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Winter Survival Guide: Write a Love Letter

Last week, we talked about creating a winter survival guide, where we do a fun thing every week to get us through these dark days.

First up: Write a love letter. The twist? It doesn’t have to be romantic—you could write one to your mom, a close friend, anyone you love.

So often I’m hanging out with friends and looking across the table thinking how brilliant they are, and how their skin is glowing, and how hilarious it is when they work hashtags into regular conversation…but it doesn’t always occur to me to actually say anything. Now that it’s winter, when everyone needs a pick-me-up, let’s just tell each other.

Will you do it? Who will you write to?

The sort-of good news: Only eight weeks left until spring!

P.S. Six more fun challenges, if you’re in the mood.
P.P.S. And while we’re at it, you’re a good mama.

(Comic by Gemma Correll)

  1. Beautiful idea. Done!

  2. We usually ask our clients at Apartment Diet to write a love letter to their home…to start a practice of gratitude (as research is showing this is one of the things that leads to happiness!). So, if you can’t write one to a person … :-)

    http://www.apartmentdiet.com

  3. This was such a great exercise. I wrote a love email (it counts as a letter, right?) to my husband. It was not overly romantic or serious. Just a note listing out 5 reasons why I love him. We get so busy in our every day lives that I really don’t stop and tell him “I love you” and “thank you” enough. He is traveling for work and was so surprised to receive that email. I could tell it really made his day.

  4. Writing a letter, love or not, is always a great idea. But I have to ask you, Joanna: why do you hate Winter that way? I know, it’s cold an freeze.. but it is not so bad… it cannot be always Spring, it would be boring at the end.
    I was born on January 4th, maybe I am a little partial, haha :)

  5. i’ve actually been thinking of writing letters to close friends who live abroad and to my sister, nephew and niece, who live in another part of the country (portugal isn’t so big, but still i don’t see them that often), so yes, i think i’ll do it! :)
    i also usually do compliment people a lot, when i see that glow, when they have a new sweatshirt that makes their eyes pop… it’s really nice to do it and to be the object of it too, it’s definitely worth the effort! :)

  6. What a lovely idea! I love writing letters, but I haven’t written one to some of my friends in ages so this is good motivation to start writing more. I think I’ll write to my dear friend Arlette in California and maybe to my old best friend from high school because we haven’t talked much since she left. I’m excited!

  7. I’m so glad you re-linked to the “you’re a good mom” post! I read it when you first posted and I have used it so many times. I’ve worked it into conversations with all of my new mom friends and my sisters and it has made such an impact (I’m 31 and half the people I know are in that super awkward adult-but-not-sure-we’re-adults-yet-phase)! I always try to work it in during particularly rough moments and I’ve had people come back to me and say- you know what… I really needed that. Such wonderful advice- thank you! :)

  8. I’m going to write some to the women in my family. My mom, my sisters, my aunt, and my cousin. I think every single one of them could use the boost.

    What a great idea!

  9. Eight weeks seems so far away right now. I love the idea of writing a non-romantic love letter, perfect for this time of year!

    http://www.mintnotion.com

  10. We take vacations during cold weather to escape – gives us something to look forward to and a nice break. Hello sunshine!

  11. I’m sick of winter. It’s been winter here since the end of October basically. Ugggggh.

  12. Last week a very close friend turned 30.
    A mutual friend of ours organized a situation in which THIRTY of her closest friends were to write her a love letter, letting her know how covered in love she is.
    I tell you, this pumped her up like I’ve never seen in all of my life. And it occurred to me that so rarely do we really express the depth and specificity of our love to those closest to us. And we really, really should.

  13. I love this idea. I started writing a letter to my 4 month old daughter, every so often, because she does so many sweet little things, and I worry that if I don’t make a note of them, I will forget..

    http://bforbetula.blogspot.co.uk

    B
    x

  14. Great recommendation! Leading gratitude researchers have found that writing letters like this really DOES boost happiness. So cool. There is something to the old proverb that says, “whoever refreshes others will be refreshed”!

  15. I think my my husband could definitely use a little pick-me-up these days, as I spend all of my free time writing to my illiterate two year-old over at http://www.dearevangeline.com . Thanks for this simple, but wonderful idea!

  16. Oh my gosh, the hashtag skit was hilarious!

  17. I’d write a love letter to my friend who I think is such an awesome member of society, an awesome friend, an awesome person period. I don’t think she realizes how awesome she is and every time I see her I’m always thankful that I have the privilege of being her friend. Whether or not I actually give her that letter is a different matter though. Would I be too creepy? Or is that exactly what she needs? Ehh… -Audrey | Brunch at Audrey’s

  18. I literally just returned from the post box where I sent off five love notes to friends at home in Ireland (I’m in California). Being homesick, anxious and a little bit sad is eased slightly by making meaningful connection with home. Serendipitous posting Joanna!

  19. Such a fun challenge! With so much Valentine’s inspiration going on right now, I’m all about this!

  20. Yup, will do tonight. I don’t know to whom yet -so many options! So maybe I’ll write a few :)

  21. I am so excited at the prospect of writing a love letter. I haven’t written one in ages.Gives me that wonderful butterfly feeling just thinking about it!

    clementinebuttercup.blogspot.co.uk

  22. I am going to bookmark this and save it for my Summer Survival Guide! 4+ months of 100+ degree heat can be depressing, too! It’s 70 in Austin today but by September I’ll be in tears from the heat.

  23. You should check out Post a Letter Social Activity Club!

    http://pal-sac.com/

    It began a couple of years ago, spread to multiple cities in multiple countries, and I was lucky enough to organize the Copenhagen club for some time. Such a great, great way to motivate yourself to write once a month, in the cosy company of others! I really love the idea.