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Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary (!)

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

Ten years ago, Alex and I got married. It feels simultaneously like yesterday and a million years ago. Here’s a little walk down memory lane…

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

Tenth Anniversary

Alex proposed on a sailboat on the Hudson River on October 31st. As a cover, he pretended he was inviting me to a work event. (I kept saying, “Are you sure you have a work event at 4 p.m. on Halloween?”) Remembers Alex: “I was surprisingly nervous on the way there. I was trying to be cool, but I found it hard to have two narrative threads running in my head. It shows what a bad con artist I’d be.” As soon as the boat pushed off, he popped the question. We were careening from side to side in the water and nearly dropped the ring overboard. Needless to say, I said yes.

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

We got married the following August, and these photos are from the rehearsal dinner, during my mom’s speech. We were so giddy!

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

We went on a honeymoon to Italy and brought back a souvenir…

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

And the following spring…

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

Baby Toby arrived! (Those expressive eyebrows still make me laugh.)

Tenth Anniversary

He was a joy, even when grouchy.

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

We sometimes would sneak out on date nights — even when, as an anxiety-ridden new mom, that meant walking around the block 10 times so as not to be too far from baby Toby. And, I have to say, of all the versions of Alex — sleeping-in Alex, bike-riding Alex, forgetful Alex, war-book-reading Alex — my favorite might be restaurant Alex. Anyone who has gone to dinner with him knows what wonderful, chatty company he is over, invariably, a glass of wine and a hanger steak, medium rare.

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

Before too long, we welcomed another cheeky little dude into the crew — Anton, aka Tony Baloney, aka Emperor Bombonicus, aka Boney Bones.

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

The fearsome foursome felt like the right fit for our family (despite the occasional ache for a third child, which I’ve learned is just something to sit with!).

Joanna Goddard and Alex Williams

And here we are. It’s been a great decade together, full of the ups and downs of life — four apartments, two children, inside jokes, door-slamming fights, swimming in the ocean, sleepless nights worrying, loss of loved ones, reading in bed, family bike rides, depressions, tears in each other’s arms, drinking wine on the stoop, repeated stories, kissing on the street. Makes me wonder what the next 10 years will bring.

At the end of the day, needless to say, marriage isn’t easy. You’re two humans living together and no matter who you’re with, it’s going to be hard sometimes, right? As Alex says, “Everyone you date or marry is going to be insane. You just have to choose the form of insanity that works for you.” And our brands of crazy, luckily, seem to fit.

Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary

Alex Williams — 10/10 would marry again.

P.S. Eight things I’ve learned about marriage, and our very first date.

(Wedding photos by Max Wanger.)

  1. Sheila Mary says...

    Incredibly sweet thoughts!
    My partner and I are engaged, and just decided yesterday not to have a wedding; we’ll skip to town hall instead and have a luxurious honeymoon. We’d spent a few months concerned about our families (mine wants to come but I’d rather spend the day without them; hers declare our marriage a sin although she longs for their acceptance). Really, I just want to be married to her already. We decided that’s enough. So our wedding day will be like our marriage: Just the two of us, but with love and support from some incredible friends.

  2. Denisse C. says...

    Wonderful story! Many blessings to you and your beautiful fam.

  3. Lauren E. says...

    Congratulations on 10 years! I remember reading about your wedding and feeling (the tiiiiniest bit) jealous because I felt so very single at the time. I met my now-husband one year later and we’ll be celebrating ten years together so soon. What a lovely way to remember my own joy.

  4. Megan Lec says...

    This post has me teary-eyed! Congratulations!

  5. L says...

    I got married the day after you — I remember planning my wedding while you planned yours, and I’ve been reading daily since before then, which has helped me remember my own anniversary on more than a few occasions (thanks!). Congrats to you guys!!! Yours is the only blog I still read that I read then, how fun :)

  6. florence says...

    Congrats on 10 years! Such a blessing and a milestone (also having celebrated 10 years this year). I remember your lovely engagement shoot like it was yesterday…

  7. Susan Mills says...

    Congratulations! Loved your look back.

  8. Tineke says...

    Happy happy 10th wedding anniversary – which, if yours is on the 21st, is The Exact Same Date my husband and I got married, so good choice there too!

  9. Stephanie says...

    I love this so, so much. Happy anniversary!

  10. Cynthia says...

    Congratulations, Joanna and Alex! I wish you many more years together. My husband and I celebrated 41 years last January.

  11. Sonja says...

    This is just the sweetest! :) Going to borrow the format of this post for my husband’s birthday – the tenth we’re celebrating together!
    Cheers to a lifestime of wholeness and happiness!

  12. Alexandria says...

    Congratulations on 10 years and cheers to many more years together!
    I loved reading this post and walking down memory lane with you. You closed it perfectly with a real look at what marriage is.

  13. Dee says...

    I have followed you since your days in Glamour Magazine, and cannot believe how fast time has gone by! Congratulations on your 10th year anniversary. Your family is adorable and we love that you have shared so many special moments with us.

    • Molly says...

      Me too! So crazy to realize it’s been more than a decade of reading!

  14. Jessica says...

    Your 10th wedding anniversary is my 10th anniversary of reading COJ as I discovered it while planning my own wedding. A marriage to a blog, unlike a marriage to a person, is pure delight without any slamming door fights, growing pains, or arguments about who’s the one who leaves the cap off the toothpaste. Thanks for being my ideal partner all these years.

    • Diana says...

      lol I also feel married to this blog. I check other blogs just like I check out other dudes in line at Starbucks. They are fine, cute, whatever. But I always come home to COJ.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Loving these comments. Thank you <3

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      sweetest comment! thank you so much, jessica xoxoxo

  15. Nigerian Girl says...

    Happy Tenth Anniversary to you and Alex, Joanna. I wish you many, many, many more happy years ahead.

  16. Bianca says...

    Congratulations! “Restaurant-Alex” really cracked me up. I, too, married a man who might just be his best in a restaurant setting. Lucky us :)

  17. molly says...

    Congratulations, I have been following along the last 9 years and I feel so happy for you and your family. Wishing you all the very, very best that life has to offer. Thank you for taking us along.

  18. Jen says...

    Thank you for acknowledging the work! Marriage can be a safe haven/warm place to rest your head but it also takes work and intention.

  19. Fiona says...

    I felt quite emotional reading this lovely post, which is strange as I don’t know you at all, and you don’t know me. But I have been reading and enjoying this blog daily for over a decade and so I couldn’t help but raise up my arms and shout ‘Congratulations!!’
    Have a bloomin’ marvelous time celebrating x

  20. Lauren says...

    This is so lovely. Have been following for years…as a single woman in her mid 30’s, who would like to find someone to share my life with, this made me hopeful and smile. Happy anniversary, and here’s to many, many more!

  21. Sarah says...

    Congratulations to you guys!! Being married is the best!

  22. Vicki says...

    Congratulations! Love your reflection on marriage – including door slamming and kissing in the street, it’s real!! and that picture if Anton & Alex sleeping -Ahhh!

  23. RT says...

    How sweet! Congrats, Joanna and Alex!!

  24. Jessica says...

    It’s also my and my husband’s ten year this year. We recently looked up what the gift for the big 10 is supposed to be, and it’s tin or aluminum. So random, not sure what to do with that! Any good gift ideas Joanna??

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh wow that’s a tough one! going to think about it! :)

  25. Rani says...

    Happy Anniversary! Beautiful pictures and memories!

  26. Catherine says...

    I wish you the very best!! It IS a great adventure isn’t it?
    I wonder if one day you could expand on those “door-slamming fights” you mentioned, (kids or grown-ups?) involving your whole crew, like what you all have learned from them, how to come back from that…etc :)

  27. We share the same anniversary! Except we celebrated 9 years yesterday :)

  28. Andrea says...

    life is beautiful!

  29. Congratulations! I’ve been reading CoJ for years now and it is so beautiful to see how the family grows.
    I also have an OT question (sorry!): Where did you get the super cool jacket on the last picture?
    Thank you! And happy anniversary!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      of course! it’s from Kule xoxo

  30. shopgirl says...

    O, congratulations!! But only 10, I can’t believe it! I feel like I’ve been reading your blog and following your life like for eternity. You have a long way to go, so I wish you all the best and all the happiness!!

  31. Tingyu Hu says...

    Congrats! Thanks for sharing your story with us. And your website is my faverate one!

  32. Laura C. says...

    We celebrated our tenth last month! It is a milestone! Congratulations Alex and Jo, you’re awesome 🥰 wishing you endless happiness

  33. Courtney says...

    Funny coincidence; I posted a photo for my first anniversary on August 5th with the caption “Stephen – 10 / 10 would marry again”. I loved the follow up comments from friends saying “10 / 10 would attend wedding again”. Our goals for the wedding were that it was meaningful to us and that it was super fun for everyone else so I’m glad they’d do it again!
    Happy anniversary!

  34. Maria says...

    Congratulations on your 10th anniversary! Enjoy your day today and cheers to many more years :)

  35. Jo says...

    I love the way you write about you and Alex and your family. I’m not sure why but this brought a tear to my eye and a gulp to my throat. Cherish it all… We also celebrated 10 years in September. Its been a crazy decade…. wishing you (and us) many more happy and healthy years together x

  36. Fel says...

    Congratulations! So happy for you :’) It means i have followed your blog for 10 years too! Tho i’m so far away in Indonesia, it feels like we’re close friends. Hope can bump into you when I visit NYC!

    • Paula says...

      Same here!! I even remember when she first posted about their first date :’)

      Huge congrats on the anniversary, Joanna and Alex!! Lots of love from Argentina! <3

  37. marina says...

    I can only wish you that you have, at least, all those good things on repeat and none of the bad ones. Congratulations!

    I am getting married next year and can’t wait to start our own adventure and see where we will be in 10 years :)

  38. Sarah says...

    Congratulations to you both X

  39. Happy Anniversary! You two are cute and so down to earth. It’s fun seeing your relationship with each other develop and your family dynamics. Stay young at heart! :)

  40. MM says...

    This was so lovely to read!! You’re a beautiful couple, beautiful family. It’s a privilege for us to be invited into this story. Sending lots of love to you both!!

  41. Sonam says...

    Happy anniversary Joanna!

    I don’t remember how exactly I stumbled on to your blog but have been hooked since the past ten years or so! Have shared multiple links with friends having babies or getting married. You brought a relatable life where I felt I am not alone in this.

    And then I discovered you live in a brownstone. It felt like you suddenly discover you have rich friends 😀😀 having said that you foursome feel like I’ve known for a decade and are part of the family.

    Another great aspect are the comments to your posts which feel like a huge sisterhood!!

    So keep going! Here’s to many more years of adventures and memories. 🥂

  42. Veronica says...

    This post has moved me to tears. Perhaps bc I feel so blessed to be let into your sweet family, living on the other side of the country, total strangers- complex and wonderfully real characters in my life…imperfect and 100% gorgeous just the same. I think seeing Toby (so grown up!) in the same week you share this celebration of 10 years, expressed in your genuine way, its overwhelming… idk if I can handle it. My reaction catches me off guard, I’ll admit. Joanna, this blog is so genuine and beautiful. It is my ritual, and I can’t imagine my week to week without it. Fuck yes- you have built something crazy awesome w Alex and these sweet boys in this decade. You did it. And I am so happy for you I’m crying like a baby.

  43. Candice says...

    Congrats! We also brought a stowaway back from our Italian honeymoon :)

    • Janna says...

      A stowaway! I just snorted in my tea. Love it!

  44. Marie says...

    Oh my, how time flies! I remember reading about your engagement, so many things happenned since, good and bad and we are so lucky. Congratulations!!! What a wonderful life.

  45. Lorraine says...

    This is especially fun to read since 1) I remember reading the original blog post when you got married (omg it’s been 10 years!?) and 2) I’m getting married in 2 days!!!

  46. Minn says...

    Aww- Happy anniversary! What a milestone! That also means I’ve been following for over ten years- time sure flies when you’re having fun :) (with occasional door-slamming fights with my husband of almost 6 years hehe)

  47. Tevis says...

    What a lovely tribute to your marriage! Honest, fun and heartwarming. Love it!

  48. Owl says...

    Beautiful. Congratulations. Xo

  49. Angela says...

    Congratulations and a very Happy 10th Anniversary to you both! I’ve been following your blog for the past 5 years, and in that time I’ve met and married my “perfect insanity” match. We just celebrated our first year anniversary. Thank you for sharing your life and relationships with all of us – makes it feel like our own versions of crazy are perfectly normal. All the very best as you venture toward your next 10 years together! xoxo

  50. Gina says...

    Congratulations! We were planning weddings at the same time and I recall you sharing the flower pins you wore from BanDo (yes, I’m a long time reader!). I loved them so much I bought them for my wedding day too!

  51. kash says...

    Ah, congratulations! I’m a long time reader: I remember you crowd-sourcing your wedding dress (with, I think, a note telling Alex “NOT TO READ” at the top of the post, or something?) and I remember clicking through in excitement to see the pictures of your wedding. Thank you for allowing your readers to share in the joys of your life!

  52. Mary says...

    Congratulations! I also love Alex’s quote. I always said the key to a good marriage is you both can not be insane at the same time. You need to take turns! Cheers to you both!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes! taking turns being irrational/upset/nuts/etc is so key.

  53. This is a beautiful post! Today is my ninth anniversary with my husband. I love the last quote from Alex and couldn’t agree more. I have commonly said, “In the end, everyone drives me crazy, but [husband] Daryle is the one who I can live with and can handle my moods. It’s not easy, but we make it work together.”

    Thanks Joanna, you always keep it so real. <3

  54. I loved this post. Congratulations to you both and your beautiful family. Longtime reader, will never stop.

  55. Kate Losee says...

    This is making me realize that I was definitely reading your blog in my college dorm room! I remember all of these events, and it’s been so fun following along with you and your family. Congratulations; have a large glass of champagne! Cheers to you!

  56. Hania says...

    I know this may sound silly but I have been following you for years and your relationship and marriage seem so beautiful – I could never imagine you having “door-slamming fights”! But it’s just a reminder that every marriage has it’s ups and downs. Congratulations Joanna and Alex! Wishing you many more years of joy.

  57. Claire says...

    Cried reading this! I loved this sweet tribute to your ten years married! It’s fun and hard and crazy and weird and ALL THE THINGS but man, it’s just the best. Congrats you two!

  58. Jenny says...

    Love this so much. Congrats!!!

  59. Kate says...

    Happy Anniversary! What a sweet post this is. We celebrate our tenth next week and I relate so much to the feeling of our wedding being like yesterday and a million years ago. We were married so young, at 22 (!!) so we both feel that we have grown up together and consequently are very close and each others best friend, but also like we are still kids figuring it out.
    Marriage is such a gift. Here’s to many more for you and Alex <3

  60. Maeve says...

    Yay! I found your blog when searching for wedding ideas back in 2009…this year will be my husband and my 10 year anniversary as well! I totally agree on it feeling both like yesterday and like so long ago. Happy 10 years! xo

  61. Sarah says...

    This is so beautiful! Happy Anniversary!

  62. Laurel says...

    Gorgeous post. My hubs and I will celebrate 11 years next month! Congrats on showing up for each other, every day. It’s not easy, but worth it hey?

  63. ally says...

    Happy Anniversary!

  64. Tali says...

    Beautiful! Congratulation you two! I laughed at Alex’a Quote about marrying a version of crazy and then swooned that you would 10/10 marry him again. Cheers to the next 10 years!

  65. Heather B says...

    Joanna, I began reading your blog right after you returned from your honeymoon so it feels like an anniversary for me too! What a joy it has been to watch your life unfold as you have shared it all through the years. Toby will always be “baby Toby” to me, Cafe Cluny will always be one of my favorite restaurants (at your recommendation), and coastal England and all of your sweet little Brit relatives … just the most charming. I hope I’m writing to you again on your (our!) twentieth. This blog is 100. Cheers!! XO

  66. This is just the best, Joanna. I’m sure you get a ton of accolades about how amazing you are and then you shrug them off because you think, “But you don’t really know me! You only see the edited version of me.” But we do see you, Joanna! And you are so interesting and thoughtful and following your life adds joy to my life! Happy Anniversary, Joanna and Alex!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, i feel like crying! thank you so much, sara!

  67. Robin says...

    Awww. So much sweetness. Congratulations on all the hard work that’s gone into getting here.

  68. Nat says...

    What a sweet timeline. Congratulations and thank you for sharing. So much to be grateful for! Our tenth anniversary was last year while I was on maternity leave with our first (surprise!) baby. He was about 16 weeks old so needless to say it was extra sweet for my husband and me to celebrate ten years. Marriage is absolutely hard but absolutely worth it.

  69. Emma says...

    Found this blog when my high school sister showed me after being tipped off by her English teacher. I was in middle school (!) and I’ve been reading it ever since! I still remember the big red balloon at the top of the sight. It was fun to read this post and see some old photos which remind you of your marriage and me of all those school day feelings. Can’t wait to keep growing up with this blog!

  70. 5-10-25-30(that’s us) Life|Marriage what an incredible adventure. Enjoy your ride. Holding you and yours in the light of unfolding joy. Happy Anniversary

  71. Grace says...

    Such a lovely post. Congratulations on your 10th wedding anniversary! 😍

  72. Bobbi says...

    So sweet!

  73. Kristin says...

    Beautiful! Happy anniversary, Joanna and Alex! Lots of love to you both.

  74. Rachel says...

    Cracking up at the placement of “He was a joy, even when grouchy” between pics of Toby and Alex. Presumably you’re referring to Toby being upset in the pic but I wonder if it could also describe Alex when he is not in a good mood! P. S. Congratulations :-)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      haha yes to both!

  75. Karrie says...

    Happy Anniversary! I love your posts but this one, by far, is my favorite. Cheers to many more happy times!

  76. Chrissie says...

    Dang girl! That picture where you’re drinking a glass of wine=total babe! The long hair, the eye makeup, the shirt, the whole thing. Love it.

    Also congratulations on ten years!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you :) :) :)

    • cilla says...

      Yes, I thought exactly the same!

  77. Marianne says...

    All you need is love – and wine! Congratulations

  78. Roxana says...

    Congratulations!!! Super sweet and super true! ;) Cheers to the next 10 years!

  79. Pearl says...

    Loved this walk down memory lane. What’s also crazy is that this means I’ve been following your blog for over 10 years (as well a few of my girlfriends). Fun to look back on your milestones and think through where we were all through it all too. Thanks as always for sharing your family, wisdom, and life’s ups and downs with us all. Xo.

  80. maywyn says...

    Happy Anniversary!

  81. Beatrice says...

    ❤Congratulations!❤

  82. michaela says...

    Happy anniversary! This post made me so excited for the future my husband and I can look forward to. We’ve been together almost 10 years and will be married for 5 of those this October. It’s been a lovely time (of ups and downs!) so far, and we’re just beginning to enter a new phase (or two!) as we contemplate purchasing our first home and starting a family. I find myself right now in a season of feeling especially connected to him, especially endeared by every little thing he does, especially grateful for the time we’ve been together. Thank you for always sharing the many seasons you and your family have been through; I love the way your blog has connected so many people and made so many feel seen.

  83. Erin Baird says...

    Aww this is so sweet! Happy anniversary!!

  84. Meghan says...

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful lives with us. Congratulations — to many more!

  85. Catherine says...

    Happy Anniversary! You describe marriage so well. My husband and I have been married for 34 years. I could not have chosen a better partner to walk through life with, the ups, downs and I betweens.

  86. Christy says...

    Yeah!! Awesome couple! Congrats!

  87. Jess says...

    SO sweet! Congratulations! Something to celebrate for sure. And as always, thank you for sharing with us! xx

  88. nicole says...

    I’m getting married in 2 months and this made me so hopeful and excited and teary.

  89. Danielle says...

    Happy anniversary! I can hardly believe it’s been ten years. Wishing you and Alex many more full years.

  90. amanda says...

    What a beautiful post. Congratulations on doing all the hard work that makes a marriage and a family. Wishing you many, many more years of adventures together. Thanks for sharing it all.

    (PS… I’m still pulling for the dog! ; ) )

    • Kate M says...

      Yes yes the dog! Whatever happened with that?!

      Also the pic of Anton and Alex sleeping- sweetness overload!

      Here’s to your marriage, the ups, downs and in betweens. May your love be strong and true!

  91. Priscilla says...

    Thank you for including “door-slamming fights”. It made me laugh and feel seen. It’s never as perfect as it seems but it’s always worth it.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Hahaha marriage fights are no joke!

    • Sandra says...

      I recently read something about a couple who had been married over 50 years. They said they never considered divorce. Murder, absolutely, but never divorce. I think that sums up marriage so well.

    • Jessica says...

      Lol Sandra, that’s hilarious, maybe more so because it’s so true!

    • Ana D says...

      I’m glad divorce exists, and that it’s an option in US marriages. I hope someday all people will both have the right and feel empowered to legally end their marriages.

  92. Carole says...

    I have been reading your blog consistently since BEFORE you got married!! For well over 10 years!! I feel like I’ve been a fly on the wall for your amazing life. Your blog has been a joy in my days for all these years. Wishing you and Alex a happy 10 year anniversary :) Lots of love xo

  93. Betty says...

    Have followed your wonderful blog before you were married and I loved witnessing all the milestones…marriage, two babies and all your travel adventures! You two are awesome! Happy 10th!!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Thank you!! These notes are so sweet, I’m tearing up!

  94. Lori H says...

    Reading this from the perspective of someone who celebrated 33 years with my love this year, y’all are just the cutest. :)
    Here’s to many more years for the two of you and happy times for the 4 of you, and many more years of Cup of Jo!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      33 years! That’s wonderful xoxo

  95. Andrea says...

    Many wonderful wishes to many more great years of marriage!

  96. Congratulations! Also, holy moly this means I’ve been reading your blog for 10 years! 10/10 would hit subscribe again.

  97. Congratulations guys! Sorry to detract from your day, but I’m also shocked at how long I’ve been a loyal follower. I remember all this. And, I also recall Alex had chosen a cool wedding song too.😎

  98. Connie says...

    Congrats!! You both are an inspiration for what love and marriage is all about! And Anton and Toby hit the jackpot with you two as parents. Wishing all of you the best.

  99. Hali says...

    Beautiful writing!! Congratulations!!

  100. Opal says...

    Congratulations! So sweet! Thank you for keeping it real and sharing this with us. On a side note, so, he had to take you out to the sea to make you say yes :D? Smart!

  101. Anna says...

    What a sweet post! It’s like an illustrated anniversary card. Hubby and I will have our tenth next spring… meanwhile, my parents are about to celebrate their 40th (!!) with a big road trip. Here’s to making it work!

  102. Our tenth was a few weeks ago. It is hard to sum it all up, and almost hard to comprehend 10 years, but I’m looking forward to 10 more. Wishing you and your family the best!

    • Alissa M says...

      Our 10th was in May. Apparently 2009 was a busy year for weddings in this community!

    • kk says...

      Our 10th will be in November!

      Happy Anniversary to you two, and Joanna! xxoo

    • LGee says...

      Ours in in September! 2009 was the year to get hitched haha

  103. Jill says...

    Congratulations to you both, from a long-time reader from Australia! I’m getting married next month and it’s a bit of a giddy feeling reading about your take from some way down the path on the other side! Hope you had a wonderful night out with restaurant-Alex to celebrate :)

  104. TJ says...

    Congrats! I remember when you met Alex (long time reader). It’s my hubs and and my 20 year anniversary today. ❤️

  105. Laurie says...

    Happy Anniversary, you beautiful couple!!!

  106. Kate says...

    Oh gosh, congratulations! I loved seeing your recaps and it just seemed like the most thoughtful lovely day (for a couple who still seems utterly thoughtful and lovely). I still remember the debate about which dress you wore, and I loved that you gave out the heart holographic glasses. I put them on my “if I ever get married!” list, and now I am getting married. Maybe I’ll have to hunt them down. :D

    Congratulations again!

  107. Doralis says...

    Can’t believe I’ve been following A Cup of Jo, my favorite blog, for over 10 years! Congratulations on this amazing milestone, I hope I’m able to read about your 20th anniversary, Toby and Anton’s College years, etc, etc. You are an amazing family :)

  108. Renee says...

    Happy anniversary! Today, is our 20th anniversary! Seems like a lifetime and so short all at the same time. I would choose him over and over again.

  109. Sasha L says...

    Happy anniversary Joanna and Alex! May you have many many more happy years ahead.

    My husband and I celebrated our 24th anniversary in July, and 27 years together at the beginning of August. It’s truly amazing luck to find someone to love you wholly, all the crazy and broken parts, who sees the beauty and potential. It’s worth so much work (and it really IS so much work making it work sometimes).

  110. Erin says...

    Congrats, Jo & Alex! Happy 10th! Also, Toby’s eyebrows are the best part of this collection of photos. :)

  111. Heidi says...

    Cheers to you! What a beautifully written post.

  112. Tara says...

    This is such a lovely reflection–congratulations to you both and your beautiful family!

  113. Ramona says...

    Happy Anniversary! 🥂

  114. Stephanie says...

    So sweet! Happy anniversary!

  115. Susan says...

    Happy Anniversary! 💖🥂🎊I can’t believe it’s been 10 years since I read your wedding post!

  116. Jessica says...

    Congratulations! My husband and I are celebrating our 10 year anniversary this year as well. We welcomed a healthy baby girl to our family this year which is the best ten year anniversary gift I could ask for.

    • Zima says...

      ❤️ How beautiful. Good luck.
      (Mum of two girls, had our first one after 12 years of being together!)

  117. Anne says...

    Congrats!!!! What a beautiful post :)

  118. Jeannie K. says...

    This post made me tear up! I love love!

  119. Nicky says...

    Happy Anniversary! Reading this post made me well up with tears. I’m reminded of how long I’ve been reading your blog — over a decade! Thanks for sharing your voice and creating such a wonderful community here. Hope you have a lovely time celebrating your love!!!

  120. Ingrid says...

    Happy anniversary! So glad for the good things that happened to you, and so glad you had each other for the rough times. Hubs and I celebrated 50 years together this year, and I agree: 10/10 I’d do it again. Many more for all of us.

  121. Alyssa says...

    What a lovely engagement story and fantastic milestone to be celebrating. Cheers to you both! May there be many many more decades to come! :)

  122. congratulations!!
    how did you celebrate such a momentous occasion/accomplishment?

  123. Jules says...

    Congrats!!

    My husband & I got engaged the day after you two & just celebrated our 10 year anniversary earlier this month. Time really flies when you’re having fun!

  124. Meg says...

    Celebrating our 10th on the 29th. Congrats on a decade!

    • Maeve says...

      Same! Happy 10th!!

  125. K says...

    Happy Anniversary, Joanna and Alex. 10/10, haha the sweetest.

    And I’m not married but oh boy does it sound like you sum it up! The lovely, lovely comfort of someone to go home to completely be yourself with, immediately worrying about losing them, the boring moments (is this all there is), the really bad mad moments (is this it?), and back again to the romantic luckiness of wow wow I can’t believe I found you and you see me and I see you.

    • Austeja says...

      I *love* this comment. I am not married either but definitely cycle through all these emotions with my long term partner daily / weekly / monthly.

  126. Meredith says...

    Congratulations love birds!!! Here’s to many, many more happy years! XO

  127. Anni says...

    Happy Anniversary!
    Today is our 9th wedding anniversary :)
    We just came back from a dinner date in a fancy restaurant and thought back on the time we got to know each other, where he proposed, when our children were born, etc. I just hope that this will go on and on, with all ups and downs. They are life, too, they also have their place and purpose.
    Cheers!!

  128. Allyson says...

    Aww! This is so very sweet. I adore your descriptions of all the different Alexes. Makes me think about and appreciate (to varying degrees) all the versions of Bryan to which I am married. The biggest, happiest anniversary wishes from a longtime reader in Missouri!

  129. Katherine says...

    Awww. I love the 10/10 would marry again! Congratulations to you both.

  130. Twyla says...

    I remember when you got engaged on the boat! It seems like yesterday… It seems corny to say, but I’ve really appreciated you sharing your life with us, and I’ve loved getting to know your boys from afar. Sincerest congratulations to you both – you’ve made it farther than most. Here’s to 50 more!

  131. Awww, I love this! Happy Anniversary! I know you from your Cosmopolitan Smitten days so I have followed along from the start and vividly remember your engagement and wedding! You two are a wonderful combination. Thank you for sharing your life with us! I love hearing about your boys. They are so sweet and have such adorable personalities!

    I’m just over 2 years into my marriage. We also had a baby 9 months after getting married! So the first year of marriage was quite eventful, but I wouldn’t change a thing (plus we were 36 so didn’t want to hold off on starting a family).

  132. Jill says...

    ❤️❤️ Thanks for sharing! Many congrats!❤️❤️

  133. Ceridwen says...

    Congratulations! Loved this trip down memory lane with you X

  134. D says...

    Love this so much!! Happy Anniversary!!

  135. Stephanie says...

    Today is my husband and my ten year anniversary also Jo! I remember reading your blog when we (and you guys) were getting married and it seems like just yesterday. Thank you for being such a consistent source of knowledge and strength for me over the years. Happy anniversary to you and Alex!

  136. AC says...

    So lovely. Congratulations and may you have more than 10 more years of happiness and good health!

  137. Susanne says...

    Congratulations! It’s our tenth anniversary tomorrow, and I still think marrying this guy was the best decision I’ve made, despite some rough times. And Alex is right – I just like my husbands form of insanity very much. Have a great day!

  138. Amy says...

    Oh man. This is just so. damn. sweet.

  139. Lauren says...

    I am getting married this Saturday and oh boy, did this tug on my heart and make me cry. Happy anniversary! Such a beautiful thing to get to reflect on 10 years together.

  140. Monica Mulhern says...

    CONGRATS!!

  141. Justine says...

    Congratulations!!!!

  142. Audrey says...

    And now I’m crying. Oh, life. Happy Anniversary, you two!!!

  143. Sarah says...

    So sweet! Loved taking a trip down memory lane with you. How will you celebrate? Tin and aluminum are the traditional 10th anniversary gift, haha (I got my mom and stepdad a set of pretty tin candle holders for theirs).

  144. Charlotte K says...

    Congratulations, Joanna. I think I’ve been following you since around the time Toby was born. It’s been wonderful seeing your family grow up. You and your husband look SO sweet and young in the pre-wedding photos. Best wishes for the next ten years!

  145. Emma says...

    This made me cry, sitting here in the dentist’s waiting room, 5.5 weeks before my wedding! <3

  146. Cici says...

    I love this! I just got engaged and we are planning our wedding. I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life and match my insanity with her :)

  147. Jenny says...

    This is luminous! Congratulations on your love and your sweet family and all the different lives you’ve e already led together (restaurant date life! New romance! New babies! Little dudes!). Joanna, you are so beautiful in all of these photos. Holy smokes, how do you keep getting cooler?

    • Sonam says...

      Happy anniversary Joanna!

      I don’t remember how exactly I stumbled on to your blog but have been hooked since the past ten years or so! Have shared multiple links with friends having babies or getting married. You brought a relatable life where I felt I am not alone in this.

      And then I discovered you live in a brownstone. It felt like you suddenly discover you have rich friends 😀😀 having said that you foursome feel like I’ve known for a decade and are part of the family.

      Another great aspect are the comments to your posts which feel like a huge sisterhood!!

      So keep going! Here’s to many more years of adventures and memories. 🥂

  148. Ruth says...

    Congratulations!!!! Enjoy the crazy. <3

  149. Loesie says...

    Congratulations on your 10th anniversary!
    Here’s to many more happy and healthy years ahead!
    XO
    PS: My hubby tricked me with a work-related appointment as well.
    Worked like a charm! 😊