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The Power I Found in Shaving My Head

Six months ago, on the subway platform, I snapped a photo of a chic woman with a shaved head. I sent it to my best friend and typed, “I want to be her!” I’d wanted to shave my head for a little over a year and knew I would do it soon. When we’d been dating for about a month, I even gave my boyfriend the heads up, “Just so you know, I’m planning on shaving my head at some point.” Little did I know, months later, we would be pulling a DIY in his bathroom, while we were quarantined together…

I imagined having more time to be totally comfortable with it, before he saw it. But as quarantine hit and everything — including hair salons — started closing, we joked that we should just do it ourselves. Joking turned into “No, let’s actually do it…” and before I knew it, I was pitching it as a writing assignment.

There was a good measure of panic as the day drew closer. What if my head was a really weird shape? What if I was ugly with no hair? If I am bald and ugly during a global pandemic, I don’t know if I can take that. It got real when we bought clippers during our weekly grocery run a few days ago. “Ok. So we’re really just gonna cut off all my hair, that’s what’s about to happen…” I thought to myself in the self-checkout line. I put it off for a few more days, making last minute excuses: “I’m too emotionally fragile tonight, let’s watch another episode of High Fidelity!”

Finally, over the weekend, on a day that I was especially emotionally fragile, but willing to do something to get out of my funk, I decided to dive in. I snipped off the first braid and then went on photog duty, as my boyfriend Steven offered to take over. The High Fidelity soundtrack blasted in the background and we couldn’t stop smiling.

The Power I Found in Shaving My Head

Half the braids are gone.

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Halfway there. Now we buzz!

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Bettye is unsure about all of this, but can’t look away.

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Getting into it!

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“This is the first haircut I’ve given — EVER!” — Steven

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All done. Totally into it.

I remember a friend describing how I’d feel in one perfect word: freedom. There is so much freedom in starting at square one, just you and your head shape — weird or not. As a woman taught to earn approval through her appearance, I felt good to go against that structure and aesthetic a bit more. I’ve always felt more myself with short hair, and this time is no exception. It is very grounding, peering into the mirror at your nearly bald head. When my hair was short before, I still had some height on top, and now that it’s all gone I feel kind of like my head is the size of a pea, but I’m rolling with it. One strange aspect of all this was having my boyfriend be the one to cut it. Having someone I love change a part of myself that makes me feel most beautiful was insanely vulnerable, but as we kept going, I couldn’t help but focus on how dope I looked! “You look so hot,” he would say, anytime I seemed a little worried.

As in most experiences that stretch me, I always think I’ll emerge a much cooler person, no longer possessing insecurities, someone who feels beautiful regardless of varying outside appearances. Instead I am still me, with all the same insecurities, greeting and mingling with this version of myself who has always existed and has finally come to the surface.

P.S. Three natural hairstyles, and three short hair tutorials.

(Photos courtesy of Kim Rhodes.)

  1. Hi Kim,
    I LOVE your new haircut. I too know the liberation of shaving my head and can definitely relate. Thanks for being brave enough to share this journey with us!

  2. LP says...

    She is BEAUTIFUL and a shaved head suits her so well! It’s almost like she was born for this haircut! What an empowering and liberating moment! So good to hear of a good haircut coming out of quarantine.

  3. Thanks for this post! I think she’s so brave. I’ve always wanted to have pixie cut but I’m just so insecure how I would look. This story gives me courage<3

  4. Katie B. says...

    Love this so much!! Great article and sweet pictures. I have a buzz cut, too! For a while my partner was the one cutting it, but for the past couple of years I’ve been cutting it myself. Best haircut ever, honestly! It makes me feel so free and powerful. Loving all the comments from other folks trying out a buzz now too!

  5. Amelia says...

    I love this! Thanks COJ (as always) for such a unique post. I am 33 and was diagnosed with Stage 3 breast cancer at the end of February. I am Korean and was blessed with beautiful locks. By far my best physical feature. The inevitable hair loss was emotional. I cried every time I talked about it. But I ended up buzzing my hair off the week after my first chemo infusion. It was emotional, but liberating. I regained some control by doing it on my terms. And I’m happy to report, I actually look pretty good! So I’m glad to see others rocking the same style :)

  6. Katie says...

    You look so beautiful and happy. Love it.

  7. Kate says...

    I keep my hair pretty short, above my ears. This week I’m going to let my husband buzz it off. It’s a leap of faith but we’ll be in lock down until mid May so it has time to grow out.

  8. Laura R says...

    You look amazing, just glowing, and happy and free! LOVE IT! :)

  9. KH says...

    You look incredible!

  10. Kim says...

    Kim you look great. When I shaved my head (many years ago) I felt like I saw my face for the first time. Very liberating. You are beautiful.

  11. steph says...

    I think (not that it matters) that you look better. In the lighter, free-er, truer, more natural beauty way of better. Your eyes pop, your nose ring shines and man! I wish I had your lips! :)

  12. Min says...

    You look great! And your boyfriend is so sweet to cut your hair!

  13. Allie says...

    I love it!! Way to go. ❤️

  14. Kim Banea says...

    I did the same in early March, not realising how much would change in such a short time. I had always wanted to do it, but moving to a tropical environment, two babies and damaged hair from straightening and dyes – I knew this was going to give me back freedom and time! My hubby did it for me as well and always reassured me that I am a true beauty. My motto is – its only hair and will grow back! You rock it too!

  15. Lori K says...

    Beautiful! And brave!

  16. Lana says...

    Wow, that last paragraph got me. Thank you.

  17. Julie says...

    You’re so pretty. I love this story. :)

  18. Kate says...

    Oh my gosh I did this today too!! I’d been talking about it for all of quarantine and then I told my friend and she sent me this post! What a funny coincidence :). You look absolutely beautiful! 💛

  19. Tane says...

    I’ve been thinking about doing a quarantine buzzcut since everyone else in my family has done one over the last couple of weeks. This might be the inspiration I needed!
    (You look fantastic btw)

  20. Megan S. says...

    You look so pretty! I love it!

  21. Looks amazing!
    (I mean, you did before and you will when/if you grow it back out!)

    I haven’t been reading much lately, too distracted by work and life, but sending all my best to the whole team and all my fellow (fella?) readers!

  22. Jen says...

    Beautiful ❤️

  23. H says...

    Love it! This reminds me of when I first dyed my hair blue (at age 31). I had moments of doubt- am I really cool enough to pull this off? Will my friends think I am trying too hard? I felt like an imposter that everyone would see through and know I wasn’t really truly a “blue hair person”. But once I did it, no one questioned it- in fact, people admired the boldness and assumed it was a normal act for me. Turns out I was only limiting myself when I had thought it wasn’t “me” (a very silly, very obvious life lesson).

    This is all to say, someone is definitely looking at you (the way you looked at the woman on the subway) and thinking how dope it was you shaved your head and how they want to do it too!

  24. Your transformation is stunning and beautiful! Now, wait for the super powers to slowly manifest themselves. When I wore my hair buzzed close to the skin, I found that I could close my eyes and feel the direction of the wind. I could sit on the bus and know when people walked by. I grew to know who passed me in the house by the feeling received on my head. You will notice that you are a more attuned antenna. Close your eyes and feel the world anew.

    • Meg says...

      I love this comment :)

  25. Cynthia says...

    Wow! You look amazing! This style really brings out your features. I love the cat’s expression, “Oh no, I’m next.”

  26. Rochelle says...

    OMG. You look fabulous. BEAMING!!

  27. Janelle says...

    AMAZING. So beautiful. The chic woman was you all along :)

  28. Shira says...

    I love the shaved head best on you – it looks beautiful!!

  29. Marta says...

    “I snapped a photo of a chic woman with a shaved head….“I want to be her!” ”
    You are her!!!

  30. Molly says...

    Hi Joanna, could you guys do a post with a few simple DIY haricuts? I have long hair which is easier to cut and more forgiving.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      We are working on a post right now, please stay tuned! Xo

  31. You look stunning, I love it!

  32. Kat says...

    You look so amazing! I love it when women shave their heads and think it’s totally something to try at least once a lifetime. It definitely brings up all kinds of emotions and insecurities but gives a wonderful opportunity to learn more about yourself.
    I shaved my head the first time around 5 years ago and I remember going out the first time and feeling that everyone was staring at me. :D That time made me think about what femininity means for me and how I am a woman and not my hair. I got a lot of compliments but there were at least two guys who asked me why I cut my hair. It’s a very interesting questions as for me it shows a lot more about the person asking it.
    For the past two years I’ve had a longer pixie cut but decided to buzz it all off again last week. I have to say, it’s not that special the second time. :D I hardly remember it myself and forget that to other people I might look unusual. It has also made working out a lot easier as I can wash my hair every day now!
    People have also asked me if I regret cutting it all off and I always say that you really

    • Kat says...

      Hah, didn’t end the sentence there.
      People have also asked me if I regret cutting it all off and I always say that you really can’t regret it or it will be a very looong regret period. :)

  33. Jill says...

    Kim, you look absolutely beautiful! I get that shaving your head was partly about defining your own form of femininity and being comfortable with vulnerability and all that great stuff, but also just – damn! Short hair looks so good on you!

  34. D. says...

    You look so insanely hot! And not only that but you look powerful and badass and it truly is exceptionally flattering on you. I generally tend to prefer longer hair on women. It’s just my preference. But on you – and others, too+ short and shaved looks utterly fantastic.

  35. Barbara Radford Kapp says...

    Great decision! Looks amazing.

  36. I couldn’t stop smiling reading this post. I don’t know you, but you just look so YOU in these photos!! Thanks so much for sharing! :)

  37. Jamie Shawyer says...

    You look beautiful!

  38. Lauren says...

    Looks great! I too had wanted to shave my head and did so in college. I was a junior at the time and figured wth I’m 20 years old, in college and my job doesn’t require me to see any customers. So there was no time like “now.” My hair was the longest it had ever been, reaching well below breast level. I was nervous and my Mother begged me not to do it. But I agree, freedom is exactly how I felt too. That and lighter! And as for my Mother, she complimented me on how good it looked. Growing it back out was another story. But having it shaved, and keeping it shaved for awhile, was one of the most confident and freeing things I’ve ever done.

  39. Anita says...

    You look so great! And POWERFUL!!!

  40. I LOOOOOVE this!!! Your hair was gorgeous before but this just exudes confidence and badassery. So good!

  41. You look SO RAD! Good for you for taking the plunge. Here’s to bringing that kind of “eff it, I’m just gonna do it now!” bravery to all of our post-pandemic lives!

  42. Beth says...

    adorable!!!

  43. Viv says...

    You look fantastic! And I agree, the buzz is complete freedom. I did it a few times 10+ years ago, and I never felt happier with my hair. This post makes me feel like I’m overdue to go for it again.

    Congratulations!

  44. Rachel says...

    Kim you are so beautiful!
    I helped my husband buzz his hair a couple of weeks ago. He is fanatical about haircuts and can’t stand his hair looking messy so the clippers came out. It was actually a fun bonding moment. Also love your High Fidelity shout outs. Love the show even more than the movie. Zoe Kravitz is magnetic and the rest of the cast is great.

    • Kim Rhodes says...

      Thank you so much, Rachel! We were obsessed with it! We watched the movie, too and I loved the series so much better! The soundtrack is killer!

  45. Kate Toussaint says...

    I love it! This is such a fun post. SO amazing.

  46. Eva says...

    You are beautiful! I secretly dream of chopping off all my hair, but I just can’t. Wish I was as brave as you!

  47. I just did this, too! And I feel so brave and powerful and beautiful. You look AMAZING!

  48. Laura says...

    I think you look absolutely fabulous ✨

  49. Abbie says...

    I LOVE your face with that hair!

  50. L says...

    Wow – so awesome!! That sounds and looks so satisfying! It reminds me of one of my all-time favorite pop culture moments when Erica Badu came out at the Grammys in the late nineties with her head shaved. It was such a powerful moment and she completely floored me with her power and beauty and vulnerability. She is always an inspiring powerhouse of a woman but before that she had been rocking those huge towering head wraps and even now she loves all kinds of amazing hats and head gear so to see her come out completely bald and unadorned was so shocking in the best way. I never forgot it. I haven’t done it myself yet but I am endlessly inspired by those that do. My hair is weird so I feel certain that any growing-out phase would be a nightmare, but damn do I love a bald woman! Such a badass look! I love it on you, Kim, and thanks for sharing the experience with us with such eloquence xo.

    • Kim Rhodes says...

      What an ICONIC moment/woman to be compared to!! Thank you, L! brb going to find that on youtube.

  51. Sophie says...

    You look amazing!!

  52. Jessica says...

    It totally suits you- you can see your lovely face! Great job being so brave.

  53. Sarah says...

    It suits you!

  54. you DO look so hot!!!

  55. Mette Mikkelsen says...

    You. Look. BEAUTIFUL!

  56. London says...

    Yes! Yes! Girl, work it – you look great.

    My husband cut my hair for me on my first day of quarantine. He cut off 3 inches! (Why? We weren’t even cooped up yet? I don’t know! But I needed to control something and we could control my split ends.) I did need to go back a few days later when I found the entire chunk he had missed, but tbh I think my new bob is great and so is he.

    • Susan says...

      I chopped mine with my husband on stand by to even the back. LOL. It made me sooo happy.

  57. Anna says...

    You look amazing, Kim!! Congrats for taking the plunge!

    I always thought I’d do it in my twenties (and now that I’m 32 with a corporate job, I think I might have missed my opportunity.) Holding out hope that I’m cool enough to do it someday!

  58. Andi says...

    You look amazing! Yay to being brave! Enjoy!

  59. Ann says...

    Love it!

  60. Nadiya says...

    Looks so good!
    <3

  61. Sharon says...

    WOW. #1 it looks amazing! As a vain female, I can totally understand every worry you described, but damn, it looks good.

    Hair holds so much for us as women. I realize we want to not be slaves to the male idea of beauty, etc etc, but really it’s other women who appreciate and judge us too. It’s the world. We are such visual creatures, and our hair is something that we have with us every single day. Most of us are not blessed with perfect facial structure and symmetry, so our hair gives so much to our overall look and proportions.

    I say all this while my hair is in desperate need of a wash, never looks exactly as I like and takes way too much time to dry and style… ahh… the joys of quarantine…

    At 37, my requirement is I must be able to pull it up. I love shorter hair styles on me, but it’s ultimately too impractical for every day when humidity make an updo the only feasible option.

    Also, bless your boyfriend for telling you what he thinks! My husband is like Joanna’s. He will only tell me years later that he wasn’t “such a fan” of something he swore at the time he loved. He never wants to hurt my feelings, so he just always says he loves everything.

  62. Susan Y. says...

    You look amazing Kim! What an empowering step you’ve taken.

  63. Erica says...

    So beautiful and I love that you did this together! It really is a lovely example of vulnerability in relationship with yourself and another person. Thank you for sharing this with us! :)

  64. Annie says...

    You look GREAT!!!! I’m so proud of you for trusting your gut.

  65. brittney nichols barrows says...

    I didn’t know my hair was naturally curly until I was EIGHTEEN. My mother always brushed out and lovingly braided my hair. When I was about 10 or 11 I wanted it straight so my mother (again, lovingly) relaxed it. When I was a teenager I had dreadlocks for a few years. One day, on a whim, I decided to cut it all off. It’s amazing how we keep discovering ourselves. I learned the shape of my own head and the texture of my hair and I’ve never gone back. It is big, and curly, and mine. What a gift! Kim, so glad you’ve found the same joy.

  66. Alyssa says...

    Your buzz cut looks amazing!!! I love seeing the joy and glow in your face in the post-cut photos :)

    I had the same feelings when I suddenly decided to sport a pixie cut after a lifetime of hair down past my shoulder blades — lots of reckoning with the unknowns of what I’d look like. But I’m so glad I went for it — most people say it suits me better than my long hair ever did!

    P.S. I’ve been looking for a wide, flat gold band necklace like that for FOREVER — where did you find yours???

    • Kim Rhodes says...

      Thank you so much, Alyssa! I actually got my necklace on Amazon!

    • kat says...

      Link? Please? lol:) This cut looks amazing. You are beautiful!

  67. Laura says...

    You look fantastic – would love to look that great with no hair! <3 <3 <3

  68. Mary says...

    I guarantee when we are allowed to be out and about again – someone is going to snap a picture of you and send it to a friend saying, “I want to be her!” Your smile in the last photo says everything.

  69. kelly says...

    you look so good!! i love this!

  70. STU says...

    you look AMAZING!

  71. N says...

    You look amazing!!! Love this!

  72. Caitlin says...

    Kim, it looks great! And what a perfect time to do it. I’ll be losing my hair to a bone marrow transplant as soon as covid calms down and honestly I’ve been really looking forward to it. I’ve always wanted to shave my head! Your taking the plunge is just that much more encouragement :)

    • Eva says...

      Wishing you a healthy recovery, Caitlin <3 A friend of mine who went through chemo last year got professional photos taken when bald, and they were pretty badass.

  73. Sharon in Scotland says...

    Got carried away with my own experience…………..just seeing you with that lovely crop got me thinking!!
    You looking beautiful and sassy, I bet you will walk with a swing in your step, even if it’s just around your flat. I think it’s so feminine, because you can see the shape of the head, the way the line sweeps from the neck to the forehead………………..gorgeous! x

  74. Lisa Mac says...

    You are ADORABLE with and without! I love the shave cut on you!!!! :)

  75. Sharon in Scotland says...

    Good for you!
    Years ago, when I was training in Leeds, I used to get my hair cut at Vidal Sasson’s student salon. They liked me because I fulfilled their afro hair module and my hair wasn’t straightened or relaxed. They would crop it really short with scissors, standing with a white towel over their black tee-shirt so they could see every last hair. Then the tutor would come round and rub my head to make sure it was even, dirt cheap and absolutely the best hair cuts I’ve ever had.
    Later, when I was working in London I would go to West Indian barbers and get a number 2 clipper cut, I’d be the only girl in a shop full of men.
    I think menopause has slightly thinned out my hair so I was thinking of getting it cut really short, number 1 clipper cut.
    The thing that I’ve always felt when my hair has been cropped is perky, sexy and confident……………that’s odd because everything is on show, I can’t hide!
    It’s soooooo easy to look after and cheap to maintain, as long as you can find someone who knows what they are doing.

  76. April says...

    I am a thirty-year-old woman in NYC, and last year, fought cancer. Oddly, I lost my hair AFTER I finished six months of chemotherapy. When I was rocking my “shaved head look”, I was so surprised that I would regularly get compliments from strangers- on the subway! at events!- who would tell me they loved my hair. I had just been through so much, and felt so incredibly vulnerable. I will never forget the kindness of those strangers, especially in New York where we can often feel like we blend into the crowd. Even reading this post makes me think, “could it have been me!?”. Thank you for sharing, and there is nothing more badass then a shaved head look!!! You look awesome!!!

    • Sasha L says...

      I love this so much ♥️

  77. Caro says...

    It looks so fresh! Good decision.

  78. maria says...

    It looks soooo freaking good!!!

  79. Mary says...

    you look amazing! but most importantly, you look so happy. I understand that feeling of freedom and dream of cutting my hair as well. Thanks for the inspiration!

  80. Alexandra says...

    While I liked the colorful braids, I really love the shave. You have a beautifully shaped head and gorgeous features. Enjoy the freedom of not having to fuss with your hair!
    Like many other women here, I had my husband shave my head (it was more of a buzzcut though) before starting chemo for breast cancer a few years ago, as that was one of the few things I could control. When my hair started growing back it was VERY curly and grey, and it looked super cute when it was short. My kids hated it though, as I would just stick out (6 ft tall with very short grey hair), so I went more mainstream and that’s fine, too. I miss the ease of dealing with the very short hair.

  81. Lindsey says...

    The cat’s face is cracking me up LOL

    You are awesome, Kim! So glad you went for it :)

  82. You look great, Kim!!

    I’ve had short hair (basically a pixie cut) for about 5 years now. Sheltering in place has… not been friendly to my hair. Usually my hair is the deciding factor to how I feel about myself on any day of the week. Good hair day, I can overlook my flushed complexion. Bad hair day, I criticize every single one of my features more harshly than typical. I really, really look forward to going to the salon once all of this is over (I usually go to a chain-salon to save money on haircuts. I cannot WAIT to splurge on the luxury of a nice salon day!!).

  83. Jess. says...

    You are so beautiful. Your hair, your not hair, your soul shine, your dimples. Your writing. I cant stop crying. Thanks for taking us along for the ride.

  84. Libbynan says...

    I had my hairdresser shave my head when I started chemotherapy fifteen years ago. I loved everything about being bald. I loved the low maintenance, I loved the shape of my head and face in the mirror, I loved the “coolness” factor (I was in my fifties). Ever since my hair started growing back, I‘ve kept it very short ….really, I’d like to shave it off again. As a 72-year-old white woman that isn’t socially acceptable; but in the age of social-distancing and come our miserable Arkansas summer, I may do it anyway.

    • Sydney says...

      Girl, YAAS!! Do what brings you joy and live your best life!

    • Lorange says...

      Do it! You’re 72 years old! You’ve earned the right to look however the eff you want to look! And if you loved it, I bet others did too. People carry themselves differently when they love how they look.

    • Isa says...

      Libbynan, I’ve had chemo, then brain surgery, then chemo… never enough time to grow out my hair so I’ve kept it shaved for 4 years after a couple of years of attempting to grow it out and always having it fall out before I could actually grow a style. Ironically, I decided to stop shaving my head for quarantine and I discovered I’ve got a full head of grey hair! It’s beautiful! At 41 but with 2 decades of tumors and 4 decades of life life and 1 decade of motherhood behind me, it’s well earned. I doubt I’ll keep the grey fluff when we start to go outside again but it’s been fun to see what could sprout.

      All that to say… We lock ourselves into rules or social conventions but as we are discovering these days, norms can be shifted, discomfort can be discovery, hair can be liberating or a mask. I hope you find freedom and folly in whatever hair or no-hairstyle you choose.

      PS to Kim… rocking. it. lady.

  85. Rusty says...

    Beautifully just you!
    I bet you’ll catch someone snapping a pic of you to send to their best friend after Coronavirus, when you’re standing on the subway platform!

    I have a friend who had dreadlocks for many years. They were really long and heavy. They also took a lot of time and care (contrary to what most people think about ‘dreads’).
    She shaved her head about a year ago. She and her partner organised to raise money for a charity in Australia called Beyond Blue – a mental health charity, after a friend of theirs committed suicide.
    They raised so much more than they expected and exceeded their goal!
    They had a shave-her-head party!
    She was mini-meltdown half way through, but so, so happy once it was done! She became more her true, authentic self afterwards.

  86. Maria F says...

    You look so cool! I would think so if I saw you on a subway platform :)
    A former coworker also shaved her head last week and documented it all on her instagram stories. It was incredible to watch and she looked so confident afterwards!

  87. Marlena says...

    It’s a great look! I also love how tender and lovingly your boyfriend is looking at you throughout.

  88. Danielle says...

    I shaved two years in a row for Saint Baldrick’s Day several years ago. It’s a really freeing experience! And very empowering. Also, I feel like everyone looks just as wonderful with a shaved head as without. (I’ve thought about shaving again during quarantine, but it just takes so. long. for my hair to grow back out to anything resembling a pixie. I don’t have a real hairstyle for nearly a year due to the fine, straight nature of my hair.)

    For anyone curious about a good cause: https://www.stbaldricks.org/

    • Sasha L says...

      That looks like an awesome cause

  89. I love how you’ve framed this piece as being about bravery, exploration, and self-love! That’s such an important part of having a positive experience with a radical change like this. It also looks absolutely gorgeous on you! My favorite hairdo I’ve seen you with here.

    I love you and your boyfriend’s expressions in these. It looks like a loving endeavor!

  90. Caroline says...

    Rose – Yes! A prop – I love that! Shaved my head before chemo 11 years ago, which was frightening and liberating. I was not connected to my hair, as I’d never really had a hairstyle I loved (and I was 35 years old!). But I was obsessed about when/how I would lose my hair when starting my treatment. My doctor said “There’s so much about this you cannot control. Shave your head. That will give you control over when you lose your hair.” The best advice for me. Since my hair started to grow back all those years ago, I’ve kept my hair short, and I love it.
    And, Kim – what a beautiful style for you!

  91. Steph says...

    You look awesome!
    A friend cut off my hair in my parents’ backyard 20 years ago. It was our act of teenage rebellion. Twice since, I’ve grown it long again to “make sure” I didn’t like it better that way and each time I felt like a total imposter until I chopped it again. Now I’ve had short hair for more of my life than I had long hair and it feels right. And the maintenance (or lack thereof) can’t be beat.

  92. MyHanh says...

    Kim- I love your writing and tone, honest and personable.

    I can very much relate and shaved my head with the help of my best friend, about 3 years ago. I felt beautiful and even though I do have a weird shape in the back, it didn’t matter! The beauty with changing up your hairstyle is that, for most folks, it grows back! :)

  93. Christina says...

    YOU GO GIRL!! you look fabulous and sheesh giving me shaved head inspiration!

  94. Sara C. says...

    YEESSS!!!! You look awesome, and this immediately put a smile on my face. I love it!

  95. Callie says...

    Love it!! Go girl!

  96. Ashley says...

    You look gorgeous and confident and at ease. I love the smiles from both of you.

  97. Ashleigh says...

    You look fantastic and you two are very sweet together.

  98. Annie says...

    It looks SO good! Way to trust yourself and go for it!

  99. Gray says...

    If anything your beauty radiates even MORE than before! Those dimples *heart eyes*. I love all styles of hair but I’ve noticed that the shorter a woman’s hair the more her face features light up.

    Also that pic of Bettye made me LOL. Typical cat! She is so cute and the caption is perfect!

  100. Laura C. says...

    You look so good. Well done.

  101. Nancy says...

    Kim, you look gorgeous, sophisticated, and satisfied. I applaud you for taking this step. As you noted, women are judged (even by our own selves) by our appearance. Because of that, we tend to hide behind certain aspects of our appearance to provide security or (we hope) project something positive to the outside world. Typically, our hair is a big part of that. As a result, many women don’t ever want to cut their hair short (much less shave it!). For those who dare to go really short, a friend and I termed it “short hair arrogance”.
    I am a white woman in my 50’s and three years ago I decided to stop coloring and let my hair go to its natural state of way more gray than I realized. Part of that was cutting my hair very short (from a dark brown shoulder-length bob) and adding in heavy blond highlights. After 8 weeks of growing that out, my stylist said, “If you let me cut it really short I can cut all the artificial color off and you’ll start fresh with your own uncolored hair.” Yes! I experienced the freedom you describe – I not only dared to have super-short hair, but now it was natural for the first time in over 20 years. Wow! So liberating!
    Thank you so much for sharing this story with us! Steven, btw, is the bomb! And thanks for including that photo of Bettye because she cracked me up!

  102. Talia says...

    You look beautiful! The progressive smile made me smile too!

  103. A says...

    KIM! It. Looks. So. Good!!!!!

    Thank you for this! I have so much admiration for the beautiful women out there in the world with shaved heads. You look fabulous darling <3

  104. Neha says...

    I have never posted a comment but wanted to say how BEAUTIFUL you look!! I am so impressed – once we are out and about you will be inspiring other women around you. I just love it so so so much – beautiful face, smile, head, & vibe!

  105. Agnès says...

    I think that would make a great short story. What a great memory, for both of you! You look stunning. I’ve wanted to shave my head for a long time; now I think I would be cold all the time.

  106. Olivia says...

    Kim it looks SO GOOD

  107. Tara says...

    YOU ARE GLOWING GIRL. LOVE IT.

  108. MB says...

    Oh I love it! It totally suits you

  109. Christina says...

    I love the casual, non-editorial photo style that accompanied this post SO SO much. It’s real; that bathroom and that cat could belong to any of us! I know that much of the reason is due to all of our current circumstances. Even still, keep up these style of posts! Your hair looks beautiful, now I want to cut mine!

  110. Laura says...

    You look so badass Kim!! Yeaaaaa

  111. Annie says...

    I. LOVE. IT!!!!! It looks so good!

  112. Shannon says...

    Your hair looks AWESOME! Best q-tine haircut I’ve seen!

  113. Amanda says...

    Absolutely gorgeous! I cut my hair short (not quite shaved, but still very cropped) a year ago, and ‘freedom’ is definitely the word! Especially if you grew up having longer, textured hair and being used to spending hours at a time conditioning and drying and styling, short hair is truly the most amazing feeling! You’re going to love it :)

    P.S. if you ever find your head feels very small lol I recommend wearing larger earrings! I always thought they would make my head look even smaller, but they do the opposite! They help give context to the actual size of your head haha

  114. Ashley says...

    Absolutely gorgeous! <3

  115. Kristin says...

    You are beautiful! My son’s girlfriend buzzed her hair last year and, after two salon trips, my son took over the job!

  116. Susan Sayfan says...

    You look great – so fresh! I hope you keep the new look and inspire others!

  117. Alyssa says...

    Love this! So inspiring to just go for it!

  118. Amanda says...

    You look amazing, it really suits you! Such a babe! And Steven is a hottie!

  119. Sam E. says...

    You. Look. Phenomenal. Congratulations on freeing yourself – there’s nothing you can’t do!

  120. Elle says...

    Girl! You’re FABULOUS!

  121. Bo says...

    Swoooon!
    Now I want to be *you*, Kim!!

  122. CC says...

    LOVE it. All of it.

  123. sarah says...

    You look amazing!

  124. AS says...

    Kim, you look gorgeous! So great that you were able to do something you’ve wanted to do for a while and with the support of someone who loves you!

    I have been wanting to shave my head since I was a teenager. It started off as a joke but it stuck. And even though I am CONVINCED that I will never be one of those “beautiful” bald girls I still want to do it. To intentionally and purposefully do something that wasn’t part of an effort to look “good” for society. Just to feel free, as you described. Not there yet. One day I’ll get there.

  125. Vanessa says...

    Kim, you look so radiant and beautiful! Love this!

  126. You go girl! I love this!

  127. PAOLA POLIGNANO says...

    sei bellissima!

  128. Heather says...

    Gorgeous!!!

  129. Leigh says...

    A couple of years ago, I traded my long blond hair for a very short, very edgy cut. My kids cried when I picked them up from school, and I wasn’t sure if I loved it or hated it. I ended up keeping it short for two years, almost entirely because I wanted to learn from the emotions and vulnerabilities that the cut brought up in me. I‘ve just recently started growing out the short cut, but am keeping the “F you” attitude toward anyone who judges me based on my appearance.

  130. Jennie says...

    Kim, you are inspiring! In the final photo I feel like your personality and your light are so clearly visible. You look like an absolute rockstar! As someone who has had the same hair since the 7th grade, it may be time for my own leap of faith… :)

  131. Susan Mills says...

    You look amazing! And what an intimate experience to share with your boyfriend!

  132. Heidi says...

    The more you smiled in your pictures the more I smiled as well… 😊

  133. Rosemarie says...

    It looks great! Well done!

  134. cilla says...

    Kim, you are beautiful!

  135. Hannah says...

    You look fantastic! Thanks for sharing this! <3

  136. Leslie says...

    I wish I could somehow take credit for blessed event 😂. Kim, it looks amazing and you look amazing!!!! It’ll be a different kind of hot girl summer but a fun one nonetheless.

  137. Maritza says...

    U look amazing!!

  138. Becky says...

    Omg you look STUNNING!!

  139. Veronika says...

    So lovely to see Kimberly more on here and how stunning :)
    Kimberly- I’ve been wondering if you could share a little more on your dating history? How did you make the move from not dating- dating? I find it extremly hard putting myself out there (not so much of a topic now of course :D), and would love to hear, what helped you!

  140. Alexis says...

    I felt your anxiety, but you look stunning. Inspired and in awe! Thank you for sharing :)

  141. Catherine Gacad says...

    Wow! This just shows how much of a natural beauty you are! Absolutely stunning!

  142. Marie says...

    I like it! It suits you so well!

  143. suniva says...

    you look great, truly, but also, how do you have an empty closet?? (first photo)

  144. Rose Toutjian says...

    I love this and you look amazing! I lost my hair due to chemo and I have to say that I’m grateful. Once it grew in enough to ditch my wig I felt a freedom I’ve never felt before and my way of being in the world has expanded. I look at pics of me with my “beautiful long hair” as I always thought of it and I feel no connection to it – almost like it was a prop that I never needed but didn’t know it at the time. Enjoy!!!

  145. Elly says...

    You look great, Kim!

  146. Kim says...

    So good!

  147. Daria Dixon says...

    Gorgeous! Wish I was as brave as you!

  148. sam says...

    Wow! You look incredible- so confident and radiant! Love it. I’ve always wanted to take the plunge myself but been too scared to actually do it. You make it look so effortless and fabulous. xox

  149. Stacey says...

    I LOVE it! And my favorite part is the look on your partners face as he’s cutting your hair ❤️

    • polyana says...

      I second this! Was about to say the same thing – you can feel all the loving energy in your bathroom! haha – What a sweet moment for the two of you to look back on <3 And you look incredible!