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Have a Great Weekend.

Have a Great Weekend.

Today is the first day of fall!!!! Whoot whoot! What are you up to this weekend? We’re going to UCB’s ASSSSCAT improv comedy show on Sunday. Have you ever been? Every time we’ve gone, our stomachs hurt afterward from laughing so much. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

The evolution of women in stock photos. Bravo!

My friend Ben made these cool pins.

The story behind the greatest Internet recipe comment of all time.

I’ve been wearing this shirt on repeat this month.

Who wants some Wednesday cake? Because “there may be no more mundane celebration than a Wednesday night.”

The first trailer for Wes Anderson’s Isle of Dogs.

Fun beds for kids.

Choosing to be on your own. (“You can be lonely in a crowd, a bed can feel emptier with the wrong person in it.”)

How emotions are made.

A gravity blanket for sleep, stress and anxiety.

Plus, two great reader comments:

Says C on four fun things: “Last year, I realized that all door locks open by turning the key away from the door jamb. I’d never thought about the logic before, so I seriously thought that every single lock was just a 50/50 chance of being clockwise or counter-clockwise. I got my honors bachelor degree before I figured out how doors work. DOORS.”

Says Jen on how to talk to kids: “I’ve always enjoyed talking with kiddos, but I have a friend who is REALLY good at it. When my three-year-old nephew Jack visited us, my husband and I took him over to this friend’s house for dinner. Before we ate, my friend and Jack were sitting down on the floor playing with some toy Jack had brought along. After a while, he looked up at my friend and said, ‘So, are you the only other kid here?'”

(Photo by Olivia Rae James. Loneliness via Kottke.)

  1. Jane says...

    I have literally never known about that door lock thing. I’m floored. I also shared this with my husband, who had no idea either. Now we both notice it on every door we lock/unlock!

  2. Natalie says...

    I have compassion for reader C’s comment. I made it all the way to 31 and through a masters degree, before I had an epiphany one night while rocking my then infant son to sleep in the middle of the night: Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star is the same tune as the A,B,C’s. REVOLUTIONARY my friends. Or at least that’s how it felt. ;)

    • karen says...

      OMG I am older than you and I never realized that before!

    • Anna says...

      Me neither! Wow!

  3. Leah says...

    Those reader comments are the BEST! The key realisation is mindblowing haha and the little kid’s comment is so cute. I love that you share these :)

  4. Sasha says...

    Re the gravity blanket coveters. Just get a dog ;)

    Our border collie lab mix, Mr Ed, sleeps across our legs, doing pretty much the same thing as the blanket. He seems to think he’s a therapy dog. When one of us is upset, he lies beside and puts a paw on leg or foot. He also leans into anxious children, so they’ll pet him and calm themselves.

  5. Erzsi says...

    It’s so funny to read C’s comment about door locks. This exact topic has actually been on my mind often lately. My best friend recently sustained a severe spinal cord injury in a terrible accident; I’ve been spending a lot of time with him in the hospital while we all grapple with his new reality as a quadriplegic. The bathroom next to his hospital room has a lock that locks by turning it away from the doorframe–the first time I’d ever encountered such a thing. It’s been such a godsend because it’s distracting enough that I can spend a minute or so contemplating it every time I take a bathroom break. Those few minutes a day are some of the only that my brain gets a break from being consumed by thoughts of my friend and his condition. You never know what little things you will find yourself feeling grateful for in challenging times. For me, that distractingly quirky lock is one of the silliest and most welcome!

    • Sasha says...

      I read (I think it was in a book called The Happiness Hypothesis) that we all have a base line for happiness, no matter what happens to its. We may experience a momentary surge, or fall, but inevitably we go back to our happy set point. The examples used were winning the lottery (so happy right after, but go back to previous level), and becoming paralyzed (same, huge drop, but eventual return to normal level).

      Somehow I can accept the lottery idea, but the parapalegic one is so hard to accept. There is research to back this, but….

      Sending you hope, for your friend and for yourself in bearing witness to his journey.

  6. Oh fun! I’m a UCB student in LA (have to postpone my 301 class after getting a speeding ticket, oof) and we have to go see two shows during each of our sections (101, 201, etc). I always try to make sure at least one of them is ASSSCAT! But so many of their other shows are amazing, too- keep an eye on their calendar for good stuff throughout the week!

  7. My friend’s dad’s company has actually been making the (first) weighted blanket for over a decade and it seriously makes me feel wonderful. I’m an anxious person and can sometimes have a hard time falling asleep and this is a huge help.

    Check it out at MagicWeightedBlanket.com!

  8. Janet says...

    Growing up in blue collar New Hampshire, my parents kept the thermostat LOW during the winter and I always slept under a heaping layer of quilts and afghans to keep out the chill. Once the blankets warmed up, it was a heavenly cocoon. During the hot summer months, I still can’t fall asleep until it cools off enough during the night to pull on the covers. I just may indulge in this new magical blanket you’ve discovered.

  9. Chelsea says...

    I’m a real estate agent, and doors have become the bane of my existence! Lol. They all open in different ways. :P

  10. Lindsay says...

    Would love you guys to try out the gravity blanket and let readers know how it is from an unbiased perspective

  11. To C, regarding door locks– technically your previous understanding of the lock was completely valid. If what you say is true (about the unlocking motion relative to the door jam), it is a 50/50 chance of it being a CW or CCW rotation– it all depends on the location of the doorknob, whether it’s on the right or the left of the door. :-))))

  12. Sarah T says...

    Isle of Dogs looks cute, but I can never really get past Wes Anderson’s exploitation of Asian culture. Why does the film need to be set in Japan, aside from aesthetics, and then by that logic, why make the whole cast voiced by white people? Similarly, the Darjeeling Limited with its portrayal of Indian culture and the Grand Budapest Hotel.

    Wes Anderson loves to otherize Asian culture and whitewash movies that exploit it as “unique” and “exotic,” but never anything more (certainly he doesn’t respect these cultures enough to merit a minority main character who isn’t somewhat mocked). Disappointing that he couldn’t even make a film about dogs without tarnishing it with whitewashing and subtle racism.

  13. C says...

    I thought I was finally getting my life together but after all these comments I’m less confident than ever about my door unlocking abilities. I guess I have to go back to memorizing key directions now!

    I think maybe it’s a rule of thumb when installing locks, to install them so they unlock away from the side the door opens on, but not an enforced standard. Also I’ve only ever lived in Canada and Europe so maybe locks are more consistent there? I DONT KNOW, MAN. If this door fiasco has taught me anything, it’s that you can’t count on anything and that doors are dumb and I might hate doors now.

  14. Aw! I love the kid comment. What a good reminder to be more childlike.

  15. Lauren says...

    Believe it or not, my apartment’s door opens by turning the key TOWARDS the door jamb. I’ve lived here a year and a half, and still get it wrong half the time.

    • Z says...

      Yep. I had to come here and comment on that too. Haha both my front door and apartment door open like that. The “wrong” way.

    • Heather says...

      My doorknob unlocks by turning the key towards the jamb, while the deadbolt underneath it unlocks by turning the key away from the jamb. A house divided, if you will.

  16. Ann says...

    I thought the gravity blanket sounded like a great idea, and I love that this one is sized for one person. In checking out that particular Kickstarter project, it sounds like there are lots of unhappy backers who are starting to wonder (as of the comments to an update on September 14) if they will ever receive their blanket. Apparently they are not getting any responses about when they will be shipped, requests for photos of the production process, changes to shipping address, vague or no updates, etc. A few backers suggested that it may even be a scam. I love Kickstarter and have backed a few projects on the site, but this number of unhappy backers makes me a bit wary. It may be fine, but… all this to say, I am definitely interested in one of these weighted blankets, but I am looking at options that have already come to market.

    • Courtney says...

      Weighted blankets are on the market! My mom has Alzheimer’s and often shakes with anxiety, so we got her one. It has been helpful with her anxiety. It’s not the same brand as the one linked to here, but I will look into the brand and where we found it for you!

    • vanessa says...

      I purchased a weighted blanket last year on etsy and love it. There are lots of sellers there.

  17. This gravity blanket/duvet is nothing new. We have had it in Poland for many years.
    Take care!

  18. JO says...

    It gives me hope that my daughter is growing up in a world where her internet search for “woman” will bring forth an image of a strong woman on a mountaintop before one of her napping naked or laughing alone with a salad!!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes!!

  19. Have fun at ASSSCAT! I went with my friend last month and Adam Pally (of The Mindy Project) was the special guest – what a surprise!

  20. CB says...

    Oh I loved the brownie comment ……

    • Sasha says...

      Me too! ! Especially the happy ending.

  21. I love all of these – Infinity Pride, the brownie recipe story (shocker!), and the evolution of women in stock photos, are all awesome. My sister is a NASA funded scientist, who is a bada$$ woman – so I sent her the stock photos article because I knew she’d love it. The weighted blanket is interesting. I can’t sleep without a comforter and I’m convinced it’s the feeling of vulnerability and exposure to the dark (and possible vampires). I wonder though if it would make me too hot, as I’m a heated sleeper.

    I hope you have a great time at UCB! We went to Photoville in Dumbo tonight, which was awesome, I highly recommend it!

    http://www.shessobright.com

  22. KarenJ says...

    My go to brownie recipe came courtesy of Cup of Jo “The Best Salted Caramel Brownies You’ll Ever Have”. I’ve made them many times since that post and they are so, so heavenly. Guests look at me like I’m Julia Child reincarnated. I think some may have considered a slow clap after the first bite.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yay, so glad to hear it!

  23. Helen says...

    That brownie story! OMG that needs to be made into a film!

  24. Bridget says...

    Haha yes I’ve always wanted my own Merlin!

  25. Brittany says...

    Joanna, if there’s one thing I know about you from following this blog it’s that you love a striped shirt! ?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahaha #busted

  26. Karin says...

    I just looked up “Katherine Hepburn’s brownie recipe” and did you know that it is actually from the 1950s Better Homes & Gardens cookbook? (The one with the red plaid cover) I know because I’ve made it so many times I memorized it!

  27. Teree says...

    Did you buy that gravity blanket? I am tempted.

  28. Katie says...

    I loved that article on loneliness. I’ve lived alone for 10 years. There are pros and cons to it. I’ve had the best dates with myself where I go on art gallery strolls, go to a classical music concert and leave early if I’m nodding off, and go look at Christmas lights in the snow. I don’t have to wonder if we parked too far away to walk, if they’re too cold, or where to meet back in the crowded square after I have to go to the bathroom suddenly. I go home smiling and totally satisfied. I spontaneously make jam in the summer with no clothes on and watch movies at 3am. But there are also the days I fall down the stairs and lay at the bottom, unhurt, but wondering if I was injured how long it would be before anyone wondered where I was. (3 days) Or the day I put my favorite nephew as my beneficiary and realized my death wouldn’t alter the direction of anyone’s life with anything but sadness and it might actually make a few lives better. Maybe he could use my life insurance to go to a better college. I like the whale. He keeps swimming and singing his own songs. I wonder what he’d think if he knew so many others were watching him. Would it be like me when some married with kids friends gush at bookclub night about how jealous they are of my life. You’re aware of me???

    • Jo says...

      Hi Katie,
      I wanted to let you know that your comment moved me. Whatever you choose to do, I hope it brings you peace.
      Thinking of you and sending you positive vibes..
      – Jo

    • Katie says...

      The fact that someone wrote a reply to my comment about loneliness and people watching the lonely from a distance make my heart drop. It was like the feeling of opening the door to a surprise party for you. Happiness mixed with a little shock and a quick tear. This made my day. Maybe my week. It might be on the highlight real for my year. Thank you. You have validated a tiny part of my heart.

    • Sasha says...

      Jo, same. Katie, so many paths to happiness, I wish you all the best.

  29. Vicki says...

    Oh, I was in college before I figured out how people know what day Cinco de Mayo’s going to fall on … *forehead slap*

    • Same! You are not alone :)

    • Meredith says...

      My birthday is May 6th, and someone asked me once if it would be on cinco de Mayo next year since I was one day off this year.

    • Sasha says...

      I thought there was a town in California called La Hoya, and also one called La Jolla (pronounced with an English j and ll). Finally asked my husband (who is from California) about it one day. He still teases.

  30. Sarah says...

    So I’m reporting back after trying the “how to talk to kids” post. Someone in the comments said you can always ask them what they are going to be for Halloween, so at a wedding reception last night I went out of my comfort zone and asked one of the kids. His mom said, “He doesn’t know what Halloween is. He is one.”

    FAIL.

    • E says...

      LOLLL. If it makes you feel any better, I went to a restaurant recently with our baby (6 months old, very clearly still in baby stage) and the waitress asked if we wanted a kid’s menu. Still makes me laugh!

    • Sarah says...

      That does make me feel a little better, E! Sort of… although I could see myself doing the same thing as that waitress! I’ve never had any interest in kids, so maybe I should just accept that and steer clear of them. Lol

  31. Funnily enough, I have two locks on my front door, and they open in opposite directions! She shouldn’t feel so bad. You’d *think* they should all open by turning right, but they don’t!

    • Sasha says...

      Mallory, omg!!!
      Apocalypse? ? I’ll say.
      I read it twice ;) And next time I’m tempted to read the comments on a post (anywhere but here! ) I’ll just read this instead.

    • Katie says...

      This was a really really entertaining thread with the interjections by the guy posting it. I loved it!

  32. Simone says...

    I have found the door/key thing to be true in Europe, but not in the US. Confused the heck out of me when I first moved here ?

  33. Colleen says...

    my husband is just like that wonderful friend with little kids. he has several best friends who are under 8 years old.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that is so cute, colleen.

  34. Jess says...

    Unfortunately for the door lock comment, I have a handle lock and a deadbolt on the same door. One opens clock-wise and the other opens counter-clockwise. So…not always. It how the lock was installed that matters.

  35. Laura says...

    Another to add, not all doors open away from the door jamb! I live in a flat building where the outside door opens away but then my own front door inside the building opens towards the door jamb. It’s so disorienting! My aunt’s door is the same. Such a funny thing!

    • Taylor says...

      My apartment building is exactly the same! First key goes left, second key goes right!

    • Lauren says...

      Same! I get it wrong ALL the time!

  36. Emmie says...

    Are you the only other kid here = I spit out my lunch food onto my laptop. Too good. (My aunt was like that, played with me for hours).

  37. BV says...

    If it makes that commenter feel any better, my friend front door opens by turning TOWARDS the door jam!

    • BV says...

      “My” front door, not “my friend” front door.

  38. Michelle says...

    My 23 year old daughter has anxiety and since I bought her a weighted blanket she sleeps so much better. She likes it so much she uses it during the day while relaxing. At 14lb it is heavy but I tried sleeping under it and found it comfortable. Just wish they weren’t so expensive or I would buy them for the whole family.

  39. Rachel H says...

    my door unlocks by turning the key towards the doorjamb!

  40. So. I love the idea of a weighted blanket but the big question: is it hot? I’m a hot sleeper but love blankets and usually have to sleep with light blankets so that I get the comfort aspect without being sweaty when I wake up.

  41. Carol says...

    What is the door jam? Help, haha

  42. Alex says...

    The lock comment is sweet, but not actually true. Many deadbolts work that way, but not all. And knob locks can turn either way. (Mine is an example). There is no USA standard for direction of key turn. It also depends on how the contractor/locksmith installs it – In Europe they often install it so the key hole is what us American’s consider is “upside down”.

    Also, this is the nerdiest comment I’ve ever left on any online forum.

  43. Callie says...

    I love that you’ve started sharing reader comments like this. Such a great community you’ve cultivated here!

  44. Melania says...

    My prewar NYC apartment has two locks – one requiring the key to turn toward the jamb and one away. So….maybe not.

    • Melania says...

      *On the same door!

  45. Kada says...

    I keep seeing that gravity blanket and I really want it but I’m balking at the price! I’m kind of hoping someone makes a knock-off that’s under $100….

    • Colleen says...

      me too. they look so tempting. I might ask Santa this year.

    • Thuy says...

      @Kada I also balked at the price and I did some googling and there are a couple of companies that make weighted blankets – the prices are actually comparable! A good one seems to be https://www.weightingcomforts.com/ and it looks like they work with a non-profit that employs refugees to make the blankets, which is pretty cool. I’ve read about weighted blankets being incredibly effective for individuals with autism. Another source geared towards kids: https://magicweightedblanket.com/

      I might go with the Gravity blanket because it claims to be temperature controlled to some degree.

  46. Nina says...

    Is my front door a rebel? I need to turn the key *towards* the door jam in order to unlock it!

  47. Kate says...

    #notallkeys I live on the left side of a double-shotgun house, and for the sake of symmetry, our doors were basically hung backwards. Which means that after twenty-something years of just being bad with locks, I finally have an excuse for never unlocking my door on the first try.

    • Meghan says...

      Yes!! The lock on my parent’s house was installed upside down for some reason and it turns the wrong way. I’ve been living away from home for six years now and I don’t see this ever changing.

    • Kelcey says...

      Hahahaha my parent’s house has the front door backwards. There’s no bolt lock, just the lock in the door handle and you turn the key AWAY from the latch. I think I’ll be trying to unlock doors backwards for the rest of my life.

    • Janine says...

      I’ll second that #notallkeys (which is hilarious). Whenever I house sit for my friends, I NEVER remember that their door unlocks by turning the key towards the door jamb. Mildly infuriating.

    • Hope says...

      “#notallkeys” I’m dying! hahaha

  48. Sasha says...

    That stock photo piece, wow! Really makes me happy today. For all of the little girls out there especially. Something hopeful.

    And that could be me in the hiking picture, which feels pretty awesome too. You can be alone, powerful, and happy.

  49. Heidi says...

    Regarding door locks- my office door unlocks with the key turning towards the door jamb and it is so disorienting. I intuitively turn the key away from the jamb first every. single. time.

  50. Sinds says...

    Both of those reader comments were amazing. I definitely didn’t know that about keys, and I laughed SO hard at that last reader comment.

  51. Megan Miles says...

    I have been to UCB’s ASSSSCAT show and it was amazing. I lucked out because they had a surprise MC that night – Jon Hamm – swoon city! My sister, Meredith Walker, founded Smart Girls (https://amysmartgirls.com) with Amy Poehler and they invited me with them to go out for drinks after the show with Jon and Seth Meyers. GREATEST NIGHT OF MY LIFE! Have fun!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      OMG MEGAN!!!!!!!! that is AMAZING.

  52. Kelly says...

    The gravity blanket is like a Merlin Magic Sleepsuit for grownups! When my daughter started getting out of her swaddle at night we transitioned to the Merlin and the weight of the Sleepsuit helped her sleep through her twitches and startle reflexes. It looks so funny, but also cozy, and my husband and I always joked that we wish they made adult versions. I should have known it was only a matter of time!

  53. Sarah W says...

    Just rushed to my front door to see which way the lock works. I literally had no idea. MY OWN FRONT DOOR.

    • Sherri says...

      Me too!?

  54. The Choosing Loneliness article reminded me of one of my favorite Richard Brautigan poems, Love Poem:
    It’s so nice
    to wake up in the morning
    all alone
    and not have to tell somebody
    you love them
    when you don’t love them
    any more.

    • Allison says...

      Ouf. That’s a doozy.

    • Katie says...

      wow…that…wow. Like part relief part sadness and a lot of thinking for such a short poem. I love it.

    • brianna says...

      Yep. I related, perhaps too closely, to the loneliness article. So often it’s just me, rolling through life. I fly solo 98% of the time, but really, I can’t imagine life any other way anymore. It’s not a sad life, but it’s not an over the moon happy one either.

    • t says...

      That poem just about knocked me over. And I still love my partner. I just miss alone time.