On Authenticity: Tell Us Something True.

When I was a new mother, I went through something difficult. For a while, I wasn’t sure if I wanted to talk about it on the blog, but my mom, who has always been a huge champion of “authenticity,” emailed me recently to say this…

“It seems to me that being authentic is being brave enough or just candid enough to be honest about what you are experiencing or who you are, whether it is popular are not. A person gives a gift to other people when they say, ‘This is what happened to me or this is how I truly feel, no matter what the popular belief is about what I should feel.’ Whenever you are honest, you are speaking for a thousand silent people who don’t have the voice to say what they really feel or are really experiencing. So, if you ever talk about [the thing you went through], you will touch a million hearts. Because you are speaking for more than just yourself. You are never alone in what you are feeling. I love you.”

So, I will share my story on Monday, even though it gives me butterflies. I thought my mom’s words were so beautiful, and I want to always remember them. xoxo

Would you want to share something true about yourself? Something little, something big? Something that makes you happy, something that worries you? Whatever you want, as long as it is true. :)

Here are a few of mine, in the meantime:
* I have old-lady undereye wrinkles.
* I’m scared of elevators.
* I don’t know how to accessorize with belts.
* I’m sensitive to criticism.
* I always think I’m going to choke when I eat pears.
* I get super cranky when people talk too loudly.

Until Monday… xoxoxoxo (Update: Here’s the Monday post)

(Painting by Jessie Willcox Smith)

  1. I am afraid of judgment. Which has made it hard for me to start my blog. I haven’t told anyone close to me about it yet (except for my boyfriend that I live with). I am holding out until I get that “brave” moment.


  2. This is such a loveliest post I have read ever.
    I like to read this post.
    and the “my srory on Monday” post was also awesome.

  3. jb says...

    This post is very inspiring, you’re doing a good thing here.

    My truth: I’ve had social anxiety and really bad panic attacks for 9 years now. It upsets me to think about how long it’s been because it’s so unbearable to live like this for one more minute. But I do it, pull through, sometimes alright, and other times feeling like there’s really no way out. Talking about it with family is just annoying everybody so I prefer to keep it to myself now.
    Reading blogs sometimes makes me feel worse because of the comparison I make against my sad life (ie. frame of mind) (as you said, my life is pretty great, but it doesn’t feel that way). It’s really great to hear about real experiences from people you admire, and humanize them a bit more, feel more connected.

    You are connecting people. Thank you

  4. Anonymous says...

    Yay for authenticity! It is the only way to go. I think that even blogs with beautiful pictures and tales of great travels (although they are so fun) can make life seem too good to be true. I love authentic people and I try to be one, warts and all. And I’m curvy too, and belts make me look like a cartoon or someone on Mad Men.

  5. Ne says...

    I can’t believe I married a selfish idiot; and I can’t believe everyone around me is being so loving and supportive about my separation. But even so, I wish it was over already.

  6. You are the best, joanna. So authentic with what you share with us. I love this post & I loved what you wrote on monday.

  7. That is a beautiful quote from your mom. I really admire your authenticity Joanna!

  8. I love that your mom said this to you bc it’s so true. Your story today was sad and beautiful and brave. I think so many women suffer through it.

    and, as you know, my story that I never shared was about my infertility, which I somehow was able to finally share here.

    Do you feel worlds away from that dark place where you were? Isn’t it amazing to look back at it and feel sad that you went through it but proud that you somehow survived it? thank you so much for sharing it and helping so many people to feel that they are not alone. xx

  9. If you don’t feel like posting all of your secrets after all of this – we won’t judge you! I enjoy reading all of your blog posts! No matter what you do – I’m positive you will have a lot of support from all of your followers!!

    To continue on the wave of support:
    1. I have anxiety attacks and get confused as to whether I’m actually sick and about to drop dead or if it’s just anxiety.99% of the time it’s just anxiety!
    2. I have a desire to travel and move to new cities – but I’m scared to make the move incase I lose my long time boyfriend
    3. I’m 25 this year and still don’t have my drivers licence…
    4. I’m jealous of my 14 year old sister and think she’s more fashionable, popular and intelligent than me – but I love her!

  10. Absolutely, be proud of being authentic, with reality TV, superficial people and everyone trying to outdo everyone else, being Authentic and true is much more “Chique”. Thanks for the inspirational thoughts. Speaking of authentic…check out my blog…would love your thoughts.

  11. You can do it, Joanna! Whatever it is, I’ll bet you’re not alone.

  12. I have rarely been authentic because I never want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Recently, I’ve tried to be more authentic/honest – it’s really hard. :(

  13. K says...

    I have a big dream. I’m very afraid it won’t come true. So I’m trying very hard to reach it, even if I end up looking like a fool. Still, I’m afraid my efforts will not be enough.
    I’m hoping God is on my side-I know He is in a way, but I’ve lost contact and don’t know if this is what He wants.

    I also have a lot of dreams about the world’s kinda cool because it feels like I’m watching a movie, but I get worried and scared – especially for my family.

    I strongly hate that my acne is not going away. I’ve had it forever and sometimes just never want to go out and cry at home. It’s my worst physical insecurity and the origin of my low self esteem. I feel like I’d be pretty without it. I’m hoping the medicine I’m taking will finally work.

    I do want to find love and my soulmate, but I don’t really want to get married. Perhaps this feeling will change, but the fact of living with a guy scares me. Sometimes I think I’d rather live with my sister the rest of my life, because she’s the best.

    I’ve never told anyone about what I wrote above.

    My hair is one color but I found a striped hair on my head!

    I got a pixie cut and love it. But I wish I could switch back and forth from my lush wavy long hair to the uber comfortable and cool pixie cut.

    I bought Smith’s rosebud salve because of the post on here, and love it! I like this blog and never had much courage to comment til your post and quote, which I love.

    Ice cream always fascinates me. Every time I eat it, it’s like I”m eating it for the first time.

  14. Anonymous says...

    I am one hundred percent in love with someone I can’t have now.

  15. You are adorably authentic.
    I also get cranky when people talk to loudly esp. on cell phones! Also when I’m criticized I feel it physically, like someone has hit me in the stomach, and I have to take deep breaths and rationally talk myself out of a crying fit. Oh to be sensitive.
    Hope you had a good weekend.

  16. Anonymous says...

    Can’t wait to read the post!

  17. Anonymous says...

    i feel like i’ve let myself down. and that none of my dreams will ever come true and i practise just soldiering on.

  18. What beautifully wise words from your mother. I completely agree with her that even though you may feel alone, the truth is, in sharing your story you are speaking for all those that can’t. What a noble endeavor.

    Something true:
    I worry that living abroad we’ll miss the chance for my son to know my parents, and it breaks my heart because I think the world of my parents. But I love where we live and I don’t want to move back to the states.

  19. I also get SO cranky and grumpy when people talk too loudly, or play loud music, or shut doors loudly, especially at night.

  20. I’ve been in and out of the process of writing a (another) personal story to share on my blog… knowing very well some people aren’t going to love the idea of it. Your moms words could not have been better to describe how I feel about honesty, story-telling, and just why I blog in general. Perfect.

  21. I want to be a writer, specifically a playwright very badly, but my lack of confidence terrifies me and keeps me from picking up a pen when I know I should.

  22. Anonymous says...

    Your post on authenticity really hit home for me. I’m currently in school for art therapy and the ideas of authenticity and genuineness are constantly brought up. It can be so difficult (and at times controversial) to share something personal but it’s so true that it can be worth it if it helps someone else. Looking forward to your Monday post!

  23. My first daughter was stillborn. And 3.5 years later, I still don’t know how to answer the question, “how many children do you have?”. It catches me off guard every.single.time. I like talking about her, but never know if/when it’s appropriate for people I’ve just met.

  24. the reason that I have almost no female friends is this lack of authenticity (or, honesty as I view it). if I’m having a bad day i will say it, if I’m having a tough time I will say it. It doesn’t give me any increased feeling of self worth to think that I am making someone else feel less than they should be, so I find it hard to fathom why other women act this way. I don’t like to deal with the bitterness that can then arise from these ‘friendships’ when a woman’s supposed perfect life implodes in some way – I never ask or expect people to live perfect lives, i don’t! so why is it then somehow my fault that your faux life has imploded?

    I don’t think that women can be honest and kind to each other, because no matter what they talk, the walk is always another matter, and everything comes down to appearances (of life, of self, of relationships), and how they want to be perceived.

    so I have space in my life no longer for this sham of women backing each other, because in my experience it unfortunately is not genuine.

  25. For me, I believe I have one of the strongest consciences out there. I recently was chatting with this guy online, contemplating whether or not we should meet up in person, and see where things might go. The moment he laid out plans, my stomach reacted, and I was sick for over a day. It gave me the opportunity to realize things were going too fast and I wasn’t really sure about his character. A day later, I found out some unflattering things about him, and was so glad I decided to not meet the guy after all.

  26. Looking forward to reading on Monday.

    My secret things are also the wrinkles, that I worry my boobs are dropping, that I’m terrible at maths, that I worry I will never find love, that I worry about everything!

  27. Anonymous says...

    My bf is a strict vegetarian and I eat everything. I get frustrated sometimes he doesn’t share my love of seafood and meat.

  28. And….this is why I love your blog. You’re authentic. So many of the blogs I read (and have stopped reading) show only beautiful images and perfect families – and the don’t make people feel good, they make people feel as if they are less than. You’ve inspired me to test every one of my own blog posts against the “realness factor.” Thanks so much for the inspiration!

  29. My friend was blogging about this a few weeks ago, being authentic and how she hates when she clicks on blogs and it’s a totally flawless life that’s being shown. It’s generally not that interesting. If you are ready and willing to share this thing you’re talking about we will look forward to reading it. Everything you write will provoke a reaction but the way you write your blog I’d say at least 90% of people here are supportive and your Mom is right about speaking out for those who feel the same but don’t have a platform to say it on. xox

  30. Your mother is absolutely right…but it takes courage! You’re making yourself vulnerable. But even though people may criticize or even being very insulting to you. You will always find the sympathy and affirmation of people who recognize truthful authenticity. trying to please everyone will only work so long, trying to be as true as possible will pay off for the rest of your life with worthwhile friends, experiences and choices …
    It sounds so logic and simple but I still struggle with it every day…And find great inspiration in people who make do so.

  31. Anonymous says...

    Truth is what will set us free so kudos for opening up the floor to this topic.

    I play against my instinct more often than not. When I know I shouldn’t be doing it, I still do and always end up finding myself in bad (yet sometimes funny) situations.

  32. This is such a great post.
    I’m afraid that my writing is not good enough. I started a blog to help me through it. It’s okay to be afraid of things, as long as you try and keep growing:)

  33. Anonymous says...

    I don’t get belts either. I love them on other people but I think I’m too curvy to wear them in a flattering way.

  34. Love this Joanna and admire your strength and humbleness. I am a career counselor at a small private college in the midwest and facilitate trainings on personal branding, networking and such. Love this quote and thought you might enjoy it too.
    “This opportunity for innovation to flourish and for talent to shine will only reach its full potential if connectedness is based on authenticity, depth and continuity.” Lucy P Marcus

  35. Hey Joanna! I know we dont know what you are going to write about on Monday, but I read this article yesterday and I loved it. Thought you might like it as well!

    My Something True: I am at the same time a people pleaser and a true introvert. So much so that I recently had a pretty serious anxiety attack. I am in my mid-twenties and still learning how to say no and take care of myself.

  36. I think this is my most favorite post.

    My ex husband just divorced me recently – and I am crushed to the bones. In my country, it is a shame, a taboo to talk about divorce especially when it is your own, but I find that writing is my only outlet. So I write how I feel – how after all these years I was in love with him and how I could not figure out how this happened. People were saying I should not go public and write about these things, but writing is my only outlet and I was expressing myself, in a way I thought would not hurt anybody.

  37. Those are very wise words. I agree that sharing difficult things are important as they show other people that may be experiencing the same things that they are not alone. That is so SO important and very brave :)

  38. I love this post!

    I made a New Years resolution to start blogging, and I have really been enjoying it. However, I have been to scared to share it with people outside my inner circle. This inspires me to try and reach out to others.

    It’s like Dr. Suess says, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

    So, here’s my little truth :)

    Thanks for the inspiration!

  39. Anonymous says...

    your mom sounds amazing. i hope i can be like her to my daughter.

  40. Oh, Joanna, what a lovely post. Your mother has quite a way with words. And with truth. I think her words speak to the core of authentic blogging (as opposed to cutesy “look at how great my life is and how much fun I’m having” blogging). For a long time, I felt like I had to fall into the latter category– to showcase how great everything was– and it never felt true to me.

    When you speak with your own voice, with your true thoughts, people will hear you, whether they agree or not. I’ve just recently decided to start writing more about my life and dealing with anxiety/depression, because it’s the blogs whose writers talk candidly about these things that have helped me through some of the hardest times!

    Being real can be scary, but you have so many readers who love and support you. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story with us on Monday. Banish the butterflies!

  41. AJ says...

    My truths:

    – Being a mother is the hardest thing I have ever done. For me, this is because it is so out of my control and something that I cannot research and plan my way through. I could list the things I’ve done that seem challenging, but really, the selflessness required of being a mom is just the most difficult part about it for me.
    – I love dessert, but if I eat too much sugar before bedtime I wake up feeling hungover. Sometimes I do it anyways, knowing I’ll feel awful, because I want to.
    – I am awful in the morning when woken up too early. Really awful. I fake a smile with my daughter because I don’t want her to think its her fault I am a crankypants.
    – I check out what other people are wearing obsessively. I’m not the most stylish dresser, mostly due to lack of income and creative energy. However, I people watch like the world is my personal glossy magazine.
    – I hate hearing and seeing bugs in my house. I love being outside and don’t mind bugs when I am out. But in my house, I want a bug free zone.

    Yay for authenticity! Thank you for being open with your life on your blog. I agree with your mother completely.

    This is why I find literature so inspiring. When someone else expresses your feelings, it frees you to trust they are valid and, more importantly, you are not alone.

  42. Stephanie says...

    What an amazing mom. In my opinion she’s spot on!! No one ever needs to be ashamed of the truth.

    I have something difficult to say, particularly as this is a motherhood post. My truth is that I’ve never wanted to be a mother. I’m in my 40s now and I knew this even at the age of 10. I love being an auntie and a friend, a sister and a daughter, a granddaughter, a lover to a wonderful man, a volunteer, etc. etc., but when I leave other people’s children I always have a skip in my step and feel that I’ve made a “great and daring escape” from biological destiny. The difficulty with a truth like this, however, is that people who have children are often reluctant to allow me to have this truth. A great many pejoratives are assigned to women like me. I’ve been aided by meeting somewhat older women whose children are now raised who have told me that if they had it to do over again they wouldn’t have kids.

    It’s a difficult truth that everyone’s experience in life is different, and motherhood is an incredibly loaded topic. I’m really happy for people who have kids and for whom motherhood is the end-all experience, and I also think it’s great when women are able to speak out about all of the realities of that experience, good and bad. It would be difficult to imagine such a difficult job not being full of trials; I have so much respect for those doing that tough job of parenting. Good luck, Joanna!

  43. Anonymous says...

    Thanks for this post!

    I love my husband and my family but I often wish I had more alone time. When I was single, every once in a while I took a weekend to just be alone- to read, drink coffee, watch movies. I’d go a whole day, or two, without hearing my own voice and it rejuvenated me. I miss it, but I also feel guilty for missing it because if I ever lost the people I love I think I’d regret saying it! But it’s true- sometimes I just want peace and quiet and some time to think about nothing but me.

  44. I get scared when I’m in an empty swimming pool, apparently the monster under my bed just moved to the swimming pool as I got older!

  45. S says...


    My fears:

    – I’m afraid that when I’m done changing into the person I’ll be ‘for the rest of my life’, I won’t know who I was in the beginning and the things that mattered to me and who I wanted to be. That I won’t be happy with the person I become.
    – That I won’t achieve my dreams and that failure to succeed wil determine my identity. Because dreams are such a big part of my identity now.
    – That even in a few years when I am out of med school and practicing and maybe I’ll be married with a family and distant from those I once shared my life with (in youth) — that I won’t be able to stop remembering or let go of my first love. That’ll I’ll keep loving and thinking about how my love wasn’t enough, and also Bon Iver’s cover of ‘Can’t Make you Love me’.

    Thanks for the wonderful post, Jo.


  46. Caitlin says...

    Joanna, I wholeheartedly agree with what your mom wrote. I strongly believe that we are not alone in our struggles, our thoughts, or our battles. There’s often someone else (a lot of elses) that feel or are experiencing the same thing and by voicing our experience, we not only set the fear of being the only one free, but find community and affirmation with people who are going through the same thing. We are never alone in our struggles – except when we stay silent about them.

  47. Wise words and food for thoughts. it takes a lot of courage to belt out something true that eats you inside but could impact a family image or reputation. Looking forward to read you on Monday.
    have a great weekend


  48. I also used to be so awful showing off my emotions and feelings in public, I always felt so embarrassed. Not embarrassed of my boyfriend, just I was so afraid to be vulnerable in front of everyone. My current boyfriend who is such an extraordinary person has helped me so much to get over that and I feel

    Besides that I’m afraid of seals and I cannot stand when people I do not know in public places touch me or pass by really close when there is plenty of room around (must be because I come from small town where there is plenty of space for everyone and personal space and distance is highly respected)or when they hit you with the carts in shops:S

    Thanks for a great post and making people think:)

  49. Mariana says...

    Oh no! Not post-natal depression! :(

  50. Your mum is so wise. Thank you for sharing her words with us. And thank you for sharing vulnerable parts of yourself – they really matter. So many times I have felt that I am the only one that has felt a certain way, and beat myself up about it, only to find years later that friends were feeling a similar way – if only we had shared it together! I hope you feel really peaceful over the weekend as Monday approaches.

    One of my truths: Even though I love, love, love my husband, I often worry that we got married too young. I envy people who have travelled & lived on their own. I sometimes crave a chance to truly be on my own.

  51. so looking forward to reading your post on monday! i think your mom is spot on about authenticity~ and the reason why i really enjoy your blog is because you truly are authentic with your readers, it’s what makes your voice so genuine and endearing. i always enjoy checking in to see what you’ll be sharing!

    michelle from

  52. Kiera says...

    This post makes me so happy – I am so excited to read what you have to share.

    A year ago, I finally opened up about something I had been hiding for the past 7 years, and my life has been SO much easier since.

    It can be scary to tell the truth, but it is almost always worth it, you feel so much better afterwards and I think you will find the reactions of others will warm your heart :0

  53. Thank you for sharing Joanna. I’m working on authenticity too, and it’s a scary thing, especially when you’re not sure if anyone else feels that way too. Looking forward to your story, whatever it holds :)

  54. Truthfully: There are times when I miss my life and freedom before motherhood. Sometimes I am relieved that I get to go back to work come Monday. Nothing is as fulfilling as motherhood, yet on a day to day basis I find myself struggling. There, I said it! Thank you for starting the conversation:)

  55. Anonymous says...

    I am a mother to three happy, beautiful children, wife to a wonderful husband, registered nurse, home owner, decor lover, passionate, caring, strong woman that volunteers her time at drug treatment facilities. At one time, I had a drinking problem so destructive that I landed myself in Alcoholics Anonymous. Lending my voice to the women that still suffer is a gift that I am blessed to have.

  56. Wow, your mum is totally right. And she really has a way with words! I’ve been honest in my blog, and I blogged about a depression I went through just over a year ago. My moment of honesty today, though? I’m falling in love with my (male) flatmate.

  57. Anonymous says...

    I can’t stand people sneezing, especially when they make a really big deal out of it….aaaaaaaaachoooooooooooooo oooooo woooo woooooo ooooooo.
    People who eat with their mouth open=gross. I want to shout at them or give them a massive row.
    I have a massive fear of my husband dying! (Saw your post recently on that). Think it’s worse as my dad died suddenly at 39 and we are almost 36. Maybe I’ll be ok in 4 years?
    I think your doing a fabulous thing. Initially feeling dubious about talking openly on your blog, who wouldn’t, it’s such a brave thing to do, but your mother is right, such a help for so many people! She’s seems so, so lovely. Your pending post already seems to have bred so much positivity before you have even published it. Absolutely amazing, supportive, people out there : ) We are all in it together and all in the same boat in so many ways. I really admire you, well done xx

  58. Joanna,

    Thank you for sharing your mother’s words and for planning to post your own difficult story. Your mom sounds like a lovely and wise woman.

    My truth? I am 25 years old and I am fighting breast cancer. I started a blog when I was diagnosed, partly to keep my loved ones in the loop and partly because I found writing therapeutic. It took awhile for me to feel comfortable sharing such personal details, but now I know in my heart that writing is a huge part of my recovery.

    I hope you find peace and strength after you write on Monday. As always, I look forward to reading your post.


  59. jo, i loved this post very much. i am a writer too and authenticity is the JUICE of what makes writing good. but i often feel this URGE to write something, even if i don’t care if it’s good or not. i just have this NEED to write it down and press PUBLISH. those scary, vulnerable, i-shouldn’t-do-this posts are the ones that everyone loves and seems to connect with. those are the words that touch hearts.

    this happened to me when i wrote about my miscarriage at 16 weeks, even though i hadn’t even announced to the world that we were expecting. i could’ve left it between us, but something inside me burned and all the words just fell into my hands, out the keyboard and onto the screen. i rarely even read that post, though i’ve had dozens of people email me their condolences and their thanks and their ‘i’ve been there too’s’. i had no idea writing what i wrote would end up to be so comforting. to me and to them.

    keep the juices flowing, jo. be brave. it’s so worth it.

  60. This is so great – what a great mama you have! Wise words and always appreciate your authenticity.

  61. Anonymous says...

    authenticity? honesty?

    That I’ll wake up in 20 years and wish I had a kid.

    I don’t want it now.

    I don’t want it in the near future.

    But people change SO FAST.

    Scary stuff.

  62. your mum is great.
    Pour moi , il suffit qu une personne me dise qu elle aime ce que je fais , pour que cela me donne l envie de coninuer..
    your mum is right ..and thanks to her ..

  63. Anonymous says...

    I have cried during every job interview I have had. I am highly educated and very outgoing but something about interviews makes me terrified and I cry.

  64. I admire you so much for being brave enough to share something so personal with the world! Being so genuine is something I strive for in my life (and in my blog, which is a lot smaller than yours and therefore enormously less daunting). I am a devoted reader of your blog and even though I’m not married or working or even out of school yet, I find myself identifying so much with you! You seem so awesome and genuine.

  65. Your mom is a wise woman who has a way with words. I totally agree with her. I try to be authentic as possible on my blog. Can’t wait to read your Monday post!

  66. Anonymous says...

    I love you and love your blog.

  67. I love this! And your mom’s words. I love this line from your mom, “You are never alone in your feelings!” So true!!

    My small, little blog was based on that same idea. I share about my struggle with depression {even past suicide attempts} and being in recovery for drugs/alcohol. It’s not always heavy. I share what inspires, too. And like any human I have my quirks :)

    – I’m terrified of touching meat

    – I have a birthmark on my thigh that looks Australia

    – The first time I peeled an orange was this year (I’m 32)

    – I’m afraid I’ll never find true love

    I’ll be thinking about you as you write your piece! You will touch so many people!!

    I have learned a few things from sharing.

    1. People want real. Not perfect.

    2. There is a rippling affect when people are honest and courageous.

    3. It’s all worth it if I can give hope to one person.

    You are going to give people courage and hope!! Sending you love.

  68. Three cheers for authenticity. I am glad you are sharing. I think my most valuable blog share is telling everyone that I have Swyer Syndrome. I feel so much better having shared it. I don’t get a ton of comments on the post (maybe three or so) but it’s just nice that this small part of me is on my nice little blog home.

  69. I am so glad your mom encouraged your authenticity. I can’t wait to read.

    My “things”: I suffer from anxiety disorder, I loathe hanging out in large groups because I’m shy (even though I’m a teacher and talk to people ALL DAY) and I cry really easily.

  70. Thank you, Joanna :). I needed this.

  71. I’m looking forward to your post Joanna. I went through something hard after Mila was born too. Have a nice weekend!

  72. Joy says...

    I can’t have an argument with my significant other without getting closed off, defensive, and mean, because those were the only methods I had to protect myself from my father when I was growing up. It is so, so hard to rewire those responses, even when they are unwarranted.

    This video of Brene Brown’s TED Talk is really wonderful, and super relevant to the theme of authenticity – because really, it’s about being vulnerable.

  73. Anonymous says...

    My husband and I are trying to get pregnant. Going on 6 months now. (I am 32)The thing is, I was a NICU nurse for 10 years, and now I am a NP in a pedi clinic, and while I enjoy kids – I don’t know if I want one of my own. I want to make my husband and our parents happy, but I don’t know if I want one. I think I may like the idea of kids and family more than the reality of it. Part of me hopes that I can’t get pregnant.