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Have a Relaxing Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? The boys have roped me into taking them to Chuck E. Cheese tonight — wish me luck! And tomorrow Alex and I are going to a wine tasting with some friends. (I’ll just be steering clear of reds.) Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

2 Dope Queens is back tonight!

Oh my gosh, how romantic.

I’ve been wearing this sweater and these jeans non-stop. The jeans are so, so flattering.

This quote about walking is strangely moving.

Chicken schnitzel with a crunchy salad.

Everyone I know seems to be raving about The Dropout podcast. Have you listened to it?

Cute coin pouches.

The joy of NOT cooking for your kids.

The closeness of relationships over time.

Math problems for the race conscious.

The 9 decisions that led to a life I love.” #4 is hard but so worth it.

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Tessa on gaseous emissions: “After a quick courtship, my husband’s friend married a beautiful and put-together woman (think Gloria from Modern Family). One night when we were all together, the conversation of farts came up. My husband’s friend proclaimed, ‘I never fart in front of my wife! Some things are private. I just hold them in.’ She burst out laughing and said, ‘Sweetie, as soon as you fall asleep, you’ll fart for twenty minutes straight! I try my hardest not to wake you up from laughing!'”

Says Olivia on gaseous emissions: “I was told once that there is a fine line between a brother and a lover. I believe farts to be that line.”

(Photo by Lena Corwin.)

  1. Blythe says...

    This is the absolute BEST weekend round-up; every single link spoke to me. Thank you!!

  2. Alyssa says...

    The closeness lines got to me. Specifically the dog one, because the dog’s line is so short. But also the parent line because it starts before ours, gets a little dicey in the middle for some, and then stops before ours does. Ugh, kills me.

  3. neha says...

    “Math problems for the race conscious.” Took me years of reading this blog before I started posting with my actual name, not the short version of it. Haha!! And I still don’t use my full name because that actually leaves people tongue tied!!

  4. Paula says...

    It’s 10:30 on a Monday morning and I’m full-on crying at the Humans of NY link.

  5. The closeness line of the dog…. my heart!! love it

  6. Eloise says...

    Ok, so I know thisnis way off topic but I can’t find the recent “What Do You Binge-Watch Together” post and so want to let you k kw that while we don’t often agree on shows, Russian Dolls and Sneaky Pete have helped us through a weekend-plus of flu (me) and flu/pnemonia (him). Very different, but both really good, with RD being only 8 episodes if you want a quick watch!

  7. Thank you for the Math Problems for the Race Conscious link. So very powerful.

  8. Rachel R. says...

    That walking quote. That’s what beleiving in God feels like so much of the time. It’s the best of everything I experience. Being with God is my favorite part of being alive. In Him I live and move and have my being. If you live in NY and you’re curious about God and up for an adventure, try All Angels Church on the Upper West Side. I miss that place now that we’ve moved.

  9. Annie says...

    The closeness line of the dog…. my heart.

  10. Cynthia says...

    My husband also makes pork schnitzel. He pounds boneless pork loin chops with a tenderizer, seasons wih salt and pepper, then dips in flour, then egg wash, then bread crumbs and fries in a skillet. So delicious! He usually serves it with mashed potatoes and sauerkraut or red cabbage. He also makes chicken schnitzel the same way. The pounding with a tenderizer is the secret to tender meat.

  11. Me says...

    I love your blog! I just found it, and this post made me laugh so hard that I cried (at least the material on farting). Thanks for providing this great little piece of brightness in the world.

  12. rebecca holmes says...

    the jeans link is invalid… would love to know what they are:)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      just fixed!

  13. jaime says...

    One of the women in that HONY post is my old soccer coach. Lovely person, small world! (Also, yay Canadians in New York.)

  14. JO says...

    Oh my goodness, I loved ALL of these links so much, but I clicked on the coin pouches last and was hit with the biggest wave of nostalgia! I loved these little pouches growing up, and I didn’t know I missed them or needed them for my four and two year olds until this post. Thank you for this sweet little childhood reminder :).

  15. Di says...

    That line about walking reminds me of this old favorite of mine from Thomas Merton: “In Louisville, at the corner of Fourth and Walnut, in the center of the shopping district, I was suddenly overwhelmed with the realization that I loved all these people, that they were mine and I theirs, that we could not be alien to one another even though we were total strangers. It was like waking from a dream of separateness, of spurious self-isolation in a special world.”

  16. Renee says...

    Math problems for race the race conscious was spot on.

  17. Vicki says...

    “Everything you love is either free or extremely cheap” so true for me! A few years ago I realized that, although my husband and I make good salaries, we would never make as much as many of the people around us. But we like our jobs and they allow us time to spend with our family, so we stepped out of the rat race. Snuggling up with a book and tea is very cheap, going on a walk is free, having friends for a potluck doesn’t break the bank. We still save for trips and other things we like but are not cheap, but acknowledging that a higher paying job wouldn’t get us more of what we really love and could take more of what is really most valuable (TIME) has me sitting more comfortably in our life.

    • Erzsi says...

      This is beautiful, Vicki! You’re so right that this is a balance too few of us take into account when charting our careers. Time is the most valuable gift we can give ourselves in life.

    • Love this Vicki – I am a firm believer that our time is not our most valuable asset – but our presence and it is hard to bring our presence if we are running in someone else’s race. Really appreciate you taking the time to read my article and comment – means the world as a somewhat newbie in the writing world.

    • Jackie says...

      Agreed! A very beautiful and thought provoking sentiment – thank you for sharing

  18. Can you please tell me what I did to deserve you sharing my article about the 9 decisions that led to a life I love – so I can do it again next week and the week after that.

    Witnessing first hand the Joanna Goddard effect this morning and I like it – Seriously – Merci.

    Virtual handshake, hug and a kiss on each cheek from small town Catalunya.

    Michael

    PS – You’re cool.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Hahaha my pleasure, Michael!! Thank you for the sweet note :)

    • agnes says...

      best comment! Thanks for these 9 decisions, I came to the comments to thank Joanna about it! And yes, I agree, such a cool woman!

    • Michael, (and Jo) that article is the best thing I have read on the internet for a very long time – and it’s something I desperately needed to read. I thank you both very much, for both writing and sharing it.

    • Lynn says...

      Great article, Michael! I’m all about number 9 and so rarely see that echoed. Also, I’ve read a bunch of your stuff now and must give props to your ability to pull perfect quotes. Props!

    • b says...

      I LOVED your nine things, Michael. They spurred me to make some major changes in my life.

    • Thank you – Joanna – Agnes – Emma – Lynn – and you too B says.
      You guys are all cool. I started to write recently after having kids and needed some indoor hobbies and appreciate the boost as God knows we all need them from time to time. Have a great week.

      BTW – Emma maybe you should read more. Just kidding, Thank you so much for that.

    • Bren says...

      Michael! You’re article made me happy cry and I’ve already sent it to several of my friends today because I know it will bless them just like it blessed me. You sound like an amazing dad/husband/friend. #5 really got me and made me thankful that I married a man who is always the muddiest/wettest/loudest dad at all our kid’s parties haha! Thanks for sharing your insights with us!

    • Susie says...

      Thank you so much….I passed the article on to a few people. I love how on target you are, and the quotes are perfect!

  19. Amy says...

    Elizabeth McCracken is one of my very favorite writers; I had no idea she had published a new book so THANK YOU for the link to her quote about walking! Just bought her book! :)

  20. Luisa says...

    Loves it’s incredibly offensive to assume similarities between Latin American countries (e.g. Colombia and Venezuela). For instance, you probably wouldn’t say “He has a Russian wife (think Audrey Tautou).”. It may have not been meant to cause offense, but it was also not necessary to point out that one single person’s ethnicity and then make a broad (inaccurate) generalization.

    • T says...

      EXACTLY. Thank you, Luisa. <3

  21. Anna says...

    Chuck E Cheese = casino for children. Have fun!!

  22. Dawn Dennison says...

    I love the quote about walking. My now deceased friend Elizabeth, who was spiritual but not religious and who spent most of her time out exploring her wooded world, used to say, ” I pray with my feet.”

  23. Emma Bee says...

    The parent one is exactly my relationship with my parents. I’m dreading that big gap with my own daughters.

  24. Capucine says...

    Am I the only one? I have brothers and they are truly one of the top joys in my life – but the line between their vibe and a lover is not thin. Fart humor notwithstanding, just my husband of twenty years walking around my house makes the bottom drop out of my stomach with dizzying sudden lust whereas my brothers walking around feels like seeing a friendly dog. I would think if the roommate/brother/friend vibe pops up in a marriage, it is time to worry.

    Props to my brothers for making me at ease around fart humor from the cradle, though. My girlfriends with only sisters sure had a steep learning curve. (I remember the shock from my girlfriends in my teens when their gorgeous crush made fart jokes! peed on a campfire! did doughnuts in parking lots! and he looked so nice!) I don’t think it was an accident I have been happy working in a largely male career. Thanks, brothers!

    • Em says...

      First of all, I love your name- like the great actress! Secondly, it’s nice that you enjoy the feeling that your husband gives you but I wouldn’t go so far as to say if your partner gives you roommate/friend/ brother vibes that it’s time to worry. I had the stomach falling feeling for a lot of guys who were awful for me. I get best friend vibes from my current partner and it’s the best feeling in the world because I enjoy feeling comfortable and happy rather than dizzy. Can’t we just leave it at- good for her, not for me? There’s room for all.

    • Agnes says...

      Lol to the idea of ‘all sisters’ having a steep learning curve with regard to farts!! Me and my 3 sisters (no brothers) wrote the book – literally. We had the following named farts: machine gun, snap, skunk, and more. We pooped in the yard. We did it all. I think it was the lack of brothers that made us so uninhibited actually – no ‘girls do this, boys do that.’ We had no shortage of adventures, gross or otherwise.

  25. Sarah says...

    Olivia’s quote! So much yes!

    About a year ago I announced to my husband that I was going on strike and there would be no more dinners cooked. I loved him even more when his immediate reply was, “Good for you, babe!”. We will now pick up takeout, arrange a smorgasbord of cold foods on a plate, or (gasp) microwave a frozen Trader Joe’s meal for dinner. And my evenings are 4000% awesomer. (No kids here though!)

  26. Julia says...

    Not cooking for your kids! I had a college boyfriend whose parents were like this and their whole family were runners and they were fit/healthy and everyone was happy. Similarly assuaging my mom guilt, my husband’s mother told me that she had refused to breastfeed either of her kids because she didn’t feel like it. She was 100% comfortable with this decision. My husband has miles and away a better immune system than me (my own mother was a La Leche League devotee) and has been perfectly fine his whole life. SO. FREEING.

  27. Kate says...

    The Closeness lines made me tear up, for sure. I have always wanted to get a tattoo, but I’ve never thought of something important enough to put permanently on my body; these lines are beautifully symbolic enough that I could see myself getting tattoos of my most beloved relationships in this style.

    • Jade Lees says...

      What an incredible idea!

  28. Amy says...

    I love Bad blood. I like the podcast but the book is way better!!

  29. Kelly says...

    As a very midwestern child, my parents convinced me that the only time you could go to Chuck E. Cheese was if you were invited to a birthday party there. I never knew you could just go!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      omg hahhaa i definitely should have said that!!!!

    • Iaia says...

      Your parents are smart!

    • Sarah says...

      Omg hahahaha!

    • Emily says...

      Filing this parenting tip away!!!

    • Sheila says...

      That’s what my kids currently think! I don’t intend for them to know otherwise

    • Alexa says...

      Omg this reminds me of the parents I know who told their kids the ice cream truck bells ring when they are OUT of ice cream.🙈😂

    • Alexandra says...

      I thought the same thing growing up! (I grew up in Florida, though).

    • Louisa says...

      This is news to me!!

    • Jane says...

      We told our then two year old that Nutella had alcohol in it so sadly she could not have it for breakfast. Then my husband bought some (I don’t eat it) and she saw him have some on a roll for breakfast. Fast forward some days, her daycare teacher asked me why my daughter was telling her and her colleagues “Daddy has alcohol and coffee for breakfast!”
      And we had felt soooo smart before that incident…

  30. Carrie says...

    I so appreciate the article on the joy of not cooking. I DO enjoy cooking, so somehow got it in my head that I also enjoy cooking for my family every weeknight. This week, I got the flu so we stuck to crackers and takeout, and it was amazing! I feel so empowered now to only cook when I actually want to. Here’s to more leisurely dog walks.

  31. Abesha1 says...

    The math problems article is excellent… the title, and wording of the link, aren’t nearly as suggestive of the seriousness if it as they could be.
    Thanks, CoJ.

  32. Nora Romanoff says...

    I find Decision #1 and #5 linked in a very real way – getting off the couch, being curious, really showing up for yourself and your kids…I think this is the path to so many good things. Easier said than done some days, but a great goal, nonetheless. I loved this article. Thank you.

  33. Al says...

    The Dropout is fascinating. I wish I could binge listen to it.

  34. Tiffany Guidolin says...

    Loved the 9 Decisions article! Thank you for sharing.

  35. anne says...

    The Dropout is fine, but if you really want to be dumbfounded by the audacity of Elizabeth Holmes, read Bad Blood (by John Carreyrou). Bonus: you don’t have to hear Holmes’ voice.

    • Nicole says...

      Yes! from what I’ve heard Yhe Dropout is taking a lot from the author of Bad Blood and not giving him enough credit. If anything CoJ, credit the journalist who did all of the heavy digging (for Bad Blood) and got threats of a lawsuit while in pursuit of exposing the fraud

  36. I just finished reading Bad Blood, the story of Elizabeth Holmes and Theranos. I found it riveting – especially as I live in Silicon Valley. I’m going to download The Dropout now.

  37. Amanda says...

    How do you care for your Cashmere sweaters? Am I the only one who hand washes them? Dry cleaning seems expensive, not typically something I would do.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      good q! i handwash them, let them air dry, and then fluff in the dryer for 5 minutes.

    • Kat says...

      I put mine in a lingerie bag on the gentle cycle in the washer and clean with Woolite. To dry I roll in towels to get out as much moisture as possible and then lay flat. Dry cleaning is just too high maintenance for me!

    • Abesha1 says...

      Hand wash with Eucalan… but I also find that my cashmere lasts best when I really don’t wash it forever unless it’s visibly dirty. This way, it sort of felts gently and gets even softer.

  38. Joaquina says...

    The 9 decisions article really spoke to me, especially #s 1 and 7.
    And although I do not agree that we all need to pursue what scares us most
    (as a woman of color, this seems unnecessary) the other
    lessons seem really worthwhile. I love this and am going to send to a few beloved friends.

  39. Abesha1 says...

    ” ‘This quote about walking’ is strangely moving .’ ”

    Hahahahahah

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      no pun intended ;)

  40. Joaquina says...

    I heard a promo for The Dropout and immediately recoiled.
    Elizabeth Holmes is just another entitled, privileged, fraud among too many (including our current POTUS). I have fraud fatigue (especially after
    having seen both Fyre Fest docs). With so many podcasts available,
    I am confident I’ll find something that is novel, fascinating, and soul-enriching.
    Good luck at Chuck E Cheese, Jo!

    • Sasha L says...

      Wow, good grief. I had never heard of her and just read a quick Wikipedia about her. I think you nailed it. When I read her dad was an Enron exec, I thought, well, this should be good…..

  41. Cat says...

    Closeness lines, omg the dog, my heart

    • Gaby says...

      My mood is ruined for the next 10 minutes because of the parent and dog lines.

    • Brittany says...

      The parent one has me weepy over here.

    • Molly says...

      The dog line made me weep!