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What Are Your Nighttime Rituals?

Caroline Donofrio

I used to be bad at nighttime. Every night would go something like this: eat dinner much too late, watch 45 episodes of something mildly terrifying, stare at my phone until the neon glow would render my vision blurry, then finally — surprise! — have trouble falling asleep. Gone are those days. (Thank goodness.) Now, with help from Kiehl’s, my routine looks like this…

Caroline Donofrio

After years of accidentally slumbering with my makeup on (and waking to discover that my mascara had migrated), I’ve finally learned that “wash your face before bed” does not necessarily mean in the three minutes before you fall asleep. Washing your face can take place at any point in the evening hours. (This may sound self-evident, but for me, this was a game changer.) So now, I’ll wash my face as soon as I get home, while I have the energy to do it well.

Kiehls Ginger Hibiscus Overnight Firming Mask

It’s amazing how relaxed the rest of the night feels with that step out of the way. It also makes time for a treatment. Recently, I’ve been using Kiehl’s Ginger Leaf & Hibiscus Firming Overnight Mask.

Caroline Donofrio

Unlike rinse-off masks — where you look like this for 10 minutes, take a scary selfie and then wash it off — this overnight mask immediately sinks into your skin, disappearing from sight. (I am actually wearing it in this photo, as I look wistful.)

Kiehls Ginger Hibiscus Overnight Firming Mask

Right away, the mask has a firming, plumping effect on skin. The texture is similar to a moisturizer; it leaves no residue and won’t rub off on your pillow. It continues working overnight, so your skin feels smooth and soft in the morning.

Kiehl’s suggests using it five nights per week, which makes it an ideal weeknight ritual. After only one week of regular use, I noticed a pronounced difference in my skin’s texture — particularly the lessening of my grumpiest forehead wrinkle.

Caroline Donofrio

While the mask is doing its thing, I’ll use this time to relax and unwind. I banish my phone to the living room where its glow cannot beckon. Then, I’ll read a book. Other times, I’ll practice yoga nidra, a super relaxing style of meditation that takes you to a state between sleep and waking.

Caroline Donofrio

…and other times, like last night for example, I’ll watch “The Real Housewives of New York City.” It’s all about balance.

Caroline Donofrio and Mia

Here is a gratuitous dog photo. Just because.

Kiehls Ginger Hibiscus Overnight Firming Mask

It feels so nice to take a moment for yourself, and waking up to glowy skin is a definite bonus. I highly recommend this mask.

Do you have a nighttime routine? Have you indulged in any special self-care rituals? We’d love to hear…

(Photos by Heather Moore for Cup of Jo. This post is sponsored by Kiehl’s, a brand we’ve loved for years. Thank you for supporting the brands that help keep Cup of Jo running.)

  1. Natalie says...

    Another long-time reader happy to see a post from Caroline!

    I’m also popping in to agree on the revelation of washing your face earlier than 5 minutes before you get in bed. I’m 35, and my mom mentioned it to me off-hand the other day, and I was like, “Why had I never considered that I could wash my face at 7:30, instead of 11:30 at night? Why have I been doing this to myself?!” So obvious. After I got over feeling a bit stupid, I was excited ;)

  2. ceciel says...

    Have loved Kiehl’s for years. I’m into the Midnight Recovery for nighttime for now. But Ginger Leaf, I’ll give you a try next. Caroline–love your writing. You make even a sponsored post fun to read. Thanks.

  3. Hi there! I did look at the product on amazon and other places. It is quite pricey for me. I love trying new things as well. My night time routine is always changing, but like the comment above I have heard you should wash your face in morning and at night. I want a mud mask cruelty free and chemical free too! Currently looking for a wash, and good night time mask as you’ve described. One of the gals replying stated it was not cruelty free however. My night time routine when I remember, is to wind down. Cut off coffee by 8 pm if I can. No computer work by midnight. Bath or shower before bed. I now have a new blow dryer…so then blow dry, brush teeth . I do agree skin care early in evening if no plans to go elsewhere. I use tatcha, biore and neutrogena currently. I am not too impressed with tatcha. We will see. Your review was well written and thanks for the post and suggestion. It will be on my mind.

  4. I really like almost all of Kiehl’s products I tried. Their avocado eye cream is unbeatable, the best one for me ever.
    I hardly ever comment online, but I must say that I truly enjoyed this recent string of articles by Caroline and wish to see more. Caroline, you are in my top 3 online writers ever!
    Could we get some more perfume-inspired posts from you? And I’m curious to find out what is in that Fragonard perfume bottle on your display… Many greetings from the Netherlands!

  5. C says...

    The first thing I do when I get home is wash and moisturise my face, tie my hair in a bun and put on my comfiest clothes. I would like to say I have a carefully considered skincare regime, but really it’s just Cetaphil and Oil of Olay.

  6. Jordan says...

    I stopped washing my face with water and opt for Micellar Water instead. I’m using Simple’s which is affordable and does the trick. I also started using Moroccan Argan oil day and night. I already notice more elasticity and less dry looking wrinkles! We keep our phones in the living room and read in bed.

    • Mary says...

      I’m curious, what brand of Argan oil do you use?

  7. Danielle says...

    I’ve been looking for a good overnight mask! Definitely trying this one. Since I turned 31 last month, I’ve been ALL about stepping up my skincare routine. Pre-31, it was nonexistent:)

    • that was me too (at 35) and then thought I needed to start taking better care of my skin. Now I’m loving how my skin looks and feels.

  8. Sam says...

    Some Kiehl’s products contain parabens, and they are not a cruelty-free company. Spend your dollars elsewhere!

    Happy to see Caroline’s [beautiful] face again though!

    • Rachel says...

      Agreed, I was very surprised to learn this given Kiehl’s branding as a natural company.

    • Mary says...

      Hi Sam, where have you learned that they’re not cruelty free? Their website explicitly says “we at Kiehl’s do not conduct animal testing on our products or ingredients, nor ask others to test on our behalf, except when required by law.” Am I missing something? I love their products but might have to switch if what their website says isn’t true.

    • Samantha Zarb says...

      Mary, the statement made on the Kiehl’s website is a very common position for brands, especially large, older beauty houses to take. What this means is that the products are not tested on animals unless they are being sold in a country that requires animal testing. The most notable country to enforce animal testing on all imported beauty products is China, and as Kiehl’s sells in the Chinese market, they are not truly a cruelty free brand. It is not Kiehl’s policy that is the problem, but the Chinese government’s policy, and also the decision of Kiehl’s (who must of course answer to shareholders) to profit from entering a market that insists on cruel practices. This is why I tend to prefer independent brands, who are answerable only to their customers, not to a board, and can stay true to their ethics. Hope that helps!

  9. Joy says...

    Caroline are you back?!

    • Lidia says...

      She is covering while Lexi is out on maternity leave. :-)

  10. Brandy T says...

    My routine is:
    – brush
    – floss
    – remove makeup with Ponds Cold Cream
    – cleanse with Cerave Hydrating Cleanser
    – tone with Witch Hazel
    – exfoliate with The Ordinary Lactic Acid 10%
    – moisturize with Drunk Elephant LaLa Retro Whipped, then Cold Pressed Rosehip oil by The Ordinary
    – cuticle oil on the hands (jojoba)
    – Laneige lip sleeping mask
    – cuddle my dog one last time…she sleeps on the bed with us.
    – play a Youtube video really quietly and fall asleep…for some reason i drift off easily to beauty videos!

    • I always watch beauty and hair videos when I can’t sleep! Funny so many people seem to find them soothing.

  11. Jennifer says...

    I love my nighttime ritual! As a mom of a 5 year old and expecting #2 in two short months, I find so much comfort in feeling like I’m taking the best possible care of my skin! Or at least trying to be proactive about it.

    My routine is:
    – brush/floss
    – wash face with Glossier’s milk jelly wash
    – nighttime eye cream (currently using something from L’oreal, but will try something else when this gets used up as I’m addicted to trying new products)
    – a mixture of face oil and cerave nighttime moisturizer. Right now I use Lancome’s face oil.
    – magnesium cream on my feet to help me sleep (pregnancy restless legs!)
    – hope to sleep and not be afflicted by pregnancy insomnia

    • Good luck for the arrival of baby number two!! X

    • being a mom of two was the reason I finally took the plunge into good skincare. I wanted some ME time even if it was only 15 minutes of washing my skin, toning, etc. Yay to nighttime rituals!

  12. AJ says...

    Yes! All about the skincare. It’s self love! Your skin looks divine, Caroline, I am tempted to try this mask, love a good recommendation:)

  13. Karina C. says...

    From what I’ve heard from estheticians and dermatologists, you should be cleansing twice a day, and if you are only cleansing once, it should definitely be at night. BUT, if you’re happy with your skin, I guess there’s no reason to change your routine ? I think most skin experts’ reasoning is that you should be wearing some type of SPF/moisturizer during the day, and that by the end of the day you’ll want to wash it off, plus any dirt/grime/oil/pollution that your face has accumulated throughout the day. I guess my point is: you do you.

  14. Francoise says...

    My question is what breed is your little puppy? That little face is so sweet!

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      Thank you! She’s half yorkie/half maltese.

  15. Kiley says...

    I’ve been paying a lot more attention to my skin care routine, and agree that doing it when you get home is the best route to take. It leaves more time in the evenings for tea, books/tv shows, and gratuitous dog photos :)

  16. JN says...

    Hi, Caroline, can I like, please clone your eyebrows and eyelashes?!?! (You have THE BEST eyebrows, not gonna lie.) What products, if any, are you using here for your eyelashes and eyebrows? Eyelash curlers? Boy-Brow from Glossier? BLACK MAGIC??? Please let me know! Sincerely, Nearly-Eyebrowless. Thanks! Xoxo

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      Thank you! I love Anastasia Brow Wiz and use it almost every day. It’s a teeny tiny pencil so it lets you fill them in just where you need it, and it looks really natural. And yes, I always, always curl the eyelashes (helps me feel awake). Hope that helps! xx

  17. allison says...

    One of the greatest changes I’ve made in the last year was switching up nighttime routine to right before I went to bed to about an hour or so beforehand. I realized I was having such a hard time falling asleep because I was standing in a very well lit bathroom for 5 minutes. Now, if I’m watching a show or baseball game, I’ll brush my teeth during the first commercial break and wash my face during the second around 9pm. I’m never too tired to wash my face and brushing my teeth then prevents late evening mindless snacking.

  18. Bernadette says...

    Where are your pjs from?!

    Thanks!

    • Stella Blackmon says...

      Hi Bernadette, she says they are from Other Stories :)

      Thank you! xo

  19. Sasha says...

    My bed time routine could be better, sometimes I read, but often look at my phone. One good part is cuddling my dogs in bed. I should be meditating too.

    I never clean my face at night, only oil cleanse in the morning. I don’t wear makeup so I don’t think I need to. My skin looks good, I don’t ever have break outs and been doing this for a long long time, so I think it’s ok. Am I the only one lol?

  20. Carrie says...

    …it’s still really light out when you go bed lol

  21. Jenna says...

    “I’ve finally learned that “wash your face before bed” does not necessarily mean in the three minutes before you fall asleep. Washing your face can take place at any point in the evening hours” YES!! Haha, I’ve just learned that this year too! I try to wash my face and brush my teeth while my daughter is playing in the bath! Then I’m refreshed enough to finish the bedtime routine with her and then I have literally no responsibilities left before my bedtime!

    • Allison says...

      Great idea to accomplish this task during kid bath time!

    • Lauren says...

      Yes! Bath time is perfect!

    • Diana L. Tisdale says...

      This is genius!

    • Tereza says...

      Exactly what I do too. I love it, I am in my pyjamas when reading to kids and saying good night. I realy miss it if I am late ?

    • never thought of doing my skincare regimen earlier. genius!

  22. Ana says...

    I totally understand too, of course, that ads/sponsored posts are vital to running the blog, and I do appreciate that you are selective on the brands you promote and clear about what you’re doing. But still… I can’t help feeling that it is getting a bit excessive and to feel sadly like a part of a bunch of consumers you’re targeting, instead of reading a content that also felt so authentic. Callie was kind and tactful in her critic, I don’t get why some readers got somewhat aggressive as if CoJ was being attacked (Joanna’s response, on the other hand, was impeccable, though it didn’t completely dissipate my discomfort with the proliferation of theses posts).

    • Sasha says...

      I think some people don’t mind being sold to as much as others do. I have friends who do MLM, literally constantly selling to their friends and I can’t stand it, drives me crazy on so many levels. But there are folks who truly don’t seem to mind. I don’t love sponsored posts here. They are much less obnoxious than a lot of other selling (MLM!!!) and I find the comments discussions pretty interesting sometimes. I guess I’d rather put up with it than have COJ sell more aggressively, or go away because it’s not economically viable. Honestly, I would pay a monthly fee to have the content with zero selling.

    • Kim says...

      I don’t know. I don’t really mind the sponsored posts here. I’ve stopped following other blogs because of it, but I feel like they’re done better on this site. The brands are good quality and things I would actually like to try. I feel like a lot of thought goes into who they let sponsor.

  23. Typically, my husband and I get home and do some type of activity – biking, walking, gym, yoga. Then we come home and shower. Ever since I discovered green/clean beauty, I absolutely love my skincare routine.

    I use Mahalo Unveil balm cleanser to remove my makeup (smells DIVINE), then Josh Rosebrook’s Complete Moisture Cleanse. I leave it on for about a minute and then do all my other shower stuff. After (only the last week or so because I got my Beauty Heroes delivery) I put on deMamiel’s Intense Nurture Antioxidant Elixir. We usually cook, eat dinner, clean up, then go our separate ways for the evening. I read. Right before bed, I put on Josh Rosebrook’s Vital Balm Cream.

    In the morning, I use Siam Seas Morning Delight oil cleanser (it’s amazing for making me feel refreshed), then their Zen toner, followed by the Ursa Major Fortifying Face Balm. I putter around a bit and let that do its work before putting on my makeup. I love this routine.

    Good skincare is costly, but I don’t have kids or expensive hobbies and love the self-care aspect of taking the time to devote to my skin.

  24. TJ says...

    Okay, I love this topic. I, too, do my skincare routine after dinner, because when it’s bedtime and I’m surly, I’ll just end up investigating my pores or some other nonsense.

    I use Yes to Tomatoes! face wash, followed by…
    Neutrogena hydroeye gel, vitamin C serum (or The Ordinary’s salycylic acid, if I am extra oily), then either Everyday Oil or Kiehl’s Midnight Repair, which I love, but now that I learn about the animal testing, it might be my last purchase…).

    Oh, and then I take my bucket of supplements, including fish oil, turmeric, magnesium citrate, biotin, alpha lipoic acid, coq10, and a probiotic. I am insane…but healthy.

  25. Virginia says...

    Putting on something comfortable before I read a book to my 5 year because I will inevitably crash with him from sheer exhaustion.. and who wants to sleep with jeans on? Then getting up, bleary eyed, somewhere between 10 & midnight go to the bathroom and deciding that there is no way on God’s green earth that I will splash water on my face or do anything involving hygiene. I’ll deal in the morning.. or maybe when he’s 8?

  26. MJ says...

    Love reading these!
    Current nighttime routine is as follows: eat dinner with my husband when I come home from the gym. Then I hop in the shower where I double-cleanse my face (to get the waterproof mascara out). First with coconut oil and then with Earth Science clarifying face wash that I put on a silicone facial cleaning pad (which are SO cheap and I prefer to a Clarisonic). I have recently started applying moisturizing body cream after my shower, I don’t have particularly dry skin, but it feel like a nice time to check in with my body. I then make myself a chamomile infusion, kiss my husband goodnight and go to the bedroom. I put my Uniqlo pjs on, sit in the bed, apply some vitamin E to my under eye and “lion wrinkles” and Shiseido’s Benefiance Night Cream. I meditate for 10 minutes with the Calm app and then read a book for around 30 mins. I set up my Sleep Cycle alarm and listen to Sleep with Me podcast to drift to sleep.

  27. Courtney says...

    There are few things I love more than talking to other women about their morning and evening rituals, especially when it comes to beauty and self-care! Also, Caroline–those pajamas are MAGIC! Where can we find them?

    • Stella Blackmon says...

      Hi Courtney! She says they’re from & Other Stories! :)

  28. Mouse says...

    Cetaphil, Everyday Oil, teeth brushing, reading in bed, and lights out.

    Basta cosi.

  29. Amanda says...

    I used to love Kheil’s products until researching the ingredients that actually go in them. I love thier branding and old world style but really they are no better then most pharmacy brand products in regards to their ingredients (and as another reader mentioned, test on animals!). I made the switch to 100% Pure and love them. They seem like a perfect sponser for CoJ! :)

    • Emily says...

      Agreed! Cruelty free should just be the norm by now…

    • Kristin says...

      Agreed. I used to buy certain products regularly at Kiehl’s, and give others as gifts, until I found out about the animal testing a few years ago.

  30. Saz says...

    Yeah, realising that washing my face didn’t have to be a right before bed job was a game changer for me as well!
    Now I do it while my tea is cooking, and my skin has never looked better!!

  31. Jen says...

    What a timely post for me! Any other favorite Kiehl’s products you can recommend? Particularly anti-aging and improving skin quality in general. I recently switched to their face wash in an attempt to tame my hormonal pregnancy skin, and it’s worked well so I’d like to invest in a couple more products for when babe arrives and he/she and my toddler surely conspire to keep me looking as tired as possible. ;) I also needed a book to read for a quick trip this weekend and am very pleased to see that Meg Wolitzer has a new book out- just got my copy. Sometimes I feel like you guys read my mind!

  32. Hardori says...

    I definitely should apply this.

  33. Laura C. says...

    I can’t go to bed without washing my face. Sometimes it is like 1:00 AM and I fell asleep in my daughter’s bed with all my make up on (bb cream,blush and mascara) but no matter how zombie I am: ALWAYS wash your face.
    It pays off. After may years not skipping a night, my skin does reflect it.
    I would love to have more night rituals but my current circustances don’t allow me. When things calm down I will be going out for a walk, I think it is a great idea.
    Caroline, I LOVE your hair colour, I went to my stylist to cover up my white hairs and,instead of a nice dark chocolate, my hair is almost black and not glossy at all!

  34. Jojo says...

    This is so tempting until I pull up the complete list of ingredients and look up this product on the EWG skin deep website. I know it’s a good brand and that lots of folks us it but can you please do a post about clean/green/safe beauty products?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      absolutely. we’re working on a post right now and have more coming up. thank you so much, jojo!

  35. michaela says...

    I’ve been seeing some hype about this mask and I’m curious about trying it! I’m wondering though, with an overnight mask like this, do you apply it instead of moisturizer, or after moisturizer? Rinse it off in the morning or no? I usually only wash my face at night because I don’t get very oily and I don’t see the point of stripping any products I’ve applied before bed.

  36. MT says...

    Caroline! I’ve been seeing your name in posts and assuming it was someone else because I thought you left cup of Jo awhile back! Did you come back?! Either way so glad to have you writing for us again!!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      caroline is the greatest :) she is covering for lexi, while lexi is on maternity leave. it’s so nice to have her back!

  37. Sasha says...

    Glamorous pajamas! Sadly I buy a variety of products that then get neglected in the bathroom… still have a clay mask from years ago hiding in there. Yesterday, I accidentally fell asleep in my contacts… but i am aspiring to be more like you, Caroline!

  38. KIm says...

    Caroline, I can’t tell you how happy I am that you watch the New York housewives. It’s funny how when I reveal to someone (sheepishly) that I watch the housewives series and they admit the same and then we both feel so validated that another smart, professional woman enjoys it. It’s a funny bonding experience! New York is my favorite by far.

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      Kim! I’m glad we connect on this. I will happily tell you that RHONY is a highlight of my week. I feel no shame about this. No shame at all.

  39. A Martin says...

    I recently added something to my nighttime routine that has been so empowering and relaxing. I heard an interview of Aidi Kansas on the podcast, “That’s So Retrograde” and it was transformative. She created a mediation called the Clit Sit. Basically, you place your hand over your vagina/clit area (I know..these words may be uncomfortable) and breathe/meditate as you would. It opens up a chakra where we store our fears, anxieties, deepest shame, etc. When doing this, I swear that I feel my feminine energy surge in such an unexplainably empowering way. She says that when people do this, people report that they have lost weight, their hair growa faster, they feel more confident and grounded, etc. Anywho, I wanted to share this and ahhh how cool would it be to feature her here on CoJ!

    • Court says...

      Just want to shout out to you for commenting about this here. I had never heard of Aidi’s work but am in the same zone with regards to meditation, women’s reproductive and mental health, and creativity. If anyone else is reading this, it’s not even a woo-woo thing, it’s the most legit form of body awareness and self-healing out there. Peace!

  40. MG says...

    I can’t believe I’m the first to ask about your lipstick color in this post. It’s subtle and lovely!

  41. Is Carolina coming back at Cup of Jo? Because I have missed her!

  42. Lindsay says...

    There’s a lot of terrible ingredients in this product. You could probably get much better results using just shea butter and some essential oils for a fraction of the cost. I’m a little shocked at the insane prices woman are paying for their skincare lately. These are not magical potions; you are paying for the advertisement and branding. I’m growing tired of the constant target on woman by beauty companies who want to make money off us…..we don’t need $100 serums to be beautiful!

    • Luna says...

      Agree. I used to pay $150 for a jar of scrub that lasted a year if applied every night. That’s a lot when there’s no part payments. I’ve stopped buying it a couple years back. Then by chance I rediscovered Aapri an old favourite for <$10 AUD and I use it 1-2 times weekly. Seriously, I need to kick myself sometimes.

    • Claire says...

      Baking soda works ok as a scrub too.

  43. Denise says...

    My nighttime ritual is to fall into bed unwashed, unbrushed, and grubby, get love-mauled by an over-affectionate cat, sneeze a little, and then fall asleep. I like to pretend I’m going to read before bed but usually I can barely get two sentences before I drop my book on my face. I almost always fall asleep immediately which is a blessing. But I do have to say, these comments all sound so soothing and lovely and personal, (and clean!) I’m seriously thinking about upping my nighttime routine.

  44. txilibrin says...

    Pleaseeeeee, need the nail polish brand and color!!! I’ve been looking for that color foreverrrrrr

    • Stella Blackmon says...

      Hi! She says it’s Essie Fifth Avenue :)

  45. Allison Leedie says...

    I used to love Kiehl’s, they have a really great early vibe, BUT I recently discovered that they have pretty bad animal testing policies. I was surprised so I am just sharing in case everyone else (like me) assumed they were cruelty-free.

    • Shannon says...

      THANK YOU for calling this out. The core reason these companies are still testing on animals is so they can sell to the Chinese Market, which requires it. There are SO many green products out there – like a True Botanicals, which CoJ also features in their advertorials – that there is little reason to support brands that deliberately hurt animals so that they can reach a bigger market. I wish more blogs targeted to women would mention this.

  46. Claire says...

    Dinner, clean up, maybe some laundry. I don’t like to wake up to a messy kitchen or house, so I straighten up before I relax. Sometimes I get an evening walk in. I put my pajamas on early, as soon as I know I’m not leaving the house again, could be as early as 7:30. Often we watch something good on TV. Some nights I do some gentle yoga and stretching to relax my legs and back mixed with a few gentle PT type moves for some hip issues. Wash face, no oil or moisturizer at night because I break out, brush teeth, brush hair, floss. Sometimes a magnesium if needed. Sometimes I wash my feet with warm water and scented soap, and massage a little Shea butter in. I always read when I get in bed. If my mind is restless or anxious then I write a dump list, which can be like a sedative. I get a pen and paper and write down every single thing in my mind- thoughts, feelings, questions, chores, errands, tasks, work stress, worries, memories, good or bad- using 1 – 3 words per item. I keep writing until my mind feels calmer and I reach a place of some stillness, then I just set it aside and release it all to evaporate into the ether where the angels and universe can do with it as they see fit.

  47. Paige says...

    My evening routine:
    -Wash face with Norwex body cloth
    -use tazarotene 3 nights a week
    -use pixie glow tonic 2 nights a week
    -moisturize with cerave night cream
    -read for 30ish minutes before bed

    The tazarotene and glow tonic have made my skin look so good.

    I love Kiehl’s! When we travel to Nashville I always go in the store there. I may sample this next time we go.

  48. Ariane Baayens says...

    Love that posts by Caroline are back, I missed her sense of humour

  49. Guylaine says...

    I loved Caroline’s tip about not waiting right before bed to do her mask. As a dental hygienist I often tell my patients to floss:
    1) right after supper
    2) before going out
    3) for parents- at the same time as the kids bedtime brushing and flossing routine. Although I brush right before bed it seems like I’m way to tired to floss and this gets it out of the way!

    • Sarah says...

      Good tip! My husband and I will also sometimes floss right after dinner as a signal to our bodies that we are done eating – no late-night snacking!

  50. Jen says...

    Caroline, your skin look amazing and you look just so bright eyed and fresh in general!

  51. Thea says...

    I let my dog out for his final trip to the yard, then give him his medicine. Then I take mine. I wash my face, put on moisturizer and maybe some serum, brush out my hair (it’s soothing, really) and brush my teeth. I put on some lip balm. Then I get into bed with my boyfriend, and most nights, we read to each other–different things, usually stuff we’ve read before, whatever we want to hear a bit of that night. Recently I read him a chapter of a Star Wars novel. Last night he read me the beginning of The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe.

    We put on white noise and put out the lights. The dog curls up on the padded bench at the foot of the bed.

    • Jessie Frey says...

      I have to say that I just skimmed your comment at first and totally missed the “my boyfriend” part of it, and I thought you were talking about you reading your dog books and I was like “YASSSS.” Then I reread it and made myself really lol.

    • Sara says...

      I read the Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe to my husband while pregnant with my son. It was one of my favorite books growing up. My son’s name is Edmund ;)

    • Laura says...

      Love that you read to each other! Me and my husband always cuddle or most days just spend time on our phones, but this sounds like a very nice way to wind down after a long day, without screens. I will try to introduce this lovely ritual :-)

  52. Brianna says...

    Love this. I definitely need a better nighttime routine, especially since I have to start getting up early Monday for work.

    I’m excited to implement some new routine options tonight.

  53. Ann says...

    This might sound a bit OCDish… but I’m usually a zombie when I get up at 5:30 AM, so before I go to bed, I do a few things to make early work mornings as easy as possible on myself: put water in the pot and coffee beans in the grinder. Have crepe batter pre-made (so easy to throw in the blender, and it lasts all week!) and everything laid out (powdered sugar, kitchen utensils, a plate and fork– I even put the crepe pan on the stove with a pat of butter in it, so that all i have to do in the morning is turn it on and squirt the batter in to have a luxurious-feeling breakfast that’s as quick as making toast). I always love waking up and starting the day appreciating a gift I laid out for myself the night before!

    If I’m having a particularly lame week, I’ll write some affirmations on colorful sticky tabs and put them around the house where I know I’ll see them– on the bathroom mirror, or in the fridge taped to the creamer. Basically I’m like my own tooth fairy :)

    I always sleep more soundly if I burn some incense or essential oil (my fav is cedar and forest scents), and put on a comfie pair of PJs… I lay out big fluffy house socks to put on in the morning when the floor’s cold…

    And finally, if I’m *really* luxing it up… and if it’s a nice warm night, I’ll do a bit of easy, lazy restorative yoga out on my porch under the stars, without– and this is the important part!– without judging myself for not doing anything that will help me get toned or strong. Nah, just the feel-good, calm stuff that doesn’t get my heart rate up, and a moment to relish looking up into the night sky.

    • Anna says...

      Love your routines!

    • Emily says...

      Ann, I love your nightly ritual/morning gifts. It doesn’t sound OCDish at all, unless that stands for Objectively Calming + Delightful. :)

    • This doesn’t sound OCD, it sounds *delightful*.

    • CG says...

      Wait. You have time to turn on the stove and cook crepes?!!!? On a weekday morning?! Yep alarm goes off at 5:30 and I take the next half hour to wake up fully while my husband is in the only bathroom getting ready. 6 am is my turn. After brush up, getting dressed, making my breakfast on the go and finalizing half of our daughter’s lunch (she does the three half), I’m out the door at 7 – two slices of toast cut up in bits so I can eat it while I drive to work.

      I would kill to have some tasty crepes for breakfast…

    • A Martin says...

      Sounds sooo wonderful!!

    • Surabhi says...

      This was like reading a poem

      Totally inspired

    • Abbe says...

      I love this! You take such good care of yourself — not in the traditional way that people use that phrase towards women as in “you ascribe to the millions of tiny maintenance things that society deems women need to do in order to meet arbitrary aesthetic standards,” but in the “you genuinely treat yourself as you would treat a loved one” kind of way.

      Also, crepes as a workday breakfast is SUCH a great idea.

    • That sounds so calm. Love this, Ann!

    • Alice says...

      Ann, your nighttime routine sounds truly blissful!! Such a good idea to have everything laid out the night before, and yoga under the stars just sounds WONDERFUL. You really have your sh*t together! :)

    • wendy says...

      Ann your routine and little ‘extras’ are calm choices and evoke a sense of peace upon waking up each day! I think they are wonderful and especially the big fluffy socks ( I do this too ) and the yoga on the porch! The entire experience of waking up becomes almost a meditation to the day ahead.

    • Nancey says...

      I love every second of this whole routine.

    • Sasha says...

      What Abbe says! Yes, your routine is just lovely and loving and not OCD at all.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      ann, this is so beautiful! i love this.

    • Amanda says...

      That is beautiful! I also try to prepare the coffee since it’s lovely to merely press the button in the morning. Yoga under the stars sounds amazing. Thanks for sharing, Ann.

  54. Hannah says...

    Hmm, can’t appreciate the dog picture when the post is advertising a company that test on animals. There are so many alternatives these days COJ.

    • Sasha says...

      Agree wholeheartedly.

      It would be enlightening to see a post about what matters to readers when we make a purchase. Maybe rank in order of importance. Stuff like 1. Humane, no animal testing, 2. Sustainable packaging 3. Organic, non toxic ingredients, 4. Companies support workers well. Etc. We all have our priorities, seems like it would be helpful to COJ and their sponsors to know what we care about. Sometimes when I read the comments after a sponsored post, I just scratch my head, because there are as many comments raising issues that would stop someone from buying as there are praising comments, and I have to wonder, are these sponsored posts actually effective advertising? I find all the comments super useful, but as often as not they convince me NOT to buy, which makes me wonder if the sponsors could be more in line with what readers care about.

    • Kimberley says...

      Totally agree Hannah. Hurts my heart to know that very popular companies are still testing on animals :(

  55. I’m all about washing my face early in the evening. I work in scene shops where I’m also usually pretty paint-covered and grubby and have been around lots of sawdust, so when I get home I’m practically stripping as I walk through the door on my way to the shower (closely followed by washing my face). I find it wakes me up, too, so doing it too close to bedtime is a double no-no for me!

  56. Jen says...

    Game changer YES! I never wash my face before bed. I wash it when I get home or before I settle down for my evening routine (watching tv, reading a book, tidying up…). The last thing I want to do when I’m tired or ready for sleep, is to wash my face. That just instantly wakes me up! This has been so useful when I have to work late. I just work til I can’t work anymore and then crawl into bed.

    And same here, I use to never wash my face at night. Ewww. It’s only when I started wearing more makeup in my late 30s and becoming more concerned about my skin did I realize how important it is to really wash the face at night.

  57. Diana says...

    I have no night time rituals and occasional insomnia. I think I might have to give this a try! Thanks! Is there a discount code for cupofjo readers? Thanks!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thanks for your note! there isn’t a discount code this time, but there’s automatically free shipping when you spend more than $50. xoxo

  58. Candace says...

    After 17 long years, I finally paid off my school loans this March. (!!!) To reward myself, I splurged on the True Botanicals Pure Radiance Oil and Vitamin C that I had long coveted after seeing it featured here at COJ. However, to try to trick myself into flossing regularly, I only let myself use it if I floss. So far, it’s working! I love using the oil-it feels like a treat, so I go ahead and floss first. My face is happy and so are my teeth. :)

    • Cindy says...

      Congrats on paying off your loans!

    • Katherine says...

      In the last couple of years I’ve finally returned to my childhood routine of going to the dentist recovery six months, and asking with that have somehow got into a very regular flossing routine. How good are flossed teeth?! You’ve made me think I should add in a nice face thing too…

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that’s amazing, candace! congratulations on paying off your loans, what an accomplishment!

    • Amanda says...

      Oh, man. Congrats on paying off your student loans! That alone will help you sleep better at night. My husband and I have committed to getting the rest of ours paid off in the next couple of years. And when we do, we’re treating ourselves to a helluva vacation.

  59. Lina says...

    My nighttime routine starts with catching up on all social media (horrible-i know!) Then, washing my face and brushing my teeth and putting my acne spot treatment to prevent any possible breakouts. And finally, saying a little prayer and watching something on Netflix/reading something i marked earlier on in the day.
    Works well most nights, but sometimes I feel like whatever i’m watching on Netflix gets me too hyped up!

  60. Sonia says...

    Not self-evident for me either- totally needed the “you can wash your face hours before bed if you want” :)

    • Alex says...

      Yes, yes, yes! I actually just came to this realization about a month ago and it has been a huge game changer to not have to dragggg myself off of the couch to wash my face before climbing into bed. Like Caroline I’ve also started to wash my face pretty soon after coming home from work and I’ve found that it has become a symbol of “turning off” work mode and “turning on” home mode.

    • Rebecca says...

      Love your thoughts on this, Alex and Sonia. I will adopt this as of tomorrow (have missed the boat tonight — it’s suddenly 10.36pm and here I am, still with mascara on my rather tired Friday night lashes).

  61. dani says...

    ahhh, just writing out my nighttime routine feels therapeutic.
    it starts with m/u removal cloth (neutrogena is the g.o.a.t.!)
    then water rinse and one cotton pad swipe of micellar water
    one cotton pad swipe pixie glow tonic
    some kind of treatment like a clay mask, gel mask, clay peel or nose strip!
    nourishment time with pixi’s rose caviar essence
    finish up with neutrogena’s hydro boost gel cream

    i play around and experiment with different serums, eye creams and sleep masks sprinkled in there. an episode or two with the hubby (right now we’re watching the wire, i’ve never seen it before and it’s sooo good!). we like to have a window open/fan blowing to keep bedroom nice and cool. diffuser running on a blend of hubby’s choosing. i slather on some advanced therapy lip serum by sugar and we hunker down to watch cute puppy vids on youtube <3

    i already can't wait to go to bed tonight, haha

    • Bobby says...

      As someone with the worst chapped lips in history …. is the sugar advance therapy really worth the $/ Does it work? Or are chapped lips not a concern for you?

    • Lina says...

      wow that just made me want to go to bed! Might borrow a few of your ideas- but how long does the whole process take?

    • Jen says...

      Bobby, try Laniege Lip Mask at night for those chapped lips! I even put it on during the day or when I’m getting ready in the morning.

    • Bobby- If you have a Sephora near you, they’ll pack you a sample free of charge! As someone who also has trouble with chapped lips, I personally find that mixing some brown sugar with a tiny bit of coconut oil works wonders (with a much smaller price tag!) and love love LOVE Aquaphor Lip Repair (at 5 bucks a tube it’s expensive compared to most chapsticks, but it is SO WORTH IT).

    • dani says...

      bobby! if you ever go into sephora, ask them for the advance therapy sample. i have the tiniest container of this wicked stuff that I’m pretty sure just got thrown into my shopping bag ages ago as a sample and I still have it hanging around. chapped lips are DEFINITELY a concern of mine and i’m not sure how much you wear lip products but i always have issues of product clumping into chapped lines but this stuff has been a huge help! i’ve also been working through a sample of bite’s agave lip balm and it looks like it’s a titch less expensive than sugar’s so i think i’m going to go for a full size of that next. i think it might also come down to me slathering on an exorbitant amount – like reaaaally thick layer – and letting the magic happen overnight. xo

      lina! i’m not going to lie, sometimes it can be up to an hour. but i’m one of those folks who truly believes that skincare/makeup is fun and i just loooove the relaxing process of opening up the jars and bottles and deciding what kind of concoction i’m going to whip up. i don’t just wipe the stuff on, i might play a podcast or destiny’s child playlist (hehe), and really sloooooow down the motions of working the products into my skin :) xo

    • Jen says...

      Hi Bobby, I have crazy dry lips and have tried 30+ lip treatments, from natural remedies to high end products. What has worked really well for me is the Overnight Renewal Therapy (By Polysporin or Neosporin; depending on where you live) https://www.polysporin.ca/products/visible-lip-health-overnight-renewal It’s between $5-10 in Canada.

      When I shower, I use my fingers to rub my lips to get rid of any dead skin, then before I go to bed, put the lip balm on. Lips stay healthy the entire day the next day.

      I have always struggled with cold sores bc of dry lips, but since using this, I haven’t had a problem. Good luck!

    • txilibrin says...

      Bobby, i just got Laneige lip sleeping mask. Best $20 bucks EVEEEEERR

    • H says...

      I second the overnight renewal therapy on lips right before bedtime! It’s so great! But I do also use the Fresh Sugar lip treatment during the day. I have tried and tried to find a less expensive alternative, but at the end of the day they are all so waxy and I hate them. For me the combo of overnight renewal therapy and regular fresh sugar lip treatment works great!

    • Bobby says...

      Oh my gosh! Thank you to everybody who responded! Will try everything!

    • KL says...

      Bobby, honestly, nothing works for me as well as a little neosporin at night on my lips like lip balm. This should only be used for occasional treatments though, because neosporin is a medicine and you don’t want to use it too regularly. But for those really rough times (ha, get it), TRUST ME ON THIS.

    • Lucy says...

      Bobby – I put a bit of Aquaphor on my lips before bed every night. I leave it on my nightstand so I don’t forget. It works better than anything else I’ve tried and it’s cheap!

    • KP says...

      Bobby! I had horrible chapped lips this winter and every other product dries out my lips so I researched my favorite makeup artist’s recommendations. One was an uber-expensive Le Mer treatment. The other was by Nivea for under $3 at Target. I actually sampled the Le Mer product but ended up loving the Nivea Moisture Lip Care more. Sound investment, I have a tube on hand everywhere, and it’s awesome.

    • Carrie says...

      Hey bobby!

  62. Madie says...

    I’m in the trenches right now, with a 14 month old and a 4 year old and working full-time with an hour commute each way. SO, my “bedtime routine” is rather tragic… After getting the baby to bed and then completing all 37 steps of the 4 year-old’s bedtime routine, I lay down with him until he’s asleep (at his insistence). My husband says sort of wistfully to me as he turns out the light on us, “See ya tomorrow” and I whisper back with big eyes, “No no! Be right out!” Except, no. I pass out. That’s it. Occasionally I will make it back out to the living room for a show (or let’s be honest, part of a show), but there is no pre-bedtime self-care happening right now. I may have to try Caroline’s post-work, pre-dinner idea!

    • Lomavistagirl says...

      ^this!^ Except my two are 9 months and 5 years old. The only thing I manage (sometimes, and only if I do it way before the kids’ bedtimes) is swiping off my makeup with a cotton pad soaked in micellar water.

    • LC says...

      I try to do my bedtime routine while my kids are in the bathtub – wipe off makeup with micellar water, apply either a BHA or retinoid, then finish with cerave cream. On nights when I don’t bathe the kids, no guarantee that I’ll wash my face. But at least I’ve got it down 3-4 nights per week

    • Ann says...

      Thank you for your comment! I was reading the others and had a flash back to my pre-children days…but then quickly noticed the sleeping and sort of nursing baby in my arms and realized I was a mom- not my -pre-children self with a full time job, $ to spend on fancy multi-step skincare and an open evening schedule. Alas, wouldn’t trade this sleeping babe for all the creme de la mer in the world!
      So my evening ritual…I do a little dance starting after dinner has been cleaned up which consists of baths (2) and none for me, tooth brushing, ( again not mine). It moves on to pajamas and storytime. Right now my son is scared to sleep alone so my
      Husband sleeps on his top bunk and I am co-.sleeping with out 6 month old. After I put her down…did I mention she’s a super light sleeper?! I tip toe around trying to brush my teeth, wash my face ( nothing fancy but I do swear by Cerave face wash and PM moisturizer). Then I tip toe into bed and either check Instagram or watch TV on my iPad…all whilst trying not to wake the aforementioned light sleeper. I realize it’s not a very conventional arrangement/routine but when I fall asleep with my wee baby tucked in next to me, and my son tucked into his bed just on the other side of the wall ( and we can’t forget my husband now in the top bunk) my heart is so full because I truly have everything in that I have ever wanted.

    • sara says...

      GIRL. Same.

    • Kristie says...

      Yep. Mine are nine months old and two years old. I’m lucky if i brush my teeth.

    • Madie says...

      Awww I’m glad I came back to read through the comments again, and saw the responses! I feel less alone in my crappy self-care (but STELLAR momming…) :) XOXO

  63. Alexi says...

    I’m a nurse and i work 3 to 11:30 so night time rituals have become so important to me these days, mostly because im wired when i get home. I take a bubble bath every night when i get home. I love doctor Teals sooth and sleep with lavender and Epsom salt. I have the best flannel pjs and I fall asleep to a podcast or law and order. Does the trick everytime

  64. justine says...

    Meg Wolitzer has a new book?! YAY!

    • Elizabeth R says...

      Yes. It is SO SO good.

  65. Elizabeth says...

    This is great timing – I just started a new nighttime ritual this week! I’m 7 weeks pregnant and in order to get enough sleep I need to wind down eeeearly these days, which is hard for me. The ritual is kinda boring, but it helps my brain turn off sooner:
    neti pot (what up preggo congestion)
    brush + floss
    take pills
    hot shower with lavender essential oil diffuser
    zzzzz :)

    • justine says...

      YES, preggo congestion. Me too!!

  66. Amelia says...

    The idea of getting into bed with dirty feet horrifies me so most nights I soak my feet in the tub. It has turned into a really pleasant self-care ritual. I usually spend 5-10 min sitting on the edge of the tub soaking my feet and either reading or catching up on instagram and I feel so much more relaxed afterwards.

    • Kamaile says...

      Wow I never thought to just soak my feet & doesn’t take too much water either. I’m going to do this tonight with lavender epsom salt too. Great idea. Thank you!

    • Carissa says...

      I wash my feet every night before bed too! I don’t remember this but my friends say I used to make them do it when they would sleep over as kids – ha!

    • We don’t have a bathtub at home, but I do this whenever I stay in a hotel for work or otherwise. Such a little, inexpensive luxury!

    • Emma says...

      Haha, I share the feet must be clean thing! For a while when we started dating my boyfriend would pick me up after my night shift and we’d only have a little time together before he had to get up for his early morning day job and I never wanted to take a full shower because it would take too much time away from us but I did insist on washing my feet after work so I could relax and feel clean!

  67. DIANA says...

    Up until recently my nighttime ritual consisted of coming home from work/social outings and crawling into bed with whatever I had on and dropping immediately into a deep sleep. I’m a monster.

    • Marna says...

      ?

    • Sasha says...

      I sleep in my clothes a fair bit too. TBH, the clothes I wear most days might as well be PJs.

  68. Amy says...

    All right, Caroline has convinced me! Let’s see if this helps with my stress wrinkles.

  69. allison says...

    Does anyone listen to the podcast Forever 35? They talk a lot about nighttime and other self care rituals.

    • Stella Blackmon says...

      Yes, love!!!

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      Yes! A bunch of my friends and I are hooked on it.

    • Ferrell says...

      Yes! I love Forever35 (not sure if my bank account does though ;)

    • Suzanne says...

      I LOVE FOREVER 35!!! Their suggestions are ones that I incorporate often. I also just love the focus on self care as a necessity. xoxo

  70. Chelsey N. says...

    More gratuitous dog photos please! Actually, now that I think of it, more pet content in general would be welcome :)

    • Agreed!

    • E says...

      Definitely! Like how to move in with your boyfriend when you both have crazy dogs, or dealing with crazy expensive medical issues like an autoimmune disorder, or managing a social life and busy work schedule with a dog…. I legitimately told my bosses I couldn’t stay after work on Wednesdays for an entire year before they finally found out the reason was my dog. Didn’t go over too well, but live and learn!

  71. Nicole A. says...

    Before bed, I shower, then use one medicated acne wipe (it smells like straight-up rubbing alcohol and if you’ve picked, it burns like you would not believe, which keeps me from picking at my spots), then put on my face lotion and eye cream. I then lotion my feet and throw on some socks. I also use chapstick before bed every night and put eyedrops in to rid myself of any mascara residue irritation.

  72. Caroline!!! I know that you’ve been back for a while but I’m still so glad you’re back!!

  73. Jasmine says...

    I just returned from my annual eye exam and thanks to my dilated pupil induced blurry vision, I misread the article title as “What Are Your Nightmare Rituals?” Ha! While my addiction to Cup of Jo is certainly real, I guess it will have to be temporarily quelled. I will, however, try to read the article again later this evening as I am in need of a new skincare routine!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahaha, see you tonight, jasmine! :)

  74. Caroline, pleeeeease come back to COJ full time! Love your voice. :)

  75. I do the Reverse Regimen by Rodan + Fields, followed by they eye crack… I mean cream, and finish up with Lash Boost. Then I stare at my phone until I pass out :D

  76. My post-dinner routine is to walk my dog, blog, maybe watch some TV or get into bed to read before I turn the lights out. I try to remember to pack my gym bag before bed so I don’t have to think about it in the morning. I always brush my teeth and wash my face – I don’t think I could fall asleep without doing those things haha. But I really want to try that mask!

    x Elise

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      what a good tip about the gym bag. i remember a reader saying a while back that she sleeps in her gym clothes so she’ll be motivated to get up in the morning to run. always thought that was great advice.

    • Erika says...

      Yes to this! I sleep in the clothes I work out in (all cotton pants/tanks) and then just get up and work out. Makes all the difference between having the best of intentions and actually implementing them!

  77. M says...

    I really enjoy Kiehls’ products, but I’m just kind of bummed they test on animals.

    • Tis says...

      Also owned by Nestle!!!! :(

    • Lizzie says...

      Oh man, thanks for pointing that out…I had the page open and was ready to buy it. Not anymore.

    • Ferrell says...

      It really is disappointing in this day for so many companies to continue this practice.

    • Alex says...

      oh no! that’s a game-changer. Looked into this and it appears to be true: they say they don’t, unless “required by law” — which means that they do (for foreign sales in countries that require it). NOT OKAY KIEHL’S. that’s it for me.

  78. Kate says...

    I don’t have a nighttime ritual to speak of (except I always wash my face and brush my teeth) but my boyfriend has an elaborate nighttime routine. We jokingly call it “The 5 Stages of Stephan Going to Bed” and it involves lots of types of stretching, taking a shower, and finally watching Bob Ross. We joke about it and he feels bad that it sometimes keeps us from getting to bed quickly, but he always falls asleep immediately and there is something soothing about even being a part of it.

    • Meg says...

      Adorable! Sounds so well adjusted and healthy. That guy knows how to self soothe.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahaha, kate, i love that so much.

    • Laura says...

      This is awesome. It reminds me of my after-work routine, which involves cuddling with my dog (first thing, obviously), lighting an incense, putting on a Speedbuggy USA CD, and stretching :)

    • Kate says...

      Aww, thanks for the kind comments. You all just made my day. He is a keeper, and I am very fond of him and his routine.

      And Laura, I think your afterwork routine sounds lovely!

  79. Samantha says...

    I’ll definitely be checking this out – what a convenient mask/moisturizer combo! Would also love to know what that fabulous orange-y red nail polish colour is …

    • Stella Blackmon says...

      Hi Samantha! She says it’s Essie Fifth Avenue :)

  80. Loved this post! i wanted to ask what breed your puppy is but momentarily forgot the word and almost asked “what brand is your dog?” ahaha

    • Sarah says...

      Hahah this made me laugh!

  81. APaige says...

    Meg Wolitzer, FTW! Is the new one good? Love your glam pjs, Caroline.

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      Yes! It’s great. :)

  82. Lindsay says...

    I love kielhls. They are one of the few brands I can use since they don’t add fragrance. I have normal to dry skin in winter and I just wash my face with warm water right before bed. Lately I take a hot bath before bed. 1-2 times a week I’ll exfoliate with Tatcha rice powder, very gentle. I use glossier serums and Cetaphil cream on face and neck. Sweet almond oil on body. I drink plenty of water before bed. I take magnesium which helps me relax and keeps me regular. Sometimes I get allergies and take a little benadryl and those nights I sleep extra deep! I use the softest sheets on my bed and keep it pretty cool. Sometimes I read or just play relaxing music. What I love is heat but feeling cool at the same time, weird I know, so a very hot bath but with cool night air coming in through window, and then I use this heating pad on my bed but I don’t use a heavy blanket, just a sheet and throw and keep the temp pretty cool. Husband wraps himself in the down comforter and wears a hoody! We are So different!

    • Meg says...

      Magnesium (I drink hot water with that Calm powder) was a game changer – it really does relax me to the point of falling asleep so gently. And the regularity is real.

  83. Robin says...

    Do we get to talk about books with Caroline sometime soon? (Please).

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes!!! we were just talking about that today!

    • Krisel says...

      Yas. Here for this 100%, Caroline.

  84. Elke says...

    Those pajamas are SO LOVELY! Where are they from?

    I’m 34, and it’s only in the last six months or so that I’ve actually committed to washing my face every night (still working on that daily flossing though, small steps…). As everyone says all the time, it really does make such a difference. Not only do I not wake up with a filmy sad layer of grime all over my face, but washing my face every night means being in a state to wash my face every night, which means less booze and earlier bedtimes. Or, at least, it means washing my face earlier and drinking on my couch with a book/netflix. Still a win. Lastly, I’ve found that caring for my skin has been so good for me that I, a lifelong acne sufferer, have now almost foregone makeup completely. This also makes washing my face each night much easier, since there’s very little to take off, and I find a steady and pure joy in the lack of mascara residue around my eyes. Seriously, I could NEVER fully get that stuff off before. Anyways, thanks for sharing your routine, Caroline, I’m currently using that watermelon glow-y night mask (smells so good!) but when it runs out I’ll check out this Kiehl’s mask!

    • Stella Blackmon says...

      Hi Elke! Thank you for wonderful comment. She says they’re from & Other Stories! xoxo

  85. Wendy says...

    Gorgeous nail color! Can you share details?

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      Thanks! It’s Essie Fifth Avenue.

    • txilibrin says...

      Nice, got my answer!

  86. Amy says...

    Such a cute pup!! What’s the breed?

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      Thanks! She’s a yorkie/maltese mix.

    • celeste says...

      OPI Dutch Tulips is also an exact match!

  87. Laura says...

    Great tip! I feel that ‘night time ritual’ was one of the new additions after my 30th birthday and i still have not been able to master it

    Also, I am curious about your nail polish… do you remember the brand? Thanks!

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      Thank you! It’s Fifth Avenue from Essie.

  88. Hey Caroline! I always look forward to your posts. Will check out this mask! Your skin looks amazing.

  89. Callie says...

    I love this website, I really do, but I’m sorry, the product placement is getting to be a little too much for me. Yes, I totally believe the author uses this mask and loves it…but to write an article about nighttime rituals that only features this one single product…what?! The ingredients of this mask aren’t exactly wowing me either. I understand that blogs and websites make money with endorsements and partnerships like these, but the product pushing is not authentic and your readers notice.

    I guess I am becoming jaded with being bombarded with sneaky advertisements from everywhere. This blog has such amazing content, I get a little irritated when I see it coming off here too.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you so much for your feedback, callie. we truly use and love the brands we partner with (and we turn down many, many potential sponsors, whenever we’re not 100% into their products). kiehl’s has been a long-time favorite of ours — i used to hang out at their great store in the east village, when i lived there; they were so generous with samples, which meant a lot to a broke early twenty-something :) and this particular mask is so lightweight yet rich and has the most amazing subtle scent. i’ve been using it this spring, too.

      to make sure we’re super clear, we mark our sponsored content both at the top of the post and at the bottom, so they always feel above-board. these partnerships help support the full site operations, including the production of all our editorial posts and essays, and allow us to pay our contributing photographers/illustrators/etc fair rates and provide our full-time team with health insurance and paid maternity leave. we’re grateful for our sponsors and so happy to be creating long-term relationships with them.

      thank you so much, callie, and i really hope this helps! glad you’re here. xoxo

    • Valerie says...

      Sponsored posts pay the bills, and I think we’re all happy when Jo & co’s bills are paid! And the posts are clearly labelled, nothing “sneaky” about it – skip it if you don’t like it. Also, there was a puppy picture included, so I think we got the better end of the deal.

    • Emily says...

      Gah, give CoJ a break. They are completely transparent when promoting an item, and it’s not like they do it every single post. They have to somehow support this blog (and themselves) so to promote something from time to time that they genuinely enjoy and want to recommend is just fine with me. Plus, I have found some awesome products thanks to CoJ. Keep up the good work ladies!!

    • Kat says...

      I too have found great products (and discounts!) because of the sponsored posts and the random links that aren’t sponsored as well. Think of it like a magazine. You don’t read every single word on every single page. If something doesn’t apply to you, skip it. Simple as that! Someone is working to put together the stuff you love. Love them back and be supportive! You may find something you like if you give it a chance ;)

    • T says...

      Horse for courses. I like them. It feels like the content is considered and curated. If the ads go away then the contributors don’t get paid, OR god forbid! we have flashing, scrolling ad banners all about the place. I also never buy anything featured but as a personal style noob I feel more confidence just to try things out, tonight – I’m wearing LIPSTICK! GASP!

    • Rebecca says...

      I am personally very happy to peruse sponsored posts — I’m all for the COJ team being appropriately remunerated for their excellent efforts. This blog has replaced my magazine habit; magazines are full of adverts. The COJ approach is a delight. xx

    • S says...

      If you don’t want to read sponsored posts, you can always skip over the ones that are labeled “sponsored” on the homepage. If too many people do that, it will start to have an effect on the other content because Jo won’t have the money to keep up what she’s been doing here, but it’s easy to opt out when she tells you it’s sponsored before you click on it, if that’s what you want to do.

    • Sasha says...

      I agree, that a choice of products rather than just one might have been better. However, I do read the sponsored posts, and sometimes order the stuff you recommend from Nordstrom, etc, as I feel the reader comments beneath will often reveal if there are issues others have with the product more honestly than reviews of the company’s website. That is why I decided not to try Blue Apron, for example, numerous complaints about excessive packaging, which I feel strongly about as well. Maybe, as someone else suggested when you advertise a product do a poll to see what is most important to your readers: here are mine (in order of importance) price point, good for sensitive skin, no animal testing, etc.

  90. cate says...

    Nice article, but could use 200% more dog pics please. So cute!

  91. Holly Marshall says...

    Where are the PJs from? They’re beautiful!

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      Thank you! They’re from & Other Stories.

  92. Anna says...

    How beautiful!