Motherhood

Five Gifts for New Mothers

Newborn baby

We’ve tackled a bunch of reader questions, and today we have one for the group: “My friend just had a baby, and I’m going to visit her next week,” says Jamie. “Of course, I’m planning to bring food and hold the baby, but I’d love to bring something special just for her. Any suggestions?” Here are five ideas, and please weigh in, below…

1. A foot massage. If she’s sore from carrying around that wriggly baby, a reflexology appointment will feel SO GOOD. It magically relaxes your whole body. If you can’t spring for a pro, you could do it yourself. My friend Abbey came over when Anton was tiny and chatted with me while rubbing my feet on the sofa; I’ll never forget that kind gesture.

2. Stinky cheese. My friend Rachel just had a little boy, and she says the best gift she got was a $100 gift certificate to her local cheese shop. “After forty weeks of checking labels to see if things were pasteurized/safe for the baby, it felt like the ultimate me-time to go in and buy whatever decadent varieties I wanted! Also, charcuterie!” Or any other delicious treat — your legendary fried chicken, her favorite candy — you know she likes best.

3. Funny entertainment. Since new parents are pretty homebound (naps! feedings! more naps!), it feels good to enjoy a moment of grown-up culture during the day. You could write a list of show recommendations for her to watch while she feeds the baby. (Ours would include: Insecure, Catastrophe, and the movie Frances Ha.) Or a funny book that she can dip in and out of. (I loved this and this.) Or a smart magazine subscription that feels like a girly chat. (Elle has the best essays.)

5. Pick-me-up beauty products. Little luxuries go a long way, like a couple favorite beauty finds to help her feel like herself again. Caroline raves about this natural dry shampoo (such pretty packaging!), and I swear by this lip and cheek color, especially in the color Illusive.

6. A love letter. Most of all, you could write her a heartfelt list of the funny, real reasons that she’ll make a great mom, which she can read whenever she’s having a tough day or doubting herself. xoxo

Thoughts? What ideas would you add? If you’re a parent, what gifts/gestures did you appreciate most during those hazy early days? Congratulations to any new parents out there, and good luck and love to anyone who is trying.

P.S. Eight more gifts for new parents (including, doing the dishes!:), and five beautiful motherhood tips.

(Photo by Elle Wickens.)

  1. Laura says...

    I’m 14 weeks into my first pregnancy and that wrinkly newborn with the dirty head is giving me all the feels

  2. Laura says...

    I’m 14 weeks into my first pregnancy and that wrinkly little newborn with the dirty head is giving me all the feels.

  3. Megan says...

    The best gift I got was from an Egyptian friend who gave me all kinds of Middle Eastern foods that were traditionally meant to nourish mothers after birth.

    The next best were from my neighbors, who cooked us healthy meals, and from my husband, who baked endless batches of lactation cookies. I got a grocery bag full of pre-washed (pre-owned) infant clothes that saved me from being overwhelmed with laundry… Also Seamless gift cards were priceless…. that’s actually my go-to gift now.

    My son was colicky and barely slept, so I had no time/energy for self-care, make-up, etc. A hot meal or a nap were the greatest luxury!!!

  4. Elly says...

    Great list, but if someone brought me fuzzy socks I’d throat punch them (not literally…). I hate fuzzy socks! My Grandma buys me a pair every Christmas and every Christmas I immediately give them to my Mom. They slip around when you walk and make my feet sweat!

  5. Megan says...

    After my first was born, my mom brought me comfy new pajamas for myself that she already WASHED in baby-safe detergent! Taking that extra step to wash them was so amazing of her, because as a first-time mom I was very paranoid about my baby’s sensitive skin that would be snuggled against my clothes. Now I do the same for other new moms!

  6. Andrea says...

    Bring food and only hold the baby if the mom offers.

    Ask the mom how she is doing and tell her that she is doing a great job. Get her a glass of water. Bring her a sandwich and a treat. Ask her how her labour was (she just BIRTHED A BABY). If you’ve had a baby, tell her the fun and hard parts (I was so relieved to hear that other moms struggled too!)

    • Katy says...

      All very thoughtful recommendations out of experience.

    • jules says...

      Yes. This. And a few bags of tasty snacks that are healthy-ish but not too healthy.

  7. After I had both of my kids, I struggled with breastfeeding. I had to have lactations consultants come to the house both times! My husband came in one day and had a box of chocolates. I think he felt like there was nothing much he could do to help, but he could set that box of chocolates next to me while I sat there with a hospital-grade breast pump and have a little something to sweeten the experience, so to speak. I looked at those chocolates and teared up a little. There were so many things for the baby, and while I appreciated every single one of them, those chocolates were just for me. I ate them all, and every few days, another box would appear. They were just cheap drugstore chocolates, but every time I go to a drugstore and see them, I have all sorts of well feels. Also, gossip magazines and light-weight reading were great. I didn’t have the mental bandwidth to deal with Booker Prize winning novels, but I could tear through a People magazine with wild abandon. Great post.

  8. Molly says...

    A gift I’ve been giving a good friend/neighbor is a “house swap”. I’ll go over to her house for two hours (in between naps and feedings) to watch her baby and she’ll come over to mine so she can read a book, take a bubble bath and have some tea. She says it makes her feel like she took a week long vacation. And bonus – I get to play with her sweet baby!

    • Katie says...

      This is so great!

    • Andrea says...

      WHAT a genius idea!

    • Blair says...

      So smart!! :) You are such a lovely friend!

  9. Any sort of wear either babywear or clothing for baby that will help Mama and baby get outside! I wish I had had these things when my son was born. I didn’t even know there were so many options out there for weather-appropriate gear for babies! I think it would have helped my ppd a lot- to be able to get outdoors with baby.

  10. Great ideas!

    I always give second-time moms presents for THEM, as I figure they’ve got the baby covered. I like to give a great lip balm (like the Bite Agave one), a water bottle (breastfeeding = so so so so so thirsty), and an eye cream for dark circles (as a joke but also seriously that’s pretty useful).

  11. Maggie says...

    Wine! And if you can duck out of work a little early, time your visit for a weeknight, an hour or two before your friend’s partner gets home from work (i.e., the hardest two hours of the day during maternity leave!).

    • i love this idea of going before the spouse gets home and at the end of the weekday. those hours with a newborn are SO tough and that’s the time of day where you’re just counting the minutes until you get relief and adult interaction.

    • joy says...

      oh, this is so brilliant. I was such a clockwatcher by 4 pm when I was home on leave.

  12. Kayla says...

    I second the person who said “a short visit” (or no visit)! I felt so ill and uncomfortable after childbirth, the last thing I wanted was to host anyone.

    I would also encourage thoughtfulness when it comes to food. I am a healthy eater and was (understandably) not thrilled with the way my body looked right after having a baby. Gifts of cookies and other baked goods just served to stress me out. My go-to now is a gift card for take-out/delivery. That way new parents can choose what and when they want to eat. I also make sure to say not to send a thank you note – you have enough to do!

  13. Marisa says...

    I’m a doula and as a little present, I always get the momma a pedicure gift certificate for her to pamper herself, but also to get her out of the house for an hour to try to recharge.

  14. Kelli says...

    My BFF always bakes a big batch of lactation cookies, if mama is breastfeeding. Added bonus, most husbands are wary of eating something dubbed “lactation cookies” and so mama gets ALL the cookies!!

  15. AC says...

    My go-to is a Seamless or similar gift card, to keep mom (and partner) fed and nourished. I knit, so a pair of house slippers if I can swing it. More knit stuff for the baby, and interesting/unusual children’s books because for sure they’ve already received at least 2 copies of the Hungry Caterpillar. I’m hopping across the pond to London this summer to see my good friend and her newborn for the first time, and I am bringing some delicious Kenyan coldbrew packs. We met in Kenya, so it has a special place in our hearts!

  16. Abby Butler says...

    I love #6 – how precious!

    I second the comments about food. A stocked fridge is the best present I received!

    • Kelly says...

      My sister-in-law did this when my husband tore his ACL on vacation. We came home to a stocked fridge, Deb Perelman’s kale caesar, and a clean kitchen!! I’ve never felt so seen.

  17. My sister just had her first baby last week, (Hurrah!) and when I went to see her I asked if she had any housework I could do for her. I didn’t think much of it, but it completely made her night, even though I just folded her laundry.

  18. MJ says...

    Of all people, our landlords killed it with baby gifts. After our first child they gifted us with a Blue Apron subscription. I think we used it at about 6 months in – the point being, I waited until I began to feel a sliver of normalcy again, and then I really appreciated getting back in the kitchen to cook up some new recipes, feeling organized and competent, glass of wine in hand; a little hack to take me back to the days where I had all the time in the world for things like making a nice meal. After our second child, they gifted us with a cleaning service for which I wanted to get on my knees and bow. to. them. Both such wonderful gifts of service from a really sweet family, whose daughter asks for photos of the “cute babies” if we go several months without seeing each other.

  19. Aly says...

    For mothers of more than one child – a play date for the other child(ren)! When my daughter was born, the kindest thing that our friends did for us was to take our energetic, active 3 year old son to the farmer’s market and playground with their kids for a few hours so that I could nurse and nap with the snoozy newborn. One you have a second child, getting to be alone with the baby feels downright relaxing! If you have a relationship with the big brother/big sister and could take them out a little bit, that is fantastic, but even if you don’t know them well and can just entertain them with toys for an hour in their room, that is good as gold.

  20. Calee says...

    FITS socks! I’ve even given to my friends before they go into labor and they all say it was a game changer! Most comfortable socks ever. It’s the little things that make a big difference.

  21. Maria says...

    After the birth of my twin girls, a family friend of my parents alongside with the girls’ presents sent me a beautiful pair of earrings and wrote to me a really beautiful note: “You are a great mom! This earrings are the reminder of the first days of your girls being on earth and you doing the best for them!” It was as if she understood all my concerns and insecurities as a new mom, and recognized that I was doing the best I could… I am always wearing those earrings with a smile and a little pride!
    Also a mani, pedi is always a good gift! Just bring the professional at her home so she won’t have to leave the baby after you ask her for her preferred time.

  22. Melissa says...

    Nr. 1 and 2 are so on point, it would have been exactly what I needed!

  23. i always read your blog but i rarely comment on it. i love it so much, i always find your posts inspiring and touching, it’s like you bring a little more love and compassion into the world. thank you (to all the team), i always enjoy reading you. xo

  24. Lisa says...

    I think I read on here about someone who’s neighbours brought freshly squeezed juice every day, which sounds amazing. As other commenters have said, you do get lots of meals (or eat lots of frozen meals) and you miss fresh stuff.
    I would add:
    – a nice refillable water bottle. You get SO thirsty while breastfeeding so it’s good to have a refillable one
    – if there’s an older sibling (s) something for them, particularly if they’re little and don’t understand. For us, most people also got the big brother a present but some didn’t and it could get a bit awkward when baby got something, but not him
    – my mother always gets a present for the father, as they’re also involved and can often feel neglected

    Just something, which I wouldn’t have thought of until it happened to us. Our baby was unexpectedly very ill when she was born (it only became apparent in the last half hour of labour). It was so hard, because we were trying to figure out what was going on and we were in shock, as well as having to respond to people asking what was going on and had the baby arrived. My labour went on late into the night and I had messages going “I’m staying up til baby is here!”
    Most births go perfectly fine, but when they don’t it’s devastating and the parents may need space.
    She’s fine now (on my lap blowing bubbles and squeaking!) but we didn’t want to talk to people for about a week when she was in NICU; we were just trying to process it all ourselves.

    • Lisa says...

      I’ve just remembered the best gift this time around (second baby, girl after a boy). We have so many baby clothes and got given some, but I’ve been really wanting to choose some things myself for her, but can’t really justify the cost (given the bags and bags of clothes we have. It feels like we’re drowning in baby clothes). My friend just gave me cold hard cash to buy baby girl some clothes and that is the BEST. I can get them now, or get her cute stuff when she’s older (for the age when her brother’s wardrobe became almost exclusively “clothes with cars on”)

  25. I’m an introvert, so for me the best gifts I received were from (interestingly, other moms) who dropped off food on the porch with just a text to let me know it was there. With my first son, arranging visits felt so draining as I didn’t know when he would be sleeping, and I was sore, didn’t want to make chit chat, or prepare drinks and snacks or pull myself together. With the second child, I didn’t have the choice to be stressed so by all means, come over as I have to be active with a toddler anyway but as that first time new mom, I felt more loved when people gave without taking what little energy I had.

    For my go-to gifts, with two small kids myself, I order delivery to new mums and let them know dinner is coming that night. They don’t have to see me or make pleasantries if they’re mid-pumping, but they know I care. When the time comes and they’re ready to have visitors I ask if I can take the baby for a walk around the block. If the baby cries the whole time I don’t mind of course, but the mum can have 30 minutes of total downtime in quiet.

    • Louise says...

      Thank you for saying this. I actually felt guilty that I didn’t want to see people, but I was so overwhelmed and also insecure about what a disaster my house was. My close friends understood this.

    • Katie H. says...

      I’m not an introvert, but the sneaky porch drop was my favorite gift too. I had a baby 7 weeks ago, and after a very difficult labor, I really didn’t have the energy to visit.

      For others: If you do visit, keep it short and bring food. It’s the only thing we needed! And if you want to do something exclusively for mom, think about a massage. This is the gift I bought myself. My body was wrecked after labor, not to mention 9 months of pregnancy!

  26. Alexa says...

    I am twelve weeks postpartum with my first, and for me, the single most helpful gift came two months in, when a friend in town for a conference knocked on my door one morning and made me breakfast and held my baby while I showered.

    In the earliest days, loads of people are coming by, but all too soon, partners return to work, parents go home, and the visits end, and that is when it meant the most to me for someone to check in and offer me a hand and conversation.

  27. Tracy says...

    One “gift” I like to give is to insist that the mother not write me a thank you note for whatever gift I bring.

    • Meghan says...

      This!

    • Frankie Rose says...

      That is such a nice touch! I’ve just finished my baby shower cards, we had ours a bit late and across the country where our family lives, and it was so special. However, I’ve had some complications and distractions in the weeks since ( now 39 weeks) and although I’m so appreciative for the kindness, I was exhausted by the task. I felt the need to write very personal notes and to relieve a new mom of this burden is very kind.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      such a nice thoughtful thing to say. xo

  28. Ali says...

    L??A??U??N??D??R??Y!!! There is so much of it in the early days with leaky breasts and leaky bottoms and spit-uppy babies and it is so unbelievably challenging to get a load done with a newborn. Come over, do laundry, and in the meantime, chat over coffee or wine if she wants company, or watch the baby if she wants a nap or a shower?

  29. Elise says...

    A massage with a baby-sitting voucher so the baby is getting watched over while she gets her massage. I love the idea of the love letter!

  30. Amanda says...

    Another favourite of mine to give is a pretty scarf. Makes a new mum feel that bit more put together, flattering on the post birth tummy (for mum’s sake) and doubles as a feeding cover or spit-up-on-clothes cover ?

  31. Molly says...

    I like to bring moms a breastfeeding/pumping comfort kit with all the weird but helpful things I didn’t know about (shields, soothing gel pads, mothers milk tea, lactation cookies and a mini bottle of champagne to remember to try and relax and whatever will be will be. I had a tough go at breastfeeding so I include a note of encouragement and reminder that it’s ok if it doesn’t work! It was one of the biggest shocks to me about having a newborn, the whole birthing a bowling ball part included.

    • That sounds amazing! I’m not a mom yet, but there are so many things that already overwhelm me.

  32. sarah says...

    A friend brought me a container of her home-made granola. It was the best gift. Eating breakfast is so hard with a brand-new baby and I remember going for a handful of that during the harried mornings and being so thankful to have something hearty and wholesome and made with love.

  33. I always make a batch of lactation cookies to bring over (basically oatmeal chocolate chip with extra things like flax seed and brewers yeast to help with milk supply). I was always starving when I was breastfeeding, and having a quick thing to eat was so helpful, and a bonus if it helps boost your supply!

  34. Theresa says...

    Meals for sure! If it wasn’t for our friends bringing us steady meals for weeks we would’ve never eaten!! Your time, taking out the garbage, doing dishes, throwing some laundry in…or if you’re not the cleaning type paying and setting up a house cleaning (friends can chip in on this). Also, any pampering treat for the new Mom!

  35. Whitney says...

    New cotton pajamas.
    Change her sheets. Seriously. Best thing anyone did for me was walk into my house and put a fresh set of sheets on my bed for me. Heaven.

  36. Amelia says...

    Sandwich fixings – good bread, meat, and cheeses. They’re easy to make and I was craving them big time after holding off on deli meat during pregnancy. I found it really hard to find time to eat those first few weeks so healthy finger foods – veggies and dip, pita and hummus, etc. I also ate a lot of what you’d find in a kid’s lunch box for the ease of it – cheers to go go squeeze applesauce!

  37. Julie French says...

    I say go over and don’t hold the baby! I had a friend come over one time after having my preemie and she held the baby while I emptied the dishwasher, made us a snack and got her water. Bah.
    The best gifts I received after my babies:
    A delivery of brie, a fresh baguette and lactation cookie dough (basically oatmeal chocolate chip cookie dough with brewers yeast in it) so I could scoop out dough and eat it or bake fresh cookies! https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/232191/lactation-cookies/
    A lovely set of fancy body wash and face wash from Fresh- I felt like a goddess every time I got to shower.
    http://www.fresh.com/US/TheGiftBar.html
    The gift of taking our older child out to play when we were riddled with guilt and exhausted.

    • Katie H. says...

      I say go over and don’t hold the baby! <-This!!! Go over and do the things while the parents bond with their new baby. :)

  38. Kristin says...

    My vote is to set up a cleaning service to come once, or even a few times for them. I did this for my girlfriend who is a total neat freak and started becoming completely overwhelmed after the birth of her first baby. All the dishes in the sink, laundry piling up, dust on the nightstands…she was about to lose it! After they came she called me practically in tears “Kristin, they folded my toilet paper into a ROSE!!!!!” She was ecstatic and it helped her to just enjoy the daily happenings of having a new baby instead of staring at all the things she thought she had to be doing around the house.

  39. Ashley F. says...

    Comfy slippers for shuffling around in, a big water bottle/cup with a straw to hydrate hands free, an extra long phone charger for those marathon nursing sessions so your phone doesn’t die and leave you stuck in one spot without some connection to the outside world, an hour to nap, and snacks she loves. Being a new mom so good yet hard and good friends/family who come bearing thoughtful gifts make it better.

  40. I like to make a frozen lasagna and bran muffins to freeze, and a week or two before the due date, ask if they have space in the freezer for it and drop it by before the baby is born. That way, they have a dinner and some breakfast to eat in their own time. And if they don’t have space, I keep it frozen and do a porch drop off after the baby is born. And at some point in the weeks to follow, after the partner has gone back to work but mom is still recovering, I find a good time to drop off a lunch salad, granola and a luxurious bar of soap for mom.

  41. L says...

    I just had my third baby three weeks ago. Food is always helpful. My son’s preschool organized a meal train and families signed up to provide dinners, which was great. Aside from full meals, snacks that can be eaten one-handed are wonderful. A friend dropped off muffins and a huge tray of already prepared fruit, veggies, cheese and nuts — it was a godsend. I also really like the idea of foods that were off limits during pregnancy: unpasteurized cheese, a split of champagne. I had gestational diabetes so when my sister showed up with dark chocolate peanut butter cups from Trader Joe’s I just about kissed her. House cleaning is a great idea. Either pay for a service or just offer to do a few specific chores like changing all the bed linens or emptying the dishwasher. Other ideas include a massage (breastfeeding can wreak havoc on your upper back), taking any older kids on an outing or bringing some kind of activity to keep them occupied, and I love the suggestion of dry shampoo because some days a decent shower is hard to come by. Also some people really long for company and others really don’t want to be disturbed so I would ask what they prefer and be prepared to just drop off a gift and visit some other time if that’s easier for the new parents.

  42. Harmony says...

    For my sister’s second pregnancy, I gifted her Rodan and Fields’ Lash Boost and a 2-month subscription to Winc. Having babies is a hard proposition and every mother I know forgets to pamper herself. The theme of my shower gift was “self-care.” All I wanted after I had a baby was someone to tell me it was okay to still care about having long eyelashes and good wine – that every second shouldn’t be devoted to baby – mama matters to! You’re supposed to put the air mask on yourself first and then assist others.

  43. Chelsea says...

    My sister taught me this and now that I’ve had a baby myself I know it’s SO TRUE.

    Ok here goes:

    1. Bring something. Food, a gift for mom like these lovely ideas, or something sweet and useful for the baby.

    2. While visiting, do something useful. Undo the dishwasher, sweep the floor, or wipe down the countertops. Offer to make the tea, make your friend a sandwich, etc. Under no circumstances – especially in the first couple of weeks- are they to wait on you. The tired mama would probably loooove to just sit there and hold the baby themselves while they get a bit of help. Your priority is looking after her and letting her know her baby is the most adorable baby in the land. And then maybe you can hold the baby after that :)

    3. Take something away when you leave.
    Empty the diaper genie, offer to take out the trash or clear out old newspapers, anything.

    And there you go, three tips towards being the best baby visitor EVER

  44. Gail says...

    1. DINNER
    2. Take older child for a walk or to the playground for an hour.
    3. Watch sleeping baby while mama naps.
    4. Go to grocery or drugstore for essentials (and cheese or chocolate)

  45. Lara says...

    I had my first baby 4 months before a friend of mine so when she had her baby I made her a post-partum survival kit with all kinds of necessities I had discovered! Some of the most notable ones were prunes (because you’ve pushed enough for a while!) and pre-soaked witch hazel pads (put them in the fridge and then put on top of your maxi pad. Trust me.). There was also a bottle of wine and a research study with guidance for how much alcohol you can drink before you have to pump and dump :D

  46. Thuy says...

    Right after I delivered I started watching Catastrophe season 2 since I loved season 1, but found season 2 to be difficult to watch right since (spoiler alert) it focuses on the struggle of being parents – not exactly helpful at the time, especially when it’s super stressful! I can appreciate it and laugh about it now, but there are some stinging moments – just FYI since it set off fear and stress when I was already an emotional mess! :)

  47. Morgan says...

    Before my twins were born, a good friend wrote me a “you’re gonna rock this” and “your babies are lucky to have you” letter I still break out for a boost. Hands-down best postpartum gifts were bought for me, by me – a Turkish luscious cotton robe for getting up in the night a bajillion times that I still use for getting up to attend to kids in the night, and a subscription to a seasonal, organic body care treasure box just for me http://www.lusaorganics.com/Subscription-p/treasure-box-p.htm A good friend of mine just had twins and even though her twins are almost a year old, I pickup her favorite coffee drink whenever I’m going to see her.

  48. Abesha1 says...

    Dinner, definitely with dessert, and a pretty ring sling.

    • Ros says...

      Seconding dessert, with the note that we got a whole lot of casseroles and freezer meals when our second was born (much appreciated! don’t get me wrong!) and then someone showed up with a tray of cut vegetables and a second tray of cut fruit and it was pretty much the BEST. Fresh fruit. OMG. Yes.

  49. Janine says...

    Best gift ever was from my sister in law for my second baby. She came over after breakfast, whisked my then 2 year old away for the day during the first week home with her little brother. I was so grateful to her for giving me time with my new baby and for keeping my toddler busy for the day (she was suffering big time with suddenly becoming a big sister)

  50. Kayla says...

    I always put together a little new mama package for friends and include a new pack of hair ties, chapstick, face wipes, lotion, a package of nice granola bars and a pretty set of thank you cards. And a little note that says they are an awesome mama and doing a great job :)

    • L says...

      This sounds perfect.

  51. Diane c. says...

    Fresh fruit. When our daughter was born, we had a lot of kind friends drop off freezer meals and baked goods, which was great and helpful, but after a week of eating casserole and carbs, a friend send us a fruit basket and it was wonderful. I hadn’t realized til then how much I wanted something fresh and crisp and refreshing.
    Also very much appreciated – adult conversation and a walk outside.

    • Lisa says...

      Agree 100%. I wanted fresh fruit that was ready to eat (washed) and all of the food that could be eaten one handed, especially once my husband went back to work.

    • Robin says...

      Yes to fresh fruit! My sweet sister made little fruit jellos (frozen fruit/juice/agar) for me that were a perfect snack for those early days.

  52. Jo says...

    Figure out an essential that gets her through those early mornings or daunting nights (think: coffee, tea, ice cream, peanut butter…) and STOCK HER UP. Running out of something you need or love, when your spouse has already left for work or the whole world is sleeping except for you and the baby, truly feels like an insurmountable problem in those new-mom days.

  53. joy says...

    It was lovely to have people bring food, cook food, etc in the first few weeks after the baby. But even better was when my sister came to visit not long after I’d gone back to work. She cooked up a storm while she was here and left a ton of meals in the freezer. Those first weeks of balancing baby and full-time job were rough, and I needed the freezer meals way more then than I had when I was home on leave.

  54. Kristin says...

    A meal…and if she had a c-section, big comfy Hanes cotton granny underwear with a waistband that hits well above her incision

  55. Rose says...

    When my son was about 4 weeks old, in the thick of my sleep deprivation and post-partum depression, my mother (who lives about 30 min from me) firmly told me that we should move in with her and my father for a few weeks so she could help us out. We lived with them for 2 months and she took turns getting up in the night with us, cooked for us, did our laundry, and let me cry in her arms every time I felt like I was a horrible, no-good mother, or couldn’t figure out why my son was crying, or was just plain exhausted. It was the most incredible and selfless sacrifice for me, but to her it was just part of her job description. May I be half the mother she is!

  56. Cassie Feerer says...

    One of the sweetest things a friend did for me after having our third baby was asking my husband for a list of my favorite things. She dropped by with a gallon of my favorite herbal tea, a mug to keep it cold/hot, chocolates, dry shampoo, chapstick, and several other little things just for me. Everyone we knew had been taking care of our meals and older kids, which was SO WONDERFUL, but receiving a gift just for me was such a thoughtful gesture.

  57. kate says...

    One of my friends got me one of these: https://advicefromacaterpillar.ca/products/april-showers-trousse-zep-galaxy-print-green-tea

    It’s a little baby clutch–you fill it with diapers, wipes, a burping cloth, whatever you need on the go. I could just keep it by the front door and then throw it in my bag or the bottom of the stroller without feeling like I had to pack a whole overwhelming baby bag. It gave me the freedom to escape when even getting out of the house felt hard, and it made me feel a little pulled together. I still use it now that my daughter is two.

    One of my best friends is having her third any day now, and this post was a great reminder to order one for her.

  58. Amy says...

    Yes to the socks!!

  59. Sadie says...

    A pretty, long cardigan — it can turn even the oldest leggings/sweatpants and spit-up covered top into a respectable outfit to go out/host people in. And some nice dry shampoo.

  60. Some of the most useful/helpful/thoughtful gifts I got after our 2nd was born: Amazon Prime membership and 1x month worth of house cleaning for the first three months. That expensive coffee you want but cannot justify paying for. My dad called from the grocery store every time to ask what we needed & dropped it off 20 min later. He filled up the fridge and immediately went to emptying the dishwasher — a simple, but incredibly helpful task that I had no energy to do. Our baby was born right before a big snow storm, and my friend arranged a truck to plow us out — another super helpful gift that I would never have been able to do while home with a 4 yo and newborn. A “big sister” baggie for my oldest with simple art projects for her to do while I nursed or had to hold the baby (kid scissors, paper, stickers, washi tape, markers) — this was worth gold!

    Also, Costco size bottles of Shout and Chlorox for all…those blow outs are no joke!

  61. Leah K says...

    In addition to some of the dinners people dropped off when my son was born (which were life savers), my husband’s cousin brought over 2 kinds of cookie dough. They were in long rolls, so all I had to do was slice off circular pieces and bake when I wanted some! It was an amazing treat to have in the fridge. You could even take it a step further and do that with lactation cookie dough!

  62. Whitney says...

    A friend of mine gave me a gift certificate for a pedicure when I was pregnant with my third child. I love getting pedicures so I saved it for when I was 3-4 weeks post-partum and needed a little pampering. A simple gesture that was so appreciated.

  63. Laura says...

    I’m in on the new PJ’s! A friend got me lovely maternity pajamas when I was in month 8 or 9 and something new and nice helps you get through that stretch when you’re feeling big and awkward and maybe not pretty–and since most are also nursing-friendly you can bring them to the hospital and also wear them afterwards at home when people will inevitably catch you in some form up pajamas/undress.

  64. I like to send my friends a gift certificate to pick out a pretty, soft (and most importantly non-toxic and baby friendly!) necklace from The Jones Market. It’s a small woman owned business and their motto is “Perfect for Mamas, Pretty for All”. I usually include one of their “I am a Mom” prints too! It’s a sweet little poem. Here’s the link to their shop: https://thejonesmarket.com/

  65. No more stuff! There’s so much stuff that comes with babies. Just feed me. I love food. And more food. Granola, breakfast casserole, etc. on top of dinner tickles my pickle.

    Some of my friends have been gifted a cleaning service and that’s gone over well!

  66. Sarah says...

    I just went back to work after being home with my baby for three months. My daughter’s a gift in every way, but those were gorgeous and excruciating days. She was bright and alert even just after the first week home, meaning her acclimation to this world outside of me was intense. For both of us.

    She fills me with awe every day, which was often more than enough to fuel me. But in the hardest moments, here are a few things that made the early days more gentle:

    -Food that I could eat without much prep during the day. Lots of people brought stews and soups (winter baby!), which was wonderful for dinners. But it was during the day when I was alone that I most needed easy to eat nourishing food, and that was the hardest to accomplish.

    -Some nice lotion. My dear friend got me a fancy kit from Aesop, full of lotions and soap way nicer than I’d ever bought myself. Having a nice hot shower, then simply moisturizing and stretching felt really luxurious.

    – A simple word of encouragement. I posted to Facebook one day after a five hour cluster feeding session. A friend (a male, a great husband and daddy) sent me this message, “I just wanted to say that you’re doing a great job and everything will be fine. ” These simple words filled my heart to the brim.

  67. Love this post! Last year my friend and I started a curated postpartum gift box company to help answer this question. Would love for you to check us out!

    Figandpalm.com

  68. mado says...

    Yes to no. 6! So many friends replied to our email baby announcement with the sweetest, most heartfelt and loving messages, I reread them many times in those first few months (and still do occasionally when I need a shot of community love).

  69. Jackie says...

    My husband’s very best friend (who is a veteran dad and had done an OB rotation in medical school) brought a roll of super soft charmin toilet paper and some lovely lavender hand cream to the hospital.

  70. A says...

    A really nice travel mug and their favorite caffeine! My favorite gift to myself as a new mom. ❤️☕️

  71. Kirsten says...

    My mom gave me the very best gift ever, which was playing night-nurse for us a couple of times. My daughter would sleep for 3 hours stretches if someone held her (but oh, 10 minutes if someone didn’t). My mom would stay up all night watching movies and holding the baby–she brought her in for feedings and then whisked her away. One night of pretty good sleep after weeks of almost none felt AMAZING. If my babies ever have babies I am absolutely doing that for them.

    But, if you can’t hack that, then whip up a batch of lactation cookies! I survived on those in the middle of the night for months.

  72. A year’s subscription to Instacart, Amazon Prime, or other delivery servive!

  73. Pc says...

    I wonder how you can celebrate those friends who have supprted you through housewarmings, bachelorette parties, engagement parties, bridal showers, weddings, baby showers, but they have had different priorities and paths in life, different successes that society doesn’t have organized parties around.

    • Annie says...

      Taking them out to lovely dinners. Contributing to their charities of choice. Pampering them with presents for birthdays, promotions, or Tuesday.

  74. Steph says...

    My husband’s youngest aunt (maybe 15 yrs older than me) came by with a gift for my oldest, and then sat with me while I cried about having to go back to work. Then she asked me how much I was crying, and just listened to all my worries (real and imagined). She listened, without being in a hurry to leave. She technically didn’t do anything, but the best part was that she didn’t expect anything of me.
    Just show love the most genuine way you can. I will always remember her authenticity.

  75. Dana says...

    Whatever you bring, definitely do so with the caveat of not needing to visit/hold the baby. I was so overwhelmed with my first and was grateful for those who did quick drop-offs. Sometimes it feels like people bring you stuff more for the opportunity to meet the baby than to necessarily help – like it’s an exchange rather than a gift! I get it… but still.

  76. Em says...

    So many great ideas here! Someone brought me dinner they had packaged in individual portions and stashed in the freezer so I could defrost as needed. Other great gifts – a nice water bottle you can use one handed, a gift certificate for bras (nursing bras are expensive! And even if you aren’t nursing you may need bras that are a new size after pregnancy.), a comfy new button down shirt that also looks semi presentable

  77. Audrey Johnson says...

    These are all wonderful. Anything that you do for a new Mom will be appreciated. Adult conversation is nice. Thank you for sharing.

  78. Katie says...

    New underwear… for when the postpartum bleeding stops!

  79. Clean something if you go visit! throw on a load of laundry, wash some dishes, let, no, make mom take a shower or bath.
    Check the fridge, swing by the store after you leave.
    Don’t forget about them! Being at home with babies is HARD! Everyone comes by in the first few weeks and then falls off the face of the earth!

  80. Our community has always brought meals every other day for several weeks after each baby, and it is such a blessing. In NYC, our meal train lists always include favorite take out orders because getting a meal to people on the subway can be a challenge! The homemade ones are most appreciated but I’ll be honest and say that we’ve received some hard to stomach as well ?
    When I take people a meal, I like to add homemade granola or granola bars, and dessert if I have time…I was always so thrilled when other people included dessert for us! A food blogger I follow throws in playdough for older kids – brilliant!

  81. Kate says...

    I loved the tv show Catastrophe before I had a baby. I thought it was hilarious. After I gave birth? Not so much. Way too heavy for those crazy postpartum days. Real Housewives of New York, on the other hand, was exactly what I needed to get through those first three months.

  82. Angela says...

    I am about to give birth to my first and so far the best gifts have been a couple packages of yummy soup mix (don’t take up our precious fridge space in our tiny apartment) and frozen, pre-portioned cookie dough!

    A friend has also said the best gifts were easy snacks she could grab in the middle of the night/day when she was starving while breastfeeding. I’ve started bringing friends frozen smoothie packages with a container of coconut water to add and muffins.

  83. I agree with food, especially healthier food and enough for there to be leftovers—throw in some fresh fruit and healthier oat cookies (good for breast milk production!) or granola, or a pound of nice coffee beans—I loved when people brought food after baby but really only felt like nourishing, healthy food like a big salad with chicken or salmon, sushi, etc. I just remember feeling so tired and if someone brought something super heavy it just made my sleepiness worse! I remember one friend brought me a bunch of green juice and it was so energizing/made me feel so good. It also doesn’t hurt to maybe quickly do whatever dishes are in the sink, fold some laundry, or offer to hold baby while your friend takes a shower in addition to whatever you bring! <3

  84. Emilie says...

    My little one is six months now, and a few gifts really made the difference. One friend got me a fancy hand lotion. No matter how hectic my day is I put it on, inhale the citrus scent, and feel like I’m taking care of myself. Another brought me a fancy hazelnut chocolate craft beer, and it was delicious after so many months of abstaining. And finally, dropping off food really helps (even better if you leave it on the porch without coming in in those early days). My husband and I didn’t cook at all for the first two months because so many people were generous in that department. That was one less stresser, and we were well fed!

  85. Amanda says...

    Snacks. New moms are awake 24/7 and need plenty of snacks between meals. I still remember some of the decadent snacks friends brought me. Fun juices are a nice break from water, too.

    Pretty cards and stamps. Babies generate gifts, and anything that can make the thank you cards more fun is great (even better if the giver comes out and waives any expectation of receiving one).

    When I’m going to take food to a friend with a new baby, I always ask before I leave my house what I can pick up from their shopping list on the way over. Who doesn’t appreciate not having to run out to grab that gallon of milk or pack of diapers or that one nagging thing?

  86. Ashley says...

    I always bring a meal for the fridge or freezer and something for breakfast. But! I love to bring frozen cookie dough. I make homemade cookie dough and freeze it in ready to bake scoops. Warm cookies in 14 minutes on demand!

  87. Michelle says...

    Caudalie’s Beauty Elixer spray mist! It is so refreshing when you’re feeling tired and/or haven’t had a shower as recently as you would wish- a tiny little pick-me-up luxury.
    Also, a gift certificate for a hair wash and blow-out! I had postpartum hair loss and it felt like such a gross chore to wash and style my hair for a few months there.

  88. Rachael says...

    My sister is so so good about mom gifts not just baby gifts!! I practically lived in the gorgeous pajamas she sent me after my last baby—something i would never buy for myself but something that I absolutely loved!!

    I’m also great at stocking my freezer so dinners were never an issue (honestly it kinda stressed me out more if someone brought dinner because I would worry about timing and if my kids would eat it without complaining, etc.) but the friends who stopped by with lunch for me—oh my goodness, so amazing! I was always crazy hungry and never had the time to make lunch for myself.

  89. Jessica says...

    Honestly, I always take products to friends/family that help their lady parts heal. Weird? Maybe. But the mom often gets lost in the shuffle of the new baby and we unfortunately don’t talk about the physical healing aspect of post-partum as much as we need to! I love to give the FridaBaby Mom Washer, as well as allllllll of the Earth Mama Organics line to help mom heal and find some comfort.

  90. Hannah says...

    My go-to is to drop off a home-cooked meal or a loaf of fresh-baked bread. Another one is a big batch of homemade granola, (specifically Smitten Kitchen’s pepita granola because it’s bursting with dried fruit and isn’t overly sweet!) I’ve been told granola is especially good for nursing moms, so if there’s a new mom who’s breastfeeding, that’s an added plus! :)

    I find dropping off any food in nice, new tupperware without the expectation of chit-chat or even meeting the baby is much-appreciated by parents who are likely fielding a lot of “When can we meet the baby!” texts and calls from lovely friends and family, especially in those first precious weeks.

    • Ali says...

      Yes to this!

      I was dealing with postpartum anxiety that first week and actually shook uncontrollably whenever anyone else held my baby. I was so thankful whenever someone dropped us off a hot meal without wanting to chat or hold my baby. Always check with the new mom first!

    • Elise says...

      I cooked soup and brought it to my friend. She loved it!

    • Christine says...

      Yes! This is exactly right.

  91. My cousin and his wife are facing every newborn’s parent’s nightmare. Kate’s got inoperable cancer, first detected 2 days before she gave birth in December, and their baby Ivy is 4 months old. Spread the word and help if you can. She’s got months, and they’re raising for immunotherapy in Germany to hopefully see Ivy take first steps, and be more comfortable. They’re both teachers and super kind people and could use all the help in the world right now. Hug your bubbas tight. xx

    • Sarah says...

      Oh Kim, that is absolutely unspeakable. I’m sending them love and light.

    • Hope says...

      Praying for your cousin and wife tonight. I am so sorry. Do they have a fund raising page?

    • Nikki B says...

      Please link the gofundme or website. As a teacher, I would love to give what I can.

    • india says...

      is there a gofundme page you can link to?

    • rita says...

      So heartbreaking. Can we get a link?

    • Ana Cortez says...

      I’m so sorry… How can I help?

    • Turtle Toms says...

      Oh, Kim. This is heartbreaking. Please let us know how to spread the word.

  92. Christin says...

    Brand new button down PJs! The fancy kind with a matching top and pants (or shorts). I bought myself a pair to come home to after having a baby and they felt like such a luxury.

    • Rachael says...

      Yes!! My sister sent me a pair of the most comfy J Crew pjs after my last baby. Everyone was bringing things for the baby and it was such an amazing treat to have something for me, especially since i did not feel like getting dressed and it was great to have something so pretty to greet people in instead of yoga pants and an old race T-shirt.

    • Robin says...

      Great idea! Or a nice (warm, presentable) robe, because people will be seeing it!

    • Ros says...

      YES!

      My mom got me those button-down flannel ones, which are GREAT in winter – warm for midnight feedings, with nursing access. Bliss.

  93. Joanna says...

    This Athleta item is, hands down, my favorite pregnant/post-partum piece of clothing. I used it so much I gave one to my sister right before she had her kid! Perfect nursing access, room for the belly, and can have varying levels of front exposure. https://athleta.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=228813092&vid=1&locale=en_US&kwid=1&sem=false&sdkw=studio-wrap-P228813&sdReferer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F

    Also, as the mom of 2 allergy babies who react through my milk, be cautious with the food. I’ve had to eat a crazy diet while nursing and there is no takeout that works.

    And big sibling special outings are the BEST if you have an older kid, too! It gave me guilt-free time at home with the baby.

    • Mamekko says...

      Yes! I had to restrict so many food during early breastfeeding days. I wasn’t able to eat a lot of the takeout or greasy food family member brought for us. I tended to have clogged ducts, so I had to avoid oats, saturated fat, red meat, etc. I know it depends on the person, but something to keep in mind. I appreciated all the books friends/colleagues/neighbor gave me for the baby. They often came with sweet stories or memories (thier kids’ favorite, etc) and meaningful. They made me so emotional. Also, not a gift but I think I would’ve appreciated help with chores like returning online orders or baby stuff to the stores. I had so many of those due to late night amazon orders and gifts for the baby! I never felt comfortable letting others help with cleaning or laundry.

    • Tracey says...

      Yes to that Athleta cardigan! I asked for it for my birthday when I was a few months pregnant with number two and wore it so much during the pregnancy and now for nursing. It’s so soft and comfortable and the pockets are critical!

  94. Corinne says...

    I love to ask what her favorite coffee order is and bring that over with the meal for a special mid-morning or afternoon pick-me-up.

    • My 18 month old shares your name – just saying :-)

  95. Kelsey says...

    My sister is expecting in June. Our family tradition is to give 9 small gifts (for every month of pregnancy). We get 9 gift bags and label them 1-9. So far we have certificates for a massage, to the hair salon, to her favorite restaurant, etc. It’s a sweet tradition and honestly, what could be more fun than opening 9 gifts in 1 non-Christmas sitting?!

    • Ae says...

      Throw another gift in there- most people are pregnant for 40 weeks— 10 months!

  96. Kristina L says...

    Love these suggestions! I would also add the Naked brand of green juice to get things moving. The first “#2” after childbirth is a bit scary. ;-)

  97. Grace says...

    With my first, my sister in law brought this big bag of snacks — (granola bars, fruit leather, cookies, etc. — stuff that I didn’t think to keep on hand pre-kids) and it was so much more appreciated than anything else. It got me through those crazy moments after proper meals and help had subsided.

    With my second, the same sister-in-law and my own sister made Big Brother Boxes for my son full of little toys, crafts and trinkets. Nothing pricey. We dipped into them over the course of the first couple months and the novelty was so welcome for him since those days are pretty monotonous.

  98. Sarah says...

    Fancy hand soap with matching hand lotion! New parents are constantly asking people to wash their hands before they hold the baby, so I’m sure she’ll appreciate having a nice set there for all the visitors!

  99. Kelly says...

    I was just thinking about this topic yesterday- many home cleaning services offer a “one time” deep clean of your home for around 100 dollars. How amazing would that have been when my baby was brand new and I was physically recovering from birth and waaaay too tired to clean anything? I would love to give that to a new mom some day.

    • Hannah says...

      BRILLIANT.

    • Lucy says...

      By chance, we had cleaning people scheduled to come while I was still in the hospital. It felt AMAZING to come home to a clean house! Best life hack for expecting parents.

    • Sara says...

      YES

    • Robin says...

      YES

    • I hired a cleaning service to start cleaning my kitchen and bathrooms every other week as soon as I hit my eighth month of pregnancy. It felt SO GREAT not to have to worry about chemicals or bending at the waist when I was pregnant and immediately postpartum. (My baby is four months old now and it still feels great… but mostly because someone else is cleaning my kitchen and bathrooms.) So if you’re looking for a more affordable option, I recommend checking into the costs of just a few high-impact rooms.

      Otherwise, I like to give new moms a pretty water bottle. If she’s breastfeeding, she’s probably being nagged to drink more, so she might as well have a nice drink container.

    • A says...

      YES! Brilliant suggestion. When I was a new mum the last thing I wanted was more stuff – I felt stressed every time the postman came with piles of baby clothes from well-meaning relatives, and my house was in permanent chaos. Time-based gifts – someone to take chores out of your hands, to clean, to cook a meal, to spend time with an older child – would have been so much more welcome than anything material.

  100. Becs says...

    Yes! Quick and easy beauty products. In addition to dry shampoo, I give friends my favorite Simple micellar water wipes and an Epsom salt or sitz bath. I also bring along package of my favorite Great Harvest oatmeal. Oatmeal is supposed to be good for milk production if the mom is nursing, and such a quick and easy nourishing breakfast.

  101. Emily says...

    My in-laws came to visit the day we brought my daughter home from the hospital, complained that our fridge wasn’t stocked, and made lunch for themselves but not for my husband or me (true story). After I vented to her over text, my sister sent me a massive Peapod delivery, including all the items my in-laws had complained about us not having. I literally cried, I was so grateful.

    • Sarah says...

      Gasp!!!!!! So glad a hero stepped in to recover such a gross misstep!! And you seem to have a pretty great attitude about it. Good on ya!

    • Ellie says...

      I’m sorry that happened!! I am actually shaking mad for you right now. I just had a vision of what I would have said (read: screamed) if someone said that in front of me days after I pushed their grandchild out of my vagina (I have no kids of my own).

    • Heidi says...

      My parents stayed with us for 4 days after my first was born. First comment upon arrival, “What’s for dinner.?” They didn’t help at all. I remember trying to nurse my baby, standing up, cooking dinner FOR THEM and looking out the window and seeing them sunning themselves on my deck. There are no words for the fury I felt. So- my greatest gift to my sister when she has a baby- set my parents straight on the etiquette and behavior. It will be a fight, I guarantee, but shouldn’t have to be taken on by a new momma!

    • dippythediplodocus says...

      My in-laws complained because we just had milk rather than cream for their coffee. They were also there when my husband wasn’t and didn’t know how to use the aeropress for their 10am coffee. I’m not a coffee drinker and had a 6 week old so told them to youtube it…

    • patricia blaettler says...

      “Yeah, there’s no food. Cuz we were busy HAVING A BABY!”

    • Jennifer says...

      Oh, I feel your pain. My baby was 10 days old when my parents descended on the house and from the moment they arrived until they left they were no help whatsoever. I remember one night it got to be around 7 pm or 8 pm and no one had planned anything for dinner, and even though I had no appetite (stress? hormones?) I begrudgingly offered to order a pizza. Then everyone had the nerve to request what they wanted…as they sat on the sofa. And then my mother complained because there were peppers on the pizza. No one liked the pizza. I’ll never, ever forget that. I was seething, and still to this day I resent them for not helping me more when I most needed it.

      This time (#2 is due in June), I’ve asked my mother-in-law to come instead. LOL.

  102. Lydia says...

    I’m 4 days post partum with our first babe. We have lots of family near by who want to see the baby and the best gift to me is a short visit. I’m happy to have you see the baby but I’m really not up for 3 hours of chatting right now.
    My mom came over and stocked our fridge with individual jars of homemade tapioca pudding for nursing snacks, amazing! The best things I bought for myself for post partum were a set of soft Eberjay pajamas, Glossier cloud paint blush, and Ole Hendrickson vitamin c brightening eye creme.

    • When my friend had her daughter last October I just sent her a text saying I would be in the area on a certain day and if she wouldn’t mind a brief (30 minute) visit to see the baby and say hi.
      I also brought her a batch of her favourite home baked cookies and two cute bibs for her daughter which had her daughters name on them.
      It was such a nice no pressure visit and 30 minutes was a good amount of time for baby cuddles and a nice catch up :)

  103. BOOZE. Their favourite booze.

    • Christine says...

      As a mom X3, I can’t YES this enough. My favorite visitors were the ones who let me shower, didn’t stay for too long, and brought me booze.

    • E says...

      THIS x1000. I’m due in June. The first person to bring me a bottle of tequila wins favorite friend status. Bonus points for mixing up a [weak, juicy] margarita. It’s my third pregnancy (but second child :’-( … ) I don’t need onesies or nipple cream… instead a drink and good gossip.

    • aga says...

      haha!

  104. Barb says...

    The letter! What an amazing and touching gift.

    My favorite post baby gift was two bags of groceries my friend dropped off. It was so much more helpful and easier than a meal.

    If there are older kids, I love getting new books or puzzles or activities for those kiddos to do alongside mom while she is homebound and focusing so much on the baby.

  105. An Amazon gift card, haha. There is ALWAYS something you forgot or didn’t know you needed, and Amazon is basically the Gift of Not Having to Leave Your House, which is the greatest gift of all during those first 3 months.

    • Sarah says...

      Yes! And/or an upgrade to prime for the remnant who’ve convinced themselves they don’t need it. Can’t get that nipple cream there fast enough.

  106. my daughter is 2.5 now and looking back on that time i wish i had gifted MYSELF more help — cleaning person and someone to cook healing meals for us during those first weeks. my husband is a rabbi so there were lots of gifts for our daughter and requests for what we may want or need. i was in such a haze and felt like to be a ‘good mother’, especially being at home full-time with her, i needed to do all the housekeeping + cooking. so silly and so untrue. we talk about having another and i feel excited to find the right support for our family, even if that means tighter budgets or staying put in our one-bedroom.

    • Sara says...

      Absolutely. As we have 9 months to save for whatever baby products we need – moses basket, swaddles, etc – we should include some help in the budget. Someone to come and do the house cleaning, or a monthly payment to the laundry down the street for those first months.. anything that saves your time saves your mental health!!

  107. Beth says...

    Gift cards for food delivery are awesome. Friends who did basic errands or let mom get in a real shower were also really helpful to us. Another treat would be a professional pedicure…I found it sooo nice to sit, flip through magazines, get a foot massage, and just zone out for a while. Finally, I happened to have some frozen pre-sliced chocolate chip cookie dough on hand after baby came, and it turned out to be such a nice treat. It might sound nuts (uh, who is baking with a new baby?), but the work was all done and they only needed like 10 min. in the oven . . . then we’d have fresh, warm cookies. When I was stressed and/or ravenous from breastfeeding, the sugar was a nice little pick-me-up.

  108. Kate says...

    My friend turns up to every new baby in our groups house with a ‘listeria pack’ which is basically everything you can’t eat when you are pregnant, amazing cheese, pate, salami, smoked salmon… and plenty of snacks. Lots of people bring meals but sometimes you just want to eat cookies!

    My aunt gave me two pairs of big boyleg cotton underwear with a cool print. It was such a little gift, but so nice to be in brand new comfy underwear.

  109. Emma says...

    Some of the best gestures I got were a friend who came over to hold my baby so I could take a shower, my mom making me a sandwich so I didn’t have to make it myself or just eating some ice cream while the baby was sleeping. Friends are life savers. Even a friend just coming over for a little bit so I didn’t feel like I was going crazy!

  110. Tayler says...

    Visit mom-box.com. They have a recovery kits for vaginal births and caesarean deliveries. It’s full size products of everything the mom needs to recover and take care of themselves. All the new moms I’ve gotten them for have absolutely loved them!

  111. Megan says...

    On-demand pints of Ben & Jerry’s.

  112. Ramona says...

    A gift certificate for a postpartum doula! These are women (or I suppose a man could be one, too?) who will come to your house, answer all of your questions about breastfeeding and weird rashes or whatever, and then hold your baby, do your laundry, and cook you a healthy dinner while you take a nap. This would be an extravagant gift from one person, but great to go in on as a group! Not everyone feels comfortable accepting/giving this kind of support with friends or family informally, but I think having it come from a paid professional might make that easier in those situations.

    When I visit new mom friends, I always bring healthy breakfast items (because no one ever remembers breakfast when bringing things!) and a big bouquet of flowers (already in a vase so she doesn’t have to find one), I always give the counters in the kitchen and bathroom a quick wipe-down, and I always take the trash/recycling out when I leave.

    • Jo says...

      My goodness, yes! you are an expert at this!

    • Julie says...

      AMEN to the trash and recycling!!!

    • A says...

      Please be my friend! A VASE! Omg the stress of finding a vase when your MiL is standing there with a big bunch of flowers! Someone needs to write a book about those hideous postpartum moments.

    • Robin says...

      Wow! Will you be my friend??

    • Oh my gosh, i’m feeling like a bad friend for not thinking of all these amazing things! I’m not a mom so a lot of them have never crossed my mind. So many ideas for the next friends who have babies!

  113. Katie says...

    Dry shampoo and face wipes! I also loved meals, take out gift cards, and chocolate. One of the nicest things anyone did was come over and do all of my laundry and put it away. Amazing.

  114. M says...

    I had my second baby four months ago and here’s what I remember from the hazy newborn time for both my first and second kid:

    1.) Food is a nice gift, but honestly, I never had an issue cooking simple meals for myself (or ordering takeout or having my husband cook) in the first six weeks. And I’m not a super mom so this wasn’t some amazing feat to accomplish. Also food, on its own, wasn’t the greatest gift. I more appreciated the friend who brought over pizza and hung out for a few hours after she got out of work. It felt more normal and less of a charity project. We just chomped on pizza, chatted, and took turns gushing over the baby. So if you’re going to go the food route, I say keep it simple and make it more about hanging out then stuffing a freezer.

    2.) A professional massage in a fancy spa was the best present ever. My husband bought me two gift cards. I used the first before the baby was born when I was feeling achy and humongously uncomfortable. I used the second when the baby was about four weeks old and my back was aching from hunching over while breastfeeding. (It’s not always easy to have great posture when nursing.)

    3.) Cleaning is so nice, but only if you aren’t particular…or super hormonal. My dad and his wife came to stay with us for a week after my second was born. They wanted to help out and felt like they should make up for lost time since they live so far away. They cooked and cleaned and it was mostly nice, except that I was super sleep deprived, crazy hormonal, and newly particular about silly things. I only said thank you and held back the urge to nitpick, because: how awful is that? But boy did I get frustrated with not being able to find things that were put away in new places, etc. I know, I know – a champagne problem, but the time immediately following having a baby is not a rational time.

    4.) Another great gift was just being kept in the loop within my circle of people. Getting texts and emails about everything from bad dates to tv shows kept me feeling normal. I began to feel like I had fallen into this void of mommy-ness, and keeping the same pre-baby connection with my friends meant everything. Also, emails are great because it’s not as invasive (to me, at least) if your sleeping, getting a baby to sleep, or just having a moment to yourself.

    • Esther says...

      I had my first baby five months ago, and couldn’t agree more! My husband did all the cooking and cleaning, and I think it made him feel useful in those first few weeks.

      I’d also like to add that while receiving flowers feels like a treat, by the time you get to your fifth bouquet you’ve run out of vases, the time to cut the ends off and arrange them and the space to show them off.

      We live abroad, so for most of my friends, doing something practical wasn’t really an option. I think the nicest present I got was from a good friend who sent me a shoe box filled to the brim with things for me and the baby: some hand me downs for the baby, a giant bar of my favourite chocolate, a book of poetry about becoming a mom, assorted tea bags, etc. It was such a thoughtful gift, thinking about it still makes me teary eyed.

    • E says...

      Re: #3 — nothing weird or “champagne” about this. Postpartum hormones affect everyone differently. My SIL had major PP OCD, as did I, but to a lesser extent. Someone cleaning my apartment or cooking in my kitchen literally sent me over the edge. It felt so invasive.

  115. Tee says...

    When I had my boys, it felt kind of lonely and overwhelming. So, I would heartily recommend to just visit your friend, hold the baby, talk about normal things, or go grocery shopping with her and the baby or, just, I don’t know, pop that mom-bubble…and remind her that she is still, you know, her.

  116. Celeste says...

    Like the letter and the beauty ideas. I’m not sure when a whole book would get read, though. You are busy 24/7.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh yes, these books are fun stories/essays, so you can read one here and there. definitely not a full book -> impossible!

    • Angela says...

      My sister read a lot while breastfeeding and loved getting funny, easy reads from friends :)

      I’m also a huge reader and she got me two fun ones she loved.

  117. Anna says...

    A new-mom friend recently asked me to go over and play with her baby for a few hours — not to baby-sit because I cannot be trusted with a newborn — but just to watch the baby so she could do normal things around the house like take a long shower and cook dinner. I was more than happy to snuggle and play with her little girl while she enjoyed some time to herself without actually being away from her kid. Sometimes it’s amazing how little we need to do to help someone out. :)

  118. Beth says...

    My neighbor recently had her third baby and after she had been home for three weeks, I texted her asking if I could bring her family a meal, if they had any allergies or dislikes…however I never got a response. The other day, I saw her walking around with the stroller and we chatted briefly about her new baby but my text never came up. Should I just consider she got busy and maybe forgot to respond? Should I try to do something else to help her or just drop it since maybe she doesn’t want the help? Not sure.

    • Angela says...

      I actually had a similar situation with my neighbor! I’m going to go with she got busy and didn’t want to put the brainpower into responding. I think if I were you I might still drop off a little bag of snacks, lunch or breakfast items, but maybe not a meal since she didn’t answer you on that. Just some clementines, trail mix, La Croix, etc. ! Just my two cents, I’m sure it would be a treat for them!

    • Laura says...

      I bet she forgot about your text! My friend who recently had a baby responded to my congrats text a week after saying she vaguely remembered someone telling her I had sent a message but she never remembered seeing the text or remembered to reply.

    • Kerri says...

      Always assume the best when it comes to communication with a woman who just had a baby :)

      I have three little ones and either I respond right away or immediately forget. It’s never anything personal, just my attention being pulled away…. far faaaaaar away. So, I say graciously reach out again.

    • shannon says...

      With three kids it’s a safe bet she got busy and forgot to respond! I second the idea to drop off a basket of easy snacks. With two other littles running around (and especially if she’s breastfeeding), some convenient, ready to go snacks may be even more helpful than a full meal.

    • Trish says...

      I was really weird about meals after babies – I wanted to cook and it made me feel like I could continue to care for my family. And accepting dinner offers felt like I couldn’t do that. But I bet you a lot of money that if you just showed up with healthy snacks for both her and kids (and maybe indulgent ones for her), and/or offered to take older kids to the park or just play with them for a few hours, she’d appreciate it. The less thinking and planning for her, the better.

    • Mel says...

      She may have forgotten, or felt awkward being asked to tell you what to bring. I know for me, as much as I truly appreciated people asking me if they could bring anything, I always felt bad and semi – awkward. It felt to me like I was “putting in an order” and it took way too much brainpower. I know I might be wrong and in the minority but I loved when people just brought something to eat, no matter what it was because if we couldn’t use it one of our thousand visitors did!

    • Abesha1 says...

      Next time, text 2 choices of what you’ll bring. She can then choose or decline.

  119. Mischu says...

    My sister in law gave me a gorgeous kimono-style robe. I had my ratty old robe and I was planning on living in it during my mat. leave…enter the kimono. I felt dressed-up but comfortable and feeding time was a breeze as well.

  120. Cheryl says...

    I second the cheese, easy but luxurious beauty products, and fuzzy socks.

    A year later, I’m still eternally grateful to the folks who got us:
    -Gift cards to seamless and amazon
    -The practical items on the registry (wipes, diapers, breast pump accessories)
    -Baby clothes in larger sizes than 3-6mo and items that are easy to forget (the friend of my mom’s who bought socks is still a hero in our house)
    -Friends and family who didn’t just “leave me to bond” but checked in, with no pressure to reply, and chatted about topics in addition to babies!

  121. Suz says...

    A blow wave! And babysitting when she gets it. New mums hair starts to shed so someone to wash your hair properly and a head massage makes you feel brand new!

  122. Magazines.

    New Mums are too tired to read much, especially anything that requires too much brain space, but magazines can provide a great momentary escape – especially the ‘trashy’ ones that we wouldn’t normally read, but that satisfy a little guilty pleasure!

    • Emily says...

      Yes! When my 4th baby got really sick at 5 weeks old and spent a week in the hospital, a friend of my husband visited us there and brought me a gift bag with several magazines and Milano cookies. My fear-filled brain welcomed the simple distraction and those cookies were about the only thing I could stomach at the time. It was a very simple gift but it brought so much comfort at a really stressful and difficult time.

  123. em says...

    I received a new pair of comfy sweatpants, and a super-soft loose-fitting shirt (perfect for breast feeding). Since I spent the first few weeks after giving birth in sweatpants, it was such a treat to have something new and cozy to wear.

    • Lisa says...

      That sounds so perfect!

  124. Christina says...

    More than anything, listen and go for it. My dad died last week, and my sister couldn’t come to our hometown or to the service because she has a newborn. My cousin ordered each of us pizza delivery (long-distance) and it was so sweet and thoughtful.
    I also got my sister a set of these paper blinds for the nursery after I visited and saw she had a pillowcase taped up. “I like my Roman shades and don’t want to replace them, but I need sunshine, and I also need the mailman to not see my boobs.” Highly recommend – they look really nice and do the trick! https://smile.amazon.com/Original-Filtering-Pleated-Shade-6-Pack/dp/B000SDX54M/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1523914028&sr=8-2&keywords=paper+blinds

    • Tee says...

      I am so sorry for your loss. ❤️

  125. em says...

    i am pregnant and drooling over the cheese gift certificate idea. i also think a service like blue apron could be nice for busy parents who don’t want to meal plan

  126. Michelle says...

    My cousin sent me a set of soft pajamas, and I lived in them in those early days. It felt amazing to put on something luxurious that also looked cute when I was otherwise covered in milk and spit and completely over maternity clothes.

  127. Hannah says...

    I think all the suggestions above are lovely and heartfelt!
    I would add my own; definitely come and visit when the parents welcome you, and do all those nice things, but consider checking in again around 5-6 weeks postpartum. That’s after the main rush of adrenaline and oxytocin have worn off, sleep deprivation effects are really roaring, and housework is likely lagging behind.
    A meal, a load of laundry, scrubbing a toilet, or holding the baby so mom can take a full nap= so much life. (especially if baby is colicky)
    I dealt with severe, debilitating postpartum anxiety that kicked in around 4 weeks, and went undiagnosed for months; those few (one or two) people that checked in after ‘the glow’ wore off were absolute saviors and I’ll never forget it.
    Sometimes in memory, I’ll have a pizza delivered to a new mom at 11pm when I know she’s sore, tired and hungry, and is up feeding her baby anyway.
    Moms know.

    • Jess says...

      Oh my goodness YES. I began to realize that I had PPD around 4-6 weeks postpartum, but the newness of having a baby had worn off for most of the people around me. I found early motherhood so overwhelming & shocking, but it was hard to reach out for help past the first week or so. I think I felt ashamed, like I should have it all together by six weeks. Checking in on a new mom after one, two, or three months postpartum is a true gift.

    • Lexy says...

      YES- agree as to the 5 weeks after baby. That is when things got so much harder for me. It was almost “easier” in the very beginning because everyone is checking in and stopping by, but saviors were friends who came over mid-week with dinner after the initial rush. Really appreciated a quick dinner with them because was nice to have human contact and they just decided what to bring (after checking in as to preferences) so I didn’t have to think about it (since was too exhausted to make decisions). And stayed to do the dishes after dinner!

      Also friends that stayed later in night (like 9pm) to hold the baby a bit while he was fussy (and husband was traveling for work) was life-saving. Late at night was always so hard for me.

  128. Kristin says...

    I love the Dutch tradition of wrapping up ten small gifts FOR THE MOTHER that is opened one a day after coming home from the hospital. One of my best friends (who is Dutch) did that for me with my first and its so comforting to look forward to after a sleepless night.

    Also I would have loved to get this book just to laugh out loud at the absurdity of it all.
    https://www.amazon.com/Mama-Tried-Dispatches-Underbelly-Parenting/dp/1455558230

  129. Sara says...

    A session with a coach through http://www.pre-conceive.com. A friend of mine actually gave this to me during my pregnancy and i was able to book a lactation coach to come to my home right after the baby was born!

  130. Sarah Beth says...

    2 things were really meaningful to me in the weeks after I had my daughter. First, food sent to me without my having to do anything about it. One of my girlfriends brought over greek chicken with pita (Which my husband is STILL talking about 2.5 years later!), and another friend living in London sent dominos delivery to my house! That greasy dominos was the best, and I still get teary when I think about being so bored and tired and overwhelmed and the doorbell rang at like, 10am and there was pizza!
    The other was a girlfriend who texted me, unprompted, when I was a few days post-partum to let me know it’s totally normal to cry 24 hours a day and cabbage in your bra will make your boobs feel better. Seeing her sweet and funny text made me burst into tears all over again.
    We got a million presents, but that’s what stands out!

  131. Definitely the cuddle the baby so I can have a shower! Or take the toddler to the park for a bit. But also a really good friend who has been invited knows you’re just too tired to cope with much chat and leaves the present (a beautiful tiny bottle of gin for my birthday which was three days after baby number two) after a quick cuddle and says she’ll come back in a couple of days.

  132. Lisa says...

    New pajamas that are cozy and nursing-friendly, if she’s nursing. Food, whether that’s showing up with groceries or a meal delivery service. Just showing up, holding the baby, and doing the laundry while she naps and showers.

  133. Miranda says...

    We had so many delicious, convenient meals delivered, it was wonderful. One of my favorite “gifts,” though, was when my sister and her husband came over to take our dogs for long walks. It was a huge help since pets can really take a back seat once a new baby arrives!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that’s such a thoughtful gift!

    • Chaz says...

      Oh gosh, yes THIS. I’m due in June and I’m worried my dog won’t get walked enough. So thoughtful to think of the furry family members too!

  134. jill c. says...

    a scarf….or something that just feels good next to her skin (pretty pajamas or something of the sort). I always liked having a pretty scarf to help me feel put together (b/c i was never feeling that way when the kids were super little) plus it acted as a cover-up while nursing… Also – as noted in the post about beauty products – something that feels luxurious but that can be used every day like a hand cream (aesop has some nice ones)…

  135. Cate says...

    I almost never buy friends baby things. Many of my friends are so fortunate to be swimming in new baby stuff, most of which is actually useless. Instead, I opt for nice, nursing friendly pajamas, a Starbucks gift card to hit the drive thru during a car nap or a Target gift card with explicit instructions NOT to use it for baby stuff, but on something for herself, preferably roaming the store alone while someone else takes the baby.

    • Cate says...

      Forgot to include offering to take older kids for a few hours if this isn’t her first because we all know that babies are the easy ones.

  136. catherine nelson says...

    If she is a first time mom and breastfeeding, like I was, the gift of a lactation consultant was a life saver. I now put together a little basket of things that helped me with breastfeeding like a heating pad with a calming scent, nipple cream, Lansinoh Soothing Gel Pads, a water bottle, a little mini fridge to keep by the bed (so she doesn’t have to trek to the kitchen during midnight feedings/pumping sessions), and tons of snacks. I also received the book “Work. Pump. Repeat” and found it super encouraging.

  137. Lindsey says...

    I wrote a letter of comfort only to be opened after 2 AM, when completely exhausted and overwhelmed, and convinced that you don’t know how to mother. In the letter I assured her that we all felt this way, that this too would pass, and that she is beautiful and wise and strong. It was a hit!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that is the sweetest, sweetest thing, lindsey.

  138. Alice says...

    A voucher to her favourite store (that doesn’t sell baby stuff). My best friend appreciated this, she splurged on exactly what she wanted. I also gave her marshmallows which she still talks about. Someone gave me the L’Occitane Shea body lotion which is dreamy and luxurious, but it was the friend who brought me bog standard groceries, hugs, cups of tea, and then washed the dishes before she left who won the most gold stars! So the ultimate gift – a dishwasher!

  139. Natalie says...

    #1.) Gift card to a meal delivery service so you can get take-out from the place that your heart desires!

    #2.) Muffins with fiber for the hospital post delivery… Because constipation is less fun after delivering a baby ? and the hospital usually has few/no high fiber choices.

  140. Kristina says...

    Food! Definitely :) I like to give a hearty main dish and then sides/Ice cream and wine. Maybe throw in some energy bars or breakfast items as well. Meals like this were lifesavers for me after having my twins. Also, I received a beautiful, cozy robe and I think that was the sweetest and most practical gift. I second the idea of dry shampoo and a pretty nail polish (mostly for her toes since her hands will be busy!). And the gift of your time so she can shower, rest or do something nice for herself. I love caring for a new mama! It’s such a wild, upside-down time xo

  141. Rachel says...

    My new favorite go-to is a gift certificate for house cleaning. No one wants to do that while taking care of a little one.

    • NN says...

      YES!

  142. Jessica says...

    I love this! As a second-time mom of a newborn, and friend of those with newborns, I think about this a lot! And I will always remember the friends/relatives who did little things that “saved me” when my first was a newborn. The gift that made me cry was “fancy” shower gel and lotion from my mom. It’s amazing what a luxury showering becomes when you have a baby (or, let’s be real, kids in general). Having those small luxuries when I do get to shower (maybe even with the door closed!) is the best.
    I also second food as a gift, especially things that can be eaten with one hand, or hearty dinners that can stretch a couple days. I recently discovered that Williams-Sonoma has nice freezer meals that can be delivered anywhere in the country. These are my new go-to new mom gift.
    But the best gift of all is the gift of time and freedom! Go over and do the dishes, the laundry, and hold the baby and send her to shower, nap, or leave the house by herself for a bit.

    • Amen to all of this. I had a friend make homemade pasta sauce and brought dry, fancy pasta from Italy that I had that for days!

    • Golden Moon says...

      As a mother of two children I agree, the gift of FREEDOM/Free time is at the top of my gratitude list in those early months and always!

  143. Emma says...

    I love a gift card to a nearby restaurant that delivers. It feels like such a treat to order out and have it be exactly what we want when we want it.

    I also always make granola bars – I adapt the smitten kitchen recipe with applesauce, flax, chopped prunes (you know, those good things that help you poop). People often bring dinner food so its nice bring this one-handed sustenance for middle of the night, or early morning or anytime, really, because what is time with a new baby but one long, unending day?

    Finally – my favorite new mom gifts: a nice air freshener spray, dry shampoo, chapstick, a water carafe for my bedside table, a pretty robe (so you don’t feel like such a bum), fun nail polish color, fresh flowers (you’re home a lot and its nice to have something to look at), plus a note that simply says “you’ve got this”

    • Avalanche Lake says...

      YES to things that can be eaten one-handed! Granola bars, muffins, apples, bananas, smoothies, cheese sticks, lactation cookies, baked goods, trail mix, frozen burritos (I love Martha Stewart’s recipe for this), etc.! For the weeks when you feel like you’re just under a nursing baby all day long.

      We brought food to friends last summer that included a nice big salad that was all ready to go–everything washed and chopped, vinaigrette in a jar. Plus fruit already washed (to eat right away). They loved it because most of the food deliveries had been frozen or stewed things that could be easily kept but didn’t taste fresh.

  144. elizabeth says...

    When I had my twins meals were SO appreciated. I had a few family members and friends that brought meals over that we were able to just reheat and it was the best thing ever. Now whenever a friend has a baby I always bring them a meal.

  145. ellie says...

    I would venture an offer of kind words of reality: a new baby isn’t all rainbows and unicorns; at least not for all of us. Without bursting anyone’s new motherhood bubble: listen, hear, assess, and offer the opportunity for a new mom to share openly and honestly without judgement. As a new mom with horrific postpartum depression, I felt inordinate shame regarding my internal dialogue. I thought I should be madly in love with this red-faced crying vomiting mass of energy, and I wasn’t. I believed my infant daughter deserved far better: another family. Not to say that everyone feels this way, because thank goodness they don’t. But one thing I have vowed since that time: be open and aware so you can be a listening, nonjudgmental ear. Give them an opening to express the worries, frustrations, exasperations that are either a small or large part of those early days. I can speak openly about this now, but it took me years to get over the guilt I held inside. For those now worrying: I did finally fall in love with my gorgeous bundle, some days by sheer will, and count myself now amongst a fortunate group of happy, fascinated, challenged, joyful mothers of a school-aged child. Of course, I’d also recommend taking the baby for a long walk so she can have a looooong luxurious shower :)

    • Jessica says...

      Thank you for sharing this! Support is the best gift anybody can give, but not everybody knows how to provide it. Listening and validating, acknowledging how hard this is! What I’ve learned, too, as a mom and a friend of other moms, is that it is hard in such different ways for different people. Being open and non-judgmental is so important. Thank you for your perspective.

    • Ramona says...

      I agree with this 100%. I also had postpartum depression, and never told anyone about it because no one ever asked. I thought there was no point in seeking help because there wasn’t anything anyone could do. Now, I always ask new mom friends about their mental health and volunteer to do the leg work of connecting them with a therapist or support group if needed.

    • Tess says...

      Amen to this. Wise words. I too had PND (PTSD) after the traumatic birth of my twins. I kept it hidden for a year because I worried people would take me babies away from me. A year of being SO frightened about not being a good mother.
      Now I always make sure I listen and, a few weeks in, ask new mothers “How are you feeling physically?” Most new mothers will open up about stitches or sore boobs and sleeplessness, and it makes it easier to follow on with “And how are you feeling emotionally”.
      In terms of gifts, I never send flowers but mountains of cakes and biscuits from an amazing (UK) cake delivery company. And when I visit I come with hand cream (you never stop washing your hands with a new baby) and one of those thermal mug thingies – a safe way to have a hot drink when you’re holding/feeding a baby as you can sip it, one-handed, through
      the lid. Plus it can take hours to get round to drinking your cup of tea or coffee or herb tea when you’ve got a newborn stapled to you, so this way you still get a warm drink.

    • Katie says...

      Yes to this. I didn’t share my post-partum depression with anyone – I didn’t really want to admit to myself that that’s what I was experiencing.

  146. Lane says...

    Offer to fold her laundry or clean the bathroom. My mom came over while both of my boys were newborns and did this for me – and sometimes when we’re sick, she’ll still do it! It’s amazing how just having a stack of clean, folded clothes can make such a difference in your life.

    Also, hold the baby so she can get a shower and go to the bathroom.

    • Jes says...

      A friend of mine always folded a load of laundry after holding the baby. Might have been my favorite “gift”.

  147. Steph says...

    The book “The Fifth Trimester” would make a lovely gift and is so so so helpful.

  148. Sandra says...

    Food! We had friends come to meet the baby and brought us bagels, cream cheese, OJ, and prosecco. I think we ate the leftover bagels for breakfast/lunch/dinner for a couple of days since we were just too exhausted to make anything else.