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How Are You Doing?

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Welcome back! I’d love to catch up and to hear how things are going with you. If you’re up for it, here’s a little pop quiz:

A dessert you’ll never refuse:
A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
Something you’re looking forward to:
What’s worrying you:
Your childhood nickname:

Once when I was having a hard time, my friend Lina asked me what was wrong and waved her arms toward herself and said, “Hand me your stress.” It was the kindest gesture, I’ll never forget it how it felt. So, if you have something on your mind, send it my way; I’d be glad to take some of that weight off your shoulders.

People are often bummed about summer ending, but I have to say, fall has always been my favorite season. I love the smell of apple crisp and how people look inexplicably attractive in windbreakers. Plus, the anticipation of Halloweeeeeeen! (Toby wants me to go as Cher from Mamma Mia, haha.) “Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower,” said Albert Camus.

Storm King

Thank you so much for being here. Sending so much love your way. xoxo

P.S. My twin sister’s home makeover, 14 things to do with friends (other than dinner) and a B.J. Novak interview that still makes me laugh.

(Top photo by J Danielle Wehunt/Stocksy. Bottom photo from Storm King Art Center.)

  1. Lisa says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: creme brûlée
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: book – sapiens by yuval Noah hariri, tv show – shtisel!!!, movie – once upon a time in Hollywood. So much so. I won’t say why to give away the ending but I walked out beaming
    Something you’re looking forward to: holiday in November! Rosh hashana at my in laws!
    What’s worrying you: WORK. I hve so much going on, so much stress and pressure I literally don’t know how I’ll manage. What the fuck is going on with the government right now (I live in the UK). I mean for real
    My 3 year old. He is super clingy and wants to be with me all the time, but I work FT and we have a baby girl as well. I’m hoping it’s a phase brought in by going back to nursery, his grandparents visiting and then going home
    Your childhood nickname: punk

  2. El Bzy says...

    Welcome back!
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Reese’s peanut butter cups! I knooow, it’s so basic..ally Awesome!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Pose..season 2. I was nerve-wracked and ready for the worst, but it held together and didn’t break my heart.
    Something you’re looking forward to: My dear friend’s wedding in December. Maid of honor people!
    What’s worrying you: The Xenophobia crisis in South Africa
    Your childhood nickname: so many.. Elmer Fudd/Hong kong phooey/Nosepoleon/Bong xi fu/ Fongsai… There were a lot more I refuse to acknowledge too!

  3. A dessert you’ll never refuse: Warm brownie with ice cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Good Fight, Root of Evil (podcast)
    Something you’re looking forward to: Family coming to visit from overseas, our 2 year old boy won’t remember having met them previously
    What’s worrying you: So many things! Post natal anxiety ran rampant, slowly learning and growing. Torn about wanting to give my son a sibling and the strain it would put on my relationship/finances/mental health
    Your childhood nickname: Amicus, Ames

    • Nina says...

      Hi Amy,

      My family is going through the same thing right now regarding whether to give my daughter (4 in November) a sibling. I am worried of what it could do to our marriage and my husband’s mental health. My stress levels too and ability to be a good mom. And of course the added financial and environmental burden. So I understand and am sending you a hug.

  4. Ceridwen says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: My brother’s Apple Tarte Tatin! So, so delicious and he always look so calm and joyful when he makes it makes everyone who eats it feel that way too.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: City of Girls, Normal People, latest season Orange is the new black (heartbreaking).
    Something you’re looking forward to: Spring holidays and staying in a little cottage by the sea. We’ve had so much illness I’m really looking forward to the salve that is the sea in spring.
    What’s worrying you: family illness and mean governments. My habit of buying clothes when I’m stressed although I should be saving money and consuming less.
    Your childhood nickname: Gern! My brother couldn’t pronounce my name and it came out as Gern so it stuck.

  5. VVeronika says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: waffels
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: TV show. GLOW
    Something you’re looking forward to: drinking mulled wine on a chilly Sunday afternoon
    What’s worrying you: not getting pregnant
    Your childhood nickname: none :-)

    • N says...

      Yes to buying clothes when stressed but desperately trying to consume less and reduce waste.

  6. M says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: pumpkin pie, sticky date pudding or dark chocolate mousse
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Brittany Runs a Marathon, The Farewell
    Something you’re looking forward to: visiting my family
    What’s worrying you: never being able to get on the housing ladder
    Your childhood nickname: Maxitaxi

  7. Corina Cucutianu says...

    Your blogposts ALWAYS give me the best vibes, no matter the subject of discussion. They have such a wonderful feel and I love the community that you created around this beautiful corner of the internet.
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: anything moist and chocolatey
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Serotonin (book), not tv show but loads of travel vlogs from Europe and not only (I have a few favourite channels on youtube)
    Something you’re looking forward to: fall, the crisp mornings, the rain ( I am much more productive when it is gloomy and rainy), seeing my dog every day when I get home, hot decaffeinated coffee, movie nights, downloading a map of the sky app and going with my hubby in remote places at night looking at the sky and reading about it, long walks in the city, making plans, Dublin this October)
    What’s worrying you: my parents getting older
    Your childhood nickname: Gosling :D

  8. Mary says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: pretty much anything not citrus flavoured. Ha ha!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Aussie tv show The Letdown, Lethal White by Robert Galbraith (JK Rowling)
    Something you’re looking forward to: Autumn! All the cosy food and snuggly clothes
    What’s worrying you: My son starts nursery this week after being with an amazing childminder the last year. He’s growing up so fast!
    Your childhood nickname: Mare Bear

  9. Kate says...

    YES on “hand me your stress!” I found it does just apply to adults.. my 4-year old has recently been really fixated on death/dying and says it’s worrying her.. to the point that she’s been having accidents after being completely potty trained for years. The other day I asked her to let me take on the worry for her , and I think the concept is actually more tangible for a child than an adult. She got it right away and hasn’t brought up death concerns since. <3

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: I don't know that I've ever turned down chocolate cake, and if I had to miss one I'm sure I was quietly outraged – unless it looked dry. Dry cake is also outrageous :-)

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Workin' Moms on Netflix! We recently moved to a new country where the social environment is more polite/conservative. I often tell my husband I miss having fellow crass women around. It is a catharsis that's harder to replicate virtually. All this to say, seeing women interact as they do on Workin' Moms is a salve for the time being.

    Something you’re looking forward to: Taking my older (but still under 5) daughter on a girls' trip (in the absence of nearby crass women we might as well lean towards wholesome).

    Also look forward to finding time to read through the mounds of comments on this post. :)

  10. Jo says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Sticky Toffee Pudding
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Can’t say “enjoyed” exactly, but “When They See Us” was one of the more significant, moving, thought-provoking and deeply disturbing things I have seen recently on tv.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Going on a small family vacation following the end of a conference I am organizing.
    What’s worrying you: My friend has cancer. It is even more complicated because she is in her ninth month of pregnancy. I don’t know how to support her and be there for her. I am doing my best but I have no idea if I am getting it right and I don’t want to overdo it and bother her. On top of this a good mutual friend has been acting strangely, I think she is mad with me. I don’t have the energy to deal with that, or to second guess what I have done to upset her. It upsets me how much this shakes my self-confidence and make me question myself and my actions.
    Your childhood nickname: I don’t think I had one.

  11. Marianne says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: warm chocolate fudge cake with vanilla ice cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Letdown and The Flatshare
    Something you’re looking forward to: being my cousin’s bridesmaid in Portland
    What’s worrying you: the flight to Portland with a 2 year old! And hoping our house sale and house purchase goes through.
    Your childhood nickname: Mazza

  12. Allison says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Tiramisu!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Maurice
    Something you’re looking forward to: Cooler weather, oh my gosh. I need to make some plans this fall so I have something more concrete to look foward to too.
    What’s worrying you: When will I be able to relax?
    Your childhood nickname: I always wanted a nickname but I never did have one!

  13. A dessert you’ll never refuse: syrup songe pudding made by my Mum
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: How Not To Be A Boy by Robert Webb and Community (so late getting into this but I competely love it)
    Something you’re looking forward to: finally going on holiday at the end of September. North Yorkshire coast is breathtaking. Plus, Whitby, home of Dracula!
    What’s worrying you: 3 big projects all about to start at once this autumn
    Your childhood nickname: Didn’t have one but my boyfriend calls me T-sticks, which I kind of love

  14. Vanessa says...

    Thank you very much for giving us this image of support and companionship. The weight of the world is too heavy a load to carry on one’s shoulder alone. I loved reading this today. Thank you so much!
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: ice cream!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Cheerful Weather for the wedding by Julia Strachey (wonderful, wonderful read, like all of Persephone Books titles!!)
    Something you’re looking forward to: putting on my rainboots again!!
    What’s worrying you: I’ve signed myself up for too many work assignments and projects out of fear of not making ends meet and ‘losing momentum’ and now I’m stressed and scared to let people down.
    Your childhood nickname: Sesa

  15. Lauren says...

    Hello!

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Apple Strudel. ESPECIALLY if served with vanilla bean ice cream or creme anglaise.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Normal People by Sally Rooney
    Something you’re looking forward to: Bare legs, the smell of jasmine in the air, an iced latte, days that seem to stretch on forever (it’s a little cold and dark down here at the moment in Melbourne, Australia!).
    What’s worrying you: That I’ve over-committed myself. CAN I PLEASE JUST STAY HOME FOR MORE THAN TWO DAYS STRAIGHT IN MY COMFY CLOTHES AND READ ON THE COUCH?
    Your childhood nickname: Lola

  16. Alice Lin says...

    1. Tiramisu
    2. Three Women by Lisa Taddeo
    3. Fall vacation in October to Cambodia
    4. Exceeding and thriving at work
    5. WaWa

  17. Heather says...

    Oh boy you’ve been missed! It felt like something was missing last week so what a relief to see this today. Welcome back!!

    – Homemade brownie
    – Tv- The Let Down and book – Pachinko
    – Downton Abbey movie and non 100 degree weather
    – We’ve had some unexpected house things that are expensive and not fun – I am up worrying about the money at this very minute! But also – always wondering what the right thing for our family is in terms of my husband working – he’s sort of miserable, but could we swing it financially? Would it make him happy?
    -hae hae

  18. rachel says...

    “..“Hand me your stress.” It was the kindest gesture, I’ll never forget it how it felt. So, if you have something on your mind, send it my way; I’d be glad to take some of that weight off your shoulders”….after another terrible argument with my 7 year old girl last night, these words made me cry. I am a bit broken today. My precious girl whom I adore was still doing those shaky breaths long after she fell asleep in my arms. It was watching a little me shouting back at me. We shouted, we begged, we sobbed. We fell asleep wrapped around each other. She told me I taught her how to shout and argue :-( …..I don’t know how to make it better. We rarely argue but when we do its like 2 firecrackers coming together.

  19. no name says...

    Whew! Thanks for letting me put this out there!
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Per Cup of Jo commenter’s suggestion – I just finished Wise blood narrated by Ruby Dee! So good!
    Something you’re looking forward to: The way all the wood-work in my house smells in the fall
    What’s worrying you: $$$ I am almost done with my PhD – I study how white blood cells track down infections. I have a pile of credit card and student loan debt, two daughters in 8th and 5th grade and am facing a cross-country move. I am so. tired. of the weight of poverty. People think I’m so successful (and I feel so); but what they don’t know is that sometimes I have to skip meals so my kids can eat or I can put gas in my car to get to work. I am looking forward to the next phase and the financial stability it will hopefully bring.
    Childhood Nickname: “Beezer”. My grandpa called me that. I don’t get it; but I love it.

  20. A dessert you’ll never refuse: Donuts ?
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Good Place on Netflix!
    Something you’re looking forward to: My birthday (the 16th!)
    What’s worrying you: health issues ?
    Your childhood nickname: Nothing friendly..

  21. Katrina says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Birthday cake from a boxed mix.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: City of Girls by Elizabeth Gilbert.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Finding out if our baby is a boy or a girl on Thursday!
    What’s worrying you: That there will be a problem with the baby when we have the ultrasound.
    Your childhood nickname: Skittles!

  22. Jen says...

    The strawberry cake from Cup of Jo this summer made with help from my 3 year old.

    Motherless Child by Elizabeth Strout in the New Yorker in August—it has me reflecting every day since on my adult relationship with my own mother.

    I am really looking forward to an annual trip—I take my daughters to Paris for a four day weekend every autumn and it’s almost time:)

    I worry that after being single and living in New York for nine years…that I will never be in a meaningful romantic relationship again.

    My dad called me NikkiNicole from my middle name. It always made me feel super special.

  23. Sara Dill says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: perfectly cooked s’mores (golden marshmallows, I am looking at you!), or rice Krispies.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The great British baking show! Just got into it while laid up after surgery.

    Something you’re looking forward to: being able to rock climb again once my incisions heal.

    What’s worrying you: I had to have emergency surgery last week to remove one of my ovaries due to having spontaneous ovarian torsion and a cyst that caused the organ to die. My lifelong dream has been to be a mom and experience pregnancy, and although I rationally know that having one ovary will *probably* not limit that, I am fearful that something might happen to my remaining ovary or that I will be infertile when that moment in my life comes. I am only 26 and am still single, so I don’t need to worry quite ye about that, but it is so very tough to not be sad for the future I had imagined for myself and the possibility of it not occuring like I dreamed.

    Your childhood nickname: Pickle — hard to not have this nickname when your last name is Dill :)

  24. Marie says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: cheesecake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Broadchurch
    Something you’re looking forward to: colder days
    What’s worrying you: doing well at my job
    Your childhood nickname: Burg

  25. Lulu says...

    Hello everyone, I love these pop quizzes : )

    A dessert you’ll never refuse:
    My mother’s delicious caramel pie with ice cream.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
    ‘Less’ by Andrew Sean Greer.

    Something you’re looking forward to:
    Handing in an assignment for my literature class.

    What’s worrying you:
    Making enough time to complete my assignment well!

    Your childhood nickname:
    ‘Weezie’

  26. Natasha says...

    Dessert: cinnamon ice cream
    Book: Girl in Translation by Jean Kwok
    Looking forward to: taking walks in cooler weather
    Worried about: the terrible 1’s/2’s/3’s with my toddler
    Nickname: Natsy

  27. P. G. says...

    Cannoli
    The White Darkness by David Grann
    Looking forward to seeing Daniel Handler speak this Friday.
    I’m worried about wildfire season. Between fires and floods in my vicinity these past few years, disasters are wearing me OUT.
    Nickname was Blondie growing up. You’d never know it to look at me now!

  28. A says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: My mom’s cherry pie!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Overstory
    Something you’re looking forward to: Crisp and sunny fall days
    What’s worrying me: I am going back to work this week. I had a baby in June, and my maternity leave is ending. My childcare plans fell through, so I am just cobbling it together for now, and I am so sad to leave my dear sweet baby who is as attached to me as I am to her. She seems so content when she is with me and I worry so much about leaving her, when I know what is best for her would be to be with me. I’m grateful for our time together but also bitter that we don’t have longer leave policies here in the USA. I have to work, but I want it all- I wish I could duplicate myself to be everything for everyone. Feeling so spent and sad and hoping hard that I’ll find a great long term childcare solution for my baby, and she (and I) will thrive, despite my worries.
    Your childhood nickname: Annamalil

    • Angela says...

      So, so rough going back to work with a new baby. It is really unfair, and if you are like me and go back at 12 weeks, your babe is starting to smile and coo instead of largely being just a lumpy potato. I’m sure it is all the more stressful with your childcare issues. Why do we have to go back to work so soon AND stress over finding a loving, safe, and affordable place to keep our children? What a mind fuck! However, 4 years later and we are all (twins) thriving. Some days I look forward to Monday and running out the door of daycare- leaving my angels behind! I hope you get there too, mama.

  29. Carolyn says...

    -Creme Brûlée
    -Anything on public television because I can’t stand regular tv anymore
    -Vacationing with friends in upstate New York in October and my 15th half marathon!
    -Starting the IVF process in the fall and balancing the appointments and hormones with a busy new job, traveling husband, worrisome head
    -CJ

  30. Lindsey says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: homemade chocolate chip cookies

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Although it’s not normally my type of book I just read The Shell Seekers and I loved it so much. It was like a long, warm hug.

    Something you’re looking forward to: everything about fall and also reading all the comments on this post.

    What’s worrying you: the state of the union, my mother’s new relationship with someone my age, my kid hates to read and I can’t relate, my hair is thinning and I don’t know why, I don’t want to work anymore. Like, ever.

    Your childhood nickname: Only a select few call me Linds. It’s always makes me feel loved.

  31. Lindsay says...

    a banana split
    Succession on HBO
    going to the beach without the kids to swim and nap
    a weird lump under my skin on my back, I am freaking out….
    Lulu

  32. Joanne says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: snickerdoodle cupcakes
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: re-watching Veronica Mars
    Something you’re looking forward to: road-tripping to the Oregon coast with my twin sister to celebrate turning 40
    What’s worrying you: being a good mom, balancing my mental and physical health
    Your childhood nickname: Jojo. One of my older brothers still calls me this and I find it delightful.

  33. MO says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Creme Brulee! such a treat
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Tell Me More
    Something you’re looking forward to: Heading to Bend in a couple weeks with the very best people
    What’s worrying you: My kids sleep routines are out of whack and I’m worried kindergarten is going to be too much for my little guy who so bravely is trying to keep it all together
    Your childhood nickname: Mo – still my nickname :)

  34. Alex says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: strawberry shortcake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: mindhunter season 2
    Something you’re looking forward to: falllllllllllllllllll :)
    What’s worrying you: pleased to say nothing out of the ordinary at the moment. The usual suspects ever present (money, health, career, single-ness)
    Your childhood nickname: peanut by my mom

  35. Alison says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Anything with apples or strawberries and *no* chocolate
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Good Luck Girls by Charlotte Nicole Davis
    Something you’re looking forward to: NYC weather cooling down
    What’s worrying you: My mom had a brain aneurism burst at the beginning of the summer. She’s covering well after a long hospital stay – but I worry about her and about being on the opposite side of the country.
    Your childhood nickname: Alicat

  36. Katherine says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate peanut butter anything!!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Styling Hollywood!
    Something you’re looking forward to: trip to Fiji & Australia for Christmas. Also, another swim & grill with our neighbors!
    What’s worrying you: relationships
    Your childhood nickname: KK, Kazza

  37. Julia says...

    WOW! Everybody should be worried about climate change and still it is rarely mentioned. That worries me even more.

    • Z. says...

      I would not jump to the conclusion that people are not aware and concerned based solely on the responses to these questions. “What are you worried about?” is a pretty broad umbrella, under an even broader and more general question of “how are you doing?”. One can’t talk incessantly about only the problems of the world. We are still people and we have lives to live, and there is no law against having dessert or reading a good book.

  38. Grace says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Ice cream of any variety
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Peanut Butter Falcon. Pure bliss! I went by myself yesterday and it was a treat.
    Something you’re looking forward to: falling in love for the first time
    What’s worrying you: what others think about me as it relates to many things. A total waste of brain space, but still it is what worries me.
    Your childhood nickname: Whisper Sister… I spoke only at a whisper volume for a whole YEAR when I was 3 or 4.

  39. mish says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: citrus cake accompanied by hot tea with milk, no sugar thank you
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: reruns of Friends… especially where Joey shares explains… “It’s like a cow’s opinion it just doesn’t matter… it’s MOO”, gets me every time!
    Something you’re looking forward to: celebrating my son Max’s first birthday with close friends and family… although I don’t know why I am looking forward to it so much when I enjoy spending everyday with him anyway. I think I am happy to share the celebration though, which is unlike me. It’s not that I’m unwilling to share…, I’m usually just too introverted to enjoy it.
    What’s worrying you: that I’ll never get a chance to confront my father about the reason that I’ve cut him out of my life… he’ll never ask me and everyday, I don’t feel the need for it.
    Your childhood nickname: Mei Sieu… which in Cantonese means, small girl… it might be the Canto version of ‘little lady’ now that I think about it.

  40. jess says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: brownies
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Workin’ Moms, Travels with Charlie
    Something you’re looking forward to: new puppy!
    What’s worrying you: my daughter’s interpersonal skills, she’s intense and it’s starting to be a problem for her
    Your childhood nickname:

    • Christine says...

      Dessert-I do love a chocolate chip cookie
      Book-The Great Alone. Finished it a week or 2 ago but it has stayed with me
      Looking forward to: my 25 year high school reunion. I’m excited to see people!
      Worrying me: I applied for a job that I genuinely believe I’d be great for, but am worried my submission will be lost in the shuffle. I worry that my chance to have an impactful career is slipping away
      Childhood nickname: a few friends called me “Red” for a while there. Mostly it’s been “Chris”

  41. Devon says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: a chocolate chip cookie, always. Bonus points if it’s served warm with ice cream.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb
    Something you’re looking forward to: I JUST got a new job after a fairly long, frustrating job search, and I can honestly say that upon signing the offer letter, I immediately felt a surge of new creativity after nine months of total job burnout. Tied for first is celebrating the news with my friends this weekend, all of whom have been incredibly supportive and loving throughout the process – so much so that I’m tearing up just thinking about it now.
    What’s worrying you: whether I’ll ever find love, much less “the one.”
    Your childhood nickname: Dev, a nickname that still holds today. Whenever anyone calls me that – be it an old friend or a new one, a coworker, or my dad – my heart swells just a bit and I feel at home.

    • Christine says...

      Congrats on the new job!!

    • Maranda says...

      I just finished Maybe You Should Talk to Someone too and loved it! It was so insightful.

    • Emme says...

      I feel that same way whenever I’m called ‘Em’! It can be so comforting.

  42. Sarah says...

    I’ll never refuse a chocolate chip cookie
    I loved Derry Girls
    I’m looking forward my favorite perfume oil arriving in the mail this week
    I’m worried about career stuff & finding romance in New York (me & a million others!) Also worried about Federer in this quarterfinal!
    Nickname (from my mom) was Swiss-Anne. My middle name is Suzanne but as a child I had trouble spelling it and often wrote: Suissann

    • Marianne says...

      Derry Girls is the best. I’m obsessed with their accent :-)

  43. Allyson says...

    It’s almost silly how much I needed this today. Thank you for always being a gentle space to take a breath.

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: cheesecake!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Catastrophe
    Something you’re looking forward to: My daughter Marion’s 2nd birthday
    What’s worrying you: My total and complete lack of professional direction/ambition. I want to stay home, but we can’t afford it.
    Your childhood nickname: Al/Booger

  44. joanna says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse:
    Homemade anything
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
    The HBO series Olive Ketteridge
    Something you’re looking forward to:
    Can’t wait to hear some live music this weekend at a local festival
    What’s worrying you:
    Getting back to work (I’m a teacher) and maintaining all the crazy. I want to live a slow life.
    Your childhood nickname:
    Jo

    • lulu says...

      Hello Joanna,
      Did you know that Elizabeth Strout has written another book about Olive Kitteridge? It’s called ‘Olive Again’ and its released in October. I’m so excited to read it.
      cheers from Lulu

  45. Ana says...

    1. Brownie sundae!
    2. Derry Girls
    3. Seeing my dog/family tomorrow
    4. My family dog is very sick and I’m so worried about him and making it down to see him in time </3
    4. Caca

  46. WMom says...

    mystery chocolates from a box
    Love and Trouble by Claire Dederer (I am also a 40-something mom)
    Something you’re looking forward to: tomorrow and seeing my students, my son getting better from his tummy ailment
    What’s worrying you: Am I prepared for tomorrow & will my son get better soon?
    Your childhood nickname: Air

  47. Mary says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: carrot cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Night Agent by Matthew Quirk
    Something you’re looking forward to: signing up for another yoga class this quarter with one of my friends
    What’s worrying you: preparing for my first medical licensing exam while also learning a semester’s worth of new material, the financial stress of living on student loans, that I’ll never find a significant other because I’m ALWAYS busy…
    Your childhood nickname: Mare

  48. K says...

    1. Peach pie
    2. Diagnosis and Glow
    3. Cooler Fall weather and clothes (i live in LA so it won’t be for another two months or so :( )
    4. So many things! Health, loved ones, finances, etc.

    • Joanna Tsay says...

      A dessert you’ll never refuse: Have I ever refused dessert? ?
      A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Chef Show on Netflix
      Something you’re looking forward to: fall, my favorite season; my birthday month (October) when a best girlfriend will come for a visit and watch Hamilton with me
      What’s worrying you: this might sound silly but I lost touch with my house cleaner after being out of town for a month. I’ve tried everything I can think of to reach her but it’s like she’s disappeared and I can’t let it go. Did she die, did she get deported, did I offend her and now she’s ghosting me, but we were on good terms so it doesn’t make sense, did she lose her phone, but I’ve emailed her too and haven’t heard anything…I need some closure. I really liked her and trusted her.
      Your childhood nickname: Na Na

    • Lizzy says...

      Dessert: cheese!
      TV show: Working Mums, GLOW
      Looking forward to: getting stuck into life as a wife, with a wife! (My love and I got married on Monday! Hooray for same sex married in Australia!)
      Worry: Whaaaat in heavens name is the career for me!? Just ended a successful 15 year career but don’t know next steps!?
      Childhood nickname: Lilly & Widibeff (little sister couldn’t pronounce Lizzy or Elizabeth)

  49. Amy says...

    1. Any kind of fruit pie. But mostly strawberry rhubarb with whipped cream. Or a Nanaimo bar.
    2. The Let Down- it’s an Australian show on Netflix, and Workin Moms. Different shows but similar!
    3. Crisp fall mornings and walks with my kids to school
    4. The weird soreness/possible lump in my one breast (appointment booked)
    5. Ames (they say first borns are usually given approx one nickname and last borns are given about a zillion. My younger sister had a million like Bub, Bubby, Spike, Sis, Sissy, etc. She’s 32 now and I still remind my parents to just call her by her first name because they’re all so embarrassing!)

    • karen says...

      Your 4. : I hope everything will be just fine! Keeping my fingers crossed!

    • Illana says...

      Amy – I’m sending you good vibes and strength for your appointment.
      -illana

  50. Whitney says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Pavlova
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Beauty & The Baker- so good! (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beauty_and_the_Baker)
    Something you’re looking forward to: Skiing in the mountains (We just move to SLC from NJ)
    What’s worrying you: Whether or not to have a 3rd baby. Which option will I regret more?
    Your childhood nickname: Whittles

    • Lizzy says...

      Ohhhhhh I have three and I remember the pros and cons lists….but eventually my mum said ‘if you’re still thinking about it and it’s still on the to-be-decided list, then it’s probably a yes!!’. She was right. So glad we have our third x

  51. Liz says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: ice cream!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Nightingale (book), The Hook Up Plan (TV show)
    Something you’re looking forward to: my sister’s wedding in Michigan
    What’s worrying you: my thinning hair (and the work stress that is probably contributing). It seems pretty vain, but I keep thinking of Little Women, when Jo cuts her hair and one of the sisters cries out, “Your one beauty!”
    Your childhood nickname: The possibilities for Elizabeth are endless…I chose to go by Liz in 2nd grade, but Lizzie, Lizard, Lizette, and Babette are all others I answer to

  52. Robin says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: I’ll never refuse dessert.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: La Casa de Papel on Netflix.
    Something you’re looking forward to: My husband getting back home after a week away.
    What’s worrying you: The destruction in the Bahamas, where my husband grew up, when to stop trying to have a kid, what to do about a portion of my job that I’m ethically opposed to, my weight, keeping up with friendships, money, where our drinking water will come from once the glaciers melt, my grandmother, my mom, my brother.
    Your childhood nickname: Bobbins

    • Lindsey says...

      I feel you on all those worries.

    • Maggie says...

      Haha girl your worry list, I’m like, same. Mmmmm what am I NOT worried about?

  53. Amanda says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Cinnamon rolls
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Dead to Me on Netflix
    Something you’re looking forward to: Wearing wool, the smell of wind, listening to Joni Mitchell with a hot apple cider in hand.
    What’s worrying you: Climate change. Point blank.
    Your childhood nickname: Pigeon

  54. Kelsey says...

    Dessert: I recently made Food52’s two-ingredient ice cream (and it’s vegan!), just toasted marzipan and coconut milk. So, so good.

    Book: Fleishman Is In Trouble! Stayed up so late “finishing” the final third of it.

    Looking forward to: Heading back to work tomorrow after four months with my sweet second-born and his older sister, who’s two. We moved cities during my leave, so it’s actually been a complete blessing to have all four of us together for my whole leave. And having a career is meaningful to me, I love being good at something separate from raising my wonderful kids.

    Worrying: Heading back to work tomorrow. But this pales in comparison with my worries for the families at the border STILL BEING SEPARATED, paid for by our tax dollars.

    Nickname: Munch, because I was the youngest and my mom started out calling me, “Munchkin.”

  55. Emma says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: a gooey chocolate-chip cookie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: An American Marriage
    Something you’re looking forward to: my honeymoon! (also my wedding, haha, but right now mostly the honeymoon)
    What’s worrying you: whether my family will all get along at my wedding
    Your childhood nickname: Lady Em

  56. Caitlin says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Salted caramel
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Crashing (the Phoebe Waller Bridge one! Though I also liked the one on HBO)
    Something you’re looking forward to: Weekends, any and all weekends! I have nothing really planned at the moment, but I just moved from Brooklyn to Boston, and while I have been enjoying the city itself, starting a new job has been really stressful for me for multiple reasons.
    What’s worrying you: Going to work every day… :/ It will get better, right?
    Your childhood nickname: Kitty

    • Fernanda Abreu says...

      It will get better :) Thinking about you and sending good vibes from Brazil! <3

  57. Heather says...

    Dessert I can’t refuse: a fruit crisp with vanilla ice cream on top. I’ll eat the whole thing in one sitting. Peach is my favorite but any fruit will do.
    A Book or Show I’ve enjoyed: Just listened the first Harry Potter! I read it decades ago, but it was so fun to hear the audiobook. Also, rewatching Wings on Amazon.
    Something I’m looking forward to: school rhythms after a fun but long summer. also, cardigans and soups
    Worried About: guns :(
    Childhood Nickname: Sissy (I’m the oldest of a bunch. It’s also my aunt name.(

    • Kylee says...

      1. Fruit crisp with vanilla ice cream!
      2. Nightingale. The writing is so descriptive and moving.
      3. I’m looking forward to the changing leaves of autumn and a Palm Springs trip with a couple of friends. First time ever on a plane with out my kids!
      3. GUNS, friends who are going through hardships, finding a second career after retiring from ballet and staying home with my two young ones.
      6. My grandpa called me Kylee Wylie Coyote.

  58. Kay says...

    1. I wouldn’t refuse any dessert, I have such a sweet tooth. You could give me a baked apple and I’d eat it with gusto.
    2. I recently read The Unhoneymooners and it was a perfect end of the summer read for me. It reminded me of those Golden Age Hollywood screwball rom coms but with more sex.
    3. I’m going to the Smoky Mountains in November, I’ve always wanted to see them!
    4. I’m Muslim, wear a hijab, husband has a beard. I’m worried I’ll face some kind of racism or hate on my trip.
    5. Queen- if you day my full name the proper Bengali way, the first synonym sounds like Queen.

    • Em says...

      Kay, my heart aches for you. I’m so sorry you have to worry about potential racism or hate. I hope you enjoy the Smoky Mountains- they are beautiful!

    • Michelle says...

      Dessert: You could cover anything in chocolate and I’d give it a go.
      Recently enjoyed: Tie between Derry Girls and Schitts Creek (on maternity leave and bingeing hard)
      Looking forward to: catching up with a friend who’s coming to visit in two weeks
      Worry: Was buying this house a huge mistake? Am I a good mother? Is it OK that I might only want one kid? Will I regret it if I don’t have another? Do my husband and I fight a normal amount, or a divorce-y amount? Are we saving enough so we can retire before 65? At all? Will my husband ever find a job that he likes? What if he does and the pay is minimum wage? How do I explain to my daughter a) why us grownups have let the planet go to shit, b) why there is such a gaping chasm between the rich and the poor in this world, and even within our own extended family, and c) re: rich and poor in our extended family; sorry kid, we’re not the rich ones. And my weight, see notes on dessert.
      Nickname: none that can be repeated in polite company

    • Brn says...

      It makes me so sad that this is a worry for you. Please know that this random internet stranger wishes you and your husband a beautiful trip.

  59. Meagan says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: brownies! King Arthur’s gluten free are unreal
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Bachelor in Paradise ? Demi for president!
    Something you’re looking forward to: a dream trip to Scotland in two weeks!
    What’s worrying you: whether I’ll ever have children
    Your childhood nickname: Meags

  60. 1. Tiramisu
    2. Amazing Grace was soulful and moving (and sent me down a Aretha Franklin YouTube rabbit hole – my fave is her performance of Natural Woman that makes Obama and Carole King cry!)
    3. Seeing The Farewell later this week, also spring in Australia!
    4. A big week of travel and a conference next week. I love my work but can feel shy and awkward about meeting new people and hanging out with them. A friend recently shared that she feels similarly but is trying to ‘let people get to know her’ which I love.
    5. Son Bon Jovi! It was the 90s

  61. Tutti says...

    Cherry pie
    City of Girls
    Paris
    Work
    Bell

  62. Elliesee says...

    Ouh, thanks for asking! Tarte au sucre (and I don’t like sugar), Dave Chapelle, Fall and not fighting the heat, my students’ progress, Coto.

  63. The Cape on the corner says...

    1) I don’t care how fancy the place or event is….I will always go for a chocolate chip cookie.
    2) I’ve been needing some laughs and am thrilled to have found what we do in the shadows, Derry girls, and the inbetweeners.
    3) my mom and I are going to Barcelona in a few weeks!
    4) Barcelona is also a worry. Pickpockets, airbnb going as planned, flight, finding our way, day trips. Oy.
    5. Hard to have a nickname when your name is one syllable.

    • Kay says...

      The inbetweeners is hilarious! It made me feel a teenage boy lol. Barcelona is gorgeous and easy to get around. Just wear a crossbody bag and you should be ok. Enjoy!

  64. Claire says...

    1. Tiramisu, always!
    2. I picked up an old copy of a Kinfolk magazine and have been luxuriously devouring it this past week.
    3. Fall in Portland! I just moved here a couple months ago.
    4. I have been waiting and waiting and waiting and WAITING to hear back about this beautiful studio that I desperately want to live in, but it’s taking ages! It’s been stressing me out a lot lately.
    5. Claire Bear :)

  65. Ivy says...

    1. Flourless chocolate EN-E-THING. Add raspberries or mint and I’ll be your friend forever.
    2. My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She’s Sorry by Fredrik Backman is a wonderfully delightful story told from the perspective of a clever eight-year-old who still hasn’t lost her ability to see the imaginative in the ordinary. Can’t recommend it more.
    3. I have been lucky to find the absolute love of my life who brings me immense joy each day I see him. Waiting to marry him feels like the longest day ever.
    4. Teaching high schoolers in this current atmosphere is challenging. I constantly wonder if I’m loving them enough, appreciating them enough, and encouraging them enough. Sometimes my filter flies out the window and they get the “real me” rather than the “robot me” and I hope that’s a good thing rather than a bad thing.
    5. It’s hard to give Ivy a nickname since it’s only three letters long. Ones I have heard before include: Ive, Ivy Lee (when I’m in trouble, obviously), Ivinator (probably my least favorite), Poison Ivy, Iverson, and Grace. Grace probably doesn’t seem like it makes sense, but when you trip as often as I do… it sums it up perfectly.

    • P.G. says...

      I think it’s good for them to see “real you.” Teenagers need reminding that there’s a human up there in the teacher suit. I teach high school, too. Keep it up!

  66. Louise says...

    I’ve read most of these, and people, cinnamon rolls?! Is there anything better than a yeasty, soft, spicy, cinnamon roll hot from the oven dripping in cream cheese frosting? Anyone? I love them so much that they’ve made many an appearance on my birthday over the years. Christmas morning would not be the same without them, their scent wafting through the air, mingling with that of frasier fir-truly a once a year fragrance.

    • Louise says...

      Got so caught up…
      Loving: The Office (I know i’m late to the party)
      Looking forward to: The holidays!
      Worrisome: Large project we’re undertaking
      Childhood Nickname: Kid, Louie, Louisa

  67. Ashley Frank says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: baklava
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: duh, Fleabag; though “enjoyed” isn’t the word I’d use
    Something you’re looking forward to: sweaters & jeans!
    What’s worrying you: what…isn’t? please see below*
    Your childhood nickname: how badly I wanted one of these!

    *I was just thinking today about the work/life/motherhood balance series, which all came out before I was a mother, but I still read eagerly. I was wondering if there’s any thought or traction behind maybe doing another round of it? Perhaps one wherein the women’s lives feel a little bit closer to home for some of your readers…teachers, nurses, yoga instructors, real estate agents, sales clerks? All the women previously featured, while smart and talented and interesting and wonderful, feel a bit distant from me and it might be interesting to see some other voices. (You did a mini-version of this sort of thing with the “uniform” posts, and I loved it!)

    • Ashley Frank says...

      Or also, maybe, parents who live in rural areas, where things like childcare look very different?

  68. Bonnie says...

    1. Dessert: Key lime cheesecake
    2. Movie: Something’s Gotta Give (for about the 10th time)
    3. Looking forward to the next time I spend a weekend in LA
    4. Worrying about having to get up in the morning and go to work ;P I’m ready to stop working.
    5. Childhood nickname: Barney (My brother’s nickname was Ange)

  69. Julie says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Tiramisu #basic
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’m enjoying “Succession”
    Something you’re looking forward to: anniversary trip to Denver with my husband in October
    What’s worrying you: adjusting to school year routines and the inevitable meltdowns. I recently became appointed to my local school board and I’m worried about handling all the work and criticism that goes along with it. I don’t like winter and i dread fall because of it.
    Your childhood nickname: Jules

  70. Alex B says...

    1. Brown Butter Rice Krispy Treats
    2. Workin’ Moms
    3. Trip with another couple to NOLA for the first time
    4. Uncertainty at work; renovating a house with a toddler
    5. Big Al

  71. Destinee says...

    1. Homemade Chocolate Chip Cookies
    2. From Scratch by Tembi Locke
    Something you’re looking forward to: I am looking forward to crisp October and Halloween
    3. I am worried that I don’t take enough risks in relationships and that I won’t find a connection with someone.
    4. Des …My name is Destinee :)

  72. A says...

    – See’s Candy
    – Circe and Normal People
    – Trip to NYC at the end of the month; fall foliage!
    – The prospect of Trump being re-elected
    – Bug

  73. Kathy says...

    Dessert: brownies
    Enjoyed: Fleabag
    Looking forward to: our first weekend away from our daughter in Duluth
    Worry: I have a double homicide trial starting in a week and a half
    Nickname: none

  74. Christina Papantoniou says...

    Apple pie, Dimitri Nasrallah’s “The Bleeds”, fall, work (“can I do this?” vs “I got this!”, Stini.

  75. Alex says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Flourless Chocolate Cake (the fudgier the better!)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Downsizing. It’s a surprisingly sweet and heartfelt movie. I recommend it!
    Something you’re looking forward to: A new apartment.
    What’s worrying you: My recent weight gain due to long work hours = no exercise/eating whatever is there. I’m the heaviest I have been in my entire life (which isn’t heavy, generally speaking. But I don’t recognize myself at this size). Thanks for letting us pass on our stress to you :)
    Your childhood nickname: Ali

  76. Rebecca says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate & raspberry cake or brownies
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Victoria TV series
    Something you’re looking forward to: Christmas in Joshua Tree
    What’s worrying you: the state of our planet
    Your childhood nickname: sweet pea

  77. Emily says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: berry pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: currently engrossed in Our Boys, and on a very different note, I’m also enjoying 4 weddings and a funeral on hulu for some lighthearted fun
    Something you’re looking forward to: applying to graduate school this fall! actually, less so applying and more getting in, but the whole process is exciting.
    What’s worrying you: what will happen when I go to the aforementioned grad school — leaving the apartment in NYC that’s been my home for two years now. the possibility of breaking up with my partner because we just can’t get on the same page about some big future issues (plus, distance if I left for school). my parents aging while I am still very young. moving home to CA — which has been my dream ever since I left a few years ago — specifically, whether I will ever find a job in my field there, and if I’ll like it once I get there, and if I’ll be lonely, and if I’ll regret leaving everything here to return… climate change is a constant worry for me as well. and the 2020 election, and what could happen with four more years of our current president in office.
    Your childhood nickname: Big Blue – for my giant blue eyes! they’ve since gotten a bit more proportional on my face. I also have always loved when people call me Em: it feels like they really see me.

    I have found myself reading comment threads here trying to figure out what to do about my relationship in particular, and how others have sorted through the same questions — it’s helping, and makes me feel less alone. Thank you as always for this warm corner of the web!

  78. A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate chip cookies
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: How Could She by Lauren Mechling
    Something you’re looking forward to: tomorrow! Every day has the potential to be the best one of one’s life :-)
    What’s worrying you: my anxiety (how’s that for an oxymoron?)
    Your childhood nickname: “E,” my first initial

  79. Amanda says...

    Oh I love reading through these comments and seeing little pieces of everyone’s hearts.
    Right now, mine is a little more tattered than usual, but looks like:
    – a chocolate chip cookie
    – Jane the Virgin!!!! I can’t stop thinking and talking about it!
    – a rare fall wedding that I’m attending in just two short months
    – My partner and I are separating, and the guilt/shame/pain of it all is keeping me up at night
    – Amanda Panda

  80. Sam says...

    1. Anything dark chocolate!
    2. Why Women Kill has me addicted!
    3. Celebrating my partner’s birthday this weekend.
    4. That I’ll never be able to have children. Growing old alone.
    5. Munchkin

    Sending my love all the way from Shanghai!

  81. Rose says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: salted caramel ice cream.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I just finished In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Dr. Gabor Mate and found it an incredibly compassionate, challenging, and insightful book on addiction. Highly recommend, especially if you work in the addictions field (I’m a substance abuse therapist) or have a loved one struggling with addiction. We just finished Bless this Mess on Hulu with Dax Shepherd and Lake Bell and literally LOL’ed the entirety of each episode!

    Something you’re looking forward to: My husband and I are planning a year-long “gap year” to live in Mexico! Can’t wait to have our son spend time in another culture and for all the challenges and adventures it will bring our family.

    What’s worrying you: My beloved supervisor at work is leaving in a few weeks, and I’m so anxious about who will be replacing her and how it will impact my work life.

    Your childhood nickname: Rosie Posie :)

  82. Emma says...

    1.) Basically any fried dough. Funnel cake, deep fried oreo, a nice fresh doughnut with a thin glaze. I can’t say no. I can’t!
    2.) Recently read The 7 1/2 Deaths of Evelyn Hardcastle. Oh my god. The second I put it down, I texted just about every person I know to tell them to read it, even my friends who hate reading.
    3.) After thoroughly enjoying every inch of summer, I am so ready to live my falliest fall. Bring on the cider doughnuts. ;)
    4.) I recently started online schooling to finish my degree and I am taking waaaaaay too many classes. Seven, actually. I’m just trying to take a great many deep breaths. I can do this.
    5.) Emmy, Emmie. My aunt calls me Oomski Poomski. My dad calls me Emmalina or Emma’s Brain. I just want to be called Em. I get a weird, fuzzy, goosebumpy feeling when someone feels like they’re close enough to me to call me Em. :)

  83. Melissa says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: plain cheesecake

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I finished binge watching all 9(!!) seasons of The Walking Dead. Can’t wait for season 10 now!

    Something you’re looking forward to: we’re building a house!

    What’s worrying you: 1. My husband’s depression is at it’s peak this time of year as his job started up again (seasonal). It’s always hard in Fall but this year seems especially difficult. 2. the timing between selling our house and paying for our new house. 3. A change in schedule/routine for my daughter starting tomorrow…
    Your childhood nickname: Little Lissy

  84. Britt says...

    Hope that you all had a wonderful holiday last week! So glad that the blog was back today :)

    dessert that I’ll never refuse: tiramisu or some good flan
    book: Crossing to Safety (thanks for the recommendation CoJ readers!
    Looking forward to: crew team training starting and rock climbing/camping in October
    what’s worrying me: elections, gun control, reproductive rights, meeting/dating again after getting out of a long term relationship that wasn’t healthy for me, career development/lack of professional track at current job, grad school
    childhood nickname: Bissy (sister), Dougie Hauser (I was pre-med), Britt

  85. Ali says...

    Dessert: Chocolate Mousse
    Book: City of Girls by Elizabeth Gilbert
    Looking forward to: Spring! Its just started here!
    What’s worrying you: Keeping our business afloat
    Your childhood nickname: Alteepop/ Alteepopsie/ Teepop

  86. Denise says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: tart cherry pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Joy of Painting with Bob Ross
    Something you’re looking forward to: Yurting at the beach later this month & misty, rainy, Fall mornings coming up.
    What’s worrying you: relationship & friendship weirdness, wanting to buy a house but debt & a single household income feel like endless barriers.
    Your childhood nickname: Neisy

  87. Amy says...

    So happy for new posts! Welcome back Cup of Jo team! You were missed.

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: cheese cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Save me the Plums, The Exception (on Netflix)
    Something you’re looking forward to: empty beaches during football season (I wait all year for this!!), and a Black Keys concert in Nov
    What’s worrying you: Trump, guns, 2020, not loving my job
    Your childhood nickname: Carol Merrill

  88. C. says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Pie.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Louise Penny Inspector Gamache series. And “The Farewell”.
    Something you’re looking forward to: swimming.
    What’s worrying you: everything
    Your childhood nickname: “You’re the oldest you have to set an example”

    • Kay says...

      Your nickname answer made me laugh out loud!

  89. Elizabeth says...

    1. An ice cream sundae
    2. Nickel Boys by Colson Whitehead
    3. Making this delicious pumpkin chili in the coming weeks: https://www.thekitchn.com/vegetarian-recipe-pumpkin-chili-recipes-from-the-kitchn-196046
    4. My husband and I are starting our seventh year of living in different states and I’m really hoping that some job opportunities coming this Fall will give us the chance to finally live together.
    5. Sissy (my little brother’s attempt to pronounce Litzy)

  90. Amanda says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: any and all desserts, i am addicted. except i started a “no desserts” detox today to feel better after a wonderfully unhealthy vacation and then an ice cream truck came to work for the first time ever.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: home fire! thanks for the recommendation.

    Something you’re looking forward to: fall and all the fun fall activities. making my son’s halloween costume. a trip to baltimore and dc in a few weeks.

    What’s worrying you: oh, everything. climate change, gun violence, the state of our country, the 2020 election, whether or not i should have had a child given the above, repairs we need to do to our house that we can’t afford, a lump on my son’s neck that i think is just a swollen lymph node but i am too scared to ask anyone about it, people in the bahamas impacted by the hurricane. i am also addicted to worry.

    Your childhood nickname: i have never had a nickname, which i am okay with. although, my pap pap called me “mandy” which i liked, but i despise when anyone else calls me that.

    • Emily says...

      OMG HOME FIRE blew my mind.

    • AJ says...

      Hey Amanda. Please do take your son to be checked by a doctor. I know you don’t need a stranger to tell you that! It is really scary, I ignored some lumps for a long time for largely that reason. Facing that fear is scary but it isn’t as bad as carrying the anxiety with you for ages, or wishing you’d got things checked sooner. Wishing you tons of gentle vibes xx

  91. Nan says...

    I’ll play. Chocolate lava cake – now old school but I cannot pass it up. Book: Daisy Jones and The Six, TV Show: duh, Fleabag Season ll, Movie: The Sword of Truth. Looking forward to a trip to Europe next week. Horribly concerned about climate change and rising fascism globally and election interference in the U.S. A childhood nickname given to me by my mother: “Bella”. My sister’s was given by siblings and was “Kookoo” which she hated but I always thought was kind of cool!

  92. Julee says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate mousse, the way my Mother-in-law makes it.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Last Book Party by Karen Dukess
    Something you’re looking forward to: Bar Harbor with my husband before baby #4 is born!
    What’s worrying you:? Where is this new baby’s bedroom going to be? What other child of mine do I have to re-room?
    Your childhood nickname: not telling. Maybe ever.

  93. Mary says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Cheesecake! Any cheesecake.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Money Heist
    Something you’re looking forward to: Being a full time homemaker!
    What’s worrying you: husband’s health
    Your childhood nickname: Joy

  94. Emily says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: ice cream. pie. ice cream on pie.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: “The Liberation of Paris” is a quick historical read on the figures that saved Paris from destruction as the Nazis prepared to leave the city while the Allies advanced. Super interesting and informative, focused on my favorite city.
    Something you’re looking forward to:
    What’s worrying you: Planning my wedding!!!!! It is like a second job. I know it will all be worth it in the end, just trying to keep perspective and remind myself it’s all about the two of us celebrating our love for one another.
    Your childhood nickname: EmCat. I LOVED cats as a kid and begged for one regularly.

  95. H says...

    A salty chocolate chip cookie, sally rooney’s conversations with friends, a three day hiking trip, never trusting enough to fall in love again, and sunshine.

    • Julee says...

      But I bet you’ll find yourself in love again, someday. Love looks like all different kinds of things. So you may be surprised. ?

  96. Amy says...

    1. Graham crackers with dark chocolate (or, skip the crackers)
    2. Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, by Lori Gottlieb
    3. When our puppy calms down
    4. That our family will lose our sanity before our puppy calms down (I may be the one at highest risk…)
    5. Luvy

  97. Meg says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: fresh fruit and whipped cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Normal People by Sally Rooney
    Something you’re looking forward to: the weekend! farmers market, yoga, hiking
    What’s worrying you: my job & the environment
    Your childhood nickname: Mary Margaret

  98. Missy says...

    Dessert: bread pudding
    Recently enjoyed: FLEABAG (obsessed)
    Looking forward to: camping this weekend with my best gal pal
    Worry: I worry about everything. A lovely trait passed from my lovely mother :)
    Nickname: Missy (although everyone still calls me this, short for Melissa)

  99. A dessert you’ll never refuse: anything with chocolate
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I really enjoyed Chicago Med and I am now watching Chicago PD
    Something you’re looking forward to: my birthday on the 15th
    What’s worrying you: trying to find a job, I finished my studies in July and I’m having trouble finding working. Praying that something will come up soon!
    Your childhood nickname: I never had one, I think because my name is so short already, though my dad did call me Noodles for some reason…

  100. Elinor says...

    Oh this is fun!

    A dessert I’ll never refuse: Um, anything, unless it has coffee in it – then I won’t touch it.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Merry Spinster by Daniel Mallory Ortberg, which is a book of weird short stories. And we enjoy the TV show Rescue Garden :)
    Something you’re looking forward to: Finishing vet school next year!
    What’s worrying you: Finishing vet school next year… which means I need to apply for residencies, pass the national licensing exam, and finish my remaining clinical rotations.
    Your childhood nickname: Snort, haha. My grandma made my mom stop using it, so she switched to Nori or El.

  101. Lydia says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Anything salted caramel :)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’ve really enjoyed ‘Working Moms’ on netflix, feels like fresh eyes on parenting — even if I’m not a mom yet. Always, GBBO <3. Barry, for something darker & still humorous.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Camping this weekend on lake Michigan, hoping for some fall-vibes!
    What’s worrying you: Time flying by, timing of new jobs starting, trying to get pregnant (also exciting)!
    Your childhood nickname: Zookie, Mademoiselle FiFi, DiDi, Lids.

  102. Kelley says...

    Reading through the comments, I keep seeing the worry about climate change pop up again and again. What if we created a group or a challenge or even just a post to help us all tackle climate change on a personal level together. Something that the amazing ladies of the Cup of Jo community could do to help. It may not make a huge difference, but your audience is pretty sizable and it’s better than nothing!

    • Mary says...

      I agree. I have never been this worried about climate change. I have two kids, a three-year old and a nine-month old. I worry about what the world will be like for them if climate change will not be taken seriously. I come from southern Philippines and we’ve just been recently hit with flash floods, which has not been the case in ages.

    • Nan says...

      Great idea – it’s probably hundreds of people and could start an exponential wave. Getting plastic out of our lives is a big one for me personally. I’d love a “get rid of plastics” challenge with tips on how to make that feasible.

    • TG says...

      I was thinking about the same !! Looking forward to posts on climate change and little things we can change in our everyday lives for this cause.

    • IC says...

      How to get rid of plastics – great idea! I’ve been shopping with my own reusable bags recently, but I’d love to have other tips.

      Personally, I’m in doubt of planting 1 or more small trees in our garden. Maybe that can help too, for clean air, absorbing water, keeping our house cooler.

    • Charlotte says...

      Great idea Kelly! I totally agree. I’d love to see interviews with folks that go completely plastic free (I’m probably about 90% there but I have a hard time finding fresh berries that don’t come in dang plastic containers…). Or folks that cut out driving, eating meat, etc. Love the idea of using that as a springboard to coordinate efforts with readers.

  103. tee says...

    hopefully it’s not only me who had hard time waiting for another post from CoJ over the week. glad, you guys are back!

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: sticky date pudding, almond croissant

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: too much heavy stuffs going around me, i would stick with brooklyn nine nine

    Something you’re looking forward to: submitting my research thesis in less than 2 months time

    What’s worrying you: finishing my thesis less in 2 months time. juggling with house work, husband and a kid. coping with my own expectation of myself :(

    Your childhood nickname: nduk

    • Mary says...

      You’re not alone! I keep visiting the site for updates.

  104. Twyla says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate Torte

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Listening to East of Eden audiobook and it’s SOOO good. I read it the first time about 15 years ago.

    Something you’re looking forward to: Dinner at an Ethiopian restaurant next Sunday.

    What’s worrying you: My Dad dropped a whopper of an admission on our family last week and I’m worried about how my mom is taking it, plus she had a heart attack a month ago. Also our car will drop dead any day now, and we have to start saving to get a new one, so, not much…
    Your childhood nickname: Tweedledee

    • Julee says...

      Aw wanted to send a hug re:your family. Families are such drama, aren’t they? I hope your mom especially is ok.

  105. Anne H says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: I’d say it’s a toss up between cheese cake and creme brûlée!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’ve been watching Mindy Kailing’s Four Weddings and a Funeral. It is so hilarious and yet honest and poignant. Those writers sense of humor is so my style! Also, I read Where the Crawdads Sing earlier this summer and it was so worth the hype. I loved it so much! Read it if you haven’t yet!
    Something you’re looking forward to: honestly, I’m kind of struggling to find something to look forward to. I love fall in MN but the weather has been so cool already I’d rather have a few more weeks of summer! I love the holidays but am not looking forward to winter! (Which is silly because it’s still months away! ?)
    What’s worrying you: I’m in a job I should love but just don’t. It’s more stressful than I want and it has caused me to gain weight in the last year. I’m turning 40 next spring so want to get those extra pounds off and am wondering if I should make a change. Man, I’m sounding so negative!
    Your childhood nickname: well, some called me Annie Bananie or Anna Banana, but my best friend called me Booger or Boog for short, after a house I lived in that she thought was booger green! I was embarrassed in high school but find it endearing now!

    Thanks Jo for letting me vent. Apparently I needed it! I feel better!! Also, I love your blog and have a love/hate relationship with your beauty uniform series! I love hearing about what other ladies do but it always winds up affecting my bank account! ?

  106. Corinne says...

    Long time reader….first time to comment…here goes!

    The dessert I’ll never refuse..a bite of yours! (and my favourite ‘winning hearts and minds’ chocolate cake)
    Book – ‘The music Shop’ by Rachel Joyce
    Something I’ve been looking forward to – taking a pottery class
    What’s worrying me – getting in front of my new students on their first day of college -yikes!
    My childhood nickname – ‘Reenie’

  107. Erin says...

    Dessert: Pistachio ice cream
    Book: The Library Book, by Susan Orlean. It’s about a huge fire in the main branch of the Los Angeles Public Library in 1986. Plus the history of the library in general. Really fascinating and also sometimes unexpectedly hilarious.
    Looking forward to: Swimming! There’s a new pool near my work that has made it much easier for me to work out.
    Worried about: juggling kids, work and so much else.
    Childhood nickname: my little sister’s mispronunciation of my name. :)

  108. Christi says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: anything peach (tart, crumble, ice cream!)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: re-watching (for the millionth time) Friends once my oldest is finally asleep
    Something you’re looking forward to: fall! ?
    What’s worrying you: will my toddler ever fully adjust to having a baby sister?
    Your childhood nickname: Cakey (still called this by my family on the regular)

    • Julee says...

      Yes! Your toddler won’t even remember much of this time (if any), and will probably be really close with his/her sibling! It’s going to be ok.

    • Christi says...

      ?, Julee!

    • Mary says...

      I used to worry about that too when I became pregnant with baby number 2. Turns out, my now three-year old adores his little sister! It just melts my heart whenever they play with each other, cracking hearty laughter.

  109. Bronwyn says...

    Happy September and welcome back!

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Good dark chocolate
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Finally saw the Imitation Game this weekend. Cheered myself up after by binging Modern Family.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Disneyland in a few weeks
    What’s worrying you: High school lottery. Hoping my daughter ends up with a short commute and lots of art classes.
    Your childhood nickname: Tweetie

  110. Wendy says...

    A dessert: ice cream
    A book: the color of after
    Something you are looking forward to: camping in October
    Worrying: my health, if I am going enough as a parent
    My childhood nickname: “Wend”

  111. Laura says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: A chewy brownie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Little Women for the first time since middle school. Preparing for the movie in December!
    Something you’re looking forward to: The first chilly morning of fall. Still a ways off here in Texas, but it’s coming.
    What’s worrying you: Having to pay for new tires on my car
    Your childhood nickname: La La

    • Jenny says...

      Dessert: fruit pie
      Tv show: I recently binged all of Mad Men again. I love the character development, the reminder of how far we’ve come in regard to gender roles in the workplace, the creative process and Don Draper’s sales pitches. I’m mourning the end of the show for the 2nd time.
      Worry: helping my 11 year old boy transition to 6th grade/middle school. He started school three weeks ago and every day is a challenge in keeping up academically and learning personal responsibility.

  112. SL says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: any kind of layer cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’m watching “One Day at a Time” with my 13YO at her request
    Something you’re looking forward to: We have a huge family trip coming up at the end of this week so that’s wonderful and then I’ll be looking forward to being home and even more looking forward to visiting our house in Maine in a few weeks.
    What’s worrying you: The endless supply of work, my upcoming and terrifying promotion, that I am failing my 13YO daughter by not successfully curtailing her access to phone and TV, mass shootings, the state of the US and what it means for our future and my daughter’s future
    Your childhood nickname: Sage

  113. Wendy says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Anything with salted caramel
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Biggest Little Farm
    Something you’re looking forward to: Two fall trips – a road trip down to San Diego and a trip w/friends to Costa Rica.
    What’s worrying you: climate change, tribalism, my elderly mom’s wellbeing, the challenges of owning a business and getting older.
    Your Childhood Nickname: Wendell, Gwendolinia, Wen

  114. Megan Lec says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Strawberry shortcake, warm brownies, all of them?
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Brooklyn 99. My husband and I just started watching it again in the evenings after the little is in bed. It’s the perfect dose of light and silly to wind down.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Visiting family in Southend come October, Fall weather and sweaters, the holiday season.
    What’s worrying you: We are trying for another and it has not been as easy as our first go round with my son. I’m trying to remind myself that babies don’t just happen overnight and give myself some grace. It’s hard not to let the anxiety take over
    Your childhood nickname: Megamonster and lizard :)

    • Taja says...

      our second child was also a nerve wrecking ordeal… first a miscarriage, then a fragile pregnancy and a breached baby – but everything turned out fine and i already forgot about the hard times. and let me tell you – the third pregnancy (now 14weeks) is going as smooth as the first one! so keep at it, it can be hard, but it’s a tiny amount of time, if you look at it from afar. best**

  115. Maria says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: flourless chocolate cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: tv: Mindhunter season 2 – movie: Rocketman
    Something you’re looking forward to: Incubus at Radio City!
    What’s worrying you: how to break very bad, unhealthy habits – red wine! all the carbs!
    Your childhood nickname: I didn’t really have one, and the one i did have -which no one really used, was a pathetic bastardization of my very Sicilian last name – was just sad.

  116. Isabella says...

    Thank you for asking!

    A dessert I’ll never refuse: a ripe “Oh Henry” peach

    A book I enjoyed recently: The People of the Sea — a wonderful account of listening to older folks on the British outer islands share tales about seals, legends, and local history, as recorded in the early part of the 20th century. Absolutely magical!

    Something you’re looking forward to: Having fancy drinks with a friend this coming weekend.

    What’s worrying you: SO MANY THINGS. School shootings, and my son just entering public school. Climate change. The unraveling of environmental regulations by our berserk federal administration. Runaway greed and the inequality it engenders. The start of the severe fire danger season here in northern CA. Work projects where I’ve been set up to fail. My own loneliness, and whether I’ll ever find love again, or a real network of friends. All the people suffering right now in the Bahamas. My health, my son’s health. The improbable cost of living in this part of the country. Losing my grip on the thousand spinning plates that are my life at present.

  117. Jay says...

    Missed you all! Glad you’re back, hopefully rested.

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: tiramisu or a cup of coffee
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: David Sedaris, giving me some much needed laughs out loud
    Something you’re looking forward to: my first real craft show where I’ll show all my family, BF, and friends what I’ve been making furiously for months (jewelry)
    What’s worrying you: everyone seeing what I made at my first real craft show ohgod
    Your childhood nickname: Jayster Puppyhead (thanks, Dad!)

  118. A dessert you’ll never refuse: warm fudge brownies
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: currently binge-watching ‘Weeds’ on Netflix
    Something you’re looking forward to: Detroit’s Month of Design
    What’s worrying you: losing our home b/c we can no longer afford the high rent
    Your childhood nickname: JJ (double initials from my maiden name)

  119. Tea says...

    I’ll put this out on the internet so I can be honest with myself. Life’s been so rough. I’m waiting to see if I get an interview for medical school (early decision deadline is coming up in 3 days), and so far nothing, which has been so crushing to deal with. My hair has been falling out so much since May, and I don’t know why. I’m worried about it, but I’m also afraid of medical costs. I have an upcoming test to prepare for, and I’ve been so incredibly stressed that it became hard to focus or even get out of bed. I wish there were a sign to tell me that things will be okay. I’m so scared of the future.

    • Claire says...

      I hope you get in! Rooting for you. Waiting endlessly on something you really want is so, so hard…

    • Tea says...

      Omygosh Claire! Thank you so much for your kind words! And guess what I received in my inbox today?? An invitation for an interview! I was literally crying yesterday at my desk stressing out about this.

  120. Mary says...

    What a great reminder for real life too.
    Dessert- chocolate
    Movie or book – “Otherhood”
    Looking forward to – fall
    Worry – never enough money
    Nickname- pumpkin

  121. Sarah says...

    Dessert: any fruit crisp
    TV show:Poldark
    Book: Pachinko
    Looking forward to: fall camping
    Worried about: the world
    Nickname: Sue Sue

    • Bb says...

      Yes pachinko!

  122. Polly says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: A salted caramel or peanut butter brownie – if it’s gluten free I have to order it because I’m celiac!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Really enjoying Dark on Netflix. And dipping in and out of Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Lanuages which I find SO interesting. I think you’d love knowing yours/Alex’s love languages, Joanna, if you haven’t found out already.
    Something you’re looking forward to: My best friend’s wedding in 8 weeks time (and my first time as a bridesmaid!)
    What’s worrying you: I just came off some medication and my mental health isn’t doing so great. I’m pretty disappointed. Also the state of UK politics… almost as bad as the USA now.
    Your childhood nickname: Poll :)

  123. Michelle says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate lava cake w/vanilla ice cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Where the Crawdads Sing
    Something you’re looking forward to: Seeing friends & family during the holidays (I moved this past year and am feeling homesick)
    What’s worrying you: Climate change & personal finances
    Your childhood nickname: Shelly

  124. Kai says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Tres Leches Cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Murder She Wrote on Amazon Prime
    Something you’re looking forward to: Unpacking the last few boxes after our move
    Your Childhood Nickname: Hot Fingers (earned after calling 911 a few times when I was 9 just to see what would happen—spoiler alert, the cops showed up, and I got a nickname)

  125. Hali says...

    Dessert: Sticky Toffee Pudding.

    Book: Sense and Sensibility! Read on a canal boat holiday in England… so nice. So frivolous.

    Looking forward to: Getting home to my husband, cat, and bed after sleeping in a tiny canal boat for almost two weeks.

    Worry: literally everything! An upcoming trade show for work, getting an assistant (am I worthy of an assistant? Will she like me? Will she do what I need? Will I keep 1 step ahead of her so she can do her job?), wanting a baby, oh and low key the world is burning up.

    Nickname: Fisk by my older sister, Sauce by my older brother.

  126. Ashley says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Key lime pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel — How eye opening and validating!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Spending more time with a new romantic connection
    What’s worrying you: That same new romantic connection
    Your childhood nickname: Nentu

  127. AW says...

    Oh what fun!
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: a gooey brownie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Little Fires Everywhere
    Something you’re looking forward to: a family weekend at th coast
    What’s worrying you: I’m a SAHM and lately my husband’s job is uncertain, based on factors totally out of his control. So because of that I worry about money of course but also my husband’s emotional health and stress :( (and yes I can certainly go back to work but it’s very tricky because as foster parents there are no after school care options approved by the state, so one of us has to be available for all hours outside of school, ack!)
    Your childhood nickname: my mom always called me Dolly, and now she calls my foster daughter Dolly and I just love it ♥️ neither of our names resemble Dolly in the slightest. It’s more like the equivalent of sweetie.

  128. Imelda says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Tiramisu
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Book -> Circe, TV -> Carnival Row
    Something you’re looking forward to: Halloween
    What’s worrying you: I have been living in the State since 7 months ago, and I am still unable to find a job in my field.
    Your childhood nickname: Ega

  129. Selina says...

    Thank you so much for asking!

    Cookies! I never turn down a cookie or feel it is not dessert-y enough to be called dessert.

    Just finished Mindhunter on Netflix. I balance out the depressing topics with a little Comedians in Cars afterwards!

    I’m excited to go to NYC at the end of this month with my kids for the first time!

    I’m worried about cold and flu season with travel and both kids in school this year.

    I may or may not be responsible for my family calling me Sessie throughout my childhood.

    That’s it! I’m also looking forward to reading through the other responses after hit “post”!

  130. Di says...

    My 5yo’s beloved cat died yesterday. I’ve been so proud and amazed by how he’s let himself cry, and talked about her, and decided to write a condolence letter to our other cat. But we are all one big soggy mess of sadness.

    • Julie says...

      Aww, sorry about your cat <3

  131. Lori H says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: plain brownies
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Gown
    Something you’re looking forward to: FALL, the best season of all!
    What’s worrying you: my kids figuring out their path, my husband and I both not loving our jobs, at the same time
    Your childhood nickname: no real nickname but my whole extended Southern family called me by my first and middle name: Lori Anne

  132. Jane I. says...

    Okay – I’ll bite.
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Yogurtland
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: We’ve been on a Tom Cruise kick lately… Mission Impossible, The Firm, The Last Samurai. Gosh – despite his crazy personal life, I never get tired of watching him!
    Something you’re looking forward to: My first baby – 2 months to go!
    What’s worrying you: My no boundaries-having mom moving back here after 10 years to help with the baby while inadvertently smothering and controlling me. So many emotions. *sigh*
    Your childhood nickname: Jelly

  133. Savannah says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Something warm and chocolately like lava cake or brownie with vanilla icecream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: An American Marriage by Tayari Jones. Made me cry and laugh.
    Something you’re looking forward to: A holiday in U.S.A in November for the first time ever
    What’s worrying you: one of my wisdom teeth are starting to feel sore – really can’t afford to have those removed right now!
    Your childhood nickname: Savy to my friends or Varnie to my family

  134. 1) pavlova
    2) Book- We Were Witches, by Ariel Gore (so so so good)//TV- Mindhunter (so so so good)//Movie- Blinded By The Light (so so so good) :)
    3) a quick trip to Washington state for a friend’s wedding
    4) Just moved to Austin from Washington, and while I am enjoying my job and the people I work with, I’m finding it really difficult to make friends. I’ve got a husband and two kids and a busy life outside of work, and I don’t know how to go about meeting people and making friends. I am definitely missing the girlfriend connection
    5) My initials are JMP, so my parents called me Janey Junior Jumperonis, or Jumpies for short. I’m 32, and my name in both their phones is still Jumpies :)

  135. Delaney says...

    I love a good quiz!

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Boccone Dolce. The most delicious dessert in the world. Light and decadent at the same time.. I drool just thinking about it. It’s also the prettiest! I live in Portland, Oregon and a local spot called Papa Haydn has a signature Boccone Dolce.. here is a version of it!
    https://letthebakingbegin.com/boccone-dolce/

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The newest season of The Great British Bake Off finally premiered (On Netflix!) My boyfriend and I watched the first episode but felt slightly devastated when we realized we can’t binge the entire season in one sitting!

    Something you’re looking forward to: Our trip to The Cotswolds & London in 2 weeks.

    What’s worrying you: The weather in London while we are visiting! I need to figure out my wardrobe… :)

    Your childhood nickname: De-lay lay. Delaney does not come with good nicknames!

  136. A dessert you’ll never refuse: vegan cheesecake!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Bates Motel
    Something you’re looking forward to: cosy autumn clothes and candles
    Your childhood nickname: Shinny.

  137. Karen says...

    Dessert: creme brulee
    TVShow: the Bridge, original version
    I’m looking forward to quality time with my kids on Thursday
    I’m worried about work. I started a new job as an attending a year ago. Im struggling to cope with self doubt and chronic anxiety

  138. Ana says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: surprisingly enough, nothing comes to my mind
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Expectation by Anna Hope
    Something you’re looking forward to: moving to our new house
    What’s worrying you: not being happy with my job
    Your childhood nickname: never had any… i mean, my name has only 3 letters!

  139. Joanna says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: homemade cookies
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: “Springfield Confidental” – a book by one of the writers of the Simpsons which is almost literally laugh-a-minute level funny
    Something you’re looking forward to: my 4th wedding anniversary this month! We had wedding pie, instead of wedding cake, and I love recreating it every year. Pumpkin pie, of course.
    What’s worrying you: Coincidentally, all my teammates are quitting for new jobs this month. I’ll be all alone! (and very, very busy)
    Your childhood nickname: Moonunit

  140. EO says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: vegan gf chocolate cherry cake with hot vegan custard (I’m not vegan though! I just can’t have gluten or diary or eggs)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Can I give a podcast instead?! Cosmos in You. My mind has been blown on more than one occasion by some of the ideas put forward about who we are and why we are here.
    Something you’re looking forward to: getting some color in my hair, and meeting my husband and starting a family.
    What’s worrying you: not having met my husband yet and the clock ticking on starting a family.
    Your childhood nickname: U.B.

  141. Haleigh says...

    Your closing comment makes me think of Busy Phillips’ recent episode on Armchair Expert. She discusses how she ends every show but saying “I love you” to the audience. It’s a simple phrase that not everyone is lucky enough to hear at the end of every day. Thank you for sharing this loving space with us.

  142. Maria says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Milk chocolate mousse
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: the OA season 2
    Something you’re looking forward to: Christmas
    What’s worrying you: Returning to work from maternity leave
    Your childhood nickname: Sheep

  143. TH says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: my mother’s Filipino leche flan and upside down pineapple cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Geek Love
    Something you’re looking forward to: being home with my dog after a month of traveling
    What’s worrying you: how to leave my job
    Your childhood nickname: Scout, from To Kill a Mockingbird

  144. Trish O says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Derry Girls
    Something you’re looking forward to: Vacation with my college BFF in Michigan at end of September
    What’s worrying you: the environment going to hell and our government making it worse, gun violence and our government not taking action on gun control, my oldest being almost 18, Trump
    Your childhood nickname: I did not really have one…. but we call my sister Elizabeth “Woe”

    • Rebecca says...

      1) Anything with almond paste
      2) The Wild Robot (I teach third grade and I read it to my students but chapter after chapter I was hooked by its charm)
      3) At this moment I am looking forward to a meeting I’m having tomorrow with my team at work.
      4) Real talk: I’m worried I’m going to die alone. Being single sucks. Where is the machine that spits out the perfect man? And also worried about my sister who I think has relapsed.
      5) Your childhood nickname: Becca Ann

  145. Milla says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Tiramisu
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Otherhood on Netflix!
    Something you’re looking forward to: John Mayer concert
    What’s worrying you: My brother
    Your childhood nickname: Mimi

  146. Katie says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Peach Cobbler
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Working Moms season 1
    Something you’re looking forward to: training for and running a half marathon
    What’s worrying you: the exhaustion factor of my full time first grader in the afternoon , how will we survive the year?
    Your childhood nickname: Katie Jo

  147. Rachel* says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Strawberry Rhubarb Pie. Let’s be real, I’ll pretty much always accept ANY dessert!
    A book you enjoyed recently: “More Than Enough – Claiming Space for Who You Are (No Matter What They Say), by Elaine Welteroth. She’s the former Editor in Chief at Teen Vogue.
    Something you’re looking forward to: I just started mountain biking last summer and I’m doing a 30 mile mountain bike race in November. I’m equal parts excited and terrified.
    What’s worrying you: The 2020 Election.
    Your childhood nickname: Babes, by my mom.

  148. Kate S. says...

    Dessert: Freshly picked, then frozen blueberries from my grandmothers deep freeze.

    Show: Formula 1: Drive to Survive (Netflix) — So great!

    Looking forward: Turning 39 at the end of the month! Sounds a bit odd, I know, but the older I get the more I stop caring about others opinions of me and superficial societal pressures… It’s VERY freeing!

    Worry: An escaped parakeet flew into our yard and we caught it (posted on our neighborhood sites but no one has claimed). Worry about keeping and acclimating so she lives a long domesticated (maybe sad?) life or let her go and she can live a short life of glorious (happy?) freedom. We live in Chicago so between the predators (Cooper’s Hawks and feral cats) and impending cooler weather she would be lucky to make it past November. If you were bird, what would you rather?

    Nickname: Sadly none!