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Have a Lovely Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? We’re driving to our friends’ beach house to swim and make s’mores. We’re crossing our fingers that it doesn’t rain! Also, Happy Father’s Day to all the dads, dads-to-be, and dads at heart out there. If you’re in a blog-reading mood, here are a few fun links from around the web…

Tracy K. Smith is the new poet laureate. “I want to give more readers access to more kinds of poems and poets,” she said. “Poems are friendly, and they teach us how to read them.”

What sweet candlesticks.

Getting married at City Hall. Loved this so much.

Why I’ll never peel a kiwi again.”

Art history comes to life.

A pretty dress to wear to a party.

This postpartum depression site looks wonderful. The line “with help, you will be well” made me catch my breath.

This colorful London home has great wallpaper.

Talking to boys the way we talk to girls.

12 one-pot pastas you can make with what’s in the fridge.

The new movie Detroit sounds amazing. Here’s the trailer.

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Annie on four fun links: “The best advice I ever got as a teenager (from Oprah, naturally) was to learn how to masturbate so that I would not associate sexual pleasure exclusively with a partner. It liberated me at an early age from ever compromising when it came to choosing romantic partners, because I didn’t technically *need* them to enjoy sex, but rather I could choose romantic partners because I *wanted* to. It has given me complete confidence and joy as an adult — both when I’ve been single and when I’ve been in relationships. I recommend any moms give their daughters the resources they need to be self-reliant when it comes to sexual pleasure!”

Says Madie on funny kids conversations: “Two recent goodies from my three-year-old son Hank:
Hank: ‘Mom, what’s a lever bee?’
Mom: ‘I dunno, what do you mean?’
Hank: ‘You know, like, ready as a lever bee!’
And then one evening my husband said to Hank (because I was so tired), ‘Hank, Mommy is toast.’ And without missing a beat, Hank says, ‘And I’m the jam!’
(Yes, you are, buddy! More than you’ll ever know.)”

(Photo from By Far. Trailer via Via Girl of a Certain Age.)

  1. Meagan Dziura says...

    I got married at the DC superior court and my now husband and I wore almost traditional wedding outfits! He wore a full tuxedo and I wore a long pink skirt handmade by a wedding dress/skirt designer in DC! We were only able to have 15 people in the ceremony room so we limited the guests to our immediate families. Little did I know that my best friends had taken the day off of work and surprised me after the ceremony with balloons, cupcakes, and flowers. My photographer was able to capture the whole thing, including my friends sneaking up behind me, and it was just the perfect day!!!!

  2. kiwi with skin tastes much better plus it gives it a bit of crunch.

  3. I love these photos depicting marriage at City Hall. What an interesting perspective on different people!

  4. Sarah says...

    Wow! Detroit looks so good. What a sad history.

  5. Jo says...

    My comment straddles things children come out with and how we talk to boys. My son is now eight, but when he was about four, he asked me why sharks were so unfair. I didn’t understand what he meant and so quizzed him. He said, ‘because there are no girl-eating sharks, just man-eating ones!’
    On another occasion, he was watching tennis with his dad on TV and was disappointed when Andy Murray was beaten by Djokovic at Wimbledon one year. Some months later, the two were playing again and Andy Murray’s win must have been reported on the radio (in our kitchen). My son came running into the bedroom yelling, ‘Andy Murray’s finally beaten the Chocolate Fish’. We’re all firm followers of Chocolate Fish’s career now!

  6. Natasa says...

    Hi Joanna, we married at New York City Hall in 2014 after being inspired from one of your posts and we LOVED it. We’re from Austria, Europe and the whole event felt so surreal to us. Best decision ever!

  7. Maiz Connolly says...

    More Hank quotes, please!

  8. Sally says...

    Well, consider my mind blown by the kiwi advice! I never knew that!

  9. Cristina says...

    Thank you for the links, there is always somethig I like. Joanna, just wanted to tell you that I’ve been thinking of you since you posted about that issue that is keeping you up at night. I only know you through the blog, but sometimes you come to mind. I hope the story that is not yours to tell is beign sorted out

  10. I’ll be heading out early tomorrow for three days of backpacking in the beautiful Pacific Northwest! I love the kiwi advice, less waste to worry about if we decide to take any with us!

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  11. Dalia says...

    I always peeled kiwi but when I moved to Australia I discovered you could eat the skin and have been doing so since! It’s great!

    • Julia says...

      I want to try it, however, I would only dare to do so with organic kiwi.

  12. Carmella says...

    Will you guys please do a house tour of Courtney Adamo’s house in Australia?! Would love to see! Thanks for adding some light and laughs to my Friday :)

    • Kathy says...

      I have been thinking this exact same thing! The glimpses of her home in the Instagram photos are amazing!

  13. Follow up to the post partum support site link, a very dear Friend has just written a very honest account of her experience of post natal anxiety (and depression). She amazes me with her bravery and strength and now her selflessness in sharing in such an honest and moving way with the aim of helping others who may be suffering or want to know how to help friends and loved ones. Really worth a read http://www.asthebirdfliesblog.com/ Have a lovely weekend one and all!

  14. Em says...

    Weird about the kiwi. Not sure I can swallow that but I’m gonna give it a try after all the positive comments, lol. Also, for poetry lovers, I discovered Nayirrah Waheed on Instagram immediately got her book, SALT. And it is SO GOOD. I love it!

  15. Molly Bentley says...

    Love that Bardot dress! In white it would make the perfect dress for my upcoming bridal shower, but looks like my fellow readers might have beat me to the punch – no more left in my size!

  16. jeannie says...

    This is one of my favorite roundups of all time! Especially love the advice to “Talk to boys the way we talk to girsl.” And the dress. And the both readers’ comments: “a lever bee!”

  17. brianna says...

    That London home is amazing!

  18. Nicole says...

    Interesting article about raising boys. As a new mom to a three month old, I think a lot about how I want to raise my son. It seems so hard to overcome this subconscious tendency to treat (and talk to) boys and girls differently, but I sure am going to try! You seem to do such an amazing job with your boys:)

  19. t says...

    so interesting. i always thought candlestick was the actual candle (in stick form) as in another term for a taper candle. not the actual holder. good to know.

  20. Tracy says...

    Thank you for the link to the fabulous article on Tracy Smith, Joanna, and I’m looking forward to delving into the other stuff. More importantly thank you so much for the breadth of interesting topics and the very personal, relatable tone of your site. I love the mix of pretty, thought-provoking and funny I get here!!!!

  21. Jaclyn says...

    YES YES YES – For bringing attention to Postpartum Support International! Always so grateful for the way you cover such a wide range of topics pertaining to all women. I am 16 months postpartum and have battled PPD/PPA. I am realizing (like many mental health issues) PPD is not widely discussed but so many incredible women are working to change that. I speak to it as often as I can to reduce the stigma. Thank you for creating an inclusive environment in your little corner of the web <3

  22. I’m not really into the idea of eating the peel of kiwi, though I’ll try! But I never actually peeled them either until I was preparing them for my kids. I grew up slicing them in half and scooping with a spoon!

  23. Ellie says...

    Hi Jo, your redirect site is being blocked by my adblocker.

  24. Mack says...

    I think maybe Hank is repeating “ready as I’ll ever be” maybe :)

    • Jessi says...

      Yes, that’s the point.

  25. Sarah Beth says...

    I started eating kiwi with the skin on last year, and it’s BETTER. the fruit nearest the skin is really tart, so you get a really nice contrast of tart on the edges, sweeter in the middle, and chewy from the skin. I’m evangelical about it now! Everyone should eat unpeeled kiwi!

  26. LB says...

    City Hall weddings are the way to go! Lucky to have been a bridesmaid in many a friends’ big, fancy wedding. But luckier to have eloped at Boston City Hall, just me and hubs in our “uniforms” (what we called our chosen dress and suit of the day), with only our photographer and dog in the know.

  27. Suzanne says...

    Happy Friday, Cup of Jo readers!! <3 <3 <3

  28. Hillary F. says...

    I want to be friends with Hank.

  29. Rob says...

    Ha! So true about kiwi.