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‘My Favorite Moment of Our Wedding’

8 Wedding Moments That Made Us Cry

On this grey afternoon, let’s talk about something fun! What parts of weddings do you enjoy most? From teary vows to funny dances, seven couples share the things they’ll never forget…

“Jabari and I fell in love while on vacation in San Francisco, so we decided to have a destination wedding there. My favorite part of the day was right before the wedding — we spent the afternoon, fully dressed in our wedding attire, walking around the city (even stopping for a burger at In-N-Out). Spending time doing normal things in San Francisco, then ending the day surrounded by friends and family, was really special. P.S. I was totally nervous about the ketchup!” — Ashley (and Jabari)

8 Wedding Moments That Made Us Cry

“Our wedding day was freezing cold, and it had just snowed, but we were determined to continue with our plans! We kept things simple — just us, a few friends and a judge, on top of a mountain in our Montana town. The ceremony was short, with vows written by us, and so many giggles and tears. Once the ‘I do’s’ were said, we sprinted to our car, heat blasting, to drink Champagne out of plastic glasses.” — Maria (and Andy)

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“Our caterer created the most epic charcuterie and cheese spread, but we didn’t even see it until the cocktail hour was over. While everyone else went up to the tent, we had our own private cocktail party — Negroni for me, Old Fashioned for Rob, and the board all to ourselves. We just kept saying to each other, ‘We’re married!!!’ The moment was surreal and magical.” — Mollie (and Rob)

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“We wrote vows that were alternating promises to one another — some funny, some serious. Anca promised to support my lifelong dream of forming a family band, and I promised to support her lifelong dream of being cast as the victim on Law & Order: SVU. There were a lot of laughs.” — Kayla (and Anca)

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“We also had a series of dance-offs. I’m not sure who won. I think we all won?” — Kayla (and Anca)

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“We were living in separate countries at the time of our marriage — me in New York, and Alex in London. (In fact, we’d always lived apart and didn’t even move in together until two months after the wedding! Long distance success story!) We had planned to go with our parents to City Hall in the morning, and then celebrate with 70 friends and relatives at dinner that night. But over half of the guests came to City Hall! We hadn’t expected that, and it was incredibly moving.” — Tracy (and Alex)

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“That night, we hosted dinner and toasts with our loved ones. It was the most romantic day of my life. I couldn’t stop kissing Alex and smiling.” — Tracy (and Alex)

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“My husband and I had been engaged for five months when he unexpectedly lost his job at a startup tech company. We struggled to make ends meet on my teacher’s salary, but got married in the thick of it, having a small wedding in Austin at the childhood home of my mother-in-law. When it came time for me to say ‘for better, for worse, richer or poorer,’ I lost it, because we were living that very thing, right then. It made me feel all the feels, and at first I hated those pictures of me crying, but now I treasure them.” — Katherine (and Sam)

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“For our wedding, I wore a simple dress I bought on eBay for $300 and my mother-in-law’s friend from church arranged our flowers. But one thing we splurged on was hiring a jazz trio to play Abdullah Ibrahim’s songs during our ceremony. Ibrahim was our favorite jazz pianist, and we always went to his shows when we were dating. It was such a special and intimate moment to have our favorite song, ‘The Wedding‘ (it starts at 19:50), which was unknown to everyone except for us, playing as I walked down the aisle.” — Erin (and Abe)

What wedding moments have you loved being part of? If you’re married, what was your favorite moment of your big day?

P.S. Surprising wedding advice, and did you have sex on your wedding night?

(Top photo of Ashley and Jabari by Rebecca S. Gratz. Maria and Andy by Jenna Graham. Mollie and Rob photos by Mark Sperry. Kayla and Anca photos by Justin McCallum. Katherine and Sam photo by Michelle Galizia.)

  1. Lynn says...

    One of them was right after our ceremony and all the family photos were done, my photographer let us be for about 20 minutes while she shot a few things around the venue before our photos began. We were alone. The waiters brought us a plate full of appetizers and two beers, and for the first time I felt completely relieved of all the stress from planning. It was over. We were married. We were SO so happy. We were SO in love. I couldn’t stop crying! And I could eat whatever I wanted for the first time in so long.

    The second moment was during our reception. My husband stood up and gave a very unexpected speech that brought me to tears. We didn’t exchange vows because we’re too wussies who cry at the drop of the hat, but he surprised me with a sweet story of how we met and what it all meant to him. To this day, I re-watch the grainy video my dad recorded on his phone just to hear his words on that day.

  2. Blair says...

    I have two things that really stand out from my wedding day – one from planning and one from the day itself. First, my husband (a classically trained clarinetist) selected ALL of our music. Like, for E V E RY T H I N G. (A+ husband!) And it was all phenomenal. My sister and a friend sang “It Is Well” during communion, and our first dance was to Duke Ellington’s Queen Suites. All the music was so great, and now when I listen to the pieces we had played, I think of our wedding day!

    The second thing that really stands out in my memory is when I got to the end of the aisle, where my husband was waiting for me, he was MUCH more emotional and nervous than I thought he’d be, and the first thing he said to me (with a really serious face) when I took his hands was “I’m sorry my hands are clammy, I’m really nervous.” It was just so cute, and still makes me laugh.

  3. Claire says...

    We got married in December last year and there were so many brilliant moments! I basically laughed and giggled my way through the entire day, including the ceremony! Which is just me all over! My two stand out moments were when my dad got all of our friends to head to the dance floor (we didn’t have a first dance) and we all kicked off the dancing together by jumping about to our favourite Queen song! My second best bit was when we got home and we were absolutely starving and we found some left over sandwiches in the fridge – no food has ever tasted so good! We had such an awesome day and I would do it every weekend if I could!

  4. Natalie says...

    My husband and I are both a little shy in front of people (which makes for an interesting wedding day!). We didn’t want everyone staring at us for our first dance, so we asked the DJ to invite all the couples in the room to share our first dance with us. It will always be one of the most precious moments of my life – in the arms of my husband, singing to each other, laughing and then glancing around to see our parents, both sets of his parents, aunts and uncles and friends and even little kids who’d grabbed a partner. The last time my family had all been together that year was for a funeral, to celebrate the life of my uncle. That day, we all danced to celebrate the beginning of two lives together. It was so special to me.

  5. The music! Married my lovely man in Cornwall in 2009 and it was all about the music, heavily curated by Robin. Doris ‘Did you give the world some love today’ was our first dance (I highly recommend listening right now for an instant lift to your day), and at the end of the night we finally found ourselves standing together, crying with happiness, watching all the people we loved most in the world dancing to ‘The Staunton Lick’ by Lemonjelly.
    Sidenote: Harry Belafonte featured heavily. As he should. Always.

  6. Julia says...

    At the very end of the reception, we played “I’ve Got Friends in Low Places” and all our friends and family (that hadn’t gone to bed yet!) spontaneously got into a circle, held hands, and sang it together. We loved looking around at all our best people together! Has since become a tradition with our other friends getting married to play this as the last song, but I’m pretty sure we started it :)

  7. I’m a wedding planner and decorator, and I’m always working behind the scenes on the night of the wedding. In my country weddings are a big event, and people usually host approximately 450 pax for a dinner party after the ceremony at church. It’s usually a stressful period for the bride, with anxiety hitting red during the last few days, and on the very day, preparations start early, and she usually doesn’t even have a minute for herself.
    I can’t stop smiling when I welcome and congratulate the couple at the venue right after their wedding, and when they make their entrance at the dinner to cut the cake, I’m always somewhere where the bride can see me, smiling like a fool, shouting congratulations. It’s usually the part where the couple feels that it’s all gone according to plan, and it’s their time to relax and enjoy themselves- despite being the centre of attention!

  8. my husband and i were married in front of 25 of our closest family members in a beautiful destination beach ceremony two years ago. the ceremony was officiated by my husband’s closest cousin (who is also a very gifted writer) we then had an awesome week of celebration and ocean chilling with our families. because the wedding was out of state and the cousin is not ordained, we decided that the easiest thing to do would be to get “officially” married a couple weeks before our wedding. we got up early one Sunday morning and went to the courthouse -just the two of us. the judge said some beautiful words and the court appointed witness cried when we said “i do”! afterwards, we went furniture shopping at an antique market then had dinner & champagne at our favorite restaurant. it was so perfect to have two “wedding days” -one for just the two of us, and one that we got to share with the people we love the most. i wouldn’t change a thing about either.

  9. Marla says...

    Our limo broke down on the side of the road at 1:00am as we left our reception. Still in my ballgown and my husband in his tux, we rode to our hotel in the back of a police squad car.

  10. Melinda says...

    We had a morning ceremony and a late afternoon reception. In between, we changed into some comfy clothes (my hair was in this elegant updo with a flower wreath!), called a few friends, and went to our favorite lunch spot. It was such a fun, spontaneous way to relax in between the bustle of the big day. The restaurant workers even brought us black and white cheesecake bars (they called them “bride and groom cheesecake bars”) for free! Such a happy memory.

  11. Jade says...

    My husband and I had a surprise wedding. We had been dating for about 5 years while all of our other friends were getting married. When he proposed (thanks, tequila!) he had this crazy idea of not telling any body about it! That next morning, I couldn’t believe I was actually getting married. Nobody knew about it! My husband grew up farming so we threw a “First Annual Harvest Party” to celebrate the end of a great walnut harvest! We told our immediate family and they were all on board.

    My parents told my family that they had to come because he was going to propose to me that night! On the day of the wedding, I told my best friends in the morning and they all came and got ready with me. It was the chillest day. People showed up to this harvest party in jeans and boots.

    When my father in law got up to thank everybody and pray, he said what a beautiful night this was… surrounded by 200 of his closest friends. “It’s so beautiful here under the lights… almost like a wedding. The only thing we would need is a groom” Right then, my husband stood up from his table, unzipped his $3 down jacket from a thrift store and walked up to where an alter was being brought up. People were SHOCKED.

    I hopped off a tractor, locked arms with my mom and dad, and could not stop laughing and crying at the same time. Nobody even knew we were engaged. We said our vows, I finally got to show everybody my ring (!!) and we danced the night away. I’ve never seen so many people on the dance floor at a wedding. Maybe because everybody had comfortable shoes on?

    With all that being said, seeing everybody’s reaction is my favorite memory. I just remember thinking, “wow. we actually pulled this off”.

  12. I love all of these stories and the pics, but nothing beats In-n-Out on our wedding day. That’s officially killing it.

  13. One moment we always reminisce about from our wedding goes along these lines.

    Pastor (to my husband): Do you take [blah blah]?
    Husband: I do!
    Me (on a menacing tone): GOOD!

    I tend to use sarcasm and make jokes when I’m nervous, but that menacing “good” came out without me ever thinking about “what’s my repartee supposed to be when my groom says his ‘I do’?”

  14. Kate says...

    Am getting married next weekend and am almost 6 weeks pregnant. These beautiful stories coupled with my crazy hormones have made for many teary moments! I wonder what my favourite moment will be?!

  15. Emily says...

    These are all so sweet. I just got married on Sunday!! I loved our entire wedding day, but I have to share my favorite moment. My husband and I were set up on a blind date three years ago when he was playing guitar and singing at a mini concert put on by our university. I was smitten! Later that night after hearing him sing and chatting with him for a while, I half-jokingly confessed to my best friend how sweet I thought would be if he sang at our wedding if we were to work out and get married someday. We both laughed it off ;) Fast forward to our wedding! My husband schemed to surprise me during our ceremony with a song he’d written for me while we were dating. When it came time for the special music, my sister-in-law (who was listed to sing on the program) handed off her guitar to my groom. I burst into tears when he began to sing to me in front of all our family and closest friends.

  16. Rachel M says...

    My husband and I got married in our back yard with around 12 guests. Right before the ceremony, my husband called me away for a few minutes so we could have a moment alone together in our bedroom, both of us on the verge of tears of happiness, pumping each other up to hold it together for our vows. It was a brilliant day with our core family, but those few minutes we stole together are what comes to my mind first when we reminisce about our special day.

  17. Lauren E. says...

    I always cry when I read these!!

    My favorite moment of our wedding was my husband’s vows. He’s a standup comic but just a generally dramatic and well spoken guy, and he wrote these stream of consciousness vows that included references to Bruce Springsteen, our first date in a seedy bar, how much he’d changed because of meeting me (in the good ways :), and me being “sexy as as all get out and I never want to turn the volume down on you.” It was the purest, most honest, precious thing anyone has ever said about me and one of the best moments of my whole life.

    • I love the “never want to turn the volume down on you” part!

  18. Elizabeth Ryan says...

    I’ve got many magnificent memories from our wedding- but this was the first moment that had popped into my head when I read the post. It was about half an hour before the ceremony began, and between the photographer getting into place, the venue coordinator running around at the last minute, my parents greeting guests and my bridesmaids checking their makeup I somehow found myself outside an exterior-only door to the venue all by myself. It was the only time I had been truly alone all day (although I had had some lovely quiet time with my husband to be during our first look and taking photos) and I found myself a little bewildered, especially because it had been stressed to me over and over again that before I walked down the aisle, the dress had to be straightened out, many teirs of petticoats fluffed up, train spread out, etc. Suddenly, the door opened and three of my husband’s groomsmen stepped out in their tuxes- seemingly as surprised to see me and I was to see them. “I don’t know where to go!” I blurted out. “My bridesmaids are supposed to fluff out my petticoats and all but I’ve been left here!” All three of them, my husband’s buddies from high school and college and my younger brother, got down on bended knees and began fixing the dress SO carefully and tenderly- all while joking and smiling with me. It was one of the best moments and actually brings sweet tears to my eyes when I think about it. Three kinda gruff, slightly standoffish guys being so openly joyful and happy and careful with their friend’s bride on their wedding day. It made me realize how lucky we were, and how loved, that it wasn’t his friends and my friends, his family and my family- but everyone who loved us feeling as delighted as we were that we were getting married.

    • What a special moment! Your story brought tears to my eyes immediately.

    • Rachel M says...

      This is so precious! What a special moment.

    • Elizabeth Ryan says...

      Thank you!! And right?? Cue sobbing emoji.

  19. Lauren B. says...

    We were married in my parents backyard and had the reception on their patio, which has a small swimming pool nearby. The whole event was very casual and relaxed, which was exactly the feel we were going for. I realized we had truly succeed in making our guests feel that way when I looked over during the middle of our reception and saw four little boys (two of my nephews and the two sons of the pastor who married us) stripped down and playing in the swimming pool. Our photographer captured some great shots of them playing in the pool while the wedding reception was raging on in the background. They’re some of my favorite pictures and one of my very favorite memories from the night.

  20. Meredith says...

    My husband is a trailer editor, and he made a five-minute video that played after our ceremony about our lives together. We got to sit down, hold hands, and watch our entire relationship play out in front of our family and friends. Plus having my husband say afterwards “This is what it’s like to be in love with you” just about did me in!

  21. Kate says...

    When my husband and I got engaged, it was days after my dad had an intense, emergent, 12 hour abdominal cavity surgery to treat his recently diagnosed mesothelioma. In the interest of making sure my dad would be at my wedding, we fast-tracked the wedding, getting married five months later. The day was pure magic but the most touching part was my dad’s speech. There was a running joke in our family that my dad could stand up for any occasion and deliver a speech that would make the entire room cry. The right words, at the right moment, delivered in only a way my dad could, was his best gift. After telling the story about my mom’s announcement that she was pregnant with child number four, me, my dad said, “[t]hirty years later, we arrive at this wonderful and joyous moment, affirming again, why that fourth daughter, Kate, was such a special gift. That I can be here tonight to tell you that Kate and celebrate with you make this weekend that much more special.” That I can be here tonight. Subtle, honest, lump-in-my-throat-provoking. My died dad in December and at times I still cannot believe it’s true. That he COULD be there that night, is the absolute best part of my wedding. [Excuse me, I have to go secretly cry in my work bathroom now!]

    • annie says...

      what a wonderful memory, girl. thanks for sharing this.

  22. Jordan Hiblong says...

    My husband Paul and I put on aprons after we greeted our guests and served them hot cinnamon rolls in to-go containers. We had a 10am wedding and had the BEST southern breakfast for our guests, but we wanted a fun way to make sure to see our everyone. We had a roller cart of cinnamon rolls we rolled to each table. Motown was playing in the background, and I couldn’t stop kissing him in between servings. That night we wore our getup sans aprons out to a brewery and met friends for food and drinks. It was the most romantic day of my life, celebrating all types of love—but ours is my very favorite.

  23. There was a lot I loved about our wedding day (the flowers I grew, the dessert table put together by my aunts, the vows we wrote, our EPIC playlists), but I think the best moments were as we were running around the days before and the day of, a bit stressed about getting everything together, my almost husband would pull me aside and announce we were having a “kiss break”. It was just a second for each other and to revel in what was happening amidst the chaos. I have a tendency to become very focused on a task, while my husband is better at taking a step back and thinking about the big picture, and those moments showed how our personalities balance so well.

  24. Lily says...

    My favorite part of my wedding day was bursting into laughter during our vows when we say we’re going to be the other ones wife/husband and I said it in a tone like “and don’t you forget it!” and he came back with “oh don’t you worry” the whole congregation was laughing and the photos from that moment are my FAVORITE. I wish I could share them here!

  25. Taylor says...

    I loved SO much about my wedding, but the most interesting part happened before! We decided to have our photos done pre-ceremony in Downtown with our bridal party. While taking photos on a huge hill in the middle of the street, a group of teenagers came riding through the shot! When they got to us, they stopped and were so excited we were getting married that they wanted to bless us right there. Like, a blessing-blessing. Prayer and everything! They made all our wedding party gather around and place their hands on us, then these skater guys with sagging pants and backwards caps blessed our marriage. My husband isn’t religious at all, but he was so into it and it has been such a fun story to tell.

    My parents have a great story as well. They also took their photos before the ceremony, and on the way to the wedding my mum was starving so they went to McDonalds! They ended up being late to their own wedding and people thought they had gotten cold feet! After my own wedding, we stopped by McDonalds on the way to the hotel just to keep the tradition alive.

  26. A says...

    No one but our parents know this but we had not one but two weddings. Needing to do the first early (by a year) for citizenship reasons, we took a day off work and drove to a staycation spot with a courthouse. We got our license and checked in to a B&B and then took a pre-wedding nap. Getting ready together was so wonderful because we were able to ask each other preferences as to how to style my hair or if he should wear this or that belt. Then we walked to the courthouse and exchanged our vows. I cried. He laughed and then also cried. But my favorite part was going to dinner together afterwards. The hostess complimented my dress having no idea it was my wedding dress, and we secretly celebrated amidst the other diners. The entire day could not have been more romantic or perfect and I’m so glad that we were forced to elope!

    • Rachel M says...

      I love this so much! Your day sounded perfect and so fun. We had my ‘first’ wedding for the same reason in our backyard in August 2016, it was incredibly casual with around 12 guests (our core family). We’re currently planning our ‘big’ day for this year on what will be our two year anniversary! Thanks for sharing, it’s so nice to hear a similar story.

  27. Kati says...

    While I did enjoy reading this article, how about writing of separation and divorce? Sometimes things just don’t work out, no matter how hard you try. It seems that marital problems and divorce affect so many people, but the issue is still somewhat of a taboo…

    • Jen says...

      Yes to more conversations about divorce, please!

  28. We got married at City Hall in San Francisco with just our parents, my husband’s brother and a photographer. It was such a fun way to get married, and after an afternoon of photos around the city, and a wonderful dinner, we made our way back to our hotel room. It was the first time we were alone all day, and we decided to order room-service coca cola’s to toast each other. It was the simplest gesture, but was so “us” that it still makes me smile to this day.

  29. Susan says...

    My husband and I eloped, taking a helicopter up to a mountain high in the Canadian Rockies. It was March, so snowing just a bit which made it feel like we were getting married in a giant snow globe. When we returned home we invited family around for a dinner, and I handed out what everyone thought were wedding invitations. The look on everyone’s faces when they realised that they were being asked to celebrate an event that had already taken place, vs one still to happen, was priceless. Our wedding day was something precious just for the two of us, but being able to spring that surprise on everyone, was the icing on the proverbial wedding cake!

  30. Colleen says...

    My husband and I got married two weeks after he had graduated from college. (I had graduated the previous semester.) We were trying to line up jobs and coordinate a move in addition to planning the wedding. Something was bound to fall through the cracks.

    Our wedding day arrives and everything was perfect until my husband and I realized that almost everyone had left the church after the ceremony and we didn’t have a way to the reception. Luckily, my husband’s cousin was still there with his car. He sweetly scooped the dirty laundry he brought home from campus out of the backseat and shoved it in the trunk so we could fit. He also offered to write “Just Married” in the thick dirt that covered the car.

    We were almost to the reception and his cousin leaned over, picked up a French fry off the car floor, offered it to us and asked if we were hungry! We were all cracking up as we pulled up and got out of the car.

    Nearly 13 years later, it’s one of our very favorite stories. One of us offering a fry and asking the other if they’re hungry never fails to elicit a laugh!

    • Elizabeth Ryan says...

      Dear God, so sweet and cute!!

  31. Karly says...

    I could read 100 more of these.

  32. Emily says...

    I’m getting married in a few weeks and am loving hearing everyone’s stories. It has me more excited for my own wedding day! (Which is pretty anxiety-creating too).

  33. Erin says...

    After a pretty busy wedding day, just the two of us were standing exhausted in the elevator heading up to our room in the hotel. The elevator doors closed and we were transfixed with our own reflection in the mirrored doors. Everyone else had been looking at us all day, but this was the first time we were seeing ourselves as as bride and groom and husband and wife. We enjoyed this vision so much that we rode the elevator up, then down, and then back up again while soaking in the view.

  34. Mary says...

    We didn’t want a traditional wedding but both of our parents really wanted us to have one. So we went ahead with it. Our wedding wasn’t anything crazy, but it still wasn’t necessarily what I would’ve planned. I remember my mom and sister telling me I’d wake up the next morning disappointed it was all over. But honestly, the next morning was my very favorite moment. Waking up next to my now husband and it just being the two of us. To this day I still get butterflies thinking of that moment.

    • Sadie says...

      This describes me exactly. Having the wedding was something I did for my parents– I was very shy and really just gritted my teeth through the whole thing. Then our honeymoon turned out to be a disaster– we were taking this long canoe trip and it just rained, and rained, and rained, until we literally abandoned the canoe and hitchhiked to a hotel, where we promptly got food poisoning. (It makes a better story than it did an experience, let me tell you!). When my husband and I were finally at home, alone, in our apartment, with the windows open, then, I finally thought, “Oh, this is so cool. We’re MARRIED.”

  35. Caitlin says...

    My favorite moment happened when I was waiting to walk in for the ceremony. I was going to walk in, alone, after all our nieces and nephews, and I was nervous about everyone looking at me. My 6yo niece noticed and said “Do you know what I do when I feel nervous? I think about Mommy and Daddy and everyone that loves me, and I feel better.” Her sweet wisdom made me think about how lucky I was to be marrying the love of my life surrounded by all the people who love us best! Still makes me tear up think about it.

    • Sarah Jane says...

      This is the sweetest!

  36. Annelise says...

    My favorite part of our wedding was at the end of the night when my brother-in-law grabbed the microphone, for what I thought would be a speech, and broke out into a choreographered dance with his two friends to NSYNC’s Bye Bye Bye. I had tears streaming down my face from laughing so hard–it was the ultimate send off.

  37. Ilayda says...

    My husband and I are from different countries, so our engagement was a big game of visa-limbo. My visa came through unexpectedly quickly, so I ended up moving to Boston and slapping together a wedding in a matter of days. I got a Free People dress on sale, my MIL gave me grocery store flowers, and my dad took our pictures in the backyard. (We had a “proper” wedding with a photographer the year after, but I secretly like those first pictures of us – barefoot in the grass, totally overwhelmed, and giggling).

    My favourite moment was right after our courthouse ceremony. My husband reached into his suit pocket and pulled out a mystery flavor Dum Dum lollipop. He had seen it at the front counter and snagged it before the ceremony, well aware of my GIANT sweet tooth. After a truly mind-boggling few days, it was such a sweet, simple moment that reminded us that we really were best friends.

  38. Laura says...

    Gosh, the whole day was so perfect and felt like it lasted about 25 minutes total, everything went by us like in a dream. So many beautiful moments, but we both agreed that it was so fun sitting on the side of the tub in our honeymoon suite that night, rehashing the day, marveling in our new marriage, and picking confetti out of each other’s hair <3

  39. I rode my horse, Max, who I’ve had since I was 14 to my wedding, sidesaddle in my white dress through Henley with all the bunting still up from the regatta. Obviously marrying my husband was the best bit of the day really, but getting to have Max who was a rock and an adventure in difficult teenage years carry me there was just awesome. He totally loved his adventure, and all the cars stopped and waved, it was lovely.

  40. Kari says...

    Our favorite song, Robyn’s “Dancing on My Own” played twice. We made our own playlist and split it in two so that the night would start with tunes for all ages, and then would end with a final power hour of our top dance songs. Our emcee accidentally put on the final playlist first, so our dance party began to the loud beats of Robyn. The parents were very confused. We rushed to change it back to the correct, Motown-heavy playlist after the song was over, but when the final hour came the emcee (my good friend) popped over to check in with us and said “I think we could hear Robyn again.” Everyone danced their hearts out. We also ended the night with “Call Your Girlfriend.” Maybe not the most wedding-appropriate songs, but spinning around and seeing all our friends belting “but yoooou, just met somebody neeeeew” was THE BEST.

    • Nicole says...

      those are 2 of my favorite songs and I plan on playing both of them at my future wedding!

  41. Jo says...

    My husband and I got married in St. John, USVI. it was just the two of us (besides the officiant and the photographer) and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. The act of marriage seems like such an intimate thing to me and I only wanted to share that with my husband. Three weeks later we celebrated with family, but I love all the one on one time my husband and I had on our wedding day.

  42. Caro says...

    We had a wonderful happy day with family – and very important for us – friends.
    The whole wedding lasted 28 hours without interruption.
    We are living in the Bavarian Alps and there a traditional wedding begins with the firing of saluting guns before sunrise. After breakfast with the shooters we got ready for a catholic ceremony in a church packed with about 300 people where a friend of us surprised us with a choir singing both traditional and modern songs, which brought everybody to tears. Coming out of the church a traditional bavarian band was waiting and other friends had arranged a very special kind of transportation – an italian Ape. So on a beautiful fall day we were driven on the back of this little open truck through several villages with people cheering us.
    We had hired a cook who made an italian style buffet and had a huge cake buffet with about 60 different cakes – all homemade by our guests. Everything was informal and just fun. The band started playing mid-afternoon with the traditional waltz, eventually we had a spontanous parade mid-party through the village and the dancing didn’t stop before 7 a.m. the next morning.
    Even 20 years later our guests remember the wedding because it was so fun and really “us”.

  43. Kelly says...

    I ate an ENORMOUS cheeseburger right before putting on my dress. It took me back to being a kid, when I would prep for a big test with 5 sharpened pencils and several bags of beef jerky. My MIL had ordered me a salad, but my mom came through and ordered a burger to trade with me, and bravely picked at wilted leaves while I demolished that thing.

    The most magical moment of the day was right as the ceremony was starting. My father-in-law was the officiant, my brother-in-law (at 15!) was the best man. From where I was standing, I saw my husband teary (for maybe the fifth time in seven years), and his dad and brother! His tough-as-nails dad could barely get started because his voice was cracking. I was grinning at all three of them, and my husband was holding onto both my hands for dear life. I was so touched to see them so overcome.

  44. Olga says...

    My whole wedding day feels like a sweet, syrupy dream, but my heart swells when I think about facing my now husband during the ceremony. As we approached the exchange of the vows, I remember thinking that I was glad he was holding my hands, because otherwise, I would just float away. For some reason, in that moment, while I was looking into his eyes, I felt a moment of clear certainty that this was the person I would spend my life with, and it was going to be a good life. It felt like pure bliss!

  45. Hannah says...

    Our wedding will forever be a special day to my family because it was the first time my parents, brother, sister and I had been in the same place all together in almost 10 years. My brother had been having a difficult time for some time and was estranged from our family, and I went back and forth for months about whether or not to invite him. I was worried about him mixing with the rest of our family and guests, and I was honestly indignant at the thought of this “prodigal son” stealing the spotlight from me and my fiancé on our big day. But something nagged at me and I knew I had to invite him. In the end, whole weekend was magical and I remember him turning to me with tears in his eyes and telling me how happy he was to be back with everyone. When he died unexpectedly exactly one month later, that moment became a memory I will carry in my heart forever.

    • Hannah, that is so special. You’ve made me tear up! I think that that persistent inner nudge to invite your brother was worth listening to…

    • Mary says...

      Oh my gosh what a beautiful (and heartbreaking) story. Coming from a family with a lot of different issues this is a really nice reminder to me about what matters. Thanks for sharing.

  46. Instead of a guest book we put an anniversary card on each table and asked guests of that table to sign it. My mom keeps them and sends us one each anniversary. It is so fun to “get” a card from that day each year. We had about 8 tables so these first 8 years we get a card! This is year will be the last of them!

    • Madie says...

      Love this idea :)

  47. Madie says...

    We were married on a dock in Sausalito, on the edge of our beloved San Francisco Bay, and held the reception in the dive bar upstairs… our DJ absolutely killed it and we all danced until we were sweaty. My favorite moment was towards the end of the night, when we walked outside to get some fresh air and found a dozen or so couples (our guests) with the same idea, watching the twinkly lights of SF with the Golden Gate Bridge looming overhead… and everyone was making out! I guess our wedding had put everyone in a romantic mood! It was so funny and beautiful to look around at all the love.

  48. Emily says...

    After cutting the cake my husband picked up his plate with the slice and just dug in. He’d never paid attention at weddings during this part and I didn’t think to tell him he was supposed to feed ME the bite. Everyone started laughing and he gave me the sweetest, “What did I do face.” It makes me smile whenever I think of it.

  49. Barbara Jane says...

    My husband and I didn’t see each other before our ceremony, because HE is superstitious and likes to stick to tradition. In lieu of jumping into the limo with our bridal party, we actually borrowed a vintage corvette to drive ourselves from the ceremony to the reception. Since it’s only a 2-seater, it was just us, for about 20 minutes, in a convertible! Everyone we drove past could see we were just married, and it felt like our own little parade! Even better, we had some time to marvel at being married, and to enjoy each other’s company. It wasn’t something we planned intentionally, but I’m so so happy it was part of our day!

  50. Amanda says...

    We had a great party at a farm museum complete with pig roast but its true what they say – you never get to eat at your own wedding. We were starving when we left and had to drive right past the Minnesota State Fair. Outside the entrance was a food truck so we got out in wedding dress and suit and got corndogs and Cokes. A man with his three daughters refused to let us pay saying they’ll never forget this. We then went to a dive bar to see the out of town friends we hadn’t gotten to see. The bouncer insisted we pay cover and a friend had to come help us as we didn’t have our wallets handy at all. Then they told the band that Jeanne and Bob just got married and the entire bar toasted us – we’re Amanda and Dale! So much fun!

    • Sabrina Izaguirre says...

      So fun!!!

  51. Michelle says...

    When we were married 5 years ago, I would have preferred to elope. My husband convinced me to have a somewhat large wedding. I’m thankful he did. My father passed away this past month and those pictures of him walking me down the aisle, our father/daughter dance are one of the most special things to me.

  52. Lenae C says...

    My husband surprised me by writing his vows into a song. I didn’t see it coming; when it was his turn, a groomsman fetched his guitar they’d stashed behind a tree and handed it to my husband. I know this is a risk — original song sung at a wedding? — but my husband moonlights as a musician and is a talented guy, so he totally pulled it off. It was beautiful! Unfortunately, since this was a super surprise (he only told his groomsmen and the DJ at rehearsal) we didn’t hire a videographer. We originally wanted a distraction- (read: cell phone) free ceremony, but as soon as he started singing everyone whipped out their phones to record it, and I’m so thankful.

  53. Jane I. says...

    My favorite part of our wedding was actually our honeymoon… my husband was VERY adamant about having an inexpensive wedding and splurging on a fantastic honeymoon. During the wedding planning, I didn’t see his genius until the wedding dust settled and we got off the plane for our two week vacation in Italy!!! I’m SO glad we went with his plan because, honestly our wedding was mostly a blur and the parts I do remember were lackluster (we got married in August; it was around 105 here in Vegas). To this day, I am happy to say, that we are still the envy of our friends for our Italian getaway. What can I say, my husband truly is a genius.

  54. Jessica says...

    Early on in wedding planning as I was trying to discuss flowers or appetizers or some such thing with my husband he said, “we should have a guy dressed as a bear just sitting in the audience” I scoffed and asked him to get serious. All through wedding planning when I would try to get an answer about something he’d say, “what about the bear?” When I told my friend Emily about this, we hatched a plan. We shipped a bear costume to France (where we had our wedding) and at around 11pm I went to change into my party dress and she changed into her bear costume. The cake came out and so did I and the bear. I will never, ever, forget my husband’s face.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_igGQUFaYk

    Also in his vows my husband said, “I promise to only use reason only when it’s reasonable” everyone laughed and I cried because him turning to ‘reason’ and ‘reality’ had always been one of our core conflicts.

    • Laura says...

      I love the bear! What an adorable video, I watched it with a HUGE grin on my face because you can just tell it was such a fun night for everyone.

  55. Amanda says...

    Closing in on 2 years being married and that day still makes me so happy to think about. It seems like such a dream when you’re in a room with all your different circles of people together–your coworker sitting by your college roommate, your grandpa sitting by your best friend’s 3 year old. It’s so wonderful to think that everyone showed up because of their love for you. That truly is the best thing about weddings. I lost my father 3 years before the wedding, and I wanted to honor him and other family members we lost without being too much of a downer. My friend and her husband are musicians and had a song that fit that perfectly and everyone was just smiling and teary thinking of everyone we loved who couldn’t be there that day. Very, very special to me.

  56. Lynn says...

    My husband (who is an introvert) and 4 of his groomsmen surprised me and performed my favorite song, ‘Can You Stand the Rain’ by New Edition… I’m talking lip synching and dance moves!!!!. It was a tear jerker for sure. It was so special to me because my husband is not one for attention and he planned and pulled off something so special and that meant the world to me. We celebrate 10 years on 4/20!

    • Jane I. says...

      That is awesome!

  57. Justine in Seattle says...

    The wind. We got married in October 2016 just outside of Seattle, WA. Generally, October is a mild month as far as weather, but leading up to our wedding weekend there was talk of “the biggest storm of the century”. As a wedding photographer myself ALL I could think about was the photos — where will we take them? everyone will be freezing! The RAIN! My outdoor, water front photo dreams! And, then there was the added bonus of likely losing power. However, it ended up adding SO much drama to our day, to our photos, to the mood. It was absolutely perfect. Now, when I see those water droplets on all the guys jackets I just think…how fun was that?

  58. Weddings are the BEST!! We got married last February and my favorite moment of the day was doing our first look on the rooftop of the Thompson Hotel in Toronto. It was windy and cold and I was so nervous as I walked up to my soon-to-be-husband.. Once we saw each other we started giggle-crying and couldn’t stop holding each other. It was the most perfect, romantic moment, just the two of us to kick off the days celebrations. And the hotel rooftop has the most gorgeous views of the city, so our photos are pretty epic!
    Congrats to anyone who’s just engaged or has a wedding coming up!

  59. We got married very young on a very small budget. All of our family members kept asking how they could help out, and we would just say, “would you make a cake?” On our wedding day, we had a cake buffet with about fifteen homemade cakes. My favorite moment was when a group of my grandmother’s friends cornered me twenty minutes into the reception demanding that we cut the cakes early so they could have a go at the buffet before they went home for early bedtimes! Of course, we complied. You should see the before and after photos. The whole table was reduced to crumbs.

    • Lee says...

      This is so great! A cake buffet made by guests, what a love filled dessert option.

    • Lenae C says...

      I really like that idea! My friend is getting married next month and for dessert they’re doing “family recipes,” so significant members in each of their families are each making a dessert. I imagine it’ll go down similar to your cake buffet. :D

    • Callie says...

      Love this idea! We did something similar. My husband and I eloped but had a fairly simple family reception a few months later. Our mothers, grandmas, and even my mom’s cousin who traveled brought homemade batches of cookies. We put assortment on each table, and it felt so cozy and loving. I think they were proud to contribute, which was special to me.

  60. it’s so hard to choose one moment, i loved the whole day. a mariachi hoedown, my mother in law breaking down crying during her reading, feeling my big, goofy grin the moment i saw my husband at the end of the aisle, hearing people’s gasps as they saw the back of my (backless) dress as i walked down the aisle, taking shots in a “whiskey saloon,” there were so many moments i really enjoyed.
    but i have to say, standing in the street at 4am eating food from a halal court with wedding dressing slung over my shoulder, giggling my husband has to be my favorite. i’m a crier and expected to shed so many tears, but i was so effing happy, i smiled like a maniac all day and night.

    • Amanda G says...

      Mariachi hoedown, whiskey saloon, and halal food?! You have GOT to win the award for most intriguing wedding ever!

  61. Quincy Mason says...

    As a hopeless romantic, gushy emotional lover of weddings…i love this post! My husband plays guitar and a few other instruments. He created and recorded the song I walked down the aisle to. I heard it for the first time while walking down the aisle… hence the overflow of tears as I walked down the aisle. It was his reserved, introverted way of showing his feelings to me on our special day.”

  62. Laura says...

    What a sweet post, and timing that made my heart ache: my husband just announced his intention to separate, and I love him very much.

    It’s about to be our 7th anniversary, and, I feel inclined to share a bit about our wedding, which still brings us so much joy to think on: we did a ring warming, where we passed our rings around and our friends and family offered intentions and prayers over them. It took much longer than expected, and our friend sang “Stand By Me,” and kept making it longer, until everyone was singing along. I’ve had a challenging relationship with my Dad, but it was one of the most beautiful moments of my life watching him hold our rings.

    It’s a strange thing to have so much joy live along times that have also been hard, BUT, I will take them both. And I look forward to sharing the story of our wedding with our 3 year old son one day.

    • Rae says...

      Laura, you sound like a very grounded and resilient women. Sending you and your family a virtual hug during this difficult time.

    • kate says...

      Good for you, Laura, for remembering the happies and holding on to those even in this moment; sending you strength and courage; you sound like a remarkable person.

    • Regina says...

      I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this tough time, Laura. Sending lots of love to you and your son :)

    • dana says...

      Hi Laura,
      I know I don’t know you or your situation, but you strike me as such a lovely person. You must be going through so much right now. I read this on COJ a while back and it’s always helped me through times of grief, be it from the end of a relationship or a death of a loved one. Maybe it will help you too? Anyway, just wanted to say hi and tell you that I’m rooting for you. =)

      “Grief is love’s souvenir. It’s our proof that we once loved. Grief is the receipt we wave in the air that says to the world: Look! Love was once mine. I love well. Here is my proof that I paid the price.”

    • Claire says...

      I am so sorry for your pain. I wish you comfort, kindness, hope, and loving support for you and your son as you navigate this new chapter. And although you may not yet see how or when or why, may good things come from it.

    • Larsey says...

      Wishing you the best, Laura. You never know what the future holds, but I would bet for you and your son it holds love.

    • Lt says...

      So sorry to hear of your struggles! Honoring that there were good times to remember and share with your child is heroic, well done.

  63. not a downer or anything, but there was nothing i liked about our wedding – i wanted to elope. but our marriage is the best decision i have ever made, and that is all that matters.

    • jones says...

      Ideally both would be great, but it is much more important to have a great marriage than great wedding. Too many people focus on the wedding more than the marriage.

  64. Marlena says...

    We had an outdoor DIY wedding in our backyard, although DYI isn’t the term. It should be DIT – Do It Together – because our entire friends and family came beside us and helped make it happen. They provided the tables and chairs and linens, our neighbors cooked the food for the taco bar (in my kitchen during the reception, they were banging around the kitchen with my childhood friend washing dishes, laughing and talking, like it was any other day!), we bought $20 flowers from Vons and my grandma and aunt cut all the flowers an hour before the ceremony and made gorgeous centerpieces, my cousin and her fiance downloaded all the songs we picked onto our iPod (haha) an hour before we began the ceremony and played the emcee the rest of the night. While my wilder side of the family was doing keg stands outside, my father was inside our den with guests playing the guitar and singing Simon and Garfunkel songs, and my husband’s gramma was drinking so much that at one point she laughed at something so hard that she tipped over backwards in her chair near the firepit. I cannot pick just one thing from that night because the entire night is my favorite part. It was a dream. A hilarious beautiful crazy dream.

  65. Lucy says...

    I always get misty-eyed at other people’s weddings whenever the bride or couple walks down the aisle! It’s the moment where it feels like “this is really happening!”

    My husband and I got married 3 blocks from our Brooklyn apartment at Rucola. We took a few photos at our apartment, and then walked to the restaurant to meet our families. I didn’t have a “walking down the aisle” moment since we were at the restaurant to greet our guests (and partake in a pre-wedding cocktail hour!), so walking that last block felt like a walk down the aisle for me! Even though I didn’t wear a white dress (opted for navy velvet), the bouquet and our friend and photographer Katie running ahead of us to snap photos tipped people off and they smiled and congratulated us as they passed. And then our families were all gathered around outside of the restaurant waiting for us, and my mom cried when she saw me. It was a really special moment of many that day!

  66. Blythe says...

    Coming up on FIVE YEARS – holy cow – of marriage next month and my favorite moment occurred mid ceremony. My husband and I have a secret handshake. It started when we were dating and is incredibly subtle. Mid ceremony, we’re standing shoulder to shoulder, the officiant is talking and I feel my soon-to-be husband begin the aforementioned secret handshake. It still brings tears to my eyes that in front of all of our friends and family we were able to have a small intimate moment that was just for us.

  67. Denise says...

    I’m leaving Kauai today after attending the small, intimate and very hilarious marriage of one my best friends. She was widowed five years ago and to see the joy in her eyes, to see how her husband takes care of her so gently and completely, to be so incredibly lucky to be enveloped into her family . . . I’m crying all over again! Truly the best wedding I’ve ever been lucky enough to attend.

  68. I found our whole wedding day quite overwhelming to be honest. As an introvert I think I did struggle a little to have so much attention on me, the Bride! That’s why my favourite wedding moment was just simple and sweet. After being pulled and pushed into so many directions all day and barely having a moment of just my husband and I together, we snatched a moment in the photo booth we had set up. No noise, no people- just us! A quick laugh and a kiss captured by a timed machine. We met at university and had a habit of taking photo booth pictures every term, so this moment felt so fitting on our wedding day. I actually have this one framed and displayed in our home, over the fancy professional ones we had taken on the day!

  69. Bianca says...

    My favourite wedding memory is from during our reception. I’m Indian and my husband is Vietnamese and we met in Toronto. We had a very diverse guest-list! After my dad’s sweet speech (which my mom wrote; I could see her mouthing the words!), my dad asked the guests to raise their glasses as he was going to sing a traditional (Indian) song as a blessing to us. My dad has a lovely voice, and as he started singing, each one of his friends in the crowd got up and joined in the singing. It brought tears to my eyes, and gave me goose bumps, even now. What made this moment even more special was our mixed race/religion relationship did cause an initial struggle with my parents. This was a way for my parents to offer a lovely welcome to my husband.

  70. Our wedding was so much fun–truly the best party ever. I just remember dancing my ass off as people kept handing me more of our “signature cocktails”–the Bourbon Bear and the Red-tailed Fox (we had a woodsy wedding). Also, I loved the end of our ceremony. Before we stepped on the glass (Jewish tradition) our officiant explained that one of the reasons behind the tradition is to remember suffering even in the most joyous of times, and he gave a shoutout to my grandmother, a Holocaust survivor, who was in attendance. Since most of our guests weren’t Jewish, he also instructed everyone to say “Mazel Tov!” after my husband stomped on the glass. It was such a beautiful moment, seeing my 80-something-year-old survivor grandmother joyfully shouting “Mazel Tov!” with the rest of our family and friends. (Later, she said she felt so honored in that moment that “it was like the heavens opened.”) Also, after the ceremony as we walked out to Hall & Oates “You Make My Dreams Come True,” my husband was so happy and excited we was literally dancing out. It was so sweet. :)

    • Rae says...

      I’ve always wondered about the symbolism of the broken glass at Jewish weddings. What a moving & beautiful moment to share with your grandmother!

  71. Emily says...

    like all weddings, there were so many amazing moments, and i did not feel (as literally all the people warn you you will) like anything flew by. i felt distinctly present the whole time, and i remember moments, dances and conversations with people i love, which was and still is incredible.

    BUT. my very very favorite part was driving away from the best party i’ve ever been to (sweaty from dancing and with a bit of a champagne buzz, if i’m being honest) in the back seat of an old convertible, making out and crying with my brand new husband on the most perfect summer night in the mountains.

  72. Hannah says...

    Love hearing someone else bought their wedding dress on eBay. I did, too! It was a $3,000 Rivini gown for $300. The best part? My dad found it! I mean how sweet for a dad to find his daughter’s wedding gown?

  73. Sarah Beth says...

    My favorite movie my whole life has been The Sound of Music, and I got it in my head that I wanted to walk down the aisle to Maria’s Wedding March (which is really How Do You Solve a Problem Like Maria). I know that using the music from former-nun Maria’s cathedral wedding was an… unusual choice for a traditional Jewish wedding, but the heart wants what the heart wants! And when I was waiting to walk down the aisle with my parents and heard those first booming chords, I burst into tears and also laughter (and got the same report from one of my best friends!) It is a tiny moment from a night of unforgettable moments, but remains one of my favorites.

    • EMILY says...

      I have always planned on walking down the aisle to the same song!!!! I’ve never heard of someone else that wanted the same thing. I’m so excited to hear that you did it!!!!!

    • TraceyB says...

      We had ‘My Favourite Things’ as one of our ‘hymns’ at our wedding. The organist and the guests did a great job!

  74. JG says...

    I truly loved our wedding day and had the best time, but one random moment stands out for me. After the wedding, we were back at our hotel room and on an adrenaline high from the whole thing. We ended up in the hotel bathtub together, drinking champagne and recapping the entire day – our favorite parts of the wedding, the funny moments that happened with our bridal parties when we were separate, stuff like that. It was soooo relaxing and wonderful. Now, 8 years later, we have a champagne bathtub talk each year on our anniversary, and the conversations are more like, “Can you believe we have two awesome children? How did we wind up here?” It always takes me back to that sweet, joyful, contented moment after the wedding and helps me realize how much we’ve shared since then.

    • Julia says...

      This is so lovely.

    • Carrie says...

      Congratulations on 8 years! It sounds like you have built a beautiful life! (and a great anniversary tradition!)

    • Jessica says...

      That’s the sweetest thing I’ve ever heard!

  75. Nicole says...

    I never expected my mom walking me down the aisle or my dad not being at my wedding— but that’s what happened. It was really beautiful to have her do that and those moments before that were just us. My matron of honor was 9 months pregnant and recorded her speech since she was put on bed rest and lived over an hour away. It was such a moving speech and a tearjerker even played over the speakers. The fact that all of my friends and new family came together and planned a day that I was not in a mental state to do so was an amazing feeling and I felt truly lucky that my mother-in-law put together such an amazing ceremony space and all I said was, “I think hydrangeas are pretty.” My brother stood in for my dad during the dance— and we danced to a song he would’ve loved.

  76. Carrie says...

    My husband is from New Zealand, so for various reasons, only his mother was able to make it to our wedding. My husband and I were both really disappointed, although we understood.

    While we were up in front of everyone during the ceremony, I noticed that two of my husband’s extended family members were holding their cell phones up high, I assumed they were filming. We went about the ceremony, and after, we moved into the reception where the fun began! We were having a wonderful time when those same extended family members approached us, still with their phones held up and that’s when we realized that one of them had my husband’s sister and her family on facetime, and the other had my husband’s brother and his family on facetime. I’ll never fully understand why it moved me as much as it did, but I cried like a baby when I realized they’d been watching live the whole time. I could barely say anything coherent to them! Still to this day, the memory makes me cry happy, grateful tears! It was without a doubt my favorite moment of our wedding.

    • Alexan B. says...

      This made ME cry – definitely a tear-jerker of a story. Such a precious moment!

  77. Em says...

    Love these! And really needed this boost today. Two memories from my own wedding:

    It was 102 degrees on our July wedding day – not ideal for things like lace and jackets – but my husband-to-be kept saying it was symbolic of his passion for me. He knew just how to make me laugh!

    We had a Catholic liturgy, but I was worried about it being stuffy or uncomfortable for non-religious folks so I tried to pick less traditional readings. A good friend of mine who is a poet read the sexy Song of Songs reading from the Old Testament (“my lover is like a gazelle,” etc.). She gave the best rendition I have ever heard, and many guests came up to us afterwards to say how incredible it was. For anyone who’s gone to a church wedding, that’s not the kind of feedback you usually get! My friend brought poetry into the church that day, and it meant so much to me.

  78. Chandra says...

    I’m not yet married but, my very good friend is the sister of the lead singer of Twin Shadow (how lucky, right?). She had a destination wedding where he was of course there. She walked down the aisle to a beautiful rendition of The One (one of his songs) and there wasn’t a dry eye at the ceremony. It was really one of the most beautiful weddings and moments I’ve ever witnessed.

    If you want to check out the song, it’s here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gGkHQlouXAE

  79. A says...

    This post brightened my day :) I was heartened to hear about Tracy’s long distance success story, especially since their relationship began that way. I am contemplating getting into a long distance relationship myself, and I so want it to work, but I keep asking myself whether it’s realistic to expect something so new can survive the distance. I would love to read more about Tracy’s story, if she is willing to share! How did she know it was worth the risk right away? Thank you, Jo!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Thank you so much for your note, A! I asked Tracy, and here’s her reply:

      “Alex and I met a couple of years before we started dating. There was a spark right away, but we didn’t seriously entertain it at first. Every few months we would get back in touch weather it was a work trip taking us into the same city or just a text about something silly like the upcoming royal wedding (1.0). Every time we saw each other or talked it felt special, and that’s something we held onto when we finally decided to go for it long distance. We could only be in the same place every few months, so we planned out those trips and made them count. Even face time became precious, we spent hours sharing our lives and daily stories and made sure to be really present when we were connected (no phone calls where someone wasn’t paying attention). Early on in our friendship we both admitted to each other that we would be dating if we lived in the same place, it was the most romantic email exchange of my life (a sentence I never expected to type). I had no way of knowing if it would work out in the beginning. A lot of hurdles were in the way for us, but being open with each other about how scary it was and ok taking that leap of faith helped us get to where we are today.”

    • Hi there!

      I am about to celebrate my 2 year wedding anniversary with my husband. We were long distance for 7 years before we could finally be in the same zip code, all of varying degrees of distance (but all within the US). We wanted to support each other, so mostly it was for graduate school (first me, then him).

      Times were tough, and then they weren’t. I cried every.single.time. we were at the airport. My boyfriend, now husband, felt like family years before we were. When times get rough, keep going back to those feelings of warmth and comfort. They will see you through, no matter what the ending!

      Oh, and don’t watch the movie “Like Crazy” by yourself. Learn from my mistakes ;)

    • A says...

      Thank you so much, Joanna and Tracy! This is such a touching story. There may be hope, after all :)

  80. JB says...

    Every moment of our wedding was so special, but one of my favorite memories was at the end of the night. My husband and I got back to our hotel suite, I put on my wedding night lingerie….and we proceeded to sit in bed and eat leftover cake our venue had packed up for us! It was so nice to process the night and talk about our favorite parts together and I remember thinking how lucky I felt in that moment, just eating cake in bed with my perfect person.

  81. jeannie says...

    What a fun post! These personal memories were so lovely to read.

  82. Brittni says...

    I just love reading all of these.

    We had a small March wedding – about 60 people – under a tent in our friends’ courtyard on the edge of the French Quarter in New Orleans. There was an enormous, completely unexpected storm in New Orleans that weekend and we all desperately hoped we’d be able to pull off the wedding because we had no real back-up plan. But on the day of, the heavy rain held off, and the clouds parted to a perfect orange, pink and blue sky. Our photographer grabbed our hands and pulled us up to the balcony of our friends’ apartment for a few photos. As we stood up there, our friends in the apartment looking on and our friends and family below cheered. I remember looking around that small attic apartment and the courtyard below and just feeling all that magic with everyone we love so dearly in a city we love so dearly. We spent the rest of the night under the stars, a New Orleans brass brand playing far off in the distance – and later ran through the Quarter in our wedding attire before we headed to a karaoke bar to continue the celebration.

    • I would love to see these photos.

  83. Rue says...

    I officiated my best friend’s wedding and it was a WONDERFUL experience. I realized it would be cool, but I didn’t fully grasp how awesome and transformative it was until it was happening.

    The thing that’ll probably be “frozen in time” for me is helping my best friend through her vows. She was crying, and her sister, the groom, and I were all able to do little things to get her through the vows before she lost it: tissues and eye contact and hand holding and arm clutching and pacing the text of the vows.

    For me it was such a great illustration of a wedding (and a marriage, but as an unmarried person I feel underqualified to say that): the couple was at the center, and they were getting through a big thing because they were surrounded by family and friends. It wasn’t them alone.

    • Carrie says...

      Oh, that’s so lovely the way you put that. Thanks for sharing.

  84. Colleen says...

    My husband and I got married in Boston and as happens with most weddings involving big families on either side, we compromised a LOT on format, guest list, food, etc with our (very involved) parents. We had 220 invitees and 212 accepted our invitation- we knew the day was going to be a whirlwind. We booked a 2 hour break between our ceremony and our reception. We spent 90 minutes in the Public Garden taking pictures with our families and bridal party and then sent them on their way to the reception. Then my new husband and I walked across the Garden and the Boston Common and popped in to the bar at the Ritz to enjoy a glass of champagne just the two of us. We have no pictures of that very special drink, but it’s because we were as we wanted to be- alone! We got some time to process our ceremony and get excited for the party ahead. We finished our drinks, hopped in a cab and over to our reception in the Seaport. It was so special for us to grab that moment together.

    • mollcoll says...

      As another Boston girl, I love this. Sounds perfect!

  85. Paula says...

    ahh! I’m crying, the stories and all the comments.

    Two favorite memories:

    our church in Santa Monica faces a basketball courts, so when we exited, all the people who were playing, stopped, and started cheering. It was SO loud and fun!

    Instead of a limo, we decided to rent an old Rolls Royce and drive it ourselves from church to the reception site. This being Los Angeles, we quickly were stuck in traffic BUT in a fancy car and our wedding outfits-you cannot imagine the honking, the hollering, people snapping photos, waving – it was so much fun!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that sounds amazing, paula!

  86. Donna says...

    My husband is one of five, he has three sisters and one brother. My bridal party was made up of my 4 sisters to be and one outside family friend. We had our little room to get ready in at the restaurant where we got married and were having a grand time. It wasn’t until the next day that I found out we were having such a good time that we were late to getting down the aisle and people had started worrying a little (including my husband). It’s so funny because there were no nerves, just too many laughs to realize the show had gone on.

  87. Laura says...

    Two moments really stand out for me, both during the ceremony. One was when my sister, who was a bridesmaid and was wearing ridiculous stiletto heels, got her heel caught in an air vent in the floor. She tried to wiggle her foot out surreptitiously but the vent lifted up with her shoe and then fell with a loud clang. She turned bright red and everyone had a good laugh right in the middle of a special poem.

    The other was during the vows- my husband was so nervous about speaking in front of everyone and trying to get the vows exactly right that he ended up not being able to repeat them correctly at all. My other sister, who was officiating, had to shorten the phrases to just a few words at a time so he would get it. The whole time, I was looking in his eyes and just smiling and crying from the beautiful emotions of the moment.

  88. clair says...

    One of my favorite moments of my wedding was right before I got out of my limo, a dear friend ran towards the limo and knocked on the window to come in. She asked me if I had something “borrowed” (which i did not) and she took out 3 crystal pins that she stuck in my bouquet- one for my soon to be husband, one for my father in heaven and one for the secret baby in my tummy. It was such a sweet moment of friendship that I will never forget.

    • Elizabeth says...

      oh my gosh. tears!! <3

  89. T says...

    My most treasured memory of my wedding was not the wedding itself.
    We chose to elope, which meant that my husband helped me pick a dress and I helped him pick a suit. On the day of the wedding (in NYC) we woke up together, got ready together – him running to the drug store for some emergency hair spray, me, straightening lapels and then we went off to get married together. At first I was worried about breaking convention (bad luck and all that) but in the end, the shared experience of helping each other prepare for this big step felt so sacred, symbolic and essential to us both. In the end we did everything ‘wrong’ and yet it was so very right for us.

  90. Elizabeth says...

    My husband and I each walked down the aisle with a grandmother (only surviving grandparents on either side). Minutes before the ceremony began, they had a handsome young bartender bring them sugar cubes for extra energy before the walk. The image of them sitting on their walkers just behind the entryway plucking sugar cubes from a dainty tray still makes me crack up!

  91. Lauren says...

    When I attend other people’s weddings, I mostly feel grateful just to be there. Even at my best friend’s wedding, as a bridesmaid, I thought, “How awesome is it that I get to be a part of this day?!”

  92. Cait says...

    My husband and I got ready together on our wedding day. After my hair and makeup was finished, he joined me in our bridal suite where we helped one another get dressed, popped a bottle of champagne and toasted to our future together. I have some anxiety and knew I would be on social overload by that point in the festivities. Getting ready just us (and our photographer!) was so relaxing, memorable and fun. Bonus: the photos of him buttoning my dress and me helping with his cufflinks are pure magic.

  93. Sarah says...

    Impossible to choose a favorite, but one that will stay with me forever was bittersweet. My mom has dementia and we didn’t know if she would make it to the wedding. Thanks to some wonderful caregivers, she did, but at one point she recoiled from me when posing for a photo, not recognizing who I was. I stepped to the side to hide my tears, and was comforted by my new husband. It was incredibly reassuring to know he was going to be there for the rest of our lives.

    Oh, also our wedding planner accidentally interrupting us having sex before our after party. 🙄🤗

    • Part I- incredibly moving and resilient

      Part II- hilarious!

  94. Lauren says...

    My husband and I had been planning to get married when we found out he’d have to deploy. In a matter of weeks we pulled together a small family wedding in his parents’ backyard in Northern VA. That night we went into DC to spend the night at a hotel and were surprised by so many of our friends who had travelled to share the day with us. Such a touching special moment for us.

  95. Lee says...

    The single best moment of the day was when my stepson hugged and me and welcomed me to the family. That was the best moment by far. I was not just married but now a part of a beautiful family too.

    • Carrie says...

      What a wonderful moment! My eyes get more and more teary with each of these lovely memories!

  96. Liz says...

    So many to choose, but when I think of our wedding day my favorite memory was a moment during our dinner when my new husband and I went to the bar to get some bubbles (and have a minute together). I remember holding hands and stopping to look out over our celebration. Everyone we loved under twinkle lights, at long tables, laughing and having the best time. I grabbed him and said “look! This is what we dreamed of, and it’s here and it’s happening!” We just stood there together and took the moment in together.

    It’s seared in my brain that moment of pure joy surrounded by love.

  97. Neen says...

    Favorite wedding moment: we had a cocktail-style wedding with buffets of food and no formal seating. When my best friends saw we weren’t eating, they stuffed 3 plates full of everything, shoved us into a corner by ourselves, and stood guard so we could peacefully eat and chat as newlyweds.

    BUT, the absolutely best moment about that day was a little thing that happened afterwards… We married at a small B+B with everyone staying on-site. I still sleep with a little blanket from childhood (no judgment! or all the judgment! I’m still doing it!), and just had to bring it with me to calm me down after all the excitement of the wedding. We left the next morning in a rush of excitement and presents, but you can guess what happened…I left blankie. When I realized later that night, I was MORTIFIED and made my husband call the B+B to look for it. They found it and we went back to get it the next day; as we pulled up, my husband turned and said, “I’ll get it. You can stay in the car if you like.” I almost cried with gratitude that I married the perfect man for me, who not only accepts my blankie, but will save me embarrassment to rescue it.

  98. Lisa says...

    AND now I’m crying…

  99. I got married about a month ago and it was lovely. A smaller destination wedding (about 45 people) in Fort Lauderdale on the very same beach where we had our first date. From the roof deck where we had our ceremony, I was able to see the spot where we walked along the beach. I could also see the spot where 3 days before our first date, I had sat in the sand, sobbing and begging God to send me some sort of a sign for a next step because I was all out of answers. I told that story during my vows and everyone cried with me.

    We also pulled out all of our favorite kitchen dance party moves like choreography from “Staying Alive” and the “Kid n Play” (harder to do in a trumpet cut gown than you’d think).

    But my very favorite moment came when we got back to the rental house. My husband carried me in very sweetly over the threshold. Then, we went back outside, and I piggy-backed all 6’4″, 190lbs of him into the house (even harder to do in a trumpet cut gown). Because I believe that a real marriage is about carrying each other. And bless him, my husband is a good sport.

    • sunny says...

      This is so sweet…

  100. michaela says...

    These stories and comments are all so sweet, I’m tearing up at my desk! The moment I remember most clearly from our wedding was just after the ceremony. We wanted to sneak off to sign the marriage license and get a few last photos as our guests headed to the reception, so we bolted out the doors while one of my dear bridesmaids rang the church bells (it wasn’t perfectly planned—I think our photographers were shocked we didn’t wait for them to post up on the church steps outside first!) My new husband and I ran (literally) around the side of the church and back in through a side door to the pastor’s office where the marriage license was waiting. As the door closed behind us, we had one quick moment to catch our breaths and really look into each other’s eyes and realize, wow, we did this thing! before our photographers caught up to us and came through the door. I remember hearing the click of a camera shutter trying to catch our quick embrace, but I know they didn’t get it because that photo never made it into our album, and it’s actually made me remember and cherish that little “uncaptured” moment even more.

  101. Melissa says...

    A beautiful day with two special highlights: I wore my grandmother’s lace wedding dress from 1937 when we married in 2004. We have her wedding photo along with our wedding photo side by side hanging in our dining room. For the wedding reception, I changed into a strapless wedding dress so that I was able to dance and have fun. My brothers, Dad, nephew and new husband John serenaded me with an Elvis song completed with costumes for all of them. The crowd went wild and people still talk about it to this day!

  102. Love this. I got married in November and had a destination wedding. It all was pretty awesome, but my favorite part was surprising our guests with our reception venue. They thought we were having the party in a garden near the beach (not bad), but we were able to have it on the back patio of a mansion overlooking the ocean. Epic!
    Second best part was hanging out in a hot tub under the stars with our friends when it was all done~

  103. Lauren says...

    I have a couple of favorites, but one has meant a lot more to me recently… My grandmother was having some health issues just before my wedding and had to be in a wheelchair while she recuperated, which was really disappointing for both of us because she was always the life of the party. I surprised her by having the DJ play her favorite song – “Sweet Caroline” – while my whole family danced around her in a circle. (In fact, by the end, my friends and in laws were up and dancing with us, too.) My cousin spun her around in the middle of us – popping a few wheelies in the process, at some point someone threw her a cloth napkin to wave in the air, and she had the biggest smile on her face for the entire song.

    Sadly, she passed away a few weeks ago, but I think I’ve watched the video of that memory roughly five million times this month. It’s now saved on my desktop – it probably should have been there all along.

  104. Jill says...

    We got married at my husband’s family’s cabin on the lake in MN. The weather was insanely perfect and right before the song started our photographer said “What if you guys dance in the grass instead?” So our first dance was in the grass in the yard overlooking the water with everyone in a circle around us. Little tea lights strung through the trees. It was really romantic and I still get comments from friends that they’ll never forget it. The rest of the dance took place under the tent nearby. Our outdoor wedding was a success thank goodness!

  105. Dana says...

    We got married in October in upstate New York- we rented a house for the weekend and only immediate family and a couple friends were there. Two favorite moments:

    At sunrise we took a canoe onto the water and exchanged vows just the two of us (We wanted to elope so this was our compromise – ha!)

    At the end of our wedding night, my sisters and I soaked in the hot tub and then jumped into the frigid lake.

    Everything about our wedding was US. We really examined every wedding “expectation” and tossed what didn’t fit – it ended up being exactly and entirely ours. :)

  106. I got married at the Brooklyn City Hall with only our immediate family along for the ride. When we came outide (it was a chilly February Tuesday and had started sleeting!) we found ourselves standing in front of a pizza that had fallen on the sidewalk. For some reason we found it so funny that we made my mom take a photo of us shivering, smiling and looking at each other. It’s my favorite photo from the whole day.

  107. Marn says...

    We were married on May 26th in deep south Louisiana in a small afternoon ceremony for family in my parents’ living room followed by a backyard reception that included friends and neighbors. My mother and I made my wedding dress (Betsey Johnson pattern!!) and my husband’s wedding shirt. When my future mother-in-law walked in with a suit for my husband to wear, my sweet mother calmly took it and hung it in the closet. We signed our marriage licenses on the Buffalo Springfield Again album cover, which was the first record played at the reception. Lots of beer was consumed in the oppressive heat, and we were the last ones to leave the reception. We drove back to our college town and went out to the movies. Easy Rider was playing! We celebrate our 45th anniversary this year.

  108. Allison says...

    At the end of the most perfect day, in my favorite place, with my favorite people, my husband and I found ourselves in the middle of the dance floor with every guest surrounding us with love; they embraced each other in a circle, pushed us to the middle, and serenaded us with “Hey Jude”. It was epic! I still get butterflies when I hear that song.

    • Hanna says...

      Allison, what a coincidence! My husband and I also sang Hey Jude as the last song of the night, surrounded by our friends and family on the dance floor. It was a beautiful 70 degree early September day in Minnesota and we had an outdoor wedding. Such a perfect day…and a sweet memory to end it.

  109. Angela says...

    My favorite part of our wedding was actually not a part of the ceremony at all…After our rehearsal dinner, all our wedding party and family and friends played wiffle ball and ultimate frisbee. I did not play because I go big or go home and probably would have broken my ankle or scraped up my face or something, but I enjoyed watching everyone else be together and have so much fun!

  110. Jill says...

    How fun to read these snippets. Our wedding day was truly the best, most magical day and I love reminiscing.

    My favorite memory? After my parents’ toast, we got up to give them hugs and somehow in process my dad’s entire glass of red wine was spilled down the front of my white dress. (No blame shall be cast in this incident!) Luckily my sweet sister had packed an emergency kit, including a tide to go pen, which my sister and best friend used to miraculously remove the stain. They pushed so hard with the pen that I had a huge black and blue bruise on my thigh for weeks! I was totally calm in the moment — so calm that my husband never even knew it happened until I told him the next day. My sister’s lesson? Always pack a full-size stain stick, never travel size.

  111. Lindsey C. says...

    My partner and I had a very small ceremony (one invited guest) under a massive tree next to a pond in an Amsterdam park. When we’d arranged it with our planner and officiant, I’d pictured a quiet afternoon with maybe one or two people strolling by. However, the big day was unseasonably beautiful and warm, and the place was swarming with families and groups of friends and people playing frisbee and riding bikes – and I was so self-conscious! The whole point of this teeny tiny ceremony was that my guy and I do not love spotlights, but we very quickly acquired an audience. When the ceremony started it was so lovely and personal that I mostly forgot we were surrounded by strangers, but the second we sealed it with a kiss everyone started clapping and cheering. It felt wonderful to have people celebrating with us, and now I love that these random folks are now part of my memories. My guy even got a second round of applause when he popped the champagne cork like an absolute pro. Also, best cake of our lives.

  112. Briana says...

    We decided to do a surprise wedding and invited our friends to a bar for our “engagement party”. We had my brother in law distract everyone, and while we snuck off and changed he let everyone know that today was the day. We were hiding in the back office waiting what felt like FOREVER for him to get around to announcing it so we could walk out (he later told us he was very nervous lol). Then the DJ kicked up on queue and we could hear everyone screaming in excitement after he announced it. It felt like we were a famous band waiting to go on stage, the whole place was just going up in energy and yelling and cheering. And above everything we could hear one of our best friends Phil yell out “THIS IS THE BEST!!!!!” We walked out and got married with all our family and friends standing around us cheering and crying. It was wonderful, and to this day I can still hear Phil’s voice in my head and it makes me laugh every time.

  113. Tish says...

    My favourite moment from my wedding was completely ordinary and yet so lovely. My husband and I took our photos before our wedding, so our photographers brought us to the wedding venue (a small public garden). We were there a little bit early and we didn’t want our guests to see us, so we ended up ducking onto a side street and just sitting on the curb under a tree all dressed up as we waited for “go time.” It was such a lovely moment of peace and connection for the two of us on an otherwise whirlwind day.

  114. Erin says...

    Just before we got engaged, our wonderful 3-year-old Dogue de Bordeaux was diagnosed with lymphoma and was going through chemotherapy at the time of our wedding. I got him a houndstooth bowtie and my BIL, who is a veterinarian, brought him to the park where we were having our photos done before the ceremony. Our photographers captured him and us perfectly and we have a set of gorgeous, silly photos with our beautiful boy. We lost him a few months after the wedding. I’m so grateful to my BIL and our photographers for helping us get those photos taken.

  115. I always enjoy reading about people’s weddings and these are all such lovely personal memories!

    We had a v intimate wedding bc we eloped to the Caribbean in secret, with our 9month old son as our only guest! It was totally low stress, romantic, calm. I wrote about our experience of eloping here, in case it’s of interest:

    https://themumandthemom.com/2017/01/18/reasons-to-elope/

    And I think my mum has just about forgiven me, 8 years later :)

  116. Cat says...

    Our venue was this beautiful barn that had huge sliding doors through which we’d walk to go down the aisle. After our wedding party walked through, the doors closed again. We didn’t have a wedding coordinator, so I was going to be calling the cue on when the doors would open for my procession. I listened to the song over and over the day before to make sure I nailed this so that we’d hit the crescendo at the perfect time. My dad and I waited, and I listened for the cue. My heart was beating like a hummingbird’s, and when I said, “Now,” those big doors rolled open. There was my best friend smiling back at me, so many people we love from different parts of our lives gathered in this shimmering, warm moment with gorgeous music filling the whole space. I’ll never forget it.

  117. Laura says...

    The pastor recommended that my husband-to-be and I spend a few moments alone together in the church sanctuary before the guests started to arrive. We had a nice chat, and it helped to calm our nerves.

  118. Rachel says...

    When we got married, my brother and sister-in-law had brought home their newly adopted son from South Korea just 2 months before. He was able to be a ringbearer, and when it was his turn to go down the aisle he completely lost it. He ran straight to my sister-in-law and was only comforted by snacks. Then, 10 minutes later during the sermon, he started wandering around and ended up sitting on the steps at our feet. It was such a sweet moment and every time I remember all the heartache that came for my brother and his wife before he was a part of our family I get so teary. It felt like such a miracle to have him be there and part of our wedding.
    Also, our ceremony was incredibly small – just 40 people – and to have him there with the most important people in our lives who fully understood how big that moment was was incredible.

  119. My favorite moment was actually after the wedding. I was so stressed out in the months leading up to the wedding, and especially the week of, so much so that I got a sore throat from stress, which I didn’t know could even be a thing. I don’t like being the center of attention, I don’t like having my picture taken, and I don’t like speaking in front of people. (Why have a wedding? I wanted that day with all my friends and family in one place, and I knew I’d regret it if I skipped it.) The wedding itself was great, but my favorite moment was as we were leaving — the most random assortment of people piled onto a bus, from my sister to my friends from work to some cousins to college friends, to head to the after party at our hotel bar. Someone started passing around a bottle of whiskey and it was loud with laughter and my hair was falling out of my bun and my lipstick was smeared but it didn’t matter anymore! Almost the whole wedding came to the after party and I felt like there I could finally relax — drink what I want, not care what I look like, just laugh and talk to all the people who mattered to me.

  120. M says...

    my favorite memory wasn’t captured in any way (video, photos etc) but was incredibly special to me. My husband and I stayed in one of the nicest hotels in St. Louis. We parked the car in the garage and had to go through the entire hotel (bar, restaurant, by conference rooms, a movie theater, and a long lobby) in order to get to the check in desk. The ENTIRE bar started cheering for us, girls stopped to hug me, and a movie had just gotten out so all of the movie theater patrons were clapping for us. It felt like the entire hotel was excited for us! Some girls were so nice to me that my brand new husband thought I actually knew these people, but no, they were just random strangers that made the night end perfectly! It really felt like a magical moment that was in no way planned

  121. Ramona says...

    Our ‘wedding’ was verrrry small (just us, the priest and our two witnesses)…but out ‘marriage’ has been verrrry long….38 yrs and counting! p.s. we were married at 18 and 19 yrs old.

    • Lauren says...

      Love this! Whenever friends stress over wedding details I always remind them that the wedding is just a party, the marriage is the real celebration!

  122. Anna says...

    We got married on the patio at a restaurant/brewery. In order for me to not be seen by guest before walking down the aisle I had to sneak out the main entrance and through the dining area. I thought I was holding it together pretty well until a woman eating lunch looked at me and said “you are just so beautiful.” I instantly burst into tears. She wished me the best of luck and just kept smiling saying “it’s a beautiful day to get married.” It was so special! This lady I didn’t even know made me feel like a million dollars!

    • jones says...

      That’s so sweet! We got married at a resort and took our pictures together ahead of the ceremony. The photographer had been with me taking pictures and walked me to the spot near where we were going to take pictures. She then left me to go get my husband who was somewhere nearby I was standing and waiting near an outside deck for the restaurant and a man in his 60’s or 70’s saw me and said loudly “What happened? Did you get stood up? If so, I will marry you!” His wife/companion reached across the table and swatted him playfully. Then someone at the next table said “I see someone coming this way…I think she is spoken for” It was so random and funny and broke the ice when I was pretty nervous. After that it would be our vows. They were funny and sweet and we had practiced them together ahead of time, but I lost it about 3/4 of the way through mine.

  123. Caitlin says...

    My husband took the mic at the reception for a surprise performance of “I believe in a thing called love” complete with our full wedding party as ribbon wand-wielding back up dancers. To say I was shocked is an understatement but watching the wedding band go from nervous for him to genuinely impressed by his performance was truly the highlight. He even put together a cute little video to capture the moment: https://vimeo.com/188046579

    • Rachel says...

      Loved this!!

    • Julie says...

      Cutest thing I’ve ever seen!

    • Karen T. says...

      That was awesome. Loved the ribbon dancing team!

    • Neen says...

      Caitlin, I really REALLY love that song too! What a sweet + fun memory!

    • Tricia says...

      LOVE this!

      All of these are great. I’m crying at my desk! I am getting married in August and it still feels surreal. This thread is making me so excited!!!

  124. Mac says...

    ❤️ weddings!
    My grandpa drove me and my brand new husband from the ceremony to our reception in his vintage, butter yellow convertible. Right before we drove off my dear 80 year old neighbor I’d grown up next to pulled a blue scarf from her purse and tied it around my hair to keep it from getting wind blown. People honked and cheered for us the whole drive and we waved and cried and kissed and nearly burst with happiness

    • Ramona says...

      this is so sweet!

    • Allison says...

      The neighbor! My heart just burst with that sweet act of kindness!

    • MJ says...

      this brought tears to my eyes, so sweet!

  125. Steph says...

    There are too many to choose only one…

    Instead of having someone “give” me away my husband met me at the entrance of the room and we interlocked arms. I was shaking and feeling faint (I’m not the best at being the center of attention) but having him there to walk with me the rest of the way made things so much easier.

    My Grandfather officiated our wedding. He is a preacher and though my husband and I are not religious, we still wanted him to marry us. He respected our wishes to keep religious texts out of the ceremony.

    I still love and think about the moment after we both said “I do” and we both have mischievous looks on our faces. We have a photograph of this moment, and it is the best!

  126. sam says...

    I just got married this past fall at our favorite diner ever- the Phoenicia diner. I am not a wedding person, by any means. I had always envisioned a private city hall elopement for myself.
    All in all, it was a really lovely time and I am glad that we had a wedding with all of our friends and family. We used their airstream outside to serve appetizers after the ceremony before we went inside. It was such a whirlwind of a night. The moments that stick with me are the vows, which hit me harder with emotion than I had ever expected, and the little moments with my husband looking at the crowd and talking to everybody. We made the playlist together, and that was lovely to hear our favorite songs in the diner.
    I wish I had more time to eat more and enjoy the food, but it was surprisingly hard to do! After the wedding, we had a bonfire with our friends at the place where we stayed and we read our cards and chatted about the night. Those were some of the sweetest moments of the day, just sighing and relaxing after it all! I definitely read these wedding posts with a newfound perspective :)

  127. Julie says...

    We eloped, and had only decided ten days beforehand that we would get married. We decided over the phone—we were living in different states at the time—so when I got off the plane in Michigan to go elope, I was really nervous, of course! When I went out to the pickup area, we were on the phone and I didn’t see his car—and he didn’t see me. Turns out we were just on different levels of the car park, but we found out later that we both got a huge pit in our stomach at that moment, when we thought the other person might not be there. Both just so excited and scared at the same time. Choosing to elope with my best friend of six years was a really brave, spontaneous decision, and the best one I ever made.

  128. Chelsea says...

    Oh this is so sweet! I’m tearing up reading these stories and reminiscing on my own. There were so many favorite moments, but if I have to pick just one, I think it was my husband making us all laugh during the ceremony. We’re conservative and traditional, so I hadn’t seen him all day. When I walked down the aisle, he had tears in his eyes. When I finally made it to the front, our officiant said, “Chelsea, you look beautiful today.” My husband then said “OH YEAH!” loud enough for everyone to hear, and it broke the tension in the room, and made the whole ceremony super personable. I love that he always makes me laugh!

  129. Lisa says...

    My favourite moment wasn’t by design at all. At Sephardi Jewish weddings (like ours), you have dancing throughout the night and we had come up with so many songs for our playlist, but not the first one. Instead, we left it to the DJ. He got everyone into the floor with a Jackson 5 song, and then he introduced us (we were hiding in a corridor behind the stage) and started playing a song called “gesher tsar me’od”, which is from a saying of a famous Rabbi – the world is a very narrow bridge, but the important thing is not to be afraid. It’s a song that we sang at so many Friday night dinners (and it’s just occurred to me now – probably even on the night we met!) so it meant a lot to us, and such a good sentiment to go into marriage with – it is tricky, but don’t be afraid. That moment, running into the dance floor filled with friends and family, holding onto my husband’s hand, I was just so incredibly happy. I’ll remember it forever.

    • I love that story!!

  130. Laura C. says...

    I was soooo nervous while going to the aisle, but I think my memories start when we danced and singed after dinner. It was so funny and I sang a lot!

  131. Deborah says...

    It feels impossible for me to pick just one favourite moment of our wedding. And maybe that’s my most favourite thing.

  132. Bridgette Stone says...

    Our friends, who are husband and wife, spent years setting us up. It worked! We got married 8 months after meeting. Together they officiated our wedding. They surprised us by singing a song by The Zombies, accompanied on ukelele by her little sister. Neither of them is a musician but they sang their hearts out, even harmonized!!! We were instantly crying and laughing and so were all of our guests.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, that’s so wonderful, bridgette!