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Real Talk: Do You Shave? Wax? Neither?

Let’s talk about body hair, a topic near and not-always-so-dear to my heart. Many things are personal, and hair is no exception. Flamingo is a new line of razors and wax kits for women that recognizes body hair is a choice, and your preferences may change at different times in your life. Mine definitely have…

Join me, if you will, on a tour of my evolving furriness:

Childhood (birth-age 10)
I am kind of a fuzzy kid. In elementary school, my nickname is Kiwi, because I am “small and furry, like the fruit.” My arms are fuzzy, my legs are fuzzy, and I have a whole lot of eyebrow. (Yes, eyebrow. Intentionally singular.) I will embrace the eyebrow someday, but I don’t know this yet.

Middle School (age 10-13)
I DREAD gym class. Not because of physical activity, but because it involves wearing shorts. Shorts involve showing legs. Legs (at least, when they’re mine) involve hair, prompting the more sophisticated kids — the ones who have seemingly shaved their legs since birth — to make fun of me. Finally, after many passive aggressive attempts at asking my mom if I can shave (“Look! The hairs are poking through my ballet tights!”) I am given the go-ahead. My first time involves a janky single blade disposable razor definitely meant for a man’s face and a bar of Dove soap. It is not my finest work. Still, I can’t stop petting my own legs. I feel invincible.

High School (age 14-18)
While applying concealer to an unfortunate blemish, I notice something glinting atop my upper lip. Is that… a mustache? IT IS. My mom says this is normal and that no one can see it. This last part is a lie, but I am willing to believe. Then one day during study hall, a boy named Matt wanders up to me and says, “Did you know you have a mustache?” Why, yes I did know, Matt, and now I also know you’re a horrible person. Anyway! I decide to remove said mustache with depilatory cream — a bad bad bad idea. It smells like rotten eggs and the hair kind of melts off my face, leaving a weird residue. It all grows back in around four seconds. Never again.

College (age 18-22)
I go to a women’s college, where we are encouraged to make our own choices. They call us strong and beautiful on a regular basis. (Seriously, the president of the college leaves a message on the dorm room phones every single morning telling us so.) It’s around this time I meet Laura, who is smart and beautiful and talented and amazing. She does not remove any hair at all — legs, underarms, the whole deal — and is unabashedly proud to flaunt it. Against all the nonsense I’ve been sold by the universe, her boyfriend loves it, too. I have seen the light. Why, then, do I still feel so much pressure?

Aimless Adulthood (age 22-29)
This decade is marked by searching and wandering and confusion, and hair is no different. There will be friends and lovers who profess their preferences — loudly, boldly, obnoxiously — like it has anything to do with them. Friends wax shapes into their bikini lines and even experiment with dyes. Other friends will laser off their body hair — all of it. Forever. When contemplating such a move, I realize, weirdly, that I like my own body hair. My body made it! Like a craft, or something. Also: It grows because I’m alive. Who am I not to embrace that?

The Present (thirty-almost-five)
Now, I am comfortable in my groove. I remove some things — I’m looking at you, lone goat-like chin hair — and keep others. Sometimes I’m in a furrier mood than others. Sometimes, I’ll shave only the stretch of leg that sticks out of the pants. Sometimes my preferences are seasonal, like waxing in the summer. Other times, I love to feel like a smooth seal, gliding through the water (or my sheets, same diff). I understand that, like many choices, your hair (and whatever you choose to do with it) can be empowering if you embrace it as such.

Flamingo talked to thousands of women about their needs and preferences, and they understand that everyone’s feelings about body hair are different. (They also get that you may never want to do any of this, and that’s great, too.) If and when you want to participate in the hair removal game, it’s good to have options.

Do You Shave? Wax? Something Else?

If you’re into shaving, their razors are amazing. I have been known to permanently borrow razors from boyfriends, because theirs were just better — weightier, sharper, longer lasting. At long last, Flamingo’s razors are just as good, but actually meant for a woman’s body. (I have the neon orange one, and it makes me happy to see it in the shower.) They also make shave gel and body lotion, too.

Do You Shave? Wax? Neither?

If you prefer wax, Flamingo has you covered. At-home waxing has never been my jam; “I’ll put the strip on and then never bring myself to tear it off,” I thought. But since finding these, I am a convert. It hurts 8 million percent less than I thought it would, and the results are smooth and last much longer than shaving. (The tips in their handy wax guide make all the difference.) The body wax kit is great for larger areas, like legs, while the face wax kit is great for smaller spots, like upper lips, toes, or bumpy spots where razors just can’t go.

Real Talk: Do you shave? Wax? Neither?

What are your feelings about body hair? Do you shave or wax (or something else)? Let’s discuss…

(Photos by Christine Han for Cup of Jo. This post is sponsored by Flamingo, a company whose products we love and mission we believe in. Thanks for supporting the brands that keep Cup of Jo running.)

  1. Divya says...

    Indian woman here – with dark black hair, like most my kind. When I was in middle school, the hair on my leges started to become very noticeable, especially because our school uniform had skirts. My mom was very strict and wouldn’t let me wax (waxing was & is the popular choice for most women in India).

    Girls from more well-off families in school started to wax their legs when they were 12-13, and it used to be weird to notice them in the school skirts one day with hair and the next day all gone. It was major gossip that time :D I secretly shaved for my school farewell party (like prom in the US, a major event) when I was 17 and got a bad cut!! I wore jeans all the time at home for a weeks after that.

  2. Audra says...

    Cup of Jo always posts about topics that are super relevant to me at the exact moment I need them! The past 6 months, I’ve stopped caring so much about “grooming” all my body hair. I have dark hair and light, sensitive skin. Shaving and waxing irritate me a lot, so this winter I just…stopped. It was so freeing, and when I said so to my boyfriend he said he hadn’t even noticed (he’s a keeper). Last week I was in Jamaica on the beach, so I did shave for that, but because that’s how I felt comfortable.

    I do still pluck my face (eyebrows, stache, and chin) because of my damn Italian roots. But I love this body/hair positivity moment I’m having. I used to make decisions about my body hair based on pressure from society and men, but not anymore.

    For another brand that’s all about making your own choices with your body hair, check out Bille at https://mybillie.com. I LOVE THEIR PRODUCTS.

  3. E says...

    I shave armpits and everything below the waist every single day. Have since I was 13. Takes around 3 minutes… Hate feeling scratchy!!!

  4. E says...

    UGH so disappointed in Flamingo. Found the plastic part above and below the blades to be HUGE, so you can’t navigate around smaller (private) areas. Also it’s not as soft or smooth of a shave as my old drugstore brand. Missed the mark and I was so so so excited.

  5. Jessica says...

    Wow, I’m amazed at how many of you don’t remove body hair! I wonder if it’s a UK / US thing? I’m in the UK.
    I wax half leg and bikini (Brazilian front, Hollywood back) and shave underarms. Personally, if I’m furry between waxes I don’t care – I’ll still wear a skirt, but hair removal seems quite important here.

  6. Amy says...

    I love these Twinkle razors. https://www.amazon.com/s?k=twinkle+razor+for+women&crid=2L00SJHW6JSQP&sprefix=twinkle%2Caps%2C149&ref=nb_sb_ss_i_1_7
    I shave my WHOLE FACE with them. It’s basically a straight edge razor for ladies. I’m very blonde and have peach fuzz over my entire body and face and when I’m being lit from behind, my whole face glows with the luminescence of 1 million blonde hairs. I got really tired of waxing as it made my super sensitive skin so full of bumps and rashes, but with this I just shave my face about once a week and it doesn’t grow back any thicker or different and it’s so smooth! Plus, it sort of exfoliates your skin. I highly recommend!

  7. Elle says...

    I shave my legs because they itch me if I dont. However, I dont shave my vag at all. I used to trim it, but haven’t since last summer and it feels SO MUCH BETTER. Its a relief. I love it. but I’m nervous about summer and all of the fur peaking out of swimsuits.

    Any ideas?!

    I still have hair on top of my lip that I dont love. My stance is that if I love it- great, keep it. If I don’t love it, then get rid of it. I don’t love this hair. But I Dont know the best ways to get rid of that!

    Any ideas?

    • Sara says...

      I get my upper lip threaded. I have weird in-between hair – dark enough to see, but not quite “there” enough to get fully removed by waxing. The times I have waxed they’ve had to go back and clean up quite a bit with threading after so now I just thread. I will say, if I go too long in between (more than 4 weeks), it’s quite painful. But it’s very quick and not too expensive. I pluck rogue hairs between appointments. I’d love to laser it – my mom actually took me to an appointment to look into lasering when I was about 14 and super self-conscious about my ‘stache but at the time they said my hairs were too fine. I think the lasers have come a long way since then but I’ll probably wait until I’m done having babies because *hormones*.

  8. Laura says...

    Neither, for like three or four years now. When I have an important event for which I must dress up, I will shave. Otherwise, nothing. I’m sick and tired of feeling ashamed of my body while all the dudes around me are just happy to show me their fur and fat bellies. I also have fur and a fat belly and I am not going to hide them. I especially love the look of my armpit hair, but my bikini hairline is also growing on me.

  9. when i was in college i watched something on tv (i think it might have been a show or documentary about american beauty standards?) and the only thing i remember about it was this woman pointing out how creepy and gross it is that we feel the need to take women back to this child-like state of hairlessness to be considered beautiful. no pubic hair, no armpit hair, no leg hair. my jaw dropped and i immediately stopped shaving my pubic hair. any remarks about it were met with the question “i am a woman, and i have hair. would you prefer i make my vag look like an 11 year old’s?”

    • Frankie says...

      Oh my god I either watched the same show or doc or read the same thing and that’s ALWAYS where my mind goes too and it Creeps. Me. Out.

      I once was arrogant enough to say this – somewhat accusingly – when gabbing with girlfriends (all of us on various points of the hair-removal spectrum); and later felt really bad about being so … visceral … about it.

      As Amy Poehler says, “Good for her! Not for me!”

  10. Chelsea says...

    I first shaved my legs in middle school, I was probably 12, in the tub with my mom’s razor, a few days later I was at my grandmother’s pool and my godmother exclaimed in front of my mom, aunts, and teenaged cousins “did you shave your legs?!” I was mortifed. Later my mom made me tell my dad “what I did”. Since I have gone through phases of shaving and not shaving. I usually don’t shave my legs in the winter, and a few years ago I stopped shaving my armpits entirely. I always steal my husband’s razor when I do shave.

  11. Bex says...

    I’ve been using a safety razor (Leaf brand) this year and it’s amazing! It’s easy to use, gives you a great shave, and most importantly there’s no plastic waste going in the trash! The metal blades can be recycled through a company called Albatross.

    • Genevieve says...

      I use the Albatross brand, too! It’s so good to avoid plastic whenever possible!

  12. rachel says...

    i just cant believe youre almost 35! you dont look a day over 21

    • Vashnie says...

      I could not agree any more :)

  13. Erin says...

    I shave and use a men’s razor, they’re much better and more durable than women’s razors! Sometimes I’m lazy about it but I actually get annoyed and uncomfortable if my body hair gets too long.

    Plus, freshly shaved legs + soft, clean bed sheets is a feeling that can’t be beat!

  14. Chloe says...

    I have dirty blond hair, and and had no visible hair as a child. Then puberty really did me a solid: fur pants. HIGH WAISTED FUR PANTS
    From my big toes all the way to my lower back (yes, including my butt cheeks). Like a grown man’s. A hairy one.
    For some reason, the hair on my upper body stayed light and almost transparent.
    I was lucky my mom never made a big deal of shaving/not shaving, but I was mortified nonetheless, and lived in legit fear that someone would find out my secret.
    I tried everything, but my super-sensitive skin made things even harder.
    -Nair made me flare up, stank and lasted about a week, top
    -Shaving left me with huge rashes, ingrown hairs and painful bumps, even with careful exfoliation (and had to be done every other day). And major itching.
    -Wax (both hard and the kind you use with fabric strips) lasted about 3 weeks (a miracle!) but gave me hundreds of tiny bruises. Same thing with the epilator, which is cheaper in the end… but also made me realize my leg hair is grey? Not fabulous-older-lady grey, just mousy and muddy-looking grey.
    -everything took forever. I wear 34in inseam jeans…that’s a lot of hairy skin to deal with!

    So I would alternate between the methods, or try to hide everything under clothing when it got overwhelming. Lots of just keeping hair off my knees, the only part of my legs that stuck out of my school uniform in warmer months.

    Seeing how this was messing with both my skin and my self esteem, my mom offered me laser treatments when I was 16. After 2, the dermatologist said any more would be pointless, as my hair was too light for the treatment to be effective. I want to say it helped a liittle bit? But I still had very visibly hairy legs.

    And then I worked at a summer camp for a few summers as a young adult. Leading canoe trips, no one had time to deal with their body hair and no one cared. It was very liberating, and I’ve had a more casual/accepting relationship with my pilosity ever since.
    I’ll never know if it was the end of puberty, or going on the pill, but my fur pants are tamer now ( no hair on my butt! And only a random little patch on my lower back!)
    Now, I shave or use the epilator only a few times a year, mostly in the summer or for special occasions. I curse and question my sanity every single time…but I still like the look and feel once in a while. Otherwise, I just trim my pubic hair when it gets itchy.
    The only hair on my body I don’t mind dealing with is my pits. But I find hairy pits kind of sexy on women lately! It looks like a semi-secret rebellion, like getting a glimpse of a tiny part of their intimity. I might try to let mine grow out!

    Whew. This turned into High waisted fur pants : a memoir! I’d never shared the full story before. Thanks for the opportunity, CoJ!

    • Karinny says...

      Your memoir is awesome! :)

    • Kimberly says...

      Wonderful. I love your candor and reading about your evolution.

    • JSS says...

      This was amazing to read, as a fellow super hairy girl, except, everywhere.

    • Jill says...

      Love this…

  15. Amy says...

    I bought a flamingo razor about a month ago. I was super excited to have a razor that looked cute in my bathroom and worked well. Unfortunately I find it infuriating to use. The razor head pops off with every other stroke up my leg, leaving me to fumble around the shower floor and pop it back on CONSTANTLY. I emerge from my showers angry and half shaved instead of relaxed and smooth.

  16. Jo says...

    Tried it all waxing so painful, shaving so frequent, till laser hair removal thanks god for it

  17. HC says...

    all of this is very well said, but I want to pipe up with appreciation for the descriptor “aimless adulthood” — isn’t it, though?! AND such an important time. Love the phrase!

  18. mindi says...

    When my sister was in college, she kept her leg/armpit/whatever hair mostly unshaven; she just didn’t give a hoot (neither did I, but this is her tale). Her senior year, she nannied occasionally for a family, and was invited to join them at a wedding so she could watch the kiddos. She decided that while the long breezy dress she was wearing sufficiently covered her leg hair, it might be nice to shave her armpits (covered arms were not an option in the Colorado summer sun). She decided to go for it and wax her pits – at home. She melted the wax in her then-boyfriend’s fancy LeCreuset saucepan (because, why not) and never one to read the instructions first, dove in and spread the wax on her (very furry) pits. Bad idea; you’re supposed to trim it to at least 1/4″ first. The wax started to clump and pull. And ball up. And not pull out. At this point the shower is going, she’s half in a towel hopping and screaming around the apartment, attempting to pull out the wax without ripping off her skin, and she decides that maybe shaving it out will work? A half hour and four Mach-3 (the HEIGHT of men’s razor technology) blades later, she’s hair, and mostly skin, free in her one armpit. Needless to say, she shaved the other pit, and now only gets a professional to do the dirty work.

  19. Dear Boss says...

    This is wonderful, thank you. I have been having to shave for pretty much all my adult life, even beforehand. Now I have to shave my face, cheeks, chin and upper lip because it is too thick and coarse for any Jolene to penetrate. It’s always been that way. In fact, electrolysis first, then laser treatments actually ENCOURAGED the hair to grow.

    Seriously, the only thing that works for me is shaving. I do everything in the shower. And every time I shower (whenever I’m sick I shower every few hours and I shave then). I’m so glad to find someone else (a lot of someone elses) that share my same middle finger genes.

  20. CW says...

    I’m loving reading these comments so I felt like I should contribute! I’m pretty hairy, everywhere except on my face. I shave my legs and pits, but I actually like my pubic hair, I think it’s pretty. I get the kind of wax where you don’t take your undies off during swimsuit season just to keep the edges trimmed, but I really hate it. I do get self conscious in locker rooms though, I feel like I’m the only woman in New York who still has pubic hair. I sometimes get weird reactions from men I date; that’s always an awkward conversation, but it’s also a good filter? I don’t know, if you can’t handle the fact that I have an adult body maybe you can’t handle being with someone who lives like an adult? Also, just as a PSA, the one time I did try a more extensive hair removal project on my pubic hair I ended up with a viral skin rash that took three months and many expensive and painful prescription treatments to get rid of. Be careful.

  21. Sophie says...

    I use the Remington bikini trimmer – I just use the clipper when it gets too long (tmi)! I used to get full on Brazilians before kids but no way now, I prefer near and not too bushy. Best thing is using the trimmer there’s absolutely no itchiness and it’s so easy and painless!

    • Beccalennox says...

      yaas! I love this thing. I have been through two in the last decade.

    • Jean says...

      Thanks Sophie. I’ve been looking for a recommendation like this

    • Nicole Brant says...

      Ditto on the Remington!

  22. Eszter says...

    I haven’t used a razor since my high shool years (almost 15 years now) as I was always afraid of cutting myself above the ankles. I still shiver when I think about the accidents.
    I’ve been alternating between waxing (proper hot wax, not strips) and using an epilator on my legs and armpits, and I must say that razor-free de-hairing has really paid off – the hairs are growing so sparse, and no spiky feeling at all…
    Also, I get a Brazilian wax done every 4-6 weeks and the beautician always compliments on how little hair I’ve got down there – a girl’s always gotta take a compliment, right? :)

  23. Sally says...

    I’ve struggled with body hair embarrassment forever and finally in my early 30s at home laser hair removal became possible so I used a Bed Bath coupon for this:
    https://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/store/product/remington-reg-ilight-professional-hair-remover/203812
    Which is now apparently out of date but it worked SO WELL for me, and yes it’s sort of painful (you can control the strength of the zaps though and it’s really not that bad) but COMPLETELY WORTH IT!!!! I first used it over 5 yrs ago on bikini sides area, “happy trail” and upper backs of my legs (bf did that part!) and I still have much less hair growth now without having touched the thing in at least 4 yrs. I should redo around now and maybe do the pits. The absolute mental freedom being hair free in just those areas (if I could afford it I would do a lot more) has provided me has been incredible, I have to say. Highly recommend, I think they still have similar products and I bet things have only gotten better since tech is improving all the time.

    Also, to be happy at the beach this bikini bottom is the best thing ever: https://www.jcrew.com/p/womens_category/swimwear/highwaisted-ruched-bikini-bottom/G1723?color_name=navy

    • Lindsey says...

      OMG these bottoms are AMAZING

  24. Stephanie says...

    I’ve been using an epilator for everything (yes, even down there!) since my roommate from 3 years ago introduced it to me. I love it. Now I never have to buy razors or waxing kits or pay for a wax. It has been life changing.

  25. Alex says...

    “Sometimes, I’ll shave only the stretch of leg that sticks out of the pants.“

    Hahaha! ME TOO, Caroline!

    • Exactly! :)

  26. Rachel says...

    Anyone have success stories for getting leg hair to grow out and look intentional – not just 5 day neglect? I barely remember my natural hair state on my legs, and after shaving/waxing/sugaring for years, I don’t love the scraggly results of deliberately not removing. Maybe this would have been my destiny if I’d never started?

    • Chloe says...

      Super lazy in the hair removal department over here. I tend to prefer the post-waxing look to the post-shaving look, as the hair growing back has pointier/softer ends.

      But it also depends on your hair texture. Mine will never be silky ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

  27. saramarg says...

    I hate shaving. ****HHHAAAATTTEEEE**** it. I hate the water wasted, the time wasted, the itching, scratching, and dry skin afterwards. The sex is awful, my pits smell worse after shaving, post shaving I itch my groin in public or need to and can’t because, good lord, I’m in the in-bewteen age of too old to itch mindlessly and too young to itch with abandon. My shower is gross with random hairs which means it takes longer to bathe. Did I mention the water wasted? The same vertical cut proximal to my malleolus I’ve given myself for damn near 32 years. The scar a permanent reminder of just how much I don’t enjoy shaving.

    I hate it.

    And yet… I do it.

    • Hilary says...

      I hate it too, but I soap up and turn the water off while I shave. That way I save water and stop it running into my eyes when I bend over!

  28. Amy says...

    “Sometimes I’m in a furrier mood than others” – love this! I’m in a furry mood right now. I’ve gotten in a habit of shaving my bikini area, which I usually like and which I am pretty sure my boyfriend prefers, though he’d never say so. But these last few weeks I have just NOT been in the mood to shave it and I’ve been enjoying watching my natural state grow back in.

    I so admire women with long armpit hair and I’ve set out to grow mine long sooo many times…but after a week or so I can never overcome the temptation to shave it off. I think because it’s such a small patch of hair, it’s so satisfying to see it totally removed in just a few quick swipes.

  29. Kelsey says...

    It took me many years to realize that removing body hair just wasn’t for me! I find it very freeing not to worry or even think about it anymore. :)

  30. Shawna Foulkes says...

    Adding in that I recently ordered a laser hair device off amazon. There are a few: SkinSmooth and Tria are popular. I used Tria. It’s about $350, but it’s one up front cost versus multiple pricey sessions. AND if it grows back (after pregnancy, or whatever) you can use it again. It’s working great so far. I’m on week 3 (doing one session a week), and I already have less hair growth. It’s incredibly painful though. Especially around the bikini area. But I have a glass one wine and just suck it up.

  31. Jennifer says...

    Love reading all the responses! So many different views!
    Having very fair skin and very dark hair, I went from shaving (ugh bumps and ingrowns), to waxing (the grow-out period is awful), to finally plunking down the cash for laser hair removal on my underarms and extended bikini area. I’m SO happy with my decision.
    As much as I care about those two areas, I couldn’t care less about hair everywhere else, including legs. Ha!

  32. Elise says...

    Women get rid of ALL body hair? Who knew? I did not. The face hair thing drives me nuts, and I picked up some good info here. Thanks, Caroline for an interesting story. RE commercial connections: I am fine with it for two reasons. 1. I like hearing about new items that i would never otherwise know about. 2. Writers deserve to be paid. I love CoJ and all the things (material items, thoughts, experiences, funny kids, food) I learn about on this site. Keep it up.

    • Hear hear!

  33. Ceridwen says...

    I remember shaving my legs for the first time the day before I started Highschool. Crazy idea! An older boy (also horrible) had told me my legs were too hairy and that I *had* to shave them. Mortified, I did. With my Dad’s blunt disposable razor and cut my knee. Knees are so tricky! I was always so grateful that when I went embarrassed to my mum, she just got me a band aide and said nothing. 6 months later I decided that boy was an idiot and I was finding my feminist voice so let the hair grow in defiance.
    Now, 39, I shave because it feels good to me. But high school boys…ugh.

  34. Lindsay says...

    I have been using the flamingo razer for a few months, it’s nice! As a busy mom of 3 I often let my hair go but maybe once a week or so I’ll shave everywhere. I do love the feeling of being that smooth, so does my husband! :) I tried waxing and ouch it was torture!

  35. freya says...

    BARNARD!!!

    • hahah, was just coming to say the same. definitely barnard!

  36. s.h. says...

    lived in rural asia where women didn’t shave anyways. came back to the states and, encouraged by examples of other women not shaving in the states (which at first shocked me! was 100% staring at this woman’s armpit hair in spite of myself!), and also encouraged by joanna’s mention that she doesn’t shave her pubic hair… still not shaving.
    then a friend asked me if he could show my legs to his six-year-old niece who was self-conscious about her leg hair, and i was like…she’s only six! heck, i’ll go to the first grade class and do furry show and tell, whatever it takes to make those six year-olds unworried about leg hair of all things!
    i work in a fitness store (i.e. wear shorts) in a conservative town where i imagine it will get stared at this summer. no big. happy to be an example of being our lovely womanly selves, however we come.

    • Laura says...

      You are a queen. Thanks for leading by example.

  37. AJ says...

    Shave! (My delicate skin can’t tolerate wax!) There are obviously times when I leave it to grow, and body hair doesn’t offend me in the slightest – BUT I like being smooth! It’s not a chore or a pressure, it’s a choice, and I like it (when I can be bothered haha) so today I went to the gym with hairy legs and didn’t give two hoots what anyone would have thought. Then later I shaved them as I have a date and I feel nice when it’s smooth! (And the date is with a woman… so no, I’m not doing it to please a man!)

  38. Amelia says...

    :-)
    I don’t shave anything. A couple times I’ve shaved under my arms for a wedding when wearing a sleeveless dress, but I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve bought a razer.

  39. Em says...

    I’ve always shaved my legs, and I like them smooth. This is a personal preference! I love my legs shiny (hello, body oil!) and smooth and feminine — I embrace my feminine self.

    For underarms, I’ve tried growing it out, and kept it that way for a while. But! I just didn’t like the feeling, and my all-natural deo just wouldn’t do the job. Again, I’m all for smooth underarms — it’s a personal thing.

    Down South, I rock a 70’s vibe, but I keep it cleaned up with electrolysis on any of the “divergent” hairs. I’ve also done electrolysis on some errant sideburn hairs, and little randos around my hairline.

    I’m alllll for PEOPLE to do how they please with their body hair. Men with shiny legs can be hot (hello, swimmer bods), womxn rocking a furry vibe is empowering to witness (what’s more powerful than a person doing what they want without apologies? am I right?). I have a friend who shaves her underarms and is totally hairless down south, but never shaves her legs — a surprising combo that she’s said has thrilled a few lovers!

    • Laura says...

      Hair is also feminine. You are a woman, your legs are woman’s legs, your body hair is feminine. You are not more feminine than other women just because you shave. In fact, hairless bodies are not womanly, they are childlike.

  40. Amy says...

    Umm what college did you go to, is that president still there and can i pull a lori/felicity and pay $10 to ensure my daughters get spot?

    • jackie says...

      I worked for a women’s college. Check out the Seven Sisters

  41. Anna says...

    I’m cute and furry, and, honestly, though I found Caroline’s writing both insightful and fun (as always), the comment section made me so sad. Just seeing the sheer amount of comments about the ways we get rid of something that our bodies grow for a reason, but what is not seen as *beautiful*. And all the TIME and MONEY (and pain) we (women) spend on something like body hair. I just feel gutted.
    (Goes to cry softly, while researching laser hair removal,)

    • Kim says...

      LOL

  42. I just wanted to say two things:
    1. You do sponsored content SO well. It’s never a product that doesn’t pertain to your readers and it’s written so thoughtfully.
    2. LOVE seeing a Public Art Fund exhibition in the background ;)

  43. Leah says...

    Only Caroline could make a sponsored post about razors funny, relatable, engaging, enjoyable.

  44. Marlena says...

    I went in to get my eyebrows threaded a few years back. Once the procedure was over, the technician asked “And your upper lip too?”

    Um. Sure. I guess NOW we are. I wasn’t aware we needed to. Thanks.

    Worst. Pain. Ever. And I’ve birthed humans. Never again.

    • Amy says...

      I hate when they slip in that upper lip comment!

    • Lisa says...

      I agree. They’re the worst at sneaking that in. When I went in one time to have my brows done the woman said “and upper lip too?”
      “No”
      “Oooooh, so you want to keep your moustache”

    • Laura says...

      Well, it IS their jobs to make you feel insecure so you will spend money on beauty stuff you don’t need. It’s an integral part of the patriarchy.

  45. Mandy says...

    So much to say on this topic, being of middle eastern descent! Wouldn’t even know where to start but did get laser hair removal on my full leg and basic bikini when I was working in a medi spa a few years ago and was able to opt into free treatments monthly. Unfortunately laser hair removal can be pretty cost prohibitive but I can say that it revolutionized my world!! Having gone from shaving every single day with a noticeable five o clock shadow on my legs by end of day to not having touched my legs in 6 years and still no re-growth! An obvious game changer if you want to be rid of your hair. Did not work on my hormonal face hair but threading has been working great for me. My main question I wanted to ask in regards to this article is… what college did you go to, Caroline??? Sounds like a dream!!

    • Ellen says...

      Laser didn’t work on my hormonal chin hair, either. Get electrolysis (it’s inexpensive and works). My hair removal lady says that pulling out those hormonal hairs stimulates the follicles even more!

    • Reem says...

      Barnard College! And as a fellow Middle Easterner, I love sugaring. Leaves the skin so smooth.

  46. EJ says...

    PSA! DON’T DO LASER HAIR REMOVAL IF YOU PLAN TO BE PREGNANT IN THE FUTURE.

    I spent more money than I want to admit on laser hair removal on several areas only to have it ALL grow back with my first pregnancy. I had been hair free for several years right after the treatments, so it worked initially.

    Not sure if this is true for everyone, but it sure was for me! I wish I had known and I would’ve waited.

    • Liz says...

      This was totally true for me too! All of my hair came back, though slightly more sparse than originally.

      I plan to wax from now on. (3 kids means that I can clearly handle any pain, right?)

    • Laura C. says...

      @EJ: Really?? I didn’t got my hair back and I have been pregnant twice after my laser hair removal! It must have been a true disappointment for you! Can I ask you what type of laser did they use on you?

    • EJ says...

      It was about 7 years ago, so I can’t remember the laser details. I had it done at Ideal Image, if that helps. And yes, it was so disappointing! Especially considering how much pain, time, and money went in to the treatments. I STILL think about it when I have to shave, although two kids later, doesn’t happen very often! :)

    • Jenny says...

      I’ve never been pregnant, but I did laser hair removal and my hair all grew back eventually. :(

  47. Johanna says...

    I bought a Braun epilator and it hurts but it changed my life!

    • K says...

      Okay, I’ve read through almost all of the comments and am wondering why no one is talking about pubic hair growing… up the butt. I shave mine, and i hate it so much. But i can’t imagine going in and requesting it to be waxed or lasered. Am i the only woman with ass crack hair? It’s probably the one thing I’m self conscious about with my body.

    • Amy says...

      K, if you go for a bikini wax they will absolutely do your butt crack!

    • Megan says...

      In response to K, I wax everything! When you go in for a full Brazilian, your butthole area is usually just part of it. They’ll ask you if you want to “do the back,” and then you either flip over and hold your cheeks apart, or lift your legs up and hold behind your knees to expose the area! It does not hurt at all. Even now, post-pregnancy with lingering hemorrhoids, my waxer just goes right around them, no problem.

    • A says...

      K – I’m too terrified to shave where I can’t see, so I leave that alone (or attempt it with an electric razor, with the shortest guard). But I have had a Brazilian (once) and they nonchalantly did the butt, too. Short answer: yes, I’ve got butt hair too and I don’t think it’s uncommon.

  48. Sally says...

    I shave from about April to September, then in-between I let it all go free-range. The only bit I shave year-round is the 4-5 weird wiry hairs under my chin. They’re dealt with by a quick swipe of the razor under there every morning. I can’t be bothered to do anything more about them.

  49. Bethany says...

    Caroline, I think of you most mornings when I smooth my upper lip with the tiny shaver you recommended here years ago! From the pink electric razor I was encouraged to use on my underarms in the third grade, to the eyelid skin *burned* by hot wax on the eve of my first day of high school, to the long nights standing naked in a college dorm shower stall with my lower back covered in Nair waiting to rinse, it’s been a long and winding road of hapless hair management and, sadly, shame. At this point (34 and 11/12ths) I’m much less stressed by it all and do quick razor/wax on face, legs, and underarms. I love my Portuguese heritage and the olive skin tone and dark, thick hair that comes with it! But I still carry tweezers in my purse.

  50. Maelle says...

    So many comments already, we are passionate about our hair!

    I am blonde and not very hairy i guess, but i have loooong hair. It never bothered me, but had i not been blonde, i guess i would probably have done something about the hair on my arms. For the rest, i shave my legs inconsistently (especially in the winter, sometimes i go a whole month without shaving) and this year, finally decided to do laser on my armpits and bikini line. Life changing!

    I know a lot of people say that hair down there shouldn’t be removed and help protect your vagina, but i found it was the contrary for me. Maybe it is because i tend to sweat a bit more, but it collected sweat and moisture and i kept getting infections. Also, the older i grow, the more my hair ‘spread’ (like on my thighs) and that is not something i felt comfortable with. Shaving this area was out of question since i have a very sensitive skin and i used to wax, but it’s expensive, painful and you have to wait long enough before waxing again and i didn’t like the way it looked or felt in the meantime.

    I get that permanently removing your pubic hair is not for everyone, but it worked for me! Also, you don’t have to remove everything, you get to decide what feels right for you. i just cleared out the area but kept most of my hair, so that it feels cleaner to me but still natural.

    You do you ladies!

    • Tessa says...

      Ok, so when you say you’re blonde, I’m assuming you’re the other natural blonde in the universe! How did you get your hair lasered? I was told my hair didn’t have enough pigment and that my skin would be burned.

  51. Daphne Phillips says...

    Love this topic! My husband loves furry pits so I don’t shave there (bonus: less stink plus no razor burn/ingrown hairs). We do use an electric razor to trim every so often (I say “we” because he does it for me, I can’t see it!) but I never shave it all off. I think it’s sexy and have gotten very attached to my furry pits. I shave my lower legs every so often, I don’t have very dark hair so it doesn’t really matter that much. I never shave above the knee — no point. I like the feel of freshly-shaven legs but I often forget for weeks on time. The rest of it… I just sort of take care of strays and do whatever seems comfortable and aesthetically pleasing at the time (this varies). I am all for doing whatever feels right, even if this shifts over time! We don’t have to make one decision about it and be locked into it!

    • Daphne Phillips says...

      (also, re: whether I need my husband’s permission to shave or not shave pits: I don’t, but his encouragement helped me to move in a direction I was already moving but struggled with — his support helped me overcome some of that built-in societal pressure to NEVER HAVE FURRY ARMPITS and now I love it and am really grateful he supported me so strongly, now I don’t even think about it and am totally comfortable with it. For the record, he is very furry and routinely gives himself an all-over body trim with the electric trimmer when he feels it gets ‘out of control’ — i.e. sticking through his undershirt or itching. Everyone can do whatever they want!)

    • Rachel says...

      Same here with the husband support for furry pits (not literal like yours, not that I haven’t considered having him do more thoughtful management since the angle can be awkward). Yay for people – countering negative stereotypes – who will support us in doing something against cultural norms that makes us happier and can frankly be such a practical decision. I shave mine off very rarely when I’m in the mood. It’s a bit startling now to be bare there at this point, so I leave it to grow back quickly.

    • Sara says...

      I grew my armpit hair out for the first time this fall/winter (at 32 years old…) and was also encouraged by my husband! The first few yoga classes I attended with hairy pits I self-consciously kept my long-sleeve shirt on the whole class, even though I’m much more comfortable in a tank top. When I told my husband, he literally said, “Who gives a fuck what other people think about your armpits? It’s your body.” Uh, duh. I don’t know why I needed him to tell me that but I enjoyed rocking my furry pits at many classes for several months after that. I found I didn’t like when it got really long (I could actually see if out of the corner of my eye in certain yoga poses and found it distracting haha) so I would just trim it occasionally with my husband’s hair trimmer. I was amazed to notice the opposite of what I thought would happen: I was LESS stinky with pit hair! I started shaving my pits again recently on a whim and will probably stick to it through spring and summer since it’s a look I generally prefer for myself but it was empowering not to shave for awhile and I definitely think I’ll do it again. Maybe just winter fur for now :)

  52. Christina says...

    THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT FACIAL HAIR!! I follow a lot of lifestyle/beauty bloggers and no one ever talks about it! Even on Sex and the City, where supposedly there was no issue that was off limits, never even had a passing mention of a chin hair. The episode where Samantha talks about a gray hair in her pubic hair? What about a gray hair ON HER FACE??

    Also, this line: “Other times, I love to feel like a smooth seal, gliding through the water (or my sheets, same diff). ” made me laugh out loud.

    Love you, Caroline!!

  53. Julie says...

    I shave my legs every day because I hate the feel of it. My armpits I shave every couple in the winter, every other in the summer. And I shave the borders of my bikini area if I’m wearing a swimsuit and I trip the rest, but nothing too nuts.

    I’m Irish German and I like to joke that I’m the almost hairless wonder, I don’t have much on my arms and don’t have to worry about my face.

  54. Jac says...

    Neeeeither. Sometimes I trim my wizard’s beard but that is all. 🧙🏻‍♀️😬

  55. Tammy says...

    My mom was always such a big proponent of being ‘au naturale’ before it was even in vogue and socially acceptable. Aside from the ‘love yourself’ aspect of it, she always told me that having body hair was healthier for you to. It was a form of protection for your skin and as she would say, “there’s a reason God put it there.”

    So let us fast-forward some years to my pre-teen years where I started developing earlier than most girls. That’s when I started really feeling the pressure of going hairless. I felt less than and less attractive having hair and admittedly I’m not a hairy person to begin with, yet I thought it was the social norm.

    Today, I’m very minimalist when it comes to body hair. It’s taken a long time for me to come into my own and make this decision based on personal preference and not social expectations. I like the feeling of smooth skin aaaand I’m also a little OCD so I shave pretty often to keep things smooth. I also wax. I’m definitely eager to check out Flamingo. I loved reading all the varying opinions on this subject…it’s so cool to see how other women feel and how they have come to terms with their own bodies! Loved reading!

  56. Natasha says...

    Laser all the way! Shaving used to give me horrible ingrown hairs, itchy red bumps around my bikini line. I tried all the creams, all methods of exfoliating, and all sorts of after care with no luck. I tried waxing, it was horrible and then I had an allergic reaction to the wax! The laser hurts WAY less than waxing and eventually costs the same or less. Hair gone for good! I had my bikini line and armpits done but now I am starting on the lower legs. I go in for twice yearly touch ups for the bikini line and arm pits. Best decision ever.

  57. i haven’t shaved my legs in 10 years. i’m not very hair. i mean, if you’re super close to my legs, sure you can see some hair, but it’s sparse. i also pluck my armpit hair. and i haven’t plucked my eyebrows in over 10 years.

    tl;dr – i’m lazy.

    oh. i do keep my bikini line clean though.

  58. Olivia says...

    I once looked around the table at all the women in my husbands family – many ages – and realized I was the.only.one. with hair on my arms. They ALL SHAVE THEIR ARMS!!!! What the fuck?! Even one of his brothers in law! It’s insane to me. Mediterranean family for reference.

    My arm hair is light and fine by comparison, but it only bothered me once when I got a manicure and the manicurist who was massaging my arms w lotion arranged all my arm hair in a uniform way. It’s still unsettling to think about her like petting my arm hair back to normal, lol

    • Jamie says...

      This comment made me laugh so hard. I went through a phase of shaving my arms in high school until I had the same thought, “what the fuck?!”
      The creamed uniform arm hair – hahahaha!

    • Marlena says...

      I am guilty of petting my arm hair to train it in a certain direction (always out and forward, thankyouverymuch). Seeing this typed out, however, feels really weird since I’ve never once thought about this habit. I am literally combing over my arm hair.

    • Olivia says...

      Omg an arm hair comb over 🤣 hysterical.

  59. Caitlyn says...

    Would love an article about lasering the hair. So many comments of women who have done this and love it and I don’t know where to start. When I google in my area – the results seems so scammy. It scares me. How do you choose a provider? How much will it cost?

    • Audrey says...

      I’d love this as well! I’ve been talking about it *a lot* with my female coworkers.

    • E says...

      YESSSSSS. Have always considered for underarms and bikini (and let’s be honest, upper lip) but need some legit and honest reviews. Esp years afterwards…

    • Laura C. says...

      Here in my country I have always looked for a DERMATOLOGIST, to me it’s fundamental that I will be treated by a doctor. The I go to different dermatologists and ask for their prices. I go to the cheapest. HOpe this can help :)

    • Tess says...

      yes please!!

    • KM says...

      Yes, would love this as well!!

  60. anna says...

    I have Alopecia Universalis. Meaning, I don’t have any kind of hair. Nowhere. So I haven’t shaved in the last 9 years. I wish I had to shave again…

    • Peggy says...

      Hugs to you. xo Peg

  61. lm says...

    ok fiiiine caroline, i’ll be brave and try waxing at home.
    ;)

  62. celester says...

    Shave body, wax facial. If I could afford it, I’d laser it all.

  63. Sasha L says...

    Body hair is such a weird topic, isn’t it? So many feelings. Sigh.
    Pits: don’t bother me, except that in general I am so extra hairy, and pit hair kind of soaks up stink, and I’m a low showerer. I can’t shave, I get horrible bumps. So I use my husband’s hair clippers which clips the hair very short so it’s not very noticeable and less stink. Happy with this solution.
    Legs: ugh. So hairy. I want to be ok with it. I do. I’m mostly not but also lazy. Also all the hair keeps me warm in the interminable winter (I told you I was really hairy). So mostly just let it all go. But if going to a hot springs in winter, and in summer, I use clippers on top, shave lower. Can’t shave top because terrible bumps/rash/ingrown hairs. Not only ugly looking, but incredibly painful. To be honest, I get a ton of ingrown hairs even if I let hair grow. So many scars. Not happy at all with this solution.
    Arms: also so hairy, but the hair is light and somehow I managed to just ignore.
    Lady parts: I use clippers (my husband knows where his clippers have been and he’s down with it). Hate that I like how I look better this way.
    Face/neck: why am I so hairy? Like seriously, whyyyyyy? I shave my upper lip. Lovely the morning I shave, not so much by next day. Use tweezers for beard. Ugh. Hate it, leaves bumps often and I’m always missing a hair or two that I find later, when it’s 6 inches long and mortifying.

    No one could possibly still be reading by now……. But true story: I was nanny to an adorable, precocious, overly verbal 3 yo. Took her to the fire station for a little visit and to get her car seat checked. I was kneeling down telling her something and she loudly announced to the super cute (in the way that only young, buff, heroically hot firefighters are) firefighter helping us “Sasha! You have a little beard, right there on your chin! Look! Look! A beard!”

    I have worked hard to love and accept myself, but the hair, nah. Not even close to there yet. If there was a drug that would magically make it all disappear, even if it had terrible side effects, if take it. Happily. So not proud of my personal growth (ha! Pardon the pun!) in this area.

    • Christina says...

      I feel you girl!! You’re not alone!

    • Meg says...

      I read all of this, I loved it, and I think the clippers game might change my life (or at least the life of the my armpit skin, currently very angry from shaving). Thank you!

  64. joana says...

    in portugal (where i’m from) the most common thing is to wax, i don’t know many people who use a razor! also because your hair becomes stronger and stronger with a razor, and waxing weakens the hair. i used to wax, but then i decided to do laser (pubic hair) and epilate my armpits and legs below the knee. for the rest of the body, incluiding my face i just don’t need anything because practically all my hair is… blond. i’m a brunette but my grandma was blond and i think i inherited her body hair! i realize i’m really lucky when i hear some of my girlfriends’ hair (horror) stories…

    • Antonymous says...

      Do hair really become that much stronger from shaving?
      We usually just shave again anyway usually where we start, dunno :). But not that bad.

  65. Mary W. says...

    I started swimming a couple of years ago after not appearing in public in a bathing suit for decades. The hair thing was my biggest anxiety. You know what? Nobody looks, nobody cares. It’s been very freeing. I still shave, but if I forget one day (um, like this morning), it doesn’t keep me away from the pool. I’ve found that an electric razor on my legs is the only thing that doesn’t give me ingrown hairs.

  66. Dorothy A Garcia says...

    I am a hairless wonder, like most of the women in my family, so I have nothing to add to this post. But I did want to say that, even for a blog that consistently posts the most thoughtful and entertaining sponsored content on the web, this one set a new standard. Hilarious You’re a gem, Kiwi!

  67. courtney says...

    I go in phases! It’s not as straightforward as “shaven in the summer; hairy in the winter”, though. It’s just how I’m feeling, but “hairy” for me doesn’t mean letting stubble grow out. It mean growing everything out completely. I hate stubble, but feel fine shaven or grown out.

    I haven’t shaved my legs or armpits in about a month, and probably won’t for awhile. When I’m in the sun a lot and the leg hair is soft and bleachy, I don’t mind it. As long as my legs feel strong, I feel good about them.

    As much as I’m happy to let armpit and led hair do its thing, I do keep my pubic hair tidy and get French-style waxes every six weeks or so – but I definitely leave everything on the front! The idea of being completely bare and prepubescent down there is really off-putting to me.

    I think there is a perception of armpit hair being more prone to smelliness – is that valid? I have always felt like my body odor is kept in check more when I DO have pit hair. It wicks sweat away or something. Does anyone else experience that?

    • Christin says...

      Yes! When I let my armpit hair grow out due to a terrible eczema flareup, I had way less issue with smell. I thought, ‘oh so this is another reason men have it so easy.’ ;)

    • Sara says...

      Agreed on the armpit smelliness being way better when I grow my pit hair out! The opposite of what I thought would happen but I am noticeably stinkier when I shave.

  68. Alyssa says...

    You know how some women loose a bunch of hair (from their head) after giving birth? Well, after I had my babies, virtually all my pubic hair fell out, as if in protest to what had just happened to my vagina. My friends, who I of course told this to, said “how great! You don’t have to shave!” But unfortunately , the bikini line hair remained as dark and coarse as ever. My pubic region looked like a man with a large bald spot and prominent side burns.

    • Chey says...

      Your comment made my morning. Thank you Alyssa!

    • Omigosh. I literally laughed out loud. I had a friend who had this experience after getting Brazilians for a few years! The sideburns kept growing back in but nothing else 😂😂😂

  69. M|J says...

    I’m a hairy beast. Last year I invested in laser removal for my upper lip and chin. Good grief, I wish i would have done so years ago. I have dark hair and lighter skin so the hair bothered me. Prior to laser, I did every other week waxing which took so much time. Driving back and forth took 4x longer than my appointment. I was also obsessed with regrowth. Lasering freed up the mental space waxing took up!

    I started using Public Goods razor handle and blades and love it. The handle is bamboo which gets a little slick in the shower, but I am used to it know. The replacement blades are inexpensive too.

    • E says...

      Okay tell me more, b/c I want to do laser. Did it hurt? How much did it cost? Do you think you’ll have to do it again?

  70. katiel1 says...

    Caroline- Where did you go to college? I too went to a women’s college (Smith!) and would love for my daughter to get a phone call every day telling her she is strong and beautiful :) Off-topic from shaving, although I appreciated this post!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      caroline is off on fridays, but i can tell you, she went to barnard! and franny, our editorial assistant, went to smith.xo

  71. Jill says...

    There is literally no way to get away from commercials. :(

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you so much for your note! one option is to skip any posts where you see “sponsored” at the top, if you’d prefer. we mark them at the top and bottom so people know they’re reading a sponsored post and can skip, read, whatever they choose. truly, anything is fine!

      to help explain, sponsored posts are how we keep the site running and are able to pay fair rates to our team and contributors and offer medical/dental benefits. most of the content we do on the site and social media is straight editorial (and thus doesn’t create revenue), so our wonderful sponsors help support the site and all we do here. we only work with brands and retailers we love and use ourselves. i hope this makes sense! truly, it’s okay if you skip these posts, but i wanted to explain why they’re so important for the site overall and make it possible! :)

    • Alexandra says...

      All the wonderful content that CoJ and her team provide has to be paid somehow. We, the readers are enjoying it for free. And I think it’s only fair that there are sponsored posts. Those are always well labeled (and additionally, this one is hilarious!) Please do consider that you are reading free content, but everything has to be paid for somehow.

    • Anna says...

      Jill – I think this is an unfair comment, and a good response from Joanna. You can’t expect to get regular, high quality content for free. How are the writers and members of the team suppose to earn a living and continually create content if the blog does not generate any revenue? The alternative to sponsored posts would be that you have to pay to access the site, which would completely change the nature of the blog, and is much less preferable to the occasional well written considered sponsored post (usually pretty relevant to the readership of this blog), which you have the option to skip past if you don’t like (its clearly marked that its a sponsored post above the title and in the footer). If you enjoy the blog and appreciate the content produced, then occasionally reading (or choosing not to read) a sponsored post is a small price to pay, which actually doesn’t cost you anything!

    • Nicole says...

      Thanks Joanna for the reply and since you said you consider thoughtfully on who you choose as sponsors, id like to put in a plug for you to consider the environmental impact of your sponsors. Especially since you are a mom, and with the direction the tenabilty (??) of our earth during their lifetime, I hope it is something you can consider (rather than all of these stand alone companies who want to ship you individual items, although I realize that is the market in the blogosphere)

    • Jill says...

      Joanna, It was nice of you to reply to my grumpy post. I’ve been feeling some kind of way about commercialism/consumerism lately and I wrote before I thought. I do understand you need to create revenue for you and your amazing team and I apologize for making a comment when I could have just kept my feelings to myself. I read the blog everyday and I truly love it. Please don’t be mad at me forever. Lylas, Jill

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, jill, i wasn’t mad at all, and this note is so sweet! awww, thank you. have a great weekend. xoxo

  72. Ruth says...

    I am currently 35 weeks pregnant and cannot bend over to shave my legs, and give absolutely zero f*&#s about it (and my wonderful husband couldn’t care less). I appreciate the occasional (seasonal) bikini wax, but also prefer boyshorts: so much more comfortable and no need to worry about hair. I find that my armpit hair is itchy growing in so I do shave that (when I remember) and would like to get it lasered some day.

  73. Katrina says...

    I remember being in the second grade, on the bus, typing my shoes and a mean older girl said loudly “oh my god your legs are so hairy.” I was 7 and still remember that first time feeling like there was something wrong with me. That began my desire to remove every hair that was not on my head. I spent years shaving, waxing, bleaching everything arms, legs, stomach.
    Almost 30 years later, I don’t care anymore.
    I hope you’ve move on from being a mean girl, Melissa.

    • That’s so upsetting! And at such a young age too. 😕 I remember starting to get stressed about body hair right before middle school (for the same gym-class reasons that Caroline mentioned). I was very fortunate to have an older sister who offered to teach me to shave, but also said that it anyone made fun of my leg hair I should just look right at them and say “everyone’s legs are hairy.” (Her additional instruction was “say it like they’re the dumbest person in the world” because girl knew how middle school worked.) I wish I had been brave enough to take her second piece of advice, but I was too scared and asked her to teach me to shave instead. I’m sorry you had such an unfortunate mean-girl run in!

    • Heather says...

      Ugh, I can so relate to this. At age 11, I was the ONLY girl in the 6th grade who was not allowed to shave my legs. The boys called me monkey legs. Finally, my mom broke down and shaved my legs for me for the first time with one of my dad’s yellow bic razors.

  74. AC says...

    Heads up all, I tried the flamingo wax kit. I’d never waxed before, but wanted to try it for my underarms since it’s too soft an area for me to do with an epilator (which I am loving for my legs) but I like the idea of getting the hairs out by the root so that I don’t have to shave as much.

    Sadly, the flamingo wax kit did not work…at all. It took out zero hairs and instead left a waxy film on my underarm for days (it would not wash off!). Needless to say I returned the kit to Target.

    As for the razors, if you haven’t already been using their brother company Harry’s ones, like I have, then give them a try. I’ve been happy with the Harry’s razors.

    And if you want to try epilating, go for it! But make sure you use a good epilator, like a Braun. The key is that it needs to have enough tweezers, at least around 40, to be any good. You get used to the pinching feeling quick on the legs (knees are still a little tricky).

    Granted, most of the time I’m lazy and am just hairy, only grooming about once a week. Maybe I should just get laser.

    • Mary says...

      FYI if you ever try waxing again: use oil to get rid of wax residue on your skin. Oil helps to dissolve the wax, and then you can use soap to get rid of the oil! I usually use whatever type of oil is in the kitchen :D

  75. txilibrin says...

    Well, I had laser in my legs, armpits and down there (just the sides!). It worked like magic for my legs and armpits (I AM SUPER HAIRY AND I NEVER LIKED IT. I don’t care what people say, I just don’t like myself with that MUCH hair). Down there, didn’t work that good, but for whatever reason I never had much hair (you should see how hairy my arms are, I don’t like it, but shaving them is just TOO MUCH).
    Long story short, love my lasered legs and armpits.
    I think if I didn’t have that much hair I wouldn’t even bother, but you work with what you have.

    And I honestly hope my vision of my body hair is just my own and not diluted by our stupid society :)

    • Doria says...

      Same here! Worked like a charm! I can’t even imagine having to wax or shave again, this is such a waste of time…

    • diana k. says...

      I believe you! I hate that women have to qualify following a popular beauty trend- sometimes it’s just a preference.

  76. Anna says...

    I’ve got to say..I have gotten laser hair on my armpits and it just feels amazing. I don’t have to worry about hair peeking out of my sleeveless work blouses. I plan on doing my bikini line too, just the part that peeks out of a bathing suit bottom. I like having hair down there just don’t want it out of my bathing suit:)

  77. Mariana says...

    It’s amazing how many people shave! It was never my method of choice: so much trouble for only a few hair free days. When I was younger I used an epilator and then started waxing at the salon. When laser become more affordable (I live in Portugal and it’s very inexpensive now) I lasered my legs, bikini line, armpits and mustache. It’s so liberating not to have to think about hair for YEARS! (plus, no more pain every 3 weeks, no ingrowns, no sensitive skin…it’s simply amazing)

  78. Robin says...

    I’m so so grateful to my mum, who was (and still is!) so down to earth. When I wanted to start shaving my legs at age 12, she banned razors. She allowed an epilator if i REALLY wanted it, and only on my lower legs. “If people comment on your upper leg hair’, she said, ‘they are inspecting you too closely.’
    And as a result hair issues we’re actually never really a thing. And it has shaped my self image so much. I never even thought about my brown and fuzzy arm hairs (and the possibility of removing them). Here here to strong & confident women! May they lead by example

  79. agnes says...

    ” lone goat-like chin hair” ! ah ah ah! LOL. I have one aswell, SO annoying. What will happen when I am an old lady? Will somebody think of this horrible hair?

    • SFord says...

      Ha ha! Also, you never see it growing, Its either not there and the next minute its full length!

    • Laloo says...

      Yes! What is up with that?! They appear like phantoms in the night. 👻

  80. diana k. says...

    OK I kind of take issue with this “flamingo” thing. It’s by the makers of Harry’s, whose razors I’ve always loved and used for all of my female body parts. It kind of irked me that they always marketed strictly to men, because they’re products work EXCELLENTLY on my (a woman) body. And, their packaging was really simple, elegant, and aesthetically gender neutral. Then they come out with an entire new line for women using the same great technology plus a lot of female-marketing bullshit. I have never noticed a difference between the efficacy of a men’s razor and a razor marketed to females that has rounded edges, so I can’t speak to this main design difference. The price point is nearly the same between both lines, which I appreciate, but do we need a whimsical font and colors called “pomelo, taro, and mint” when the men get “orange, blue, and olive.” Harry’s shave gel also smells just vaguely like aloe, nothing lumberjacky or saccharine, while flamingo’s gives me a strong floral. I also don’t need a Dove-esque women’s empowerment schpiel to tell me how to feel about my body hair- especially when your wax strips are sub par. WOMEN HAVE ALWAYS STOLE THEIR BOYFRIEND’S RAZORS BECAUSE THEY ARE BETTER.

    • Jenna says...

      Agree! And I didn’t know this was the “women’s” line from Harry’s, thanks for pointing that out. I always roll my eyes when I see products like this and stubbornly refuse to buy them. Don’t pander to me by taking the same product and making it a pastel colour! Companies need to have a little more respect for the intelligence of the female consumer in 2019…

    • Lynn McKoy says...

      What she said!!!!

    • Jessica says...

      I actually hope for a day when there is no such thing as “gender neutral,” and instead we stopped thinking of some colors as gendered and other colors as not gendered. Wouldn’t it be nice if the regular Harry’s line was marketed to all people who are interested, and also the Flamingo line was marketed to all people who are interested? I agree with you — instead of some smells for men and some smells for women, just call them what they are (floral, aloe, musky) and let people choose which scent they want on their bodies, regardless of their make up of their genitals or which (of the many) gender identity they claim.

    • Jeanne says...

      If you are looking for a swimsuit that offers more coverage in the bottom area check out Uniqlo Princess Tam Tam suits. Fabric is thinner on the overall suit, but the cut is just perfect. Sexy, but conservative. I am very curvy and I found it to be just wonderful because it doesn’t show your bikini line, but isn’t really retro either. It’s just right.

  81. Irina says...

    Hi from Barcelona. Some years ago, everyone waxed leds, armpits, moustache… I think normally girls just shave if they need to as an emergency. Nowadays there are some people embracing the “let’s live with our own hair”
    As my own experience, I don’t have lots of hair and at some point at my middle twenties I had it removed with laser, so I just have some in my armpits and use an electrical machine to remove it (not shaving), and some in my legs that I don’t remove at all.

  82. Laura C. says...

    I was a very hairygirl and woman. I had lots of hair on my legs, tights, etc. Ten years ago my Grandpa invested for laser hair removal. After ine year I am hair free. It’s the best investment of my life, hands down. I just wax my low back when needed.

    • Leah says...

      Your grandpa rocks.

  83. My hair growth on my limbs has grown pretty sparse and it doesn’t bother me at all. I only wax when an occasion demands it, but otherwise I can go for months without waxing. I prefer to remove my underarm hair purely for hygiene reasons( I sweat and have terrible body odor).

  84. Tshego B says...

    I do my own ALMOST brazilian wax and let me tell you…it’s as hard as you imagine it to be :D

    • Leah says...

      This is incredible! You must be an acrobat! I’m in awe.

  85. Alex says...

    Haha love this! Also, I’m very happy to see that removing one’s body hair is becoming nore of a choice than a “must”. Still a way to go though..I quit shaving my armpits a fee years back (on my husband’s request actually :))) – he’s very into everything natural) and I love it and find it pretty sexy in some way. I prefer me legs shaved because I just think it looks better…but am too lazy to shave regularly. Anyway the hardest part is to appear in public and feel confident with all that hair (also I have a pretty visible moustache). I am still super self cobscious about it at work or publuc transport fo r example. But as a feminist I feel obliged to fight for more freedom by my own example! So I hope one day I ‘ll feel comfortable as a big beautiful hairy witch!

    • Alex says...

      Oh obviously I typed too quickly sorry for the mistakes ;)

    • Ellen says...

      This is me. I’m very hairy. Most years, I don’t shave, even in the summer. And I’ve stopped waxing / bleaching my lip hair. Still working on feeling totally confident…but I really just can’t be bothered, & I find it irritating that I’m supposed to. The one place I do still remove hair is my chin / jawline, since that’s not a place women normally get hair…I’d be way too self-conscious if I didn’t deal with that.

  86. Jenny says...

    Never gotten waxed – never had anyone say anything about it either! I do shave my face though (PCOS!). I never understood how people deal with the grow out for waxes. I’m also Indian and have very hairy arms that I used to be very self-conscious about as a kid. Now, in my 30s, I don’t remove my arm hair anymore. People stare, people comment – yes, even in our 30s! I guess if I had the money and time for laser I might conisder it for my face, maybe my arms – But I hear it doesn’t really work for darker skinned people. And requires lots of follow-ups.

    • janee says...

      Grow out from waxing is easy – just use a washcloth gently over the area daily to keep the skin exfoliated so new hair isn’t trapped and then be sure to moisturize morning and evening for the same reason. Smooth skin with no issues I also waxed my arms for years and now I no longer have hairy arms – there is nothing but invisible baby fuzz! Same everywhere I’ve waxed.

  87. Gabriela says...

    I highly recommend City Skin in San Francisco!

  88. I swear to you I have suggested facial hair post to Joanna years ago. 42 year old blonde lady in Europe who has small black chin hair I despise. My legs get shaved, and underarms but more rarely in winter. I am doing laser removal but expensive and not too effective do far for chin in particular. tips, anyone?

  89. Kayla says...

    or just buy a safety razor – one of the easiest ways to reduce plastic waste! I’ve found mine so easy to use. Ashamed it took me as long as it did to stop using plastic razors.

    • Dawn says...

      Same Kayla! They will last forever and the replacement blades are inexpensive. It is a little tricky to get the hang of (you have to be more gentle than with a plastic razor) but once you do it’s the closest shave ever!

    • Lisa says...

      Exactly this! Love my safety razor. I get a better shave, no plastic waste, and $$$$ saved.

  90. Amanda says...

    I’m with you, Jodi! Plus the razor blades are inexpensive to replace!

  91. Lindsay says...

    Joanna said years ago that she’s never removed any pubic hair and I’m still waiting to hear how she wears a bathing suit!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Haha yes! I have pretty organized hair down there (for lack of a better description!) and I also kind of tuck hair in when needed :)

    • Michaela says...

      Hahaha thank you for this comment and thank you Joanna for your response! 😂 I’ve always just resorted to finding boyshort bikini bottoms (there are too few!)

    • Amy says...

      This + Jo’s response = why I love this blog so much!

    • Alexandra says...

      Hahhahahah! I’ve wondered the answer to this ever since, too! Thank you for asking again!

    • Ray says...

      I let it all grow wild (except a few few hard chin hairs) until I have to go to the beach. Then I wax and shave and trim away for a month or two.

    • Rachel says...

      Really? That is fascinating Joanna! I don’t know anyone who’s pubes are naturally tidy enough to to warrant a side shave for a bathing suit! Jealous!

    • Robin says...

      I’ve never removed mine either (I kind of like it – without it I’d look prepubescent, which seems very weird to me). But in swimsuit season I give myself a haircut regularly ;). And i don’t buy the lowest/highest cut bottoms. Works for me though mine is probably more organized than some.

    • Em says...

      LOL! I love this website; how many times you read the comments and discover you’re not ALONE. The Land’s End swim mini. That is my answer to this question!

  92. Brittany says...

    I used disposable razors or replaceable razors for years because that’s what my Mom always gave me. It wasn’t until my mid-20s that I found out that women can use double-edged safety razors. I wanted to use one because it is WAY cheaper and it has no plastic waste like dispensable ones do. I’ve been slowly making zero/low waste changes in my life because it aligns with my values. I use the Albatross razor on my legs, underarms and private area without shaving cream. I really wish more women would try them!

    • Shannon says...

      I have one! It’s a revelation and really old-school pretty!

    • Des says...

      I have a safety razor, which I got for all the same reasons you stated. It is killing me. The knicks! Even when I’m so careful! The ingrown hairs on my thighs which I’ve never had before! I think I’m going to go back to regular women’s disposable, I just cannot make this work! I DREAD shaving now because of it! But I’m glad to hear that some people are capable of not cutting themselves to shreds with one of these things.

    • I use a metal razor too! I was skeptical at first and it did take some getting used to, but now I love it.

    • Sarah says...

      I also just made the switch to one of these (I bought a Merkur). I was worried it would be hard to get the hang of, but it wasn’t at all, and the shave is much better than I ever got with a disposable. Highly recommended!

    • Rachel says...

      Just googled… it looks so scary! Is there an adjustment to get used to it? I’m afraid I’d sever an artery with that thing!

    • Tori says...

      I have one, too! It’s great!

    • Dawn says...

      Rachel,

      There is an adjustment period for sure. The angle and pressure is totally different than the women’s razors with the bendy head. I find that I need to exfoliate my legs really well and use a good shaving cream to avoid nicks. Once you get the hang of it it’s an excellent shave! Plus no plastic waste as Brittany mentioned!

    • Heather says...

      Brittany – For the Albatross, do you use the butterfly or the 3-piece razor?

      I am looking for ways to eliminate plastic use, so I’m curious to try this.

  93. Maggie says...

    Having two babies changed my relationship to body hair. Time to shave in the shower is a luxury I rarely have. A keloid scar from two c-sections makes my previous habits of shaving and the occasional Brazilian unimaginable. I may be hairier, but I’m also happier.

    • Rebecca says...

      I was called Chewbacca in high school because of my hairy legs. 15 years later I lasered almost everything and I love it. Underarms are hair free, so are legs, and my bikini line. Need to redo my chin and lip. That is a never ending battle.

  94. Jenny T says...

    I’m warning myself off plastic and I’d would love to see a post on razors that aren’t disposable, eg straight edge razors, and how to use them.

    • Allison says...

      I swapped to a safety razor (Merkur 23C) and it’s so much easier than I expected. Just don’t press, let the weight do the work. And so much cheaper!!!

    • Christy says...

      Hey Jenny T! Have you checked out Oui shave yet? They make a beautiful safety razor and have a lot of how-to videos and descriptions. I tried it for several weeks and just never really liked it, and I’m back to disposable plasticky blades, but I feel like they gave me the best possible shot at it.

  95. sierra says...

    sometimes i remove my body hair and that feels good, and sometimes i don’t and that feels good, too. i discovered the magic of sugaring last year and wow!!! for me, it lasts much longer than a regular bikini wax and so much less irritation— virtually no ingrowns. can’t recommend it enough.

    • Katie Larissa says...

      Do you make your own sugar removal stuff, or do you buy it? And if so, can you share a tried and true recipe or brand?

    • K Rez says...

      Me too!

      I just started sugaring vs wax and it’s been awesome. The ingrowns were so terrible in the wax world. Now, voila, they’re gone!

  96. Lele says...

    Great article! Totally relatable and it made me laugh! My boyfriend has told me many times I can go oh natural and not shave and he is fine with that. I feel more like a woman when I have smooth legs, no moustache and nice eyebrows .. He on the other hand is very hairy. Took some getting used to and I’m still not a huge fan but I’m not repulsed by his hair so it’s ok.

    • Emma says...

      This is no criticism of you as a person, but do you need his permission to leave your body hair as is? Why does it rely on that?
      But I understand we expect woman to look a certain way to be desirable, but wouldn’t it be great to challenge this?
      I’m just intrigued by the subtext in this comment, I guess.

  97. Monica says...

    My mustache didn’t bother me until I was in 20’s. Everyone, from friends to family, told me it was okay and wasn’t noticeable (well-meaning liars! LOL). Until one day, while standing under harsh office lights, a male coworker who couldn’t grow a ‘stache told me that he’s jealous I could grow one!

  98. Marisa says...

    Would love a larger discussion on Brazilian waxing – pros and cons! Sound off. :)

    • diana k. says...

      It’s quite the journey to find a wax experience that works for each woman- this took me lots of pain to figure out. But I love a Brazilian now that I’ve found a gentle, hygienic spot that fits in my budget. A lot of people get impatient about the grow-out period, but my hairs always grow in softer, so I don’t mind it. I also always ask my aesthetician to leave a little triangle of hair on my pubis, just cause I don’t like the look of full frontal baldness, but everything else must go.

      For the record, I stan European Wax Center hard.

  99. Jane says...

    After my c-section
    last fall, I quit shaving and haven’t missed it at all. Yet… as summer approaches I’m starting to feel some self-consciousness creep in. I have neither peachy pubes nor a built-in bikini line. Does anyone else rock the unshaved-nether-region-in-a-normal-swim-suit look?

    (Btw- thanks to Cup of Jo for opening up this discussion!)

    • Colleen S says...

      I trim the area covered by the suit, but shave what would be exposed. I never really got into the bikini strip.

    • Dee says...

      I’m with Coleen in support of the bikini trimmer! I keep a close crop all over year round then add a tiny bit of shaving (regular men’s disposable razor and hair conditioner) just when I know I’m wearing a bathing suit. Personally I like it tidy (just as I try to keep the hair on my head) but not pre-pubescent (and tbh I’m no way near committed enough to maintain this look). I will shave my legs for a polished look – wedding guest or similar – but will also happily go without – on the beach or in the garden. I do shave my armpits every time I shower though, I know it’s social conditioning, but what can I say, they got me!!

    • Emma says...

      My sister leaves it visible. Her attitude is “Men can. Why can’t I?” I admire her for that.

  100. MelTown says...

    My journey has been a long one. I was very invested in what men wanted from me in my late teens/early 20s and my hair removal was tedious and thorough. Everything from plucking eyebrows, to mustache removal, shaving my arms, bush, and legs. I was like a skinny sexy dolphin, but it sucked SO MUCH. It took hours, my skin is super sensitive and it hurt all the time and I was constantly battling ingrown hairs. I started having babies in my late 20s and with each baby came less grooming. First came the bush. Then the arms (and I used my second maternity leave to grow out my eyebrows), and now I’m very thorough with my legs because I like the way they feel, and my pits because I prefer them shaved too but that’s it. I clean up the edges of my bikini area for swimsuit season, and pluck my chin (and nipple hairs) but that’s really all…oh and my mustache. I am now realizing I still do quite a lot and it just doesn’t seem like that much because of how intense I was about it in my youth. I’m also realizing just how much hairier I am getting as I age! I have never waxed or lasered anything because it seems painful and expensive, but I’m thinking of splurging on lasers now that I have more money and less time.

  101. Danielle says...

    Wish I could take a selfie right now. I’m nairing my mustache as I type.

    • Kate says...

      This made me laugh out loud! Been there

  102. Penny says...

    July. 1987. La Bamba had just made its theater debut and the summer was HOT with Lou Diamond Phillips and rock-n-roll. I was restless, excited rather, and impatient. My uncle was coming so we could see it together. It was his second time, but no matter. He declared he MUST share this musical history with me. It would take him two hours to make the drive. It was then I knew. It’s time to shave my legs. I’m 10 and small and have fuzzy legs, and I’m 10, may always be small, and should no longer have fuzzy legs. Settled. I showed off my smooth stems. My mother was furious. Somewhere in that two hour drive she had grounded me firmly and I would not be going to the movies. My uncle arrived from the journey in his sweating Nissan Sentra when she delivered the verdict. “Why?!” he asked. “She shaved her legs, Jimmie.” His eyes got wild. “What?! That’s IT?!”. I had cried and was sulking in a tree. They rowed back and forth and finally her older brother put his foot down. We made it just in time to see the opening montage and Esai ride in on his Indian. I felt like it was a new chapter. When we returned home I sat down with my mother for a very adult talk about why I felt it was time and we compromised. We’d do this for the rest of time. Grow. Comfort her. Compromise. Continue shaving. Must try Flamingo.

    • anne says...

      This is the best story!!!

    • Amanda says...

      This is amazing!!

    • M says...

      I am mesmerized by your ten year old confidence!

  103. Ellen says...

    I wear a retro swimsuit–the bottom comes down pretty far, like a pair of shorts–’cause I am neither willing to shave or wax my bikini line, nor do I want to show my bikini line hair.

    • Anni says...

      Will you share what bathing suit you found? Is it an actual retro suit (therefore nigh impossible for me to find) or a reproduction I could purchase somewhere? Which is also pretty impossible to find…I have spent hours hunting for retro or retro-style bathing suits and bikini bottoms that *actually* will cover my bikini line- most don’t give enough cover. I end up wearing a suit with shorts over it (cute retro neon men’s swim shorts) but i don’t love it.

    • M says...

      https://www.limericki.com. I bought the sweetest gingham top and skirt bottom from them and get compliments all the time.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      this is so beautiful, sally!!

  104. Haley says...

    I love a smooth leg. Just feels nicer for me. I just started using an epilator & am hooked!! I’ll never shave again.

    • KC says...

      What epilator, if I may ask? I am curious but there are so many options and I have no idea on good vs. scam.

    • Sara says...

      KC, I use the Braun epil-7.

  105. Sara says...

    Epilator! I got one as a gift from the hubs (probably because he saw a Slick Deal lol). It took me awhile to be brave enough to use it because it sounds very scary when you turn it on, but once you start to use it regularly, it’s great! Hairs don’t grow back heavier, and I no longer need to spend $$ on shaving gel, replacement blades, etc. I wish I used one earlier instead of in my 30s. (I haven’t tried it on the lady parts, trimming is perfectly fine for me, but I think it’s usable there too.)

  106. Irina says...

    I’m pretty hairy, with dark hair against light skin. I shave my armpits and legs in the summer. Also shave whatever hair sticks out of my bikini bottom during bathing suit season and trim the rest occasionally. I used to bleach, wax or apply depilatory cream to the hair above my upper lip but I don’t anymore, as it’s gotten lighter and more sparse with age. Now I just tweeze stray hairs in that area and on my chin as needed.

    Wish I was brave enough to stop doing anything to my face and body hair but I feel like the cultural conditioning runs too deep. I might try shaving my legs and armpits less frequently this summer, saving it for the rare occasions when I want to dress up. I spend 80% of the summer dressed super-plain in denim or khaki shorts and a t-shirt, and I feel like this look is more amenable to body hair than a sundress :)

  107. Sarah says...

    I’ve been hairy for years now – haven’t shaved my legs in at least a year, and my pits in several. One day my youngest daughter (age 3), was crying, and when I asked why, she said that she wanted to have hair in her armpits :-). I love that she doesn’t see it as gross. As she or her sister get older, if they’d like to shave/wax/etc., I’ll be happy to help them, but that’s up to them to decide. Although I don’t look forward to freak shaving accidents like I had learning to shave.

    • J.Fizz says...

      My daughter likes to tell people about mommy’s “fluffy pits.” I love this.

  108. jacqui says...

    I’m surprised nobody has said that they epilate! It’s the best solution I’ve found. Half Italian, half ashkenazi jewish = lots of dark hairs everywhere! I’ve been trying to remove this hair for almost 15 years now (it started when a classmate told me I had a unibrow in 5th grade!!) and I’ve gone through basically every method. Epilating is the best for my legs, sideburns, and neck (still using wax strips and shaving for my bikini line and mustache, tho). Epilating is the only method that lasts (I can go ~2 weeks, 3 if I’m really stretching it) and doesn’t give me terrible, itchy, red bumps. It does take longer than shaving, but I just play a movie or TV show while I epilate. I almost look forward to my epilating nights!!

    • Amy says...

      Can you recommend one? I don’t have a clue where to start. Does it hurt?

    • Maria says...

      Hmmm. I’m super interested in this. Seems so painful though!

    • Jacqui says...

      I just got one on amazon that was a balance of the best reviews and the lowest price! There are sooo many options (battery, wall plug, dry, wet….) and I randomly chose a Braun that is is “dry only” (so I cant use it in the shower). I like this one (link below!) but if I could go back I’d probably splurge ~$10 more for one with a trimmer attachment. It does hurt when you start, but less than waxing, and you definitely get used to it. It also hurts less if you wait less time in between sessions when the hair is more sparse. Also, unlike waxing, there is no mess and you can do tiny sections at once if you need (time dependent or pain dependent). You literally just plug it in.. no warming the wax, cleaning the wax off your legs and hands, psyching yourself out to pull off a strip.. and you can easily stop by just turning it off! Great for a ~woman on the go~ haha

      https://www.amazon.com/Braun-Silk-épil-Epilator-Electric-Packaging/dp/B0077PLO06/ref=sr_1_8?keywords=epilator&qid=1553261741&s=gateway&sr=8-8

    • joana says...

      i epilate :) and i have for yeaaaaaars!

    • Penelope says...

      Just discovered epilating two months ago (after years of shaving, thousands in waxing, and no real satisfactory or long-lasting results for my persistent, resilient Russian body hair.
      I invested in the Braun Epilator for Women, Hair Removal for Women, Silk-épil 9-890 SensoSmart Electric Shaver and Bikini Trimmer. It was a splurge that has more than paid for itself, as I’m no longer spending $150+ on waxing! I use it once a week or less, and my legs are so smooth!

  109. CYNTHIA says...

    Love this! Question: where does one look for a recommendation on laser hair removal spots? I live in San Francisco and work in the Peninsula if anyone has one they love.

    • GG says...

      You might try Groupon- I’m not sure there are ‘love’-able laser places out there and a cheap Groupon’s a good way to dip a toe in the water. I went to laseraway, which is fine (they try to upsell you at the beginning) and the 3 sessions for $100 haven’t totally gotten rid of my bikini line, but it’s a significant reduction (maybe 70%?). I might go to cityskin bc it’s near my office to finish the job.

    • olga says...

      I went to Golden Gate Skin Center (https://www.yelp.com/biz/golden-gate-skin-center-san-francisco-3) to do my legs and underarms and my thigh sideburns (bikini area haha). They were lovely, and I’m really happy with the results. I got an email that said they were closing down, but it never hurts to call. Maybe they’ll have a recommendation. Hope that’s helpful!

    • Gabriela says...

      I highly recommend City Skin in San Francisco. I’ve done several treatments for unwanted chin hair and I’m very happy with the results.

    • Laura H. says...

      I loved Skin Medical Spa on Union St. in San Francisco for laser hair removal. The staff there treated my fears with kindness. As someone who prefers less body hair, I find it so freeing to not deal with shaving or waxing. I try to keep everything beauty related as low maintenance as possible.

  110. Barb says...

    I may be alone here (it seems like there aren’t many of us) but I get a Brazilian wax every 5 weeks or so. The thought of growing out the hair down there makes me cringe with itchiness. I stopped for 3 months when I had my baby and it was miserable. How long does it take to grow out?? I want to do it at some point in the future, but I have to say that I prefer the smoothness right now.

    • Monica says...

      Mine grows out pretty fast so by the 3rd-month mark, it’s gotten pretty bushy down there. Maybe 5-6 months? I get a Brazilian at least once a year, usually when I’m traveling because I stay at hostels or move around a lot (and all day!) so it’s easier to keep clean.

    • Heather says...

      Fellow Brazilian waxer over here! I like to stay smooth as well and have found that consistent waxing minimizes in-grown hairs ~*down there*~ – but I stick to waxing my legs and armpits. Hard wax seems to work better for my course hair too, less painful than traditional waxing strips.

      I like going to see the esthetician for a wax because much like Caroline I don’t trust myself to pull the waxing strip off myself haha. Maybe I’ll have to give Flamingo a try next time I’m due for a wax!

    • Heather says...

      Oops – I meant shaving my legs and armpits!

    • Whitney says...

      Question—I’ve only waxed my pubic hair twice (years apart). I haven’t understood what you do between waxes. You have to let your hair grow out fairly long before your next wax, right? So you go from bare to hairy to bare over and over?

    • Jamie says...

      I also wax every 5 weeks at European wax center. Affordable and easy. I do it for myself- I like feeling more clean, less odor and less itchy. When I feel good I feel more confident and can enjoy being pleasured more.

    • Heather says...

      Hi Whitney! The wax bar I go to recommends letting hair grow out for 4-6 weeks depending on how fast your growth is. I think the idea is for the hairs to get long enough that they will be removed by the wax, but not so long that they get matted in the wax and make removal extra painful. I usually go very 5 weeks, or when my hair grows out to about about eyebrow-ish length. The “smoothest” part of my waxing cycle is usually the first two weeks post-wax, and then it takes about another three weeks for my hair to grow in.

      The re-growth process can be a bit uncomfortable at first. Another COJ reader mentioned that exfoliating in the shower a few days after the wax helps to reduce redness and itching. I’ve found this helpful too, and will begin to exfoliate in the shower with those scrubby gloves starting two or three days after my wax. After the shower I apply a gentle witch hazel toner and make sure to moisturize with a mild lotion. There are many products out there to help with waxing care, but I find that this works best for me.

      Hope that helps!

  111. becky says...

    i’ve never felt so understood from a bodily hair point of view than i felt reading your recollection of different hair stages of your life. gah! damn those boys who point out that we have mustaches…

  112. june2 says...

    As a teen I learned that waxing the bikini line was the only option – otherwise, grow back was just unacceptable. I would have lasered it if I could have but that seemed extreme when waxing worked just fine. I also waxed forearms, pits and full leg for so many years that now as an adult barely any hair grows at all, which is amazing!

  113. Becky says...

    I will never shave under my arms again!!!! Instead, I pay the 15 bucks for a professional waxer. Worth every penny! Love her! She’s a one woman show. If anyone is looking for a recommendation in the Boston area, she’s the best!

    • Sar says...

      I am!! I’d love a rec for anything waxing/laser/overall grooming realted in the Boston area! Thank you!

    • Kelsey says...

      Yes please! Who is she?

    • Becky says...

      Her name is ivona tassin. So easy to book an appointment online.

    • Rachel says...

      Yes please!! What is her name?

    • LK says...

      Awesome! Does anyone have any suggestions for laser hair removal in Boston area?

  114. Andrea says...

    I recently shaved my legs for the first time in five months. Yes, you read that correctly. Five months. It was winter and I saw no need. It’s the longest I’ve gone and I didn’t care one bit and neither did my husband.
    PS. I love the way this was written, Caroline! So funny!

  115. E says...

    Amen.

  116. Sasha says...

    Really appreciate the post. I recently debated Flamingo vs Billie vs Dollar Shave Club, and went with Billie because the company has a female co-founder.

    I know the Flamingo arm of Harry’s is run by women, but Harry’s was created for men first, and entered the market for women after Billie established that demand was there, with a similar body hair positive message. All else being equal (and these products seem pretty similar, at least for my razor-only use case), I try to purchase from or invest in companies founded by women or other groups underrepresented among founders. I would love it if someone knows a good resource for this that would save me a couple of googles in the future :)

    • Laura says...

      It is still being built up but check out #buywomenowned and womenownedlogo.com

  117. Blair says...

    I spent years of my life on competitive swim teams and lifeguarding and being a woman in a patriarchal society, feeling shame about the hair that my body grows because I’m an adult woman, and it was miserable. One day I just decided I was done with it. I haven’t removed a single hair from my body since (okay, fine, besides the one on my chin) and wow it feels so good to just live in this body.

  118. Meghan says...

    Thanks for sharing the trip down memory lane! I was super stealth the first time I shaved my legs, and had no idea what I was doing – I was in junior high and did it over the bathroom sink with no shaving cream or even soap…ouch.

    In high school, my grandmother showed me how to burn the hair off of my forearms using a gas burner on our kitchen stove. Insane, right? (She’d permanently burned her eyebrows off using this technique in her youth, but this didn’t seem to concern her…or me.) In college and into Aimless Adulthood, I experimented with bleaching and waxing my arm hair. I’ve since made peace with my arm hair and suspect it was never as noticeable as I thought it was.

  119. Ro says...

    I love my Flamingo razor! I have the bright orangey/coral one. I’m also super into that it came with a stick on holder for the shower wall.

  120. Polyana says...

    I am very very hairy, and come from a culture where hair is a big no-no (I am Brazilian), and this cultural stigma has a fascinating, and very sad history, if you ever want to look up Brazilians’ obsession with hair or lack thereof!

    I thread my eyebrows and mustache/chin hair (or my beard, as I call it), wax my bikini area (my hairs overflow from my bikini line), and have gotten laser removal on my arm pits, so only shave there every couple of weeks. I’ll also shave my legs when I’m going to wear shorts or when they start to look too much like my boyfriend’s (who is also the hairiest, and which I love).

    That being said, my arm hair has never bothered me. I have darker skin, so I guess it hasn’t bothered me as much? But my mother is fair skinned, and for some reason, despite her encouraging the rest of my hair removal routine, she never shaved or waxed her arm hair, and I always found it so elegant. When I was a kid, she’d get hair nails painted bright red each week, and the contrast of the nails on her light skin and black arm hair for some reason made me find her so powerful and strong. Although I’ve given in to many other hair removal pressures, I’m glad I never touched my strong woman hairy arms.

    • Polyana says...

      ps – for those who have commented they get red bumps and itch – my tip (and that of the lovely woman who does my waxing), is to exfoliate! not on the day of, but the following day, or when you feel hair is starting to grow in, use an exfoliation cream or those exfoliating gloves in the shower! i used to get tons of ingrown hairs and red bumps, and it’s made all the difference.

  121. Sarah says...

    I got the Flamingo at Target a few months ago! So far, so good and it looks super cute in my shower :)

  122. Kerry says...

    I have gotten a Brazilian from a salon every month for the past year or so, but I need to cut expenses, I’m OK with a well-groomed yet full bush and the BF likes it whatever way I choose.

    But it’s THE GROWING OUT from a Brazilian to… a Canadian, or whatever you call it. Five o’clock shadow on your nether region is not a good look (nor a good feel), so I end up shaving it anyway. Annnnd cue the ingrowns.

    Will try Flamingo strips and see how that goes.

    • Caitlin says...

      Fair warning, none of the Flamingo products are to be used in the bikini area, per their (inner) packaging. I was disappointed to find that out after I got home :/

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Oh! When we met with thei team, they said it’s fine as long as you don’t know wax inside your body.

    • Ashley says...

      Canadian. Lol.

  123. Sisu says...

    I shave when I feel like it. Sometimes I will go fully bare everywhere and then it’ll grow back and I’ll let it do its thing until such a time when I feel up to doing the process all over again!

    Also Caroline, thank you thank you thank you for that “Aimless Adulthood” label because I am smack dab right in the middle of it and it sucks and it is the best and I needed that qualifier to make me feel a little bit less of a failure.

    • Daniela Nordqvist says...

      You’re not alone! I’m in the middle of it too.

    • Vanessa says...

      Me three!

  124. sket says...

    I love the dress ! where is it from

    • Caroline Donofrio says...

      Thank you! It’s from Reformation. (This one’s from a past season, but they always have a lot of good floral options.)

  125. Turtle says...

    I don’t shave my pubic area, as there are health reasons for keeping that hair. I’ve had hairy pits for years now, and don’t even think about it any more. Once I quit shaving my underarms, I felt so free from the conventions which require women to be as hairless as prepubescent girls. No more itching and worry about stubble, and I’ve pretty much forgotten why I used to spend money and time on shaving. My husband (for those who wonder) was a big supporter when I quit. Shaving feels like one more thing foisted on women pressuring us to buy more stuff. You don’t have to do it and no one even notices, and if they do, well, so what? People who love you will love you hair and all. When talking about this with friends they sometimes tell me I’m brave for not shaving, but I’m really just lazy and thrifty and maybe a teensy bit rebellious…?

    • teegan says...

      ^ this. I stopped shaving under my arms nearly ten years ago, and now I don’t even remember that it exists (except when I see the fun articles about people dying their underarm hair in rainbow colors). I trimmed areas of my pubic hair a handful of times in college, but that just seems ridiculous now, too. The legs happen occasionally during shorts weather, but I live in New England, so shorts weather is about two months of the year. The husband is of the opinion that it’s my business, not his (though he appreciates my occasional silky smooth legs as much as I do as a novelty).
      I’m also playing around with not wearing bras as often as I can. I’ll still wear them when I’m afraid of making certain in-laws awkwardly uncomfortable or with certain fancy outfits, but I mostly work on a farm in a rural area or stay home with kids, so who cares? My boobs aren’t big enough to need them whatsoever.

    • Meg says...

      Yes to this below! Can we have an article to discuss wearing no bra!?! It feels great, but also seems promiscuous at the same time, like I should be afraid of offending someone, but why?! There are some men who have bigger boobs than me and they don’t need any apparatus! Bra talk next!!!

    • K Rez says...

      Yes , please! Let’s discuss bras and kicking them to the curb. I’m so sick of them. They all suck.

      However, without one it seems to draw too much attention. I don’t even care about sagging. I’m too tired of the discomfort!

      I’m looking forward to being an old person that doesn’t give a F.

    • Mouse says...

      Yes, definitely, a no-bra talk. Except I will cry, because being a larger breasted woman who would die of happiness to be able to go braless, it isn’t an option. Seriously, these things are dangerous when let loose.

      Grass greener, etc.

      But if you discuss it, I can dream……

  126. Pip says...

    At the age of 44 I got my lower legs, bikini line and armpits lasered- best thing I’ve ever done I only wish the technology had been around in my 20s. I only managed 5/8 sessions because we moved to Australia but that was enough to stop regrowth and now I don’t have to think about it. Years of waxing appointments, razors and accompanying cuts as I was never very good at it and even an epilator (a truly horrible thing why would you inflict pain on yourself?) – if you have dark hair laser will work but sadly not for fair hairs as it requires the pigment. I would recommend checking out a quality practitioner but for minimal discomfort and a permanent result it’s truly the only way!

    • Mims says...

      Agreed! I lasered my bikini line about 5 years ago and wished I had done it sooner. I swim and springboard dive and in a swimsuit alot, and I found the older I got, the hairer down their I was getting….shaving seemed to make it worse! Totally worth the money!

    • Jessie says...

      I agree!!! I got my bikini, armpits and legs lasered. Worth all the money.

  127. Kelly says...

    Caroline, the women in my family have amazingly dense blond peach fuzz. I used to be self-conscious about it, but then I read a story about Marilyn Monroe having a lot of peach fuzz proudly. She said that the way it caught the light made her glow! I’ve left it alone since, except for my few stray dark mustache hairs.

    I had been hoping Harry’s would make a women’s line for years! Not sure if I’ll trade in my weighty Harry’s handle for a Flamingo one, but that mint green is too good. I get a ton of ingrowns when I wax or shave, even with aggressive exfoliation. I have chronic health issues, so I’m very clean-shaven when I’m well, and very furry when I’m not. Either way, I go through phases of delightedly growing out my armpit hair (and equal delight in finally shaving it).

  128. Lacey says...

    The most bullying I received in elementary school was over my body hair. I have thick, dark arm and leg hair – the boys at school really upped my awareness of this. I had waaay more than my own brother (!!). I still remember the day my mom let me (finally) shave my legs. I think I was in 5th grade.

    I spent the next several years bleaching my arm hair, but eventually I decided to shave my arms. It is a lot of upkeep, but I prefer not having super hairy arms.

    I also was blessed with a very long hairline. I was somewhat self-conscious of this, and usually had it shaved with haircuts. Luckily I worked for a laser removal spa for a bit after college and they zapped it off for me. Years later it hasn’t really come back.

    I never really stressed the rest of my body hair – okay, I guess I just stressed all the visible body hair :) I did go through a phase of Brazilian waxes around the time of my wedding. But gosh, it hurts! My husband didn’t really care either way, so I stopped. If I had more disposable income, I’d maybe go back for bikini waxes… I’m just someone who prefers less body hair and was born with so much of it!

  129. Jo says...

    Yes, but: Caroline’s dress! Please explain everything!

  130. Lynne says...

    I’m so happy to see this topic discussed here. I have what I usually refer to as ‘the sprawl’. I think I have an average amount of hair elsewhere on my body but from my bikini line, through my inner thigh has been difficult for me since my early 20s or earlier. I usually have to wax (because even though there is not anything wrong with showing hair down there, I feel very self-conscious about it), but waxing lasts about 6 days. Shaving gives me horrible red bumps and ingrown hairs. Shorts, unless to the knees are sadly not in my wardrobe and bathing suits are not fun. I have never met anyone else that shares this issue or openly anyway. Anyone else?

    • Victoria says...

      I assure you that you are not alone in this issue! After years of ingrown hairs from shaving my inner thighs to combat the sprawl, I gave up and have accepted my furriness. Thankfully, my husband is fully A-OK with whatever I want.

    • Anon says...

      Not just you. I embraced board shorts for swimming.

    • Marianne says...

      Nope you’re not alone. I have course dark furriness down my inner thighs too. I used to shave it in my 20’s but have stopped because it irritated my skin so much. I now just trim it during short and swim suit season. Yes, it leaves a short stubble but I’ve learned not to care!

    • K says...

      No great solution, but I was just going to say same! It has driven me crazy over the years. For swimming I’ve resorted to bottoms with skirts so that my bikini line is covered and I don’t need to shave.

    • Mimi says...

      Oh yes! The red bumps and ingrown hairs..I’m so used to this issue I’ve nearly forgotten about it. I gave up shaving more than 5” above the knee in my early 20’s. But things that have helped are not exfoliating too aggressively and using a Dead Sea Salt soap (I lather up a sisal shower thingy and it’s lovely – and not as hard on my skin as a loofah). Also, ditching dairy has helped tremendously.

    • Kate says...

      Yes, same here. Waxing led to serious ingrown hairs. Shaving was okay at best. Lasered it off 4 years and it was worth every penny.

    • eva says...

      i have very pale skin and black body hair and i was waxing, trimming, shaving and last year bought my own laser and it was the best decision ever! i laser the visible parts of my pubic hair and trim the rest and i am just sad i didn’t do it sooner. the laser isn’t as strong as the professional ones but i can just do it more often and then at home so i don’t have to worry about appointments!

    • Mariana says...

      Since I don’t live in the US I don’t know what are the prices for laser hair removal there, but you should try it if can afford it. The ingrowns will be gone forever!

  131. AndreaJane says...

    I started waxing my bikini line when my sister informed it looked like I was wearing a pair of hairy shorts. I also had the monobrow and beat/plucked it into submission. Something I have regretted ever since. Thank goodness Microblading is a thing now.

  132. Mimi says...

    I switched to a safety razor over 10 years ago and fell in love (after a little trial and error I found blades that weren’t too aggressive – Derby). I use a disposable every now and then (when traveling) and regret it every. Single. Time.
    I end up with razor burn, a rash from the “moisturizing” strip, and just not nearly as smooth of a shave (and I don’t use any extra oils/creams with the safety, just soap).

    Plus, safety razors are wayyyyyy cheaper (~$4/yr), they’re plastic-free, and they just look pretty – you’ll also impress every guy who sees one in your bathroom :)

    Thanks for the real talk. I adore Cup of Jo.

  133. Lauren E. says...

    I do it all! I lasered my bikini area years ago (best decision EVER as I haven’t had to think about my bikini line while wearing a bathing suit since), wax my upper lip, and shave my pits and legs. Although my husband at this point couldn’t really care less about any of it. It’s what I prefer.

  134. Anonymous says...

    This is not an easy comment to leave, but I think it’s important. I was sexually abused as child and that changed my relationship with pubic hair forever. I wish society weren’t so obsessed with body hair because it is so personal. The idea of perpetuating attractiveness through a hairless body is deeply troubling.

    • M says...

      Thank you for speaking up so bravely. Your perspective is valuable and I am grateful you shared it. I took a class on something related for school a couple of years ago and let me tell you, there is copious research to back up what you said.

  135. Lillian says...

    I’ve embraced my armpit hair, and I now feel an instant comraderie with an other woman I see rocking pit hair. For my legs I like to keep the fur but minimize the appearance with the combo of bleached hair and self tanner. Flamingo should make a body hair bleaching kit!! I buy the Sally Hansen extra strength, but the quantities are made for faces and I barely get two uses on my legs.

  136. Ro says...

    I have light hair, so while I’m fuzzy, it’s not easy to see. And yet I also have a long and storied hair removal history. Back in middle school, my “best friend” made fun of my leg hair, which prompted me to steal my mom’s razor and dry shave alone in my bedroom. I tried waxing (once) during a brief cheerleading phase in middle school. I went completely bare in college, which included shaving my pubes off every single day.

    Since then, I’ve experimented with hairiness, growing out a full bush at times, and leaving my armpits furry. Right now, I simply do a quick shave of my legs and pits every few days, occasionally shave my face for fun (it’s so smooth!), and trim my pubes. I do it all mostly for comfort’s sake, at this point, because I also enjoy that “seal slipping into water” feeling.

  137. Jodi says...

    Dear everyone, please consider joining me is not choosing disposable plastic razors! I bought myself a good old-fashioned metal handled razor a couple of years ago. The kind where the handle screws off and you put in double-sided razor blades. It came in a cardboard box, the razors did too and they are wrapped in paper. The handle will last forever, and the blades are recyclable. All our little choices add up!

    • Lydia says...

      Absolutely agreed!

    • Kelsey says...

      Do you have a brand you recommend?

  138. Whitney Olson says...

    My mom forced me to shave my arms for a dance once. I hated it. I’m a definite shaver everywhere else though, for my own personal self care. My husband would like me any way, but it’s so much easier to maintain if I just razor every couple days in the shower. I’ve even started doing my mustache and chin every few weeks instead of making a date night with myself to wax or pluck.

  139. Amanda says...

    I got the Flamingo starter pack and I have to say I’m impressed. The shaving cream is nothing to write home about, but the body lotion is awesome! It absorbs quickly and leaves a matte type finish, it also smells like Glossier’s “You” a little bit, which I don’t hate at all. The razors are also sold in Target, I just bought my first refill 4-pack for $9…that is SO AFFORDABLE. That being said, I think the razors do dull a little faster than others I have used. But now I can actually afford replacements.

    • Jessica says...

      Electrolysis! I’ve been making appointments for about a year now, and the whiskers on my chin, neck, upper lip and between my brows are finally almost gone. I only wish I’d started in my 20s, because it’s made such a huge difference in my self esteem, plus streamlined my morning routine. No more zits, ingrown hairs and damaged skin between my eyes from obsessively tweezing. I shave my legs, underarms and pubic area, but I’m considering using an at-home IPL device.

      While I’m glad women seem to have more options regarding body hair now (at least, the comments seem to indicate so), I can’t see myself ever embracing it. Smooth skin feels cleaner, and is definitely preferred by every partner I’ve had thus far. I’ve also recently started using Cerave SA lotion for rough & bumpy skin, and it really helped with ingrown hairs on my legs.

  140. Daniela says...

    Oh, hair. Something I’ve struggled a lot with through the years! I have hairy arms but finally stopped caring (and shaving!). I used to do Brazilian waxes but would constantly get infections, swollen lumps, and irritated skin so I stopped and my fiancé doesn’t care. Even shaving irritates my bikini line so maybe I’ll have to try these razors and see if they’re better.

  141. Kate says...

    Wow this is a funny post and one I fully appreciate.

    I wish I was hairless from the eyelashes down, but it’s really quite the opposite. I have pale-Olivey skin and dark dark hair (everywhere). I think I was in the third grade when someone first made fun of my moustache. I’ve literally tried it all. Right now, I get brazillian’s every three weeks (like I said. Quite hairy, and quite glad to get rid of it), shave my arm pits every second day, and wax my upper lip on my own every ten days. It really takes a village.

    All the power to the ladies who let their hair grow free. I envy you and your confidence!

    Good for her, not for me. :)

    • Robin says...

      I’m so so grateful to my mum, who was (and still is!) so down to earth. When I wanted to start shaving my legs at age 12, she banned razors. She allowed an epilator if i REALLY wanted it, and only on my lower legs. “If people comment on your upper leg hair’, she said, ‘they are inspecting you too closely.’
      And as a result hair issues we’re actually never really a thing. And it has shaped my self image so much. I never even thought about my brown and fuzzy arm hairs (and the possibility of removing them). Here here to strong & confident women! May they lead by example.

  142. Nina says...

    It’s a shame the razors have disposable plastic bits… The @januhairy account on IG is amazing – so many women talking about and showing off their natural body hair, it really changed how I feel about mine (even though I was already quite relaxed about it).

  143. Amy says...

    I love flamingo! I use the wax strips for my lip and it saves so much money.

  144. Jenny says...

    Pubic hair is like eyelashes for your pussy— they act as a barrier that keeps stuff out. Full, unabashed 70s Hustler bush up in here. If a partner had a problem with it, they could get bent.

    • E says...

      This comment just made my day, Jenny! Agreed!!

    • Alice says...

      love you jenny

    • Lauren E. says...

      Dying. Get bent is one of my favorite insults of all time. You do you, Jenny.

    • t says...

      Yes, totally agree except that pubic hair also collects smells and moisture. So women who sweat a bit more or have a more apparent vaginal odor will smell more with pubic hair. I am not saying this is a bad or good thing… just a thing.

    • Mimi says...

      Love it!

    • susanne says...

      yes to that!
      plus: I’ll never understand why a grown woman would want to look like a litte girl who hadn’t hit puberty yet?!

  145. Kristiana says...

    Can you use their wax strips for bikini area?? It didn’t say anything on their Wax Guide.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      here’s the answer from flamingo! :) “You can use the strips anywhere on the body externally. We do suggest using the face wax strips for the bikini area because they are smaller and can give you a bit more control.”

  146. H. says...

    I’m trying Flamingo now and I feel… meh. I don’t love that the head has SO MUCH extra plastic; it just sort of gets in the way and doesn’t DO anything. I love the color but wish it were a bit heavier, less flimsy feeling.

    I’ve tried a few other brands. Dollar Shave Club was honestly probably the best razor (heavy handle, simple blade situation) but of course I’m a sucker for branding and didn’t especially care for their bro-y male focus. So then I tried Billie and I like the razor heads with the moisturizing product that surrounds the blades, but the handle is just so light and flimsy feeling. So then I tried Flamingo and… Probably prefer Billie, as between the two? But I still miss the weight of DSC. So I’m torn.

    I don’t want to stop shaving (right now it’s armpits, legs, and bikini area, and I very much enjoy feeling smooth) but am still hunting for the perfect razor. Eager to read these comments and look for suggestions!

    • Christina says...

      H, I am totally with you. I wish they made the women’s razors weighty! It helps you not push down to get a clean shave, you just use the razor weight and it does it for you. I did spend $100 on Oui which is a very pretty, feminine safety razor. I loved the ideas of disposing less for the environment AND using a badass razor, but I never really got the hang of it and gave up after a few weeks of trying. If you want to try it I’ll mail it to you and save you $100! LOL.

    • Pauline says...

      I agree–I have been underwhelmed by my new Flamingo razor. First, it takes many tries to get all the leg hair off (a new razor usually makes this task fast and easy) AND the razor make an annoying squeaking/creaking sound when I drag it down my leg! Anyone else have this issue?

  147. Silver says...

    Such a funny and personal topic. I’m not especially hairy, nor do I perspire much which means I have rarely ever shaved my armpits. I always thought those erotic photographs of women from the 1920s were gorgeous so I guess in my youth that was what I wanted to emulate. Also Betty Blue rocked my world as an adolescent. I have never shaved or waxed my pubic hair – whilst I do not care what other women do, & most of my friends are certainly doing the opposite of me, I always felt that a man who found a pre-pubescent vagina sexy was not the sort of guy I wanted in my life. Sex is for bodies over a certain age. I know this thinking is an assault to some, but that isn’t my baggage. I do however shave my big toe – I know, it is a bit of a hobbit toe! I did however laser the hair on my lower legs a few years ago and that was awesome, I live on the beach and now I never ever have to think about it.

    • Mimi says...

      Agreed, the whole hairless down there thing never made sense to me – then a boyfriend told me, “less is more..” That relationship didn’t last long – you enjoy less of me, while I enjoy more!

    • Katie says...

      I agree with you. I feel the same way about the pubescent vagina look. I leave that area alone and just tidy up if some start growing over onto the thighs.

      I shave my underarms and legs in the summer time because I wear dresses and singlets a lot. I also shave the and bottom half of my face, along the jaw line, chin and up the cheeks because after chemotherapy a few years ago my facial hair grew back very fury like peach fuzz and it bothers me a lot.

    • Christina says...

      I get a little frustrated when people say that having no hair down there makes you look prepubescent / “shouldn’t be sexy because that’s like saying children are sexy.” I am a woman, and I have a woman’s body. There’s nothing about me that is childlike, except maybe my enthusiasm for fruit snacks. Being attracted to me sexually when my pubic hair is bare absolutely does not make him a creep. (To be clear, my partner is v supportive of whatever I do with my body hair, and I’ve had times when I’ve grown out a bush – and found that it’s not my personal preference.) to each our own! xo :)

  148. Renee says...

    I shave my armpits and my legs in the summer. I have never shaved the hair on my private parts because it’s supposed to be there.

    • Mae says...

      Hahaha, I totally get where you’re coming from, and by all means, remove the hair you want to remove, but I’m wondering what the difference is between hair that’s “supposed to be there” like on your private parts, and the armpit and leg hair that you shave? Isn’t it *technically* supposed to be there too?

    • Katie says...

      I think pubic hair has health reasons why it should stay. Protects the vagina from friction during sex, bacteria entering the vagina and it has been shown in studies that shaving or waxing the pubic area actually introduces bacteria to the vagina.

      If you google it you can see a wealth of medical information as to why pubic hair should be left alone.

  149. Natalie says...

    Growing up my mom always took us to Little India in Vancouver to get threading done! I love the shape I get when I have my eyebrows threaded! It really hurts (not going to lie) but I feel like I get the best definition and shape from it:). But I can’t handle being threaded anywhere but my brows because my skin is too sensitive. Also once my mom “sugared” my arms…soo painful! Never again :) love my mom but so glad I no longer have her eagle eye scanning my face for stray hairs ha!

  150. Brigid says...

    I’ve been really curious to try Flamingo! I LOVE the idea of the subscription service (I fall firmly in the camp of never remembering to buy replacement razor blades, toothbrush heads, etc.). But I’ve also read a lot of reviews that said the head was awkwardly large and that it wasn’t that great of a shave. Might have to give it a shot though…

    • I bought one a couple of weeks ago and so far I’m loving it! I’m really picky when it comes to shaving and the blades because I get bumpy and red so fast. But this razor hasn’t betrayed me yet! <3

    • beks says...

      You can buy Flamingo at Target if you want to try it without committing

    • Kelly says...

      If you know dudes who use and love Harry’s, it’s the same company, so I bet the quality of the blades themselves are solid.

    • Julia says...

      I really like my flamingo razor! I didn’t do a subscription, just bought the starter kit (the lotion that comes with the kit is soooo nice)

      And now I’m out of razors, so maybe it’s time to subscribe 🤷🏼‍♀️