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Have a Loving Weekend.

Photo by Andre D. Wagner

What are you up to this weekend? Our friends invited us over for dinner in their backyard tomorrow, and we’re also taking the boys for a ride on the carousel. Hope you have a good one — and stay safe — and here are a few fun links from around the web…

It’s sweater season!!

If you have relationship problems, try getting more sleep.

Our favorite French brand Sezane opened a new store in New York City, and it’s gorgeous.

Such moving, important artwork.

19 easy pastas for emergency dinners.

A metaphor for summer 2017.

Which TV shows will you watch this fall? The Will & Grace actors look exactly the same!

A child’s imagination.

My friend Gemma told me about this water sleeping mask and it’s really fantastic.

What a lovely home.

And a poem for your weekend.

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Jessie on fall goals: “My therapist suggested that I create a work-to-home transition routine (because I love a good routine). Just like a bedtime routine, you train your body to turn off from work by using your commute to transition and the first steps into your home to set the tone for the night.”

Says Julie on Clare’s beauty uniform: “I cried when my labor-and-delivery nurse ended her shift! After I got home, I made a donation to the hospital in her name. It was a great way to honor her enormous, unforgettable impact on my life and give back to the place that helped bring my child into the world.”

Have a good one. xoxo

(Photo by Andre D. Wagner.)

  1. aaaaaw, such a beautiful post…

  2. Dienesa says...

    A Jane Kenyon poem! She is wonderful.

  3. Miriam says...

    I love the entire Laneige skin care line. My skin looks and feels fantastic.

  4. Natalie says...

    Just read the happiness poem and it delighted me! Thank you, I love reading the poems you post. Also, loved the idea of donating in the name of a labor and delivery nurse! My second son was born in February and my nurse had to *literally* dive down and catch him as I was standing and had precipitous labor and didn’t realize I had progressed so much! (They almost sent me home 40 minutes earlier!) She handled it so well and assured me my baby boy was okay repeatedly until I believed her!

  5. I welled up at the reader comment about her nurse! The nurse who talked/laughed/reasoned with me throughout my labor was also pregnant. We joked that my difficult day (and emergency c-section) would send her into labor, and apparently it did! She gave birth early the next morning. I’ll never forgot her face as she wheeled her baby girl into our room to meet my son, and the hug we shared through tears while holding our newborns. Six years later, I still smile at the name Carla.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, what a beautiful story, erika!

  6. Jessie says...

    That’s my comment about creating a work-to-home routine (credit to my bomb therapist)!!! Seeing it highlighted made my Monday so full of joy and light. Thank you so much!!!

    In building my routine, I’ve discovered lyric-free music that includes hints of the outdoors that I listen to on my commute. I try to walk mindfully from the train to my house (how many trees do I pass, how many cars, how does the sun reflect on the trees). And as I walk into my home, I turn on 2 lovely lamps instead of overhead lights, light a candle, and turn on my record player. Hope you all find transitions you love!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i love that, jessie!! xoxo

    • Jessica Hale says...

      I think this work-to-home routine idea merits a whole Cup of Jo post. I read the comment and thought, how do I do that? Can we have Jessie’s “bomb therapist” :) guest post or be interviewed about it?

      p.s. Cup of Jo is the ONLY place on the internet where I not only read comments but actually look forward to them.

  7. YB says...

    I went to Sezane on their opening day and again this Sunday afternoon (to do some damage to my wallet). But on Sunday they had people line up outside even though the store wasn’t very crowded inside. It just left a pretentious impression on me…and I didn’t end up staying to go spend my hard earned $.

  8. Thanks for sharing that gorgeous poem! A lovely addition to the weekend post :)

  9. Eleonoor says...

    About fall tv shows: If you haven’t watched Outlander yet, you are missing out! It is heartwretching and sexy and beautiful. Perfect for autumn too, since it’s set mostly in the Scottish Highlands.

    • Claire says...

      One million times yes! Outlander is the best.

  10. I love the idea of a work-to-home transition routine :-)

  11. caro says...

    Sezane don’t have more than a 12 size! 2017 and if you have more than a 12 you have saddly to battle to find brands that goes a bit bigger! :(

  12. That poem, and the last passage was very poignant. <3

  13. Sarah says...

    Bracing for hurricane Irma to come ashore in Tampa, FL. We waited too long to be able to evacuate safely with elderly grandparents, but we are in a high place and as prepared as we could possibly be. I have told myself the next 24 hours are about putting on a brave face for my 2 year old to feel safe. Thank you for this bit of calm and reminders of life outside the scary next 24 hours. I love this blog.

    • Heather says...

      Hope you and your family are safe!

  14. Lyndsee says...

    I love when you post poems! “The wine glass weary of holding wine.” Broken heart emoji.

  15. Becca Lynn says...

    Jane Kenyon is a new-to-me poet and the poem you shared lingered with me all weekend <3 thank you!

  16. Katie Larissa says...

    My favorite quick (and mostly just EASY) pasta supper that the whole family loves: brown I lb of ground turkey, season it with salt and pepper and thyme. Then add 2 cans crushed tomatoes and 1 can petite diced tomatoes and more herbs, dried or fresh. Then a package of refrigerated tortellini (that stuff is a lifesaver!) and cover the pan and simmer for about 15 minutes, then add a cup or so of whatever cheese you have on hand. Tonight I added Parmesan and asiago. Let the cheese melt, then eat! It’s so yum and basically doesn’t even count as cooking because it’s so simple to throw together.

  17. Linda says...

    I really love Emily’s pretty home!

  18. Jill says...

    Gorgeous sweater, but omg why is she stretching it?!? Is anyone else crawling out of their skin to see her thumb poking through? ;) Haha.
    Have a good one, everyone!

    • Sasha says...

      $100 sweater and you’re ruining it! !! Lol, yep, cringing here too.

  19. Oh Yes over here in Singapore – we have been using the Laneige sleeping mask and it is really good. Go on, try it :)

  20. Bryn says...

    As an English teacher, it just made my heart soar to see that you included a poem in your Friday round up! Thanks!

  21. Hi Jo,
    Loved the metaphor and poem! Thanks for sharing!!💗

  22. Ha, pasta dinners are also great for broke college students or post grads! Thanks for taking the time to feature readers’ comments, it makes us feel more connected (at least I do :) ).

    Nicolette

  23. MelTown says...

    The sleep article is so true. It’s the reason my advice to people getting married is to go to bed angry, and my advice to new parents is not to consider divorce until after the baby turns one. Nothing makes you less rational and more mean than a lack of sleep. Except maybe being too hungry! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone to bed furious with my husband, only to wake up in the morning and realize I was overreacting. If I wake up and I’m still angry, then I know it’s worth hashing out. The old “never go to bed angry” wisdom would mean staying up, getting more tired, and never resolving anything!

    • Katie says...

      Yes, I wholeheartedly agree with this! Everything is better after you’ve slept on it! Nothing gets resolved late at night when you are tired, cranky, and less resilient. My husband and I offer this advice to newlyweds!

  24. Amy P says...

    The photos were crazy, but I laughed out loud when I got to the 2017 motto. This is fine. Everything’s fine. It’s totally fine.

    Reminds me of the quote I saw about if women were the world leaders – there’d be no war, just a lot of countries that are “fine”. (Maybe I saw that here? I see most things here…)

  25. Natasha says...

    Love that Emily has a daughter named Elliot! My daughter is “Eliot.”
    I look forward to tour Friday posts so much.

  26. Stacy says...

    Thank you for including the artwork about immigration and borders. (& I second the other reader’s comment about the photo! I assumed you were going to recommend a movie starring non-white actors…but it seems you just chose a beautiful photo!)
    CoJ, this week was hard–not only because my community’s future was used as a political pawn with the DACA announcement, but also because we haven’t heard from or seen much of the thousands of (mainly white) women who took to the streets in January and vowed to be part of the resistance. The chasm between these communities remains vast.
    I hope you continue to use this platform to advance civil rights, including the rights of our brothers and sisters who do not have citizenship. Respectfully, a faithful reader

  27. NRenee says...

    I don’t have a transition routine per se, but it is so important for me to get some mental space between work (doing neuropsychological assessments with kids) and home (parenting my own little ones). Trying to practice mindfulness during my drive helps, as does being caught up on paperwork. No one needs to carry productivity-guilt home with them!

  28. Marianne says...

    I’ve been looking for a burnt orange cardigan forever! The Madewell one is super cute, but I’m looking for one a little more budget friendly.

  29. I LOVE Jesse’s idea of a work-to-home routine. Those transitions from one level of stimulation to another (work can be so stimulating, and home is totally different) can be kind of jarring. I honestly don’t know what I’d make my routine, though — I wonder if other folks have ideas? Or maybe this could be a post? :)

    • Megan says...

      I love this idea too! I’m in a high stress job and it’s so hard for me to transition home from it every day. I love the idea of a routine especially for the first 15-30 minutes when I get home…that way instead of checking email and continuing to think constantly about my day, I could go to the daily routine and try to unwind a bit. I would also love this as a post!! :)

    • Lois says...

      I long for a pleasant, stress-free commute, if such a thing exists. I work at home, and walking through the doorway from my studio into a house full of sports equipment, musical instruments, homework and hungry teenagers can be incredibly jarring. 3 seconds is not enough time to make a smooth transition. There are definite perks to working from home, but the lack of a buffer zone is not one of them.

  30. Eva says...

    I lost my father unexpectedly last week (I’m 22, he was 60) and this will be the second weekend that he is gone. It’s so strange for me to think about, because we would talk every day and often for hours each weekend. Last weekend was the memorial service, so this will be the first weekend where it feels like I am really without him. Just wanted to say that this blog is one of the things that has helped me get through the past week or so, and the advice on grief has been really helpful. Thanks.

    • Sending hugs your way, Eva. I’m so sorry for your loss.

    • Wendy says...

      I’m so sorry. I lost my own father very suddenly two years ago. It was so hard, with shock mixed with grief. I’ll be thinking of you this weekend. My suggestions would be a walk in nature, or just sitting quietly in nature, and trying to get enough sleep. Hang in there.

    • Sharon says...

      So sorry to hear you lost your beloved dad. I lost my mom a few years back, the person I spoke to multiple times a day, and the loss is tough. It’s so special to have that type of relationship with a parent (so many others do not), but often others don’t exactly understand the magnitude of the loss. I can say time truly heals and helps. It changes you for sure, but also allows you to grow in ways you never imagined. I just finished reading Plan B by Sheryl Sandburg and Adam Grant and thought it was amazing! If you are up to it, please read it. It is a great book for anyone, but particularly poignant for someone who has recently lost a loved one too early.

    • Rosanne says...

      I am so sorry for your loss. I don’t have any words, but I am thinking of you and sending love your way.

  31. Jennifer says...

    I adore that poem by Jane Kenyon. Thank you.

  32. Ooo CoJ team have y’all watched The Good Place yet? I am currently halfway through the first season and I LOVE IT! I am excited to see it was renewed for a second season!

    • Amy Lynn says...

      It’s my favorite show! I wish there was a way for me to check back in with you when you get to the end of season 1, I want to hear what you think once it’s done!! It’s. So. Good.

  33. Becky says...

    Hope you guys have fun on the carousel!! It’s from my hometown – Youngstown Ohio!!!

  34. Amanda G says...

    Oh that sweater! Be still my heart…

    Also, just to totally prove my IG creeper ways, I noticed that my most favorite part of Emily Henderson’s new house is not included in this write-up! She has a SUPER AMAZING sea green velvet antique lounge (complete with fringe!) that I swoon over every. single. time. :)

  35. Mandy says...

    Hubby and I are tackling our 5th (!!!) Tough Mudder in Pittsburg PA

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, you guys are my heroes!

  36. Mariana says...

    Love the links but specially love the reader comments this week – such a sweet gesture, Julie! Cup of jo has such an amazing community! (It’s the only blog where I read the comments – they’re always so smart and funny). Have a great weekend!

  37. I am enamored by the children’s imagination post. Part of me deeply aches for that kind of creative freedom and imagination from being young. How we could make so much out of so little…

  38. Denise says...

    What a beautiful poem.

  39. Grace L. says...

    This is my first time commenting here, but I just had to share that I really appreciated the photo for this post. It truly took my breath away to see an image of people of color in an embrace, underneath the word “loving” in your title. I follow a lot of bloggers, but as a person of color, a lot of times I don’t see myself (or my friends and loved ones) reflected back in the images that they select. As if people of color don’t enjoy a good pasta recipe or a good sweater rec! Ha! I don’t even know how intentional it was on your part, but the fact that it gave me pause made me realize how rare it is for me to see. Thank you! Hope you have a loving weekend as well :)

    • Genevieve says...

      This is so great. Thank you for posting.

    • Thank you, Grace. Your message landed with me, as someone who blogs and posts images, as truly important and needed.

    • Also took my breath away. I don’t usually linger on the Friday photo, but this one made me. It reminds me of my boyfriend and me (both of us are mixed; he is Russian and Cameroonian, I am Iranian and African American). He often kisses me like that :). Thanks for all of your inclusivity, diversity, and this beautiful beautiful photo of love

  40. I’ve been using the Laneige water sleeping mask and water bank moisture cream for months now and I am so in love with the brand, highly recommend to anyone with sensitive skin. Have a nice weekend :)

  41. Meg says...

    I saw the Jane Kenyon poem, and I thought, Oh! I know that Jane Kenyon Happiness poem. But it was different, and I had been thinking of another one (below). All this to say, it is never a bad time to stumble upon a new (to you) Jane Kenyon poem.

    The Suitor
    by Jane Kenyon

    We lie back to back. Curtains
    lift and fall,
    like the chest of someone sleeping.
    Wind moves the leaves of the box elder;
    they show their light undersides,
    turning all at once
    like a school of fish.
    Suddenly I understand that I am happy.
    For months this feeling
    has been coming closer, stopping
    for short visits, like a timid suitor.

    • Angela says...

      Made me take a breath and smile. Thanks Meg

  42. Have you taken the boys to the sea glass carousel in Battery Park? It’s MAGICAL! It’s actually one of my favorite places to bring guests (yes, even adult guests lol) to in the city. It really feels like you’re swimming! Thus, not great for people with motion sickness issues, but great for everyone else.

  43. Julie says...

    Bracing the storms coming this weekend to Georgia. Candles, cooking, and snuggling with my littles. xoxo

  44. Christine says...

    Very excited to try the 19 pastas, even in non-emergencies! :) Also, I think the Sezane link sends readers to a Madewell sweater (beautiful, but excited to see the NYC store Sezane has opened).

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh yes! sorry, switched!