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What TV Character Do You Relate To?

What TV character are you?

Have you ever watched a show and seen yourself mirrored in one of the characters? It could be a saying or mannerism, or it could be everything about them, but suddenly you’re left wondering if the writers have secretly set up surveillance in your living room. The other night, while watching reruns, I discovered that I am exactly like…

Niles Crane from Frasier.

He’s nerdy and fussy and orders his half-caf nonfat lattes with “a whisper of cinnamon” and “just enough foam to be aesthetically pleasing but not so much that it leaves a mustache.” He’s equal parts ridiculous and hilarious, but his heart is in the right place.

While there is plenty we don’t share (for starters, I am not a psychiatrist, nor do I dwell in a palatial mansion surrounded by priceless antiques) I have started to notice that some of my particularities, like my more-than-mild irritation over things like lint on black pants, are pure Niles. I suppose that is the mark of a great television character — specific enough to be memorable, but broad enough to be relatable.

The other night, while watching The Crown, I asked my boyfriend which TV character he is. “Walter White,” he said, referencing the drug kingpin from Breaking Bad. Nothing could be further from the truth. (He clearly did not take this exercise seriously.) But it did spark a lively discussion about Walter, and life choices, and what matters in the end.

Even in the most extreme cases, the best characters still have a way of giving us plenty to relate to. And these days, when television feels more than ever like a window to the outside world, that is very welcome.

What TV character are you?

What TV character are you? Please share! (And is anyone else like Niles, or am I alone?)

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  1. Jules says...

    These are too funny. I’m a much less-smart version of Tempy from Bones, if you could imagine her personality without her brain. I feel like “I don’t know what that means” is most of my most used phrases lol

  2. Zoe says...

    Midge from the Marvelous Mrs. Maisel! Not so much that we’re identical just that, you know, I wish I was her in every way, shape, and form…

    • Deb says...

      Yes! I thought of her as “I wish I could say I was like her!”

  3. jane says...

    I don’t relate to any character I’ve ever encountered – I am way outside all these boxes haha. Actually my life generally feels like a gentle version of Black Mirror, so. . . I still enjoy watching some shows though, people are fascinating.

    • Kari T. says...

      I must know more!! Jane, you sound so intriguing!

  4. MJA says...

    My husband says I’m Linda Belcher from Bob’s Burgers. It may not be the ideal thing to hear from your husband but I can’t really deny it.

    • Jessica says...

      As someone who relates so hard to Linda, I say take it as a compliment! What’s not to love about Linda? She’s true to herself, kooky, fun, and she loves her family so, so, so much.

    • L says...

      I love Linda – she is so awesome! Total compliment!

    • Taylor says...

      Fellow Linda here, according to my husband too! Lots of made-up songs sung around our house, ha.

  5. Emily says...

    I have never related to anyone in my life as much as I relate to Cam from Modern Family! Everyone agrees it’s uncanny.

    • jules says...

      just reading this made me say “awwe” out loud. Just picturing a stranger making his facial expressions of love and very active listening!

  6. Kendra says...

    My dad sweetly said about me, “If you are missing Kendra, you can see see her every Wednesday night at 9 on Modern Family” because I am just like Claire. Thanks for reminding me of that memory!

    • Em says...

      I am a Claire married to a Phil!

  7. MEG says...

    I identify with Tami Taylor from Friday Night Lights all the way. She’s an incredible mentor, advocate, and supporter who always has a seat at the table for someone in need and doesn’t give up on people. Also, she enjoys large glasses of wine to get her through the day and the woman rocks a pair of cowboy boots like no other. Also I always dreamed of being a coach’s wife.

  8. katie says...

    I think I’m Chandler Bing with a hint of Cher Horowitz wrapped up in Angela Chase. Talking about feelings is super uncomfortable and sarcasm is my vice. I’m empathetic, want the best for my friends and I want to help others always. I’m shy and awkward but want to break free of that and despite marrying a straight-laced electrical engineer, I’m into Jordan.

  9. S says...

    My partner once told me I am like Angela from the Office. I’m wasn’t glad to hear it, but I have to admit there’s some truth to it. I tend to love cats more than people, could wear a turtleneck under a granny sweater every day, and my little routines are very dear to me. But I am NOT mean like her! I am the opposite of blunt & cold when it comes communicating. And yet, I still feel a certain fondness for Angela.

    • Shannon says...

      When The Office originally aired, I thought Angela was such an unrealistic character…cold, cat-obsessed, too uptight… but now, in my mid-30’s, I re-watch The Office and I identify with Angela completely! I don’t like intermingling my personal and professional lives, I like to go to work, do my job, and that’s it. Also, I do love my cat. I think she and Dwight also have some kind of real, sexy thing going on underneath the facade of it all. I am an Angela and I don’t mind at all.

  10. Court says...

    At first, this stumped me. I think I recognize myself in Rachel from Friends but mostly her flaws, ha! I am selfish, spoiled and vain. I also want people to like me.

    I took a test online (LOL) and it said I’m a 92% match for Cece from New Girl and I was like YUP! She’s a bit more blunt than Rachel (me!) but also funny, kind, and loyal.

  11. Alyssa says...

    I am definitely Leslie Knope. It took me years to get on the Parks & Rec bandwagon, but as soon as I started watching, I found my other half. Having now watched through it multiple times, every time Leslie does something that I would 100% do, my fiance and knowingly look at one another. I definitely embody her overly organized, needs to get everything done, intense but only because she wants everyone to be and do their best. But most recently, I realized that just like Leslie, I also give really thoughtful gifts and make sure to commemorate moments through gifting. {I would LOVE to have themed gift days!} Anyone else want in?

  12. Caroline says...

    The Australian series Offspring’s main character Nina Proudman!!! She is kind of a less cringy Fleabag (although I love Fleabag). I can pretty much relate to all her thoughts and insecurities all the time. And she is smart, but really scattered all the time which is totally me. I have never been together enough to be a perfectionist – I am always frantic and dishevled (with a slightly hippy vibe) like Nina, but internally very smart and thoughtful, those that get to know me always comment on those things…but most people likely wouldn’t realize it!

  13. Wink says...

    Not a t.v. show, but the Before Sunrise/Sunset trilogy very much followed my romantic life trajectory of my 20s. When I saw “Before Sunrise” in the theatre, I’d just begun a magical/heartwrenching European whirlwind romance that carried on for years in much the same way. I’ve had people mention even the physical similarities between Celine and me (I am like her brunette sister) and my boyfriend at the time was Jesse to a T. We are no longer together, but we are still in wistful touch and sometimes joke about an “After Midnight” reunion.

    • Rebecca says...

      I love the before trilogy so much! I always dreamed of having that kind of romance, meeting on a train, *sigh* So Wink if you ever have that reunion you need to update us all!

  14. Heidi says...

    Sometimes I’m a Leslie Knope and sometimes I’m an April Ludgate… which I think makes me a true Ann Perkins. A “poetic, noble land mermaid.”

  15. Steph says...

    Any other Nancy Botwins from “Weeds” in the house? No? Just me?

  16. Moriah Folsom says...

    Linda Belcher. Fun, optimistic, completely fine with encouraging my kid to be messy and a little naughty. I dance while I eat something delicious and sing-talk A LOT….

    • Meagan Anderson-Pira says...

      I think I am half Linda (the half that wants to put up the Christmas tree after Halloween and believes everyone is possibly great) and half Bob (who loves his family but they “are the worst” and just wants to make a great Turkey for Thanksgiving.

  17. Nicole says...

    I like to think that I’m Louise Belcher from Bob’s Burgers, but in reality – I’m Tina.

    • Sarah says...

      Oh no…after reading your comment I just came the same realization about myself!

  18. Leah says...

    “It inflames my stomach lining.”

    “Inflames his stomach lining!!”

  19. Lilly says...

    Well, I sometimes feel a deep kinship with Elsbeth Tascioni from “The Good Wife”. Mind you, definitely not the genius part – but the appearing-to-be-in-shambles–but-really-thinking-and-doing-a-bajillion-things-at-once bit. Hair flying, thoughts jumping 7 steps ahead, while at the same time paying attention to the here and now and complimenting s.o. on their glasses, shoes, hat. And trying hard to look composed (doesn’t work, of course, haha).

    • MEG says...

      Elsbeth is one of the best characters on television. I was so happy when she also appeared on “The Good Fight”.

    • jane says...

      Darling, “appearing-to-be-in-shambles–but-really-thinking-and-doing-a-bajillion-things-at-once”, REQUIRES one to be a genius, so, give yourself some credit.

    • Heather says...

      Oh goodness she was one of the best characters on that show – I always loved when she was on. You must be equally wonderfully!

    • Lilly says...

      Oh dear, you are so very kind – thank you.

      Let’s hope, then, for more of her in the upcoming season of TGF … and if it’s just for having more of her joyfulness in our lives.

  20. Bren says...

    I am a solid combo of Monica from Friends and Elaine from Seinfeld. I have never related to two characters more. My husband often says to me “Monica, only dogs can hear you now!!!” or “NO ONE IS SUPPOSED TO HAVE FUN FOR 15 MORE MINUTES!” I realize this makes me sound super fun. But hey, someone has to keep it real and get all the things done!!!!

  21. For the longest time, I didn’t watch Parks & Rec though my husband loved it and would watch after I went to bed. He would tell me how much like Leslie Knope I was so my interest was piqued. I began watching it, and she would do or say things, and we would just look across at each other with knowing eye contact because it was something so much like what I would do or say… I am endlessly optimistic, and love to craft and plan, and I love to make the best of out bad situations, and I can talk to a brick wall. ;)

  22. Norah says...

    The Guy from High Maintenance. I strive to connect with people like he does, he’s authentic and easy in how he connects with and comforts people. I’m not quite there (and will probably never smoke enough to get there!) but I love his way with people and like to think that I can see some of myself in him.

    • alison says...

      Truly one of the best characters in TV today! I wish you the best on your “Striving for Guy” journey! :)

  23. Sarah says...

    Tragically, my husband and I both giggled at the resemblance between me and Reese Witherspoon’s portrayal of Elena on Little Fires Everywhere. I have a bigger heart and am very sensitive to classism/racism but I could empathize with her profound need for control and how it manifested in her life. Made it hard when my BIL who I deeply respect called specifically to talk about how much he hated Elena. I didn’t tell him “I understand her!”

  24. Deb says...

    This would also be fun with books. I can’t think of anyone right now but I did watch episode 1 of Anne with an E the other day and as a redhead I have never felt so seen :’-D. Sure I can come up with something more positive though!

  25. jillian marie bedell says...

    Since becoming a single mum, I really identify (more than ever, though I realize those were always my role models, even long before motherhood) with Cher in Mermaids and, of course, Lorelei Gilmore. Fun, a little eccentric, but creators of a homey home with laughter and snacks and bonkers love. And dancing!

  26. Nicole says...

    When I was younger, I was definitely Rory Gilmore. Now I’m more of a less intense Leslie Knope. I aspire to one day be either Grace or Frankie and live in their beach house.

    • S says...

      Haha, best comment!

    • Haley says...

      This is also my character description. Grace or Frankie is a good aspiration!

  27. Tara says...

    I am very much like Rose from the Golden girls in that I am very naïve, love animals more than most, love hard, and have a big heart. I would also say I’m like David from Schitt’s Creek in that I love my alone time, am emotional, high maintenance, and want others to leave my house by 9 pm.

  28. Anna P says...

    Bathsheba Everdene from Far From the Madding Crowd, for sure. She’s reckless and impulsive but trusts her gut. Makes mistakes and at times is full of regret and overwhelmed by her decisions. Ultimately winds up with the handsome, patient, hardworking farmer (my husband, functionally). :)

  29. Lauren E. says...

    I’m not sure about me personally but one of my best friends is Leslie Knope to a scary degree. She works in local government, is super bubbly and kind and thoughtful, has the most adorkable husband, and will put you to shame with her thoughtful gifts and hilarious dance moves. She’s the best.

  30. Alex says...

    I can stronh´gly relate to Enid from Ghost world (when I was a high schooler, of crs) :) Wierd, intellectual, sensitive, seemingly tough on the outside …

  31. Chiara says...

    Gomez from the Addams Family. Whimsical, generally optimistic, a flair for the dramatic, looks cute in a stripe, and ardently devoted to his wife – I identify with a lot of that. If I’m being truly honest, I could probably even grow a similar tiny mustache if I didn’t Sally Hansen it away every few weeks.

    • Julie says...

      This made me laugh, thank you!

    • Kathryn says...

      I love this. This made me believe in humanity again.

  32. Meagan Maher says...

    I am totally David from Schitt’s Creek and even moreso am Dan Levy in real life. Every time he said something about it being too peopley outside or that he was trying really hard not to connect with people right now, I could see my husband’s head turn to look at me and could feel his eyes bore into me, in an effort to silently impress upon me that I am exactly this character 😅 I watched the 72 questions Vogue interview with Dan Levy and his refusal to share his waffles, his self deprecation and his sweater obsession made me feel seen.

  33. Danielle says...

    Lindsay Weir from Freaks and Geeks! I was the weirdo nerd or the nerdy weirdo throughout high school.

  34. Claudia says...

    When I was a teenager I was Jo March, definitely.
    As an adult woman, Miranda from Sex and the City. :)

  35. Nina says...

    A Rory Gilmore pretending/trying to be a Lorelai Gilmore

  36. Liv says...

    Well I always felt like Ron Swanson was my kindred spirit! Even though I don’t eat as much meat as he does and I’m definitely not as afraid of socialism as he is, his low tolerance for bullshit just speaks to me. And I honestly wouldn’t mind living alone in a cabin in the woods without any social interaction, but much like Ron I do enjoy being social when “forced” into it :) my husband agrees with this comparison btw – he’s my Leslie Knope!

  37. Charlotte says...

    Edith from Downton Abby! My parents preferred my sister, and I was the awkward one they merely tolerated. I was also slightly less attractive, and that seemed to embarrass them for some reason. Always made my sister and I laugh when we’d watch it together though, because it was totally a parallel of my life. . .

  38. Lauren says...

    Truth? The Log Lady from Twin Peaks. Oblique/shady pronouncements, appearance of misanthropy, preoccupation with owls? Check, check, check.

    • Stephanie says...

      LOL!!! I almost spit my coffee everywhere when I read this!

    • Yulia says...

      Cozy cardigan? Round glasses? Log??

  39. J says...

    I’ve never admitted this out loud but I have been told twice that I am basically Fleabag. Including by my boss – any suggestions on how I should interpret that?!!! Apparently she is my slightly more sinister internal monologue.

    I’ve only watched the first series but did spend most of it thinking “this is how everyone feels all the time, right?” HA

    • Anna says...

      same, girl, saaaaame.

  40. Stacy says...

    I just learned how Niles-like I am after remembering the “whisper of cinnamon” order he makes and realizing I order my Starbucks macchiatos with a “comically small amount of caramel.” So at least you’re not alone, Caroline!

    • Kathryn says...

      Now that it is COVID times, and the baristas have to put in the 1/2 & 1/2 in coffee, I order it with an embarrassing amount of cream. I am sure you can tell a lot about a person by the way they order coffee!

  41. Jane I. says...

    I don’t have an answer, I’m just here for the 30 Rock and Parks & Rec references! I’m cracking up!!! The comment threads these week are on another level… first the limericks, now this? I mean, c’mon!

  42. AP says...

    Monica from Friends. Anal af, bossy, loving.

  43. Pamela says...

    I’ve been told I’m Phoebe Buffay multiple times. The kind hearted, whimsical, vegetarian, tree hugging, and (occasionally) naive parts!

  44. Meg says...

    My husband says I’m the living Kimmy Schmidt. I love that show but don’t know whether to take that as a compliment or not! Ha! I do admire her resilience and loyalty.

  45. Julie says...

    These days I feel like Carrie from Homeland. I’m trying to piece together a million bits of information while also wondering, “Are things actually this bad or am I sick again?”

  46. Near the beginning of quarantine, my boyfriend would watch Friends with me. He commented that watching Monica helped him understand me more. I must admit, she helps me understand myself more as well. There’s a kind of expectation that women should be apologetic about their goals or being high maintenance, but I love that Monica is fully, unapologetically herself.

  47. Nadine says...

    Similar to other readers comments, I am biracial and I grew without seeing anyone that looked like me either in real life or on screen. It has been hard at times to feel being recognized in any character.. But if I really needed to pick a character though, mine would be Lisa Simpson. Environmentalist, vegetarian, not scared of fighting her own battles, and also insecure and sensitive at times. I wonder if animation offers more range of representation. Since our brain forces us to imagine and “fill the gaps”..

    • MyHanh says...

      I see you girl.

  48. Claire says...

    In forty years or so, I will be just like Frankie Bergstein of Grace & Frankie–doing yoga, smoking pot, partially deaf, dressed in a caftan, and with zero f*cks left to give. Honestly, I’m already most of the way there.

    (I hope I’m allowed to say all of that on this blog??)

  49. lydia says...

    leslie knope minus the ambition.

  50. Laura says...

    I am textbook Elaine :)

  51. Rachel says...

    My character is from a movie- Elsa from Frozen. I have a younger sister and our dynamic is embodied in this movie. I’m cautious and reserved and she’s adventurous and emotive. When we saw the movie we each thought “our” sister was the heroine/main character. Lol.
    There isn’t much I can’t relate to in this character (worrying, being closed off, self doubt, but also quiet strength, fierce love and protection for my family).

  52. Rita says...

    Nina from Offspring

  53. Paisley says...

    If you combined Stephanie Tanner’s pattern mixing and funky dance moves, Danny Tanner’s good-for-ya, wholesome life lessons, Uncle Joey’s love of cartoons and jingle writing, with a sprinkle of Uncle Jessie’s sass and love of Elvis… and I think you’d land somewhere near me! Throw in some nosy neighbour Kimmy Gibbler ‘tude for good measure. Have Mercy!

  54. Whitney says...

    Laura Petrie, 100%. On the surface she looks like a proper, cute housewife BUT she is no pushover. She’s funny, a devoted wife and mother. She loves to dance and is talented in her own right. My husband is totally a Rob. Funny, creative, “a little bumbling” (his words, not mine).

  55. Summer says...

    When watching Schitt’s Creek my wife and I discovered how much David and Patrick’s relationship mirrors our dynamic. I can be snide, intense, anxious, a little snobby, and veryyy sassy just like David. My wife is similar to Patrick – a very loving, balanced, big gesture kind of person who is always super kind to every person she meets. The way that Patrick puts David at ease always makes me tear up because that’s what my wife does for me!

  56. Emily says...

    I am 1000% either of the main characters of Pen15. I cringe-watch it while hugging my little preteen self so hard.

  57. Laura says...

    I have literally said some of the exact phrases Missy says on Big Mouth.

  58. Abbi Abrams mentored by Liz Lemon.

    • love this!!!

    • Amanda says...

      And I…oop.

  59. Melanie Bell says...

    Not a tv character – but book turned into a movie character – Bridget Jones!!!!

  60. Hannah says...

    I am loving reading the comments. It’s giving me so much insight to all the wonderful people we have in this incredible community, getting to know friends I’ve never met ❤️

  61. Megan says...

    April Ludgate from Parks and Rec all the way

  62. Vero says...

    C-3PO unfortunately. Not the intelligence but the neuroses.

    • Ève says...

      Omg hahaha this is my favourite answer so far!

  63. Isabella says...

    Season 2 Fleabag, minus the sternum-baring pantssuit! And my personal life is replete with my very own version of The Priest (thankfully not a priest, but perenially waltzing with me in the can’t-be-together-can’t-be-apart dance).

  64. E says...

    David Rose. Particularly in my relationship (with another Patrick!)

  65. Hye Mi says...

    I was reading the comments and thinking the same thing! My psych phd partner would attribute this to being very open. Perhaps ask a friend?

  66. Maria says...

    My husband recently started watching Cheers. I got into an episode as it played in the background of whatever I was doing at home, and I stopped and thought, yes, Carla is definitely my kinda lady…

  67. Chelsea says...

    I have always said I am a combination of Leslie Knope from Parks and Recreation, Lisa Simpson from The Simpsons, and Anne Elliot from Persuasion. I have Leslie’s uncool enthusiasm, I am similar to Lisa in that I get on with my family very well but am very different from them and often feel misunderstood, and like Anne I have inner strength but can be persuaded by people I look up to.

  68. Cory says...

    Meredith Gray… I’m a doctor, and have the tendency to get a little dark and stormy at times. Even my person agrees…

  69. Elle Young says...

    Ernie, from Sesame Street? No kidding. I think I’m him at heart. A total dork, a dingbat, happy, and sometimes a little neurotic and excitable. My husband is totally Bert. Exasperated with me and responsible. Yeah, it’s like that. Now where’s my rubber ducky?

    • Becky says...

      Haha I love this💖

  70. Kiana says...

    Eleanor Dashwood from Sense and Sensibility. Responsible, the family mediator and a bit afraid of my own feelings, especially in love. Plus she fell for an awkward guy with floppy hair and I did too. What resonates most about that character is how much she loves her sisters and how much she had to become responsible and reliable because Marianne couldn’t bring herself to “become acquainted with the real world”. I feel like I would have been able to be goof up a lot more when I was younger if I hadn’t always had to watch out for my little sister.

    • Elinor says...

      I was going to say this! Actually, it’s Elinor with an ‘i’ – because I have the same name, though I wasn’t named after her. And I have a younger sister called something very similar to Marianne who has never grown up quite as much as me ;)

  71. NS says...

    A combination of Pam from True Blood and DW Read from the children’s show Arthur.

    • Kelsey says...

      this is such a great combo

    • Melissa says...

      Arthur is such a comforting show for me. My family cringes every time it’s my pick for movie night, because I always, always choose Arthur episodes. I love that you are DW! 🤗

    • Nina says...

      Marry me

  72. Jess says...

    I can’t think of a tv character…but Olive Kitteridge felt like home to me. I grew up in New England, am fiercely independent and could see myself teaching the way she did, my husband is so much sweeter and more affectionate than I am. Her attachment style to others and the way she questions herself was so relatable.
    There are so many things about her that made me think, for better or worse, that’s me!

    • Cynthia says...

      This book was actually made into a mini series.

  73. J. says...

    One of my first thoughts was Devi from Never Have I Ever — I felt like my high school experience of being academically “successful” but wanting SO BADLY to be cool and having no idea how to manage my emotions had never been portrayed so accurately!

    However, I think mostly I am a lot like Leslie Knope. I can be (…am) a bit of a nerd, I get EXTREMELY EXCITED (!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) about a LOT of things, I can be a little bit self-absorbed sometimes, I adore/admire/fangirl over my best friend the way Leslie does over Anne, sometimes I annoy people (!), I can freak out easily (“I need you to text me every 30 seconds that it’s going to be okay” is definitely not far off), I’m pretty stubborn, and if there is a rule or obstacle in my way it’s impossible to deter me. I hope I find/get to marry a Ben Wyatt someday! and ALSO: I have boundless energy and optimism and joy for the gift of the world and being alive and people around me and I am relentless in making sure the people around me know exactly how much they are loved and cared for, and I will really stop at nothing to create something that I think will bring other people joy and happiness too. And I am too am obsessed with Obama and would be speechless if I ever got to meet Joe Biden!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Sophia F. says...

      We should be friends, because my answer to this question is always that I’m a total lady Ben Wyatt, with a splash of April Ludgate – charmingly sincere dork, baffled by people’s common sense errors and general foolishness but always willing to help them out of the holes they dug themselves, lover of calzones and board games, with a soupçon of moody nihilism for good measure. Amusingly, my husband is a not-dumb Andy crossed with basically any Paul Rudd character :)

  74. Kate says...

    MacKenzie McHale from The Newsroom!

    • Alyssa says...

      Kate, I want to be friends with you!!

      I’m Lorelei Gilmore! Ridiculous, silly, playful, loving. I watched that show during formative years and my personality became hers

    • Tiia Leino says...

      Me too!

  75. Hannah says...

    I don’t know if there are any Aussies in this comments section but I am EXACTLY like Nina in Offspring.

    Somehow we both attract drama without meaning to, we’ve had fairly doomed love lives but with relatively happy endings (eventually), we both have a penchant for floaty boho outfits, we spend too much time in our own heads, have anxiety disorders (hers – undiagnosed, mine – frequently diagnosed), we both work in helping professions and the “helping” spills over into our personal lives, we both have very messy extended families and we are often our own worst enemy but we have a heart of gold.
    Or, at least, we’d like to think so.

    • Cynthia Miller says...

      Really enjoyed the first few seasons of that show! It made me realize how many scarves I have.
      I live in the US, though.

    • Sarah says...

      I’m not an Aussie but I’m a huge Offspring fan!! Love this show (and Nina) so much. Discovered it on Netflix!

    • ALYSSA says...

      OMG HANNAH offspring is the BEST! IM NINA TOO

    • Sandra says...

      American here, but I loved that show and Nina! :-)

    • Emma says...

      Omg I just binged all 7(?) seasons of Offspring (in Canada) – what a roller coaster!! Can’t believe North America completely missed this series!! I think I’m a Billie! A bit impulsive/reckless/lost but also trying to maintain that heart of gold :)

    • Kathryn says...

      Ah I love that show! ♥️

    • Sarah says...

      I am from the US but I LOVE Offspring. I keep trying to get people to watch it so I can talk about it!

  76. Megan McC says...

    I am a smashed together combo of Liz Lemon (I love my night cheese), Mary Richards (one of my first feminist icons), and Amy Poehler (I’m an overachiever working in local government).

  77. Dee says...

    I’m Tina from Bob’s Burgers. And I even look like her. I dressed up as her for Halloween one year and people kept coming up to ask me if it was my real hair. Yes!

    “I’m no hero, I put my bra on one boob at a time like everyone else.”

    • Ivy says...

      This gave me a good laugh. Tina is great.

    • jdp says...

      congratulations, this is my favorite answer.

    • Molly says...

      Ohmygosh, that’s OUTSTANDING. Tina’s parking lot driving episode is still one of my all-time favorites!! :)

  78. I think Chummy from Call the Midwife — tall, bumbling, earnest, learning to stand up for herself. (Sadly, no British accent!)

    • Em says...

      Chummy! I would love to meet you – she is my favourite person :)

    • Heather says...

      Aww that’s delightful – she’s such a treasure!

    • Danielle says...

      I LOVE Chummy so much. I tried to name my newly adopted dog after her but my husband vetoed. :)

    • Mac says...

      Oh, Chummy is the best! I bet you are, too ❤️

    • Jess says...

      I love her (you!)!

    • Jenny says...

      Chummy is my favorite, and the absolute best. Good on ya!

  79. Betsy says...

    I’m stealing this question for my first dinner party post-COVID.

    I strongly relate to Michael Scott on the Office. Not in the characterized EXTREMELY awkward way, but I have trouble reading a room and miss a lot of social cues and beat my jokes to the ground. But I love people and I love my work. And I’m a hopeless romantic at heart.

    • J. says...

      I love this so much, Betsy. He is one of my dearest characters. I think so often of scenes like when he arrives at Pam’s art show as so indicative of his deep love for and loyalty to his people! <3

  80. Crystal says...

    Liz Lemon – I am honestly a TV writer with bi-curious footwear, a horrendous dating life and a love of ham. Plus the snark. :)

    • Crystal says...

      Oh, wait, I forgot my sister once called me Fleabag, which… do I take that as a compliment? (Phoebe Waller-Bridge, sure! Fleabag? Thinking not so much!)

  81. Ari says...

    I so relate to Lindsay from Freaks and Geeks. I was 14 when the show came out and it really spoke to where I was in my life, between social groups and questioning my purpose. I wish I could see if we tracked on similar paths…Lindsay, where are you at 35?!

    • meghan says...

      awww i love this comment and love this show!!!

    • Jess says...

      Ditto, Ari! I, too, was 14 when Freaks and Geeks came out, and I didn’t realize how much I related to her until I was older. I basically was Lindsay in high school!

  82. Kk says...

    Queen Elizabeth from Season 1 of the Crown!

  83. Monica says...

    My name is Monica, and I’m totally… Monica Geller! I am a textbook Virgo. And I totally relate to Monica insisting that the flowers on the bedspread need to face towards the pillows because “that’s where the sun is.” Haha. And dishes and things need to be put in their exact places. And the tennis shoes left in the living room… must get them. However, I was never Big Fat Goalie, but instead I was awkward, tall, skinny girl! Sigh… I embrace it. :)

  84. AzureSongLA says...

    Looks like I’m the only Rachel Bloom from Crazy Ex Girlfriend: overachieving lawyer with a dash of crazy who just wants to be happy.

    • Scout says...

      I love this and your comment about your boyfriend not talking this exercise seriously! I’m Nick Miller from new girl with several Belchers thrown in (Bob’s “oh my god”, Linda’s excitement, Gene’s love of food).

    • Sarah says...

      I too am Rachel Bloom! Ex-theatre kid and overachiever! <3

  85. Jeannie says...

    Emily, from Emily in Paris…I am not sure if I love that but I was shocked when I watched it how relatable I found her (having worked for a European company for 6.5 years). Also Leslie Knope from Parks and Rec, even the parts where you look away.

  86. kiki says...

    Sue Heck from The Middle – just the adult version of her. Also, if you haven’t watched The Middle, do it! It’s hilarious and nostalgic – like a sitcom from the 90’s – but it’s not that old.

    • Jess says...

      Oh my gosh YES! Good call with Frankie. I can so relate!

    • Cindy says...

      So happy to see a Sue Heck mentioned! I also give The Middle a gold star. The show is so relatable on many levels and is very consistent throughout the series with even the smallest of details. The Middle is the Sue Heck of sitcoms-mostly flew under everyone’s radar and deserves more credit than it got.

    • kiki says...

      So glad other love it too! Totally an under-the-radar show. And, upon further reflection, I think the adult version is a combo of Leslie Knope and Phoebe from Friends. Which seems weird at first, but they are have a lot in common below the surface!

  87. Steph says...

    I think I’m a Miles too! Not so much in the fussy way, but very much in the being really excited about very obscure intellectual things no one else cares about way.

    My mom recently told me I’m more like Stevie from Schitt’s Creek…not sure if it’s the sarcasm or all those flannels I own….

  88. kash says...

    yep, Lorelai Gilmore–the good and the bad. On my good days, I’m playful, compassionate, and quick witted; on my bad days I’m short-sighted, impulsive, and inconsistent.

    frasier is a hilarious answer!!

  89. I’ve been rewatching friends and I feel like I am a combination of Monica and Chandler I’m like Monica in that I’m super organised and love to feed people (I’m however not obsessive about cleaning that falls to my sister) and I’m like Chandler in that I don’t always think before I speak and I’m loyal to my friends and hate disappointing people.

  90. Midge says...

    More than one person has said Janet from “The Good Place” reminds them of me. Evidently I’m a warm, perky know-it-all. If only I had my own Void…

  91. Olivia says...

    Daphne, from Frazier. That show is wonderful and I’d recommend it to everyone. So well done. A former coworker of mine said they used some of the episodes in acting classes that he took. Their entire class got hooked on the show after that.

  92. JC says...

    I am so Kiki (Kristin Bell’s character) from the Bad Moms movies. I related to her so much, the exhausting and wonderful but exhausting daily task of keeping my kiddos fed, happy and now fully educated. Both those movies are really so good, the Christmas one I saw in the theater, remember movie theaters!? Love this question!

    • Sarah says...

      My husband and I watched Bad Mom’s Christmas last night and he let me know I’m going to be Kiki’s mom 😂

  93. V says...

    I’m Kamala from Never Have I Ever. A total goody-goody on the outside (complete with the PhD) but secretly rebellious on the inside (hiding boyfriends from my family just like Kamala). And always doting on my younger cousin who thinks I’m completely uncool :)

  94. BV says...

    Its on a Continuum. In my 20s I was a little Fleabag Season 2 and a little Mindy Lahiri. Falling for inappropriate men, bit of a horndog, exuberant, snarky, saying whatever came into my head, complete refusal to play politics at work, mouth like a sailor, but still loving and good at my job. In my late 30s, I’m sliding toward somewhere between Miranda from SATC and Belinda/Kristin Scott Thomas (Fleabag Season2)….Still mostly good at my job, a bit jaded/cynical, more comfortable in my skin, made peace w. my body, looking forward to getting older and settled w/ a husband/son.

    • Sarah says...

      You sound amazing!

    • EB says...

      Haha I think you just described me, too. My 20s were fun and snarky and full of poor choices in men, but now that I’m about to turn 40 it’s “Still mostly good at my job, a bit jaded/cynical, more comfortable in my skin, made peace with my body, …settled with a husband.”

  95. Holly says...

    Yeah, I’m Paris Geller
    Good friend, limitless rage

    • sk says...

      omg I love this response, and it’s me too!

    • Hannah says...

      Hahahahahahha I love this comment

    • Emily says...

      hahaha :D

    • Ivy says...

      “Good friend, limitless rage.”

      Absolutely killed me.

    • Rachel says...

      Ha! Love it. Paris is underrated.

    • Sandra says...

      This comment is the best !! Perfect for my tombstone « Sandra : good friend, limitless rage »

    • Alice says...

      Hahahah I am absolutely Paris Geller too.

    • Scout says...

      Ha, limitless rage. I work in customer service – I so feel this!

    • J says...

      Hahaha! Amazing.

    • Heather says...

      Hahah oh goodness gracious this is spot on! I think I ruled her out for myself as I was so focused on her ambition, but when you put it this way I’m a Paris too!

    • Morgan says...

      I think Paris Geller is my spirit animal

  96. Katie says...

    I am so interested and envious of people who so clearly see themselves in others!
    This feels like a really hard exercise to me. Certainly there are characters I know I am *not* like, and aspirational characters that I would like to be *more* like, but my mind is blank on who I might actually be like?!
    Does anyone else feel like this?

    • Jess says...

      Yes and yes and yes. Hard to sum up someone I know better than anyone (myself) and project onto a tv character!

    • Nina says...

      Yes! I relate to you so very much! I’m reading everyone’s comments, racking my brain of who I could possibly be like, and feeling more and more like I don’t know myself AT ALL. I’m asking my boyfriend… I hope he know me better than I know myself lol

    • Marisa says...

      Hi Katie,
      I’m with you on this- I have no idea. I’ve never watched a show and felt that I am like anyone. Now, if you asked me, for fun, who would I like to be if I could choose… We just watched an old episode tonight of Curb Your Enthusiasm, and being like Larry would be so funny! (I would never have that kind of nerve in real life)
      I’d like to think it’s because we are so much more interesting and complex than these characters, Katie! :)

    • Sharon n says...

      YES. I love movies and shows, but had this exact question in a new hire orientation (even had a few days to think about it) and was completely stumped! I finally just said A Bug’s Life since I like Trees… sigh…

    • Amy says...

      Yes! I’m reading these comments and no characters grab me.

      I kind of think I may be a Real Housewife. I relate to Heather from Salt Lake City minus craving a relationship and sex so much. And I relate to Braunwyn navigating not drinking. But they’re real people. Characters seem a bit one dimensional to me? I’m not all good or all bad.

    • Rachel says...

      I 100% feel like this! I’m fascinated by other people’s choices, but have no idea who I am like.

    • Rachel says...

      You’re not alone, Katie! I feel the same way. <3

    • Emily says...

      Same! I’m also realizing how little TV I watch as I’ve never seen probably 80% of the shows mentioned! Whoops.

  97. Michelle says...

    My husband cracks up at every single episode of the Goldbergs because I am so, so Beverly. Total smother.

    • Chelsea says...

      I LOVE The Goldbergs! And Beverly is amazing.

  98. JJ says...

    I never felt more seen than when I saw Princess Margaret from The Crown.

    Bad girl who hides her vulnerable side by being a mess. Icon.

  99. Bec says...

    Rory Gilmore all the way. Minus the bad choices with Dean!!
    Also, this is not a character but the movie Boyhood freaked me out. I’ve never seen something so similar to my life experience, down to the details. Anybody else?

    • Sarah says...

      R.e. Boyhood… hello my long lost sister. I remember coming out of the theater almost shaking. There are things that hit hard for us children of divorce (not that this is an uncommon phenomenon in our generation, there are lots of us!!)

  100. Frankie Rose says...

    I aspire to be Elaine Benes. Besides her style, she made such an impression on me as a young kid that a woman can be as brazen, brash and uncouth as the guys. I have a Seinfeld BFF as well and he is still the person that makes me laugh the most and even though we live far apart we are instantly comfortable with one another (hanging out and bickering) when we see each other again!

    • I feel the same way!!

  101. Rachel P Austin says...

    Leslie Knope. I prob drive so many people in my life crazy because there is SO MUCH I WANT TO DO. I love to celebrate, love organization, am obsessed with my best friend Ellen. I work in PR and watching Parks and Rec, I never felt SO SEEN. And I have a soft spot for nerdy men.

  102. Michelle says...

    Monica from Friends!

  103. Allie says...

    Oh my god, I am Linda from Bob’s Burgers. Weird dances and unchecked enthusiasm/sincerity. When I watch her, I frequently find myself wondering (hoping) that I’ll be the kind of mom she is, someday.

    • Laura says...

      I have for YEARS been searching for the perfect pair of red Linda Belcher glasses so I channel her energy, at least whenever I’m reading something haha

    • Di says...

      I’m definitely a Linda too – with the singing random songs and dancing and embracing my dork side. She’s a great mom, too, loving her kids for who they are.

  104. madeleine says...

    My brother, sister and I have recently realised that we’re the three Belcher kids from Bob’s Burgers, but in reverse order? My baby sister is the eldest Belcher kid Tina, because she’s a little awkward yet passionate and always wants to do the right thing, my brother (middle kid) is Gene because he’ll eat anything and turn anything into a musical instrument, and apparently I (the eldest) am Louise, full of hair brained schemes, an endless supply of green dresses, endless teasing of family but heaven forbid anyone else try to tease them.

    I’ve also been told that I’m more awkward than Fleabag, which I didn’t think was entirely possible until the other day I called my Managing Director “Father”.

  105. Reina says...

    Dev Shah from Master of None. He’s my male version. Foody, always wanting to have the best and mostly afraid of the future.

  106. Laura says...

    I’m Joe March from Little Women! She’s headstrong, eccentric, ambitious, and deeply loving to her inner circle. I think my husband even resembles Dr. Baer.

    • Alyssa says...

      That’s so sweet Laura! I’ve read that book so many times!

  107. Meg says...

    Daria…Yep, the MTV cartoon character from the late 90s. A friend jokingly mentioned the similarity. After rewatching several episodes and howling with laughter – I can’t say I disagree. We have the same sunny disposition, love of the general population, and utilitarian fashion.

  108. chelsea says...

    It’s so strange how much of myself I see in Judy from Dead To Me. I am the most apologetic person you’ve ever met in your life. It comes from a good place, but it sometimes comes off to people (mostly friends) as grating until it just has them going, “Enough already!” So it can definitely be well-meaning, but a bad habit as well. Even though I do have a lot to work on, I am learning about myself along the way–for the better. We both may be all over the place all the time, but at least we’re both loyal and caring and selfless. (And I love making art like her.)

    • Kim says...

      I LOVE Judy and the friendship between Judy and Jen. I did recommend the show to a friend and she was super offended and couldn’t believe I liked it. She felt like Judy was completely gaslighting and manipulating. I guess I’m a Judy because I just see this strong, loyal bond and the love they have for each other…and the family they create lol

  109. Liz Lemon all the way. So ashamed (and also secretly proud, haha.)

    • CG says...

      Liz Lemon for me too. I love to announce empty threats and my shoes are definitely bi-curious :)

    • Sum says...

      One night, while working on the night cheese, I stumbled upon the episode where Liz Lemon was doing the very same thing. I never knew there was a song for this nightly ritual, but now I sing it happily. :D

    • mb says...

      me too! I am a Liz Lemon for better AND worse.
      Remember that episode where she meets someone that is exactly like her (a hater and a cynic)?—I have to admit that just like in that episode, I have met people with some of my worse tendencies and they do make me accentuate them. I love my Liz-Lemon-ness but I want to surround myself with people who have a cheerier disposition to balance myself out.

      If I were a mom though, I think I’d take to that role like Linda Belcher from Bob’s Burgers.

    • Lily says...

      I never identified with a TV character until 30 Rock aired, and then all my friends texted to be like, “did you know there’s a show about you?” My favorite part are the study abroad German jokes, which…. yikes yeah.

  110. Kristin says...

    A less abbrasive April from Parks and Rec or Willow from Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

  111. Janine says...

    Mindy Lahiri from The Mindy Project- gregarious, judgmental, great mom, horndog, great at her job but shows up late.

    • Eline says...

      This made me laugh out out haha, Mindy Lahiri is the best

    • Laura says...

      I just love the phrase “great at her job but shows up late” LOL. So relatable.

  112. Lynea says...

    My musical narration of everyday life has prompted a lot of comparison to Jean Ralphio from Parks and Rec. I know he is sort of a villain, but I am rather bemused by this. Probably because “I’m the woo-hoo-rrst”

    • Carissa says...

      LOL on your last sentence!

    • kash says...

      this is the best answer!

    • lydia says...

      i’m for real laughing so hard in my bed right now! mostly cause i sang your last sentence out loud in john ralphios voice with my hand held up to my mouth. hahaha!

  113. Erica says...

    Miranda from Sex and the City! Underneath the cynicism is a HUGE heart just exploding with love!!

    • mb says...

      Miranda was my favorite–she was so overlooked as a character during the series’ heyday. But–I thought she was the real-est of all of the characters. Also, I love Cynthia Nixon!

  114. shannon says...

    I am Lucy from Two Weeks Notice! It’s almost painful for me to watch certain scenes (the arguments with George especially are toooo much like my arguments with my husband). I am uptight, organized, driven, and stubborn … also hardworking, dedicated, loyal, goofy, and loving … just like Lucy.

    • ALYSSA says...

      Amazing! She’s awesome! I’d like to meet you Shannon, but alas live in Australia

  115. daisy says...

    3 answers:
    1. related so much to amy and molly in Booksmart. it described my high school experience to a tee, and while i like to think i’ve chilled out a bit in the last twelve years, the inner overachiever never dies. down to their outfits, dancing, party chasing, and dialogue with the naked barbies.. never felt so seen.
    2. for those that watched love life with anna kendrick. people said i am the female augie! i can give off the holier-than-thou vibe. working on it.
    3. donna from west wing – a million questions all the time, speak a mile a minute, comfortable in a frenzy.

    who i want to be though? devi from never have I ever. so true to herself yet reflective and doesn’t give a f***!

    • Yes! Booksmart, that hyper-verbal friendship, that always kind of doing the wrong thing. Yes.

    • L says...

      Booksmart captured my entire high school experience way, way too well!

  116. T says...

    Elena in My Brilliant Friend was me for the longest time. Reticent, quiet yet string, simmering inside, thoughts constantly churning, looking for an escape hatch.

  117. B says...

    You mean you didn’t spend your last dollars on a Noel Coward pen only to have your brother immediately buy it upon its return to the dealer? ;)

  118. Jen says...

    I find this exercise hard to do because I just did not see too many tv characters that looked like me or acted like me. Minorities are usually represented one dimensionally.

    • Madeleine says...

      Just want to make a little more space for this comment. Jen – thank you for the honesty and bluntness!!!!

      I’m over here now reflecting on identification and representation in media. It’s not the first time I’ve turned my mind to it, but today I’m reflecting on how seemingly casual conversations about media can exclude in small ways, without meaning to.

    • kath says...

      I have a hard time with this game too. It was so fun to watch Never Have I Ever and To All the Boys I’ve Loved. It made me happy that my girls will grow up seeing themselves reflected in TV as more than just a side character.

    • kash says...

      oh, Jen–thank you for saying this. That’s so truly shitty that you weren’t given a plethora of characters to consider–what a clear example of how white supremacy is impactful on every possible level.

    • Amrita says...

      I was thinking the same, Jen.

    • Lily says...

      Thank you for this comment!

    • Nina says...

      I agree. I’m disabled and queer and there isn’t a single disabled character in any show or movie I relate to (ocasionally Tyrion from GoT, but that’s it). With the characters I do relate to (I answered with Lorelai and Rory Gilmore above) I wonder what it would do with them if they didn’t have nondisabled privilege. I relate to them, but a huge part of my reality is missing there.

    • MyHanh says...

      Jen, Kath, Amrita, Nina- I see you!!

      This was my same reaction when I saw this post, and the envy of so many here who have choices from which to choose.

      I also LOVED TATBILB and NHIE when they hit Netflix. Up until then, my most relatable character was the animated Mulan and her struggles with honoring her family and honoring herself. And then Hermione b/c of her earnest and love of self in spite of it.

    • I feel this so hard. It wasn’t until Pen15 and Dash and Lily that I found relatable biracial characters that made me seen growing up as a half-white/half-Asian girl.

  119. Pia Padukone says...

    Sometimes I still really feel like Angela Chase from My So-Called Life. Like, so insecure of myself in so many ways, standing in that awkward way, but then in others, I have the confidence to coast down the hill on my bicycle hands-free, I can be so hurt by my friends which is painful sometimes because I am so loyal to them. And at the end of the day, as much crap as I gave my mom, I’m really a Mama’s girl.

    • Kathryn says...

      I totally forgot how much I identified with her!

  120. Meg G says...

    I am totally Amy Santiago from Brooklyn 99. Which works out ok because my husband is like an extra smart Jake Peralta.

    • B says...

      I was coming here to say exactly this! My sister and I lose it over this all the time. I am exceptionally nerdy and overthink everything and my boyfriend, in turn, does unbelievably Jake-like things

  121. Heidi says...

    My husband often compares us to Cam and Mitchell from Modern Family. He says he is Cam (dreamer and sentimental) and I am Mitchell (realist and practical).

  122. Caitlyn says...

    I am Liz Lemon! Her awesome sarcasm and cringy jokes, her old lady underwear, her antisocial behavior and, as my husband puts it, her lack of femininity- that’s me! My husband thinks it’s hilarious, I think I’ve found my soul sister. Good god, Lemon! ;)

    • Lynn says...

      There’s this show, Samurai Gourmet, on Netflix about a retired Japanese businessman who discovers himself and gains confidence by visiting various restaurants. Although I am a 35 yr old white American woman, his inner monologue speaks to me like none other. He is a bit anxious, hesitant to offend, nostalgic, curious, a bit nervous to try new things but eager to expand nonetheless and he loves a good meal, his partner, and his friends. I told my husband when watching to take note of that character if he wants to get what it’s like to be me.

  123. Tovah says...

    I am very much Liz Lemon, and now that I am in my mid-thirties I am owning and embracing the awkward!

  124. kk says...

    I think I know what’s best for everyone, and will demand they do what I say….sometimes, only b/c I think the experience they are having will be more heightened by my tip. For example, I love to put chips on my sandwich, so much so, that if others are eating sandwiches, I shout out, “put chips on your sandwich!”. Then, I saw 30 Rock. And, my husband looked at me.

    So maybe Liz Lemon, which cringe. But also, fine by me. I love her.

  125. E says...

    I love this question! I finally saw someone like me on TV – Beth Harmon in the Queen’s gambit. I don’t have her genius (or looks or wardrobe) but I knew what I wanted to be from early on and didn’t care (too much) about what others thought about me. I especially related with the scene where she threw away the doll she received as a gift as I HATED dolls or plush toys as I never had any idea what to do with them. I am a bit autistic and excelled in schools for the most part growing up. Never really had any close friends I could talk with about my geeky interests until I met my partner doing our post docs in neuroscience. I was so happy to see a female character who was unapologetic about pursuing her dreams, didn’t care for relationships nor about having a family. Also, it was awesome to see a show where everyone was so accepting towards her regardless of her sex and ‘place’ in society. To see someone I could identify with on TV was extremely cathartic. Representation matters!

    • Lisa says...

      E, I felt the exact same way when I watched The Queen’s Gambit. I’m an autistic female, and had never felt such a strong connection with (and pride for!) another tv character before. Representation does matter.

  126. T says...

    I am totally Monica from Friends: neurotic, earnest, obsessed with cleaning (although I do not have 11 types of towels), nurturing, and competitive. Plus, I say ‘I know!’ just like her. Ha.

    • Ha, me too. I am a Professional Organizer and love to cook and bake!!

  127. Denise says...

    Sue Sylvester from Glee. Competitive, mean, with a secret soft heart. LOL
    Or maybe Nurse Phyllis Crane, from Call the Midwife is a kinder version of the same. She’s not mean but she means business. That’s me.

  128. Jessi says...

    Sharon in Catastrophe! Her way in social situations is too familiar 😄

  129. Maggie says...

    Monica from Friends. Want to be laid back but am the furthest from that. Love to organize my towels. Fiercely competitive.

    • B says...

      Haha I relate so much to “want to be laid back but am the furthest from that”

  130. GJ says...

    Sally Albright from When Harry Met Sally! I can be incredibly particular with orders and know exactly what I like, but I’m caring, thoughtful and playful friend. I can’t say I’ve alphabetized my VHSs like her, though ;).

    • Meg says...

      Beatrix Kiddo or The Little Red Hen. It depends…

    • L says...

      Yes!

  131. Lola says...

    My grandma loves Frasier and (rightfully) claims that it is about her two sons, my dad being Frasier. Character-wise and in terms of looks: yes! (Though dad’s a much better dad)

  132. Sarah says...

    I relate a lot to Jess from New Girl and people have even said I remind them of her. She’s awkward and quirky!

    • Jess says...

      That’s the one I’ve been told too! I love her. Haha. And my name is Jess too

  133. c says...

    I have been told I am Jess from New Girl… which I mostly love, but I don’t think is always a compliment haha ;)

    • Tracey says...

      Yep! Me too. My husband laughs a bit too knowingly at that show and then gives my arm a gentle ‘I love this about you’ squeeze when she does something very “Jess”. I do the same for him at Ron Swanson on Parks and Rec.

  134. Claire says...

    A cross between Mary Tyler Moore and Stevie from Schitt’s Creek.

    • Tovah says...

      Two of the all-time greats!

    • Elizabeth says...

      I wanted to be Rhoda, but I am Mary.

  135. Kate says...

    My sisters sometimes accuse me of being ‘a little bit’ Alexis (from Schitt’s Creek). For example, one time a close friend invited me to a dinner party and asked me to bring shrimp. But I decided against it and just showed up brazenly shrimp-less. Alexis thinks she can get away with these things, and sometimes, so do I 😳

    • Tovah says...

      And now her reality show theme song is stuck in my head! 😂

  136. Sara L says...

    I have been compared to Leslie Knope from Parks and Rec on more than one occasion. I’d say I’m much less extroverted but equally driven. :-)

  137. E says...

    Such a great question – mine is Pam Beesly from The Office. And my favorite thing about this is that – on the surface, Pam can be interpreted as timid, shy, self-doubting, and maybe even weak or boring, which, whether true or not, is how I often think people think of me when they first meet me. But then you dig one level deeper, and there is SO much more to her – she’s a great friend (even to Angela) and is endlessly patient, she deeply understands people and the complexity of human interaction, she’s an artist, she is silly and has a great sense of humor, she’s humble but talented, and when it matters most, she’s brave and she goes after what she wants. And (also like me), she was totally in love with her best friend way before she even realized it.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      you and pam sound like such wonderful people, E! love this description.

    • Charlie says...

      I TOTALLY Agree about Pam. A hidden gem.

    • J. says...

      <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

    • L says...

      I have never related to another character on television the way I do to Pam ❤️

  138. Sheila says...

    I don’t want much TV (don’t give me that look!) so I can’t speak to its characters, but I did discover a comic strip character I’m very much like: Mo from Alison Bechdel’s “Dykes to Watch Out For. ” Mo is a pessimist, a crank, and very passionate about things that disappoint her or make her angry! She’s also cynical and funny as hell.

    (Even from writing that out I’m feeling how little like a compliment it is to be like a person like that. But, I’ve gotten over it–it’s how I am!)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      “don’t give me that look!” = lol

    • Kelsey says...

      I love that you referenced ‘Dykes to Watch Out For’ in your answer- you made my day!

  139. Mouse says...

    Helen Hunt from Mad About You. I am ridiculously sane. Most of the time.

    • B says...

      This show doesn’t get nearly the love it deserves.

    • kiki says...

      I love Mad About You!

  140. Hannah says...

    For all the Myers Briggs nerds out there I am an INTJ female, so I rarely see female characters in media that I really relate to, but Aaron Sorkin’s female characters are so great! Particularly Sloan Sabbith (Newsroom)—her passion for truth and somewhat awkward social interactions. Also, to some extent Meredith Grey in Grey’s Anatomy.

    (And I love Niles, he’s such an endearing character!)

    • Nicole says...

      I am an INTJ too! I’ll have to look in to the Aaron Sorkin reel…

    • Sarah says...

      INTJ! Peggy Olsen is who keeps coming to mind for me. Smart but has to fight so hard to be seen and recognized.

    • Tiia Leino says...

      That explains why I relate too!

  141. Ml says...

    Mel from Virgin River … but waiting for Jack. (In can be part aspirational TV character, right?! : ) )

  142. Hali says...

    David from Schitt’s Creek. The scene where he is horrified about plungers in the front of the store gave me a few heartfelt tears because that is me! My family’s multiple small businesses have come to rely on my aesthetic sensibilities in a way that has earned me a lot of respect at this point, but not without giving me SUCH A HARD TIME for being just like David. I love him. I am him. We mean well, always.

    And Dan Levy is my biggest friend crush in the whole wide world. What I wouldn’t give to have access to vent-text him about covididiots, or call him crying in bad creative blocks, or have the privilege to ask him to please pick out sweaters for me because none that I pick out look good on my body, or order takeout with him.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      omg hahaha I LOVE this, Hali.

    • Sarah says...

      Didn’t Hali write a great comment on the limericks post? Or another recent one? I suppose that is the benefit of an unusual name. I often wonder if you, Jo and team, notice particular people commenting and start to feel like you know them. Alas, as a Sarah, I will forever blend into the crowd of sweet, thoughtful, funny devotees. I guess there are worse crowds to blend in with.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Oh, Sarah, what a sweet comment! I just read it out loud to Alex. You’re lovely :)

      And yes we definitely know a ton of commenters and it’s one of the best parts of the job!

    • Anna says...

      That’s how I feel about Agnès, haha — first I read the post and then I read Agnès’s comment and only then is the reading process truly complete :)

    • Angela says...

      Yes, Anna! I feel the same!

    • Julie says...

      Just spent a good part of my morning going back to old posts and searching for comments from Hali and Agnès — love having new online voices to admire!

    • hali says...

      This is making me blush so hard under my mask in line at the post office!

      I feel the same about Agnès. Her comment on favorite scents has had me day dreaming of summer holidays in the south of France literally every day since I read it. She’s a legend.

      On Limerick Day I was laughing so hard trying to think of a limerick for my cat that I couldn’t breathe. I tried to explain what was happening to my concerned husband but I truly could not speak. My husband cheekily threatened to find all my comments on this blog to figure out what was wrong with me. (He’s done it before. It’s mortifying and also truly hilarious.) I bare it all here. Such a safe & warm space. Big love for the comments section!

    • Sarah says...

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Awww love you all and Agnés, too. And all the others! I shared Jo’s comment with my BFF and she was like, “Gasp! She read it to Alex! Highlight of the year!”

      Amazing what a daily, positive influence you have on so many lives, Jo and crew!

    • L says...

      Omg this little comment thread just made me cry! Thank god for this space for real! Love to you all xo (And I am also happy to forever blend in to the crowd of sweet, thoughtful, funny devotees.)

  143. Alice says...

    Mostly Liz Lemon with a dash of Leslie Knope’s optimism. I think my inner narrative is more Liz, but my friends would probably say I’m more Leslie. I’ve been told I can be annoyingly optimistic! haha

  144. celeste says...

    I don’t have one, but I recently noticed Zoey’s Extraordinary Playlist is a great show. Her relationship with her brother and parents is incredible.

  145. Cait says...

    I am Leslie Knope from Parks and Rec :) Thankfully my husband is a hybrid of Ben Wyatt and Ron Swanson, so it works out.

  146. Katie says...

    I am the female version of George from Seinfeld! There is nothing I can’t freak out about! There is no sight too small to be forgotten! plus I love velvet. :)

    • Jo says...

      Hello fellow lady George!

    • OBSESSED with you two <3

    • Heather says...

      Ahh mine is similar (as I think George was based on him?), but I am at times Larry David from Curb Your Enthusiasm. I can very easily get fixated on a small grievance that has absolutely nothing to do with me. Is there someone flouting parking rules and standards by blocking in a whole section of cars in the minuscule taco trailer lot? Perfect – I will spend the whole time narrating and exclaiming “what?! what do they think they’re doing?!”

      I am also a little bit Jane (albeit a much less put together, fancy version) from Happy Endings which is one of our all time favorite comfort shows. Especially regarding her intensity and competitiveness – her competition with Max to decide who got to keep the sweater comes to mind!

  147. F says...

    I have never identified with a fictional character as much as I have with Marnie from the TV show Girls – not sure what that says about me though!!

    • Ioana says...

      I was scrolling through the comments hoping that someone would say this!! Her insecurity mixed with ambition with a (heavy) side of judgement… She’s great. It does upset me that she seems to be everyone’s least favourite, especially because a lot of it comes down to the way she represents the kind of woman who doesn’t come off as “effortless” enough.

  148. Not a TV character, but when I saw Lady Bird for the first time it was such a visceral experience because I felt SO MUCH LIKE HER. My mom and I have a hard time connecting and I had her watch the movie and we both cried because it was so much like our experience when I was a teenager. I treasure that movie so much.

    • Moony says...

      ME TOO. I had such a gut-wrenching, visceral reaction to that movie, I almost had to get up and leave the room during certain parts! It was like someone poked me deep in my teenage subconscious and wiggled their finger around.

    • Jess says...

      Yes! I really related to Lady Bird, especially in one of the early scenes where she throws herself out of her mom’s slow-moving car = me as a teenager.

    • Laura says...

      I so agree with this, although I would never have made my (narcissistic) mother watch it because it would have been too awkward. The only thing that has helped heal me has been having my own daughter, who is now 2 – and I can “reparent” myself in some ways through her. I so wish Cup of Jo would cover this issue more. And I remember desperately wanting her own mother to do the advice column because it would give me a “mother” online!

  149. Vivian says...

    I wish I had a more serious character in mind but most people close to me would agree that I am Tina Belcher from Bob’s Burgers. She is quirky, kind-hearted, gentle yet passionate — plus the way that sarcasm or digs sometimes just go over her head? Totally me.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahaha I love that!

    • Jenna says...

      My partner compares me to Louise…

    • T says...

      Gotta be Lisa Simpson. She is so kind, always doing her best to work toward social justice, and occasionally loses her sh*t when people are ticking her off! Nobody’s perfect! :)