Have a Lovely Weekend.


What are you up to this weekend? We are taking the boys on a “spooky walk” around our neighborhood tonight. The Halloween decorations around us are epic! The boys are totally into it, and Anton especially loves the “‘pooky ‘piders.” Also, here are a few fun links from around the web (the internet has been so good lately!)…

This is what I’m being for Halloween. (Toby is insisting.)

Have you been watching Fargo? New York Magazine calls the second season “one of the best TV dramas this year.” I agree. (FYI It’s a totally separate story from the first season, so no need to catch up.)

We are pregnant.” Made me laugh out loud x a million.

Curious to smell this weird candle.

Have you seen these startling photos? Makes me want to dunk my phone in the bathtub.

Attention, West Coasters: This company will mail you fall foliage.

23 things I wish I’d known at 23.” (#20 is really smart.)

On privilege.

Odd food pairings that actually taste good.

Our photographer Nicki Sebastian and her husband are awesome.

Wow, one reason NOT to drive.

Finally, Loeffler Randall is offering 20% off everything. (Love their shoes.)

(Photo by Veronica Olson/Instagram. Fall foliage and commuting gif via Chasing Saturdays. Privilege via Miss Moss.)

  1. on that 23 list – #5 is so important. no text is worth a life if it were to cause an accident.

  2. Andrea says...

    those photos really were startling. i am addicted to my phone and iPad and it used to bother me so much. now that everyone else is addicted its strange trying to steer conversation away from anything that would benefit the use of a quick google search. (hey i heard this… *clicks and scrolls on phone*… see)

    your posts as per usual are so eye opening. definitely food for thought.

  3. Anamaria says...

    On weird food combinations — My dad used to make us his popular “salami stacks.” They consisted of rough slices of salami (get the stick, not the pre-packaged sliced), red apples, and cheddar cheese. He’d stick them together on a plate for snacks when we got out of the lake or creek on long summer days. At first, I thought he was crazy, but his backpacking trick was a family hit!

  4. meghan says...

    Re: “We are pregnant” – I felt the same way as this article BEFORE I was pregnant. Now (24 weeks pregnant) I couldn’t disagree more. My husband made life happen for us for those first 3-4 months. While I was sick and laying on the couch during every moment that I wasn’t at work, he was grocery shopping, cooking all the meals, cleaning the house, dog walking, helping to make up stories about why he went to happy hour with friends without me, etc. He’d even go to my workout classes with me knowing that I really wanted to go but might not have the energy to get there alone. He pays all the doctor bills that come in the mail because I would totally forget. And he changes the channel when Subaru commercials come on because I’ll start sobbing over the old dog. We used to do a pretty even amount of household tasks, but now he’s still doing well over 50% (plus home reno!). So yes, WE are pregnant.

  5. I always enjoy looking at the Halloween decorations in my neighborhood. I’m looking forward to seeing a photo of you and your family in your costumes. Have a nice week!


  6. I love the Halloween decoration story! So many of the things I swore I’d never forget as a parent, have faded to nearly unreadable in my memory, but there is something about walks. The things that caught their eyes, like squatting to touch mossy rocks and telling me that the fuzzy green plants were “sweepin’ mama, be quiet so you don’t waked them up.”

  7. D Beickert says...

    Wow, the privilege article moved me. Thanks for sharing.

  8. Gina says...

    ‘Pooky ‘piders totally melted my heart. Love the sweet, funny words of your little boys.

  9. I love your weekly links, so many interesting things to see and read, so thank you for sharing :)

    • Ana says...

      Definitely. I read so many negative comments about it and yet, it described my experience to the point of uncanny resemblance.
      I don’t understand why people don’t accept there are absolutely different experiences you live – and the fact that your partner is a complete mess regarding the logistics of motherhood doesn’t mean you have to separate to feel whole. People are different. You can either accept it and move on or feel bitter about it and regret the experience your whole life.

  10. yael steren says...

    I’m doing a closet makeover for a client today and then tomorrow I’m going to take it easy and enjoy this lovely weather!! Have so much fun with your boys and the spooky walk! xx yael


  11. julie says...

    The thing about the “startling” photos is that – before phones it would have been Us Weekly or Sport Illustrated or books or whatever. Everyone keeps saying oh we are so attached to our phones. BEfore I had a smart phone. I would lay in bed – reading books for hours. So take the same picture and replace it with a book or a magazine. Is it then not as startling?

    • Jen says...

      I was thinking the same thing, particularly about magazines. Years ago, I would end my work week by winding down with a fresh pile of magazines. Now it’s blogs, which provide the same sort of soothing, zoning-out effect.

      However, the ubiquity of phones and the temptation to constantly check Instagram, FB, etc. is (at least for me) the problem. I don’t allow myself to “just be” enough anymore (while waiting in line, etc.) and instead compulsively fill the quiet with checking my Insta feed or inbox. I’d like to move away from that behavior (as much as I can force myself to). It’s just sort of unnerving to always be “on.”

  12. Thanks for the shout out Joanna – we always love your links! I read the “We are pregnant” out loud to Jamie (currently at 39 weeks) while we were shooting and we couldn’t stop giggling.

    Have a great weekend!

    mm x

  13. Your weekend link posts are the best! I look forward to reading them every Saturday.

  14. yael says...

    I found #13 really smart: on a metaphorical level, People who are trouble tend to show or tell you that very early on, and it’s up to you to get out of their lane or turn down a different street.
    Regarding doing something that pulls people’s hidden buttons, I find that I may upset people for being in my position as a woman, or as a rather-young woman. While I can understand why a certain person was upset the very fact they did is unacceptable. Reminds me of this: https://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/compost/wp/2015/10/13/jennifer-lawrence-has-a-point-famous-quotes-the-way-a-woman-would-have-to-say-them-during-a-meeting/?postshare=3681444863497361

  15. Cool to see a New Zealand site on CoJ! Fantastic comic too.

  16. odd food pairings: junior mints on popcorn.

  17. Liz says...

    I always love your links at the end of the week!

    I gotta say though, am I the only one who found that “we are pregnant” article a little off putting? It’s obnoxious when people say it, yes, and we women absolutely deserve all the credit and respect for going through the insanity of pregnancy and childbirth – but come on. We know what they mean. Just let people be happy about becoming parents without criticizing the way they announce it.

  18. I love that you’re dressing up with your boys! Luna still doesn’t get it and she barely even lets us try on new shoes! Haha! So when I tried to get her to pick a costume she kept saying NOOOOOO costume! Haha! Cat ears & black leggings it is! K time to read up on all the links!

    By the way, after reading about it here…I checked out Three Year Old: Friend or Enemy by Louise Bates Ames and I am loving it!! It’s so darn true! Haha!

    Hope you guys have fun on your spooky walk!


  19. Ahhhaha! The ‘we are pregnant’ article is hilarious!! Totally made my night! – read it after getting up to feed and put my four week old back to sleep – which was weird because only one of us was up bleary eyed in the middle of the night ;).

  20. At first I thought the photos of portrait without phones looked really sad, and we definitely have a problem with being preoccupied with our phones and not giving our undivided attention to our loved ones. But when I think about it, not all the portraits are exactly fair. What if they were all sitting next to each other reading books? Would that still be seen as depressing?

  21. Kate says...

    Frosty and french fries! Can’t have one without the other!

    My favorite dinner is wine and popcorn. Or bourbon and chocolate chip cookies. Not the weirdest pairings, but now if I have half of one of those combinations, I start to crave the other!

  22. Those pics without a phone are so real and show our everyday life beautifully. It’s kind of sad that our phone is distancing us from people. I truly loved the concept this photographer captured. Can’t wait to see a pic of you in that Fiona costume :)

  23. That comic on privilege is everything. I’m always trying to explain that concept to my coworkers to no avail!

    In regard to odd food pairings, my grandfather swears by chili and milk, and raw onions with vanilla ice cream. My husband likes applesauce mixed with mac and cheese, my son likes a few goldfish sprinkled in with his cheerios and milk, and my daughter likes graham crackers with cream cheese and peanut butter and honey spread on corn tortillas. They all seriously gross me out!

  24. I just love your Fiona costume, and I think Toby has very good taste.

  25. Laura C says...

    Are you going Fiona?? You HAVE to post a photo then on Halloween!
    The pictures with(out) the phones is so significant. Make me think of it.
    Have a good one too (pooky ‘piders made my evening!)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my god, do i really have to post a photo??? hahaha, it is the most insane costume. alex is going to be the dragon!

  26. Trish O says...

    The 23 things was fun. #1 is truth…and at 40 something even more important.

  27. I have the wasabi pear body creme from Nest and it just smells like….pear. Now you know! :)

  28. Omg that Halloween costume is going to be cute!!!! Yes loving Fargo!! =)

  29. Katie Larissa says...

    We always said “we’re expecting!” or I would simply say “I’m pregnant.” Because hey, the guy isn’t pregnant. And thankfully my husband totally got that and would correct people if they said “oh, y’all are pregnant!” He would grab his stomach and squeeze and say something like “nope, don’t think I’m the one doing all the work here! I got the easy part!” Haha

  30. thank you for the comic on privilege! I think with topics that are touchy and easily divisive, art is a great way to make the subject approachable and relatable without anyone feeling attacked ♥


  31. I was hooked on Fargo last season and I have a feeling this season is going to be just as good! I am really looking forward to the Kirsten Dunst storyline…

    Have a great weekend!


  32. Abbie says...

    Ohhhh the picture with the cars!!! What I wouldn’t give to take light rail or subway everywhere.

  33. Misty says...

    The “we are pregnant” link is hilarious. Luckily my husband is no where near that description (as I am currently 8 mos pregnant) but still some of it certainly sounded similar.

  34. odd food paintings… i used to eat captain crunch cereal with liverwurst on the side.

    • *pairings

  35. “It’s uterus not uter you.” /dead

  36. Courtney says...

    I don’t even need to read anymore of the links ‘ we are pregnant’ was the best and not sure it can be topped.

  37. May says...

    The “startling photos” are VERy scary!

  38. Nadja says...

    You should watch Jane the virgin and crazy ex girlfriend! I bet you would love these two shows

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you!! i’m always looking for more shows once it gets dark early and you just want to cuddle up and veg :)

  39. Oh my gosh Nicki and her husband (Paul Rudd look-a-like, anyone!?) are so adorable! I love that. I really liked the 23 things article too… I turn 30 in about 6 months and I feel like either they lists like these didn’t exist when I was younger or I just didn’t listen to them, ha! I live by #8 when hosting, making a timeline is awesome. I wish I would have learned #11, you teach people how to treat you WAYYY sooner (way sooner!). #16, #19 and #21 are all my jam. I love clean sheets a few times a week (#22). And finally, #23 Is something that I still need to continue to practice. Thanks for sharing! Have a great weekend, I can’t wait to see you as Fiona! – Charlie, http://www.lemonbutterlove.com

  40. Julie says...

    I love Heather Havrilesky, she’s such an amazing writer! Do you ever read her column Ask Polly? It’s so hilarious/insightful/entertaining.