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How Are You Doing?

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Welcome back! I’d love to catch up and to hear how things are going with you. If you’re up for it, here’s a little pop quiz:

A dessert you’ll never refuse:
A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
Something you’re looking forward to:
What’s worrying you:
Your childhood nickname:

Once when I was having a hard time, my friend Lina asked me what was wrong and waved her arms toward herself and said, “Hand me your stress.” It was the kindest gesture, I’ll never forget it how it felt. So, if you have something on your mind, send it my way; I’d be glad to take some of that weight off your shoulders.

People are often bummed about summer ending, but I have to say, fall has always been my favorite season. I love the smell of apple crisp and how people look inexplicably attractive in windbreakers. Plus, the anticipation of Halloweeeeeeen! (Toby wants me to go as Cher from Mamma Mia, haha.) “Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower,” said Albert Camus.

Storm King

Thank you so much for being here. Sending so much love your way. xoxo

P.S. My twin sister’s home makeover, 14 things to do with friends (other than dinner) and a B.J. Novak interview that still makes me laugh.

(Top photo by J Danielle Wehunt/Stocksy. Bottom photo from Storm King Art Center.)

  1. Angela says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: I never refuse dessert unless it is banana or coconut in nature
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Movie- Gleason, what a tear jerker! Book-Vox, too real considering the times we are living in
    Something you’re looking forward to: My college roomie coming to visit this weekend, and seeing our kids play together
    What’s worrying you: Strangely not a whole lot presently
    Your childhood nickname: Anna-Banana, ears, Annshala

  2. Emma says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: ice cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Save Me the Plums (book)
    Something you’re looking forward to: a wedding in Virginia next weekend!
    What’s worrying you: the impending cold/snow, how long I want to stay at my current job/what I want to do next, whether to stay living in CO
    Your childhood nickname: Doodle

    • Lara says...

      I just finished Save Me The Plums!! Finished it in one day!

  3. Moira says...

    Joanna, I love how you’re always bringing people together and building community!

    Dessert: Jumble cookies from Whole Foods (if you haven’t tried them you need to go immediately to your closest store…you’re welcome)

    Movie: As a mom of a 7 month old, I don’t get to go to the movies much. Last weekend some girlfriends and I went to see “Brittany Runs a Marathon,” and boy, was it delightful! A must-see.

    Things I’m looking forward to: Continuing to watch my son Julian grow and change–it’s incredible how babies literally change overnight! He just started saying “bwa bwa bwa bwa” and it’s so cute I can’t imagine what it’ll be like when he actually talks! Another thing I’m excited about is building community by starting a local Buy Nothing Project group in my neighborhood.

    Worries: Ah, I’m a worrier. Lately on a macro level I’ve been worrying about Trump winning again and gun control. On a micro level I worry if I’m being a good mom, I worry about my high school students (I’m a high school counselor) and all of the challenges they face, and I worry about how to balance all of my competing priorities while still being a good mom, wife, friend, sister, etc.

    Your childhood nickname: Bean! Not sure where it came from, but it cracks me up.

  4. Monica says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: homemade chocolate chip cookie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: A Knight’s Tale with Heath Ledger (what a loss). Kinda silly but still delightful.
    Something you’re looking forward to: A week in France at Thanksgiving
    What’s worrying you: My son who is a Freshman at college. Tough transition
    Your childhood nickname: I had many. Moey being one

  5. Lori says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: PIE!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Set It Up (thanks for the rec)
    Something you’re looking forward to: The crisp fresh air of Fall
    What’s worrying you: What project to remodel next in our home
    Your childhood nickname: Buckwheat :)

  6. rose says...

    Well, you would look amazing as Cher for halloween lol. do it, do it! Especially if Alex went as Sonny, lol

    dessert: fresh ripe durian
    movie: intergalactic – so disturbing but the concept and execution of the plot around the 5th dimension is just fascinating and so well done

    looking forward: an imminent major move to colorado – excited and terrified: how will I function away from the ocean?? and forests?

    worry: climate change and the lack of corporate responsibility, ie: every level of plastic; the amazon burning and the lack of large scale tree-planting in the US; that gas cars are still in production; spirituality in my life

    nickname: i did not approve of nicknames or abbreviated names as a child, lol

    • Jenn says...

      I love that you love durian! :)

  7. Alyssa says...

    I’m having a grumpy, frustrating day so this was a happy post to re-center me a little.

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: I will never refuse any dessert. But ice cream and cookies are my go-tos.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’m currently reading The Bookshop of Yesterdays and I LOVE it! Can’t stop reading.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Heading to my boyfriend’s family cabin this weekend with him and his parents. It’s such a good mental recharge for me.
    What’s worrying you: As a worrier of all things, I could list a million things.
    Your childhood nickname: Mel – my dad used to call me Melonhead and shortened it to Mel. It’s stuck, but only by him. Which I love.

    • Aoife says...

      I don’t think I’ve ever put cookies and ice-cream together. I’ve just had a lightbulb moment! I have a cookie recipe that would be amazing with ice-cream. How did I never think of that! Thank you!

  8. Kristen says...

    1. Dessert: Chocolate chip cookies (homemade, warm from the oven, with ice cream)
    2. TV show: Jane the Virgin—hilarious!
    3. Looking forward to: A trip to Florida in October to visit Disney and the beach
    4. Worried about: whether or not to homeschool my children
    5. Childhood nickname: Whooie (after Cindy Lou Who)

    • rose says...

      This article about online public schools happens to focus on Washington but reference nationwide options as well:
      https://www.thoughtco.com/free-washington-online-public-schools-1098312

      Of course this is only an option if you are ok with the curriculum but I’ve always thought this is format ideal for kids in toxic or abusive school systems, which so many unfortunately are.

  9. Dessert; chocolate that has nuts in it.
    TV Show: The last season of Elementary this summer. It was different and lovely and now it’s over.
    Something you’re looking forward to: A long weekend in San Francisco this month. (Lived there for years but haven’t been back for 10 years. Looking forward to seeing all that’s changed and seeing favorite places and people.) Also, flying first class for the first time ever. Should be fun!
    What’s worrying you: Health. Need to add more cardio to my life to get better bloodwork results.
    Your childhood nickname: One brother and his kids call me “auntie lulu” – super cute. Better than when I lived in SF and would fly to the midwest to see my other brother and his kids who called me “auntie bye-bye” because I would only stay a short time before having to return home.

  10. Claudia says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: If the dessert has berries and cream as a component, I can usually convince myself it’s a part of a healthy diet.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I am not much into tv lately but Paramount’s Yellowstone is so good… Kevin Costner, meet the Sopranos, meets the modern Wild West.

    Something you’re looking forward to: Visiting with old friends and finally meeting some insta-girlfriends in person.

    What’s worrying you: The medial tyranny happening across this country in regard to parental choice and informed consent.

    Your childhood nickname: My dad and siblings have always called me Claude- anyone else is kindly corrected.

  11. kelly lewis says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: peanut butter/cream cheese pie on a chocolate crust

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Book: My year of rest & relaxation TV: Mindhunter Season 2 Movie: looking forward to watching 5b soon about nurses and doctors who opened the first AIDS ward in San Francisco during the crisis in the 80s.

    Something you’re looking forward to: Snorkeling in Kauai this December. Snorkeling amongst the reefs is my most happy place, especially when sharing it with my 11 yr old son!

    What’s worrying you: My son beginning middle school, and suddenly hearing of/experiencing some of the awful realities of life and what is happening in the world. He’s still so pure and innocent and the other night, he couldn’t fall asleep because he kept “thinking about what Adolf Hitler did to all those people”.

    Your childhood nickname: All Bonz – with a Z! I was so, so tall and lanky. I even had a pink t shirt with a kitten on front and my nick name on back.

    • Lori says...

      Your son! <3

  12. Bethany says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: flourless chocolate cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Normal People by Sally Rooney and Mind Hunter on Netflix
    Something you’re looking forward to: The smell of crisp leaves
    What’s worrying you: The anticipation of winter and the return of seasonal affective disorder is giving me anxiety and threatening to ruin my fall (as it has every year — it’s like the Sunday Scaries but for seasons)
    Your childhood nickname: Lou Bug

  13. Whitney says...

    Dessert: A perfectly made pie
    Film: The Hundred Foot Journey
    Anticipating: Autumn in all its glory.
    Worry: My son’s tender heart at preschool.
    Nickname: Whee

  14. Can’t turn down apple pie. Love love loved Schitt’s Creek! Looking forward to hikes and wine tastings at a reunion with some college friends. Worrying about grad school. My family has always called me Leigh Leigh, but friends call me Leighty. <3

  15. I will never ever refuse a piece of my Granny’s famous Mystery Mocha cake, especially with a dollop of fresh whipped cream on top!
    I recently reread The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz for at least the 5th time. I keep my favorites on my nightstand for easy access when I am feeling the need for inspiration, works every time!
    Watching Hocus Pocus! Just in time for Halloween, oh and of course no Halloween is complete without Charlie Brown’s The Great Pumpkin!
    Looking forward to my housewarming party at the end of the month, and for the Holidays to see my oldest son who is living far away in Texas after He graduated from TCU in May.
    Worrying about my aging parents as it seems literally overnight the health problems are piling up and multiplying, breaking my heart.
    Nickname, Babs always and forever xoxo

  16. Mónica Leal says...

    Dessert: Creme brulee
    Book: Beastie Boys Book (so many great stories about ’80s NY!)
    TV show: Russian Doll
    Something you’re looking forward to: volunteering abroad
    What’s worrying me: … everything?
    Your childhood nickname: didn’t have one

  17. Erin says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Banoffee Pie (my friend Steven’s recipe ONLY)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Great Believers
    Something you’re looking forward to: Seeing Leon Bridges in concert (be still my heart!)
    What’s worrying you: Climate change and how it will affect my children’s lives.
    Your childhood nickname: Herbie

  18. Dhila says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate sponge pudding with custard
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: This Way Up (watched it all in one sitting)
    Something you’re looking forward to: Finishing up my PhD this month
    What’s worrying you: Money, job hunt
    Your childhood nickname: Dede

  19. Erin says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Ice cream! Brownies! Or especially a warm brownie with ice cream on top :)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’m reading Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth to prepare for the birth of my first baby next month and LOVING it. I feel so empowered and ready for birth.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Holding baby boy in my arms and seeing his face. Watching my husband be a father <3
    What’s worrying you: Living on limited income during maternity leave (I'm self-employed).
    Your childhood nickname: My dad always called me Lizzy (my middle name is Elizabeth, and he's the only one who referenced it).

  20. Lola says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse:
    Fondant au chocolat noir

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
    Jesmyn Ward: Men we reaped (book)
    Killing Eve (show)

    Something you’re looking forward to:
    A weekend in Paris by myself

    What’s worrying you:
    How to introduce my boyfriend to my kids

    Your childhood nickname:
    Ketchup

  21. Paula says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Molotof
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Movie “Photograph”
    Something you’re looking forward to: The next 2 weeks (Holidays!!! Yeah!!!)
    What’s worrying you: This crush…
    Your childhood nickname: Aninhas

  22. Kate says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: peppermint tart (only South Africans will know this one)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Workin Moms
    Something you’re looking forward to: Moving into our new, MUCH bigger home
    What’s worrying you: Gender based violence in South Africa
    Your childhood nickname: Kiki

  23. agnes says...

    So many comments to read little by little. It’s a funny place, this blog. I wouldn’t know how to define it and maybe we don’t have the tools for it yet. It’s like going to this very friendly (free) coffee place, and everybody is open to talk or listen, by small groups. And maybe there is somebody reading in a corner, and somebody drawing or somebody baking. It’s just a really kind and relaxed and comforting place. Thank you so much for creating it. So much. Welcome back, to all your team.

  24. raveen says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: homemade chocolate chip cookie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: loving the hulu series: four weddings and a funeral. book: city of girls
    Something you’re looking forward to: weekends every week, fall and winter
    What’s worrying you: my husband and I disagreeing on whether to have a second child
    Your childhood nickname: vern/rav/ravs

  25. Katharina says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse:
    basically anything with whipped cream (lots of it)

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
    Fleabag! – late to the party, I know, but what a party it was.

    Something you’re looking forward to:
    I’ll stop working for some time (who knows how long we’ll last financially and personally) to have more time for family matters. The past year was hard. So from November on I’ll be home and I’m looking forward to all the things I’m gonna get done.

    What’s worrying you:
    a couple of months ago our youngest was diagnosed with Rett Syndrome. So our live has been turned up side down and there has been so much going on. She is very agile and restless and hyperactive and very much on the autistic spectrum. There are a lot of things I worry about as a mother of a disabled child. Some times more, some times less.

    Your childhood nickname: Kathrinchen – that’s what my great-aunt used to call me

  26. Kara says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Office, Always and Forever.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall.
    What’s worrying you: My grandma died just a few days ago. We were so close and she was the heart of our hearts. We were so lucky to have her but it’s also so incredibly devastating that she’s gone. I wonder, I worry, what our family will look like without our precious Mimi.

  27. Kim says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse:
    – ice cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
    – the Romanoffs on Amazon
    Something you’re looking forward to:
    – going to an Arts conference in Banff this November!
    What’s worrying you:
    – that we’re having a really hard time getting pregnant and we had to put our sweet old dog down recently. I miss my friend.
    Your childhood nickname: Kimmy

    • Lori says...

      Thinking of you! Hoping you get a positive result soon.

  28. Rachel says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: warm oatmeal chocolate chip cookies
    A book, movie, or tv show you’ve enjoyed recently: Re-reading Samantha Young books on my kindle with my boyfriend telling me he’s never seen me up so
    late :)
    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall walks and drives with chai tea and coming home to too many pumpkins.
    What’s worrying you: Hurricanes. Fires. Feeling bad about my small problems when people are handling these.
    Your childhood nickname: boo

  29. Nat says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: any kind of pie!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Audible’s “A Grown Up Guide to Dinosaurs”
    Something you’re looking forward to: Our trip to Washington DC in October! Can’t wait to explore the city.
    What’s worrying you: Our crazy president, our treatment of immigrants, gun violence, not spending enough time with friends
    Your childhood nickname:

  30. Martha Patterson says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: A warm, home baked brownie with walnuts.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Can’t say I “enjoyed”, but had a huge impact on me: The series “When They See Us”….there are no words, truly.
    Something you’re looking forward to: My trip to DC at the end of the month. I go 3 times a year as a member of the NEA Board. I savor lobbying on Capitol Hill on behalf of public education, and having the time to enjoy the remarkable city…I try to see/do something new every time I visit!

    What’s worrying you: My almost grown kids…wanting them to find their way in the world, despite their resistance to my guidance!
    Your childhood nickname: Fern. Apparently my dad thought I looked like Fern Farkle from Laugh In!

  31. Key Lime Pie

    Dora and the Lost City of Gold (it was excellent and I don’t have small kids!)

    Using my massage gift card that a dear friend sent me – right before SHE had breast surgery.

    My kids worry me. The older one is sort of lost and figuring things out. It is painful to watch. The younger one has entered her senior year of high school and she has a full plate with college apps. I am anxious for her!

    Sam. My dad has called me Sam since I was small for absolutely no reason. Not my mom too, just my dad.

  32. Susan Y. says...

    I never refuse cake (exceptions being fruit and red velvet)
    Watching Dave Chappelle on Netflix (hilarious)
    Looking forward to cooler weather and all the coziness
    College costs are worrisome
    Sue Sue was my nickname growing up

  33. Cecily says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Sticky Toffee Pudding
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: “The Library Book” by Susan Orlean
    Something you’re looking forward to: The new beginning that comes with September and Autumn. It always feels like more of a fresh start than New Years to me.
    What’s worrying you: I recently received a promotion to a management position and I worry about how to be a strong but compassionate leader to my team.
    Your childhood nickname: Cec – which most people still call me. My parents also called my sister and I their “Goomies.” I don’t know where that came from but it brings a smile to my face when I hear it, even at 35.

    • Pam says...

      Rooting for you as a boss! The book Radical Candor (Kim Scott) is the best, most empowering management book I’ve read.

      And Sept/Fall are totally the best and feel like the real start to me too.

  34. Lindsey says...

    D it is so scary this is the world we live in. I also hope the 2020 election will help with the problems. I live in a smaller city and I feel like we are very unprepared for any sort of shooting event. I have looked into the bulletproof backpacks, it makes me so sad! I hope you and your daughter have a safe and happy school year! Xoxo

  35. A dessert you’ll never refuse: oatmeal cookie, pie a la mode, raspberry sorbet
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: fleabag!
    Something you’re looking forward to: my upcoming 3 week vacation (boston/london/barcelona/nyc/charleston)! finishing this glass of wine i’m working on….
    What’s worrying you: petty shit, like do my co-workers like me (see, it’s time for a vacation!)
    Your childhood nickname: mals

  36. Sophia says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: molten chocolate cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Pachinko
    Something you’re looking forward to: My trip to Chicago!
    What’s worrying you: choosing and the idea of co-housing with other people
    Your childhood nickname: Sophie

  37. Amy says...

    Love this:

    Dessert: Lemon cake
    Movie: Rewatched Amelie on a flight: forgot just how good it is!
    Looking forward to: Taking the kids to Angkor Wat in October
    Worrying: The protests here in Hong Kong. Trump.

  38. Lucy says...

    I love a quick quiz!

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Banoffee pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: season 2 Derry Girls
    Something you’re looking forward to: visiting my husband’s family in Sweden for Christmas (we live in New Zealand)
    What’s worrying you: When we should start trying for children…
    Your childhood nickname: Mum called me peaches sometimes and poppet

  39. Jenn says...

    A dessert: Pumpkin cheesecake
    TV show: Schitt’s Creek
    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall weather! It’s been SUPER hot and muggy here in Northwest Arkansas
    What’s worrying you: I’m about to get onto the job search (finishing my dissertation) and I feel overwhelmed about the whole thing, especially my own self-fear about not measuring up to others.
    Your childhood nickname: JennO

  40. Amanda says...

    Dessert: pannacotta
    Tv show: Derry Girls! Watch it!!!
    Looking forward to fall baking!
    Worried about everything and nothing in equal measure st the moment :)

    • Tiffany says...

      A dessert you’ll never refuse:
      Any dessert! Bring it on!

      A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
      Chernobyl. The miniseries stayed with me for days. It was creepy (the soundtrack is amazing!), interesting, and informative, with gorgeous cinematography.

      Something you’re looking forward to:
      Cooler weather here in Los Angeles. I find the scorching heat oppressive and it brings me down. It’s as if life has disappeared from the air.

      What’s worrying you:
      That I’m not living up to my potential.

      Your childhood nickname:
      Tiff, Tiffy

  41. Margot says...

    Alright, I’ll bite.

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Flourless chocolate cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Expanse (book series and TV show)
    Something you’re looking forward to: My 13 month old sleeping more reliably!
    What’s worrying you: I don’t exercise enough
    Your childhood nickname: Mej

  42. A dessert you’ll never refuse: BROWNIES
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Tilt by Ellen Hopkins
    Something you’re looking forward to: seeing my boyfriend
    What’s worrying you: allergies
    Your childhood nickname: Anin, Allen, Alien…

  43. A dessert you’ll never refuse: BROWNIES
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Tilt by Ellen Hopkins
    Something you’re looking forward to: seeing my boyfrien
    What’s worrying you: allergies
    Your childhood nickname: Anin, Allen, Alien…

  44. Stacy S says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Cheesecake, strawberry, plain, turtle, I’ll take them all!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Frontier on Netflix- my husband and I have been binge watching it after our son goes to bed lately!
    Something you’re looking forward to: visiting my sister in Washington in October, we’ve never been in the fall!
    What’s worrying you: Gun violence, climate change, am I doing enough to be a good mom to my one year old, am I in a funk at work or do I really not like it anymore?
    Your childhood nickname: my mom always called me Babycakes or Lolo

  45. Sharon says...

    Oh, how I love these!
    A dessert: A la mode anything

    A book: Indestructible

    Something you’re looking forward to: Winter! I live for cold crisp mornings.

    What’s worrying you: My skin. Adult acne (hormones/stress) is just as difficult as an adult. You would think I would be more self assured now, but It’s brought back all my childhood insecurities.

    Your childhood nickname: Sharony Macaroni, which I hated.

  46. A dessert you’ll never refuse: any slice of pie as long as it has a good crust
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Crown
    Something you’re looking forward to: Christmas!
    What’s worrying you: training for a marathon
    Your childhood nickname: bumsangeee, means “goody two shoes” in Korean

  47. Meg says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: It was a memoir written by a former house cleaner- Maid. It really put perspective around the working poor. I was angered, shocked, inspired and moved.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall weather, pumpkins and mums
    What’s worrying you: being a good leader and helping my team through changes and transitions
    Your childhood nickname: I didn’t have one!

  48. MA says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong – poetic and heartbreaking
    Something you’re looking forward to: hiking with my daughter on cozy fall weekends, then coming home and baking something wonderful and eating it while watching British BakeOff. <3
    What’s worrying you: Climate change and my daughter's future on earth
    Your childhood nickname: Magpie

  49. It’s the first days of school and I teach 7th grade and am an assistant principal so things are busy…what a welcome treat to come home and read these answers today and yesterday. Thanks, CoJ!

    My contributions:
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: dulce de leche cheesecake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Outlander and Gentleman Jack on TV; Washington Black was a powerful read
    Something you’re looking forward to: a trip north for my partner and I to western MA at the end of September – cooler temps (I hope!), fall leaves, and (best of all), my sophomore son running a cross country race for his college team
    What’s worrying you: Trump. My student loan forgiveness application.
    Your childhood nickname: Punkin (my mom); Chump (my dad)

  50. Abbey says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: a citrus flavored cake of some sort

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: SPQR by Mary Beard

    Something you’re looking forward to: Watching my summer fling growing into a long distance relationship…. no idea how this has happened but we are rolling with it!

    What’s worrying you: Nothing. It’s not that nothing is troubling when I think about it, but I am not fixated on anything.

    Your childhood nickname: There were loads of them but Abba-dabba is what my childhood bff called me :)

  51. Angela says...

    Dessert: a warm or soft chocolate chip cookie
    Recently: The Biggest Little Farm (movie)
    Looking forward to: Being reunited with my lost luggage floating somewhere between Edinburgh and Amsterdam.
    Worry: That the AirBnB I’m in feels too big for just me when all the lights are off.
    Nickname: Ace

  52. witloof says...

    A dessert I’ll never refuse: profiteroles
    A book I enjoyed: I just finished rereading The White Rose by Jean Hanff Korelitz.
    Something I’m looking forward to: I’m excited for a big dance festival called Contrashock happening in NYC in a few weeks.
    Something worrying me: The stunning, baldfaced, flagrant corruption and hypocrisy practiced by Senator Mitch McConnell and the irretrievable damage he has done to our democracy. And how he has snookered the good people of Kentucky into voting against their best interests, over and over over. I hope and pray that Amy McGrath can convince Kentucky that it’s time to look at how he has become a Russian asset and a tool of the NRA and vote him out.

    • Martha Patterson says...

      I live in Washington state, and have donated to McGrath’s campaign!

  53. A dessert you’ll never refuse: Wine
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Gulf, by Belle Boggs! Insightful and funny.
    Something you’re looking forward to: a weekend at the beach
    What’s worrying you: planning a weekend at the beach
    Your childhood nickname: emzi

  54. Abbe says...

    This is so sweet! This website is my happy place on the internet.

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Peanut butter soft-serve. Especially with hot fudge sauce on top.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Book: I just finished Circe and it was INCREDIBLE! I can’t stop thinking about it. Movie: My boyfriend and I watched Toy Story 4 over the weekend and it was lovely. Definitely teared up at certain points. TV Show: I feel a little silly admitting this but I’m a HUGE Golden Girls fan and Hulu just got all seven seasons! I’ve been binging non-stop even though I’ve seen every episode at least 3 times.

    Something you’re looking forward to: Like pretty much everyone else, fall! Cooler temps, sweaters, rainy days, warm drinks, changing leaves. Also, I’m planning a reunion over New Year’s with three of my closest friends and I’m so excited.

    What’s worrying you: Globally: Climate change. Nationally: gun control, the camps at the border, the lack of empathy in our current civil discourse. Personally: student loans, if I’ll get a job after grad school, juggling work and grad school, and pretty much everything else.

    Your childhood nickname: Abz

    • Susan says...

      Does Peanut Butter soft-serve exist or is this a fantasy dessert?! I can’t even imagine how great it must be and where I will now find some!

  55. Jennifer says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Anything Crisp
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: OMG I love Schitts Creek. One of the funniest shows ever. It did take me awhile to get into the characters but once you do its AWESOME! I want to rewatch now!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Getting organized. My hubby is out of town and that is when I go nuts in the house – cleaning, donating, giving away, tossing. Love that!
    What’s worrying you: My dog Toby has Mast cell tumors and thought we had it licked but one grew back with vengeance. The Vet said inoperable. We will treat holistic now but I’m sad. He’s such a sweet boy and I will miss him.

    LOVE THESE QUIZES!!!!!
    Your childhood nickname

    • T says...

      Hi Jennifer, my worry is the same as yours and my heart breaks for the both of us. Xx

  56. Lee says...

    Gelato. It makes ice cream look bad.
    I’m currently enjoying the comedic series “What We Do In The Dark” and loved the book “The Great Believers” by Rebecca Makkai.
    I’m looking forward to opera Akhenaten, which we have tickets for in the fall.
    I worry about the health of my family. My husband and my father are both struggling with separate health concerns right now and I’m feeling for them, wishing I could make it better.
    My nickname was Lee-Lee. Just a repetitive version of my name. It’s weird the way people tend to shorten or abbreviate longer names and add to shorter ones. It’s one of those strange human tendencies that’s always perplexed me.

    • Leigh H says...

      so funny, my name is Leigh and my nick name was Leigh-wee – so bad! I too LOVED “The Great Believers” :) Sorry about your Dad and husband, so tough.

  57. Riley says...

    Frankie and Jo’s ice cream (an amazing plant-based ice cream in Seattle with the most delicious flavors).

    I just finished Dan Siegel’s The Whole Brain Child, and it’s so comforting to have a bit of a parenting roadmap.

    Fall, like everyone else it seems. Visiting my best friend and her husband in November. A fancy dinner out for our wedding anniversary — our first big date since the baby was born. Watching the babe grow and do new things every day.

    My baby’s sleep. My patients. Climate change. The integrity of our roof. My husband’s stress levels. Our dog’s health. 2020.

    Ri. Snookums. Goofball.

  58. Asia says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: [any kind of fruit] crisp
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Anything by Sally Rooney
    Something you’re looking forward to: Watching my daughters grow into interesting adults
    What’s worrying you: Watching my daughters grow into interesting adults
    Your childhood nickname: Bodacious

  59. Emily says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Anything with rhubarb!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Mrs. Everything by Jennifer Weiner
    Something you’re looking forward to: The weekend! I love sleeping in and taking my time in the morning.
    What’s worrying you: Making friends. I’m finding it hard to be a childless-by-choice, 35 year-old woman among a sea of mamas who want nothing more than to talk about babies and everything child-related. It’s great for them, but I have nothing to contribute to those conversations. It’s lonely.

    • Maïa says...

      I relate so much to the difficulty of being childless (at 34 for me) with mostly mothers around me and less and less opportunities to make friends in the childless area! And where are the guys child less of our age ? I seem to never meet them and neither being aware of their mindset.
      Also I came in the comments with a fear of not reading “enough” worries about climate change and borders and so on, as the collective deny is what’s worries me the most sometimes.
      And I finally mostly read about humans with their joys and sorrows, tears and encouragements, and of course its far from mending my heart, but it grounds me back in this soothing human connections (and sorority!) you can be so good at creating here.

    • You’re not alone!

      I’m 38 and decided against children. There are women of our kind in the world. Lots of them actually. Sending a hug.

  60. Lyndsey says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Anything chocolate

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khalid Hosseini

    Something you’re looking forward to: My son starting pre school

    What’s worrying you: My son starting preschool

    Your childhood nickname: Limbo

  61. Lauren O. says...

    Dessert: Tiramisu, or a bubbly cocktail, or berries with whipped cream [proclaimed as my favorite food as a kid right next to cheese and crackers].

    Movie: The Farewell—beautiful, heartfelt, warm; loved it so much + everything I needed this summer. Have been consuming tons of podcasts from Lulu Wang, the director, ever since.

    Looking forward to: Unpacking the last of the boxes from a cross-country move from NYC to LA + getting settled and putting things in their place.

    Worrying me: My next cancer screenings in October. I go every three months to track the new growths in my lungs. I hold my breath as we calculate the growth rate and when a biopsy might reveal my worst fears; currently about a year.

    Childhood nickname: Lolo, which is funny because now my closest friend and family call me LO, which also happens to be my initials.

  62. Erin says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: raspberry chocolate chip ice cream in a sprinkle cone :)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: New stranger things season! Actually screamed out loud while watching!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Short term: a hug after work, long term: traveling somewhere warm in the fall/winter.
    What’s worrying you: Everything! Ugh. Anxiety.
    Your childhood nickname: Too many to count! Is this a youngest child thing? Among them, though, were several actual names that have NOTHING to do with my name, including Alice, Talulah, and Lucy.

  63. Kate says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Just baked chocolate chip cookie in a mug with vanilla ice cream on top.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: TV show – has an old-timey detective-y slow burn feel I’m loving.
    Something you’re looking forward to: the Christmas season!
    What’s worrying you: My husband got laid off this summer. Not worried about him finding a new job but am worrying about how to best support him and let him feel his feelings (and letting myself feel my feelings too) right now.
    Your childhood nickname: Kate-e-kate

  64. rt says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: lemon tart/meringue
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Property by Lionel Shriver, Season 3 Jessica Jones, The Let Down
    Something you’re looking forward to: kids at school and having more hours to get a haircut, workout, clean the house etc
    What’s worrying you: meeting my daughter’s 1st grade teacher. My son going into the 4s program as he is going through a whiny, pain in the ass phase
    Your childhood nickname: Tchern (play on last name)

  65. Ramya says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: key lime pie!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: TV show – Working Moms (check it out on Netflix). Book – Calypso by David Sedaris
    Something you’re looking forward to: Getting to know the guy I’m dating better
    What’s worrying you: My ex-husband’s health
    Your childhood nickname: Vayaadi (chatterbox in Tamil)

  66. zask says...

    Dessert: black sesame ice cream
    Movie: Leave No Trace was amazing
    Looking forward to: Seeing my niece and nephew in a couple of weeks
    Worry: My husband just had jaw/dental surgery and two weeks out, he has suddenly developed an unbelievably loud case of tinnitus. It’s been 5 days now and there’s no sign of it letting up. I worry its permanent and will start to really impact his outlook.

  67. Erin says...

    Gosh, I welled up big time at your friend Lina’s offer and your kind one back to us.

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Oreo brownie sundae
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Eat, Pray Love – I never allowed myself to watch it before because I was afraid I would run away!
    Something you’re looking forward to: My horoscope today said that I was gonna find love… that would be nice. I am very ready!
    What’s worrying you: My family. My dad’s battle with Parkinson’s gets worse and worse and my mom takes care of him. I am too far away to be of much help or comfort. That breaks me often.
    Your childhood nickname: Rinny

  68. Daniela says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: homemade pumpkin pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: There Are No Grown-ups by Pamela Druckerman
    Something you’re looking forward to: vin brule’ in autumn
    What’s worrying you: ethics now and in the future
    Your childhood nickname: D

  69. Heather says...

    My mom died very unexpectedly four weeks ago, at age 68. The hole in our world is huge, as she was a part of our lives almost daily. My 7 year old is struggling, as they were very close. I have a four month old and I’m devastated that he’ll never know her.

    Today is my mom’s birthday and I don’t know what to do with the pieces of my heart. I miss my mama so much.

    • Heather says...

      Oh goodness, Heather – sending you and your family so much love.

    • Sophia says...

      Just wanted you to know that your post touched my heart. Sending you loving thoughts.

    • Barbara says...

      Oh! Dear Heather,

      Your post moves me to tears. I lost my mama a little over a year ago and I can relate.

      You won’t get over it but as time flows you will get through it.

      I’m also a grandmother to little ones close to your children’s ages and nearly daily involved with them. I’m sure she misses you all, terribly. She is nearby you and your littles, and loving you all, still. She may even send you a reassuring message if you keep your eyes open. Your youngest will be the easiest for her to reach. It happened for us that way.

      XXOO Barbara

    • Erin says...

      Oh honey I am so so sorry. Sending you a ton of love. XOXO

    • Anna says...

      I‘m so sorry for your loss Heather. It’s okay to feel all of the feelings. Sending you lots of love and hugs.

    • Ashley K says...

      Sending you warmth, Heather. Perhaps a nice celebration of your mom would be to go out of ice cream with your 7 year old and get your mom’s favorite flavor and toast to her? I don’t know. I’m sure nothing helps, but know this community loves you.

    • Heather says...

      My heart goes out to you for your heartbreaking loss. Wishing you moments of peace.

    • Katie H says...

      This feels inadequate, but I’m so sorry, Heather. Thinking of you <3

    • Hilary says...

      Heather, Just a note to say that I’m so sorry, and I’m sending you a hug from Colorado.

    • Heather says...

      And one thing that has helped me to remember in times of terrible grief…remember the depth of your grief is a testament to the depth of your love. It’s okay to carry it, wear it, embrace it, or handle it however you choose. It’s another aspect of your relationship with your mother, and it’s nobody else’s business.

    • jdp says...

      my dad died suddenly at 69. the worst (aside from everything, all of it) is that no one knows what to say to you, and you can’t help but feel badly for them on top of all your crazy (and super public) pain. one friend who had also lost her dad said, “welcome to the grief club.” she meant it. much like becoming a parent, losing one is something you can’t really fathom until it happens. it’s been five years and i still talk with my dad in private moments. it helps. as does seeing his traits in my kid. hang in there.

    • Julie says...

      Sending you so much love, Heather. Moms are so special and I’m sure you’ll pass on her memories to your youngest.

    • Terri says...

      Heather, I am so very sorry. Sometimes there are just no words that are adequate. But I want you to know that there are people in the world who are caring about you right this very moment, and praying for you, and wishing you comfort, peace, and strength. I lost my own mom quite unexpectedly 7 months ago today. I’m so sorry for your 7-year-old’s grief and that your 4-month-old will miss knowing her. Those are some very deep hurts. I wish healing for all of you.

    • Maggie says...

      Oh this made me cry. I’m so sorry for your loss.
      Grief is a tricky cohort.
      On the one hand you must link arms and travel together to get to the other side, on the other hand it’s so excruciating you feel you must crawl away from the pain, trying desperately to detach the sadness…
      There is another side though and it’s bittersweet.
      Sending you massive hugs.

      After my Father died I sat on the floor in bookstores reading grief books and crying, feeling ridiculous but leaning in.
      My daughter never met him but she still makes him birthday cards and talks about him.

    • Sharon says...

      Oh Heather, I’m so so sorry. I lost my mom unexpectedly and suddenly 6 years ago (at 64) and it was hands down the hardest thing I’ve ever lived through (getting divorced a year later was a breeze!). Every loss is unique and you will have your own path. But I wanted you to know, for me, I love my mom more today than ever. I feel her more with each passing day, not as a sharp pain, but as a soft warm hug. I still miss her so so much (and if I’m honest, I tear up even writing this!) but I am also so damn proud of myself for the person I have grown into, in part to survive this loss. I have survived. And you will survive. We are stronger than we realize. And you will never lose the love she gave you.

    • C says...

      I’m so sorry, Heather. Your post brings me to tears as I am a new mom and the thought of losing a parent has a whole new meaning. I wish you happiness and the absolute best during this next season of life ❤️

    • Susan Y. says...

      ❤️

    • agnes says...

      I’m so sorry Heather, this is so difficult. I lost my mom 4 years ago and my child was one; he will never remember her alive but I talk about her so often that he sings “her songs”, he knows her habits and we celebrate the day of the dead, each year (we’re half mexicans). It is so helpful. Even just a picture and a candle will help make her be present. Sending a hug.

  70. Amanda says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: My aunt’s Hot Milk Cake!

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: For fun I LOVED reading the Alice Network. For information I devoured How to Talks So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (a recommendation I picked up from this blog!).

    Something you’re looking forward to: Our December trip to Prague and Vienna and all the planning that we’re doing now!

    What’s worrying you: Although I’m doing very well, stage 4 cancer means that I almost always have some lingering, what-if worries

    Your childhood nickname: McCracks

  71. bean says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Currently reading City of Girls by Elizabeth Gilbert
    Something you’re looking forward to: 4 trips between when our seasonal ice cream shop closes and the holidays! 2 trips with kids, 2 without! WHEE!
    What’s worrying you: Dying, always (Whhhhhyyyyy… I’m young and healthy!)
    Your childhood nickname: Bean

    • C says...

      – I just finished City of Girls! I loved it so much.
      -dying has been worrying me so much lately too. I think it’s because I have a one year old and the thought of not being here for/with her is terrifying. Anyhow…There is a Ted talk called “dying well” that gave me good perspective on death… I highly recommend listening to it!

  72. Christine says...

    I love these interactive posts so much!! Here it goes… any advice on my last bullet would be so greatly appreciated!

    -I will never turn down molten chocolate lava cake… ever.
    -Thanks to COJ comments in a previous post, I recently enjoyed the book 3 women.
    -I am SO looking forward to Fall! I have a one year old and plan on enjoying this upcoming season to its absolute fullest. Decorations, pumpkin patches, apple picking, comfort food, Halloween everything, apple fritters, cider, ahhh!! It’s amazing how having a baby can bring you back to life (especially when you didn’t realize you needed to be brought back!!)
    -Financially I do not need to work but I choose to. I am worried that I am making a huge mistake and that I’m going to regret this decision even though I am trying so hard to teach my daughter that being able to provide for yourself and having a strong work ethic is important. I just miss her terribly during the day.

    • Anna Vitale says...

      Hang in there. I often feel the same way with my daughters. I remind myself that I’m holding a seat at the table of public life for them. You’re doing the same for your daughter, and I believe that is immensely important.

    • Julee says...

      Don’t ignore your mothering instincts! Don’t feel guilty for them either; they’re biological, rewarding, and fulfilling in their own way.
      If being away from your daughter makes you sad, and you don’t NEED to be, then think about just “trying” something else, and see how that makes you feel. Nothing is permanent, nothing lasts forever.

    • Joan says...

      HI Christina,

      Just happened upon your comment and ask for advice, the only piece of advice I have to say is that I am one of 7 children raised by a stay at home mother. She had been a nurse previously and decided to stay home with us and absolutely every single one of us has a strong work ethic and can full provide for ourselves. I saw my mom work incredibly hard and sacrifice a lot and she provided a sense of safety and structure that gave us all the confidence to develop our sense of self. I had my first job at 16 and fully financially independent at 21. I’m 31 now and plan to be a working mother as I don’t have the financial ability to stay home, I don’t think there is a right or wrong way to raise children. But I would say above all is to trust your intuition and use it as your guide, you know what’s best for you and your daughter more than anyone and if you pine for her during the day follow that feeling. sending you love!

    • Emma Reisinger says...

      Second the molten chocolate lava cake, and re your last point:

      (1) My mom took care of me and her grandmother when I was really little (0-3 yrs) as her primary occupation. She did a tremendous amount of volunteer work and was very active in her church and other community organizations. That–and taking care of an infant, a husband working full-time at a job with a lengthy commute, and an elder–is a lot of real (albeit unpaid) work. It’s totally possible to pass on a strong work ethic even if you are not working in a career/paid work.

      (2) To your point about being able to provide for yourself–yes, that’s important. But in your comment, you are framing your decision to work as being about communicating values to your daughter. Is that really why you value the work you do? Or is there something important to you about the work itself? As someone who has done extensive childcare (not a mother)… it can be quite isolating to “just” take care of kids. There can be social and mental benefits to working outside the home–having a social experience outside the domestic sphere, thinking about things that do not concern infants or toddlers–but on the other hand, you may find it totally fulfilling to hang out with and care for your daughter!

      (3) I am a little bit scared about dropping out of the workforce for a few years to take care of a small child because of what it would mean for my options later on–and my ability to be financially independent if need be (I think that’s really important for anybody, especially women). However, I know I could find work. In some fields maybe that would be more challenging. If you’re in a field where you would ‘get behind’ in a few years, would there be a way to work part-time?

      (4) Personally I sort of think that anyone who can afford not to work should at least consider turning that time and energy and attention to doing something beneficial for society–most paid work is not very necessary. People who take care of children and the elderly are paid peanuts while stockbrokers make millions. Yet we’re all children and we’ll all grow old if we’re lucky. If you don’t have to spend your time earning money, you can spend it caring for your own family and for others, in whatever way makes sense to you. Isn’t that more valuable than cash?

      (5) If the above feels like I’m suggesting you become a stay at home mom… I’m not, not necessarily. If your work is what makes you feel alive, then by all means do it, and try to stop feeling guilty–you’ll be a better parent by being engaged in the world and what you do.

    • Haylee says...

      Can I just say ditto to Joan’s comment. Similar situation growing up, same opinion! XO

  73. Molly says...

    Thank you for asking. This is fun.
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: dark chocolate cake, homemade.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Grey’s Anatomy. That show is my-middle-of-the-day, lock-my-office-door-against-the-undergrads-grads-and-my-colleagues-and-have-some-me-time-over-lunch happy place.
    Something you’re looking forward to: going on vacation for a month(!) on the MS coast with my husband and daughter (6). I am on sabbatical this fall, and this is a one in lifetime that we have been saving up for.
    What’s worrying you: Getting my textbook written. I committed to a contract for writing an introductory textbook for college biological anthropology classes, with most of the work occurring this fall. Now that it’s here, my anxiety is getting in the way of writing it and I am afraid of my editors being angry and disappointed with me.
    Your childhood nickname: Boo-Boo. Thanks, mom.

    • Julie says...

      From a medical publishing professional in the editorial department, know that whichever company you’re writing for is there to help you throughout that process, and that even the best, most experienced authors miss their deadlines. It always works out in the end.

    • agnes says...

      Hey Molly! I coach people (students, academics, writers) into writing! Try to recognis anxiety, it’s as annoying as a mosquitoe. You won’t get rid of it but try to give it less importance. Just start, even with one word, even with 15 minutes’ work. And Julie’s comment is just the best! ALL writers are late, publishers know it, they just have a secret dead-line which is probably 2 months after the dead line they gave you ;-)

  74. Vanessa says...

    A movie: Lives Well Lived. It’s interviews with people aged 75-100 and it’s so lovely! I saw it at a local Indie film festival but I wish it would come out on Netflix so more people could see it.

  75. Ashley K says...

    Vegan Ice Cream (Sadly, incredibly lactose intolerant)

    Fleabag S2 + re-watching This is Us in anticipation of the next season. It’s SO moving!

    My mom is coming to NYC tomorrow (from WI) for her 60th birthday! We’re celebrating with my sister and going to the US Open to see Serena! She’s a huge Billie Jean King and women’s sports fan, has never been to the Open! Can’t wait to see her reactions.

    I’m turning 36 this year, and while in a relationship, I worry about engagement, marriage and if children will be in my future. It’s something I consistently pray for but have high anxiety about.

    WELCOME BACK! Love you and this group of people.

  76. Katie says...

    I’m currently on my first vacation with my toddler and it’s like nothing I imagined. Everyday is so hard, being out of her routine and coparenting with my partner who usually takes care of her during the week. I would love to know how other parents let go during family vacations.

    I’m never sad for icebox cake (my favourite is one with graham wafers, almond cream and raspberry sauce); I recently polished off David Sedaris’ Calypso and the third season of GLOW (I’ll watch anything with Allison Brie); I’m looking forward to my toddler learning how to walk (it’s been a few weeks of back-breaking hand-holding and I’m ready to let go and chase her).

    My nickname as a teenager was The. On a bus trip with a youth group I belonged to, we were all asked to name our favorite animal. Mine was pink flamingo; I mean, it wasn’t but that’s what I said. From there, someone started calling me The Pink, probably because there were multiple Katie’s. It gotten shortened to The and stuck for the next two years!

    • Lex says...

      I found naps and early bedtime to be my only saving grace. I didn’t get to do nice dinners – but I got quiet time with a bottle of wine on the balcony.
      Unfortunately, I’ve found vacations with a toddlers are not vacations – they are just taking care of your kid in another place where they are out of their element. I’ve had to lower my expectations drastically and be grateful for the change of scenery, not being at work and just getting to spend time together.

    • Lex says...

      Oh vacations with toddlers. Can they really be called vacations? Naps and early bedtime were my only saving grace – I didn’t get to do nice dinners, but I got quiet time with a bottle of wine on the balcony. I found I just had to lower my expectations drastically and be grateful for the change of scenery, not being at work and just spending time together.

  77. Caroline says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Jeni’s Rainbow Sherbet in a waffle cone (or the peach sherbet! AH <3 Jeni's)

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: TV: Euphoria – so much anxiety watching this but so good. Book: The Nightingale – been on my list for years and finally got around to reading it!

    Something you’re looking forward to: My twin sister's wedding at the end of the month – all our family and friends together in one place yet I don't have to be the center of attention. WIN WIN

    What’s worrying you: Ugh. Getting better with my personal finances, mass shootings, climate change. All of it.

    Your childhood nickname: Care bear

  78. Laura says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Mousse au chocolat
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Dark
    Something you’re looking forward to: Sliding into fall, spending quality time with my family
    What’s worrying you: probably getting into a lawsuit with my former landlord
    Your childhood nickname: Möckelchen

  79. Holly says...

    YAY, the week long break without A Cup Of Jo is finally over!
    Enjoyed reading through all the comments on my lunch break at work :)

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Cheesecake (with any kind of fruit on top)

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Euphoria, I was pleasantly surprised by this show. It was dark but there’s no other TV show like it!

    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall! Can the cold weather get here already. My sweaters and boots are dying to leave my closet.

    What’s worrying you: Money, it’s always money.

    Your childhood nickname: holls

    – Much love

  80. Lauren B says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: BROWNIES, gooey and fudgey and it must be a center piece (i’m not a crust person)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’ve been watching Four Weddings & a Funeral (Mindy Kaling’s new version on Hulu) and I’ve surprised myself with how much I enjoy it. It’s an easy-watch with likable characters and I’m always waiting anxiously for each Wednesday when a new episode drops!
    Something you’re looking forward to: cooler temps, wearing sweaters and jeans every day, drinking hot lattes in the morning, seeing a concert I’ve got tickets for in October and watching the Emmy’s in a few weeks (I love awards season!)
    What’s worrying you: I own my own business and feel like I’m never NOT worried about finances and finding/keeping good employees. I’ve also got a strained abductor in my left leg (running injury) that’s keeping me pretty immobile and it’s a huge bummer that I want to get resolved asap.
    Your childhood nickname: I never had one and was always deeply envious of people who did. I tried to make up a cool nickname for myself (AJ – a combination of the first initial of my middle name and my mom’s middle name, which I realize now was really far-reaching and made no sense… I just wanted it to stick so badly. I think my dad called me AJ for about a week, which was awfully kind of him to humor me). I love giving nicknames to friends now. I find it so endearing.

  81. synapse says...

    How fun :)
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate mousse; ice cream

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: TV show – La casa de papel; mindhunter; Movie – Once upon a time in hollywood

    Something you’re looking forward to: end-september vacation (2 weeks still without plans – any recommendations?)

    What’s worrying you: parents’ health + too much work and too little time

    Your childhood nickname: cris, still ongoing (i’m 36); cassiopeia as an online nickname

    • Kaitlin says...

      Not sure where you’re starting from, but Ottawa and Quebec are really beautiful at that time of year! Have fun.

  82. Taylor says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate Cake with Raspberry Sauce
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Schitt’s Creek – I was late to the game but man I’ve never connected more with a character than Moira
    Something you’re looking forward to: Maybe falling in love this Fall
    What’s worrying you: Maybe falling in love this Fall
    Your childhood nickname: Tay

  83. Alexis says...

    Thanks for asking Jo!

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate chip cookie (does that count as a dessert?)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I Owe You One, by: Sophie Kinsella
    Something you’re looking forward to: the Christmas season!
    What’s worrying you: my cousins’ 8 year old son’s cancer is terminal. I don’t even know how to talk to my cousin and his wife anymore. what can I possibly say?
    Your childhood nickname: Chunky Soup (I hated it)

    • Jo says...

      Alexis: I cannot imagine the anguish of your cousin’s family, and your worry. Tell them you don’t know what to say, and you wish you did. You will never regret fumbling over words, trying your best, giving any random moment of time/gift/or thing that you can…
      I listen to the podcast “Everything Happens” with Kate Bowler. I highly recommend this and her book and her website. xo

  84. Joslyn says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Ice cream. My husband and I agree that when asking someone a favorite food, it automatically means “well, besides ice cream” :)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
    Book: Pachinko. What a sweeping and engaging narrative.
    TV show: Fleabag Season 2. I agree with everything ever said about how this is the most perfect season of a show. It completely enthralled, humored, and devastated me.
    Movie: Eight Grade. I sobbed my way through it, I watch movies so differently now as a mother. I found the tenderhearted protagonist so endearing and I wanted to wrap my arms around the screen and hold this movie for a long breath.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Moving to Germany with my children so they can experience life abroad and give me a much needed break from the current news cycle.
    What’s worrying you: Moving to Germany with my children and whether it will completely throw them off balance.
    Your childhood nickname: Muggins

    Thank you so much for these questions and the opportunity to engage. I hope everything is going well with you and your boys as they navigate a new school year. You do an amazing job raising such wonderful young ones and are such an inspiration (I’ve been recently using your sage advice of getting down on the same level as my little ones first thing in the morning to play with them and it has helped reduce the number of meltdowns. thank you.)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you so much for your lovely note. yes! that tip about playing on the floor with kids has helped us so much through the years:
      https://cupofjo.com/2016/09/how-to-stop-tantrums/

      so glad it worked for you, too!

  85. Lauren says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Banana pudding.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’ve been a Jane the Virgin fan from the beginning, and I’ve been saving the final episode for a special day. Next up: Fleabag.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall! I’m a fall person too.
    What’s worrying you: My first baby is on the verge of crawling, and I know she’ll be getting into everything soon! We really need to babyproof!
    Your childhood nickname: Lulu

  86. Marie says...

    A dessert I’ll never refuse: almond milk gelato

    A book I enjoyed recently: I am currently re-reading A Prayer for Owen Meany

    Something I’m looking forward to: cooler weather (and a less sweaty commute!)

    What’s worrying me: succeeding in my new job

  87. Alison says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Reese’s Peanut Butter cups
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: American Predator by Maureen Callahan- so terrifying but SO well written!
    Something you’re looking forward to: A fresh start with a new school year-with kids it’s nice to take advantage of a clean slate along with them for the start of a new shool year!
    What’s worrying you: Such a thoughtful gesture of handing someone your stress! My sister moved to Seattle last year (I am in New England) and I thought it would get easier with time but it’s been so so so sad.
    Your childhood nickname: Ali

  88. Sophie says...

    my children (8 and 3) are also obsessed with Mamma Mia II Here We Go Again and I’m glad they’re not alone! We were in the car the other day and a Paul McCartney song came on, and my 3yo daughter asked, “… is this mamma mia’s grandma?”

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahaha so classic!

  89. MARINA says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: ICE CREAM

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Gilmore Girls (I always enjoy)

    Something you’re looking forward to: Christmas!!!

    What’s worrying you: The process of my divorce

    Your childhood nickname: Ininha

  90. Nicky Busch says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: tarte tatin
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: A Little Life
    Something you’re looking forward to: Next summer!
    What’s worrying you: My son who is autistic has started secondary school. So many worries!
    Your childhood nickname: Busch Eggs

    • Clare Agra says...

      Sending love to you & your son as he starts secondary school! I’m sure there will be many tough situations along the way but I hope the good heavily outweighs the bad! <3

  91. A dessert you’ll never refuse: Key lime pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Durells in Corfu
    Something you’re looking forward to: Going to the Maryland Renaissance Festival – again!
    What’s worrying you: Making the right next-step decisions
    Your childhood nickname: Linna

  92. Theresa says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: fried ice-cream (by a now-closed restaurant called Marco Polo).

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: haven’t read a book full-on in ages. For TV shows, I really enjoyed Brotherhood (though it got cancelled after one season). And for movies, I liked Jerry MaGuire (finally got ’round to seeing it!).

    Something you’re looking forward to: my ankle healing, more (thrilling) writing assignments at work, Independence weekend in 2 weeks (might stay a night at a hotel with a friend).

    What’s worrying you: my left ankle (sustained a high ankle injury 2 months ago and it’s been a slow recovery), my sexual health (started sorta ‘seeing’ someone new and he’s on the more experienced side), finances (of course), my emotional immaturity, whether I can actually adult well.

    Your childhood nickname: Samim (short for my ‘village name’)

  93. Amy says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: (I have to pick one?!) Chocolate mousse
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Barry with Bill Hader
    Something you’re looking forward to: My sister visits in 6 weeks! I can’t wait to squeeze hug her.
    What’s worrying you: My husband has a job interview on Thursday. He’s fully capable of the job but I worry about what might happen if he doesn’t get the job.
    Your childhood nickname: Amy Baby, Face, Ames, AJ

  94. A dessert you’ll never refuse: peach cobbler
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: enjoying “Three Women” and “Mind Hunter”
    Something you’re looking forward to: Going to the Ohana Festival this month
    What’s worrying you: I worry daily about the information that crosses my twitter feed and society’s lack of empathy.
    Your childhood nickname: Princess by my mother and Pretzel by my three brothers…because brothers.

  95. Allie says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Jeni’s Brambleberry Crisp Ice Cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Gilmore Girls makes my heart happy
    Something you’re looking forward to: Headed to the local Irish pub for Shepherd’s Pie on the first cool Fall weekend – a family tradition
    What’s worrying you: Not living up to perceived expectations at work, long term financial situation, mother who lives alone in another state
    Your childhood nickname: AllieGator

  96. Clare Agra says...

    Dessert you’ll never refuse: Any combo of chocolate & peanut butter

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Poso Wells – a fantastic book by a majorly up & coming author from South America

    Something you’re looking forward to: Hopefully having a kid before my dad loses all mental function.

    What’s worrying you: My dad was diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia yesterday.

    Your childhood nickname: Clare Bear

    • Jeanette says...

      Clare, I work with older adults with all kinds of neurological diseases (and my mom has one too). It can be a frustrating and heartbreaking journey. Sending you all the light and courage as you walk this path. Lbda.org is a good starting place for info and support if you haven’t stumbled on it yet.

      Your dad is lucky to have you.

  97. Anna says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: apple crisp
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Educated / Fleabag / The Farewell
    Something you’re looking forward to: fall in New England and apple picking
    What’s worrying you: surviving my first semester of law school
    Your childhood nickname: BooBoo (as in Yogi Bear’s friend)

  98. Mel says...

    There are currently 875 comments. Makes me feel like perhaps we’re all just dying for someone to ask us how we’re doing, what’s on our mind, and how we really feel. Thanks Cup of Jo for not only pushing wonderful content, but asking about us on the other side of the computer/phone too. You’re all the best.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      <3 <3 <3

    • jdp says...

      i was thinking the same thing. give me your stress! right now, that’s a lot. thanks for taking it, cup of jo!
      ps
      dessert: tiramisu
      movie: just rewatched you can count on me. young mark ruffalo! [kisses fingers.]
      looking forward to: starting to educate my now-9-year old in comedy. he’s old enough that we watch john mulaney together, and my husband and i have been seriously debating the vintage shows, skits, and movies that make up comedy 101 for a fourth grader. suggestions? laughter has become a way to fight…
      what’s worrying me: the fact that our leader is everything we try to teach our kids not to be, and that no one at the smartest, highest levels seems to be able to do a thing about it.
      childhood nickname: i’d rather not say. not all of them were flattering. ;)

  99. Janet says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Tiramisu
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The new Dark Crystal prequel series on Netflix! One of my favorite 80s childhood movies that hardly anyone has heard of. It’s kinda dark, but I smile the whole time through each episode :) Chamberlain’s whimper is creepiness gold!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Family rip to Great Smoky Mountains National Park
    What’s worrying you: Money, what else?
    Your childhood nickname: JB (Janet Baby)

  100. Chrissy says...

    Dessert: A buttery authentic French croissant

    Book, TV show or movie: Maybe you should talk to someone

    Something you’re looking forward to: my honeymoon first, then my wedding ;)

    What’s worrying you: not having the intimate friendships I crave/feeling lonely; my career—not sure where I’m headed or what I want to do; desire to make more money

    Your childhood nickname: xtine

  101. Jillian says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Sugar cream pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: A Place for Us
    Something you’re looking forward to: dressing my kids up for Halloween
    What’s worrying you: my sibling, who is mentally ill
    Your childhood nickname: Bubble

    • Isabelle says...

      A dessert you’ll never refuse: a piece of good dark chocolate
      A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Flebag! Got through most of the two seasons on two recent flights (I don’t have Amazon prime so I hadn’t watched it yet). SO SO good. Now I need to find a way to finish it…
      Something you’re looking forward to: the weekend!
      What’s worrying you: I’m applying for a new job and there is a lot of uncertainty around that.
      Your childhood nickname: Belle

  102. Eliot says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: cookies and cream ice cream

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I read Tara Westover’s Educated: A Memoir in one day over the summer. It was phenomenal. Also, my boyfriend recently introduced me to Seinfeld’s Comedians in Cars (I knew it existed but had never watched it) and it’s amazing.

    Something you’re looking forward to: Hopefully getting to visit my family for a few days for my birthday next month!

    What’s worrying you: I started my Ph.D. this week. Even though I realize I’ve earned my spot here, I’m so worried that I’m going to disappoint the professors who supported my admission, disappoint the professors from my masters program who wrote my recommendation letters, disappoint my family who are so astoundingly support I can’t even believe it, etc. I’m also worried that my relatively new boyfriend (even though we’ve known each other peripherally for our entire lives) is going to realize that I’m not worth the effort to have a relationship with because I live on the east coast and he’s in Texas. Fingers crossed that this stress subsides soon. Thank you for giving us a place to voice it!

    Your childhood nickname: Smel (originally Smeliot)

  103. Connie C. says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Cheesecake

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The book The Silent Patient. The ending. Wow

    Something you’re looking forward to: Cooler fall temperatures

    What’s worrying you: Work-related stuff

    Your childhood nickname: Not sure I had one lol. One of my employees calls me Boss Lady which makes me laugh.

  104. Lindsey says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: brownies, man I love brownies

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’ve been reading Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb. Funny, sad, endearing. A show I love is Workin’ Moms on Netflix. I feel like it does a good job of portraying the joy, anxiety, reward and hardships of being a busy working mother.

    Something you’re looking forward to: I’m going to a concert with my husband tomorrow, it’s our first date in a long time :) I’m also looking forward to the leaves changing colors. Where I live I can already feel fall in the air and I love it.

    What’s worrying you: gun violence… I went to see a musical last weekend and all I could think about was the best escape route through all the people and seats. It makes me so sad and very angry that I have these thoughts at a place where I should be enjoying a show. I also worry about my daughter going to school in our new age of school shootings.

    Your childhood nickname: Lou, Lindsey Lou

    • D says...

      I can relate to your fear. I found myself searching for bullet proof backpacks last week. My daughter is one. It’s crazy and sad and I am terrified for the future. It’s hard for me to go into a public place without having at least one small thought about a shooting taking place and/or what my escape route would look like if one did happen. I am praying that the 2020 president election will bring us someone who protects us from the senseless violence happening daily.

  105. Rita says...

    dessert you’ll never refuse: peanut Butters cups
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: any of Alice Munro
    Something you’re looking forward to: the end of september
    What’s worrying you: the end of september has I have to finish my master thesis
    Your childhood nickname: ri

  106. [A dessert you’ll never refuse] Soft-serve vanilla ice cream.
    [A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently] Currently tearing through and greatly enjoying the 800-page epic The Mists of Avalon. I’m at about the halfway point now.
    [Something you’re looking forward to] Making this year’s Halloween costume. I treat it as a fun opportunity to cosplay since I don’t really go to anime or gaming cons. In years past I’ve been Furiosa from Mad Max: Fury Road, Utena from Revolutionary Girl Utena and Army of Darkness-era Ash. This year I think I’ll be my character from the Final Fantasy 14 MMORPG.
    [What’s worrying you] The lead water crisis in Newark, NJ, where I live! I’m in the East Ward, which was supposed to be unaffected, but local and state government has been … less than forthcoming over these past two years, and reports have been emerging that the problem is much more widespread than officials want to admit. I also was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s lymphoma in the spring and have been undergoing chemotherapy, and to think that I could have lead poisoning on top of that is very stressful! I just installed an under-sink water filter that’s certified to remove 99% of lead, but I hope it’s not too little too late.
    [Your childhood nickname] Gracie. My mom also called me Mairzy Doats (mares eat oats) from the old ’40s song. Still calls me that, actually :)

    • Deana says...

      I love the Mists of Avalon! A friend gave me that book years ago and it wasn’t something I’d have picked out myself. And kudos for your costume creativity! Best wishes.

  107. Kait says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate chip cookie cake. It’s not sophisticated, but I cannot resist.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: F1 on Netflix. Formula 1 racing is no Nascar, it’s fancy AF. I’ve now added going to an F1 race on my bucket list.

    Something you’re looking forward to: Going to Jackson, WY in late September. I cannot wait to see my three-year-old daughter’s face when she sees the mountains she’s been talking about every night. She says things like “I’ve never dreamed of this before!” when we go thru a Chickfila, so I’m excited to see her take in natural wonders.

    What’s worrying you: Gun violence. I’m not even just for small changes like background checks, red flag laws, etc…I wish we could burn up every gun in the world or go back in time and tell the guy who invented guns what it was going to turn into.

    Your childhood nickname: Tyka Marie

  108. Gitte says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: My grandmother’s Mango Brûlée
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’ve just read Circe, and I can’t stop thinking about it.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Finally seeing a light at the end of the tunnel financially. We’ve been crushed by crazy London Childcare prices for so long, and we’re finally entitled to a bit of relief.
    What’s worrying you:
    Your childhood nickname:

    • Gitte says...

      Didn’t finish that!
      What’s worrying you: I’m not sure what to do about my job situation.
      Your Childhood nickname: Bicci

  109. Caitlin aka Caity Cakes says...

    i LOVE these:)

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: creme brûlée – it’s so light that even if you’re completely full, can still squeeze in a few bites!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Jane the Virgin – just discovered and it’s the perfect escapist TV show.
    Something you’re looking forward to: FALL! even though I love summer, there’s nothing like that crisp New England fall area rolling in with a lit pumpkin candle :)
    What’s worrying you: my pregnancy, still even at 15 weeks, I’m completely nervous that things are going right.
    Your childhood nickname: caity cakes (from my mom and sister)

  110. K says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: creme brulee
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: GLOW, Workin Moms, Resin by Ane Riel
    Something you’re looking forward to: holiday in Majorca in a few weeks!
    What’s worrying you: facing a massive restructure at work and not sure what will happen to my job, my two year old being a bully at nursery and not sure how to help him control his anger, BREXIT.
    Your childhood nickname: Berries

  111. Julie says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Pistachio gelato
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Book-The Dry, by Jane Harper. TV-I recently got into Bojack Horseman, it’s so funny and devastating. Movie-I saw Ready or Not by myself at the theater and it was a BLAST.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Planning next year’s trip to Jamaica.
    What’s worrying you: How my mom will be tomorrow night and Friday, my grandmother passed away on Sunday and it’s going to be so hard to watch my family mourn together.
    Your childhood nickname: Jules, Gool

    • Mims says...

      I’m a Julie too, and was called Jules as a kid, but go by another nickname now. . And really hoping one Julie to another, that your grandmothers funeral is a beautiful, graceful, shining tribute to her and that your family has a chance to mourn and celebrate her.

    • Jules says...

      Thank you for your kind words!

  112. Sarah says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: brownies – the fudgier the better!

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: A reread of my favorite book as a kid – The Two Princess of Bamarre. Still such a good read and interesting to get a look into my childhood reading preferences.

    Something you’re looking forward to: Cool weather to don my fall uniform of long cardigans once more.

    What’s worrying you: Constantly feeling inadequate in my job – being 10 years younger than everyone else and the only female in my group has given me quite the dose of imposter syndrome lately.

    Your childhood nickname: Sissy – lovingly given to me by my younger brother

  113. Debbie P. says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Cheesecake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: It’s Not Supposed To Be This Way by Lysa Terkeurst
    Something you’re looking forward to: A week of vacation…someday
    What’s worrying you: Learning to navigate single life after 36 years of marriage
    Your childhood nickname: Debbie-doo

  114. Fudgy brownies, slightly underdone and nice and gooey

    Rereading one of my guilty pleasure books — “Sweet Dreams” by Kristen Ashley (a cheesy romance, but it’s about fresh starts, learning to love yourself, and being brave)

    Fall — sweater weather, hot apple cider, bonfires, that crisp nip to the air

    Moving back to my hometown and buying a new (old) house, hopefully a charming Tudor or storybook home with a cozy home office

    Jo

  115. Megan says...

    Dessert: Second the commenter on ice cream/gelato with funky flavors e.g. oak!
    Show: DERRY GIRLS like others have said, I just have all the feels for this show. Aunt Sarah, I’m dying. . .gonna rewatch all of them ASAP.
    Looking forward: Moving into a new place!
    Worry: My husband and I have been circling the to be or not to be parents question for so long, it’s getting to the point that we absolutely have to make a decision and it’s so tough (I’m almost 39)
    Nickname: Megsidoodle. Even though my aunt called me that this week (see comment about being almost 39. . .)

  116. Brittni S. says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Brownie, oh or pie of any sort, or creme brulee, of course a chocolate chip cookie – basically any dessert

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Nickel Boys and The Alice Network

    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall crispness and everything it brings – cozy nights, family gathered around football games, my nephew due to arrive in late October, trick or treating with my two-year-old. I love the shift in the seasons and the anticipation of each.

    What’s worrying you: I woke up with a lot of anxiety this morning, like there’s something hanging over my head, something to be concerned about. I’m not sure there is and I’m working through that feeling.

    Your childhood nickname: Beej and Brittni Jean Jean

  117. Sherrie says...

    Ice cream, anyway in any iteration.

    Do not miss “Blinded by the Light” – a wonderfully uplifting and enjoyable film.

    Looking forward to the end of Hurricane Dorian – I live in Jacksonville and she has consumer our lives for 9 days now.

    I worry for the Bahamians and am anxious to begin volunteering and helping the Coast Guard and Red cross gather supplies to bring to the destroyed islands.

  118. Jennifer says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: cake, with really good meringue buttercream frosting
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Bookshop (movie)
    Something you’re looking forward to: a trip to Scotland in October with my husband!
    What’s worrying you: will we ever be able to retire? Will we be too old to enjoy it if we do?
    Your childhood nickname: JJ

  119. Jo says...

    I’ve been struck as I read this again and browse so many thoughtful comments… how many of you – of us – are worried and hurting. It reminds me again we are all in this tricky, messy life, doing our best… and to offer kindness and spread simple love (& perhaps desert!) will likely affect another who is just like us: hoping for a small bit of relief from the worry we carry. xo

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      what a beautiful comment. thank you so much, jo. <3

  120. Maranda says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Brownies! Closely followed by pineapple upside down cake.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Erotic Stories for Punjabi Widows (book), Four Weddings and a Funeral (show), Otherhood (movie)
    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall weather, my honeymoon and the holiday’s, being almost done with half marathon training and returning to a more chill running schedule
    What’s worrying you: Climate change. I think about it probably more than what is healthy.
    Your childhood nickname: None, although I remember desperately trying to make Randi work!

  121. Marianne says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Tiramisu
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Everything I know about Love by Dolly Alderton. Also, shout out to ‘The Guilty Feminist’ podcast.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Family weekend in October with the world’s best aunts, uncles, and cousins.
    What’s worrying you: Being in my mid-30s and not knowing if I’ll be single forever.
    Your childhood nickname: Mouse

  122. Kelley says...

    1. Dessert: Chocolate anything, fruit crisps, or really good bread pudding (Blue Ribbon Bakery’s especially!)

    2. Book: Eleanor Oliphant by Gail Honeyman, and All the Light You Cannot See by Anthony Doer. TV Show: Los Espookys

    3. Fall in general

    4. Deadlines! I’m gradually getting back to work after having a baby who’s still home with me, and he’s not what I’d call a great napper.

    5. Kel-Bel

  123. talia says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Coconut cream pie (preferably my Mom’s recipe!)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: book – Daisy Jones and The Six, TV: Schitt’s Creek (so funny!)
    Something you’re looking forward to: my nephew’s wedding, going out of town for my anniversary
    What’s worrying you: my marriage
    Your childhood nickname:

  124. A dessert you’ll never refuse: Ile Flottante
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Where the Crawdads Sing
    Something you’re looking forward to: A summer-send off swim in Georgian Bay this weekend
    What’s worrying you: Trying to get pregnant (I wouldn’t say it’s a worry quite yet, we’re only on our second month of trying – but it’s such a significant life change that you are waiting to find out about… it’s on my mind constantly)
    Your childhood nickname: Kimbo slice

  125. Anne says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Warm chocolate chip cookies
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Food That Built America. Did you know that Jell-O entered the market calling itself “America’s favorite dessert?”
    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall! Crunchy leaves, hot drinks, crisp days, cozy sweaters…
    What’s worrying you: Death. A friend told me when I was pregnant that he remembered thinking about death a lot when his kids were little. The realization that you’re ushering in a new generation, that they’ll outlive you, that you want to be around to protect and enjoy them for as long as possible, that the world is a uniquely amazing and beautiful place. It’s one of the truest things anyone ever told me about having kids. I’m so grateful he was brave enough to say it it loud. At least I know I’m not alone.
    Your childhood nickname: Twink

  126. Maggie says...

    Dessert: We recently had Hetty McKinnon’s olive oil cake recently featured on CoJ, and oh man, it was insanely good, I could not stay away. Recommend doing the lemon one instead of orange, perfect not-too-sweet summer cake. In the winter, it’s anything with fudgy dark chocolate or an apple cider with Woodford Reserve.

    Show: I know I am behind, but I just binged the TV show Friday Night Lights and holy Tim Riggins! It’s basically a soap opera with teenagers and Texas accents. So good. Especially during football season.

    Looking forward to: Family visiting! I am a diplomat in Africa, and it’s a really fun life but sometimes I just ache for home. I am thrilled to get to share this place that I love with family over the holidays.

    Worry: Climate change, my son’s speech, guns, my husband’s employment, an upcoming promotion. Honestly though, we just got back from a long camping trip and it made me feel so wonderfully small and insignificant, and so relieved and able to let things go. Nature is big, the world will keep spinning, just get some sleep and figure out what’s for dinner.

    Nickname: Magster or Maggie-Chan (I was born in Japan :)

    • Colleen says...

      “…just get some sleep and figure out what’s for dinner.”

      Words to live by. Thanks, Maggie :)

  127. mk says...

    Anything with caramel
    On Becoming a God in Central Florida – Showtime – Kirsten Dunst is amazing!
    Seeing Phoebe Waller-Bridge’s one woman show at the movie theater
    Our government, climate change, mass shootings ugh….
    Munchkin

  128. Mary says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: My mother’s lemon meringue pie (from scratch).
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Educated by Tara Westover
    Something you’re looking forward to: Autumn and the Harvest Moon
    What’s worrying you: The fact that I’ve come to a place in my heart where I know I need to find a new job, and the idea of changing careers in my mid-40s is frightening to me.
    Your childhood nickname: Bird (and it still is)

  129. Valerie says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Tiramisu
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Peaky blinders Season 5 is back and I can’t wait to watch it!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Getting married this saturday, rain or shine!
    What’s worrying you: The dinner at our wedding.
    Your childhood nickname: Lalli

    • Alla says...

      Congratulations Valerie on your upcoming wedding! May it be everything you imagine and more!!

  130. Jessica Melindy says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: not a dessert but at every potluck when it becomes dessert time I just go back for more taco dip.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Less by Andrew Sean Greer
    Something you’re looking forward to: celebrating birthdays with my bestie – our birthdays are 6 days apart and so we become the same age for a short time. We’re saying it’s like the lunar eclipse!
    What’s worrying you: Last week someone tried to break into our home. I had been feeling so safe, but now I am resisting paranoia and being ultra careful.
    Your childhood nickname: It’s embarrassing. “Cooch”. My Dad called me this and never once thought it meant “a women’s genitals” (like a quick google search will tell you) and I believe him! But still, c’mon Dad.

  131. IC says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: anything sweet with chocolate
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Working Moms on Netflix.
    Something you’re looking forward to: decorating our house for Halloween and making the decorations ourselves with my 3 year old
    What’s worrying you: politicians who seem unable to take action to make people’ lives better. In lots of countries, my own to start with (Belgium)
    Your childhood nickname: Blondie

  132. Annie says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Persimmon Pudding!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Book: Stay Sexy and Don’t Get Murdered
    Something you’re looking forward to: getting married in 255 days!!
    What’s worrying you: Getting through the first holiday season since my Momma passed
    Your childhood nickname: I was always smaller than everyone else so my Dad ironically called me Biggin’!

  133. Chloe says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Tiramisu! Always

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Sweet Sorrow by David Nicholls. Not as epic as One Day, but a lovely summery read about first love that will make you so nostalgic.

    Something you’re looking forward to: Spending two weeks with my family who live thousands of miles away.

    What’s worrying you: A work presentation next week – yuck.

    Your childhood nickname: Clo Clo

  134. Mina says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: These ridiculously easy and delish brownie cups https://www.butterbaking.com/2012/01/25/easy-nutella-brownie-cups/
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Derry Girls
    Something you’re looking forward to: the end of the busy period at work
    What’s worrying you: the busy period at work

  135. Love this, makes me think of filling out online surveys as a teenager :)

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: anything chocolate (and please don’t try and pass off fruit as dessert)

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: book – City of Girls by Elizabeth Gilbert; shows – Fleabag (who didn’t?) and Derry Girls (on Netflix!)

    Something you’re looking forward to: My birthday is next week! Currently on maternity leave so thinking about reaching out to friends who are also home with kids to go out for lunch. Feels funny sometimes to initiate for myself on my birthday, but I know if I don’t I’ll end up at home with the baby all day!

    What’s worrying you: Currently looking for a nanny for the baby for when I go back to work in a few weeks. I’m not sure what the whole interview process should look like, or how to make sure we find someone we trust! (We live internationally so there are cultural differences at play too!) Time is running out a bit, too…

    Your childhood nickname: Carrie! We moved to England the month before I turned 6, and I announced to my family that I would be going by Carrie now right around that time. We lived there for three years, but still the friends we had there refer to me as Carrie. No one else from any other eras of my life call me that :)

  136. Jade says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Anything with chocolate & raspberries combined!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Obviously Fleabag (seeing the live play next week!!) And Peaky Blinders just started in the UK again which as always, is incredible. Lost my reading mojo a bit so the bedside stack is growing!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Having a baby girl in the next 11 weeks
    What’s worrying you: Having a baby girl in the next 11 weeks
    Your childhood nickname: I’ve never had a nickname! Tragic!

  137. Valine Tjitra says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: ICE CREAM!!!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Fleabag, MI Fallout
    Something you’re looking forward to: 30th birthday
    What’s worrying you: Trying to figure out life, when I know it’s in vain
    Your childhood nickname: Mei

    Thanks jo!

  138. A dessert you’ll never refuse: Ice cream!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Have gotten stuck into Derry Girls very recently and it’s so ridiculously fun and nineties.
    Something you’re looking forward to: I’ve signed up to be an RSPCA volunteer and on Saturday I’m attending puppy socialising training and I’m hoping to squeeze some baby dogs.
    What’s worrying you: I can’t seem to stop myself scrolling through instagram and looking people up on linkedin just to compare myself to them, even I though I *know* it’s unhealthy. I’m also worried about how much screen time I currently accumulate and am trying to find other ideas to spend my free time more meaningfully.
    Your childhood nickname: Joycey

  139. Jane says...

    1. Anything apple-based
    2. The Interestings by Meg Wolitzer
    3. Seeing my 2 y.o. nephew after work tomorrow
    4. Like Fleabag, losing the currency of youth!
    5. N/A, always been Jane

  140. Clare says...

    Dessert:
    A great apple crumble with ice cream.
    Show;
    Dead to Me. Never wanted it to end, just so hilarious and smart and female driven!
    Looking forward to:
    Wedding we have tonight in Lisbon that we flew from Melbourne for. Loving the warm European nights and tapas and Portuguese tarts!
    Worry:
    My baby’s likely surgery in a few months. We have just had a glorious holiday and the sunshine and baby time was so needed before what may be to come.
    Nickname: Mossy

  141. Gaby says...

    A dessert I will never refuse: banana pudding from scratch
    A good book: The Lilac Girls
    Something I look forward to: a bit of time alone
    Something worrying me: relationship

  142. Kate says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Most! I love homemade pie, good brownies, and dark chocolate with sea salt.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: All that You Leave Behind by Erin Lee Carr & Gilmore Girls for the millionth time (it’s my comfort “food”)
    Something you’re looking forward to: fall-cozy sweaters, warm drinks, leaves, soup, crisp mornings
    What’s worrying you: my fiancée died in November. The closer we get to that one year, the more intense my anxiety gets.
    Your childhood nickname: Katie Becca

  143. Ali says...

    Oh wow, I was feeling so bummed today about how hard its been to find a new job, this post is just lovely! Made me tear up, remembering that people all over the place, whether they know you or not, are for you and want you to be ok. A big thanks from me.

  144. Lisa B says...

    Love blood orange sorbet.
    I have been reading biographies about Farrah Fawcett. My sister just survived a treacherous 4-month battle with stage 3 anal cancer (please vaccinate your young daughters!) and I have been reading about people who were also striken with it.
    Excited to defend my dissertation in 2 weeks (at age 51) and earn my PhD in Oct.
    Worried about said dissertation defense…and about my 17 y.o. niece. She has struggled emotionally with her mom’s illness and other teenage angst…not easy to be 17 these days.
    No nickname…maybe Leese

  145. Anna says...

    1. All kinds of dessert (super sweet tooth here!)
    2. Money Heist
    3. a trip to Japan (fingers crossed for the visa approval!!)
    4. My career path.
    5. Tweetums

  146. Kristiana says...

    I can never seem to refuse dark chocolate covered almonds, cashews, or pecans. SO GOOD all the time!
    I just finished a book called The Great Alone by Kristin Hannah… phenomenal novel set in Alaska after the Vietnam war.
    Looking forward too…. autumn in Chicago !
    Worrying about some finances and how everything is going to be okay. Big needs this year financially and am in school, everything is fine. But I just get anxious.
    I called broccoli “little trees” when I was young… unfortunately my uncle was around and hence took up to calling me broccoli until oh…. last year? I’m in my mid 20s now.

  147. Klara says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate moelleux with a scoop of vanilla ice cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: the latest “Seven Sisters” book, and aha-provoking “Come as you are”; and I can’t wait to catch up on Big Little Lies 2!
    Something you’re looking forward to: pumpkin-everything, the Downton Abbey movie
    What’s worrying you: past weekend, I ritually burned all my worries (4 pages of them…) because they were keeping me up all night for so long already; the biggest ones being the climate crisis and how it’s not being handled + trying to get pregnant for almost 2 years (and no doubt the link between the two)
    Your childhood nickname: marmot

  148. Anna says...

    1. Refuse? Dessert?
    2. Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado-Perez
    3. Baking my first ever sourdough loaf this week
    4. Whether or not my partner’s dad’s brain tumour is benign
    5. Never had one!

  149. A dessert you’ll never refuse: any kind of pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Mindhunter and Parks and recreations.
    Something you’re looking forward to: wedding of my cousin, fall is coming, knitting and baking/cooking comfort food.
    What’s worrying you: too much stress at work and our finance situation.
    Your childhood nickname: Mišulka

  150. Marta says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Ice cream, chocolate, cannoli

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Derry girls (Tv show), The Handmaid’s Tale season 3, Yesterday (movie), Becoming by Michelle Obama, Elena Ferrant (love the series except the last one book)

    Something you’re looking forward to: Gateaway in Lisboa and Porto with hubby (eat pasteis de nata, everything without kids); creative writing class, the end of 2 weeks intensive period of work and family stuff

    What’s worrying you: Climate crisis, using too much plastic in daily life, not being good enough mother, politics in my country, my health; how to organize cool bachelorette party that’s fun, not tacky, not too organized and will provide good time for 15 women I barely know

    Your childhood nickname: Pysiulek