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Have a Great Weekend.

Sleepy Jones

What are you up to this weekend? I’m flying back from San Francisco, and I fell extra hard for the city this time. The weather was sunny and sparkly, and I had such a good time eating fish tacos and walking through eucalyptus trees. Most of all, a huge thank you so much to all the wonderful women who came to our party! Have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

The boys want to make these monster cookies. (Twist my arm.)

What a pretty dress for work. Those little sleeves!

Two fantastic, funny profiles of two fantastic, funny women: Melissa McCarthy and Chrissy Teigen.

Hahahaha.

Trusty weeknight dinners, according to 25,000 people.

“Why I finally got on board with royal family fandom.”

This bedtime routine sounds about right.

Another powerful obituary that sheds light on addiction. Really beautiful.

13 tips on sibling rivalry. “Talk about your children as friends and not always as siblings. Instead of saying, ‘You opened the bottle for him because you are a good big brother and take care of him,’ you could say, ‘You are such a nice friend to him. He really likes being your friend.'”

Do you love the show Friends? This new book is for you.

Have you tried Daily Harvest? Their food has been such a lifesaver on busy days, and I love their Cauliflower Rice + Pesto Harvest Bowl for lunch. (They’re offering Cup of Jo readers $25 off their first box with code CUPOFJO.)

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Chris on a year of magical thanking: “When my mom was diagnosed with a terminal disease a few years ago, I didn’t know what to get her that following Christmas. For the next two holidays we shared before she died, I wrote her thank-you notes as presents. I thanked her for everything from her stain-fighting tips and sharing her love of Thanksgiving with me to showing how powerful a simple act of kindness is. I also thanked her for making me write thank-you notes! I read four of the notes to our family and friends in my eulogy at her funeral. Gratitude is powerful, and I’m so glad I expressed those sentiments to her before she was gone.”

Says JN on potluck dinners: “Potlucks remind me of Christmas dinners growing up. As immigrants in a new country, we didn’t have extended family around, so over the years, we’d befriend other immigrant families who’d come from other parts of the world and have our own ‘patchwork family’ holidays together. Every Christmas, we’d have a potluck of different traditional foods. I still have fond memories of eating Colombian natilla, Indian samosas, Dutch oliebollen and Malaysian laksa around the living room, while ‘Joy to the World’ blared in the background.”

(Top photo by Sleepy Jones. The Daily Harvest offer applies to orders of 9,12, or 24 boxes. Chrissy Teigen profile via Jenny. Siblings advice via Liz. Obituary via my sister Lucy.)

  1. Sarah says...

    I read this weekend list when it came out and since then it has been really bothering me that you called that obituary “beautiful”. I have a family member dealing with addiction. To call that obituary beautiful, fetishes the pain that people go through when a family member has an addiction. Nothing about addiction is beautiful, it is terrible and gut wrenching for everyone involved. I think to pretend there is some beauty in a wasted life is to be in denial.

  2. Stephie says...

    Best “weekend” post in a long while. Thank you so much! Many years ago, I was a stay at home mom with four young kids. I used to save your entire week of blog posts to read on Friday nights when the kids were all tucked in. But the best part was ending with your weekend links/reads post. This particuar post reminded me of those old ones years ago that got me hooked on your blog – full of diverse content, long reads plus some short, funny plus some serious, and in general, interesting internet content I certainly missed during the week. More Friday posts like this one, please. Keep up the good work!

  3. Jackie Korey says...

    ugh i had the WORST experience with Daily Harvest. I cancelled my account because I had such an excess of the smoothies in my freezer. For some reason, they never received the cancellation even though I had the cancellation show up on my end. I was charged for the next order, but caught it before the smoothies had shipped. I called customer service and they refused to refund me even though the issue was on their website end. They were pretty rude and said something to the extent of “our website would show it if you really did”. Now, if the smoothies had already shipped then OK, I would understand that mistakes happen and you can’t take them back. But nothing had shipped- they just had to refund me! Because of that I would never recommend Daily Harvest to anyone. :( shame too because the stuff was good!

  4. Sam says...

    That obituary is beautifully honest and made me cry. My dad was an alcoholic his whole life, and later a drug addict, but he was sober until I was 14. When addiction finally claimed his life, it was so hard to write an obituary and prepare a service for him and know what to say. How do you honor someone’s good years, and still acknowledge their battles, demons, and the fallout of their choices? So very sorry for this family’s loss.

  5. Rachel says...

    This was a particularly good weekend post! Lots of good articles to read and rabbit holes to go down.

    Thanks!
    RLM

  6. katie says...

    RE: Sibling rivalry. I’m 23 months older than my sister. Growing up, we did not get a long. I hated her. Yes, likely hated her. The moment I graduated college and moved away, something switched and within a couple of years, we became friends. Advance five years and I ended up moving to the same city as her. People often asked my mom why we didn’t live together in this expensive city. My mom replied “they’d kill each other.” It’s true.

    Now we’re quite close and she’s one of my best friends. I’d share anything with her. A slice of pie. Gossip. News. A necklace. A hotel room. Even a bed. Anything. But I’d never live with her.

    • Ginny says...

      thank you for sharing this!

  7. kristin says...

    “Every breath is a fresh start.” How beautiful.

  8. Love Sleepy Jones PJS. Going to read the funny profiles!

  9. Isabelle says...

    “Gratitude is powerful” !! Thank you for bringing this to my attention. It’s actually true … the longer I think about it.

  10. Elise says...

    Oh, eucalyptus. Moving to Marin County in 1968, I will never forget the wonder I felt at all the newness; the Bay, the Bridge, the eucalyptus. The not yet complete Transamerica Building. I have been gone from there for some time, and the smell lingers on. Does anyone know of the perfect eucalyptus scent, candle or anything to enhance the memories?

  11. Love lots of these – the Vogue x Teigen piece is fab!

    Rebecca

  12. Tori says...

    Ugh, the meal kits really get to me. So much trash generated. Feeding ourselves is one of our basic daily needs and instead of learning how to do it for ourselves, we’re killing our planet for convenience.

    • Anne says...

      Seriously, boil some pasta or (gasp!) make a sandwich, folks. Not every meal needs to be IG ready. These kits and k-cups make my blood boil. Of course I still by fast fashion and order Amazon prime (face palm.)

    • Betsy says...

      I COMPLETELY agree! So much unnecessary waste when it doesn’t take much time at all to chop a few veggies yourself. Not to mention the cost. I’ll never understand this trend.

    • annie says...

      coming in with a hard second on this. i fully agree with you. thanks.

    • Joaquina says...

      Thank you for mentioning this! So much plastic, Styrofoam, wasted materials. I subscribed once and quit after seeing how much trash it generated. We can do better. Convenience should not usurp
      environmentalism.

    • Tori says...

      Thanks ladies! I usually feel like the odd woman out on this topic so it’s nice to know I’m not alone!! :-)

    • Sasha L says...

      Those kits bother me too, just the excess packaging. But then I think about the stuff I order from Amazon and Target (I hate shopping), gah, so much plastic and packaging, and can recycle almost NO PLASTIC where I live. And my SUV, no public transportation where I live, so many miles, so much gas. And the two children I raised- kids aren’t exactly an environmental choice. Anyway, I hope everyone does their best for the Earth (being vegetarian or vegan or even eating less meat could help a lot), in the way they can. Baking my own bread and eating leftovers probably don’t make me morally superior lol. I wish we could all live in a manner that we feel proud of.

  13. Have a great trip!! ❤️

  14. Rachel says...

    I am definitely not into royal family fandom, the same way I’m not a fan of anyone with fame due to massive inherited wealth or who is famous just for being famous. I’d encourage fans to read this article that brings up some of the frustrations people living in the UK may have with the royal family — including the huge amount of taxpayer money that goes to support them and their lifestyle.

  15. Sally says...

    That obituary… So moving and beautifully written.
    I think it teaches a lesson we could all do with hearing from time to time – that every person is a person, who is “person-ing” to the absolute best of their ability.
    Sometimes people do things we can’t understand, that seem crazy or stupid. But actually, everyone is fighting their own battles, and dealing with stuff we should hope and pray that we never have to confront ourselves. But at the same time, we should be giving them all the love and support we can muster, to enable THEM to battle on.
    I am sending all my love to Maddie and her family. I hope she is resting peacefully.

  16. the first time I went to san francisco all i could i think was “oh wow it smells like ecuador” – eucalyptus trees have the most amazing smell! i love the idea of writing thank you notes – i keep a log called “moon rocks” where i write something wonderful i saw, every day – i think it’s easy to miss the small things when you’re not looking for them.

  17. Sarah says...

    That obituary. It brought me to my knees. How heartbreaking and how poignant.

  18. Love, love, love the comments by Chris and JN. Here’s to earnest, heart-sourced thank-you’s and inclusive, patchwork potlucks.

  19. Lilly says...

    Safe trip!

  20. Rachel says...

    Grace’s comics are my favorite!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      She’s a genius!

  21. MWA says...

    My gosh, that obit </3

    So beautiful. Thanks for posting

  22. k says...

    wow, instant tears reading that comment from chris.

  23. Ellie says...

    I am undone. The beauty and honesty and depth of loss expressed in this obituary is heartbreaking. When will this scourge end?

  24. fgb says...

    That obituary. So important. What a beautiful family.

  25. Mac says...

    I love Chris’s comment, what a beautiful idea.
    When my mom turned 50 I gave her a list of 50 things I have learned from her. I hear it was her favorite gift, maybe ever. 🙃

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Oh my gosh that’s incredible! I might do this for my aunt who is turning 60 next weekend.

    • Such a beautiful idea! I’ll be copying this gift too, maybe for my hisband’s 50th next year :-)

  26. rachel says...

    that one about friends! Almost made me tear up a little! It still to this day is so nostalgic for me! It was,and is still, my mom and i’s show! I loved the 90’s, especially the mid to late 90’s when i was nearing the end of middle school, beginning of hs,. watching that show brings me back such sweet memories…and now when my mom is in town (from out of state) and we are able to sit next to each other, with a glass of wine, and watch, it brings me such joy! and my mom and i are BIG readers! Cant WAIT to surprise her with this!