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My Beauty Uniform: Allison Rhone

Allison Rhone is the director of social media for Planned Parenthood — and a huge Living Single enthusiast. “I literally moved to Brooklyn so I could be an editor, like the character Khadijah James!” Here she shares her childhood beauty lessons, her celebrity idol, and her favorite drugstore dupes…

My Beauty Uniform: Allison Rhone

Tell me about your career.
I’ve been in marketing a long time, and previously my work had been more entertainment and fun stuff. I was getting to a place where I wondered, ‘How is my work impactful?’ So, I started thinking about switching industries. Now I oversee the development and execution of the social media strategy for Planned Parenthood on both their health and advocacy work.

What do you like about it?
It’s a dream job because I’m working with people who are passionate about the communities I care about the most. During the pandemic it’s been super intense but also rewarding. My expertise is helping people get information so they know how to access their providers and stay informed about COVID-19. It’s been really refreshing to think of my industry of social media as a tool for good. So much of it can be harmful in the wrong hands.

My Beauty Uniform: Allison Rhone

Did your mom ever share any beauty tips with you?
I watched my mom prioritize herself and her well-being — I call her my ‘first feminist.’ She’s one of the few people I know, in any generation, who didn’t go straight from her parents’ home to her husband’s home — she lived with her girlfriends for a few years and her mother thought it was a death sentence to be a single woman in the city. My mom just put on makeup when she felt like it, and she did it for herself. I remember that really stuck with me and now I only put on makeup if I want to, you know? She always cared way more about my work and autonomy than she did my love life. I’ll get shit at family get-togethers about when I’m gonna get a man and have a kid, and my mom totally brushes that off.

My Beauty Uniform: Allison Rhone

What is your makeup routine?
I’ve been wearing Maybelline Dream Matte Mousse in Cocoa for over a decade. I’ve recently started using Glossier Stretch Concealer in G4. It’s awesome for under my eyes. I also use Boy Brow. If I’m going out with my girls, I may add some NYX eye liner, and I have this Chanel eyeshadow palette that I really love. When I do wear lipstick, it’s Stunna Lip Paint by Fenty in Uncensored or Unveil with clear gloss over it. And blush! I’m obsessed with blush.

Really? Why’s that?
I have a very round face, so blush is the thing that gives my face dimension. I’ve gone to makeup counters and experimented with contour and highlighting, but nothing does what blush does for me. I’ve used NARS in Exhibit A for the past decade. It looks intense in the case, but goes on really well. I love how it looks with the golden undertones in my skin.

My Beauty Uniform: Allison Rhone

Who were your beauty icons growing up?
Janet Jackson was the end-all, be-all. Every time she wore braids, I got braids. I remember she wore this dark brown lip liner with a nude lip, and I did the same thing. Brandy was another huge one for me on Moesha. And I was obsessed with the show Living Single. Khadijah James — played by Queen Latifah — was just everything. She was sexy and she wore the best clothes. She felt like a boss and a good friend. I loved her.

My Beauty Uniform: Allison Rhone

I saw on Instagram that you met Queen Latifah a couple years ago. What was that like?
It was amazing! I met her at a work event. I got really sweaty (as you can see in the picture) and was in a daze. I told her I loved her. I did not sound smart, though I was technically at work, but she was so kind! She’s so beautiful and has this big, booming laugh. I had all these realizations like how formative she was for me, and how progressive it was to even have an image of that kind of woman on TV. Since then, we’ve met a few more times and I’ve kept it together. She’s so beautiful — one of those people who sees every single person in the room.

My Beauty Uniform: Allison Rhone

What are the skincare products you swear by?
At first I thought it was just for Instagram influencers, but Glossier has revolutionized my face. Particularly the Super Glow serum — I saw my skin brighten in a week or two and it’s so light! The Invisible Shield is one of the only face SPFs I’ve found that doesn’t leave a white cast on my skin.

Do you have any nightly rituals?
I’m obsessed with double cleansing and how clean it makes my skin feel — a lot fresher and more supple. Since I started using both Urban Skin RX Cleansing Bar and Milky Jelly Cleanser, I’ve seen fewer breakouts.

What are your favorite haircare products?
I co-wash my hair every three to four days with Aussie Three Minute Miracle and then put Kinky-Curly Custard or Kinky-Curly Knot Today leave-in conditioner in and let it air dry. On days in-between, I’ll maintain it with Aussie Miracle Moist Hydrating Oil on my ends and roots.

My Beauty Uniform: Allison Rhone

Do you sleep with a bonnet?
I sleep with the biggest bonnet possible! It retains my hair’s texture and moisture. I roll around a lot in my sleep, and if I try to sleep in a scarf, it always comes off. My bonnet is so big that I can pull it down over my eyes and use it as an eye mask! And if I have braids, I can fit all my braids in there. I remember showing my boyfriend and being like, ‘Baby, I have to show you something…’

What was his reaction?
Well, my boyfriend has a bonnet now! It’s so awesome. We keep them on our pillows and put them on at night!

Any other rituals you do together?
I’m a dark-skinned black woman so ashy skin is not something that can happen. I have a lotion in every room. I lather up completely after everything I do, and he’ll literally put one pump of lotion in his hand and slap it around, and he’s done! We’re just on different wavelengths about this, and we have several conversations about it. The other day he actually lathered up with lotion and I was like, ‘Oh my gosh, he’s using it the way it’s intended to be used!’ It was a breakthrough moment for us.

My Beauty Uniform: Allison Rhone

How are you doing during quarantine?
The quarantine has been a really interesting time to think about beauty. I can’t go get my nails or eyebrows done, and I don’t have all the normal products I would usually use, so the ideas of how I feel beautiful are shifting. It feels so nice because it doesn’t matter that I’m not as primped and groomed as I was.

What do you do for fun?
I watch TV! All the TV! I usually keep a running list of everything I watch with a rating for weekend brunch debates with friends. Right now I’m watching: Insecure, Homeland, Mrs. America, Little Fires Everywhere, My Brilliant Friend, Married at First Sight (it’s brilliant reality TV! No hating!), Real Housewives of New York (Team Bethenny 4eva), and Making the Cut. My boyfriend also has this incredible garden so when the weather gets nice I spend a lot of time there, taking in the sun and reading. Right now I’m finishing up a book that I love called Such a Fun Age.

My Beauty Uniform: Allison Rhone

When do you feel the most beautiful?
At the end of summer, when my skin is golden and my hair is in braids, I’m in a summer dress, and the sun’s on me. I love that feeling. I can’t wait! I hope it comes soon.

My Beauty Uniform: Allison Rhone

What is your relationship to beauty, in general?
As I approach my 40s, I feel the best I have in my life. It makes me think of how much time I spent hating what I looked like. For years, I felt too Black, too big, that my features weren’t right, that I just wasn’t inherently right. The last few years for me have really been about acceptance. I find the more I shave off societal ideals, the more beautiful I feel. Being in digital media is such a joy because there are places to go that are not society’s mainstream idea of beauty. I’ll get more from a Twitter thread of Black women showing what they look like, more than a popular magazine. It’s a radical act for a Black woman to love herself. I try to be radical every day now.

Thank you, Allison! You are amazing.

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(All photos courtesy of Allison Rhone.)

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  1. CS says...

    I did not know about bonnets for bedtime! With my natural curl, this might be a game changer!
    I might buy one and see. Thank you!

  2. Charlie says...

    Ooooo this is one of my FAVORITE beauty uniforms ever. Thanks for showing that beauty is… Loving yourself, growing into yourself, finding what works for you and makes you feel beautiful, embracing your identity, and being a STRONG WOMAN. The most beautiful thing about Allison to me wasn’t just her braids or glowy, golden undertone skin, it’s that she decided to dedicate herself to make the world a better place. The transition from the for-profit sector to doing something GOOD for the world is a risk a lot of folks aren’t willing to take. And feeling that sense of responsibility to make this earth + society better, and then DOING something about it with every one of your days…. that’s beautiful.

  3. Laurel says...

    #newcrush. Allison is all kinds of cool. I’m now going to watch My Brilliant Friend as I did not know they made a show (I loved the book!) and also try to order Glossier to Australia. Fingers crossed. Also Allison, if you are in need of friends…..?

  4. Josie says...

    She’s lovely, I love her face and ethos and everything! What a delight! <3

  5. I have big curly hair and the bonnet was a game changer!

  6. Candace says...

    Man. Those last two sentences are EVERYTHING. They make me think that I could be a little more radical! Thank you for leading by example.

  7. Brooke says...

    So glad Kinky-Curly Knot Today got some love on this post! It is the best conditioner/detangler for naturally curly hair! The best slip!

  8. Nicole B says...

    Allison – you are an inspiration and incredibly beautiful! Thank you for sharing!

  9. rube says...

    This interview with this amazing woman brought tears to my eyes. Love it.

  10. Jay says...

    I always look forward to these! Please keep featuring more amazing women!

  11. victoria says...

    A bright spot in my week- thanks Allison & CoJ!

  12. Keilah says...

    Loved this! Thank you for sharing, Allison.

  13. Eleanor says...

    Ah, this was great!

  14. Cynthia says...

    Allison’s smile is her beauty uniform.

  15. London says...

    This was stunning.

    Love the photo of you and Queen Latifah so much. The joy on both of your faces is glowing.

  16. Liz says...

    Allison please be my BFF!!!!!!!

  17. Aideen says...

    Beautiful… Person, voice, sentiment.

  18. Beez says...

    “At the end of summer, when my skin is golden and my hair is in braids, I’m in a summer dress, and the sun’s on me. I love that feeling.”

    I have never put this feeling into words before, but Allison did it perfectly and I related to this SO MUCH. I can’t wait for that moment either!

    I loved this interview. Allison, you are such a beauty. <3

  19. Sasha L says...

    Just loved this. Every picture, every word. What an awesome job Allison has, and such a cool example of using your power for good. I love posts about women learning to love themselves, they make me tear up and feel hopeful for our world. And Allison is just plain beautiful. When I saw the picture of Allison and Queen Latifah (um, lucky!!!), I thought QUEEN Allison.

  20. Rachel says...

    Allison is gorgeous, and I am loving her recommendations! Plus, it is so great to hear that Queen Latifah is as kind as she seems :)

  21. Amy says...

    Oh my gosh, reading this at the end of my day made me feel so happy. Allison, you’re beautiful and an amazing role model. Thanks so much for this!

  22. Liz says...

    Love this! Thank you for sharing about yourself, Allison! And thank you for the super important work you do!!

  23. Elizabeth says...

    This totally brought a smile to my face today! Love the story of meeting Queen Latifah, the important work that you do, and your description of when you feel most beautiful! Your mom also sounds amazing – may every girl have someone in the family that resists the ‘relationship as ultimate/only important accomplishment’ pressure!

  24. K. Francis says...

    Love her. Thank you for this post!!

  25. Zara says...

    One of the best Beauty Uniforms yet. She glows.

  26. Teresa says...

    Awesome all around! But I wonder what her favorite body lotion is….

    • Izzy says...

      Me too!

    • Trudy says...

      Ah! I was also wondering!

  27. Emma says...

    So refreshing to see someone say “TV!” as an answer for what they’re up to. YES!

    • Brooke says...

      This! There’s no shame in enjoying some TV.

  28. I LOVE her and this post! Everything! Thank you x

  29. sp says...

    You are so inspiring and beautiful! And I loved Such a Fun Age! Reading in a sunny garden right now sounds amazing. :)

  30. jane says...

    That lead photo is EPIC!

  31. Lori K says...

    Allison is awesome, and I love and this beauty uniform – first off, Planned Parenthood is so important to women all over this country. Second, Allison’s mom sounds fantastic – I hope I can provide that sort of example for my daughters. And finally, I love love love Queen Latifah and would babble incoherently if I ever met her!

  32. Laura says...

    So much love! Thank you! <3

  33. Annie says...

    Loved hearing about Allison’s routine (esp about acceptance and finding beauty in real women vs. societal ideals), but also want to shout out planned parenthood’s instagram- it’s fantastic! Thank you for you and your coworkers’ contributions!

  34. Jill says...

    I loved this beauty uniform. Thank you Allison for the work you do!

  35. Jessica says...

    Loved this–thank you for allowing us a peek inside your life, Allison!

    And this moment is so satisfying in a relationship: “. . . and I was like, ‘Oh my gosh, he’s using it the way it’s intended to be used!’ It was a breakthrough moment for us.” Such a universal feeling!

  36. florence says...

    Allison you are beautiful, inside and out!

  37. Lena says...

    I love this post so much! Allison’s thoughts on radical acceptance and self love resonated so much. You positively glow and it is inspiring.

  38. Jen says...

    I want to raise my daughters to be like you!

  39. M says...

    Living by yourself for a couple of years or however long before you enter a relationship is such a great accomplishment! I honestly couldn’t have imagined graduating from high school or college and becoming someone’s wife, Thanks for sharing!

  40. Maryann says...

    I really love her last comment about digital media and finding examples out of beauty outside of the mainstream – rang so true for me. It’s part of the reason why I love these beauty uniforms too.

    • OM says...

      Yes me too!

  41. Alexandra says...

    The way Allison loves herself is so inspiring! Thanks for sharing this, Cup of Jo team.

  42. I cannot love the response “Well, my boyfriend has a bonnet now!” enough. So cute! #relationshipgoals

  43. Katherine says...

    Love this!!

  44. Ellen W. says...

    She is so beautiful on so many fronts.

  45. Katherine says...

    Was it just me or could you feel Allison’s energy bursting through your computer screen as you read this article!?
    I love her, and I didn’t know her before this post.

    Also, I wear the same NARS blush – I love it too!

  46. Fiona says...

    aaaaah love this so much, and you and your boyfriend having bonnets together makes my heart sing, this is the cutest!

  47. Vanessa Mobley says...

    What a simply wonderful interview–about beauty and life goals. And what a a beautiful woman!

  48. Savannah says...

    Her smile is THE BEST!

  49. Heather B says...

    Beautiful, inspiring woman! Great post!

  50. Emily L says...

    Yes! I also can’t wait for cute summer dresses.

  51. Aly says...

    Love her energy!!!! Thank you for making me smile today!

  52. Ro says...

    Lovely lady, beautiful pictures! Excuse me while I go figure out how to make a bonnet…

  53. Missy says...

    I loved Living Single as well. I must say, I loved Maxine the most.

  54. Kim says...

    I loved this! Allison’s energy and attitude are inspiring. She is so beautiful! I loved what she said about her mom too! I have three daughters and aspire to raise them to be strong women like her.

  55. M.Nicole says...

    Allison! Sis! You are literally my new favorite person. So much of what you said just…resonated with me. Thanks for sharing a snippet of who you are. I may IG stalk you, but it’s all love I promise! :-)

  56. SlyBK says...

    damn. this woman is so beautiful. i’m inspired. thank you <3

  57. J says...

    Oh, this is great. This is right up there with Joanna’s aunt’s beauty uniform – this woman GLOWS from the inside. “I try to be radical every day now.” Wonderful.

    • M.Nicole says...

      Right!!

  58. Karla says...

    Beautiful!! Thank you for sharing!!

  59. meghan says...

    woah, very inspiring woman!!!

  60. Talia says...

    What a beautiful woman – inside and out. Love that her Mom was such an influence in her life. Also, loving Married at First Sight (Netflix)! Great reality show (and considering I do NOT watch much tv and NO reality shows, that’s saying something!)

  61. Claire says...

    What an interesting, intelligent woman! It seems like real beauty seems to always radiate from the inner glow of self appreciation.

  62. You are beautiful inside and out, thank you for your work with PP.

  63. Kat says...

    I love your philosophy on lotion… I am the exact same way! It all started when I had the pregnancy itchies and has been a good habit ever since. And your outlook on beauty – always do it for YOU. I am so with you there. ❤️

  64. Christina says...

    her glow (both inside and out) is insane!!! i want to be more like her when i grow up!!! loved this piece!!!

  65. Marcy says...

    Such a beautiful soul inside and out! Thanks for the work you are doing and being a WOC that inspires me daily. Going to try these products too because your skin is flawless. ?

  66. Amanda says...

    LOVE the closing comments: It’s a radical act for a Black woman to love herself. I try to be radical every day now.

  67. Amy says...

    “I try to be radical every day now.” Love this energy. You do the thing, girl.

    What a great interview!

  68. Karine L says...

    The Uniform Beauty posts are always so uplifting! Thank you CoJ team :)

  69. lauren cesca says...

    I loved this post! Thank you for showcasing another gorgeous woman who owns herself and knows her worth.

  70. Anna B says...

    She radiates confidence. I love this!

  71. MH says...

    Gorgeous & so inspiring!

  72. Kim says...

    You nailed the description of the end of summer. I’m joining you in waiting for it!

  73. Dara says...

    Wow! You can feel actual rays of sunshine beaming on you from this interview!! Needed the inspiration to glow up in these times from this beautiful soul! I actually feel like my cloudy mood is gone. :) Queen Latifah has nothing on you. I want YOUR autograph, Allison. ??

  74. Kat says...

    Allison and Kim, Thank you for this amazing post! I love seeing women on here that look like me in terms of body size and who are celebrating and loving themselves. Inspiration!!! And thank you for lifting up The beauty of black women!

  75. Anna says...

    Wow. You are absolutely beautiful!

  76. Cathy says...

    Gorgeous, smart and doing amazing work!

  77. S says...

    Loved this and love seeing WOC being featured on these posts! Allison – thank you for all the amazing work you do!

  78. K says...

    Wow, so gorgeous inside and out!!

    Thank you Allison for your work, all the time, but particularly now! PP is such a vital healthcare service.

  79. Alex Pearl says...

    What!!?!?! She’s approaching her 40’s! I would have put good money down she was just approaching her 30’s!

    Echoing all the thanks for the work at PP !

    • sara glover says...

      SAME! I thought, “Wow, shes got a great job for someone who is 20 something”…. Damn girl, gorgeous!

  80. Kim says...

    cool lady, nice post! stunning!

  81. Marie says...

    Wow, love this!

  82. Ally says...

    Yes this stood out to me too, such a beautiful insight! Also loved Allison’s description of the rituals she shares with her boyfriend, could relate to the body lotion story (but in my case, my husband does not quite appreciate the less is more approach to applying my Sunday Riley Luna sleeping oil (which is a vibrant blue colour!) usually just slaps it on all over and glows blue, still waiting for our break though moment, haha)

  83. annie says...

    Can you also interview her mom?? She sounds awesome!

    • Right?! I’m loving her mom!

  84. Sam says...

    This is my favorite! And so grateful for Allison’s hard work!

  85. Robin says...

    Love this! What an amazing woman. I am inspired by her work.

  86. Abbie says...

    This was exactly the kind of content I needed today. LOVE LOVE LOVE everything about this interview.

  87. Heather says...

    Really loved this – especially what her mom said about wearing makeup and how she felt supported by her too. I want to be that for my girls! What a great example!

  88. Sukhie P says...

    This is one of my all time favourite beauty uniforms! What an incredible woman.

  89. Alex says...

    Best yet.

  90. Bess says...

    She is radiant!

    • Wendela says...

      Beautiful!

  91. AY says...

    Thank you for your work Allison!

  92. Nicole says...

    Alison, you are radiant. And, I really love the compliment about Queen Latifah- that she “sees everyone in the room.” I have never heard anyone described like that, and it made me aspire to be someone that does so, too. Though it would be slightly less special to be seen by me than by the Queen haha.

  93. LIndsey says...

    Allison – you are beautiful! Thanks so much for the work you do, so critical!

  94. Kia says...

    Just gorgeous!!!

  95. Audrey says...

    “I find the more I shave off societal ideals, the more beautiful I feel”. Love love that. She’s beautiful inside and out.

  96. Emily says...

    One of my favorite beauty uniforms ever. Love to see someone with such an important job and perspective on beauty. Thank you!

  97. Laura G. says...

    i love this woman! especially loved the parts about her mom and meeting Queen Latifah! also, SUCH important work she is doing, and especially right now!

  98. Sarah says...

    This is fantastic! I also watch TV for fun and I’m so glad to see it represented here as a hobby. <3

  99. JR says...

    Wow, Alison, I LOVE YOU! What a wonderful human. Thanks for bring this bit of empowerment, wisdom, joy, and fun to us all.

  100. Courtney says...

    Allison — Are you hiring? Social media/PR strategist who WFH like a CHAMP is inquiring:)

  101. Clare says...

    Love everything about this! Thank you for your work, Allison. (And for your thoughts on blush — it looks fantastic!)

  102. L says...

    Really loved this – such a gorgeous, inspiring woman! Thanks for being such a light, y’all. (And omg such a cute baby pic!)

  103. Chandra says...

    I love that your boo wears a bonnet too now. Lovely lady and interview!

  104. Carmen says...

    LOVE THIS! We need to see more beautiful women of color everywhere, including CoJ!

  105. Suman Saran says...

    I LOVE that her answer to what she does for fun is TV! People seem to be pretty judgemental about this, but I don’t see anything wrong with it! That’s been me, pre-and now during quarantine. And in the golden era of TV – why not?

  106. Jenny says...

    You are STUNNING! I loved this profile, that includes not only your gorgeous skin (where are your pores? Your glow Is radiant! That picture in the sundress!!!!!!!!), but what a stone-cold badass you are. And so kind! I’m a medical student who hopes to work at PP. your content through COVID has been so great— informative, empowering.

  107. Ashley says...

    Approaches her 40s??? I thought she was 25, ha. Anyway, I loved this read. Felt so joyful and full of self-love. Allison, you seem awesome!

  108. Megan says...

    LOVE everything about this beauty uniform (esp the “behind the scenes” aspect as others have commented)!! One of my faves!

    One possible misspell–she mentions the show “Miss America” but I think you mean the new show Mrs. America on Hulu–which is AMAZING, so even if that’s not what she meant, everyone should check it out!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you!

  109. shannon says...

    …but WHERE is the couples bonnet photo??! :)

  110. Lesley says...

    Allison’s comment about Queen Latifah really struck me – about QL being a woman who sees every single person in the room. Truly beautiful people recognize the unique beauty in everyone and can inspire those around them to feel empowered and accepted.

    Love this series – and love Allison!

  111. Melinda says...

    Allison, you’re awesome. Your skin is absolutely stunning.

    I can’t imagine the kind of trolls you have to deal with in your line of work, but I’m so grateful to you and others for doing this essential work. AND you’re still smiling.

    Amazing. ???

  112. Lucy says...

    Bonnets are LIFE CHANGERS! OMG loved this article, love you Allison!

  113. Karen T. says...

    Well, she is gorgeous!

  114. Tovah says...

    Love, love, love! This post made me wish for two things:
    1) That those tight v-neck t-shirts from the 80’s come back in style, like Allison’s mom is rocking;
    2) That I had a little gap between my front teeth!!! It’s so adorable. (I hope this doesn’t come across as creepy-!)

  115. Cait says...

    “We’re just on different wavelengths about this, and we have several conversations about it” ? love it

  116. Sophia F. says...

    I’m a white woman with coarse curly hair and learned about sleep bonnets from the POC on Reddit’s curly hair forum and they were transformative. I thought I’d get crap from my husband – mine is bright orange and definitely not my color; I look like a pumpkin – but he finally admitted that he LOVES the bonnet because he doesn’t get a face full of bushy hair in bed! Ya never know until you try :)

  117. Michelle says...

    “She always cared way more about my work and autonomy than she did my love life. I’ll get shit at family get-togethers about when I’m gonna get a man and have a kid, and my mom totally brushes that off.”

    I know you already know this but your mother is awesome!

  118. Allison is so cool and gorgeous, love this!

  119. Kate says...

    I love PP’s Instagram so so much, and I love getting to see one of the amazing people behind their social media!! Thank you for what you do! And also, thanks for the blush/round face tip, I’m taking that one to heart as soon as I have any reason to put on makeup.

  120. Barbara says...

    This was such a lovely interview! Thank you for featuring Allison and her mama!

  121. Heather Ailes says...

    Love this beauty uniform! And THANK YOU, ALLISON, for fighting the good fight at Planned Parenthood!

    • I absolutely loved this interview! I love your mom, and you, Allison! Your work is amazing and I absolutely loved the lessons you’ve learned from your “first feminist” around autonomy and work! Reading your interview made me feel like I was sitting on a cozy sun porch during golden hour. It radiates and I’m keeping your last line with me always! “I try to be radical everyday now.” Also gonna have to try the blush trick if I never get the hang of contour haha! I have a round face too! And Glossier needs a go too, after hearing your thoughts about it!

  122. Elle says...

    YASSSSSS to everything Allison says!!!!! Love her, love this, love this blog!

  123. AMK says...

    OMG what a beautiful person and what a beautiful post! Queen Latifah! Ah I just recently created a playlist of my youth and added this song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8cHxydDb7o

    And Allison’s mom! I have two kids and I will let them know what I do for myself. I love that!

    And matching bonnets! OMG. Yes! Amazing.

  124. Allyson says...

    She’s gorgeous! NARS Blush is amazing. And as a marketer who is SO OVER social media, it’s nice to read about how she pivoted to something that felt deeper to her.

  125. Amy says...

    Oh my gosh what a beautiful woman! And such important work! That picture with the green dress, Allison, you are absolutely glowing! I did not know bonnets were a thing — I am white, but my toddler son has super curly hair that gets tangled af every night while he sleeps. There might be a bonnet in his near future :)

    • Abesha1 says...

      My curly, long haired brown boy’s hair life improved immensely when I started putting it in a pony on top or his head at night (some people call it a pineapple) . Then in the morning, cream and a little water to refresh the curls… voila. Worlds of change on wash day, too.

  126. Cici says...

    Thank you for your work with Planned Parenthood!!

    Your mother is so beautiful, she looks full-hearted and tough and also kind of nerdy… someone I would like for a friend.

  127. Mariella says...

    I loved this post so much! Thank you for the reminder to show my own daughters to do things for me! I want to be the first feminist example for them! Much love to you and your mama!

  128. Debi says...

    “ I try to be radical every day now”, I love this! You are beautiful! And, thank you for the work you do at Planned Parenthood—it is so important!

  129. CS says...

    Allison, thank you for your work at Planned Parenthood. We appreciate you…and your very cool style.

  130. Kelli says...

    This was everything I needed! From the amazing mom (I want to be) to the truth about bonnets (lol’ing at the times I’ve taken the relationship step of wearing a bonnet in front of a new boyfriend) to the reminder of the summer sun that will come, pandemic or not. Also the reminder to read Such a Fun Age, a book that’s been on my list since I first heard about it a few months ago. Thank you for this bright spot in the day!

  131. Amy says...

    Love the part about them both wearing bonnets to bed!

  132. Babs says...

    LOL at the biggest bonnet possible. I felt so calm after reading this.

  133. Jessica says...

    This was such a lovely post! I love the comment about acceptance. For me, approaching 40 has also felt like a magical time in this regard. I’ve always had a body that was considered conventionally beautiful, thin and athletic. But like most women, I was still full of insecurity. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve put on weight, lost so much of my muscle tone, and two pregnancies has left me full of permanent stretch marks, stretched out scrambled egg boobs, and a squidginess that’s not going away. And yet, I feel better about myself now than when I was at my so-called “peak”. There’s a real beauty in getting older that I can now fully appreciate.

    Also, why were there no photos of these bonnets???

    • Kelli says...

      I relate to “scrambled egg boobs” so hard!

  134. Michelle T says...

    This one made me tear up! Allison, you’re so cool! The kind of woman I want to be, and be friends with. And your mom sounds awesome. Thanks for sharing. Sending love from Toronto.

  135. Agnès says...

    Thank you so much for this post, it was such a relief to read! first, it is nicely written, and then, it’s taking our reality into consideration without forgetting the lightness that we need… I would totally wear a bonnet in winter (more of a hat really); you sound like a very genuine and fun person Allison. I love what you write about summer! I day dream of summer every day right now…
    I’m so grateful for this blog!

  136. M says...

    Your bae wears a bonnet and that is so cute!

  137. M says...

    Thank you for your important and badass work for Planned Parenthood!

  138. Gill F. says...

    Oh my gosh I’m in love ? what an amazing, fierce, badass lady!

    • Sara says...

      Thank you for linking to Bookshop! It’s so important that we support small businesses ♥️