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What Are Your Pet Peeves? (I Have a Weird One.)

Seinfeld eye roll

I’m generally a pretty understanding person, but there are a few things that make me want to throttle everyone around me…


Yell sneezes.


Keys jingling.


Gum chewing.


Somebody unloading the dishwasher while you’re on the phone with them.


Cracking knuckles.

I realize that my pet peeves are all about sound, and they’re beyond a pet peeve. I actually have misophonia, a selective sound sensitivity syndrome. (Do you have it?) Basically, certain noises — like sniffing or chewing — can give you an intense fight-or-flight response. “The most dominant reaction is anger and anxiety, not disgust,” Dr. Sukhbinder Kumar, the lead researcher from the Institute of Neuroscience at Newcastle University, told the New York Times.

I first discovered that misophonia was a real thing (and not just me being weird/uptight) when I wrote a post on pet peeves in 2011. One of my annoyances was “the sound of eating bananas,” and someone commented, “Google ‘misophonia.’ For some, these small noises are merely irritating. For others, like me, it causes a physical reaction like rage.”

YES! When someone does a very loud sneeze, I literally want to punch them for a second. Of course, I know it’s my issue (not theirs), and I have to breathe deeply and wait for it to pass. It’s actually really stressful. Although it might sound unrelatable to many people, if you have it, you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about. My old co-worker used to call me “Princess and the Beep,” because the sound of clicking pens drove me bats. Unfortunately, there’s “no known effective treatment,” says Aage R. Moller, a neuroscientist at the University of Texas.

My friend Rony of Catbird also suffers from misophonia. “When someone new is hired, we have to tell them that gum chewing isn’t allowed. I put it in writing, so it makes me feel less weird. I try to keep it light and casual even though it sends me into a mania. Yeah, no big deal, it’s just this quirky thing I have!

What about you? Have you ever heard of this? Do you have misophonia?

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  1. kelli winter says...

    I never knew it had a name! Wow! I thought I was just really irritable.
    Crunching of potato chips, stirring macaroni and cheese, I literally have to just leave the room. It gets so under my skin I could scream, so I just leave, no one knows what my problem is.
    Now I know it’s a real thing, I just wish there was a way to make it stop!
    BTW mine came on with the beginning of peri-menopause.

  2. stefana says...

    very late to the party but had to chime in: bathroom faucets that are so short you’re basically rubbing your hands against the sink when you wash them and people drinking the wrong type of alcohol out of very specific types of glasses (a friend of mine poured red wine in a martini glass at my house and I thought I was going to have a stroke)

  3. shannon karas says...

    acronyms, OMG, LOL, FOMO, YOLO…kill me now! ;)

    • Jeanie says...

      yes, acronyms…I’m with you..OMG, LOL, etc. Also for me is clichés like, “been there done that” (I believe when you are telling a story and somebody puts there hand up and says this phrase negates they don’t want to hear it; And now it is “with that being said”..EVERYONE SAYS THAT….omg! Or “yeahno”

  4. anna says...

    One of mine is when people misuse words, like “you’re” instead of “your” and “site” instead of “sight”. Also, people who say “should/could of” instead of “should/could have”. And apostrophes in the wrong places, like when people send Christmas cards and say, “from the Smith’s!” There is no apostrophe, people.

    • Jessica says...

      Yes to all of these, especially the apostrophes! When did people forget how to use apostrophes?? It drives me absolutely bonkers. Another common misuse I’ve noticed is days of the week. Example, “On Monday’s I go to spin class.” Argh!!

  5. emmanuella says...

    When you’re at the beach or park or anywhere there is ample AMPLE room for people to spread out and someone sits, or lays or stands RIGHT. NEXT. TOYOU! Agghhhhhh, do I smell really good or something??

    (Creative grammar for emphasis. Sorry if that is someone’s pet peeve)

  6. Elizabeth says...

    Mine have to do with the restroom: the toilet paper has to roll over, not under. If I’m at a friend’s house, I’ll change it every time. I can’t stand when people don’t close the lid on the toilet and there’s a gaping hole staring at me when I walk in. Close the lid and flush. Also, you won’t drop things into the toilet if the lid is closed!

  7. Betsy says...

    Ooof. One of my co-workers cuts their nails at their desk and I want to scream it makes me so frustrated. Another loudly chomps on dorritos. I found out about misophonia about 2 years ago and have never identified with an article more in my life.

  8. Mine are all related to laziness. I live in the northeast US, and it drives me NUTS when people don’t clear the snow off the top of their cars then drive them around. The snow blows off and obscures the vision of people behind them, or it might compact and slide forward blocking their entire windshield if they stop short (which I’ve seen happen). Get a step school and clean your whole car off! Also, people who throw cigarette butts out of their cars (or anywhere really) and those who abandon shopping carts in random parts of the parking lot instead of their designated area.

  9. Lauren says...

    Gum chewing. I can’t. In church. At the movies. At a seminar. In meetings. I purposefully enter in late, quick scan the room, identify the gum chompers and sit as far away as physically possible.

    100% Misophonia. It’s so painful. I am a nice person I swear but I can and will give the look of death if someone decides to chomp, crack or pop their gum near me.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      YES! or omg bite their nails!!!! i want to die just thinking about it.

  10. Annie says...

    I have misophonia, too. I remember being so relieved to give a clinical name to frustrations I’ve had since i was young! I’ll add to the list: clicking/tapping pens in meetings or classes.

  11. DJ says...

    I’m a bit late on this, but people who make loud frustration noises. I don’t have misophonia and I try to be pretty chill about most things, but I hate when people scoff loudly, huff, pound/slam things, etc. Maybe it’s because growing up certain family members had a bad temper and would do these kind of things, but it’s like the one thing that bothers me enough to make me anxious. I used to do a lot of those things too when I was younger (I inherited the anger issues), but I’ve moved past it. It’s pretty unhealthy to seethe like that. It’s like dude, either just address the thing that’s making you angry, or chill out and move on. At one time I had a coworker who did this all the time and I was never sure if it was just a habit, if he was really angry, or if he was fishing for attention.

    Also when people complain about some minor inconvenience and expect me to empathize. I won’t be able to agree, so I end up not knowing how to respond. It leads to some awkwardness, but at least they typically stop pretty quickly.

    • stephanie says...

      i had a roommate who did this who was absolutely looking for attention. it drove me flippin’ nuts. he was dying for you to ask him about whatever it was. *everything* he did was loud in hopes to gain attention from anyone in the vicinity. i am a naturally very, very quiet person so it was especially bad.

      my mom is the type to fly into a loud rage over little things (something fell out of a grocery bag while putting items into the fridge, the vacuum cord gets a bit caught up, anything really) but in stark contrast to the aforementioned roommate she did NOT want any help or attention in any way, and if you tried…so help you. lol.

  12. Lauren says...

    People who store phones in their bras and/or wear sunglasses on the back of their heads or folded onto the back of their shirts…

    • stephanie says...

      i keep my phone in my bra all the time. without pockets it way easier than having to get out my purse, unzip it, and dig out my phone every time i want to cross an item off my grocery list or check the time. my bra is my purse/pocket, lol. i keep all kinds of stuff in there XD

  13. Wow, I’ve never heard of anyone else hating the sound of bananas being eaten! I also hate people who stir their tea or coffee too loudly clinking their spoon against the cup, scraping cutlery across plates and overly loud yawning.

  14. jess says...

    Wooden sunglasses.

    • Jenna says...

      this just made me laugh (in a good way!). I agree!!

  15. Lisa says...

    Noises bother me a ton but I’m not sure if I have misophonia. Here are my pet peeves:
    -Chewing loudly or with their mouth open
    -Blowing their nose at the table
    -People walking in the street like everywhere is Bourbon St.! (Sorry, use to live in NOLA and EVERY…SINGLE…TOURIST felt like it was ok to walk in the middle of EVERY SINGLE STREET in the Quarter :(
    -Being late

  16. Beth says...

    Reading these comments makes me think there needs to be a better (or any) treatment for people to manage their misophonia! Feeling so attacked by sounds you can’t control is a terrible way to live. Has anyone successfully worked on it in therapy, etc? Would love to know.

  17. Dripping liquid all over the house and not wiping it! egh

  18. Ramona says...

    I can’t stand it when I overhear parents making up some answer in response to their kids’ questions at the zoo or a museum. Like the kid asks, “What does the leopard eat?” and some dad just booms away, “Oh, he probably eats leaves” when there is a sign RIGHT THERE with neatly labeled illustrations showing exactly what the leopard eats. When we’re around these kinds of parents I always make a big show of answering my own kid’s questions by saying, “I don’t know, honey, let’s look at THIS SIGN RIGHT HERE RATHER THAN JUST MAKING UP OUR OWN FACTS.” It’s probably good for my sanity that I do not work at the zoo.

  19. My husband can’t stand the sound of flip flops when someone is walking ni them, especially me. We just had a way too long discussion about this. He had to turn on the radio to drown me out.

  20. Emily G. says...

    Pet peeve: when people randomly have the tv on and no one is watching it. I don’t have any strong sound aversions, but I hate, hate, hate the feeling of chalk or flour. Makes me gag.

    • stephanie says...

      that’s how i feel about soggy things. wet paper towels, soggy bread, etc. once when i was a kid a friend of mine spilled hot chocolate on a sandwich she was eating and i can still vividly remember it and it makes me gag to think about. totally not normal lol. and i carry hand sanitizer so if i use a restroom that has flimsy paper products i won’t have to touch them. the worst is going into a stall to find wet toilet paper everywhere. makes me want to throw up.

  21. People breathing on me. Gum chewing. Imagining the sensation of rubbing a towel between your teeth (?). My serious pet hate is someone holding a parking ticket between their lips when parking. My husband once held an apple between his teeth (mid bite) while parking and it completely tipped me over the edge! Yes, I need help.

    • Eden says...

      I’m with you on the towel between your teeth!!! — no one has ever related to me when I’ve told them that one.

  22. Emma says...

    I have misophonia as well. I always thought everyone else had the same violent response as me to their pet peeves, but I soon realized that is not the case. I was so happy to learn that misophonia exists, because then I felt like I wasn’t crazy. Mouth noises, chewing, swallowing of any sort; it all causes an intense physical and emotional reaction. Almost like rage. I try to make other noises to cover it up so I won’t blow up at people, but sometimes I just have to walk out and take deep breaths.

  23. Kate says...

    My number one has to be people who chew ice. Ugh!!!!

  24. Megan says...

    Cowboy hats worn too far back on the head.
    High-thread-count sheets.
    Animated hair.
    Exposition.
    Dull, obvious pet peeves.

  25. I have misophonia as well. Chewing is the worst for me. OMG… popcorn, slurping coffee or tea, I could go on. It’s so bad. Noises like pen tapping, clipping nails, among others send me through the roof as well. I constantly have to take deep breaths.

  26. Em says...

    I do not have misophonia- in fact, I am the person everyone is complaining about. I sneeze and hiccup very squeakily and often loudly. I eat crumbly crackers at my desk over my keyboard daily. I file my nails in public. I will say “aahhhh” after a good bite. I chug water. I wonder how many people silently plot my murder? But also, let me live?

    • Rach says...

      haha this mad me feel better because i was also thinking…do people always want to kill me? i chew and pop my gum constantly. i noticed some side eye from more than one person on a subway platform yesterday, so i stopped. glad i did :)

    • Omg yes, “let me live” hahaha I feel the same. I do a lot of the things that people are revealing drive them nuts. Sorry-not-that-sorry!

  27. Lucy says...

    Yup, I’ve got misaphonia too, as does my brother. Sometimes I’ll message him when I’m on a bus, for example, about someone who is eating from a packet but then won’t put that packet down when they’re finished and just keep holding and scrunching it…Arrggghh! We bond over the pain.

    I sleep with ear plugs every night as I can’t handle hearing my partner’s breathing or any little sounds (can really recommend the Swedish brand for ear plugs, happy ears! You never wake up with hurt ears and they just drown the noise, not completely silence it).

  28. Tshego B says...

    On the nights when I’m most exhausted and in need of sleep, our dog seems to always find a random old bone in the yard to chew on. I don’t even know if I can call it chewing, the bone kind of just rolls around in its mouth and THAT sound of the bone and its teeth connecting…it makes me WANT TO PULL MY HAIR OUT!!!!!! The dog does this riiiiight by my window everytime, I honestly think it hates me :(

  29. Julianne says...

    I can’t stand when people don’t put their shopping carts back and instead leave them in a parking spot. SO. Lazy.

    Also, the sound of someone crinkling a bag of chips drives me bonkers

  30. Kerry says...

    I love reading these pet peeves and it’s making me giggle thinking of some of you having to live in a big Indian city. We’re talking 10 million+ people crammed into not enough space, terrible infrastructure, and different cultural norms galore. Top India-specific ones:
    – People constantly trying to cut ahead of you in line
    – People pushing your backpack or pressing into you from behind while waiting in line
    – People spitting and horking (huge gobs of phlegm) onto the road or into the sink at restaurants after a meal

    I spend a lot of time focusing on breathing deeply and reminding myself that I am a guest!

    Also a work related one: when you’re on a group Skype call and the people who aren’t speaking don’t mute their microphones. So much ambient noise, feedback, breathing sounds, gah!

  31. Kirstin says...

    As yours are sound related, I thought about some of mine and they seem to be related to selfishness, entitlement, thoughtlessness.
    -Food smells outside of eating areas. A former colleague arrived at an after school workshop in a small computer lab with a plastic container of freshly reheated fish and broccoli to snack on. As the stench permeated the air, I lost all concentration. Had no idea what we were learning because I was enraged and appalled that someone could be so oblivious to basic social mores.
    -children in bars. Get a babysitter or go to Chuck E. Cheese. Or….maybe just stay home.
    -Chronic interrupters.
    -People who overtly copy your style. (This one isn’t really thoughtlessness, it just irritates me)

  32. Sonja Kellogg says...

    My husband and I both have misophonia, so at the very least we can commiserate! My most hated sounds are: throat clearing, any kind of loud, crunchy, or “squishy” chewing, smacking lips, forks scraping on teeth, slurping liquids, and nose-blowing that sounds like honking. Just talking about them gets my blood pressure up! It’s been like that since I was a small child.

  33. Sally says...

    OMG I have so many! A lot of mine are linked to sound as well.

    – People who are late. This started after an incident when I was about 13 and had arranged to meet a friend outside the local swimming pool, which was about 10 minutes walk from her house, and more like 30 minutes from mine… But no big deal. I arrived – she wasn’t there. She didn’t arrive for half an hour! Meaning she’d left her house at least 20 minutes AFTER she was meant to met me. I was furious! Ever since then lateness has annoyed me.

    – My worst of all though is people who bite their nails. EVERYTHING about it annoys me. That little sharp click-click sound, and how if people have their arms on a table while they’re doing it, the vibration jolts round to everyone else. That stupid intense look on their face while they do it. ARGH! It literally drives me insane. I can’t tell you how much I hate it.

  34. Kelly says...

    My mom has misophonia, and I grew up incredibly self-conscious of my own chewing. My poor boyfriend when we first started dating and I yelled at him for chewing! I have since become okay with normal polite chewing noises. I don’t have misophonia myself, I was just channeling mom. She can’t stand crunching.

  35. Emily says...

    I can’t believe no one has mentioned leg jigglers. Drives me crazy. I have to get up and leave if I’ m near one. Awful if i’m stuck next to one in an airplane.

    • Connie says...

      I married one. Drives me up a wall.

    • Cora says...

      I hate this too. My boss is a leg jiggler. I silently stare down his leg to will it to stop bouncing.

    • Rose says...

      I am a leg jiggler :( it drives me crazy too. Sorry.

  36. Actually, my pet peeve (apart from people chewing with their mouth’s open – it was a contributing factor to a relationship break up) is GIFs like those above. I don’t know if it’s to do with my astigmatism or not, but they hurt my eyes.
    And spitting in the street. That makes me want to use a water cannon on people who do it.

  37. Jenna says...

    People who describe themselves as “wanderlust.”

    Gah!

  38. Joanna T. says...

    I was so helped the last time Jo mentioned that she has misophonia, because now I know I why I become exponentially irritated by the sound of a bathroom fan. Sudden noises have always been hard on me. As a child I used to block my ears with one hand and one shoulder to flush the toilet, turn on a faucet, turn on the blow-dryer or vacuum cleaner, etc. The Dyson hand dryer- I have to clench my jaw to keep from screaming. Glass scraping metal. My noise sensitivity is such that when I feel threatened with my life, my hands first go up to my ears. My child has inherited it and he bursts into tears at the sound of tape being ripped off.

    Pet peeves- I really, really hate the sound of bathroom fans. And when people snap open bags. People who say their number too fast in a voicemail, and I have to go back and listen several times to get the number. Whining. Glasses with bits of dried orange juice pulp, strewn all over the house. Refilling toilet paper is the bane of my existence. Snoring used to bother me because it would take me forever to fall asleep and my husband would fall asleep instantly, then start snoring immediately. Then I would wake him up and hiss, you’re snoring! Repeat several times a night. Having a child solved this, I now sleep like the dead so I hear no snoring. I’ll stop there.

  39. I absolutely have misophonia. I hate crying, and there have been several occasions where I burst out in frustrated tears because someone (usually my mom !!!!!!) is smacking/cracking their gum.

    ALSO. I am not sure what this is called, but I HATE HATE HATE when people bite fabric, ESPECIALLY towels. The sheer thought gives me goosebumps, as though someone is scratching a chalk board.

  40. Tracy says...

    Companies that spell their name with a “K” when the word actually starts with a “C”. And when friends leave their cellphones on the table when we’re all out to dinner. Both drive me nuts.

  41. Mikaela says...

    My husband has recently developed the habit of delaying buckling his seat belt in the car. He starts driving- and not only is that unsafe- but the freaking alert starts beeping to let him know he’s unbuckled. It goes on for minutes! I usually have to ask him as sweetly as I can muster to please. buckle. the. eff. up! Come on, even if you don’t care for your safety, that beeping is unbearable!

    Also he chews gum loud.

    • stephanie says...

      when we used to use zipcar occasionally all the new cars have this “feature” and my partner never wears his belt. you gotta buckle the belt before you get in and leave it that way if you aren’t going to wear it. this happens in ubers too, drives me nuts. reminds me when my grampa would leave the blinker on for ages because he couldn’t hear and the loud clicking would make me crazy lol. but he couldn’t hear me either!

  42. Cari says...

    Haaah! I thought I was the only one who cannot stand the sound of someone eating a banana- I just can’t. I have to leave the room. Eating a bean burrito or a PB sandwich is about as bad. Another just popped up: my husbands new habit of stirring his Icee round and round when he orders one at the movies. I have to stop myself from grabbing the straw out of his hand and throwing it on the floor.

  43. Sarah says...

    I think I have the opposite of misophonia…it’s incredibly easy for me to become absorbed in what I’m doing and stop paying attention to those around me :P I’m probably the one sending everyone else into a rage in my office!

    I live in Los Angeles on a narrow street, and my biggest pet peeve is when people being routed through it by Waze or Google Maps barrel down the street and just assume I will get out of the way in my little beat-up Camry while I’m just trying to PARK WHERE I LIVE. I am ALWAYS the one to pull off to the side and let them by! Like just let me live people.

  44. Cheryl says...

    Joanna I hope you have considered meditation.
    If you already do meditate, hang in there. If not, start with five minutes and work your way up.
    It’s the only method of regrooving your brain without drugs that is long term and time very well spent. It is balm for body mind and soul.

  45. Liz says...

    YES. The sound of people chewing with their mouths open or speaking with their mouths full drives me nuts, but I don’t mind gum chewing (maybe because I love gum). I’m also bothered by the way oatmeal squelches because it sounds like chewing. It makes me feel high-maintenance, but I haven’t figured a way to control it.

  46. Gaby says...

    In the office, hearing my neighbor pop her gum, snap her fingers to music. The sound of my husband eating when he’s really hungry. When people leave the fridge open while pouring milk, taking deli meat out of package closing it back – all with the fridge open. People honking when you chose not to turn right on res bc you couldn’t see around the car next to you. Whew. Lots of aggravation! Lol

  47. Jenny says...

    I just remembered one: people who say “how’s it going?” as a passing greeting. This is not interchangeable with “hello”! You’ve asked a question, and now I’ll respond with “good, you?” as we continue walking by each other, and you’ll reply “fine” from 10 feet away. And we’re stuck in a mobile conversational limbo! Don’t make it weird, man.

    • anna says...

      Haha! Don’t move to Australia, you will go NUTS.

  48. Yulia says...

    I don’t have any real pet peeves besides slow drivers in the left lane. But in trying to remember what kind of things draw my ire I recalled Ross, my lab partner in a college Astronomy class who scratched his balls incessantly. He tried to be discreet in covering it up, but it’s not something you can hide, is it? Sometimes he would go for a couple of minutes without scratching, but you could tell it was a huge effort, because his next ball-scratching would be extra vigorous and violent and wince-inducing as he clawed and dug in. I refrained from touching anything he’d touched in case it infected me too. But even more distracting and annoying was his constant double-checking of my share of our lab work. My math and programming were faultless but because I was a woman and it was science, he just couldn’t be sure it was right. It was annoying, but funny more than anything else.

  49. Jessica says...

    I DO! I didn’t know this was a thing. Or rather, I thought it was part of my being an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person), which includes being very sensitive to sound.

  50. Shauna says...

    Is there misophonia, but for scent?? If so that is my #1 pet peeve. I HATE smelling food on people’s breath, especially gum/mouthwash. Why do they make is so strong?! It makes the entire room smell of what is in your mouth. GROSS.

    • Jean ann says...

      Mine is smell too. Even a good smell. Perfume that can be detected closer than 3′ away. Please. No. I promise to quit chewing gum if you (whoever) promises to restrain the perfume.

    • Mica says...

      OMG, mine is smell, too. Not just bad smell, even strong perfumes, detergents, I can’t stand fabric softeners!

  51. Rebecca Ringquist says...

    Yes! Yes! A thousand times yes. I am thrown completely over the edge by people cracking gum- and when I lived in NYC it made me feel completely mental. Someone cracking gum on the subway? Nope. I immediately changed cars. Trapped on a bridge with said person, with no sign of the train moving for awhile- worst nightmare! Thanks for writing about this. As an aside- I bet that NYC has one of the highest rates of this- everyone’s in such close proximity. Mine started with just gum cracking, but later included lots of things, with the worst being hearing my neighbor’s base through the floor boards, which happened everyday. I’m happy to report that since moving to bucolic Portland, OR I am feeling much more chill. :)

  52. Bailey says...

    Slow walkers, slow drivers and people who don’t use their blinkers! I pray I’m not the only one who likes to think of myself as pretty easy-going, tolerant, and zen but the second I get behind the wheel it’s like I’ve been possessed by Mad Max…

    ALSO anytime someone says: “I had something to tell you…but now I forget what it is”. OR WORSE: “I have to tell you something…nah I probably shouldn’t.”

    • SAME! Traffic and bad drivers are my biggest pet peeve! Nothing sends me into a rage quicker than a traffic jam and I feel physically violent whenever someone does something stupid/slow on the road. Ugh…

    • stephanie says...

      guilty of not using my blinker…but only because i live in boston, where the blinker is just an invitation for people to cut you off. i do use it for the benefit of cyclists/pedestrians, or if i’m at a 4way stop, or going to be taking a left at a light so i can give those behind me a chance to go around if they aren’t also going left. but generally, i purposely avoid using it.

  53. Aimee says...

    So interesting to hear other people’s ‘misophones’ (is that a word?). There were so many comments that I couldn’t read them all, but mine is the beep of a smoke alarm with a low battery. You know the sound- Beep. Long pause. Almost asleep. Beep. Awake again. Repeat until you are homicidal. Rage, pure rage. If it’s mine I try to change the battery right away but God help us if it beeps while we’re sleeping, or if it’s at someone else’s house when we’re guests. One night at my husband’s family’s home this occurred and my heart filled with dread knowing I would have to try to sleep through that sh^t. Torture. What’s even worse is my husband sleeps right through it just fine! That’s just as anger-inducing as the actual sound!

    • stephanie says...

      i once woke up to that sound…found the offending alarm. removed it from the wall where it was attached with wires. still beeped. removed the battery. STILL IT BEEPED. my partner was sound asleep and i was losing my mind. eventually i woke it up, we wrapped in a king sized fuzzy blanket and jammed it under our cast iron tub in the bathroom and shut the door.

  54. Krissy says...

    I have misophonia!! I had no idea! I once had to tell an old coworker to stop chewing and popping her gum. It would put me in a rage the second it began. The list of other annoyances with noises is just too long to prattle off but almost always involves food and loud breathing and lip smacking.

  55. Catherine says...

    The sound of jaws crunching. Any sort of scrubber on pots and pans, like nails on a chalkboard, shudder.

    Biggest pet peeve is…FEET. Especially ugly feet. I’m sorry, but if you have horrible bird claw creepy gross feet, then WEAR A SHOE! Why does the world have to look at your ghastly horror pods just so you can be ‘comfortable’? I have to pluck out my own eyes so I can make it down the street but go you with your alien-like finger toes hanging over your sandals…………. PHEW. I feel better now. Thanks for reading!

    • Samantha says...

      HAHAH we must be the same person. Seriously people, ever heard of a pedicure?!????!(!;? I will not wear sandals without being able to pinpoint the last time I had a pedicure, or at the very, very least painted my toenails. FEET ARE GROSS.

  56. Claire says...

    I think pet peeves might be my pet peeve.
    That and up-talking and using the word “like” constantly.

  57. Jasmine says...

    After reading many comments, I clearly have misophonia and basically it just makes me so awful to my family… we work all day and then come home for a lovely family dinner and the chewing of food, scraping of utensils on plates and teeth (ugh, the teeth scraping. my kids are plenty old enough to stop doing this), husband is a loud 3-sneezer and I do have that physical urge to hit him most times. Also, he feels personally offended if you don’t bless him. I don’t understand why you excuse yourself for coughing and farting but have the honor of being blessed for sneezing.

    I do find that background music can help dull all the annoying eating noises a little bit… basically, I need background music on all the time because the little noises of life are insanely irritating.

    • Kim says...

      I have full blown misophonia and can’t stand the sound of sniffles, chewing, heavy breathing, sneezes, utensils scraping plates, pen clicking, knuckle cracking, throat clearing, slurping…..and the list goes on! God I sound terribly uptight. Those I feel closest to (husband, sister, parents) seem to elicit the most rage. The strange thing is that none of the above offenses bother me in the least when they are coming from my son. I’m glad I’m not alone!

  58. Shawn says...

    Yes! I am glad we have finally put a name on it. As a kid, my family kind of teased me about my sensitivity to noises, especially others chewing. The worst for me is my mother eating a banana. Rage inducing!

  59. Anne says...

    Yes! And the feeling is definitely rage/anxiety, not annoyance/disgust. My biggest trigger is a bathroom exhaust fan. Kills me!

  60. THANK YOU for posting this! I thought I was the only person in the wolrd getting angry when I heard people chew and eat with their mouths open. It has been such a cause of arguments between me and my bf and with my family. Everyone thought I was just being a princess and I have heard SO many times in my life ‘dont’ pay attention to it’ or ‘get over it’. But I CAN’T! Thank you very very much, this is actually a relief :)

  61. D says...

    I’m a nurse and we use a number pain scale from 0 (no pain) to 10 (worst pain imaginable). I cannot stand it when people say their pain is an “11” or some higher number out of the scale. Especially when the patient is obviously not in the “worst pain imaginable” (i.e. talking to a friend, using their phone, or sleeping). Same goes for when people say “110%”. Just stop. Maybe I’m just not a fan of exaggeration or drama.

    Also, husband’s socks on the floor. Every damn day for 12 years. Grounds for divorce?

    • molly says...

      put them in his pillow case. he’ll stop :)

    • Jane says...

      The overly dramatic pain scale ratings would really, really bother me too! Very annoying.

    • Betsy says...

      I once had an NP ask me this question when getting a strep test, and she prefaced with “8 being childbirth.” I laughed and said “well, then 4.” It was a good way to frame that question.

    • stephanie says...

      i always felt bad having to answer that question, like i might over exaggerate by accident! so i would always answer some really low number. the nurses that would come in to ask in the night would say “i’m going to put down that you said [this] instead so i can give you the pain meds.” :)

      ps, i’d rather have socks on the floor…instead my partner wears the socks he’s worn all day to bed. it grosses me out. i’ve gotten in the habit of when i come to bed i lift the blanket up, if he’s wearing socks i pull them off him, lol.

  62. Amie K says...

    Styrofoam!
    I can’t stand the sound it makes when coming out of a box when something is packaged in it. I can’t stand the smell of it. I can’t stand the texture of it. If I buy anything and find out it’s involved in the packing process, I have to call someone else to unpack said item while I go outside. I can’t handle it. On top of that, the sound of crunchy snow under my feet, like in a parking lot, reminds me too much of the sound of Styrofoam and I get anxious and get goosebumps. Haha. I guess it’s like how some people respond to nails on a chalk board.
    I don’t think it’s a pet peeve to hate the sound of people chewing or eating. It’s polite to keep your mouth shut and your food noises to a minimum. At least that’s what we were taught, manners. :)

    • Izzi says...

      omg! I have the styrofoam problem too! Just thinking about it makes me feel like my teeth are hurting!! It’s so weird to have such a physical response to a material like that. I’m always asking other people to open things for me so I can go to the other room and cover my ears hahaha

  63. Rachel says...

    Women who don’t flush the toilet in the ladies room. Seriously? My biggest is people who block the subway doors or don’t step into the car so others can get on, AND people who text walking down the street. They deserve my hate. xoxo

    • Kirstin says...

      exactly right

    • Emily says...

      Another bad one is people who keep looking down at a device, while driving a car! Pretty scary to be driving near them.

  64. Yes! I have it, and my kids do too. I can’t stand it when people eat with their mouths open. Can. Not. Take. It. My kids are super sensitive too (who knows if it is nature vs. nurture) but they keep complaining about how their siblings eat. Our dinners are so fun :/

  65. Clara says...

    ..you know those people who have a massive sinus congestion and lots of mucus but instead of blowing their nose into a tissue, they prefer to sit and snargle and suck that slime back up their nose.
    I feel bad for them, I do! They have a cold that is so bad, that they have given up. No use getting rid of the mucus, there will just be more. But still..
    Those people often sit in the waiting area at the doctor’s office and I feel like every gargled snotty breath they make close to me gets me a little bit more infected with whatever they have.

    • Jasmine says...

      Ughhhhh, one of my students took a test making those intolerable noises yesterday. I just needed it to be over and could not understand how their neighbor could possibly stand it. I went to the other side of the room.

    • jacquie says...

      THIS!!! YES!!! Definitely my #1 pet peeve. That gross noise just gives me the heebie jeebies!

    • Kim says...

      There is a special place in hell for these people?

    • Michaela says...

      My coworker does this and it makes me want to plan elaborate horrible deaths for him. No one has ever heard him blow his nose since he began working here, and he has allergies year round so it isn’t even seasonal! I do not feel bad for him, because whenever he’s offered a tissue, he says “nah, I’m fine.” The tissue isn’t for your sake, it’s for ours! Everyone in the office hates it. Apparently he has a deviated septum, which at this point, I’m willing to pay for surgery to fix if it will give me some peace. It’s so disgusting!

  66. Jessica says...

    People eating at their desks! And eating snacks! You do not need breakfast, a morning snack, lunch, an afternoon snack, and dinner. Unless you have a health issue. In any case just step away, eat your lunch for 15 minutes, and come back. I don’t want to hear you chew your chips or smell your tuna sandwich.

    • Lisa says...

      Well actually some people do need to eat that many meals. Some people are super sensitive to low blood sugar and therefore must eat 5-6 times a day to keep it where it should.

    • Jane says...

      Exactly what I was thinking, Lisa. There are also those who actually want to gain weight and have to work at it, rare as it is in America (I’m one of them).

    • Rose says...

      I do need snacks I have low blood sugar and plenty of other people need snacks too. There aren’t that many quiet ways to get your blood sugar back up.

  67. Nicole says...

    Someone chewing loudly or with their mouth open is bad but the worst is when I can hear someone’s lips SMACKING as they eat. UGH!!! I don’t even know how it’s possible to eat with your lips but some (including the intern who sits next to me and does this at work) have figured it out and it is beyond disgusting.

    Also, I HATE when someone asks you, “Have you heard of (some band/song/movie/etc.)?” And you say well no, and they respond with, “You haven’t?!?!?!” OH MY GOD I go into a an unnecessary rage inside. I have no idea why I get so pissed when someone does that but it’s like, c’mon! I just told you NO, you don’t need to be so shocked that there may be somethings I haven’t heard of or payed attention to!

    This comments section is pure gold and I appreciate being able to rant about these peeves!

  68. Meredith says...

    I have misophonia. Just discovered this in the last few years. I think it runs in our family and somehow I also married someone with it. Mouth and eating noises mostly……lip smacking, utensil scraping teeth (or plates), gum cracking, just loud eating in general. But also weird muffled music or base noises, someone not lifting their feet when they walk, someone repeatedly crinkling a bag. I always thought it was just rudeness on people’s part and that these noises were offensive to everyone. Apparently not. The first time my brother and sister and I sat down to a meal with our soon to be stepfather (when we were teenagers) he smacked his lips, scraped his plate, talked with his mouth full….we all just froze and stared and I can clearly remember my mother’s face, like embarrassed but at the same time “anybody says anything and they die”.
    Last year on vacation I literally flew with a loaded shopping cart through a jam packed beach town grocery store to get away from a 10 year old that was wearing flip flops and not lifting her feet. I couldn’t hear anything else but that child coming closer and closer. It is crazy seeming to me how people can’t be bothered by sounds like this. They don’t even register!

  69. I have TONS of pet peeves, so I won’t list them all here. A specific one that has arisen somewhat recently: the sound of silverware on a countertop. The receptionist in our office takes the entire silverware basket from the dishwasher and dumps it on the counter before putting everything away. This happens at least once a day and it sends me into a rage. If anyone has advice on how to handle this (can I talk to her about it?) I’d love to hear it. It’s like nails on a chalkboard to me.

    • Claire says...

      Maybe put the silverware away for her?

  70. Annie says...

    Popcorn eating at the movie theater, also noise related-why not quiet marshmallows? Another noise related and this is mostly in the city-unnecessary car horn honking. It really isn’t a form of expressing frustration but for warnings of danger.

    • D says...

      Yes to the horn honking! I live in LA and people do this all the time. For no reason at all, just because they’re frustrated. Its’ like they’re throwing a tantrum.

    • shelby says...

      I hate car horns! Whenever my husband and I are either walking or driving and we hear an obnoxious car horn we always jest “THANK GOD THEY DID THAT NOW THE TRAFFIC IS FIXED AND EVERYTHING IS BETTER. WHAT A HERO”

    • Paula says...

      meh. I honk all the time. If you don’t signal that you are turning: HONK!!! if you merge into me: HONK!!! if you fail to take that left for two traffic lights: HONKKKKKKKKK!!!! if you honk at me because you cannot see ahead of me, and I’ve stopped for a pedestrian/bicycle (other obstacle) then I will honk BACK AT YOU LOUDER. you better believe it I’m having a tantrum if you suck at driving.

    • stephanie says...

      yes! unless an accident is about to occur OR someone is sitting at a green light FOR AWHILE (i hate the people who honk as soon as the light changes) DO NOT HONK. it doesn’t do anything. and actually it frightens and distracts me because i think my car is on fire or there is about to be an accident.

      also? if you are picking someone up, it’s 2017 – CALL THEM. or they should know when you’re arriving and be ready. don’t sit outside and honk. not even once. i will come outside and cut you.

  71. Lisa says...

    I do indeed have misophonia and it is a miracle that nothing has happened to my husband (loud chewer) and work wife (constant gum chewer). It drives me nuts.
    Most of my pet peeves I’ve developed since having kids:
    People in shops who use the lifts but don’t have to. There’s one department store in London where people do this all the time – the lifts are right next to the escalators, and I get super annoyed as you have to wait for ages with a pushchair (because you can’t use the escalators) because someone who is perfectly able to, is clogging up the lift. I get particularly annoyed if they’re just going one floor
    – on London transport you have priority seats for people who can’t stand. For the last three years I’ve been eligible (broken leg, pregnant, with a small child) and you still get people who refuse to give them up. They even give out badges when you’re pregnant, so if you’re not visibly so people can still see. One tube line in particular that I take is terrible for this – in my last pregnancy people didn’t start giving me a seat until I was 8 months pregnant! I’ve had my belly literally in someone’s face and they didn’t do anything, and another time an able bodied man physically blocked my entry into the carriage so he could get on first and take the seat

  72. Faith says...

    1) When coworkers clip their nails at their desk! I have worked in three separate offices where this happens, and it sets my teeth on edge. At least the current culprit has the courtesy to close his office door first.
    2) When commuters block the train door exit instead of stepping onto the platform to let others pass. It bottlenecks the foot traffic so badly! “I promise you’ll be able to step back onto the train, dude. Just get out of our way!”
    3) When someone thinks it’s funny to open their mouths to reveal an enormous, moist wad of chewed food. I feel nauseous just thinking about it!

    • Lisa says...

      I used to work with someone who clipped their nails, and someone in management tried to address it by saying that there’s certain things you do in the privacy of your bathroom, not at work. It’s so gross – why?!?!?

    • Oh my gosh! I concur with number 1 – I too have coworkers that do this (all senior employees) and I work in an open office. No hiding from it!

    • Jane says...

      Hi Faith!

      I hate the nail clipping thing too– anywhere besides the bathroom.

      But the main reason I had to comment is that one of my huge pet peeves is when people say they are nauseous instead of nauseated! Haha. It drives me nuts!

    • Gaby says...

      Omg, I clip my nails at work. I’ll stop! Why didn’t I know this was rude? Of course it is! Hehe. Sorry.

    • Jacqui says...

      I have a colleague who sprays himself with deodorant at his desk, just lifts up his arms and sprays all around in the direction of his sweaty armpits. Not only does it smell vomitmakingly like air freshener mixed with BO but why wouldn’t you do that in the bathroom?

  73. Martha says...

    When I’m putting my baby to sleep and I step on a creaky floorboard or a random bone in my foot cracks just as I place her down in the bassinet…. LOVE that.

    • Faith says...

      YES! It’s the worst! Our last apartment had dreadfully creaky wood floors. It was an awkward dance to avoid the loudest spots on the floor. :D

  74. bisbee says...

    One last thing – I don’t think I’ve seen it here. I’m driving in the right lane, and there is a lane of traffic merging onto the road. Or, the right lane is ending, for whatever reason. The person in the lane that is ending is supposed to YIELD. They are not to continue driving along, expecting me to slow down to LET THEM IN. This drives me totally bonkers…I understand road rage in these circumstances.

    • Angela says...

      Wait, seriously? If there are 3 lanes, please move over to the middle. There’s nothing more ridiculous than trying to get onto the highway and dealing with the nonsense of right lane drivers.

    • Kristen says...

      If someone is merging onto a highway, you definitely should make way for them! It’s much harder to merge on when the car is not yet at speed.

    • stephanie says...

      idk if this is the same or not, but when a lane ends because of construction or something, and there are signs for miles, or it’s just how the road IS and always has been – the people who think the lane just freed of traffic just for them and they go speeding by those of us who zippered properly and are waiting in line and then expect to be allowed to cut in at the front when their lane (that they’ve been warned about) ends. i’m usually a pretty courteous driver but i will literally go to dangerous lengths to prevent those people from getting in. YOU. WILL. WAIT. LIKE. THE. REST OF US! NO CUTTING!

  75. Starlene says...

    One evening I went to the opera (Carmen, my favorite!). I was seated next to a sweet elderly woman wearing polyester pants. She spent the entire performance rubbing her polyester clad legs with her dry hands. The sound was so horrible and distracting, I couldn’t even concentrate on the opera.

    Also, my co-worker is the yell sneezer, a phone eater (she eats while talking on the phone) and she is late every.single.day. She walks in and says “did you think I wasn’t coming in?”, every.single.day.

  76. Jessica says...

    Mine are:
    -People who litter.
    -Bad spelling & grammar.
    -People who bend their head to the bowl when eating soup or LIFT the bowl up! Seriously you are an adult!
    -People who eat with their mouths open.
    -People who listen to music on their headphones so loud that the whole train carriage can hear (I always double check how loud my music is).

  77. Sandra says...

    Joanna, you need to put these comments in a little book. I haven’t laughed this hard reading something in a long time.

  78. e says...

    People who think they are the exception to certain things – texting while walking/driving/biking (like, “yeah, I hate when other people do it, but I’M really good at it, so it’s fine.”); taking out/checking/using their phone during a movie/performance (like, “oh, most people who do this suck, but I’m just doing it for a sec, so I’m sure me taking a picture during the part of Giselle you were most looking forward to with my super lit-up phone screen won’t be annoying. I’m doing it super fast, see? And only TWICE.” or, “but I’m expecting a really important text, so it’s fine if I check this phone.”)
    And when people leave their phones out on the table during anything more than the most casual of meals.
    NO ONE IS THIS IMPORTANT.
    (*I will make allowances for people with kids, I suppose, but you can also just check it while it’s still in your bag. On the table, it’s like a participant in the meal.)

  79. YES indeed. Loud chewing or chewing with your mouth open will make me openly hate you. My roomie is a fast eater and she has these super loud burps that make me literally want to smother her haha. I have to take deep breaths just like you said!
    Other pet peeves: selfishness. Egocentrism. Pettiness. Basically our entire administration in a nutshell.

  80. e says...

    Definitely the fork against the teeth. And whenever anyone “relishes” a bite or drink of something. Like they not only scrape their teeth but then hold the fork with a flourish, like the bite was SO successful! And the “ahhhh” after drinking.
    Oof.

    • Sally says...

      This one made me laugh! It made me think of my mum.
      Whenever she finishes a drink, irregardless of what the drink is, she always SUCKS at the last bit!
      *normal swallow, normal swallow, normal swallow, SLURP*
      It’s SO ANNOYING.

  81. Hadley says...

    Oh man, these were hilarious.

    The spelling, good grief, the spelling. How does anyone think defiantly could possibly be the correct spelling for definitely? And loose/lose, they are entirely different things, how could they be interchangeable???

    Also, when you have just made/cooked/heated food and begun to eat and some coworker has to stick their nose in it to see what you are having – get your face out of my food!

    People who do not understand how escalators work, stand right, walk left dum dums.

    • Jessica says...

      You are my spirit animal haha! The spelling thing irritates me so much. People are so lazy!

    • Oh man, I have the same thing about food! But it gets even worse: when I make something yummy and someone (a roommate, my husband, my mom) takes a bite to try it and makes a disgusted face. SO RUDE. I’m about to eat and enjoy this, can you mind your own business?

    • talia says...

      Also, when I receive my food and someone says, “that’s a lot of food!” Well thanks! Now if I eat all of it I feel like a pig. Keep your comments about my food to yourself please!

    • Samantha says...

      I intentionally walk up or down the escalator if people are standing 2 wide. I also loudly say “walk on the left, stand on the right” repeatedly. Gawd. How much energy I put into this is ridiculous!!

    • stephanie says...

      oh man, how could i forget the food thing. that is probably actually my biggest pet peeve. do NOT comment on my food. when my partner and i were first dating, he knew this and decided to test me about it by making faces and saying “ew” and whatnot to me putting condiments on a sandwich. i literally put down the condiments, got my keys, and left.

  82. Kate says...

    I have it too, but there’s really only one thing that sets me off: someone chewing on crunchy things, especially with their mouth open and especially when it’s not at meal time. Gaaahhhhh I’m anxious just thinking about it.

    In school we had a teacher that encouraged snacking during tests. I nearly failed the class because the girl next to me would always bring cereal and I could never focus.

  83. Amy Lindner says...

    OMG! Add whistling to the list. My mothers husband will subconsciously whistle as if he was humming and it drives me over the edge. I have to ask my mom to make him stop!

  84. Loud chewing in general is one of my pet peeves – whether it be gum or chewing with the mouth open at meal times. So GROSS.

  85. talia says...

    Where to start…
    a) singing, whistling or chewing gum (while at work. I’m looking at you, co-worker!)
    b) little girls dressed like teenagers (why?! let them be little!)
    c) people who won’t hold the door
    d) improper grammar
    e) eating with your mouth open (I see what you are eating from looking at your plate – shut your pie hole so I don’t see it in your mouth!)
    f) using the word ‘girl’ as an insult

    • Kristen says...

      Omg, totally with you on B. Putting a tube top on a toddler? WHY. Who wants to chase around a 2 year-old to yank up her top every 5 seconds?? Triangle bikinis for babies skeev me out, too. Yikes.

  86. Mariana says...

    Whistling! I have a co-worker who whistles all-the-freakin-time and it drives me insane! And it grows with time: at first it was just annoying but now I immediatly feel the urge to throw the stapler to his head. But eating sounds are also very annoying…and once you hear them it seems that’s all you can focus on from that point forward. Guess I’m not alone, thank you! :)

  87. Em says...

    Loud sneezer here! People can TOTALLY control it.

    A loud sneeze feels way better than a stifled, quiet sneeze. I’ll do it in the privacy of my home, or around friends — especially since it tends to get a laugh. But in public I’m hyper-aware of my noise level.

    I think everyone hates yell sneezes because they are startling, and that tends to induce rage in some people. But they’re also often a ploy for attention. So by yell sneezing you’re either a) being inconsiderate and scaring everyone in the room or b) acting like a child. And both are very annoying.

  88. John Cusack. Yes, the “actor”.

    • I have this with Nicolas Cage! I knoooowwwww, everyone loves him, but I just can’t look at his face or hear his voice.

    • Meredith says...

      Owen Wilson.

    • Samantha says...

      Don’t forget Keanu Reeves. Is there a worse actor? Maybe Nicholas Cage. They epitomize the very definition of ” cheesy”..

    • Rachel says...

      Justin Timberlake.

    • Amie K says...

      Two for Keanu! YUCK!!!!!

    • Sofia says...

      Oh yeah, Nicolas Cage for sure.

    • Jane says...

      Brad Pitt for me. Blech…

    • Becca says...

      Ron Perlman. Totally not his fault but I can not look at his face.

    • stephanie says...

      will ferrell.

  89. Omg! Chewing with mouth opened. Snapping mouth when eating. And the worse worse for me is when people talk when there is mucus in their throat making their speech sound a bit gurgled. I just want to shout PLEASE VLEAR YOUR THROAT! My mother is a chronic offender. Ugh.

    • Sally says...

      My sister does this! I just want to shake her and say “SWALLOW OR COUGH! DO SOMETHING!”

  90. I just sent this link to my husband along with the text “Oh my god, everything is explained, I’m not alone.” I think my husband sometimes thinks I’m a psychopath because I get unhinged when he sniffs or clears his throat…maybe him knowing about misophonia will help me seem more sane :)

    • Jane says...

      My boyfriend and I were beginning to think I was on the Autistic spectrum. It all makes sense now.

    • Annie Green says...

      Don’t bet on it. I just told my husband of many years standing to go and blow his nose because I have this interesting problem and he said: what, being irritated?
      Blew his nose though. So now I don’t need to punch the side of his head.

  91. I have it too… and it makes life tricky at times. My biggest thing is eating. Mouth breathing is a close second but EATING SOUNDS MAKE ME INSANE. I love my husband but I honestly wish he didn’t have to eat around me… which makes family dinners a little tricky! I keep it to myself because I know it’s MY issue but it really makes my blood boil. I wish there were a cure.

  92. Becca says...

    I love this post Joanna!
    For me it is the sneeze-shout, number 1. Seriously, you know you’re going to sneeze – just muffle it already! And even worse is the multiple offender. I hate it when after the sneeze-shout when I’ve gathered myself back together enough to say “bless you” even though its so NOT what I am feeling, when here comes another one – or even more! I have one friend who sneezes 4-5 times in a row. I’m looking side-eye at you, sweet little 86 year old great grandma.
    #2 is people who litter. I live on a scenic road just outside a national historic preserve. People come from all over the world to visit this place and drive our pretty road. And a surprising percentage of them just throw their trash right out the window of the car. It boggles the mind! Who would do that??? It makes me want to sneeze-shout at them! Bottles, (mostly beer bottles and booze bottles, plus water bottles, food wrappers and other gross things) right out the car window. I just can’t for the life of me understand the mind set. People, PLEASE don’t litter!!!
    #3 is anyone who pees on the toilet seat. How disgusting, rude and thoughtless. Just repeat this little song when you’re in the bathroom “If you sprinkle when you tinkle, be a sweetie and wipe the seat-y”. ‘Nough said.
    #4 is just about the only flaw my darling husband has. He is a kind and generous man but he likes to make me laugh and is prone to making snarky comments about other people. Sometimes when I think they might even be able to hear him! I I really hate that! We’ve talked about how I think it is unkind etc. but sometimes his 7 year old self just can’t help it. I really wish he wouldn’t do that – I feel like it is not just unkind, but sort of evil….

    • Leslie says...

      Throwing trash into my yard! We live on a farm, and people throw garbage into our yard from their cars. We’ve also caught them driving their cars into our fields, where they leave dirty diapers and McDonald’s litter…ugh. It drives me crazy.

    • molly says...

      I completely agree about the littering and peeing on the toilet seat.

      People who throw their cigarette butts out the window make me want to run them off the road in rage. Is the world your garbage can? Selfish doesn’t even begin to describe that action.

      Peeing on the toilet seat and not wiping it is disgusting and inconsiderate.

  93. Amanda says...

    Oh my gosh-just laughed out loud at the awesomeness and truth telling here. Thank you!

  94. WHOA! MIND BLOWN. When people whistle when they pronounce the “s” sound drives me up a freaking wall. Like, I want to punch their teeth out–and I’m not a violent person. Also? Soft speakers. SPEAK THE HECK UP or I’m walking away so I can punch something.

    I feel so vindicated that there is a name for this. I’ve always thought it was being uptight and that I needed to chill the eff out (but was physically incapable of doing so). Thank you for educating me on this. Now I’m off to read all the comments to find my fellow sufferers.

  95. MM says...

    -Finger licking
    -Snip-snap-crickle-crack gum popping (NO GUM!)
    -Messy/loud desk eaters (EAT IN THE DESIGNATED SPACE AND AVOID DIRTYING YOUR DESK, CONTAMINATING YOUR ELECTRONICS, AND GROSSING EVERYONE OUT)
    -The Shrieking Hiccup (distant cousin of the Yell Sneeze?)
    -Handicap parking spot thieving (fake tag? no tag? borrowed grandma’s tag? = mean and also bad karma)
    -Hovering double parkers (JUST KEEP CIRCLING LIKE THE REST OF US)

    • Jean ann says...

      My dad always said that people who parked in handicapped spaces when they didn’t need to we’re doomed to be handicapped before their time. i have some anecdotal evidence this is true.

  96. molly says...

    Just reading (and typing) “the sound of people chewing bananas” made me wince. Other sounds that really get to me is:

    – Styrofoam rubbing on cardboard
    – sniffling
    – drinking/gulping water – MAKES ME CRAZY
    – burping
    – crows when I am trying to sleep

    favorite sounds:
    – rain on a roof
    – my dog dreaming or drinking water
    – peepers at night/birds first thing in the morning/seagulls at the beach
    – heels clickity clacking on a hard surface
    -anyone belly laughing/silently laughing – its contagious (especially kids)

    non sound related pet peeves:
    – people who walk/drive like they have no where to go.
    – any type of bumper sticker on a car – especially baby on board. If a car is on the road that means another human being is on board doesn’t matter how old.
    – when moms refer to their children’s ages in months beyond 12 months…I don’t have kids so maybe I am missing something, but just say your kid is 2 years old rather than 24 months
    – excessive bragging – in person or on social media

    • molly says...

      other sounds that get to me “are” not “is” – didn’t reread before posting.

    • Yes, stop saying, “my child is 33 months”! What???!!! After being with kiddos all day, often, I don’t have the mental capacity to figure out that math. hahahhha.

    • molly says...

      one last one when people say “uge” for “huge” think donald trump and when people say “hhhhhherb” for herb and over pronounce the h.

    • J says...

      I am covered in chill bumps and grimacing thinking about that styrofoam on cardboard sound and sensation. I can’t handle it. God, I hate it so much!

  97. Deb says...

    Ooh, ALL the public transport pet peeves!

    Tourists on the tube who get on before people have got off and don’t move down the carriage. Tourists not knowing where they’re going which in itself isn’t a problem but stand to one side while you sort it out! Tourists standing on the left hand side of the escalator.

    People not putting their backpacks by their feet. People swinging their bags onto their shoulders and smashing the bag into the person behind them. People who don’t brush their teeth in the morning and you have to breathe their morning breath on a packed commuter train. When you can hear tinny music out of someone’s headphones. Those headphones you get with your iphone are terrible, people, spend a fiver and get some that keep the noise going into your own ears rather than everyone else’s! People not realising that the arm rest is a barrier between you and the person next to you, not actually for use as an arm rest unless the seat next to you is vacant.

    Am I done? Probably not but I should stop anyway. I’d commute by bike if I wasn’t so worried about being mown down by a bus.

  98. Laura C. says...

    Yes!! I have that too!! Cracking knuckles is AWFUL and I just CAN’T – And you would punch my brother every time. He yells when sneezing all the time and the more public he gets, the loudest he yells. It’s beyond annoying.
    I can’t stand people who speak very loud. I’m always saying “sshhh…” and I get bad looks too.

  99. Rachel says...

    I don’t have a lot of pet peeves but it does drive me bonkers when people leave the lights on when they leave a room/the house or crank up the air conditioning without closing the windows first. Why??

    Also, did you see this Time article on misophonia? http://time.com/4659308/misophonia-noisy-eating-science/

    Briefly excerpted:

    Over the years, scientists have been skeptical about whether or not it constitutes a genuine medical ailment, but now new research led by a team at the U.K.’s Newcastle University has proven that those with misophonia have a difference in their brain’s frontal lobe to non-sufferers.In an report published in the journal Current Biology, scientists said scans of misophobia sufferers found changes in brain activity when a ‘trigger’ sound was heard.

    Brain imaging revealed that people with the condition have an abnormality in their emotional control mechanism which causes their brains to go into overdrive on hearing trigger sounds. The researchers also found that trigger sounds could evoke a heightened physiological response, with increased heart rate and sweating.

    • Chelsey says...

      Fascinating! Thanks for the link/info

  100. Kelly says...

    Mine is knuckle cracking, just goes through me! Also when people are eating and stick their tongue out when bringing the fork to their mouths. eeek

  101. Jeannie Ireland says...

    Well, I actually read through almost all of these comments, and agree that a lot of the pet peeves also irritate me also, especially people who won’t just clear their sinuses and instead keep snorting them back up into their head; people who spit; people who follow way too closely while I’m driving; people who clip their nails in public, and grocery stores that stock items on shelves way too high for anyone other than someone at least 6′ tall to reach them easily. I have spent many a time waiting for tall customer OR a stock person (it’s faster to find a tall customer) to come by and get the product that is out of my reach OR I just forget it and go on without it! Sadly, I chew gum as I have “dry mouth syndrome” and I do crack my knuckles! But my knuckles only! Ironically, people who crack other parts of their bodies, such as their necks and noses or chins, get on my nerves!? Oh, one more thing; it is a growing pet peeve of mine that people misuse the term “loose” for the word “lose”! Why are people doing this all of a sudden? Drives me crazy!!

    • Michaela says...

      OH MY LORD I have a coworker who does that- No one has ever heard him blow his nose since he began working here, but he needs to approximately 50,000 times every day. Instead, he sniffs all of his nasty snot right back up his nose, and whenever anyone offers him a tissue he says “nah, I’m fine.” IT’S NOT FOR YOU, IT’S FOR THE REST OF US!

    • anna says...

      Snifflers are my pet peeve too. I have tissue in my bag and have been known to offer some to people on trains and planes because it pisses me off SO MUCH omg.

  102. Lauren says...

    I cannot stand it when people whistle. It makes me cringe and simultaneously want to punch them. My husband does it without knowing a lot, especially when we are driving, and it takes every ounce of patience I have not to deck him (especially because he is aware of how annoying it is to me).

  103. Marie says...

    When people eating drag their fork between their teeth

    ‘Ahhh!!’ after taking a drink

    Other people driving way under the speed limit

    How people mispronounce words– like, pacific instead of specific, suppost instead of suppose, dem instead of them

    Anytime a person picks at themselves– ears, nose, eyes and then looks at their finger– gag. what in the world is on your finger to look at?!

    When someone says, ‘Let me call you right back!’ then doesn’t.

  104. I also have misophonia! The sound of someone chewing or drinking liquids or even sometimes loud breathing can set. me. off. Phew.

    xx

    bombshell-to-be.blogspot.com

  105. Robin says...

    SPOILERS. Some people just love to tell you the ending, and it is, without question, my biggest pet peeve. What is up with people going online and writing “RIP ‘insert name of character who just died'” on social media? Why ruin it for everyone?! Recently, a woman asked me what book I was reading. When I told her, she said, “You’ll never believe who dies in the last chapter!” When she saw my face fall, she said, “What? It’s not like I said who it was!” UGH!

    • Kate says...

      Ugh!!! Hate this too!!!

  106. Jessica says...

    a cappella singing will send me into an irrational rage. as well as people eating cereal, i want to hit the bowl out of thier hands. and i cant go to movie theaters because of people crinkling bags. all of it makes me feel violent.

    • I cannot stand a capella, either!!!

  107. Diana says...

    I am not sure if this qualifies as a pet peeve or a phobia… but, I have an extreme reaction to fruit stickers!! I cannot look at them or eat any fruit with a sticker (I get everything at the farmer’s market which is sticker-free.) The WORST is when it rains and the stickers on the sidewalk get wet – I could vomit thinking about it. I specifically cross the street if I’m about to pass a fruit store on a rainy day. I’ve never met anyone with this specific issue before. I remember having the same issue in 2nd grade, so it’s been at least that long (I’m now 35!)

    • Sara says...

      You would have lost it if you experienced what happened to me once at a vegetarian restaurant. Not one but TWO stickers in a bowl of gazpacho. I was so disgusted.

    • Laura says...

      I also have this!!! I hate stickers! Stickers on produce make me gag! If there is a sticker on anything I buy, I need to have someone else take it off. When I was younger, if my brothers wanted to torment me, they’d threaten to put stickers in my bed!

  108. Carrie Brass says...

    yes!the loud sneezing and especially loud yawning! why is it okay for you to all of a sudden scream?!! drives me crazy. i’m getting mad thinking about it. =)

  109. Julie says...

    Humming & tapping – I worked in an elementary school. The humming, though! My mom clicks her nails constantly – off the rails!

  110. Em says...

    My mom (or people in general) eating an apple. Oh my god why does it have to be so slurpish-watery-huge-sound-effect-event!? Same thing drinking anything, you all are adults, slurping is for kids learning to eat and drink. HAHA!

    • Vava says...

      LOL! I hate the sound of people eating apples. I can’t comfortably even cut apples up to make pie – the sound makes me crazy.

  111. Bianca says...

    I have this! I thought I was just weird. I get irritated, disgusted and angry but as I’ve got older I just try to hold it in. Thank you so much for posting this. I am going to show my family right now!

  112. Karlyn says...

    Yell Sneezes!!! Perfect name for them! Every time my husband sneezes my poor dog jumps and starts pacing…I keep telling him don’t make me choose between you and my dog!! He also yell sneezes at least 10-15 times in a row!! I feel better now – thanks for this post!!

    • Andie says...

      this made me laugh so hard I’m crying.

  113. Amanda W. says...

    Oh man, I could create a long list, but here goes:

    Clipping your fingernails in public — I’ve worked in two offices where someone did this. Do it at home, or at least go to the bathroom if you absolutely must.

    Grown adults who call their parents “mommy” and “daddy.” — It’s super creepy.

    Using the phrases “nom, nom, nom” or “sexy” when describing food. — The former sounds childish; the latter sounds gross. It’s food, not a person.

    People who take up the entire sidewalk and won’t make space to accommodate other walkers. — It’s about sharing space, and so, so rude.

    People who talk on their phone while paying for something. — I’ve worked in retail; it’s incredibly rude to the person who is waiting on you. Step out of line to complete your call.

    And, yes, talkers or people constantly checking their phone during a movie. — One of the main reasons I don’t go to the movie theater anymore. I remain distracted and on edge for the rest of the movie.

    • sara says...

      Yes, the sidewalk thing! I’m a parent but it drives me crazy when other parents don’t teach their kids to share the sidewalk. I almost tripped over a young child while carrying one of my kids in his infant car seat. The child’s dad was just letting her zig zag all over an icy sidewalk. Grrr!

    • Jennifer Nichols says...

      Agree to all of these! Especially “nom, nom” when describing food. It just sounds like someone eating with their mouth open. Gross!

      And I’ll add mouth kissing between adult parents and children. Weirds me out.

  114. Kristina says...

    Loving the comments here : ) A couple of my peeves are:

    -chewing with one’s mouth open
    -the phrase “oh-so”, as in “oh-so-dreamy” ::shudder::
    – I also can’t stand the words “hubby” for husband or “vino” for wine, unless you are in Italy.
    -people who walk in the middle of the sidewalk. Pick a lane!! (please:)

  115. Elisabeth says...

    cars idling for what feels like ever.
    in general, but especially outside my bedroom window while i’m falling asleep. why would anyone do this? this is rude and dumb in so many ways. my driving instructor said, “you would not do this if you saw the coins dropping out of the exhaust pipe” (and global temperature rising).

  116. Annie Green says...

    Can I just say, Joanna, that this is the best post ever. The comments have made me cry with laughter. It is a relief to know I am not insane or a sociopath and I suspect most of these peeves are to do with our crazy, busy and over-crowded modern lives.

  117. FINALLY!! Someone who feels the same way I do towards scream sneezers!!! AAGHGHGH!!

  118. Ciara says...

    LOUD TYPING & PEOPLE SQUIRTING THEIR WATER BOTTLES IN THEIR MOUTHS.

    It felt so good even typing that. I really enjoy working in a shared office, as I am definitely a social person. But every week, I work at least one day at home to rest my anxieties and decrease my misphonia!

  119. juliana says...

    When I’m driving with someone and they don’t turn their turn signal off just really pushes me over the edge for some reason. That, and when people repeatedly fall through on plans at the very last minute. RAGE

  120. bisbee says...

    Cracking knuckles…I have had the misfortune of having not one but TWO husbands with that habit. He does it in the middle of the night…in restaurants and in the theater…until I stop him in public. Grrr. He also chews with his teeth banging together with certain foods. Claims they taste better. I could just slap him silly!

  121. Mea says...

    OH my! It’s a thing! I am such a jerk when it comes to sounds of all kinds. Jeez, thank you! Now I can name it and explain people that it’s not my fault ;)

  122. Maria says...

    My father in law barks like a dog every time he sneezes. No, really.

  123. Charlotte says...

    Ugh I have a lot of pet peeves and I might have misophonia aswell! There are people in the world who have to make noise all the time which I hate. Please don’t clear your throat that loudly, don’t sniff like that, just get a tissue and for the love of everything stop chewing your food with your mouth open and stop biting/cleaning your nails next to me! :D
    I also hate people who don’t let others get out of public transport before getting in and people who make a whole bench rattle because they can’t stop their feet from moving. But otherwise I’m comoletely fine. Oh did I mention rude people?

  124. Barrett says...

    Oh my goodness is it possible for a baby to have misophonia? My six month old often cries when I sneeze or yawn. I literally was just playing games with her, making her laugh, and thought of a tip from a friend who said ripping paper always made her baby crack up. I tried it….and she cried! I personally relate to the rage at the yell sneezes (I swear you can control it, husband) and the eating noises. Can misophonia be genetic? Ah so many questions!

    • YES!! My seven month old has cried EVERY TIME my husband sneezes. Since she was born. He now stifles it and it sounds so painful for him, hahaha.

  125. Mia says...

    I have to mention 2 items here:

    1. I have misophonia, as many others here. I have not noticed that no one has yet to mention humming…drives me f-ing bonkers. Especially when I am doing something that requires my hearing, like watching a movie.

    2. I was teaching years ago when I noticed signs of misophonia in one of my syudents, around 5 years of age at the time. All noises bothered him, every minute of every day. As a solution, I asked him to wear a toque to “make the bad sounds go away”. Worked like a charm.

    • Kim says...

      Humming and whistling drive me bonkers!

  126. Dee says...

    1. Improper use of your/you’re (I mean is it really that hard??!).
    2. Little girls wearing heels (not their Mom’s heels, but literally children’s shoes with heels that their Mom made them wear

    • Nat says...

      Yes! Little girl heels. Who thought of that???

    • UGH, thank you for including this!! I know a lot of our text communication has changed to be more “efficient,” but the you/you’re mixup to me is like an advertisement for stupidity!

      Also: bad drivers, a.k.a. everyone on the road in Seattle, send me into an irrational rage-state.

  127. Jessica says...

    Describing it like fight or flight totally resonates with me. I have that problem with certain noises and my husband always acts like I am crazy when I think he should be proud of me for restraining myself.

  128. 1. Dogs Barking
    2. Loud Motorcycle/Car Exhaust
    3. Misuse of the word “literally”
    4. The Paleo Diet
    5. Using the word Pussy or Girl as an insult

  129. Trishita says...

    I am an annoyingly punctual personal, I’ll be there half an hour early than be even a minute late. So, if I have to wait for someone after deciding on a time, it cringes me out.
    I remember, back in college, there was this girl who would always come late to EVERY single class, and after she would come in, she would shift chairs and make every other kind of noise while settling in. And most of my classmates sat on the back benches, I would always be on the second row, the first row would usually be empty, so this girl sat right in front of me, making me mad all the while. So one fine day, she comes in and the Professor was saying something really interesting, and this disturbance just got to me, and I pulled the chair she was trying to sit on with my feet. She fell down, everybody kind of knew it was me and the Professor gave me a slight smirk – sort of knowing that it was me yet appreciative in a way. Sadly, she kept on doing it til the end of the semester. At least, I got something! :)

  130. Briana says...

    I feel physically ill when people drag things across carpet. My brother and sister used to rub their feet over the carpet just to watch me cringe. It’s hard to explain how such a quiet noise can cause such a violent reaction. Also… the hum of everyday appliances (like refrigerators and dishwashers) makes me batty. Whenever the noise stops, I can feel my shoulders relaxing and my anxiety lessening instantly.

    I feel less weird now… thanks!

    • Tiffany says...

      THIS. I have such a reaction when people rub their feet or their hands over carpet as well. Glad to hear I’m not alone!

    • Rachel says...

      Me too! My husband thinks I’m crazy…

  131. keri says...

    HA so glad you wrote about this!! The sounds of people eating makes me want to RAGE. I didn’t talk to someone for days because he ate an apple near me.

  132. Samantha says...

    There are times when I cannot stand the sound of someone eating. I notice I only have that strong reaction when I’m. Not eating as well and especially if I’m tired.

  133. Ally says...

    I have misophonia. Cubicles are a nightmare (or open offices, even worse). The sound is bad, but it is the association with gross bodily functions (trumpet-like nose blowing, food chewing, fingernail clipping, crunchy apple eating) while others are trying to focus on what they’re actually there to do, and lack of consideration behind it that are infuriating. It’s a public space, not a living room, and certainly not a kitchen or bathroom!

    I’m also sensitive to smells, so it’s extra fun when someone leaves a rotting banana on their desk, has a dim grasp of laundry, reheats an onion and cumin sandwich, or douses themselves in perfume (I helped lobby to make one a scent free workplace but some still spritzed it on freely, which triggered my asthma – fun!).

    I think it all partly ties into being hypersensitive generally. This is great in my work, where I pick up on things no one else does. So I don’t think we should be dismissed as delicate doilies; what we bring to the table in terms of alertness and intelligence (and manners) beats what ol’ fingernail clipper and fish microwaver does, I bet.

    Another tie-in… how many of you are night owls? One theory is that early birds versus night owls trace back to long-distant times when someone always had to assure the night watch. Maybe our sensitivities to external stimuli are related to our “guard genes”.

    Finally, all studies show that open offices are terrible for productivity, creativity and staff morale, but the owners like the panopticon surveillance and rent savings. So short-sighted. There’s a documentary called ‘Officeland’ that lays it out beautifully.

    Thanks for launching this informal misophonia support group forum, Joanna!

    • Deserae says...

      I hate open offices! My last job was only so stressful because my desk was in the middle of the open office floor. All the tours around the office paused right next to my desk.

    • stephanie says...

      just cried laughing about ol’ fingernail clipper and fish microwaver! oh god, too funny!

      i’m an HSP too so i definitely think that has a tie-in, i’ve seen others mention the same. and yes, i am also a night owl! even as a child, i remember i once freaked my mom out by telling her i had “morning sickness.” i didn’t know what it really referred to, i just knew i felt terrible every single day when i had to wake up for school because it was too early for me.

  134. First time I’ve read of misophonia but not surprised that it exists. I know of people who have sensitive hearing.

    Anyway, my pet peeves are chain messages, people who walk slow on busy streets/avenues (other places, not so much), people who are constantly late for personal/professional meetings, vapers (lol I know your smoke is cleaner than a cig’s but it’s still not ok to blow it on my face) and loud chewing.

  135. Alex says...

    well now I think I do!!! among other things, a BIG one for me is nail clipping on the subway! And though I find the whole practice disgusting, it’s always been the sound that really gets me. Off to find an online diagnostic quiz for misophonia! ;)

  136. No, never heard of misophonia, but I can imagine how little noises can be infuriating. You probably wouldn’t survive in my family full of people with allergies who sniff all the time during allergy season and love to yell sneeze. They think it feels better. I agree, really annoying. I do sneeze loud, but I can’t help it. At least I don’t yell.
    My pet peeves are when people leave things in the middle of walkways and walk by them without picking them up or even kicking them aside. AND, when people wear flip flops, but slide their feet, so they flip, but never flop, just scuff. SO irritating!!

  137. Lisa says...

    I hate it when you are walking into a building behind someone and they can not manage to hold the door open. Not a doorman hold, but just a pause so it doesn’t snap closed right in front of you. So rude!!!

    • e says...

      Ugh, yes. Also, it seems like an appropriate unwritten rule that if a door swings a certain way, and two people are going through in opposite directions, the person going in the same direction as the door goes first and the other person holds the door because it’s ALREADY gonna be on their side, and less awkward to try and hold. I don’t know how many times I’ve had to awkwardly reach to hold the door open for someone who just had to come through first.
      And then people who you hold the door for and march on through without any acknowledgement!
      Also, when there are double doors that both open but no one bothers using one of them – talk about herd mentality!
      And, finally! When someone just a bit too far ahead of you holds the door so then you feel obligated to hurry up.

      I didn’t realize I had so many door-related peeves!!

  138. Sally says...

    Oh boy, here goes:
    Yell sneezing and honking when blowing one’s nose. Obviously!
    People eating in front of me when I’m not eating, or eating on the phone when I’m talking to them.
    Chewing gum in any context – it’s something that you put in your mouth, chew, and then spit out again. Often while talking. Why would anyone think this is ok or socially acceptable?
    Sharing food in a non-food-sharing context. As in, eating with friends and they’re all trying each other’s food. No. You cannot taste my food and I don’t want to try yours. I’ve made my choice and I have to live with it, and so should you. Stop passing your plates back and forth around the table, it’s so childish! This is a big one for me because people are often surprised and hurt by this. Which annoys me even more.
    People who don’t sit down when you start watching a TV show or movie together, and wander around and in and out and expect you to keep them updated on the plot. Sit down!
    Couples who have joint email accounts or Facebook pages.
    Picnics. Camping. Board games. Karaoke. Costume parties. Music festivals. But more annoying is people who are surprised and can’t get over that I don’t like these things. I’m not a weirdo. Lots of people don’t like some or all of these things, they just don’t think they’re allowed to admit it.
    People who make fun of my driving when I’m actually giving them a lift.
    Flip-flops anywhere except the beach.
    When the plane lands and everyone instantly stands up, and then just waits around, hunched uncomfortably under the overhead lockers and getting in each other’s way. Just sit down and wait! Why do you have to stand up straight away when you know there are at least five more minutes before the doors open?
    People who don’t care about good grammar or good spelling.
    People who use ‘text speak’ in emails or texts – u, pls, spk lter etc.
    People who use emoticons (non-ironically) in work emails.
    I could go on, but I’m getting a bit worked up.

    • E says...

      Wow, life must be hard for you! Good luck!

    • D says...

      Flip flops and board games? Wow, this is quite the list!

    • Jill says...

      you are my soul sister.

      Board games are the worst! Camping! UGH! I would rather go to the dentist and have all my teeth pulled.

    • Rachel says...

      Yikes! That’s quite a list!

    • Andie says...

      Sally, I think you might be my husband.

    • Sally says...

      Ha ha, I know, it does sound like I’m miserable! But actually, it’s the opposite. I feel like I’ve arrived at this whopping list after years of putting up with pet peeves, and finally being comfortable enough to just say, you know what? No. (The flip-flop thing is more related to when grown-up people wear them to dinner in a nice restaurant, when I’ve gone and made an effort…)

    • stephanie says...

      i hate sharing food! i remember the first time i got takeout with friends away from home and they all just announced “we’ll just get a bunch of things to share!” the fact that i even still vividly remember it just goes to show how upset and anxious it made me. i just want to get my own food and eat that. i usually don’t want to eat what the other people order anyway…that’s why i didn’t order it. and now i’m expected to share mine and have hardly any left for myself….and of course still split the bill. honestly going out to eat with anyone beyond my parents or my partner annoys me on some level.

      i also hate the plane thing but mostly because it means now someone’s ass is in my face. gross. just be patient. the plane (or bus, train, etc) isn’t going anywhere without you. (i’m talking about either the end of a destination or a popular stop where basically the entire train empties so you don’t have to shove by everyone, we’re all going the same place!)

  139. Teresa says...

    When people scrape their teeth on their forks. When people yawn without covering their mouths.

  140. MC says...

    I have this too! my best friend read an article a few years ago and sent it to me – we have joked about my noise sensitivity being a disease for years… turns out its true! my biggest triggers? crunching and chewing, pen clicking, ice crunching, and whistling. i had to break up with an ice cruncher once. its so real.

    • I would definitely break up with an ice cruncher.

  141. Karin says...

    I’m a yell-sneezer and now living in fear someone’s gonna punch me in the throat!
    Peeves:
    the hocking noises old men make (WHY)
    Old people eating who don’t realize they have sauce on their lip and keep talking to you
    The feeling of touching a dry cotton ball
    Styrofoam pieces rubbing together. THE WORST!!!!
    Toe jam

  142. Catherine says...

    oh and i forgot! It’s a visual one! I CAN’T STAND those ridiculous tight bathing suits French guys wear (think the worst Speedo kind)
    You know, you’re on the beach, reading a magazine, and a guy you know walks up to you (you’re sitting down) and you find yourself staring at his 007… Boy do I stand up fast!!
    thank God the new generation wears bathing shorts (and my husband!)

    • Clary says...

      His 007! I don’t know when I heard something so funny!

  143. Catherine says...

    So it’s a thing!! Thank you so much for putting a word on this condition. This post brought back memories of my childhood, when I had to make myself busy in the kitchen while grown-ups were “slurping” oysters every Sunday; that’s how I learned to carve a whole chicken, I made it my job during the oyster thing!!
    yes, mouth sounds bother me immensely, it makes me feel rage and disgust; and then I learned there was a word for what I had called “loud sneeze”! Yell sneeze is just genius!
    I think the symptoms are worse and worse as I grow older; I’m seriously considering quitting my teaching job, pens clicking, and all the other sounds teenage kids make drive me nuts! Now thanks to you, I can tell them what it is!
    I had surgery last year for otosclerosis on one ear, and I thought and hoped it would help-it didn’t! :)

  144. Too many peeves... says...

    Whispering. HATE IT. DO NOT WHISPER IN MY EAR WITH YOUR HOT BREATH.

    Also when people tap or poke me. Just stop.

  145. Jenny says...

    Hahaha these comments have me almost in tears from laughing so hard. Mine are:

    1. Snoring, particularly if it’s a stranger, like on a plane. I angrily glance over my shoulder hoping the seat mate will take pity on the rest of us and give the offending snorer a gentle nudge…or a swift elbow to the ribs.

    2. Chewing, of course. My parents-in-law (whom I love dearly, truly) both chew SO loudly. My MIL does it in this way where, I swear, she’s like proud of how much she’s enjoying her food and wants to show off with her loud chewing or something, and it makes me quake with rage. Damn it, Linda!

    3. Repeated mispronunciations. My (very intelligent) husband is SO BAD with this. I can correct him 1,000 times and he continues to say certain words the wrong way: suffice, nuclear, prevalent, and manatee (which he seriously pronounced muh-NAH-tee, rather than MAN-uh-tee until very recently) being the main offenders. It personally offends me and I have to remind myself to (attempt to) remain calm when he does it.

    • “Damn it, Linda!”
      HAHAHAHAHHA

  146. Too many peeves... says...

    People who slide their feet across the wet hairy band aid covered pool deck. Or allow anything more than their tippy toes or flip flops to touch it.

    Waiters or servers who hand you your cup by the rim. Get your dirty money hands off my drinking area!

    Hair in bath water or in the shower. I went to a camp where long haired girls would pull their hairs out and drape them across the shower walls. SICK.

    Sharing mascara, tweezers, or razors. My younger sister saw no problem with this. Eyeball bacteria and razor cuts. Just no.

    Watching the news and listening (on high volume) to two GROWN ADULTS who have a political debate that is essentially made up of each person yelling over the other. If I wanted to listen to people bicker…

    Coworkers who cannot spell and type so furiously that their awful spelling is compounded by a hazardously rapid stream of typing. And in professional legal documentation.

    Watching people eat ice cream-licking, slurping, or worse- taking a bite of ice cream and spitting it back on the spoon repeatedly.

    I have an endless number of peeves. What’s a type A to do!?

  147. H says...

    oh my gosh! I just sent this to my mom so that she would know my noise sensitivity it real. I have always been so sensitive to ANY beeping or clicking noise, the sound of AM radio, and when the car AC is on full blast. I can’t explain it.. in fact I live in Texas so it drives my family crazy that I keep my car on a cool “low air flow” all the time because I literally cannot stand the sound of the air blowing. Even certain noises that my own shoes make when I walk make me cringe! Now I know I’m not crazy, though. What a relief!

  148. Nicole K says...

    Loved reading through these comments! One for me is when my husband drives and I’m in the passenger seat — when we know we need to make a turn soon, and there’s an opportunity to move into the lane we need to turn from, he WILL NOT DO IT until the last second before we turn. Drives me CRAZY! Just move over! Then you’re there and you (but really I) don’t have to think about it anymore! I think it’s because I’m always thinking ahead to the next step and trying to be most efficient, it fills me with rage when he (or anyone else) doesn’t.

    Or whenever we approach a green light, I swear to God he slows down, like he’s waiting to be sure it won’t turn yellow. You don’t SLOW at green, you speed up to make sure you make the light! Argh. I sometimes catch myself pressing down on an invisible gas pedal with my foot in the passenger seat, just willing the car to go where I want it to.

    • Barrett says...

      yyyyeeeeeeeeeeesssssss I could have written every word. We are saints. I have to talk myself down in my head to not say anything anymore.

    • Laura says...

      haha Nicole as frustrating as this is, it doesn’t sound like Misophonia. Moreso: hubby’s-driving-drives-me-nuts-phonia. My hubby brakes late. Winds me up every single time.

    • Laura says...

      Ignore me – just realised that we’re listing pet peeves, not limited to mysophonia..!

    • molly says...

      AMEN TO ALL OF THIS!

    • Linda says...

      This is why I drive when my husband and I go anywhere together. Me in the driver’s seat has saved our marriage.

    • Emily says...

      Nicole, you took the words out of my mouth. I can’t understand why my husband rides in the left lane when he knows we need to turn right in a short distance. He’ll get irritated when no one will let him switch lanes at the last minute and I’m usually biting my tongue with rage over his lack of planning. Maddening!!!!!! Glad to know I’m not the only weirdo who feels like this.

    • stephanie says...

      thankfully most of the times my partner drives, i’m drunk lol. then i’m a happy carefree passenger. the rest of the time, i usually play a game on my phone to distract myself. he’s a great driver, but more aggressive than me & i’m a very anxious person. plus, the car belongs to me and is also damn near twenty years old. if we get into an accident – even if it’s not our fault – the car will likely get totaled. “big deal!” he thinks, “we have insurance!” he seems to be under the impression that The Car Fairy will just bring a brand new car to the scene that we can drive off in and everything will go on just as it was. yeah right! we’ll be f’d without a car. so i also get whizzed up when he drives the car like it’s new – braking hard, slamming on the gas to accelerate, etc.

      also? if i ask him to stop somewhere that isn’t literally on our way (like, on the same side of the road even), if the area is not *completely devoid* of other cars he’ll just keep driving. “but it was right across the street, just take a left!” “no, i couldn’t do it then, and now the chance is gone.” i swear there’s gonna be a day where we end up in canada because he didn’t “feel like” making a turn ever again.

  149. Kristin says...

    “Ain’t NO way you gotta sneeze that G.D. loud” has spoiled a few moments between my husband and me. But, seriously. If I can deliberately muffle a sneeze so can you. Its like he purposefully yells out. I’m getting red hot just thinking about it. He’s asleep. Should I slap him? Lol.

    • Catherine says...

      ahah! Same here! If I can do it, why can’t he?? Lol!

    • Nic says...

      HILARIOUS COMMENT!!! I loled.

    • Jess says...

      This comment made me laugh so much.

    • talia says...

      I laughed out loud at work reading this. No hiding I’m on the internet now! :)

    • Anna says...

      Is there an opposite of misophonia? I think my husband has that! He yell sneezes and chews SO LOUDLY. And whistles.

  150. Emily Crowder says...

    OH. I have this as well and I am forever trying to manage my reactions without hurting people’s feelings or seeming completely unreasonable. One of the worst things for me growing up was the sound of my little sister eating. We’re 6 years apart and it drove me crazy from her starting solids straight through to when I moved out—no, I guess it still bothers me, we just live three provinces apart now. Another one is popcorn-eating. I love going to the movies, I love popcorn, I love my partner but him eating popcorn in a giant room filled with other people eating popcorn has driven me to tears on more than one occasion.

    • Lauren says...

      I know! I love my husband. And I love dinner. But without the radio on and music playing, I can hardly stand the two together. Help! ha