1. Nedah says...

    putting a loud music on and imagining myself in situations that can never exist

  2. Tara says...

    Cleaning when you want and designing your place as you wish!!!

  3. I enjoy sleeping with the light on. It would be tough to live with someone who needed it to be pitch dark in order to go to bed.

  4. Morgan says...

    Reading this was nice, but also after reading through the comments, I am sad for those who feel they can’t be themselves at home! I live with my husband and I feel free to spend time with him or not, to wear pants or not, to eat what I want for dinner (usually we eat together but it’s not a rule), I sing out loud whenever I feel like it, I have dance parties in the kitchen, I talk to the dog and cat, I watch shows that I want to, etc, all while he is around. I guess I have the best of both worlds?

  5. My mom and I were just talking about this. I was flying solo last week after my wife’s father unexpectedly passed. I was with her and her family for 24 hours, but I had to come home for some unmissable medical appointments.

    Anyway, I struggled with a bottle of juice that I couldn’t for the life of me get open. (She usually handles that kinda thing.) Eventually, I carved a hole in the side of it with a kitchen knife and poured it out sideways. Ha!

  6. Jess says...

    When you clean something, it stays the fuck clean.

  7. not wearing a bra
    not always closing the bathroom door
    being as messy as you want
    solo dancing parties
    LEFTOVERS
    always having enough hot water
    wishing and hoping one day you’ll have a worthy +1

  8. I don’t live alone right now, but this is so true!
    I’d add “Karaoke Party 24/7” and “Eating all the snacks around midnight” ;)

  9. Laura says...

    SILENCE! No TV on when I want to sleep, no snoring partner, no doors closing loudly late at night,…

  10. I love living alone :) It’s liberating especially for an introvert. I do have my darling dog to keep me company though.

    Shruthi
    http://nyambura.co

  11. Charlotte K says...

    No waiting for bathroom. Conversely, never rushing in the bathroom because someone really needs to go!

  12. Amy E Jones says...

    Stretching out across the whole queen-sized bed…ahhh…

  13. Linda says...

    I live with 3 people, but I have no qualms about doing any of these things!! LOL! I guess my family is pretty comfortable with each other and I love that! I think we just all give each other a lot of leeway and some space to be ourselves. :)

  14. jen says...

    leaving the bathroom door open

  15. I just moved out on my own and painted my room pink; like a very sophisticated blush, but definitely still pink. My favourite colour. All my married girlfriends are ridiculously jealous.

  16. also NOT HAVING TO WEAR A BRA!!!!!!!!!!! :)

  17. clare says...

    These comments are the reason why I love cup of jo. Cheers to wine and cheerio dinners, pots in the fridge, and double-duty dance party/outfit try-on sessions!

  18. Samantha says...

    * Can be pants-less whenever I want.

    I’ve lived by myself for 4 years and I LOVE IT. My house is always clean, I never have to wait for a shower, and I can take my pants off as soon as I get home and not worry about it.

  19. Marie says...

    Walking around naked whenever you want (sorry, had to say it. I live on my own and it’s quite a treat when you get out of the shower)
    Also, taking a long bath, while reading a book, surrounded by candles…and knowing you don’t have to plan ahead or tell anybody that you’ll take over the bathroom

  20. Lucy says...

    hmmm… can’t open that jar. What do I have to help grip the lid better? Sticky yoga mat!

    • Karen says...

      GOLD!!

  21. Megan says...

    This is more applicable to roommates vs significant others but.. walking naked from the shower to my bedroom! (I should note that involves walking through the living room.)

  22. Katherine says...

    I loved living alone! Would add: narrating my actions while putting on makeup like i was in a beauty tutorial (“first, you’re going to warm the product in your hands…”) and being able fart wherever you want.

    Oh! and having baths/showers. I’m a night owl and I love showering at like 3AM when I can’t sleep.

    • Mandy says...

      OMG I want to narrate my morning make-up routine now.

  23. I love “watching only the shows you love” and “taking up two closets”… other highlights I’d add would be:

    * playing cheesy music really loudly and dancing around like no one’s watching (because no one is!)
    * eating delivery pizza / Chinese / Indian out of containers on the sofa in your PJs (because no one is judging!)
    * sleeping in on the weekends until you naturally wake up… HEAVEN

    http://www.thislifeisbelle.com

  24. Ali says...

    Oh starfishing in bed! That’s what I miss most! My husband has a tendency to fall asleep on the couch at night and I used to wake him up but now I just chuck a blanket over him and have the whole bed to myself haha!

    • Julia says...

      Starfishing , love it!

    • Katie says...

      I love this Ali! My fiancé was sick for a week and I’m pregnant so he slept on the couch. After a few days he thought he was better and I’d say, eh better safe than sorry, let’s give it another few days. Ahh the gloriousness of the full bed (especially when I am approximately the size of a whale)!

  25. Laima says...

    I might be the only one here, but I actually don’t enjoy living alone. I get enough time alone. Living together doesn’t mean you have to sit in the same room together all the time.
    I enjoy spending time at home alone, when I sing my heart out, even if I can’t sing very well :D, I also can only clean house when no one else is at home.
    But never liked to live alone. It’s nice to have someone to talk with when you come home.

  26. Leaving dirty dishes in the sink until you’re ready to wash them. I love doing that! If someone else does it I’m ready to kill them. Crazy, I know.

  27. Rebecca says...

    Can I just say all the advice from the comment section are brilliant!!! Love the sunscreen on spatula, ribbon through zipper ….oh my gosh, it’s funny but also very practical!

  28. Jen says...

    Putting the lights on or off–whatever you want!

  29. Putting together weird outfits from all the clothes you never wear and trying out make up looks that you would never go out of the house wearing.

    • LOVE THIS!

    • Rachel Thompson says...

      How do I not do this?!?!

    • Marissa says...

      In college this was totally a roommate activity. We would try on crazy outfits and do each other’s hair and make up almost every weekend. We had a bubble gum pink living room and a pulley system to hoist our (wicker) couch up to the ceiling so we could have dance parties and photoshoots (with elaborately staged sets) in the living room.

      After this crazy fun living situation, it was hard to find roommates who measured up! I live alone now and I absolutely adore my sunny little apartment that I get to decorate however I want…. but my college roommates and I still get together every couple of months to pretend like we’re 18 and give each other make overs.

  30. Jo says...

    My fiance and I have lived together for three years(dating for 8!) but I have to say that it feels like we might live by the “alone” rules. No pants are necessary. Bathroom door is as open as you feel like. Dancing, silliness, and singing loud is encouraged. We have separate TV’s and separate beds. It’s kind of like living with a roommate but we each get a best friend (and awesome sex!). I HATE meal planning but I mostly do that to myself. He’d probably be game to eat a block of cheese and wine from the bottle!

  31. Multitasking! I’m peeing, but I’m also clipping my toe nails and singing a song, all with the bathroom door open :)

  32. Ramona says...

    Well, I’m not single, but I’m often alone (introvert here) and I love it when….doing what I want to do…when I want to do it…the way I want to do it… for how long I want to do it.

    • Carmen B. says...

      Me too! It’s the best part of adulting.
      When I was a kid all I wanted was to do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, and not answering to anyone. So, that’s what I do.

  33. I love coming home and not having to talk to anyone unless they’ve been invited over to do so! Totally getting to be myself. Having things cleaned the way I like them to be. It’s mostly just doing whatever I want without being judged or bothered, and not having someone else’s energy, smells, or physical presence invading my space. Can you tell I relish it? haha

  34. molly says...

    Eating random foods that should not make up a complete meal but do because you are alone.

    Hearing a strange noise and automatically thinking you are going to be murdered. Especially in the shower.

    • Erin says...

      Yes, absolutely yes to both of these, but especially the shower murder bit!!!!

  35. Carrie says...

    Trying to find the good in living alone after separating from my husband of 8 years – this one’s come up a lot – choosing a quite night reading instead of watching TV.

  36. Caitlin says...

    You forgot the most important one: no pants required!! I almost left my house several times without pants…

  37. sarah says...

    dancing whenever however. reading intriguing book passages aloud. playing an erratic playlist at full volume. not having to explain any of these choices. even feeling alone, and having the space to think about that feeling, and who you are, and what you want – often ends up being space to be grateful, for me.

    • Yes!! Reading aloud, absolutely! And dance parties. I have life-or-death action-packed sprinting experiences in my corridor when I go get something in the kitchen, too.

  38. Hannah says...

    THIS! My boyfriend and I are nearing the “moving in together” time and I am just savoring my nights at home – showering right when I get home, wearing my robe around the house, watching Friends on netflix despite having seen it several times through.

  39. Jbhat says...

    Oh my gosh, I LOVED living alone when I did, back in my early twenties.
    I remember keeping my pants on most of the time though, but see now that I was perhaps unknowingly depriving myself of a bit of joy : )

    Speaking of joy, I recall how much joy I would feel when I’d come in and see the answering machine light blinking. What a great feeling that was. I loved living alone, but of course that light meant that fun plans with friends were in store.

    Another thing I distinctly remember is that if I was feeling ever feeling lonely (maybe when that answering machine light was not all lit up), that listening to music on the radio was preferable to putting on a CD. The idea that other people were listening to what I could hear was oddly comforting.

  40. It’s been so long since I’ve lived alone, but I can attest to “watching only the shows you love”! Whenever my husband has to travel for work, you BET I take advantage of the alone time watching whatever my heart so desires. :D
    http://www.wonderlandsam.com

  41. Peeing with the door open!

    • Aga says...

      Yes!

  42. Erin says...

    BEING SO DAMN HAPPY ALONE!!! I love my boyfriend and my friends and my family, but there is nothing like doing whatever you want. People too often mistaken boredom for loneliness

  43. Talia says...

    Star fishing the bed, eating whatever I want for dinner (popcorn, cereal, etc…),

  44. Um, you guys…I’m married with two kids and a huge pregnant belly and I never wear pants! It’s my house and I’ll go pants-less if I want to!!!

  45. Sophie says...

    Binge-watching Netflix and eating popcorn for dinner. Mainly, not having to cook every night!

  46. Kaitlin says...

    Lazing about in bed reading blogs on Sunday morning (possibly with toast, the horror!) for as long as I want.

  47. Isabelle says...

    No. Pants.

  48. Karen says...

    Farting
    Sleeping in the middle of the bed OR on the couch
    Not needing answers when I talk to myself

    • Too funny! My biggest fear of ever living with someone is the farting. So glad I’m not alone.

  49. I absolutely adore living alone, and I really think it’s such a luxury (esp. being a resident of Los Angeles). I would add:
    – never having to shut the bathroom door
    – talking to my cat aloud without anyone to judge me
    – knowing that my groceries won’t mysteriously disappear

  50. Carrie says...

    I’ve never lived alone so whenever my husband has to works nights I feel (sorry, not sorry) kind of giddy all day in anticipation of being alone!! I’m a dispatcher so I talk ALL DAY- I love not having to talk when I’m alone. My dog and I get into bed around 7-8pm, turn on Friends and eat snacks all night. Oooh heaven is a place on earth!

  51. Andrea says...

    Never, ever, ever closing the bathroom door or any other door. One place lived I could turn the tv and watch it while in the bathroom. It was great.

  52. Katie B. says...

    Scapegoating the cat, because it can’t be me who put that empty carton back in the fridge/left the lights on/kicked shoes off in the middle of the floor so I’d trip over them in the middle of the night.

  53. Amanda says...

    32% trying all the things with (really bad) hair & make-up

  54. Anni says...

    Dear Cup of Jo Team,
    I just wanted to give a big applause to you for having duch smart, sensitive and supporting readers. Reading your posts is one thing, but reading the comments is mostly just as much fun and inspiration!
    Bis applause from Germany!!

  55. Heather says...

    I live with my boyfriend who I love dearly but he thinks it’s hilarious to scare the crap out of me all of the time. That, coupled with the fact that I always leave the door to every room open in case my cat needs me (I’m very concerned about the happiness of my fur baby), literally leaves the “door wide open” for my boyfriend to jump around the corner. I can no longer shower in peace. That’s what I miss about living alone!

  56. virginie says...

    Just love this …and all the comments!
    so true and so funny.
    I have been living alone for 3 years after a terrible breakup with my husband for 4 years. It was a hard time, and I’m just starting to actually “bare” with myself again! Also I do live with my 3 kids half of the time, so I guess I do enjoy a bit of quiet after this !

    • virginie says...

      oops I meant 14 years,( that sounds even more terrible! )

  57. I still live at home with my parents, and what I’m most excited for is waking up at my own pace in the morning and (this sounds so silly) but not worrying about being naked in the house tehehe

    http://thedianaedition.com

  58. Lo says...

    Putting entire pots of food in the fridge to delay doing the dishes. Exuberant dancing to music that’s playing through my headphones.

    • Carmen B. says...

      I’ve done the pots in the fridge! lol

  59. Andrea says...

    Drinking directly from the milk jug.

    • Heather says...

      Drinking directly from the wine bottle.

  60. Katie K says...

    When I lived alone I found it so easy to be a minimalist! I had very little “stuff” and I liked it that way. My place never felt messy. Now I have a husband, an 8 year old son, and a dog….and a lot of “stuff”!

    • Agree

  61. Jenny says...

    The largest portion of my pie chart would be “not wearing pants,” so I was happy to see several other commenters echoing the same pantsless sentiment. :) Star-fishing diagonally across the bed is another favorite pastime of mine, followed closely by the empowered feeling you get when you realize that you are totally content spending time with yourself.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      love it!

    • Karen says...

      SAME, Girl. SAME.

    • Kate says...

      Yasssss to all of this!

  62. Eating a tub of ice cream or batch of cookie dough in one night knowing that no one will know :)

  63. june2 says...

    Funny, just made the decision to live alone vs having a room mate and this pops up! I’ve lived alone before and what I love most – is not having to speak to anyone. I can just BE. Wish I could do that WITH someone but until then, I love living alone!

    • Elisse says...

      When you find that person you can just BE with and not speak…marry them. I did :)

    • I totally agree! I used to find myself working late to avoid a previous roommate because I just need to not talk to anyone after long, stressful days at work. I grew up being the eldest of 4 kids and never, ever alone and I have such a big appreciation for solo time now.

  64. All the extra space in my bathroom vanity :D

  65. Emilie says...

    My husband and I have worked opposite shifts for years, and it almost amounted to living alone! I got used to watching trashy TV without comment, eating random things for dinner (hello, bowl of popcorn!), and talking to myself and/or the pets. He recently took a new job and our schedules line up more for the first time. It’s been an adjustment! I love having him around more, but sometimes I miss plopping myself in front of The Bachelor after work.

  66. Katie says...

    Wearing comfy clothes that probably shouldn’t see the light of day. Hair masks and face masks and unabashed primping. Singing without embarrassment! 🤗🤓🤷🏻‍♀️

    Instagram: @katiehill

  67. bisbee says...

    Not having to call to let anyone know you’ll be late! I only lived along for about a year and a half after my first husband left. I was lonely after being married for 28 years, but I really grew to appreciate only having to answer to myself! I did meet someone after that period, and moved in with him, but honestly…sometimes I really miss living alone!

    • Carmen B. says...

      Yes! Not having to answer to anyone is my favorite thing.

    • Ana Maria says...

      Not having to answer!!! Yes!!!

    • Andrea says...

      Same, it’s so freeing! However, I have told my coworkers if I don’t show up for work and they don’t hear from me they have to call my emergency contact to come check on me, haha.

  68. Lauren E. says...

    This is perfection. My husband recently went on a business trip and when he asked what I did my first night alone in the apartment, I told him I reheated Indian food, watched Vanderpump Rules, had a cup of tea, and went to bed at 9pm. It. was. bliss.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      BLISS!!!!!

  69. Kristi says...

    Ummm… “not wearing pants”?! (Or is that just me?)

    Happy Friday all!

  70. Sleeping in the middle of the bed (with no snoring!)

  71. Kate says...

    “Walking around naked” needs to take up at LEAST 70% of that wheel! “Making your own messes and cleaning them up whenever the hell you want to ” is the other 30%.

    • ditto! and eating a cheese quesadilla every night for dinner if you wanna!

    • Kate says...

      And eating all the brownies or chocolate chip cookies you baked and not saving any for anyone else…

  72. Knowing that all the stray hairs in the shower come from your head. Kind of shocking once you don’t have a roommate to blame. :D

    • Sarah says...

      So true! It was good to know how much dirt I produce after living with college roommates and before having a husband and kids.

  73. I’d add “Having cheese for dinner without judgment.”

    • Three bowls of Cheerios.

    • Barbara says...

      What about eating grilled cheese several nights in a row because its awesome?

    • Andrea says...

      I just had wine and raw cookie dough for lunch :)

    • Em says...

      Hahaha this is reassuring after that “what did you eat for lunch post” when 90% of people said they ate like, a kale, quinoa, and carrot salad :)

    • Megan says...

      Ha I just ate grilled cheese 3 nights in a row last week!

  74. Katie says...

    Love this! I’m actually moving into my own place after having a roommate for the past two years and I am so excited to live alone again! Here’s what I would add…

    1. Not having to talk to anyone when I come home (yes I’m an introvert)
    2. Walking around in my underwear
    3. Talking to my cats… with nobody judging me ;)

    • Katie says...

      YESSSSSSSSSSSSS to #1!!! :) I’m a closet introvert. And a teacher. I cherish not having to talk for awhile when I get home. Maybe even the whole night!

    • Julie says...

      Yes! Every once in a while, I’d go whole weekends without speaking to another person, just to recharge! It was heaven.

    • Kate says...

      Honest talk: I feel guilty for sometimes wishing I could live myself again while somehow remaining happily married to my husband….

    • Sarah says...

      YES!!!! I truly miss the days of living alone!

      Some of my favorite memories of living alone were when I’d intentionally have ZERO weekend social plans (also introverted in that I require alone time to recharge) and begin planning my weekend out on Monday of that week! Things included: baking, homemade pizza (roasted veggies, goat chees, pesto – I’d eat the whole thing), endless movies, unwashed hair…and one random Saturday night I taught myself how to whistle with my fingers via YouTube – all because I lived alone and there was no one to make fun of me! Would never have passed up those times for anything :)

  75. After having lived with roommates, my parents, a partner, and now completely on my own, I have to say, it’s kind of my favorite arrangement.

    I’d add, crying whenever I want without having to explain to anyone, not having to compromise on ANYTHING, eating weird foods at weird times of the day and not having to explain (because there is no real explanation), keeping the temperature on what I want it on, and not having to clean up dishes IMMEDIATELY after I’m done.

    There are awesome things about the other arrangements, too. But I’ve found that I enjoy my alone time and will cherish it while I can.

    • Ugh. I miss crying after work! It sounds like such a small thing, but now that I have kids I can’t just come home after a bad day and let it all out. I have to wait until bedtime and by then everything is too bottled up to process!

  76. Denise says...

    Using a spatula to put sunscreen/lotion on one’s back. :)

    • Lara says...

      This actually made me cry with laughter at my desk. Thanks from Scotland :)

    • OMG, I just howled out loud. Thank you!

    • Sophie says...

      OMG, that is brilliant! :D

    • Rebecca says...

      Ummm…this is genesis!! I want to try this!!

  77. Getting the WHOLE bed. I like to starfish when i sleep (except recently, since the whole pregnancy thing means no sleeping on my back or tummy for awhile). But sometimes I do miss getting to sprawl without care :)

  78. Alexis says...

    laying around in my town for a minimum of 2 hours after a shower.

    • Kaitlin says...

      YES. I bought super nice towels for myself and it’s made it really hard to actually transition from towel to clothes. :)

  79. Laura C. says...

    I dare to say those were the best two years of my life, while living alone. Wonderful!
    Thank you!

  80. Court says...

    Sleeping like a starfish (and/or at weird hours with no interruptions) :)

  81. Karen says...

    no pants. no pants, ever.

    • bisbee says...

      Several have said the same thing. What is the attraction of no pants? I enjoyed my only period of living alone for a year and a half, but no pants didn’t even occur to me! :-)

    • Karen says...

      Hey Bisbee–

      I noticed that and I love it–solidarity, pantless, sisters.

      For me–it was something primal that happened at 30, at the end of my work day, I just need to not wear pants. I cannot explain it better than that–they just have to go. It is the first thing I discard when I get home and probably the reason I never do the roommates thing.

    • Andrea says...

      I get too cold for no pants, but I see the attraction. My equivalent is no bra.

    • Kate says...

      Pants are like jail for your legs/booty!

  82. Kim says...

    My husband moved out a month ago. This silver lining is helpful. Thank you.

    • Kim, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Things will get better, and it’ll be okay.

      My partner of 7 years broke up with me 2 years ago. We had a great relationship, but he became depressed after a family member passed and didn’t want to seek help. I lost my home, my business, and just about everything in the process, and had to move back in with my parents for a while. I’m happy to say that 2 years later (plus 9 months of therapy!), I’m back on my feet and stronger than ever. I would never wish it on anyone, but give yourself time to grieve, and know that you’ll grow. Call on your family and girlfriends for support. You are strong and you are capable and things will work out!

  83. Michelle says...

    Trying on possible future outfit combos in front of a mirror while listening to Robyn.

    • Cate says...

      THIS THIS THIS THIS :)

  84. Paula says...

    I’m on the verge of a breakup and this brightened my day :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      so glad to hear that, paula. breakups are the worst but it will lead to better, happier times. hang in there!!! sending a hug xoxoxooxo

    • Yukie says...

      I just went through a break up about a month ago and was the one to keep my studio (long time boyfriend moving out). It was hard at first living alone in a space you shared with someone else… but now, I’ve been able to see more of the good side of it all and walk around naked very, very regularly, breaking out in song and dance :)

      Anyway, sending you much love and good vibes, Paula!

    • Paula says...

      You are both so sweet, thank you!! :)

  85. Love! Would add “finding creative ways to zip up the back of dresses”.

    Have a great weekend!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahaha, good one :)

    • Erin says...

      I figured this one out when I lived alone! Take a long ribbon or string and thread it through the hole in the zipper pull before you put on the garment. Then when you’re ready, reach behind, grab the string, and pull up. Works like a charm.

    • Erin- that is great advice. Thanks so much!

    • Karine says...

      Erin, you’ve just changed my life! Thank you darling.

    • Cate says...

      I have a couple of dresses in which the designer thoughtfully added a pretty ribbon to the zipper pull. I call them my ‘single girl dresses’ for precisely this reason!