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How Are You Doing?

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Welcome back! I’d love to catch up and to hear how things are going with you. If you’re up for it, here’s a little pop quiz:

A dessert you’ll never refuse:
A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
Something you’re looking forward to:
What’s worrying you:
Your childhood nickname:

Once when I was having a hard time, my friend Lina asked me what was wrong and waved her arms toward herself and said, “Hand me your stress.” It was the kindest gesture, I’ll never forget it how it felt. So, if you have something on your mind, send it my way; I’d be glad to take some of that weight off your shoulders.

People are often bummed about summer ending, but I have to say, fall has always been my favorite season. I love the smell of apple crisp and how people look inexplicably attractive in windbreakers. Plus, the anticipation of Halloweeeeeeen! (Toby wants me to go as Cher from Mamma Mia, haha.) “Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower,” said Albert Camus.

Storm King

Thank you so much for being here. Sending so much love your way. xoxo

P.S. My twin sister’s home makeover, 14 things to do with friends (other than dinner) and a B.J. Novak interview that still makes me laugh.

(Top photo by J Danielle Wehunt/Stocksy. Bottom photo from Storm King Art Center.)

  1. Suzy says...

    1. Cheese cake or key lime pie
    2. Huge in France
    3. Fall weather/coziness
    4. My son is 2 and in speech therapy. He will be starting occupational therapy soon. Hope we can help him communicate better and be less frustrated.
    5. Big Sue

    • So fun! This will probably get buried but here goes:

      I’ll never say no to funfetti cookies ever since my college roommate taught me how to make them (thanks Nat!)

      I began reading the House at Sugar Beach by Helene Cooper in preparation for a move to Liberia and so far it’s enthralling.

      I’m really looking forward to my next weekend off. Due to my weird work-class schedule I’m working or in school every day for the next 4 weeks.

      I worry so so much about children being in our country being safe from him violence and vaccine preventable illnesses.

      I had this wild black hair that shot straight up when I was a baby, so my uncle nicknamed me Spike. He still calls me that all these years later in the few times that we’ve had a chance to see each other, which makes me smile.

  2. Annie says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Molten Chocolate Cake!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Fleabag- of course… and the book Where the Crawdads Sing, I just moved to North Carolina and the book was the perfect complement to the move.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Adventures to the mountains this fall. Looking forward to feeling crisp morning air and drinking hot apple cider.
    What’s worrying you: The workload of graduate school and getting into the swing of being a student again after almost 10 years out of academia.
    Your childhood nickname: Annie Banannie or Fish :)

  3. Kaitlin says...

    Followed for years, but I think this is my first comment- reading this blog is my favorite daily ritual :)

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: ice cream. Any kind, any time.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Monk! My husband and I are working our way through it, and we laugh endlessly at it.

    Something you’re looking forward to: the school where I teach does a day where we all dress up as pioneers and the kids do pioneer-life activities. It’s so much fun!

    What’s worrying you: the whole trying-to-conceive process. We just started trying last month and I have no patience!

    Your childhood nickname: Kate, Katydid

  4. K says...

    Ugh, I’m worried about my 5-month-old starting daycare in a few months. I know I’m so lucky to have had her at home this long (first with me and now with my husband), but releasing her into the world, into someone else’s loving, but unfamiliar care is just tough. I love working and am thankful to have a job I enjoy, but there are only so many hours in the day and not seeing my baby from 9 to 5 sounds…scary? Hard? Mean? I’m still working out how it feels but it’s on my mind.

  5. Megan says...

    Dessert: fresh baked chocolate chip cookies!!
    Book: The Bookshop on the Shore by Jenny Colgan (love books set in Scotland ?)
    Looking forward to: Fall!! Picking apples, baking and the leaves changing colour.
    Worry: Pretty minor right now, just adjusting my kids to kindergarten and preschool
    Childhood Nickname: Magoosteronihead

  6. Abby says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate mousse and tiramisu
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Years and Years on HBO (be warned, it is intense!) and also really enjoying Four Weddings and a Funeral series on Hulu
    Something you’re looking forward to: Having my first baby in February!
    What’s worrying you: 20 week anatomy scan is soon and just praying everything looks perfect!
    Your childhood nickname: Doodle bug! :)

  7. Miriah E. says...

    What a lovely and caring post. I’m struggling with a family member’s death right now. He was in the military and was killed last week in Afghanistan. He leaves behind a three-year-old little girl and a pregnant wife. It just feels so sad that we live in a world where this is somehow a price to pay for living on this planet with other people. I wish we were better.
    The other happy things in your post are a little too hard right now.

    • Claire says...

      I am so very sorry to read of your loss. Wishing you and your family comfort and peace.

    • Miriah E. says...

      Thank you Claire :-) Just having someone else out in the world care a little bit makes it a little easier.

    • Sarah says...

      Sending you my thoughts too, Miriah. Life is so tough.

  8. caitlin says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: a chocolate chip cookie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: TV: Glow; book: Conversations with Friends
    Something you’re looking forward to: my upcoming move back to the United States
    What’s worrying you: traveling overseas with my cat!
    Your Childhood Nickname: Caito

  9. Amanda says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate/Vanilla swirl soft serve in a cone with rainbow sprinkles. My grandfather used to ‘sneak’ my sister and I out of the house while my mom was cooking and spoil our Sunday dinners. I miss him like crazy.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Schitt’s Creek
    Something you’re looking forward to: getting married in 3 weeks
    What’s worrying you: hosting a wedding in 3 weeks
    Your childhood nickname: Baba Looey (no one knows why)

  10. Jennifer says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: creme brulee
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I finally read “Where’d You Go, Bernadette?” and it was delightful.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Seeing the movie! As well as the Downton Abbey movie later this month.
    What’s worrying you: What direction to take in my life and career after a year of immense loss and change. Also, the general state of our country and the world. Are we all going to be ok?
    Your childhood nickname: Jen-Jen

    P.S. Thank you for this sweet post. After a rough day, reading through the comments is helping me feel less alone.

  11. RG says...

    * I won’t refuse most desserts, given my massive sweet tooth, but one that sticks out is a peanut butter fudge pie that a local Cajun place makes, YUM.
    * The Tattooist of Auschwitz for book, Impractical Jokers for tv show, and Hitch for fluffy rom-coms that still hold up several years later.
    * Looking forward to being done with MOVING.
    * Our second closing on our refi. Apparently, renovations are complicated.
    * I was called twinkle toes, but I never danced so I think it refers to a dancing teddy bear shirt that I used to have.

  12. Owl says...

    A dessert I’d never refuse: flan
    A book: Educated. Though I don’t know if I ‘enjoyed’ it exactly, but I did love it.)
    Looking forward to: the beautiful colours of fall, the sweet smells in the air, getting cozy.
    What’s been worrying me: the burning of the Amazon forrest. Horrific.
    Childhood nickname: My dad jokingly called me “Miss Piggy” (muppets), because her and I both had a lot of spunk. Lol

  13. Anna says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate mousse
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Sally Rooney’s “Normal People”
    Something you’re looking forward to: a Saturday night to myself with the kids at a sleepover and husband out of town.
    What’s worrying you: the idea that the democrats won’t offer a candidate for 2020 that can win national election.
    Your childhood nickname: Sweet Potato

  14. AH says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse:
    Lemon meringue pie or a Lemon bar (must be tart!)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
    Carnival Row
    Something you’re looking forward to:
    Trip to Santa Fe with my mom
    What’s worrying you:
    Wanting to move closer to parents/immediate family, but the things that come with this (finding a new job, making new friends, changing finances, etc), paralyze me.
    Your childhood nickname:
    Ambi

  15. Julie says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: tiramisu
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: St Vincent (movie with Bill Murray and Melissa McCarthy)
    Something you’re looking forward to: adopting a kitten on Friday
    Your Childhood Nickname: Jules

  16. Janine says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: skillet chocolate chip cookie with vanilla ice cream

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Spiderman: Into the Spiderverse. I don’t know how I missed this one!

    Something you’re looking forward to: Halloween and the birth of three of my closest friends’ babies ❤️

    What’s worrying you: the prospect of inevitable change. Things are so good right now, I try to savor every moment because I know change, whether good or bad, is part of life, and that death and illness touch us all. We must cherish the moments in our lives when we are free from both.

    Your childhood nickname: J. But I wanted to be called Rocket. Go figure.

  17. Christina says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: A warm sea salt chocolate chip cookie, preferably made with dark chocolate chunks :)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I just finished Lilac Girls and was really moved!
    Something you’re looking forward to: turning my oven on again after a sweltering summer (and all that comes with fall baking!). And a 30th birthday trip to Paris this fall.
    What’s worrying you: Changing seasons of life as I enter a new decade, friends leaving the city and the energy of finding new friendships, aging family members
    Your childhood nickname: Sunshine, Stina

  18. Greta says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: ice cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: This Way Up is like Fleabag meets Catastrophe (also favorites)
    Something you’re looking forward to: My first triathlon next weekend
    What’s worrying you: My first triathlon next weekend
    Your childhood nickname: Greta Golden (my future anchorwoman name)

  19. Kate says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: apple pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Office
    Something you’re looking forward to: birth of our third child and first daughter anyday now!
    What’s worrying you: climate change
    Your childhood nickname: Katie Blossom

    • Jenna Brown says...

      A dessert you’ll never refuse: Strawberries and cream
      A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Fleabag, of course! How do we go on after that?
      Something you’re looking forward to: My one year old talking more!
      What’s worrying you: The environment
      Your childhood nickname: Downtown Brown

  20. Joanna M says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: lemon bars

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: “The Perfect Couple” by Elin Hilderbrand (best enjoyed on the beach : )

    Something you’re looking forward to: lots of fun travel in October + I’m running a marathon!

    What’s worrying you: What should I be when I grow up?! (Could basically be a memoir)

    Your childhood nickname: Jo (still my dad’s go-to!)

    • Jen says...

      A dessert you’ll never refuse:
      Lemon bars
      A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Succession on HBO
      Something you’re looking forward to: Seattle with my husband
      What’s worrying you: my Dad’s mental health issues
      Your childhood nickname: Jay

  21. Christy says...

    1. Baklava
    2. This Way Up
    3. First day of kindergarten! And the return of pumpkin spice coffee creamer
    4. Losing an account at work
    5. May Zoom

  22. I’ve been an avid follower of CoJ forever, but today’s my first time commenting! This community is good for my soul.

    A dessert I’ll never refuse: key lime pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’m currently reading The Great Alone and devouring it. I also surprisingly loved the second season of Big Little Lies—Meryl Streep is MAGIC!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Seeing Maggie Rogers at the Ryman in October!
    What’s worrying you: my family’s observing the 5 year anniversary of a terrible loss this month. Although, calling it “heaven day” helps a little.
    Your childhood nickname: Kait/Kat/Kattie

  23. Alexutalutalu says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: a heaping piece of chocolate cake.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Boys, a tv show on Amazon, and I’m currently reading the Gifted School…it’s a slow burn and sometimes feels like nothing is happening, but it’s still so interesting (how is that possible?!)
    Something you’re looking forward to: My commute — I read a book and it’s the only moment I usually get for myself.
    What’s worrying you: Climate change and the state of the planet when my kids are my age.
    Your childhood nickname: Alexutalutalu (my family is the best kind of weird)

  24. Nic says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Choc Chip Cookie Dough
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayed
    Something you’re looking forward to: Visiting my best friend at her lake house later this month.
    What’s worrying you: Confessing a secret about myself to a man I like and knowing he might reject me for it.
    Your childhood nickname: Boo

  25. Rita says...

    I’ll never refuse my Aunt Carol’s gooey butter cake!
    Recently read Kim Gordon’s ‘Girl in a Band’, she’s the coolest chick ever
    Looking forward to a couple staycations at fancy hotels this month ( bday gift from my boyfriend) and then New Zealand in November!!

  26. Bahar Beaver says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Bread pudding
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I recently discovered Schitt’s Creek and am loving it! Such a smart and funny show.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Our first beach vacation as a family!
    What’s worrying you: I worry every day that my husband will never come around to the idea of more children and our child will grow up alone.
    Your childhood nickname: Never had one!

    • Faith says...

      I love Schitt’s Creek, too! It’s a gem of a TV show.

  27. Maggie says...

    We have a “women-only” channel on our work slack, and we’re all sharing our answers. What a fun way to get to know each other better. A couple of women commented they’re worried about family health issues, and now they’re all having lunch next week to share advice and stories. Look what you did for us! Thanks Joanna!

    • Caroline says...

      This is so great!

  28. Courtney says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Creme Brulee
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Good Place
    Something you’re looking forward to: Apple Cider Donuts and a trip to Maine or Vermont this fall
    What’s worrying you: Miscarriage – I’m almost done with my first trimester
    Your childhood nickname: Tortles

  29. Tabitha says...

    I’ve been having a super stressful day, and thought “Oh let me just take a quick break and check in with Cup Of Jo,” and guess what, your sweet kindness and love came bounding out of the screen and now I feel like I’ve been hugged by a dear friend. So thank you. You made my day.

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: ice cream with interesting flavor combinations (blueberry cardamom, anyone?)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I usually stick with fiction, but “Make Time” is the best book about meaningful productivity I’ve ever read and is written in such a friendly, encouraging way
    Something you’re looking forward to: rewatching all the Harry Potter movies with one of my friends this autumn
    What’s worrying you: how much is it going to cost to get the purge solenoid valve vapor canister replaced on my car? why does it have such a long and weird name? :/
    Your childhood nickname: Tabby Cat (loved this one) & Tata (still makes me grimace)

    • Trish O says...

      car stuff is the worst

    • Tabitha says...

      @Trish O Thanks– it really is! I think partly because I rarely understand what’s going on! ?

  30. Molly says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: brownies!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Normal People by Sally Rooney
    Something you’re looking forward to: my mom visiting this weekend to spend time with my daughter Marin and me!
    What’s worrying you: applying to law school right now and I’m stressed about the LSAT!
    Your childhood nickname:

  31. Shena says...

    Desert: creme brûlée

    Book: I read this each time I would go in for my daughter’s hour-long therapy appointment (it lived on a bookshelf there) and found myself thinking about the book for the next few days following each appointment. So I ordered it on kindle and finished it that day. It’s wonderful: The Witch of Blackbird Pond by Elizabeth George Speare.

    Looking forward to: My oldest with autism feeling better…she has been tired for the past 2 months and we don’t know why. She tested negative for mono.

    Worrying me: The terrible hurricane sitting over the Bahamas for days.

    Childhood nickname: Shay

    • H. Seely says...

      1. Any (and I mean ANY kind of pie)
      2. What Alice Forgot (great light yet thought provoking book
      3. Going to Cali for my 20th high school reunion
      4. Figuring out how life will work if both my husband and I have hour and a half commutes
      5. HeidiHannah

    • LORI H says...

      Loved The Witch of Blackbird Pond!

  32. N says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: brownie sundae
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Where’d You Go Bernadette—both the book and the movie!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall! Our summer flew by with the arrival of a new baby and a big move out of the city so am really hoping we can enjoy the fall in our new home/town and as a family of four.
    What’s worrying you: Settling into a new town/home/school/baby—so many big changes — definitely having moments where I’m struggling with all this change!

  33. Andrea says...

    Just have to quick say, I love you Joanna, for COJ + just the way you are. You exude kindness + warmth. Fill out the answers for yourself + others on COJ team if you haven’t already! Haven’t read comments yet

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: flourless chocolate torte! or most things homemade.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Queer Eye forever! Season 4 has been the best of them yet; it just keeps getting better. ;) Also, the book The Four Sacred Secrets by wife and husband, Preethaji + Krishnaji. I’ve studied mindfulness for years and what they write about is essentially the same, but the language they use (“living in a beautiful state”) makes everything click so much deeper and makes me so much more excited about it. I love the guided meditations.
    Something you’re looking forward to: house hunting. Our first house is being listed any minute now(!!) and I am so eager to search and find someplace wonderful for our next chapter.
    What’s worrying you: yesterday I was full of nerves with house selling + my teacher husband going back to work today + life in general. But I woke up and did the Soul Sync meditation from the book above with my toddler, sort of :), and it was the dreamiest way to start this big day. So nothing currently.
    Your childhood nickname: Anders by family, “Drea” pronounced drey-uh, when my friends and I around 5th grade decided it’d be super cool to make new nicknames for everyone. Even though my name is pronounced Ann-dreee-uh. :)

  34. mia says...

    brownies, far from the tree, a cozy fall season, mass shootings, mimi❤️

  35. Tiffany says...

    Dessert: Chocolate Ice Cream w Bananas
    Movie: God’s Own Country (Gay male love stories really seem to be my genre lately).
    Looking forward to: Going to mu friend’s grandpa’s old wooden lake house this weekend.
    I’m worried that though I’ve learned to set boundaries and advocate for myself at work and in relationships, there’s never going to be a pay off. Still no promotion. Still no partner. What if it’s all work and no reward?
    Nickname: BooBoo cuz I was a klutz.

  36. Elham says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate mousse or cheesecake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Finally on the Handmaid’s Tale train, wow so crazy and good! The movie The Farewell was amazing, as was The Last Black Man in San Francisco
    Something you’re looking forward to: Leaving my job after maternity leave, haha!!
    What’s worrying you: Balancing work, school, kids, alllll the things I’m doing right now! (how??)
    Your childhood nickname: Hammy

  37. Erica D says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Homemade peppermint ice cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: LOVING the second season of Succession
    Something you’re looking forward to: October spa getaway with my college besties, sans kids or hubbies
    What’s worrying you: A rash of large, unexpected expenses lately
    Your childhood nickname: KiKi (coined by my younger sister who couldn’t quite pronounce “Erica”)

  38. Shannon says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Ice Cream!

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Farewell, and Mindy Kalings’ Four Weddings and a Funeral on Hulu

    Something you’re looking forward to: trip to Japan the end of September

    What’s worrying you: Adoption. Worried about how to pay for one, and the long wait.

    Your Childhood Nickname: Shanny Banany

  39. Stephanie says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Coconut Gelato

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Schitt’s Creek

    Something you’re looking forward to: My mom is moving closer to me soon and she is amazing!

    What’s worrying you: My kids just started at a new school (Kinder and 3rd grade) and they both have anxiety around it. Their anxiety gives me anxiety. I just want them to make some new friends and feel comfortable!

    Your childhood nickname: Punkie

  40. Henrietta Bancsov says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Fresh coffee cake or my best friend’s mother’s Chocolate Chip Pumpkin Loaf.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I constantly have FRIENDS on rotation in the background while I’m around the house.
    Something you’re looking forward to: My best friend’s bachelorette party in Petoskey, MI.
    What’s worrying you: The toxic relationship of my parents and the effect it will have on my precious 7 year old sister. They cannot get along or get out of a negative cycle of behaviors, and I often feel like the parent who tries to talk sense into them.
    Your childhood nickname: Hannika, Pears

  41. Eleni says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Creme brulee
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I just read “Park Avenue Summer” about Helen Gurley Brown’s takeover of Cosmopolitan, and loved it.
    Something you’re looking forward to: My mom’s childhood best friend (aka my “California Mom”) is coming to visit this fall!
    What’s worrying you: I’m in the process of beginning my first real managerial position, and it’s semi-terrifying. A great jump, but not something I’ve ever really desired to do because I’m not very good at delegating and hard conversations.
    Your childhood nickname: Lenibug :)

  42. Rissie Lundberg says...

    Brownie with vanilla ice cream
    The Good Place
    Sweater weather
    Am I smart enough?
    Ree-Ree

  43. Tanja says...

    Ok, let’s get out of the shades of lurking and do this thing then:
    A desert I’d never refuse: all kinds of strudel, apple, cherry, blueberry; mostly because where I come from they are always homemade and when someone goes into trouble of making it, I’ll certainly eat it.
    A book or show: anything to do with the history of our homes and houses – Bill Bryson’s At Home, Lucy Worsley’s documentaries and more. You learn so much about the little things that we now take for granted.
    I’m looking forward to meeting my friends.
    What worries me? Oh dear, what doesn’t worry me? Apart from the usual personal things like paying the bills, I’d say I really am worried about the humanity’s lack of understanding how badly we have already wounded our planet.
    And … my mom sometimes called me little parsley, which… well in our language sounds sort of cute, but still very odd :)

  44. Johanna says...

    1. Ice cream
    2. Fleabag (Hot Priest! SIGH)
    3. The pedicure that I’m going to treat myself to tomorrow
    4. All of my parenting decisions. Sending my son to high school (he’s only 6). Sending my daughter to kindergarten (she’s 3). That maybe I’ll find myself in a shooting. Or that my kids will. White supremacy and its effect on my children. Climate change.
    5. Pudge

  45. Sue Harris says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Lost Girls of Paris
    Something you’re looking forward to: daughter’s wedding next June–she’s trying on dresses when we see her for Thanksgiving, I’m so excited
    What’s worrying you: the state of our country, I have to screen out much of the news because it is so upsetting and I feel like we are on a doomed ship sinking quickly
    Your childhood nickname: My beloved dad called me Suzie-Q. I would give anything to hear him call my name one more time.

  46. Tiffany says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: ice cream :) started to say fresh-baked cookie or brownie, but realized there were still too many caveats (dark choc chips, no icing on the brownie!), so ice cream it is.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: plowed through Where the Crawdads Sing in a little under 2 days — so so good.

    Something you’re looking forward to: weekend trip to Dallas in a couple weeks; while we travel enough to stave off boredom, it’s been TOO LONG since a weekend away: a) with just my husband, b) no kids or other family/friends staying with us, c) in a hotel, d) with no big activity lined up — just time to unwind and I’m so ready for it :)

    What’s worrying you: my grandad is in fairly rapidly declining health; I didn’t think I was ready for him to go, but after living so well and so fully for 88 years, it’s hard to see him like this and I wonder what is better – the pain of him leaving or staying?

    Your childhood nickname: Tiff (still my nickname ;)

  47. Christie says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Brownies with peanut butter frosting
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Succession on HBO
    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall, if it ever comes to the South
    What’s worrying you: Nothing productive
    Your childhood nickname: Cabby which is short for Cabbage (An abridged version of Mon Petit Chou, or my little cabbage, a french term of endearment that my father always used to call me). Isn’t it funny how nicknames take on a life of their own?

  48. Alice says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Apple pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: One Day
    Something you’re looking forward to: Travelling to India at Christmas
    What’s worrying you: Work! We have a major event in September and there is so much detail to organise before then
    Your childhood nickname: Ally Pally

  49. Nadine Hughey says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate anything
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Ozark
    Something you’re looking forward to: Finishing 2666
    What’s worrying you: Our 16yo daughter who is depressed & wants to spend all her time with friends or in her room if she doesn’t have plans, while my patience is THIN
    Bonus: I’m glad ya’ll are back

  50. Julia says...

    Lemon ice cream
    A book: Eat, pray, love (way better than the movie)
    I’m looking forward to a short business trip to Munich (which is actually only 3 hrs of a drive away) with my husband (we work together). We will have time to talk and … without being interrupted by our 2 boys.
    I mostly worry if my kids get everything they need to blossom.
    My childhood nickname: Juli

  51. A dessert you’ll never refuse: a hot fudge sundae with the works

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: This Way Up on Hulu – brilliant!

    Something you’re looking forward to: getting out of the LA heat and camping at the beach with friends in a couple weeks

    What’s worrying you: the physical and mental health of several loved ones

    Your childhood nickname: Joy Bells! (my grandpa called me that, after a song that talked about “joy bells ringing”)

  52. Dienesa says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Creme brulee
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Echo by Pam Munoz Ryan, a middle grade magical and musical masterpiece!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Seeing my boyfriend after work today
    What’s worrying you: A stressful work situation
    Your childhood nickname: I’ve always been Dienesa, but I did have a dramatic alter ego named Scarlet when I was younger

  53. ANDREA says...

    What type of monster refuses dessert!!?!?

    • JD says...

      hahaha such a good comment! Agreed :).

  54. Ana D says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Mint chocolate chip ice cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: COMEDIANS IN CARS GETTING COFFEE!!!!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Writing my conference presentation for the women’s leadership event at my company
    What’s worrying you: What this beautiful fetus will do to my round ligaments as she/he/they continues to grow and grow and grow
    Your childhood nickname: Tina. I was a really big toddler compared to my older sister, so my mom called me “Tiny Tina” as a joke. She still affectionately calls me Tina, which I accept in the spirit given. We’ve also had 2 decades of conversations around what comments on my appearance and size are welcome and unwelcome, and she’s now fully on board.

  55. Charlotte says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Tiramisu
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’m still reading it, but I’m loving “Song of Achilles”. I really enjoyed “Circe” too.
    Something you’re looking forward to: The Downton Abbey movie and our first romantic night away post-baby (we are staying at a historic lighthouse in the Hudson River!)
    What’s worrying you: Going back to work after maternity leave
    Your childhood nickname: Char Char and Red

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      congratulations on your little one :) i’ve heard the best things about the lighthouse!

  56. Char says...

    A desert you can’t refuse: homemade apple pie
    A book, tv show or movie recently enjoyed: We just started watching the new season of Great British Bake Off, which I love! I like that the contestants seem to subscribe to the community over competition mentality, and support and help one another out rather than being cut throat assholes.
    Something you’re looking forward to: I’m taking a brioche knitting crash course at the end of October. Learning brioche was one of my goals for the year; so excited to expand my skill set!
    What’s worrying you: we are getting ready to sell our house and move, so I have a million worries running through my head right now, from how am I going to get off the rest of the Vaseline my kid smeared on her bedroom walls, to what if we can’t get into the neighborhood we want to move to?… and also, what should I make for dinner?
    Your childhood nickname: Chuck

  57. Nollie says...

    A book I enjoyed recently: “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” by Lori Gottlieb.

    TV shows we’ve enjoyed recently: “Grantchester” on PBS. The fourth season just came out, but catch up on the big-hearted dishy vicar and his bromance/partnership with detective Geordie Keating. Such fun, smart escapism.

    https://www.newyorker.com/culture/on-television/the-unholy-pleasures-of-grantchester-the-original-hot-priest-show?utm_campaign=aud-dev&utm_source=nl&utm_brand=tny&utm_mailing=TNY_Magazine_081919&utm_medium=email&bxid=5bea00c23f92a404693b8219&cndid=24120613&esrc=AUTO_PRINT&utm_term=TNY_Magazine

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh wow, thank you for the TV rec!

  58. Robin says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Lemon squares, and for that matter anything lemon flavoured including gelato, curd, macarons, hard candies, cocktails…
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Midsommar. What a trip!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Singing in the first choir concert of the season.
    What’s worrying you: How my ex is doing. We broke up last weekend.
    Your childhood nickname: Ba-ba or Bobbin

  59. Ellen says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Cherry crumble and custard.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Bill Cunningham’s memoirs. So many amazing hats!
    Something you’re looking forward to: autumn
    What’s worrying you: work :-(
    Your childhood nickname: ET great initials to have growing up in the early 80s!

    • Ana D says...

      OK, why does everyone have such incredible desserts listed? Also, autumn and cherry crumble…this is a very inspiring comment to me.

  60. Aet says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: key lime pie

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The book “The Untethered Soul.” I got it as a gift from my yoga teacher, was skeptical, left it on the shelf unread for 2 years, and finally got around to reading it this summer. It made me feel more spiritually whole and revitalized than I have in a long time, and I plan to give copies as Christmas gifts now :)

    Something you’re looking forward to: Independence. I recently went through a breakup that totally blindsided me, but now I have a new place with awesome housemates and I’m excited to spend the fall nesting and rediscovering the pleasures of friendship and alone time. the silver linings are becoming clearer :))))

    What’s worrying you: climate change, devastating inequality, and refugee crises all over the world.

    Your childhood nickname:
    Fuzzermuffer (my dad’s)

  61. Dessert – another glass of wine, please :)
    Book – Rules for Visiting: A Novel by Jessica Francis Kane
    Movie – Sword of Trust starring Marc Maron
    Looking forward to – the autumn colours on my walks
    Worried about – our Earth
    Childhood nickname – Carebear (still called that)

  62. Quinn says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: my grandma’s raspberry pie (she’s 90 now so I appreciate it even more when she makes it)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Fleabag! Thank you for the recommendation, Jo! Last week I went into your archives and elsewhere to read everything I could about it, and then re-watched Season 2 (which is saying a lot for this mom of 2 with a full-time career and very little time for TV).
    Something you’re looking forward to: crisp autumn days & sweaters
    What’s worrying you: will I find someone wonderful to replace our current wonderful babysitter/nanny who is moving back home to Ireland? (She’s been with us for 3 years – we’re going to miss her so much!)
    Your childhood nickname: Quinners

  63. Rachel Adrianna says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: a chocolate and banana milkshake :P
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Bookish Life of Nina Hill by Abbi Waxman
    Something you’re looking forward to: holding hands and walking through town with my new beau this fall
    What’s worrying you: if the new beau will last through the fall
    Your childhood nickname: Skippy :)

  64. Stella says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: A brownie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Otherhood…I’m still a relatively new mom so it felt like warning signs on dependency of children making your life rather than having them be a piece of your life (to each their own, this is what I took away!)
    Something you’re looking forward to: A trip to Michigan to see my friend as she starts her medicine rotation. I want to see she’s okay, because becoming a doctor is tough on the heart, mind, and body.
    What’s worrying you: My aunt passed away this weekend. My grandmother passed away two months ago. These were my mother’s two best friends. So now she’s gone from having two wonderful people that she could chat with for hours at a time…to not having them. Will I do enough to step up and help her fill that void? Will she grieve for them…letting the emotions through? heavy thoughts.
    Your childhood nickname: Never really had one!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i’m so sorry for your losses, stella. that sounds like a lot on your shoulders. your mother is lucky to have such a caring daughter. xx

  65. Annalise W says...

    I missed you guys. My nightly CoJ ritual reading wasn’t the same, but I do love reading old posts too.

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate chip cooks
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: “City of Thieves” by David Benioff was an amazing read and I am watching ‘Wicked Tuna.” It really makes me want to fish!
    Something you’re looking forward to: THIS WEEKEND=BOSTON (and a haircut)
    What’s worrying you: reconciling differences with my mother
    Your childhood nickname: Anna banana

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      we’re so glad to be back!! thank you for your sweet note:)

  66. Daniela says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate flourless cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Black Mirror
    Something you’re looking forward to: my birthday, move, and wedding. All this month!
    What’s worrying you: being sick because of all of the above going on and a crazy work schedule
    Your childhood nickname: I can’t answer this one without everyone knowing my answer to password questions ;)

  67. Heather says...

    I would love a post about grieving the sudden loss of a husband.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      heather, i’m so, so sorry if you or someone you love is going through that. my sister lost her husband, and although they knew for almost two years that he was dying, she said his death somehow still felt like a complete shock when it happened. we’d love to do more posts, and in the meantime here are a few posts about grief:
      https://cupofjo.com/tag/grief/

      sending you so much love.

    • Maggie says...

      Sending you a big hug from GA, Heather. <3

    • Kate says...

      Hugs from CA too, Heather <3

  68. Lily says...

    I’ve been listening to audio books recently on my way to and from work. I started listening to Next Level Basic read by Stassi Schroeder and it is legitimately a delight. It’s all about self acceptance and being open about liking what you like without shame. It’s such a brain break from depressing news, judgmental family/friends and work. Listen with an open mind!

  69. Christina says...

    A dessert I’ll never refuse: Three Twins Salted Caramel Ice Cream, birthday cake, coconut cream pie…basically too many to list here

    A book, TV show, or movie I enjoyed recently: The Good Place (TV), Dear Mrs. Bird (Book), and I recently have started to watch all the Marvel movies in order of the stories, and I’ve enjoyed them all!

    Something I’m looking forward to: Today is my 50th birthday. I’ve planned several fun things this month to celebrate, and am looking forward to them. And I g u e s s I’m looking forward to being FIFTY (wtf! how did that happen?!) and all the things I still want to do in life (learn, travel, see, etc.)

    What’s worrying me: quietly condoned bullying, climate change, childhood poverty and hunger (so, basically simple things…) and not having time in my life to do all those things I want to see, learn, visit, etc.

    My childhood nickname: Teen Bean

    • Faith says...

      Happy Birthday!

    • Jeanne says...

      Happy Birthday fellow Virgo! I also turn 50 in exactly two weeks. So crazy right?? I feel like I’m about to start a new chapter in my life.

    • Happy Birthday. 50 is awesome (I’m closing in on 52). I worried so much about it but that turns out to be silly. Enjoy your celebrations!

    • Christina says...

      Thank you for the birthday wishes! I entered my 50s while eating my weight in Burmese food and watching Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part 2 and bawling my eyes out. Perfect!

  70. Hi Joanna! and Team!
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Venezuelan CHocolate Marquesa, https://www.instagram.com/p/BsJjYVbD6_t/?utm_source=ig_share_sheet&igshid=fqaqlx599vq7
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Glee, because I need the cheers, the happiness and the sing-a-longs these days…
    Something you’re looking forward to: just move by myself to a studio (!!!!)
    What’s worrying you: how to be independent while providing for my family in Vzla… I cannot even spell it completely without water in my eyes… all this while trying to grow and work and trying to have some dating life and trying to take care of myself… life while 30s… how can I think of creating my family with all these thoughts?
    Your childhood nickname: Popeye!

  71. Wendy says...

    The anecdote about taking someone’s stress away really spoke to me. Today I am fearful that my relationship may be over, that the man I thought was my fairy tale ending has found me to not be enough for him. I thought perhaps writing it here could help distribute some of the pain. Thank you, Joanna.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you so much for sharing, wendy. i’m holding you close in my thoughts.

    • S. says...

      So sorry to hear you are going through this… He is not enough for you surely! You are in my prayers Wendy

    • Naseem says...

      Wendy, I’m going through this with you. My fairy tale man after a terrible relationship, the light of my life, blindsided me one morning 6 weeks ago. I’ve felt so many feelings. I love him so much. But I’m so mad at him too. I want him to change his mind. But I want to get on with my life and protect my heart too. Be gentle with yourself. Surround yourself with other people who love you. Go walk amongst trees. Get yourself some CBD (cordial Organics balance has helped me a lot).

      It sucks to be going through this and I’m sorry for the both of us to be in this place. It’s so painful.

      I’m here with you <3. You and I will be okay, at some point, regardless of what happens. I keep telling myself that. Trust your gut and do what’s right for you. No one knows your relationship like you do, so if friends give advice that doesn’t sit well, don’t feel pressured to take it.

      <3

    • Wendy says...

      Naseem, thank you for your kind words. I am so sorry you are going through this too. Your story sounds the same as mine. I love him so much and we’ve built so much together. I know I can get through this, but I am sometimes just so tired of being strong. Strong through my past difficult relationship, strong walking away from it, strong enough to put myself out there and find someone else. It is so hard to be strong. Thinking about you will help me feel less alone. Much love to you.

    • Wendy says...

      Thank you, Joanna, and thank you, S. My heart is full of your kindness.

    • Mimi says...

      My heart hurts for and goes out to you, Wendy. I went through the same thing 9 months ago. I hope things work out for you, either way. <3

  72. Britt says...

    Hope that you all had a wonderful week off! Glad that you’re back this week.

    Dessert: tiramisu, flan, or a good cannoli
    Book: Crossing to Safety (thanks for the recommendation CoJ readers!)
    Looking forward to: crew team practice starting, and camping/rock climbing camp
    What’s worrying me: upcoming elections, gun control and reproductive rights, dating/meeting someone again after ending a relationship that wasn’t healthy for me, my career/grad school
    Childhood nickname: Dougie Hauser (I was pre-med), Britt

  73. Deana says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Bananas Foster
    A book, TV show, or movie enjoyed recently: A brilliant book, “Furious Hours – Murder, Fraud, and the Last Trial of Harper Lee.”
    Something you’re looking forward to: using the plane ticket from a trip I had to cancel recently.
    What’s worrying you: everything!
    Childhood nickname: My dad called me Tootie

  74. Colleen S. says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Cheesecake

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’m watching One Tree Hill for the first time. I’m 36, but enjoying the drama a little too much.

    Something you’re looking forward to: Cooler weather

    What’s worrying you: I need to find a job so my sister and I can stay in our apartment when the lease is up, but I’m not qualified enough to make the money to pay the lease and all the other bills.

    Your childhood nickname: Colly

  75. Louise says...

    My favourite desert is lemon pie. Anything involving lemon, I’ll take it.
    I’m too tired to watch TV or Netflix, I even canceled my New Yorker Subscription after 10 years, because I hadn’t yet opened the wrapper of a magazine that was from April.
    I look forward to warm autumn days and the leaves of our chestnut tree turning brown.
    I worry about managing 2 jobs and providing for four little boys, as our au-pair had to leave for family reasons. I miss her and hope that she’s well. I also worry about my 7 year old who’s having a hard time right now. I sometime wonder if I’m strong enough for all of this and how my kids will remember me. A super stressed, always late mother of 4 who told them she loves them at all times of the day?

    • Sarah says...

      Hugs to you Louise. This sounds like a lot.

    • Brn says...

      They will literally only remember that last part. My parents were always rushing around when I was a kid but I only realized later. My strongest memories are of them telling me they loved me and were proud of me. All the time. (Even when I was being a little shit.) it made such a difference. The rest is noise.

      Go easy on yourself during a tough time.

  76. Lynn says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate chip cookies – Chip’s Ahoy, Tate’s, Famous Amos, I love a crunchy cookie. But I will also eat any kind of chocolate chip cookie you present me.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
    – Book: The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo
    – TV:
    Something you’re looking forward to:
    – Fall: I love cozy weather, fleeces, crisp air, and am dying to have better sleep (heat = no sleep)
    What’s worrying you:
    – Feeling like I don’t have enough time to do all the things I want to do
    Your childhood nickname: Ugh, Honey Bear. My mom called me that and I hated it.

  77. Mallory says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: A WARM chocolate chip cookie, particularly if sea salt is involved.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Home Fire by Kamila Shamsie – This was my book club pick last month, and it was fantastic! Such a page-turner.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Sitting on my couch, burning a woodsy-smelling candle and looking out my front window as the leaves change – just general cozyness
    What’s worrying you: If my parents are hurt that I live so far away from them.
    Your childhood nickname: Red!

  78. Laura says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Flan ?
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Most recent season of Better Things
    Something you’re looking forward to: Raising my little girl
    What’s worrying you: The lump in my left breast (I am getting it checked out!)
    Your childhood nickname: Lola

  79. A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate gelato
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Great Hack (documentary)
    Something you’re looking forward to: the birth of my first baby, in Feb 2020
    What’s worrying you: mass shootings, the state of the world, i.e. many countries leaning towards authoritarian governments, climate change
    Your Childhood Nickname: fox mulder
    <3

  80. APJ says...

    Dessert: peach pie (it’s the only way I can have peaches due to oral allergy syndrome!) or better yet peach crumble. Either made by my mom.
    Book: Circe
    Looking forward to: new (first!) job as a grown up doctor
    Worrying: new (first!) job as a grown up doctor
    Nickname: Els

  81. Marti says...

    A dessert I’ll never refuse: PEANUT BUTTER PIE 4 LIFE (even better with some sort of oreo-situation worked in)
    A book, TV show or movie I enjoyed recently: The TV show Schitt’s Creek. So so funny. “Ew, David!”
    Something I’m looking forward to: The inevitable relief I will feel after cleaning tonight.
    What’s worrying you: Visiting my in-laws soon. In-laws can be… difficult.
    Your childhood nickname: “Little Marti.” I was named after my dad’s best friend, Martin. He was “Big Marti” and I was “Little Marti” :)

  82. Emma says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Any homemade baked good :) I’ve also been really enjoying “liquid dessert” ….A habit we picked up on our honeymoon in Greece earlier this summer and I haven’t been able to shake! Port = mmmmm!!!!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Working Moms
    Something you’re looking forward to: I’m running a marathon in November….looking forward to being done with the training, Ha! (Also *hopefully* the sense of accomplishment)
    What’s worrying you: my stagnant career. Idk, just thought I’d be further along, and it’s scary to be approaching 30 and to feel like I’m basically in glorified administrative roles. It’s hard to imagine having kids before I feel more accomplished in my career, and I’m beginning to think about what I need to do in the next 5-6 years to propel myself forward. Scary and intimidating. How do women do it, am I right?!?!!?

  83. Oh this is fun!

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: coconut cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I don’t know what to do with myself with no more Pose to watch!
    Something you’re looking forward to: my baby girl’s first Halloween! We’re doing a family costume as Christine McConnell, Norman, and Rose
    What’s worrying you: My daughter’s sleep. She had been sleeping throug the night, but for the last two months, it’s just all over the place, and we are all exhausted!
    Your childhood nickname: Milly Bug

  84. Amy says...

    What a fun post, that really did make me more excited for fall, which I do love, but as a Florida girl, summer will always just feel like the season in which I was meant to exist :)

    -I will never refuse CARVEL ICE CREAM CAKE oh my goodness
    -Watched the movie CASPER with Cristina Ricci yesterday for the first time in forever and loved it all over again– hats off to the amazing song at the end which has been on loop in my head for 24 hours.
    -Looking forward to taking a nap later lol
    -Currently worried about navigating the Jewish holidays in a way that allows us to spend time with my divorced parents and my in-laws without offending anyone or being stretched too thin. Holidays are always a juggling challenge.
    -My grandfather used to call me Amy-bo-bamy-fee-foo (he always used to bungle that song bananafanafofamymemymomamy, and just end up with his own version).

    <3

  85. Christa says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: gooey brownies
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: really, and unexpectedly, loved Barry
    Something you’re looking forward to: lunch with my mom, cousin, and aunt this weekend
    What’s worrying you: waiting on some labs drawn last week that might indicate a side effect from MS treatment last year :/
    Your childhood nickname: I didn’t have one! My mom purposely chose my name for its lack of obvious nicknames (as a nicknamed Terri herself)

  86. Sonja says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Homemade chocolate chip cookies!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Schitt’s Creek (Eww, David!)
    Something you’re looking forward to: Throwing my son a birthday party; four year old excitment about birthday parties is infectious.
    What’s worrying you: I’m very newly pregnant post a miscarriage and I’m basically a ball of anxiety with hair.
    Your childhood nickname: Ro

    • Sending the very best thoughts to your newly pregnant self. May your worries be for naught, Sonja.

  87. Nancy French says...

    I love that you want to know about us….I feel like I’ve known you & your family forever!?
    – brownies
    – Book: My Sister the Serial Killer
    – Movie: The Art of Racing in the Rain (bring Kleenex)
    -TV show- Bachelor in Paradise
    (Texting with friends is the best part!)
    – Looking forward to my daughter’s wedding in 2020!
    – Losing weight
    – No nicknames that i know about?

  88. Sandy says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Key Lime Pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Where the Crawdads Sing (book); Garden Answer (youtube channel).
    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall (this summer has been brutal)
    What’s worrying you: Incivility, crazy weather, a segment of society seemingly gone mad, my storm ravaged backyard.
    Your childhood nickname: Sambo

  89. A dessert you’ll never refuse: anything baked by my mother. Her cooking skills may be fading but the love she puts into her food tastes better than ever.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Tales of the city (the original one)
    Something you’re looking forward to: the feeling I’ll get when I finally work up the courage to ask for a raise (and get it)!
    What’s worrying you: My husband starts a new job tomorrow. We’ve been freelancing together at home for 7 years and I’m feeling left behind and vulnerable this evening. So thank you for asking me :) I needed this!
    Your childhood nickname: Carrot.

  90. Jenny says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Flourless chocolate cake, brownies. Any super duper baked chocolate thing :)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I am loving Catastrophe. I watched the first season years ago, but now I’m married watching it with my husband and I’m pretty sure I’m the American version of Sharon. Thrilling and scary all at once!
    Something you’re looking forward to: Soup! And a getaway to celebrate my one year wedding anniversary.
    What’s worrying you: That I will never get pregnant. That I am not doing something right, feeling right, blah blah blah
    Your childhood nickname: Animal, Lulu, Jaja

  91. Alanna says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate cake. Oh man.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Succession (HBO)
    Something you’re looking forward to: Going to Paris for my 40th birthday – alone!
    What’s worrying you: The growing feeling that I made a mistake by not having kids.
    Your childhood nickname: LannyBonesJones

    • Dee says...

      I adopted as a single mom at 40. Best decision ever!

  92. Malaika Marsh says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Strawberry and pistachio tart or apple crumble with custard
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Outlander, I’m completely in love with Tv Show and the book.
    Something you’re looking forward to: My toddler might be a going to nursery next year(fingers crossed).
    Finally being able to make a good cake. I actually ok baker but sometimes have problems with cakes. So my husband is going to teach me to make a great cake. My husband is wonderful with cakes and makes the best chocolate and pistachio cake.
    What’s worrying you: Mostly how to deal with gifted toddler and how to get her to sleep.
    If I’m a good mother to my toddler.
    my relationships and friendships.
    Your childhood nickname: Lika

  93. Heather says...

    A book I’m enjoying: Becoming by Michelle Obama
    What’s worrying you: leading a mom group in the next week, my son’s injury healing properly and the emotional side of that, my other son’s behavior, my husband and me going through a blip in our relationship and wanting to move past it, the never ending list of ongoing needs (emotional, physical, items, scheduling, remembering, anticipating) just all the things..and trying not to let it swallow me up..even though it feels dangerously close..

  94. HP says...

    – Sticky toffee pudding.
    – Trick Mirror by Jia Tolentino.
    – A visit from my parents at the end of the month.
    – The fact that I will be thirty when I finish my PhD and if I decide not to pursue academia (an increasingly likely possibility) I will be entering the job market with no *real* work experience to speak of.
    – Too embarrassing to say, even anonymously.

  95. Catherine says...

    Welcome back! So nice to read your blog again! love the quiz!
    -dessert: anything with hazelnuts and chocolate, any cake from the French blog “amuse-bouche”.
    -I saw “once upon a time in Hollywood” and loved it! I binged watched Fleabag (both seasons!) and Mind Hunters, loved that too!
    -I’m looking forward to taking long walks in the country and the mountains to pick wild mushrooms (my husband is an expert), hazelnuts and walnuts, blackberries, colorful leaves etc. Fall is also my favorite season…
    -I’m worried about my teenage daughter changing too quickly and too radically. She spent a lot of time with her friends over the summer and it feels like I’ve lost her a little. She’s 14 and a half and I’m not ready.
    -my name is Catherine and no one in my family has ever called me that. Everyone called me Cathy, which I hated. My favorite cousin (my almost sister really!) started calling me Cath, which I loved, and it caught on. It’s not a nickname, but she made my name better; everybody calls me that now, even my parents!

  96. MK says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate… in any form.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Derry Girls!

    Something you’re looking forward to: More free time now that my child is in preschool

    What’s worrying you: The colds my child has already gotten from attending preschool

    Your childhood nickname: Pistol… or so I thought for a long time. It’s actually what my mom called me when I was being unruly and rebellious and not listening to her.

  97. Ilka says...

    Dessert: any type of ice cream!
    Book: The Light Brigade
    Looking forward to: Halloween, it’s the holiday I enjoy most with 2 little kids!
    Worrying me: climate change
    Nickname: Polka Dotted

  98. Jo Kelly says...

    I’ll never refuse lemon gelato
    I loved reading “Washington Black”
    I’m looking forward to watching my new-ish business grow (I’m an artist)
    I am always worried about one of my kids (thought they’re grown up!) as they weave through this tricky life
    My childhood nickname has stuck: Jo
    Nice to see you back, COJ!

  99. Anna says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Guide’s Mint Ice Cream (mashed up girl guide cookies in vanilla ice cream . . . delicious)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong. I cried my way through most of it.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Taking my partner away to a cabin in the woods for his birthday and lounging in front of the fire with a glass of wine in my hand!
    What’s worrying you: My family’s (and my) health. We’ve had some recent cancer diagnoses in our family and are in the processing of doing some genetic counselling and it’s all just so terrifying and overwhelming, and I irrationally feel that every ache or pain I have must be cancer. I’m struggling with planning a life and the future when everything feels so up in the air and scary.
    Your childhood nickname: Annie

  100. riye says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate ginger cookies made by my bf.
    A book, TV show, or movie you enjoyed recently: The Farewell
    Something you’re looking forward to: special office lunch today courtesy of one of my co-workers.
    Your childhood nickname: I didn’t have a childhood nickname but in college my friend called me “Mayhem”. :-)

    • riye says...

      P.S. What’s worrying me: paperwork, paperwork, paperwork. (sigh)

  101. Heather says...

    1. Ice Cream or Cheesecake
    2. Before we were yours – so so so good!
    3. Looking forward to getting off work & getting my babies from school & daycare
    4. Money/Budgeting
    5. Looli :) My entire family still calls me this

  102. Leah says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: brownies (edges please)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Where the Crawdads Sing (haunting and moving)
    Something you’re looking forward to: cooler air and sweaters!
    What’s worrying you: the 2020 election
    Your childhood nickname: mouse

  103. Samita says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Warm apple crisp and vanilla ice cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Where the Crawdad’s Sing, Educated, Little Fires Everywhere – I devoured these three books! They were fantastic.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Visiting my family overseas for the holidays for the first time in two years.
    What’s worrying you: Will I ever get pregnant? Am I even desireable enough to get pregnant? My anxiety about this is putting a major strain on my mental health and relationship. It’s like everything about my self worth is wrapped up in this issue.
    Your childhood nickname: Pinky

  104. AC says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Affogato. So simple, but amazing.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Let’s Explore Diabetes with Owls by David Sedaris
    Something you’re looking forward to: Thursday Night. There’s just something about Thursday nights…. you’re almost to the weekend!
    What’s worrying you: if I’ll ever get beyond the grief of my breakup.
    Your childhood nickname: Britches :)

  105. Ellie says...

    I love these posts! I’m a little overwhelmed the last couple days, but looking forward to a long weekend this weekend (I worked 2/3 days over Labor Day).

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Molten lava cake or pretty much anything chocolate
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Book-Save me the Plums by Ruth Reichl and TV show-Nashville!
    Something you’re looking forward to: a long weekend away with my hubby
    What’s worrying you: work and where life will take us in the next year
    Your childhood nickname: El or Shev (my Hebrew name is Elisheva)

  106. ABBY says...

    — Carmelitas + Gooey Butter Cake
    — BOOK: “Far From The Tree” / TV: “Schitt’s Creek” & “Workin’ Moms”
    — Thanksgiving with extended family
    — Will I have enough time!
    — Yo-Ab :)

  107. silver says...

    A dessert I’ll never refuse: dessert isn’t my go to (I want dumplings all the time) but an affogato is what I usually order when we are dining out.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I am currently enjoying Blue Roses by Kate Forsyth
    Something you’re looking forward to: my husband’s love, my child’s smile and my cat’s meow (and our new puppy that we have to wait another 4 weeks for)
    What’s worrying you: everything, sickness, so much death, my job, my desire to just sink into a dark room under a house until it has all this worry has gone away, and why there is so little kindness out there amongst those with the power. oh and WHAT ARE WE GOING TO NAME THE DOG? who knew three family members could find this is the decision that shows our difference?

    PS I missed you guys while you were off, and am looking forward to the new content.
    Your childhood nickname: I did not really have one, oh oops yes I did ‘the chatterbox’

  108. Andrea Cline says...

    A desert you can’t refuse: ice cream, anything chocolate, let’s be honest most desserts
    A book, tv show or movie recently enjoyed: Working Moms
    Something you’re looking forward to: family get away weekend to Madison, WI for my birthday
    What’s worrying you: Are my kids alright??? (Allergy tests for the oldest today)
    Your childhood nickname: oh so many we were a nickname family. Most common Andi. Funniest: PB for psycho b@#$% that my dad will still tease me with

    • Jenny says...

      I’m looking forward to my birthday this month! The gals and I are camping at a beautiful hot springs with a clean, bright shared kitchen. We are gonna laugh, soak, sleep, read, drink wine and cook for each other for two days.

  109. Hillary says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate chip cookies
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Brunch is Hell – a book about bringing back the dying art of dinner parties
    Something you’re looking forward to: visiting my college roommate and her family next weekend in the beautiful PNW
    What’s worrying you: The 15 hr travel day to see said college roommate!
    Your childhood nickname: same as now – Hill. Hillary doesn’t have a lot of options!

  110. Bon says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Pecan Pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Outlander (Seasons 1&2)
    Something you’re looking forward to: Time to myself…
    What’s worrying you: Getting all my work done this week! Yay, end of month reports!
    Your childhood nickname: Bon-Bon

  111. Heather says...

    JK,

    Oh my word, dear one, to say all that takes such guts… To feel all that, I imagine, is crushing. Each time you say your truth and share it I hope that it leaves behind a fraction of the burden, and reminds you that you can handle this… In life it’s incredible what we end up actually handling and coming out the other side off. I admire your strength to lay all this out here among us. We see you. Just remember, it’s Human nature to have feelings about feelings; We feel sad about feeling sad, we feel angry at our anger, etc. If you just notice that & forgive yourself, keep breathing, and keep your head up… the Time will pass anyway and hopefully you’ll find yourself with clearer eyes And a fuller heart. All good and sweet things to you!
    -Heather

  112. Emma says...

    -baklava
    -Yes Chef!
    -my two almost three year old has never watched a tv show or movie. But on the first evening of Thanksgiving break we’re planning on putting our baby to bed and then keeping our two year old up for a Christmas movie. What should we watch??? I have to get this right!!!
    -playing the piano for a children’s program at church. I got asked with short notice, but I’m just not there yet with the songs. Feels like a high school piano recital coming up! Twisted butterfly stomach!
    -emo (short for emotion because my dad called my siblings and me (Catherine, Millie, and Emma) Commotion, Motion, and Emotion.

    • Gilli Treiman says...

      -Chocolate Mousse
      — Book:Mrs Everything
      -Movie: Fiddler the documentary
      -Looking forward to my trip to
      England in October

    • Jo says...

      Christmas films are the best! What about ‘The Snowman’? It’s short (half an hour) and very very sweet. Also ‘The Polar Express’ is heart warming although there is a scary scene involving puppets that I still have to fast forward!

    • Colleen S says...

      I always recommend A Charlie Brown Christmas. It’s short (perfect for a small child), has Christmas music, and it’s fun nostalgia. There’s also a million different versions of A Christmas Carol, but some of the stuff might go over a child’s head.

    • Rachel Adrianna says...

      what a clever, lovely thing for your dad to do!

  113. Rebecca says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate in any form!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Currently reading Where the Crawdads Sing and loving it. Also currently watching Victoria and totally hooked. To me, it’s a blend of The Crown and Downton Abbey, two of my favs.
    Something you’re looking forward to: The birth of our first child in December!
    What’s worrying you: The birth of our first child in December. ;)
    Your childhood nickname: No childhood nickname but my little nephew and niece call me Beebs and now my entire family has picked it up. I love it.

    • Mona says...

      Congrats on the baby! I had my first in February and now six months later she has this wonderful belly laugh when I tickle her that makes every sleepless night worth it. Reading mom posts on CoJ really helped me when I felt lost, I don’t know how many times I’ve thought to myself “babies be babies” when she does inexplicably weird things :) :)
      Best of luck to you and remember to take gentle care of yourself!

    • Shena says...

      Victoria is amazing. I LOVE the love story with her husband.

    • Rebecca says...

      Thank you for your kind words and encouragement, Mona! :)

      Shena, their love story is one of my favorite parts. Not surprised they are a couple in real life!

  114. Madeleine says...

    Dessert I’d never refuse: the cheese board
    Book I’ve enjoyed: Invisible Women, by Caroline Criado Perez
    Looking forward to: moving back into our house on the weekend after 9 weeks of renovations
    Dreading: Brexit
    Childhood nickname: Pumpkin. (There are people I know from growing up who don’t know my ‘real’ name.)
    Welcome back, Jo and the team- I’ve missed you! X

    • Sarah F. says...

      – my grandmother’s chocolate ice cream angel food cake topped with homemade raspberry sauce!!
      – The Road Back to You
      – finally meeting with my counselor again
      – my family (it’s really disintegrated after the death of my youngest brother…)
      – Frog (I have some mighty fine legs!)

  115. Coconut Meringue Pie
    Poldark (the Masterpiece Theater show)
    For the leaves to change color
    Perpetually worried about a silly man
    Ode or Odem (my dad has called me Ode my ENTIRE LIFE and I love it)

  116. Katie Weltner says...

    Hello, missed you!!!

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: salted caramel ice cream (non-dairy please)

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: in the middle of watching Chernobyl and it’s all I can think of it!

    Something you’re looking forward to: babies :) Not pregnant, but trying!

    What’s worrying you: can we talk about birth control? what is the best kind? is there really a link between the hormornal IUD and cancer?? I’d love to hear pros & cons from experts/fellow ladies.

    Your childhood nickname: In second grade, I changed my name to Suzy Boston Massachusetts. There was another Katie in my class and I can’t handle it! Why Suzy? No idea. Why Boston, MA? I had visited my uncle there during the summer. I’m from the West Coast, and I struggled to spell Massachusetts all year long :)

  117. A dessert you’ll never refuse: blackberry ice cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: the year of yes
    Something you’re looking forward to: leaves changing
    What’s worrying you: money. always money.
    Your childhood nickname: fistface which my parents dubbed me for my angry toddler scrunched up look.

  118. Courtney says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: espresso. anything with bananas + cream.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: “Battles of the New Republic: A Contemporary History of Nepal”.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Autumn and everything about it! New exciting creative projects, at home and at work.
    What’s worrying you: Differing schedules between me and my partner affecting our relationship.
    Your childhood nickname: Courtmo.

  119. Rach says...

    A dessert I’ll never refuse: ice cream!
    A book, TV show, or movie: My husband and I are enjoying the TV show, Mindhunter. I am finishing up “Becoming” and I am sad for it to end.
    Something you’re looking forward to: decorating for fall in our first home.
    What’s worrying you: not getting pregnant.
    Your childhood nickname: Fairy Princess Tutu or Tutu for short

  120. Kim B. says...

    Vanilla ice cream with fresh strawberries!
    Where the Crawdads Sing, Delia Owens
    Seeing Elton John in concert with my mom
    What’s next for me in my job?
    Corny (same as my dad when he was a kid)

  121. Lauren says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Chocolate Chip Cookie – bonus points if it’s still warm!
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Currently enjoying, This Is How It Always Is, by Laurie Frankel. Such a thought provoking novel!
    Something you’re looking forward to: My son’s 1st Birthday Party this weekend. I cannot believe it’s already here, this year has gone so fast!
    What’s worrying you: How to navigate a tricky friendship
    Your childhood nickname: Laur . . . still is!

  122. Erin Mary says...

    Hi!

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: mmmmm…flan…

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Booksmart! It was while ago, but it’s the last movie I saw in the theaters and it was wonderful.

    Something you’re looking forward to: I’m going back to DC next week, to visit my home office and see my old friends! I lived there for 8 years, but now I’m back in California.

    What’s worrying you: Oh gosh, everything. I’m nervous about work, nervous about friends, nervous about how my writing class is going, worried about family…I’m just generally worried. But that’s OCD and anxiety for ya!

    Your childhood nickname: Just Erin Mary. I dropped the “Mary” in elementary school, but still use it sometimes online.

    Otherwise? I’m just sort of floating around through space. My antidepressants are working fine, I guess, but they’re just bringing me up to “not suicidal”. I’m not making great health decisions, and I’m just sort of generally overwhelmed with life. I’m also very sleepy.

  123. Emily says...

    I could sit here all afternoon reading everyone’s answers, but the toddler is napping so mommy has work to do… lol.

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: cheesecake or muddy buddies
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: re-watching Gilmore Girls with my daughter
    Something you’re looking forward to: our new baby coming in October, a weekend getaway to the shore in a couple weeks, finally getting my hair permed again!
    What’s worrying you: my husband and how his stress and anxiety is affecting him, getting all the things done before baby comes (nesting is in full force!), transitioning our daughter from crib to big bed/new room.
    Your childhood nickname: Emi, and EAA (pronounced ee-ah, my initials) in HS.

  124. Amanda says...

    Welcome back — you were missed! Thanks for the offer to give you our stress… so thoughtful!
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: dark chocolate, figs, a fancy digestif
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The Bird King by G Willow Wilson; Call Your Agent (Netflix french series), the final season of Jane the Virgin
    Something you’re looking forward to: fall! getting more plant babies and adopting a dog/cat! I also set a “second hand only” challenge for myself this year, so I’m getting excited for thrifting!
    What’s worrying you: My kid has special needs and kindergarten was ROUGH on the whole family — worrying about how first grade will go this year! Worrying about my aging mom’s terrible health, worrying about my dad who is worried about my mom. Stressed out about racism, sexism, and climate change.
    Your childhood nickname: Amanda Panda; Mandy Pants

  125. Joanna C says...

    -anything dark chocolate
    -The Dollhouse by Fiona Davis
    -cooler weather
    -worried I’ll never finish my grad program, worried I’ll never find a job even if I do, worried I’ve wasted years on a degree that will never lead to a career, worried I’ll give in to my husband’s desire to have a baby ASAP and settle for being a stay at home mom because I have no career options anyway and might as well give up.
    -no nicknames, my mother is against them and I’m not a fan either

    • Shena says...

      Sounds like you need to try getting a job first so that having a baby doesn’t feel like giving up, but feels exciting and amazing. Never settle.

  126. Shirley says...

    How great is that?! I will need to try Lina’s line and gesture with my friends. Twice in my life, someone’s said “No, really – how are you?” after my initial polite “I’m fine” and I, too, remember how warmed I felt when they said that.

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: A gooey chocolate chip cookie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Harlots – I need to find others who loved this show as much as me! I’m itching to chat about it.
    Something you’re looking forward to: I agree, Fall is great and looking forward to that first hot apple cider.
    What’s worrying you: I was recently laid off and looking for that next job. I worry the next job will make me just as unhappy and stressed as the last one and that, for whatever reason, this is simply my lot in life. Not at all uncommon for the average person, making me that average person I worked so hard not to be.
    Your childhood nickname: Squirrelly

    • Laura D. says...

      Shirley, I feel like you took the words out of my mouth with your answer to “what’s worrying you?”–I am in a similar situation, and I feel for you. I hope you find something that makes you feel excited to go to work.

    • Shirley says...

      Thank you, Laura! I wish you the best as well. We will grow and learn from this.

  127. Eve says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse:
    – Tiramisu, always.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
    – A tale for the time being by Ruth Ozeki – so many beautiful zen thoughts. And it is funny and sad at the same time.
    – Mistborn, pure fun. Swallowed it in just few days.
    Something you’re looking forward to:
    – Short term: The end of September (big research deadline that I want to be done with), cooling (which means more baking).
    – Long term: My parter an I recently reached the decision that we *will* have kids at some point in the next few years, really looking forward to the next chapter of our joint life.
    What’s worrying you:
    – What will happen at the end of grad school… where would I live where will I work would I find nice people to work with and spend the day with will I be close to my family… so much uncertainty
    Your childhood nickname:
    -Nanooshi

    • K says...

      A Tale for the Time Being is my FAVORITE book! I’ve given copies to almost everyone I know. :)

  128. Julia says...

    An article I submitted to a top journal after years and years of work has been rejected today. The justification for their decision is so harsh and I am having a difficult time accepting it. At moments like this, I hate my job. I get super stressed about losing everything—not being able to provide for my two kids, not being able to pay the mortgage. I panic. I hate those people whose decisions affect the real lives of real people. I hate those comfortably tenured faculty who make irresponsible decisions so easily. I am angry. Anxious. And upset.

    • Terri says...

      Julia,

      I just wanted to say that I’m so sorry. I don’t work in academia, but the tenure and promotion system (and the pressure to get published) seems excruciating to me. And the fear you feel about being able to provide for your children is something I can imagine, being a parent myself. I just want you to know that someone is thinking about you today, that someone cares.

    • Sasha L says...

      Ugh, Julia. Hugs. Hope things look brighter tomorrow.

  129. AGY says...

    Welcome back CoJ!

    Mint Chocolate Chip Ice Cream
    Book: “Fleishman Is In Trouble” – soooooo good.
    Trying for Baby #2
    Trying for Baby #2
    Midge

  130. Em says...

    This is so fun!
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: I wish it were fancier, but I’m wild about a square of dark chocolate out of the freezer.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Gingerbread by Helen Oyeyemi and Outlander! The BEST summer fixes.
    Something you’re looking forward to: We adopted a precious dog two days ago, and I can’t wait to rush home to her after work.
    What’s worrying you: See above, hah! I’ve been so worried about what our sweet dog is thinking and how she’s doing while I’m away. We live in Austin, so we can take her around with us quite a bit — I’m learning that it may never be enough!
    Your childhood nickname: Jelly! I hated peanut butter as a kid, so my mom made quite a few jelly sandwiches through elementary school.

  131. Megan Snyder says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: A vegan tiramisu (hard to come by) or Oreo cookies (accidentally vegan!)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: OMG Guava Island with Donald Glover and Rihanna on Amazon Prime! It is BEAUTIFULLY shot and Rihanna, who is normally so glamorous and fierce, is so tender and soft. You MUST watch.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Sweater weather
    What’s worrying you: I’ve been struggling with my 7-year-old stepdaughter recently. She throws EPIC tantrums, and it’s so hard not to lose my temper with her. I’m worried she’s going to grow up to hate me.
    Your childhood nickname: Meggie Moo

  132. A dessert you’ll never refuse: Banana pudding, especially if it’s made with gingersnap cookies instead of vanilla wafers.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Red, White and Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston. Pure joy from beginning to end, hilariously written.

    Something you’re looking forward to: My new dog! I just adopted him from a rescue and his foster parents are bringing him to my house in a few days!

    What’s worrying you: Whether or not I’ll be a good dog mom. Should I keep his current name, Scotty, or rename him Satchmo. Considering the amount of anxiety I usually experience, this isn’t so bad.

    Your childhood nickname: Grace Face

  133. Laura says...

    Hope y’all got some rest!

    1. Dessert: Candy Cookie from Panera. Every. Time.
    2. TV Show: Still stuck on Fleabag & really just obsessed with all things British media these days.
    3. Looking forward to: Moon River Music Festival in Chattanooga, TN!
    4. Worried: For our country, constantly reading new posts on Facebook about kids being separated from their parents & it leaves a massive hole in my heart.
    5. Nickname: My parents called me Dumplin :)

  134. Tracy says...

    choc chip cookie, jane the virgin, going to spain in a few weeks, how will we ever afford a house, and soup!

  135. Amanda W. says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Banana Bread Pudding
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: The latest season of “Mindhunter.” So captivating.
    Something you’re looking forward to: My husband and I just booked a trip to Amsterdam for February of next year! So excited. (But I also second fall! Best.season.ever.)
    What’s worrying you: The company I work for is in the process of changing investors. Does that mean layoffs again?
    Your childhood nickname: Mandy

  136. Betsy says...

    Hope you had a fantastic visit with your sister!

    Dessert: Denver sheet cake from Colorado Cache’ cookbook
    TV Show: Schitt’s Creek
    Looking forward to: Putting on a sweatshirt and leggings.
    What’s worrying me: Our messed up world.
    Childhood nickname: I had sooo many nicknames. My favorite is still Bebop.

  137. Michelle says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Life is too short to refuse dessert :)
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Heartburn – got it from the library after you recommended it and I felt like I was reading When Harry Met Sally for the first time!
    Something you’re looking forward to: a package from an awesome J Crew factory sale
    What’s worrying you: back to school germs
    Your childhood nickname: Shell

    I’ve been having anxiety/ptsd since January and it’s been a lot to handle. Saw some acquaintances at a bbq yesterday and it’s hard to give a friendly update on your life when it’s been really difficult. I’m finally dealing with my daughter’s traumatic diagnosis and treatment 5 years ago. We powered through at the time and now it’s coming back in really physical and emotional waves. Thankfully I found a good counselor and medication but it’s still not fun to come to terms with.
    Welcome back, thank you, you were missed <3

    • Julie says...

      Do not stop to believe that it will get better. Sending much love!
      ???

    • S says...

      I’m really struggling with PTSD and anxiety from my child’s chronic health issues. So much worry.

    • Michelle says...

      Hang in there, S. It’s so, so hard. People always said “you’re handling this so well!” so I thought I was, until I wasn’t. Looking back, I never even let myself cry about it all. Didn’t have the time!
      If you don’t have a counselor, I highly recommend it. I found a lot of comfort in a facebook group for parents of kids with the same condition.
      You don’t always have to be strong. You are allowed to cry and wallow, even if it seems unwarranted. Feel those feelings! Praying for you. <3

  138. Lauren McCarthy says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Warm brownies.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Almost finished with “Where the Crawdads Sing” by Delia Owens. Really enjoyed.
    Something you’re looking forward to: Fall days. Crisp air & sunshine. Nostalgia of pencil sharpenings, trick or treats, and leaves.
    What’s worrying you: My lost relationship with my brother.
    Your childhood nickname: Missy.

  139. Kathleen says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Pumpkin Pie
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: An Education, This Way Up and Call Me By Your Name
    Something you’re looking forward to: Ladies trip to New Orleans in October
    What’s worrying you: Money
    Your childhood nickname: “Kate the Skate” and “Cat”

  140. Silvina says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Ice-cream
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: “Dix pour cent” (French series)
    Something you’re looking forward to: find a partner that makes me happy
    What’s worrying you: a toxic relationship I’m trying to finish
    Your childhood nickname: Lili

  141. Lydia says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: strawberry shortcake with local, in-season strawberries ie heaven on earth
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Where the Crawdads Sing, what a insanely gorgeous and wonderful read
    Something you’re looking forward to: Friend’s wedding in Austin in November (just went it starts to get dark and cold in Maine)
    What’s worrying you: When will I get pregnant?
    Your childhood nickname: Lyds

    • Cynthia says...

      I loved Where the Crawdads Sing. I read it a year ago.

  142. JK says...

    ~ anything chocolate
    ~ nothing in a while
    ~ reorganizing my house
    ~ the unending crisis between my husband and my family over money and debt. Watching my home burn down, and everybody just shouts at me and insults each other. I feel crippled at work and can’t be patient with my sweet kids. Thanks for the outlet…
    ~ no nickname

    • Heather says...

      JK,

      Oh my word, dear one, to say all that takes such guts… To feel all that, I imagine, is crushing. Each time you say your truth and share it I hope that it leaves behind a fraction of the burden, and reminds you that you can handle this… In life it’s incredible what we end up actually handling and coming out the other side off. I admire your strength to lay all this out here among us. We see you. Just remember, it’s Human nature to have feelings about feelings; We feel sad about feeling sad, we feel angry at our anger, etc. If you just notice that & forgive yourself, keep breathing, and keep your head up… the Time will pass anyway and hopefully you’ll find yourself with clearer eyes And a fuller heart. All good and sweet things to you!
      -Heather

    • JK says...

      Heather, thank you for such kindness and for hearing me.

    • Heather says...

      JK,

      Kindness can be such a great legacy; I’m learning that as I get older. Such a simple benchmark but such a lasting effect. I’m trying to forgive myself for more and relish the fact that I even know how to be kind; because some people do not have that muscle memory or instinct to be so. Thank you!

      You are welcome. Thank you for sharing, for being open & vulnerable with us. If you’re looking for book recs: try anything by Brene Brown (her TED talks, her Netflix special, her books, she narrates her books on tapes too and her voice alone gives me courage let alone her powerful insights).

  143. Dee says...

    Apple crumble with vanilla custard
    The Heart’s Invisible Furies by John Boyne
    Mini break in Paris
    What comes next?
    Debbsie. My neighbour, same age as me, couldn’t pronounce my name so he made this up for me. He and I were the same age and grew up together.

  144. Kat says...

    I’ve just got home from hospital- had my 2nd laparoscopy to remove endometrial tissue. Happy it’s gone and looking forward to recovering!
    A dessert you’ll never refuse: apple crumble – sometimes the classics are the best! With custard of course.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: She-Ra (on Netflix) super fun and up to date.
    Something you’re looking forward to: tickets to see Eddie Izzard at the end of the month!
    What’s worrying you: if the endo will come back again, but I’m trying to let go of that and be ok with the uncertainty
    Your childhood nickname: Kat! I’ve kept it! I now hate being called my full name ;)

  145. J. says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse:
    Tres leches cake
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently:
    The Great British Bake Off!
    Something you’re looking forward to:
    We’re hoping to go to Portugal next year!
    What’s worrying you:
    A) whether I’ll be able to get pregnant B) whether potential pregnancy will get in the way of upcoming travel to a Zika country and whether we should stop trying for several months C) whether I’ll be a good mother/we’ll be good parents (had a truly AWFUL parenting anxiety dream last night!) D) whether having a baby will create too much stress in our relationship for us to withstand … yeah I’m a basketcase all around!
    Your childhood nickname:
    Dolly

  146. Jessie says...

    OH my heart. My day started with witnessing a motorcycle accident, followed within an hour of watching a woman on the ledge of a bridge be talked down by police. All with the emotional background of a horrible fight with someone who means a lot to me. My heart is heavy. Today feels so tender.

    • kim says...

      giving you a big hug xoxo

  147. I don’t know that I’ve ever refused a piece of good dark chocolate cake! If somehow peanut butter sneaks in there with it…heaven.

    I just finished reading An American Marriage by Tayari Jones. Heartbreaking, beautiful, real.

    I’m really looking forward to celebrating my 1-year anniversary at the end of September with my husband, back in the same place where we were married!

    I’m currently worrying about my overall health and hoping that the steps I’m taking to heal & take care of myself are working well. And I’m naturally always a bit worried about my sweet pup who’s at home by himself for a few hours at a time during the workweek…he’s usually just napping but can be sneaky when left alone!

    I had a built-in childhood nickname (Ky) and everyone who knows me well still calls me by it. I find it especially endearing whenever someone new begins using it – it’s sort of a signifier that we’ve become close!

  148. Nicole says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: A banana split – so decadent
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Crazy Ex-Girlfriend – I’m SO GLAD I finally watched this series
    Something you’re looking forward to: Moving to Ireland next year!
    What’s worrying you: Children in Border Camps, Climate Change, Sexual Assault, everything.
    Your childhood nickname: Nikki, but only for one year in third grade before I decided I wanted to be ‘Nicole’ again

  149. Sarah says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: chocolate, full stop.
    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: I’m lingering over The Master Butcher’s Singing Club, which was published in 2003, because the characters and storyline are so vivid and I’m not ready for it to end! Also, thrilled to see that season 3 of The Good Place is on Netflix–it’s such a smart, funny show.
    Something you’re looking forward to: a special trip to Whidbey Island next month to mark ten years (!) of dating my now-husband.
    What’s worrying you: My childhood best friend suffered a miscarriage over the weekend, which is devastating in itself, but also complicated by the fact that she had learned her baby had a number of genetic disorders and had chosen to carry her to term, wanting to value even the lives that society marginalizes and fears. I am so worried for her and her partner, as they try to survive wave after wave of unexpected, ambiguous loss and trauma–and I also, weirdly, feel worried about knowing what to say and how to be supportive. I am a therapist and have a fair amount of experience sitting with people in their darkest moments, but it’s so different when it’s someone you’ve known and loved since you were 12 years old. I just want to get it right for her, but I’ve also never navigated this exact situation before, so I’m trying to practice showing up even when I don’t know exactly what to say or do.
    Your childhood nickname: Bookworm. :)

    • k says...

      this is so sweet. what a wonderful friend you are.

  150. Sara says...

    A dessert you’ll never refuse: Ice cream. Or brownies. Or both.

    A book, TV show or movie you enjoyed recently: Just finished reading Three Women.

    Something you’re looking forward to: Traveling alone to two conferences this fall! I love solo travel.

    What’s worrying you: Gun violence. Mass shootings. My in laws.

    Your childhood nickname: My Mom called me Pooper.

    • Kelli says...

      A dessert you’ll never refuse: brownies
      A book, tv show or movie you enjoyed recently: Queer Eye
      Something you’re looking forward to: race day +the end of marathon training
      What’s worrying you: I had a biopsy last week during a gynaecologist appointment. My mind is only replaying worst case scenarios.
      Childhood nickname: Kel

    • Annie says...

      Dessert: I’ll never refuse one of my mom’s brownies with homemade icing!

      Book/show (I don’t have the attention span for movies)
      Currently reading Patsy which is great! And watching Blindspot and the Handmaid’s tale.

      Looking forward to: Fall things! Warm sweaters, cold rainy Saturdays where I don’t have to leave the house, fireplace on, chili and cornbread in the oven.

      Worries: I’m a champion worrier. I’m a school counselor, so this time of year I’m gearing up to go back to school, and I just worry about having enough time and energy for work and family. I also worry about my mom, my kids, my husband, not to even mention politics, the environment, guns. Ugh. I do have strategies though!

      Nickname: little (I’m short!)