Have a Fun Weekend.

Have a Fun Weekend

What are you up to this weekend? Toby is having his six-year-old birthday party (!!!) and the boys couldn’t be more excited for friends and a donut cake. We’ve had a picnic in the same spot every year. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

Why New Yorkers have always worn black. “We wear black because we’re not tourists here to see a show; because we are, in a sense, with the band. The band is New York, and the color is black.”

I drank a gallon of water a day for better skin, and here’s what happened.”

Anatomy of a scene: The Nice Guys.

Wise words from Nora Ephron.

Happy towel!

I saw a woman wearing this dress last night and she looked so beautiful.

What it’s like to be unable to bear the sound of someone eating.

#3, hahahaha.

Really digging this etsy store.

13 amazing female podcasters to follow.

Secret poems on the street.

Have a good one. xoxo

(Photo by Seth Smoot. Secret poems via Erin.)

  1. Annie says...

    Those podcasts sound great. I would also highly recommend Chat10Looks3 which is by 2 well known Australian journalists Annabelle Crabb and Leigh Sales. They have the funniest podcast I have ever heard, that covers current books, films, articles, and lots of baking. Their website also contains links to everything they mention. Wonderful!

  2. April says...

    I started drinking 100-120 oz of water a day in December. It was a new habit I was trying to form to be healthier. The habit has stuck! I rarely miss a day where I drink less than 100 oz. so all the benefits I’ve read, better skin, curb appetite, less sick (when lemon added which I do to!), etc. honestly…I haven’t noticed the difference lol! I still do it cause I know it’s still good for me!

  3. I had a 12th birthday party for my daughter this weekend as well. Minute To Win It was the theme, pulled it off without a hitch! Great quotes!! :-)

  4. Laura C says...

    Happy birthday sweet Toby!
    Nora Ephron’s quotes are awesome. They got me down-to-earth just when I needed to. Thank you.

  5. yael steren says...

    Saturday I styled a client and then yesterday I went to my niece’s ballet recital which was beyond adorable!!! Watching all the routines seriously brought me joy!!! Hope you had a great weekend and have a wonderful week! xx yael

  6. shopgirl says...

    238.76 € for that dress ?? Wow!

  7. Anna says...

    The Misophonia article was so validating! I really struggle with coughing, especially toddler/baby coughs, sniffling, mouth breathing, and even ambient noises like my neighbors’ AC units, or Diesel engines, or subwoofers on somebody’s car!
    I thought I was just hyper sensitive, but it’s so nice to know this is a real thing.
    I seriously worry about having children because little kid noises agravate me so much!

  8. Roxana says...

    Oh my goodness. I think I am the same person in the misophonia interview. I can hear EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING. I can identify with every single thing she said. Her thoughts about all of it; everything. My worst trigger is wet, smacking, mouth-open chewing. It sends me into a rage. My sister is the same way. There must be a genetic element. We’re both musical, too, so I wonder if/how that plays into it. My poor husband thinks I’m nuts. This is on top of the fact that my mother-in-law chews like a cow. A COW. It’s torture. Fascinating, and for a misophonia sufferer, refreshing read!

    Great link list! Thank you!

    Happy Birthday to your sweet boy!

  9. The bit about New Yorkers is interesting. It reminds me of this quote: “One belongs to New York instantly, one belongs to it as much in five minutes as in five years.”

  10. Katie K says...

    I fairly recently learned about misophonia and I felt such relief finally having a name for what I experience! It’s nice to know that I’m not just a plain old irritable bitch haha.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i have the same thing! not nearly as intensely as the author of the nymag piece, but i really get crazed with little noises, like loud sneezes or someone emptying a dishwasher. it is really nice to have a name for it and know i’m not just crazy:)

  11. amanda june says...

    ah yes, here it is: why i could never make it as a new yorker. i just can’t get away with black! i’m too pale — it’s just not my color — and it always gets so so linty if i even try. not to mention my blond hair that sheds like crazy. black and i were just not meant to be. in fact, it’s so high maintenance to me that it always amazes me when it’s other people’s go-to low-maintenance wardrobe choice :)

  12. So good to be browsing blogs again after a month of travelling! I don’t care very much about celebrities but last week somewhere in Brooklyn. I exclaimed to my husband that I just saw “cupofjo’s husband!” Hahah! I didn’t verify that thought and may have completely made a blunder but I don’t think that’s important. Just wanna let you know how much a part of my life cupofjo has become ;)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      haha that is so sweet of you to say! :)

  13. In love with that Etsy store…thank you for sharing!

  14. Anamaria says...

    Happy Birthday, Toby! I seriously can’t believe that little guy is going to be 6 already. I’ve read your blog for like ever, but now it shows just how much longer I’ve been reading than I thought.

    Have a good one little guy!

    XOXO Anamaria

  15. Hannah says...

    My husband and I challenged each other to drink a gallon of water each day for 30 days. At the end of the month the only noticeable physical change for me was that I never hit that afternoon energy slump. I powered right through each afternoon like a champ!

  16. It’s my 8 year old’s birthday today! Happy birthdays all around. Hope you have an awesome celebration.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hope you guys had a wonderful weekend!

  17. Tasha says...

    Joanna, I am reading your link on misophonia and I’m having a hard time holding in tears. It is so spot-on to how I feel and how I react that I feel like the author is in my head.

    You have given me so much peace and insight into who I am.

    Thank you.

    • Luna says...

      There’s another great article about misophonia from a few years ago (2011) in the NYT. It was the first time I was able to put a name to the condition that I (and my father, and my brother) have. Life with a loud-eating mom was hard.

      I switched offices 3 times in 5 years, as a grad student, to get away from people who eat crunchy things and/or slurp. Unfortunately, I can still hear them from down the hall — with noise isolating earbuds. Like others, I tense up with rage, and glare vehemently (oh, if eyes actually could shoot daggers!). I never want to punch, as others have commented – my instinct is to stab out eyeballs of the offender.

  18. Colleen says...

    Happy birthday Toby! Wowza, $250 for a dress? Better be beautiful!

  19. Samantha says...

    Is it just me who feels like Toby has a birthday like every 6 months? He has grown up too fast! I remember when you announced your pregnancy for God’s sake.

    As soon as I finished reading the article about Misophonia I sent the link to my boyfriend, because I have that! He gets irritated at me when I’m irritated, cause he thinks I’m just being moody or irritable and I just need to chill. I can’t stand the way my dad chews sometimes (with his mouth semi open and being very loud and gross), I cannot stand repetitive noises from alarms for example, I have always hated the sound of plates against other plates or the squiky sound of a knife against a plate, or just noises people do. Like, why do you have to produce so much noise?! STOP IT!! It drives me insane and people think I’m a bitch for it. I literally feel uncomfortable writing about it, and it was a little hard to finish reading the article because of the examples because I have to replay those things in my mind to really understand it or express it. UGH!!!

  20. MissEm says...

    Beardbangs are our friends! They are the sweetest, creative, community-oriented couple. We have a couple of child-sized mugs from them for our children with matching adult versions for us. They’re our favorite!

  21. Jillian says...

    More female podcasters: I’m crazy about the podcast She Does – each episode is an interview with a different woman in media, and it’s done by two women who are documentary filmmakers, Elaine Sheldon and Sarah Ginsburg. so fascinating and fun and inspiring! even all the music they play for a soundtrack is done by women, too.

  22. Happy birthday to your son! He bears the same name as my brother, but ends with an i instead of y.
    Just read the ‘I drank a gallon of water a day’ and can’t stop cackling. I have such a hate for water but know that I need it, so I’m starting with sparkling water first.
    Moving house on Sunday which is exciting, but also anxious about my one year old settling into the new place. So it’s a busy productive weekend for me. Hope everyone else has a good weekend too xx

    • Ilona says...

      hahaha, whoops, it’s from 2015. But new to me and still so funny.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      so good, thank you for this, ilona!

  23. Tricia says...

    So weird!!! I googled “funny female podcasts” this morning and was reading that exact same article! How funny to come across an article from a year ago twice in one day! I think it’s a sign… I was googling it in consideration of trying to start my own podcast.

  24. Happy Birthday Toby! Keep on rockin’ those stars and stripes leggings.

  25. Kadija says...

    But how it Toby 6?! *weeps* Happy birthday sweet pea!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      awww thank you!

  26. Happy Birthday Toby! Wow 6 yrs old!

    We have no plans this weekend which is so nice. Its funny how sometimes I get excited for our busy weekends, but what I love most is our weekends of doing nothing!

    xo Lendy

  27. Two more amazing female podcasters:

    Helen Zaltzman – The Allusionist is a very funny, light way to look at how our language came to be.
    Ashley Miln-Tyte – The Broad Experience. EVERYONE should listen to this brilliant podcast about women in the workplace.

  28. I always love your Friday weekend post, so much to click on and discover. 1.5litres of water a day is my goal which I manage daily, a gallon, wow that’s a huge amount! Hope your boys have a fantastic birthday picnic.

  29. I’ll have to keep my eyes peeled for the poems!

  30. I’ve been shopping around for new podcasts lately – thanks for the link!!

  31. Megan says...

    We’ve been doing poems on the street for years in Saint Paul Minnesota! The best part is that they are everywhere, not just in main roads, but all over residential streets as well! When they lay new concrete sidewalks you can ask the workers if they have a poem in the truck to lay in front of your house!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that is so so cool!!

  32. I have misophonia and it’s awful! You wouldn’t believe how often people eat crunchy foods. Once, right after my first baby was born, I burst into tears because my husband was eating a bowl of Captain Crunch next to me. I banished him to another room. I almost punched him last night because he ate some Pirate’s Booty (we don’t only eat sea themed food. ha!) while sitting next to me on the couch. The worst is work meetings. You can’t exactly threaten to murder your boss because he’s eating potato chips during your lunch meeting, but my entire body tenses up and I feel my face turn red with rage. It’s the strangest thing, and it sucks.

    • Samantha says...

      I’m so sorry you have to go though this, too! It’s the worse to wanna punch everyone for being so irritable and loud.

    • Kelly says...

      I have it too! Your comment cracked me up. I have also burst into tears in public because of my absolute misophonia-induced rage. I was trapped in an elevator with a man eating a burrito with his mouth open! ENDLESS lip smacking and snoping. AH!!!

  33. Mandy J says...

    Firstly, I love visiting Cup of Jo every day, and especially on Fridays to see what wonderful things you’ve linked to around the internet. I often share one or two of the links with friends, and I appreciate your thoughtful curation of everything silly, stylish, and serious. But, would it be possible for you to start noting when your links are to the New York Times (perhaps with a subtle “NYT” next to the link?)? For those of us without a subscription (and with limited access to 10 clicks a month), it would be nice to know! Please excuse me if this has already been asked and answered. Thanks again for creating this fun little slice of the internet. :)

    • eg says...

      Use your browser in incognito/private mode and the number of articles you’ve read refreshes to zero each time you open it!

    • Mary H says...

      Both my daughter and husband are afflicted. It’s not fun having allergies or a cold in our house – any sniffling drives them bananas.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh wow, i didn’t know that they wouldn’t open! i’m going to look into this! thank you so much xoxo

  34. D. Beickert says...

    2 Dope Queens is a great podcast too! I can’t listen to it on the train because I laugh too hard!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      going to listen this week, thank you so much for the tip!

  35. Happy Birthday to that sweet boy!!!

    Enjoy your cake Toby!