, and reassuring to know even your team can improve.

  31. Meg says...

    I do love the reader comment on saving your wedding playlist… unless your wedding DJ kind of sucks and misreads your “do not play” list as your “must play list” …. Gold Digger and Blurred Lines can stay away from my wedding memories even though they were technically there… haha

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      no!!!! hahaha that’s terrible/hilarious. glad that you can laugh about it now!

    • Lisa says...

      Well at least it wasn’t The Funky Chicken or The Macarena?!

    • diana k. says...

      I’d like to pass legislation to never again play Journey “Don’t Stop Believing” at weddings. I used to work as a cater waitress and did 2 -3 weddings a week, several bar/bat mitzvahs and sweet sixteens, and that song would sometimes play twice per night. When I hear it at weddings today, the horrific experience of wearing a sweat-soaked, cake-smeared tux, and carrying huge trays full of kids table ketchup-in-their-soda concoctions back to the kitchen starts flooding back to me.

  32. Johanna says...

    Joanna and Team, the Clare V. collaboration you did is truly beautiful. That’s why there was such an uproar, because WE ALL WANT IT! :) Congratulations on a job well done,

  33. Laura says...

    A Quick Note on the Pretty Earring(s): I ordered a few months ago and was a bit sad to find out that it’s just a single earring. So be sure you buy two or get ready to rock a single!

    • Ev says...

      I never ever wear a matching pair, but always two different ones! I was so happy to see that I don’t have to buy something I only use half of :)

  34. Rae says...

    The Parenting Book idea! Made my day…

  35. Naima says...

    Wow, This is 18 was absolutely stunning!

  36. Robin says...

    Was home sick this week and watched Salt, Fat, Acid. Still need to watch Heat, but I am loving the series! It is beautifully shot and the host is so lovely, I want to be her friend.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      she seems so warm and hilarious.

    • I’m her friend! And she’s just exactly like that in real life. She’s a gem.

    • Sasha L says...

      Alli, that’s so wonderful! I’m watching the first episode right now, she is delightful. What a fun show. Thanks COJ.

  37. Kay says...

    It’s not fine art by any means, but I hung a print that simply says “you are beautiful inside and out” in my bathroom. It’s above the toilet (not so glamorous) but perfectly positioned so that I read it every day when I step out of the shower to towel off. It’s a lovely way to start a day and I figure the more times I read it the more likely I am to believe it. After we’d had it a while my husband joked we should get another one that says “whoa, that’s impressive!” Ha ha. :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i love that. :)

    • Kat says...

      The (all-women) gym I go to has a sticker on the mirror in the locker room that says “I hope your day is as nice as your butt”, so I taped the same thing to my bathroom mirror at home. It’s pretty silly but I always smile when I see it!

  38. Gem says...

    That obituary is so wonderful.

    Casablunta = all the lols

  39. Amanda says...

    RE: Bathroom art, my husband and I bought our first house a couple of years ago and since the bathroom doesn’t have any kind of ventilation, I was hesitant to hang anything in there… but I HATE blank walls (I’ve really resisted the minimalist aesthetic, LOL). One day I was browsing an antique mall and one of the stalls had baskets full of illustrations pulled out of books – think Audobon-style birds, animals, and flowers. I chose a few botanical prints, popped them in cheap frames from Michael’s, and BAM – actual art that’s not too precious.

  40. Sarah says...

    Good God, I love Ina Garten.

  41. Cynthia says...

    What an obituary! I cracked up! What kind of soup is in the photo? It looks yummy, as does the bread. It’s getting to be soup weather. I put up my Halloween decorations on Wednesday. Nothing scary, just fun. Our girls are grown and on their own, but I still put up my decorations. The string of lights across the mantel go back to my girls’ childhood. My father-in-law bought the lights for them, and the lights keep his memory alive. The ghost and jack-o-lantern globes are then replaced with turkeys for Thanksgiving and snowmen and Santas for Christmas.

  42. Michaela says...

    The obituary reminds me of Big Fish. So perfect.

  43. Kristin says...

    Oh my gosh! The comments in that obituary! What a special man and family. I’m teary-eyed and moved …

  44. Sally says...

    I’m almost embarrassed to admit that my favorite chicken recipe is Jenny Rosenstrach’s Grandma Jody’s Chicken. Not unlike her family when her mom was going to law school, I could probably eat it three times a week. However, I don’t always eat them plain — Chicken Parmesan, Chicken Milanese, Chicken Tonkatsu-Style Cutlets. Anyway, here’s a recipe with lots of variations: https://food52.com/blog/18117-pssst-8-very-adult-ways-to-eat-chicken-fingers-for-dinner

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      YUM!!!

  45. Callah says...

    Don’t skip the guest book messages” for that obituary – they are pure gold! Here’s a good one…

    …My wife and I will never forget Rick Stein. My wife was in labor and our car broke down on I70 in Columbus, OH. Rick pulled up behind us and calmly helped deliver our son. He suggested that the child had what is called a positional club foot and the we should message it and put his baby shoes on the opposite feet and that things would be “right as rain”. When the EMS arrived, Rick shook my hand and drove away.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      omg i love this so, so much. it’s like a wes anderson movie.

  46. Lauren B says...

    that obituary was beautiful – and the end hit me like a ton of bricks. I’m crying (and smiling) at my desk.

    • Annie says...

      Me too! I liked that version of he story the best.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      haha thanks for both links, matilda!

    • Sarah says...

      Oh my goodness I just spent a good amount of time looking through that Office link and was like, How did I end up here?

  47. Sarah’s anxiety trick was really interesting! It’s so cool to hear about all the unique little things our different brains come up with.

    briana

    • Robin says...

      Yes! I’ve been thinking about a room full of friendly, calm women in big dresses ever since I read her comment earlier in the week. Just lovely. It reminds me of a kids book I still love called The Lives of Christopher Chant, where the main character climbs out of his bed, goes round a corner and through into other worlds at night. There’s plenty more to the book (so great, like Harry Potter, with magic and school and kid friendships, but not scary and better written) but that image of other worlds hiding around a corner stayed with me. I’m going to try visiting them next time my mind races at night!

  48. On obituary notes: when my grandfather died, my uncles decided to add an extra line in to his obit–something about him being a world surfing champion in 1944 (he was serving in the Navy in Japan at that time). So many people called my grandmother and uncles to ask…Charlie was a surfer?! When did he sneak that in? It actually brought a lot of levity to a sad time for our family, especially as my grandfather was the original prankster–he would have loved it! Now it’s a bit of a family tradition to throw something unexpected and funny in, just to keep people on their toes :)

  49. Andrea says...

    that obituary! made me laugh and then made me cry. perfect.