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Do You Take Baths?

A Cup of Jo: Do You Take Baths?

Confession: I’ve never been the biggest fan of baths. I love showers, but to me the bath is a place where you sit in dirty water and get cold too quickly. As Jessi Klein writes, “It makes me feel as if I were stewing up the world’s saddest soup out of myself.” But lately, it seems like everywhere I look, people are swearing by baths, as an essential ritual for relaxation and self-care. So, with newly launched towels from Brooklinen, I tried five types of baths to see what all the fuss is about…

Classic Bath

THE CLASSIC
First up was the “classic bath.” You know the one: where you round up bubbles and magazines and a glass of wine and then feel absolutely fabulous. Or, at the very least, buy yourself some much-needed me time.

Verdict: Carving out time to flip through magazines was great, but I’d rather read them curled up on the sofa.

Grandmother's Bath

THE ENGLISH GRANDMA
Next, I tried to follow the advice of my grandmother Milly, who lives in Cornwall and has taken a bath every single day for 87 years. She fills the tub with very hot water to four inches (“war time depth,” she says) and has “a wash all over and a gorgeous soak for 20 to 30 minutes.” Then, she finishes off with clouds of Johnson’s baby powder. My English aunt follows a similar routine, but in the morning she’ll include a cup of tea, and in the evening a gin & tonic.

Verdict: I enjoyed my tea, although if four inches of water sounds cold to you, you’re right. But once I added a little more water, I actually liked it!

Tips for a Relaxing Bath

THE PODCAST
After that, I tried a relaxing bath routine that Stella swears by: turn off all the lights, lighting a candle and listen to a podcast. “You know how people say, ‘Don’t talk to me until I’ve had my coffee’? My version is, ‘Don’t talk to me until I’ve had my bath,'” says Stella. “It’s the one place where I can be alone with my thoughts.” I used Brooklinen’s Nightcap candle, which smells like blood orange and bourbon, and listened to Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations.

Verdict: Out of all the baths, I enjoyed this one the most. I actually felt like this.

Morning Bath

THE TOM FORD
Designer Tom Ford swears by his daily morning bath, taken with a giant iced coffee immediately following his 4:30 a.m. wake-up. “I like that time of the morning when no one else is awake, and I can slowly come to life,” he says. So, as my final experiment, I tried an energizing morning bath, including a few drops of peppermint oil, since its aroma is said to be invigorating. (Apparently, adding peppermint oil to your bath water can also help clear nasal passages and relax muscles. Just be careful when you climb out of the tub, because oil can be slippery!)

Verdict: A quiet morning might work well for Tom, but in our apartment, someone is always awake.

A Cup of Jo: Five Different Baths

THE CHILDREN’S BATH
Last but not least was the kids’ bath, where I was just a spectator. And when it comes to baths, Anton loves them enough for both of us: “Sometimes I don’t want to take a bath. I say, I don’t want to take a bath! Mommy puts the water in the bath and then I want to take a bath. That’s so funny!”

A Cup of Jo: On Baths

He used a colander to “make it rain…”

Do You Take Baths?

And made a beard of bubbles. “The bubbles are fun and cool,” he says. “I make a beard like daddy’s or put them on my head or just relax in them.”

And he loved every minute. The only reason he’ll get out is to get wrapped up in a soft fluffy towel. Our family loves Brooklinen bath towels, which are super thick and plush but also absorbent and warm. They’re made with Turkish cotton and come in four lovely colors. They are also the perfect size — not too long or short. We used to have ratty bath towels, and I didn’t realize what a game-changer it is to have a fresh stack of fluffy towels waiting for you. It makes me happy every morning.

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Children's Bath

Are you a bath or shower person? If you love baths, what’s your favorite kind? I’d love to hear…

(Photos by Christine Han for Cup of Jo. This post is sponsored by Brooklinen, a brand we love and use every day. Thanks for supporting the brands that keep Cup of Jo running.)

  1. Lin says...

    I think baths are a treat in our hectic-paced world. I have adapted a bathing routine started while living in Japan. I shower first to rinse off and get clean, then I soak in a hot water tub. I think soaking in a tub when you are not clean and you wind up sitting in dirty water, is, well, kind of gross. On my wish list is purchasing a soaking tub where you can fully immerse yourself. In any case, I love baths!

  2. Cynthia says...

    I didn’t realize until we finished our upstairs bath remodeling, that the new tub was a soaking tub. The tub and enclosure are a newer version of what we had prior to remodeling. I like to use lavender scented epsom salts. You can make this yourself by mixing some lavender essential in a bag of epsom salts. It is so relaxing and refreshing. You do have to have the water a little hotter than you would like, so it won’t cool off so quickly. I just lie back and relax. Bath bombs are fun too. I take showers on the days I wash my hair.

  3. lynda fitzgerald says...

    My husband and I are getting a heated tub……….oh la la! I can’t wait. Best bath ever try this: Epsom salt/coconut oil/lavender oil. You’ll want to take a bath every day once you try this. Trust me!

  4. Jessica says...

    Wonderful photos! Nice work here Christine!

    • Well thanks so much Jessica! :)

  5. Marie says...

    I’m sure baths offer some benefits for muscle/general relaxation or pain relief for people with certain health issues… and can be nice *occasionally* (though I personally tend to get bored and/or cold very quickly – to each his own), but it is SUCH A WASTE OF WATER AND ENERGY!! I know your blog is not necessarily environment-oriented but is it really wise to promote baths in this days and age? should the waste issue not be at least acknowledged? I honestly can’t believe my eyes when I read some of the comments here, mentioning a bath AND a shower every day… It makes me so angry I could cry.

    • mia says...

      100% AGREE!
      Growing up in Australia with severe water restrictions for years when I was younger really drummed it into me what a precious resource it is. I just equate baths now with absolute wastefulness and guilt. After visiting drought stricken California a few years ago, it brought back some really strong memories. Who are these people having baths (AND a shower too?!) every. single. day? Wow, just wow *shakes head in disbelief*

  6. Denise says...

    Okay, your kid is stinkin cute. But I hate baths. There is no bathtub in the world where the islands of my belly, thighs, breasts don’t emerge and chill and generally make me feel like a huge person in a tiny confined porcelain torture device. Showers are my refuge.

  7. Kate says...

    Think my favorite sponsored post ever… your bath ideas are terrific and pics of Anton are priceless and brought back memories of helping my little brothers in the tub, then my own two.

    Kudos for creating such an engaging, creative story…

  8. J says...

    I rarely take them. Last month I decided to try again. Epsom salts, an AuraCacia aromatherapy packet, alright….this is nice….but wait. A few days later I developed a yeast infection, and I *never* get those unless it’s after a round of antibiotics.

    I read that baths, especially when the water is too hot, can wreak havoc on feminine pH. Maybe that was the culprit.

    I love showers though – it’s my favorite time of day, besides coffee time in the morning!

  9. Laura says...

    I use baths as a weekly catch-up time for my body: hair mask, face mask, shave my legs, let my muscles soak. Sometimes I even give myself a manicure in the tub. I always have candles lit, bath salts + essential oils, and I bring my laptop in to watch an episode of Friends or something comforting. I never get cold because I make my baths SCALDING haha

  10. Emily C. says...

    YES TO BATHS! My recipe: 2 cups of epsom salts, maybe a few drops of essential oil, the hottest water you can stand, a giant tumbler of ice water, and a timer for 20 minutes. Sweat your ass off, get out and have the best sleep of your life.

  11. Betsy says...

    I have bathed every night since I was a teenager. 45 now. Love my bath time. My boyfriend just doesn’t understand. He thinks my morning shower, is all I need. It is now a ritual that I cannot give up. I do it mostly to unwind. Not a long one, usually just about 10 minutes. So relaxing after a stressful day. That is the one thing I dislike about vacationing. No nightly bath, if there is only a shower! I guess I may be a bathing addict! I don’t care one bit! I will be bathing until I can no longer get into the bathtub on my own.

  12. Karen says...

    So funny how everyone is divided on baths! I loved them as a kid, when bubbles and splashing and spiked shampoo hair-dos with sisters was the norm. Since then, not so much. I lived in England for a few years and was lucky enough to have a newer house with a shower. But the bathtubs there are amazing and bath times with the kiddos will always be precious memories. That being said, I’m still with the group who would love to *love* a bath! It sounds so romantic. However, every time I’ve tried the *whole package event*, I’m immediately bored. I have no problem with the hygiene aspect, just would rather cuddle up on the sofa with a book.

  13. Jessica says...

    I love baths! I have super curly hair that I don’t need to wash every day so it’s nice to bathe sans towel turban (I should invest in a shower cap). The only problem right now is that my condo’s tub is so shallow. My neighbor said “it’s like sitting in a puddle.” hahaha. I used to get cold fast. The water heater in my new build was set at the standard temp for over a year until I finally watched a YouTube tutorial on how to crank it up! #homeownership Long story short: BIG FAN OF BATHS. HUGE.

  14. Katie says...

    I’ve never been much of a bather, but now I just have a stand up shower stall, and some of my friends are renting houses with clawfoot bath tubs…I want to invite myself over just for a bath some times!

  15. lindsay says...

    Love showers and can’t stand the bath. Whenever I take one (usually bc my muscles are sore from Crossfit), I have to set a timer and force myself to stay in for 20 minutes.

  16. Ali News says...

    Can’t get over the wastefulness of all that water …. so showers for me

    • Sarah R. says...

      Same! I can’t really enjoy a bath knowing how much more water I am using. I wonder if that is a factor of living in California where we are always thinking about water? My daughter’s school did an experiment where they asked the kids to stop up the tub during a shower and compare it to their bath, and the shower was less than half as much water, which was surprising even to me. Grandmother Milly’s four inches sounds like it might be the way to go though, haha.

  17. Amoreena says...

    Anton looks just like Alex with that bubble beard!

    • Betsy says...

      i thought the same thing.

  18. Emma says...

    Anton is THE. CUTEST.

  19. Christina says...

    I’m a new mom and taking a bath at night is the only time I experience quiet and being by myself! Side note, my husband gave me a big bag of magnesium bath salts for Mother’s Day, he picked them up at Whole Foods. Magnesium does a stressed out body wonders and is more easily absorbed through the skin.

  20. Shelly Anne says...

    I take a sacred bath once a week-
    Your favorite bubbles…. bath wash….. hair up …..

    Using the time to really slowly wash each part of your body and appreciating the stretch marks from child birth the scars the birth marks and All the other spots we usually race over and never stop to really appreciate our self.
    I relax to spa music in candle lite for 1/2 hour filled about half way of pretty hot water or whatever temperature you enjoy….
    I try to massage my calf’s and feet and put a cup of Epson salt in the tub too which makes you wake up feeling pain free the next day….. its amazingly refreshing from your soul – to your soles….. head to toe cleansing

  21. That picture of Anton looking up and smiling. (!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

    I hate baths (too cold, too gross, too boring, too “I should be enjoying this but I’m really not enjoying this”), but oddly love to sit on the floor or a bench during a scalding hot shower that is less pot of soup, more waterfall. That’s where I’m able to truly get lost in my thoughts.

  22. I am such a bath person!! Showers are where I get clean and where I work through my problems when I can’t go swimmings. Baths are my place that serves absolutely no purpose but to relax. I can read, light a few candles, soak in some coconut bubbles, and it’s an essential, if gloriously unscheduled, part of my routine!

    xx

  23. Haley says...

    I was never a huge bath fan… until we bought a house with a huge tub in the master and I now take almost exclusively baths. I am usually taking quick baths with both my kids (then I jump out and dry off and they get to play a bit) so bath days are sooo much easier for us all.

  24. I love baths! Anton is so cute. One note about essential oils: It’s safest to drip and dissolve them in epsom salts before putting them in the water – otherwise the oil can sit on the surface of the water and burn the skin! An aromatherapist taught me that trick.

  25. Kia says...

    I love baths , I take one every night with my 8 month old daughter. It is a nice bonding time with the babe. I have 2 older daughters and work so that 1 on 1 time with her is great.
    I take a bath by myself during my lunch break daily as well ( I work from home). I also heard that taking very hot baths burn calories which is a bonus for lazy people like me.:)

    • Lisa says...

      I love everything about this – finding out that baths burn calories and the idea of having baths with a baby! (I have my own one, not a random baby)?

  26. Amber says...

    Like you, I was never a bath person….until I had my second child.
    Shortly prior, we’d moved into a new house with a large whirpool tub. I told my husband I thought it was a waste of space when we bought the house. Now fast forward to almost two years later, and the bathtub is my spot when I need to recharge. I run a bath, throw in a bath bomb or bubbles, light a few candles, and relax in a semi-dark, quiet room. I find the bath is just what I need in terms of self-care. I’ll exfoliate, maybe do a face mask, whatever the need strikes.
    I joked a few months ago that all I needed was a TV above the tub to watch Netflix. My sweet husband, knowing how little time I get to myself, had an electrician come in and install an outlet, then hung a television above the tub as my Mother’s Day gift this year.

  27. Nicole says...

    I take a bath nearly everyday- sometimes twice a day in the winter. If your baths are getting cold quickly you are doing it wrong!
    I like all of the bath styles you’ve listed. I definitely take the ‘Tom Ford’ style bath- though not at 4:30am. And I also like a hot bath in the evening after I’ve cooked and eaten dinner and my partner is cleaning up the kitchen.
    My favorite baths though are the sweaty kind. I love a Dr. Singha’s bath or a bath with a cup or so of baking soda added (and essential oils). Same goes for a piping hot bath with two cups of epsom salts. It is the best therapy I know of.

  28. Lily says...

    That face! Anton!

  29. Amanda says...

    Ugh–those pictures of Anton are just too perfect! Thank you!

  30. I love baths, but almost never take them, just because they don’t fit so well into the practical daily routine of life with 3 kids. But I want to ask a boring TMI question… do they possibly increase UTI risk? Sorry, something I think about whenever I start romantically thinking about taking baths more often… unfortunately I have to keep my risks low in that department.

  31. Alyssa says...

    I have always been a shower person over a bath person. I took baths more frequently when I lived in my tiny studio apartment, with it’s teeny tiny bathroom, because it just felt secluded and nice. Now my bathtub just feels less comfortable and more of a nuisance. Though to be honest, taking the time to do either (shower or bath) just feels annoying. I’d rather just be in bed still.

  32. meg says...

    No, just no…we even got a giant claw-foot tub (8 years ago!) and i still can’t bring myself to soak in my own filth…i mean, a BATH! i can’t figure out how to wash my hair (run the shower after using all that water to soak in?). Or how to get over the icky feeling of all that grime around me. I think it would be therapeutic to soak in some epsom’s salt (i’m a runner and something always hurts), but i just don’t have the patience to run a tub, or the tolerance for that much wasted water! so, while i like the idea of some Me Time in a soak, i can’t do it.

    • Emily says...

      Meg! Treat your bath like the pool and have a cleansing shower first. You’ll get clean, it’ll rinse out the tub and then you can fill it up. I think half the pleasure of a bath is being in it while the water rushes so this way is great for that. If you do Epsom salts, use a lot, 2-4 cups for them to help.

    • meg says...

      thanks, emily! but i feel like i’d be standing around freezing while waiting for the bath to fill. my tub takes forever! (i was so happy when my son switched from baths to showers; only took 9 years!).

      Cheers!

  33. Helga Thomsen says...

    The first paragraph cracked me up. I LOVE baths but my husband thinks of them as “soaking in your own fart juice.”

  34. Alex says...

    Me and my husband used to make bath parties together! We took baths that took as long as two or three hours! When the bath got cold, we just added some more hot water. We watched movies, drunk wine, and sometimes even….you know ;)
    Might sound gross, but these are some of my favourite memories :)

  35. Sasha says...

    I am not a bath person, the last one I took was a few years ago I stayed at a nice hotel that had an amazing soaking tub. I was there for a wedding and I actually had a bath when I came back to the room after all the partying, it was so relaxing and much better than just going to bed. Unfortunately most hotels I stay in now, just gave showers to save space or I would totally take more baths when I won’t need to clean the bathtub afterwards.

    • Sasha says...

      Also as a teenager I tried to get into baths, so I lit a candle and got in. Then I smelled something burning, it was the plastic shelf above the candle melting. My parents were telling that story for a while….

  36. Amy says...

    “Or, at the very least, buy yourself some much-needed me time.”

    Assume this is a funny typo and not subliminal messaging! :)

  37. Sara says...

    I’m moving soon and super excited about the $20 off code to buy some new linens. Does the code expire? If so, when? Thank you!!

  38. Sharon in Scotland says...

    I’m informed that I shower like a marine. Turn the hot water long enough to soak a japanese washing cloth, turn the hot water off, scrub, rub and ablute, turn hot water back on again, rinse and out. All done thoroughly in less than 5 mins. Taking baths makes me nervous, hot, (then cold) and just unsettled.

  39. Bath. Bath. Bath. I love sitting in it as it runs, love using Waitrose bath foam (invest next time you are over, Joanna), love reading in it, love taking a cup of coffee or tea but never, ever alcohol in the bath. Alcohol is all about partaaay for me so it does not go with the pure warm joy of a bath. All my best thinking and reading is done in the bath. And a snooze. Having said all that, I prefer showers more than I used to, probably because they are much, much better than they used to be. Different vibe though – get up and go, as opposed to lie back and think of England. In a sense.

    • Jean ann says...

      Ha ha!

  40. omgosh i can’t stand baths. LIke i don’t even want to consider a bath at all. i want just walk in showers.

  41. Andrea says...

    I’m a huge fan of the podcast bath right before bedtime. Podcast or Evening Acoustic playlist on spotify. The best bath I ever had was at the Montelucia resort in Scottsdale. The tub in my room was so deep that I could float in the water with no part of my body touching the bottom or sides. Alas, it was a work trip and I haven’t yet been able to afford to go back on my own! Because I would seriously only be going for the bathtub….

  42. Sharon says...

    I am a converted bath person! I used to take them every once and a while, but around 2 years ago I started making it part of my nightly ritual to wind down. Honestly, every night when I’m relaxing in the bath, I think about how peaceful it is and how much I enjoy our life (no kids, so no chaos ;-)). I use a shower cap for my hair and always remove my makeup first. I’ve tried face masks and such, but mostly just prefer to read or even watch a show on my laptop (ultimate luxury). Sometimes my husband and I take one together, which is a bit tight(!) but also a nice way to talk and reconnect. P.S. I sleep great, and never have the slightest urge to snack or have dessert. I swear the bath helps both…

  43. Rachel says...

    I LOVE a bath! We’re currently renovating our only bathroom with a bathtub so I’ve been relegated to showers for the last month and I’m desperate to have my tub back!

    My recipe: no lights, a few candles, a podcast or a good book. I have dry skin, so if it’s particularly bad I’ll add oil to the bath. Preferably a lavender scented body oil.

  44. Arlene Pienaar says...

    I love to bath, especially in winter, but as we are experiencing a severe drought in Cape Town we are not allowed to bath and showering with a bucket catching the excess water has become the new norm. I look forward to the day when I can once more relax in a warm bath reading a book!

  45. Ro says...

    I used to live with a friend from England who was never not in the tub. She’s super tall, but would still find a way to squeeze into our tiny American shower/tub combo, for any reason whatsoever. Stressed? Take a bath. Sad? Take a bath. Hot? Take a bath. Cold? Take a bath.

    We’re really close so sometimes I’d go in and sit on the toilet and talk to her while she was soaking, her knees crammed up around her chin. Somehow, she managed to make it seem so relaxing. She’d wear a cute shower cap, put lavender oil in the water, play music, wear a face mask…

    I was so intrigued I tried it a few times, but just couldn’t get into it. There’s no denying the Brits love a bath and will do anything to get them. But as an American, I’m team shower all the way.

  46. Heidi says...

    I‘d rather have an ice cream bar in the shower! :D Even though my husband thinks it’s totally nuts! ;)

  47. Ingrid says...

    I need to know more about those bubbles in the children’s bath. What child could resist that.

    My 4 year old often says ‘that’s so funny!’ after retelling a story. He also refuses a bath, until he sees his little sister delighting in the tub.

    As for me, I stopped having a bath when I had kids. If I am going to lay down and relax, I am just going to skip to the bed.

  48. There’s nothing like laying back in a hot bath with a candle and some bath salts to beat away the winter blues.

  49. The day I moved to a house ith a bath tub my life’s quality increased significantly. I rarely shower and I take a bath every day. It relaxes and recharges me so much better than a shower!

    PS: This is truly an exemplary sponsored post, well done!

  50. For your own pleasure, you should try the Japanese bath! Hot and at the end with a massage!

  51. Kim says...

    I absolutely love baths and grew up taking them. I was born outside the US and baths were the norm regardless of if you were a child or an adult. I only started showering half way through high school after feeling embarrassed when my at the time boyfriend seemed surprised that I took baths. It made me feel like a baby and felt even worse when he said it’s like “stewing in your own filth”. Plus none of my American friends were taking baths so I felt I had to conform.

    Anyways, I still think nothing is more relaxing to me than the thought of soaking in a nice, hot bath (I hate when it starts getting lukewarm). Light up a candle, drop in a fizzy bath bomb, play some relaxing music and have a warm, fluffy towel waiting.

    • Claire says...

      That “stewing in your own filth” business is just weird. What is making these people so filthy, and how are they getting that way? Are they rolling in manure or something?

  52. June says...

    I love a hot soak with epsom salt (lavender especially).followed by a warm shower. It’s the best of the best

  53. Carol-Anne Powell says...

    Call me crazy, but I take a shower first, to rinse the actual “dirt” off of myself, then fill the tub with hot, bubbly water for a bath. This avoids the *sitting in my own filth* feeling. Especially lovely in the winter, after a long cold day, I love to lay in the tub with a book and a drink!

  54. Another non bath person here. I’ve never been a fan of heat, so baths make me feel slightly claustrophobic! But showers are diviiiiiine. I would love to be a bath person though, because the idea of unwinding in one is so aesthetically romantic! ?

  55. Keri says...

    I haven’t had a bath in 5 years since moving to Australia… no bathtub. And that is about the saddest sentence I’ve ever typed. Devo’d as the Aussies would say.

  56. Lauren says...

    I love baths because it’s as if the world has paused and I am alone with my thoughts (but without any FOMO!) Also, there’s not much a bath won’t fix. Bad day? Bath. Feeling sick? Bath. Cold? Bath. Decision weighing you? Bath. Bored? Bath. Life always feels clearer and calmer after one.

    Always with a novel and some sort of bath bomb/bubbles/salts. Lush is my fave as there’s so much variety and you can cut them up and use small pieces (makes it so much more cost effective!)

  57. Angela says...

    My husband and I regularly take a bath together. Before kids, with kids, and without, now our kids are too big. We start with a shower, then stopper the tub and sit with the shower raining down to fill it. We chat and relax. It has always been an intimate bonding time.

  58. Paige says...

    I take a bath almost every single day of my life. I don’t know what I would do without them. I think of myself as “steeping” like tea….I step out stronger and more vibrant :)

  59. A Cali Girl says...

    We moved to Southern California in 2015, where water is not only a limited commodity, but also very expensive. We had our then six year old switch from baths to showers to conserve water. I was never a fan to begin with but honestly, I just find it very wasteful. Sorry to be a downer.

  60. Barbara Nivens says...

    I take a shower in the morning and relax, for an hour or more sometimes, at night in a hot bath. I use bubble bath or bath salts. It relaxes me as well as helps with my chronic neck pain. I read and enjoy a drink. My book has gotten wet on occasion, oh well.

  61. Brittany says...

    I feel so much sorrow for you ladies in non-marijuana-legalization states because THC bath salts are where it’s AT (and I don’t partake otherwise). All my girlfriends swear by them (: Uber relaxing, and a sound goodbye to all your sore muscles. I swear they are very adult and not at all like those giggly college days!

  62. Belinda King says...

    I take a bath with my 3 kids every night. It’s snug to say the least, all limbs and very little water by the time we’re all in; but it gives me a chance to reconnect with them after our long day at work, school and daycare. We also save water this way!

  63. JenS says...

    I have three little boys 5years and under. Since their arrival I have shunned baths for myself! Unfortunately someone usually pees or poops in the tub at some point and I am just can’t fathom sitting in that tub ever again (no matter how much I scrub it clean)!! No thanks. Now, if I was on vacation at a fancy hotel (ok a single momma can dream one day), I would most definitely relax in the tub with a glass of wine, candles and some tunes. ahhhhhhh

  64. Rebecca | Seven2Seven8 says...

    Our new house has a hall bath (kids’ bath), and a guest bath (downstairs in the room with no actual vents! soooo cold in the winter), and then a shower in the master. I take showers. I took a couple baths while pregnant with my third (we moved in just before my twins were born) and enjoyed it, but would have VASTLY preferred a tub in my master. So if we ever remodel, that will be a priority.

    Agree that washing hair is tricky. I usually skip that part.
    Agree that podcast or Netflix binge is the best option. I hate having to dry my hands to read or end up with wavy pages…

  65. Jen says...

    Oh, baths! A few years ago (pre-kids) my winter/spring weekends were typically spent snowboarding all day and then enjoying an epsom salt bath w EOs, candles, wine and Hulu. It was heaven- my muscles were soothed and my toes would forget how cold they had been all day :) Thanks for bringing back such a pleasant memory!

  66. Angela says...

    I bathe frequently and I love it. I do Epsom salts in it more than bubbles or oils, mostly because they make my tub less scummy. I get a bag of Dr. Teals usually-I like the Pink Himalayan the best!

    And to answer a question I saw a lot in the comments-personally, I do NOT wash my hair in the tub. I mean, I have before, but it’s not great. I only wash my hair once or twice a week and I just get into the shower for that. :) Baths are just to rinse off the grime of the day and to relax!

  67. …. why aren’t more people mentioning books and baths? Actually, I’m not a huge bath person; I need the “right” circumstances, which aren’t very right at all.; basically, I’ll take one if I’m feeling poorly (sore muscles, or allergies or recovering something) to benefit from epsom salts. And, most important of all, having a bath book. It needs to be something paperback (not too heavy) and usually on the fluffier side, though a good mystery novel is divine too. Nothing that requires too much of one.

  68. Daynna says...

    Huge fan of baths. Used to take them every day, prior to having kids.

    Also: your bathtub is gorgeous!! And the size of it! So envious. Your bathroom must be gigantic! So happy for you guys that you have such a lovely, so much bigger apartment now!

  69. Sarah says...

    Baths are where it at when I need to calm the eff down. If I feel gross, I’ll have a quick shower first. No big deal. I live with my husband and baby daughter in a tiny condo. For this introvert, it might be the only quiet I get in my day.

  70. I love baths – and have one daily – but now I read your post am wondering if that’s a v English trait!? It’s my guaranteed 20 mins alone in the evening, and with four children under 8 I really appreciate those 20 minutes of silence – or sometimes 20mins of a terrible show that my husband hates, like ‘Made in Chelsea’ (guilty pleasure).

    It also helps that I discovered the loveliest bath oils. The nicest part is they make my house smell like a fancy spa so I feel like my bath has actually benefited everyone ;) Now I’m off to try out the G&T bath your aunt recommends!

    • Claire says...

      I would love to know more about people’s favorite bath products.

  71. Katie says...

    The reason the bath water seems dirty is because soaking your body is the only way to get squeaky clean. I definitely don’t feel as clean if I only shower and never bathe.

  72. Ryal says...

    If a hot tub counts, then I’m in. But just for the soaking and relaxing part; I still need my hot shower with my Dr. Bonner’s Peppermint Soap to get clean.

  73. Christina Y. says...

    Moving to Tokyo taught me what I’ve been doing wrong with a bath all along: first you take a shower and wash yourself and hair. And *then* you hop into the hot bath to relax. It’s pretty genius. (Most baths here have a shower next to them, not inside them. So I’m not sure how practical it is with the western setup, but it’s nice!)

  74. jac says...

    I dont like to cleanse in a bath. I just soak. Having to do anything in there ruins it. I like to light lots of candles, turn off the lights, and put on some jazz. Sometimes I will bring in my laptop and watch 20 mins of a movie. My favorite part is sitting in the tub while it’s filling up. A little hot washcloth on the face….dry off, lube up, put on my nightgown and I am asleep in 7 minutes.

  75. Claire says...

    Yes, I love baths, although I’ve gotten out of the habit lately. I find them therapeutic, and almost meditative. I don’t combine it with other activities like reading or drinking tea or wine, I just soap up, soak, and relax. For those who are asking about washing hair while in a bath, this is what I do: When I get in the tub and the water is hot and fragrant I always submerge my head and get my hair soaking. At the end of the bath I add shampoo and lather up, then turn on the faucet and rinse, either by standing and turning the shower on, or sitting and using a shower head on a hose, or get some kind of a non-breakable container to fill from the faucet and dumping it over my hair. Or just stick your head under the running water if you can reach it. Then repeat with conditioner or whatever.

  76. MissEm says...

    I love baths. For me, it’s a guaranteed time to read and think with no distractions – no phone, no Netflix, no conversation. Honestly…sometimes I add my kids wooden toy boats and bubbles in there to keep a sense of magic alive. Remember when you were little and pretended the bath was an ocean and you were a giant (just me?) – something can be so perspective-widening about that removed space and time.

  77. shannon says...

    For me, it’s all about the tub. I always take a bath if we’re traveling and there is a clawfoot tub, but I never used to take baths at home because we only ever had acrylic tubs that never felt clean enough. Then, last year we bought a 1914 home with an original cast iron clawfoot tub. I am now a bath girl through and through. I like plugging in a strand of Christmas lights, turning on a podcast or reading a book, and dropping in some lavender and/or peppermint essential oils. Sometimes I bring a snack too. It’s pure heaven after a long run, extra cold day, or stressful shift at work.

    I like being able to stack a bunch of self care into one hour, for free, at home, and emerge feeling like a much better version of myself ?

  78. Christine says...

    I love baths! I love putting on a Korean facemask and doing a spa. I have lots of bubbles and some esstential oils. Sometimes, I put on some music. It’s magically. Sadly, I haven’t been able to do one since we moved into our apartment ?

  79. Meggles says...

    Joanna, I can’t believe with your British roots that you’re not into baths! :)

  80. Recently discovered the Japanese version of a bath where it begins with a dry brush for the lymphatic system and of course exfoliates. Then a quick shower beforehand(washing hair and shaving if necessary) …then a long soak in a tub full of Epsom salts and oils. This is not an everyday event but on those days or nights where I just need to unwind and recharge…which also includes an iPad propped up playing a show or movie I can finally enjoy. It’s the best version of a bath that I know to date.

  81. Kim says...

    Can we get a gyno to weigh in here? My Mom (who is a retired family practice physician) has always told me that soaking in the bombs, salts, soaps, and bubbles that so frequently accompanies bathing is not good for the lady flora! Is this a myth?

    • J says...

      Not a myth – it just happened to me last month. It was a complete shock. Back to 100% showering.

  82. Ann says...

    We are big believers in the Epsom salt soaks for sore muscles and moods. My husband likes to read in his bath, but I like mine with nothing. Just silence.

  83. Layne Dettor says...

    I’m a religious bath taker. I take one almost everyday, just like my mother and grandmother. In fact, I love them so much I might get one tattooed on me!

  84. bisbee says...

    I never take baths. I love a shower…I don’t waste time in there, wash and out. It’s not hard to keep your hair dry if not shampooing…use a shower cap. Something about sitting in the water is just unsettling to me…I know many people love baths, but they aren’t for me. It’s a little similar to the way I feel about massages…I can’t WAIT for them to be over so I can get off the table. Which is why I no longer get massages!

  85. Rebecca says...

    Love love love relaxing and reading with a glass of wine in the bath! It is my absolute favorite way to unwind. Currently I’ve been taking them without the wine as it is the only thing that helps my legs relax right now (I’m 31 weeks pregnant). I use them more to relax than actually get clean, but for all the people asking about the hair washing, you can take a quick shower first and then fill up the tub.

  86. Anne says...

    I don’t like baths but I’ve never lived anywhere with a huge bathtub that I could fully submerge myself in. As it is in a regular sized tub, some part of me is sticking out of the water getting cold or jabbing into the hard sides of the tub. The last time I tried to read a book and relax in the bath I remember thinking, “this would be a lot nicer if I was not wet and was wearing clothes and was laying on the couch?”

  87. txilibrin says...

    OMG, I laughed so loud! I just started reading “You’ll grow out of it” this morning in my commute. What are the chances that you bring that up in right the same day? :) :) :)

  88. Heather says...

    Amazing photos of Anton!

    • Thank you, Heather!!

  89. Audrey Johnson says...

    I mostly shower too. Baths sound so relaxing though.

  90. Natasha Ayers says...

    I loved this post! I’m not one to take baths because I have kids and almost no time for relaxation, but whenever I take a bath, I feel like I’m in heaven. The level of relaxation is out of this world, and it feels like I’m a shrimp getting softened in a pot of soup. Epsom salts, oils, the sound of water… heaven.
    Can you post any pics of the towels in use, like maybe draped on to offer an idea about how they feel to convey the comfort? <3

    Also- your bathtub is GORGEOUS- is there a brand name for it?

  91. Liz says...

    Am I the only person who likes a short bathtub because it’s easier to read in? Otherwise you’re like kind of floating around awkwardly and have to use a lot of arm strength to hold the book over your head? Is this crazy?

  92. Lindsey says...

    I’m a ride-or-die bath girl. Every night – with a book or a show, various potions, ice water and face masks. My peak happiness is reading beauty blogs in the bath while masking. Haha

  93. aga says...

    Going home to take a bath!
    I just got new towels, and while theyre soft, some lint stays on my skin, which is annoying. Next ones I buy will be Brooklinen!

  94. Sitting in rapidly cooling water in a hard tub makes me feel like someone who is just waiting to be discovered by CSI. I will never understand baths for adults.

  95. bp says...

    ZOMG, I love baths. I take them as often as I can. With a boatload of epsom salts and read whatever I can or catch up on Netflix on the ipad (love that auto-advance-to-the-next-episode if you’re binging from the tub).

    But question – has anyone tried the towels? Am actually in the market for new grown up towels. I didn’t realize they’d be such an investment – and there would be such confusing information and reviews out there.

    • Sarah says...

      I think they’re pretty new but I upgraded recently to Parachute towels and am addicted! So plush, totally recomend :)

    • Jessica J says...

      I haven’t tried these, but Costco has a really great bath towel (and huge bath sheet!) that I swear by. I also love the price and the fact that I can replace one easily anytime I need to!

    • Barbara Nivens says...

      Personally we love Lands End Supima bath towels. Big and fluffy. $24.95 but, some of ours are 8 years old, not fluffy anymore but, still good to use.

    • dd says...

      Try Lands End for more affordable, but wonderful towels. I buy their Supima line for wedding gifts, and they also have a Turkish line. If these are out of reach for your budget, you can wait for a sale (they happen all the time).

  96. dana says...

    I’m all about this idea of taking a bath. But, what about washing your hair?! Doing it in ‘sad soup’ bath water doesn’t seem right. Am I missing something?!

    • Lindsey says...

      You drain the water and hop to the shower to wash your hair if you have to! If it’s just a relaxing soak, you can skip it ?

    • Anna says...

      I swear by a good long soak followed by a quick shower. The thought occurs to me right now that the opposite order might be even better!

    • Kate says...

      I know this is very irresponsible, but I fill my tub twice – once to actually bathe myself – shave legs, wash hair, exfoliate ect, then drain it and fill with super hot water and bubbles.

    • I frequently soak in the bath, bathe at the end, and before getting out stand up and rinse off in the shower!

    • Stephanie says...

      Good question. I have thick shoulder-length hair. I fill up the bath with no bubbles or oil. I jump in and – favourite bit – lie fully submerged in the clean water feeling like a mermaid, swooshing my hair about from side to side. I shampoo then – slightly weirdly – gather all the suds into a giant ball and toss it into the toilet adjacent to the bath (my husband thinks that’s disgusting but why?). Then I do the swooshy mermaid thing again and rinse out most of the suds into the still clean water, rinsing lastly with shower attachment. Next, conditioner which I leave on for many minutes followed by a leisurely rinse. The thought of showers makes me feel freezing. Washing my hair in the shower, ugh, horrible. I love my baths. They are restorative and soothing. I never read or listen. I just lie there and drift around in my head.

    • Sharon says...

      Rinse off in the shower after and wash your hair. It’s the easiest way..

    • Andrea says...

      I usually don’t wash my hair (or really to any actual cleaning) in a bath. Or if I need to, I take a quick shower first. Don’t tell the water conservationists.

    • meg says...

      this is why i don’t take baths (well, one of the many reasons)!! what are you supposed to do about washing your hair?? i don’t get it….

    • Kasi says...

      Totally. I’m a bath person but I’d never wash my hair in it. I take a chilly bath every morning after I work out (cold water, hot coffee) but just leave my hair up. I wash my hair twice a week in an evening shower.

  97. VP says...

    I learned to love baths when I finally got a long and deep enough tub! It was especially relaxing during pregnancy. As for the dirty water thing, a bath at home is better than sharing a hot tub or pool with strangers!

    • Wait but I was told I could only take “warm” baths during pregnancy. Since I like them piping hot, I’ve given up my weekly baths :( Is this not true? Can I go back to baths? Or do you just take warm ones when you’re pregnant (I can’t do it!)

    • VP says...

      Mary Kate — I took hot baths which I felt were comfortable. Just made sure to drink about a liter of water before and after so I did not feel dizzy or dehydrated. But if your medical provider said to maintain a certain temp, I would err on the side of caution.

  98. Patricia says...

    The English love baths- I was born and raised in England , and though I’ve been in the US all my adult life, I still, just like your Grandmother, take a bath every single day and I LOVE it. I have a very deep, soaking tub, when I’m sitting in it I can barely see over the top – that how deep it is ! I fill it WAAAYYYY up high with hot water and keep adding during the bath to keep it hot. Sometimes I add fragrance or scented oils, sometimes bubble bath, sometimes Epson Salts – just depends how I feel. Always a candle if it’s nighttime, a good book, and a cup of tea, or glass of wine. Nothing better to get rid of stress !

  99. Danni says...

    Yes baths! My college boyfriend and I would sit in his bathtub, drink wine, and listen to NPR. I can’t convince my partner share a bath with me now…maybe we need a bigger tub.

  100. I *want* to love baths, the same way I want to love exercise and a cup of tea! I know all of those things are pleasant or healthy and would probably make me overall a happier, more relaxed person but I just CAN’T get myself to enjoy it with any kind of regularity.

    I just moved into a new house with a clawfoot tub, however… this post is inspiring me to schedule some time to experiment and find out what kind of bath might be just right for me. Particularly tempted my the lights out + Super Soul Sunday bath…

  101. Linds says...

    I just LOVE my daily bath! Just one error above: CHILDREN’S not CHILDRENS’.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      good catch, thank you!

  102. I don’t think I took a shower until I was in college! Total bath person and as an adult, I find it’s one of the only things that makes me pause long enough to really examine how I’m feeling, what I need, and to be present.

  103. annie says...

    Shower for everyday, and baths for when I need to give myself a bit more love. :)

  104. I also dislike baths! I actually wrote an entire non-fiction short story about my most recent bath (probably about a year ago now) because it was literally the opposite of relaxing. They’re way too hot to sit in for any length of time, but if you don’t make it hot to begin with, it gets cold so quickly! Also, as a tall person, they don’t really make tubs in 1940s California apartments that make bathing comfortable. :) Plus, one time I put a bath bomb in and it had rosemary in it or something? But within minutes I was covered in flecks, and I had to shower to get them all off. Could’ve saved all that water and time by just doing what I wanted to do in the first place- shower!

    • Also, I have maybe a silly question- how do grown people wash their hair in a bathtub? Just the old fashioned cup situation, like how you bathe kids? If you don’t ever take showers, how does it happen?? And then do you just sit in it after you’ve washed all that shampoo and conditioner out? Or do you just wait to wash your hair until the very end? But even still, you kind of get shampoo on your body and you need a rinse, right? Someone explain the logistics to me, I’m so confused, haha.

    • I agree that baths are not all they are cracked up to be. Here’s what I do when I take one, which is almost never: I wash my hair at the end, and give it a rinse in the bath water (or “soup” as I will now forever call it). Then I sit, freezing, while enough of the water drains from me deep soaking tub so that I can stand up, start running the water from the faucet, and freeze more as I wait for it to get warm. Then I shower off the bubblebath residue and finish rinsing my hair, wondering why I didn’t just shower in the first place. If someone figures out a way for us to read in the shower, this bath business would be OVER.

    • Lindsey, what I usually do is, I take a quick shower to wash my hair and rinse my body, and then slip into a bath if I feel like it ;)

    • Midge says...

      Lindsey, I wash my hair under running water before the tub fills, pile wet hair on top of my head with conditioner as the tub fills, soak in clean water and read, rinse conditioner right before getting out. But I really only take baths to relax, not to get clean. Usually I shower every morning with a bath one evening each week for HOURS. My husband delivers chocolate and a beverage mid-way through!

    • LB says...

      Agree with Lindsey. Bath mysteries. I am a shower person (though I do an ice bath post-run)

    • Barbara says...

      I don’t wash my hair in the tub, it’s just for soaking. BUT, most stand alone tubs have a hand shower attached.

    • S.H. says...

      So I reeeeally like baths—it gives the end of my day a nice closure routine—and sometimes I’ll wash my hair in the bath so I’m replying to your hair-washing question :).
      I always do it at the end of my bath. First I’ll lean my hair backwards into the water to get it wet, and then shampoo/scrub. Then while the tub is draining, I’ll rinse my hair under the faucet. (I suppose this wouldn’t work in all tubs, depending on the height of the faucet) you don’t even have to get your face wet—just rinse off your hair/head. And then I’ll use a cup to rinse off the rest of me before getting out. It’s super easy and it usually only takes me 5-7 min. tops!

    • Lean back to soak your hair, sit up and shampoo, lean back again to rinse ;)

    • Jessica says...

      Two things on hair washing:
      1. Here’s what my momma taught me. While the bathwater is filling up the tub get on all fours and stick your head under the tap. Then once you are finished you can lie back with your hair wrapped in a towel if you like!
      2. My momma who is also an everyday bather just washes her hair separately in the laundry sink every second day. (I’m sure she would love that I’m sharing this here)

      I’m sure this may not appeal to everyone but it works for us! Personally, I shower regularly but love baths for special me time. Since I don’t bathe regularly I usually don’t worry about the hair washing.

    • Andrea says...

      Bath and hair washing separately. For me baths are not about getting clean, I’ll take a bath at night and shower in the morning.

    • Mk says...

      How to wash your hair in the tub: take a shower after;) That’s what I do!

    • I take a bath for relaxing, not for washing. I use epsom salt only, you have to be careful with bath bombs and bubble baths that aren’t natural, sometimes they can irritate your skin. So I make the bath almost too hot to stand, get in, put a book or my iPad on the little bath shelf I have (only a relaxing story will do!) and then when the water starts to get cold, drain the tub and shower off and that’s when I wash my hair, if I even wash my hair.

    • Wow, thank you guys! Sounds like I’m expecting too much from my baths, haha. And also that I just need to freakin’ relax about it! Don’t need to be an all or nothing bather, self. :)

  105. The summer in Strasbourg is really hot and my apartment doesn’t have great ventilation or AC. On a really hot day, I will take 2 or more cold baths just to survive the heat.

  106. Olivia says...

    Had a stressful day at work recently and decided that, gosh darn it, I was going to take a bubble bath. Put on a diffuser, used tea tree shampoo for bubble bath, put seltzer in a stemless wine glass, had an audiobook. All was going well for about five minutes until I felt a small spot on my side BURNING. I ignored it as long as I could until the image of my flesh burning off from whatever must have been occurring won over…and the burning had spread. Ended up with two angry red patches on spots that touched the sides of the tub, showered off for decontamination, and literally fell asleep from the stress ? thank god I woke up and my skin was intact! It must have been patches of leftover bleach from the last time I cleaned it…???!?!

    • Ro says...

      Omg! See, this is why I don’t like baths. Unless you make an incredible effort to clean the tub, there’s no way you’re not soaking in either dirty bathtub scum and bita of hair, or some kind of chemical film.

      Ive always rinsed the tub the few times I’ve filled it with water, but can’t fully relax since there’s gotta be one spot I missed, one stray hair, or something else gross/caustic. Maybe others can overlook this but it makes me squirm.

      I so want to enjoy baths and love the idea of soaking in them and luxuriating. But for all the above reasons and more, I’ve always been a shower gal.

    • Courtney says...

      Hot tip… wash your bathtub with 1 part white vinegar, and 1 part Dawn dish soap! Get’s rid of the body oils, but without the chemical burn of bleach.

  107. Carrie says...

    Shower > bath. I love to sit under the stream until I start feeling guilty about my water waste and that’s when I finally get out

  108. Gabriella Doob says...

    I only take baths, if I can! I always feel like I’d rather be lying down than standing, pretty much anywhere. Lately I’ve gotten into the habit of taking luxurious baths on Friday nights or Saturday mornings as a welcome-to-the-weekend-and-break-from-the-week kind of thing. I light a candle, add bubble bath, tune in to WQXR classical music on my phone, and sometimes bring a book in there that inevitably gets wet. Heaven!

    • Taylor says...

      Yes! One of my favorite summer rituals is the Friday evening bath. I get off work at 4 and always go to the Friday night outdoor concert with friends at 7. So I like to transition into “weekend mode” with a bath. I bring a glass of wine, play music and use whatever epsom salts or scrub I have lying around. It’s the best start to my night and I refuse to skip it even if it means I’ll be late.

  109. Rasheeda says...

    One of my fondest memories involves the bath. I was working for this youth volunteer oriented organization and living away from home. Because I actually lived with my crazy, teenaged volunteers, I rarely got a break. But once a week on my 24 hours off, I would spend it at the farmhouse of the sweetest, most kindest family I’ve ever met. They just became really close friends through our work in the community and also saw the desperation in my eyes, ha. They had this beautiful, wood-walled, old fashioned bathroom with an antique bath tub. Every night that I stayed there, my ritual was to get in that tub with oils and bath soaps from their incredible fair trade collection and just soak until I turned pruny. Honestly, those baths saved me. As soon as the water turned on, my worries/stresses turned off. I was around 25 at the time, exactly 10 years ago, and I remember those baths (and that beautiful kindness) so vividly :)

  110. Kim says...

    (Life hack-You can take a fast cleansing shower first!)
    It must be my British heritage, but I ADORE baths, and I take all kinds. Sometimes I am reading cupofjo.com in my Epsom salts, or this morning I took a long, lazy morning bath with my coffee because my husband had the kids and I needed to shave my legs. My favorite is with the darkened room with epsom salts, some oils, one or two candles lit, maybe some music like Jeff Buckley for heart wrenching feels, (does that date me?) and a good book, or just closed eyes.

    Other than a good bike ride or hike, baths are my temple.

    • Thuy says...

      I rarely take baths but when I do I love them and do the “fast cleansing shower” first too! Makes it clean! :)

    • Allison says...

      Oh my gosh, I am so going to put on some Jeff Buckley now!!

    • Rosalie says...

      Yes! This! I shower and wash my hair quickly while the bath is filling up! :) Then move quickly (but carefully!) from shower to bath to soak for 20ish minutes when I’m already fresh and clean. That’s where I read my fave blogs and wind down for the night. A true newer highlight of my adult life.

  111. Gina says...

    I loved this post!
    I am probably the number one bath FAN in MO anyway.
    This is the first room we remodeled in our home, added a Jacuzzi tub, a must. I have never. once. regretted this choice.
    In fact, I do not remember the last time I took a shower!

    My fav is a late night warm bath with a lit candle and those jets on low.
    Of course, a drink is always an added treat!
    In fact, there is no better way to fall asleep after taking a warm, quiet bath.

    I love it when my dog peeks her face in and wonders what is taking me sooo long, ha!!

  112. Caitlin Pond says...

    Oh my gosh, Anton looks EXACTLY like Alex with that bubble beard.

    • Jillian says...

      Yes! I also thought he looks just like him!

      Also Joanna, you need to shuffle on down to the library to get this book for Anton -https://www.amazon.com/Around-World-Bathtub-Bathing-Globe/dp/1580895441 It shows how children bath all over the world and just as he described, it’s all about children who don’t want to get in the tub – until they’re in it – then the parents can’t get them out. It smoothly incorporates the different languages of the children as well, as they say “no, no” when it’s time to get in and “yes, yes” when it’s time to get out. My son is almost the same age as Anton and he loved it.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      wow, that’s so cool, jillian, thank you!

  113. Kirsten says...

    I love love love baths, but I don’t take them too frequently because I feel guilty about all the water they use (desert raised girl here). That is, except for my first year of graduate school, when I was so miserable that you could find me weeping in the bath every night around 11pm. It’s almost like a sensory deprivation tank for me, and submerging my head and listening to the muffled sounds always calms me down. On more enjoyable bath days, I love to fill the tub with super hot water, add epsom salts or an Aura Cacia mineral bath packet, and read a novel. My dream is to one day have a house with a bath that is actually a proper depth for my tall self to luxuriate fully, since right now it’s a boobs-or-knees out situation.

    • Sophia F. says...

      I’m short, but our bathtub in our very old house is shallow and tiny and I dream of the day when I can have a bath big enough to avoid having hillocks of damp flesh rising above the surface of the water and becoming so very cold!

    • Heidi says...

      “Hillocks of damp flesh rising” is making me laugh so hard. Cold boobs are a downer for me for bath time, too. It’ silly, but sometimes towards the end, I’ll alternate laying on each side so everyone gets a good soak.

  114. Maria says...

    Growing up in a shower-only household, it was my lifelong dream to have bathtub. After specially long days full of teenaged drama I would sit down on my shower and just let the water collect a bit on my toes. Then when I moved out into my first apartment that had a bathtub I thought I would really use it, all the time. Nope. Turns out a bathtub that you shower on was not what I was looking for and definitely not I what I had romanticised . I still used it from time to time, but never really enjoyed it. One time I tried putting essential oils on it and had slippery showers for weeks haha! But then a couple years ago I had a chance to remodel my bathroom and made it so that I could squeeze in a shower stall and a separate bathtub (by squeeze I mean I had to contact several contractors before finding one that would accept working with such tight measurements!!). That was the stuff I had been dreaming about! The most important features are having the faucet sideways (as opposed to in either end of the tub: that way two people can use it) and having it be deep enough (which is far more important than length or width).

  115. Ali says...

    SHOWER! Every Instagram blogger posts photos of manicured toes just above the bubbles, with their coffee/wine on a wooden tray with a candle. And it always looks so damn relaxing! But Jesse Klein was the first person I felt like understood my bath feelings! Here’s the thing about baths, (aside from the sitting in your own dirty water) that really bum me out-it’s like you feel this obligation to clean the tub each time before you get in! There’s always the lingering hairs on the tub, maybe some soap scum, etc. How can you relax knowing your bare butt is coexisting with all the remnants of whoever showered last?! And that just takes away any and all allure. Although I must say, I took a bath when I was very pregnant and stressed and I was like, “okay, I kiiiiind of get why people do this…”

    • Kim says...

      THIS! Thank you!! This is my number one problem with baths. I feel that I have to scrub the tub before I can enjoy the experience, but that takes all the fun and relaxation out of it!

    • Allison says...

      Hahaha this is so true and is the main thing that keeps me from ever taking baths.

    • Jessica says...

      I resonate with this so much. I feel that I can never get my apartment bathtub clean enough to make me want to sit in it. There are constant specks of paint (from when painters painted the tub?). I throw a bath mat on it and showering is all good – but I just can’t bring myself to want to sit in it – yuck.

  116. Charlotte K says...

    It has got to be deep and it has got to be hot. And most tubs just aren’t deep enough.

    Also, since I got arthritis and have trouble with bending and lowering and all those tedious things, it isn’t easy. I think a sunken tube with nice non-slip stairs would fill the bill!

    I lived in the UK for a year and the tubs were long and deep and we also had those excellent racks across the top where you kept the soap, the cup of tea, the book. I actually carried one of those back in my duffel bag(pre Internet/pre Amazon not possible to find in most of the US!)

  117. Jennie says...

    Neither the post nor the Brooklinen website tells how much the minimum spend is to use the discount, however there is one. Please advise.

  118. Natasha says...

    My pre-bath routine of scrubbing the tub and then taking a quick shower makes it too much work / too time-consuming to take baths very often… but it does mitigate the soaking-in-own-filth problem! :P

  119. Annaliesse says...

    The key to a good bath is to do it Japanese-style: you fully shower first, then relax in a very hot soaking bath. You get the cleaning out of the way first this way and eliminate the idea that you are “sitting in your own filth.” It’s also what allows Japan to use natural spring water without chemicals for the onsen spas.

    • Meghan says...

      Yes! Except I do it in reverse. I sit in a crazy hot, deep bath for as long as I can stand it (usually long enough that I have to add more hot water). So hot that I can’t clean myself first because I sweat so much (I also have a massive Nalgene water bottle on hand because I get so thirsty). Then I have a coolish shower and do all the cleaning stuff. After that it’s a thick coating of moisturizer and straight to bed. I always sleep super deeply; it’s way better than any sleeping pill out there.

    • Jessica says...

      Yes! The Japanese have really mastered bathing! It’s one of my life goals to have a Japanese bath installed in my home one day:
      1. The bath tubs are deep – so when you sit in them, the water comes up to your chest (no awkward semi sit-up)
      2. Shower before you get in so the water stays pristine
      3. The water temperature is thermostat controlled so it stays at a constant temperature
      4. The variety of Japanese bath salts out there (so amazing)

    • Zk says...

      I had to see if anyone had mentioned Japanese baths! I was never a bath taker until I moved here.

      Jessica mentioned all the good points of a Japanese bath, in addition you just press a button and it fills itself up to your preferred temperature, (mine even plays a little tune when it’s ready and tells me it’s time to get in… )

      PLUS there is no central heating in Japan, so in the freezing winter, a bath absolutely warms you up, a bath that doesn’t start going lukewarm. Perfection!

      I’m a podcaster, an extra bonus is you can find ones that are the perfect amount of time for a soak.

  120. I was never a bath person until I was living in a house with 7 other people, and I was in an attic room. I had my own bathroom with a great clawfoot tub, that didn’t have a shower, so I could either take baths or share the shower everyone else used in the downstairs bathroom. So, I took bubble baths every day and it was glorious! I would actually sit in the tub while it filled most of the time, if you use extra hot water you can acclimate as it fills rather than having to hop in when it’s full. I gave it a quick spritz with some cleaner every day when I was done, too, so it would be perfectly clean for next time!

    • Kim says...

      That sounds like a magical place to be!

  121. For me, showers are the worst. On the days that I am not trying to get my hair wet I have to be so careful. This leads to either my front or back being cold as I can’t immerse myself completely under the showerhead. So baths at perfect for me.
    Not to mention trying to shave one’s legs without the benefit of balance and gravity being on your side.
    I scrub the tub regularly and since I bathe every day I have no idea why people think I “sit in dirty water”.
    The reality is all my nooks and crannies get a thorough cleaning through soaking and soaping. Something a shower can’t offer.

    • A Cali Girl says...

      Try a shower cap! I have a thick plastic one from…some pharmacy dollar bin and it’s glorious.

    • Marte says...

      Showercap

  122. Emily says...

    I’ve always been a shower person, mostly because I’ve never really had tubs big enough to truly soak it. The bath tubs in the Standard Hotel in NYC, though, are THE BEST and any time I get to stay there, I always make sure to request a room with a tub and I take a bath every single night! They’re deep enough so that you can sit up straight and have water up to your neck if you want. The best ones have a view of the TV, so I’ll soak off all the NYC grime while watching trashy TV with the skyline in the background out the window.

  123. Marlena says...

    Oh, the bath. I used to despise it for the same reason – I felt like I was swimming in my own filth. But then this past year self care became desperately needed and the bath somehow became my favorite thing in the world. I believe it started when I was at the spa in the hot tub, my once a year all day treat, and I thought “I could do this at home for a helluva lot cheaper”. Now, I have a basket of bath bombs and oils and bubbles that are used constantly. I love it. :)

  124. cW says...

    love baths! especially with essential oil, epsom salts and a glass of wine or sparkling water and my book. perfection. Just used the code for fresh new towels! thanks.

  125. Terese says...

    I end every single day with a hot bath. I almost always add bubbles, candles, Epsom salts, or a nice drink, etc. Why do people think it’s “dirty water” ?! It’s my tub (no one else uses that bath) and i’m not rolling in dirt first? It’s just water, and I put my normal clean self in it. It’s heaven on the muscles and ends the day. After a relaxing bath, I feel clean and refreshed for bed. I love to slip into clean shirts after a nice long bath. While in the bath I sometimes i read, or pray, listen to podcasts or think about the day. Or sometimes I just shut the mind off. I can’t imagine ending the day without the soothing time.

    • Cay says...

      Can’t speak for everyone, but the idea of climbing into a bath after a full day in NYC really grosses me out. I would be sitting in all of the grime that I’ve picked up during the day. God only knows what I touched on the subway or what my legs and feet pick up during sandal season.

      That said, I’m also a person whose street clothes never touch her bed.

  126. I’m definitely more of a shower person but have recently started getting into epsom salt baths (very necessary now that I’ve taken up running). I bring a small table into the bathroom, put my laptop on it, and watch a TV show. It’s almost the only time that I can watch something without trying to multi-task. Unless bathing and watching TV counts as multi-tasking? OK, I guess I’m incapable of doing one thing at a time. But it’s still very relaxing and fun!

  127. Anita says...

    Just read the Tom Ford link. He is actually a bath-aholic! He takes a second bath after his AM workout, a third after his late afternoon nap and a fourth before bed! Love it.

    • Amanda G says...

      Such an enormous waste of water though :(

    • Cay says...

      Pretty sure he lives at least part time in LA, which has major water issues. I really, really hope he does not do that there (or anywhere, really. That’s heartbreakingly wasteful).

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i hear you guys! for what it’s worth, since that original article was published, i’ve read that he’s dropped all other baths except the morning one. fingers crossed!

  128. cgw says...

    I think there are a few key things that I need to enjoy a good bath -most of which I don’t have at home- Depth of tub is very important. Most house tubs are simply too short and too shallow to have a proper soak and to relax. Seriously, the angle of the tub makes it not very comfortable.

    Living in California, I’ve been so trained to live with water restrictions that drawing a bath makes me feel guilty for wasting so much water. So on a rare occasion when I’m at a nice hotel or something, I might have a bath… but usually no, I prefer a nice hot shower.

  129. Gina Dwyer says...

    Ha! I’m a bath girl ALL THE WAY :) I shower if I’m in a hurry, but otherwise, the bath calls. Bubbles, bath soaks, wine and candles, I want it ALL. I remember one time, walking in the door after an awful day at work, and my husband took one look at me and knew I needed to head to the bath! He’d bring in some music, pour me a glass of wine…and just let me find my way back to calm and relaxation. I have a pretty damn good husband :)

  130. Cait says...

    LOVE baths. Dirty water? How dirty are people getting in between bathing? The podcast is also my favorite kind.

  131. I loooooooooooooooooooooove baths!! When I’m in the bath, I feel like I can finally take a deep breath and relax. I usually use those cartoon brands of bubble bath or the new Epsom salts with the essential oils. The Epsom salts make the whole bathroom smell amazing!! Also, bath and body works bubble bath. These two brands will make you smell amazing for the next few hours! No perfume needed :)
    I just soak and think. Sometimes I read a book or listen to a podcast. I usually go for bubbles because they can keep you warm if you cover yourself in them.

  132. Em says...

    I usually lay in the bath (sans bubbles, book, music, phone, magazines, drink or anything) for about 10 minutes and then I shower afterward. I love the post bath shower because I’m already relaxed and it’s an extra step of indulging in my favorite products to get clean.

  133. Jenn says...

    I love a bath and I’m lucky enough to live in Saratoga Springs, NY which is known for its mineral springs. We have beautiful Victorian-era spas and bath houses where you can take a 40 minute soak in a giant cast iron tub filled with our special mineral water. People swear by the health benefits and the popularity of the springs and water is what put Saratoga on the map. I need no inducement to soak in hot water in a dark candlelit room, but hey, if it does have healing properties, more’s the better.

    • Anita says...

      This sounds amazing. Suddenly want to go to a Victorian-era spa very badly. Is there a particular spa you recommend? Thanks.

    • Kirsten says...

      Oh my gosh, that sounds AMAZING.

      I need to further explore bath-centric tourism. I took a trip to Iceland a few years ago and spent almost all my time in their public baths–never have I been so happy.

    • Jenn says...

      Anita-The Roosevelt Bath and Spa in Spa State Park. $40 gets you the full luxurious spa experience—fancy robe, a rest with complimentary tea or water in the lounge, and then your own private room with your giant tub for a 40 minute soak. You can also buy and add essential oils to add to your water. It’s amazing! I’m planning on going soon with my lovely Mother’s Day gift certificate!

    • Kim says...

      That place is the bomb as is Saratoga. My husband’s family has a place in Galway NY & most summers we visit for at least a few days. One of my favorite wedding memories (we were married up their in 2007) was the two of us sneaking away for a few hours a couple days before and having baths and massages. Bliss.

  134. Kris says...

    No baths. They are so gross. I don’t understand how ppl love this ritual. But I LIVE for a shower. The longer the hotter the better. These pics are super adorable tho!!!!

  135. Kim says...

    I grew up in a house that baths were the norm & when I’ve had particularly rough day a good hot soak is one of the few things that can really relax me. I’ll do a face mask and either light a candle or turn on the night light in our bathroom. Sometimes I’ll use a ton of Epsom salts with a bit of essential oil. Kiehl’s makes an awesome Dead Sea Salt & lavender bubble bath which I love to have on hand as well.

    • Cait says...

      Oooh I’m going to check out that bubble bath!

  136. Steph says...

    I rarely take baths, but when I do it’s usually after a long run on a rainy day to warm me back up. Bonus points if I know someone is making me a big plate of second breakfast downstairs for when I get out.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, i want to take a run, then a bath, then have a warm homemade breakfast. maybe i’ll try that combo out next time :)

  137. Brier says...

    I LOVE MY NIGHTTIME BATH. I could never live somewhere without a nice bathtub. It’s not always realistic but if I have the time I’ll easily spend an hour in there with my tablet set up with some rom-com. It’s gotten to the point where everyone knows my obsession, so for any birthday/holiday I always end up with tons of bath bombs, candles etc.
    Whenever people make comments about “stewing in their own filth” I always wonder HOW these people are so dirty?! haha (I will always rinse off after a sweaty workout before running my tub though)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      “Whenever people make comments about “stewing in their own filth” I always wonder HOW these people are so dirty?!” = hahahaha, maybe you’re right, actually!

    • Emma says...

      Stewing in their own filth… right??! I don’t get it either. I feel like I could go two weeks without even getting mildly dirty. I’m not a sweaty person though.

    • Alexia says...

      I’ve always felt the same! Also, unless you are truly dirty, wouldn’t the hot water kill of a lot of the germs?

  138. Meagan says...

    I can’t stand taking baths. I tried again last night with epsom salt, but it’s just not relaxing to me. I could spend days in the shower though!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i looooooooooove hot showers. i always have to force myself to get out.

  139. Anon says...

    Baths really? What do you do? You just sit there stewing in your own filth
    Haha! reminded me of the one where chandler takes a bath
    Lovely pictures :)

  140. I really wish I liked baths. My husband LOVES them, funnily enough. My problem is, I just notice any parts of my tub that aren’t clean. Ugh or a stray hair floating around?! Gross! I’d rather just sit in a hot tub (I know, I know, MUCH less hygienic…what can I say?).

  141. Anne says...

    I was never a huge bath person, but since we moved into a drafty Victorian with a huge soaking tub, I’ve definitely gotten into it. The water really needs to be too hot at the beginning, like you should need to step in and out a couple times, otherwise it will feel cold as soon as your body adjusts. In this cold house, it feels like the only way I can finally, finally get warm!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that sounds so romantic, anne!

  142. Agnes says...

    Yes to baths. Cedar oil is the MOST relaxing, as well as Epsom salts. My bathroom is quite small and windowless, with a nuclear-strength ceiling extractor fan. My sister named it my ‘safe place.’ I do everything in the bath – watch trash TV on my ipad, talk on speakerphone, fall asleep, you name it. However, I once burned a candle with the door closed and vomited after. Beware cheap (i.e. poisonous) candles..

  143. Kelley says...

    I used to feel the same way, like I was sitting there trying to feel refreshed, but in reality just fidgety and bored. Then I had kids!

    Now my bath time is no joke. The whole process takes about 2 hours between taking off my makeup and body brushing, filling it with steaming water and epsolm salts and lighting a candle to watching a favorite Netflix show on my laptop and then taking the time to really take care of myself and take my time with washing and moisturizing and combing out my hair afterwards and braiding it before bed. It feels like hitting a big reset button a few times a week and it helps me relax and sleep. For a few hours, the only person I need to care for is me. Sometimes we all need that.

  144. Kim says...

    Chandler Bing on baths: ‘You’re just sitting there, stewing in your own filth.’

    • I’m with Monica: “First of all, how dirty do you think I am?”

  145. jen says...

    You need a tub that you can turn on more hot water without sitting up. Lots of Avon bubbles. A book that’s not from the library. A lock on the door. A humidifier. Those are the basics. Towels I dont really care about.

  146. Lisa says...

    Friday night scene: scalding hot water and epsom salts. A beer or a glass of wine. A square of dark chocolate. My kindle.

    If I’m not sweating by the time it is over, the bath wasn’t hot enough. I find it so relaxing! My children watch a Friday night movie or come and chat with me while I soak. My six-year old has started to adopt this routine, complete with hair in bun, her kid kindle, and a non-alcoholic drink.

    • omg your 6-year-old imitating your routine sounds adorable!

  147. Liz says...

    I was a shower person until college, when I had an ensuite bathroom in my dorm and light sleepers for roommates. I started taking baths when I got home from studying at 3 a.m. Now I take them instead of showers! I run the water as hot as I can handle and add 4 bags of either lavender or peppermint tea, depending on the time of day, and some epsom salts. Then I lay reading a book until the water gets cold, usually over an hour. My husband has caught me falling asleep in the bath multiple times. It’s my favorite part of the day.

    • Rashmik says...

      How did I never think of that?! Adding tea bags instead of slippery essential oils is sooo clever! You’re a genius!

  148. Juls says...

    I am definitely a shower person having two kids. But BK (before kids) bath time was fun – apart from having a quality time alone we had a great time with my husbabd – wine, chatting, sex… oh, good old days!

  149. liz says...

    There are nights when a long really hot bath is the only way I can fall asleep. A few years ago, I had a health situation that made baths work better and I’ve been 100% bath since.

  150. Kim says...

    Oh my gosh those towels look delicious! I take a bath every single night in the winter, less often in the warmer months. And I shower every morning. My husband likes to tease me and ask “are you clean enough yet?” I use Epsom Salts with some essential oils geared to my mood/needs each night….lavender to relax/sleep better, eucalyptus for a cold, etc. I fill it as far up as I can so I can get all six feet of me under water and it has to be HOT. Sometimes I also heat up a big pot of water on the stove to boiling to add to the tub when it starts cooling down.

    • Christina says...

      YES to the kettle refresh!!! Best if you can train husband/boyfriend to bring it to you, so you don’t have to get out.

    • Kim says...

      Omg! My mom would do that when I was a kid sometimes!!!!!! Not boiling water but definitely hot. Nice memory…thank you !