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Have a Lovely Weekend.

Paris by Jeanne Damas

What are you up to this weekend? We just finished Emily in Paris, which I expected not to like but actually really enjoyed. Have you seen it? We’re also writing letters to Santa tonight, which is exciting! Hope you have a good one, and here are a few links from around the web…

Here’s our 2020 gift guide so far. (Our last one is coming up on Monday.)

This marriage proposal, my heart! (New York Times)

“I guess my parents were right about Frasier.”

Our holiday picks from Catbird. (LOVE.)

Living alone during the holidays.

Made me laugh.

What’s one reason you’re happy today?

I always love a media diet post, especially from the insightful Jason Kottke.

This awesome stand is on my holiday wishlist for working from home.

Menu mind games.

The Fug Girls’ recaps of The Crown are fun.

Plus, a reader comment:

Says GW on what was your most embarrassing moment: “I sent what I thought was a link for a gluten-free cookie recipe to an acquaintance at my kids’ school. She replied that she didn’t think it was the link I meant to send and that she couldn’t stop laughing. What I had actually sent her was a link to a Cup of Jo post about vibrators, which I had recently sent to a close friend. I remember feeling mortified (!!) at the time but now think maybe that post was better than gluten-free cookies anyway.”

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  1. Eli says...

    Does your local library subscribe to it? I use my library to read it for free!! I hope you can do that too.

  2. I love the article about Frasier, and the line, “everything was beige” killed me. So good. I’m also a Frasier fan but liked it “back then” because I’m guessing I am about 10 years older than the writer :)

  3. Cindy says...

    Please please please tell us when a link is going to take us to a NY Times article like you used to do….I can’t afford a subscription right now (Out of work, due to Covid) and treasure those 5 “free” monthly clicks so much… I really have to click sparingly. Thanks!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh I’m so sorry! we still mark them, but this one slipped through the cracks. I’m so sorry xo

    • Ines says...

      Cindy, email me at ineslsantos at gmail dot com, i get two “friend subscriptions” with my subscription and I would love to give you one.

  4. Agnes says...

    A bit cheeky, but can I ask for any Netflix and Apple TV recommendations for the holidays coming up? I have that football coach guy show lined up in my head for Apple already, yay. I loved Virgin River (already done season 2), and found it pretty much perfect. Drama but more suggested, sex but more suggested, little swearing and crude stuff. (What can I say, I’m an INFJ). Any tips most appreciated!

    • Megan says...

      Queen’s Gambit all the way (Netflix).

    • Agnes says...

      Thank you so much!! Working through checking all those out!

    • Claire says...

      Is the football coach guy program the Friday Night Lights series? because that’s a good one.

  5. Anga says...

    So interesting to see comments about how Grammar “isn’t a good guy”. Just because his political leanings don’t align with your own? No wonder this country is so divided when we can’t even admire someone’s work in a sitcom without mentioning we abhor their politics.

    • Julie says...

      I’m pretty sure the references are to how he has treated women. Not sure where the political assumption comes from.

  6. Holly says...

    Emily in Paris is awful! And I totally hate-watched it in three days, haha.

    Frasier is amazing. Watch “Mixed Doubles.” It’s entire genius is in that one episode.

  7. annabelle says...

    Speaking of horrible chick flix I watched Holidate – soooo bad – do not watch – but I did love the idea of getting a Holidate partner just for fun. Would be fun to find someone who signs up JUST for holidays. Of course real meetups will have to wait til after the pandemic but surely I can find another singleton who would do holiday zoom dates.

  8. Gina says...

    I audibly gasped when I got to the last line of the NYT list that morning with a marriage proposal! I’m so glad it was real and they gave us such a good update on the couple! So sweet!

  9. Lisa says...

    I hate watched Emily in Paris in about a week. My husband is French so I’ve spent plenty of time around French people, and their reaction to her (someone turning up who doesn’t speak the language, doesn’t understand the culture and decides she’s teaching them how to live) is spot on. I did enjoy though watching people going to restaurants and for drinks and sitting on terraces without masks.

    If you want an actual French series (which has Emily’s boss in it), I can highly recommend “call my agent” (“dix percent” in French) which is about a talent agency in Paris. Every episode has a French celeb in it, and it’s just so funny and clever. They’re filming a new season now and I can’t wait!

  10. Hannah says...

    Yes, Kelsey Grammer might not be the best guy. But did you know his early life was riddled with personal tragedies? Check it out. I was shocked when I read about what he’s been through.

    • Megan says...

      My go to, binge worthy show at the moment is “The Queens Gambit.” Captivating and I don’t know the first thing about chess.

  11. S says...

    I very much identify with the Frasier article. It’s a show that never caught my interest when I’d flip through channels growing up, but I truly watched it for the first time last year and LOVED it. So immensely witty, and I just love the characters, especially Daphne!

    • kiki says...

      Does it hold up?? i LOVED it as a kid / teen and am afraid to go back and watch it as an adult in case it doesn’t hold up!

  12. sarah says...

    I watched the First episode of Emily in Paris and found the writing junior high level and the acting cringeworthy. (I did appreciate the scenery – closest thing to a vacation i’ve had.) I cant’ bring myself to watch another episode.

    Those that liked it, do you actually think it’s good? do you just give it a pass for escapism? I’m so confused.

    • Isabelle says...

      Based on my own experience watching it and recapping with friends, we’ve universally agreed that the show is absolutely awful but that we couldn’t stop watching it. I had planned to just watch one episode, tell my friend how stupid it was and give up. Two days later I had finished the series. It is 100% dumb, childishly written escapism but somehow that’s exactly what I needed? It also felt kind of cathartic seeing an American behave like an absolute idiot abroad, considering how poorly we have handled the current situation as a country.

    • Rachel says...

      Yes, thank you! I tried the first episode last night based on this recommendation and it was painfully bad. Not well written at all. Additionally, the main character was unsympathetic and all the French co-workers are extreme caricature. I’m so confused because Joanna also loves Fleabag, which is so well written. Am I missing something? Does it get better?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I hear you! Emily in Paris is NOTHING like Fleabag, which was a masterpiece. But it’s a fun confection and escape during quarantine times. Hope that helps!

    • Emma O says...

      Emily in Paris is an offensive collection of trite French stereotypes…. so much so that there have been numerous articles in the French/European press about it. None of them positive.

    • Deanna says...

      Emily in Paris is amazing for hate-watching, but if you want legitimate Parisians, watch Call my Agent! It is SO GOOD. Funny, wry, dramatic, amazing.

  13. Chetna says...

    I really enjoyed “Emily in Paris” and miss traveling even more now! Loved her boss Sylivie’s style so much more though. Classic French chic.

    • Isabelle says...

      I couldn’t get past her t-rex arm posture!

  14. anon this time : ) says...

    Joanna, I want to thank you because my daughter just turned 19 and had expressed some curiosity about vibrators, and if it weren’t for your classy conversations about them here I don’t know if I would have felt as confident giving her one for her birthday. It was both hilarious and fun and very sweet. I feel so grateful to you!

    (I also texted my bestie and asked on a scale of 1- 10 how weird is it to give your own daughter a vibrator? We had the funniest convo about what our mothers would have said/done had we asked for one as teens! ha!) I would like to pass along some good websites re female sexuality and if I remember right, I think you have highlighted some in the past. Could you possibly steer me to some links, if you have time?

    Thank you for the broad range of input you have in our lives! : )

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I love that, anon!!!!! :)

    • Eli says...

      You are an AMAZING MOTHER!!! And you have done everything right in that your daughter feels comfortable expressing interest to you about a vibrator! (I am divorced and my mother and I, while close, still dance around the whole I’ve had sex thing! HA!!).

      I would HIGHLY recommend Dame’s blog, http://www.dameproducts.com. I get their emails about new posts and what’s up on the blog and it is not just for females. They are gender/sexual inclusive and touch on such a variety of topics, you never know what is coming up. I think they are interesting and well written.

      Best of luck!

    • anon says...

      Eli – thank you! Both for your sweet words and the recommendation! I will be passing it along. : )

  15. Amy says...

    Yes I enjoyed Emily in Paris and my husband liked it too despite himself lol!
    We’ve also watched the Shawn Mendes documentary on Netflix- love our Canadian boy! ;)

  16. Maria says...

    Jo (and team), what happened with the book club? Looking for ideas ahead of Christmas – for grown ups and kiddos!

  17. Colleen S says...

    I watched Emily in Paris, but was cringing every time she messed up French. Even though I can barely speak a whole sentence, I at least have an understanding. And I know that she got the job last minute, but she genuinely made little effort to learn and basically alienated herself from everyone, barring five people. It was a cute show, and I did enjoy it when I wasn’t wanting to scream at Emily for her lack of awareness.

    • Isabelle says...

      I kind of loved how dumb she was. The show was really contrived and I didn’t need it to pretend to be anything it wasn’t. Clearly Emily sucks from beginning to end, yet she landed this amazing job and every male human she meets immediately falls in love with her. Her outfits were hilarious too!

  18. Anon says...

    I just love Frasier. What a great show.

  19. Bella says...

    I spent one Christmas on my own and was unhappy, but by the following year I realized that I would be perfectly happy spending Christmases mostly on my own, without gifts, decorations, elaborate meals or shopping, just adding some short visits with friends and family. It is unfortunate, but the holidays were so terribly stressful growing up that now I thoroughly enjoy completely ignoring them, and even completely gave up on obligatory gift-giving/receiving about six years ago. The best gift I can possibly have at Christmas is a day of doing nothing but things I love, like taking a nice walk, going through the giant stash of reading material I checked out from the library, and eating cake. Lovely.

    • Isabelle says...

      I agree! One year I didn’t have enough time off from work to go see my family, so instead I stayed in on Christmas day and baked an elaborate Bûche De Noël. I had a little Christmas tree because I love the ambiance of the cozy lights, but other than that I did no decorating! I was in the office up to and including Christmas Eve, and since most of our clients were OOO we didn’t have much to do – a coworker and I had an impromptu “hot chocolate party” in the office kitchen where we sampled different varieties of cocoa packets from a local shop, and the day after Christmas I brought in the rest of my cake to share. That year I also cooked myself a filet mignon for New Year’s Eve, which has become an annual tradition! So nice to have a big fancy dinner and wine and then get tucked in early and avoid NYE madness (especially this year!)

    • Julie says...

      I wish we could stop the gift giving too. I never want anything, so whenever I receive gifts, I feel guilty because they really shouldn’t have spent the money on me. I’d rather just spend time with them, honestly.

  20. My husband and I just started rewatching Frasier for something like the sixth time. It gets funnier and funnier the older I get, and especially now that I actually know the kinds of people Frasier and Niles schmooze with. It’s an ensemble comedy, but each individual within it is a standout, and the jokes and physical comedy are remarkably clever.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I love it sooooo much.

    • b says...

      I think I’m on my sixth time since March. It’s the show I use to fall asleep at night.

    • Charlotte says...

      I also discovered Frasier as an adult (while I was interning in Seattle), and have probably run through it 10+ times in the last decade. Between Frasier and Friends, I have yet to find a show I come back to quite as much.

  21. Agnès says...

    The proposal is fantastic! Thank you cupofjo, i (almost) always feel we’re in the same mood and love seeing the picture of Paris it makes me feel like you sent me a secret hello ;-)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      <3

    • Maggie says...

      Lauren and Taylor are friends of mine and they are as dynamic and lovely as you’d expect. I’m so happy for them!

  22. Erin says...

    Has anyone written letters “from Santa”? This year I’m going to try the USPS system of sending them to the address in Alaska and having the letters sent back to the kids. Usually they’d bring their letters to Santa in person, but since we won’t be doing an in-person visit, I thought they’d enjoy getting a reply. Of course, that means I need to write replies…

    It will be a Christmas-y weekend for us. Decorating the tree, writing letters to Santa, and driving the neighborhood to look at lights. Hopefully there will be some cooking baking and decorating, too.

    • Erin says...

      *cookie baking and decorating ;)

    • Rae says...

      I don’t know how widespread this is but our town post office has a Santa Mailbox in the lobby. My daughter put her letters in…and she get a reply from Santa!?! I was so surprised the first year we did this. I just thought the letters were….delivered. It seems to have bought us a couple of extra years of true belief : )

    • Kary says...

      PSA – the Canadian postal service sends replies to all letters to Santa at the North Pole, postal code: H0H 0H0.

      Volunteers actually read all the letters (and past anything concerning on to social services)

      Did it for the first time with my son this year. (We used to do it every year in the 80s / 90s) Still waiting for the reply – but I can’t wait to see his face when the letter comes.

  23. Rachel says...

    I agree — I was more lonely than I thought I’d be over Thanksgiving. I felt really alone and sad. The holidays just feel like a time to be with family. For the first time ever in my life I’m almost dreading Christmas because I don’t want to feel that way again. I’d love to hear from others who live alone how they’re handling the holidays, or what tricks or suggestions they have to make them feel more bearable… :(

    • nadine says...

      Hi Rachel,
      thank you a lot for sharing. I’m very sorry you’re going through this period in time feeling lonely. I’ve spent a few Christmas holidays alone and it really sucks. I get your dread, there was one year in particular that was really tough.
      Don’t know if this helps, I wonder if this year, since we’re in many being in the same situation, it will be a little bit easier to reach out others and share what we’re going through?
      Also I found this podcast very comforting: https://therapyforblackgirls.com/podcast/ episode 183.
      Anyone has other suggestions ? A blog post would be wonderful too..
      Sending you a hug

    • Rachel says...

      Nadine, your reply was so sweet. I don’t even know you and the thought of you sending me a hug… it’s making me tear up. Thank you. <3 I needed that and to feel a little less alone. I know it is so hard for so many of us right now. I am sending a hug back to you, and to anyone else feeling this way.

      I'm going to listen to that podcast. And I would love to see a blog post on maybe how others who live alone are dealing…

    • Katie says...

      For Thanksgiving week I made myself lots of food I know would make me feel good (and no Thanksgiving food, lol). Day of my sister and I each made totchos (tater tot nachos) in our own apartments and video chatted while we assembled and ate them. And I watched a lot of Christmas movies! For me its about focusing on what I can do, not what I can’t, and asking myself what is going to make me feel best at any given moment and going with that.

    • Isabelle says...

      I’m sorry you are dreading it! I live alone and have spent several holidays by myself since my family lives very far away. For me, it’s helpful to come up with my own traditions. My first holiday season alone I spent all of Christmas day baking a Bûche De Noël and on New Year’s Eve I made a filet mignon. Obviously you can Zoom/FaceTime/chat with your family and friends, but sometimes it’s just nice to have a day that’s all about you with zero obligations. I would tee up any books and movies you’ve been wanting to see – now is a good time to place holds at the library or order anything you need to buy. It’s too late for this year, but I’d suggest budgeting a little extra money each month (I do $20/month) as a “treat yourself” fund for the holidays. I don’t let myself spend it until December, and I use it to get myself a present or a holiday indulgence that doesn’t fit in my typical budget like a fancy flavored latte once a week or my filet mignon for NYE. It could also be used next year to take a friend or relative out to a nice dinner or to snag an item you really want from a last minute sale.

      An alternate approach is to use the holiday to eat all the foods your friends/family don’t enjoy – for me that’s beans, deviled eggs and blue cheese (not all together though! ha) And there’s no shame in getting takeout or ordering a pre-made meal – not everyone likes cooking, so sometimes that’s the most luxurious choice. But if you like to cook and miss your family’s food you could ask them to send you some recipes to recreate. If you have a bathtub you could get some holiday themed bath bombs from Lush and have a spa/movie night. That helps me ease anxiety and sleep better.

      And like others have said, keep in mind that you’re not alone and please be gentle with yourself. It’s perfectly normal to be lonely and hopefully next holiday season we can make up for all the socializing and hugs we missed this year!

    • L. K. says...

      I was alone over Thanksgiving but knowing others were in the same boat really helped me imagine a virtual community. I made myself a real Thanksgiving dinner (which I’d never done before—I love to cook and it was delicious!). I Zoomed with my nephew and his family in the morning and took a walk in the park later on. It was a lovely day!

    • suki says...

      tl;dr: holidays are not the time to indulge in misery – it is too fragile a time so go to every length to indulge yourself in ALL the best ways possible. For this reason I also do any volunteering either before or after the holidays and claim holidays as “me” time.

      I’ve spent nearly every holiday of my adult life alone – and not by design – and so to curb despair I default to celebration mode. For me this means I decorate a week or two in advance and create a top tier menu for The Day, which for me has always been two days: Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, along with holiday music, movies, and fancy hor d’oeuvres. Christmas Day I make myself a special homemade brunch with fancy mimosa’s. Music or a movie with candles and a glass of bubbly while I spend the entire day preparing a deluxe meal or baking Christmas cookies to give as gifts over the next week before New Year’s feels very holiday to me, but I enjoy cooking. I have a surprisingly solitary life and while it isn’t my preference, I make a point to treat myself to a deeply satisfying stay-cation for holidays to ensure I am taken care of. The key is fancy and expensive things I would normally not indulge in. I look forward to it every year!

    • Sarah says...

      It’s tough, Erin! If it were me, I feel like planning the day would help. I would choose a few parts of the day to place the special (fancy breakfast, favourite Christmas movie with treats), amp up some of the mundane parts (a walk, but somewhere nicer/different), and also include some real downtime/ structured doing nothing (a new book). And let yourself off the hook – you don’t have to have a perfect solo Christmas.
      I will be with my partner and teen, missing grandparents and cousins and gatherings and trying to make things feel special and normal. It’s a rough year and we are in it together.

  24. claire says...

    I liked Emily in Paris ok, I guess, but I LOVED Teenage Bounty Hunters.

    • Chiara says...

      YASSS extremely underrated and incredibly fun!!! like if “Buffy” & “Saved” had an awesome baby.

  25. Tania says...

    Wait when you say “we” do you mean Alex watched it with you?! I’m impressed. I’ve been enjoying it too — i’m here for ambient tv!

  26. NM says...

    I know lol is a thing. But it doesn’t come to me naturally or often.
    However, I just released all the lols in the world for that Christmas tree article.
    L. O. L

  27. Hi cupofjo community,
    I’ve been coming to this blog every day for nearly a decade; being filled up by the content, and candor, and comment exchanges.

    I’m not sure if it’s against the rules to share this fundraising link & so I apologize for the possible offense. They say that you should share your ‘gofundme’ story with your community and family, so it feels honest for me to share this here where I’ve gathered many days & nights, with y’all… to be seen, to feel felt and be heard, to have a rallying cry of these formidable women in my corner.

    (Again, if that is not permitted.. Joanna, please know that I completely understand if this comment cannot be approved to publish.)

    Thank y’all so much! This comment section really is the holiest place on the Internet, and for that I am grateful over and over again.

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  28. Eloise says...

    I might have to treat myself to Catbird’s Met Button charm – I go to the Costume Exhibit every year (not this one) and always bemoan the admission sticker, wondering (out loud, every time) what I’m going to “click” on the way home.

    • Eloise says...

      Forget “might” – done!

  29. Stella says...

    For anyone who enjoyed hate-watching Emily in Paris, you would LOVE Haley Nahman’s podcast episode where she talks with her partner Avi, and friend Harling about the show. The funniest and most entertaining thing I’ve listened to in a while. Their true investment (especially Avi’s) into the analysis of the show is absolute gold.

    • ange says...

      It’s been stuck in my “recommended” list for weeks and I don’t know how to make it go away. So annoying that it’s like a %90 something “match”. How?? Because I am a female? So what, yes I watched the Crown, how does that tag me for a crappy chic flick, lol? Ugh, how will the world survive algorithm’s designed by clueless men? God help us.

  30. Breezy says...

    The Friday thread has been my little bright spot of the week for awhile now, but I finally have a small story to share:

    I’ve worn my hair in a short pixie cut for the past 8 years, and enjoyed haircuts every 6-8 weeks prior to the pandemic. It was a core part of my identity positive self-image, and always made me feel like a million bucks after a trim. Cue the pandemic, and due to risks involved I haven’t had a haircut since the first week of March. As the pandemic dragged on, I realized my 6-8 week trim was an aspect of my lifestyle I might need to stop for the next year or two, and decided to try to grow out a bob. The mullety-grow-out phase has been horrible for me–it wasn’t really a choice I woke up and made for myself so much as I was pushed into, and on top of the stress of everyday life and work and whatnot learning to understand myself with longer hair has been a struggle. I’ve felt like a horrible frumpy mess.

    And now the real reason I’m writing: due to some other big life changes (husband got into law school!) we moved in with my mother to prepare for a longer distance move and save on rent for a few months. I was typing away at my desk, and she was in between calls, and asked if I wanted her to give me a trim. She has some training as a hairdresser from when I was an infant, and used to cut my bangs as a child; she still cuts her own hair to this day. Sitting in the master bath and feeling the scissors very gently touch the back of my neck was a meditative pause in an otherwise hectic workday. Ten minutes later, I was no longer shaggy a mop monster, and have almost the bob I’m looking for. It’ll grow out soon enough, and now I feel like I can make it the final stretch as my bangs grow out. Every time I look in the mirror I feel so much of the love and warmth of her simple gesture; it’s really the gift of a small bit of control over how I look and feel in an otherwise very difficult time. The tiniest things can have so much impact, I am so grateful for her!

    • Agnès says...

      That’s really beautiful and beautifully written, i love your choice of words

    • CS says...

      Thanks for sharing this lovely story.

    • Chris says...

      So beautifully written – thank you for sharing :)

    • Amber says...

      Lovely

  31. Em says...

    GW’s comment is hilarious!!!! That feels like something I would do. Also, love your Catbird picks, CoJ!

  32. Julia says...

    YES to Emily in Paris! I’ve always been a proponent of TV + movies that are pure entertainment – some may call it junk TV – but even more so this past year. 2020 has me stressed, tired, and juggling work and kids from home so sign me the heck up for a show that involves a sexy French chef. Or for that matter, a group of southern ladies bonded for life, a divorcee getting her groove back with a way hotter man than her ex or anything where someone is starting their life over in a remote town. Calgon, take me away. My head hurts on the daily so my nightly dose of TV should not. :)

    • Court says...

      Julia- this is how I feel about Love Island. I’ve watched the UK version (season 3 and 6) during the pandemic and I feel like I’ve moved into the villa and get to hang out with these people LOL. It’s so light and nice.

  33. CS says...

    Ok, if we’re talking about vibrators, I highly recommend the “Vibe” from Maude. When my first one had lived its best life and passed away, I didn’t hesitate to order a second. I’d tried the Dame “Eva II” and it was comical how bad it was: it wouldn’t stay in place like intended and it was like a 1/10 in terms of sensation. The Maude vibe’s three settings are all you could hope for, not to mention I was able to teach two significant others how to use it. (Wow, now I’m blushing. I guess, as Elizabeth Holmes would say, I have *so many thoughts* about them…)

    As for my other great purchases this year, I love my Rain M Stand laptop stand, full size Apple keyboard and a bluetooth mouse. I use them all day for work and it makes a world of different. I’m glad I bought them myself as, when working from home eventually comes to an end, I’ll be excited to have them for my own personal use.

    Finally, thank you, COJ, for being a bright spot in my day. It had some tough moments this week with work and personal life and you never fail to cheer me up. xoxo

    • CS says...

      Ugh, I need a proofreader this morning. I meant “world of difference” and “I had some…”

  34. AJ says...

    I couldn’t help but love Emily in Paris too even if it was widely panned for being cliched and stereotyped. I refer to it as my mental and emotional palate cleanser. Add Love Life with Anna Kendrick on HBO Plus to that as well. Just give me the simplest tv for these truly difficult times.

    • Claire says...

      Same! Emily in Paris was a fun bit of relaxation (as is The Bachelorette, of course). Can we have a roundup of shows to watch next? I’ve finished Schitt’s Creek, The Queen’s Gambit, Virgin River, and, semi-embarrassingly, Below Deck. Then again, I’ve long ago decided to not feel guilty about my “guilty pleasure” tv choices thanks to my all time favorite Onion article headline:

      Woman Takes Short Half-Hour Break From Being Feminist To Enjoy TV Show
      https://entertainment.theonion.com/woman-takes-short-half-hour-break-from-being-feminist-t-1819576049

    • tyler says...

      I like Emily in Paris too. Its visually appealing and I think the acting is really really good – despite the silly plot everyone is really giving their all. And I think the American feminist lens on French culture is an interesting set up. And even though it shouldn’t be, having Emily casually throw around the word vagina in a business meeting with men still feels a bit radical? I like that they didn’t make the American a total prude. OK maybe I’m giving it too much credit now, ha!

  35. Celeste says...

    Watching Cheers now and agreeing with the assessment that Kelsey Grammer must stink in real life.

  36. Jackie says...

    My boss just approved the sit stand desk. I’m so excited!!!!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that’s awesome!!

  37. TR says...

    I’m living alone and Thanksgiving was harder than I thought. I prepared well with scheduled zooms and a walk outdoors with a friend, but the holiday really made it obvious to me that there are some parts in life where it is just nice to have a partner! Romantic or platonic – but it felt like there was a difference between friends who happily would have include me in their plans vs. that one person who you spend all your time with as a default.

    • M says...

      TR, this made me weep. Three weeks ago, completely out of the blue, my (now ex)boyfriend who I adore, cheated on me and dumped me. Since then I’ve never felt so sad and alone. These days are hard, and I have to admit to being really envious of everyone with a special person to share things with. I know it’s a tough time for everyone, and I feel lucky to have all that I do, but alone + holidays + pandemic really hurts!

      As an aside, to the CoJ team, your posts -especially the Friday roundups- bring me moments of joy on these gloomy days and I’m thankful for that.