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Fleabag Season 2

What are you up to this weekend? Toby’s birthday party is tomorrow, so it’s an exciting time in the Goddard-Williams household. (Can’t believe this was nine years ago!) Hope you have a good one — take care of yourselves after this long and intense week — and here are a few fun links from around the web…

Fleabag Season 2 comes out today!!!!

The prettiest bathroom makeover.

Vacation meatballs.

A compelling way to think about creative work. “If you get into that productivity trap, there’s always going to be more work to do, you know? Like, you can always make more. I think that’s why I’m a time-based worker. I try to go at my work like a banker. I just have hours. I show up to the office and whatever gets done gets done.”

Excited to do this beauty treatment tonight. (It’s the best.)

The sweetest kids’ clothes from Maisonette.

Is it ever okay to eat tuna salad on a plane? (I would say no.) Love this hilarious etiquette column.

Hahaha.

Hello, I’ll be your toddler tour guide for this trip out the front door.”

Great art prints, including these two.

Freezing executive’s salaries to pay entry level workers a better wage.

Does Larry David never age?!

Plus, a reader comment:

Says Rachel on an engineer’s beauty uniform: “I’m in academia, and someone once made a comment that I found helpful in combating my imposter-syndrome feelings before interviewing for my first professor position. They pointed out that it was unlikely that I was clever enough to have fooled all the people who accepted me into grad school, all the reviewers and editors who published my work, all the experts who graded my dissertation, all the grant collaborators who chose me for my postdoc position, all the members of the hiring committee who shortlisted me for this job, and all five of the phone interviewers in my first-round interview before I was invited for an on-campus interview. And if I was smart enough to have fooled ALL of these people, then I probably deserved the job anyway!”

(Photo of Phoebe Waller-Bridge in Fleabag. Art prints via Emily Henderson.)

  1. Rachael says...

    I cannot believe it has been 9 years. About 10 years ago I was working a mundane office job and most of that day was filled with reading your blog. You were a part of my everyday, except I’m in Australia so, when you’re happy about the summer arriving and posting photographs of swimwear I’m a little bit cold and looking at jumpers, so seasonally we are at odds.
    I don’t think I’ve ever followed a Blog continuously for so long! I DO remember when you had your baby Toby and how happy I was. I mentioned your Blog to an old flatmate of mine recently said “You STILL follow that Blog?” Haha yes, I do, we’ve involved!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      rachael, that makes me so happy!!!!!!

  2. So, that toddler tour guide post had me laughing my ass off…at work, oops.
    Thank you so much for sharing that one. I feel very seen and heard right now. :D

  3. katie says...

    oh man. once i was stuck in the middle seat from Frankfurt to Auckland via Seoul & the guy to my right opened a JAR OF KIMCHI, like, an hour in.
    Brutal.

  4. Tamara M says...

    Hi! I was wondering about that self-tanner- do you put it on your face? Or just up to your neck?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      my face, too! just lightly, and then i can always add bronzer if i want a little more!

  5. Carrie says...

    Re Larry David. We joke in my family that my grandfather aged until he hit about 55, then stopped aging all together. When he passed away at 95 years old, we used a picture of him taken some 40 years earlier for his obit and funeral program. You couldn’t really tell much difference!

  6. Lauren E. says...

    FLEABAG IS SO GOOD! Every episode I wonder how Phoebe Waller Bridge can create such a funny, smart, nuanced show that just gets better and better. The ending was absolutely superb. I loved every moment.

    • Natalie says...

      Yes! I can’t stop thinking about it.

  7. Claudia says...

    Loved this: “Americans need all the help we can get with our international reputation. Tip! Maybe the dollar will be strong again and it’ll actually mean something.” ahahah

  8. Lizzy says...

    All of Larry David’s aging happened in his jawline and chin – if you look there, you’ll get a perfect score!

    • Sen says...

      Also his glasses style and I feel like he had more pronounced under eye bags when he was younger

    • rach says...

      always go for the eye wrinkles!

  9. Abby says...

    Hey Cup of Jo gang, I wonder if you could make us a list of your book suggestions found in the app Hoopla. Hoopla is the free public library app and I drive a lot for work. I’d love audiobook suggestions from that app because I can listen for free!

  10. Lindsay says...

    I started Season 2 of Fleabag at 8 this morning.

    I have now finished it. Feel free to shame me.

    • Ally says...

      No shame! I couldn’t stop either, it’s SO good. And if you add it all up, it’s only a little over 2 hours of tv…

  11. Irena says...

    For more than one personal and professional reasons, found that comment about creativity to be really disturbing.

    As someone who has worked both on staff, as an independent contractor on a contract for a company, and as an independent contractor working for multiple clients, in a highly creative field on numerous projects, being paid by the hour was NEVER an acceptable option–and when offered, those hiring set unreasonable limits given the work demands.

    And those hiring (including when I was the one hiring others) knew that “by the hour” was all about their budgets and demands and not always based on what was required for truly creative work.

    This attitude of working “banker’s hours” / what gets done, gets done…or not” well, if I’d had that attitude with my creative work, I’d never have been able to make a living for decades.

    Creative work often requires working well beyond 9 to 5 or even set hours: Ask my friends who work in design (of any type), publishing, etc. They have deadlines and they’d be thrilled if it all could get done in 7 or 8 hours a day but it often doesn’t that work that way, in no small part because they are working with others on projects where their late “delivery” of items needed to complete and/or failure to deliver at all, changes the timing of everything.

    Creative people either accept that the muse is NOT on the clock or they often end up with a 9 to 5 mentality that sees them NOT meeting deadlines and/or holding up others because they do so. (Try to meet a deadline for a brochure to be created if either the writer or the illustrator do not deliver in a timely fashion, no matter how their workload is structured.)

    The comment sounds like this person has been in a situation where they’ve been taken advantage of in some way as they try to deliver a creative project. Or perhaps I’m totally misreading it.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh he’s not saying that you should be paid by the hour — but that it helps you keep some semblance of work/life balance as a creative or entrepreneurial type, if you try to think of your working hours as during a certain time frame, versus whenever ideas strike or whatever you could possibly be doing more. for me, this really hit home because i can think about work, talk about work work, brainstorm work, do work, put pressure on myself to work, etc etc all the time — and at times in my life, i have worked so much at night, on weekends, on vacations, etc. but if i try to limit my work to working hours (plus a little bit extra), that’s so much healthier. (although here i am answering this comment at 6:24pm on a saturday haha:) does this help?

      of course exceptions should be made for certain projects/deadlines, but overall trying to contain work to regular hours seems reasonable — and inspiring — to me!

    • Lindsay says...

      As an artist, it would help me to just set aside certain hours each week and make myself do it no matter what. I am a busy mom of 3 and if I wait to have time and energy, it just never happens.

    • Ellen says...

      Cal Newport’s terrific book Deep Work has some compelling arguments about the benefits of fixed-schedule productivity (basically, trying to get all your work done within certain hours).

    • Claudia says...

      I also work in graphic design and corporate communications and this is truly what I aspire. Having fixed office hours and for our clients to understand that just like they have fixed office hours, so do we at the agency. It really has helped with work -life balance.

  12. Jen says...

    Re smelly food on planes, I have a severe peanut allergy (anaphylaxis) and once was seated next to an entire family who brought their PB&Js. I can and have had reactions via breathing it in the air and spent the whole flight in a panic. I asked to be moved, to no avail and notified the family of my allergy (who literally scowled at me before continuing to eat). I made it through the flight without a severe reaction but burst out crying upon getting off of the plane. Talk about feeling trapped and unsupported by fellow human beings. I know avoiding nuts can be a bummer for those without allergies, but in a situation like a plane ride I feel it is worth a second thought.

    • Mary Beth says...

      Feeling so much anxiety just reading this! So glad you were ok.

    • Sarah says...

      Wow, Jen, so sorry that happened to you. Sometimes I despair of people. I for one will not eat nuts on a flight again knowing this.

    • Cece says...

      I can understand that people might not have thought through their decision to take nuts onto the plane – but what I struggle to understand is their response to you, or the airline staff’s refusal to move you. Both reactions are so shocking! You poor thing.

    • Sasha L says...

      I can’t fathom why the flight crew wouldn’t let you change seats? I would’ve happily changed seats with you so that you could feel safe! Wtf is wrong with people.

    • Jen says...

      Thanks SO much for your kind responses. I think in my case, the family (and perhaps the flight staff as well) didn’t understand that it could affect me without having to ingest the sandwiches myself. Still, their lack of care blew me away. I wrote to the airline who also did not appear to care and took a CYA approach in their reply. Your responses have helped me to heal an old wound I didn’t even realize I still had until now. Thank you :)

  13. Elisabeth says...

    Strongly disagree with his advice re: smelly foods on planes. It’s just a few hours of one’s life — tuna and hard-boiled eggs, both of which I like ordinarily, can wait for the sake of other passengers. Same with applying perfume, clipping one’s nails, and taking off your shoes, all of which I’ve seen people do on planes. Not trying to be prissy, but COME ON PEOPLE.

    • Melanie says...

      I was just looking through soon to be released books & was eyeing Tan France’s… clucked to read sample and WHO’s name do I see listed but Caroline!!! That’s awesome you wrote a book with Tan France. You’re both great! Going to pre-order!!😃

    • jenn says...

      Absolutely. If you have to ask, you know it’s rude.

    • Laura says...

      My shoes come off basically the second I find my seat on a plane (or enter a home, I really hate wearing shoes.) if one is fairly sure that their feet don’t stink, is this really rude??

    • Sasha L says...

      I don’t mind shoes off, especially if one is wearing socks, but smelly food? Just no.

    • Heidi says...

      It was a funny/sarcastic article:)

  14. Vicki says...

    I’ve already watched all of Fleabag (we had it a few months ago in the UK) – it’s phenomenal – enjoy!

    • Tina Crisas says...

      Same here, I watched it online in Greece a month ago. I didn’t really like season 1 so much, but season 2 was pretty good!

  15. kelsey says...

    Happy birthday, Toby!!!

    I clicked back on his birth announcement post and saw that you returned after a month (!) to work. I would love to hear more about how women plan their maternity leaves and the thought process behind timing, handing off responsibility and attempting a graceful return. <3

    Thanks as always

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Oh it was so awful in my case, to be honest! I didn’t have childcare in place and was so exhausted with a one month old baby, but our family relied on my income so I had to keep working. I wouldn’t recommend it!! Same with Anton although I went back to work after two weeks. I think those quick returns helped contribute to postpartum depression. Looking back I don’t know how else I would have done it because we did need that income but it was very much not ideal. As you mentioned, a post about returning to work would be wonderful with tips and ideas of how to make it work best for the family. Thank you!! Xoxo

    • Adel says...

      I had to go back to work fairly quickly when I had my babies- also, finances-but with my last I hired a full time baby nurse for a few months. This may sound like a luxury, but otherwise I would’ve collapsed and not worked at all, and then my net income would’ve been zero. I found it worth it to spend a large chunk of my salary on that level of help (24/6!) to be sane and at least have the rest of my salary. Obviously not feasible for all, but it’s an idea

    • Sasha L says...

      Hugs Joanna, and to all the moms who struggle going back to work. Our country and culture has so far to go in caring for new families. What we do now (which is complete and utter neglect) is barbaric.

  16. Naomi says...

    What a week, thanks for your thoughtful writing about abortion law. Thought the the Simone de Beauvoir comment left by one reader about the need to remain vigilant about women’s rights was such an important reminder. My great grandmother was a Suffragette and my blood boils when I hear my peers tell me they are not going to vote or don’t see the point of feminism, as if it is all sorted….

    And so to Fleabag…I am from the uk and we have had the treat of season 2 already….PWB is a genius. I laughed, cried, watched the whole season through from the beginning as soon as it ended and felt a little more hopeful about the world and assured of the power of sisterhood.

    Going out with the women I met when pregnant with my first boy (I am a fellow mother of sons), celebrating our 10 years as mamas. Hope Toby has a brilliant birthday party xoxo

  17. Stephanie says...

    Fleabag s2 came out a few months ago in the UK and I’ve already lost count of how many times I’ve watched it! Episode 4 killeddd me <3 The entire cast is phenomenal, but extra points to Andrew Scott and Sian Clifford. I'm so sad it's the last season, but goodness – talk about a perfect ending!

  18. Mathilda says...

    The bathroom! I totally thought the after was the before! :-D

    • Laura C. says...

      So did I!

  19. Alice says...

    Fleabag 2 came out a little while ago here in the U.K. (very rarely do we see something first, the wait for Killing Eve was painful) and I LOVED it. I re-watched the final scene four times. It was so beautifully written. I’m jealous of everyone who has yet to enjoy it!

  20. Suzi says...

    OMG Fleabag is so good, better than series 1 even! Sexy priests, brilliant acting, completely heart wrenching! You will love it! It was aired in the UK recently and the crowd went wild. Enjoy!

  21. Katie says...

    Regarding the airplane etiquette column – do not bring your own alcohol on a flight expecting to drink it! (minis or full size; duty free or not) I’m a flight attendant so trust me, this is not legal. Think of it as a bar, we have to know how much passengers are consuming and you have to be served any alcohol by us. Imagine someone has a medical emergency or an issue with a seat neighbor and we don’t know they’ve had 5 vodka tonics. Monitoring how intoxicated passengers are is a major component of our job, even during boarding we’re making note of anyone that might’ve had a lot to drink already. We also adhere to customs regulations and technically you must be 21 on US carriers even for international flights. Sorry to be a party pooper!

  22. Katie says...

    I was already bracing myself for you to say that Toby was turning 8, but how can it be that he’s turning 9?! It makes me feel so bittersweet. We have a 14-month old also named Toby, and I really would like to freeze time please. But I do hear that it keeps getting better, although I will say our 3.5 year old makes me suspect there are some hills and valleys along the way ;)

  23. Lauren B says...

    oh my gosh, I was once on a plane from Croatia to London. It was full of retirees heading home after summer vacation….my husband and I were in our late-20s, and were youngest passengers on the plane by multiple decades. Mid-flight, the flight attendants came around and handed out sealed plastic baggies of TUNA FISH SANDWICHES for lunch. As they distributed them, and everyone slowly started opening them, the smell grew stronger and stronger and stronger…. I will never forget that trip.

  24. Erin says...

    Wow! I’ve been reading since before Toby was born! Can’t believe it’s been that long! I discovered your blog my freshman year of college, and still remember reading it in my dorm room. I binge read every single post you had done before that within a few days. It definitely got me through some tough times over the years and has always felt like such a safe and welcoming community!

  25. Sheila says...

    Ok. My mom and her husband think it’s hilarous to get Vietnamese sandwiches for plane ride. They stink, but darn they are good. And then when they leave our house in New Orleans, they get a muffuletta for the plane. Most hated people on the plane

  26. Margaret says...

    I loved the comment on imposter syndrome. Very helpful to someone who has done well throughout medical school and is applying for residency and still feels like a fraud!

  27. Sarah says...

    “This tour is very safe, unless you count dying on the inside.”

    I just laughed so hard! We’re also celebrating a birthday tomorrow and im so happy my daughter will be 3 and a little closer to the end of this toddler phrase. But then I’ll miss the times she comes up to me and says “Mama, you’re my favorite.”

    • Anna says...

      If it helps, I’m 31 and I still say those exact words to my mama!

  28. Uh I think that Austin Kleon article just changed my life. Thank you, thank you for sharing it.

  29. Sarah says...

    Loved this from the etiquette column:

    Q. How early is it appropriate to start drinking on vacation? 10 a.m.? —Alchy Alphonzo

    A. Depends on whether it’s a fun vacation or just-got-divorced vacation. Oh wait, it turns out both are 10 a.m.

    • Nadine says...

      Loved the whole thing, wonder if he deals in etiquette for homebodies like me!

  30. Mary Beth says...

    I certainly agree that the prints were interesting, however what really made this room sing for me were the gorgeous vintage paintings.

    Thanks for posting these Friday round ups, they always include things I enjoy. Also, thank you for the post yesterday. I am 70 years old and I simply cannot believe that our country is heading back in to the ‘olden’ days. This is a national tragedy.

  31. Lindsey says...

    You guys. I already watched all of Fleabag. TODAY. I watched before the kids were up and at nap time and it was so good. It actually kind of wrecked me. Episode one is a BLEEPING MASTERPIECE. Go forth and enjoy, and try to savor it unlike me. ;)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Omg AMAZING. Cannot wait.

    • Lydia says...

      me too!!! i too binged all six episodes today and after it was over i just sat on my couch and sobbed. it WAS an absolute masterpiece. i agree 100%

    • Lillian says...

      I watched it all last night and can’t stop thinking about it. I might have to re-watch this weekend and savor it.

  32. Justine says...

    The fleabag premiere has been in my calendar for weeks. Yay! Fleabag tonight, GOT tomorrow. It’s going to be a good TV weekend.

  33. Mackenzie says...

    Oh goodness, re: airplane smells. When I was pregnant with my first, I was on a flight and a person ate both tuna AND a hard-boiled egg next to me and I nearly threw up on them.

    • Lindsay says...

      see It wouldn’t bother me at all! I must be weird, I love tuna and hard boiled eggs and the smell of them doesn’t gross me out. It’s the people that have stinky feet and take their shoes off that bug me!

  34. Sarah says...

    Wow, I guess that means I’ve been reading you for 9 years!
    Always and forever,
    Sarah

    • Neela says...

      Same!

  35. Caitlin says...

    Came here just to brag that I aced the Larry David quiz.

    The trick that seemed to work–look at the color of his eyebrows or the deepness of his wrinkles.

  36. Katrina says...

    I was just talking with my dad about the Larry David quiz the other day! He said to look at how white the eyebrows are. I just retook the quiz — 9/10!

  37. Hazle says...

    A thought: In light of the climate emergency, and all the very good evidence that livestock farming is a big contributor to climate change, it would be a tiny but positive step if you were to not promote animal-based recipes/foods any more. Plus, animal-free recipes would include a lot more readers! Doesn’t do anything to address the main problem (capitalism!) but would be a really simple change you could make without unpicking your entire business model…

    • Emily says...

      I think CupofJo has been really good about posting more and more vegetarian vegan recipes. I’m a vegetarian who eats vegan 80% of the time, and I tell friends to start with meatless Monday. If everyone picked just one day a week to go without meat it would make a huge impact. Baby steps is more realistic, and I don’t want to shame anyone, ever, about their diet, and how it impacts the environment because trust me, I have friends who don’t understand mine! I try to gently educate and only engage when people ask why I don’t eat meat, so I don’t feel like I’m preaching upfront. And, I get asked all the time, so there’s plenty of opportunity to discuss thoughtfully.

  38. Angela says...

    My husband is out of town and I stayed up so late last night watching the entire fleabag season two. I laughed. I cried. I wept actually. It was exactly what I needed to see at exactly the right time. It’s genius and I loved it and I miss it already. Do yourself a favor and watch it as soon as you can.