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Have a Great (Long) Weekend.

sleeping dog

What are you up to this weekend? We’ve been taking long walks around Brooklyn — from our apartment to Jane’s Carousel or Red Hook. It’s been a nice way to get fresh air and sunshine. Hope you have a good weekend, and Martin Luther King Jr. Day, and here are a few links from around the web…

How gorgeous is this Parisian hotel?

Course syllabus for making new friends as an adult. “Most assignments will just end up being watching your new friend’s TV-show recommendation.” (New Yorker)

My friend Gemma turned me onto this incredible foundation and I now use it every day. (So dewy!)

Is it okay to let my dog sleep in my bed? (The Atlantic)

What beautiful paintings.

Leslie Jones is the funniest person on Instagram right now.

Love this older model.

I am the designer of this restaurant’s outdoor seating space, and this is my artist’s statement. “I am radically testing the limits of what it fundamentally means to be outdoors by erecting walls, putting a roof on top of those walls, and then insisting that it is still outdoors.”

Tom Hanks will host America’s inauguration TV special.

30 Rock is the best show to fall asleep to.

Cheese for dinner.

And a note for readers: In an effort to cut down on links to Amazon, I linked to a different site for the galaxy lamp in our kids’ holiday gift guide. A number of readers ordered the lamp but the site turned out to be fraudulent. I very much apologize for my mistake in linking to this site, and I would like to personally refund readers for their payments. Please send your receipt to hello (at) cupofjo.com, and we will gladly cover the amount you paid. Thank you so much!
Update: Many readers said their lamps did arrive — just after about a month. The site may not be fraudulent, but instead poorly run. Still happy to reimburse! Thank you so much.

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Ariel on the only show anyone’s talked about for the last two weeks: “If you’re looking for a very funny, heartwarming show — a la The Good Place or Schitt’s Creek — go watch Ted Lasso (AppleTV). It is the best show I’ve seen in the last few years and is a balm for the soul during these weird, weird times.”

Says Kara on the ‘little gay house’ in Portland, Oregon: “My son looked over me as I finished reading this with tears in my eyes, so I said, ‘I just read something that made me cry.’ He asked why, and I said, ‘Because it was beautiful.'”

(Photo by Tucker on Instagram. New Yorker link via Kottke.)

Note: If you buy something through our links, we may earn an affiliate commission, at no cost to you. We recommend only products we genuinely like. Thank you so much.

  1. Lauren says...

    I’m interested in the ILIA foundation! I’ve been hearing lots of good things about the brand.

    Do you use it with or with out the setting powder?

  2. Jess says...

    How unbelievably generous of you to offer to refund folks for their Solar Flame Torch orders! I ordered one seven weeks ago, and still no notification about shipping. I just disputed the charge with my credit card company, and that seems to have resolved the issue. :) I will always adore your gift guides!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you so much, jess!

  3. Sarah says...

    I ordered the lamp from the originally posted site and got my lamp. It took nearly 5 weeks but I got it.

  4. teresa says...

    Also, I just saw the older fashion model and totally appreciate the gesture from Madewell. At 46, I don’t consider myself old, but I guess I kinda am, especially since I have grey hair. I wish they would style her in a variety of ways (i.e not so severe/ serious), or have a few older models that have more of a playful vibe.

  5. teresa says...

    The sleeping with your dog article really resonates! AND, my dog is the same kind of dog that you posted a picture of (a vizsla). I wish I could attach a picture of what the 3 of us (my husband, dog, and I) look like each night so you all can see the ridiculousness of the situation. Maybe I’ll send you an email :)

  6. Karen says...

    Thank you for trying to post fewer Amazon links! As someone who has worked in retail and tech for years, it is shocking and depressing what that company is doing to global commerce. Walmart used to be the face of public ire for shutting down local business, but Amazon hasn’t seemed to face nearly the same backlash. Add on top of that the amount of fake/expired/stolen product that is sold and the horrific business practices they use to crush competitors, I will not spend any more money on that site if I can help it.

  7. Kara says...

    Can I just say that being a featured comment in your weekend post made my weekend (week/month…. indefinite amount of time because I’ll save this post to look up later when I need a boost haha!)?? Love being part of the best comments section on the internet ♥️

  8. Tara says...

    @CupofJo–I didn’t buy the lamp, but wanted to mention this happened to me through what I thought was a small business on Instagram and since I made my purchase through PayPal, I filed a claim and was refunded. I assume credit card companies would do the same. Also good to report folks to Consumer Protection. Just wanted to share, in case folks are in need of other solutions. Thanks!

  9. Jilla says...

    This photo of this gorgeous pup isn’t hinting at anything is it?! Please say yes.

  10. Heather says...

    Back to the Galaxy lights, I think this company is just disorganized and poorly run rather than a scam. My granddaughters got their lantern several weeks ago and I just got an email from the company saying that the item was ready to ship. I let them know that it had already been shipped and that I don’t need another one, who knows how many other mistakes they have made.

  11. Claire says...

    That older model is so lovely, but it made me a little sad, frankly. I am “older” and look nothing at all like her.

    • Sasha L says...

      To be fair, I didn’t resemble young models when I was young either🤷
      The nature of models is that they don’t seem to look much like most of us. It would be very cool to see vastly more diverse models, of all ages, ethnicities, body types, colors.

    • EmBed says...

      To Sasha L — I think diversity of models in terms of race and size and age is great — really. But it doesn’t really change the fact that when there is an Asian model, she is more beautiful and/or striking than the average Asian women. When there is a plus size model, she is more beautiful than the average plus size woman. When there is 70 year old model, she is usually like one of the best looking 70 year old women who has ever lived. Models are chosen because they don’t look average — even if they aren’t “classically beautiful” or have “flaws” (like Lauren Hutton with her gap teeth) they are still better looking than the “average” or at least more “interesting” looking. They have that je ne sais quoi. I mean, if they were just the most average of the average among us . . . why would they be chosen as models.

      I struggle with this as much as any woman, but I think we all need to find self-worth that comes from more than our looks. And realize that many of us are well-enough off and lucky enough that we have the means to make the most of our looks with things like sunscreen, good dental care, gym memberships, fashionable clothes, etc. You don’t look like a model? Guess what? Me, neither! And I have a husband and a family who love me, a satisfying career, and a good life. I think we all need to try and be grateful for what we have and realize that “looking like a model” is a prerequisite for a good life. It’s not.

    • Honore says...

      I hear you but I LOVE seeing beautiful people. I find it uplifting to see the glory creation is capable of and it inspires me to take better care of what I do have. I’ll never understand why people don’t like this. I say this as a totally unremarkable woman.

      That said, it has been super fun to see “average” people used as models. I really enjoy both equally I guess.

  12. ALISON says...

    YES to Ted Lasso – my husband and I said hands down our fav quarantine times show so far.

  13. Shannon says...

    I didn’t order the lamp, but just wanted to say it’s so generous of you to refund readers!

  14. Linda says...

    Does the Biden team not know that Tom Hanks is at the epicenter of some of the early qanon conspiracy theory storylines???? I’m concerned that this will in some way validate their insane belief that Biden is conspiring with Hanks, and give those terrorists more reason to storm the capital. Additionally…it makes me ultra concerned that the Biden team is not at all paying attention to what this group is saying online? Given that they are on the FBI watch list and all. It seems that they should pay better attention given the true threat to the country.

    • Kari T. says...

      The reasons for the entire spectacle of pomp and glitz and celebrity around any presidential inauguration is incredibly difficult to understand from a Canadian perspective (we have nothing that compares). These are your top civil servants, elected to serve the people. I’m incredibly happy and thankful trump is ousted but it seems like the big ole production is more of a slap in the face stick-your-tongue-out at the losers counter-productive move. I am having a very hard time understanding how a prime time show featuring a bunch of rich celebrities will help reunite the people. I’m also aware it’s been going on for 200 years, but to me that’s not a good enough reason. Would be nice to see them just get to work and put those tax payers dollars to better use.

    • anna maria says...

      What are you talking about? Citations, please.

    • Sasha L says...

      Perhaps the Biden team is keenly aware, and they are actively fighting back against the insanity that has overtaken this country for the last four years. Having someone like Hanks up front and center sends a clear message that these conspiracies are all bull shit and they are not playing that game.

      *Most* of America actually loves and admires Hanks, and never believed the ridiculous and baseless allegations. Time to MOVE ON.

    • Linda says...

      Kari, usually it is not a competitive thing…but more of a celebration. Trump has mad it very competitive and divisive. I hear you though in terms of tax dollars and getting to work.

    • Linda says...

      Anna Maria, just google Tom Hanks and Qanon to get the truly weird stories that they believe in.

  15. Carrie says...

    I also ordered a galaxy lamp from the link you posted and it did finally arrive- although about a month late. They seem to use an odd delivery service which might cause some confusion as the tracking numbers don’t link back to UPS or USPS. The lamp is actually awesome and my kids love it. I also appreciate you linking to non-amazon items!

  16. Virginia says...

    I’ve been wanting to order that foundation (hello Instagram ad with the beautiful woman with grey hair) but can’t pull the trigger on a color even with the quiz. How do I know?!? Le sigh

    • Mary says...

      Sometimes you just got to take a leap of faith! Or if you can, order two shades:)

    • Shay R says...

      I emailed them and sent a photo of myself and they matched me with the perfect shade. I was impressed!

  17. Sasha L says...

    1. What a kind gesture to offer refunds. ♥️
    2. Yay for older models! And older everyone everywhere!
    3. Sleeping with your dog(s), and cats………. For me, one of life’s absolute joys. My little heeler rescue snugs me every single night, head on my pillow, tucked under the covers. He knows it’s his job to put me to sleep, and he stays until I’m out, then tiptoes quietly out to have the couch (with the heated blanket) all to himself. THE BEST boy♥️
    4. Those beautiful paintings of Martin and Corretta. Can we have a big shout out for Corretta? Bless her life and heart and deep love for our country.
    5. That puppy. I can smell is sweet (pee) puppy breath, and feel it’s velvet fur, and there’s no happiness like the happiness of a puppy. Thank you God/universe/mother nature for PUPPIES.
    6. Bless our country, especially right now, especially this week, and bless Joe And Kamala for the very hard work ahead of them. Let them stay safe and healthy and give them strength and courage.

  18. Kate says...

    I also felt a surge of joy imagining that pup was sleeping after playing with the boys.

  19. Leslie-Anne says...

    “I am the designer of this restaurant’s outdoor seating…” is so funny. I’m glad I’m not the only person who has looked at the new spaces and wondered, in what universe is this an outdoor space?!

  20. Maïa says...

    I apprecciate very much that you try to link less to Amazon!
    I rightly showed to my roomates last week the website you shared with us a few months ago about the sickening wealth of Jeff Bezos (https://mkorostoff.github.io/1-pixel-wealth/) and to watch this always help so much people to understand what we talk about, about the 1%!

  21. lauren says...

    I really appreciate CoJ’s commitment to trying to use alternatives to Amazon. This experience might have been less than great for some readers but I really hope that doesn’t diminish your efforts – they are seen and very much appreciated!

  22. Tali says...

    Yes to “Ted Lasso!” Just a sweet and delightful show, that makes you feel better about life right now!!!

  23. Cindy says...

    I have the book, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse. This is such a beautiful reading of it. Recently, a friend passed away and I am sending copies to her grown children to read to their young children. Perhaps it will give them some solace in their grief.

    • Agnes says...

      I used to work with the author of that book mannny years ago. He is wonderful. I’ve gifted that book several times too :) great for both children and adults.

  24. Leeann says...

    What color do you wear the foundation in? I have been looking at that formula, too!

    • Mel says...

      It is a great foundation. I did the quiz online to get my match and its perfect. According to the reviews, and the website if you order the wrong color you can get a replacement.

  25. I just wanted to say thank you for trying to link to non-Amazon businesses! It’s so important to support small businesses and your effort is appreciated.

  26. Morgan says...

    Hey Joanna! Just wanted to let you know that I did purchase that projector from the gift guide for kiddos and it (finally!) came last week. Sorry that it didn’t work for other folks. Thanks for this space that you have created so thoughtfully and lovingly. This site feels like home. You Friday blog post is my favorite way to wind down from the week. Keep up the good work and thanks again!

  27. Sarah says...

    I cried after the last episode of Ted Lasso! It is SO good and I really wished it never ended, it was such a feel good experience. I also loved having to wait for a new episode every week- I am not one to binge watch a tv show and the anticipation of new content was exciting.

  28. If you feel like listening to something, this story is beautiful and heartwarming. The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse by Charlie Mackesy.
    I listened to it on BBC Sounds yesterday and I just wanted to share it with you! It will be available for 15 days.
    https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m000r630
    Here are some of it’s beautiful quotes:
    “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
    “Kind,” said the boy.

    “What is the bravest thing you’ve ever said?” asked the boy.
    “Help,” said the horse.

    And Joanna , thank you for everything! You are such a beautiful, kindhearted person.

    • its beautiful quotes*.

  29. Sarah says...

    I watched My Octopus Teacher this week and I felt just like Kara (on “the little gay house”). I cried at times because it was sad or intense and at times because it was so beautiful. I found myself gasping aloud in amazement, laughing at funny animal behaviors and crying when it was over. Is 42 too late to become a marine biologist, expert diver and filmmaker? Asking for a friend. ;)

    • Jeanne says...

      I cried too! Octopus are such amazing smart animals akin to dogs. It’s so sad that they can’t speak so humans are slow to empathize with their intelligence. Have you watched PBS Octopus: Making Contact? Also really interesting

    • Katie says...

      I felt the same way. I think about it weekly and watched it months ago. It really made an impact. I feel like I’m craving that underwater world to be immersed in.

    • Sarah says...

      Jeanne,I haven’t seen the PBS show but I’ll add it to my list.

    • Frankie Rose says...

      Just watched this yesterday and cried my eyes out! It was beautifully done and so fascinating. I was touched by their physical affection with one another and heartbroken at the end. What a gorgeous cape/stretch of ocean and it makes me want to move somewhere with more natural wild beauty.

    • Cari says...

      My Octopus Teacher! The loveliest, loveliest show.

    • CS says...

      I saw it on Netflix and I felt the same way. What a beautiful documentary.

  30. Heather says...

    I ordered the galaxy lamp for my granddaughters from your link. It arrived after a backorder delay. They love it!

    • Caitlin says...

      That’s very helpful to note! Still have not received mine- ordered Dec 2. I just figured the company got inundated with orders from being featured. In Any case, thank you for the offer, Joanna, but it does not feel quite right. Fingers crossed that my nephew’s light arrives!

  31. Candy says...

    Bless you for that Leslie Jones link. I haven’t laughed that much since 2019.

  32. Lori says...

    Recently discovered Somebody Feed Phil on Netflix and we LOVE it and can’t stop recommending it.

  33. K says...

    Hi there!
    I always love your beauty recommendations. I’ve been wanting to try that Ilia foundation. Mind sharing which shade you choose to go with?
    Thanks in advance!

  34. ES says...

    Thank you Ariel for the wonderful recommendation! We started watching Ted Lasso yesterday and couldn’t stop! I just wish there were more episodes! It’s an absolute peach of a show! 😊 P.S. As someone who moved to the US from India (many eons back) we often had this “what do they call it here” conversation so it was doubly hilarious during all the boot/trunk jokes! 😆

  35. Megan Healy says...

    OMG – I ordered 4 of those galaxy lamps from that website. Just checked with all my recipients, and no one received them. All the tracking numbers are fake. Ugh. Thanks for letting us know. I will try to dispute the charges with my CC company.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I’m so sorry for the hassle! It’s funny because some people did receive their lamps about a month later. But some people didn’t. I don’t understand this strange site!

    • meg says...

      I never got mine, either! And I was just waiting patiently because of COVID impacting deliveries and didn’t want to be a jerk. Ha.

    • A says...

      I ordered 2 and I just got them. It took 2 months for them to arrive, in Romania, but they did. I sent a follow up email 1 month ago. Maybe it helped to follow up.

  36. SLEEPING WITH MY 6O POUND PITBULL IS THE GREATEST GIFT I HAVE EVER RECEIVED. I loved that atlantic article so much- any dog owner who doesn’t share the bed with their pup is absolutely missing out, in my opinion. She smells like fried corn, feels like a giant hot water bottle, and licks my feet at night before we fall asleep. We don’t deserve dogs <3

    • Frankie Rose says...

      Sleeping with my dog is also such a joy. She goes back and forth from floor to bed but always makes sure to jump up and warm my feet in the morning if she has been on the floor. It makes me feel so cozy and grateful every morning.

  37. Emily says...

    I just spent a solid 30 minutes, early before the rest of the household woke up, in the dark, coffee in hand, CRYING WITH LAUGHTER while trying to be quiet (you know that great feeling) watching Leslie Jones’ instagram posts. What a way to start the day. Thank you!!

  38. Oh the fraud thing. Ugh.

    Earlier this morning, I found another “author” had stolen several of my parent-child journals and turned them into their own books on Amazon. Word for word… except for a LOT of typos.

    It absolutely breaks my heart every time someone takes my hard work and tries to take a profit because of it. And I hate that I even have to monitor this kind of stuff. It’s become so easy to mislead us as customers, whether on Amazon or another site.

    I’m sorry for all the folks here on Cup of Jo who’ve not received what they expected. What a beautiful community that always brings me hope and reminds me of kindness for every person. Thank you, Johanna.

    • Jeanne says...

      Wow really? Wtf is wrong with people??? I’m so sorry.

    • becky says...

      Ugh. so sorry to hear that. maybe you could send some kind of letter to the author and to amazon (there must be a fraud department). I know it seems like a worthless attempt but you never know the outcome. I think if you throw some legal mumbo jumbo at them they may back off. it happens with art and design pieces all the time. I read about it on Instagram. people will directly rip off someone’s art and put it up for sale. Until recently it has kept me sharing my own photography. Usually, the artist’s community calls them out on it and Instagram will cancel the account or the account will pull the post. I wish you luck!

  39. Beth says...

    I ordered the lamp from Australia and just assumed it got caught up in the mail as it never arrived- thank you for letting me know ! And yes like others I have received hundreds of spam emails from them despite unsubscribing!

  40. Nadine says...

    My word for the year is friendship, so that course is definitely relevant. But I don’t know that I’ll have time for it as I have a new favorite instagram page!

  41. Amelia says...

    Hi Jo, I just wanted to offer an alternative viewpoint to your commendable effort to avoid links to Amazon. I fully understand and agree with your readers not wanting to enrich Jeff Bezos’ coffers anymore than we already have during the pandemic (I get it), but for a site like yours that has nationwide and even international reach, doing business with Amazon might not be 100% avoidable when it comes to recommendations for purchasing stuff because that’s most likely one of the few ways you can reliably accommodate every reader no matter their location. If you were to fully commit to only featuring smaller local businesses, you’d probably have to hire at least 2 more staffers to track down all the local businesses that stock what you’ve recommended and then vet their corresponding e-commerce links to avoid unwittingly sending your readers to fraudulent websites/setups.

    If I may propose a suggestion, you could perhaps provide 2 links for each gift — 1 link goes to Amazon, and the other to another company or even local business that you trust and have verified. That way your readers can be the ones to decide which one they want to patronize. Or better yet, maybe pull suggestions for gifts from that recent post where readers posted links to their own or friends’/relatives’ businesses, or even just the ones they recommended, because as I recall a lot of those were small local businesses. Or, and this is the more ambitious proposal, maybe break down a gift guide registry by state? I’m sure there are cool, unique businesses that are available in each US state, like the fun ones featured in your local city guides series.

    As an international reader, I appreciate the Amazon links because then they might actually ship the item to me, but I also love looking at the stuff featured in smaller local businesses that don’t ship internationally and dreaming of the day I might get to visit the US again. Just my two cents! xoxo ❤️

    • Tara says...

      And I will also say my mom owns a small business that sells through Amazon. Though Amazon takes a commission, it allows her to not pay for advertising and her reach is FAR greater than if she only sold through her small personal site. So even when you buy through Amazon, you might be supporting a small business!

  42. CC says...

    Joanna, I appreciate your thoughtful response and I know exactly what you mean! I do think by pointing out her age, even in the way you so obviously intended still perpetuates the belief that … oh wow isn’t it great that they’re doing this…. when actually it should be normal to see all kinds of models. I’m 61 and wear Madewell a lot!. Simply saying I really love this campaign and, or I love this model is probably enough to applaud the company doing it and help others who aren’t as open to maybe seeing the beauty in every age (race, gender, size, etc…) In this crazy time for me personally and for the world, I’m living with my 3 year old grandson and have become very aware of not labeling things for him in the same ways I did for my own kids, and I was a super liberal, progressive, feminist mom 35 years ago but I still used descriptors that now give me pause. I’m trying to make sure the little people in my life don’t feel limitations on themselves or form judgments about others based on how I describe the humans we interact with or see everyday. 💗

    • Anon says...

      I appreciate your point, but I think it is important to clearly name and acknowledge until it becomes more common. One has to speak out to make an impact or else nothing changes.

  43. Jennifer says...

    Joanna, I ordered the lamp from the prior website, no problem. It did take longer than I expected for delivery but that was the norm for a lot of things in December. The website did email because their site crashed at some point.

  44. Alyssa Hartman says...

    I, too, ordered the lamp directly through the Solar Flicker site. Took about a month, but it did arrive & I was still able to get it shipped to my niece from WI to GA before Christmas! And they were sending quite a bit of spam, but I ‘unsubscribed’ and they haven’t written me since. I echo the appreciation of trying to link to places other than Amazon for recommendations!

  45. Emma says...

    I’ve had a bedtime tv show or movie ever since I was a teenager. I’ll usually stick to one for about 3-ish months, give or take, before I need to switch it up. Some favorites: Schitt’s Creek, Parks and Rec, Emma (the Gwyneth Paltrow one…it’s not great, but the score is beautiful and almost nothing bad happens), Sense and Sensibility, GBBO (but only the season with Nancy. Martha, Chetna, etc.– you know, the good season). At my most anxious low point I resorted to Bluey. My current favorite, which is absolute bedtime PERFECTION, is the 1995 Pride and Prejudice with Colin Firth and Jennifer Ehle.

    • Kate says...

      Bluey is the best! Have been known to watch it when my toddler is napping or elsewhere, haha. Such a wonderful show.

    • Lorraine says...

      I love Bluey as well! I find myself watching it with my kids on weekend mornings with a cozy cup of coffee.

  46. Kristen J. Elde says...

    No MLK shout-out??

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      One of the links is to beautiful portraits of him and Coretta. But I’ll add a note in the intro as well.

  47. Dana says...

    My dog sleeps in my bed and it is my favorite. I am not ashamed. She has outlasted relationships and loves me unconditionally sooooooo I spoil her to show her my profound gratitude for her presence in my life. (She’s only 11 pounds.) Exponentially better than any man (thus far) ;)

  48. Laura says...

    That puppy in the photo is a vizsla!! My 12.5 year old vizsla, Boutros Boutros, used to look just like that. Now he is white muzzled and has lumps all over his body and shakes when he stands for too long, but is still so so very sweet.

    • Charlotte says...

      He sounds like such a love Laura, and his name is perfect! Dogs are just the best, especially the oldies. Lots of love to Boutros Boutros!

    • Rosalie says...

      Love the name! That was one of my (many) nicknames from my dad when I was a kid.

    • teresa says...

      Our vizsla just turned 3 and is starting to get a sugar face already. The sweetest dogs ever!! I hope ours lives to be 12.5 too!!

  49. Jill says...

    Joanna, you are such a breath of fresh air in this world of fraud, and uncertainty. I’m sorry you were unwittingly duped by that company.
    I have always liked your amazon links because I actually do trust them and have always gotten great service from them.
    Why don’t people like them!? Big companies always have some problems because, well, they’re big!
    Thank you for everything, Joanna.

    • Becca says...

      It just isn’t good to give any company as much power, money, and information as we all willingly hand over to Amazon. There are plenty of independent, local businesses who will give right back to your immediate community.

    • Emma says...

      Quick preface, I’m just responding in the interest of being helpful, not combative! I think there are a number of reasons why people take issue with Amazon (and Bezos), but from what I know a significant reason is the way they treat their workers. A few years back John Oliver did an episode on Amazon exposing how awful and abusive their warehouses are. Plus, while they’re certainly convenient, there are so many smaller business you could be supporting instead. I try to shop on Etsy or locally as much as possible.

    • Emily says...

      There are plenty of different angles to take for people’s distaste of Amazon. What one would you like to chose? Poor conditions for employees? Putting local shops out of business? How about even after grossing over $700 billion this year they are paying $0 in federal income tax?
      There are many more issues than the three I listed. Many many more. So please shop elsewhere.

    • Abesha1 says...

      Jill, there are many reasons, and you can choose which one bothers you most, with only a tiny bit of research if you truly want to know.
      “Big companies” are run by people, who can choose to protect other people, or to exploit them.

    • Agnès says...

      Workers exploitation? Tax dodging? So many companies are ethical business why would you chose Amazon? Do your research and you will be quickly convinced…

    • Rusty says...

      People are against companies that don’t treat their employees fairly, litter the planet with plastic junk, take advantage wherever possible (avoid paying taxes!)… the reasons are endless.
      Life is much more than the ease of a click to purchase.
      We ALL have choices to make EVETY single time we choose to purchase something.
      If you really, truly don’t know why so many people have woken up to what Amazon is, you need to do your homework!
      Gah!

    • b says...

      Amazon treats their employees terribly. I worked in a warehouse seasonally one year – I lasted six weeks. Everything is a fireable offense – from being late to work to not picking/packing quickly enough. The pay is abysmal. The hours are abysmal. And Jeff Bezos sits in his office collecting his billions every year. He has profited in a big way off COVID-19 – from price surging on everything (there are hardcover books marked anywhere from their normal price to thousands of dollars) to not providing employees with PPE/safe working conditions.

      Here’s a November 2019 article from The Atlantic: https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2019/11/amazon-warehouse-reports-show-worker-injuries/602530/

    • Nikki says...

      Gah, please don’t be condescending to your PEERS by saying things like “do your homework.”

      Guess where I live? On a military base in Japan. Guess where it is really hard to get things? On a military base in Japan during a pandemic. Guess what ships for no additional charge to our military APO/FPO addresses?! AMAZON.

      I could list you hundreds of small businesses that don’t send to FPO/APO addresses because they use UPS/FED EX and refuse to also use USPS (which is the only carrier who sends to FPO/APO mailboxes.) I’m pregnant and so many smaller businesses like Nugget, Mockingbird, Snoo and Uppababy don’t send to us.

      USPS guarantees mail to all American citizens living in rural areas, dangerous urban areas or serving our country both home and abroad. I applaud Amazon for working with them too. So many other companies don’t.

      So elitist to assume everyone can and should be using other services.

  50. Kathy says...

    OMG thank you so much for alerting us about the Solar Lamp company. I’ve been emailing them with no response because my order shipped but the tracking never actually was delivered to UPS. I’m going to dispute the charges with my bank so that you don’t have to use your money!

    • Inga says...

      I second this. Thank you for notifying your readers of this fraudulent business. I have to admit the website looked shady to me right away, but my trust in Cup of Jo won, and I ended up purchasing the galaxy lamp and some string lights, which never arrived. I too am trying to dispute the charge through my bank first.

  51. CC says...

    Joanna, love love your interesting site, your information, your willingness to be open and honest with us your readers so in that vein I’m going to be totally honest …. “Love this older model.” totally made me cringe. She’s a model.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I thought that when I wrote it too, to be honest — but she is older than all the twenty something models the industry always uses. So I wasn’t sure what other word to use? Any ideas? I wanted to point out that I loved that they were using a range of ages.

    • Lily says...

      I’m going to side with Joanna with this one. Yes, she is a model, AND yes, she is older. Can she not be both?

      This strikes me as similar to the ways people will bend over backwards to describe someone without naming the thing that is usually most obvious (read: race, physicality, age, etc.) because it’s somehow taboo. But in not naming it, it makes it seem like it’s somehow shameful to be that thing—in this case, being older. (That being said, should people only be seen as that One Thing? Definitely not.)

    • Guylaine says...

      I can see how that would make you cringe but as an almost 46 year old woman who has let her hair go gray I was so happy to see that ‘older’ model. I don’t want to look like I’m trying be a 20 year old however I do want to look hip and fashionable and feel beautiful for my age. Maybe ‘old’ doesn’t have to be a bad word?

    • Hayley B says...

      How about regal, or just plain stunning? That’s what came to mind when I clicked on the link and saw her pictures. I think perhaps highlighting the fact that the model is older is in itself subconsciously a bit ageist, because it’s pointing out yet again the fact that being an “older” model is not the norm. I get it, we’ve all been programmed to think/expect that only dewy faced youngsters are/can be models. But if we were to treat the model’s age as besides the point and simply highlight the fact that she looks amazing in those clothes, it wouldn’t be inaccurate, nor would it be pretending that she’s not more mature; anyone looking at the pics would know that. We need to acknowledge and fight against our subconscious societal bias that only Youth is admirable or acceptable when it comes to outer appearances and everything that signifies, because when we are surprised by older models who still look good and want to highlight that, even in a good way, we’re indirectly reinforcing the harmful stereotypes that older women are less attractive or are simply “less than” compared to their younger counterparts.

    • Lori says...

      I think you can just say “love this model”, no descriptor needed. How she differs from what we usually see is apparent. So glad to see her grace the pages!

    • Amber says...

      Why would it make you cringe? She IS older. No shame in that. We all get older. Was it really necessary to highlight something that is actually not a big deal.

    • Tracey says...

      I think “older model” usually means a defunct piece of machinery or equipment. It’s usually less than. So the turn of phrase is jarring. Perhaps “finally! Mature models!” Or something less commonly known as a bad thing.

    • Dayna says...

      Mature or graceful, maybe? Sometimes we don’t have the “right” words for every description. And we women tend to be more sensitive about age(ing). Didn’t bother me bc I understood what you were saying. But I also understand why she might have cringed. Thank you for your transparency.

    • H says...

      Sidenote that I love that Madewell is breaking the mold and using models of a variety of ages. More companies need to do this! She is older, but maybe you could still just put ‘love this model’ …? I don’t know, I get that you are wanting to draw attention to the fact that Madewell isn’t strictly using 20 year olds, to give them praise for doing so… and removing ‘older’ might not have the same impact of WHY you love what they are doing.

    • Karen says...

      This is an interesting topic, one that needs to be unpacked. At first read, you say “older model” is cringe-worthy. But let’s go further – why? The word “older’ (on its own) is not negative, but it becomes negative when you admit it made you cringe. Had it been a seven year old model, and the description was “young model”, I don’t think that would have made anyone think twice.

      Would “mature model” had been any different? IMO, that would almost be cringe-worthy, as then it’s like we’re treating the word “older” as taboo, we’re covering it up, skirting around it.

      The word “older” is just an adjective used for age: “having lived for a long time; no longer young”. It’s not a negative word (unless you think having lived for a while is a reason to dislike).

      Joanna wants to point out the model is older (in life), so older is really the most appropriate word, I think, and holds no negative connotations (unless you bring them).

    • Anonymom says...

      If you have to reference age, “mature” might be a better term because of the concept of being “turned in for a newer model” that happens to some women (and I suppose some men). In general, “older model” refers to the wife who put you through school, bore your children, and now is being left for someone who is young and more sexually attractive– “the newer model”.

    • Vicky says...

      This is kind of a silly criticism. She is older. He age is the part that makes this awesome. Treating words like “older” as somehow cringey, contribute to it feeling like its bad to actually be that thing.

    • Jeanne says...

      I’m an “older” CoJ reader and have no problem with the adjective. It’s not demeaning or negative. It’s simply in comparison to all the 20 yr old models out there. I’m thrilled to have a wide range of representatives of all shapes, colors, ages and orientations on your lovely website. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re making an impact on the world! xo

    • Kylee says...

      I don’t think Joanna has an ill intentioned bone in her body. The woman in the ad is “older”than the other models in the campaign. I love that she pointed it out and has brought to light that Madewell is using a broader age range of models.

    • Sasha L says...

      In this group and in others, I’m “older” (47), and I’m trying hard to love and accept that word. Older is a privilege and I’m trying to remember that. My first impulse is, ugh, old, but I am trying. Seeing older models, seeing the word in a positive light, it’s awesome and I welcome it. I would love to see a whole bunch of descriptors for that model “look at this stunning, beautiful, graceful and hip older model!”

    • EmBed says...

      I am fine with the descriptor “older”. I actually find euphemisms like “mature” and “elegant” condescending and also, not necessarily true: Who knows? Maybe that model throws temper tantrums like a toddler and always has to get her way.

      I especially hate these new euphemisms that I’ve heard around lately, like “silver sparkles” for gray hair and “tiger stripes” for stretch marks. Maybe it’s just me but they are beyond cringe. I totally support the trend of rocking your gray hair and feeling comfortable and unashamed of your stretch marks (they are totally natural and nothing to be ashamed about and don’t negate a woman from being beautiful or sexy) but I don’t know . . . I prefer to call a spade a spade.

      One more point: Despite the gray hair, that model doesn’t really look all that old to me. Maybe 50 tops?

      Also: Almost every model, including this one, still serves to reinforce beauty standards. Sure, she’s “older” but she’s still tall and slim, with clear skin, even features, high cheekbones, etc. All the new plus size models around (which is great!) still seem to be tall, plus-size in all the “right places”, have great skin, thick hair, sculpted faces (though fat elsewhere, they somehow never seem to have double chins). So maybe it’s also just time we admit that some people are just generally considered more beautiful than others. And we pick these people as models. But that doesn’t mean that people who are less classically beautiful are less worthy of love, less intelligent, less capable, less friendly, less sexy, or less likely to lead a good and fulfilling life –it just means they have plain or average looks and there is NOTHING wrong with that.

    • Sandra says...

      I felt the same way (maybe because I’m “older”)…I probably would have used something indicating that you love that Madewell is expanding the range of models they use, since that is probably what you were calling out. Or, if you love this particular model and would give her a shout-out even if she were in a Talbot’s ad I would have just said “I love this model!”

    • teresa says...

      I am 46 and, despite feeling otherwise, am considered older. I think it is probably the most accurate adjective that you can apply to this situation without generalizing. I really dislike descriptions that try to put a “positive spin” on age (mature, grace, wise…) I mean, just because I have grey hair and a few wrinkles doesn’t make me any of those things! I am simply …. “older”

      :)

  52. Marianne says...

    Me too! I even just checked my receipt. I ordered it from Solar Flame Flicker. We love it and it arrived on time. They do send a million spams, though.

  53. Kelly says...

    100% co-sign the 30 Rock as a sleep aid article. I have felt somewhat ashamed of my nightly ritual to queue it up on my phone while I drift off, assuming I should be reading, mediating, journaling or some other more virtuous pursuit, But this article has re-framed the narrative for me! Thanks and highly recommend the show to others – at bedtime or anytime!

  54. Emily says...

    Hi! I also ordered the galaxy lamp. It never came, but after a few emails to the company they said it was shipping out this week. I hope it does arrive. What a wonderful gesture to reimburse. I won’t take you up on that if it doesn’t arrive. I love the gift guides too, and things happen.

  55. Quinn says...

    Joanna – what a considerate gesture! This post caps off what I thought was a week of really excellent content. Thanks to you and your team for shaping this space that continues to be a bright spot for so many of us right now.

  56. Hannah says...

    Can we also just talk about this post’s photo?!? I nearly peed myself with happiness, thinking that we have finally gotten a Cup of Jo puppy. Ah well. <3

    • Krisztina Hargittay says...

      It is a vizsla puppy. We had the same dog for 12 years. He died in April. The cutest puppy!

    • Rusty says...

      Every time there’s a dog pic, I get all excited, thinking they’ve FINALLY got a scruffy dawg, but… nope. 🙄 Phoot!

  57. Tovah says...

    Omg, Ted Lasso is so, so good. Radical empathy, non-toxic masculinity, and humor that is somehow both dry and goofy. Cannot recommended more highly!!!!

    Ps you don’t have to know/care about soccer.

    • Sage says...

      Agreed. It’s just so dang fun.

    • Hayley B says...

      Yes to all the above, AND I loved the fact that they portrayed the female friendships as supportive/non-catty and didn’t set them up to (secretly or openly) resent and compete with each other. I mean yes there’s of course bad blood between the ex-wife and new wife (the 2 Rebeccas), but that’s all because of the cruel machinations of the man they have in common, who is thankfully an outlier. All the rest of the male characters, while not perfect, transcended the usual football-related (or soccer to Americans) macho stereotypes and showed real, authentic growth in their own ways.

      Plus it’s just SO FUNNY you’ll cry laughing. The best!!!!

    • Laura says...

      Radical empathy is such a perfect way to describe Ted Lasso!

    • I LOVE LOVE LOVE this show! And they’ve signed for two more seasons! PTL!

  58. Sandy says...

    You are so wonderful and have a lot of integrity about your site to offer refunds <3 My orders arrived in the nick of time and the kids loved it!

    • Rosie says...

      Just wanted to second this – I ordered the lamp too and while it missed Christmas, it arrived last week and we all love it!!

  59. liz says...

    I must be getting older because I think Madewell’s clothes look way cooler on the older molder than the younger ones!! (For the record, I’m 32!)

    • Charlotte says...

      I’m in the same boat Liz and I’m 31! She looks stunning and the clothes look so fab.

  60. Nina Fricker says...

    +100 for the Ted Lasso recommendation. I absolutely adored it! Went in completely blind after a dear friend recommended it and it was amazing to experience it that way. You HAVE to check it out!!!

    • Bb says...

      I often struggle with bouts of sleeplessness due to restless leg syndrome (although the current cause is being pregnant …) And I have a collection of what I call my sleep shows – mainly I rotate through Poirot, Miss Marple (britbox subscriptions needed for both haha) and Father Brown.

  61. Andrea says...

    For Christmas, my husband got me a gift certificate to order cheese from France via https://www.fromages.com/en/.

    Mon Dieu, I love that man!

  62. Courtney says...

    Jo, you are such a kind, real person. We need more people like you in the world!

    • Rusty says...

      Ooooh, yeah! 🥰

  63. Abby says...

    I also appreciate any link that doesn’t go to Amazon. I am actively trying to put my dollars elsewhere. I just bought the foundation. Thanks for the recommendation!

    • Laura says...

      I agree! I really appreciate non-Amazon links.

  64. Tess Varner says...

    Just a note to say that my bank actually refunded my purchase of the lamp! I filed a dispute and it was really easy to get my money back! But thank you for working to make it right, one way or another!

    • Krista says...

      Ooooh I’ll try that first

  65. JM says...

    Ted Lasso!!

  66. Kim says...

    I second everything already said. This is the best corner of the internet, with the best community, and I am so immensely grateful for it (particularly during these grim times). Thank you for all that you do, for living your values, for writing compelling articles that address a wide (and growing) range of topics, and for fostering such a kind, caring, vulnerable community. I honestly don’t know what I’d do without Cup of Jo.

    • Rusty says...

      Having this place is like my Secret Coping Superpower!
      I don’t tend to comment much (having a bit of a splash today, ha!), but, man, soooo many topics that get me fired up, really thinking and into action.
      Thank you so, so much, Jo. xx

  67. Carla Wytrykush says...

    Oh gosh! Is that why my package appears to be stuck in Toronto for a month? I did get a ton of spam from them. Argh. I bought it for my daughter’s birthday at the end of December, and she has been insisting that her birthday isn’t over until that gift arrives- hoo boy if it never arrives, that’s a LOT of birthday 😝

  68. Kaetlin Liverman says...

    I didn’t order the lamp and was also touched by your offer to reimburse people, but I am pretty sure people should be able to report the charge with their credit card company and be reimbursed through them. You shouldn’t have to take on a risk that credit card companies are in the business of covering.

  69. Sasha says...

    I think this community might be able to help me: my husband just contracted covid despite all our efforts to avoid it. I’m currently testing negative so he’s quarantining away from me and our baby. Aside from food, the only way I can think of to take care of him right now is to send him good TV show recommendations to pass the time. He’s already binge-watched Bridgerton (which I recommended based on the post here), and his tastes run the gamut from fluff to drama to comedy. I don’t watch much TV, so… what are the shows he absolutely must watch from the past 6 months – 1 year? (Because if it’s been out more than a year he’s probably watched it already.) Thank you!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      ooh, such a good question, Sasha (and I hope your husband feels well over the next couple weeks). for shows, I LOVED ted lasso (such a funny, cheerful, pick-me-up show), and the undoing was compelling and suspenseful, and I’m watching the queens gambit right now and it’s great so far (and is critically acclaimed). curious to hear other’s recs! xo

    • Kamaile says...

      Hope your husband feels better soon. Halt and Catch Fire & The Queen’s Gambit were my recent favorites.

    • LB says...

      I thought The Great on Hulu and Sex Education on Netflix (prob over a year old though) were both easy to watch and didn’t get the coverage other popular shows did.

    • .S. says...

      Hi Sasha! Would definitely recommend Pretend It’s a City, Gentefied, Schitt’s Creek, The Last Dance, Sex Education, The Queen’s Gambit, Never Have I Ever, The Crown, and The Morning Show (some of these are older, but have had a new/final season in the last year!)

      Hope your husband feels better soon!!

    • Patricia Ferris says...

      Don’t know if you have HBO, but Barry is really funny and original. Lovesick is a bit older, but my husband and I both loved it. I hope you and your baby stay healthy and your husband recovers quickly!

    • Quinn says...

      Sasha – that sounds really tough for both of you, especially with a baby. I hope he has a smooth quarantine and quick recovery. The shows my husband and I have enjoyed the most during the past 10 months (although some have been out longer than that) are Derry Girls, Sex Education, Normal People, Schitt’s Creek, Chernobyl, The Mandalorian, and The Crown. (And we’re currently watching Bridgerton.) Take good care!

    • Lynn says...

      GameFace on Hulu! Never Have I Ever, Netflix. I also really loved Good Omens on Amazon (2018 but oh so great). And COVID! Ack! So sorry to hear.

    • Ally says...

      Dave or Pen15 are good comedies. The Good Lord Bird, Ramy, I may destroy you, the flight attendant. I agree with Ted Lasso and Sex Education.

    • Amy says...

      Wow that is really kind of you Joanna! I went on the site for the galaxy light but found it fishy when their spin the wheel rebate never went through. We ended up purchasing another galaxy light from another site but still haven’t received it…hmmm…wondering if that was fraud too…

    • Adrienne says...

      Has he watched The Haunting of Hill House or The Haunting of Bly Manor? Soooo good. Incredibly creepy (seriously – like, dolls in basements creepy), incredibly touching, with beautiful music and soulful characters. Love! Oh, and Schitt’s Creek forever and always!! Hope he recovers soon!

    • Heather says...

      Oh I’m so sorry to hear that and hope he’s holding up! Lupin is a brand new show on Netflix which is super fun – it’s French and involves a heist and a mystery – very entertaining. And not sure if it’s been on his radar but the show alone is great to binge watch – there are seasons scattered in various services.

      Good luck and make sure he’s hydrating – Gatorade and those types of powders are super helpful.

    • Jill says...

      Hi Sasha,
      I really think the Sopranos would be fun to binge. Beginning to end.
      Also, Las Vegas is just veg fun.
      Hope alls well very soon!

    • Jules says...

      I know you said he may have watched all the older shows but if not then he could try the Americans. Such a good binge show. Or Yellowstone on peacock which is newer!

    • Hannah Rae says...

      If you’re foodies, Amazon Prime has Great British Menu! My partner is a chef and this is his FAVORITE food show by a MILE. As a fellow eclectic TV lover I’d also recommend:

      On YouTube:
      Hot Ones
      Storror Parkour
      Sorted Food
      Clarity Pilates (full disclosure this is mine! Perfect for some gentle, restorative movement)
      Uplifted Yoga (ditto)

      Netflix:
      The Great British Bake-off (a great rewatch as well)
      Midnight Diner
      Kantaro (Sweet Tooth Salary Man)
      Samurai Gourmet
      The Repair Shop
      Forged In Fire
      Comedians In Cars Getting Coffee (hit or miss but SO GOOD when it’s on)
      Any of Iliza Schlesinger’s (sp?) comedy specials
      Any of John Mulaney’s comedy specials
      Big Mouth
      Derry Girls

    • Tracey says...

      I’ll list some Aussie ones because he might not have seen them:
      – please like me (best!)
      – Rosehaven
      – upper middle bogan (this might be a bit too Aussie)
      – utopia
      – the let down

    • b says...

      The Queen’s Gambit.

    • N says...

      Yellowstone. Your husband will love it. I loved it too, but I can understand that many women might not.

    • Jeanne says...

      Will your hubster be willing to watch The Great British Baking Show? It’s crazily addicting and despite it being a competition and it’s soooo calming. The UK accents are a lovely addition. My “hate to cook, hate competitive tv shows” husband even got attached to it. And there’s like a ton of seasons too. On the same food swing is the documentary series, Chef’s Table which goes into all the work it takes to run a Michelin starred restaurant. Other ideas are Queen’s Gambit, Marvelous Mrs Maisel and the more male orientated Top Gear.

    • Gretchen says...

      I hope that your husband heals quickly!

      I watched Space Force (Netflix) at the very start of the pandemic with my family, and we all thought it was hilarious. We have a hard time finding TV shows we can all agree on. There are some plot holes that you kind of have to just accept/ look past, but it is such a good spoof on–well– Space Force. And the characters are lovable.

  70. Lisa Zieger says...

    Thank you for the note about the Galaxy Lamp! I ordered through the link, but have no expectation you reimburse me for it (I should’ve done my homework!) That said, I’m wondering if you have any info about the site being a fraud that you could point us to? I’d love to follow up with my credit card company about this one, and it looks like the site is still up and running.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you for your note, Lisa! the only info I have is that many readers said their orders hadn’t arrived and the company hadn’t been replying to emails. but I also just found these negative comments on their facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pg/Solar-Flame-Torch-July-Sale-371650046889052/reviews/
      hope that helps — and please do email for a refund, if you’d like!

  71. Libbynan says...

    #1. Thanks for offering the refund. I always thought you were a class act and now I know for sure. #2. Yes, that is the most beautiful hotel I have ever seen. #3. I too cried over “the little gay house” because it was beautiful. Thank you for getting me through a really difficult week with several smiles.

  72. Claire Star says...

    Joanna, I admire you so much. I’m so sorry to hear that one of the gift guide links was fraudulent. Your efforts to link to Amazon less frequently, as well as honor readers’ purchases, speaks volumes to how much you care for and respect this community. I take so much pride in calling this my favorite corner of the internet: I know how much time and effort it takes behind the scenes to produce this blog and I maintain its unique, compassionate voice.

    This week’s blog posts were all incredibly well-written, engaging, and beautiful to look at. You covered three often stigmatized topics (sexual orientation, sex, and mental health) with your usual tenderness and skill. The comments on each post from readers were beautifully representative of this kind and caring community that you’ve built. Wishing you and your family a wonderful weekend and again, thank you for creating this happy part of my day.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, Claire, I’m tearing up! thank you so much, that means so much to our team. xo

    • R says...

      Hear, hear! Thank you for your kindness Joanna. Your willingness to refund readers really made me smile.

    • Angela says...

      Now I’m tearing up! Big hugs to the kind people in this corner!

    • Lauren says...

      Claire, your comment made *me* tear up!

  73. C says...

    Ugh, those fraud websites are so convincing! I’ve been had before. I’m touched but not surprised you would offer to reimburse people; brought tears to my eyes. Love this little corner of the internet sooooooo much.

  74. Emma says...

    Joanna Goddard, you are the real deal. You are what we all need right now.

  75. Cherry says...

    The most beautiful thing I’ve seen today is you personally offering to refund readers on their payments to a fraudulent site you mistakenly sent them to. Such a dear, sweet gesture! BE ENCOURAGED! 💗💗💗

    • MKW says...

      Agreed. Cupofjo.com ethics are commendable. For this and many other reasons I’m a daily reader.

    • pmia says...

      Truly.

  76. Riley says...

    I bought the galaxy lamp through that link and it was totally fine! It showed up by Christmas and was as expected…

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hmmm, did you buy it through amazon? I changed the link to amazon when I learned the other website was fraudulent. thank you so much! xo

    • pmia says...

      I also ordered the galaxy lamp thru your link. I was worried I’d gotten scammed–the tracking info they sent showed that the package never left New Jersey!, and while I ordered it around Thanksgiving, it kept on never arriving. I wrote two or three emails to inquire, and didn’t hear back from them at ALL. I did, however, get slammed with their automated spam, ha. I gave up, figuring “ya win some, ya lose some.” Then, incredibly, it finally arrived on December 24!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh wow! I heard that through someone else, too — that it took a month but did arrive. ugh, so sorry for this hassle, everyone!

    • V says...

      Like a couple of the other commenters, I ordered the galaxy lamp through the sketchy site. It took a few weeks, but it did show up (before Christmas, even) and was as advertised. It’s charming and my nephew loves it. Sorry that others didn’t have the same luck! And Joanna, you are truly lovely <3

    • Marianne says...

      Me too! I even just checked my receipt. I ordered it from Solar Flame Flicker. We love it and it arrived on time. They do send a million spams, though.

    • Julie says...

      I will echo the warm-fuzzy-thankfulness of your generous offer to reimburse…but my lamp did arrive and was much enjoyed by my niece and nephew! I hate that others are having issues and that the company is shady, but your original link still did work for many. How could you have known it would be otherwise?

  77. b says...

    I’ve never watched 30 Rock, but I’d argue Frasier is the best show to fall asleep to. Although, I did stay up the other night to watch the episode where Daphne dates Rodney (Niles’ doppelganger). The moment at Nervosa when Frasier tells Niles not to engage in anything physical with him after discovering Rodney and Adele together is comedy gold, in my opinion.

    • Sara says...

      Fraiser is always the answer:
      I want to watch something funny. Check.
      I want to learn something. Check.
      I want to fall asleep. Check.
      I want to feel good about being single. Check.

  78. K says...

    I just want to say, I appreciate the gift guides so much (so many amazing gifts have been given from these over the years). I appreciate you trying to post less to Amazon so much. I find your message to reimburse readers so wonderful. As odd as it may sound, that gave me a warm glow inside — that’s goodness in the world. Just <3

    • Chelsey says...

      I agree!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh, thank you so much, K! that is really nice of you to say. xo

    • Vero says...

      I agree! This year seems like a main part of our work is to live our values, to be congruent with ourselves in our behaviours and actions. I appreciate you putting in the effort to not link to Amazon COJ !

    • Alec says...

      Came here to say the same thing! Although I wasn’t one of the readers that ordered, and I’m sure that was frustrating, I still really appreciate the intention to be considerate of where our dollars are going.

    • Sara says...

      I fifth! I appreciate how ethical and thoughtful you and your team always are, Joanna!