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What Would You Like to Discuss This Year?

Hi!!!!!!! Hope you had a wonderful holiday, and apologies for the late post today. I have a sore throat and am sequestered to our bedroom until I get my COVID test results back. Update: The test was negative:) (What a sentence! If I had read that in January 2020, I would have been perplexed.)

I’d like to kick off 2021 by saying three things:

1) It’s okay to be feeling overwhelmed. Mondays are hard, Januarys are hard, going back to work after a break is hard, a global pandemic is hard. It’s okay if you aren’t feeling your most sparkly and energetic!

2) We watched The Fugitive last night and it really holds up.

3) And the big question: What would you like to discuss together this year? Do you have any big or small questions for us to tackle? What’s on your mind? Please share below, and we will get on it (or consult experts!).

More posts coming up tomorrow, and sending so much love your way. xoxo

(Photos from When Harry Met Sally.)

  1. MS says...

    Echoing others, I would love to see tips about living with your parents, a reality for so many of us right now! I love my parents but it’s an adventure in boundary-setting, haha.
    Inspiring career posts, especially women in the nonprofit world doing good things for their community.
    Inexpensive outfit ideas using what you already have.
    And would love to hear more from people living around the globe, similar to the parenting around the world series.

  2. Candace says...

    More ‘what are we reading right now’ posts. I have so many books saved on my list from CoJ recommendations :)

  3. Marta says...

    Happy new year to everyone! I would like to know how people are facing pandemia with kids. What are people are doing to handle this stressful situation the world is living. Thank you Cop team.

  4. Candace says...

    I love all these comments and this little corner of the internet. I agree with so many of the high and mighty and educational things, but would also (selfishly) love to see some features of fabulous little shops and/or more home/apartment tours. In this era where we are stuck at home I want to browse through indie stores and look inside people’s beautifully curated homes and ‘window shop’ safely from home!
    (Also Second, Third, Thirtieth the vote for more Motherhood Around the World or Motherhood During Covid posts – love that series)
    x
    Candace

  5. Isabel says...

    Happy New Year, everyone. If it’s not too late to add a suggestion: I’d love to learn how to successfully promote one’s work on social media and in general without sounding braggy or annoying. COJ is *so* good at this, and I am sure there are others who are equally talented in sharing their work in such a smart and inviting way, and it making it about the work rather than themselves. I really struggle to share my work because I detest self-promotion, but beat myself for being unable to do so. Some posts on these would be hugely helpful. Thank you.

  6. Julie says...

    Would love to hear from families on their childcare situation! Nanny? Babysitter? After school care? Daycare? Nanny share? What are the ways families are choosing to foster the care of their kids. How are folks making those decisions?

    • A. says...

      1000x yes for this topic! I’m always curious, and looking for camaraderie, in the ever changing and chaotic world of childcare : – )

  7. katie says...

    Another topic that would be great to discuss is mid-term and local elections. We all rally every four years. We should be rallying every two years and local elections matter!

    Real change, the kind of change we all want, will happen if it starts locally and expands nationally.

  8. Molly Dansby says...

    This is super specific (ha!) but what about the home tours of some of our favorite authors? We love homes and we love books! Like Eva Chen’s house or Jessica Knoll’s house? I’ve seen glimpses of both on insta and always thought they’d be a good fit here! Otherwise something in the vein of your motherhood around the world series. That was everything!

  9. Ali says...

    Been reading through the comments, and I’m so excited about all these ideas! Three things that I’ve been wishing for

    1. Beauty Uniform/Week of Outfit type posts but for financials. Maybe on a monthly timeline? I would love to see how different women manage their finances across rent/mortgage vs. groceries vs. investments/savings vs. fun. I know I have my specific financial quirks, if you will, (never, ever eating out but investing in basic clothing that will last for years) and I would LOVE to hear about other women’s.

    2. Cooking for one. I know there’s been monthly themes before (Trader Joes comes to mind), and I would love some recipe ideas and tricks for scaling down recipes when it’s just me. (See above re never, ever eating out ha!)

    3. More Readers Share xyz type posts. There were some awhile back about cozy corners and wfh outfits I think? Would love to see more! Anything from kitchens, closets, medicine cabinets to favorite kitchen gear, favorite piece in their home, oldest thing they own with the story. The ideas are endless! I love the small glimpses into others ideas and spaces.

    • Danielle says...

      I second all of these ideas! Would love to see this content 😊

  10. Dia says...

    How to reconcile one’s love and dedication to their (conservative) religious faith with being part of the LGBTQ community and knowing that the said faith (and apparently God) doesn’t accept/love them back because of it.

    • Ellen E says...

      ooh this topic is near and dear to my heart as a woman who is proudly queer and proudly catholic! So many amazing potential authors for this one
      *hugs*

    • Dia says...

      Ellen, it’s so amazing to hear that! Who are some of those potential authors that came to mind?

  11. Christine says...

    Addiction. Coping, recovering, grieving for family members afflicted (both living and deceased.) So many of us exist with this as part of our family fabric, and yet it remains a dirty secret. It would be nice to normalise the disease by openly confronting in forums like your blog.

    • lena says...

      THIS! Thank you for mentioning.

    • Danielle says...

      Agreed!!!

    • A says...

      Yes, please!!!

    • Theresa says...

      More posts from Gemma please. I’ll read anything she writes. :)

  12. Rita Dantas says...

    Maybe this is a bit too much “Cup of Jo solve my issues” but I would love some posts on productivity and organization. I keep hunting them, especially to solve my “how never to forget to reply to an e-mail again” one, but they seem to be directed at people to whom this never happens…

  13. LT says...

    Soooo many great suggestions!!!
    I also love the Parenting Around the World Series and would LOVE to see a Covid version. How moms in different cities/countries are coping with Covid and what their lives look like. I work with people all over the world and I can see how different our experiences and situations are and even from the tiny Pre-Zoom meeting chats we have, and it’s fascinating. I would love to see that explored here. Like- moms in the UK, Africa, Asia, the Netherlands, Russia, Italy, France, Australia, Spain, Israel, India, etc.

    • caligirl says...

      I love this idea. Different countries have responded differently to covid and it really affects people’s lives. Also, this has not been done on a global scale before so, without condemning anyone for the wrong decision under pressure, we could use this as a time to learn what we might do better if another situation like this should (pray not) come along.

  14. SA says...

    Hi Everyone, I’ve been reading this blog for years and this is my first comment. My favorite series is the Motherhood around the World posts. What about hearing from people who work abroad or go to college in other countries? I would also love to hear about people’s experience doing post grad degrees or internships.

  15. Mareike says...

    After all the hardships and difficult (though important) conversations had in 2020 I long for lighthearted moments and stories that help me restore my belief in the kindness of humanity and also inspire me to show up in the best way for my community.
    Maybe you could do a series of highlighting a person and how they do good in the world- and maybe giving readers the possibility to follow these examples.
    Sending you love and thankfulness for your voice in the world from Germany.

    • Jo says...

      ooo, I love this idea Mareike! So many great ideas here but this one struck me. Stories/ perhaps calling for essays from the readers (?) … someone doing good who isn’t necessarily already in the news or noticed in the bigger sense. I love seeing neighbourly courage… ordinary people doing extraordinary things in their corner of the world with no fanfare… those are the kind of people who make this world better – and we are all better following their examples. Happy New year to all… looking forward to the content here as always!

  16. Rita Dantas says...

    Following the thoughts on budgets, I would love more of those, but focused on how different people manage their finances, ideally with a few of them being people who have or had trouble not spending it all. I think on your previous finances posts, I always learned more from the comment boxes :)

    I would also love more posts on sex, maybe especially married/long relationship-y and more beauty uniforms (a few of the past ones have been more interviews and less “beauty uniform”. They were still lovely because they were lovely people to get to know (maybe long interviews can be a new feature?), but I miss the old ones that were more beauty focused.

  17. Meg Dodini says...

    I would love to do another “Mothering Around The World Series.” We are moving to Bergen, Norway for my husbands job (we currently live in upstate NY), and I am just completely terrified. I have lived out of the country before, but this time around I have 3 kids with me. I will miss my Costco, Trader Joe’s, Local Farmers Market, Friends, and things that make home feel home for me. I need some encouragement and reassurance!

  18. Thank you Cup of Jo for being here for us in 2020. Having this constant was so comforting among all the unwelcome change. As for a topic to discuss in 2021… about a year ago I was diagnosed with ADHD (I’m 30 years old), and it turns out many women are diagnosed as adults. The diagnosis has really changed my life in such a positive way. I’d love for other women struggling to at least be aware of the idea that ADHD could be at the core of one’s problems and it’s something to possibly explore. xo

  19. Dana says...

    I would like to see something (like, even a series! Is that too big of a thing?) re: All the hormone shifts women go through throughout their lifetimes, with cool & interesting people (doctors, scientists, people going through said changes) contributing stories and ideas.

    Possible topics might include: Adrenarche! (This pre-adolescent thing that happens with littler kids that I’m just learning about) Puberty and first periods! Changes from birth control and/or hormone treatments because of health conditions (eg: cancer, endometriosis , etc) and/or IVF! People transitioning through the use of hormones! Pregnancy and birth hormones! Perimenopause! Menopause! Different cultures’ approaches to these phenomena! Haha, that’s a lot, but you asked.

    I don’t know if anyone else would be as psyched and fascinated as me to see this sort of stuff talked about in an accessible way, but I’d be SO into it.

    If nothing else, at LEAST some content about perimenopause/menopause, since I imagine that’s inevitable (or already in progress) for a significant percentage of your readership, and it doesn’t get talked about enough but affects so much!

    If you wanted sponsorship on said posts, you could probably get it from some of the online treatment plans that’re popping up now, like Gennev or The Cusp (there are others, those are the ones I know off the top of my head).

    Happy New Year, in any event! You guys were already doing pretty great with the content, so you can also just keep doing that 🙃

  20. K says...

    I am struggling with worrying about my 15 year old son. The 0-14 bright, social and happy child has turned inward. I know a good part of this is normal, but it is even worse because of the pandemic. I never dreamed this stage would be some painful.
    Any encouraging words would be wonderful.

    • Annie says...

      Oh man, that’s tough. Usually when kids turn inward, there’s a reason, but it could easily be the pandemic- I’ve heard from so many people that the emotional exhaustion of 2020 caused them to reach out less and become more isolated than they needed to be. I’m a school counselor and we’ve seen this in kids a lot. My advice is to keep gently reaching out, starting conversations, showing love, making connections, on a daily basis. Creating a routine to do this in could help him feel more stability and start to talk- a weekly walk, hike or run or bike ride, a drive to get coffee (is he practicing driving?), a game (does he have a video game you could play with him?), or cooking a meal together? Ask open-ended, surface level questions that can’t be answered with yes or no (how do you feel about the pandemic? What are you hoping most to do when it’s over?), but respect the “IDK,” “I don’t want to talk about it” or “I don’t want to talk right now.” Just keep trying 💕 I remember when I was 15 and moody and I would yell “leave me alone” and slam my door and wait for a parent to gently knock, 15 minutes later- I didn’t really mean it, of course.

  21. Kate says...

    -Reader remedies for PMS
    -Invisible/emotional labor in the home
    -How to build confidence speaking a second language
    -And more posts like “My Social Anxiety Cure-All” (life changing!!)

    Thank you, CoJ! :)

  22. Ellen says...

    I’d love to see an occasional post on women who are later in their life doing neat things or just enjoying life one way or another. I’m in my mid-30s and loved the posts about Aunt Lulu and the one with the older couple (Jane and Terry) who dined outside. It’s so nice seeing examples of happy older adults :)

  23. Sarah says...

    Dandruff, car trips, advocacy, and finding the beauty in the ordinary

  24. Christa says...

    1. A parenting around the world spin off—love/sex/intimacy around the world about partnerships in love all over—preferably including some alternative set ups
    2. Plant-based meal ideas
    3. Personal essays
    4. Posts on a rituals/spirituality/mindfulness practices

  25. Susan says...

    I adored Motherhood around the world, particularly when written by an expat (I’m also an expat abroad and find the insight into cultural differences fascinating). Really any posts exploring different cultures, countries, traditions!

    I’d also love to read posts about mom international stories, like traveling internationally for work while breastfeeding, etc. (For instance, when my baby was six months old and I was heading to a workshop in Dakar, I had to pantomime my way through the Togolese airport to try to explain what my pump and milk were since I don’t speak French and the security guys have never seen/heard of an electric pump…among so many other stories:).

    I’d also love to hear about people’s craziest and wackiest travel moments. Always fun!

  26. Lucy says...

    Racial justice

  27. Desiree Mote says...

    HNY! I would love a post outlining how what is happening to educators and students in our country is criminal. We are treating our world molders and future world holders with sheer negligence. I’ve followed Cup of Jo for years now and would love to see the blog take a stance on what we expect for our students and educators.

  28. Chiara says...

    Some things on my mind recently that I’d love to hear the COJ perspective on!
    1) environmentalism – how to learn more; how to think globally and act locally
    2) more international content in general (maybe riffing off of the parenting around the world? being single and navigating your career around the world, being newlyweds around the world, planning your life around the world)
    3) more foster parenting / adoption content
    4) how to manage time (how do people work 45-50 hours, work out regularly, get enough sleep, and have friends AND have time for hobbies????)
    5) mindfulness

  29. Leigh says...

    I’d be interested in women of a certain age (45+) who decided to go back to school or try to a new career, especially if they had taken a long break to raise a family.

    Also, how do you find new, honest, and true friendships when you’re a grown up? Even if it’s just ways to connect and build relationships with other adults online. Is there platonic bumble for introverts?!

    • Britt says...

      There’s Bumble BFF! I first tried it during the pandemic and love it :)

  30. Annie says...

    please do sustainability/zero waste posts!

    • Stephanie says...

      Amen to that! Cup of Jo reaches so many wonderful people around the world (who want to do good!), I would love to see this platform influence others regarding the importance of sustainability and zero waste. Topics could include zero waste swaps, interviews with sustainability influencers and experts, and ideas on ways to limit consumption.

  31. Gabi says...

    I would love if you could do a segment on weaning your child from breastfeeding. Maybe from different people who did it at different baby ages? I’m struggling to see how I’m ever going to get my boob-obsessed one year old to give it up, and I’m also oscillating between loving the connection we have and just wanting my body and time back. Happy new year!

  32. Sara says...

    Happy New Year- I’d love a post on ways to make the most out of living on a smallish budget. Also a post on ways how to optimize living in a small space w young kids. Thanks! Sara

    • Trisha says...

      Sara, if I could I would put a big heart/checkmark on your comment! Totally agree!!

  33. K says...

    Oh also, I think Catch Me If You Can really holds up well. And besides baby Leo and Tom Hanks, there’s baby Amy Adams and Jennifer Garner!

  34. Lisa says...

    I’d love to hear how people are sharing religion with their children, not as a faith, but as a way to understand cultures and beliefs held around the world. My family celebrates the non-religious aspects of Christmas but my curious 3 year old had a lot of questions about words in Christmas songs that speak to religion. I tried to find books that explained Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, and Christmas without any preaching but had a very hard time!

    • Liz says...

      Love this idea!!! I’ve had the same struggle!

    • Emma O says...

      Hi Lisa. We like the Usborne Book of World Religions here.

  35. K says...

    1) last year i really learned how important “your word is your worth” is. I think especially in NYC, being flaky is often accepted or even seen as a cute whimsical character trait, but I’ve begun to think it is a moral flaw.

    2) the metaphysical value of religion even if you don’t believe in a concrete afterlife

    3) how to truly have a good faith conversation full of disagreements.

    4) how anger directed towards people is very rarely not self-righteous nor is it the most efficacious tool for change. True anger is directed towards no one, behind true anger is sadness, and what do we do about this sadness?

  36. Keltie says...

    I’ve seen a few people ask for more about divorce and I agree. I’d also love to read more about being a step mom and the MANY different ways that looks. It turns out I don’t feel like a parent at all to my partner’s two kids and I’d love to know how others have made managed this role.

    Thanks always to Cup of Jo for writing about the things we can’t find elsewhere!

    • Ally says...

      ^ All of the tops Ketie listed.

    • Ally says...

      ^ All of the topics Keltie listed.

  37. Heather says...

    Just wanted to say these hundreds and hundreds of comments are a true testament to the work the Cup of Jo team puts in. The only reason any of us bother to request specific topics is because you’ve proven how capable you are of handling the big and small stuff that makes up our lives.

    We all have faith in you! Thank you, as always, for all that you do.

  38. Cindy says...

    I would like posts (maybe a series?) revolving around the idea of Am I the Only One Who Doesn’t Know This? Thinking this could offer bite-sized, concrete answers to some things that may seem obvious but perhaps many people don’t actually have any working knowledge of… anything from tech hacks, to financial advice, to how to use the convection setting on your oven. Per usual COJ fashion, any and all questions would be shame-free and no question would be too insignificant to address. :-)

    • India says...

      What a great idea!! Just today I was talking to a friend about how I was embarrassingly old (late teenage years I’d say, maybe early 20s) when I realised timber wasn’t actually a type of wood but rather one could have oak timber or red gum timber etc haha. I was definitely the only one who didn’t know :( So yes, if there’s any other obvious things I should know I’d love to be enlightened!!

    • Amy says...

      I especially feel this way about finances… as a teenager and well into my 20s and 30s, I frittered away sooo much on clothes, makeup, fun things (some of this was FOMO but also having my own real money for the first time).

      By the time 401(k) employer matching, Roth IRAs, compounding interest, started to click in my brain, I felt like I’d lost a lot of time do these things..

      And – what if! – I’d tried to save half my pay check instead of buying things I didn’t need…

  39. Molly says...

    Advice, tips, tricks on getting back into the workforce when you’ve stayed at home with your kids for a few years. Is it hopeless? I have loved being home with them and witnessing so much growth and change but I also want to give myself the chance to do something else great that I’m also proud of. But it’s proving to be difficult bc who wants to hire someone when they’ve been out of the game for a few years.

  40. Anna says...

    I’ve thought probably too hard about this question and it made me realize how much I trust and enjoy COJ’s content, just as it is! Can’t wait for the 2021 articles to come, and feel better soon. (I just today got diagnosed with strep throat and also am relieved not to have COVID.)

  41. Z says...

    I’d like to second this suggestion. I’m in the same boat and could have written this comment myself, word for word. Reminding myself everyday to count my blessings, but… it’s a painful time.

  42. Molly says...

    More beauty uniforms! I love them!

  43. Arlene says...

    I’d love to learn more about ableism. I’m aware of it but I think it pervades my life in a way that I am not self-aware of, and I have yet to see it covered by mainstream influencers.

    • N says...

      Agreed! As someone who is not visibly impaired (I’m more on the neurodivergent side), I love this idea especially. Also, I would love more budget living posts. Everything coj promotes is beautiful, but not totally doable for me, being on disability and therefore a budget. I also really like the beauty uniform and personal essay posts!

  44. Allyson says...

    I’m eager to read more of the Motherhood Around the World series! Those are my favorite!

    • Ellen says...

      I second this!! Whether specific to motherhood (which as a mom I find fascinating) or about cultural norms generally in different countries, I love hearing how things many of us may think of as a given/expected/“normal” are perhaps not that way at all on other parts of the world. Thanks for all you do!

    • Fiona A says...

      I second this. I read the entire series and can’t wait to learn about different normalcies around the world since world traveling won’t be a thing again for some time to come.

  45. Marisa says...

    Going through a super tough break up at the moment, one that I’m honestly blindsided by, and would love any tips, tricks, etc that people have used to get through this nightmarish time in one’s life (have already perused the archives). Not at this point personally yet, but eventually would love posts about dating in the pandemic, how to open up to love again after heartbreak, how to even remember “how” to date as an intense introvert, where to meet people (best apps? other strategies?), etc.

    • Z says...

      I’d like to second this suggestion. I’m in the same boat and could have written this comment myself, word for word. Reminding myself everyday to count my blessings, but… it’s a painful time.

    • Alexandra says...

      Hi Marisa! I just wanted to say that I am going through a devastating breakup right now too so I am sending you the BIGGEST hug. Feel all your feelings girl and know that an Internet friend is out here rooting for you!

    • Marisa says...

      Z and Alexandra, thanks for taking the time to write these notes! It helps just a little bit to know other people are going through the same thing as you when it feels so devastating. I am right there with you, trying to heal and live through the pain, trying to keep hope for the future (as a normally optimistic person, this has been a huge challenge, proving the difficulty of the time). Hugs to you both.

      And if you have any strategies/advice/anything, I’m all ears! :)

  46. Lauren says...

    I would love a post on how Lulu and Milly are doing (well, I hope!) and how they are weathering the pandemic. Their home tour and Lulu’s beauty uniform were two of my all time favorite COJ posts!

    • Ashley P says...

      Mine, too!

    • A says...

      Just to say, my boss actually lives in the same village that Lulu and Milly live in, and it’s been really insulated from the pandemic. Of course, they’re now in lockdown like the rest of England, but until really recently they were in the lowest level of restrictions, and could do a lot of really normal things as case numbers have been really very low there. So I really hope they’re both doing well, as they’ve likely been in one of the best places to weather this storm!

  47. Brittany says...

    Hello Joanna and Team! Can you share more stories of women who have gone through infertility (whether there were attempts at IUI/IVF, adoption, or not) and coming out the other end still being childless/childfree? I have found it hard to find stories of women who have attempted a try at a family who ultimately do not end up with children. All the stories out there are success stories (yay!) but I find solace in knowing I’m not alone in this boat.

    • Zima says...

      Hello there.
      A friend of a friend recently created a book called One of many/Una delle tante, with 100 portraits of women & their stories of infertility (Eng and Italian). In addition, Only You is a beautiful film with Laia Costa and Josh O’Connor that explores the sensitive topic.

    • Kristin says...

      Seconding this. It’d also be good to hear from people who are in the trenches of treatment and uncertain whether they will be successful. I am grateful that this blog has covered the topic of infertility at all, but to hear mostly from the perspective of women who have gone on to have babies is lonely.

  48. Tara says...

    Hi Joanna and the COJ community

    Can we discuss doing home hair colouring please? How to pick a salon-grade colour (rather than a cheap from a box colour which always looks bad on me) and how to DIY?

    Thanks!

    • Heather says...

      Seconded!

  49. Suzanne says...

    Parenting around the world! LOVE that series. And more home tours, it’s always fun to get a peak inside homes.

  50. Amy says...

    I’d love to read about:

    -perimenopause. I tried to bring this up with my girlfriends from college and it was just something some were not comfortable talking about. We’re early 40s.

    – Retirement. I know it could be some time away for many readers. I consider myself mid-career, had changed career in my 30s, and sometimes consider changing career now. But how do I figure out how much I need to retire, how early can I retire (FIRE movement is a hot topic), etc, without necessarily paying somewhat a lot of money for their advice? What do others who have retired wish they knew or would have done instead?

  51. Christine says...

    I couldn’t read through all the comments so am not sure if anyone else suggested this but I absolutely LOVE it when normal people open up their finances. What do people make in various jobs – and around the world? How did their income progress? What’s their rent? How many student loans do they have? What do they splurge on and how are they cheap? What’s their relationship with money? What mistakes have they made? Information and sharing is so powerful to help people on their own money journeys – and it’s often not discussed openly.

    • Molly says...

      Check out money diaries on refinery 29. They have a great discussion of personal finance on that site.

    • Zoe says...

      Yes! I second more posts about how people handle finances differently. Also would love to hear how people go able combining them with partners.

    • Rita Dantas says...

      Ah, I just wasted the work of doing a comment saying just the same :)

  52. Valerie says...

    Could Jenny/ Joanna do anything for recipes kids can help cook? This deep into the pandemic we’re running out of ways to keep our almost 4 year old entertained, but I don’t want to bake a million cookies… covid added enough pounds, thank you. I trust Jenny’s recipes and know any recommendations would be well worth making!

  53. JC says...

    -Paco! I loved Paco’s way of demystifying investing and making a really intimidating topic feel way more approachable (especially for not rich/financially illiterate people like me!)

    -work shoes that are not ugly for people who actually are on their feet all day

    -More career posts. I would love to read some sort of a career diary… what someone wanted to be growing up, what they do now, how they found the job, what they studied, how much they make, what their daily work life is like, what they wear…

    – I second the commenter who requested a “how to get cool art on a budget” post… maybe your friend Gisela could help!

    -Random, but posts on religion? I dunno, I’ve been interested in world religions lately and I think it’d be interesting to hear what modern women have to say about how their religions shape their lives.

    -I eat up any interviews with cool older women.

    • MH says...

      +1 to everything you said, JC!

    • Angela says...

      Oh great ideas!!

  54. CM says...

    I would love posts/advice on how to navigate channeling professional confidence- I am currently working towards a professional degree, and whereas my competence is high, my confidence can often feel low. I have trouble with imposter syndrome and just generally “going for it” (raises, applying to jobs I would like but scare me, negotiating dealing with mental health in the work place, etc.). It would be so helpful to hear from other women about how they approach these situations.

    I’d also LOVE to read about how to have difficult conversations with family, especially adult child and parent. I have okay relationships with my parents, but would love to hear from experts about how to approach topics like racism/poverty/inequality/politics (things that I think are so so important to talk about) with family in a way that makes us actually listen to each other.

    Thanks team COJ :)

  55. Alyssa says...

    I’d actually love to hear more from/about older women. I feel like there is so much to learn there and so much wisdom to share! My favorite post maybe ever was Aunt Lulu’s beauty uniform!

    Would also love to hear more from people who navigate difficult/messy family relationships, and from more “unconventional” families. I’m an every-second-weekend stepmom and don’t feel like I fit in anywhere – I don’t consider myself childfree anymore, but mine and my partner’s relationship with my stepson is obviously very different from that of a parent who sees their child every day (or even 50% of the time).

    • Kristin says...

      Ooh, I agree on both of these! Great ideas.

  56. Sydni Jackson says...

    I’m expecting, so any and all parenting posts will be extra loved! Specifically, I’d love to hear someone talk about about finding your new normal as a mom and as a married couple while being new parents. I know it will be a big shift.

    Also, my favorite posts are always the personal updates and 4 fun things so please keep those up :)

  57. Syd says...

    I so enjoyed your parenting from around the world series, it was enlightening and fascinating. A 2021 reboot? 🤍

    Also, an interview with Jenny Best of Solid Starts would be very interesting. An incredibly inspiring lady, and mama who launched a business in the pandemic that guides families on baby led weaning, and feeding young children. In addition has developed a food data base with nutritional information, recipes, meal planners and more. I am constantly referencing the Solid Starts website and IG page for my 13 month old as well as four year old. It’s changed my life!
    https://solidstarts.com/

    And finally, how I love Cup of Joe. A bright moment in my day when I realize I have a new post to read! THANK YOU 🤍

    • Syd says...

      Ugh autocorrect. Clearly meant CUP Of JO!!!!!!

  58. Holly says...

    I would love a post sometime later this year about how to deal with relationships that have changed because of COVID. I read a New York Times piece that was an interview with epidemiologists where one doctor was asked what will be forever changed for her and she said something to the effect of, ‘My relationships with people who never took the virus seriously.’

    SAME. There are people in my life who I fear I will always resent because I followed the rules and they refused to. Friends who never made their kids wear masks around my vulnerable child; people who continue to question the science behind masks; schoolmates who visited indoor water parks during holiday break (whaaat?!). At times myself and a few friends felt like the only people limiting our life to keep grandma safe. I’ve already succumbed to too much resentment and am wondering how I’ll navigate certain relationships now that I know who these people truly are. Would love a therapists advice on getting back to acceptance and/or how to grieve what we learned about our friends during the pandemic so that we don’t carry resentment around forever.

    • This is important! Relationships are evolving and ending because of 2020 (politics, a pandemic, racially charged conversations, social distancing, personal growth and enhanced self-care/awareness).

    • M says...

      Yes to this. Thanks for bringing this up. I’m dealing with layers of resentment toward some family members. Our whole family has been affected by so much carelessness.

    • Jess says...

      Love this and so, so agree! I talk about this with my husband daily. I have so many feelings of resentment and loss of respect for colleagues, acquaintances and very close friends. I’ve even had spirals and teary conversations about moving (we live in FL) or quitting my job because my boss and coworkers think covid is a joke. I’m so saddened by how people in my community have reacted to covid I sometimes feel like spiraling and have thought “am I the only one feeling this way?” you are not alone and would love some advice, COJ!

    • Liz says...

      Chiming in to second/third this! Also, just updates for how to cope with (and help your children cope with) covid-life 10 months in. Feels like it’s gotten much harder after 10 mos of semi-isolation, and the things that used to help lift all our spirits no longer do. Any tips (or just commiseration!) would be much appreciated!

    • Loralei says...

      YES!!! I thought I had some friends and family that were like-minded about how seriously we are taking Covid (masks, social distancing, no unnecessary risks, no traveling, not seeing anyone or having a very limited circle) and in the last few months EVERYONE has flaked out!!!!! They have ALL given up, every single one of them is taking mind boggling risks. And I’m here feeling we are the only ones trying to do the right thing, no one else is anymore. How do I look these people in the eye without being super resentful? we are now the only ones so isolated and miserable because we are sticking to our original ideals and precautions. And it’s not about me, I will be able to bounce back when this is all over. It’s my kid. I’m SO worried about the perhaps permanent emotional damage this is causing!!! 😩 and have started to wonder if am I the one that is crazy for staying so vigilant?? Because yeah, the kids at school talk about going to indoor water parks. And to their friends house for sleepovers. And all the relatives they saw over the holidays. And the traveling they do. And my kid asks me why we don’t do all that. AGH!!!!!

  59. EB says...

    Would love to hear from those who are torn about whether or not to have a child (I mean really undecided, not 24 years old and thinking “it’s not time yet.”)

    I spent the last few years of my 30s living with the idea of having vs. not, and I can now say more confidently I don’t want to, and I feel fine with that decision most of the time (fortunately my husband said he was okay with whatever I decided, but also, that put it all on me). It’s still hard to say aloud in some circles and a few friends still pressure… Interested to read the thought process of others.

    • Katie says...

      Agree!! I am in that place right now and there seems to be so few places that share real stories of people in the same position. It feels remarkably isolating, which I think could be so much better if I could find others sharing their thoughts.

    • Ellen E says...

      yes!! sometimes it seems like all parenting content starts with “I always knew I’d have 2 kids…” There is no way that is everyone’s experience! I know its not mine

  60. Jess says...

    I would love to read articles about women that have found their passions or learned new skills later in life. It could be anything from discovering various hobbies like gardening, interior design, learning a new language, etc . There are so many classes that cater to kids and young adults that it often feels as though we live in a culture where adults aren’t as encouraged to learn new skills. I find that a lot of my peers have stopped finding ways to explore new activities that could bring them joy. I’m curious to take up ice skating or tap dancing this year and think it would be fun to read about other women that have found small and big passions of their own that they may not have expected.

    • London says...

      I love this! I ask new people about hobbies all the time and so many people don’t have one that comes to mind. Would love to hear about people learning to renovate their homes, sew, read Portuguese poetry, grow the perfect balcony tomato. Really, anything that is “work” you do for your self and your soul, not for the money. (Also, why do we need to monetize our side hustle? Can’t it just be an improvement hustle?)

    • Alyssa says...

      Yes! I’m in my early 30’s and consider myself a total late bloomer, and I LOVE hearing about women thriving/finding their passions later in life. It’s something I’m looking forward to!

    • meg dodini says...

      Agreed! I am in my late 30’s and I have recently reinvented myself in my career. It’s scary, but kind of invigorating!

  61. ab says...

    i would love for you to talk about people who have lost their jobs. many of us have and i find such inspiration from other women here. i think profiling women of all careers – waiters, yoga instructors, lawyers, finance etc. – would be fascinating. and talking about career pivoting. how best to get through the day. your own career transition, joanna. finding your unique gifts.

    • Silver says...

      I would love this too. I lost my job and have decided to retrain at university even though I am 48 this year. I used to work in the arts, which is an industry hard hit, competition for work will be harder than ever and it was already a pretty tough industry. I’m starting a Masters in Information Management to become a librarian. Hearing other people’s stories might help quieten the little voice that says “are you sure you’re doing the right thing?” It’s really hard to shake the shame of being unemployed – even though I don’t think badly of anyone else who that happened to. The shame I feel has surprised me more than I could have ever expected.

  62. Jenny says...

    I’d be really interested on a post about couples who have struggled in their marriages. Whether they worked through and came out stronger or divorced. Were there early warning signs? What did they do to try to prevent it, if anything? As a newly married person, I always worry, “if this is challenging now, what will things look like in 10 years?”. I don’t know what is “normal” when it comes to disagreements and struggles and what is not. And although I know that can’t be answered, I have to wonder if there were often blaring red flags for many couples, or if it was a slow progression that could not have been easily avoided.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      question questions, Jenny! thank you!

    • Robin says...

      Yes please! I’ve been with my now husband for almost all of our adult lives (28 years!!) but our lives continue to grow and change and I worry we won’t be able to keep up. I value our relationship more than just about anything in the world, apart from my kids. How do I take care of that when we’re both carrying so much right now?

    • Molly says...

      Jenny, I could have written this comment. I am newly married (over a year) and feel we are struggling.

  63. Jessica says...

    First time caller, long time listener. Thanks for asking this!
    I’d love to learn more about gardening! How to successfully create a small-space herb garden? How to know what plants will work in your space? How to build a sustainable garden? Could be a seasonal series, featuring readers across the country with different types of gardens (ecosystems, size of space, budget friendly, etc.). So many possibilities!

  64. j says...

    – how to cope with long term illnesses (covid or otherwise)
    – sustainable brands/products that don’t cost a fortune
    – climate change issues and what ordinary people can do to help fix the problems
    – how to avoid feeling like it’s groundhog day every day while lock downs are happening.

    Love what you do – I’ve followed your blog for a decade I think!

  65. AD says...

    Echoing a few others’ requests: a Modeling Series playing on the parenting technique . Show us the way…or another way!

    A few ideas: how to change careers, go back to school, live sustainably, run for local office, form a parent or friend community, become an expat, create a multigenerational home, become activists, etc. I love the positivity CoJ brings with spotlighting women on a mission. And I love a case study even more.

    • Sydni Jackson says...

      Ooh, I would love to read a series written by expats! I miss travel (and living abroad) so much, and am so curious what it’s like for people living abroad right now.

    • London says...

      Yes! Motherhood around the world is one of my fave CoJ series! Just an “what lockdown was like for expats” would be fascinating.

  66. Tania says...

    Oh I am so relieved you don’t have COVID! I love anything food related because I can never remember what I like to eat or what I’ve cooked in the past even though I feel like it is also all I do every day all day. I love your random “x fun things” posts which are great (and quick) little pick me up, I feel like we haven’t had a lot of style posts lately? I miss those that showed what people wore in a week (I know, for a lot of us — who are lucky to be able to — it is sweats from here to bedroom and back, but that might make it kinda interesting? I need some quarantine fashion inspo!)

  67. Ceridwen says...

    Books! Bookclub again would be great or movie/article club.

    Love your work and this community. It anchors my day. It has also taught me about how to dress- I love the outfits posts! Love house tours too and food, social/political posts, and, well, all of it. Money talk is also helpful.

    Thank you x

  68. N says...

    I don’t want to see this blog get too heavy, for example, discussions of religion or extensive parenting posts. I like that it is relatively lighthearted and I come here for a reprieve from the very, very serious job that I do and the very serious world we are living in right now. There are so many places all over the internet to discuss serious topics, in a long form format which does them justice. If that’s your bent, go find those fora, rather than trying to pigeonhole those issues here into a lifestyle blog. The posts recommending books, clothes, skincare, children’s items, Netflix shows etc are exactly what we all need at the moment.

    • Holly says...

      Gotta disagree with you here, N. Heavy topics and controversial topics are not the same thing, and I think CoJ has handled some really heavy topics in the most beautiful way. The Cup of Jo ugly cry is A THING, and it is actually kind of wonderful. I’ve had some really meaningful moments with this community and this blog and many of them were around heavy topics. If it’s possible for a lifestyle blog to be lifegiving, this is it.

      I love that CoJ offers a balance. Because sometimes we need to the relief of seeing we are not alone in our struggles and sometimes we need some navy eyeliner recos.

    • KC says...

      I think “what we all need” is probably not all the same. I personally feel inclined to scream if a source is more than one topic or really covers lifestyle and yet never mentions anything at all serious. (twitter kitten streams that really only do kittens: sure, though)

      That said, I wonder whether a solution could be found with tagging – you can already read only the travel posts or only food posts, so maybe there’s a way you can read the fluffy things exclusively?

    • N says...

      Oh I’m not sure it’s worth instituting a whole tagging system – it’s easy enough to skip posts.

  69. BD says...

    – I always love 4 fun things / randoms
    – I’ve been here a long time so I love hearing from Joanna personally: personal anecdotes / challenges / joys / anything really
    – Beauty Uniforms!
    – The big stuff: Meaning / Purpose / Happiness / Belonging / Wholeness / Spirituality / LIFE!
    – Maybe introduce us to some small business brands (female owned? BIPOC?) that wouldn’t normally get the press (clothing, house wares, beauty, etc.)
    – Marriage advice :D

  70. april says...

    There’s a lot of focus on parenting young children/what to buy young children/where to go with young children on this blog. How about parenting older children, from teens to grown children?

  71. Bre says...

    I’ll chime in with a YES to the parenting tweens request.

    Your beauty, fashion, movie/show posts always brighten my day with new things to try and get excited about.

    As a broad category, I appreciate the way your normalize things that seem scary and lonely. Things like marriage trouble, mental health, kid issues, etc.

    Thank you for all that you do!

  72. Melanie says...

    I’d love to hear stories of people who have really changed up their lives after experiencing 2020. I think the last year has really made everyone focus on what is most important to them. Some even making big pivots… and I want to hear those stories!

    • Rach says...

      Yes me too, Melanie put that perfectly. That would be so interesting.

    • Sydni Jackson says...

      Yes! I have a friend who just quit her job and bought a little cabin on 30 areas of land with her husband. They realized how they kept “escaping” to nature so figured they should just be in it full time instead of having to escape their real lives.

  73. Kathryn says...

    I love this blog so much so more of the same is good for me !

    I love your beauty uniforms right through to tackling big issues like race and relationships. I love anything about sharing good conversations and date night stuff with your partner and everything in between.

    The more content the better. Thank you for being my favourite place to visit on the net each day xx

    P.S. for some reason I regularly pop back and read the post you did with Samin Nosrat. It always manages to uplift me and put a smile on my face. So more from humans like Samin would also be great 😊

  74. Katrina says...

    You all could write about paint drying and I would read it.

    So glad Cup of Jo is back from the holidays! <3

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      awwww <3 <3 <3

  75. Joy says...

    Parenting pre-teens to teens.

    How to transition to part time in your job (like a real guide – not a story about how one person “lucked into” a perfect situation, but how to figure out how much part-time you should be paid, how to set boundaries for part-time work, how to argue effectively for your value, what to do about health insurance or retirement contributions.) I think it could go well with the money and budgeting series.

    • J says...

      YES! Going part time is my goal over the next few years, whether I end up having kids or not. I like my company and coworkers but not the all consuming workload. For me, work isn’t the point of life… it’s one part of life. I’m living out of balance with lots of stress. Anyway, I’d love to read practical tips too. Negotiating a part time structure that includes health insurance (even prorated) would make this goal MUCH more attainable. We are saving nearly half our income now, so I know we can live on less, especially if my husband’s business keeps growing even modestly. I’ve run the numbers. And health insurance is the biggest challenge. Buying insurance with a chronic condition (high deductible not an option) and no ACA subsidies is incredibly expensive.

  76. pm says...

    Women and rage, specifically in the US. I’m a white woman and I feel so much unspoken, diffuse rage. I would be interested in Black women’s rage, white women’s rage, Asian-American women’s rage, First Nation women’s rage. How do our cultures tell us to handle it? What does it look like; what does a healthy expression of anger look like? What does it look like when we don’t know how to deal with it? And so on…

    • Magda says...

      As an immigrant who moved to the US at age 13, the way Americans acted on feeling rage surprised me. I am from a third world country where we think of the community more than the self. Violent or uncontrolled anger can be triggered by a series of things, as a brown woman -I do not think race has anything to do with how one experiences it.

  77. a says...

    I second someone’s suggestion about an astrological / zodiac sign post :) seems like a fun topic that I don’t know a ton about

    Also would love to hear from readers who are in relationships with large age gaps. How they handle societal pressure / comments and just general experiences

  78. Nicole says...

    I’d love to hear from other mothers of only children who are want to but are afraid to open their hear to a second child. I feel that we all want to ask God for the grace to expand our family, but I’m so so scared now that I now what it takes to raise a human in this world. I need to let go of the fear or let go of the thought and be content with what is. But two years have passed and I still feel the same. How do you move past this? I also LOVE home tours. Wishing you all the peace and gratitude this year.

  79. M says...

    Kindof random, but I would love to hear about car-free families who do not live in places like NYC or Seattle. What about people in the middle of America, suburbs, rural areas, or big cities with awful public transit/bike lanes? I would looooove to get rid of my car and I think being car-free is part of our collective future but I can’t wrap my head around how to make it happen (because I am privileged and lazy).

    • A says...

      Lol Seattle has terrible public transportation, plus everything is super spread out. It’s definitely possible to be car-free here, but would not put it in the same boat as NYC!

    • Katie says...

      Would love to read about how people have made being car-free work! I am car-free currently and love it but we’re not sure if we can make it work if there were babies/kids in the mix.

    • Vanessa says...

      Yesss to this! We sold our (second) car during the pandemic which is working great since none of us go anywhere, but I’m not sure if it will keep working once commutes and in-person school are a thing again (if ever?). I’d love to be a one-car (+ electric bike!) family, but we have three kids and live in Phoenix (aka the surface of the sun) for half the year. Will take all the tips!

  80. Sarah says...

    I would love to hear from someone who is rethinking consumerism in 2021- like doing a no-buy January or low-buy :) I’m trying to do this and setting rules for my spending, but I want to try to make it sustainable in my own life. Would love to hear from others who have done this! Their reasons, practices and the effect it has had on them in the long term.

    Thanks COJ team for showing up every day for this community. It is a daily highlight to come here :)

    • Dee says...

      Ooh good one. I’m doing a total no-shop 2021, I’m fed up with the impulse to constantly purchase and browsing online, taking up my life. I’ve cancelled Instagram to that end as well – so triggering. In 2020, the urge to shop got worse because there were so many limits to what we could otherwise do. My request to COJ is not just to speak to people about their no buy project and why they are doing it – but what are they using their newfound time for? Me, I decided to do an online language course as my new displacement activity instead of mindless social media and shopping. I blocked all shopping sites. I’m also aiming to read 100 books this year. Really, what the addiction to consume is hiding, is a greater need for people and community, and closeness, this is what I think. I hope to add that element back in when it is safe again.

    • nadine says...

      Hi Sarah! I am very very interested in the topic as well, I read this article just yesterday: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/28/style/self-care/how-to-buy-less.html
      After reading another article about buying less that was linked here on cup of jo a few years ago, I decided to set my own rule about clothes shopping to buy only 1 item a month and it worked quite well until the pandemic. In the past few months I’ve been doing a bit too much shopping, I wonder if it was more for the feeling of something to look forward to or for numbing myself with the act of scrolling.. But I realize it filled my mind (and my home) with stuff I don’t need.
      Anyway I think I want to try to not buy anything at all (except food and books in moderation) for a few months and see how it goes. I am definitely interested in reading other tips and perspectives.

  81. Emma S says...

    Women and sobriety! I’ve been reading this wonderful book called Drink by Ann Dowsett Johnston about women and alcohol and I would be interested in hearing individual experiences with alcoholism and sobriety and how that is within culture.

    • pm says...

      Second this.

      Particularly interested in sobriety in the pandemic. I’m 10 years sober and this year has been haaaaaaard.

    • lmnop says...

      Thirded (is that a word)? One year sober here (yes, I gave it up juuuuuust before Covid landed) after reading “Quit Like a Woman”!

  82. Kim says...

    Because we haven’t talked about it enough… the pandemic.
    Specifically, the ways people have adjusted their daily routines and homes.
    Also, anything they’ve purchased or re-fell-in-love-with that makes lives easier, better, more delightful.
    For me, I bought perfume at the beginning of March and received a huge bonus gift of spring samples – serums, face creams, mini mascaras… I’m still shopping my cupboard from those samples and it feels so luxe. Another thing, a set of 3 small rubber spatulas, that perfectly mix up small dips, feed sourdough starter, and get EVERYTHING out of jars. I freakin love those tiny spatulas, they’re my best pandemic buy, makes me so curious about what has brought joy to others.

    Thanks for everything you do, happy new year Cup of Jo team :)
    Please keep up the house tours and beauty uniforms – when I see those, the whole world stops. They’re my most revisited posts.

    • Rita Dantas says...

      Love this idea! (of to order small rubber spatulas as we speak)

  83. silver says...

    I’d love posts about parenting pre-teens. There is so much out there about young children, and then older teens but I’m finding the ten and up years a great challenge.

    I do love a good house tour, beauty routine etc. They’re always a favourite.

  84. Molly says...

    Navigating relationships with parents, siblings, in laws, twin relationships, dating/marrying twins

    Navigating transition of any kind, how to communicate your needs in difficult times, understanding boundaries and how to establish them.

    Motherhood/parenting around the world!!

    Can Gemma do a monthly series about all things books and beauty?

    I love the house tour series and beauty series as well!

    Basically, keep doing everything you’ve been doing :) also shout out to Caroline, I love anything you write! My favorite was the sliding door post!

  85. Sadie says...

    I love it any time you feature photos from readers <3

  86. I would love an entire series on white privilege / racial justice /inequality

    it was so helpful to hear people’s unique and personal perspectives!

    I’m all for more info on women’s issues too – I’m (hopefully) not near menopause yet, but I love that someone asked to hear more about it! I love the idea of exploring the details of women’s lives beyond the traditional “signposts” of school, career, marriage, kids :)

    Happy New Year and THANK YOU for being wonderful!

    • Jane says...

      Second this. Please more posts on inequality. I think it’s our biggest issue globally. I would love to hear about companies/ organizations/ countries implementing different strategies to reduce inequality. For example companies that maybe have a more equitable distribution of salaries across the board that we could support? Organizations that are working on reparations in the US and globally. There are many interesting articles on global inequality and the Covid vaccine roll out would be interesting to hear a person perspective on that from a doctor or nurse?

  87. Em says...

    -how to start a hobby or pick up a new skill
    -how to make a difference – volunteering, donating, being a good person during difficult times
    -more motherhood around the world! (It is a favorite and really helped me as a parent.)
    -how people are safely celebrating during covid – loved the covid/ socially distanced wedding post so much and was really hoping to see more.
    -breaking gender biases and raising a child in a gender neutral tone

  88. Liz says...

    So glad you are Covid free!
    I’d love content that is not geared towards mothers or married people! I enjoy this blog greatly but I can’t be the only single 30-something reader, right?
    Also, I’d love posts about career changes in your 30’s!

    • Katie says...

      Same! Single 32 year old here and I always love the rare post geared towards single people. Would love to see more older single women, especially in style and home tour posts! I still read and enjoy the parenthood and relationship posts, as all the content here is amazing, but those are really not relevant in my life right now.

  89. Summer says...

    Love this blog and have visited daily for so many years! Would love to see the following here:
    – more parenting or simply living stories from around the world
    – TV/Movie and especially book recommendations (even just for the comments alone – I have found so many great reads in comments about books here)
    – stories about non-traditional families/parenting. Especially stories from people that are foster parents or have done foster adopt. My husband and I just got licensed and will start fostering this year and would love to see other people’s experiences with this.
    – Stories about people tackling things on their bucket lists and their reactions to doing that
    – continued diversity of stories, you all do such a great job of making sure all kinds of voices are heard here, keep it going!

  90. Alexandra says...

    Happy New Year, CoJ crew! And I hope you feel better soon Jo!

    My favorite posts are always a) the ones featuring pictures from readers (date night outfits! Quarantine dresses!) and b) those featuring quotes from Toby and Anton. I’d love to see more of both in 2021.

  91. lee says...

    Here are some of my wonders…..
    how are people dealing with letting their kids (teens) age appropriately during the limits of covid- Im talking knitty gritty stuff like about sexual exploration that is appropriate but could kill you right now if you kiss another teen that has been exposed…. or can they ride in cars together with masks on and windows down so they are not super stuck at home…. is hanging in the basement safe enough if they have masks on – how do you manage a pod really???? these are questions I deal with every day-how to maximize my kid’s life while keeping my family safe- it feels very lonely to be the rule maker as so many rules seem random and every family seems to be doing it differently. this is a time I should be letting go, not clamping down…. I wonder how this is impacting both my kid and I
    I am also interested in front line workers stories- not just health care providers ( I am a nurse and sick of my own experiences) how are folks managing their stress and time? what does “losing it” look like to different people, how are people asking each other for help as this goes on and on…..
    lets talk about dogs and cats and birds and rabbits that have become essential to us during this time- have we ever loved our pets more? In history have pets ever been valued this much? I would like a history lesson around how we came to keep creatures in our homes and how they transitioned to being members of the family with shoes and beds of their own…. cause you know, during a pandemic, a girl has time to wonder about weird stuff….
    thanks so very much

    • Kirstin says...

      Lee I agree totally! In case we go into lockdown again my husband and I agreed that instead of batting the stupid roll out of tasks we got from our child’s school we’re going to take the history of domestic cats blurb off Wikipedia and use that as our program – it’s cross cultural, involves maps, modes of travel, religion, myth, stories, artistic expression.

  92. Solveig says...

    Yes to parenting around the would pandemic edition! Also: could we talk about anger? Women’s anger, anger at work, at home, in society in general? Would love to see Soraya Chemaly featured!

  93. Kali says...

    I love the mix of topics/posts on the blog. I get so much from the parenting/motherhood posts, and come back to them time and time again. One topic within this that would be great to hear more about, is how to navigate parenting with the other parent. Sometimes the part I find most challenging about parenting is just figuring out how to handle differences in how we approach discipline, or mealtimes, etc. Maybe interviewing a marriage counselor or hearing multiple perspectives. Thanks!!

    • Robin says...

      Yes to navigating parenting compromises! I think my husband and I do pretty well but we have significant differences of opinion – parenting boys! Video games! Discipline! – I’d love to hear how other people navigate these issues.

  94. Rachel says...

    More posts on working mothers and how working mothers have overcome struggles in the workplace!

  95. Brittney Nichols Barrows says...

    There are already hundreds of comments so I would be surprised if this hasn’t shown up yet but here is what I’d LOVE to see.

    How. To. Wax. Your. Own. Eyebrows.

    I’ve been doing mine at home for 20 years but I’ve found that my friends are VERY intimidated by the prospect of doing it on their own.

    • april says...

      Here, here!

  96. Meghan says...

    I’d love to have another conversation about children’s books. The last one (2019, I think) was filled with the most amazing recommendations. We found so many new favorites, and I’d love to hear what you and other readers are loving now. We read voraciously with our kiddos (picture and early chapter books) and are always looking for new recs from people in the know.

  97. Katey says...

    Hope you feel better, soon!

    I would love COJ to include teen voices. I want to broadcast what they care about. Guns, active shooting drills, climate disaster, LGBTQIA+ issues, equality, race issues. We point to “the kids” as a reason to keep a lot of policy in place, a reason not to be courageous or upset the apple cart. I suspect they are more aware than we think. I want to empower them and hear their voices.

    I know what the generations ahead of me think…. I’m living in the world they’ve advanced. I’d like a lot to change and I think knowing our next generations’ concerns is a way to help me (and others) take an active role in creating change.

    • Sequoia says...

      Hi Katey! I just learned on the Whats your Word post here on COJ that the word for that is generativity! Reading your post I was struck by how ridiculous it must be to be a child of the world right now. Of course they know everything. I’m curious to know what their news sources are???

  98. Mistie says...

    Parenting Around the World: pandemic edition!

    • Heather says...

      Yes!!! Even variations on this – friendships/ relationships pandemic edition!

    • Stephani says...

      Yes I totally agree

  99. Whit says...

    Standing on my tippy toes and frantically waving my hand in favor of all the menopause / perimenopause requests (please, please, please!). It blows my tiny little mind that this has historically been such a taboo, off-limits topic. I’m grateful we’ve reached a point where we no longer whisper about periods and PMS, and I’m hopeful we can get there with menopause, too.

    Check out Dr. Jen Gunter, she’s publishing a book on menopause and perimenopause this spring (May, I think?). Anyhoo, here’s what she wrote on her IG when she turned in her manuscript:

    “This book has everything I want everyone to know, the history of menopause, why we have menopause, symptoms, health concerns, where to turn and what you can do.

    Because so much of what we are taught is based on patriarchal bullshit, women need facts and feminism to navigate menopause. And I’ve got you covered!!!”

    • Amanda says...

      Yes please!

    • Claire says...

      I mentioned similar in my request as well. Not only does the middle part of life include intense physical changes that reverberate throughout ones days and nights, but that time of life really ramps up in terms of other issues too. There seems to be a common belief that if one plays one’s cards right then the middle part of life will be serene and easy, where one basks in the rewards of ones labors and simply enjoys the time and freedom. But that is not accurate. I’ve come to believe instead (through experience, and from the many women I know) that most deal with intense change and major life events – many unanticipated.

    • Tamara says...

      Please, please, please! It is so hard to find good actionable information. Even my Dr., who loves deep dive research, admitted to polling her patients like me to gauge her own peri menopause experience.

    • Cheryl says...

      A thousand times YES!

    • Robin says...

      Yes! I think I heard about the Ladies, we need to talk podcast from coj- the hormones episode was great. But seriously how am I highly educated, 42, living in one of the biggest cities in the world, and all I have to prepare me for what’s basically around the corner is one podcast episode?!

  100. Gina says...

    Advice for us singles on how to date in a pandemic! Its been an extra lonely time but feeling hopeful for the new year and would love advice. Also maybe some success stories of couples that met online in 2020, just to give that reassurance that its not impossible.

  101. Shannon says...

    This may seem far flung right now, but I personally would be so interested to hear from people (especially those in established jobs and/or with families and friend networks) who decided to become an expat in another country for a short or long time — and HOW they did it! How did they decide where to move? Did they take their pets? Was it difficult for relationships or did relationships blossom? Did it cost a lot of money? How did they find an apartment/house? Was work hard to find? Was getting a visa difficult? Where did they look to make friends?

    I also love to see anything that deals with home/renovations/interior design BUT adore the added bonus of knowing what folks spent on their spaces.

    • LB says...

      I second stories about becoming an expat, especially if people did NOT just move to their company’s London or Berlin or wherever office for a year, but actually up and moved in a different way (is that even possible???).

    • Naseem says...

      Former expat kid here (Bangkok, Frankfurt)! And I second this. We moved because of my dad’s job, but now I work for myself and am looking to live abroad.

      My parents, also self-employed now, are actually moving to Portugal in the summer. We are black and my mom has just had enough of the States (me too tbh).

      To LB: They are getting a D7 visa. It’s fairly easy to acquire if you work remotely or have investment/retirement income over their minimum wage.

    • Caitlin says...

      Current expat here! My husband and I live in Senegal with our two kids (ages 4 and 6 months. This is our second year here and before this we lived in the Cayman Islands for four years. My husband is a teacher and I work in marketing and communications. We went through a recruitment organization called Search Associates that is specifically for education professionals. There is a large expat community here with people from all over the world in many different jobs and the same was true of the Cayman Islands. Depending on your industry, there are many different ways to become an expat. All of the little details like visas, costs, bringing pets, etc. are completely dependent on both the country and your employer.

      Moving abroad has been the best decision we’ve made as a family. Senegal is wonderful and my daughter is now bilingual as she’s been attending a french preschool. We miss our family back in the States but we feel that these experiences are invaluable. I’m always happy to answer more questions.

      With that said, I’d love to hear more from other expat families! The Motherhood Around the World Series was my favorite thing on the internet. Thank you Cup of Jo for building such an amazing community.

  102. amy says...

    Love all of the ideas above. My request is quite specific on parenting. I am parenting a little boy who loves girls things and if there are others who ha who is not what you think he/she is, would be helpful. This doesn’t have to be about being binary (though I am interested in learning more about this if others are). Thank you!

    • Steph says...

      I’m parenting a similar boy, and while he thankfully has really supportive and affirming teachers at daycare, he has started receiving comments on his clothes and activity choices from kids his age (3-4) and I can see some adults in our lives being challenged by it. That’s the tough part :( There are a couple of books that we love, if it helps:
      – Who Are You? The Kids Guide to Gender Identity
      – Jacob’s New Dress
      – Jacob’s Room to Choose
      – Julian is a Mermaid

  103. jaclyn webb says...

    – family vacation posts (where you went, what you did, what was cool, what failed, food, etc)
    – activities, games and toys for kids of various ages…more everyday rather than gifts
    – more vegan recipes!!

  104. Katherine says...

    Yes! Thank you for taking requests! I have two suggestions, both prompted by spending *a lot* of time at home in a small apartment these days:

    1) space saving/ organizational tips, multitasking and convertible furniture… How do people REALLY feel about Murphy beds? What kitchen tools do ALL THE THINGS? How can I do more with less and, most importantly, what should be on the ‘less’ list? Are there any international tips I could steal? As a teenager, I lived with a family in Spain for several months, and was enchanted by, among many other things, their dish drainer(!!!) which was disguised as a bottomless cabinet right above the sink. Genius! I feel certain that the rest of the world has gems to offer up, especially in densely populated areas where living quarters tends to be small.

    2) How to start collecting original art. I just… have so many questions. It seems like lots of people are investing in their walls these days, and it would be a good time to talk about supporting artists, art as an investment and a joy-bringer, how to insure it, etc.

    • Shannon says...

      Totally agree with #1) Do more with less! Especially the international tips. To add on: what are design styles or even specific items that will stand the test of time? That will more easily translate to different spaces if layouts/room use/houses change?

    • Candace says...

      Second number 1! Hoping to buy our first home in 2021 and want alllll the tips on being clever and intentional with space.

  105. Claire M says...

    Happy New Year! Even the change of 1 digit is so welcome after 2020!

    I would love to see the teeny detailed home-tours based on profession – let me explain:
    – A cook’s home kitchen
    – A novelist’s desk/workspace
    – A landscaper’s home garden (and maybe any houseplants with tips!)
    – A hair or make-up artist’s home vanity
    – A musician’s home studio
    – An influencer(??)’s digital equipment and shooting locations, maybe their luggage situation if they are travel based

    Lonely in isolation, I’ve been thinking a lot about how my profession (engineering) doesn’t lend much towards my home… except I can build a mean sub-floor and direct drainage haha. I’d love to see what people have done at home based on learnings from their jobs.

    • Kirstin says...

      I love this!

    • another Claire says...

      this is a very interesting idea good one!

    • Kathryn says...

      I love your idea! Also, I am married to an engineer, and I love all that he adds to my crazy home ideas! A mean sub-floor and direct drainage make everything else possible! He also makes me really think through and articulate my ideas before I start. They almost always turn out better because if engineering!

    • Teresa Kennedy says...

      fun ideas! I like this too!

    • Nisa says...

      I would love this, too!

    • Kim says...

      Love this! great idea!

    • Suzanne says...

      Yes, please! Such a neat idea.

  106. Whitney says...

    I’d love to see a post about different people’s experiences working with family members. Whether that be working for the family business or starting a business with a sibling. The good and the ugly.

    In case it wasn’t obvious, I work for the family business and would love to hear more about other peoples experiences in this unique position!

  107. Laura says...

    Pooh! How about interviews with different mom’s and parents about their Covid routines?? How are they keeping things light and happy during this dark time? It could be like motherhood around the world… But at home!

  108. Alissa says...

    Add my voice to those asking for discussions about and guides to menopause and perimenopause!

    And, as ever, I will read every single article you post because this blog is a wonderful, warm, and supportive place to be. Thank you for the community you’ve given us, CoJ team!

  109. To more vibrator posts (we are inside A LOT). Being single during the pandemic is lonely posts. My best friend just told me she is getting carpel tunnel from masturbating. TO 2021! More mental health posts. More voices of those un heard. And budgeting. Can we also talk about how adulting SUCKS and we are lied to our entire childhood. I just paid $398 to replace the “damper” on my heat. MORE SHIT I didn’t learn in public schools. More political posts and ALL OF KAMALA and can we have virtual inauguration party okayy byee.

    xo
    Tara

    • Rachel Adrianna says...

      Yes to “things we didn’t learn at public school”… but we should have :)

  110. mimi says...

    The Fugitive really does hold up! We watched it a few months ago and thought the same thing.

  111. Sophia says...

    My favorite content y’all do is the beauty uniforms and the week in outfits — I love the consistent format and seeing how so many folks respond.
    Reinforcing the call for more talks of gynecological health outside of fertility and birth.
    Other things I’d love to see more of:
    – Climate change / sustainability content
    – Content from trans and non binary writers, especially trans and non binary parents
    – Content about making / repairing clothing and home goods
    – Ending relationships ( romantic AND platonic)
    – Simple pantry recipes that are tasty, easy, and healthy

    • Kaye says...

      YES! As a mom of a kiddo who came out as non-binary 2 months ago, I am so very interested in how to be my child’s biggest advocate at school and out in the world. I think that COVID has given them the space to come out safely and I am anxious about their return to in-person school whenever that may be. There are so many great orgs and resources but I would love to connect with other parents going through similar things.

  112. I’d like to discuss the chapters of parenthood. My twins are 11 and I’m feeling a clear distinction between my first mom decade – keeping them alive, teaching them the basics of life, laying down the rules – and my second mom decade (shaping up to be more about their choices and super funny conversations). I’m really interested in preparing to let them fly the nest. :-)

    • Alissa says...

      My twins are almost 10 and I feel the same way–I have to prepare them for life outside my orbit and it’s starting to feel like that’s not such a long time from now. I bought the “How to Be a Person” book for them when it appeared on Cup of Jo a while ago, and was so pleased with it and so glad to see them reading it!

    • ceridwen says...

      Yes, agree!

  113. katie says...

    Almost comical to be posting this on such a platform, but – What keeps your hands busy (and off your phone)? How do you limit your screen time? What strategies work for other to give full attention to yourself/children/partners?

    Also, love the slightly more “surface-y”/light posts about fashion/skincare/etc (especially when featuring budget-friendly options) for when I need to remove my brain from the world’s craziness, even if for a small moment.

    • Heather says...

      Yes agree about the phone help – even now – I came to refill my water cup and find myself scrolling and commenting. Why did I even bring my phone with me? Ugh

  114. Allie says...

    I love your posts that touch on these topics:
    – various ways to keep up meaningful relationships (suggestion – how to do this for various personalities…chatty people, introverts, busy folks, light and funny gals?)
    – small ways to maintain your sense of self at different stages of life
    – funny quirky things!

    Thank you!!

  115. Amanda says...

    Hi.
    I love this blog; it’s been a nice comfort and break to me from this crazy past year.

    I would welcome more posts about financial literacy and financial planning (considering different circumstances, needs, and backgrounds). I would also love more about caring for one’s mental and physical health…and forming positive habits, etc.
    Thank you!
    Amanda

    • Robin says...

      Yes! How to carve out time for the important things without sacrificing sleep. I made what felt like reasonable resolutions (30 min exercise per day, 1 h yoga per week). I need both, desperately, this body and mind is getting cranky and creaky! But already in week 1 I am not making happen. But I am scrolling through this blog at 10 pm …

  116. Amy says...

    Happy New Year! I’m glad it didn’t start out with a COVID diagnosis.

    Some ideas for new content: more motherhood/parenting from around the world, how to decide where to live (for those contemplating a move or wanting a change), practical steps and tips for Americans to move abroad (a series similar to your motherhood from around the world), week of outfits but from readers, buying your first home (how do you do it?!), and being a new mom in a COVID world.

    Can’t wait to see what you already have in store! :)

  117. Lauren says...

    Thanks for mentioning this Tess! I wrote a comment asking for a similar thing, and then went and searched the archives based on your post. The My Balance series is SO GOOD! I’m a long-time reader, and it’s fascinating to re-read these posts now that I’m starting a family. When I was first encountered them in 2012, I was just graduating college and it all felt so far away.

  118. Frankie Rose says...

    So happy to hear about the negative test and hope you feel better soon. This year seems to be off to a sloooowww start for most people and most people I talk to are feeling low energy so please be gentle with yourself:) I love Cup of Jo and have been reading it since 2007! I cannot believe… the only blog I still read:) Thank you for assembling an awesome team for the variety of posts. Excited for another year!

  119. Betsy says...

    Hope you are feeling better soon!

    –Perspectives from people of different faiths and how it guides their lives.
    –Something from a big family-we see lots of one and two kid families-what is life like for a family of 9?
    –A series of what we have in common-rural/urban, liberal/conservative, rich/poor, etc. to address the divide in the country?
    –women who are reclaiming traditional crafts-who sew their own clothes, or knit, or craft-and maybe not just for commerce, but as a hobby?
    –how do we escape the capitalist mindset that everything is about productivity and $$?

  120. Liann says...

    Mothers from Around the World During Covid
    – How is everyone coping?

  121. Lara says...

    Hello! I would love to hear CoJ’s perspective (and those of the community) on the institution of marriage nowadays. While I prioritize a long-term committed partnership, I am leaning away from getting married because the institution doesn’t feel good to me at the moment (from all angles – religious, legal, social, etc…).

    It would be wonderful to hear from couples who are 1) together but not married and don’t plan to, and what issues might come up given marriage is the norm of our societies, and 2) are redefining marriage to suit contemporary values. Of course, just not being married on paper doesn’t mean the partnership is egalitarian – would love to hear more about feminist partnerships overall!

    I also recognize that this is perhaps the privilege of a straight person to voluntarily opt out of an institution that has excluded others for so long. That said, would be grateful for such a conversation!

  122. Allison says...

    I love everything you write about! I know you’ve posted articles about this before, but I’m really struggling with knowing whether to have a baby or not. I need some wisdom on this (especially because I’m nearing 35)! Thank you, Joanna and CoJ team!

  123. Diana K. says...

    I’d love to hear about different people’s hobbies, how other people are using this time, people who started businesses during the pandemic. In a time where everyone’s assuring me that it’s ok to relax and slow down, I don’t want to completely stop. I’m interested in exploring interests closer to my heart, looking for safe ways to volunteer, picking up a new hobby, learning to work with my hands instead of my head.

  124. adrien says...

    I’m all for working on the inside – there’s nearly 800 suggestions for it (and some house tours – arguably insides as well)!
    But, can we talk about botox/fillers – are they the new normal? Or is this just too much screen time making me question if the lines on my forehead are like tree rings and if I counted them, there would be 35.

  125. Amy says...

    I would like to see more of the Motherhood Around the World posts. Those are my favorite!

  126. Lauren says...

    I’m sorry to hear you aren’t feeling great but happy your test was negative!

    I actually loved THIS post because, as much as I love all your content and your push to bring in diverse voices, I also miss your slightly-less-curated voice, Joanna <3

    I have so much respect for you honoring your children's privacy, but I'll admit that my favorite part of your Friday posts is the sentence about what you're up to this weekend. As a long-time reader, I miss the life updates like "Anton Crawls!!!" cira 2014. Obviously the internet is a different place now, but I do miss the personal annotates that don't just feel like a set-up for reader engagement.

  127. S says...

    Oh and a week of outfits, house tour or some kind of interview with Esther Perel!

  128. R says...

    happy new year! would love more content about living alone, being single, dating during a pandemic, making new friends as you get older — all things that speak to the part of your readership that isn’t in relationship and/or doesn’t have kids. :)

  129. Odette says...

    I always enjoy hearing about your life, Jo. I think a “day in the life” post about what you do during a dull, run-of-the-mill Tuesday would be very interesting to your readers.

    p.s. I love that you live in NYC. Maybe a post about what the City is like in the pandemic?

    “I couldn’t help but wonder….were all of these masks hiding more than just our faces?”

  130. Jill says...

    Hi! I’m sorry you are not feeling well. My whole family had COVID over Christmas… not fun, but thankful that no one became seriously ill.
    I have to say that I love your blog and have been a long time reader. I would like to see different writers’ and readers’ viewpoints on big issues like feminism, abortion, religion, marriage etc. discussed in a non-judgmental way. I don’t believe that your readers believe all the same things….would it be advantageous and meaningful to be able to discuss our different ideas, thoughts and viewpoints?

  131. A says...

    I hope you feel better, Joanna!

    Loving all of these suggestions.

    I’d love to see more house tours, more of a focus on sustainable fashion choices, navigating the ups and downs of relationships (romantic and friendship). I’m also interested in a post on dealing with a partner’s difficult family members – boundary setting, for example! Esther Perel is a favorite of mine, I wonder if you’ve ever considered having her on the blog?

    I appreciate this blog SO. MUCH. Thank you for everything! Happy New Year!

  132. Sarah says...

    How about a post on different methods of birth control? How they work, pros and cons, etc.

  133. S says...

    How to celebrate a new baby in covid times. My babymoon has been cancelled twice due to stay at home orders and I’m dreading a virtual baby shower (ppl are sick of zoom!). Please help. I’m due in April!

  134. Aine says...

    Marriage! Ways to overcome issues and to move forward…

  135. Allyson says...

    In no particular order:
    -Carmeon Hamilton home tour or design feature
    -Return of Motherhood Around the World
    -@Sharonsaysso Government 4 Grownups feature
    -Someone get their eyebrows laminated and tell the rest of us about it :)
    -How to successfully shop second hand sites like Poshmark
    -Always love Beauty Uniforms
    -Let’s all share the humiliating stories that rob us of sleep at night so we can all say “Oh, I’ve done that!” and feel better about it <3

    • Candace says...

      Yes to Carmeon Hamilton! More people need to be introduced to her creative genius :) I swear the content created by her and by her bestie Shavonda Gardner are about the only thing I’m actually interested in on Instagram. They are awesome. Shavonda down-sized her life to a smaller home a few years ago (I learned about her on the Young House Love podcast) and it’s so good following along as she designs parts of her home, creates the most INSANE garden, shares a lot of her life (both the way ups and the way downs) and takes her followers along. I feel like if the Cup of Jo team doesn’t already know about Carmeon and Shavonda, it’s high time!

  136. Brooke says...

    I would love to hear more about sibling relationships! Siblings may be family, but it doesn’t always mean closeness, likeness, or friendship. Many of my girlfriends have very close, wonderful relationships with their sisters. I always wanted that, but my sister and I are just two different people, who happen to be from the same family. It is a subject of great sadness for me. I would love to hear more about how people navigate complicated sibling relationships, and perhaps the disappointments, challenges, and compromises that go along with that.

  137. Sofia says...

    I would love to hear about couples’ decision making processes when choosing where to “settle down” once starting a family and the dynamics between choosing between hometowns. I would love to live in my hometown/close to my parents and give my (future) children the opportunity to be close with them, but my husband’s hometown, where his parents still live, has a significantly lower cost of living and makes much more financial sense for us. It breaks my heart to think of our children being much closer to one set of grandparents than the other. I wonder how others have handled maintaining strong “long-distance” grandparent/grandchild relationships between their parents and their children?

    I love everything you share, thank you Cup of Jo!!

    • Candace says...

      This is such a hard one! And almost all my friends are in a similar situation, with grandparents far away. It’s great that you the opportunity to live near one set!

      Slightly different issue, but similar – exploring the choice to live in the place where you have established yourselves professionally even after children, which means being far away from family/help. I had one friend who said he and his wife chose to stay in the Bay Area, with no grandparent support, because they liked their adult lifestyle and adult pursuits and weren’t ready to shed the benefits of living in the city (good food, great culture, lots to do, etc.) for a small town just to have some help. Now that I have a 2 yr old, I’m not so sure his logic holds – we weren’t doing many of our old adult things anymore and our relationship was really struggling without any (free) help. 2020 has shifted enough things in the working world that we’re getting to pivot a bit and I’m working remotely from the town my parents live in, and we *finally* have some help and it is amazing. I don’t think we’ll stay here long term, but what a breath of fresh air it is to have willing and able grandparents take our kiddo for a few hours here and there. Finding the balance between professional life and family life is a huge one right now. x

  138. Jessica O'Malley says...

    I love Cup of Jo always and I often reference it in my day-to-day…so, thank you!

    One thing I’m personally working on in my own life and people around me is continuing education about Civic Ed, especially the importance of locally elected positions. Most people get so caught up in the national news, but don’t realize how much local government touches their lives so much more. Would love to see some attention here!

  139. Steph says...

    – How to effectively talk to relatives / your community about gender diversity and gender nonconformity (and the importance of affirming who people say they are) when all they have every known or understood is the gender binary
    – an “Activism around the world” series, to hear about work happening in places other than the US

  140. Diane says...

    Great question, Joanna! Thanks for asking! OMG! Who would’ve thought that over 700 people would respond to your request?? The ideas for future posts are incredible! What’s truly amazing is knowing that you and your team listen to us! I’m looking forward to 2021 for so many reasons… including future Cup of Jo posts!

  141. Pearl says...

    Great topics!

  142. Madeleine says...

    I’d love to see content about climate change and sustainability. Especially anything that goes beyond just shopping at “eco-friendly” brands or using metal straws — those seem like solutions that barely scratch the surface. Two specific topics I’d love to hear about: How do I communicate with my family and friends about my desires to be sustainable and consume less, while they looove shopping and international travel? And how can I address my my climate change-related anxiety? (There is actually a term for it, “eco-anxiety”).
    Thanks!! Get well soon!

  143. Lisa says...

    Glad to hear that the test was negative!

    How about a post on coming back from a bad mental health episode? Things like what treatments people received, how did you get back to day to day life, life after.

    The last year was tough for so many people, who may be grieving losses or just having a decline of mental health because of the stress / lockdowns and it’s helpful to hear stories of people who have made it to the other side.

    • Lisa says...

      Oh yes, I like this. Or a therapy post. What people got from it, why they decided to go, how it helped them. I had therapy and it changed my life, so much so that I’m now training to be a therapist.

  144. Pearl says...

    Estrangement. Is there a family member you are not speaking to? Why?

    • Daria says...

      Omg yes to this! Great question!

  145. NRJ says...

    1. What about cautious traveling in 2021 and how to do this?
    2. Issues on aging and maintaining relevancy.
    3. Food as medicine: eating better how tos: less sugar/salt. But- how to do it well.
    4. Free sites to add to life: on line yoga, good food blogs, etc.
    5. How to find time alone when home in the pandemic in not much space.

  146. C says...

    I’ll read any and all posts, but here are a few things that I’d love to see:
    -tips for planning group vacations (whether between adult family members or friends).
    -different perspectives on how to live in “the now” rather than reaching for the next big thing. I don’t really know how to be happy with where I am and stop viewing where I am as a temporary stop on my way to the next big thing.
    -how to make decisions on paying off debt vs. saving for emergencies/new home
    -how to change/augment your personal style without buying a whole new wardrobe. Quarantine has made me excited to finally trying new things
    -how to build (and display) an individual art collection – I’d love to see the perspectives from some different art collectors about where they started, how they add new pieces, and how they display the work (frames, wall placement, etc.).
    -how to date/develop relationships when you are an abuse survivor. I loved how much #MeToo normalized conversations around inappropriate behavior in the workplace, but many other forms of abuse still feel taboo to talk about. As a survivor of childhood sex abuse, I don’t know how to talk about this with potential partners or even friends I’ve had for many years (part of this obviously stems from shame, but how do you even start those conversations?). I’d loved to hear different perspectives on this.

  147. Heather says...

    Thanks for #1.
    I haven’t been able to concentrate on anything today – so overwhelmed by things I cannot control.

    What I want to read about:
    (1) What are we wearing when we all go back to work? I have so many heels in my closet that have collected dust for 9 months and sometimes I wonder, will I ever wear these again?

    (2) TWINS. I have twin daughters (5 yo, fraternal) and they are dealing with stuff I just don’t understand. One of them wants to be completely separate from her sister, and says things like, “I wish I didn’t have a sister” – so hurtful! And the other wants to be super close, share a room and bed, wear matching clothes. Sometimes I feel like I’m trying to inception my children, like it’s my responsibility to convince them to think or feel a certain way and obviously that’s … unrealistic. So how do I support them both when what one needs hurts the other?

    (3) Moving from the city to the suburbs. The newspapers say loads of people did it, but how do we live in the suburbs and still live sustainable existences and stay empathetic to the diversity of lives around us? (Note: we are under contract on a house in the suburbs, and I can’t wait for the SPACE and the TREES and the STARS, but I am struggling with some of it, too).

    (4) I like Audre Lorde’s approach to self-care as an act of political protest, and would like to see more posts about self-care on a more fundamental level (being patient with and kind to yourself, prioritizing your own sleep and health, etc.). No amount of face oil or piles of luxury linens can outweigh an internal dialogue that you’re not enough for your job, your kids, your friends, your parents, or society’s expectations of your body.

    (5) Regular round ups of podcast episode links on a single topic, e.g., list of 10 podcast episodes about women’s health & menopause, podcasts on race issues, body positivity, intuitive eating, aging healthily and gracefully, marriage, etc.

  148. Stephanie says...

    Bring back Paco! Any sort of financial advice column would be great. I’m getting interest in no buy/no spend.

    A sustainability focus would be great reading. Amanda at the Clotheshorse podcast is doing some amazing content.

    • miranda says...

      Paco’s advice was did not seem based on long-term financial security. If you do reinstate a financial column, kindly bring on someone à la Ramit Sethi who understands numbers and can advise millenials honestly.

  149. Hi Joanna!

    I hope your test comes back negative, and that you’re feeling better very soon.

    I’d love to read…

    • A return to last year’s conversation about reducing consumption of meat and dairy products in an effort to live more sustainable lifestyles.
    • More personal posts (you’ve been peppering those in more frequently lately— I’ve noticed, I’m enjoying them, and I appreciate them). So many longtime readers of Cup of Jo, like myself, initially were here because of your voice, Joanna. We appreciate the voices of others, but we want to hear from you! And ultimately, the warm, cozy, Cup-of-Jo feeling I get is most potent when I’m reading about your everyday experiences and reflections.
    • More posts about sustainability in general
    • Home tours! I can never get too many home tours.
    • Beauty uniforms! I also can never get too many of these.

    Thank you, as ever, for your virtual hugs.
    xx sk

  150. Kerry says...

    More about divorce — not just the act of divorcing, but the act of living as a divorced person and moving forward in the years that follow.

    And, of course, beauty uniforms. Love.