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Have a Lovely Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? Anton had a wobbly second week in kindergarten (little guy!), so we’re going to his favorite spot — Brooklyn Crab — for dinner tonight. Hope it does the trick; he’ll definitely be getting lots of cuddles and a fizzy drink. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

Oh my gosh, this fun fact is really true.

What a beautiful home, designed by the director of Call Me By Your Name.

What sets you off, according to your Myers-Brigg.

Wishlisting these everyday boots.

Cool wheels.

When your kid draws on the sofa. (Loved this.)

I’ve been devouring Downton Abbey over the past few weeks, and the movie just set a release date!

The age when your self-esteem peaks.

Apple and honey pizza sounds delicious.

If you’re looking for a new book, commenters on this post were raving about The Great Believers.

The random baby gift I swear by.

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Cara on a great new book: “I went on a social media detox this summer, and I read so much more than I usually do. Every time I wanted to reach for my phone, I just grabbed my book instead. I was probably the most taken by The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood. I picked it up on a whim from the library. One quote I loved in particular said: ‘I have been missing the point. The point is not knowing another person, or learning to love another person. The point is simply this: how tender can we bear to be? What good manners can we show as we welcome ourselves and others into our hearts?'”

Says Colleen on the best conversation starters: “My son’s elementary school teacher took attendance every day by asking a question. Rather than saying ‘here’ when their name was called, the students answered his question. Questions ranged from ‘Who is your favorite superhero?’ to ‘Where do you wish you were right now?’ and everything in between. I so looked forward to picking him up every day and asking about the question and his answer – it was a beautiful way to learn 180 new things about my son!”

(Photo of my desk. First link from Swissmiss.)

  1. Kelly says...

    The Nose Frida!! Yes! I registered for it after reading rave reviews. My four month old baby got her first cold this week and it has been SO helpful (even though I feel so creepy while using it! Haha). When I went in for her four month well visit (which just so happened to be while she also had this the cold) the nurse practitioner even checked to make sure I was using it! She says she recommends it to everyone.

  2. Janet Boseovski says...

    Please do your part to avoid spreading pseudoscience (the Myers-Briggs is not a valid psychological test). Thanks for your consideration.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh i hear you — it’s all in fun, not serious at all. thank you! xo

  3. Kelly says...

    Where are those gorgeous flowers from?

  4. Thank you, Joanna + team, for such high quality blog articles!
    As a mother and small business owner, I don’t have time to browse the ‘net’ so I get my fill by checking in with you every now and then :) Keep it up!!

  5. Summer says...

    The NoseFrida is amazing. I’ve bought them as gifts several times. I used it on my daughter until she finally learned to blow her nose at age 4 :) It’s a life saver.

  6. MK says...

    Brooklyn Crab kickstarted my labor when I had my son.
    … if that information is useful to anyone reading. :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, that is awesome! :)

  7. Volha says...

    My daughter has started Kindergarten this September too. It was unexpectedly hard for her and obviously for us. She is still adjusting, somehow it is a huge change for them. She went to preK before and never cried or had problems with it, but new big school somehow was much scarier this year.

  8. Steph says...

    I had a good laugh after seeing that your random baby gift is the same as mine. It seems odd but is such a lifesaver! I insist all new parents I know receive one.

  9. I hope Anton had a loving and refreshing weekend. Kindergarten, and school in general, has much more weight than adults give it. It’s great that you’re taking his overall week into account and helping your family choose to rally around a loved one that needs some extra TLC. We all need to know our tribe is pulling for us on even ordinary days.

    Have a great week, Anton!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you for your sweet note, erika :) yes, their lives are so big and real to them! anton has been trying so hard. the good news is: no tears at drop off today!

    • Janet Boseovski says...

      Can I ask why you’re into it given it’s not scientifically sound (as noted in this very article and many, many, other write-ups by scientists rather than laypeople who make up tests)? Is it just a fun thing for you, too? I’d hate to see folks actually live their lives on false principles.

    • KB says...

      Janet, I’m just curious – is there actual evidence that taking personality tests, even if they’re not “scientifically sound,” causes actual harm? I’m not trying to be snarky, I’m genuinely curious. I like to read about “people sorting” systems like Myers-Briggs, and even astrology, because it’s fun and it helps calm my anxiety about difficult people in my life that I can’t change or control. I actually work in the scientific field and, to be honest, I’m pretty tired of scientists acting like they’re the only people whose observations and experiences matter. The scientific method is a great way to gain knowledge about the world, but it has its limitations and, very importantly, is subject to the ideological, cultural, and financial biases of those who are performing research. Just because someone is not a scientist does not mean that their observations don’t matter, or that nothing they say or create has validity.

  10. Ann says...

    The random baby gift I swear by is a huge batch of trail mix delivered to the new parents upon arrival of the new babe. I’ve made homemade fancy trail mix for new parents near me, and sent Kirkland brand trail mix via Amazon to new parents far from me. Always a hit.

    • Sasha L says...

      I love this idea Ann! Thoughtful, useful, delicious, will absolutely get used and be appreciated.

  11. Rachel says...

    I am pregnant and was sick in bed last week. I tried to watch Downton Abbey but just could not get into it! What’s weird is that I am totally the demographic that would love it but I just found it generally boring. I was so surprised by this!

  12. Alice says...

    Okay, maybe it’s my cute British accent, or maybe I’m going mad, but I’m about 99% sure that my lips touch when I say five… and seven… and eleven… so how on earth did that guy get to a million without his lips touching!?!?!?!

    Signed,

    Sitting on the sofa, counting out loud

  13. Kristian says...

    Hahaha- yes! With a year and half of motherhood under my belt, I can say that silly snotsucker has been one of the most helpful devices I was given (gross sounding as it is).

    Also- one of my education professors had the coolest way to get to know the kids, similar to the questions-for-attendence. The first week of school, she asked each student for their favorite song. Then, each following week one of those songs was the “song of the week.” It played during transitions or clean up times and worked both as a natural timer (kids learned when the song was wrapping up and they needed to finish too!) and a way to better get to know their community of fellow students. At the end of the year, she burned CDs so the class had all those songs. Sweet, and each student felt rather grown up/taken seriously because something they had recommended was used.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, how adorable!!!!

  14. NN says...

    How do you get any work done with those flowers on your desk?! So gorg.

  15. I love that I was just sitting here wondering what to read next and thought “oh! Cup of Jo always has good recommendations” and I didn’t even have to scroll. Thank you!!!

  16. Lisa says...

    I am so sorry Anton had a tough week! It’s so hard to be a momma sometimes, watching your heart walk around in the world unprotected!

  17. Elaine says...

    Awwwh bless Anton it’s tricky when they start at first. I’m sure he’ll be loving it soon. Still enjoy reading your blog, that’s 6 years now! from a cold and chilly Scotland (Orkney isles) xx

  18. Jen says...

    My favorite snack / start of the day in Paris on our trip was a goat cheese & honey crepe with apple compote… so the pizza makes sense!

  19. Amy says...

    Sending hugs to Anton! He’s got an entire tribe out here in internet-land cheering for him. ;)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh, amy, i’m tearing up!

  20. Laura says...

    The arrangement on your desk is gorgeous. Lovely color wave.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you! my friends hollister and porter sent it, and it was such a beautiful surprise when it showed up in the office! :)

  21. I’ve definitely been reading more lately! Once Upon a River was my favorite of the summer!!

  22. Love that roll call idea – what a great way to make sure everyone is there by finding out something about them!

    Rebecca

  23. Vivian says...

    I love Izzy Wheels.
    What a great concept.
    And two cool women making them.

  24. Tori says...

    If I were a student in that class I would have dreaded roll call everyday! Ha!

  25. Kate says...

    I would *love* to see another round-up of baby gifts.

    Before my daughter was born I thought I’d give our neighbours a set of earplugs. That never happened; instead I bought my own, and it was the best decision since we share a room. From now on, I’m throwing a set into future shower gifts.

  26. Kyla says...

    Oh a wobbly week, my heart! Kindergarten is such a different world. I hope the fizzy drink and the cuddles cure all

  27. Tammy says...

    I have a great random gift for new parents! WD40 to fix every squeaky door hinge that might wake up a tenuously sleeping baby.

  28. Julie says...

    This is a tip I could follow. Sometimes when I “freestyle” conversations, I say crazy things that I think are funny but are not that funny in the setting. I won’t repeat them here because that just makes it worse but let’s just say that one of those stories involves a gun being shot (for fun!) while dancing to Gangnam Style (this story doesn’t involve me directly at all – I read about it in the newspaper). I find this story hilarious, other people not so much.

    I love the nose Frida. It’s a life saver. Another great baby gift that no one gets is the Magic Merlin Sleep Sack. Way better than a swaddler and really helps the little ones sleep through the night: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00KHZPH74/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=weekendsaroun-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=B00KHZPH74&linkId=f4ce034bf919e6370caa834b2cc16d20

  29. B says...

    Sorry to hear about Anton! Hope he is feeling better soon. New things can be tough, whether you are five or fifty.

  30. Amy says...

    I am a teacher, and I love that way of taking attendance! I will try it out next week.

  31. Robin Young says...

    I love BOTH of the reader comments. When I read Cara’s comment the other day “how tender can we bear to be?” I was struck by the simple, beautiful question and it stayed with me for hours. I love Colleen’s, too-what a unique way for her son’s teacher to take attendance! My father was a public relations executive and he always told me that people (#1) like to hear their names, and (#2) want to talk about themselves. What a great way to make those kids feel important!

  32. Always love these and that crazy fact BLEW my mind! Thanks for sharing every week; reading these is a nice wrap on the work week, and makes me so happy!

  33. Natalie says...

    I can’t wait for the Downton movie too! And I’ve been dying to know if you watch Poldark, Joanna! With your family ties to Cornwall- do you have an opinion on the show? I confess that I am a bit taken with Ross Poldark

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i haven’t seen it yet, but would love to!

  34. Cara says...

    There is a Downton Abbey movie in the works?! This made my day!

    I love the idea of teachers asking questions for attendance, but I have to admit I would be anxious being put on the spot every day! When I was a kid, I would have been really self-conscious when asked about certain things (pop culture references, etc.). I wonder about giving students the question the day before, or offering a few free passes?

  35. Mauresa says...

    Somehow I knew the baby link would take me to NoseFrida! It’s fairly gross, oddly satisfying, and extremely efficient all at once!

  36. C says...

    Another cool thing for you New Yorkers – check out @cj_hendry Instagram Stories. She is an artist who has recreated Andy Warhol’s polaroid portraits with colored pencil, and then put her art on t-shirts, and they are being dropped off in big red boxes all over the city this weekend. Scavenger hunt! Locations of boxes are in her stories.

  37. Becky says...

    I just learned about the nose frida earlier this year! It’s amazing but can be tricky to coordinate, especially when little ones shake their heads back and forth and wave their arms. Its a two person operation for sure!

  38. C says...

    The way you describe his second week as “wobbly” just pulls at my heartstrings! What a good mama. I love that word – you’ve used it before and it’s so nice to hear you describe things with your kids that way, rather than “tough” or “hard.” Wobbly. Have fun with that blonde babe!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      aww, you’re so sweet, C. thank you. :)

  39. Cydney says...

    I ALWAYS give new parents a Nose Frieda (or three) as a baby gift. As a pediatrician, I swear that come cold and influenza season this keeps so many infants out of the hospital; but, parents always skip over it when planning for their infants.

    My favorite was when our neighbor had their first and she was visibly disgusted when I told her how to use it (you suck on the attached tube to remove mucus, a filter keeps it from going into your mouth). Four months later when baby had a cold, she said he would ONLY sleep after using the Nose Frieda. I love, LOVE, LOVE!!! this product! (I promise I don’t own stock- it is just that amazing).

  40. Emily says...

    I have those Toms booties in another color and they are THE BEST. They are so comfy and go with everything. I highly recommend them!

  41. katie says...

    No wonder I’ve been so out of sorts lately and discontent. There are a lot of changes happening outside of my control and it’s stressing me out. Apparently instability does not mix with my ISFJ personality.

  42. Charlotte K says...

    Big hugs to little Anton. I’m a 60 year now who is pretty fearless, but my mother couldn’t get me to go to kindergarten the first couple of weeks. Finally my teacher told me that my parents would be sent to jail if I didn’t go. THAT really made it better . Eventually I did learn to love it! I think teachers nowadays handle that sort of thing better! I am rooting for him.

  43. Sarah says...

    DOWNTON ABBEY! My favorite watching experience of my entire life except for the terrible parts that still haven’t healed in my heart. We named our baby girl Cora. I had no idea there was a movie coming out. Such good news!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i love the name cora! her character is so lovely, too.

  44. Daniela says...

    My first ever college teacher asked questions too! It was so much fun and a great idea for a new teacher. I remember him asking what we wanted to have as careers and I answered cognitive neuroscientist (his degree), and his whole face lit up and he said “yes!!” :)