Sujatha: “My Secret to a Happy Marriage”

I thought long and hard about the marriage tip. Again and again, I came back to this scripture: “Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud. Love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable. Love does not keep a record of wrongs, love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and it’s faith, hope and patience, never fail.” We’ve tried to practice this in our most difficult times, and it has always worked.

— Sujatha and Paul Kalanithi, my sister’s husband‘s parents, who have one of the loveliest, sweetest and funniest marriages I’ve ever seen.

  1. Truly said. All love need is trust nothing else.

    • Hania says...

      Are these Paul Klanithi’s parents?

  2. thanks for these comments! i asked my male friends, who are gay and married, to contribute, but they chose not to. i wish they had, as well! :)

  3. Anonymous says...

    I have learned that you accept the things you don’t like, but can live with and forgive and enjoy the things you love about your partner and be grateful. If the good things outweigh the less good, it will be a nice relationship!

  4. Love never fails! I love those verses!

  5. I LOVE THESE PEOPLE! just by looking at them and reading her words, you can tell they are wise and kind and wonderful.

  6. How beautiful this is.. Love is definitely patient! I’ve been in a 4yr relationship it’s been patient and kind (a little rough here and there) but overall this is an important scripture I take from the Bible as well.

  7. these posts are so wonderful, i have been looking forward to them everyday!

  8. We used that scripture as one of the readings in our wedding…this is such a lovely post.

    Things to remember does make a good point and I’ve also been watching to see if you were planning to post a voice of someone in a same sex marriage.

    Hope your honeymoon is blissful and I miss hearing YOUR voice Joanna! xoxo

  9. I have always adored that quote. It’s such a lovely sentiment – and completely true. :)

  10. Wow, this is the best ones. They’re such a very happy couple ^^ and like that being said, “Love is Unselfish”. I believe it, coz I see it in my Mom, especially on her way to love my Dad. Once more times, I love your post. :)

    Much Love,

  11. Thank you! I’m having a hard time at the moment with my boyfriend. This scripture is so beautiful, it brought me to tears this morning. Also, I love what JOBS said. It’s true……even if that person you can’t live without drives you crazy. xo

  12. How lovely and how incredibly sweet that you adore your brother in law and his folks! Your family seems so fantastic! Hope you are having a ball during all of your wedding festivities!

  13. Great reminder!

  14. I love their mantra…..I must post this somewhere as a constant reminder for the tough moments!
    Love this theme…great advice for, well, turbulent times.

  15. “You don’t marry someone you can live with, you marry the person who you cannot live without.”