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Have a Beautiful Weekend.

Have a Beautiful Weekend.

What are your plans for the weekend? Alex has been traveling for work all week, so the boys and I are flying solo. We miss Alex, but it has actually been really sweet to just have the three of us — we’ve made blueberry smoothies every morning, we’ve gone on pajamas walks in the evenings, and Anton has been sleeping in my bed at night (worst habit, I know, but I love it). Hope you have a good one, and here are some fun links from around the web…

Calling all writers/editors: Come work with us!

If toddlers had Facebook. (Made me laugh out loud.)

Yes, you can live in a Swedish chapel.

What a hilarious game for a 40th birthday.

Cacio e pepe… cookies.

An adventure playground in NYC. Yes, please!

10 cool beauty tips. (I’m totally putting foundation on my ears now.)

The most dangerous part of spring.

Quiz: Can we guess your age and income based solely on the apps on your phone?

Abortion was not part of my birth plan.” Heartbreaking and honest.

Whoa! The true colors of ancient Greek and Roman statues.

Wishlisting this everyday bag.

Finally, good news: Skillshare is offering Cup of Jo readers three months of unlimited online classes for $0.99. (It would be so cool to learn knife skills.)

(Photo by Nora Ekeli. Greek statues via Shoebox Dwelling.)

  1. Helen says...

    Joanna, how long will the Skillshare offer be available? I’m looking forward to using it and sharing it with others!

  2. Kim says...

    My daughter slept in her own room with no problem up until about age 4. Then, I went on a girls’ weekend getaway and daddy let her sleep in our bed. She’s 8 now and every night since then she’s either slept in our bed or I sleep in hers. I was really upset at my husband for the first couple of years for introducing this habit to her, but now I love that we sleep together. She’s getting older and I know it’s only a matter of time before she kicks me out of her bed.

  3. Stephanie says...

    Joanna, Did you know that 1 in 3 women will have an abortion within their lifetime? Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing the article from Vogue. It means so much for women everywhere.

  4. Andrea says...

    Anton sleeping with you is not the worst habit – my 13 year old daughter will still sometimes sleep in my bed with me when my husband travels. It’s going way too fast and I wonder when the last time will be….soon I fear…..

    • Trish O says...

      My 11 year old does too. It does go too fast.

  5. Loved the article about foundation!!! :o

  6. Thank you for posting about abortion. What a powerful story.

  7. Amy says...

    Some of those make-up tips were so elaborate! Is everyone spending hours every morning contouring their face? I want to walk around with make-up remover wipes and take it to the faces of beautiful young women with perfect skin who put on so many layers of make-up on their already pretty faces. Natural beauty ladies! Let’s start a ‘less make-up ‘ phenomenon please.

  8. The app/age-guessing game: SO FUN, but not AT ALL accurate for me. I knew that going in though, but was curious to see how it’d categorize me. I’m still in my 20s (for a few more weeks!) but don’t have data on my phone, so my apps are very limited since I only use apps when I’m at work or at home (where the wifi is). I LLOL’d when it said I was a middle-aged married woman. Definitely not. But I guess I do use my phone like one. HA!

  9. that swedish chapel looks like a dream! can’t believe how ethereal it looks on the inside. also loved the toddler facebook page- got a good laugh from that!

    hammyta.wordpress.com

  10. The abortion article is completely heartbreaking. How devastating to find out your unborn child is so sick. And how sad to be pressured with a misguided idea of “compassion,” that it is better to kill your wanted, loved child because she’s not perfect, rather than let her live as long as she is able. They could have been able to hold their son or daughter for a few days and loved their child while alive (if they’d decide not to pursue medical intervention). This is what my aunt did with her oldest son, even after the doctors pressured her to abort, but she and my uncle where able to love him throughout his short life.

    • It’s her choice though. You don’t have to live with the decision she and her husband made. They do. I’ve never been placed in the position where I’ve had to make a decision about aborting a child, thankfully, but everyone needs to have the right to one if that’s the right decision for them.

    • Alice says...

      I didnt have that takeaway from the article. I read it more as the couple researched other sources and within themselves to do what they thought was right. It was also a commentary on how the current policy changes are impeding peoples’ ability to make an educated choice. It sounds like your sister made the right choice for herself and her family. I’m sorry for their loss.

  11. The shape of that bag is nice!

  12. Sydney says...

    Joanna, out of curiosity, what was your sleep situation when you had the boys? Did they always go into their crib, did you use a schedule, how long did you let them cry, etc? I practiced attachment parenting with my first- which included cosleeping (she’s three and a half and is light years from leaving my bed.) I’m thinking of doing it differently with my second, who is due in a month. Lots of questions for you, so if you can’t respond, maybe this would be a good topic for a future post, if you haven’t written about it already ;)

    • Christine says...

      Hi Sydney. I thought I’d share my experience in case it might help. I practiced attachment parenting with my first too, which included co-sleeping. She is now 4 years old, for about 18 months she would sleep in her own bed most nights but lately she refuses and will only sleep with us. I have to admit, I actually quite like it. Our second is now 14 months and we took a completely different approach with her. For the first 7 months she spent most of her time (except for long naps and at night) in a Maya Wrap sling. But, we always put her into the cot at night and regularly throughout the day for her naps. I made sure I swaddled her really well and if she stirred I would leave her to cry for a few minutes to see if she would re-settle. I think the combination of leaving her to cry a little, swaddling her and keeping her close to me in her sling meant that she learnt to sleep well on her own from the start. She slept through the night from 5 weeks and now regularly sleeps 11-12 hours in a row. The other thing did differently was follow the theory of the 4th trimester. I kept her in calm but noisy surroundings during the day and didn’t take her out much or pass her around to friends and family, she stayed cocooned close to me in her sling. This meant that she would stay calm and not get over-stimulated which made getting her to sleep much easier. So that I wouldn’t go crazy being cooped up more at home during the day, every now and then I would take her out to dinner with our friends (up until about 4 months). She would sleep right through as she loved the dark lights and restaurant noise. I think both approaches are fine and don’t regret either, but the second approach has definitely been a winner for us as we all get more sleep yet she still got to have lots of time snuggled up to me which we both loved.

    • Not Joanna but I highly recommend Weissbluth’s Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. The book really needs a new editor (the order is often confusing) but he is a sleep genius. He understands sleep is different at different ages, down to weeks, like four months is a big transition- the morning nap develops, that’s when you start a daytime schedule, if you want the baby in the bed at the beginning before four months is the best time to get her out, etc (I do bassinet/bedsharing in the beginning otherwise I’d die). He has different methods for how much crying the parent is willing to take, etc, etc.

  13. I found the app quiz fascinating – as well as totally accurate. <3

  14. Katie K says...

    That quiz was pretty funny. Both my husband and I took it and we got the same results (even though our apps do vary slightly); Single male, under 32, making at least 52,000 a year. That’s us! ;P haha

  15. Blueberry smoothies sound amazing!!! Loved all the links, especially the beauty tips! Very useful :)
    xoxo

  16. The abortion article. Spot on. Everyone should read that. Thank you for sharing!

  17. Ilona says...

    Cadburys chocolate is the BEST! Spring over here in Ireland also sees the release of Creme (pronounced ‘cream’) Eggs, danger, danger :)
    When I see them in the shops, I know Spring can’t be far away.

  18. Laura C says...

    The quiz was almost totally wrong!! It came that I am a married guy over 32 who makes more than 52.000$- it got only my ave and status…
    Joanne, my little one is two months younger than your Anton and she ends up sleeping with us ecery other night. Well. Soon she won’t do it anymore and I’ll miss it.

    Oh, O always put sunscreen on my ears on summer, but never put foundation or bb cream. It would be too much, I guess.
    xoxo

  19. Nina says...

    I do the same when my husband is out of town! My youngest daughter sleeps in my bed – and she is 8! Last time it happend i woke up in the middle of the night, not being able to sleep, and I just lay there, holding her and thinking that it is not so much longer she will be doing this. So cherish every moment!

    We have never had and problem with her going back to sleeoing in her own bed afterwards.

  20. I really love the adventure playground idea but I couldn’t help wonder if the people who are a part of creating the playground are parents?

    I used to be very free spirited and more inclined to allow children unguided free time- but being a parent has definitely changed my mind a bit on that philosophy and I thinking guiding children is also important.

    It seems that the playground is a place where children are meant to explore and be free ( which is awesome!) but I guess I also think there is a place for guidance and direction- even in play. Maybe that’s just me but I felt like the mentality of the video was a bit too extreme about letting children be free and explore without many limits, boundaries or direction.
    So something about it seemed off to me in that sense or not as attractive. Did anyone else feel that way? I thought it was cool but it just seemed a bit extreme to me.

    • I am so glad you wrote about this. I am one of the 8 individuals bringing the play:ground to Gov Island. I would say the most crucial element of the adventure play movement is the ‘playworkers.’ These are trained individuals who allow for freedom and also provide a safety net. SO many millions of dollars go into fancy playgrounds but actually the most crucial element of play and development though play (is my opinion) is having playworkers!! Please have a look at this: http://www.allianceforchildhood.org/sites/allianceforchildhood.org/files/file/Playwork_Fact_Sheet.pdf and let me know your thoughts!! And yes, there are 3 parents on our board. :) Also – tonnes of neat resources in our ‘reading room’ http://play-ground.nyc/reading-room/

    • Teresa says...

      There is an Adventure Playground in Berkeley that has been around since the 70’s. I was definitely skeptical, but it is one of my kids’ favorite places to visit starting at 6 yrs old (and now 9, 11, AND my 14 yr old!) There are a bunch of “forts” already built with random stuff like wood scraps, tires, sails, old furniture, etc. They are all pretty sturdy, but kids (and adults) are welcome to take them apart or add on to them, or build something new. They have tools like hammers, saws, tempura paint, and nails that you can check out one at a time. The way that you get a tool is by trading one in or by finding stuff in the playground like 10 nails, 10 wood shards, 1 “mr. danger” (which is a board with a nail sticking out of it) or 10 pieces of trash. I hope you guys get one too!

    • Thanks jackie Katz:
      That was helpful reading. My first impression was that the adventure playground looked amazing but as I watched the video and gave it some thought it seemed a bit unsafe ( And honestly I’m not a big worrier about safety usually)

      It was helpful to learn more about the play worker because my impression from the video was that they were very hands off but it seems like they do or would step in if safety was a concern.
      Anyhow I think I really like the idea now that I know more about it. Thanks for sharing those links :)

  21. PY says...

    So is it getting easier with your two kiddos? It sounds like it’s…. Actually….. Pleasant??!! We have a 2.5 year old and a 1 year old and it’s just go go go nutburgers for 90 per cent of the day. They’re completely delicious so that definitely helps. But can’t say I’d go on a nice evening walk or make a smoothie with them without major anxiety about who was going to crack it and/or loose a finger to the blender. Xx

    • Trish O says...

      Py,

      It gets easier. The older they get, it gets so much easier. That said, it also gets harder. The issues they face are harder, my fears for them are bigger. And they are not as delicious but become something better. In my boys I can see the adult they almost are. But…it is still the best.
      Mine are in middle school. My oldest will be a Freshman in the fall. A FRESHMAN. What?!?!

      But, it gets easier and harder and so worth it. All the best with your little ones. As they say, days are long and the years are short. So true.

  22. Katherine says...

    My husband too has been out of a town all week and my toddler has wiggled himself into our bed each night. Good to hear I’m not the only one who caves. How can you resist a two year saying he wants to snuggle with mama in th big bed?

  23. Maywyn says...

    Now I really need therapy…link to Guessing age by apps on phone says I’m a married guy older than 32 years. I’m actually over 60 no longer married feminine female. From now on, I’m wearing big dangling earrings, and add more apps to my phone.

    • Dont fret. I gave the quiz to my diesel truck drivin’, beard wearin’, former special forces boyfriend and it said he was “a female under the age of 32…”. He’s still outside splitting firewood.

  24. Linda says...

    That phone quiz was funny! It actually got me mostly right. :)

    I’m excited this weekend that the House of Representatives just voted unanimously that the Islamic State has committed genocide against the Yazidis, Shia Muslims, and Christians. I’m thankful that we are giving these victims and any of their surviving family dignity in this declaration. I am thankful that it will give us a stronger resolve to stop these genocides around the world.

  25. Jane says...

    Thanks for posting the Vogue article on abortion.
    It’s unfortunate that such defenses are still necessary.

    • Vale says...

      Agree!!

    • MissEm says...

      Oh, I very much disagree. This is an issue that hits at the core of our humanity – issues of choice, autonomy, life, dependency, sexuality, etc – and it’s a wonderful thing when we are able, as a society, to intelligently and compassionately discuss our different opinions on these huge and nuanced issues. Just about every developed nation has laws surrounding abortion – when it’s acceptable and when it’s not. As someone who is a pro-life feminist (and who knows many pro-life feminists – though we sometimes get shouted down – ironically, given that part of feminism is being able to have a voice and express an opinion without pressure to conform to someone else’s standard) I found this essay really compelling, and it challenges me to think through my position again. That said, I don’t believe any and all abortions are okay, and I believe that that’s a well-researched, very valid conviction that can still make room for great empathy and thoughtful social initiative in ways other than abortion-as-solution.

    • MissEm says...

      I just wanted to add, in case it wasn’t clear in my last comment, that I really liked/appreciated the article. I thought she brought up really good points, and her experience is just excruciating. My husband and I had a great conversation afterwards about abortion and euthanasia and the need for nuanced, thoughtful, compassionate discussion around both topics, where perhaps neither “side” should just come with a blanket yes or no.

  26. A says...

    This year they had Cadbury mini “eggs” at Christmastime too! They were round balls in red, green and white. Just as yummy.

  27. Nina says...

    That toddlers on facebook is HYSTERICAL! and yes, those chocolate eggs…I’ve only allowed myself to buy one SMALL pack this year so far. so so hard to resist….

  28. The bag is beautiful! And “if toddlers had Facebook” is so good! There’s one with hashtags..ha ha ha!

  29. According to the app test I’m a single woman….Thank goodness that’s wrong! Marital bliss here for sure!

    My husband has been gone all week on a business trip as well and it’s crazy that I am so much more willing to get us out of the house on the daily when he’s not here. Like I become a more fun mom when he’s gone. Haha!

    Xo Lendy
    http://www.twoplusluna.com

  30. Putting foundation on your ears sounds good if it has sunscreen in it, but we should probably all just put sunscreen on our ears regardless.

    As an artist who paints lots of skin tones, if there isn’t a little bit of red in a character’s ears, cheeks, or nose, people start to identify that something is “off” and “wrong” with the way the character looks.

    We add red to make characters seem more alive =D Just like putting blush on, I think keeping the color that is supposed to be there (obviously excluding blemishes or general redness), will keep a face looking alive and vibrant instead of dull and caked with make-up (as apparently make-up artists would like us to believe).

    And for the record, I’ve never noticed someone’s ears being more red than their face unless they were sunburned haha.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that’s so interesting, tanith!!

    • Katie says...

      Lovely, thanks for the reminder!

  31. catalina says...

    well the quiz got my gender and marital status right, but apparently I should be making twice what I’m making now!!!! funny

  32. I teach art history, and it is always fun to see the shock on my student’s faces when I show them what ancient Greek and Roman statues actually looked like. So garish!

  33. Kathleen says...

    I’m TOTALLY with you on the Cadbury mini eggs! I’ve been munching on them like crazy as soon as the Easter candy section opened up in Walgreens. Interestingly, the dark chocolate ones aren’t nearly as good, and I usually love dark chocolate. So glad someone else shares my love!

    • Taylor says...

      Agreed! Good dark chocolate tops my list of sweet treats, but my mini eggs- always original. Poor hubby bought me the dark chocolate ones, all excited that he’d found a dark chocolate version, unfortunately no, just no.

  34. Thank you for bringing awareness to the most dangerous part of spring! I’ve already fallen victim multiple times this month. That issue really does deserve more attention and concern, particularly the dark rather than original flavor for me.

  35. Barb says...

    That quiz was so funny. It was right on for me, but it told my husband he was a single woman over 32.

  36. Sara says...

    Thank you for posting the abortion essay. It is so important that we remember that the anti abortion laws some are trying to pass would have drastic consequences, and not just for those with unplanned pregnancies.

    • Lisa says...

      Agree, agree, agree.

    • Sana Nilsson says...

      It’s going for about 1 million crowns (120,000 USD).

  37. Sometimes I want my daughter to sleep with me when my husband is gone, but then once I do I remember how restless she is in her sleep. haha.

    http://www.katelynryan.com

  38. claire says...

    i LOVE that you posted the vegan leather bag! i see so many great shoes and bags that are made of leather, but it’s great to see there are cute alternatives available. thank you!

    • Katie says...

      Was JUST about to post the same thing! I’m swooning for this gorgeous bag and love that it is vegan. Just added to my online shopping cart :)

  39. Sleeping with your kids is AWESOME.
    As soon as Alex comes back, Anton will leave your bed no problem, and, if he doesn’t, you can count on him leaving your bed by the time he is a teenager, so there you go. ha!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahaha you’re right. it is SO cozy. he is such a sweet little cuddler. he always wants to sleep on the same pillow. (insert all the heart emojis)

    • A says...

      Thank you for saying this! I think it’s awesome too, and my husband and I still find plenty of time together (which many cite as a concern). I wish there weren’t so many moms expressing guilt over it, or saying it’s the worst habit or feeling sheepish. embrace it! :)

  40. The swedish chapel is beautiful, wished the interiors were more like english country cottages..

    Shruthi
    http://nyambura.co

  41. Our little town has an adventure playground every summer. It is just about the coolest thing ever. My boys (ages 12 and 9) wait for it to open and it is by far the most talked about summer time activity in our house. Where else are young boys (and girls) given hand saws, nails, and hammers and told to “go for it”?! Free range kids are the best.
    http://www.mercergov.org/Page.asp?NavID=2768

  42. The Adventure Playground is going to be SPECTACULAR for NY Youth!!!! A place pure devoted to empowering young people to be autonomous and take risks. Very excited about this!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes, so excited!! i hope it happens!

  43. Magnolia says...

    Nothing wrong with sleeping with your babies and making them feel safe and loved all night long :) That’s what most of the world does. And it is the best!

  44. Laura Doval says...

    what kind of blueberry smoothie?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      it’s so easy and delicious. it’s just half a banana, a glass-full of milk, some frozen blueberries, and a small spoonful of cocoa. the boys love it. every one we make it “the best one we’ve ever made!” :)

  45. Taylor says...

    The ‘most dangerous part of spring’; I couldn’t agree more! Those little eggs – the bag disappears so quickly, and starburst jelly beans, the Reese’s peanut butter cup egg. Love, love spring/Easter candy!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      reeses eggs, be still my heart.

  46. Tyler says...

    I WANT TO LIVE IN THAT CHAPEL. Also, major yes to the chocolate eggs, they are DANGEROUS.

  47. that toddler FB has me howling!

  48. Heather says...

    WOW! My jaw literally dropped over that Washington Post quiz. It nailed me dead on.

    I always look forward to these Friday round ups. Thanks!

  49. Trish O says...

    the app quiz is too funny. According to them, I am a single lady younger than 32 who makes more than $52,000. I am really a 44 year old married. I do make more than $52,000 and I am a woman, but I am not sure I am always a “lady” lol It did say I may just use my phone like one…so… glad to be young at heart.

    • I got the same answer! but I am actually a 36 y old mother of two rascals. They do not have us figured out yet, I guess. :)

    • Danielle says...

      Me too! Engaged 38 year old who finally crossed that income threshold, ha.

  50. Becky says...

    Same here! My husband is out of town this weekend and my 4 year old and I have already talked about how she’s going to sleep with me because daddy’s gone. It’s like our fun little secret because on any other night if she wakes up in the middle of the night one of us will put her back in her bed.

  51. Emily R says...

    According to my apps I’m a single man under 32 who makes about nothing.

    Too bad I’m a 36 year old woman who makes good money! Quiz fail!

  52. Toddler FB….YAAAS!

  53. Katrina says...

    I don’t think there is anything wrong with sleeping with your babies. My daughter goes to bed in her own room every night and crawls in with us around 4 am and I wouldn’t change it for the world. One day they’re NOT going to want to hang with us so take it while you can get it.