Relationships

Infidelity, Netflix Style

One night after dinner last week, I was streaming Catastrophe on my laptop in the living room when my husband, Andy, came over to see what I was watching. I braced myself for the worst. Eyeing Rob Delaney’s handsome face with a look of complete confusion — maybe even a hint of hurt? — Andy asked, “What even is this? Should I be worried?”

If we’re being honest about it, he cheated on me with a TV series first, about a decade ago, the night we cleaned up dinner, performed the eight hundred rituals associated with our daughters’ bedtimes, and queued up our first episode of The Wire. I loved nothing more than collapsing on the couch with him after a long, chaotic day to watch TV, and it was even better when we found a multi-season series so we could really lock into it over the course of a few months. We did The Office that way, and Lost, and Friday Night Lights, and the usual mid-aught suspects we’d completely missed out on when the kids were babies.

For these weeknight TV dates, I’d make a point to pile on the blankets and get comfortable, but that night — The Wire night — I guess I got too comfortable, because my lids started feeling heavy immediately, something my husband will tell you happens fairly often and drives him bananas. “Don’t fall asleep!” Andy warned. “I am NOT waiting for you!” I hadn’t seen him this pumped about watching a series since the Yankees played the Mets in the 2000 Subway Series, so I tried my hardest. To no avail. “Go ahead, I’ll catch up,” I mumbled half-asleep, but I never did. I was out the next night when he decided to watch episode two, and then I basically didn’t see my husband for three months. I’d head up to bed alone, all sad-sack in my flannel pajamas to read in bed, while he spent his evenings getting intimately involved with people named Bunk and McNulty and Omar and Stringer Bell — WOW was he infatuated with Stringer Bell! During that period, I felt compelled to monitor his google history for “Idris Elba married” searches.

Of course, Andy could argue the betrayal was fair game because it was out in the open and technically I was the one who drove him away. But it’s important to me to hold the grudge a decade later — the Golden Age of TV — so I can justify a series of my own illicit streaming infidelities: In parked cars in dark parking lots waiting for late soccer practice to end (Friends from College); hot and sweaty at the gym on the elliptical (Scandal); sneaking off in the middle of a work day (against all my rules!) because I was physically incapable of waiting to see what happened next (OMG Succession, Season 1 finale!).

If we were keeping score, I could argue that he also pushed me away — a big part of the reason I feel the need to swipe right on every Netflix and Prime offering (besides the fact that there are SO MANY ATTRACTIVE OPTIONS RIGHT NOW) is because he’s had a demanding stretch of work that’s required more late-night grinding than usual. But it’s marriage, and we’re not keeping score, and I recognize I could be a little more sympathetic to his plight. “I just want it to be like the old days,” I told him. “Remember last spring, when we watched all 73 episodes of Game of Thrones in 90 days, bonding in the way that only two people who are a decade behind the rest of the world can bond?”

“I just need a little more time,” he said. “But if you do that new Scorsese without me, it’s over.”

P.S. What’s your “wagon wheel coffee table?” and the #1 rom-com courting move.

  1. Laura says...

    My husband insists we watch TV together if we are both home, which means that we have to agree on what to watch. We have lots of together shows, like Westworld, Game of Thrones, Rick and Morty, and now the Mandalorian and His Dark Materials. And of course we’re both always happy to watch 30 Rock for the millionth time. But sometimes I just want to watch Friends or something trashy and he’s never in the mood! When Pretty Little Liars was on I used to savor nights he was gone so I could order Indian food and watch PLL in peace.

  2. Grace says...

    We always watch Patriot Act together on Sunday or Monday night. With holiday travel/chaos, we didn’t get to it last week, and I have literally started the episode THREE times to watch it alone. I can’t make it past the theme song without the guilt overwhelming me, forcing me to turn it off. Real probs 😂

  3. Nadine says...

    There’s probably a name for this, but I don’t know it: my husband pre-watched Foyles War ’cause he liked it so much & then watched it again with me. Didn’t tell me he’d done til years later.

  4. Sara says...

    Haha this feels familiar :) My husband and I have “together shows” and then separate shows (I’ll spare you our cutesy nicknames). Most things are together shows (and we just started Breaking Bad a few weeks ago, so I feel ya on being behind the times with our tv choices!) but I watch the super girly/cheesy stuff on my own (currently Fuller House – so bad but so good, A Million Little Pieces, and Younger). He leans more towards rewatching movies he’s seen 234871920742837459734 times before when I’m not around (Star Wars, anything mafia-related, Jason Bourne, etc.) but occasionally he’ll pick up a show that I’m too much of a scaredy cat to watch or that’s just way too sci-fi for me. While I love our nightly ritual of watching a show together, there’s also something really lovely that feels almost indulgent about watching something by myself! And we have so far (in 12 years together) never ever “cheated” and watched ahead independently on a “together show” so I’m gonna pat us on the back for that after reading some of these comment haha.

  5. Savannah says...

    Ha! We also just finished Game of Thrones in the first 10 weeks of my newborn’s life, in a haze during that few hours in the evening between big girls and new baby bedtimes. A decade behind everyone else too! And my husband also watched The Wire without me when I fell asleep :)

  6. Denise says...

    My boyfriend and I have a limited amount of time together. He stays over every other Sunday and we sleep in on Mondays, have brunch, and catch up on shows (we both have funky work schedules, and trust me, Monday brunch is SO great!). Right now we save up two episodes of The Morning Show on Apple TV to watch together. It’s so fun, and I’m so lucky that he loves a good “chick” type show. I really love Mondays – well, every other!

  7. Bex says...

    Great piece, Jenny!
    We trial out a series to decide if it’s one we’re going to do together! We did Catastrophe together but I couldn’t get into the Wire either – or Game of Thrones. I’m desperate to see the latest Morning Show but have to wait for him to be home from work travel!

  8. Nanaka says...

    We started watching Doc Martin, too – the characters are sooo hilarious!! I also grew up in a small village, and the „quirky neighbor, nosy post officer, hippy daughter of friends“ etc. really DO exist. (Fun fact: that same actor played a doctor in the movie „Saving Grace“, which was also shot on site of that beautiful Cornwall village. Noticed this by pure coincidence!)
    What is really a bummer though: we started watching it on Netflix on holidays abroad, just to come back and find that the series is not available for streaming in our home country!!! And Amazon Prime only has later seasons available for renting – I don’t know how to cope…
    This also happened with „Endeavour“, which made me panic-buy the DVD box containing seasons 1-6 and importing it from the UK. (Finished these within one week.) I mean… how can they do that?!?

    • Jb says...

      Endeavour!!!! What a dreamboat.

    • Longdenlife says...

      Port Issac, the fishing village where they film Doc Martin and filmed Saving Grade is about 15 minutes drive from me, up the North Cornish coast. It is stunning, I agree. Love going there in the winter when its blowing a gale and not many tourists!

  9. Laurel says...

    This is us, except I’m the non-snoozer. My husband, god bless him, can fall asleep during the most intense moments of tv. He used to ask for recaps, but has seen my shocked face enough at this point that he’s stopped asking.

    I also have my own shows, stuff I know he wouldn’t like but are a guilty pleasure (hot werewolves of Teen Wolf, I’m looking at you). These are often watched in bed, with chocolate, when the kids are down……🙈

  10. Kelly says...

    Ozark. Jason Bateman. He is so stinking adorable….
    The crazy situations they get into. And, another season is coming.

  11. Andrea says...

    Who else is rewatching The Office along with The Office Ladies podcast?

    I’m lovin’ it!

    (That’s what she said)

    • Nora says...

      Everyone in my house!

      Between the four kids and me, I think someone in this family is *always* in the middle of an Office marathon……somewhere.

  12. Mimi says...

    Well that’s a relief; I’m not the only one! Falling asleep to “our” show, after putting our little one to bed has become MY bedtime ritual. I am comforted to know that there are other parents out there who have no more energy than I do. I constantly think I should have more energy..”Yay! It’s 7:30 and he’s in bed! Time for me/is time!” But really, I’m too tired to stay awake past 9pm.

    • Lisa says...

      Yup. After a full day of work and all the toddler wrangling 90% of the time I fall asleep while watching TV. We normally start with something long and then switch to a comedy we’ve watched a million times (like Seinfeld). My one regret is that I then have to get up to go to bed. We need to move the tv to the bedroom

  13. Anna says...

    Ha! I had the exact same thing happen with The Wires at spring! I was working on a project with a lot of late nights and my husband waited up for me every night watching every episode. Then this summer it was The Sopranos haha!

  14. Cait says...

    The irishmen is a movie not a series!

  15. J says...

    My husband and I recently moved to Scotland from the US and I know the shows we binge watched right after we moved will always bring me back to that “what the hell did we just do” feeling.

    I can’t remember exactly when it started but one of us will start chanting “ONE MORE ‘SODE! ONE MORE ‘SODE!” and then we get that encore going.

  16. Libby Monaghan says...

    My nephew and my sister started bonding over Stranger Things. They saw Season One when it first came out and then binged Season Two together as well. After Season Two came out, the living arrangements changed and my nephew went to go live with his Dad–a few states away. A few weeks ago, my sister realized that her son has been waiting for MONTHS to watch Season Three of Stranger Things with her even though all his friends have seen it. He’s been avoiding spoilers like the plague. She had no idea that he’d exercised such self control (she already watched it but she’ll never tell him that) and of course promised to stay up late a few nights when they’re together over Christmas break.

  17. Robyn says...

    Ha ha! My husband and I also refer to this as “cheating”. We’ll sit down to watch episode #__ and one or the other will sheepishly say, “I have a confession. I cheated on you.” Which means the episode was watched independently 😂. It’s always so heartbreaking! The joy of simultaneous discovery is gone and whoever cheated is only half dialed in. So disheartening! Don’t cheat!

  18. Lizzy says...

    ok, not to be a stickler here but…the Irishman is a movie, not a series. (A reeeealllllly long one!)

  19. Meg says...

    “Infatuated with Stringer Bell” is a place that many, many of us have found ourselves. Damn.

    • Sarah says...

      100%.

    • jules says...

      Bubbles for the win.

    • Jillian says...

      I know. I was reading this thinking “omg, Jenny, don’t fall asleep! Whatever you do, don’t fall asleep!!!” Of all the shows my husband and I have been through together, The Wire was THE. BEST.

  20. Kate says...

    The key to this is to have a partner that can perfectly summarize the programs that they are watching without you, so you can drift in and out of the picture (or consciousness), and still be up to speed for the next episode. I am lucky enough to have a wife who can perfectly fill me in on seasons of episodes I missed (I can sleep at night, she cannot), and her summaries make me feel like I’ve been watching it all along.

    • Maggie says...

      My husband and I are parents of two young sons and we keep a google doc titled “Parenting in the Age of Peak TV” which we frequently update with lists of shows we don’t have time for! We dream one day we’ll catch up on all the good stuff we’re missing right now :)

  21. Holly says...

    I re-watched all 6 seasons of Sex and The City earlier this year. During one of the first episodes of season 1 my boyfriend looked up from researching on his computer (which is what he typically does while I watch my favorite TV shows) and could not look away. For two months on the nights we would see each other we would watch 2 to 3 episodes. He was so sad when the series ended, until I told him there were two movies LOL. He’s a hopeless romantic and wanted Carrie and Big together!

    It was so fun to watch someone watch one of my favorite series and to know what was going to happen next :)

  22. ErikaMC says...

    I really enjoy it when my husband and I get into the same show. He likes to stay up later than I do though so he will sometime watch ahead of me but I’m not totally innocent either – I won’t watch it but I will read all the reviews and recaps and then pretend I don’t know what’s happening!

  23. Lauren E. says...

    My husband went out of town for two weeks, and I actually WAITED for him to catch up on Real Housewives of OC AND Real Housewives of New Jersey. I deserve so many props.

    • Bryn says...

      Lauren, you’re not alone. I have to wait for husband to watch everything on Bravo, especially Below Deck!

  24. Angela says...

    We’ve had a few shows in our marriage- The Affair, Breaking Bad, The Walking Dead, Weeds, etc. What I remember most fondly is sitting side by side, feeding and rocking our newborn twins to sleep while heading to the Florida Keys watching the first season of Blood Line. I highly recommend starting a new series together to all new parents! We haven’t really sat down much since those early days, but here’s hoping winter hibernation starts something new.

    • Hannah G says...

      Some of my favorite memories of being pregnant with my first (and very very fortunately not needing to work at that time), were working through Downtown Abbey (PSA, not a great show to watch when you’re pregnant) and Friends (for the first time!) My daughter was born when I was 4 seasons through the Good Wife, and most of my memories of her early days are of spending all evening on the couch with my husband finishing the rest of the show. We dove into Parks and Rec after that for lighter fare, but same, new parents should start a new show!

    • Ashley E. says...

      Oh this is so real! When my son was first born, I finally convinced my husband to watch Friends (he’d been reluctant to try it for YEARS). However, once we got into it, every night once our son was asleep (or settled into nursing) he was like, “Friends? Yes?” while excitedly searching for the remotes. I have so many memories of pumping while watching Friends last year (or counting down how many minutes until I could pump after having some wine earlier in the night) and laughing on the couch next to my husband, who is the sweetest new dad you could ever meet. We ended up watching the whole series three times in a ROW, and then took a break from it for a few months. I’m now seven and a half months pregnant, and it’s like the mothership called us back. We just started watching it again–it was like we couldn’t help ourselves. That’s four times through ten seasons in the span of two years (one full first year of parenthood, followed by one almost full term of pregnancy) if you’re counting. At this point, pregnancy and nursing just means watching Friends with my husband. I’m not complaining. :)

  25. Doc Martin is our all time favorite show!!!!!
    k

    • hali says...

      yep!!!

  26. Devorah says...

    For a happy marriage, you need My Shows, Your Shows, and Our Shows. You need to know each other’s tastes well enough so if you find a show you are interested in, you can accurately declare it a My Show or an Our Show. My husband was out of town for work when I stumbled on Living With Yourself–I texted him, catch up on E1 while you’re away and I’ll wait for you for the rest. And if I suspect I’m going to fall asleep mid-episode, I have him pick a show I don’t mind missing.

  27. C says...

    The creativity of your essays continues to astound me and has me checking this blog multiple times a day…even when it is too early for you to post and after your typical 2 postings. Within the last few years, my husband and I finally watched shows like the Sopranos and felt like we are just starting to “catch up.” The hardest part is wanting to talk about amazing shows at the work lunch table, but being so behind to an embarrassing extent!

  28. Alyssa says...

    This is such a great post! My boyfriend and I have binged through many a series (Parks & Rec, Agents of Shield, Blacklist, more Parks & Rec). Currently, we’re watching the Mandalorian which I LOVE. (Baby Yoda <3) But he said to me, "I'm not waiting for you this Friday to watch it." I see where I stack up I suppose ;)

  29. Kelley says...

    BATTLESTAR GALACTICA!!!!! And the Portlandia episode about Battlestar Galactica 🤣

    • Madi says...

      Yes!!!!!

  30. Linda says...

    My b/f works shift work so he’s seen a lot of TV that I haven’t, and vice-versa (he hasn’t seen The Crown, The Affair, The Handmaid’s Tale, Killing Eve…)
    He re-watched Breaking Bad so I could see it, and the Wire, but we (aka me) haven’t gotten past the middle of the second season.
    I started watching The Santa Clarita Diet without him, but then waited for him to catch up so we could watch together (so funny!)
    And recently we’ve been re-watching Fraser together – I don’t know what our next show will be once we get to the end…

    • Anonygirl says...

      I almost always start Frasier over from the beginning when I get to the end. There is something so comforting about that show for me.

    • Julie says...

      I fall asleep to Frasier every night, it’s my comfort food. On Friday nights when my husband and I are done binging whatever current show we’re watching (right now it’s The Crown and Halt and Catch Fire) we’ll put on our favorite episodes from our most beloved sitcoms like “Dinner Party” from The Office, “The Treaty” Parks and Rec, and “Ham Radio” from Frasier :)

    • Cate says...

      I also fall asleep to frasier every night! Have for years. My husband thinks I’m nuts, but there’s something about the banter and laugh track that eases my mind and lulls me to sleep. Glad I’m not the only one :)

    • Georgina says...

      Me too! My family is super into Frasier so I watched it growing up. I introduced my boyfriend (now husband) to it and we watch it the whole way through and then start again at S1E1. It’s got me through some of the toughest times in my life – after my dad died my whole family just watched that. (He loved it.) It’s the most comforting show in the world and I’m so glad my husband loves it too.

    • Dinner Party from The Office is my go to episode if I need a laugh – it is genuis. I also love Ham Radio from Frasier but for me the best episode is The Ski Lodge; it is twenty minutes of sitcom comedy perfection.

    • K says...

      I feel like you can skip season 2 of The Wire and it won’t make a difference to the rest of the show. It didn’t really have much to do with the people in the neighborhood and it never came back up again in the other seasons.

  31. Andrea says...

    I do love Sunday evenings because my husband and I have an apero drink and snack and chat and then have a lovely dinner while watching a show or movie in the living room.

  32. Inbal says...

    Jenny Rosenstrach, you are the best!!
    I’m kvelling at your writing every single time!

  33. Jenn says...

    I love this essay.

    And if my husband had ever caught me watching Peaky Blinders or Catastrophe without him, I’m pretty sure he’d stop speaking to me.

    I made him watch a few crucial episodes of The Fall for both of us, because hot as he is, Jamie Dornan scared the shit out of me on that show and there were plot lines I couldn’t handle. He’d do a recap and tell me when it was safe to jump back in.

    Now he catches me rewatching certain episodes of Fleabag on the regular and leaves me to my love affair with Phoebe Waller-Bridge. The rules of monogamy do not apply to that absolute masterpiece.

    • Alexis says...

      Ahh Peaky Blinders – so good! It took a while for him to get into, but we are finally all caught up together after this last season.

    • Julie says...

      I was able to get my husband to watch Fleabag with me (after I marathoned it in two days) and he loved it, but he drew the line at The Fall. “You can lust over that hot serial killer on your own time!” Heeee.

  34. Morgan says...

    Okay but what about guys who are WAY TOO SLOW with their watching habits?! My (now ex) boyfriend would want to watch a show together but only ever felt like watching an episode every few days and would often lose interest part way through a season. It’s so trivial and silly, but it bummed me out. I look forward to a little tv treat at the end of the day! One day I was home sick and binge watched all the way to the finale of Masterchef and I gotta admit that cheating felt so good ;)

  35. Meg says...

    I’ve been feeling conflicted about this lately. We agreed we’d watch Season 3 of The Crown together. We hop into bed and I queue it up. Rob insists we watch the intro – but he falls asleep during the intro every single time! The first time, I switched to watch another show that he wouldn’t have wanted to watch, but now I’ve just gone ahead and watched The Crown without him and am about three episodes in. Oh, the guilt-but-not-really-because-it’s-so-good!

  36. Kristen says...

    I will forever tell people that Six Feet Under was a masterpiece — nothing else has grabbed me as much since.

    • edith says...

      those last few episodes were an emotional wonderland.

    • lydia says...

      pure perfection!

    • Lana says...

      The absolute best series finale ever of all time.

    • Franny says...

      Yes!

    • Kathy Murphy says...

      This is one of the few series that I’ve watched all the way through more than once!

  37. cg says...

    The Wire!!!
    Best series EVAH!!! I can understand why your lovely wasn’t gonna wait for you.

    Heh heh!

    • Jenny Rosenstrach says...

      I totally agree. Full disclosure, Andy re-watched the Wire with me a few years after this story and now I almost understand why he had to plow ahead without me. Almost.

    • Kristen says...

      The characters in The Wire are fully real to me, like I kind of believe they’re out there living their lives in Baltimore right now…the ones that survived anyway.

  38. Zara says...

    73 episodes in 90 days? Amateurs.

    • Jen says...

      Best.Comment.Ever.

    • Jenny Rosenstrach says...

      HAHAHA

  39. celeste says...

    I think he’s watching Star Trek, which I couldn’t care less. I’m watching both Fleabag and Miss Maisel and unimpressed by flawed characters.

    We are both watching The Good Place flawed characters toward the finish line.

  40. Stephanie says...

    Ha! I love this post. My husband and I started watching Narcos together a few years ago, and then I cheated on him and continued one weekend when he was away. When he got home, he got mad and refused to watch it with me, even though I told him I’d sit through the episodes I already saw because it was so good! His loss. To this day, we refer to binge-cheating as “doing a Narcos,” as in, “Don’t worry, honey, I won’t do a Narcos on you this time.”

  41. laura says...

    Is anyone else feeling overwhelmed with TV? I know there are *so many* great shows coming out, but I can’t really get into any dramas. Not even Succession or The Crown. The last shows I remember being super into were Outlander and Game of Thrones. I miss being into a show, like Breaking Bad or Grey’s Anatomy during their first couple of seasons.

    (sitcoms I feel like fall into a different genre)

    • Zara says...

      Try “Please Like Me” on Netflix (hopefully you get it–I do in Canada). It’s smart and light and fun and sad. Easy to love!

    • Frankie says...

      Cannot agree with a Please Like Me recommendation enough. Best show ever. So hilarious. So sad. So smart.

    • Lana says...

      On a whim we decided to watch Outlander and were completely blown away by how wonderful it was! It’s one of our fav shows and we just finished the last season on Prime and have to wait until 2020 for season 5 to come out. I can’t handle it!

    • Leni says...

      Yes! Please like me is great! What would you recommend to someone who has already seen it (several times) and Fleabag? I miss really being into a show…

    • Dana says...

      I can’t get Please Like Me?! I’m in the US. Is there a trick?!

    • laura says...

      Thanks! I also couldn’t access Please Like Me on Netflix, but I saw it’s on Hulu so I’ll be giving that a shot!

      I am also excited for the new Outlander. :)

      Unfortunately I have no recommendations to go off of Fleabag because there’s nothing else like it.

    • T says...

      Yes, TV is overwhelming. I hear people taking about all the shows they watch and I have no idea how they have time to watch so much TV. We cancelled our cable a few years ago, have never had Prime or Hulu, and cancelled Netflix a couple months ago. Honestly, we’ve never looked back!

    • Rosalie says...

      I started Please like me today because of all these comments and watched the first six episodes in a row – what a great, sad & funny show!!

  42. Julie says...

    For years I lived with my best friend and it WAS THE BEST. I was working at a start up and missed a lot of TV, and this is before DVR, so if you missed a show, you missed it. She would watch TV for me and then do a recap for me over breakfast, and she did so with total enthusiasm. It was better than watching the show.

    I try to get my husband to do this but he will not – he finds it absolutely criminal. I cannot stay up past 10pm. It just doesn’t happen, so I miss the ending of pretty much everything we watch. I end up having to google it, which isn’t so bad, but I sure do miss my roommate’s lively summaries. I might pay a subscription for this service lol.

    I now will watch typically one or two episodes of a show and then will read recaps online. It just works better for me. I just read the recap for the finale of The Affair and literally cried. It sounded great! I wonder how many moms out there get their TV from Vulture recaps.

  43. Lisa says...

    I know I’m not ready for marriage because I refuse to wait for a guy to watch a TV episode *shrug*

    • Colleen S says...

      I’m the same with meals. I eat dinner between 4:30-5. I’m not my mom, who will wait until close to 7 before she eats because she waits for my dad to get off work.

    • Lauren says...

      Lisa and Colleen I feel like this is a BIG topic lol. It is SO hard for me to put off eating or watching something or whatever, for the sake of my husband. But he does stuff like that for me all the time! I ask how he does it and he’ll say that he loves me and loves seeing me have fun or enjoy something, and then I’m all distraught like, Why is my ‘loving thing’ broken??!! Ha ha.

    • LD says...

      Hahahahahahahahahahaha. This comment is perfection!

      5+ years ago, on the night before her wedding, my friend and I were sitting around and she was talking about her soon to be husband/love of her life/future baby daddy. She mentioned in the beginning of their relationship she’d go watch his softball game every Sunday. Every. Damn. Sunday. And sitting there, watching my friend bask in love and happiness, my immediate thought was “F—— that”.

      Cheers to your f—— that years!

  44. Jules says...

    When me and my new husband just got back from our Italian honeymoon in September, we were sad to co.e back so we decided to get a prime free trial and watch the entire series of the Americans before it ran out. 6 seasons in 30 days. It was like a timer in our little newly married bubble and OMG we couldnt stop watching! Every night we watched episode after episode and cuddled. I loved it and I was so sad when it ended. The last time we did that with was to get me caught up with Homeland years ago (CANNOT wait for April!!)

    • Kara says...

      For some reason I thought Homeland was completely over. You just made my day!! So excited!

  45. Annie says...

    Years ago, my husband and I started binging True Blood together. Partway through the second season it became clear that I was waaay more in to the show than him but still, he hung in there. Winter boredom probably. The nail in the coffin came when he saw me google “Joe Manganiello height” and he decided I should just keep watching without him. Alcide forever.

    • cg says...

      Hahahahahaha!!!! ^, hilarious and awesome.

    • Maire says...

      My husband and I first bonded over our love for True Blood when we first met! But yes, as the seasons went on, he fell a bit out of love with it and I was also probably googling Joe Manganiello and Alexander Skarsgard. It was tough for me, just as it was for Sookie to choose between Alcide and Vampire Eric ;)

  46. Julie says...

    I tore through the first three seasons of Breaking Bad, the first two I rented the discs from Netflix, and the third I watched live. When I moved in with my now husband, he hadn’t seen any of the show and was intrigued by how excited I was for the fourth season premiere. He decided to watch it himself from the beginning, and became so obsessed that he asked if I would record season four and refrain from watching it until he caught up so we could watch together. And I DID. That is how I knew our love was eternal, I delayed my Walt and Jessie gratification for him.

    He hates horror of all kind and I love it, so my illicit tv affairs are with The Haunting of Hill House, Castle Rock, Marianne, and Creepshow.

  47. Amy says...

    That happened to me this summer. My boyfriend and I had been wanting to watch Chernobyl but hadn’t gotten around to it. We were out to dinner with my family for my birthday and my mom asked if we’d watched the show yet. At the same time, we answered – I said we hadn’t started it yet, he said he was up to episode 2. Whaaaat?! He had been out of work for a little bit due to an accident, so he had started watching it while I was at work! We made a joke about it, and it wasn’t *really* a big deal….but honestly I was sort of bothered by it. Not so much that he had started without me, but that he hadn’t even told me. I told him he couldn’t go any further until I caught up to him, and we finished the show together. Luckily that show was very bleak and not exactly something you want to binge, or else he probably would have blown through the whole thing before I even knew he’d started it!

  48. Allyson says...

    I’m living this but fortunately my husband landed on rewatching all available seasons of Survivor (??? so weird right? Jeff Probst, Survivor, 2000-2019 and beyond!) when I head to bed. If he turns it on while I’m still up, it’s oddly compelling and good background noise to “my stories” (instagram). Side note: can we talk about Rob Delaney? I watch his IMDB just so I can plan for my next binge. He’s so wonderful.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Yes he is the best!

    • Genevieve Martin says...

      I went to see his stand up live here in England and I was really disappointed! He was so much cruder than I expected and made some really “too far” jokes in my opinion. Also, really learnt on the old sexist humour “my wife is physically incapable of apologising”/”I’m so crap with kids isn’t it funny I’m a man I just have to give them back to their mum” which is so tired honestly. A shame because I loved catastrophe!

  49. Karalina says...

    HILARIOUS.

    I feel your pain–My boo cheated on me with Breaking Bad and some would say that’s a deal breaker.

  50. Kate says...

    This essay made me miss the Wire. And in turn, made me miss every other HBO show from that golden era. The Fisher Family still feels real to me.

    • Hali says...

      On the topic of marital bonding via TV: my husband and I are the only people we know (besides my late grandma and a few white haired relatives across the pond) who watched ITV’s Doc Martin. The series started in 2004 and has followed us through many apartments, jobs, schools, etc. We wouldn’t dare cheat each other from a single episode watched together, not this show! We’ve pilgrimaged from California to the sea side village where it’s filmed in Cornwall just to see the pub, school, and surgery from the show. We love the characters so much! It’s the most medically accurate show on television! It’s idyllic and funny! But we can’t get anyone to watch it! Last week the series ended on a cliff hanger and I feel so alone at work, quietly grieving at my desk, texting the only man alive that I know who cares “But is it really over? What does Twitter say? What about reddit? The show must go on!”