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Abby Sharp family photo

My friend Abby Sharp has a trick for taking family photos: “My dad is into taking ‘album cover’ shots,” she says. “No art direction besides, ‘Don’t stand together!'” And they really do look cool!

Cillian Murphy

Do you ever have trouble sleeping? The Calm app has a hilariously amazing solution: Get lulled to sleep by people like blue-eyed actor Cillian Murphy or legendary basketball player Scottie Pippen (could his voice get any deeper?).

broccoli pizza

For family dinners, I’m queuing up this broccoli pizza, which Smitten Kitchen calls “an ideal weeknight excuse for pizza.”

Mindy Kaling and BJ Novak

What kind of friend are you, according to your Myers-Briggs? (I’m a sucker for personality articles like this, including the definition of hell for each personality type.)

Trends are always fun/diverting to follow, and this fall is all about slouchy bags. Here are some in order of splurginess: oversized, clutch, gathered and cloud. Would you wear one?

P.S. More fun things, and 10 fast fall dinners.

  1. Ashley says...

    Someday, this will happen with low-rise jeans and we’ll all be sorry.

  2. Jes says...

    I subscribe to the Calm app, but only listen to a handful of their sleep stories. I’m hooked on a particular voice actor (Erik Braa) narrating stories about taking train rides. It’s so weird, but so hypnotic and soothing.

    • Tiffani says...

      I love the stories narrated by Eva Green! I’ve never made it to the end of one.

  3. Cynthia says...

    Any night is a good night for pizza!

  4. Angela says...

    Not that I’m really buying purses these days but I’d be really into the Glamorous Exclusive oversized slouchy pillow clutch bag in black, if it had the option to crossbody too. Picturing this with a squared chunky gold chain and black strap nearest the neck/shoulder.

  5. Stephanie says...

    Any going-to-sleep tips for sleeping with a partner? I used to use sleep apps/listen to soft music or meditations to get me to sleep if I had trouble sleeping when I used to sleep on my own.. but my partner can’t sleep with any sounds so I end up just lying there listening to his snores. Ugh. What to do what to do!

    • Janna Kraus says...

      Probably not the healthiest solution, but I use my airpods. If I wanna lie on the side, I just use one. And I’ve never lost one in bed, I either wake up holding them in my hand and put them back, or when notice I doze off, I put them on the nightstand.

    • Cécile says...

      Bose has sleep earbuds with noise blocking + white noise. But what I do is I don’t always sleep in our shared bedroom. My partner doesn’t even snore, and I really really love him deeply. Even then, some nights I just know that calming down will be much easier if I take some alone time before sleeping (and cool sheets!).

    • Deanna W says...

      Same, girl, same. You need to get a headphone headband it will change your life. I can usually fall asleep to the peaceful sounds of my air filter, but if my tinnitus is acting up, or my husband is snoring (which of course is never the same night), headband headphones to the rescue! They connect via Bluetooth to my phone, and then I can fall asleep to Stephen Fry reading chapter one of Harry Potter for the 9000th time.

    • Caitlin says...

      Earplugs for the partner! I am the light sleeper in my relationship and earplugs are just a must for me.

    • Charlotte says...

      I put my phone under my pillow and have it really low- so I can hear it through the pillow but my husband can’t hear it lying next to me.

  6. Danielle says...

    Just popping in to say that the Calm App is free if your insurance provider is Kaiser Permanente.

  7. Sara M says...

    Help! ENFJ here who has been desperately seeking a career change for years now! I’m a corporate lawyer in a job with little human interaction and zero creativity or altruism. I’m miserable. I took the Meyers-Briggs and it was a revelation (it was me to a T!); I feel so validated that I need to find more a humanitarian, creative, and people-oriented job, and I finally finished paying my student loans so I have the flexibility to try something new! But WHAT?!!?
    Fellow ENFJs–what careers do you have that you love??

    • Megan C says...

      Hi Sara! I’m an ENFJ too (and an Enneagram 2w3 if you’ve ever taken that)! I’m a public school librarian in a low-income neighborhood in LA and it’s the very best – creative, service-heavy and people-oriented (without the grind of testing or assessments that I had when I was a content area teacher) … and I get to keep up to date with as many books as I can get my hands on!

      I hope you find something you love :)

    • Anon says...

      Hi Sara – I’m about as introverted as they come, but might I suggest fundraising/development? As a frontline gift officer, you would get to travel (in normal times – right now, it’s a lot of Zoom calls) and meet new people everyday. You’d work with them to identify what they’re passionate about and connect them with a project or issue where their philanthropy could make a difference. The great thing is, development exists in almost any area – healthcare, the arts, animal welfare, education, social justice, etc – so you can pick an organization that is focused on what you love. As an industry, it’s definitely got its flaws (there’s actually a shortage of talent right now because so many people are leaving the field, especially in the non-profit sector) but institutions always need more funding, so there are usually a ton of job openings, and since they’re income-producing positions, they’re usually slow to be cut.

    • Lauren says...

      Sara – I fully agree with Anon! I am an ENFJ (also Enneagram 2w3 like Megan!) and I am a frontline fundraiser. Philanthropy could be a great field for you to explore! Working fully remote certainly does make things less interactive than before, but it’s a pleasure to be able to connect with people about philanthropy and how they can help advance important work happening at your institution/org. Good luck exploring your options!

    • Tina says...

      You might want my job–I’m also an ENFJ and love my work. I work in immigration, as an asylum officer–it’s definitely humanitarian work, and puts you in contact with really interesting people ALL THE TIME. While creative isn’t the first word I would use to describe it, you do a lot of research and writing and analyzing which sort of draws on that impulse to create in a non-artistic sense. Lots of former lawyers bc it draws on some of those skills (I am one, too) but you’ll find people with all different backgrounds who just enjoy the process of talking to people about their stories and doing something concrete to help. After all the pandemic chaos we have a temporary hiring freeze, but it’s expected to lift in the spring, so if this sounds interesting set an alert on usajobs.gov. Good luck in this transition!

    • T says...

      Sara–what about a lateral shift? I am an ENFJ trademark attorney at the USPTO and I looooooove my job–trademarks are genuinely fascinating and working in this field you learn something new every day, I didn’t do any IP before starting my career here–I obviously handle applications independently but I have lots of outward client interaction both with pro se applicants and attorneys, and am part of a “law office” that provides me with community. I feel like I’m providing a genuinely good service of helping people gain legal protection for their businesses, while also interfacing with all sorts of people. We also all work from home now so it’s accessible anywhere in the continental US! If you’re interested in learning more about it feel free to ask Jo to connect us over e-mail. But if you’re trying to get out of law entirely I understand :)

    • Wjw says...

      ENFJ who too did a career change from feel good nonprofit/development work into…Human Resources. If you like helping people, you would LURVE HR in an era of pandemic, general insanity where people are just so so happy to encounter empathy and kindness. I love my job :)

    • Jules says...

      I’m not an ENFJ but came here to suggest looking at the Holland code tests as well (if you havent already). Im an ISFP trying to figure out a career change it’s been pretty helpful. Its geared toward career interests and might help you too!

    • kiki says...

      I’m an ENFP / J (only a 3% leaning towards P and I fit into both) I work at a design agency. Started out in Accounts, and now work in Brand Strategy. I love it! It’s the right mix of people, problem solving, selling big ideas, organizing information, research (on fun things like people and trends), and getting to hang out with a bunch of really great creative people!

  8. sam says...

    oh man the calm app is wizardry. i’ve used sleep stories almost every night since july (sometimes twice a night if I happen to wake up) and I think I’ve only made it all the way through *one* of them. usually i’m out within minutes.

    • Tiffani says...

      I love the Calm app too. I use the sleep meditations and the nature soundscapes all the time. I just moved in with my boyfriend and the thunderstorm soundscape has made it so much easier for us to get used to sleeping in the same bed every night.

  9. Jessica Cash says...

    YES! Someone realised the utter wonder in Scottie Pippen’s voice. I’ve even considered calling my first child Pippen :)

  10. Karen says...

    Who is Abby Sharp? Is this a celebrity I’ve never heard of? Some context would be nice!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh she’s my friend! her instagram is private, though. I’ll add “my friend”!

  11. Ro says...

    Yes to album cover photos! I’ve always done this, too. I love to take photos of my friends when they’re all staggered and looking off in different directions. (It’s really funny, for some reason.) But it’s even better if they don’t know they’re being photographed! I think people look the most natural, most like themselves, and more beautiful when they aren’t posing or cheesing for a camera. I also highly recommend capturing your friends and family in everyday moments — when reading a book, looking down at their phone, taking a sip of coffee. It’s lovely.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      some of my friends swear by enneagrams and say they’ve learned so much about themselves at home and work!

    • L says...

      Ohhh the enneagram takes up far more of my brain space than it should

    • Angela says...

      7 here! All the enthusiasm!

  12. Ginger says...

    I’m an ENTP, my husband is an INTJ. We’re on the same rational and intellectual page at least half the time, but then I have something I need to think out loud about and FEELINGS about things. Which freaks him out a little, but then he appreciates it when I can pick up on his emotional energy before he does and know intuitively when it’s a good night for takeout and a cuddle.

  13. celeste says...

    A fun thing from me, and file this under getting through the winter: I discovered fleece lined leggings. The BALEAF brand under Amazon has good ones. They are like a cozy hug.

  14. Jen says...

    We have been binging the amazing Peaky Blinders for the first time and I am besotted with Cillian Murphy! His story might be worth Calm’s high price tag…

  15. Did anyone else notice that the CLOUD bag is BLACK????!!!!! They found the design for 2020 for sure.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahaha

  16. Callie Kurtz says...

    To me the bag is neither here nor there, but I am HERE for the dress she’s wearing. Anyone have any idea where it’s from?!?

  17. Abbey says...

    I love the Calm app! But… a word to the wise: listening to your sexy-voiced celebrity crushes tell you bedtime stories can be counter-productive for the imaginative among us. I usually sleep really well but over the weekend I woke up around 2am and just could NOT get back to sleep. Then I remembered the Calm app! Harry Styles and I flitted through a delicious dreamworld together. But he couldn’t get me to sleep. So Cillian Murphy took me on a train ride through Ireland. Twice. No dice.
    Next time I think I need to listen to someone who doesn’t spark interest so much. I didn’t want to miss a word from the lips of those two.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahaha good point!

    • Court says...

      Abbey-SAME. It does relax me but doesn’t completely put me to sleep like a rerun of Friends does.

  18. Andrea says...

    Does anyone else look at those bags and think “yeah they’re cute but I’m not going anywhere anytime soon where I would need one….”!

    • Courtney says...

      Yes! My use of cute bags and shoes has plummeted due to COVID. I pretty much only use my tote bag now!

  19. Jenny says...

    I recently did my first scrotal ultrasound and the cloud bag in buff is haunting me

    • Sophie says...

      Hahhahaahahhahhaha Jenny you kill me. So if you can just pull THAT out of the way.

    • Claire says...

      Let’s just say that one of the most memorable evenings with my (now ex-) boyfriend took place in the ER, watching from an uncomfortable chair as his nether region was examined by a (very professional, but clearly uncomfortable) female ultrasound tech. That was a very long hour.

  20. Ariane says...

    OMG the calm app is the best money I have ever spent. Matthew Mcconaughey lulling me to sleep… Eva Green….. works so well.

  21. Ramya says...

    Broccoli SO belongs on pizza! It was my kiddo that led me to this discovery, oddly enough.

  22. Ana says...

    Joanna – do you know your Ennneagram type?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I don’t!

    • Ana says...

      Ooh, it’s so worth looking into! To me it’s much more fascinating than Meyers-Briggs. I could see you as a 7 or a 2!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Can’t wait to take the test!

    • Ana says...

      I actually recommend reading through all 9 types, spending some time with them, and seeing what resonates. Tests are only about 50% accurate. But wow is it ever life-changing once you’ve nailed down your type!

  23. Jules says...

    ISFP – “You have to listen to rude people criticizing your personal choices, your appearance and your art form all day long. Nobody cares that they’re hurting your feelings”

    I nearly choked when I read this- the first time I’ve laughed like that since March. So funny. Thank you for sharing.

    • Abbey says...

      I had the same reaction to mine! Just an iNtuition away from ISFP, it’s pretty similar:

      INFP – Your deepest thoughts and feelings are exposed to a large audience and everyone thinks that you’re pathetic and unoriginal.

      *snort-laugh*

  24. Elena Colantonio says...

    I remember when my wonderful sister got ”apathic” as a personality type. Ouch! Everybody wanted to be ‘passionate”. I am a happy ISFJ but I fail to see how knowing this should guide my life?

    • We are twins with our personality type! I knew I liked you since day 1. 🥳 I find it super fun to have discovered someone on the internet that is so much like me. Thank you for writing your blog. Now I’m off to make BFF’s with whoever I talk to for 5 minutes!!

  25. Calla says...

    What a great photo trick! Gonna try to get my family to do it the next time we’re together. I’m sure my dad’s going to scoff at it but that might make it look even better

  26. Farhana says...

    Ah, the bags. I would if they didn’t come with detrimental climate consequences ( cow hide= methane gas= terrible for the environment)

  27. Kristen says...

    The Myers-Briggs link reminded me of what remains one of the funniest days of my work life…
    I used to work for company with two owners who were exact opposite Myers-Briggs types. They believed it was the key to their partnership, and hired Myers-Briggs consultants to come in to do a day of training for everyone.
    For the very first exercise, the consultants told us they’d used the results from our online personality tests to identify two “teams” who were going to plan a company trip to Rome. They started calling out names and it was like a magic trick!! On one side was the “just wing it!” crowd. (The people who made Thursday night work happy hours last until 2AM.) On the other side were all the people who already had their hands in the air asking things like: “How much money do we have per person? How many hours is the trip? What time of year is the trip?” (The people who sent the happy hour calendar invites.)
    And either one of those trips would have been hell for me!

  28. Andrea says...

    Queueing up today’s nightmare in three, two, one…

    “ENTJ – Somebody is wrong, and they’re directing a large group of people! You can’t do anything about it and will have to obey whatever inefficient policies they decide to implement.”

    SHUDDER!!

    • Rachel says...

      I’m an ENTJ too and this is my nightmare!!

    • Jules says...

      Hahah. I read this one and just thought- ‘Oh! This sounds like my day to day life’!

    • Andrea says...

      I once came THIS close to hopping off a CDG airport bus to direct traffic so the bus could actually get on the periphery road.

      A missed opportunity and a missed flight, as it turns out.

  29. Susanna says...

    Scottie Pippen’s voice is perfect for a sleep story. I wish they’d have him do more. I can only listen to the history of basketball so many times.

  30. My husband and I are both INFPs. When we were dating he surprised me with a “fun date” (his words! classic INFP) to an INFP meet-up. One woman came and announced she was an ENFP but wanted to learn to be more of an introvert. She talked the whole time while everyone else looked at each other silently. I remember squeezing my husband’s leg under the table, just dying with awkwardness and laughter. It wasn’t the most fun date, but the memory has stuck more than nearly any other date!

    • Abbey says...

      Hahaha! As a fellow INFP this tickles me, for so many reasons. Dreamers gotta stick together. My mom and two close friends of mine are also INFP and another two close friends are ENFP.

  31. E says...

    Off topic, but what is the still of Mindy and BJ from? Is it an episode of The Office, or what? (I guess I didn’t realize how much I needed their adorable chemistry today!)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      It’s from the Mindy project — an amazing episode where they go on a date!

    • Amy says...

      I had the same question! I love their chemistry.

  32. Hali says...

    Trends are so funny. Currently, the slouchy bag thing is a hard pass for me- they remind me of weird 90s shopping malls for some reason. But watch- in 3 months they’ll wiggle their way into various carts I’ve compiled across the internet until one finally makes it to my doorstep and I’ll be so pleased with it. Why does that happen?! I’m asking it not to happen! Someone hold me accountable to my own taste!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Hahahahah

    • Taylor says...

      Omg this is me with bike shorts—refused to accept them, thought about all the perfectly good yoga pants being turned into these unflattering stretchy Bermuda shorts…..and I just finally got three pairs. They look good under a baggy tee which is all I wear with a three month old lol

    • Calla says...

      right?! why? this was me with bike shorts, wide leg pants and before that skinny jeans. I always swear I’m not gonna change my mind but I almost always do (although I’m proud to say I never bought any cold-shoulder sweaters or prairie dresses so maybe I’m getting a little better)

    • Kat O says...

      Taylor, it was photos of Princess Di wearing bike shorts and oversized sweatshirts that converted me. I was too young to *truly* appreciate her style when she was alive, but looking back…amazing. (Sweats, cowboy boots, and a blazer anyone??)

    • Kat O says...

      Actually, CoJ team, that would be a great post: reluctant acceptance of trends, or style converts. I’m a perpetually late adopter (although, I agree, those slouchy bags are too weird and impractical to ever make it into my closet – why a clutch? Who wants to carry a huge fistful of leather around?) but it’s funny how seeing the right image, or enough exposure, or maybe just clever marketing can get people on board with some strange things.

    • Angela says...

      Currently holding steadfast in my reluctance to accept the early 90s neon clothing I’m seeing pop back onto the shelves. However, tie-dye/ bleached sweatshirts I am here for. No on slouchy bags for me as well. Hali you nailed it. Clock is ticking until I own something that looks like it was worn on Saved by the Bell.

    • Holly says...

      Omg, my sister and I do this, we made a pact to not buy those stretchy gaucho pants in the 2000s.

  33. liz says...

    that pizza looks sooo good.

  34. Jeanne says...

    Female INTJs unite! (From our homes anyway)

    • Sara P says...

      Yes!

    • Sarah says...

      *high five*

    • Em says...

      Yes!!

    • Alix says...

      Yes – we’re a rare breed I hear!

    • Rachael says...

      *cheers*

      Apparently Michelle Obama is one, too…so, that’s a thrilling thing to have in common!

    • Joyce says...

      My husband is an INTJ — and can I just say I love your personality type?! Haha! I am an ESFJ, and I’m often envious of his approach to life—but, at the same time, perhaps our complementary personalities makes us work as a couple, since we’ve been together over 10 years! A plug for you all to give ESFJ’s a chance as a partner or friend ;) Just be prepared to have to explain the concept of “just because I want to be alone doesn’t mean something is wrong” a few hundred times. :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      “Just be prepared to have to explain the concept of ‘just because I want to be alone doesn’t mean something is wrong’” = lol! This was our convo for the first three years of our relationship! Alex is an introvert and I’m an extrovert and I finally get it :)

    • Maria says...

      Ha! That description was spot on!

    • Eileen says...

      I just felt myself get happier seeing so many other INTJs!

    • Eileen says...

      This just made me feel so happy this evening

    • JessicaD says...

      YAY! I AM HERE WITH ALL OF YOU! (now I’m going away…)

    • Kathryn says...

      Hiiiii *wave*
      Love this so much!

  35. Lauren E. says...

    Everyone thinks I’m insane for loving broccoli pizza but it’s my absolute favorite!! I order it from my local pizzeria all the time.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I feel the same about pineapple!

    • Broccoli alfredo was my FAVORITE in childhood, I have even tried to make it myself at home during quarantine. Can’t wait to try this one.

  36. Lesley says...

    The bags are pretty!