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Have a Wonderful Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? We’re doing the link list on Thursday this week because we’re in California visiting my twin sister and eating burritos the size of our heads. Also, thank you for the sweet notes on this personal post. It’s been a wild ride:) Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

Dermstore’s summer sale is epic. I love this for getaways and every day.

Meet Meghan and Harry’s history-making all-female senior staff.

Will McPhail’s comics always make me laugh.

The cast of Downton Abbey reverses their roles.

These pants are soooo comfortable and chic.

A chicken recipe to combat loneliness. “‘Now and then, especially at night, solitude loses its soft power and loneliness takes over,’ Donald Hall writes in his New Yorker essay on living alone. ‘I am grateful when solitude returns.’ I love this line because I often feel this way myself, especially late at night when I’m left to my own thoughts.”

Pop quiz. (How’d you do?)

The new British comedy, This Way Up, looks great (and co-stars Sharon Horgan!).

What a peaceful bedroom.

10 simple ways to enjoy daily life. Loved this.

This pretty top has the perfect sleeve length.

Yummmmmm.

Plus, a reader comment:

Says Katie on a lovely parenting song: “I often sing ‘You Are the Sunshine of My Life’ to my one-year-old daughter. One night, she was falling asleep on my chest, facing away from me. I was touching her little cheek, and when I started softly singing the song, I could feel her soft baby cheek rise into a little smile. I couldn’t see it, but I could literally feel her smile. It made my heart burst.”

(Photo from the Cup of Jo Instagram. Enjoying life and Peppa Pig links via Swissmiss.)

  1. Meg says...

    Love the pants you linked to! Alas not a size inclusive company—I am 2 sizes away from being a real Cup of Jo reader apparently. Stopping at 10 is absurd. I very much appreciate what your site has done to show a wider range of body types. We do need to keep calling out this garbage when it happens.

  2. Greta says...

    The Daily Telegraph published the bios of the women on the Sussex’s payroll – these are truly amazing women who have pushed the boundaries in traditionally male environments. Their achievements are impressive and inspirational and show that they are not purely a PR exercise. Have a look before you pass judgement ( and like you I’m no fan of the royal family)

  3. annie says...

    whoa… plant MORE bamboo? that cnn quiz says that’s a great way to store carbon and that may be true, but bamboo is a very invasive, nonnative plant in many parts of the world, so PLEASE, before you start planting it all over creation, look into your region’s NATIVE PLANTS first. as someone who cares a lot (and puts her money where her mouth is) about native plants and restoring natural habitat/landscapes in the midwest, that was horrifying to read.

    • Cat says...

      Yes!! I had the same reaction! It was a great quiz and eye-opening in many ways, though largely it prompted me to try to track down who created that quiz and what their sources were (Project Drawdown: https://www.drawdown.org/references), because there is SO much nuance and footnotes I wanted to add to some of those solutions.

      Your point underscores the trickiest thing about climate change in general. Is climate change happening? Are we humans causing it? We know it’s happening, we know human activity is exacerbating the current rate of change; to deny this is a denial of science and demonstrates willful ignorance. The tricky part of climate change comes in when we ask the next set of questions: what the heck should we do about it, and where, and at what scale, and who should bear the burdens. That’s where it becomes a huge social issue, because the answers are going to vary across time and space. We definitely shouldn’t be planting bamboo in areas where it will be invasive, for example!!

    • Francesca says...

      Thank you Annie and Cat. My thoughts exactly!

  4. Sleepless in Seattle says...

    Dearest Joanna and COJ team:

    I have two requests for future posts that would be so nice to see, if you would consider writing about them?

    The first is how being deliberately single can be a time to focus on yourself, learn more about who you are, and grow as a person.

    The second is about having a lover! I really want to hear how other women do it, what they think about it, and what advice or tips they have. I would love to read a piece on this (and its comments) as early as, say, yesterday?

    I’m in a period in my life where I love being single and I want to stay that way for a while. I want to explore myself and live life fully in a way that I wasn’t doing when I was in my previous long-term all-but-married relationship. I’m so excited about the time ahead of me. It has already been amazing! I’m learning so much about myself in therapy, I feel my intellect and creativity and lust for life waking up, and ordinary life feels meaningful and enriching. I climbed a mountain the other day! I’m happy.

    Speaking of lust for life: one of the things I want to do is get a lover. I’m taking my time about it because my goal is to find one “in the wild” instead of online. I’m doing this because I want romance and sex without strings or commitment. I want to experience really amazing sex, which I’ve never had. I want to be sensual and desired and free with my body with someone who wants the same thing. I want to give and receive. I want to be greedy and I want to be generous. I want to learn and to teach. I want to be worshiped and I want to be obsessed. I have my own sense of how all of this will play out for me, and I know it’s probably different than the way another woman would do it. And yet: I want to talk with other women who have done it or are doing it. What would your kind, wise, generous readers have to add?

    (Normally I comment under my real name, but today I don’t dare to even use an initial.)

  5. Elizabeth says...

    In scanning the comments, I noticed that a couple of people are upset that the Amazon isn’t being mentioned. I, for one, come to Cup of Jo for the lifestyle posts and really don’t want to be confronted with catastrophes. I know where to find that type of content.

  6. shopgirl says...

    Umm, I don’t think that choosing “all female staff” is really a reference for choosing the right people, team or staff. I wouldn’t mention gender at all. Surely it must be more important to choose by the quality of peoples work and experience, and not by gender. And regarding M&H’s I think it’s more of a PR gesture and working on appearance than anything more. I’m sorry I’m no longer so enthusiastic about that couple but considering their recent moves and also how much quality and experienced staff they have replaced in this poor year since they have been living together confirms my impression that there is one very self-important, picky and arrogant couple on the way. What a pity.

    • Dianne says...

      YES. Thank you for saying it. Could not agree more about those two.

  7. Olivia says...

    Came here like a total lame nerd to say how much Cup of Jo is influencing my life tonight. Got a pedicure and the first color my eye was drawn to – Geranium by Essie (gorg!). Came home and ate the oatmeal bake recipe I’d seen on your Instagram. Wore canvas shoes with the soles polished white by a magic eraser on a tip learned from the comments section of your travel shoes article. Last but not least, I’m watching mindy Kalings new series four weddings and a funeral lying on my living room floor way up close to the tv so I can keep the volume down and not wake my two month old, and I just remembered you watch tv with the captions on. Game changing recommendation!

    Anyways thanks for all the helpful tips, haha.

  8. Trish O says...

    The quiz was hard and enlightening

  9. ana says...

    HIGHLY recommend This Way Up on Channel 4 and Hulu. Its fantastic!!

    I feel like this blog community will like it

    x

  10. Claire says...

    interesting list.
    Love the sleeve length on that top.

  11. Leyla says...

    Great idea!

  12. Caraline says...

    My sweet brother in law sings, “You Are The Sunshine Of My life” to me nieces and when serenading my niece, Olive, he sings “you are the Olive of my eye.” Instead of “apple” and it is the sweetest. Agreed, a great parenting song.

  13. Madi says...

    Hey- just fyi, it looks like the person who posted the Peppa Pig pic on Instagram has changed their account to private.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Thank you! I’ll remove!

  14. Megan says...

    But really- How do you manage so many vacation?! Please share your best tips! I’m envious and need help in this department.

  15. Meg says...

    Donald Hall’s The Best Day, The Worst Day is one of my favorites – the life of two married poets and a poet’s descriptions of loss capture my imagination and cut me to pieces and make me hopeful. His concept of ‘the third thing’ in relationships is something I have used as an internal reference since it was published, and the essay is just beautiful. https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poetrymagazine/articles/60484/the-third-thing

    • AMR says...

      What a lovely piece. Thank you for the link.

    • Sarah E says...

      Thanks for sharing the link Meg! I just read that and it’s so beautiful.

  16. Sarah says...

    Joanna,
    I’m so disappointed that you wouldn’t include anything this week in regards to the fires burning in the Amazon/Alaska/Siberia/Greece etc. Very essential parts of our environment are being destroyed and need our help. This blog hasn’t been afraid to take a stance on important political issues in the past, but the silence about climate change, especially in the past few weeks and months, has been very disappointing and heart breaking. It feels like now the bottom line at Cup of Jo is about clicks, affiliate links and generating profit.
    You reach millions of people each month. The amount of awareness and help you could be giving to climate change could be amazing. Please speak up. It’s a scary time we are living in and every bit of help can make a difference.
    I hope you do allow this comment to be shared with the readers. Time is running out. We have the privilege to make a change.

    • C. says...

      Not to worry, that information about how to contribute is very easy to access- a simple google search will do the trick. Anyone who wants to contribute need not rely solely on this blog for information or the opportunity to act.

    • LK says...

      Joanna educates us on SO many causes – every week there is a new (or old) cause or catastrophe to focus on.

      Typically I find she takes her time to made an informed and educated post on the latest event, and links to research and charities that we can click on.

      Please give her time to approach this subject.

    • becky says...

      Glad to see a couple responses to this comment. Doesnt seem quite fair to put such a responsibility on Jo and staff for every issue that pops up. Yes, I totally agree the fires are a huge issue. I also see that this blog doesnt just post on topics in such a quick and unthoughtful manner. Posts are most likely scheduled out in advance especially in the summer to accommodate time off. Wouldn’t be surprised if we see something in the future but honestly it’s not necessary. In the age of google people can self research anything they need to know immediately. Also cant fault a blog that makes money promoting products that they use and support while earning a living.

    • Emma Brett says...

      I don’t think anyone is saying that this website needs to fill its pages with more doom and gloom, as people have rightly pointed out we get enough of that in the news. Those events however, are directly linked to our lifestyles and there are so many lifestyle changes that we can all make that will improve our own health, our communities and the planet that our kids will inherit. This is a wonderful lifestyle blog, I’d like some posts on positive actions we can take, on inspirational people doing amazing things for change, all the things that Cup of Jo does so well.

    • Kristy says...

      And I love when Cup of Jo speaks about issues it’s passionate about, but I think we’re coming into a time of pulling back to speak carefully on issues versus hastily jumping on the current event where we’ve already decided which perspective/side we should take to make/mark us a good person. Information is getting more and more chaotic and fact-checking more hazy. This article from Forbes (again, which I myself have not fact-checked but is thought-provoking) reminded me even more of how important it is for us to think/research before we are pressured to make a stance.

      https://www.forbes.com/sites/michaelshellenberger/2019/08/26/why-everything-they-say-about-the-amazon-including-that-its-the-lungs-of-the-world-is-wrong/?fbclid=IwAR0uE3NA0-lNh7XdXuGjU-pMmUFMAg9nJipkKr30FkRwSmG03NuRM1uRPYQ#4b0d5b515bde

    • Emma Brett says...

      I completely agree about being careful about what you read and researching the facts carefully before making a position, it’s difficult to fact check everything and newspapers love to use emotive language. I try to just read the science, publications like National Geographic and Nature and follow organisations like Climate Central and the UN and reputable charities such as Amazon Watch.

      PS I agree with the content of the article, they make some important points about alienating people by being sanctimonious which is so true. Except for the title which would be more accurate as ‘Why some things celebrities say about the Amazon are wrong, listen to the scientists instead and there’s still a problem as rain forests should never burn’.

  17. Diana McNeill says...

    Thank you for recommending This Way Up! I watched 6 episodes last night. It’s so great :) It’s heartfelt and hilarious just like Catastrophe and Fleabag. If anyone has any other recommendations for shows with a similar vibe, please let me know!!

    • Gilly says...

      If you like Sharon Horgan, try Derry Girls.

    • Sasha L says...

      Derry girls is so much fun.

    • Danielle says...

      Please Like Me on Hulu!

  18. Poppy says...

    certain advice gets repeated over and over, until i want to be like “but is it? is it really?” top of mind, only use the bedroom for sleep and sex. i mean i get why they say that, though that sex exception crammed in there always makes me laugh (i always hear it in a monty python voice). but besides that it’s sort of privileged, isn’t it? to have a whole room solely reserved for being unconscious (monty python: and sex!) back to topic, don’t look at your phone first thing. totally get why they say that. but i propose to you: looking at my phone starts off low-energy when i’m only awake enough to control one finger and gradually wakes me up with its various amusements and human connections. not to mention it’s shining a light in my face, which is a physiological wakeup. just saying, looking at my phone first thing *is* one of my steps that helps me enjoy daily life by bridging me from sleeping to waking life

  19. kk says...

    That reader’s comment about her daughter’s smiling cheek. The Sweetest Thing.

  20. Emma Brett says...

    I want to echo the comments asking for posts about the environment, climate change etc. I’ve been in touch directly and was told something was planned but still nothing. The amazon is on fire, the artic is melting, the planet is dying and we get travel shoes and pretty bedrooms. Come on Cup of Jo, you can do better than this. I used to love this website but I’m about to stop reading, it’s so frustrating. You have built an amazing community of readers and you could have some influence in the most important issue of our times.

    • Emma Brett says...

      And I’ve just found the climate change survey, so apologies when I suggested you have done nothing but in fairness it was a bit hidden!

    • LK says...

      Here are some things Jo has posted about in the past year that has involved climate change/environment:
      Voting causes
      Volunteering
      Links to charities
      Sustainable clothing
      Clean and sustainable makeup
      Scientist interviews

      She has done her fair share – this is a lifestyle blog and she does her best.

    • Hilary says...

      I 100000% agree we should be reading more about how we can positively impact the changing climate and the environment. However, this isn’t a climate or environmental blog. It’s not Cup of Jo’s responsibility to educate us on every issue. I think they’ve done an amazing job of doing thoughtful posts on a variety of issues (child separation and gun violence comes to mind). We are provided this content for free and there are only so many hours in the day. While the environment is a huge concern for many, there are other important issues as well from voters rights to sexism to racism and so on; they can’t tackle them all every day. Please post some great articles or blog posts that you find on the topic!

  21. M. graham says...

    That lonely chicken article! I rarely actually read the full post with recipes (why do recipes take an hour to read now??), but that was so beautifully written I couldn’t stop. So sad and real and unexplained, like it was written just for him, not an audience. The dish sounds nice, the man sounds complex, tender, raw.

  22. Marget says...

    Eric Kim’s writing though! Gah! So beautiful.

    • amy says...

      always hits you in the heart.

    • Em says...

      Right?! I never thought I would be so enthralled by an article that was seemingly about chicken.

    • K says...

      I know! I don’t read Food52 very often so I’m not sure what their mission statement is but I’m always heartbroken by the way they combine recipes with memories and feelings. It’s just two of my favorite things — food & heartfelt writing –combined into one.

  23. Katherine says...

    Ooooo tell me where to get the best burrito in San Fran!

    Hahaha and yes add Peppa Pig to the daily list 😂😂

  24. SJ says...

    Why was the second reader comment re: marriage removed? I found that so comforting and true- I even sent to a few friends who agreed.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      A couple readers were upset by the murder joke because of domestic violence so I thought it best to remove it — hope that helps!

    • Shannon says...

      I was looking for that to read to my husband later, and couldn’t find. I thought I was losing my mind.

  25. Jules says...

    Oh man, my 3-year old LOVES peppa pig so this just made me crack up. I’m happy to know she isn’t the only one obsessed:)

  26. Daisy says...

    Happy Anniversary Joanna. Hope you have a wonderful time with family this weekend.

    If I can make a request, could you guys post Atleast once a month about greener lifestyle, highlight something that is easy for us to adopt/switch. Any small change will be helpful. Coming from India, the plastic problem has become a monster and several states have implemented plastic ban. Also the ramifications are visible especially since there is no land for landfills. Here, I feel, we don’t realize the extent of the issue and are safely assuming that just because we are religiously dumping it in recycle bin, they get recycled, when it is not the case.

    • Hilary says...

      Daisy-

      That’s a great idea! A few steps I’ve taken to have a more sustainable house this month include:
      – Buying cloth napkins (from Etsy, so it also supports small businesses) to replace our paper napkins
      – Buying reusable face pads, so I don’t use disposable cotton pads. Just toss them in the machine to wash.
      – Reducing our meat consumption

      I’d love for the CofJ team to highlight more easy ways we can help our planet!

    • Andy says...

      Less than 9%* of all recycling is actually recycled. A lot of it ends up in landfills, oceans, and developing countries. We need to focus more on reducing and reusing rather than recycling, despite how simple “recycling” seems.
      More climate change posts would be amazing. It would open up such a huge conversation between Cup of Jo readers, some of which work in the environmental sector. We could learn a lot and help change the world (since there are close to a million Cup of Jo readers!)

      *https://www.nationalgeographic.com/news/2017/07/plastic-produced-recycling-waste-ocean-trash-debris-environment/

    • Lindsay says...

      I’m with you on content about green lifestyles! Would LOVE to see more of that on here.

    • Owl says...

      Yes to this, please! It would be amazing it COJ could start a monthly series where we could discuss products that we could do without, and small changes that we could try making. With so many readers, it could make a big impact! Thank you for considering! Xoxo

    • Owl says...

      Ps: Just to clarify what I meant by saying “products we could do without”: I did not mean singling out any company or anything like that. Rather, I am thinking about general categories of things. For example – paper towels. Why am I using these??? I could be using and reusing cloths. Poor trees! Lifestyle considerations, really. I am so worried about the state of our planet.

    • Francesca says...

      Yes please! This is such an urgent, global problem. It’s about no less than our planet’s survival, hence our survival. We all need to act now and you have a voice to reach so many people who can make a change!

  27. Sasha L says...

    Here’s my weekend plans: traveling after work tonight 3 hrs to visit my daughter – gonna catch up on podcasts, woohoo!!!
    We’re going to visit a couple breweries and compare German pretzels – pretty important to know which are the best in town.
    Visiting doggies in the shelter and bringing the perfect one home to her new condo.
    Organizing her kitchen cupboards and sewing some curtains.
    Visiting the farmers market and eating all the tomatoes we can handle.
    Going out for Big Dipper ice cream.
    I’ve got end of summer blues, but this weekend is going to be fun!

    Hope you all enjoy too!

    • AG says...

      Can I be your daughter?

    • Susan Y. says...

      This sounds great! Enjoy your time with your daughter Sasha!

    • Fiona says...

      Sounds like a perfect weekend! Enjoy!

    • Kim says...

      Lol Sasha how are you doing all of this in one weekend. This sounds great!

  28. I have a random question but I am sure that someone out there will know the answer — all my beauty decisions in the past 9 years have come out of comments in this blog :) I am spending the next 6 weeks in Berkeley and i am in desperate need of a haircut… does anyone have a recommendation for a hairdresser in Berkeley/Oakland/SF? Thank you!!!

    • Jeannie says...

      If you have medium fine hair that’s straight (mine), then I’ve had great results from the following places:
      L’Amor Salon on Grand Ave or Line 54 on 14th downtown Oakland. At L’Amor, I’ve had Thuy and the owner give me beautiful cuts. And at Line 54 I’ve had Ivan. Good luck!

    • O says...

      Katie at a Peter Thomas :)

    • Katie says...

      If you’re into razor cuts, check out Edo Salon. I follow the owner on insta and her haircuts are really cool.

    • Jessica M. says...

      Check out Edo in Oakland! The prettiest haircuts.

    • JL says...

      Brandie at Harper Paige in Oakland. She’s amazing, and super cool.

    • danielle says...

      One more for Edo (they now have an Oakland location) also Pony.salon in Oakland. The owner of Pony salon was once my stylist at Edo. I’ve never been but Florette seems like a pretty up and coming spot in Hayes Valley. All have great instagrams to check out!
      If their aesthetic isn’t your thing check out Population!

  29. Janey says...

    Just binge watched This Way Up and it is FANTASTIC! Best series since Fleabag

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Yay! so glad to hear it!

    • amy says...

      on your recommendation, i started it last night! it is great so far.

  30. Lindsay says...

    Thanks for posting about the “before sunrise” trilogy, I watched the first 2 and was in heaven! I loved all the conversations they had and scenes of Europe, and yes amazing chemistry. The part that really killed me was her song at the end of the 2nd film, I was crying like a baby…..

    • Joaquina says...

      Delpy dancing and singing to the queen Nina Simone’s “Just In Time” is one of my favorite movie scenes ever.

    • Yulia says...

      Yes, and the way Ethan Hawke looks at her and smiles, so in the moment. I feel his heart unfolding, realizing “This is it. I belong here. I love her.”

  31. Meghan Edwards says...

    Have the best weekend, Jo! Enjoy those burritos and precious sibling time.

  32. Nina says...

    Have a great weekend, CoJ. Upon seeing the cartoon, I also immediately checked the day of the week :-)

    • Rachel Elizabeth says...

      I did the same thing! :)

    • Melanie says...

      Me too! I was so confused that I lost a day!

  33. Heather D says...

    I loved the song post!! I’ve been singing Bridge Over Troubled Water to my precious 4 year old adopted son. He’s been through a lot of terrible awful things in his short life and I like that he hears me sing that I’ll be sailing right behind him forever <3

    • Sasha L says...

      That’s so beautiful Heather. Thank you for adopting ♥️

    • Erika says...

      Love!

    • Laura C. says...

      On this topic, I would love to know more about the adoption process in the US. In my country everyone says that it is too complex, sometimes it seems that you as an adopting parent have to get the Nobel Peace Prize in order to get worthy of adopting a child. I’m curious to know how it works on your country. Thank you and have a great weekend!

  34. Lindsey says...

    Wow, that CNN climate change solutions quiz was FANTASTIC! Here I am, thinking I know sooo many ways to make the world better and I just got schooled. Thank you so much for posting that!! Everyone should take this quiz.

    • Kathleen says...

      I took it a few days ago and was pretty impressed. I work in environmental conservation and I still didn’t do as well as I expected and learned a lot. Would recommend everyone take it just for the learning experience, no matter how much you think you know about climate change.

    • Maria says...

      Same. So eye-opening!

    • Melanie says...

      Agree…extremely informative. I’m forwarding. CoJ- could you do more posts with environmental information?

    • Amy says...

      Yes, that was eye-opening for me too. Highlights what things are worth pursuing first (most of us can make one change at a time). The last few really surprised me!

    • Cat says...

      Same — it was very eye-opening for me, and I am a scientist working on concepts related to climate change (that said, there are certainly some nuances behind some of the rankings, and I think they are open for debate if you don’t have good definitions of what some of the statements mean) .

      Not to give away the quiz answers, but I’m stunned that managing refrigeration/AC chemicals was the heaviest hitter. Why isn’t anyone talking more about this? Why isn’t there a greater push for policy change? We hear all about electric cars and wind farms and compost, but I must be living under a rock, because I’ve never heard much of anything about fridge/AC chemicals in this discussion!

      In case anyone else is interested, I tracked down the reference list for Project Drawdown’s research (they’re the entity who created the quiz): https://www.drawdown.org/references

  35. Deb in Oklahoma says...

    Oh my word. The 11th simple way to enjoy daily life would be to look at a drawing of Peppa Pig from the front, and then laugh out loud. At work. And then to eat salted caramel pretzel brownies. That’s a perfect day, right there. Thanks for such a great list!

  36. Alison says...

    You tricked me! I got so excited that it was very late in the day Friday! Lol.
    Have a great time in California.

  37. Mkw says...

    Ha! You are messing with me. I open up your site and I’m like…. wait a minute…. what day is it? Thursday? Friday? Have a grand break/vacay.

    • Micah Lambert says...

      I also tripped out over the day of the week haha! Apparently I’m such a dedicated reader that I’ve set my life to ‘Cup oof Jo Time’!