By the lovely Grace Farris.
P.S. A sixty-second way to feel good and ways to say I love you.
By the lovely Grace Farris.
P.S. A sixty-second way to feel good and ways to say I love you.
re deodorant… we don’t actually need it!
I stopped using deo 3 years ago. Stank for a week, then the body adjusts and you just smell like yourself :)
Dr. Farris, I can’t thank you enough for all you are doing. I tear up just thinking about your bravery and care and skill. What we all do without people like you? You are a treasure. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. ps I love the title of this cartoon!
This is the most perfect thing…
My youngest daughter (my baby!) is due the middle of April. I am so worried and heartsick for what she might go through alone. Tears are falling so fast…. Thoughts and prayers and best wishes to all of you out there, no matter your reality at this scary time.
That last one made me tear up. Currently pregnant and so uncertain about how this is all going to go. I love Grace.
Andrea, What a lovely idea! My Dad does have a huge gaggle of friends, all of whom would be willing to hold up a sign for us or place one in his window. Thank you for the suggestion. I hope all is well w/ your loved ones.
Molly, Thank you for your enthusiasm! Be safe out there!!
And, Eliza— I’m definitely going to relay your birthday greetings to him; he’ll be thrilled! I hope all is well in Vancouver.
I’m a nurse-midwife in Pa and the last one punched me in the gut. It’s a dark time for us all, but I actually find that being on L&D for my shifts is the brightest time for me. With all of the fear and uncertainty and pain in this upside down time, on our floor, life marches on and humanity’s resilience is on full, joyful display. To all mamas and mamas to be – sending you lots of love.
Yes, it’s been a time for us midwives to really appreciate the joy in what we do. I had my first experience with a mom who tested positive giving birth, and it was incredibly hard for everyone involved. I was holding back tears after catching her baby in a space suit blowing air in my face, then having to immediately hand over her perfectly healthy baby to be taken away to a separate room. It’s just not really possible to provide much comfort to a new mom who’s all alone, not even allowed to have her partner with her, shocked and terrified by what she just experienced. There’s going to be generational trauma.
Can we get an extra special shout out to Dr. Farris, who is a doctor in NYC helping COVID patients, while also making these kickass comics for us all to appreciate?? I am in awe.
Agreed! And she’s so positive on Instagram. A great follow.
yes!!!! she’s amazing.
Oh, wow!! I just realized what you meant by Dr. Farris being the cartoonist!! Yes, she’s absolutely amazing!!! Impressively talented and an impressive human being! Maybe CupofJo could do some kind of interview with her after all of this, and we can all write messages to her?
31 weeks pregnant and can’t stop thinking about how my family and friends won’t get to hold my sweet new baby :(
FaceTime just isn’t the same for this one!
A lot can happen in 9 weeks, you never know! Certainly not by Easter, though.
Best wishes for a healthy end of pregnancy!
36 weeks and worrying right along with you! Hoping for both our sakes that our children will be the bright spot in this unsettling time.
33 weeks right here – my family and friends aren’t my main concern tbh. husband is having a really hard time with the possibility of not being around for the birth :-( and that’s if we all stay healthy!
The shift from “social media is making us depressed” to “social media is what will keep us from depression” is giving me whiplash.
I’m 23 weeks pregnant right now and have both a cousin and a best friend due any day now. This one got me in the feels. Thanks for the good cry – I needed that release. Much love to all of you right now.
Stay strong Kristen! I’m also pregnant (19 weeks) and my SIL just had her baby 2 weeks ago and my friend is due this weekend! We can make it through and our babies will be strong just like us :)
My sister is also 23ish weeks pregnant! My heart hurts that I can’t be with her. Wishing you all the best!
Upside of isolation is that no one sees me bawling in response to this.
In the last week, I’ve experienced two of these. We celebrated my friend’s 40th, virtually last Saturday. Tuesday, my sister had a baby.
I’ve been holding it together since the outset, but today, I’m losing it. I’m mad that people (and by people, I mean the govt. and citizens alike) didn’t take the virus seriously and there is no end in site. I’m mad that so many people are out of jobs. I’m sad that so many milestones and events are put on hold. I’m even sadder for all the people who have the virus and those taking caring for them.
I also opened this post and started bawling. I’m an emergency nurse in Canada and went into see my first really sick Covid patient last night looking just like the picture above I reached to open the patients door and a paramedic looked at me and said “You got this.”
Thank you so much for the work you do!! Not sure where in Canada you are, but I’m in BC and at 7pm every night people in many neighbourhoods have been going outside and cheering, banging pots and pans, to show their appreciation for those working on the front lines in healthcare. It’s so heart warming. Wishing you good health and lots of moral support!
To Dr. Farris and all the healthcare workers—words fail. You are in my thoughts and prayers daily. I pray for your protection, and that you would have strength for this task, that you would have courage and perseverance. I pray for your safety and that each day something brings you hope as you provide hope to all of us who depend on you so much. Thank you.
My beloved sister is seven months pregnant and she’s constantly in my thoughts. These comments struck a chord. Thinking of and praying for of all you mommas (or soon to be mommas) out there.
She and I turned 40 yesterday. It was a number I dreaded months ago. Now I see how silly that was, dreading a number. It was so touching to receive so many texts, emails, phone calls, a toilet paper delivery (!), and “air hugs” from family and friends, coworkers and even an ex. What a blessing to be 40. I will never complain about a birthday again. Each year is a gift and each day too.
My dear father is turning 70 on Wednesday, April 1st and he was recently placed in a nursing facility temporarily to have twice daily physical therapy. We had big plans for his 70th, but now won’t be able to see him since we’re all on lockdown. My husband and I live in Philadelphia and my Dad is in southern Delaware. He’s mentioned his birthday a few times and it is literally breaking my heart. (He doesn’t fully comprehend what’s going on.) What hurts even more is absolutely no one can visit him. No one. On a funny note, he’s been entertaining himself by watching “Keeping Up with the Kardashians.” (So not his norm.) So, thank you for posting this. As much as I don’t want anyone else to feel the sadness I’m feeling, it does help to know we’re all going through this together. Wishing everyone great health and happiness. Let’s all plow through this uncertainty and come out shining. xo
My parents are in a similar situation and nursing facilities have been at the top of my mind recently. Sending love to you and your father, and wishing him a very happy 70th birthday <3
I wonder if a local reader could take a sign for his window from you all?!?
Happy birthday to your dad! Let him know people in different parts of the world will be thinking of him on his birthday thanks to this little post! (I’m on Vancouver Island, BC). I hope enough people click through and see Andrea’s suggestion and someone might be able to wave to him through a window <3
Andrea, what a lovely suggestion. Lauren, say yes!
G, I hope your parents get thru this w/ flying colors and that you can see them very soon— what a heartache! Thank you for the birthday wishes for my Dad. I’ll certainly tell him.
Oh, that last illustration got me… I am a doula in San Francisco, and it’s been me on the other end of that phone for some of my clients in the last weeks. It’s heartbreaking and tough, but it has also been the most amazing display of determination, self belief and empowerment from these amazing women. They just rolled up their sleeves and did it. Even though they were scared, even though these times are not how they planned their pregnancies and births to be. I’m so proud of them.
My husband and I just welcomed our 3rd child Monday morning and feel like no delivery has ever gone according to plan. Congrats to your clients who find such success and sorry to be the skeptic, but I have realized that childbearing has been a complete process of recognizing my own limitations, the need to trust experts, and letting go of certain expectations. My recovery with this child has been so much easier, but the uncontrollable part this time was the environment and community circumstances. Still I feel so grateful. Parenting is just not perfect and for me, pregnancy/delivery has been an initiation into that reality (especially as an engineer).
Excuse me while I bawl my eyes out, again!
It’s particularly poignant because I believe that Dr. Farris (a hospitalist in New York City) is self-isolating to protect her family, so she is facetime-ing her own young kids every day instead of seeing them – which seems like torture to me. And yet here she is giving us all a reason to feel tender good things.
She really is an entire gem of a human.
Agreed! I noticed that too and it takes a special human to recognize this and to comment on it. So thank you~
God, this just puts it all into perspective. I’ve been feeling so sorry for myself this week. It’s just self-indulgence on my part. I know I am privileged beyond belief, but it takes something like this to remind me how lucky I am. I’m not sick. I get to cuddle my kids every night. I have food and a home, even if I’m sick of these four walls right now. Dr Farris, you’re the wake up call I needed.
All the feelings. Thank you!
Beautiful. 8 months pregnant and this makes my heart ache.
Hearts for this.
Plus, a walk down memory lane.
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