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Do or Don’t: Two Duvets on One Bed

Two duvets on one bed, Scandinavian style

After seven years of marriage, Alex and I still fight over the covers. So, my eyes popped last night when…

…while reading blogs on my sofa, I stumbled upon a post about how some Swiss couples prefer two small duvets on one bed. Have you ever heard of that? Have you tried it?

Apparently, two duvets make sleeping really comfortable. You don’t have to play tug-of-war with the covers; you can roll around; you can stick a foot out each side, if you’d like!

After going down a rabbit hole online, I saw that people in many countries — including Germany, Austria, Sweden, Denmark, Switzerland, Iceland, Norway and Finland — like having two duvets on one bed. And they say that if you try it, you’ll never go back. “We slept like babies,” says Kate. “I got the most sound sleep,” says Amanda. “It has made my life better,” says Rebecca.

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Thoughts? Would you try it?

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(Photos from Homedit, HomeInspiration and Coco Lapine Design, via Kate.)

  1. Lea says...

    We came up with this idea when I realized that the thing that was keeping us from sleeping happily together was sharing the covers. I get hot at night and fidget so I can throw off my duvet at will without disturbing him. He usually goes to “the snore room” after he awakens once anyway.

  2. eve says...

    my husband doesn’t need coverings and i do so if he does need one he’ll get another. we’ve never shared and it’s normal. i like my own. i think it’s common in asia.

  3. Evita says...

    I really like this idea. I like to be wrapped by my duvet, but with my husband, it’s impossible. He always said I took away all the duvet and he’s cold but I still feel not cozy enough. Also, I’m from China, I really don’t understand a sheet between me and the duvet. I tried, and it made me very uncomfortable. Now I live in US, I tried to avoid buying sheet set because I only used fitted sheet. We use duvet cover, every week I took it off and wash it with my sheet, pillowcases, and other bedding stuff. Maybe some people think taking off and putting on the duvet cover is too much trouble, but I grew up with this, so I feel fine.

  4. cindy says...

    In the United States where can you purchase these “personal” sized duvets? So far the smallest I can find are Twin size, which is way too wide when trying to accomodate using two in a Queen or King sized matress. I would appreciate some recommendations on where to shop on-line for these!

  5. Michelle says...

    Am I the only person who cannot stand duvets? I always feel the movement of the blanket inside and somehow I get it crumbled up before I fall asleep every time… so what we do is that he uses the regular comforter and I use my own little blanket which just gets tucked under in the morning. Pretty weird, I guess but I hate top sheets and duvets so this works best for us.

  6. Kathy says...

    I saw this concept when we lived in Italy and I love it! We’ve been sleeping on a king size bed with two duvets since 2004 and it has improved our sleep immensely. I make the bed with two folded duvets because it became a hassle to spread them out so it looked like the typical American bed.

  7. April Baldwin says...

    Since completing an internship in Austria in 2011, I have adopted the two-duvet philosophy that I encountered there. The only adaption being that we do use a flat sheet underneath them as my Canadian husband prefers this to contact with a bare duvet. I really appreciate this option because I am one of those low-impact sleepers whose bed looks untouched when I awake in the morning, whereas, my husband’s side of the bed looks like there had been an MMA event there the night before.

  8. Pat says...

    Brilliant! After 44 years of marriage, I thought I knew everything, but this is just brilliant! Thanks.

  9. nadijos says...

    i am from germany, we always have our own duvet straight up, no sheet underneath the duvet (i find that kinda weird) but my husband is from canada and he is used to one duvet and a sheet underneath. so we tried both but stuck to the two duvets. snuggling makes it more fun because you put the two together (a little overlapping) and it makes one big duvet but once you are ready to pass out, each can roll into your own and then stick a foot into the other persons duvet haha. i love it, it gives me freedom to sleep the way i like. my husband is always so hot and it made sharing one impossible…

  10. Sam says...

    We switched to two duvets, no top sheet. We have been married for 12 years and was introduced to this concept by a German friends years ago, but after upgrading to a king sized bed and playing tug of war all night… We tried the two duvets. WE LOVE IT. The flat sheet isn’t needed if you buy the right kind of duvet covers because it feels like a sheet. TO wash the comforter, you just wash the sheet like duvet. Sleeping wise, we LOVE it. Snuggles still happen. And not to mention, there’s something fun about your husband sneaking into your duvet. Yes, Americans– try it out. We love it and we still have plenty of us time. Just more sound sleeping! My only issue– Making the bed with two twin duvets is super fast, but style wise, I’m looking for ideas!

  11. Anna says...

    Snuggling with two duvets is really easy! You just get really close under one ;)
    But ceriously having two is the best! I’m from Germany where we have one sheet on the mattress and then a duvet in it’s own case, with no additional sheet. It’s the best way in my point of view since I often get all tangled up in a thin sheet that’s supposed to go under the duvet.
    Plus, when you have two duvets, you can have different material/thickness. I basically sleep with a winter one all year long, while my partner prefers something lighter, so this way we both feel comfortable!!

  12. Claire says...

    We have one enormous one and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    My parents had two for years but recently discovered that you can get duvets with different togs on each side (genius, right?) and they’ve unceremoniously dumped their single duvets and gone back to a large one. So cute.

  13. Charmaine says...

    My husband and I are from Australia, and have both never known anything different than having a large fitted sheet covering the mattress, then a large flat sheet on top of that, then a large doona (duvet) inside its own cover. Its cosy and we like snuggling up together. How can you snuggle if there are two separate covers. We are currently in Croatia and the last two hotels have the two separate duvets with no top sheet. We hate it. The single duvets are tiny. We had to ask for a large top sheet and were given 2 single duvet covers instead. ?????? We find it really strange, but that is the way it’s done over here. Its not to our liking but we are on holiday in their country, so we will see how we go.

  14. Rachel M. says...

    For a 152cm queen bed, do they make 76cm duvets, for which yi would buy two; or do people normally buy two twin duvets (99cms) and fold them in half? The hotel beds I stayed in in Scandanavia were so tidy. I don’t remember anything folded unless they were folded inside the duvet covers(?)

  15. Annie says...

    I would highly recommend two duvets. And no sheet. It is the best thing and we have even been known to take ‘quilty’ away with us. My husband gets hot, I get cold, he’s tall, I’m short; so we have a super king size duvet known as ‘quilty’ (his; 1 tog for winter, just the cover for summer) and I have a wool duvet (would highly recommend this) for all year round, great for ‘night sweats’. 6 pillows and a ‘small’ pillow for between the legs (hip problems); both of us are/were sporty and one of us has plenty of old injuries. We are also considering two different mattresses as we are different builds and weight. We both need a good night’s sleep and if we don’t, it impacts on our work, home and health; we’ve been together nearly 20 years and it doesn’t impact on your cuddles. Being tired and irritable does impact on your health and marriage. I would really recommend getting the bedding that suits rather than just having what you think it the ‘norm’. My only question – all our covers are white and I’d love some ideas on changing it up sometimes; patterns don’t work.

  16. Danica says...

    Here in Australia, we have been using single doonas for years. Hubby is tall and likes to keep himself like a statue, I wriggle around like a windmill.
    Two doonas equals happiness!

  17. Tara says...

    Live in Austria and know the two-duvet thing is totally normal for couples. My husband and I have shared one, however for the past 15 years and I know the tug-of-war issue BUT we upsized our duvet after five years of marriage. It has been working well the last ten years!! :) Sharing a large one is also SO much nicer for intimacy!

  18. halo says...

    seriously….people actualy have one duvet? i thought it was only a bed cover…its not practical and whats the fun in rolling around if you pull the duvet off someone on the other side? never gave it a thought since everyone i know has 2 duvets\blankets etc for every season….

  19. XT says...

    2 twin duvets or 2 twin XL duvets on a king (eastern) mattress?

  20. Lisa says...

    So weird – about a week after reading this, we stayed in an air bnb apartment owned by a German family, and they had two duvets. My conclusion? It’s not that great. The duvets were too small so we both kept on poking out and it makes cuddling difficult. My solution is go a size up for the duvet, so if you have a double bed, get a king size duvet. It means there’s more overhang on the sides and more duvet to share!

  21. katie says...

    WHAT? Mind. Blown.

  22. Ariel says...

    Forget separate duvets… those things are too damn hot (no matter how many super thin options I’ve ordered). We now sleep with our own twin sheet and covers. It looks like a college flop house in our “marriage bed” but sleeping in one’s own cocoon is much more restful!

    • Crystal says...

      I agree 100%. They are all too hot! We also have two twin sheets and covers. I make them side by side and throw our big comforter over the whole mess. Looks totally normal, but we sleep love single people lol

  23. Sandra B says...

    For over 10 years now my husband and I have been sleeping here in the US with two twin duvets on our king bed. It is the most incredible thing, keeps us both happy! We saw it in Europe and I always tell my friends it’s the way to go.

  24. Jane says...

    One of those lightbulb internet moments ;) Never had anything else than two duvets (yes, I am German) and wouldn’t want anything else. I always order a second duvet in hotels in other countries bc I find it extremely uncomfortable with just one :))

  25. Wendy says...

    Yes! two separate duvets, It works!, and we get better night sleep (married for 8 years)

  26. MM says...

    After ten years together we started doing this a year ago and it has improved our sleep quality not end! We have a super king size bed (UK) and have one super king duvet and one double. The double gets folded at the foot of the bed during the day. Looks pretty good and works a treat.

  27. Kate says...

    Ahhh but the best part of sharing a bed with your hubby is the nightly tug-of-war!!! Kidding.

    We are both chronic snugglers so I have this vision of us trying desperately to spoon under one small duvet.

  28. Michelle says...

    Yep, after an injury my husband had where he needed lighter blankets, we made the switch to two and even after he stopped needing it, we kept up the habit. Now when we share a duvet on vacation I notice every time he rolls over and appreciate why we do. PS You can always snuggle together under one duvet and then sneak back into your own for sleep. ;)

    • Susan K says...

      Where do you find the smaller 76″ duvets in the US? We got our first set in Norway but can’t return there right now.

  29. Radana says...

    Although living in US for some time I never realized it is so much different from Europe in bedding. Here, I would say 95% couples use separate duvets, it is the most common way how to sleep (and no top sheet). I have only one big duvet for two and my husband hated it, (you can not cuddle all night and it is never big enough to satisfy two people, and you can not tuck yourself in), we do not use it anymore.

  30. Cheers to to two duvet…it’s been around in our nest for sometime. Sweet dreams!

  31. Cristina says...

    The most annoying part about these individual duvets is that they are ridicously short (in Germany, where I am living now, they are 200 or 220 cm long) and also not particularly wide (135 or 150 respectively). This is the size I used as a kid growing up and I don’t find it comfortable to use as an adult as I am relatively tall, and cold air comes in from all sides and you really can’t stretch and keep warm at the same time: I can’t cover both my neck and feet at the same time. And forget about tucking.
    For me, a huge duvet cover (no top sheet) which can be tucked at the end and covers both me and my partner completely is the way to go. I guess I wouldn’t mind two duvets (perfect for people with different comfort temperatures!) if they were big enough, but for me it doesn’t work and I hate staying at hotels and having to check or ask for an extra blanket to cover my feet. .
    This is of course my very personal opinion, which is strongly influenced by my way of sleeping.

  32. Ginte says...

    I was actually always surprised, when I saw people use 1 big duvet for two people in movies, etc. In Lithuania, we always have 1 small duvet for one person, that’s just how it is. It’s so good when your warmth doesn’t depend on another person’s sleepy-stealing habits!

  33. Capa says...

    Hahaha this is so hilarious! For most of us in Europe, it’s completely normal. I’m actually considering to go the other way, because I feel the two duvets are preventing us from snuggling properly ;)

  34. Do! My husband and I lived in Switzerland for 2 years and I loved this concept. The key is no top sheet. This totally threw me off. I was shopping for bedding and was stumped when I couldn’t find top sheets. My American friend (married to a Swiss man) said that most Europeans sleep with only a fitted sheet and a duvet and wash the duvet cover and fitted sheet as you would fitted and top sheets. Genius! We went back to our old American ways when we moved back to the US, but this has got me rethinking our whole set up again!

  35. What a fantastic idea, as we still fight about the covers :-)

  36. Jenia says...

    We have two duvets, but every night before falling asleep I try to get under my husband’s blanket and he kicks me out! :)

  37. Egle says...

    when i saw this article, i thought, finally!! it’s not only us! we’ve been living together day in day for 10years and are married for 6 years and we’ve always slept under separate duvets, some of our friends don’t understand this, but we both value a good night sleep too much, we love each other to the moon and back and separate duvets for us just adds extra happiness as there’s no waking up through the night from freezing or fighting over the corner of the duvet. we get our cuddles, but good night sleep is so important for us, i even thing it adds extra playfulness, especially if i creep in under his duvet :) great article!

  38. Morgan says...

    We went to Iceland on our honeymoon in November, and the Hilton Reykavik Nordica (highly recommend by the way!) had two fluffy white duvets on the bed, and no top sheet. We were SO confused at first. But we slept like babies (in part due to it getting dark at like 4pm and not getting like until after 9am, but that’s another story).
    My husband is such a cover hog. He manages to wrap himself up like a burrito during the night, while also managing to shove the top sheet down past his feet…waking me up ALL night long as I grasp for a corner of something, anything, to cover my body with. It was like, OMG why didn’t we think of this?? We considered it when we moved into our current place a couple months ago, and upgraded to a king size bed from a queen. But our budget has been super tight, so we settled on just one duvet. But it’s something I’d love to do in the future, with a coverlet over top when the bed is made so no one is the wiser when they come over!

  39. Wuselbibi says...

    Hello from Germany- of course I never knew anything besides having two duvets on a marital bed and I would never think of trying to share one single (big as it may be) duvet! Please don’t be offended, but I’ve always wondered if those beautifully made beds with one and only one duvet might be fake and in real life people might get their 2 duvets out of some kind of storage every night. It didn’t occur to me that so much people would sleep that uncomfortable when they have the choice… right as it never occured to you to just split the big duvet and have a night’s good sleep ;-)
    So I’d recommend to just try it out, if you can find a source in the US market. I did a quick check at IKEA’s website and didn’t find the right size, too bad.
    Have a great weekend, and thank you for highlighting so different themes with that personal and special sight of yours. You’ve got such a great beautiful family too, let me wish you all well!

  40. jen says...

    Fighting over covers? That’s for amateurs. We have always had our own blankets and top sheets. Also our own bathrooms and checking accounts if anyone is looking for marital advice. As Lady Bird, a first lady, once said, “I wouldn’t share a checking account with the angel Gabriel.” Neither would I.

  41. Katie says...

    My husband and I have been living together for 6 years now and we have ALWAYS had 2 comforters! Even at hotels my husband will use the extra blanket from the closet instead of sharing. And we live in the US. Do it! It is awesome

  42. Kristina says...

    I’m Swedish but live in Norway – couldn’t help but smile when I read this. To me it’s natural to have two duvets with covers matching the pillow covers, don’t know anyone how does it differently. I never understood the big, heavy duvet with the top sheet, but I guess it depends on what you’re used to. To those who worry about not being close enough – it’s no problem to cuddle with two duvets, you just share one of them for cuddling and then go back to your own for sleeping:-)

  43. Lea says...

    after being married about 2 years the lightbulb came on for me- “we don’t HAVE to share one blanket!”. we switched to two and was wayyy better. a few years later i decided to buy a king sized blanket for our queen sized bed and it’s big enough we don’t always need our own. there is always an extra blanket in our room though in case one of us sleepily hogs it all.

  44. Joy says...

    The 2 duvet system is really great for when one of your kids ends up in bed as it makes it easier to adjust their warmth (or use no loose blankets on a baby sleeping in the middle while each parent stays warm) as well as climbing out over a kid sleeping on the edge of the bed without having to do contortions to climb out of bed without disturbing the covers!

  45. Brittany Weidauer says...

    I moved to Germany and got married to my husband (who is German) here, and I must say that the two duvets is one of the things that highly bothers me. Not only is it common to use two duvets, but you also use two mattresses! In my opinion, that is not sleeping in the same bed, that is sleeping in seperate beds pushed up against each other.
    When we got married, I insisted on getting one large mattress, one bed sheet to fit over the mattress and one duvet to share. We both love it. In fact, anytime we stay the night at somebody’s house together or at a hotel (where we must use seperate blankets because it’s just what they do here), we don’t sleep very good because of all the extra material that comes along with having seperate blankets. It’s pretty difficult to move around with all of that extra material. Not only that, but we feel seperated and can’t do simple, sweet things that we normally do when we’re half asleep, like touching each other’s feet under the covers.
    I also don’t find having double the blankets and sheets (double the sheets since they use seperate mattresses here) very practical when it comes to keeping house… It just means double the work with laundry and remaking the bed.
    I am so glad that my husband and I chose to use one mattress and one duvet (even though it was a difficult task to acquire said mattress at a reasonable price here, since they are not common.) i’m not trying to be a negative nancy, i just wanted to put in my experience.

  46. duygu says...

    I am from Turkey, we are using two duvets fom the first week of our marriage. We both love to roll like a sushi in bed so I decided to go on two duvets after a week of fight :) We are the only couple who sleep like this, it’s not common in Turkey, actually people become shocked when i tell this.

  47. This is so true. We use two blankets – whoever snuggles in the duvet first, the other one gets the blanket. But two duvets sounds so awesome!

  48. My husband and I live in Chicago. We have 2 king size Berkshire blankets and one big duvet. Echoing Steph G’s comment, we just fold up the [blankets] at put them at the bottom of the bed each morning or I’ll sometimes layer them horizontally adding a nice big stripe across the bed . The big duvet is also nice if we want to snuggle (especially in winter — hello polar vortex) or we can each sleep with a respective blanket. Hope you guys like it!

  49. Steph G says...

    My husband and I are about to celebrate our 10 year wedding anniversary and we have done this since day one! We each have our own quilt and then have a coverlet we use to make the bed. We just fold up the quilts at put them at the bottom of the bed. It’s one secret to a happy marriage.

  50. My husband and I are big cuddlers at night. Years ago, we went from a king size bed to a queen size bed, because we would meet in the middle to cuddle anyway. So sharing one big duvet for us works perfectly. I think having two separate duvets would actually stop us from cuddling.

  51. Emily says...

    How do you make the bed with two duvet covers?

    • K says...

      This is how I saw it on a German bed: Fold covers in half lengthways on bed. Lay the folded edges of each cover so that they meet in the centre. If they don’t cover the entire bed, then just don’t fold them perfectly in half, fold them about a third. They don’t use sheets, so this way your covers are always already turned down for you.

  52. Lindsey says...

    My husband and I do this! It took me a while to be convinced to try it BUT, it’s fantastic!

  53. Michaela says...

    My first thought on this: ARE YOU SERIOUS??? This is a novelity for you? I am German and living close to Munich.

  54. My husband is German and introduced me to this. No sheets, just one twin duvet each. It is amazing. I HIGHLY recommend it to everyone. There is no way I would ever go back.

  55. leathermansgal says...

    We have slept with separate blankets/quilts on our bed since we’ve been married. Genius! And if we want to snuggle, we invite the other person to snuggle under our blankets or stick a foot out for foot snuggles:)

  56. Susan says...

    We moved to Germany in 1990. We took our American bedding with us. When we saw the 2 duvet system we decided to try it. Never went back. We have a Cal king memory foam bed with fitted sheet and two duvets. We used to have the same type of duvet in each cover. Now my husband uses the feather duvet and I use the cover like a top sheet. We do cover both duvets with a king quilt.

    One tip for keeping the duvet and cover together and not separate and ball up; ribbons. I sew ribbons on each corner of the duvet and middle of each side. Then sew on the inside of the cover ribbons in each corner and side. When one makes the bed a good shake is all that is needed. The duvet will lay flat.

  57. Molly says...

    So funny-my husband and I only recently discovered the magic that is two duvets on the bed (well-duvet for me and light blanket for him since we always have different temperatures!) It has been a.ma.zing.

  58. Silvia says...

    Growing up in Italy I only knew the “one big duvet” solution. Now I live in Denmark with the “2 duvet solutions”. I’LL NEVER GO BACK! This way you can also manage temperature better (eg. my bf is always super warm while im cold while sleeping) using even different types of duvet if necessary. :)

  59. Alexandra says...

    I’m a swedish woman, living in Sweden and I think two duvets is probably most common still in my country. Me and my husband wanted a single duvet anyway – it makes us feel closer to one another. Also I think we have sex more regularly since we exchanged two duvets for the one we share now ;-)

  60. Alison says...

    I’m an American living in Austria. Our bed consists of two separate mattresses fitted into a roughly queen-sized frame so each person has his/her own mattress with a fitted sheet and his/her own duvet (no top sheet). I think it works great!

  61. Natalia says...

    Haha sleeping with two duvets too. I’m from Barcelona so I’ve never heart about that before moving to Germany with my -German- boyfriend. In the beginning when he refused to sleep with a big blanket I even got pissed… Now after two years of two duvets I can say just DO IT!

  62. I currently live in Switzerland and, yes, they love their individual (twin-sized) duvets here. They also love not using top sheets — they don’t even sell them in stores. So, we Americans who can’t live without top sheets (myself included) bring them back with us from our stateside visits.

  63. Oh that is funny, I´m from Czech Republic and here is totally normal to have two duvets, actually it sounds me quiet uncomfotable to have only one. Sometimes we meet this at vacation (I will travel to California in September, so probably we will have only one there), but two is two, definitely you should try it :-).

  64. My husband is German, and two duvets with no top sheet is definitely a thing. His sister and her husband are annoyed by the top sheet/blanket/quilt situation on our guest bed every single visit. They definitely prefer two separate duvets with no top-sheet. Like some others have already said, I don’t feel like I’m in the same bed with my husband when we have separate duvets. We go for a king-sized duvet on our queen-sized bed. That solves cover squabbles (mostly) and still lets us feel/be close.

  65. We now have a King-sized bed with a super King duvet on it – this has solved all our arguments over duvet-hogging :)

  66. Meg says...

    My parents did this (and still do)! My husband and I still use one large duvet but he will probably be the one to suggest this first (he claims I am a blanket and bed hog).

  67. jennifer says...

    my husband and I have hugely different body temperatures – I am always hot he is always freezing. We use two duvets out of necessity. such a game changer!

  68. Sara says...

    My mom is Danish and swears by this! My husband and I prefer a single huge king-size duvet (better for snuggling :) ) but if either of us was a cover-hog I’d definitely do this. And yes for duvets! So glad they are becoming more popular in the US (it’s what I grew up with having European parents, but they were hard to find here when I was younger). The many-layered American blanket system all tucked in at the edges drives me nuts! My husband cracks up whenever we stay at a hotel because the first thing I do is untuck all the blankets/sheets on the bed!

  69. Jaim says...

    Yes, if you can manage separate duvets and same bed. Separate sinks, same shower. It’s little things like this that mitigate marital stress but keep closeness, still.

  70. My hubby and I do different duvets in the spring and fall- I love it! We have a double from ikea that you can snap together on warm nights: one light and one heavy. That way, he’s not too hot, but I’m not freezing either! Perfect.

  71. Anita says...

    A completely different and MEGA functional bedding mash up is a king size pillow on a twin bed (for children). It fits perfectly on the bed and accomodates two heads. So good for bedtime stories and middle of the night “i’m scared” snuggles.

  72. Yes yes yes! My English husband wasn’t thrilled by this idea at first, but once he realized he could roll himself into a blanket burrito guilt-free, he’s come around. We have a king size bed (another game changer) and two duvets – one king size (his) which we make the bed with, and one queen size (mine) which we fold stylishly at the foot of the bed. It really has improved our sleep, highly recommend.

  73. Oh hell yes. This was the year we found bed nirvana – a king-sized memory foam mattress and separate duvets. It’s magical.

  74. Shannon says...

    How do you two duvet people do sheets? From what I’ve read about this before, it seems like people in Europe just don’t use a top sheet. Is this your experience too? I love the two duvet idea but I really like having a sheet (both as a light layer option and to keep the duvet clean!), so I just don’t know how to make this work for me. Any ideas would be appreciated!

    • Erszi says...

      My European relatives do the two-duvet thing and they change their duvet covers every time they change their sheets! The treat the cover itself like the top sheet. An added bonus is that they get to switch up the designs of their duvet covers often :)

    • Sara says...

      No sheet! I know it’s a matter of personal preference though and I think partially what you grew up with — my parents are European so we’ve always done just covered duvets and those flat sheets drive me bananas! But since you like the sheet, maybe do 2 twinsize flat sheets (one under each duvet)? But if you’re mostly worried about keeping the duvet clean, that’s what duvet covers are for – much simpler for making the bed in the morning too. :)

    • We don´t use top sheet, but it will works to have two duvets and one sheet over them, I think – if it only for cover like plaid.

  75. Ramona black says...

    I know a couple who does that and I have called it Slovakian birth control!

  76. I just read this and my mouth dropped open. I’m pretty sure I also made a weird noise. GENIUS.

  77. Emily says...

    I am traveling right now in a country that uses two duvets instead of one, and I don’t feel like I’m sleeping in the same bed as my husband. That may appeal to some people, but we don’t feel as close.

  78. hanna says...

    I’m Swedish and every couple I know has 2 duvets. I wouldn’t do it any other way. I’ve even converted my American husband. I’ve never been able to understand why a couple would only have 1. You use 2 pillows so why not 2 duvets? And don’t get me started on the ridiculous top sheet system that exists abroad. Fitted sheet and duvet cover are the way to go.

  79. Sarah says...

    We used to spend a month each yr in Copenhagen in a furnished apt for faculty. They did things that way there. Overall, my preference is for one duvet but a size bigger than the bed.

  80. MM says...

    Nope to the 2-duvet system. We’ve done both and a single duvet = more snuggling/sex for sure. Cover hog in your midst? Just get a bigger duvet.

  81. Resi says...

    Yes! Being German living in Switzerland that’s totally what I have know for my entire life and what I prefer (after having traveled a lot…).

  82. Maryse says...

    Yes! Although not all my Dutch friends and family do this, my husband and I joke it is the thing that keeps us together ever since we moved in together 7 years ago. We have separate matrasses too. We don’t roll into each other in the centre, plus, he’s a foot taller and quite a bit heavier than I am (okay maybe a little less now I’m pregnant..) Our bodies are different and require different matrasses. Would recommend to everyone. Oh man. I’m ready to roll into bed after writing about it so much.

  83. Beck says...

    Been doing this for years! I’m a blanket hog and this is not too nice for my partner in the winter. We prefer our own blankets, or sheets in the summer.

  84. Megan says...

    I love doing things this way, even as a single person a duvet with no top sheet is so lovely to sleep with and bed making is a snap. I have seen a lot of beds with two duvets that will have one bedspread that goes over everything during the day in case you like that look better.

  85. Loren says...

    My husband and I figured out that we don’t share blankets well about 12 hours into our marriage. We’ve each had our own blanket since!

  86. Jennifer says...

    My husband and I discovered individual duvets on vacation in Norway in 2001, when we had been married a year. I had a pair and two sets of covers shipped from our second stop, in Denmark. We find the individual duvets super comfortable on a queen sized bed–larger separate duvets are too bulky. I wish they were easier to find in the States. It took us several years to find replacement covers–my genius husband’s solution was to search by their dimensions in centimeters. Success!

    We wash the covers weekly and don’t use top sheets.

  87. gardise says...

    I guess, its what you know;b. I for one still wonder about the single duvet! I am German and didn’t know this really until I have been abroad or in one or the other Hotel here that does it. Especially in Hotels I wonder about, how can they assume it will always be couples booking double rooms??!!
    I definitely am for the separate duvets, as it just makes for a more independent/ better sleep. Even with my bf now (who is kind of of the single duvet school), he quickly converted, realizing he will always lose the rolling battle;b. That is in winter, in summer a single duvet or none at all does fine for us.

  88. Jill says...

    My canadian husband and I were just recently travelling in Scandinavia and encountered this everywhere! We called them “the hot dog buns” :) I didn’t like it – when you cuddle your arms get cold!

  89. Uljana says...

    haha … this made me laugh out loud!
    being German I find ONE duvet confusing and utterly annoying. we don’t even think it’s odd … it’s normal. it’s perfect. no fighting, no one is cold, you can pick a duvet each person is comfortable with (one person can have a thin one, while the other enjoys a thicket one … no problem).
    in terms of styling it. there is always the option of using a large bed spread. why not?

  90. Maria says...

    My husband and I actually use two big (double) duvets and LOVE IT. I’ve never seen anyone else do that.

    • Zuzana says...

      Me, too – we use two BIG (2mx2m) duvets – and loving it!!! With linen covers and pure down duvets – it’s like sleeping in a cloud – HEAVEN. I hate the cold air “draft ” when sleeping with my husband under one duvet. And my husband is a restless sleeper so he always woke me with his turning at night when using only one duvet. (I am from Slovakia living in England)

  91. We don’t have separate covers (although I definitely go down that route if needed!) but we have a double bed and I like to use a King-size duvet instead which works pretty well. Ive been accused of duvet-hogging probably 70% less!

  92. Nicole says...

    This sounds like a great idea but I’m confused about the top sheet. We always have a top sheet under our duvet. If you use separate duvets, do you also use two smaller top sheets (like twin size)? Or do you just not use a top sheet at all? That seems uncomfortable to me but I’m curious! Obviously, it seems like having two duvets but sharing a top sheet would defeat the purpose!

    • Erin says...

      No top sheet. Duvet cover functions as sheet & should be washed accordingly.

    • Katy says...

      I like having a top sheet and my spouse doesn’t, so I use a twin sheet under my duvet and he doesn’t. It’s been bedtime bliss ever since we made the switch!

  93. Christy says...

    We have slept with separate covers for most of our 8 years together. I have the soft snuggly blanket and he sleeps with a light sheet. Perfect for our body temps! I am a foot out of the covers sleeper too, so it works out great.

  94. AngelaDon says...

    After reading this post, I went out and bought two duvet covers from West Elm, two inserts from Ikea and a king sized fitted sheet from Amazon. This is the best idea ever, why did I not think of it before?!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i love that, ha!

  95. Lisa says...

    I didn’t know two duvets was a swiss thing to do. We (swiss couple) spent 10 years waking each other up without meaning to and then switched to the “old couple”-style 2 duvet system. We sleep sooo much better and don’t wake up resenting each other anymore.

  96. liz says...

    We did this for years and it was amazing at solving the tug of war. I didn’t realize other places did it too! About a year ago we traded in our two covers for a massive kind size duvet for our queen size bed which works nicely as well – no war but easy for snuggling. In summer we still sleep with separate covers because I like to be wrapped in something pillowy while my husband wants a light cover.

  97. Rachel says...

    Wow, this could be a relationship saver! The worst fight my partner and I ever had was once in the middle of the night about sharing the covers.

  98. Greta says...

    I’m from Bulgaria and having two duvets is (or was, I’ve been living abroad for 10 years now) a standard practice. In fact, my mother sneered when she geared for the first time that people in other contries sleep with one big duvet. “Nonsense”, she said, “this way you will perpetually have a stiff neck from getting cold at night”. My husband and I use one duvet and it’s working for us but I have to say, my mom has a point about the neck thing.

  99. Jenny says...

    My husband and I like different amounts of warmth as we sleep – he runs hot and only wants a thin comforter, I like a big fluffy down cloud around me. AND our dog likes to cuddle up with us, so we tried 2 duvets and LOVE it. Somehow the bed feels bigger this way! In the morning, I just stack one atop the other to make the bed look nice and neat, then pull them apart at bedtime.

  100. Claire Johnson says...

    Funny thing is that is always how my husband and I have slept. Even when we were in the earlier stages of our relationship. I never thought anything of it. I never realized it was a “thing.” Plus, during the summer or winter when the weather is much more drastic we switch out to covers we prefer as individuals. Aesthetically, we keep our duvets white no matter the season too.

  101. Lindsay says...

    My husband is Norwegian and he prefers the 2 duvets, I prefer one. It’s generally my job to do the laundry around here (I don’t mind it), but changing the duvet covers is probably one of my least favorite chores. I would hate to have to do it twice as much! Whenever we stay at his parents’ house or their weekend cottage we always have 2 duvets :)

  102. Sasha says...

    Yes, we already do two duvets, for a few reasons. One my husband is a heater and I’m an iceberg, so his duvet is lighter. Two, dogs. All three, two 50 lb-ers, one 30 lbs, who makes up for his size in cuddly-ness. In our bed, our teeny tiny queen size bed :) we are actually contemplating moving our guest queen size bed in and having TWO beds. I’m completely in favor of it. Right now my husband grumbling keeps me up at least as much as the dog snuggles.

  103. Colleen says...

    J,
    With so many comments, mine will surely be lost. We are older, retired and love sleeping with two twin duvets on our queen sized bed. We found this way of sleeping when we first went to Europe in the early ’90s. We sleep at different temperatures……… and love how we each can have a different weight of down. Friends comment asking how we find one another. I wink and say that finding one another is never hard when we have each had a good night’s sleep. We will never sleep any different. Heaven! Thank you for your excellent blog.

  104. Maryte says...

    Two duvets! Especially during winter. Funnily enough, got the idea from an IKEA bedroom setup.

  105. Ina says...

    btw. depending on how cold it’s getting of course, we prefer natural materials and have duvets of wild silk in summer, double chamber camel in winter (light but nicely warm) and my husband needs an extra thick goose down cover when it’s getting below -10 degrees centigrade.

  106. Ina says...

    In Germany one big duvet is the big exception. That’s why I book twin instead of double room when travelling abroad because coversharing is sheer horror for us. We love each other but we love an own duvet and a peaceful sleep even more! Oh and we have length extended duvets (there’s two standard sizes 135×200 and 155×220 cm) so you can pack your feet and still pull it up high unter your chin. Heaven!
    Ina

  107. I was in Europe last week and discovered this! My boyfriend and I were really puzzled and he asked a few of his coworkers. The Europeans thought it was normal and the Americans and British totally bizarre.

    I dislike it. You can’t role over and feel the other person as easily. Also it does NOTHING to stop cover thievery. The victor just ends with two blankets and the loser none. Also you can’t tuck the covers into the sides and bottom so everything gets jumbled when you sleep.

  108. That’s genius! We have another issue with our bed covers- the top sheet. My hubby doesn’t seem to like it and ends up kicking it down to the bottom of the bed under the duvet. I, on the other hand, love the feeling of fresh sheets against my skin more than the duvet (but feel cozy under the weight of the duvet). This wouldn’t really be a big deal if we didn’t like cuddling. Not necessarily in a complete embrace throughout the night, but we always have at least our toes touching. The separation of the sheets make this difficult.
    XOXO, Amy @ Jeans and a Tea
    http://www.jeansandatea.com

  109. Christy says...

    We’ve always used two blankets because I like to throw a leg over and can only do that on one side if we share. One is queen size and the other is twin, so when I make the bed, I put the queen size down and then fold up the twin and put it in a little rectangle at the end of the bed.

  110. My husband and I recently came back from a trip around Denmark, Germany and France and our stay in Denmark and Germany included beds with two small duvets. Personally, I hated it. I love cuddling and having two duvets just gets in the way :) Sure, it might be practical but I think it takes all the together coziness away.

    • Anna says...

      ditto!

  111. gardise says...

    Guess, its what you know. I am German and still always find a single duvet on a double bed strange, especially in Hotels! How can they assume, you’ll be a couple? But even with the bf (who is of the single duvet school) he quickly accepted, he will loose the cover battle overtime and came over to the separate blankets (in winter at least, in summer we are fine with one or none;b)

  112. April says...

    Yes, when I’ve seen this in Europe (my family is from Denmark), I thought it was soo sensible! CanNOT figure out why it’s not mainstream here.

  113. Elise W says...

    Also in Belgium! Once you go double duvet …

  114. Sarah says...

    My husband and I have been married a little over a month and we have been doing two sheets and duvets since day 1! Highly recommend.

  115. DeWoolfson makes the best duvets, the personal size is known as a daunedeckie. My husband and I use their featherbed (heaven!), down pillows, comforters, and down blankets. Most of their items are made in the USA with imported materials from Europe. I would highly recommend them to anyone, the price is a little high but the quality is amazing and the customer service is like no-other.

  116. flaneuse says...

    Anyone has some styling tips for 2 duvets? It’s pretty good to sleep but doesn’t look so fancy on decorative aspect.

    • Maryte says...

      What I do is use contrasting patterns that are tied together by colors – a green and black checkered pattern on one duvet, and a floral pattern on the other. It sounds crazy but it works. Both are from IKEA.

    • Christy says...

      Get one of the duvets in the full size of your bed and then the other one should be smaller, like twin size. Make the bed as usual with the full-size one, and then fold up the smaller one and put it at the foot of the bed. Looks great! (I get the big duvet and my poor husband gets the twin, hehehheh!)

  117. I’m literally begging my fiance to do this! I slept in this kind of bed setup in an airbnb in Iceland it was THE best. Two duvets all the way!

  118. johanna says...

    My Swedish partner and I use two duvets at his place. It’s a nightmare: there’s always either a duvet between us or a cold air gap to contend with! I hate it!

  119. johanna says...

    I dated a Swede for a few years and we had two duvets on his bed. It was a nightmare. There was always either a duvet between us or a cold air gap to contend with. In short, I hated it!

  120. shivani says...

    yes yes yes! after our first night together it was clear that we needed 2 duvets. I need to be covered from my toes to my ears so I have a nice big (king!) super cozy goose down; he has a lightweight single. This system’s been working for us for 10 years now :)

  121. Laura says...

    Great timing! My husband and I just got back from a week in Switzerland during which we concluded that we had to adopt this practice at home!

  122. Anna says...

    We tried this while living in Denmark at different hotels/Airbnb…. Can see the benefits eg no fighting but I missed the snuggles – harder to cuddle with two separate Doonas or sharing a single. Fun as a conversation starter with Danish friends at a dinner party though – ‘two Doonas or one?’

  123. Nane says...

    Haha, oh cupofjo-girls I am laughing so hard! Living in Germany my first thought after reading the caption was “why would someone need more than one douvet when you can simply use a thicker one? Four blankets in one bed might a bit too much, eh?”

    Having your own duvet makes sleeping so more comfortable. It’s easier to control the heat level by sticking your legs out on BOTH sides of the douvet. And you can still snugg under your partner’s douvet for maximum comfort while falling asleep.

  124. Katarina says...

    It is the norm in Slovakia (Europe) as well :)

  125. Jo says...

    I live in Norway but can’t embrace the double duvet lifestyle. It’s so common here that buying great double duvet sets can be hard…Lots of the great patterns only come as singles ! We buy our bedding online from the UK. The white company bedding feels so good :)

  126. Dea says...

    Two duvets are standard in Austria (where I live) and mostly in the rest of Europe. My BF is always hot in bed, while I’m always cold – one duvet would never work out for us… So you shouldn’t even think about it – do it! :-)

  127. That’s so funny. I have lived in Germany for almost 6 years now and I had almost forgotten that in America, we usually have to share the covers! :) I LOVE having my own duvet in bed and my husband has his own. It definitely makes sleeping so much more comfortable!

  128. Carolyn says...

    When we visited Iceland last year (we are Australians) all of our guest
    houses and hotel beds had two duvets. They were great for warmth.

    P.S. If you have never been to Iceland… go. It was incredible.

  129. Sarah says...

    YES!! My danish boyfriend did this when we first met and I was so confused – I literally tried to put both duvets over both of us for weeks. Once I gave in to each of us having our own, it changed my life. We moved to Denmark almost 3 years ago and it isn’t even questioned here. I love it!

  130. While living in London last year, my husband and I took advantage of the geography and traveled Europe a LOT before moving back to the States. We used Air BnB almost exclusively and most places we visited had TWO duvets to one bed! I was shocked as well and a little surprised that this idea had never occurred to me. It was SO comfortable sleeping in that bed. It felt like we were in two snug sleeping bags next to each other on a camping adventure.

  131. Anne Line says...

    I always thought it somewhat amusing that Americans basically haven’t heard or thought of the possibility of using two duvets. To me it is so obvious that it is more comfortable with two, but probably it is just because that is how I am used to having it. That said, all over Northern- and Western Europe you won’t find any hotel where you get one big duvet. And only the random person would ever prefer it. I am from Norway, but I live in Germany. In both countries the one duvet topic is not even a topic. We are just not able to sleep like that! :) My husband and I normally ask for an extra duvet in hotels in countries where you normally only have one. I remember a guy in Norway told me once that they used to have one big duvet for a while, but since his wife went to bed earlier than him, she had already taken the whole duvet for herself and snuggled up in it when he came to bed. So he had to carefully roll her out of it in order for him to get some too. I always thought this description was so funny and could vividly picture it. I am all for sharing – but I need my own duvet!

  132. Samantha says...

    I’m currently living abroad in Germany for work and this is definitely a very common thing here. Unfortunately my boyfriend and I aren’t fans. Sometime over the course of the night, we end up trying to share the one duvet and ignoring the other completely. This is annoying but not the real problem– two duvets usually means 2 twin beds that have been pushed together. If you have every tried to sleep in a bed that had been push together, you will know– someone always falls down the crack! So then its the two of us, sharing a blanket made for a twin bed, on a twin bed. Not enough space!

    • Michelle says...

      In Germany? Definitely NOT. You can get real double beds and hotel rooms with double beds, but they still come with the two duvets.

  133. Bianca says...

    In Germany we nearly always have two small covers.

  134. Nora says...

    I live in Germany and it’s absolutely common here. I can’t think of anybody who doesn’t use 2 duvets. Sharing a duvet with my boyfriend (e.g. when we stay in hotels) always drives me crazy. Not just because of the tugging, but also because of his body temperature. It just gets too hot…

  135. Katrin says...

    Yes, of course!!! I’m from Germany, and here, this seems to be the norm. For example, in hotels, if you get a room with a king size bed, there are ALWAYS two seperate covers. If a couple only has one big cover, that is the exception. And yes, of course it is so much more comfortable – it’s a no-brainer! Go and try it, Joanna! I would hate it if I had to share my cover. No way.

  136. Mimi says...

    So funny! I live in Switzerland and that’s one of the traditions that I always swear will never happen to us (because I fear what exactly? Who knows!). I guess I feel like it’s only one step away from two mattresses, which is another thing you’ll find here in Switzerland or even two beds pushed together. My mother calls it the “Swiss birth control method”! :-)