Talking About Sex

this is SO realistic and lovely. kudos!

Forgive me if this is a repeat comment, but it struck me that the only motivation behind using a condom that they mention is not wanting to get pregnant versus mentioning STDs. I get that they can’t turn this sexy clip into a sex-ed class, but I did notice that. And that’s truthfully where I’d be thinking myself, but it sort of relates back to the pet peeve about TV not promoting/showing safe sex in a way.

Part 2: I think if there was a series about married sex and they had only slept with each other because they’d waited, I’d be interested and open to perhaps seeing what the dynamics of that relationship were like in the sack….that’s not the road I took (sorry Mom) but different POVs can be fascinating.

OMG! Joanna, I cannot believe people criticised you for this. How puritanical! I know everyone is entitled to their opinion, but people refusing to read your blog because of thi!. Those who waited to get married and said it was the best thing…..well how would they know it was the best thing if they haven’t tried the other? I have had very loving relationships and I have never been married. I find the negative comments really righteous and extreme. But then again, I am not American, and as they say in the rest of the world, “only in America”.
We need to educate young girls, so we need this. Not only young girls, but a doctor friend told me that there are a lot of post menopausal women contracting STIs.
First time commenting after years of reading. I love your blog but it is pretty safe. You are an intelligent woman and could write on more controversial topics, but I guess some readers might find that too much.
It’s a pity people don’t want to be challenged. Then again, I don’t regard this clip as that challenging. It would be shown in sex ed in my country, yet your country has much higher rates of teen pregnancy.
As we watch what’s going on over there regarding the election etc, it would be so great to have intelligent commentary on that as well as the gorgeous posts on food and clothes. You have a good mind and it’s a pity we don’t see more of it.

LOVE this! It’s so realistic! Fun, funny, safe and with no power play. Unfortunately my husband is on a work trip now….

I did a lot of work with rape and sexual assault counseling in college and would have died to have this as a teaching tool. We did a whole campaign around the totally realistic, true idea of “Consent as Sexy”. It can be! This video is funny and charming and sexy all while ensuring that both partners are 100% percent on the same page. Brilliant!

I liked this video, too! Very sexy and real. I do want to give a shout out for pregnancy prevention method like an IUD or a contraceptive implant to be used along with the condom (to protect from STD’s). The IUD and the implant are called LARC (long-acting reversible contraception) and they constitute the current gold standard in contraception. ACOG (American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists) classes LARC as “first-line” contraceptive options. As in, doctors are advised to discuss them with patients first- before any other contraception methods. The idea is that LARC aren’t user dependent like other birth control methods and are therefore many, many, many times more effective in preventing unwanted pregnancy. With LARC, woman can “set it and forget it”. It turns out that the old standbys like the pill and condoms don’t have such great real- life effectiveness ratings. Hey, come to think of it, I think an article on LARC would be quite interesting to Cup of jo readers!!!

This is the best!! Actually wish I had resources like this when I was dating.

Love this!!!

ahahaha the goofiness is so real! Buttons, bra clasps and co. are the enemies!

yes, yes!

Like whoa I’m way better at this than I thought

that was awesome!