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2021 Mother’s Day Gift Guide

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Mother’s Day is coming up on May 9th, and a few readers have requested a gift guide. So! Here are 12 sweet ideas for the mothers and mother figures in your life…

2021 Mother's Day Gift Guide

This year, I sent my mom a Danish rain coat so, even on rainy days, she can take her “nice little walk.” From $110.

2021 Mother's Day Gift Guide

A gorgeous bouquet of farm-fresh flowers, from $39. (We especially love this one and this one.)

2021 Mother's Day Gift Guide

The world’s best mascara since she loves a good before and after. $29.50.

2021 Mother's Day Gift Guide

Two dozen tea cookies, $26, including incredible chocolate caramel shortbread (far left).

2021 Mother's Day Gift Guide

A great new cookbook, such as Cook This Book, Ripe Figs and Simply Julia. From $15.

2021 Mother's Day Gift Guide

A do-everything pan with a cult following, $145, for her signature recipes.

2021 Mother's Day Gift Guide

A bracelet for her graceful wrists, $120. Also love this pearl bracelet.

2021 Mother's Day Gift Guide

A beautiful wallet to use every day, $98. (Or this pretty cardholder.)

2021 Mother's Day Gift Guide

A mug warmer to keep her coffee hot for hours. $29. (Alex swears by these.)

2021 Mother's Day Gift Guide

Sourdough bread with her name on it, $12.50.

A photo book or framed snapshot of her favorite people. From $15.

2021 Mother's Day Gift Guide

A donation in her name to Planned Parenthood, which provides vital health care and sex education for millions of people worldwide. xoxo

P.S. More great gifts for moms, and three complicated mother/daughter relationships.

(Top photo of my mom with my sister and me. Flowers and wallet photos by Alpha Smoot for Cup of Jo. Coffee photo by Jeremy Pawlowsky/Stocksy.)

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  1. For a nice (socially distant or in person) brunch experience with Mama, I’d also highly recommend Small Packages’ Mother’s Day care package! It’s got a gorgeous cheese/fruit plate board with utensils, chocolate, gourmet olive oil, dish towel — it’s just missing the cheese! https://smallpackages.co/products/mothers-day

  2. Laurel says...

    Mother’s Day has always been complicated for me. I’m estranged from my mum and have been for many years. Just made a donation to PP in her honour which feels better. Thanks COJ ❤️

  3. Nicole says...

    Sorry! Gotta say good bye to your blog for your promotion of Planned Parenthood for a MOTHERS DAY? I am stunned and shocked.

    • Alexandra says...

      Being a mother is and should be a choice for everyone, and Planned Parenthood has been providing vital information and healthcare for over a century, so I am glad to see COJ is a supporter ! I’ve been following this blog for over a decade, and seeing your comment, I am stunned and shocked that you were actually a COJ reader

    • Elizabeth R. says...

      Planned Parenthood does WAY more than just abortions. Also, why should they not promote women’s health? Also, you clearly have not reading this blog very long if you did not know where it would stand. Also, motherhood, like abortions, is a choice. All choices are good as long as the woman makes them for themselves. There are so many factors that go into having a baby or not having it-mother’s health, money, baby’s help, assault, etc.

    • Aine says...

      If you’re surprised I don’t think you’ve been reading very carefully.

    • Maureen says...

      I went to a Planned Parenthood to have my IUD removed when I decided to become pregnant and had my very first prenatal care appointment there. It was a very positive experience! My experience of motherhood is directly tied up with an experience at Planned Parenthood :-)

  4. Christa Nash-Webber says...

    Want to recommend the book “Why We Cook” by Lindsay Gardner. It’s a perfect gift for a mom and is beautifully illustrated. I got one for my mom and my MIL. Maybe with a promise to prepare one of the recipes together? :)

    https://whywecookbook.com/

  5. S says...

    Anti-choice advocacy is inherently sexist and unequivocably centered on the desire to control women’s bodies. I feel sad reading these comments. Shout out to you, Joanna, for fighting the good fight. Love, a long time reader of 12 years <3

  6. Maggie May says...

    Love that gold colored bracelet but it is gold plated, which means it will fade over time. For that price, it should at least be gold filled, which will not fade!

    • InDesign says...

      Gold filled just means that there is a slightly thicker layer of gold. This is not a guarantee against effects of wear–any jewelry that has gold applied to it instead of being solid gold will show signs of wear over time, depending on location of course (e.g. a pair of gold plated or gold filled earrings are less likely to show base metal than, say, a ring or a bracelet that gets knocked around). Agree that $120 is kinda pricey for gold plate over brass!

  7. Diana K says...

    This has inspired me to bake bread for my mom. She does really like bread…

  8. Jess says...

    Two little Antons!

  9. retro-roost says...

    I can’t help but wonder what your mother was saying to you and your sister. You two cuties are listening very intently.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I was wondering, too!! we are taking things VERY seriously. :)

  10. Nina says...

    Oh no, that mug warmer thing is an electrical appliance?! A much more eco-friendly option is a vacuum insulated mug/flask. Klean Kanteen do some great ones, including plastic-free designs. They are much simpler to manufacture, will last YEARS longer, and don’t use any electricity to do their job. I mean, I know it’s not electric mug warmers bringing about the climate catastrophe, but completely unnecessary devices like this are so easy to do without.

    • I have a mug warmer, but I use it to melt the un-burnable bits of candles to melt down and layer into a new “frankencandle”. sure, I guess technically it is completely unnecessary, but it means that I don’t waste candles and I can also make my own with little-to-no mess. oh no, indeed! *insert eyeroll emoji*

    • Nina says...

      Well, here’s a way to make candles too without a dedicated appliance: https://readingmytealeaves.com/2016/10/make-your-own-beeswax-candles-redux.html (This method does obviously use electricity or gas as well, but a flask for tea/coffee doesn’t.) With all the resources it takes to manufacture something as complex as an electrical appliance, and all the problems of disposal when they inevitably break, not to mention human rights concerns throughout the supply chain, I think it’s worth avoiding the ones that are easy to.

  11. Rachel says...

    Ha, my thoughts *exactly*, E! (Right down to the mug warmer, LOL.)

  12. Arianne says...

    A few years ago (I think) CoJ share the poem “Lanyard” by Billy Collins. I printed it out and included it a card for my Mom, and I think it’s her favorite gift I’ve ever given her – she’s hard to shop for and not particularly “touchy feely” but she teared up reading it! I would love to hear from the writers and commenters if you know of any other honest, authentic, touching poems about moms?

    • The Raincoat by Ada Limon <3

    • Amy says...

      Love this idea!

    • Beth says...

      Thank you for sharing those poems, they both made me cry! I can’t wait to share with my mom.

  13. Alexis says...

    I can vouch for the Always pan! My mom gifted it to me last year at the height of viral pandemic kitchen gadgets, and we got the one with the bamboo steamer basket. We use it almost daily. It does take some getting used to as you can’t beat up ceramic pans! But it’s proved very useful for sauteeing, braising, and steaming. We get dim sum delivered on a weekly basis and the bamboo steamer is great for reheating dumplings the next day. Also to make steamed eggs, heat frozen soup dumplings, etc.
    I’ve also been looking for a good rain jacket.

    This year I’m asking for subscriptions – Criterion Channel, Audible, etc.

    • Amanda W. says...

      I don’t understand all of the ire for the Always Pan. I commented about my love for it yesterday. I can understand if it’s a cost issue, because it is on the pricey side. But all ceramic non-stick pans are fussy. You can’t cook on high with it, you can’t use metal utensils (I don’t even use plastic) because they scratch the surface, and I only use a very soft sponge to clean it (not the one included in the package). It’s the same for all ceramic surfaces; it’s the nature of the material.

  14. Jessica Camerata says...

    I’m gonna say a hard no on the Always Pan ha! I will never understand the obsession! But love the idea of the tea cookies and sourbread! How fun!

    xo Jessica

  15. miranda says...

    was gung-ho to buy the cookies then realised their marketing is very strange… they feature a box of 36 cookies but do not sell this size. The sizes they actually sell… are not featured in photos. Also, the shipping costs are equal to the price of the item… really?! was very confusing and in the end I didn’t want to buy.

    • Ndi says...

      You could always order a box of cookies from a local bakery near your mom. Support local, I like that idea.

  16. E says...

    All of these would be great gifts for me! Hah but I get a little giggle imagining my moms face if I donated to planned parenthood in her name 😇 parent child relationships can be… fraught amiright?
    Maybe the mug warmer though!

  17. Meghan says...

    I just got all the cookbooks for myself! Mother’s Day has already passed in the UK but I saw this post and hoped there’d be some book suggestions and you delivered, so thank you! I wish there was a weekly book feature. What happened to the Cup of Jo book club?

    • Tamara says...

      Yes! Would love to see a COJ book club!

  18. Betsy says...

    Can anyone recommend a mug that works well with the mug warmer?

    My husband gave me a warmer as a gift, but it doesn’t work very well with my ordinary coffee mugs.

    • Amy says...

      I use mine with ceramic and bone China mugs. Neither have a flat bottom and still work fine.
      I have a $9 warmer so not sure if there’s a difference in how they work.

      These are such a treat for anyone with small children!!!

  19. E says...

    Nineteen years old and stupidly pregnant because no one in my life had taken the time to explain to me “how things worked” when you had actual sex with an actual boy. Planned Parenthood treated me with compassion and respect and they unquestionably saved my life. I do not use that phrase lightly. Twenty-five years later, I’ve never once regretted my choice to have an abortion and I am now in the position to donate regularly and generously to Planned Parenthood. I do so with gratitude. To echo other commenters here, PP provides a huge range of affordable, accessible health services to people of all genders without judgment, and that’s not to be taken lightly either, particularly given the atrocious state of health care in this country.

    In my own experience, the people who are most vocally opposed to the services offered by PP are also the ones who are quickest to eliminate funding for impoverished women and children (SNAP/WIC, etc.). The U.S. – arguably the wealthiest country in the world! – has an utterly appalling child poverty rate of about 15%. Perhaps if safe, affordable, equitable reproductive health care were more widely available, we wouldn’t be in this situation. If you don’t believe in abortion, then don’t have one – but get your moral judgment away from my body. You don’t get to make choices for me.

    Thanks to the CofJ team for standing strong on this one. I think a donation to this organization is a spectacular gift idea.

    • April says...

      Well said!

    • Kelli says...

      AMEN. So well said.

    • Anon says...

      Agreed! I love being the mother of a totally amazing little boy – and I love that I was able to get an abortion years ago when I needed one! I will always, always be pro-choice. Most people know (and love) someone who had an abortion. It’s common. It’s not “fun,” and I have to laugh at the weird idea/fear that “people use it for birth control.” Cheers to you, and healthcare access for all.

    • Daniela says...

      I’m pro-choice but wanted to say that I know someone who literally has used it as birth control when she was in her reproductive years. She used no other protection but had an abortion every time she got pregnant. So it’s not always a weird idea/fear ;)

  20. rach says...

    Le Cruset really should be the shinning star, I have one that’s 40 year old from my parents wedding, and its STUNNING.

    • Daniela says...

      And cast iron pans! I have one that was a hand me down from my parents which they had used since the 80s.

  21. lk says...

    Hi- while I am wildly pro choice I do want to shout out to letting everyone have their say and tell there story…. We always learn more when we actually listen to each other. Maybe you will donate your money there…. maybe you will make a donation somewhere else…. Lets all agree that respect is the starting point of being a good citizen, human, friend, partner, co worker, daughter, son, child, parent. There is room enough for all opinions. There is not enough room for meanness- there is enough of that in the world right now….. lets just be nice- lets see what happens if we each take a moment for kindness

    • S says...

      Well said LK. Thank you. While I would never send my money to PP I still welcome everyone’s story on the comments. I love hearing other people’s points of view. It’d be a boring blog if we all felt the same way, ha! Let’s continue to keep the comments respectful and allow differing ideas and have actual conversations.

    • Amy says...

      LK, thank you!! More of this in this world!!! It is definitely harder to do….but I am striving for this!

    • RACHEL says...

      YES!!

  22. Rachel says...

    Hooray for real-life-wonder-doc, Dr. Sierra Washington, pictured in the Planned Parenthood photo! She is a hero of global women’s health and would also make a great week of outfits or beauty uniform feature. Also, I always appreciate the Cup of Jo gift guides.

    • marie Skjervold says...

      Great idea! I want to see her in Week of outfits or any other series on here. :)

    • JJ says...

      Love this! What. a. rockstar. I second this – Dr Washington for a beauty uniform!

  23. Ann M O'Sullivan says...

    The Always Pan….a BIG NOOOOO….

    • Lorena says...

      Oooh, I would love to hear why. I have been eyeing this pan and have wondered if it lived up to the hype.

    • Marci says...

      I worry when comments are so variable that in increasing production they have contracted with production lines making a crappy product now… too bad.

    • NC says...

      I have to say, I just got mine in October and use it *constantly*! I’m surprised it’s a big no and am curious to hear why as well!? I’m obsessed with it. Easily use it 4 times / week – everything from eggs to browning meat to curry and pasta sauces…

    • Tara T says...

      Agreed. After almost of year of loving it (and following all the instructions on how to clean it), everything is sticking to it.

  24. Kayleen says...

    Thank you for the ideas! These are wonderful. Another recipe book rec is To Asia With Love by the talented and delightful Hetty McKinnon. Recently released in the US, it’s a beautiful book with delicious recipes. Family is another treasure of hers that has been well-cooked through in my home.

    • Hannah says...

      Oh my gosh Kathleen!!! Thank you for sharing this! I absolutely ADORE Hetty’s Community cookbook. I had no idea she released another! Best news ever 🥰

    • Hannah Johnson says...

      Kayleen *** sorry!!

  25. Chiara says...

    I need an adult version of yours and Lucy’s coats. They are the sweetest. x

  26. Eloise says...

    I bought myself (and now swear by) that raincoat last year.

  27. Sadie says...

    My friend started a cheese shop in my home town where my parents still live. Now when I make the 3-hour drive home, I stop there first to pick up a gift and have a moment to myself before I go to my parents. I plan on calling ahead to have my friend put together a gift for Mother’s Day.

    • Ndi says...

      Ooh that’s a lovely idea. Going to use this one next time I go visiting family.

  28. J says...

    Yay! An extra gift guide :) I love your gift guides, CoJ, and am always v. tempted to order a few things for myself (a mug warmer?!).

  29. We got an Artifact Uprising book for our wedding photos, and I have to say, it didn’t age all that well. After just a year the fabric on the cover began to pull back/come off. The photographer who took our family pictures this year suggested mpix for quality. I haven’t decided who we’ll go with if we decide to get another photo book.

    • Nikki says...

      I went with a Shutterfly book for our wedding. I upgraded to lay flat, thicker pages and nicer ink. It was like 100 pages and still only cost $200 with all the coupon. It has held up beautifully and I live in a very very humid area

    • Alexis says...

      I have used mpix for prints. While it’s a different product, I do love the quality of the ones we’ve gotten!

    • Emily says...

      MPix has fabulous quality and customer service! As a photographer, they are my go-to for prints and I ALWAYS recommend them to my clients!

    • I used Pinhole Press for my wedding album and I am very happy with it!

    • @Lexie, I love pinhole press and got some large wall decal photos from them for my husband years ago when he first moved to the US. I first saw them on CoJ :)

  30. Nicole says...

    Has anyone tried shipping those cookies? They look amazing, and just wondering how they hold up. I am thinking my newborn would love to treat me to some:)

    • Stacey says...

      Your baby sounds really thoughtful. :) Happy mother’s day to you!

    • alexis says...

      I haven’t tried shipping them, but I live in the neighborhood and can confirm that they are delicious :) Congratulations on the new baby!

  31. B says...

    Hard no on the Always pan … Made in China and wildly overpriced for what it is. More expensive does not mean better quality.

  32. Jay says...

    According to their 2019-2020 report, Planned Parenthood performed 354,871 abortions in that period. To me, whatever other services Planned Parenthood provides can’t outweigh the fact that they destroy hundreds of thousands of unborn human fetuses a year. It’s a sad irony to see Cup of Jo promoting this organization in a Mother’s Day post.

    • Rachel says...

      Jay, many people would disagree with you about the way you frame those abortions. Many many abortions provided by Planned Parenthood are critical medical care for women who cannot access them anywhere else because this country is so so limited in the reproductive health care that we make available to our citizens. Planned Parenthood saves lives – it makes it possible for women to seek health care where no other care is accessible – and thus is exactly the right feature for a Mother’s Day post. And as I mentioned below, I have family members who worked there as OBGYNS and I now work in reproductive health myself, so would love to reassure you that PP does provide a huge range of critical sexual and reproductive health services even above and beyond abortion access.

    • katie says...

      What’s ironic about it? I think it’s important that women can decide when to become mothers. Abortions make up a very small percentage of service performed at Planned Parenthood.

      At 21, I was ready to have sex for my very first time with my long-term boyfriend. I was in college and still on my parents insurance. I told my mom that I was ready to have sex and that I needed to get on birth control. She told me to handle it. I had no idea how to handle it! Luckily, my college friends did and told me to go to Planned Parenthood. I’m grateful to them and to Planner Parenthood.

      Women need access to affordable healthcare. Do you know a better alternative? Or are only wealthy people with good jobs and insurance allowed to have sex?

      I set up a monthly, recurring donation to Planned Parenthood. I will always be thankful to them.

      I can’t think of a better way to celebrate mother’s donating to a place that gives woman autonomy. Thank you CupofJo!

    • Amanda says...

      Up vote this comment.

    • Jeanne says...

      At 21, fresh out of college with no health insurance, PP gave me an inexpensive exam and Rx for birth control. With insurance becoming unaffordable and unavailable for many young people, PP gets a plus in my book as I’m not familiar with any other organization who does so affordably. You might like to look at PP as black and white, but it is most assuredly not.

    • Stella says...

      Great! Abortions are healthcare, abortions save lives.

    • Sarah Clews says...

      Couldn’t agree with you more, Jay. It’s truly heartbreaking that celebrating Mother’s Day in this post comes with celebrating the murder of the unborn.

    • Jay says...

      I think Rachel and Katie are suggesting that the range of services PP provides means the organization should not be criticized for providing abortions, or that abortions represent only a small percentage of the work PP does.

      Over 300,000 abortions in 2019-2020 is not an insignificant number. It seems evasive to me to frame PP broadly as a healthcare organization and ignore the fact that they support policies that procedures that involve the destruction of human life.

      And for me, Cup of Jo’s promotion of PP on mother’s day is a sad irony, because to support abortions is to support terminating the very life that is the main way people become mother.

    • bee says...

      I honestly don’t think I would have become a mother when I was faced with an unplanned pregnancy at age 23 with my boyfriend of all of 7 months if it wasn’t for the Planned Parenthood office in Atlanta. They gave me all of the facts and all of my options, without trying to persuade me to follow any particular path, and when I said I might want to have the baby but wasn’t sure how, they literally signed me up with multiple programs to make it so, and also set me up with an amazing ob/gyn. He’s 21 now, and amazing, and I am forever grateful to PP for making it possible.

    • Maya says...

      Performing abortions is a life-saving, difficult, and empathetic act. Please do not spread misinformation.

    • Q says...

      Abortions will always take place regardless of legality. When legal, abortions are safe.

      Also, please educate yourself on “whatever other services”. It is a lot and many are life saving to the lives already living – aren’t those lives important too?!?

    • Milly says...

      Jay, what do you think about IVF? You know that for every IVF baby, many additional embryos were created and destroyed or at the very least frozen indefinitely. You know that right? I hope you are as strongly against all IVF and fertility clinics as you are against Planned Parenthood. :)

    • Jen says...

      Jay – Thank you for your comment. When I read the donation idea, I was disappointed too that it was included in a Mother’s Day gift guide. I am always heartbroken to read the shared experiences of women who experience infertility, miscarriages and stillborn babies, that are frequently written about on this site.
      I mourn for those women and the children they desired. I mourn for these children, who were not desired, that are dehumanized by labeling them as a healthcare issue for women. All of the embryos, if given a chance, could be Toby and Antons or Charlottes and Harpers.
      I know I will be sending my mom something sweet this year in gratitude for the life she gave me when experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. Life is precious.

    • Jean says...

      Abortion is basic healthcare. What a wonderful idea for a Mother’s Day post. Jay, I actually hope the coj team includes this as a Father’s Day idea as well knowing…how babies are made and everything.

    • Emilie says...

      What I think may be missing from this conversation (though it has been briefly mentioned) is that abortions will take place one way or another, whether PP provides them or not. While I believe abortions to be an essential and compassionate form of healthcare provision, I understand that for many folks, like Jay and Jen, abortions represent the end of a form of life to be mourned. I disagree with this characterization, but I feel for people who believe it to be true.

      This is why it is critical that all folks, regardless of your stance on when human life commences, recognize that if 354,871 abortions had not been performed by PP in 2019-2020, they would have been performed somewhere else, and very likely somewhere less safe. You are free to mourn that as a huge loss of life if your belief system dictates it to be so, but you must then also mourn the loss of life that results from unsafe, illegal abortions.

      Lack of funding for PP will not result in fewer abortions.

      To demonstrate, the link below details a study of abortion rates in Nigeria, where abortions are illegal unless the mother at risk of death, yet the rate was 33 abortions per 1,000 women aged 15–49 in 2012. In contrast, the rate in the US was 13.5 abortions per 1,000 women aged 15-49 in 2017
      https://www.guttmacher.org/fact-sheet/abortion-nigeria

      Information and safe and accessible health care is the key to decreasing the demand for abortions, and PP has historically and remains the consistent provider of such services in the US.

    • L says...

      I’m interested to find out when people who go on about unborn babies consider them to become unborn babies? I’ve gone through IVF twice (currently going through it for a third time). For both previous rounds, there were day 5 blastocysts that were left to die (essentially) because in each instance there were about 5, and the embryologist and doctor only put in the best quality embryos (2 each time to increase the chances of falling pregnant, but not all because of the risk of multiples). So did I kill off 6 babies? Or how about when I had a medically managed miscarriage? My body wouldn’t pass the fetus naturally because I was on so much medication from the IVF, I had to take medication to kick it off. Does that count? What about if someone has to have a medically managed abortion because continuing the pregnancy poses a risk to the mother’s health?

    • AD says...

      Jay, if you post in the future, please consider including a trigger warning noting that you discriminate against people with wombs and don’t think they they should have autonomy over their own bodies. I know that you have the right to share your radical, hateful views, but it is difficult for some of us to have to accidently encounter it. Thanks.

    • Elizabeth says...

      The comment about IVF is untrue and offensive. It is incredible difficult for many couples to produce even one embryo let alone more than one.

    • Julee says...

      Agreed.
      Ironic and sad.

  33. Janet says...

    What a beautiful picture of your mom, your sister and you. So sweet.

  34. Mel says...

    After seeing SO many blogs tout the pan being *so great* I bought one as a gift for my husband for Christmas. It’s been 4 months and we’ve washed it only with the scrub brush sent with it and it’s already lost it’s non-stickness and the coating is coming off. Super disappointing. Also beware ship times are atrocious. There are better pans out there, i’m sure of it. Looks instagrammable tho…

    • Sarah says...

      Contact the seller. There is a better model available now. They sent us a replacement – no questions asked. We’re v happy with the new one.

  35. Claire says...

    I just love that photo of you and your sister with your mama, and I appreciate all the suggestions shared here, including those in the comments.
    I wanted to also share this suggestion, for anyone who wants to give or receive cooking supplies. I have been very pleased with the baking pans I have purchased through King Arthur Flour (excellent quality, reasonably priced, made in the USA), as well as some of the baking ingredients. They are also an employee-owned company, which is a positive in my book.

    • Meg says...

      Yes! I too have had such a positive experience with King Arthur and their products. Two thumbs up.

    • ACBELL says...

      Those USA pans are the absolute best. I am slowly replacing all my baking gear with them. They make it so much easier to bake well (and clean up!). If you are looking for a treat for a baker I would 100% recommend.

  36. kalle marie says...

    the mug warmers are fantastic but always make me giggle because of the Curb Your Enthusiasm episode where he has them in his cafe (with hand sanitizer at every table as well—so prescient!).

    thank you for these thoughtful gift suggestions <3

  37. Planned Parenthood saved my life in my 20s as I was a student without health insurance. I went to them for my annual exam and they discovered cancerous cells. If not for their services, I wouldn’t have been able to afford the test at all. Because of Planned Parenthood, I was able to live to become a parent.

    • Alex says...

      What a wonderful thing to share.

    • Stella says...

      This is great! PP helped me get an IUD my freshman year of college. My insurance didn’t cover it so PP gave it to me at a price scaled to my income (it ended up being free). It was my first time having a pelvic exam too, and as a survivor of sexual assault, the staff made me feel SO safe. I am forever grateful for Planned Parenthood!

    • AMK says...

      100% agree. I was underinsured for most of my 30s and Planned Parenthood was my saving grace. My source for antibiotics for strep, annual pap checkups, etc. So thankful for them 🙏🏽

    • Neela says...

  38. Paige says...

    I’m a regular reader of this blog but do not support Planned Parenthood and am disappointed to see it promoted as a charity which needs donations. It’s a massive corporation with tons of donors and supporters. Please continue to shed light on smaller and local organizations that could benefit from the traffic.

    • Polly says...

      Just because you don’t support Parent Parenthood does not mean it is not a charity in need of donations. That is a Trumpian leap of logic; your disapproval or approval does not change the actual status of the organization.

    • Claire says...

      I support Planned Parenthood and appreciate its mention here. As healthcare is not a given for all in the United States, I believe it does still need financing. That said, yes, there are also plenty of smaller organizations that need support, too, and Joanna often mentions them. I hope you are able to enjoy other parts of this post that resonate more with you; as Amy Poehler says, “good for you, not for me.”

    • Corinna says...

      Agreed!

    • Rachel says...

      But it is indeed a charity in need of donations – you may not agree with whether or not anyone should donate to Planned Parenthood, but it is literally, legally, precisely a nonprofit organization who provides critical health care of all types and it is supported in part by the “donors and supporters” you mention. I don’t know why its scale and scope (having chapters across the country) should make you call it a “massive corporation” which implies that it is somehow doesn’t function through a range of financial support channels.

      Also, my grandfather was an OB-GYN at Planned Parenthood for a decade after he retired from his private practice and I now work in reproductive health care motivated by the heroic work I saw him do every day. So I can tell you about the critical, critical need for PP first-hand. But that has nothing to do with the question of whether they qualify for donations.

    • Rosie says...

      Planned Parenthood absolutely needs funding. I do agree that if you can give locally to a reputable organization that is very valuable as well! Just be sure to always vet whoever you’re donating to

    • jane says...

      @Paige and anyone unsure about supporting large public service organizations: I highly recommend this Ted talk by Dan Pallota, who breaks down just how important it is to reframe how and what we think about charity donations. It is paradigm changing!

      The way we think about charity is dead wrong | Dan Pallotta
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bfAzi6D5FpM

    • Taylor says...

      Agreed.

    • pam says...

      Why are people so against free health care? Especially critical pelvic care for women? It’s one of the most important organizations our country has and will always need funding.

  39. Kate says...

    Lol “nice little walk.” I love moms.

  40. Dee says...

    Thank you so much for promoting PP, Jo! I also love donating to smaller women’s health centers, like Feminist Women’s Health Center in Atlanta, GA and the North Dakota WIN Fund. They have fewer resources but offer important services.

    • KL says...

      Hi Dee,

      I’m from North Dakota (though not living there right now). Rare to see a ND shout out and even more rare to see a link to the ND WIN Fund. What a great idea for a donation! Thanks!

    • Dee, YES to Feminist Women’s Health Center in ATL. <3

  41. Paisley says...

    Surprised and disappointed to see so much anti-abortion/pro life rhetoric in the comments section. I thought Cup of Jo attracted a more progressive community.

    For anyone working to heal their relationship with their mother, I recommend Bethany Webster’s work around the mother wound. Useful for everyone with a parent to read and reflect on:

    https://www.bethanywebster.com/

    • Emily says...

      There are no anti-PP comments that I can see, so guess they got censored?
      Which in and of itself is sad. I happen to know many women who oppose abortion but support access to preventative measures such as birth control, sex Ed, and things like fair housing & pay (since most abortions happen for economic reasons/not feeling economically prepared). I wish they could be given a voice as well instead of just continuing the polarization of the world.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you for these comments! I ended up deleting two pro-life comments because they were overly harsh, which is against our community guidelines. but we encourage respectful debate — as you will see underneath many of our posts ;) thank you so much!

    • M says...

      I don’t call it pro-life I call it pro-birth. Because many pro-birth supporters don’t support services for the child or parent(s) once a baby is born. This country has very limited social safety nets and if one really cares about life they would be supporting a lot more.

    • E says...

      Thanks, Joanna. I always appreciate your thoughtful responses. Can you also consider using the term “abortion rights opponent” or “anti-abortion” instead of “pro-life”? Those of us who support abortion rights also value life.

    • Sarah says...

      In response to Joanna’s comment in this thread on 4/19 at 4:48. One of the deleted comments simply offered that people should consider donating to a pregnancy support organization instead of PP. I fail to see how that was overly harsh. Diverse opinions are good.

    • Jean says...

      E – LOVE the idea to say “anti abortion” or “abortion rights opponent” instead of pro-life. I have always used “anti-choice”… I think either one of these 3 is more accurate than pro-life.

    • CEW says...

      Language is powerful, so I always use pro-birth or anti-choice when referring to this viewpoint. It’s despicable, sexist, and disgusting. The idea that vacuuming out something the size of a grain of rice is morally equivalent to, like, shooting a 6 month old baby in the head is disingenuous *at best.*

  42. lynn says...

    I want everything in that photo of The Pan except the pan. It must be the terra cotta color.

    • Gilly says...

      Terra cotta is the new neutral! At least according to me.

  43. Ann says...

    Yes, to tea cookies and mug for me!!!

  44. Georgia says...

    I’m an eyelash volume fanatic, and I always love a good mascara, lift, extension, etc. But am I the only one that thinks that before an after is not good? I wouldn’t want my eyelashes to look like that…

    • Megan says...

      Agree!! I will say though I swear by the original DiorShow mascara. . .I first tried in 2005 and after cheating off and on with others, always come back to this! Never clumpy, doesn’t budge, and cleans off easily.

    • margaret says...

      Agreed. I almost gasped aloud when my eyes panned from the before picture to the after picture.

    • Madie says...

      Hah! I came here to comment the same thing. Like wait wait wait – I need confirmation that this is NOT the standard of “long pretty eyelashes” we’re collectively using mascara to achieve…

    • Lynn says...

      Glad it wasn’t just me! I have tried EVERY mascara and my two ride or dies are 1) Thrive Causmetics (for a bold look) and 2) Glossier Lash Slick (for an every day look)

    • rachel simmons says...

      yes! clumpy!

    • Catherine says...

      Totally agree! I like my lashes to look natural, but better, lol. I actually comb them after I apply mascara. This one is too spidery for me.

    • shabang says...

      Yeah, not a fan of the spider-crawling-on-my-eye look in the after photo.

  45. Amy says...

    Jo, I love this pic of you and your sis and your mom!

  46. Anna says...

    A “nice little walk” – so sweet, so true.

    My husband recently gifted me this mini Theragun. It is amazing – you can take it anywhere and it really gets into your hips in a way even massage doesn’t seem to (I store a ton of stress in my hip joints). Also amazing on the ITB band.

    https://www.theragun.com/us/en-us/mini-us.html

  47. Amanda W. says...

    I … like The Pan? I see it’s not very popular here. I use cast iron a lot, but because I don’t cook meat, it’s been hard for me to get it seasoned enough to be truly non-stick. So I bought the Always Pan, and it’s been great. It gets my tofu nice and golden without sticking, and it’s easy to clean. I got the steamer basket accessory because I didn’t already have one. Has it replaced all of my pans? Nope, but I didn’t expect it to. Are there other pans out there that do the same thing? Yep, and for cheaper I’m sure, too. But it’s very quickly become a constant companion in the kitchen for me for specific jobs (and I am a serious cook).

    • K says...

      I agree! Their advertising is annoying because it’s so ubiquitous but I’ve had mine for a year and really love it. It’s very well shaped and is dishwasher safe. I rarely use my normal nonstick pans now.

    • K says...

      Same here :) doesn’t replace *everything* but definitely a nice & useful addition! I get a lot of use out of it…

    • Claire says...

      I am also a serious cook and I have been thinking about getting one, so I appreciate you sharing your feedback. (It doesn’t sound like most of the people freaking out over it here in the comments actually own one.)

    • Ari says...

      I like it so much, too! I even gifted one to my dad for Christmas. He cooks eggs and bacon for breakfast, and meat and vegetables for dinner *every* day and has told me several times unprompted that it’s “a great pan”. And that’s coming from a man who is not easily impressed. It hasn’t replaced all of my pans either, but seems to be our most used one!

    • SJ says...

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Amanda! It’s nice to hear both sides.

    • Mel says...

      You’ve had better luck than us with the pan then. My husband’s a serious cook so I bought him one for Christmas and he declared this weekend he *hates it*. Our eggs are already sticking and the coating is wearing off, just a bummer. I feel like I got duped because it’s just so nice looking

    • Q says...

      Just buy a ceramic non-stick for a fraction of the price.

    • Rachel says...

      The New York Times/Wirecutter did do a review (not just of this pan, but if it and similar options), that concluded that this type of nonstick will not ever last, and it seems like a lot of people who have them have experienced issues with it (as I did when I bought a different brand ceramic nonstick a few years ago). Was very glad to read it as I was starting to think about buying one! https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/always-pan-our-place/

  48. melz says...

    we are buying our Mom a new gas grill! bought, delivered, and assembled!
    Weber.

    • Caitlin says...

      Awesome gift Melz!

  49. Elle says...

    I enjoyed this list!! I also think Dior Nail Glow (which I discovered on this very site) will be my go-to for presents for a good while.

    I have to say though, those witchy mascara’d eyelashes give me the flipping creeps. They the literal opposite of how I want my eyelashes to look (fluffy! separated! light! not clumpy, heavy and gummed together!).

    Maybe I’m the odd one out here haha, but if anyone has a mascara rec for me….? I have one of those tiny combs to separate them but it got clogged up with mascara super quickly and is so hard to clean :'(

    • zoe says...

      I am the same way! Lancome Definicils!

    • Rebecca says...

      I adore Ilia’s mascara for this look!

    • Milou says...

      I thought the exact same thing!!

      I haven’t worn a ton of makeup this last year, but I really like the Glossier mascara. It will not give major drama, but it lengthens nicely and never clumps.

    • Candice says...

      With you Elle!

    • EmBed says...

      I agree completely. These lashes to me are the equivalent of wearing foundation that’s a different color than your skin –like the girls in my middle school used to do — the face three shades darker than the neck. No thanks, man.

    • Mb says...

      Totally with you about the mascara.

    • Amy says...

      I too am in the camp of wanting “normal, just darker and longer” eyelashes – but I have sensitive eyes that feel dry when I wear eye makeup so I don’t use mascara often. I prefer to have my light and short eyelashes dyed, and I actually have had better luck doing it one eye at a time at home than having it done at a salon! I use Refectocil.

      Otherwise, I like L’Oreal’s Double Extend Beauty Tubes (tubing mascaras work better for my sensitive eyes). I just skip the white layer and use the black coat alone. Gives a nice light coat that resists clumping and looks natural.

    • Heather says...

      I love Ilia mascara! I always apply to slightly wet lashes, for a light, smooth look. :)

    • Nic says...

      I second Lancôme defencils. The best for non clumpy, natural looking lashes that don’t look like the “after” photo!

    • R says...

      Wet n wild mega length mascara. It’s like $4, does exactly what you describe (hard to tell you’re even wearing mascara, your lashes just look… better), has a clean EWG rating. Love it.

  50. Eleanor says...

    For the last two or three years I have donated in my mom’s name to National Bail Out for Black Mamas. Nothing makes me sadder than imagining a mom in jail for a petty crime, and that small amount of money keeping her from being with her children on Mother’s Day. Now that my mom has passed away, this is all the more powerful of a cause for me.

    According to National Bailout, “nearly 70 percent of women with incarcerated loved ones are their family’s head of household and sole income earner. Additionally, the number of women incarcerated went from 8,000 people in 1970 to nearly 110,000 in 2014—and nearly two-thirds of incarcerated women are Black. ” https://www.nationalbailout.org/history

    • Lauren says...

      Donated to National Bailout last mother’s day and looking forward to doing it again! Really fantastic organization.

    • Stella says...

      Yes! I donate to them every year on Mother’s Day as well. <3

    • Jemma says...

      I love this idea.
      Had no idea it existed. Maybe promote this on CoJ?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh yes! we’ve written about this and donated as well. it’s an incredible organization. thank you so much, Eleanor, for posting about it here!

    • Christina says...

      Thank you for sharing! Now I know who I’m donating to for Mother’s Day!!

  51. jk says...

    We ordered StoryWorth for my FIL for his birthday, and plan to do so for Mother’s Day for my MIL. Something I wished I’d have done for my own parents when they were still alive. Each month, we get such amazing stories that, in 40+ years, my husband had never heard, and responses to questions that we would otherwise never think to ask. We haven’t gotten the printed product yet, but I really love the process and the idea.

    • Anna says...

      Second for StoryWorth! We gifted this to my mom for her 60th birthday this year and have gotten such rich, detailed stories that we’d never heard before!

    • rachel in berkeley says...

      Yes — StoryWorth is a wonderful gift idea. I’ve learned more about my 83 year old father (who is quite reflective and open about his life) than I would have guessed.

    • AI says...

      This is perfect. I often struggle to find meaningful gifts for my mother who has struggled with severe mental illness since my teens. Memories of the past bring her such joy but are also something I feel I have not had the opportunity to collect due to a level of family estrangement.

      This feels like the perfect way to preserve her stories in a way that expresses how much I care for and value her while also bringing her the joy of reminiscing. Thank you!

    • Judy Nelson Lewis says...

      Yes! Got this for my Mom for Christmas (wish I had done so for my dad before he left us). She sends me her replies each week and I just love it. I think she does too! Can’t wait for the finished book!

  52. Sarah says...

    For Mother’s Day I usually just send cards to my mom and my stepmom, but recently Groupon had a great deal for Shutterfly so I made my mom a custom photo book with pictures of my baby, including the ones with her of course! She loved it and I had a lot of fun making it.
    My husband bought me a very nice new coffee maker for my first mother’s day. He said since I’m up nursing our daughter at least twice a night, I deserve to have a really good cup of coffee waiting for me every morning!

    • Sarah says...

      I just saw that Rifle Co. has come out with umbrellas – that would make a fun gift for a mom in your life! I also kind of like those baseball caps that say Mama that I see on Instagram, but I’m not sure I would actually wear it.

  53. Liz says...

    The marketing and publicity money behind THE PAN must be fathomless. It has followed me around the internet the entire pandemic. Can the pan be stopped? THE PAN WILL NOT BE DENIED.

    • R says...

      It’s especially impressive considering the reviews are ABYSMAL.

    • jdp says...

      AGREED. i thought it was just following me!

    • Sadie says...

      lol

    • Aurora says...

      Hahahahaha and one of its eight listed functions is as a “spoon rest”?!

    • nicole says...

      lol this is so true!

    • Kelli says...

      Hahaha it’s so true! I honestly almost just caved and went for it. Amazing how that works. Thanks for the reminder to fortify my advertising defenses!!!

    • Angela says...

      LOL! Yes, I feel the same!

    • K says...

      I have a lot of cookware, but I gotta say, I love THE PAN (lol) for daily use – I wouldn’t say it replaces everything, but it’s a nice addition. It’s nice-looking and versatile enough that it permanently sits on my stovetop ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

      And yes, I even love the designated little spot that serves as a spoon rest ;)

      Call me basic, but it’s a fun gift imho!! (My husband rather uncharacteristically splurged and bought me one on a whim after he saw me scrolling through their IG page, haha!)

    • Leigh says...

      Yes!

    • Sara says...

      FOR REAL

    • Hannah says...

      Hahaha! If you look at my ads, you need to have nails painted by Olive and June and your children in Primary clothes while you cook in the Always Pan!

    • em says...

      dying

    • THE PAN WILL NOT BE DENIED.
      This gave me some serious laughs!

  54. AN says...

    coffee warmers are truly the greatest! i don’t like drinking out of tumblers at ALL, and prefer my coffee from an actual mug, so the warmer has been pretty clutch for me. not sure why i didn’t think to grab one for my tea-loving mom – so thanks!

  55. C says...

    I bought my mom, sisters and myself matching sweatshirts with our initials monogrammed on them! Something fun but also, everyone loves a crewneck sweatshirt.

    • sarah K says...

      I love this idea C! How lovely.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      so cute!

    • Can I ask where you got them from? I LOVE this idea. Would be perfect for my Mom and sister. We all have very different styles but also all love a good sweatshirt.

  56. Michaela says...

    I bought my mom a coffee warmer as a treat recently (I think it was a different brand though) and she LOVES it! Seriously might be her favorite gift I’ve ever given her.

  57. celeste says...

    Beautiful – might grab a wallet for myself! Thanks for including the complex relationship link, as not all of us have this source of support in our lives. xoxo

  58. Mouse says...

    I’ve given the PP donation before and my stepmother has also given it to me. It’s a great idea, women supporting women.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      <3

  59. M says...

    I love the planned parenthood donation being on this list!
    In a country where so many people can’t afford adequate healthcare, Planned Parenthood is such a lifesaver, literally. They make cancer screenings accessible for everyone, both male and female, as just one vital service they provide. Cancer screenings to reproductive healthcare, PP does it all. For every person who needs it.

    • Samantha says...

      Yes! I love Planned Parenthood. I have worked with/for them for years, both on staff and as a consultant, and you’re absolutely right–they are a safety net for every person who needs one.

    • E says...

      @Marie – hospitals also provide abortions. Should we stop funding hospitals too because they do something you don’t agree with? Please try to look at the broader picture of being pro Life.

    • Michaela says...

      Agreed! PP is a lifesaving organization, so glad to see it’s included! Reproductive care and family planning are basic human rights- what a wonderful gift to recognize a special mom in your life!

    • Marie says...

      @E,

      Looks like my original comment was deleted? I guess it made Cup of Jo uncomfortable to hear a different opinion. It wasn’t disrespectful, so this is just plain censorship. I believe firmly that abortion is killing an unborn child (what do you think it is?), so it seems really ironic to me to donate to Planned Parenthood on Mother’s Day! Do some research on the history of Planned Parenthood and their founder. If you want to support woman there are SO many other organizations that empower mothers. When I became pregnant at a young age and started sobbing in the doctors office because I was terrified I was offered an abortion. Thankfully, I believed in myself, and went and found real support.

    • Polly says...

      Marie, your lack of understanding on the definition of “censorship” is most likely paralleled in your lack of understanding on many topics, including Planned Parenthood.

    • NM says...

      @marie, What do i think it is? A simple thought experiment: There’s a burning building and in one room there is a jar of 100 embryos (from IVF, let’s say). And in the other room there’s a 3 year old child. You only have time to save one or the other. I would save the little 3 year old. And I would not feel that I’d killed 100 babies. Now imagine that 3 year old is a young woman, whose life for whatever reason (medical, emotional, financial) would be derailed by the embryo she carries. I believe it is her right to choose whether she will give over her body to grow it into a child. I very much doubt this explanation would change your mind, but I do find it helpful to try and understand the other side, rather than vilifying them.

    • Marie says...

      @Polly,
      You are not addressing the substance of my comment, you are only insulting me as a person. Attacking a person is easy, and is not convincing.

    • Marie says...

      @NM, Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I still don’t feel like you have answered for me what is actually happening when an abortion is performed. From my perspective something is living, growing, and moving and then it is not. Of course, there are also the cases of botched abortions where the babies survive even after being thrown in a dumpster, but the norm is that they die. I really dislike worst case scenarios always being the examples people give to support abortion. These cases make up a very small percentage of the abortions performed and don’t provide any scientific support or moral rational as to why the majority of abortions should be legal.

    • Sarah Clews says...

      @Marie Thanks for speaking out. I also am disturbed that Planned Parenthood is on the list. As far as claims that Planned Parenthood provides other services, they do but the majority of their services are abortions. “According to its own 2019 Annual Report, 96.1% of pregnant women seeking help from Planned Parenthood get an abortion; only 1.2% get adoption referrals and 2.7% get prenatal care of any kind.”

    • Amy says...

      NM,
      I really appreciate the calm tone in your comment. Abortion is such an (understandably) emotional issue. It’s so nice to see someone able to explain their thoughts and beliefs without attacking the other side. It is people like you who will get through to others.
      I just feel like the comments with snarky tones will never resolve anything or be really heard.

      Now if only I could manage to pull it off myself! I strive for it though!
      You are refreshing.

    • Sam says...

      @Sarah Clews I reviewed the 2019-2020 annual report and in 2019, 3% of Planned Parenthood’s services were abortions. If you calculate the percent of their total patients receiving abortions it is 14.8%. I didn’t see any reference to the 96.1% you mentioned. Where is that quote from?

    • Kate says...

      Sarah, you might want to take another look at that annual report. Planned Parenthood provides a range of services, not just to pregnant women. You are only looking at their statistics on pregnant women who seek PP services – not those looking for birth control, pelvic exams, STD testing, and other life-saving care.

  60. Stella says...

    ugh can we please be done promoting that pan?? I feel like every blogger/influencer is shoving it down my throat. I’ve heard it doesn’t stand up long term (most of the glowing reviews are within the first 6 months of use). Nonstick isn’t made to last, I will wear off, so I’m not sure why we should spend so much on a nonstick pan. Many professional cooks and chefs, Molly Baz included, say that nonstick pans are not something to put a lot of money into. Also, it can’t go in the oven!

    • Taylor says...

      literally groaned when I saw it, I am not spending that much on a pan that cannot go in the oven!!

      I can however, eat the heck out of those shortbread cookies haha

    • SJ says...

      I almost fell for the hype, too. It’s really pretty but function wise, I learned it’s not a good pan. Thank God for YouTube reviews!

    • Janine Repka Guzzone says...

      ha! agreed, it feels like it is everywhere. i do appreciate that some influencers (like Grace Atwood) have noted that it’s not really for serious cooks and is better for tasks like scrambling eggs, sautéing veggies, or assembling blue apron meals. and the space saving aspect of it with the steamer basket is legit for small apartment kitchens. so if that’s your mom then it probably is a good gift but otherwise, no go.

    • A.E. says...

      I ordered the Always pan and it came with some chipping on the nonstick coating right out of the box. It was so disappointing. I exchanged it for a new pan, and they sent me the wrong color… and the new pan also had chipping/scratches on the coating. :(

      I will say their customer service is very good and everyone I spoke to was really kind and apologetic about the issues. But in my experience, it just isn’t worth it.

    • morgan says...

      haha glad i’m not the only one who refuses the buy into the hype of the pan that follows me around the internet! I think the marketing that it replaces your “fry pan, sauté pan, skillet, saucier, saucepan, nonstick pan” to be really silly… aren’t those basically synonyms? And hot tip, you can actually rest a spatula or wooden spoon on any pan handle ;)

    • C says...

      Lol same! I actually caved and ordered it a few months back and then saw a review from Shavonda Gardener basically saying it’s a good pan for people who aren’t that into cooking. My order was on backorder and I emailed them that I changed my mind and it was easily cancelled, so yay for good customer service. I recently bought a green pan which is the best non-stick I have ever used, not that expensive, and it CAN go in the oven. Love it.

    • Kate says...

      @Morgan, I agree! The marketing never made sense, I have never once thought, “I wish I had one pan to replace ALL these single-use saucepans and skillets” (besides, that would be a cast-iron skillet) Also, some recipes require more than one pan on the stove at once! You can’t just throw your other pans away – that would be silly!

    • Courtney says...

      Haha! I had the same thought about that stupid pan. I fell for it too! It is so pretty. But…it feels cheap, can’t go in the oven, and mine arrived with several scratches in the non-stick surface. Fortunately, it was easy to return. :-)

    • rachel says...

      Le cruset all the way!! I have my parents from their wedding, 40 (!!!) years ago! its in nearly perfect condition! I use it almost daily. USE it.

    • Leah says...

      100% agree!
      Sick of hip pans, mattresses, toilet paper….. I am over mediocre products with big digital marketing budgets. Every time I see this pan I just assume the placement is paid because even if it is AMAZING…. it’s a skillet.

    • Farhana says...

      I really wonder every blogger/influencer is promoting this pan so fervently! Why?